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‘All I Did Was READ GOD’s WORD’—Sound Engineer Trusts in Jesus After Listening to Jackie Hill Perry Record Audio Bible

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Sound engineer William Felton was saved from pornography addiction and depression to new life in Jesus in 2023 as a result of listening to Jackie Hill Perry record the Bible on audiobook. Perry revealed on Instagram Sunday that she had prayed for Felton throughout the recording process, and Felton shared how God transformed his heart.

“[Perry] being a servant, planted a seed and God began to water it and open my eyes,” Felton said in a post on Dec. 27. “I began to pray more and read the Bible for myself and God started to do a mighty work in me. One day in my room I just surrendered fully to the Lord and he filled me with his Holy Spirit.. i am redeemed in Christ now!!!!!”

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“In that studio, I didn’t preach a sermon. I didn’t exegete a text. All I did was READ GOD’s WORD and that alone brought my guy from death and into life,” Perry said in the caption of a photo of her and Felton. “I say all of that to say, God doesn’t need antics to save souls. If you just give folks His word, you would be amazed at what He can do!”

 

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Jackie Hill Perry Prays for Sound Engineer

Jackie Hill Perry is a Christian author, speaker and hip hop artist. Last year, she recorded an audio version of the Bible for Crossway. “Doing it in a studio meant I’d have an engineer there to make sure the sound and all of that was good. A particular task the engineer had to take on was reading the Bible along with me to ensure that I didn’t skip any words,” Perry explained. “Knowing this, I would pray before every session that God would use His word to do a work in the engineer’s heart.” 

“This man right here worked alongside me while I read most of the major and minor prophets. Before each session, I prayed for him hoping that God would grant Him understanding since the prophets ain’t the easiest to make sense of sometimes,” Perry said. “On certain days, I’d pick his brain on what he thought about Amos or [Habakkuk] just to get a sense of where he was with it.”

In his December post, Felton described the state of his inner life before he took on the project with Perry. “Earlier this year, I had no thoughts of God in my mind,” he said. “I was chasing this music industry so hard this screen right in front of me was my god. A false idol. I was stuck in pornography addiction and was so depressed.”

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Felton works for Patchwerk Recording Studios and “around March” was tasked with working with Perry as she recorded the Bible on audiobook. “I didn’t want to do it [at] first but I took a chance because I believed in God and figured this could be good for me to learn about the Bible more,” Felton said. However, “after months of us working I started to hate it, and dread it.”

Ben Fuller Invites ‘American Idol’ Favorite Megan Danielle To Re-Record ‘If I Got Jesus’

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Ben Fuller recently was nominated as the Gospel Music Association’s (GMA) 2023 New Artist of the Year and is continuing to refresh and record music—this time with Megan Danielle. Danielle was a favorite on the 21st season of “American Idol,” which catapulted her music career.

“I couldn’t help but just believe her every word,” Fuller said when he heard Danielle sing a cover of his song, “If I Got Jesus.”

‘American Idol’ Runner-Up Megan Danielle Joins Ben Fuller for New Release, ‘If I Got Jesus’

In a Facebook reel, Fuller shared a clip of the “If I Got Jesus” music video. The song featured Fuller and Danielle singing soulful and rugged lyrics and was released on April 12.

“I couldn’t help but just believe her every word when I heard @megandaniellemusic sing a cover of ‘If I Got Jesus,'” Fuller said. “A few weeks later she was in the studio singing her heart.”

“I’m privileged and humbled by your love for Jesus, Megan,” Fuller continued. “What a gift you are to so many, and thanks again for singing with me.”

Fuller and Danielle, along with Jacob Dixon, shared a stage at a night of worship in Gainesville, Georgia, earlier this year.

Originally part of Fuller’s self-titled album, “If I Got Jesus” was released in 2023. Fuller, Ethan Hulse, and Jeff Pardo wrote the song that eloquently states how important a journey with Jesus is—now and forever:

There were bridges crossed and burned
But through all the wreckage I have learned
There is one thing that I can never lose

If I’ve got Jesus
I’ve got all that I could ever need
Take the world away from me
And I’ll be ok
If I’ve got Jesus
There’s a hope that’s living deep inside
A joy that I could never hide
And a safe place to fall
If I’ve got Jesus
I got it all

Thousands of fans reacted to the Facebook reel and commented with incredible support for them both.

“Ben this has to be one of my favorites. Your voices together are truly heaven sent and brings, ‘If I got Jesus’ to a new level,” posted one. Another shared, “Oh so glad to see Megan singing with you!! We followed her on American Idol and love her voice!!”

Embracing the Gift: Understanding Salvation by Grace Through Faith

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The concept of being saved by grace through faith is a cornerstone of Christian theology, deeply rooted in the Bible’s New Testament. This principle teaches that salvation — the forgiveness of sins and the promise of eternal life — is a gift from God, not something that can be earned through works but is received through faith in Jesus Christ.

The Biblical Foundation of Being Saved By Grace Through Faith

Ephesians 2:8-9 is often cited as the clearest articulation of salvation by grace through faith: “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast.” This passage underscores that salvation is entirely a gift from God, not a result of human effort, to prevent any boasting of personal merit.

Romans 3:23-24 expands on this, stating, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Here, Paul emphasizes that all humans are sinners and that justification comes freely by God’s grace.

Galatians 2:16 further supports this doctrine: “know that a person is not justified by the works of the law, but by faith in Jesus Christ. So we, too, have put our faith in Christ Jesus that we may be justified by faith in Christ and not by the works of the law, because by the works of the law no one will be justified.”

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Titus 3:5-7 also speaks to this grace: “he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us generously through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that, having been justified by his grace, we might become heirs having the hope of eternal life.”

