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7 Ways Leaders Waste Valuable Time and Energy

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Wasting time and energy may be one of my biggest pet peeves as a leader. Some days I leave work and feel I never got off the proverbial treadmill. It’s physically and mentally draining.

Does it ever feel like you are wasting valuable time and energy?

It can be frustrating to feel your most valuable commodity—time—has been wasted or you invested good energy on the wrong things.

I firmly believe when we get rid of some common drains on our time and energy we can dramatically improve our performance as leaders. With this in mind, I’ve observed, in my own personal development, some ways to eliminate time and energy wasters.

Here are seven ways this leader wastes time and energy:

Focusing too much attention on the naysayers.

I have found worrying over what critics are saying, especially the ones I have learned I will likely never make happy, delays progress and takes time and energy from me. Plus, it only detracts my focus from the positive people who believe in the vision and are supportive. Every decision a leader makes will make some happy and some unhappy.

I need to be humble, make sure I’m not making decisions alone, and filter through the constructive criticism I need to hear, but then give my best attention to moving forward.

(Oh, how I need to read my own thoughts every Monday morning.)

Refusing to delegate.

When I make every decision, or become too controlling as a leader, I rob myself and our team of valuable extra time and energy a talented team could have provided. I feel overwhelmed more quickly, the team feels under-appreciated and we all fail to accomplish as much as we should.

Sometimes it seems easier to simply do things myself. And, it may actually be easier in the short run, but it’s never the wisest decision long-term.

Second guessing decisions.

Sometimes I can wear myself out wrestling over a decision—even though I know I’ve covered all the bases I can. When I have prayed, sought wise counsel and followed my gut, it’s often best just to make the decision.

If I’m wrong, I find it is better to work to make better decisions moving forward rather than being timid about my next decision or living in a pity party of the bad ones already made.

Plus, the opportunity cost is huge when I take too long to make a decision.

Trying to have all the ideas.

Many leaders feel they have to be the originator of all the creativity of a team. Some do it it of pride and some mistakenly believe it’s what a leader must do. They waste time brainstorming alone and the energy created by expanding the creative process.

Consequently, the best ideas often never surface. Original thoughts, better than ours, are usually in the room or the organization if we will welcome them to the table.

Opening the process of discovery to other people also preserves my time and energy for more efficient uses and allows me to concentrate on things only I can do.

Living with bad systems and structures.

Let’s face reality. Over time, rules take on a life of their own. What was once created to improve efficiency actually begins to slow progress and waste valuable time. Plus, bad structure is an energy-drainer.

Change the rules, and, if possible, drop them. We need healthy guidelines, but the fewer restrictions we place on people the better they can perform and you often free up valuable space for people to actually enjoy their work. Morale boosters are always good for productivity.

Disorganization.

Many leaders feel overwhelmed because they don’t have good organizational skills. Learning how to better handle routine tasks such as processing emails, calendaring and scheduling work flow each week will drastically improve time efficiency and energy to do more work.

Knowing this, I tried to begin each day with a checklist of “must do” activities. I take time to plan out my week. I work from a pre-determined schedule, as much as possible. Sometimes, I will stop everything I’m doing just to take a mental break and organize my life. This may include something as simple as cleaning my desk, as well. It has also proven valuable that I learn the importance of the word NO and use it.

Being organized helps handle interruptions, which naturally come for all of us.

Completing tasks which prove unhelpful to my overall productivity.

This could be any number of things. Even reading a book, for example. Perhaps a silly example, but I have discovered sometimes I can read too much. It may sound strange, but really it’s because I read things I didn’t need to read. I start a book and within the first chapter I know it’s not helpful, or even enjoyable, but my sense of completion wants to finish. It would be better to put it aside and pick up another book.

Take a novel length email. I receive them often. I try to determine first if I’m the one who should respond. Many times I’m not, and I know it before I read and try to process it completely. The sooner I pass it on to someone more suitable the less time I waste.

It could be attending a meeting or supervising a project. Whatever it is—if I am not the best person for the job or it is just a time or energy waster—the sooner I say no or hand off the task, the more time and energy I preserve for other tasks I should be doing.

What time or energy wasters have you seen in leadership?

This article originally appeared here.

5 Do’s and Dont’s to Help Christian Leaders Guard Their Sexual Purity

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As a traveling evangelist I’m on the road…a lot. With all the headlines of Christian influencers, Hollywood actors and political leaders falling morally I’m reminded again and again of the importance of relentlessly guarding my sexual purity.

Over the years I’ve developed a short list of five do’s and don’ts that help me do just that. Perhaps this list will help you as well.

