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Tool Belts and Seminaries

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I was recently asked during the weekly Church & Culture Podcast why I wrote the book, “What They Didn’t Teach You in Seminary.” A book which, to this day, is one of my favorites.

The reason I was asked this was prompted by a conversation on Generation Z becoming known as the “tool belt generation” for its return to the practical nature of learning a trade, bypassing four-year programs of higher education. Gen Z has a sense that school lacks a sense of purpose and isn’t motivating. They are far more excited and motivated for what is happening outside of the classroom.

Couple this with the staggering rise in college tuition, and it’s not surprising that the number of students enrolled in vocationally focused community colleges rose 16% last year, bringing the number of students in that arena to the highest level since the National Student Clearinghouse began tracking data. The number of students studying construction has risen by 23% since 2018 alone.

My co-host’s question was akin to throwing me red meat. Seminaries across the nation are in decline, and many have shuttered their doors. The Associational of Theological Schools (ATS) has compiled its data on seminary enrollment for 2023, and the classic seminary degree—the Master of Divinity—experienced another 5% decline.

And yes, there can be little doubt that one of the reasons is what is behind Generation Z becoming the tool belt generation, and certainly was behind my reason for writing that particular book. As I wrote in the introduction:

My life has been lived largely in two vocational worlds: the church and the academy. I am the founding and senior pastor of a church; I am a professor and former president of a seminary. 

More than that, I loved seminary. I loved learning about church history and theology, philosophy and ethics. My pulse quickened the first time I was able to stand behind a podium and say, “In the Greek, this word means….” I loved building my library with works from Augustine to Zwingli. Adding entire multivolume reference sets, such as Kittel’s “Theological Dictionary of the New Testament,” made my hormones bubble.

I was the classic three-year residential MDiv student. But toward the end of my seminary studies, just before I started my doctoral work, I received a call from a church near the school asking me to consider coming as their interim pastor. It was an established denominational church in a county-seat town near the seminary. The interim turned into a full-fledged invitation to serve as their senior pastor…

[When] I, as a new pastor, was asked to officiate my first wedding, my first funeral, my first baptism, and my first communion, I was totally clueless. So why did they ask me to be a pastor in the first place in order to do such things? It was assumed that since I was nearing my graduation from seminary, I knew what I was doing.

I didn’t.

So in panic mode I ended up buying every “minister’s manual” the local Christian bookstore offered.

It didn’t get any better.

The Absence of Trust: 4 Keys To Rebuild When It’s Broken

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When it comes to team failure (or the failure of any relationship for that matter), the absence of trust is the “first domino”; all the rest of the dysfunctions—fear of conflict, lack of commitment, avoidance of accountability and inattention to results—flow out of that fractured foundation.

“A man who trusts nobody is apt to be the kind of man nobody trusts.” —Harold MacMillan

In Patrick Lencioni’s Five Dysfunctions of a Team, the first and most foundational team dysfunction the author cites is absence of trust.

I say all that to emphasize what we all intuitively know: Trust Matters.

Trust is foundational to all communal endeavors—whether they revolve around accomplishing an organizational objective, or making a marriage work. In the absence of trust, your team cannot succeed.

But trust is not a simple, black and white, neatly packaged concept.

It’s complex. It has many layers. The experience of trust is different for each person, and so is the absence of trust. What may compromise trust for one person may not be an issue for another. This means you can break trust without even realizing you’re doing it, or fail at repairing trust even when giving it your best.

Sounds messy, doesn’t it? Yep. That’s because it is.

So how, then, do you effectively build trust?

I think we have to begin by really understanding what trust is, and what it isn’t. Trust isn’t merely a feeling you either have or don’t have toward a person or a team; and it won’t be created by passively waiting for the feeling to return or “simply happen” over time.

In my work with clients, I define trust as “the belief in the reliability, ability, truth or strength of someone or something.” Essentially, to trust is to “believe in” someone, or, corporately speaking, to believe in your team. Trust is the belief in the reliability, ability, truth or strength of someone or something. Trust is a choice—one that involves these three elements:

  • Vulnerability
  • Risk
  • Wisdom

Authentic trust acknowledges that in almost all relationships, trust and distrust (experienced as fear, suspicion and doubt) are simultaneously present. I trust you, but I don’t trust you with everything. I believe in you, but I still have some doubts.

To actively build trust, then, you must risk extending your belief in someone beyond your current comfort level in order to give trust the opportunity to grow. This requires vulnerability and courage as you are exposing yourself to possible hurt and disappointment. But to build trust, you do it anyway, for the sake of creating new possibilities and a stronger relationship.

Having said that, in order to “risk wisely,” you need to be explicitly clear on what will build trust for you, and be able to directly communicate what you need for trust to grow, so the other person (or team) will be aware of exactly what you are asking of them.

Who do you trust? What is present in that relationship that allows your trust to thrive?

5 Things That May Be Hindering Your Prayers

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We’ve all been there. We pray. We wait. We wait.

And then we wonder: “What did I do wrong?”

Sometimes the problem isn’t on your end.  It might just not be God’s timing or God’s will… But sometimes it is.

Here are 5 things that can keep our prayers from getting through to God:


1 • UNCONFESSED SIN

“Surely the arm of the Lord is not too short to save, nor his ear too dull to hear. But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that he will not hear.” (Isaiah 59:1-2)

Is there anything in your heart you are trying to hide from God?

