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Ageism: The Real Struggle for Church Staff Close to Retirement

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The magical age for ministry is somewhere between 38 years-old and 56 years-old. I use the word “magical” because far too many churches look at the age of a ministry candidate as some sort of magic bullet. Any younger than mid-thirties and you’re too young. Any older the mid-fifties and you’re too old. I’ve read a lot of articles and posts defending those who are on the younger side. Some megachurch hires a 26-year-old lead pastor, and it’s championed as innovative.

However, I don’t see too many cases made for those who are older. As someone who is younger (I’m 38), I’ll make a case for those who are on the older side of the equation.

When considering ageism, the church may be one of the worst offenders among organizations in our culture. It’s strange given the “respect your elders” mentality in many congregations. When cutting church staff, I’ve heard of cases in which people were pushed out because of their age. Additionally, when hiring, many churches are overt in their search for ministry candidates. “We want someone young!”

Churches will survey the congregation and ask about an ideal age for a new lead pastor. The answers are always the same—somewhere between 38 years-old and 56 years-old. The national median age is 38 years-old, and the median age of a churchgoer in most denominations is someone in their mid-to-late 50s, so it’s no surprise the church would say, “I want a pastor who is like me!”

For those who are older on your church staff, what can be done? How can a church move away from the blatant ageism that seems to be so rampant in congregations?

Stop cutting older staff in the name of “stewardship.” I’ll never forget my first round of layoffs in the corporate world. We were split into two groups and each sent into separate rooms. One group survived. The other didn’t. I made the cut. I thought it was merit-based, until I looked around. The only people remaining were the twenty-somethings. They kept the cheap labor. Even the survivors felt icky. Don’t do this in your church. Even worse, don’t cut people in the name of “stewardship,” because the Bible has a much grander view of stewardship than mere cash flow.

Stop assuming older workers can’t learn. Sure, some people refuse to learn and grow. They deserve to be let go. Likely, most of your older church staff are willing to learn. Give them a chance. Don’t assume they can’t do it! You make a fool of yourself if you claim a faith that can move mountains while at the same time assuming someone in their 60s can’t pick up a new skill set. Be intentional about equipping them and giving them opportunities to learn.

Stop making personnel decisions based on a desired look. Churches after a certain look wouldn’t even hire Jesus. He had no appearance that we should desire him. Such congregations have way more in common with the Pharisees than Jesus.

Be willing to move them into different positions as seasons of life change. As a person ages and enters into new season of life, new opportunities emerge. Capture these opportunities and get creative with new staff positions. For example, you don’t meet too many pastors focused solely on Boomer ministry, but the church desperately needs them. Senior ministry was for their parents. Good luck getting your Boomers to come to your senior ministry events—not gonna happen. But a Boomer ministry? Now that sounds more appealing.

Ask your older staff for their input. Some of them may have great advice on how best to utilize their skill set as they near retirement age. They may fear taking the initiative because often it leads to questions about their viability. Rather, take the posture of wanting them to finish strong and ask them what that would look like.

A multi-generational church should hire a multi-generational staff. Most multi-ethnic churches have multi-ethnic staff. I, for one, champion this movement. What’s often missing in the multi-everything discussion is intentionality with bringing multiple generations on to the church staff. Churches should serve all people, which includes generational diversity—in the congregation and on staff.

Perhaps there are older church staff out there who haven’t spoken up because they fear it would be self-serving. As someone under 40, I’ll say it. Many of you have gotten a raw deal. It’s time for churches to stop with the ageism.

This article about ageism in the church originally appeared here.

China’s New School Textbooks Get Rid of ‘God’ and ‘Bible’

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Within the past several months, the Chinese government has published new, censored versions of classic texts for Chinese children to read in school. These new textbooks remove religious language, such as “Bible,” “God,” and “Christ,” and they include the works of Daniel Defoe, Hans Christian Andersen, and Anton Chekhov.

“The stories are manipulated to respond to the imperative of the Party to stifle any religious reference,” says Asia News.

Book Censorship in China

Religious liberty and human rights publication, Bitter Winter, reports that a parent from north Hebei Province said religious terminology has been censored in a new version of a student textbook that contains classic works of literature. The parent referred to a passage from Defoe’s Robinson Crusoe that originally mentioned the Bible, as well as some prayer books: “also, I found three very good Bibles, […] some Portuguese books also; and among them two or three Popish prayer-books, and several other books all which I carefully secured.”  The new version of the text simply refers to the religious works as “Portuguese books.” Authorities also replaced a reference to “Sabbath days” with the phrase, “days of rest.”

In Hans Christian Andersen’s “The Little Match Girl,” a passage that originally read, “when a star falls, a soul was going up to God” was altered to say “when a star falls, a person is leaving.” Various references to religion in Anton Chekhov’s short story, “Vanka,” have also either been removed or changed. 

Bitter Winter reports that students are not allowed to talk about religious terms in the classroom either. When a student at a primary school in Puyang city (in Henan Province) asked a question about the verb, “to pray,” the teacher said, “No, that’s a religious word. You can’t use any sensitive words related to religion.” The Chinese Communist Party (CCP) is also rewriting history textbooks in order to present the Party in the most favorable light.

Increasing Oppression

It has been several years since President Xi Jinping announced the need to “Sinicize religion” in order to make religions more compatible with the CCP. One notable way the government has been implementing this sinicization policy is by announcing a new translation of the Bible intended to make it less Western and more Chinese.

ChurchLeaders recently published an article on how the Chinese government has been oppressing the Uighar population, which is predominantly Muslim, in part through the use of facial recognition technology. Religious rights advocates have even written a letter to tech companies in Silicon Valley, urging them not to be complicit in what advocates called the current “Chinese holocaust.” And ChurchLeaders has published multiple articles on the increased persecution of churches in China at the hands of the government. 

According to ChinaAid founder Bob Fu and Hudson Institute Fellow Nina Shea, the past year has seen a significant increase in the CCP’s crackdown on religion. The two observe, “If history is any measure, repression could ultimately strengthen believers’ faith.” However, this is certainly not a guarantee, as evidenced by the recent suicide in China of a pastor who said the government’s pressure had driven him to despair. That tragedy should remind all of us to be diligent to lift up our brothers and sisters in China in prayer. 

Beth Moore: Leaders Who Are Silent About White Supremacy Are Cowardly

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Once again Christian leader Beth Moore has rocked the evangelical boat. Moore wrote a handful of tweets about the need for Christian leaders to succinctly call out white supremacy as evil and refuse to “shrink back in cowardice” by being silent. 

The full statement Moore offered in a series of three tweets is as follows:

Any “Christ” that can be invoked in support of white nationalism is a false Christ of the highest, most hellish order. An anti-Christ. A wholly-opposite christ. No such christ is the Christ Jesus of Scripture who taught His followers a love that sacrifices life & limb for others.

Let it be known, let it be declared by genuine followers of Jesus, that the man who opened fire in El Paso may invoke a Christ of some kind but it is NOT our Christ. His Christ would be unrecognizable to us. Unrecognizable in Scripture. We claim no Christ of white nationalism.

Christian leaders, LEAD. Do not shrink back in cowardice. Be bold. Be clear. Do not assume people know where you stand. History will prove this to be a most critical hour and our silence to have been our shameful complicity.

Moore doesn’t implicate any leaders in her tweet for being complicit in the evil of white supremacy, rather her words read more as a pep talk. 