Examples of Being Saved by Grace Through Faith

  1. The Thief on the Cross (Luke 23:39-43): This story illustrates that salvation comes through faith, not works. The thief, acknowledging Jesus as Lord and asking to be remembered in His kingdom, was promised paradise — despite having no opportunity to perform good deeds.
  2. Abraham’s Faith (Genesis 15:6; Romans 4:1-5): Abraham’s belief in God was “credited to him as righteousness.” This Old Testament example shows that faith, not works, has always been the basis for righteousness in God’s eyes.
  3. The Conversion of Paul (Acts 9:1-19): Paul’s transformation from a persecutor of Christians to a devoted follower of Christ demonstrates that salvation comes unexpectedly, through God’s grace, to even the least likely individuals.
  4. The Philippian Jailer (Acts 16:30-34): After Paul and Silas prevented his suicide, the jailer asked, “Sirs, what must I do to be saved?” They answered, “Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved—you and your household.” His faith led to immediate salvation.
  5. Cornelius’ Household (Acts 10): Cornelius, a Gentile, and his family were saved after hearing Peter’s message about Jesus. Their salvation came through faith, signifying that grace through faith is available to all, not just to the Jews.
  6. Ephesians (Ephesians 1:13-14): Paul writes to the Ephesians about hearing the message of truth, the gospel of salvation, and believing in Christ, which led to being marked with the seal of the promised Holy Spirit — a sign of their salvation.
  7. The Woman with the Issue of Blood (Luke 8:43-48): Her faith in Jesus’ power to heal her, merely by touching His garment, resulted in her physical healing and spiritual salvation, as Jesus said to her, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.”

‘My Identity Is Secure Forever’: Two-Time Masters Champ Scottie Scheffler Glorifies God

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After winning his second Masters Tournament in three years, pro golfer Scottie Scheffler spoke of eternal victory, saying his “identity is secure forever” in Jesus. Scheffler, 27, admitted he loves winning on the course. But he said his wife and friends regularly remind him that Jesus loves him no matter what—and that his “victory was secure on the cross.”

On Sunday (April 14), Scheffler finished the Masters at -11, four strokes ahead of his closest competitor. That earned him a second green jacket at Augusta, Georgia, and a $3.6 million prize. Scheffler, who’s been ranked No. 1 in the world for 80 weeks during his career, also won the 2022 Masters.

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During post-tournament press conferences, Scheffler admitted he was eager to return home. Meredith, his wife of four years, is expecting their first child in a few weeks. Earlier, the golfer had indicated that if his wife went into labor mid-tournament, he’d leave the Masters, even if he was leading.

Golfer Scottie Scheffler: God Calls Me To Glorify Him

Scottie Scheffler often speaks about the importance of his Christian beliefs. In response to a reporter’s question Sunday, the golfer said his faith is what defines him. “I believe in one Creator, that I’ve been called to come out here, do my best, compete and glorify God,” he said.

Scheffler said he hopes golf doesn’t define him too much because it’s “a selfish sport,” with many demands on your time. Golf is maybe his fourth priority, he said, calling it “an endlessly not-satisfying career.”

Scheffler explained that though he was trying to answer journalists’ questions, “All I can think about right now is getting home…I think that’s what the human heart does. You always want more, and I think you have to fight those things and focus on what’s good.”

Winning the Masters or any other title doesn’t change who Scheffler is. “It’s a pretty special feeling to know that I’m secure for forever,” he said. “I believe that today’s plans were already laid out many years ago, and I could do nothing to mess up those plans.”

About his God-given talents, Scheffler said he strives to use them all “for God’s glory” because “that’s how I was designed.”

Franklin Graham was among the high-profile figures who congratulated Scheffler on Sunday’s victory. On social media, the evangelist shared a quote from the golfer, writing, “I’m thankful that Scottie isn’t ashamed to talk about his faith.”

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At his press conference, Scheffler credited his wife with consistently praying that he will experience God’s peace and presence. The high school sweethearts dated long distance during college, while Scottie played golf at the University of Texas, and then married in 2020.

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Meredith told Golf Digest she was attracted to Scottie’s down-to-earth, “super humble ambiance.”

The Profound Symbolism of the Lion and the Lamb in Christian Faith

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The “lion and the lamb” analogy is a powerful and enduring symbol that has captivated the imagination and faith of many through the ages. It encapsulates a profound biblical metaphor that speaks of a time of ultimate peace and harmony, an era where the natural order is transformed to allow for the coexistence of once incompatible beings.

Understanding the Lion and the Lamb Analogy

While the exact phrase “lion and the lamb” isn’t found verbatim in the Bible, the concept is a synthesis of various prophetic visions presented in the scriptures, particularly in Isaiah 11:6 and Revelation 5:5-6. Isaiah envisions a peaceful kingdom where the wolf dwells with the lamb, and a little child leads them, among other harmonious pairings of natural adversaries. Meanwhile, Revelation presents Jesus Christ as both the Lion of the tribe of Judah, symbolizing his triumphant kingship, and the Lamb who was slain, representing his sacrificial death for humanity’s redemption.

This juxtaposition of strength and gentleness, sovereignty and sacrifice, captures the comprehensive nature of Jesus’ mission and character. He is the conquering King who establishes His reign of peace and justice, and the innocent Lamb who takes away the sin of the world through His sacrificial love.

The Theological Significance

In Christian theology, the lion and the lamb are emblematic of the coming age of peace and restoration. They signify the reconciliation of all creation through Christ’s atoning work, envisioning a world where enmity, predation, and violence are replaced by peace, harmony, and mutual respect among all creatures. This imagery powerfully conveys the hope of the Gospel, promising not just personal salvation but the renewal of the entire cosmos.

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Furthermore, the lion and the lamb symbolize the dual aspects of Christ’s nature and His kingdom. He is the lion, majestic and authoritative, who will return to rule with power and justice. Simultaneously, He is the lamb, gentle and sacrificial, whose death and resurrection have opened the way to reconciliation with God. This duality emphasizes that true leadership and strength are found in self-giving love and humility.