2 •  AN UNFORGIVING SPIRIT

“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” (Mark 11:25)

Is there anyone you are holding a grudge against?

3 • AN UNBELIEVING HEART

“But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does.” (James 1:6-8)

Honest doubt and concern is one thing, but has that turned into your confidence that God will not or cannot help?

4 • IMPROPER MOTIVES

“When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.” (James 4:3)

Why are you asking for this… really?

5. BEING OFFENDED

“And because of their unbelief, he couldn’t do any miracles among them except to place his hands on a few sick people and heal them.” (Mark 6:5)

The word “unbelief” is actually the word for “offense.”  Because they were offended… it short changed the miracles they received.  Jesus literally “can’t” do miracles when we are offended.  Stunning.

Is there anyone or anything that has offended you… and you can’t get over it?


So, next time you sense silence from heaven… Run this check list.

I recently did an entire message on this topic as well, and you can check it out here.

This article originally appeared here.

Holy Spirit Lesson for Teaching Children About Pentecost

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The Holy Spirit is an important part of the Trinity. But children may be confused about who the Holy Spirit is and what he does. So use this free, kid-friendly lesson to teach children about God sending the gift of his Spirit at Pentecost.

Students discover the day’s significance as they color an activity page and discuss Scripture.

Children’s Bible Lesson About the Holy Spirit

Scripture: Acts 2:1-12; Matthew 28:20b

Supplies:

The Holy Spirit Comes at Pentecost

Beforehand, cut out and curl 3-inch pieces of red, yellow, and orange curling ribbon.

Have children write their names on their activity pages. (Help younger children.) Then set out the curled ribbon strips, tape, and crayons.

  1. Give each child an activity page. Point to the men in the picture. Explain that in the Bible, some people were talking about God’s love. But other people didn’t understand because they spoke a different language. Direct children to color each man a different color, as a reminder that they spoke different languages.
  2. Say: All of a sudden, a big wind blew through the room. Something that looked like fire appeared over the men’s heads.
  3. Helping as needed, have children tape pieces of curled ribbon on the flames. Then show children how to blow on the ribbons to make the “flames” move!
  4. Say: The flames showed that God had sent a helper, called the Holy Spirit, to help the people. Suddenly everyone could understand what the men were saying! Lots of people heard about Jesus that day because of the Holy Spirit.
  5. Open your Bible to Matthew 28:20b. Read the Scripture verse aloud to each child one at a time. Fill in the word “you” with each child’s name.

God Is With Us

Ask:

  • Have you ever heard someone speak a different language? What was that like?
  • Who helps you understand God’s Word, the Bible?
  • What is it like to know that God is always with you?

Steve Carter: Finding Hope When Your Ministry World Collapses

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How can we respond in a healthy way when our ministry world comes crashing down around us? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Steve Carter. Steve is a pastor, speaker, and author. He is the host of the “Craft and Character” podcast and the former lead teaching pastor at Willow Creek Community Church. He currently serves as teaching pastor at Forest City Church, and his most recent book is titled, “Grieve, Breathe, Receive.” Together, Steve and Jason look at how to navigate disappointments and destabilizing seasons in our ministries. Steve shares from his own experiences as a pastor what God taught him about grieving, breathing, and receiving.

FrontStage BackStage Podcast With Steve Carter

View the entire podcast here.

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Looking to dig more deeply into this topic and conversation? Every week we go the extra mile and create a free toolkit so you and your ministry team can dive deeper into the topic that is discussed. Find your Weekly Toolkit here… Love well, Live well, Lead well!

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Mental Illness Drugs ‘Attack You’—John MacArthur Doubles Down on Controversial Comments

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Pastor John MacArthur recently addressed his highly criticized comment that “there’s no such thing as mental illness.”

MacArthur made the remark during a panel discussion at the For the Valley Bible Conference when he was asked to share why he wrote his latest book, “The War on Children: Providing Refuge for Your Children in a Hostile World.

MacArthur said he believes that children are being misdiagnosed with mental health issues and wrongly prescribed medication. “In regard to children, [medication] is the most deadly thing that’s been unleashed on children,” he said.

“We are trying to make clear to parents that behavior is essentially the result of choices that kids make. And if you parent them properly, they’ll make right choices,” MacArthur told the panel.

RELATED: John MacArthur Claims Mental Illness Is a ‘Noble Lie,’ Medicating Children Creates ‘Potential Drug Addicts’

MacArthur then claimed that by blaming a child’s behavior on “something other than their choices” and prescribing them medication, parents are “literally turning your child not only into a potential drug addict but maybe a potential criminal, because they never learned how to negotiate and navigate life in a socially acceptable way.”

During his sermon on Sunday, May 5, MacArthur told his congregation,

I was told within a matter of a few hours that [what I said] blew up the internet. And one of the headlines was, ‘A Doctor and a Woman Preacher Take Issue With John MacArthur.’ I don’t know about the doctor, but I’m happy to take issue with a woman preacher. That’s fine.

MacArthur said he recently received a phone call from a person who represents the “leading psychologists in this country” and who also manages the “largest facility for juveniles who commit adult crimes.” MacArthur said the individual told him, “I’m calling the church to let Pastor MacArthur know that everything he said is exactly true.”

“And he went on to say,” MacArthur added, “if [I want] to write a book, [he’ll help] supply all the data.”

MacArthur reiterated, “There’s no such thing as mental illness.”

The pastor then shared research he gathered from psychiatrist Thomas Szasz, who wrote the book “The Myth of Mental Illness.”

