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The Only Thing We Truly Have a Right to Boast About

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What do you boast in?

Some people boast in how talented or beautiful they are. Others boast in how much they know. Some in what they own or how much they’ve accomplished. Some in how morally good they are. Some in the strength of their families.

Paul experienced some of those things, but he told the Galatians that he would never again boast about anything besides the gospel—a message that declared that Paul was such a miserable wreck that the Son of God had to endure a bloody death just to keep him out of hell (Gal. 6:14).

Paul boasted in his shame.

Paul’s boast in the gospel is like sitting in a room of millionaires and boasting about your collection of food stamps.

My family loves the comedian Brian Regan. Almost every family night includes us watching one of his sketches. One of our favorites is about the “Me Monster.” You know, the guy at the party who manages to turn the focus of every conversation toward himself. No matter what you’ve done, he’s done something better.

Brian wishes he had the chance to walk on the moon because then, he says, he’d always have a retort for the me-monster. “Oh yeah, well I walked on the moon.” Because, you know, nothing beats walking on the moon.

Paul believes there is something even better than that, however. And it is exactly the opposite of the me-monster boast.

He says, “I’ve been given the riches of Christ, sonship in heaven, the gift of the Holy Spirit and the promise that goodness and mercy will now follow me all the days of my life. And I deserved none of it. God gave me these things just because he loved me.”

The gospel, for Paul, is the ultimate dinner story boast.

It’s the only true humble brag. And one anyone can participate in.

Paul knew that the power found in the gospel was his only hope. Paul knew he didn’t have the resources to live the Christian life, much less fulfill the mission God had given him to take the gospel to the Gentiles! Paul says that in Jesus we have all the wisdom and power we need to do whatever it is that God has called us to do. That’s why he was comfortable being weak, overlooked, and despised. He was even enthusiastic about his suffering and his weaknesses if they meant being able to lean more into Christ (1 Cor 1:20–31; Col 1:24).

Do your insecurities and inadequacies push you deeper into gospel hope?

Or do your sufferings and weaknesses drive you further away from the gospel?

Perhaps you know the gospel, you just don’t boast in it. It’s not where you turn to assure yourself the future will be okay. It’s not the possession you are most excited to carry into tomorrow.

Paul says it must be—if you want the joy and confidence that characterizes those who turn the world upside down!

Paul rejoices that in the gospel we have the ultimate possession (the fullness of God), have experienced the ultimate love (at the cross), received the ultimate victory (deliverance from sin and death) and possess the ultimate assurance (Jesus now sits at the right hand of God controlling all things for my good). What more is there to boast in? Where else would we turn?

Martin Luther understood this.

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The German Protestant reformer may not have seen Jesus with his eyes like Paul did, but he did catch the same life-altering vision of the gospel. In the gospel, Luther found the resources for assurance in his own relationship with God. He also found the resources to awaken an exhausted, floundering, and defeated medieval church. Luther described his discovery of the gospel like a man falling down the shaft of a bell-tower and reaching out in desperation for the only rope available. As he grabbed it, he said, it not only broke his fall, it rang the bell and woke up half of Germany.

Something similar happens to all those who find the gospel.

How Does Discipleship Work When Everyone’s So Busy?

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How does discipleship work when everyone is so busy? Busy. We’re all busy. You won’t find many people who deny this. With so much going on, in and around us, it’s a wonder we find time to even be with our families, let alone make time to make disciples!

We Americans are the busiest people I know. We get up early, work hard, come home and recreate even harder, until we literally fall into bed, exhausted, at the end of each night. As we drift off to sleep, we dream of waking up and doing it all over again.

If you’re one of the lucky ones, you get the weekend off to rest from all the races. If not, you probably live for vacation days, holidays or, maybe even sick days.

How does discipleship work when everyone is so busy?

We are not created for busyness.

What if I told you we weren’t created to rest from our work, but actually to work from our rest? That the best life is unhurried and unrushed. That discipleship isn’t one more thing we have to do, it is everything we get to do. That making time to fulfill the Great Commission is actually one of the most life-giving things we get to do.

I’m certain Jesus didn’t leave us with this great mission so we could feel guilty every time we think of discipleship. Jesus never speaks to us to condemn us; he speaks to set us free.

His challenge in Matthew 28:19-20 to “go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you,” is for our benefit as disciple-makers, not just the benefit of the disciple.

So what if discipleship weren’t so hard? What if we didn’t have to spend much time going and looking for the right people? What if we didn’t have to pour over a curriculum for hours on end so we know what to say?

Jesus made it simple, so we ought to keep things simple, too!

How does discipleship work when everyone is so busy?Here are 3 things to keep in mind to help you practice discipleship in our busy culture.

1. Jesus is everywhere and so are your opportunities for discipleship.

One of the best parts about the Christian life is how Jesus is integrated into everything. If He really is a part of everything we do, then discipleship is all the time and everywhere.

You know what I needed to know as a young 20-something believer? I needed to know how to go to college as a Christian. How to date as a Christian. How to make huge life choices about my future while hearing the voice of God.

I had barely begun my relationship with Jesus. It felt like there was no way I was going to be able to discern any of this stuff on my own.

Discipleship became the tool God used to grow and develop my ability to live life with him. Through relationship, with other believers ahead of me, I watched, I listened, I learned and I implemented what I saw working in their lives.

I benefitted from seeing the realness of their actual lives; the good, the bad and the ugly.

A disciple is not greater than his teacher, but everyone, when fully trained, will become like his teacher (Luke 6:40).

How does discipleship work? I’m so thankful they invited me in. So thankful they didn’t make it a program, but just gave me access to their life, their family, their arguments, their parenting, their dinners, their recreational activities and even their failures.

I am different today because of the simple investment they made.

Baptism Around the World: Pools, Prisons, and Ponds [Photo Gallery]

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This is a beautiful photo gallery of baptism around the world.

A number of years ago, a man named Philip had an encounter with an official from Africa. After Philip shared the gospel with him, the official believed and desired to be baptized. The two men came to the only body of water at their disposal—presumably a stream or pond—and the official was baptized in front of an audience of One.

In twenty-first-century America, baptisms often look quite different. Although the outward symbol of faith is the same, many of us are submerged in a baptistry situated at the front of our church, maybe even in heated water.

But in many places around the world, people are baptized under the same circumstances as the Ethiopian eunuch in Acts 8—in whatever water is available and in front of only a handful of people. Some do so in relative secrecy to avoid persecution by governments or their community.

Though our baptisms have great differences, the same God is glorified by the visible reminder that someone has gone from death to life and now lives in a restored relationship with him. Let’s take a look at baptisms around the world and praise God for what he has accomplished.

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A church in a tiny fishing village in Mozambique was started in 2010 by Jeremiah Johnson, a short-term IMB missionary who died in a motorcycle accident on the field in April of that year. At the time of Johnson’s death, the church had only a few Christians. Nine years later, the church has grown tremendously and baptizes new believers off the shores of the village.

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Photo by Su.* Baptism around the world in South Africa.

The Kirkwood Prison in Port Elizabeth, South Africa, doesn’t have a tank suitable for baptizing inmates who come to faith. That doesn’t stop IMB missionary Helmer Jenson and his South African national partner, who are involved in a prison ministry through a local church, from helping inmates follow Christ’s example of baptism. They bring a deflated pool to the prison a week prior and leave it with the prison chaplain. On the morning of the baptism, inmate leaders are given permission to inflate the pool and fill it with water in the prison yard. The yard is lined with cell windows, so the baptisms are a very public testimony of the man’s choice to follow Jesus.

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Photo by Wanne Dina. Baptism around the world in Mozambique.

On the outskirts of a seaport neighborhood in Quelimane, Mozambique, a church leader helps people gathered to be baptized make their way down the muddy shore to a local pastor and IMB missionary Matthew Stauffer in the water. The church has grown quickly in recent years and desires to see the entire neighborhood soon baptized in these waters.

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Photo by Tim Shaw. Baptism around the world in Botswana.

When IMB missionaries Tim and Lee Shaw hosted volunteers from their home church in Georgia, they all decided to go to the village of Etsha in northern Botswana to evangelize among an unreached people. Three people came to faith and two were baptized. The only available body of water was swarming with crocodiles, so the Shaws had to come up with another plan. They found some cinderblocks and a tarp, built a makeshift tank, and baptized the two new Christians.

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Photo by Hugh Johnson. Baptism around the world in South Asia.

A local pastor and church elders in South Asia baptize new believers in a well outside a small rural church. New Christians in this country often ask to be baptized early in the morning and in less populated locations. Although it’s not illegal to be a Christian here, the country’s anti-conversion laws lead to intense scrutiny of existing Christians and new believers if a baptism has occurred.

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Photo by John Dina. Baptism around the world in Mozambique.