Cultural and Artistic Expressions

The lion and the lamb metaphor has transcended religious texts to become a pervasive symbol in hymns, songs, literature, and art. It has inspired countless works that explore themes of peace, reconciliation, and the transformative power of love. In hymns such as “The Lion and The Lamb” by Big Daddy Weave, this imagery is used to worship and celebrate the comprehensive nature of Jesus’ victory and sacrifice.

In literature and art, the lion and the lamb often appear to represent the ideal of peaceful coexistence and the hope for a world freed from conflict and division. From classical paintings to modern digital art, and from ancient poetry to contemporary novels, these symbols continue to convey a deep yearning for peace and redemption.

Gabe Patillo, TobyMac’s Former Hype Man and Son of Gospel Music Association’s President, Loses Battle With Cancer

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Gabe Patillo, best known as TobyMac’s (Toby McKeehan) hype man, lost his battle with cancer on Friday, April 12.

Patillo went by the stage name GabeReal in TobyMac’s Diverse City Band. He was also the son of Gospel Music Association (GMA) President Jackie Patillo.

 

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In a statement, the GMA said that Patillo will be “hugely missed” and that the entire GMA staff “loved Gabe like family.”

“We know heaven is rejoicing but are praying for Jesus to be near to the many friends and family who loved Gabriel so very much,” the GMA said.

“Gabe was known for his lifelong love for Jesus,” the GMA added. “His faith was part of his every day and the reason for his infectious smile. To know Gabe was to know how much he loved the Lord and his family.”

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In addition to working with TobyMac as a background singer, choreographer, dancer, and tour producer, Patillo’s other accomplishments included voiceover acting, dancing for dc Talk when he was young, and appearing in multiple music videos. He was a theater actor at Nashville’s Opryland when he was a kid.

TobyMac’s official Facebook page, Team Toby, posted, “Today Gabe met Jesus! While we are crushed—He is healed.” The post personally addressed Gabe and told him, “You will always hold a place in our hearts. We will watch over your family. You have left a legacy that we will never forget, Oh, how we loved you!”

Due to his health, Patillo had stopped touring with TobyMac. In February, McKeehan shared on social media that he would not only miss Patillo’s talents while on tour but also his friendship.

“What can I say about one of the most impressive men I have ever had the fortune of walking with,” McKeehan said. “I have lived most of my adult life with Gabriel Patillo (GabeReal) by my side professionally and as one of my best friends.”

“In his over 20 years with me, Gabe has been the secret sauce in so many areas, well beyond his incredible gifting as a stage performer,” he added. “From helping to produce our shows to managing tour culture, from personal advice to spiritual accountability, from loving people well to holding them to a standard with compassion.”

“We have chopped up almost every professional decision on my plate for many-many years,” McKeehan said.

2 Bodies Found Believed To Be the Remains of Pastor’s Wife and Friend; 4 Suspects Charged With Murder

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Investigators have recovered two bodies that they believe to be the remains of missing pastor’s wife Jilian Kelley and her friend Veronica Butler in rural Texas County, Oklahoma. Four individuals have been charged with the first-degree murder of the two women. 

Kelley, 39, was the wife of Heath Kelley, pastor of Hugoton First Christian Church in Hugoton, Kansas. She and Butler, 27, went missing on March 30. 

The two women had been driving to Eva, Oklahoma, to pick up Butler’s 6-year-old daughter and 8-year-old son to celebrate the daughter’s birthday, according to ABC 7.

The car they were driving was later found abandoned, roughly three miles from their destination.

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The Oklahoma State Bureau of Investigation (OSBI) and Texas County Sheriff’s Office immediately began investigating, believing that foul play was involved. Investigators reportedly found separate puddles of blood outside the vehicle along with splatters of blood inside.

On Saturday (April 13), the OSBI and Texas County Sheriff’s Office announced that four individuals had been arrested in connection with the women’s disappearance, including Tifany Machel Adams, the paternal grandmother of Butler’s children. 

The others arrested included Adams’ romantic partner, Tad Bert Cullum, along with Cole Earl Twombly and Cora Twombly.

All four suspects have been charged with two counts of first-degree murder, two counts of kidnapping, and one count of conspiracy to commit murder in the first degree.

On Sunday (April 14), the OSBI and Texas County Sheriff’s Office revealed that investigators had found two bodies in connection with the case. 

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“Both individuals will be transported to the Medical Examiner’s Office to determine identification, as well as cause and manner of death,” the joint statement said. “This is still an ongoing investigation.”

US Catholics More Polarized Than Ever About Still-Popular Pope Francis, Survey Says

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(RNS) — U.S. Catholics are more polarized than ever in how they view Pope Francis, even though majorities on both ends of the political spectrum have a positive view of the pope, according to a new survey.

Pew Research Center, in a report released Friday (April 12), found that three-quarters of U.S. Catholics (75%) have a favorable view of Francis, with nearly 9 in 10 Catholic Democrats and those who lean Democrat (89%) expressing favorable views, and just under two-thirds of Catholic Republicans and those who lean Republican (63%) saying the same.

While the favorability rating from the Democratic camp was roughly in line with recent years, the Republican and Republican-leaning favorability rating represented a decline, creating the largest partisan gap in approval of Francis since his papacy began.

Of the 14 times Pew has asked about Francis’ popularity, the new survey records the pope’s second lowest favorability rate. The only time he received lower scores was in September 2018 — a factor possibly influenced by the survey being taken right after Archbishop Carlo Maria Viganò alleged that he had warned Francis of Cardinal Theodore McCarrick’s sexually predatory behavior and that Francis had ignored the warning.

Francis’ highest favorability rating reached 90% in February 2015, just months after he had confirmed he would be visiting the U.S. during 2015.

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“Three-quarters of U.S. Catholics rate Pope Francis favorably” (Graphic courtesy of Pew Research Center)

According to the Pew survey, Catholics who view Francis unfavorably were more likely than Catholics who view him favorably to say he represents a major change in direction for the church, with just over half of Catholics who view Francis unfavorably (54%) holding that view compared with 4 in 10 Catholics who view him favorably (41%).