Blac Chyna Talks to Lecrae About Giving Up OnlyFans, Her Baptism, and ‘Rollin’ by Faith’

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Angela White, who became famous under her persona “Blac Chyna,” joined Christian hip hop artist Lecrae on his podcast Thursday to talk about her spiritual journey out of lifestyle that included stripping and performing on OnlyFans. White countered the idea that her financial success has made it easy for her to give up that way of life to follow God. 

“This is a lifestyle,” she said on “The Deep End With Lecrae.” “You need more money to make more money, if that makes sense.” When Lecrae asked if there were ever a point where she felt as though she had “made it” in her career, White said she still does not feel that way. 

“It’s just always rollin,’” she said. “For a long time, I would just hustle, hustle, hustle, just grind, grind, grind. Stay up for days…just working, trying to just get stuff done.”

When Lecrae asked how much she had been making when she was on OnlyFans, White said, “I made millions from offa there.”

He observed, “For you to say, ‘I’m done doing that,’ something genuinely had to change in your life.” Lecrae added that some people think her new commitment to Jesus is a publicity stunt.

“Nobody needs publicity when you already Blac Chyna,” she replied. “You just walk outside.”

Angela White’s Unfolding Story

Angela White is an actor, entrepreneur, rapper, television personality, model and mother of two. As a teenager, she started performing in strip clubs under the stage name “Blac Chyna,” which was a persona that eventually “overspilled.” White was a popular stripper and rose to fame after Drake name-dropped her in a song and she was cast as a body double for Nicki Minaj in a Kanye West music video.

White said she joined OnlyFans in 2020 while in the middle of a costly court case, likely referring to her defamation suit against the Kardashians. During that time, she was in need of money.

RELATED: ‘I Am Giving It All Up for Christ’—OnlyFans Star Nala Ray Declares Faith in Jesus

In March 2023, White publicly revealed that she had been baptized on May 11, 2022, which was her birthday. At the end of 2022, she deactivated her OnlyFans account with no “backup plan” for how to pay her bills.

Before White deactivated her account, she called her bishop, who praised God at the news and was on the phone with her when she took the momentous step. White told Lecrae that she needed faith to trust she would be ok and that in the year-and-a-half since, “We’ve been rollin’ by faith this whole time.”

‘No One Could Tell Me That There’s Not a God’—Former Nickelodeon Star Kel Mitchell Discusses Exorcism Experience With Shannon Sharpe

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Former Nickelodeon star Kel Mitchell discussed an experience he had with exorcism during a recent episode of Shannon Sharpe’s “Club Shay Shay” podcast. 

Perhaps best known for his 1990s performances in “All That,” “Kenan and Kel,” and “Good Burger,” Mitchell is an actor, producer, and comedian. He has also served as youth pastor for Spirit Food Christian Center in Winnetka, California, since 2019. 

In 2021, he published a devotional titled, “Blessed Mode: 90 Days to Level Up Your Faith.” 

The “Club Shay Shay” episode kicked off with a performance by award-winning gospel artist Tye Tribbett, who sang “Be Alright.”

Following the artist’s performance, Sharpe asked Tribbett, “I’m listening to the words of the song and thinking about everything that’s transpired over the last five years—how do we convince people to lean on the Word of God and their spirituality and their religion, that everything is going to be alright?”

RELATED: How God Saved Nickelodeon Star Kel Mitchell From Suicide To Become a Youth Pastor

“Well, we just stay consistent, I believe,” Tribbett replied. “If we just stay consistent, keep encouraging people, keep speaking the Word, they’re going to hit a point in their life where all they have is that hope, and all they have is that faith.”

“If we just remain consistent—God is the way, Jesus is the way, he can help you—and our testimonies help people,” Tribbett continued. “It’s not even about convincing people. It’s about being a witness.” 

Later, Sharpe sat down with Mitchell for a wide-ranging conversation about Mitchell’s life growing up on the South Side of Chicago and becoming a television star as a teenager. Of his success as a young actor and comedian, Mitchell said, “That’s God.” 

Sharpe asked Mitchell, “Of all the things that you’ve done thus far, what’s your favorite?”

“Being me and doing what God wants me to do,” Mitchell replied. “I really feel like enjoying a journey. It’s been a journey.”

“You get one life here, then you live again in heaven. But it’s just having this one life, and where it can take, you know, those different steps in learning from everything. That’s been the beauty in it,” Mitchell went on to say.

Speaking to the struggles of navigating his acting career as a young man, Mitchell said, “What got me through was definitely the Lord. That’s what got me through.”

“And then what got me through too is, you know, staying the course,” he added. 

RELATED: Comedian Chris Distefano Recommends ‘The Case for Christ’ to Joe Rogan, Argues Jesus Rose From the Dead

Later in the conversation, Mitchell shared about the mental health challenges he endured in the early 2000s amid an ongoing dispute with Dan Schneider, who produced “Kenan and Kel,” as well as troubles in his marriage. Also during this time, Mitchell said that his relationship with Kenan Thompson began to break down. To that point, the two had been a successful comedy duo and close friends. 

Russell Brand Quotes Timothy Keller in Video About First Communion

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Newly baptized actor and podcaster Russell Brand posted a video Friday (May 17) about taking holy communion for the first time. In it, the 48-year-old discussed rituals in a society based on rationalism and quoted late theologian Timothy Keller.