DO: Have trusted friends hold you accountable and ask tough questions.

Zane BlackDoug Holliday and Dave Gibson are three ministry leaders who hold me accountable and have carte blanche to ask me any question at any time (and they often do!). These questions can range from my thought life to road habits to marriage strength to time spent with God to whatever. They ask me hard questions and I ask them. We are sworn to secrecy and honesty.

As James 5:16 reminds us, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” This verse doesn’t tell us to confess all our sins to everyone but we should have at least some fellow believers who know all of our struggles and can help us walk in moral and sexual purity.

DON’T: Be stupid and put yourself in a situation that can lead to a situation.

From driving in a car with a member of the opposite sex alone to other traveling/counselling protocols, I’m pretty meticulous about whatever situation I’m in. Why? Because innocent situations can lead to tempting situations pretty darn quickly!

I once asked my friend Danny Oertli (a fellow frequent traveler) if he had ever been a situation where he was tempted to compromise with someone. He said no. Then he said something I’ll never forget. He said, “I think the guys who get into those kinds of situations want to get into those kinds of situations.

I agree.

DO: Cultivate a closer and closer relationship with your spouse.

If you’re married (not all Christian leaders are) then make sure you are growing closer and closer to your spouse on every level (spiritually, emotionally and physically). Oftentimes moral falls are preceded by marriage fails, with disillusioned spouses looking for love in all the wrong places.

Marriage is like a dance. Some are waltzes and others are tangos. My marriage has always been a tango with both of us battling to lead (“You lead. No I lead. Now dance!“). This led to our first several years of marriage being, shall we say, a bad night on the dance floor. But now our marriage is more like Arnold and Jamie Lee at the end of True Lies. And the dance is working because, for 27 years we have been working at it.

I can honestly say that I’m closer to my wife now than ever before and my wife can say the same thing about me (I just asked her!). A marriage that lasts keeps moving in the right direction and becomes stronger over the years, lessening the possibility of a moral meltdown.

DON’T: Trust too much in the rules above to keep you from moral failure.

I’ll never forget when I was a young pastor at a church in Denver and running what was then a brand new ministry, Dare 2 Share. Somebody paid for me to go to a small pastors conference in Colorado Springs. Little did I know that God would use this conference, and the man speaking at it, to impact my life in a big way.

The speaker was an expert at counseling struggling pastors. He had shepherded hundreds of spiritual shepherds from all across America, many of whom had fallen into sexual immorality of some sort or another. He was at this conference to help pastors fight against the insidious enemy called “lust” and to preserve the integrity of their lives and the pulpits they preach from on a weekly basis.

After he was introduced, he took the podium and asked the question, “How many of you pastors have some sort of boundaries when it comes to counseling members of the opposite sex? For instance, you won’t counsel a woman alone or with the door of your office shut or something like that?”

I looked around the auditorium of 200 or so pastors to see 200 or so hands raised. Mine was raised too. I had always taken measures as a young, married pastor to make sure I was never in a situation where temptation could overtake me or that, well, just plain looked bad. And I was in good company. The men of God who surrounded me were just as concerned with their own personal piety and purity as I was.

That’s why I was shocked and rocked to hear the speaker say, “I’ve counseled hundreds of pastors all across America who have fallen into sexual sin, and every single one of them had safeguards and boundaries in place.” It felt like the speaker had taken a stun gun and shot us all square in the chest. Even the crickets were convicted and quiet.

He continued, “Here’s the problem gentlemen, you can have all the safeguards you want. You can choose not to counsel a woman alone and refuse to be in a car by yourself with a member of the opposite sex. But LUST WILL PICK A LOCK. Lust will find a way to work around the safeguard and feed its ravenous hunger for satisfaction.” 

Have your do’s and don’ts, but don’t trust in them. As Colossians 2:20-23 reminds us, “Since you died with Christ to the basic principles of this world, why, as though you still belonged to it, do you submit to its rules: ‘Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!’? These are all destined to perish with use, because they are based on human commands and teachings. Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom, with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.”

The “Don’t rules” do not and cannot rule over lust. As a matter of fact “they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.” If anything these rules become an aphrodisiac which makes the temptation at hand even harder to resist.
DO: Depend on the Holy Spirit moment by moment day after day.

So what is our hope in being victorious over lust if safeguards can’t ultimately provide it? Colossians 3:1-2 provides the answer, “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”

Sure, lust will pick a lock, but the power of God via the Holy Spirit is available to us when we rivet our eyes onto the resurrected and enthroned Christ. As we learn to walk in a moment by moment declaration of dependence on the Holy Spirit we’ll have the strength we need to walk in victory over sexual sin.