In the days before last October’s Synod of Bishops, Francis prayed the assembly would be a place where the Holy Spirit would “purify the church” from “polarization.” The October assembly followed a multiyear global consultation of the Catholic faithful, a process that church reformers hoped and traditionalists feared would lead to sweeping changes in the church.

Last month, the Vatican announced that, instead of addressing controversial issues at the concluding assembly next October, study groups have been formed to address those issues, and they will finish their work by June 2025.

The Pew survey revealed that majorities of U.S. Catholics supported church reform measures, although Catholics who attend Mass weekly or more supported these reforms at lower rates than Catholics who attend less frequently. Just over a quarter of U.S. Catholics (28%) said they attend Mass weekly.

More than 8 in 10 U.S. Catholics (83%) expressed support for the church to allow birth control use, with 62% of weekly Mass attenders saying the same. Three-quarters (75%) expressed support for allowing unmarried Catholics who are living with a romantic partner to receive Communion, with 57% of weekly Mass attenders agreeing.

In terms of reform to the priesthood, 69% of adult U.S. Catholics expressed support for allowing married priests, with a little more than half of weekly Mass attenders (53%) saying the same. Nearly two-thirds of U.S. Catholics (64%) supported ordaining women priests, with 41% of weekly Mass attenders saying the same.

As for recognizing the marriages of gay and lesbian couples, more than half of U.S. Catholics (54%) expressed support, including a third of weekly Mass attenders (33%).

An Episcopal Seminary Found a Solution to Its Fiscal Woes. Then 7 Bishops Intervened.

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(RNS) — A plan to save a troubled historic Episcopal seminary in New York has come under fire after seven bishops registered their opposition to offering a long-term lease of the seminary to a nonprofit with alleged ties to a Catholic music school funded by a conservative donor.

The bishops, who lead Episcopal dioceses in New York and Long Island, issued a statement last month objecting that the School of Sacred Music, which is negotiating to sign a long-term lease with General Episcopal Seminary in New York, has ties to a donor that does not support rights for gay, transgender and queer people.

“We are concerned by the lack of full acceptance of the LGBTQ stance of its founders and the lack of transparency in its funding,” the bishops said, according to Episcopal News Service, an official church publication.

Founded in 1817, General, the Episcopal Church’s oldest and once most prominent school for training clergy, has, like many mainline Protestant seminaries, fallen on hard times in recent years. In the past fiscal year, it ran a $2.7 million deficit. The school’s campus, known as the Close, is also in need of tens of millions of dollars of long-deferred maintenance work.

The school recently replaced its residential student body with a hybrid online-in person Master of Divinity program and has little need for the dorm rooms and modest apartments that formerly housed students.

A school spokesperson said the hybrid program has proved popular with prospective clergy. “Our hybrid MDiv is meeting a strong need in the church, and we currently have 96 open applications for 20 spaces for the 2024 cohort,” said Nicky Burridge, vice president for communications for GTS, in an email. “While the hybrid MDiv is highly successful, we do need to find a solution to cover the annual running costs of the Close and tackle previously deferred maintenance.”

The School of Sacred Music, which currently rents space at the seminary for vesper services two days a week, hoped to sign a long-term lease that would allow the seminary to retain ownership of its property.

“Any agreement would also likely see the SSM cover the running costs of the Close, pay GTS an annual rent, and carry out essential maintenance on the exterior of the buildings,” Burridge said in an email. “We cannot provide further details until we are closer to reaching an agreement.”

Negotiations on a lease for the Close, first announced in November, have been approved by the school’s board. At the time the negotiations were announced, few details about the nonprofit interested in leasing the campus were disclosed.

But earlier this year, local bishops — who have no direct authority over the school — and local government officials learned that the School of Sacred Music hoped to sign a long-term lease. The SSM was founded by the Ithuriel Fund, a nonprofit based in Connecticut, which has about $70 million in assets, according to IRS documents.

One of the donors to the Ithuriel Fund is Colin Moran, an investment banker and chair of First Things, a journal founded by the conservative Catholic priest the Rev. John Neuhaus. Moran’s ties to the school, according to Episcopal News Service, may have prompted concerns from bishops and local officials.

3 Big Things Today’s Kids Are Looking For

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I often say that today’s kids are not the same as when we were kids. Childhood has changed…drastically.

But in spite of all the changes, there are three things that today’s kids are looking for. These are things that every child longs for.

Let’s see what they are.

1. Relationships

A relationship with their parents. A relationship with those who lead them. A relationship with a caring volunteer. A relationship with their grandparents and other family members.

They want to know that they are loved. They want to know that there are people who have their back. They want to know that there are people who really do care about them. They want to know that they have leaders that can help guide them toward God’s plan for their life.

Today’s kids won’t come back to church because the church has a playground or a cool building or fun videos. They are growing up in a world of technology, virtual reality toys, and all the cool things they can cram into their life are available.

While these things will get them into your church doors, it won’t keep them coming back.  What will keep kids and families coming back? Relationships. 

Does this mean we should we pull back from doing fun games, crazy videos, dynamic lessons, awesome crafts, etc. as part of our teaching strategy?

No. All of these things are great…as long as they help build and strengthen relationships with the kids.

No child should be left alone sitting by themselves or stuck in a row of chairs that aren’t conducive to helping kids form relationships with other kids.

Kids will come back to church because Mr. Jim cares about them. Kids will come back because they know Mrs. Smith will ask them how their week went. Kids will come back because they have established relationships with other kids in the room.

What they need from us is to give them opportunities to build relationships. Games can build relationships. Small group discussions can build relationships.  Praying together in their group can build relationships. Purposeful icebreakers can help build relationships.

Don’t Try To Fix Your Small Group

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One of the interesting insights coming out of the 12-step literature is that it is counter productive to try to fix each other. We can only fix ourselves. An atmosphere where we are constantly trying to fix each other will quickly squelch honesty. I do not want a group that is constantly trying to fix me. If the group tries to fix, no one will be honest. It does not matter how well-meaning the group is in this, fixing kills honesty.