“I took my first holy communion. That means I drank the blood of Christ and ate the body of Christ,” Brand began his video, which had almost 100,000 views by midday. In the caption, he wrote, “(Oh yeah that stuff round my gob ain’t Our Lord’s blood. Just protein shake!!!).”

“How do you make sense of participation in a ritual like that, when you are familiar only with rationalism and materialism and logic?” Brand asked viewers. “How do you deal with the intersection of the supernatural and the material and the rational? How do you deal with the idea that there is a spiritual dimension that we can interact with and indeed commune with?”

Russell Brand References Timothy Keller on Faith

Russell Brand, who got baptized last month in the River Thames, explored the contrasts between spirituality and secularism. Believing in an “ever-present” Christ figure these days seems “almost ludicrous and ridiculous,” he said, “particularly when there are countermeasures continually in place to tell you that only the rational and material world makes sense.”

RELATED: ‘It Was Pretty Incredible’—Russell Brand Thanks Bear Grylls for Standing With Him During Recent Baptism

When a society based on rationalism “precludes a belief in the supernatural and [favors] the political over the religious,” Brand said, we end up excluding “so many things that are actually, I believe, impossible to live without.”

Then the actor referenced Keller’s mention of a joke about a drunk man searching for his car keys under a streetlamp. When a passerby asked, “Is that where you dropped them?” the man replied, “No, I dropped them over there, by them bushes, but the light’s much better here.”

Timothy Keller points out that using the modes of the sense and the modalities of the sciences, we cannot search that which is ethereal, by its very nature,” Brand explained. “The idea that the material world can answer all of our questions seems increasingly preposterous, just on a practical level as the world falls apart.”

Jesus Was a ‘Great Rebel,’ Says Russell Brand

For him, Russell Brand said, becoming a Christian is a political act but isn’t about joining a conservative institution where you leave things as they are. “I have become a Christian because I have surrendered to a figure that was a great radical and a great rebel,” he said. “[Who] believed that God’s kingdom would come to earth—that indeed it did come to earth—in his figure.”

Becoming a Christian has provided a “glorious new education,” Brand concluded. And despite his “enthusiasm,” he’s approaching the faith journey “with great trepidation and vulnerability because it is very, very new to me. But a new power has come to me. A new glory seems accessible to me.”

A Priest Observed a ‘Eucharistic Fast’ for Racial Justice. Now, He Could Be Deposed.

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(RNS) — An Episcopal priest may lose his credentials in the denomination after observing a “Eucharistic fast” in the name of racial justice. A panel charged with overseeing the case in the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia concluded on May 8 that the Rev. Cayce Ramey violated his ordination vows and should be “deprived of the right to exercise the gifts and spiritual authority of God’s word and sacraments conferred at ordinations to Priesthood and Diaconate,” according to a news release.

Ramey, an activist against white supremacy who previously served as rector of All Saints Episcopal Church Sharon Chapel in Alexandria, Virginia, has refused to preside over the Eucharist or to receive it personally since 2022. His fast, he reportedly said, would last until he saw “clear proof of repentance and amendment of life in the Episcopal Church regarding white supremacy and racial injustice,” according to a pretrial document filed by a church attorney.

RELATED: Parishioners Confront Teen With Rifle Outside of Communion Service for 60 Children

“I see racial justice as central to the Gospel and the only means of addressing the original sin of white supremacy in the United States and the Episcopal Church,” Ramey wrote in a pretrial brief. “I was ordained into a part of God’s church built on the wealth, power, and privilege gained from the enslavement and ongoing oppression and exploitation of Black people. … How then can I administer the sacraments at the whites-only lunch-counter-altar built on top of the bodies and blood of people our theology enslaved?”

In March, a church trial took place at the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia’s headquarters in Richmond, The Living Church reported. Several witnesses testified during the trial, including two Black bishops who testified against Ramey, who is white. Bishop Gayle Harris, assistant bishop in Virginia, said at the hearing that while she acknowledged Ramey’s genuine passion for racial justice, she was insulted that the pain of her people had become “a platform for someone to deny the Eucharist.”

In a statement, Bishop Mark Stevenson of the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia called confronting racism “mission critical” for him and the diocese, and he commended Ramey’s leadership in that area. However, Stevenson added, the church proceedings were about whether Ramey violated his ordination vows, not about his racial justice efforts. “It is my firm belief that Episcopal priests can and must work to make our faith a living reality by providing the sacraments to their people, as well as work to secure justice and human dignity,” he said.

The news release states that Stevenson and Bishop Susan Goff, who at one point was acting bishop of the Diocese of Virginia, spent months in dialogue with Ramey seeking a pastoral resolution before Goff initiated an official church investigation in 2022.

The panel’s order indicated that Ramey violated several church bylaws, including engaging in “habitual neglect of … the Holy Communion,” failing to “abide by the promises and vows made when ordained” and engaging in conduct unbecoming of a clergy member. The panel recommended Ramey be deposed, meaning he would no longer be recognized as an ordained minister in the Episcopal Church.

The press release states that Stevenson must now decide whether to uphold the panel’s decision. Per church canons, he must pronounce an official sentence after 20 days, but before 40 days. If Ramey appeals the panel’s decision, then the Court of Review, an elected body made of laypeople, bishops and other clergy, must issue a final order before the bishop imposes a sentence.

This article originally appeared here.

AME Official Jerome v. Harris Dies Under a Cloud of Alleged Corruption

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(RNS) — The Rev. Jerome V. Harris, a retired general officer of the African Methodist Episcopal Church, died in Memphis, Tennessee, on May 8. At his death, Harris was involved in a lawsuit with the denomination over alleged mishandling the church’s retirement pension funds.