I still won’t counsel a woman alone. Nor will I drive in a car alone with a member of the opposite sex. And, by God’s grace, I’m working to make my marriage stronger and stronger. But I refuse to put my trust in these safeguards to keep me from giving into sexual compromise. Only Jesus is strong enough to do that.

Let’s refuse to become another devastating headline and choose to finish our race well!

This article originally appeared here.

3 Leadership Cop-Outs That Sound Spiritual, but Aren’t

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You might be surprised how common leadership cop-outs for Christian leaders.

I often hear from people who say “We don’t any need more ideas/strategies/conferences/skills…all we need to do is ________,” and then they fill in the blank with something that sounds spiritual.

Maybe you have people like that at your church, or someone like that on your team.

It’s amazing how common this perspective is.

You know the drill. Every time you suggest, “Why don’t we try reformatting our services/changing our kids ministry/reaching out into the community” they shoot back with “what we really need to do is just pray” (or “what we really need to do is get back to the Bible…”) as though that settled the discussion.

Sometimes, of course, it’s not other people who have the problem. Maybe you’ve fallen for a leadership cop-out too—dodging the real issue by putting a spiritual mask over it.

Can it be that something that sounds so spiritual can actually stop some very spiritual work?

Well, yes. The answer is yes. In the name of God, some people end up opposing the work of God. And it’s all done in the most holy-sounding way.

No More Leadership Cop-Outs

Here are three leadership cop-outs that sound spiritual, but aren’t.

1. Leadership Cop-Outs: All We Need to Do Is Pray About It

This sounds so good. After all, how can prayer be a BAD thing?

I mean how are you supposed to counter that? It puts you or anyone around you in a horribly awkward position.

If you disagree, you sound like you’re coming out against prayer.

If you agree, you’ve just mothballed any productive strategy conversations.

I mean who really wants to come out against prayer? Not me. Not you.

And so, not sure what to do, we shut down the leadership conversation and all the potential that comes with it.

Prayer alone can become a smokescreen. Why? Because while prayer is foundational, God almost always moves people to do something.

3 Things That Will Make Your Kids Feel Better Than Taking Selfies

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Reactionary parenting is sometimes all we’ve got.
With culture changing SO RAPIDLY all around us, it’s so hard to stay in front of where our children are going.
The snowball rolling down the mountain that is social media isn’t going to slow down. It’s not. And you know what? It’s OK.
You don’t have to know the difference between an Insta and a Finsta.
Our kids are going to understand it better than us in no time.
And many of them do already.
We don’t have to understand the technology better than they do.
We simply have to understand THEM.

Here Are Three Keys to Making Your Kids Feel Better Than a Selfie.

  1. Be Their First Selfie Like.
    Selfies. What a freaking Love/Hate relationship we have with them.
    Post a picture of yourself and have the world tell you how beautiful you are…
    Feels Amazing…
    PRESTO…Selfie Magic
    I do it. But only at the right angle.
    Your tween is gonna do it.
    Your teen is gonna do it.
    Honestly, your 8-year-old is gonna do it cause they see YOU do it.
    They are going to pucker their lips or crooked smile.
    They want to be beautiful.
    So you know what I do?
    I HELP my daughter take them.
    I take them with her.
    I tell her how gorgeous she is.
    I tell her when I think a pic may be inappropriate.
    I tell her that by making that one face, maybe people will think she is being sexy.
    I tell her by making that other face, people will think her smile is gorgeous.
    I tell her that she should not be ashamed of how beautiful she is and to make sure that she is using her beauty to make other people feel beautiful.
    I tell her that her beauty has the potential to help or hurt the world.
    She is responsible to match her outer beauty to her inner one.
    And when they do post that inappropriate selfie… DON’T FREAK OUT.
    Take them on a date, wrap them in love, and talk to them about it over a scone and latte as opposed to a text message.
  2. Show Off Their Guts
    Use YOUR FEED to talk about how beautiful they are on the INSIDE.
    It’s so easy to fill our posts up with beautiful pictures of our kids and their over the top hipster outfits.
    We dress Losiah to the nines. It’s OK.
    But make sure that when they read your feed, it is not just showing off beautiful pictures of them.
    Talk about WHO they are more than WHAT they are.
    If your kids can’t read yet…they WILL be able to read.
    And when they do…
    Let them know how amazing they are INSIDE and out.
  3. Stop Selfie Shame
    We work out so that people compliment our physique.
    We wear certain outfits so that people notice our style.
    We filter our sunset pictures so that people think it looked better than it actually did.
    We have been taking selfies for years…we just weren’t calling them selfies.
    Awareness is always the key.
    It’s not a stretch to say that most people who have more selfies in their timelines than anything else are seeking to be emotionally filled because they are lacking that in real life.
    It’s OBVIOUS people. (I talk about this in my upcoming book.)
    When I look at my 2011 Instagram timeline it was OBVIOUS I was in a sad place.
    More airport bathroom selfies than a bathroom selfie runway model.
    But just because one posts a selfie DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE SUFFERING FROM A LACK OF SELF-WORTH.
    A few here and there are just fine.
    For the love, if you feel good, and look good, SHOW ME!
    Give your kids a selfie hammer to put up the right images as opposed to a jackhammer to destroy all their images.
    It’s better that way…