What Are Other Southern Baptist Leaders Saying About the Shootings and White Supremacy?

According to Albert Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, the shootings reiterated the fact that humanity’s real problem is evil. Speaking in his daily Briefing on August 5, he also pointed out the “absurd” depths of violence an “alienated young male” is capable of perpetrating; however he doesn’t mention white supremacy, except when quoting an article published in the Wall Street Journal. 

Russell Moore, the president of the Southern Baptist’s Ethics and Religious Liberty Committee, had a more straightforward condemnation of white supremacy. Russell Moore called the shooting in El Paso an act of “white nationalist terrorism” and presented the argument that the Gospel clearly stands in opposition to evil in general and things like racism and nationalism in particular. 

Russell Moore’s reasoning behind the argument that racism and nationalism are condemned in the Bible is similar to Tim Keller’s observations about the book of Jonah. Keller hasn’t made a statement about these most recent rounds of shootings (nor is he affiliated with the Southern Baptist Convention), but given his previous statements expressing concern over growing nationalism in America, it appears he agrees, at least in theory, with Russell Moore and Beth Moore.

Other leaders have been even more specific in their assessment of the problem, such as author Trillia Newbell and author and pastor Malcolm Yarnell.

Author and pastor Alan Cross had something to say, too:

Ed Stetzer didn’t mince words in his tweet:

And then there are these comments from the President of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary (SWBTS), Adam Greenway and Pastor Dwight McKissic:

White Nationalist Terrorism and the Gospel

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This week our country is jolted with another wave of domestic terror attacks on our country, in El Paso and in Dayton. And, once again, a document posted by one of the terrorists is a typical white nationalist manifesto, taking up all the usual tropes of an “invasion” of migrants into our country, of the “replacement” of white people by minorities. Law enforcement experts have warned for some time of the shocking rise of this sort of ideology and the violence that often comes with it, even as we are watching white nationalist movements cascading all over Europe and the rest of the world.

Obviously, any sort of murder ought to shock and alarm any person, and usually does. Few people, except the terrorists themselves, will justify in any situation the killing of innocent bystanders. But we have a responsibility to ask what is the ideology behind all of this, and why does it take such root in rage-filled violent people?

White Nationalist Terrorism Is Not Compatible With the Gospel

White nationalism is not just another ideology, in a world filled with competing opinions. White nationalism is a manifestation of an ancient evil that we as Christians, of all people, ought to recognize immediately. White nationalism emerges from what the Bible calls “the way of the flesh.” This is a form of idolatry that exalts one’s own creaturely attributes, making a god out of, for instance, one’s ancestral origins or one’s tribal culture.

This is not incidental to the gospel of Jesus Christ, but is precisely what the gospel everywhere in the Bible confronts and condemns.

John the Baptist confronts this anti-gospel on the banks of the Jordan River (Matt. 3:9), and the Apostle Paul does so in an Athens filled with pagan Grecian-superiority origin myths (Acts 17:26-27). Much of the New Testament is a deconstruction of this satanic pull to the exaltation of the flesh. The gospel does not merely reconcile isolated individuals to God, but the gospel also forms a new people who demonstrate the kingdom of God by those carnal dividing walls being torn down (Eph. 3:1-12), such that within the gospel-formed church “there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave and free, but Christ is all, and in all” (Col. 3:11).

The New Testament apostles expend much energy telling us, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, that we are not in an ancestor cult (1 Pet. 1:18) or a national or tribal identity cult (Phil. 3:20), but we have been adopted in a new family, a kingdom from every tribe, tongue, nation, and language (Rev. 5:9-10). Moreover, we are joined in Christ to a God who loves those who are reviled for their racial or tribal or national background, and commands us to do the same, not just in word but in deed (Lk. 10:36-37).

That’s why Jesus announced his ministry by explicitly denouncing the idea that God’s mission is, or ever has been, limited by racial, cultural, or tribal boundaries (Lk. 4:24-27). The people loved what Jesus was saying, until he touched on issues of race and nationality, and then they were “filled with wrath” and sought to throw him off of a cliff (Lk. 4:28-29). No doubt many accused him of “distracting” them from the Word of God by talking about “justice” and such things.

But, for Jesus and for his Spirit-anointed apostles, there is no gospel apart from the exposure of sin, and the repentance demanded in its wake. And one of the oldest manifestations of this flesh-worshipping devil-worship is racial superiority. To confront such sin is no distraction from the gospel. To the contrary, to not confront it, silently allowing it to sit in the psyches and consciences of the people, is not just a distraction from the gospel but a contradiction of it, a word that says to those caught up in an idolatrous path, “You shall not surely die.” Those are the words of a devil, not of a gracious God.

White Nationalism Doesn’t Always Carry a Weapon

And the sort of “way of the flesh” that leads to white nationalism and other such things are related intrinsically to violence, ultimately, though it may take a long time to get there. That’s because the cult of the flesh is also a cult of death (Rom. 8:12-13). That’s because it is, ultimately, from the satanic order, which means it is ultimately about a beastly kind of power (Rev. 13).

Usually that manifests itself in less obvious ways—seething internal hatred, bigotry, envy, slander (Gal. 5:19-21). Sometimes it shows up in the words of the mouth, comparing neighbors of a different ethnicity or national origin to animals or insects or diseases (Jas. 3:9). And sometimes it comes into a store with an assault rifle aimed at innocents, or, as we have seen, in trains bound for camps. The murderous aspects of this can only come about in large numbers when they are normalized by the more hidden types over a long period of time. And this sort of bigotry and hatred and self-worship is not just a danger to society, but to the one who is gripped by it himself or herself. It is a way that leads to hell.

Let’s grieve our fallen neighbors. Let’s work together to stop such atrocities from happening in the future. And let’s also, as Christians, be very clear about what this ideology is. White nationalism is on the rise, and is headed for a confrontation with the gospel of a crucified Rabbi from Galilee.

The gospel will win.

How to Teach Kids the Bible to Capture Their Attention

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Would you like to learn how to teach kids the Bible that captures their attention?   A teacher that kids look forward to hearing?  A teacher that kids can’t wait to learn from?

You can be.

Here are 10 tips about how to teach kids the Bible that can help you be a great kids’ Bible teacher.

  1. Don’t monologue for more than 5 minutes at a time. It is vital that you honor kids’ attention spans.  The rule of thumb is you have 1 minute per the child’s age….maxing out at 5 minutes.

If you will stay inside this guideline, kids will love coming to your Sunday school class.  Here’s an example of a 20 minute lesson that will grab kids’ attention and hold it.

  • 4 minutes – monologue teaching
  • 4 minutes – activity about lesson and dialogue discussion
  • 4 minutes – monologue teaching
  • 4 minutes – game about lesson
  • 4 minutes – monologue teaching

Your goal should be to have just as much dialogue as monologue in your lesson.

2. Vary your voice decibel.  Don’t stay on the same level or you will sound like a robot droning on and on.  Use whisper level, regular talking level and exciting level.

Here’s an example of how to teach kids the Bible with monologue.

David heard the Philistine come out and challenge someone to come fight him (regular voice).  His heart began to pound as he felt God telling him to go and fight Goliath (whisper voice).  David began to swing his sling around and around and around.  And then at just the right time, he let the rock fly and God guided it right into the head of Goliath.  Boom.  Down Goliath went (excited, loud voice).