John Thomas III, a general officer of the church and the editor of The Christian Recorder, the AME’s official publication, said that Harris had died of a heart attack.

Harris, who was ordained itinerant elder of the AME Church in 1981, served as senior pastor and presiding elder of various churches in Alabama. In 1990, he was appointed lead pastor of St. Paul AME Church, where the civil rights figure Rosa Parks attended. His most recent post as senior pastor was at the historic Brown Chapel AME Church in Selma, Alabama. While at the chapel he secured National Historic Landmark status for the now-116-year-old building.

In July 2000, he was made a general officer of the AME Church and appointed the seventh executive director of the church’s retirement services department. For 21 years, Harris managed the retirement pensions sponsored by the worldwide church.

Upon his resignation in 2021, AME Church officials accused Harris of embezzling nearly $100 million from the church’s pension funds after being alerted of discrepancies in the retirement plan’s accounting.

As a result of the accounting anomalies, the AME Church faced three federal class-action lawsuits filed by retired AME pastors, accusing the church of mishandling the pension funds.

According to the church, an independent investigation in 2021 revealed that Harris and other defendants had used the retirement plan funds for personal purposes. The church alleged that the defendants used the money for personal loans and high-risk investments, among other things. They were also accused of creating third-party entities into which they funneled the money.

The AME Church wrote in its court filing that Harris “engaged in a conspiracy with several individuals and/or entities to embezzle funds and defraud AMEC by, among other things, providing AMEC with deceptive, false, and grossly inflated financial statements for the African Methodist Episcopal Church Ministerial Retirement Annuity Plan.”

When the fund opened in 2001, it was valued at $49.5 million. According to a final report issued by Harris, the plan was worth $128 million at the end of his tenure, a baseless estimation according to the AME Church.

Born in Montgomery, Alabama, Harris graduated from Alabama State University and Louisiana State University. He had a three-decade career in banking at the First National Bank of Montgomery.

Harris was also a veteran of the U.S. Army, serving during the Vietnam War. In 1969, he received a Medal of Commendation for his service.

Harris’ funeral was held Wednesday (May 15) at the St. John AME Church in Montgomery. He will be buried at the Alabama Heritage Cemetery.

Harris is survived by his wife, Sandra Elaine Anderson; son; and three grandchildren.

This article originally appeared here

Vatican To Weigh In on the Supernatural, Marian Apparitions

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Pilgrims pray at the grotto of the Roman Catholic shrine at Lourdes, southwestern France, Feb.11, 2022. (AP Photo/Bob Edme)

(RNS) — Every Sunday, in Flushing Meadows Park in Queens, New York, a group of followers of Veronica Lueken, a Catholic housewife who said she saw visions of Mary starting in 1968, gather around a statue of Mary placed on a park bench and pray the rosary. A rival group, which split after Lueken’s 1995 death, gathers on a nearby traffic island.

During her life, Lueken said she received messages that challenged the post-Second Vatican Council Catholic Church and warned people to repent.

While alleged Marian apparitions are plentiful, most, like Lueken’s, go without official recognition by the Catholic Church. Only 25% of apparitions have been recognized by the local bishop in the church’s 2,000-year history. Of those, the Vatican has only recognized 16.

This Friday (May 17), the Vatican will release a document with new norms for discerning Marian apparitions and other supernatural phenomena, the first time those norms have been updated since 1978.

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In explaining the importance of Marian shrines, Robert Orsi, who holds the Grace Craddock Nagle Chair in Catholic Studies at Northwestern University, cites a gas station attendant in Knock, Ireland, the site of an officially recognized Marian shrine, who told Orsi, “Here the transcendent broke into time.”

Robert Orsi. (Photo by Tony Rinaldo)

Robert Orsi. (Photo by Tony Rinaldo)

The sites are so beloved that people replicate them around the world. The tourism website for Lourdes, another site of a well-known and officially recognized apparition, says there are more than 765 replica sites in France and another 321 in the rest of the world.

At the Our Lady of Lourdes Grotto in the Bronx, near where Orsi grew up, people know the water they’re collecting to take back to their sick relatives or placing on their own bodies is from the city reservoir, but they also believe the water is holy and has some of the power of the water in Lourdes, Orsi said.

“These places are always at once both local and universal,” said Orsi, explaining that Marian apparitions often speak in the regional language, but that Marian devotions are all-inclusive.

Initially, Orsi said, the sites of the apparitions “capture the world’s attention because of their drama.”

But after the apparitions are over and the shrines are built, “they become places for friendship, for travel, for families, for support, for encouragement, for hoping, for dealing with despair and disappointment. They’re really rich sites of relationships,” Orsi said, explaining that the sites can also have political, nationalist and medical meanings.

While the sites of Marian apparitions “help inculcate a Catholic consciousness or a Catholic imaginary” and “increase piety and devotion,” Orsi said they can prove “complicated” for ecclesiastical authorities because “there’s a power to these sites” that can go beyond their control.

Joseph Laycock, an assistant professor of religious studies at Texas State University, agrees the sites pose a particular conundrum for the institutional church. “Private revelation is always a threat to the authority of the magisterium and the authority of the church,” said Laycock, who has studied Lueken in depth. “On the other hand, it’s also very precious to Catholic tradition.”