An IMB team in Mozambique incorporates the installation of fresh-water wells in their church planting efforts. One day, when they were working to install a well, they shared the gospel with a man who came to observe them. The man believed, so they brought him to the static waters of a nearby pond where he was baptized by a Mozambican pastor.

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Photo by Katlyn Pedroza. Baptism around the world in Germany.

In Germany, not every church has a baptistry, and some churches do not meet in traditional church buildings. Believers’ baptisms can take place in various locations—in the church, at a lake or at the ocean, in swimming pools and even in bathtubs. The baptism service is not simply an add-on event to the Sunday morning church service. The entire service revolves around the individual or individuals getting baptized.

After sharing his testimony of how he came to faith with this family and with the members of his house church, an older man on a hot summer’s day in Germany took a step of obedience by participating in baptism in a backyard pool. He had heard the gospel a number of times during weekly house church meetings before he finally put his trust in Jesus.

What’s Your Backup Plan?

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Many believe the highest priority of I.T. (Information Technology) is disaster recovery preparedness; the ability to recover after a major data loss. Or after ransomware. We often call that a backup plan, because it all starts with good backups. So, what’s your backup plan?

Is Data Really at Risk? Simply said, YES! Churches and ministries are not immune from data loss, and organizations deal with recovering from data loss at some level all the time. Consider these threats:

  • Data is stored on hard drives or flash storage somewhere, and like any man-made device, those can– and do– fail.
  • People accidently delete data.
  • Data is vulnerable to ransomware (virus-like malware that encrypts and locks data so it cannot be used again until a ransom is paid).
  • The buildings where your data is stored is vulnerable to man-made and natural disasters.

Apply to those an appropriate vulnerability-multiplier because we have an enemy that is interested in doing whatever it can to inhibit our progress in fulfilling the mission to which the Lord has called us.

Here’s What We Recommend, and Why. A good backup plan has the following components:

  • A good backup plan is comprehensive, and happens automatically. Backups should encompass everything needed to recover from a disaster quickly. And they should not need to be manually triggered, but should happen automatically. Like, every workday night.
  • Backups are tested on a schedule. When backups are made, they should immediately be tested by the backup software to ensure they are accurate backups. But that’s not enough! The backups should also be tested– perhaps monthly– to be certain what we think we can rely on really can be relied on. I recommend choosing a data folder at random each month and restoring it, then checking to see if the files that were restored can be opened. We have seen problems that keep the restored files from being usable; the only way to be certain is to test your backups before you need them.
  • A good back up plan has an off-site component. It is possible to lose an entire building to a disaster. For that reason, it is wise to have a recent backup stored with enough geographical separation to protect your organization from a larger disaster.

Here’s what we recommend:

  • Our favorite backup software to run at a server level is Veeam. For those using virtual server technology, Veeam can restore entire servers very quickly. Veeam can also do file-level restores and email-level restores for email servers.
  • We prefer backing up to tape rather than to other types of devices. Using LTO5 or LTO6 technology, it’s possible to backup very large servers quickly and efficiently. Some recommend online backup solutions and external hard drives, but they have challenges that cause us to think they’re not the best choice:
    • Online backup solutions are good for consumers, but not for full server backups. We know of three megachurches who tested their online backup solution provider’s offer to send the entire backup on a drive, and each of the three was not pleased with the results.
    • External hard drives have a lot of moving parts, and thus fail easily.
    • Tape is still the preferred choice of corporate America because it’s simple and reliable.
  • If a church or ministry is large enough to have a SAN (Storage Area Network), we encourage it to seek another church or ministry of similar size that is willing to exchange SAN replication.
  • Backup the entire data server each work night, and take one tape off-site weekly.

Going a Step Further: I like to take that strategy a step further when possible. If you have a Mac on your network with enough storage capacity, have your network synchronize its data to a folder on the Mac; we like Owncloud to accomplish this, but there are other tools available too. Then, using the Mac’s Time Machine app that is part of the operating system, backup the Mac to a large external hard drive. This will allow you to store versions of files going back as far as your external drive has the capacity to maintain.

My wife is a CA, and she shares office space with us. Most of her client projects are annual. Using this strategy, if she tries to open a spreadsheet that has become corrupt, we can restore a version going back more than a year from the last time she did work on behalf of that client!

Some call natural and man-made disasters resume-generating events for I.T. professionals who were not doing their due diligence in the backup/disaster recovery department. As personally tragic as that could be, imagine how tragic it would be for a church or ministry called to share the gospel and disciple believers– the most important calling on Earth!– if their data loss meant having to start from scratch! Disaster recovery is worth the effort and expense. So: what’s your backup plan? And do you test it?

 

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What I Wish I Had Known Before Marriage

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When we met with Debbie in her office for premarital counseling, Kristen and I nodded our heads up and down. We agreed with her assessment of our relationship and affirmed her concerns about our future. But we didn’t really understand what we needed to know before marriage.

  • “Sure, we’ll probably have some challenges with communication and unmet expectations.”
  • “Yes, I’ll struggle with people-pleasing and busyness.”
  • “Of course we know Kristen will seek to avoid conflict and hard conversations.”

But as soon as we got in the car and left her office, we laughed. There was no way we were going to struggle in our marriage. We were going to be different than all other married couples. I don’t care what our premarried assessment said, married life would be a piece of (wedding) cake for Kristen and me.

Now over 17 years into marriage, I wish we had paid more attention in those premarital counseling sessions! Some things you can learn before marriage, but others you learn the hard way—through experience. While we love being married to each other, over the course of the last 17 years, I’ve come to realize there’s a whole lot I wished I’d known before I got married. This post could be a full book, but to keep it brief, here some of the most important things I’ve learned along the way.

7 Things I Wish I Had Known Before Marriage

1. If you want a great marriage, then grow in your relationship with Jesus.

I knew before marriage that my relationship with Christ was significant. I just had no idea how much it would affect my marriage.

The number one way to grow a great marriage is to grow in intimacy with Christ. The more you become like Christ, the better the spouse you’ll become. Even though Jesus was not married, He still epitomized the characteristics of a godly spouse: holiness, purity, kindness, patience, love, and so much more.

When you grow in your relationship with Christ, you learn how to show grace, mercy, and forgiveness to one another (Ephesians 2:4-9). An in-depth explanation of how to grow in your relationship with Christ is beyond the scope of this article, but many of the classic spiritual disciplines can help us grow in our knowledge of and love for the Lord (i.e., bible study, prayer, service, scripture memory).

Every day you can take steps to become more like Christ, and this will in turn help grow your marriage. I knew I needed to build my life on the rock foundation of Jesus Christ (Matthew 7:24-27), but I had no idea how much intimacy with Jesus would help me to become a better husband.

I talk about building your marriage on a solid foundation in my new marriage book, Ready or Knot? 12 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have before Marriage. Click here to find out more about Ready or Knot?.

2. Great marriages are forged in the daily decisions of life.

Most days as a married couple are, frankly, mundane. You wake up and head out in different directions. You pay bills, change diapers, and fold laundry. Most days are filled with the mundane, daily tasks.

In a way I didn’t grasp before marriage, I never knew how significant the little tasks are in building a great marriage. In reality, great marriages rise out of the small steps of faithfulness married couples must take every day.

Daily, Christian couples must learn to ask for and offer forgiveness. They must make time to communicate and resolve conflict. Great marriages are built with servant-hearted husbands and wives. If Jesus didn’t come to be served but to serve (Mark 10:45), then we must do the same.

Before marriage, I never realized how much faithfulness in the little things every day would matter.

3. I’m not as great as I think I am.

I know I have quirks and annoying habits, but marriage helps reveal these traits like no other relationship. It’s been said that marriage is like a full-length mirror that lets you see exactly what you look like. For example, I quickly realized how lazy and selfish I can be at times. In his book The Meaning of Marriage, Tim Keller discusses how marriage doesn’t create problems but rather helps reveal them in our lives.

While this indeed can be painful, I’m grateful for the ways marriage helps me become more aware of my faults and sin patterns.

37,000 People at NAYC Help with Disaster Relief

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Today is the last day of the North American Youth Conference (NAYC) in St. Louis, Missouri. Around 37,000 youth and chaperones are wrapping up the three-day event by participating in “Serve Day,” where they are providing people in the area with disaster recovery resources.

“Heading in to Day 3 of a call-confirming, life-changing #nayc19 over 1,000 have received the Holy Ghost. Numerous miracles,” one church posted on Instagram. “We are so thankful for the laughs and love this trip continues to bring!!”

NAYC Serve Day

NAYC 2019 took place in St. Louis from July 31st to August 2nd. Friday afternoon, the conference attendees filled 2000 buckets to assist the area with disaster relief. Reach Out America helped organize Serve Day, and Feed the Children donated supplies to the effort. Serve Day also received support from the UPS Foundation and the National Voluntary Organizations Active in Disaster.  Each bucket is worth $75 and contains cleaning supplies, personal care items, and back-to-school supplies for kids.