3. Use object lessons.  Kids are visual.  Don’t just tell them about an item.  Show them the item while you are talking about it.  And if you can’t locate a physical item, then at least put a picture of it on the screen.

Here’s an example of how to teach kids the Bible with visual lessons.

You are telling the story about Moses’ rod becoming a snake.  Have a wooden walking stick and a fake rubber snake to show the kids while you are talking.

4. Tell stories.  This tip comes straight from the greatest teacher of all time – Jesus.  Jesus used parables (stories) when He taught.  There is something about a story that grabs kids’ attention.  Become a good storyteller and you will become someone kids love to listen to.

5. Involve the kids in the lesson.  Kids love to get up and move.  Bring them into your story.

Here’s an example of how to teach kids the Bible with involvement.

You are telling the story of Peter sinking when he tried to walk on the water to Jesus.  Make a boat by grabbing a table and turning it over.  Have some kids sit on it and pretend they are riding in the boat.  Have other kids make sound effects of the wind blowing, water splashing, etc.  Have someone play the part of Jesus.  Have someone play the part of Peter.  You get the gist.

6. Use video clips as illustrations.

Here’s an example.  You are teaching the kids about faith.  Show the clip from Indiana Jones’ Last Crusade where Harrison Ford has to step out in faith onto the invisible bridge.  Follow up with some questions and discussion about how that is like trusting Jesus.

A Sobering Reality for Pastors and Leaders

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There is a sobering reality every pastor and leader needs to understand. Knowing this one can protect your career—help keep you from burning out—and guard your heart.

I see this impact leaders from all generations—but, I must be honest—I probably see it even more in our youngest generation of leaders entering the workforce.

You ready for the sobering reality? The longer you do what you do well, the less praise you’ll receive for it.

Have you experienced it? If you don’t understand this principle, you’ll often feel disappointed—like no one cares—like they didn’t even notice the good work you are doing.

The fact is, everyone loves to praise the new guy—the guest appearance—the surprise home run.

(One of my favorite examples—the guest speaker who has delivered the same message 42 times and has gotten really good at it. Everyone says “best sermon ever.” Of course—they have practiced it a few times.)

But, when you’ve been there a while—when you try to do well every week—when you hit home runs almost every time up to bat—people stop cheering as loudly.

Once you do exceptional for very long, it becomes the new norm.

It’s expected. It is now your new average. Everyone expects you to be wonderful—every time. They’ve gained a certain confidence in your ability.

And, you can naturally expect to hear less approval. Less “good jobs.” Less “that was amazing” comments.

It’s not necessarily that you aren’t doing a good job anymore. You’ve simply set a new bar of expectation.

Of course, part of improving is to continually raise our own bar of expectations, but if you’re realizing this sobering reality—you’ve done something right.

8 Reasons Young Staff Members Stay at the Same Church

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Many young church staff members I know are continually looking for their next place of service. Sometimes that’s because their calling has changed. In more cases, though, it’s because they’re struggling with the church or its leadership.

On the other hand, I’ve also been with young staff members who love their church and prayerfully want to remain there as long as they can. Here are some of the motivating factors that make them want to stay:

  1. They believe in the church’s vision and leadership. You might hope these would be assumed for any staff member, but that’s not always the case. Young staff members stay where they believe in what they’re doing, know where they’re going, and trust who they’re following.
  2. They actually have a relationship with their senior leader. That leader is not just the Sunday morning preacher who casts vision from a distance in a staff meeting; he’s a genuine friend who knows his staff by name.
  3. They’re accountable for their work, but nobody micromanages them. They know they must—and want to—answer for their work, but they seldom feel stifled in what they do. Leaders give them the freedom to lead their respective teams and ministries.
  4. Within reason, they know they have a “safety net” should they not always succeed. Crossing some lines, of course, would result in their dismissal, but they know their leaders have their back. They’re not afraid to take a risk on a new strategy when they know they’re not alone.
  5. The entire staff serve together as a team. They know each other, communicate with each other, affirm each other, support each other’s work, and confront each other when needed to maintain healthy relationships. Ministry silos may still exist, but the staff works hard to reduce them.
  6. Their families are part of their ministry. Their spouses are directly involved in their work, albeit in different ways and at varied levels. Seldom does a spouse feel left out of the church’s work.
  7. Church leaders plan times of fellowship and fun for the staff. They enjoy laughing with each other, and they budget both time and dollars to have fun together. They see a staff day at the amusement park or at the lake as a wise investment.
  8. The church works hard to provide for them financially. That commitment doesn’t mean that young couples never struggle with too few dollars, but it does mean that the leadership prioritizes paying them their worth.

If you’re a young staff member who’s chosen to stay in a place, what would you add? If you’re a senior leader, what positive steps have you taken to keep the staff you want?

This article originally appeared here.

The Ultimate List of Free Stock Photo Sites for Churches

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Let me start with this disclaimer: your church needs to prioritize using real photos of real people from your congregation and community in all of your communications—whether you’re creating a print ad, a social media post, or updating your website. Doing so shows potential visitors who you are as a people, how your building is a tool for ministry, and why your location is a mission field. It also gives them a glimpse of what they can expect if they visit. Your goal should be to show off who your church really is; and this goal is best achieved by using photos taken in and around your church.

However, the reality is that this isn’t always possible for all churches, in all situations. Sometimes we need to use a stock photos to fill a gap or to communicate a larger message. Lucky for you (and me), stock photos have come a long way in the last several years. While a few years ago stock photos were cold, posed, and cheesy, today you can find images for almost any scenario that look warm, candid, and natural. And when photographers are willing to share their captures with the world—everyone benefits.

If you’re looking for free stock photos to use in your church’s graphic design, website, or other collateral, take a look at these websites.

1. Pexels

2. Unsplash

3. Neustock

4. Pixabay

5. Burst

6. FreePhotos

7. Freely Photos

8. StockSnap

9. Gratisography

10. Life of Pix

11. Picjumbo

12. Reshot

13. FreeStocks

14. Picography

15. MMT

16. Kaboompics

17. Skitterphoto

18. ISO Republic

19. Styled Stock

20. Saltful

21. Visual Hunt

22. Morguefile

23. SplitShire

24. Foter

25. Nappy

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Tim Lucas: This Is What Millennials and Gen Z Want in a Church

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Tim Lucas is the founder and lead pastor of Liquid Church in New Jersey. The church has baptized 2,400 people to date, and Outreach magazine has named Liquid Church one of America’s 100 fastest-growing churches. Tim’s new book is called Liquid Church: 6 Powerful Currents to Saturate Your City for Christ. In it, he shares biblical principles for filling your city with the hope of Jesus. Tim and his wife Colleen have two children and love traveling together as a family.

Key Questions for Tim Lucas

-What is Liquid Church all about and what has your journey been like?

-Could you explain the “saturation strategy” that you have?

-What it was like for other churches that had plateaued to see your church growth strategy and ask to be part of your ministry?

-What are the six ministry “currents” you have identified?

Key Quotes from Tim Lucas

“Jesus calls Himself the living water, and so we really believe church should be refreshing.”

“[Ezekiel 47] is this amazing, very inspiring picture, I think, of the New Testament church flowing freshly in the power of the Holy Spirit. But what’s fascinating to me is, that the farther away God’s Spirit, the river, flows from the church, the deeper it gets.”

“The deepest ministry will come when you flow with the Holy Spirit, taking the living water of Jesus Christ, the gospel, to the people who are farthest from Him.”