This article originally appeared here.

Stepping Into the Unknown

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Have you noticed that God often calls us to face stepping into the unknown and the uncomfortable?

Why do you think He does that?

Because our character is more important to God than our comfort, and we grow best when we are counting on Him and leaning on Him the most.

The critical question is this: When faced with something hard or even scary, what will you do?

Being comfortable is a pretty high value for most of us. Most people are not risk takers by nature. Many people like routine, security and functioning within their comfort zones.

But again, our faith and obedience are far more important to God than our comfort because when we step out in faith, that’s when amazing things can happen.

A Heritage of Stepping Into the Unknown

In Genesis 12:1-7, there’s an incredible story of Abram (who later became Abraham) being called by God into the unknown and unfamiliar. The most important verse in this passage is verse four where it says, “Abram went, as the Lord had told him.”

Abram said yes to God and models for us a faith that we are to emulate.

Of course it’s always easier to live in a comfort zone).

By the way, God didn’t give Abram a lot of information. He just said, “Go…and I will lead you!” And Abram did what God asked him to do. That’s faith.

Here’s how the Word defines faith:

  • Faith).
  • Faith is obeying even when you don’t understand (Hebrews 11:8).

Faith is believing and obeying no matter what the costs and no matter what the risks.

Nope. It’s not an easy way to live, but it is God’s way.

Some Churches Should Die and Stay Dead

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Sometimes churches die, and sometimes they should.

As shocking as this may be, the death of a church might be the best thing that could happen for the sake of the gospel within a given community.

Churches are not meant to be mere holding tanks for folks who remember “the good old days,” and if they cannot or will not fulfill their purpose, they don’t need to exist.

Don’t misread me here. Not every struggling church needs to die. Some churches go through rough spots and come out stronger on the other side.

Many that appear to be in their winter years can be revitalized and become effective again through leadership changes or, more likely, through a powerful move of God that stirs their affections and motivates them to love and good deeds. Revitalization happens and should happen more.

Many struggling churches in their twilight years, however, face issues that may have a chokehold on them spiritually, financially and/or relationally. In these cases, it may be best to, as graciously as possible, close the doors.

Many churches just need to close. And for many that feels like a failure.

What if Death and Replanting are Connected?

But what if, instead of merely closing the doors and walking away, there was another way? What if there could be a changing of the guard? What if, in the fertile composting soil of the dead church, a new, healthier church could be birthed to pick up the mantle of gospel work the first had begun?

Replanting is a healthy approach to dealing with a dying congregation, and it should be considered as churches find themselves facing death. I’ve written on replanting before here, but today I’d like to quickly discuss what healthy replanting might look like, since it’s becoming a more common practice.

Keep in mind that much of what follows will need to be worked out well in advance before a replant actually happens. Replanting does not happen overnight—at least healthy replanting doesn’t.

Don’t try to force it, but do consider pursuing it.

Here are some short ideas.

First, Create a New Identity.

A new church will need a new identity so the community will know it’s a new church. You see, they’ve already decided the old church was not for them. They may decide the same thing about the new church. However, a new identity is a new opportunity for engagement.

Also, those who come to the replanted church also need to know that they are part of something new.

If you’ll allow me to get a little biblical: You can’t put new wine in an old wineskin.

There must be definitive and purposeful separation between the old and the new. As a general rule, I would say that anything having to do with the former congregation—except the building—needs to be begin anew, even if only for a time.

The new church will be moving in a different direction, doing different things and, hopefully, seeing different results. Continuing with the same name, though it could have some historical significance in the area, will add baggage to an already difficult proposition.Developing a new identity starts with a new name. And a new pastor coming into the area who will have a vision for reaching the community. (If there is no new vision, what’s the point of closing anyway?)