David Bernard, the general superintendent of the United Pentecostal Church told Fox2now St. Louis, “We often work through local churches so we have instant access to the community, and wherever there’s a need, like [the] tornadoes in Oklahoma or in southern Missouri a couple of years ago.” Bryan Parkey of Missouri Division United Pentecostal Church said having everyone is a “blessing to us as a city and as a state.” 

While the NAYC has been held biennially since 1979, this is the seventh Serve Day. The event used to be called “Project 22:39” because it is inspired by Matthew 22:39, which contains Jesus’ command to, “‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” 

The Conference Experience

The NAYC is held every other year in different cities throughout the United States, although it seems to take place mainly in the southern and midwestern regions of the country. While there are no age restrictions, the conference is aimed at people between the ages of 12 and 25. 

It has also been growing. The 2015 NAYC conference sold out at 19,000 people, and the conference in 2017 hosted over 33,000. One attendee posted this on Instagram after the 2017 conference: “My reaction waking up this morning realizing we have 2 years before another NAYC. I will forever remember of His healing power and love.” #nayc2017

Now the number of people who are attending NAYC is so high that the conference has to be held at football stadiums. NAYC 2019 was held in “The Dome” in St. Louis. 

One attendee of this year’s conference posted this picture with the caption, “One of the best things about NAYC is when you don’t recognize that many people. What a great thing God is doing in the Earth! We love to bring our youth and see old friends, but this sea of beautiful faces is a picture of Heaven.”

Mothers Against Senseless Killings Undeterred After Two of Their Own Murdered

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On July 26, 2019, two mothers, Chantel Grant, 25, and Andrea Stoudemire, 35, were shot to death in their south side Chicago neighborhood. The two ladies were walking to a grocery store around 10 pm, just around the corner from where they usually stand watch with Mothers Against Senseless Killings (MASK). Despite two of their own being killed by the very thing they are mobilized to prevent, the group of mothers is undeterred and refusing to give in to fear.

“Spraying bullets on indefensible women is total cowardice,” MASK member Maria Pike told the Chicago Tribune. “They are a bunch of cowards. They have to be caught as soon as possible,” she emphasized.

What Is Mothers Against Senseless Killings?

MASK was founded in 2015 after a mother was shot and killed in the Englewood neighborhood of Chicago. MASK founder Tamar Manasseh mobilized a group of women to camp out on the busy corner of Stewart Avenue and 75th Street as a way to stand watch over the neighborhood, which is notorious for shootings and crime. In addition to preventing violence, the group hoped to address a root cause of the violence by creating a safe space for their children to eat, play and grow up together, thereby reducing the risk of them joining rival gangs in the future. 

Every summer day since 2015, the group has come together to cook food and let their children play. The moms are often seen wearing pink t-shirts which say “Moms on Patrol.” Grant and Stoudemire were a part of this tight-knit group. At a press conference, Manasseh said she was used to seeing Grant and her four children regularly. “Every day Chantell brought her kids here. Every day.” Stoudemire is also survived by four children. Manasseh described her as a protective person who “mothered other mothers.”

Manasseh says she has gotten little sleep since the shooting occurred last week. “For mothers to be killed in a place where mothers go to seek safety and sisterhood, I take that as a personal threat,” she said on Sunday at a news conference. “Because when you come for one of us, you better believe they came for all of us.” 

Despite Manasseh’s belief that the mothers were targeted, police assigned to the case have found no motive or arrested anyone. Police spokesman Anthony Guglielmi said the intended target of the shooting was a man who is affiliated with a gang and recently got out of prison. The man, 58, was shot in the arm and is not cooperating with police. Grant and Stoudemire were both shot multiple times in the chest. They both died at the hospital. 

MASK Isn’t Going Anywhere

MASK has set up a GoFundMe page to raise money for a $5,000 reward for information to help in the case. “No ones [sic] gonna save us. We must do it ourselves to make a difference,” the page explains. So far, the page has raised almost $30,000 in the three days it’s been active. 

The description of the fundraiser makes it clear the group has no intention of retreating from Englewood. “At this point, I don’t know if I’m more afraid for my life or what we are giving the children, our block and the entire community over to if our fear convinces us to leave our corner, abandon our mission, our school, and our people. Therefore, WE AREN’T GOING ANYWHERE,” the page declares. 

In addition to creating a safe space in Englewood, Manasseh has taken up another endeavor. She recently opened up a pizza restaurant to raise funds for the social work she’s trying to accomplish in Englewood. Peace of Pizza is located in the neighboring Beverly area. Profits from the restaurant will go to fund a school MASK is working to open in Englewood later this year. 

Just a few short days after her friends were murdered, Manasseh showed up to the grand opening of Peace of Pizza. Speaking to Block Club Chicago, Manasseh said, “This tragedy really tested our mettle and made us show what we really were made of, and today we get to put something into the community.” 

A Quick Guide to Leading Yourself Spiritually

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Here’s a quick guide to leading yourself spiritually.

As of this coming August, I will have been in full-time ministry for ten years. In many ways, I feel like I am just starting my journey and figuring out which direction to march. That being said, I also feel as if this time has been filled with many wins and learning opportunities for growth. One of my greatest obstacles has been learning how to best lead myself and to do so with greater spiritual intensity. This past January I was involved in a spiritual retreat with Southeastern University in Lakeland, Florida and it helped reshape the months that followed.

Here are three quick takeaways that could challenge you for leading yourself spiritually.

Leading Yourself Spiritually by Remembering the Sabbath

In my time of ministry, it has been easy to lose “off-days” or excuse away family time for work for God’s kingdom. Clearly, God states the importance of taking time to refresh and to do so intentionally. Over the last six months, I believe I have observed a Sabbath each week and I know it has strengthened my relationship with God, my family, and increased my leadership capacity. Jesus took breaks and time to reflect and so should I.

FOR THE SOUL TO BE WELL, IT NEEDS TO BE WITH GOD.

John Ortberg, Soul Keeping: Caring for the Most Important Part of You

Leading Yourself Spiritually by Listening: Shhhh… He’s Speaking

I recently followed through a book/ devotion guide that asked for several minutes of silence to begin and end the devotion. This was new, awkward, and somewhat difficult to embrace at the beginning stages, but I quickly learned the true value of purposefully sitting in silence. I found my mind and spirit far more open to scripture, prayer, and receptive to anything the Lord was impressing upon my life. As a result, our church staff is preparing to start the same devotional as we spiritually prepare for the coming season.

SIMPLY PUT, GOD OFTEN SPEAKS THE LOUDEST WHEN WE ARE THE QUIETEST.

Mark Batterson, Whisper: How to Hear the Voice of God

Leading Yourself Spiritually by Consistently and Honestly Self-Assessing

The first step in the path to better self-leadership is to consistently take moments of self-assessment. At the beginning of each month, I will take a morning to evaluate the previous weeks and determine what is working and what is not. This practice will shine a light on how my walk with the Lord is truly going and help better navigate where improvements can be made. I would challenge any believer to do the same, especially a one that is actively leading others into new realms of Christian growth.

SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP EMERGES FROM OUR WILLINGNESS TO STAY INVOLVED WITH OUR OWN SOUL – THAT PLACE WHERE GOD’S SPIRIT IS AT WORK STIRRING UP OUR DEEPEST QUESTIONS AND LONGINGS TO DRAW US DEEPER INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.

Ruth Haley Barton, Strengthening the Soul of Your Leadership

No matter the length of your service or capacity in which you serve, growing in your walk with the Lord should always be the top priority. Take this blog as a challenge to find your own areas of growth. Maybe your takeaway is that you are doing great or maybe you need to find a new approach to hearing God’s direction for your life. No matter your personal situation, know that believers around the world are praying with you and for you and God’s kingdom is better because of your service to Him.

This article about leading yourself spiritually originally appeared here

7 Life Changing Prayers for the Church

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It’s an incredibly powerful movement when an entire congregation reads the same devotional and then prays the same prayers for the church, together in agreement, asking for God’s favor and a breakthrough for life change. (The link to the online prayers is available in the book.)

Prayer connects us to the heart, mind, and power of God.

Prayer allows us a deeper understanding of the grace, truth, and purpose of God.

The longer I lead, the more I realize I’m just beginning to understand the depth, privilege, and significance of prayer. It is personal, powerful, and utterly life-changing. Yes, we can know all that intellectually, but to continue to learn that at a personal and experiential level helps us engage on the front lines of God’s purpose and plan.

This 21-day prayer experience got me thinking about more and specific prayers that would invite an incredible spiritual impact if the church leaders prayed them together. This could be done by the church board, staff, or maybe small group leaders.

All prayers are meaningful. All prayers count. All prayers matter to God. But it seems like there may be certain prayers that if prayed together, would move the heart of God.

Here’s a set of prayers for the church I’ve written, and I hope they will be encouraging to you and the leaders of your church. Be sure to pass this post on to them!