“Attempt something only so big that unless God shows up, it’s bound to fail.”

“We made a lot of mistakes along the way.”

“The vision of Liquid Church is to saturate our state with the gospel of Jesus Christ.”

“People talk about church growth, but much of it is just church swelling. We’re not really fishing for men and women, we’re kind of keepers of the aquarium.”

“What we’re seeing real traction with now at our campuses is with Millennials and Gen Z, and so much of it we’re finding really comes from reversing the evangelism paradigm.” 

Pastor Says ‘God sent me’ to Stop Man Attempting Suicide

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A pastor named Maurice Hardwick stopped a man from committing suicide last weekend when Hardwick was driving, missed his exit, and then happened to see the man standing on a Metro Detroit freeway overpass. Hardwick was with his wife, Kya, when they pulled over and helped prevent the man from jumping off the overpass into traffic below.

“I missed my exit, and God sent me up one more exit to turn around,” Hardwick told Local 4 News.

Maurice Hardwick: ‘he was locked in’

If he had not missed the exit, Hardwick would never have noticed the man who was planning to jump. Another driver pulled over when Hardwick and his wife did and also got out of his car to help. Kya Hardwick called 911 and said the police told her they had already received a call about the incident and were on their way. She then used her phone to record what followed next. 

“He wouldn’t respond to us,” said Maurice Hardwick. “He said not one word. He didn’t even raise his head when we called him. So I knew then he was locked in.” Fearing that the man might jump before police arrived, the other driver who had stopped engaged the man in conversation while Hardwick approached him from his other side. Hardwick then pulled the man away from the bridge onto the ground, where the man resisted him. According to Hardwick, who hurt his knee as a result of the interaction, the man said, “I don’t want to live, I don’t want to be here any more, let me go.”

The police eventually arrived and took the man into custody. Despite Hardwick’s boldness, he and his wife say they were concerned at the time about his safety. “Both of them could have gone over,” said Kya, “so I just started praying. I did all that I knew to do.” And the Hardwicks are continuing to pray that the man is all right and gets the help he needs. 

“I just was not willing to watch this take place on my watch,” said Hardwick. 

Community Activism

Hardwick is a former drug dealer who now pastors Power Ministries church. He is also an activist who is passionate about replacing the violence in Detroit with peace. He told WWJ News Radio several years ago that God had given him a mission to bring peace to Detroit communities: “God told me, he says ‘pastor, I never told this generation they had to die to be in peace.’ Tell them to rip the ‘R’ and leave the ‘L’ and to live in peace.”

So Hardwick founded the Live in Peace Movement (L.I.P.), where he and others go into the community and hold protests. Said Hardwick, “If I do not like this…where is my protest? So we protest and we lament over the blood that run through the street of Detroit of my young people — we definitely hold accountability over ourselves, and over our neighborhood by telling them to stop the violence.”

In a Facebook post, Hardwick said his interaction with the man showed him “just how much our youth need us right now.” His and his wife’s actions are a reminder to all of us of the needs present in our own communities and the importance of being willing to help others when we see an opportunity to do so. 

Does Divorce Have a Place in a ‘Christian nation’ Such as the Philippines?

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Senator Risa Hontiveros is renewing her efforts to legalize divorce in her native Philippines. The Philippines, whose population is predominantly Catholic, currently does not have a no fault divorce law like the United States, although there are provisions in place for annulments. Advocates for divorce say women are the ones who suffer most under the current laws, while others feel the Philippines should maintain its status as a “Christian nation” which eschews “Las Vegas-style” divorce. 

“It has been well-documented that the absence of a divorce law has had disproportionate effects on women who are more often the victims of abuse within marriages, and who are forced to remain in joyless and unhealthy unions because of the dearth of legal options,” Senator Risa Hontiveros wrote in her proposed bill to legalize divorce. 

Opponents to legalized divorce say that since annulment is available, divorce is not necessary. However, many (even divorce opponents) agree the process to obtain an annulment is antiquated and cumbersome.

Unlike the annulment process, Hontiveros’ proposed divorce process would take less time and would involve fewer fees. 

The Philippines Is a ‘Christian Nation’

Meanwhile, Senator Joel Villanueva said he intends to fight Hontiveros’ bill every step of the way. “We are definitely against any divorce bill. Well, a couple of reasons, but one of the major reason is, we are a Christian nation,” Joel said. Joel is the son of Bro. Eddie Villanueva, who founded the evangelical megachurch Jesus Is Lord Church Worldwide and who also holds a political seat. Eddie is a member of the Philippine Congress and even ran for President in 2004 and 2010.

Despite his opposition to divorce, though, Joel does agree that the annulment process is “anti-poor” [people] and takes too long. Joel indicates he is open to the idea of an “upgraded annulment law” that would make the process more accessible and affordable. 

To obtain an annulment in the Philippines, you essentially have to prove the marriage was void to begin with. The process is very expensive due to the legal fees of constructing such an argument, which many people complain involves making things up about one’s spouse. Advocates for divorce say annulments are so expensive they are only obtainable for the rich. The process leaves certain people, such as women living in poverty, particularly vulnerable to having to endure abusive marriages

One Twitter user articulated the problems with the Philippines’ annulment process this way:

 

Risa Hontiveros: Easier Annulments Won’t Fix the Problem

Hontiveros’ bill would allow for divorce on the grounds of “psychological incapacity of either spouse,” “irreconcilable marital differences,” marital rape, or being separated for at least five years. 

While things like abusive marriages may seem like extreme situations, according to a 2017 study by the National Demographic and Health Survey conducted by the Philippine Statistics Authority, one in four women (26.4 percent) aged 15-49 have experienced some form of violence perpetrated by their spouse. Spousal violence is the most common form of violence experienced by women in this age range. The study surveyed 25,000 women. 

Hontiveros says she has spent time listening to advocates for divorce and hearing their stories. She describes the people she’s met with as “people who have exhausted all means to make their marriage work, been a subject of physical abuse, have gone through trauma from emotional abuse & infidelity or just want the best for their children.” 

We Don’t Want ‘Las Vegas Style’ Divorce

Senate Majority Leader Juan Miguel Zubiri says he is open to discussing the bills advocating for divorce, but he doesn’t want to see the Philippines embrace “American-style divorce, like being married in Las Vegas and after a short while you file for divorce.” Zubiri admits there is a cultural hang-up over the word divorce and feels if the discussion were framed differently, it might gain more support in the Senate. “There is more probability or possibility of support if it is not called divorce or we’re not talking of divorce but we’re talking of dissolution of marriage,” he said.

Many evangelical leaders in the United States agree that sometimes divorce is the only option left to those who find themselves in unhealthy marriages. Perhaps because divorce has been legal in the United States for quite some time, the debate in the church has been able to cover more ground, including what Jesus thought about divorce, when it is appropriate, and when it is just selfish. Almost everyone agrees when abuse is involved, divorce is necessary. These leaders would agree that a “Las Vegas” approach to marriage and divorce is just irresponsible.

Hontiveros says she is not against marriage. The politician says she believes in and supports the institution of marriage and insists “I, myself was happily married.” Hontiveros does not see her bill as an attack against marriage or the family, rather she believes it will give Filipinos, especially women and children, second chances “to turn the page and live good and happy lives.”

5 Meaningful Ways to Surprise Kids This Week

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We love to surprise kids in our family. Every family has their “secret sauce.” You know, the stuff that makes family life fun and enjoyable. And it’s different for every family.