How to Face Tough Conversations

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It’s natural to avoid a tough moment, an awkward conversation or difficult decision.

Nobody likes the stress, pain and pressure of courageous leadership—in the moment.

However, most of us can recount times where we fretted for dozens of hours or weeks or even months of stress, attempting to delay or avoid taking responsibility for a leadership conversation that must occur.

It may have been that moment you had to let someone go. Or you were walking into a tension filled meeting. Perhaps you had to tell someone they would not receive the funding they wanted, or the promotion they desired. Maybe it was time to declare the new vision you had in your heart. We all know those moments.

When a leader refuses to take responsibility in a tough moment, he or she loses leadership. If you do that often enough, over time, you will no longer be the leader. The person who will step up becomes the leader.

Sleepless nights can be replaced with one tough conversation. It’s not easy, but it needs to happen.

We avoid tough conversations for natural and normal reasons. Fears and insecurities are in the mix. We love people. We don’t want to hurt or disappoint anyone. But in the big picture far more harm is done by not rising to the leadership need of the moment.

Most churches are one tough call away from a breakthrough. That always involves at least one difficult moment.

It’s also true that making that tough call and having a tough conversation can be the door for a personal breakthrough for the leader him or herself.

3 guidelines to help you prepare for the tough conversation:

1) Learn the power of one sentence.

When we’re anxious about delivering a difficult decision or having a confrontational conversation we tend to over-talk. We talk all around the core of the topic. We end up not being direct enough to accomplish the desired results.

In the vast majority of those tough moments, the heart of the entire situation is delivered in one sentence.

You may need a long conversation to process that sentence, but it’s delivered in those few but powerful words. When you have the conversation in reverse, meaning talk for a long time and maybe get to the bottom line at the end, or miss it altogether, the moment and desired result is lost.

Know exactly what your one sentence is. Write it down. Practice saying it if you need to. Don’t beat around the bush, flower it up and unintentionally dodge the bullet. Clarity is essential. Just say it.

Never deliver the message fueled by emotion.

2) Understand the secret behind the moment.

It’s not really a secret, but we don’t talk about this very often. When you try to power up and power through tough moments on your own, you overdo it and mess it up.

The “secret” is in the preparation, and involves how you engage God.

A) Stillness before God.
If you’re a bit like me, you’re on the go. You have little time and so you process fast. I’ve learned that if I’m not still before God long enough to gain His mind and heart on the issue at hand, it’s not going to go well.

Taking that invaluable time to be quiet before God, and seeking his voice is essential to this process.

Sometimes I’ll just sit in my prayer room with a great cup of tea, quiet before God. I have 3×5 cards that I write notes on as I pray. It’s not like an audible voice, but the stillness before God results in peace and confidence that is core to preparation.

B) Conviction is the non-negotiable foundation.
Stillness before God is required to gain the conviction that you are doing the right thing. Wise counsel from trusted insiders is always helpful, but if you are the leader, and you are delivering the message, you need personal conviction.

This doesn’t guarantee you’ll never make a mistake; great leaders still make mistakes. Perfect outcomes are not part of the equation in any of these moments.

The intent is to know you are doing the right thing, according to what you believe God is saying to you.

When you have conviction, you are ready. When you possess resolve in your heart and mind, you are ready. Now you can deliver the sentence and have the conversation without angst.

3) Measure your outcome by inner peace, not outer perfection.

As I mentioned, outcomes are never guaranteed. The other person or group etc. can choose their response. But when you enter into a tough conversation with inner peace, the potential for great result increases exponentially.

When you are clear, and at peace with before God, you have done your best and need to leave the outcomes to Him.

When you enter in unsure, you will not likely gain the results you want.

The longer I lead, the more I understand that the core of leadership is in these conversations. These are the defining moments that shape the trajectory of your leadership and the ministry of your church.

This article originally appeared here.

Once an Orphan, “I Can Only Imagine” Movie Producer Brings the Gospel to the Big Screen

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Joe Knopp didn’t grow up anywhere NEAR Hollywood, and yet his life story sounds like something out of a screenwriter’s wildest dreams. Sent to an orphanage at age seven, Joe was a product of “the system.” Statistics say his adult life should have been dismal, but God said something entirely different: Joe would have a life he never could have imagined. So the fact that Joe is now one of the producers of the Hollywood film I Can Only Imagine is particularly fitting, and screams “Divine Intervention.”