First, a quick shout out – I just read a great post by Brandon A. Cox, with his set of “Breakthrough Prayers.” The more prayers for the church, the better!

7 Life Changing Prayers for the Church

1) A prayer for reconciliation

Heavenly Father, thank you for your grace, kindness, and mercy. We know that the foundation of reconciliation begins between you and each of us individually. But you have also called us to pursue reconciliation whenever we experience conflict or division with each other.

Forgive us Father for the division we create in our churches.

Help us to work through unresolved conflict and extend grace and kindness to one another.

We ask that the unity of the Spirit would prevail so that we could live in such a way that brings glory to your name and bears fruit in the body of Christ.

2) A prayer for compassion

Jesus, we thank you for the compassion that you so lavishly and continually pour out upon us. Your Word makes it clear that you care deeply for those who are like sheep without a shepherd.

Your love is great for those in physical and financial need, for those who suffer, for the fatherless, for those who need healing, and so many more.

We pray Jesus that your spirit would prompt us to live out that same kind of compassion. May we do for one what we’d like to do for many. We pray that we would continue to grow as a compassionate, caring and loving church, starting with each of us as leaders.

3) A prayer for wisdom

God, thank you for the promise of your wisdom. Our thoughts, ideas, and creativity have little to no eternal value without you.

We pray for the courage to act upon that wisdom. May it help us as leaders in making good decisions.

Grant us the wisdom to more fully understand your will and purpose for the church, in the specific circumstances in which we serve. We seek your wisdom and guidance to lead the church in a way that brings glory and honor to you.

4) A prayer for redemption

Jesus, thank you for the price you paid on the cross that makes a way for the forgiveness of our sin. Your love and grace are overwhelming and extravagant.

We pray that our passion for those who are far from you would be contagious.  We ask that our hearts would be broken for the lost like yours.

We desire to see a flood of decisions to follow you, and baptism stories that move the hearts of many.

5) A prayer for maturity

Heavenly Father, in the same breath that we ask for your favor in redemption, we know that it’s your desire for every believer to mature in their faith. Thank you that you provide your Word, the Holy Spirit and the Church to help that take place.

The pull of the world is strong, temptation is ever present, and the spiritual battle is real. Yet we know that you are with us and provide a way for us to grow, mature and live a life that is pleasing to you.

We especially pray that we may serve our children and students in such a way that our growing faith inspires them to follow in the same footsteps.

6) A prayer for generosity

God, we could never out give you, but we want to give like you — generously. Thank you for all the good and perfect gifts you provide for us, and for the opportunities to advance the gospel.

We pray that our church would be generous with their time, finances, talents and abilities. We pray that we would be generous with kindness, patience, and encouragement.

We desire to be a church who serves others well. We desire to serve because it’s a privilege to be part of your Kingdom work and because we care about others. We pray that a spirit of generosity would prevail both inside the church, and outside into the community.

7) A prayer for transformation

Jesus, this is our big-picture prayer, and we are convinced that it aligns with your heart. We pray for true transformation in the lives of the people we serve. May there be tremendous life change!

We are asking for marriages to be restored, people to be freed from addictions, and healing to take place in broken hearts. We pray for teens to rise into leadership in their schools, for our business leaders to speak boldly for you, and that each of us would see ourselves as an ambassador of your transforming power.

May we carry your name well Jesus and see many lives changed for the good.

This article about prayers for the church originally appeared here.

5 Statements That Help Leaders Define Reality

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I began serving as a lead pastor in Canada almost five years ago. When I arrived I had to adjust not only to a new church and a new staff but to a new culture as well. Fortunately I prepared myself for the transition by reading several books about on-boarding, the process of adjusting to a new job. One book, You’re in Charge, Now What suggested a process to help new leaders define reality with his or her new staff. Whether you are new to a ministry or business leadership role or not, consider using this process with your staff to learn fresh insight about your work setting.

Within the first month I asked one of the longest tenured staff members lead a discussion with the entire staff during a staff meeting. I gave the team instructions and then stepped out for about 45 minutes. He lead them to complete these statements in a candid sharing time.

Here are the statements to help you define reality.

  1. We expect this from you…
  2. You need you to know this about us… (including what we believe we do well and where we need to improve as a staff)
  3. We want to know this about you and here are our concerns…
  4. Here are the burning issues now facing the church…
  5. Here are the major obstacles now facing the church...

After I left he recorded everyone’s responses on our conference room’s white board. When I returned, I read through each one and asked questions for further clarification. Here’s what I learned.

  • They wanted me to show that I cared for them through prayer, feedback, and truth telling.
  • They expected consistency and integrity.
  • They wanted to be taught, trained, and challenged.
  • They wanted to know what they could do better.
  • They wanted clear communication and clarity about their respective roles.
  • They wanted me to know that they worked hard and supported each other.
  • They wanted to know what was important to me, my boundaries, my personal struggles, and whether I wanted them to reply to every email I sent. 🙂
  • They wanted me to know that the church at the time faced financial challenges and trust issues.
  • They wanted me to know that I might face resistance to bringing change in the church.

This simple process provided an invaluable, honest, and simple way to help me define reality through the eyes of our staff. This experience helped me craft appropriate action plans to bring essential change for staff development and to the church at large.

My first eight months have been a joy and we’ve made great progress. This unique listening session helped set me up for success.

What tools have helped you define reality in your setting?

This article about helping leaders define reality originally appeared here

Campus Pastor: 6 Ways to Lead a Church When You Don’t Get to Preach

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How do you publicly lead a church when you’re a campus pastor, not the senior pastor?

That’s an ever increasing question. With the rise of multisite churches, more campus pastors are added to leadership circles every day. But leading as a campus pastor presents unique challenges. I want to address one of these challenges in this post:

How does a campus pastor cast vision for your church when you do not preach weekly?

As a senior pastor or primary teaching pastor, there is a 30-minute segment (or more) each and every week to cast vision, set direction and encourage missional engagement. But without the sermon spot, it becomes much more difficult to be an out-front leader. A good senior pastor will fill in some of these gaps with his leadership, but each campus location presents unique challenges that require unique leadership solutions. A senior pastor can cast a compelling organization-wide vision, but it is often up to the campus pastor to localize and conceptualize the mission and vision.

So how can a campus pastor publicly lead outside of the weekly sermon? Here are a few ways I try to lead at Watermarke Church:

1. Leverage the weekly communication opportunities.

Every week in our services, we have two opportunities to lead during the service outside of the sermon. The first is the welcome segment. I posted how we structure the welcome here, including an example. The welcome is more of a navigational spot than a vision casting spot, but it still presents a great opportunity to be the point leader over the location.

Second, we have a weekly offering segment, which is a perfect moment to engage our audience with vision. Whether we follow the worship set or a baptism, this spot allows me the opportunity to connect the dots between our engagement and our mission.

Side Note: As a campus pastor, I typically leverage both of these segments every week. It is very rare that I am in the building and not communicating these segments. And at times, I’ll even dismiss the service to add a final leadership moment.

2. Join volunteer orientations and regular meetings.

As often as I can, I drop into our new volunteer orientations and ongoing, regular volunteer meetings just to share a win or thank the volunteers. It’s a great way to stay connected to the people on the front lines of our ministry environments and presents a perfect opportunity to keep the vision out front.

3. Walk slowly down the aisles.

I have the pleasure (and complications) of leading a pretty large church, so it isn’t often I get to meet with our average attendees. That provides an important opportunity for me on Sunday mornings when our auditorium is full. Since I am not preaching most weeks, I can spend time in the auditorium rather than secluded in preparation. I try to walk slowly down the aisle. I look for people holding a first-time-guest gift. Engaging in conversations before and after the service is a great way to lead out front in a campus location.

4. Walk around DURING the service.

We have hundreds of volunteers serving during each service, and since I’m not preaching most weeks, I leverage this time to walk around and connect. Again, when you do not have the luxury of casting vision or setting direction during a sermon, leveraging the sermon time to connect with those not in the auditorium is a simple solution.

Guard Against Ransomware – Your Guide to Safety

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EDITOR’S NOTE: Ransomware isn’t new, but it’s making a comeback. (Indeed: it never left!) Our security columnist Steven Sundermeier produced the definitive ransomware primer for Ministry Tech Magazine more than three years ago. It turns out Steven may have been prophetic, because in recent months ransomeware has popped up on government, business, and church systems. From Steve’s article, here’s how to guard against ransomware.

Over the last few months, there is one topic raising eyebrows and raising security-awareness in the cybersecurity world: the rampant rise of ransomware. But you and your ministry can guard against ransomware.