In our family, some of the things that we’ve found that our kids enjoy the most are sharing good food, spending quality time together, and watching movies. However, something else that we’ve realized is that our kids love is when we do things spontaneously that are out of the ordinary. We surprise kids.

One of our kids recently said these words, “I love it when we do things together that are unexpected.” And so, we try to incorporate some of those unexpected, yet meaningful things into our family life. Sometimes this may be a surprise trip into town for the night, or this may simply be taking one of our family theme nights and giving it a special twist.

There are things that your kids love about your family life too. One of those things is when you do meaningful things for them or with them that are out of the ordinary. Here are a few ideas to consider trying this week to surprise your kids:

Surprise kids by writing them an encouraging letter and mailing it to them.

Kids love to receive mail, because in the mind of a child, mail is an “adult” thing. And when they receive mail that’s specifically addressed to them containing encouraging content, it can be very meaningful. Maybe even consider writing this letter anonymously. They definitely will not be expecting it, but I guarantee you that they will remember it.

Surprise kids by taking something routine and making it special.

If your family is going to have an ice cream night this week, turn it into a “family ice cream contest”. Have different members of the family responsible for making someone else’s ice cream sundae with all the fixings and present it to them. Maybe even vote on whose is the best. Or, if it’s family movie night, use a little creativity and turn it into “family fort movie madness”. Build homemade forts out of pillows and blankets and turn your routine movie into a lasting memory. You get the idea, just use your imagination and have fun.

Surprise kids by giving something away, just because.

Whether this is done as a home declutter project, or simply giving away things you’d have otherwise sold, find ways to encourage your child to give something valuable away for free to someone else. Maybe allow them to pick 3 toys they haven’t played with in the last month. Or rather than contributing items to a garage sale, donate them to goodwill or a friend who would be excited to receive them. Maybe encourage them to find ways to earn some extra money, then explore creative ways to give it all away to help others.

Surprise kids by committing one hour of your time to each child this week.

Let your child know a few days in advance that they get to decide what you do, or where you go during this special hour, and you get to go all-in with their plan (this makes it so much more special than just randomly spending time together). They may simply want your undivided attention to to play their favorite board game or one-on-one basketball in the driveway. But if they have a few days to decide, they’re sure to have some great ideas. This can either be a free no-cost hour or you can give them a budget, your choice. Either way, your child will love being the sole focus of your attention.

Surprise kids by praying a blessing over each child.

Prayer is powerful. And parents should regularly pray for their children and with their children. However, something special can happen when a parent intentionally prays over their child, pulling them close, and getting very specific about asking for divine protection and blessing upon their life. There is nothing wrong with bragging on your child to God, and speaking life into your child through prayer. In fact, there is everything right about it.

Which of these 5 meaningful ideas should you try with your kids this week?

This article about ways to surprise kids originally appeared here.

Spiritual Depression: The Dark Night of the Soul

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The dark night of the soul. This phenomenon describes a malady that the greatest of Christians have suffered from time to time. It was the malady that provoked David to soak his pillow with tears. It was the malady that earned for Jeremiah the sobriquet, “The Weeping Prophet.” It was the malady that so afflicted Martin Luther that his melancholy threatened to destroy him. This is no ordinary fit of depression, but it is a depression that is linked to a crisis of faith, a crisis that comes when one senses the absence of God or gives rise to a feeling of abandonment by Him.

Spiritual depression is real and can be acute. We ask how a person of faith could experience such spiritual lows, but whatever provokes it does not take away from its reality. Our faith is not a constant action. It is mobile. It vacillates. We move from faith to faith, and in between we may have periods of doubt when we cry, “Lord, I believe, help Thou my unbelief.”

We may also think that the dark night of the soul is something completely incompatible with the fruit of the Spirit, not only that of faith but also that of joy. Once the Holy Spirit has flooded our hearts with a joy unspeakable, how can there be room in that chamber for such darkness? It is important for us to make a distinction between the spiritual fruit of joy and the cultural concept of happiness. A Christian can have joy in his heart while there is still spiritual depression in his head. The joy that we have sustains us through these dark nights and is not quenched by spiritual depression. The joy of the Christian is one that survives all downturns in life.

In writing to the Corinthians in his second letter, Paul commends to his readers the importance of preaching and of communicating the Gospel to people. But in the midst of that, he reminds the church that the treasure we have from God is a treasure that is contained not in vessels of gold and silver but in what the apostle calls “jars of clay.” For this reason he says, “that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us.” Immediately after this reminder, the apostle adds, “We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies” (2 Cor. 4:7­-10).

This passage indicates the limits of depression that we experience. The depression may be profound, but it is not permanent, nor is it fatal. Notice that the apostle Paul describes our condition in a variety of ways. He says that we are “afflicted, perplexed, persecuted, and struck down.” These are powerful images that describe the conflict that Christians must endure, but in every place that he describes this phenomenon, he describes at the same time its limits. Afflicted, but not crushed. Perplexed, but not in despair. Persecuted, but not forsaken. Struck down, but not destroyed.

So we have this pressure to bear, but the pressure, though it is severe, does not crush us. We may be confused and perplexed, but that low point to which perplexity brings us does not result in complete and total despair. Even in persecution, as serious as it may be, we are still not forsaken, and we may be overwhelmed and struck down as Jeremiah spoke of, yet we have room for joy. We think of the prophet Habakkuk, who in his misery remained confident that despite the setbacks he endured, God would give him feet like hind’s feet, feet that would enable him to walk in high places.

Elsewhere, the apostle Paul in writing to the Philippians gives them the admonition to be “anxious for nothing,” telling them that the cure for anxiety is found on one’s knees, that it is the peace of God that calms our spirit and dissipates anxiety. Again, we can be anxious and nervous and worried without finally submitting to ultimate despair.

This coexistence of faith and spiritual depression is paralleled in other biblical statements of emotive conditions. We are told that it is perfectly legitimate for believers to suffer grief. Our Lord Himself was a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. Though grief may reach to the roots of our souls, it must not result in bitterness. Grief is a legitimate emotion, at times even a virtue, but there must be no place in the soul for bitterness. In like manner, we see that it is a good thing to go to the house of mourning, but even in mourning, that low feeling must not give way to hatred. The presence of faith gives no guarantee of the absence of spiritual depression; however, the dark night of the soul always gives way to the brightness of the noonday light of the presence of God.

This article originally appeared here.

10 Traits of a Healthy Small Group Ministry

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Do you have a healthy small group ministry? You will if you focus on these 10 traits of a healthy small group ministry.

Q: Do you run your small group ministry like a company or a family?

I am currently working on plans to grow and improve the administration side of our small group ministry. While doing research, I discovered the following quote:

“YOUR CHURCH AND YOUR MINISTRY SHOULD BE RUN LIKE A FAMILY, NOT A CORPORATION, GOVERNMENT, OR SCHOOL.”

Steve Gladen in Planning Small Groups With Purpose

It sounds good. But what does it really mean for a small group ministry to be run like a family?

While thinking about the question, an accident occurred while I was making dinner that provided me a clue.

The Spaghetti Sauce Incident

Last Sunday I was making a spaghetti dinner for my wife Kim and me. We were hungry and looked forward to eating soon.

Once the spaghetti sauce was finished, I moved it off the stove. But that’s as far as it moved before it wound up on the floor.