I Can Only Imagine, starring Dennis Quaid and J. Michael Finley, tells the story behind MercyMe’s double-platinum hit song that was a favorite on Christian and secular charts alike. Finley plays songwriter Bart Millard, and Quaid plays Millard’s abusive dad. It’s a “behind the music”-style story that will leave viewers even more inspired by the song than they already are, but the message of redemption rings true for producer Joe Knopp in a different way.

For producer Joe Knopp, I Can Only Imagine reflects his own redemption story, too.

Knopp was born in Philadelphia, the youngest of three siblings (he has two older sisters). His parents’ violent marriage came to an end when Joe was just five years old. Police took him, his sisters and his mom to safety, and Joe never saw his father again. Unlike Bart Millard and his dad in I Can Only Imagine, Knopp would never be able to reconcile with his own dad. Years later when he tried to find him, Joe discovered he had long been deceased.

I Can Only Imagine

Although Joe and his older sisters went to live with his mom, she was unstable and never able to properly care for them; the three Knopp siblings were essentially on their own. Then, when Joe was about seven, church became a part of his story: His sisters discovered a local church where they could get a free meal of donuts and orange juice on Sundays. Week after week the three siblings showed up to be fed, and eventually, they caught the eye of a church member who could tell something wasn’t right about the situation. He tracked down their mom and got her permission to take the three kids to an orphanage that was run as a Christian mission. Most kids, Joe says, lived there for just a year or two while their parents got it together. It wasn’t supposed to be a long-term situation.

But the Knopps were not “most kids” and their mom never got it together. They all lived there until they graduated high school, much older than the rest of the kids on the grounds. As it became clear that they were staying until adulthood, the orphanage struggled to figure out what to do with the siblings. Eventually, the orphanage made a little apartment for them on campus so that they could at least live with each other family-style, even though they did not have parents.

Fortunately, regular church service was a part of life at the orphanage, and it was there as a child that Joe finally found a Father who would never abandon him. He surrendered his heart to Christ, and though he didn’t know it, his life now had a defined path and purpose. When he was 18, he was sent off into the world with good grades, a high school diploma and a faith in Christ.

Like Bart Millard in the I Can Only Imagine movie, it seemed that the odds in life were stacked against Joe Knopp—but at 18, the redemption of his parentless childhood was just beginning. Though he got into college, Joe left campus when he realized that just buying his books and parking his car for a month would take literally every penny he had. God, he says, guided him to the local Air Force recruiting office, where he signed up, knowing that the military would give him a home as well as an education.

God’s hand on Joe’s life began to bear fruit in noticeable ways. Amazingly, the boy who grew up without a family was soon able to create a stable one of his own. While assigned to the Wright-Patterson Air Force Base in Ohio, he acquired both a wife, Angie, and a degree—in finance. After leaving the military, Joe started a successful financial planning business of his own and he and Angie had three kids, who unlike Joe, would grow up with a loving and present father and mother and a stable, safe roof over their heads.

After many profitable years in financial planning, God’s plans for Joe’s life took him in a startling new direction when he was asked by a friend to help secure finances for faith-based movies. A new career was born, and the orphaned kid from Philly was now a Hollywood movie producer. The film he’s producing, I Can Only Imagine, is a remarkable full-circle sign that God had his hand on Joe’s life from day one. Because who could imagine that Joe would overcome childhood trauma to even be a stable adult, much less one who brings powerful stories of God’s love to millions of people through film?

Now, Joe and his colleagues hope to use the power and beauty of STORY in I Can Only Imagine to help others see that we can ALL be a part of God’s story if we will just let Him change us from within.

I Can Only Imagine

So, when you go see I Can Only Imagine when it opens on March 16, I pray you will remember Joe’s story as well as Bart’s—and maybe take a friend to the movie who might just need a reminder of how God can use hard things in our lives for GOOD.

Tickets are on sale for I Can Only Imagine NOW—consider grabbing some friends and go opening weekend! And until then, enjoy the trailer below!

If you want Joe to share his story of God’s redemption and HOPE with your church or group, contact him at his site, JoeKnopp.com.

The Billy Graham Funeral Was His Last Crusade

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Some have called Billy Graham’s funeral his final crusade.  And that it was.

Thousands were on hand or watching via live stream as Rev. Graham’s family and friends shared stories of his life and in each case presented the gospel message.

“His fingerprints are on this service for sure,” family spokesman Mark DeMoss said in a statement. “The Graham family has long considered that his funeral eventually would really be his last crusade.”

The service featured songs from gospel musicians who performed at Graham’s crusades: Linda McCrary-Fisher, Michael W. Smith and the Gaither Vocal Band. “They are all friends who sang for Graham at his home in recent years, DeMoss said, adding: “They’re not just artists.”