Pilgrims gather outside the Basilica of Guadalupe on her feast day in Mexico City, early Tuesday, Dec. 12, 2023. Devotees of Our Lady of Guadalupe gather for one of the world's largest religious pilgrimages on the anniversary of one of several apparitions of the Virgin Mary witnessed by an Indigenous Mexican man named Juan Diego in 1531. (AP Photo/Marco Ugarte)

Pilgrims gather outside the Basilica of Guadalupe on her feast day in Mexico City, Dec. 12, 2023. Devotees of Our Lady of Guadalupe gather for one of the world’s largest religious pilgrimages on the anniversary of one of several apparitions of the Virgin Mary witnessed by an Indigenous Mexican man named Juan Diego in 1531. (AP Photo/Marco Ugarte)

After the Second Vatican Council ended in 1965 and led to a host of reforms in the church, “there was kind of a spike of interest in Marian apparitions because a lot of traditionalist Catholics felt the church had kind of turned its back on tradition,” said Laycock. “That’s why in 1978, the church had to finally make some more specific guidelines.”

10 Ways To Connect With Today’s Kids

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“Today’s kids are not yesterday’s kids. If we are going to reach today’s kids, we must understand them.” This means we should learn as much as we can about today’s kids and their families.

As we enter their world, it will help us more effectively reach and disciple them. Now if you are reading this and you have young children, you have a head start on those who don’t. You are living in their world through your own kids.

But if you don’t have kids or if you are an empty-nester like I am, you have to be intentional about entering their world.

What kind of music do they like? Who is their favorite YouTube star? What movies are they watching? What websites do they like? What is their home life like? What pressures are they facing? What sports are they involved in? What world view are they being shaped by?

Here are 10 ways you can connect with the kids you are ministering to.

1. Ask kids directly what they like. Going directly to the source is the best place to start. A great way to do this is through a kids’ focus group.

2. Stop by their TV channels. Make it a habit to stop by channels like Disney, Nickelodeon, Cartoon Network, Nick Jr., Sprout and more. The programming will give you a look at today’s kid culture. 

3. Go into the toy section when you are shopping. Make a detour by the toy aisle and check out the toys. This helps you see what kids like.

4. Keep up with what’s hot at the theater. What movies are bringing in the dollars at the box office? What are the top family friendly movies that are playing?

5. See what’s trending on Netflix, Amazon and Disney+. These services list what movies are currently the most popular. This will give you insight into what is trending with kids

6. Check out which kids’ apps are the most popular. A list of what apps are the most popular with kids will give you an inside look at what they like.

7. Check out the top kids’ websites. Do a Google search and find out which kids’ websites are the most visited. Look at the websites to see what’s relevant with kids.

8. See which YouTube channels are the most popular with kids. Four of the five most popular channels are currently aimed at children, and they rack up about 1.5 billion views between them in a month.

9. See which songs are popular on iTunes. This will show you who and what kids are listening to.

10. Check out which books are best sellers for kids.

If you’ll stay relevant with kids, it will give you the ability to engage them in conversation, connect with them and show them that you care about their world. And when this happens, it will open their heart to receive what God wants to speak into their life through you.

This article originally appeared here and is used by permission.

Calendaring: The Bane of Small Group Admin

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There is no other activity that’s good for “absolutely nothing” like calendaring. But as small group ministry leaders who are often thinking about late-summer recruiting, fall-launches, winter-holiday breaks, or leader-training mapping out a calendar with our teams is usually something we are doing and re-doing throughout the year.

When Dances with Wolves hit theaters in 1990, it was an instant hit. People were enthralled with the story and scenery. The main character, John Dunbar, was given the name Dances with Wolves because of this scene where he was “dancing” with a wolf named Two Socks. It was an enchanting picture of a man and wolf getting to know one another. Now we don’t dance with wolves. But we do dance with our calendars. Maybe it’s not that much of a dance as it is a wrestling match. We get pulled like taffy that’s lost its flavor and stretch. Our calendar gets yanked and dragged in all sorts of directions, by all sorts of pressures, and all kinds of people.

Of the most frequent things we do, scheduling and calendaring seems like it wastes more time than anything else. No matter what we do, no matter how hard we try, scheduling meetings is just an empty hole that we pour our limited time and energy into.

And the great tragedy about calendaring and scheduling is that it accomplishes absolutely nothing. Yes, things get decided in meetings, things get done in meetings. But scheduling the meeting is exactly like “War” by Edwin Star.

It sounds oh so simple: all we need to do is get some people to a place (physical or digital) for a period of time to discuss something. I mean, how hard can it be? And then the Scheduling dance begins.

4 Tips for Calendaring Sanity

1. Be Sensitive

In their drive to be efficient, some calendar links and invitations feel impersonal and transactional. Additionally, they sometimes make more work for the invitee than the inviter. Think about what’s easiest for the people being invited.

2. Be Human

Some people think being sent a bot as dehumanizing. The receiver can think that they are not important enough to communicate with as a human. One idea is to only use calendar scheduling when other people ask to meet with you.

3. Be Recommending

Make it about the other people, what works for them, not what works for you. Your language should be deferring, letting the group point the way.

4. Be Guiding

Be certain to let people know when a decision or meeting needs to happen by. Offer dates and times where recipients can mark “yes,” “no,” or “if need be”—that is, not ideal, but they could make it work.

Whichever approach and app you choose, think of the people as friends, neighbors, and buddies. Always, always, always treat them with respect and gracious words.