Yes, the cast iron pot hit the floor with a loud noise and 3 quarts (2.8 liters) of spaghetti sauce shot across the kitchen floor!

There were a number of ways my wife could have reacted:

  • Call me clumsy (or worse)
  • Tell me all the things I did wrong
  • Get mad at me for wasting food and delaying dinner

She didn’t react in any of those ways.  How did she respond?

  • She insisted on cleaning up the large mess so I didn’t have to.
  • She reminded me of a time when she did the same thing with a pot of chili when it somehow splattered all the way up to the ceiling.

I felt bad when I messed up our dinner plans.  But through Kim’s response, I was able to get back to making dinner in a short time, while feeling great about what I was doing and who I married.

Kim and I have been married for over 35 years. I love her more now than ever. Her response to the spaghetti sauce incident is just another demonstration that we are a healthy family.

If we want a healthy small group ministry that is run like a family, then we need to consider what a healthy family looks like.

10 Traits of a Healthy Small Group Ministry

The following list contains ten traits that typically belong to healthy families. I believe they also apply to healthy small group ministries.

  1. Commitment to the family (or ministry)
  2. Trusts and respects each other
  3. Open and honest communication (including effective listening)
  4. Puts the others’ needs ahead of their own
  5. Encourages each other
  6. Conflicts resolved quickly and appropriately
  7. Loves God
  8. Spends quality time together
  9. Operates with a minimal set of rules and avoids micro-managing
  10. Looks for ways to always improve

It’s Servant Leadership

Take another look at the list of healthy traits. They are familiar. I’ve come to the conclusion that running a small group ministry like a family requires us to perform as servant leaders.

Families, as well as small group ministries, need to have both a task focus and a relationship focus. But it is easy to get so focused on working the day-to-day tasks that we lose our passion for helping the people we lead and those we need to reach through our ministry.

I am flipping my organizational chart upside down. The primary focus for me and the other leaders will be to support and care for those we lead as they carry out their responsibilities. To do that involves the traits of a healthy family. Jesus provided the perfect example.

“WHOEVER WANTS TO BECOME GREAT AMONG YOU MUST BE YOUR SERVANT… JUST AS THE SON OF MAN DID NOT COME TO BE SERVED, BUT TO SERVE, AND TO GIVE HIS LIFE AS A RANSOM FOR MANY.”

Matthew 20:26, 28 (NIV)

I don’t know if servant leadership is what Steve Gladen had in mind when he wrote about the small group ministry needing to operate like a family. But it is going to make me and my small group ministry better.

What are you doing to run your small group like a family? What do you need to change?

This article about healthy small group ministry originally appeared here.

Scripture Memory: One Encouragement and One Warning

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In my twenties, I spent a lot of time sleeping in camp motel rooms, eating powdered eggs, and leading youth camp worship services. At one such event, I was on stage, getting ready to lead the post-sermon worship, when the camp speaker – Afshin Ziafat – asked the students a question about Scripture memory. Jesus saved Afshin out of a Muslim background, so this is how he phrased the question: “If I was still a Muslim, how many of you could walk on stage and share the Gospel with me, using only the Scripture that you have memorized?” I remember standing behind Afshin and thinking “Lord, please don’t let him call on me.”

Up to this point in my life, I had put a lot of time and effort into my craft. I led worship 3 times per week, I learned how to take care of my voice and project to an audience, I memorized every song on that first Jars of Clay record (even the ones in alternate tunings), but I had not given much time or effort to Scripture memory.

It was in this moment that I felt convicted by the Holy Spirit to devote myself to hiding God’s Word in my heart. From my perspective, this is when my real ministry work began.

One Encouragement: Make Scripture memory part of your daily routine.

My daily to-do list includes three non-negotiables: Bible reading, prayer, and Bible memory. There’s no “day off” to rest FROM these disciplines.

Trust me, I’ve tried that. If I spend my “day off” watching college football, drinking Dr. Pepper, and reading sports blogs, I will end up feeling irritable and restless by the end of the day. The Bible tells me (and experience has shown me) that true rest is found in Jesus (Matthew 11:28), and I encounter Jesus through Scripture memory, so even vacation days and lazy Saturdays should include time spent hiding God’s Word in my heart.

The Bible doesn’t prescribe a method for Scripture memory. It simply encourages us to do it (Psalm 119:11). For me, the “Bible Memory” app has been helpful.

I usually (not always) start my day by reading a passage from a Bible reading plan, and when a verse sticks out during my time of reading, I add it to my Bible Memory app. Then, I simply make sure that I’ve spent time working through the verses that are assigned to me on the app each day. The app makes sure that these verses are in good rotation throughout the year. If I add a verse on Monday, it’ll make sure that I review it a few times that week. If I get the verse correct each time, the app will put it into a weekly rotation (then monthly, then bi-monthly, etc).

Because the app is on my phone, I can use it while waiting on an oil change, during commercial breaks of a basketball game, in moments when I would otherwise be looking at Instagram, etc. I start my day with Bible reading, but this discipline of Bible memory happens throughout the day, whenever the opportunity presents itself.

One Warning: Never quote Scripture for the sake of quoting Scripture.

My first Sunday at the Austin Stone was January 6, 2013. I must have quoted 10 or 15 Scriptures from the stage that day.  Later that week, Aaron Ivey took me out to lunch to share some encouragements with me. He also gave me a critique. In the kindest way possible, Aaron told me that my Scripture quoting was distracting.

What? My Scripture quoting was distracting?

Through Aaron’s gracious feedback and through the conviction of the Holy Spirit, I realized that people walked away from the worship service thinking “wow, that worship leader really knows his Bible verses.” Aaron didn’t say it in those words, but I could sense that this was the case. As a worship pastor, I never want the congregation to walk away thinking about my abilities as a musician, public speaker, Scripture memorizer, etc. I want them to walk away thinking about Jesus, so I should only quote Scripture in such a way that people would leave the service impressed by Jesus.

In response to this conviction, I began to read directly from the Bible during my call to worship. Yes, I could quote the Scripture from memory most Sundays, but who am I trying to impress? I want people to see that I am reading this passage straight from the Word. There are plenty of other ways that Scripture memory can affect my ministry. It comes out in pastoral conversations and prayers. It affects how I think and act and speak to others. Put simply, Scripture memory should make me look more like Jesus. So, there’s no need for me to dramatically quote a large portion of Scripture from memory in front of a large group of people, unless I am convicted by the Holy Spirit to do so.

Even without a public platform to display my Scripture memorization, I can trust that my time spent hiding God’s Word in my heart will not return empty (Isaiah 55:11).

This article about Scripture memory originally appeared here.

Dayton Pastor: The Church Cannot Get Distracted Right Now

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At 1:30 am on Sunday, August 4, 2019, Pastor Charlie Carroll was startled awake by a phone call from one of the members of his church. A gunman had killed nine people in the Oregon district of Dayton, Ohio, just three blocks from City Church, where Carroll is the lead pastor. After praying all night and speaking to congregants and community members over the phone, Carroll faced his congregation the next morning and offered a message to help them process the tragedy they had just witnessed. Now, Carroll has a message for the broader church: We cannot get distracted from our purpose, which is to be the first responders in the battle against evil. 

When shootings such as these happen, Carroll says we quickly gravitate toward conversations that blame “absolutely everything but evil,” and this conversation is actually distracting the church. 