Graham’s oldest son, the Rev. Franklin Graham, delivered the funeral message.  Franklin said his dad’s mind was on heaven the last few years and asked him to share several points at his funeral:

“He believed the Bible to be the infallible Word of God.” “He believed in Heaven and also in Hell.”
“We have all sinned and the penalty is spiritual death for eternity.”
“Jesus saves us from our sins.”
“Jesus died on a cross to save you from your sins.”
“If we repent of our sins and believe in Jesus to save us — he will.”

And then Franklin Graham asked, “What better time to accept Christ’s salvation than at Billy Graham’s funeral?” Billy Graham asked his son to share the gospel message at his funeral.

Franklin Graham said he last saw his dad on February 18th.  Three days later his dad stepped into Heaven where Jesus welcomed him saying “Well done my good and faithful servant.”

Franklin said he wasn’t greeted that way because he’s Billy Graham, but rather because “he is just another child of God.”

Billy Graham’s sister, Jean Graham Ford was the first family member to speak. Standing in front of the Billy Graham Library and her childhood home in Charlotte, NC, she joked,  “you don’t know what’s it’s like to sit here and look at your home. I just had an argument with my husband about which window was my room.”

She told the audience that Billy was now with Jesus adding, “Billy would want me to tell you that Jesus is coming again and he would like to take you (to Heaven) also.”

She was followed by Billy’s children.

Daughter, Anne Graham Lotz talked about reading the Bible to Billy when he got older and reading it the way her parents taught her.  Her mother, Ruth Bell Graham, had her insert her own name into the scripture to personalize its message. Billy would ask her to comment on what she had read.  She then read from I Thessalonians 4:13, a passage on the sure hope of believers who die in Christ.  

Daughter Ruth Graham told her personal story of sin and failures.  After her second divorce she went home unsure about how she would be received by her parents. She said, “no one wants to disappoint their father. You certainly don’t want to disappoint Billy Graham.”  Billy was in the driveway to meet her.  She said, “There was no blame, no shame, no condemnation. He just said “welcome home.”  Ruth Graham added, “Billy wasn’t God, but he showed me that day what God was like.”

Franklin Graham ended his remarks with, “Dad, I will see you again…To God be the glory.”

Billy’s Graham’s casket was led away to the hymn “Amazing Grace” played on a bagpipe with his grandchildren serving as pallbearers.

Billy Graham will be buried next to his wife in a memorial prayer garden at the library. His grave marker reads: “Preacher of the Gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ.”

“Do I fear death? … No. I look forward to death, with great anticipation,” Graham told a Newsweek reporter in 2005. “I am looking forward to seeing God face to face. And that could happen any day.”  

Graham’s funeral was a celebration of that day, and an invitation for all watching to share in it as well.

How to Preach a Crisp, Clear Gospel Message

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For me, preaching a crisp, clear gospel message all starts by communicating 10 words, “Christ died for our sins and rose from the dead.” This is the crisp and effective message that transforms lives and secures our eternal destiny. There is a power in this Gospel that is awesome. It is imperative that you are confident in the message you are communicating and that you communicate it as clearly and simply as possible. As I often explain, “The Bible is 66 books, but the Gospel is ten words – Christ died for our sins and rose from the dead.” It is the preaching of the Gospel that makes evangelistic preaching effective. In order to preach the Gospel, it is crucial that we have a clear understanding ourselves.

We also need to have a heart to communicate the “good news” of Christ to a lost and dying world. You don’t just want to preach to your audience. You want to communicate with them.

It’s been said that too many speakers are like Christopher Columbus. When he started out, he didn’t know where he was going. When he got there, he didn’t know where he was. When he got back, he did not know where he had been. If you understand what you are about to present, that will not be the situation. What is clear in your mind will become clear in theirs. To communicate and not just speak, you must understand…

Every clear gospel message must tell your audience three things:

1. You are a sinner
2. Christ died for your sins and rose again
3. You have to trust Christ

This way, they know their condition, God’s remedy, and their need – to trust Christ. When those three truths are objectively explained, you have communicated – not just spoken.

I find that expository evangelistic preaching is very effective in presenting a crisp, clear gospel message. Presenting your message in this fashion allows them to hear what God said first. That way, they leave knowing that if they have a struggle with what you said, their struggle is ultimately with God, not you. God’s Word is alive. That’s why to take a particular text and explain it to lost people in a way that is powerful and relevant lends force to your message. However, if you are preaching to reach the lost, don’t assume they have a Bible with them or know where to find the text you are preaching on. Carefully direct them to the text. Also remember they probably aren’t familiar with many stories from the Bible or even understand common Christian terminology, so speak their language.