Ransomware is a form of malware developed to encrypt (prohibit access to) files on a computer with the sole intent of extorting money from its victims (paying a ransom to recover encrypted files). Generally speaking, there are two main classifications for ransomware—Encryptor (encrypts all important files and demands a ransom to decrypt files) and Screen Locker (locks an infected system, preventing proper access until a ransom is paid). Most of the latest strains that our Thirtyseven4 Labs are observing fall under the Encryptor classification. In a report released by the FBI late last year, the FBI stated that they have received over 2,400 complaints about [Encryptor-style] ransomware for the year costing victims upwards of $24 million dollars.

While the ransoms demanded can vary, the individual dollar amount is typically around $200-$400 to restore files. According to internal research on our end, after carefully reverse engineering thousands of samples, we have seen this ransom set as high as $10,000. In fact, officials at Hollywood Presbyterian Hospital in Los Angeles said they paid the equivalent of $17,000.00 to the ransomware creators! Can you imagine having your critical (and potentially lifesaving) patient files encrypted and at the mercy of cyber thugs? And this wasn’t just a single hospital incident, there are numerous reports of other hospitals recently falling victim to ransomware within the last month. (i.e. Baltimore’s Union Memorial Hospital, Chino Valley Medical Center, Desert Valley Hospital and the list goes on).

So you may be asking how all these individuals and organizations are becoming infected with ransomware. In the case of the hospitals above, security professionals believe they have traced the infections to “phishing” emails. Phishing emails may contain links to websites that are infected with malware. Most ransomware infections are a result of opening an infected email attachment. Ransomware attachments have been maliciously and cleverly disguised as Invoices, Resumes, Mail Package Delivery Confirmations, etc. to trick users into opening them. A user or company could also get infected by using an infected USB drive, through unpatched security vulnerabilities or visiting an infected website through drive-by-downloading). In one of the most recent cases, Cisco’s Talos group discovered that ransomware authors were taking advantages of an older version of Follett library management software, in association with JBoss web servers. The cyber criminals would use a known vulnerability in this software to install thousands of backdoors putting over 3 million computers at risk.

To paint a picture of the severity of the ransomware threat, in 2014 the ransomware “CryptoWall” infected 600,000 computers and took 5 billion files hostage! Here at Thirtyseven4, we have seen ransomware detections shoot up by 300% in the 1st Quarter of 2016 (from the 4th Quarter 2015), and our Thirtyseven4 Viruslab has already discovered 28 new families of ransomware. Here is one more additional statistic that is both startling and sad: about 50% of users and businesses hit with ransomware pay the criminals the demanded ransom to get (or maybe not get) their data back.

According to the issued DHS Alert, the US-CERT (United Stated Computer Emergency Readiness Team) to guard against ransomware they recommend that users and administrators take the following preventive measures to protect their computer networks from ransomware infection:

Go back to a paper file system. Just kidding—wanted to see if you were paying attention! The following are the real recommendations . . .

  1. Employ a data backup and recovery plan for all critical information. Perform and test regular backups to limit the impact of data or system loss and to expedite the recovery process. Ideally, this data should be kept on a separate device, and backups should be stored offline.

2. Use application whitelisting to help prevent malicious software and unapproved programs from running. Application whitelisting is one of the best security strategies as it allows only specified programs to run, while blocking all others, including malicious software.

3. Keep your operating system and software up-to-date with the latest patches. Vulnerable applications and operating systems are the target of most attacks. Ensuring these are patched with the latest updates greatly reduces the number of exploitable entry points available to an attacker.

4. Maintain up-to-date antivirus software, and scan all software downloaded from the internet prior to executing.

5. Restrict users’ ability (permissions) to install and run unwanted software applications, and apply the principle of “Least Privilege” to all systems and services. Restricting these privileges may prevent malware from running or limit its capability to spread through the Network.

6. Avoid enabling macros from email attachments. If a user opens the attachment and enables macros, embedded code will execute the malware on the machine. For enterprises or organizations, it may be best to block email messages with attachments from suspicious sources. For information on safely handling email attachments, see Recognizing and Avoiding Email Scams. Follow safe practices when browsing the Web. See Good Security Habits and Safeguarding Your Data for additional details.

7. Beware! Do not follow unsolicited Web links in Emails.

The threat of ransomware is the real deal! The topic of ransomware has increased significantly in the media lately, as it’s a concerning issue on the minds of computer users today. I can personally tell you that we [Thirtyseven4] field more questions regarding ransomware than most all other malware related topics combined.

Here are just a few real-world examples of questions/concerns we receive about this “Hot topic”:

  • “Does ThirtySeven4 protect us from this?”
  • “Oh, I was also going to ask, how is your product doing at preventing and detecting Ransomware? That freaks me out these days hearing some of the horror stories out there!!”
  • “On our technical list-serv, there are many schools that are being infected with Cryptowall and are using other Antivirus software other than Thirtyseven4. They mention their Antivirus is not ‘catching it’. Can you tell us what we can do to prevent this ransomware and do your definitions include it?”
  • “We were hit three times with Encyptor using a free EDU solution. How is Thirtyseven4 different?”

I feel a very important piece of the topic is to also understand why installing security software is so important to combating ransomware, and to grasp what the antivirus industry is doing about it (understanding that not all security solutions are created equal).

To illustrate this point, here are some steps Thirtyseven4 is taking to lead the industry in its aggressive approach against combating the rise of ransomware. [Let’s just look at the Locky ransomware example]

Step 1.

Signature Detection: For many antivirus vendors this is the primary approach to battling all forms of malware, including ransomware . . . they create and add new signature detections based on their intercepted malicious Locky attachments . . . the problem is that the files keep altering in each variant to evade detection so covering ransomware in signature based detection alone is ineffective. Thirtyseven4’s approach is to create signature based detection after we’ve already proactively (see below) stopped unknown samples. We do not use signature-based detection as the sole means to stop new infections for happening.

Browsing Protection: All Locky files and malicious attachments are executed and reverse engineered on our end and all coded active and inactive URL’s used by Locky to connect to or possibly connect to in the future are properly blocked within our Browsing Protection Module.

Step 2.

Generic Detection: This is the procedure used by some AV scanners to supplement Signature detection. The problem with this approach when it comes to Locky is that their files also vary in their internal structures (in addition to simply scrambling garbage code to evade signature detection) and utilize different and ever changing wrappers. This newer process used by Locky renders Generic Detection ineffective, as it makes it very difficult for a security vendor to block Locky simply by adding Generic Detection. However, Thirtyseven4 still utilizes this detection technique to guard against ransomware and supplement the additional steps below especially for some of the more “common” groups.

Step 3.

PathBased Detection: A third step is to include and implement PathBased detection. PathBased detection is only being successfully used by a couple of providers as a proactive approach to detecting ransomware. Thirtyseven4 incorporated this technique a few years back in our Advanced DNA Scan module (added feature in our Thirtyseven4 Endpoint Security Console 5.3 release). Up until recently, it has been an absolute way of detecting unknown ransomware threats. However, the logic behind Locky changed that. Instead of copying itself into a users Application Data directory, Locky began dropping itself in the %temp% directory under random names. Previously used PathBased Detection resulted in likely high possibility of false detections. More needed to be done to reduce false detections and yet keep a high level of proactive detection. Due to growing number of cases, we still utilize Pathbased detection on the basis of their names that are commonly found in Locky cases.

Step 4.

Engine Enhancements: Given the new nature of Locky and desiring to provide our customers with the absolute best protection against Locky and similar threats, we quickly incorporated new industry leading engine enhancements. For this section, I am electing not to disclose all the nuts and bolts of what we are doing here due to the sensitivity of the “cat and mouse game” between us and the bad guys! All I will say is that its high-level, industry leading stuff that has been proven 100% effective against the Locky threat! We are continually adding new engine enhancements as the techniques of the cybercriminals evolve.

In conclusion, when both the United States and Canada release a warning together about the dangers and vulnerabilities associated with ransomware, we would be like ignorant children to turn our heads the other way. We must educate ourselves (reread this article!) and take proactive measures in keeping our information and data (and family and lives!) safe. Let’s all guard against ransomware, and move forward positively!

Gospel for Asia Settles for $37 Million Over Fraud Charges

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Five months after a lengthy legal battle ended with a $37 million settlement, Gospel for Asia (GFA) is opening up about a case that involved charges of racketeering, fraud, and financial mismanagement. K.P. Yohannan, who founded the nonprofit ministry 40 years ago, expressed gratitude for the resolution and for people’s support and prayers. He also promised to continue fighting poverty and sharing the good news throughout South Asia.

In 2015, GFA received what Yohannan calls a “confidential letter” from the Evangelical Council for Financial Accountability (ECFA), a watchdog group of which GFA was a founding member. The letter noted “that our accounting practices needed to better conform” to ECFA requirements, he says, adding that the information ended up “on social media to damage us.”

Meanwhile, more than 100 former GFA staff members, now known as the GFA Diaspora, raised concerns about “unbiblical practices at the ministry” and a lack of transparency with donors. GFA was accused (falsely, says Yohannan) of directing just 13 percent of donations to the mission field, and it was kicked out of the ECFA and the National Religious Broadcasters.