I beseech you, on your part, to show deference to such people, and to everyone who participates in their work and toils hard. 1 Corinthians 16:16 WNT

 

This article about calendaring originally appeared here, and is used by permission.

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Chet Gladkowski is the Founder of GLAD Associates, Inc. (a) and author of “Have Yourself a Merry COVID-Christmas”(b). He has also launched National Day of Hope(c). His latest books, Hope is Like Steamed Crabs (d) and Hope is Like Barbeque Ribs (e) are available through Amazon.

Men, Be the Chief Repenters in Your Homes

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Men, Be the Chief Repenters in Your Homes

In his classic book, The Doctrine of RepentanceThomas Watson outlined six ingredients for true repentance:

  1. The first is the sight of sin, whereby a person comes to himself (Luke 15:17) and views his lifestyle as sinful. If we fail to see our sin, we rarely, if ever, are motivated to repent.
  2. The second ingredient for true repentance is sorrow for sin (Psalm 38:18). We need to feel the nails of the cross in our souls as we sin. Repentance includes both godly grief and holy agony (2 Corinthians 7:10). The fruit of repentance is revealed in genuine, anguishing sorrow over the offense itself, not just the consequences of it. Sorrow for sin is seen in the ongoing righteous actions it produces. True repentance lingers in the soul and not just on the lips.
  3. The third ingredient is the confession of sin. The humble sinner voluntarily passes judgment on himself as he sincerely admits to the specific sins of his heart. We must not relent of our confession until all of it is freely and fully admitted. We must pluck up any hidden root of sin within us. “Beware lest there be among you a root bearing poisonous and bitter fruit” (Deuteronomy 28:19).
  4. The fourth ingredient for true repentance is shame for sin. The color of repentance is blushing red. Repentance causes a holy bashfulness. Ezra 9:6 says, “O my God, I am ashamed and blush to lift my face to you, my God, for our iniquities have risen higher than our heads, and our guilt has mounted up to the heavens.” The repenting prodigal was so ashamed of his sin that he did not feel he deserved to be a son anymore (Luke 15:21). Sin makes us shamefully naked and deformed in God’s eyes and puts Christ to shame, the One who took the scorn of the cross on Himself.
  5. The fifth ingredient in repentance is a hatred of sin. We must hate our sin to the core. We hate sin more deeply when we love Jesus more fully. Repentance begins in the love of God and ends in the hatred of sin. True repentance loathes sin.
  6. Finally, the sixth ingredient of repentance is the turning away from sin and returning to the Lord with all your heart (Joel 2:12). This turning from sin implies a notable change, “performing deeds in keeping with their repentance” (Acts 26:20). “Thus says the Lord God: Repent and turn away from your idols and turn away your faces from all your abominations” (Ezekiel 14:6).

We are called to turn away from all our abominations, not just the obvious ones or the ones that create friction in others. The goal of repentance is not to manufacture peace among others with perfunctory repentance, but rather to turn to God wholly and completely. This repentance, most importantly, is not just a turning away from sin. It also necessarily involves a turning in “repentance toward God and of faith in our Lord Jesus Christ” (Acts 20:21). This is the joy that is found in repentance, a result of  God’s kindness (Romans 2:4). We rejoice that Christ has done so much for us and continues to do for us.

But what does it means to lead your home in repentance?

This is an aspect of Christian manhood that is sadly neglected in our day. Christian husbands and fathers have a responsibility to love and lead their homes by the grace of God (Genesis 2:22–24Ephesians 5:25-33). This includes leading the home in repentance. You should be the first to repent and confess your sin, and not expect others to make the first move.

Ron Edmondson: Make Disciples by Discipling Disciple-Makers

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Do you want to increase your productivity – today? I see part of my role as a senior leader as a developer of other leaders. As a pastor, as much as I was called to make disciples, I felt called to disciple disciple-makers. I have tried to take this role seriously in every leadership position I have held. I am consistently thinking how I can encourage people around me to be better at what they do.

Many leaders limit their capacity as a leader, because they try to do too much on their own. Rather than develop people, they control people. Rather than growing the organization, they only grow their personal workload. In the end, under this type scenario, everyone loses. The leader burns out, potential leaders are never developed, and the organization fails to be all it could be.

If you want to increase productivity as you make disciples, you have to think bigger than what you can do. In fact, I would say, you have to change some of your title roles as a leader.

5 ways to increase productivity as you make disciples

1. Change from being a manager of people to being a leader of people.

Don’t just manage current systems. Lead people to greater realities than they can imagine today. Don’t rule by policies. Free people to explore, create, and imagine. In fact, perhaps even let them make a ton of mistakes along the way. It’s how we learn best.

2. Change from being a doer to being an encourager

Make it your ambition to encourage people everyday. Be a people-builder. I find my best energies are spent away from my desk and in the halls or other offices. When I invest in others everything grows around me.

What To Do When You Hit a Wall

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When you hit a wall, sit down and rest.

Katie Allred said it well on Facebook:

You can’t overachieve your way through exhaustion.

And yet we try. And trying can definitely contribute to leadership burnout.

It may seem like Spirituality 101, but we were built for a life of rhythm in which we should sleep through a third of every day and take one out of every seven days off to rest.

My wife can attest to my tendency to respond to any weakness or failure in my life with lines like, “I’ll figure it out… I’ll try to do this better… I’ll work harder on this.” But when we try to work our way through exhaustion, we usually make things worse.