I have seen this happen in groups many times. One person will bravely risk sharing something that is not working. Someone will tell them, “You just need to pray.” Another will tell them to, “Just forgive and forget. Another will tell them to, “Have more faith.” Another will tell them that if they just had more discipline all would be well. Everyone has simple answers to enormous problems. And no one puts a bandage on the wound. This is where Sunday school gets a bad name. To give a “Sunday school answer” is synonymous with a simplistic, unrealistic, or poorly thought through answers.

People do this fixing in a well-meaning way. They are honestly trying to help. . . but it does not help. It only squelches the atmosphere of honesty. There is something almost magical that the Christian community can do for one another. If they will hear one another, really listen to the feelings as well as the facts, and bring those together to the Father, the group will find healing. As long as we are trying to fix each other, God isn’t allowed to do much fixing.

James 5:16 does not say, “Confess your sins, do your best to fix each other and then pray.” It is counter intuitive to what we think it would be, but fixing just messes things up. What we need to say is, “That must really hurt. I am sorry.”

Emotions are inherently a-moral and should always be validated. Actions are moral; emotions are not. If I tell you I feel a certain way and you rebuff me by saying I should not feel that way, I am not likely to share again. My emotions are not wrong. They are just feelings. Ethics has to do with behavior, not emotion. We need a place where we can hear each other say, “I understand why you would feel that way.”

It is true that it is wrong to cultivate certain emotions. It is wrong to cultivate lust and greed, which are essentially feelings. But it is not wrong for a person to admit that he is fighting these. In fact, we will never win the fight until we admit the war.

What we can do, instead of trying fix, is serve. Instead of fixing a person, try fixing a meal for a person. Pray for them. Send cards. Let your love be visible and felt. But don’t correct or scold. There is, of course, a place for admonition, but it is not in the context of the honest confession of sins.

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Simple Changes To Shift From Good to Godly Parenting

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Do you ever feel like your parenting efforts are just falling short? Sometimes all it takes are small adjustments to make huge progress.

Most Christian parents want to be the godly parent their child deserves, but they find it hard to get from good to godly parenting. More specifically, they struggle to break free from traditional Christian parenting (a rules-based model) to true Christian parenting (a relationship-based model) from the Bible.

Here are some mental and practical adjustments you can start implementing TODAY to make the difference between good and godly parenting in your home. It might just be easier than you think.

Good parents take OWNERSHIP of their children seriously – “These are my kids and I’m going to make sure they turn out right.”

Godly parents take STEWARDSHIP of their children seriously – “These are God’s kids entrusted to me to lead them to him and his purposes.”

Good parents focus on BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION – ”My kids will be the most well-behaved.”

Godly parents focus on HEART CHANGE – “My kids are foolish at heart, and in need of God’s grace, just like I am.”

Good parents care about OUTWARD CONFORMITY.

Godly parents care more about INWARD MOTIVES.

Good parents teach their children WHAT to think.

Godly parents teach their children HOW to think.

Good parents try to INSTILL biblical values in their children.

Godly parents teach their children how to POSSESS biblical values and personally live them out.

Good parents try to GIVE ALL THE ANSWERS to life’s questions.

Godly parents encourage and ALLOW TOUGH QUESTIONS from their kids.

Good parents REGULARLY GIVE TIME and attention to their children.

Godly parents INTENTIONALLY INVEST TIME and attention in their children.

Good parents want their children’s traditions and preferences to be motivated by FAMILY LOYALTY.

Godly parents want their children’s traditions and preferences to be rooted in their LOVE FOR JESUS.

Good parents see DISCIPLINE AS NECESSARY for good behavior.

Godly parents see DISCIPLINE AS AN AVENUE to their child’s heart.

Good parents EXPECT IMITATION from their children.

Godly parents ENCOURAGE INDIVIDUALITY in their children.

Good parents read the Bible IN FRONT OF THEIR CHILDREN.

Godly parents also read the Bible TOGETHER WITH THEIR CHILDREN.

Good parents prioritize TAKING THEIR KIDS TO CHURCH.

Godly parents prioritize BEING THE PRIMARY SPIRITUAL INFLUENCER in their kids’ lives.

Good parents take THEIR FAMILY RULES seriously.

Godly parents take THEIR FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS even more seriously.

Good parents often produce GOOD KIDS.

Godly parents are more likely to produce GODLY ADULTS.

How could you shift your thinking or practice to become more of a godly parent than just a good one?

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Do you agree? Disagree? Or have others that you’d add to this list?

This article originally appeared here and is used by permission. 

5 Biggest Mistakes Pastors Make on Sundays (and How To Avoid Them)

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For pastors, Sunday can be the most draining day of the week. Intense people interaction, teaching or preaching, seeing our critics, trying to remember names, and attempting to put our own problems aside to listen to other peoples’ problems add up to a stress-filled day. The very day we want to be at our best requires more from us than any other day. As a result, we can easily make one or more of the five biggest mistakes pastors make on Sundays. Evaluate this list to find out how many you make. I follow the list with some suggestions on how to avoid them.

5 Biggest Mistakes Pastors Make on Sundays

  1. Failure to recognize allostatic load.

    • This term describes the wear and tear on our body from chronic stress. Our bodies have limits. Yet, when we are under stress for long periods of time, our bodies suffer. Prolonged stress causes sustained high levels of the stress hormone cortisol which, along with an overabundance of other neurotransmitters and hormones, can cause heart problems, weight gain, impaired immunity, decreased memory due to brain cell atrophy and diminished brain functioning. If we don’t manage our stress during the week, we will limit our ability to function at our best on Sundays.
  2. Too much emotional labor.