Gospel for Aisa Lawsuit Settlement Ended a Three-Year Court Battle

In 2015, Arkansas couple Garland and Phyllis Murphy sued GFA, saying they’d donated almost $9,000 based on GFA’s “100 percent guarantee” of using funds for missions. After the Gospel for Asia lawsuit was sent to arbitration, the Murphys became part of a 2016 class-action lawsuit involving 200,000 previous GFA donors.

That suit charged Yohannan and his ministry with “soliciting charitable donations to benefit the poorest of the poor while covertly diverting the money to a multimillion-dollar personal empire.” GFA maintained that all donations made it to the ministry field but couldn’t guarantee funds “would be used for [the] exact designated purpose.”

Texas-based GFA also faced federal racketeering (or RICO) charges for allegedly sending cash-filled envelopes into India via students’ backpacks. That led to underreporting, the suit claimed, as well as to a lack of receipts and customs forms.

On February 28, 2019, GFA reached a settlement, expressing a desire to move on from a protracted legal fight it says was threatening its ministry. According to settlement terms, GFA will pay past donors $37 million—none of which can come from funds designated for other uses. Though that’s only one-tenth of what plaintiffs had requested, attorney Marc Stanley says, “I feel good [because] we also got significant reforms.” Those reforms include a GFA board seat for original plaintiff Garland Murphy, the removal of Yohannan’s wife from the board, and a new board subcommittee that will submit reports to the court for three years. GFA will have to reapply for membership in accountability groups such as ECFA. 

Gospel for Asia Shares Its Side of the Story 

Earlier this week, Yohannan posted an “exclusive personal response” about the lawsuit’s conclusion, saying the court and “several senior Christian leaders” advised settling. Board members agreed, he says, “because if the lawsuit continued for another two or three years nothing would be left of the ministry’s resources or reputation.”

Yohannan says the past few years have been difficult and lonely, but learning has occurred and “the best days of our ministry are ahead of us.” He adds, “I’m most proud of the fact that we managed to continue to serve those in need even as we fought every day to survive ourselves.” 

In the settlement, GFA admits no liability or wrongdoing. “Gospel for Asia did not act fraudulently,” says spokesperson Johnnie Moore, “and all the donations they received made it to the field.” Moore, a PR consultant, adds, “Gospel for Asia is essentially refunding donations” and hopes recipients “will simply turn around and donate the same amount of money to another worthwhile ministry.” On its website, GFA provides instructions for donating settlement claims back to GFA.

As part of his statement, Yohannan posted a video interview with pastor and author Francis Chan, who defended GFA after doing some digging of his own. Chan visited Yohannan’s home, saw “that old VW bug of yours,” and even reviewed Yohannan’s tax returns. “I needed to be able to speak with integrity to other people” about GFA, Chan says, adding, “No money [was] misappropriated.” Chan says Yohannan “has been a mentor to me for years” and “continues to be an example to me.”

When asked to clarify his ministry role, Yohannan tells Chan he has the same authority as the other 30 bishops in his “hard-core evangelical” denomination. Yohannan, now known as Moran Mor Athanasius Yohan I, is the Metropolitan, or church leader.

Lopez Apologizes for Saying Toddlers Should Not Choose Their Gender

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TV personality Mario Lopez has recently been slammed in the media for saying that parents should not allow three-year-olds to determine their own gender identities. Apart from the ramifications of such gender neutral parenting, what is striking about the controversy is how people have twisted Lopez’s words, the pressure he has faced to apologize for saying them, and how quickly he in fact did so.

“Look, I’m never one to tell anyone how to parent their kids obviously, and I think if you come from a place of love, you really can’t go wrong,” said Lopez in an interview with conservative commentator Candace Owens. “But at the same time, my God, if you’re three years old and you’re saying you’re feeling a certain way or you think you’re a boy or a girl, whatever the case may be, I just think it’s dangerous as a parent to make that determination then.”

Mario Lopez on The Candace Owens Show

About 11 minutes into the 40-minute long interview, Owens asked Lopez for his thoughts on what she sees as a “weird trend” of parents letting their young children be the ones to voice what their gender is. As an example, Owens mentioned actress Charlize Theron who recently said she was raising her three-year-old son Jackson as a girl because he had told her, “I am not a boy!” 

While Owens is not a parent herself, she said she nannied for five years, and during that time, kids told her that they could fly or that they were mermaids. She does not believe little children have the “mental authority” to come to conclusions about their gender or sexuality. Owens also mentioned that she went through a tomboy phase for a year before hitting puberty and expressed how confusing it would have been if her parents had concluded from that behavior that she wanted to identify as a boy. Lopez, who hosts the entertainment news show Extra and has professed faith in Jesus, agreed with Owens, saying, “It’s sort of alarming” and “I just think about the repercussions later on.” 

Turning Up the Heat

One E! News commentator interpreted Lopez’s words as him saying it was “‘dangerous’ for parents to support children who identify as transgender.” However, at no point during the comments media outlets are quoting did Lopez say he thought transgenderism was wrong or even that he had a binary view of gender. In fact, while he said that three years old was “way too young” for children to be evaluating their sexuality, he implied it is good for them to do so later: “I think the formative years is really when you start having those discussions and really start making these declarations.”

Lopez also said during the interview that even when he disagrees with someone else’s parenting decisions, he sees the people making those decisions as “good people” coming from a “good place.” He did not want to intrude on anyone else’s parenting style, but rather concern himself with “Casa Lopez.”

As Lopez’s comments gained media attention, GLAAD quickly put the heat on Extra and posted this tweet:

GLAAD also commented, “We spoke with Extra and it is clear that the showrunners do not support or share his view. They will address this issue on the show tonight. Lopez clearly needs a primer on trans issues. We reached out to his team to see if and how he will correct the record.”

Lopez ended up being absent from that Extra taping, and the two hosts who were present spent time interviewing GLAAD’s director and a doctor who works in the field of trans youth development. Extra’s producers also issued a statement saying, “While we have enjoyed a long relationship with Mario Lopez, who we know to be a caring person, the opinions he expressed in this interview do not reflect those of Extra. We wholeheartedly embrace our friends from the LGBTQ community and believe they need support and love. For more support on these issues you can go to GLAAD.org.”

Walking It Back 

Lopez has since apologized for his remarks. In a statement that he issued to several news outlets, he said, “The comments I made were ignorant and insensitive, and I now have a deeper understanding of how hurtful they were. I have been and always will be an ardent supporter of the LGBTQ community, and I am going to use this opportunity to better educate myself. Moving forward I will be more informed and thoughtful.”

Some are lamenting how quickly Lopez caved to the pressure. Candace Owens tweeted that he was bullied into his apology so he could keep his career. Another Twitter user asked, “It’s backwards thinking to allow 3 year olds to make life changing decision [sic]?”

The Unorthodox Views of Israel Folau’s Controversial Church

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Australia’s top rugby player Israel Folau made headlines earlier this year for breaching his $4 million contract with Rugby Australia due to a social media post in which he expressed his belief that homosexuals will go to hell. Folau reached out for financial support to fight what many Christians across Australia considered a religious freedom battle. Now, however, more information is surfacing about the church Folau belongs to and the unorthodox beliefs they perpetuate.

The Truth of Jesus Christ Church Sydney

Folau’s father, Eni, is the leader of The Truth of Jesus Christ Church (TOJC) in Sydney, Australia. The church currently has a congregation of about 30 people, many of whom are relatives of Israel Folau. The church regularly posts videos to their Facebook page from their Sunday services. Israel Folau has preached from the pulpit a number of times, occasionally speaking about the ordeal with Rugby Australia. 

There is also video footage of men in the church baptizing people “in the name of Jesus Christ.” This may not seem all that significant, but the particular practice of baptizing people with this wording “in the name of Jesus Christ” instead of baptizing “in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,” which is the wording Jesus used (Matthew 28:19), is indicative of oneness theology. Oneness theology teaches that there is only one correct way to baptize people, stating Jesus’ name only, and that God is not three distinct entities but rather one being. 

What Is Oneness Theology?

In January of 2018, Folau responded to a tweet in which he expressed this unorthodox view of God this way: “Jesus Christ was the vessel of God, God is a spirit. He formed the body of Jesus Christ and was in him. And the holy spirit is the characteristics or functions of God. But it’s not 3 or the Trinity but just him alone. Isaiah 43:10.”

Writing for Eternity News, Tom Richards summarizes TOJC’s beliefs and how they compare to traditional Christian beliefs (outlined in the Didache and other places) this way: 

This is an expression of what is called modalism; a teaching that is nearly as old as the church itself and rejects the Trinity as expressed in the Athanasian and Nicene Creeds. The Truth of Jesus Christ Church in Sydney (TOJC) where Folau attends and teaches, has confirmed that they teach that “God is ONE”–meaning that he cannot be understood in any sense as three.