Frustration leads to exhaustion and exhaustion leads to depletion. When your body is completely depleted of energy, nutrients, and electrolytes, it can become downright dangerous to keep on running without resting. The same is true mentally.

Rest is THE answer to our exhaustion. Rest is what God has provided as the best medicine for weariness.

Have You Walked Through Pain?

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A. W. Tozer once said, “It is doubtful whether God can bless a man greatly until he has hurt him deeply.” Tozer wrote those words in a previous generation of Christianity. He did not intend to imply that God wishes to cause pain in the lives of his children, rather, that God has determined to use the pain that will inevitably find us for our good. And here’s the truth: most people who have been used greatly by God have also been greatly wounded. They’ve walked through pain. They bear some scars and they’ve carried crosses.

Have You Walked Through Pain?

God shapes us through pain. He cleanses us through it, as well. He sharpens our spiritual senses, detaches us from all that is temporary and fleeting, and gives us glimpses into the majesty of King Jesus when we hurt.

Paul said of his own experience,

Quite frankly, I don’t want to be bothered anymore by these disputes. I have far more important things to do—the serious living of this faith. I bear in my body scars from my service to Jesus.

Galatians 6:17 MSG

God’s Character: How We Reflect God to the World Around Us

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Want to know how to reflect God’s character? God instructs us to imitate Christ and reflect our Father’s nature. Read on for Bible-based insights from a former youth pastor.

While serving in youth ministry, I learned what makes parents proud. Parents love to hear how their kids reflect them.

He looks so much like you. She has your eyes. She has your intelligence. He has your business savvy. I can tell she definitely has your athletic ability. I see you in him every time I look at him. The apple did not fall far from the tree with her personality.

We reflect attributes of our parents for reasons of both nature and nurture. Many of our characteristics are genetic and hereditary (nature). We also become more like our parents in time, as their example impacts us (nurture).

How We Reflect God’s Character

In the same way, you reflect your Father’s attributes because of nature and nurture. When you became a Christian, the Bible says you were born again (John 3:3). God gave you a new nature, His nature. Although you still struggle with sin because you live in an earthly body, God has changed you into a new person internally. And you no longer continually live in sin.

In fact, Scripture clearly says that God’s seed (“sperm” in the original language) lives in you. “No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God’s seed remains in him; he cannot go on sinning because he has been born of God” (1 John 3:9, NIV).

The DNA test is clear. You belong to God. The evidence is that you do not continually live a life of sin.

As God’s child, God nurtures you and develops your character. He continually molds you and forms you. He transforms your mind (Romans 12:2) and works in your life (Philippians 2:13) so you will live out your identity as His child.

Your Father demands and desires for you to reflect His name and nature. He is pleased and proud when you reflect His attributes to the world around you.

Transformative Growth in Church Small Groups: The Power of Relational Mirroring

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Church small groups offer a unique and fertile ground for the cultivation of safe, intimate relationships, serving as an ideal context for the practice of relational mirroring.

In these close-knit communities, members are positioned to reflect back to each other affirmations of each other’s strengths and gifts, and also, through loving confrontation, areas of immaturity and sinfulness needing God’s transformative touch.

This process, rooted deeply in Christian love and accountability, fosters an environment where transformation, personal growth, and spiritual maturation are not just possible but expected outcomes. This article aims to delve into the concept of relational mirroring within the setting of church small groups, exploring how these communities can model the kind of vulnerability, honesty, and mutual support that leads to profound personal and communal healing and growth.

Through scriptural insights, psychological principles, and practical examples, we will uncover the transformative power of relational mirroring in nurturing individuals’ journeys toward becoming more Christ-like in character and action.

How Identity in Christ Develops

Self-concept and identity development are profoundly influenced by relational experiences that function as mirrors reflecting how we are seen and experienced by those around us. This mirroring process is foundational in helping individuals recognize and internalize the good within them, contributing significantly to their sense of self and identity.

The Role of Relational Mirroring

Recognition of the Good

Relational experiences that highlight positive attributes, strengths, and virtues play a crucial role in building a positive self-concept. When individuals are consistently mirrored back their goodness and value, as designed by and reflective of their Creator, they begin to see and believe in these qualities within themselves. This is a relational affirmation of the biblical concept of being made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27), where recognizing the good within us reflects the divine image.

Development of Identity

The feedback and reactions we receive from others contribute significantly to our identity formation. Positive relational experiences, where one’s goodness and worth are affirmed, foster a sense of belonging, competence, and uniqueness, integral to identity development. This mirrors the Christian understanding of identity being rooted in one’s relationship with God and being a part of the body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:27).

Correction of Negative Self-Perceptions

Relational mirroring also plays a crucial role in challenging and correcting negative self-perceptions. When others name the good in us, especially in areas where we might struggle to see it ourselves, it can challenge and reshape our self-view, promoting a more balanced and positive self-concept.

Enhancement of Emotional Regulation

Positive relational experiences contribute to emotional regulation by providing a secure base from which individuals can explore and express their emotions. Knowing that one is valued and appreciated by others helps to modulate emotional responses, contributing to greater emotional resilience. This aligns with the Christian principle of community and mutual support (Galatians 6:2).

Fostering of Resilience

Positive relational mirroring fosters resilience by instilling a sense of worth, belonging, and competence. In the face of challenges, individuals with a strong positive self-concept and identity, nurtured by affirmative relational experiences, are better equipped to navigate adversity, reflecting the biblical notion of perseverance through faith (James 1:2-4).

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