Evil Is to Blame for the Dayton Shooting

Speaking to churchleaders.com, Carroll says whenever shootings such as these happen, the church often gets caught up in the nuances of the tragedy, like arguing about who is to blame and what the government should do to fix it. But Carroll says we need to stop asking what happened and start asking why it happened. That should be an easy answer for the church, considering the Bible tells us over and over again that evil is afoot in our world and that our adversary has come to steal, kill, and destroy. 

The reason these tragedies happen repeatedly, Carroll believes, is because the church gets lured away from its true calling, which is to represent the heart of God to the communities of which they are a part. “Too often we’re allowing culture or political systems to be the tail that wags the dog in the church. The church forfeits an opportunity for influence because we’re not saying ‘here’s how the Lord thinks about this situation.’”

Carroll admits that with his congregation, which is an ethnically and economically diverse group of people who have walked with God for varying amounts of time, he thinks about the possibility of something like this shooting happening in his congregation on a weekly basis. This is the risk one takes when entering into ministry, though. Carroll reasons this reality is similar to what the early believers had to deal with as well. “It’s a liability we have to accept,” he reasons, as we simultaneously lean “into the fact that the Lord is in control.” 

We as the church cannot act as people who have never read Ephesians 6, the passage of Scripture that explains what exactly we’re fighting against. Once again, the conversation around mental health, radicalization, and access to firearms should boil down to the need to stand against the spiritual darkness in our midst. 

“The shooting has made our congregation and our staff very aware of the reality of evil…We hate it…it’s tragic and your heart breaks for all of the victims.” Despite the tragedy, Carroll says “There is so much good happening in our city right now that we understand why some of these things happen.”

Carroll wrote a moving post on Instagram that gives voice to the suffering his community is experiencing.

 

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My heart breaks for the victims and families impacted by today’s shooting in #dayton. This includes the perpetrator and his family. I was reading varying stories from across the country when I saw a picture from an international news source where the perpetrator was deceased, facedown with his hands tied behind his back. I had to hold back tears as I instantly felt grief for his family, specifically his mom and dad, in light of losing both a son and daughter. Oh, how much you’d want to still run to him, to hold him one last time, no matter how horrible an atrocity he had just committed. You see, he, too, was a victim of some sorts. I did not know him but do know enough about childhood trauma to know how internally tormented he must have been to do what he did. Pray. Pray for everyone. Pray that we as a society stop giving so much time and attention to “how” these things happen and instead start searching for a more holistically driven “why” these things happen. Solely my opinion, but we have to stop ignoring evil and start considering the consequences of entertaining ourselves with it, in light of the day and age in which we are living—a day where mental health services are almost impossible to obtain and obsolete to those who need them most, while $3,000,000.00 was just awarded to the winner of a first-person shooter video game. When everything but evil gets entertained as to why this happened, history is doomed to repeat itself. #prayfordayton

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The Local Church Is the Hope of the World

According to Carroll (and several other church leaders), as the local church goes, so goes the community. This applies even more so when we’re faced with a tragedy. 

Carroll thinks of the church as ambassadors that have been given the spirit of God with power and who have been armed with tools such as prayer. “Will the church step up and see itself at the forefront of this battle against evil?” Carroll asks. Instead of getting sucked into the minutia of politics, Carroll says church members should act more like first responders who do their jobs of not only helping the wounded in these battles but also proactively going out to find those, like the person responsible for the Ohio shooting, “in their torment and isolation” to help them heal. And we are uniquely equipped to take on this role, Carroll says, because we’ve been given the same Spirit Jesus was given, which is the Holy Spirit of God

Politics, medicine, and law are all things that are a “direct reflection of the local church,” Carroll says. We have the next engineers, politicians, doctors sitting in our pews, he reasons, and if we can teach them how to respond to these tragedies, we’ll have a better response in the community. 

Not only are we equipping leaders to do their day jobs, the church also has another point of influence in a community: That of modeling how a body functions in a healthy way. “One of the signs of health is that when one part of a body hurts, the other parts hurt with it and compensate for it,” Carroll explains. 

‘Do something about this craziness,’ Pastor Urges

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Among those coping with the aftermath of this weekend’s mass shootings is a Texas pastor and civic leader whose daughter was shot three times. The Rev. Michael Grady spoke to NPR and on Facebook Live about his 33-year-old daughter Michelle Grady, who underwent multiple surgeries after being shot three times “by a madman” while leaving an El Paso Walmart.

“We’re praying for divine intervention,” says Grady, pastor of Prince of Peace Christian Fellowship. “We’re mixing faith and medicine together so that hopefully she will be able to recover.” On social media, a relative posted Sunday evening: “Michelle has successfully made it through her second surgery & is resting up. Thank you for the prayers & healing vibes thus far. Keep it coming!”

“Our communities are devastated”

Twenty-two people were killed and 26 were injured Saturday morning in El Paso when a 21-year-old gunman opened fire on back-to-school shoppers. Officials have labeled the attack domestic terrorism, saying the gunman apparently targeted Hispanics in the border community. At least seven Mexican nationals were among the dead. The gunman, now in custody, faces capital murder charges and possibly the death penalty.

Thirteen hours later, another massacre occurred in Dayton, Ohio, leaving nine dead and 27 injured in a busy restaurant district. The 24-year-old gunman, whose victims included his sister, was killed by police.

Grady, former president of the El Paso chapter of the NAACP, spoke at the hospital Sunday to Domingo Garcia, national president of LULAC (the League of United Latin American Citizens). After giving an update on his daughter’s condition, Grady urged politicians to take action, change their rhetoric, and “do something about this craziness” of gun violence.

“People are terrified,” Grady says. “Our communities are devastated. People are afraid to go into any location where there’s a large group of people. You should be able to go to Walmart and you should be able to move throughout the city and know that you and your loved ones are safe.”

“It’s time for us to do something”

Grady, who’s been a pastor for more than 50 years and served as president of El Paso’s Interdenominational Ministerial Alliance, says Texas Gov. Greg Abbott should call a special legislative session to pass “common-sense gun legislation.”

Saying the El Paso shooting is “indicative of the climate in this nation,” Grady also challenges President Trump to step up. “You have created an environment that’s hostile,” the pastor says. “People are angry…and they believe you’ve given them permission to act out of their aggression and their anger. I hope that you will change your rhetoric and do something that’s going to change our nation and bring people together instead of divide.”

Grady says he’ll be contacting local religious leaders to participate in a march planned for next Saturday. “El Paso is not going to lay down and settle for this kind of carnage. We’re going to come together in unity, in friendship, and in fellowship, and we’re going to make a difference,” he says. “We need to stand together in unity and confront this hate.”

Ladies with Special Needs Have a ‘Magical’ Time at 7th Miss Beautiful Pageant

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Seventeen girls and women with special needs were celebrated last Saturday at the 7th annual Miss Beautiful Pageant in Chattanooga, Tennessee. The event is similar to Tim Tebow’s Night to Shine, and more than 80 volunteers helped to make the ladies feel loved. 

“All the participants will have their hair, nails, and makeup done so it’s a lot of fun. People dedicate their whole day to make it happen,” Caitlyn Gobble, the event’s founder, told Channel 3 WRCBtv

Miss Beautiful

The Miss Beautiful Pageant started in 2013, and this year’s event was held on the evening of August 3rd at East Brainerd Church of Christ. The minimum age for being a participant is five years old, but there is no maximum age limit, and Gobble said she thought the oldest participant this year was 48. It’s normal for there to be around 80 volunteers to help make the event, not just possible, but a “magical experience.”