Modalism has taken on different shapes over the course of church history, but collectively these various forms seek to preserve monotheism or the “oneness” of God by expressing the Father, Son and Spirit as “modes” of God. Roughly speaking, this means that in order to achieve certain things, God sometimes works as the Father, sometimes works as the Son, and sometimes as the Holy Spirit. God the Father is incarnated as God the Son, the Holy Spirit is an active expression of the one God who is spirit.

Other famous Christians who subscribe to a form of modalism include T.D. Jakes. However, where TOJC differs from Jakes’ theology is their respective beliefs about the speaking in tongues debate. Oneness Pentecostalism, which could be used to describe Jakes’ beliefs, says speaking in tongues is a significant sign of salvation. In other words, if you don’t speak in tongues you have not received salvation. TJOC, on the other hand, does not believe one must speak in tongues in order to be saved. 

Folau has said that his church does not fall under any one denomination, rather that the church is simply following “the truth of God from his reliable source the Bible.” 

Other Concerning Beliefs

In addition to their views on the nature of God and baptism, TJOC also takes other potentially controversial stances, and they do it in a way that indicates if you do not agree with them, you are not reading the Bible correctly. For one, a recent sermon featuring Israel’s cousin, 20-year-old Josiah Folau, emphatically states that female pastors go against Scripture. “If you believe in women preachers,” Josiah says, “Satan’s got you.” 

Josiah, who frequently preaches at his uncle’s church, has recently been let go from his teaching job at a Catholic school in Sydney. According to the Sydney Morning Herald, Josiah worked as a tutor and boarding house supervisor at St. Gregory’s College. St. Gregory’s became aware of Josiah’s involvement in the controversial church and some comments he’s made about Catholicism. 

An email Josiah wrote to a visitor of TJOC stated his belief that “Roman Catholicism is masked devil worship,” and that “The blasphemous Catholic mass is a paganistic ritual rooted in heresy, evil and devil worship.” The headmaster for the school, Lee MacMaster, says they met with Josiah and that he “made the decision to discontinue his casual employment at St. Gregory’s College.” 

8 Creative Prayer Ideas for Small Group Time

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Looking for creative prayer ideas for small group time? It is Tuesday evening, your small group has gathered, you have had some supper, opened up about what is happening in your lives, read and discussed God’s word and now it is 9:25 you have 5 minutes left to pray together before your 9:30 pm finish time……. what do you do? “David would you close in prayer for us…….”

David prays a two-minute prayer and you all go your separate ways. This may be ok if it happens on the rare occasion in your small group gathering but if this pattern is the ‘norm’ may I suggest you are missing out on a depth or relationship with one another which comes through giving prayer a ‘higher’ priority.

Sometimes groups can get stuck in a rut when it comes to praying together, my prayer is that these creative prayer ideas for small group may help you and your group.

  1. Plan your group time well and always allocate time for prayer, also ask different people in your group to come with a plan or activity to lead the prayer time. This will make sure you allow time for them to share what they have prepared.
  2. Make prayer the first thing you do together instead of the last (or mix it up).
  3. Pray for your city or local community – Take a current city/local newspaper, give group members a couple of pages each and five minutes to find something to pray for. Then each person prays for what they chose from their page. Make sure you don’t use up the time with people sharing what they chose, it is better to move straight into prayer.
  4. Taper candles can be lit and placed in sand buckets by group members, prayer can be on a specific topic or prayers can be said in silence. Add symbols, pictures and quiet music to create a different atmosphere for your prayer time.
  5. Split the group into a smaller sub groups, and then pray for one another. Sometimes quieter members feel more comfortable praying in a smaller group.
  6. Try asking specific questions like, “What do you sense God wanting to do through you in the coming weeks?” or “How would you like God to work through you this week?” Or ‘This week ground rule; you can only pray for a personal concern tonight.  Nothing for your sister’s husband’s co-worker’s daughter’.
  7. Prepare some large cards with words on them – such as ‘gratitude’ ‘grace’ ‘forgiveness (or the fruits of the spirit) place them where people can see them and then use these words as your prayer focus. Use one, two or multiple words or words which connect with the topic/passage the group has been studying.
  8. Listen to a piece of instrumental music, as each person listens ask them to write a prayer of worship or thanks to God, when the music has finished invite anyone who wishes to, to share their prayer.

I would love to hear from you about any other creative prayer ideas you use during your small group gatherings.

This article about prayer ideas for small group originally appeared here.

The Posture of Prayer: A Look at How Jews Pray

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In Judaism, a prescribed prayer exists for literally everything—even a praise of thanksgiving for success in the bathroom. Jewish prayer accompanies life’s daily activities and defines the faithful’s relationship with God. Let’s take a deeper look at how Jews pray.

How Jews Pray: A Replacement for Sacrifice

Judaism includes a requirement for adult men to pray three daily prayers. (Requirements for women vary among sects.) In practice, devout men and women pray throughout the day, using prayers from the Psalms and recitations from prayer books written by Jewish religious leaders called rabbis.

Jewish prayer is tied to the concept of sacrifice. For hundreds of years, the people of Old Testament Israel offered animal sacrifices for the atonement of sin according to God’s law set forth in the Torah. But animal sacrifices came to a violent halt after the Romans destroyed the temple in the year AD 70.

To replace sacrifices, Jews reached back to a psalm of David, which says, “Let my prayer be counted as incense before you, and the lifting up of my hands as the evening sacrifice” (Ps. 141 ESV). This and similar verses from the Psalms became the instruction manual to earn God’s favor for the Jewish community that couldn’t offer animal sacrifices without a temple. Many modern Jews still believe their daily prayers correspond directly to the ritual temple sacrifices.

After the destruction of the temple, the Jewish community relied on local rabbis for spiritual instruction. The rabbinate multiplied, and over time each community followed their local rabbi’s unique set of rules, including an ever-growing list of prayers to recite beyond the obligatory daily order of three. Today, prayers are a critical aspect of a Jew’s portfolio of good deeds that they hope will please God.

Jewish tradition is expansive and the practice of Judaism differs widely from secular to religious, Orthodox to Reform Judaism. But there are some generalities regarding prayer that hold true among the majority of Jews.

The Posture and Practice of How Jews Pray

One common prayer behavior among both men and women is a repeated and subtle bow during prayer. They hold Scripture or prayer books and rock their upper bodies forward and back in a rhythmic sway as they recite the prayers.

Men traditionally wear a fringed prayer shawl called a tallit during the ritual morning prayer. The prayer shawl originates from God’s commandment to Moses that the Israelites wear garments with fringes to remind them to be holy to God (Num. 15:37–41).

Religious women, meanwhile, keep their heads covered—not just for prayer, but always. Many Orthodox Jewish women heed this law by wearing wigs. Secular women might pray with only a loose headscarf or even no covering at all. Nearly all forms of Judaism hold that women must pray silently when in the presence of men.

Tefillin, also called phylacteries, are small leather boxes and leather straps that Orthodox men wear on their foreheads and forearms during the morning prayer. The boxes contain Scriptures from Exodus and Deuteronomy (Ex. 13:1–16Deut. 6:4–911:13–21). These verses direct the Israelites to bind God’s words as signs on their hands and foreheads.

Public prayer rituals must occur in a quorum of least ten men, called a minyan. It’s not unusual for Jewish men to find each other in public places and constitute a minyan, sometimes even congregating in places like airport gates and airplane galleys to pray.

How Jews Pray at the Western “Wailing” Wall

Jewish law instructs Jews to pray toward Jerusalem, and when in Jerusalem, to pray toward the temple and Holy of Holies. The Western Wall, or Kotel, is a remaining segment of the retaining wall surrounding the former temple complex. Jews believe the Western Wall is the closest of the four walls to the Holy of Holies.

The Best Way to Reach a Family Is Through Their Children

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The best way to reach a family is through their children because kids call the shots. Mom may drive to the restaurant, but her 9-year-old daughter decides which restaurant they are driving to.

Dad may buy the movie tickets, but his 7-year-old son will decide what movie they will see.

Mom may push the cart down the cereal aisle, but her 10-year-old son will decide what cereal they choose.

Disney Knows the Best Way to Reach a Family

Disney is producing some major hits for the theater: Toy Story 4, Aladdin, The Lion King, Frozen 2, Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker, Mulan, and Jungle Cruise.

All of these are family-friendly films.  In other words, families go together to see them.  But guess who will decide which of these movies they will see?  The children.

From the grocery store aisle to the movie theater to the clothes store to the vacation destination to the restaurant, kids call the shots.

Growing Churches Know the Best Way to Reach a Family

This also applies to the church they attend.  Mom and dad can enjoy the service, but if their children don’t have a good experience, they won’t be back.

A church may have a great pastor that brings dynamic messages for mom and dad, but if the teacher in the kids’ area is boring, they won’t be back.