    • Psychologists call the emotional work necessary for any job emotional labor. It’s the effort required to put on a public face when we interact with others. Unless you’re a grump or you hole up in your office until right before the Sunday service, your role requires considerable emotional labor as you interact with people on Sundays. However, when we surface act too much, put on a fake smile, we’ll quickly use up the energy stores God gave us for the day.
  3. People pleasing.

    • I based my third book, People Pleasing Pastors: Avoiding the Pitfalls of Approval Motivated Leadership, on extensive research of over 2,000 pastors. I discovered that over 70 percent of pastors self-assessed themselves as being affected in some way by people pleasing. As humans, we have a basic drive to be liked. Rejection actually physically hurts because social pain registers in the same part of our brains as does physical pain. On Sunday when we get sucked into trying to make everybody happy (by saying yes too much and/or saying what people want to hear) we will quickly get drained.
  4. The sacrifice syndrome.

    • Richard Boyatzis and Annie McKee, authors of Resonant Leadership, coined a concept called power stress to describe a kind of stress unique to leaders. “Power stress is part of the experience that results from the exercise of influence and sense of responsibility felt in leadership positions.” McKee and Boyatzis explain that when the demands of leadership get so high and leaders fail to manage it, they risk becoming trapped in what they call the Sacrifice Syndrome. Sometimes we leaders feel so overly responsible for the success of our churches that we get caught in a vicious cycle of unhealthy sacrifice for others that leads to burnout. And often that weight drains us on Sundays.
  5. Continuous partial attention (CPA).

    •  Linda Stone, author and consultant, developed this phrase to describe the mental trap we easily fall into when we constantly scan our surroundings to look for the best opportunities upon which to focus our attention. It happens when we ‘skim,’ and pay attention, only partially. When this happens to you, you won’t focus on the most important tasks at hand and will get further behind on mission-critical issues. Then, you must rush to get the important things done, which in turn contributes to chronic stress. On Sundays when we are listening to someone and we try to scan the crowd to see who else may want to talk to us (CPA), our energy stores get burned up faster than if we paid full attention to one person.

Developing Leaders – 10 Core Skills You Need

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Without developing more and better leaders, it’s unlikely that you’ll realize all that God has in mind for your church. Yes, God can do anything, He doesn’t “need” us, but He chose us. This is his plan. In His divine wisdom, God has chosen to extend His Kingdom through us. Jesus modeled developing leaders. He gathered the 70, selected the 12 disciples, and he was close to Peter, James and John. Jesus invested in them. He spent time with them, taught them, corrected them, cared about them and empowered them to preach the gospel, heal the sick and carry out the Kingdom of God.

I’m grateful for the mentors who have so generously invested in me. Candidly, without them I can’t imagine where I’d be, and it’s highly unlikely that I’d be writing to you today.

Their passion has rubbed off on me, and for decades now it’s been my privilege to develop other leaders. Second only to someone’s salvation, there’s just nothing like helping someone grow as a leader. That experience leads to a legacy that anyone developing leaders can enjoy.

A Three-Point Framework:

  • Vision – Developing leaders is the best way to realize the full measure of your vision to reach people for Christ. You just can’t do it alone, raising up more leaders is essential.
  • Heart – The best developers of leaders genuinely care about the men and women they invest in…it’s not only to grow the church, it’s first to grow the person.
  • Skill – When you develop leaders inside an organization like the local church, there are certain skills required to be effective.

I’ve written a book titled Amplified Leadership: 5 Practices to Establish Influence, Build People and Impact Others for a Lifetime. (If you would like more in depth content on these 10 skills, you can order the book here. Amplified Leadership will teach you how to improve these skills.)

But in this post, I want to give you the outline at a glance.

A Great Worship Leader Needs These 5 Skills

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What does it take to be a great worship leader? If I polled pastors and worship leaders across the world, I’m sure we’d see a common thread of common skills necessary to fulfill the role with excellence. We’d talk about heart and passion. We’d talk about vocal ability. We’d discuss musicality and band leadership. We’d talk about leadership—the ability to lead a team, grow a team, and maintain momentum. We may even agree on discipleship—the ability to reproduce other leaders. But what if there were other disciplines and skills that sustain a worship leader beyond mere leadership savvy and musical talent? What if there was something deeper than just have a “passion for worship” or a “passion for God?”

I’m going to outline a few of these. Having led worship for most of my life now, I’ve noticed that talent can get you started, but it’s not enough to sustain years of faithful ministry. If it’s all about your talent, the stage won’t be big enough. Your audience won’t be engaged enough. Your band won’t be talented enough.

A great worship leader who leads well is one who follows Jesus. One who never stops pursuing. One who builds the Spiritual disciplines in their life to keep them close. Essentially, a great worship leader is one who maintains a posture of loving Jesus more than worship.

A Great Worship Leader Needs These 5 Skills

Here are a few of those disciplines:

1. Memorize Scripture – Knowing songs is a great first step. But knowing Scripture will make you a worshiper. It gives you understanding into who God is, what He’s done and how He moves. It provides context to the gathering of God’s people.

2. Get to Know People – Well, depending on the size of your church, you may or may not get to know everyone. But you need to hang out with more than just your friends. You need to sit and listen to the heart of the 85-year-old woman who doesn’t like your music. You need to hang out with the student who sits outside the sanctuary during worship. You need a heart for people. Without a heart for people, you’ll hate to lead worship. You’ll enjoy it for a season but will dry up when you realize it is ALL about loving people.

3. Study Preaching & Communication – Most of what makes a worship leader effective in leading a room is what happens in between the lyrics. It’s what happens in between the songs. That’s where trust is formed, connection is built. Good preachers are constantly refining their delivery and studying ways to deliver unchanging truth in a way that connects with a changing audience. The combination of delivering truth and public speaking is an incredible skill for a worship leader to develop.

Christian Life Isn’t Just Cussing Less and Giving More

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There’s a book in my library called unChristian that analyzes the results of an extensive, nationwide study conducted by the Barna Group about Christian life. The authors sought to compare the lives of Christians and non-Christians to see how they differed. Part of what I like about this study is how Barna narrowed the classification of “Christian.” In this study, Christians were those who claimed faith in Christ and were able to articulate the gospel. Plus, the results were anonymous. Nothing like anonymity to bring out honesty.