Each girl or woman who participates in the Miss Beautiful Pageant is paired with a female  “buddy of the day” who stays with the participant throughout the event and helps with anything she needs. During the first part of the pageant, volunteers help the participants get ready by doing their hair, nails and make-up. “They love it, getting all dolled up is their favorite part,” Gobble told WRCB. 

This year, not only did the participants get the chance to be pampered, but their mothers did as well. “Pageant momma’s, you deserve to be pampered too!!” said the pageant’s Facebook page, noting this was possible because a local business had offered to donate its services.

After getting ready, the participants have dinner and then travel to the church by limo hired at Charter Bus Tampa FL. When they arrive, people are waiting outside, clapping and cheering for them. Said Gobble, “When they step out of that limo and have a huge audience of people who are cheering for them and yelling for them– I think it hits them that wow– all those people are here for me– they are cheering for me.”

The main part of the pageant consists of the “Beauty Walk,” where each participant walks with an escort down a pink carpet. Then if they want, participants can take part in a talent show, which can include sign language, dancing and singing. Gobble said, “Some are really shy at first but just seeing them branch out and open up is really beautiful.” At the end of the pageant, each participant is awarded a title. 

The Miss Beautiful website says, “Since the beginning, it has always been our goal to provide an atmosphere where differences are not only loved, but appreciated.” This seems to be exactly what is happening. Regarding the 2018 Miss Beautiful Pageant, one mom said, “I have never seen my girls loved on SO well before.”

Russell Moore Exclusive: How to Pastor After the Shootings

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Editor’s Note: This video and article were originally published in February 2018, just after the Parkland, Florida school shooting. After the cluster of shootings the United States has recently experienced, our editorial team thought it would be helpful to revisit Russell Moore’s thoughts on pastoring in an age of shootings.


As churches gather to worship God on Sunday, just days after 17 died in a school shooting in Parkland, Florida, pastors will be struggling with what to tell their congregations.

In an exclusive interview for ChurchLeaders, Russell Moore, president of the Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission, advises church leaders not to give in to the temptation of easily explaining away evil or where God was as a gunman killed innocent teenagers.

Speaking to Maina Mwaura, Moore recommends pastors take the same approach to evil as Scripture that talks about the mystery of iniquity. Moore said, “God doesn’t give us the reason why he permitted that to happen or why it seems that God is silent… There are so many times that God’s own prophets are saying, ‘God where are you, you seem to be silent.’” Instead, Moore suggests pastors let their congregants take time to grieve and lament.  

But in the midst of their sorrow, Moore says to remind them that God is sovereign and just and one day will deal with evil once and for all.

Moore also believes that in this tragedy there is an opportunity for the church. He thinks it’s very possible that unbelievers will attend churches this Sunday to see how people are processing the senseless violence.

He tells of a friend who pastored a church in a town with another shooting. He invited everyone, believer and unbeliever, to attend the Sunday after the violence. In the service, pastors laid hands on and prayed over everyone who came. It presented an opportunity for ongoing ministry with people the church had never interacted with before.

Still, the question “why?” will persist.

Moore answers, “We live in a fallen world where things are not as they are supposed to be. I turn directly to the cross to show that God is not distant from this evil. He took that upon himself. Jesus also said this is the kind of world you’re in now. The spirit causes us to groan at the world around us.” 

Moore says this is the type of tragic event that brings the reality of evil to light for almost everyone, believer and unbeliever alike. For Christians we can say, “This is not how it’s supposed to be,” and Moore says that truth is one that needs to be shared with the culture at large.

Russell Moore is not alone in his advice to pastors addressing the shooting in their congregations this weekend.

How Doubting God Made My Faith Strong

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Doubting God in the end made my faith strong. Here’s why.

Growing up, I loved God. And I loved my church. I could see God at work there, and I could see that I was part of that work, part of the community. And then I got to high school, where I learned about evolution for the first time. Up until this point, I believed evolution was just a fringe theory that a guy named Darwin came up with after spending a little too much time alone with his thoughts on a tropical island. But when I learned about it in biology and religion classes, I was surprised by how strong the evidence for evolution was. And after reading up on it a little more, I ended up deciding that, yeah, I believed in evolution.

Believe it or not, that decision was the easy part. Because once I accepted evolution, I had to figure out where it fit into my faith. And that led to doubting God.

Evolution Led to Me Doubting God

The evolutionary version of the creation story is slow and messy and complicated—a tangled web of species both brought to life and killed off by a series of genetic detours and diversions. I knew God was a scientist just as much as an artist. But this process seemed wasteful and even cruel. Why would God, who is supposed to be all about standing up for the least of these, use a creation process that is based on survival of the fittest, the strongest?

As I struggled to put the pieces together, a thought crept into my head that I had never dared entertain before: What if the reason that none of this seemed to fit together was that there was no God? What if the world as we know it really did just come out of a big bang and natural selection? A world without God terrified me. It was no accident that I had always refused to consider the possibility before. But once I allowed that thought in, I was too scared that it was true to forget about it.

Doubting God Gave Me Fear-Tinted Glasses

I started to see everything through fear-tinted glasses that magnified the things that said, you’re right to have doubts, and distorted the rest of the picture. I was so afraid of losing my faith that I gave doubt everything it needed to grow in my heart.

I prayed. I read my Bible. But once I put those fear-tinted glasses on, it was like they were permanently adhered to my face. Eventually, something in my prayer or in Scripture would spark a new doubt or a new question I couldn’t answer. And I’d be surrounded by a sea of doubt, clinging to a mustard seed to keep my head above water.

For some people, this would be the part of the story where you confide in someone. Where you face the fact that you’re in the middle of a faith crisis, and you really need help.

But not me. Raising me and my siblings to love and serve God was my mom and dad’s number one goal as parents. I could have told them that I was going to be a teen mom or that I wanted to drop out of high school, that I crashed their car, or that I planned to permanently tattoo tiger stripes on my face. And they probably would have been upset, but eventually, they would have said, Well at least she’s still got her faith. 

And it wasn’t just my parents. Everyone around me seemed so sure of God; they didn’t seem to be doubting God. I didn’t think they would understand my doubts. And more than that, I didn’t want to disappoint them.

Instead, I came up with my own doubt eradication plan. I thought that if I could just manage to put the evolutionary and biblical creation stories together—to answer those questions that started this journey into doubt—the doubt would go away. And then nobody would have to know.

So I started researching. I found science and religion professors from Calvin who wrote about creation from an evolutionary perspective. And I actually read their academic papers in my spare time. As a 17-year-old. Which should give you an idea of how desperate I was for answers.

And in a way, I found answers. I learned that there were theologically sound ways to bring science into the creation story, ways that enriched the story instead of diminishing God’s role in it. And using what I learned, I was able to start rebuilding my creation theology.

What I wasn’t able to do was get rid of my doubts.

Now that I had questioned one part of my faith and discovered there was more to the story, everything seemed to be a little less sturdy. So I started this cycle where I would build this delicate tower of faith up, and then I’d come up with a question I couldn’t account for, and the whole thing would collapse on me. I’d have to rebuild my faith all over again.

This cycle continued into college, and along the way, I covered all the Doubting Thomas greatest hits: Why does God allow suffering? Why does God only answer some prayers? How come Christians don’t seem to act much like Christians?

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