A church may have amazing praise and worship, but if the kids’ music is outdated, they won’t be back.

Kids…call…the…shots.

This is especially true with Millennial parents.  Their parenting style is a collaborative one.  They involve their children when there is a decision to be made.

Millennial parents also spend more time with their children than any previous generation.  Fathers are spending 59 minutes a day with their children.  This is compared to only 16 minutes a day in the 1960’s.  Millennials are investing major time in their children.  And if you want to reach families, then you’ve got to capture the attention and heart of their children.

Look behind the door of the fast growing churches and you will see they invest major time, resources and attention to ministry to children.

I believe that children’s ministry is one of the top strategies to reach a family and grow a church.

When you take a child by the hand…you take a parent by the heart.

It’s true….Kids really do call the shots.  This means the best way to reach a family for Christ is through their children.

At one of the churches I served at, we decided to install an indoor playground.  Parents could come there and hang out with their children after the service.  After we had opened it, I was standing in the playground area, greeting and talking with parents.  I noticed a lady who was standing in one of the back corners by herself.  She was crying.

I went over to see if she was okay.  She told me this.

“I have been trying to get my husband to attend church with me for over 7 years.  But he always said ‘no.’  She pointed at the playground and said, ‘See that little girl playing with her father.  That’s my 3-year-old daughter.  This past week she told her dad there was a new playground at the church.  She asked him to come to church with her and they could play on the playground after the service.  These are tears of joy.  I could tell during the service that God was working on his heart.  All because our daughter asked him to come’.”

Right now, on this Tuesday morning, parents are talking with their children about what they’d like to do this weekend.  Create a great experience for kids and they will say, “Can we go to church on Sunday?”

Never underestimate what God can do in the life of a family when their child is calling the shots.

This article on the best way to reach a family originally appeared here.

Time Savers: How to Shave 10 Hours Off Your Ministry Work Week

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Almost everyone I know is working more time than they would like and would appreciate time savers. That’s why a book like The 4-Hour Work Week by Timothy Ferriss has been such a big bestseller. This is a great book, but the promise is a little over the top. I don’t know of anyone, including Tim Ferriss, who really only works four hours.

But what if you could shave 10 hours off your work week with time savers? In my opinion, that is much more doable. Virtually anyone, with a little thought and effort, can use these time savers. Here’s how:

7 Time Savers for Your Week

1. Limit the time you spend online.

In my experience, the Web is most people’s #1 time sucker. Yes, I know it is a wonderful tool for research, blah, blah, blah. But I often catch myself and my family members mindlessly surfing from one page to another with no clear objective in mind. Before you know it, you can eat up several hours a day. The key is to put a fence around this activity and limit your time online. Set a timer for yourself if you have to. This is true for Web surfing, and it is also true for email. Unless you are in a customer service position where you have to be “always on,” you should check email no more than two or three times a day.

2. Touch email messages once and only once.

OK, let’s be honest. How many times do you read the same email message over and over again? Guess what? The information hasn’t changed. That’s right. You are procrastinating. I have a personal rule: I will only read each message once, then take the appropriate action: do, delegate, defer, file or delete it. I describe these in more detail in a post I made last week.

3. Follow the two-minute rule.

My to-do list is very short. It never gets longer than about 30 items. This is because I do everything I can immediately. If I need to make a phone call, rather than entering it on my to-do list, I just make the call. If I can complete the action in less than two minutes, I just go ahead and do it. Why wait? You will be amazed at how much this “bias toward action” will reduce your workload.

Conversely, when you don’t do it promptly, you end up generating even more work for yourself and others. The longer a project sits, the longer it takes to overcome inertia and get it moving again. The key is to define the very next action and do it. You don’t have to complete the whole project, just the next action.

4. Stop attending low-impact meetings.

If there’s one thing we can probably all agree on, it’s that we go to too many meetings. Either the meeting organizer isn’t prepared, the meeting objective isn’t defined or you can’t really affect the outcome one way or the other. Every meeting should have a written objective and a written agenda. If you don’t have these two minimal items, how do you know when the meeting is over? Could this also explain why meetings seem to drag on and on until everyone is worn out?

If the content of the meeting is irrelevant to you and your job, or if you don’t feel that you really add that much to the discussion, ask to be excused.

This Is How Pastors Can Help Bring Healing to Sexual Abuse Survivors

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Pastors have a lot of power, says abuse survivor Rachael Denhollander, to either damage sexual abuse survivors in their congregations or to facilitate their healing. In a recent podcast with ChurchLeaders, Denhollander shared many insights on how pastors and ministry leaders can tackle the challenge of sexual abuse well.

“You are likely to be hemorrhaging wounds in your church that you are completely unaware of and that you will remain unaware of because a survivor has to keep you at arm’s length to be safe,” says Denhollander. “So the intentionality with which you approach ministry is incredibly important.” 

How Pastors Can Help Sexual Abuse Survivors

Denhollander came to the public eye as a result of being the first woman to speak out publicly about the abuse she suffered at the hands of Larry Nassar. Nassar is a former USA Gymnastics team doctor now effectively serving a life sentence for abusing hundreds of women and girls over several decades. Denhollander was also raised in church and first suffered sexual abuse in a church context at age seven. But despite the trauma she has gone through, she retains a strong faith in God and is now an educator and advocator for victims of sexual assault. Her personal experience with abuse in the church has given her a unique understanding on how pastors can best minister to sexual abuse survivors.

Be Aware of the Extent of the Problem

Denhollander says it is rare for churches to fully comprehend the scope of sexual abuse in their congregations or to do anything about it, something she calls a “massive oversight.” She says, “By best estimates, at least 25 percent of the women and close to that many of the men have experienced sexual abuse [during their lifetimes] in any given congregation.” This means that as pastors are preaching on Sunday morning, about a quarter of the people they are speaking to have experienced sexual abuse at some point. 

It’s also important, says Denhollander, to understand the level of trauma that sexual abuse survivors have gone through: “One of the things that we do know about sexual abuse is that it has the highest rates of PTSD and mental health issues out of any trauma or crime committed on a person who survives. It has some of the highest rates of creating substance abuse issues, drug dependency. Survivors of sexual abuse are four to six times more likely to contemplate suicide compared to survivors of other forms of trauma. But survivors are also very good about hiding those things.”

Acknowledge How Evil Abuse Really Is—and Treat It That Way

Once they recognize the scope of the problem, it is crucial for pastors to respond in a way that faithfully represents the gospel. Denhollander says, “Because what you preach on is seen as the remedy for abuse and is tied to the gospel and is tied to the identity of Christ, how you respond when someone discloses abuse becomes wound up in their conception of God.”

Before Denhollander encountered Nassar as a teenager, she was groomed for that experience by how her church reacted to the abuse she suffered at age seven. While some people at the church warned her parents about the predator’s behavior, when her parents took steps to protect her from him, other church members ostracized her and her family. Denhollander says that the message she received as a result was, “If you can’t prove it, don’t speak up.” If you do speak up, “You will lose everything.”

This message is devastating. But on the other hand, says Denhollander, “There is so much beauty in a gospel-filled response to abuse.” Part of this response is acknowledging abuse is evil and acting as though it is. She says, “When we dim the darkness of sin, when we don’t treat it like the important thing that it is, what we have ultimately done is we have dimmed the holiness of God.” Church leaders “need to paint that picture of God’s utter holiness and apply it to the evil that’s been done to people, not just to the sin that they have to repent of.”

Faithfully Preach Scripture

Instead of leaders who communicated how evil abuse is, Denhollander says, “I had church leaders who dramatically misinterpreted and misapplied common passages of scripture.” For example, some pastors said that if a sexual victim does not cry out as instructed in the Levitical law, that means the victim is guilty. Misinterpretations like this, says Denhollander are “very, very common.” And while none of the pastors mishandling scripture knew she was a sexual abuse survivor, “They made those comments, and I heard them…and so the message that I internalized was, ‘This is your fault. It’s not that big of a deal. God doesn’t really care,’ and that left me really struggling with what the Bible truly says about abuse.”

But pastors who preach faithfully are doing incredible work to help people live in freedom. Denhollander says, “I think that’s one of the most beautiful things that a pastor can do, is preach accurately.”

Recognize You Can’t Do Everything

Finally, pastors need to know their limitations and not think they have to carry the burden of healing everyone’s pain. “I know pastors carry an incredible amount of weight and responsibility, and they feel that,” says Denhollander. “A good pastor wants to shepherd their flock well.” With that in mind, she says, “Sometimes the best thing you can do is be able to connect survivors with good counseling resources, good psychologists, good practical resources that can help them escape an abusive situation or that can help them rebuild the life that’s been shattered.”

It’s true that sexual abuse causes deep devastation to people, but Denhollander emphasizes that the “ability [of church leaders] to bring incredible restoration is…very high. And that should give pastors hope.”

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