Christian Life Isn’t Just Cussing Less and Giving More

The Barna Group found that Christians:

  • Cuss less in public (The modifier “in public” is important. In private, apparently, Christians still cuss; but they rein it in around Nana).
  • Give more to charitable causes.
  • Buy fewer lottery tickets.
  • Are less likely to recycle (because, I guess, the world is just going to burn up anyway?).

On the whole, I suppose that’s better than nothing. I wouldn’t exactly say we’re being a radical presence by cussing less in public, but it could be worse.

In fact, it is worse.

In this same study, Barna found that Christians are just as likely as non-Christians to:

  • Visit a pornographic website.
  • Get drunk.
  • Do illegal drugs or take prescription medicines not prescribed to them.
  • Be willing to lie to get out of a difficult situation.
  • Have intentionally done something to get back at someone within the last 30 days.

Keep in mind: This isn’t a perception of Christian life by outsiders. This is self-reported. It’s no surprise, then, that 84 percent of non-Christians said they personally knew at least one Christian, but only 15 percent thought that person’s lifestyle was significantly different than their own.

Non-Christians don’t think we’re different because we’re not different. But we should be. I can’t help but wonder what Jesus would think of this situation. Certainly, he had something else in mind when he died to create a new race of people. After all, he didn’t say, “The world will know you are my disciples because you buy fewer lottery tickets.”

“By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

–John 13:35

We really shouldn’t be that surprised by this. In Romans 2, the Apostle Paul points out that religion is often just a thin veneer papered over a heart that is still every bit as sinful as everyone else’s. By itself, religion is powerless to change our hearts. It might change our behavior—by cussing a little less, or giving a little more—but the change doesn’t go any deeper than the surface.

The Bible Dares You To Fill in the Blanks

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Once upon a time, I loved Mad Libs. In case you don’t remember this particular cultural phenomenon, Mad Libs was a book of short, simple stories. But each story had a number of blank lines in it. Each blank line was marked with a particular part of speech—noun, verb, adjective, and so on. One person would interview another person and ask them for random nouns, verbs, adjectives and the like and fill in the blanks. In the end, you would have a story with the blanks filled in but with random words that didn’t always fit.

The results were predictably hilarious because you could fill in the blanks with virtually anything, and sometimes bizarre, words. Sure, the story would end up nonsensical, but that was the point. It was to think of the most outlandish ways to fill in those blanks and then sit back and enjoy how it all came together.

Wouldn’t it be nice if life were a little like that? That you could fill in the blanks?

In such a world, you would say, “For dinner tonight, I’m going to have _________.” And you could put anything in that blank that you wanted. Or you could say, “I’m going to take a trip to __________”, and you would magically have the means to visit that place immediately. Of course, life doesn’t work like that. There are all kinds of limitations and exceptions that keep us from just filling in those blanks. Time, money, access—these limit the ways all those blanks can be filled in.

So life doesn’t work that way, but maybe the Bible does. At least in a sense. In fact, maybe the Bible actually invites us—even dares us—to fill in some of the blanks.

Take for example Romans 8:28: “We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God, who are called according to his purpose.”

This is such an invitation. We are invited to drill down on “all things” and do our best to fill in that blank. Sickness? Trouble? Job loss? Those are all big, significant, life-changing things, and you can fill in the blank with those. But you can also fill in the blank with traffic, interruptions to your schedule, or a dinner time conversation. Those are small things. In either case, fill in the blank because all things work together for our good.

Or this blank, from 1 Corinthians 10:13: “No temptation has come upon you except what is common to humanity. But God is faithful; he will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation he will also provide the way out so that you may be able to bear it.”

Fill in the blank with whatever temptation you are facing today. It still works, without exception.

Or one more, this one from Matthew 16:18: “And I also say to you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overpower it.”

There’s a blank to be filled in here, too, for there has always been a challenge to the church of the day. Governmental challenges, cultural challenges, doctrinal challenges—these have always been there. Fill in the blank with whatever’s most current, and it still works. The church will endure. The church will go on.

We could go on and on, and there will still be more blanks to be filled in. But because of the certainty of God, because of his unchanging nature, and because of his rock solid promises to us in Christ, the blanks will always be filled in. Despite our best efforts to find the exception, we cannot. We will not. And praise the Lord we can’t.

This article originally appeared here and is used by permission. 

Religious Change in America: They Buried the Lead

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For a brief period following graduate school, I worked for a denomination as its leadership consultant for preaching and worship. My first assignment was to steward an already-existing program for churches titled, “Let’s All Go to Church.” It was a growth campaign for churches, and one clearly designed to capitalize on people’s innate sense that they should, indeed, go to church.

That was 1991.

Even then I knew that it was a conceptual mess and was built on a terribly outdated assessment of culture.

My first self-assignment?

Instead of “Let’s All Go to Church,” it was, “Hey, Let’s All Come Up with a New Idea.” That new idea was titled, “Opening the Front Door.” Rather than reminding people to do what we (wrongfully) assumed they knew they should do (attend church), how about creating a church people would actually want to attend?

But even that idea is now passé.

You can think of the progression this way: In the 60s and 70s, you could play off of guilt and obligation to get people to attend a church. In the 80s and 90s, and even into the early 2000s, you could open the front door of the church in such a way that it would attract people who had been turned off to church.

Today?

The latest research from the Public Religion Research Institute (PRRI) has found that 26% of Americans now identify as religiously unaffiliated, making them the largest single religious group in the U.S. This isn’t exactly news. My book The Rise of the Nones came out in 2014. What has changed is that the number of atheists within that percentage has doubled since 2013, as has the number of agnostics. Another new dynamic is that not many of those who are unaffiliated are “looking for a religion that’s right for me.”

As in just 9%.

Also news? The reason why people are joining the ranks of the religiously unaffiliated.

Many news articles on the PRRI report highlighted that nearly half (47%) of all respondents who left a faith tradition cited negative teaching about the treatment of LGBTQ people, rising to about 60% of Americans who are under the age of 30.

12 Random Questions I Would Like To Ask Pastors

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I’m just thinking out loud today, wondering about questions I’d like to ask pastors if I could get them all in the same room. Here are some of those questions:

  1. Do you prefer to officiate at weddings or funeralsI may be wrong, but I think many pastors would rather lead a funeral.
  2. Are you naturally evangelistic, or do you have to force yourself to do it? I don’t know a lot of pastors whose hearts just beat for evangelism.
  3. Would you hire again all the current staff you have? I realize that’s a difficult question to answer, but the response will tell you a lot.
  4. How much do you pray each week? Previous studies have suggested that pastors don’t pray nearly like church members might assume.
  5. What would you say to your “young ministry self” if you were starting all over again? I know what I’d say to myself: “Don’t assume you’re God’s gift to the kingdom.”
  6. What’s your least favorite part of doing pastoral ministryFor me, I think it’s having confrontational meetings—even though I know they’re necessary at times.
  7. How important is physical exercise to you? I fear that many pastors betray an undisciplined life in general when they don’t take good care of themselves.
  8. How many times have you thought about quitting ministry? Maybe the answer is 0 in your case, but I know pastors who’ve thought about it more than once.
  9. In what area does your preaching need to improve? If you haven’t thought about this question, it’s possible your preaching hasn’t improved much in some time. All of us have room for improvement.
  10. Would your spouse and kids all want to do ministry again? I’m not sure how some folks would answer this question.
  11. Do you look forward to going to work every day? Every Sunday? I hope so, though I doubt everybody does.
  12. What steps have you taken to guard against moral failure? I trust we can all learn from pastors who’ve worked hard to finish well.

Readers, what other random questions would you want to ask pastors?

This article originally appeared here.

Get the Most From Your Digital Bible

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For centuries, only royalty, scholars, or pastors could personally open the Bible. Most people had to go to church in order to hear the Bible read, sung, prayed, and preached. However, the invention of the printing press revolutionized people’s relationship to God’s Word. As the Bible became mass-produced, biblical literacy skyrocketed, and the Reformation began. The modern digital revolution is similar to what happened 500 years ago. Having access to the digital Bible is a tremendous blessing for the church, and yet, this resource is often undervalued. Even as there are many reasons why you should open the Bible in print, here are five advantages to reading it on your phone or computer.

The Advantage of the Digital Bible

1. Accessibility

The early Church cited the Bible so much that, even if God’s Word disappeared, it could still be put back together based on their writings. Today, God’s Word is free and available to more people than ever because of the internet. Through websites and apps, Scripture appears in different translations and languages, and through social media, videos, and other communication. Tablets and phones have the ability to enlarge type and change fonts, so people of all ages can engage with God’s Word. The Bible is more readable, available to more people, and more readily accessible than ever before in the history of the world. When you love the Word of God and carry it with you, you can meditate on it all day long (Ps. 119:97).

2. Devotionals

The Bible promises that, when we are regularly in the Word, it is “able to make [us] wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus” (2 Tim. 3:15). Today, there are a variety of ways you can regularly be in God’s Word. You can listen to audio Bibles during meals or on your commute to work. Setting reminders on your phone or limits on websites can help you remember to open your Bible each day, and if you are goal oriented, some Bible apps track your progress through the year. In an age when we receive more communication than ever, there has never been a more opportune time to hear from God.

3. Search Tools

Many Christians have been in this situation: Someone asks a question, and you know there is a passage of Scripture that speaks to it, but you cannot remember where it is. It is a noble thing to search the Bible for answers. When the Bereans heard the gospel from Paul, “they received the word with all eagerness, examining the Scriptures daily to see if these things were so” (Acts 17:11). The Bible on your phone or tablet has search features which can help you find specific passages and can show you repeated words and phrases across God’s Word. Previously, one needed to look up the occurrence of words in a concordance—a large dictionary-like book, sometimes abridged in the back of some study Bibles. However, today’s Bible study software can even look up the usage of words and differentiate when they are translated from different words in the original Hebrew or Greek. Overall, digital search tools have made searching, cross-referencing, and understanding words in the context of the rest of the Bible faster than ever.

4. Evangelism

Though the Bible has been around for millennia, many people have yet to open it for the very first time. Evangelism involves opening the Bible with others and showing them how the Bible story is all about Jesus Christ. Romans 10:17 tells us that “faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.” There are many resources for sharing the gospel with people in the digital age, such as openthebible.org, created by Unlocking the Bible. Many people will be open to learning more about the Bible, but for those who feel intimidated by picking up a large book, encouraging them to take out their phone or tablet may be an easier starting point. Consider using Open, or talk about what you have been reading in your Bible app. Your phone can help you share God’s Word in specific, timely ways with others.

5. Resources

Finally, the digital Bible on your phone or tablet can be very helpful at church, in your small group, and for communicating with other believers. Many Bible apps allow for you to create an account so you can save highlights, notes, and even mark up the text with a stylus. A Bible app or digital notebook on your phone or tablet can be a great place for you to keep your notes from sermons, devotions, and reflections in the Word. Even when you change devices, your notes will always be there, and you will never run out of pages in a journal. If you are a small group leader, you can share your notes or highlight the text with others by sharing your screen via video chat or by casting your device onto a TV. Leaders can communicate with their small groups and include links to the passages of Scripture being studied, and using a digital Bible can help you to encourage other believers with Scripture through social media.

There are many biblical and helpful ways to use the Bible on your phone. In this age of the internet and smartphones, having a digital Bible can be an incredible tool for evangelism and discipleship. Find out what tools and resources work best for you, then prayerfully consider opportunities in which you can open the Bible with others.

 

This article on using your digital Bible originally appeared here.

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