By the way, that does not mean that every expository message that you give has to be directed to lost people. But appealing to lost people through an expositional message directed to believers will be the subject of a future article. The point I’m making is whenever possible, when you speak to lost people, do it through an expository message prepared just for them.

Unfortunately, evangelistic speakers too often have a reputation for being condescending. While we have to explain to people that they are sinners, we don’t have to say it in a way that is pompous. Remember that we are to preach a Gospel of grace, not guilt. The audience needs to recognize they are sinners, but also hear that there is hope for our sinful condition.

When preaching the clear gospel message, it is imperative to use repetition. With the fast-paced lives we lead, many of us have lost the art of listening. While you need to repeat less often when standing before an audience of a higher socio-economic level, it doesn’t change the fact that you need to repeat. Repeat whatever is necessary in light of your text, your situation, and their need. The main thing you repeat is the “big idea” in your message. Watch your audience; if they looked confused, restate things in a different light or use an additional illustration.

As you preach crisp and clear gospel messages, your enthusiasm for the Savior must be displayed. Enthusiasm is contagious. Get excited about the message God has given you to preach and what Christ did on the cross. If you are not enthusiastic about your Savior, they won’t be interested in knowing Him.

Do the above items guarantee that people will come to Christ? No! But that’s not your responsibility. Your job is to bring Christ to people through crisp, clear, evangelistic messages. God’s job is to bring people to Christ. You do your part, and God will do His.   

Originally published on SermonCentral.com. Used by permission.

The Pyramid for Successful Small Group Gatherings

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This simple small group agenda is based on seven principles from Acts 2:42-47Acts 5:42 and Acts 6:7. The seven principles are as follows…

  1. House-to-House Gatherings – smaller than the temple courts gatherings and an expression of hospitality.
  2. Devoted to the Apostles’ Doctrine – interacting with the Word of God in a communal setting.
  3. Devoted to Fellowship – experiencing the 59 one anothers of the NT.
  4. Devoted to Breaking Bread – meals, snacks and communion together.
  5. Devoted to Prayer – encountering His presence and power.
  6. Living on Mission – being a witness together through serving, outreach and evangelism.
  7. Experiencing Multiplication – cultivating kingdom laborers and launching new communities.

These seven principles represent settings, practices and the fruit that is produced as a result. They can be touched upon in a weekly home group through a simple small group agenda known as The Four W’s: Welcome, Word, Worship and Witness. I did not come up with these but I have revised them slightly. Ralph W. Neighbour originally developed the concept of The Four W’s.

Welcome

(15-20 minutes)

The Welcome time helps people get connected to each other as they arrive. A meal or snacks and upbeat Christian music can create an irresistible atmosphere (See also Creating an Irresistible Environment). When we have provided the opportunity for a meal, we offer it as an option 30 minutes before the starting time.

This window as well as the time hanging out after dismissal are the key times for believers to experience the 59 “one anothers” of the New Testament. For more on this see The 59 One Anothers of the Bible.

The group should be small enough and healthy enough for everyone to fellowship. It should be illegal for a person to show up to a small group and experience isolation.

Before you move into the Word segment, you can begin to transition the Welcome time by starting the meeting with an Ice Breaker. For more on this see Tons of Free Ice Breakers and Why They’re Effective.

Word

(30-45 minutes)

The Word time should complement the corporate teaching time in the weekend service (not try to duplicate it). People need to grow in the Word of God through hearing (corporate teaching) and dialogue (small group). See my article Fully Developed Disciples for more on that.

This can be achieved in a small group through a Word-centered conversation. If the Word of God is a seed then an interactive Bible discussion can plow the fallow ground of a person’s heart through deepening, open-ended questions (See Small Group Discussion Questions That Go Deep as well). This process can be remembered with the acronym for SOIL

S – Scripture reading and focus (this is also the spot for a short video teaching if you’re using video curriculum)

O – Observation questions about the passage.

I  – Interpretation questions about the passage.

L – Life application questions about the passage.

Facilitating skills, listening, vulnerability and navigating personalities are keys to an effective Word segment (See Five Facets of Facilitating With Finesse) .

The goal here is for people to grow in their knowledge of the Word and develop their own language for discussing their faith. Transformation occurs through revelation and transparency with the community of believers.

Worship

(20-25 minutes)

Some prefer to have their worship time before the Word segment and end their meeting with prayer. Whatever works best for your group or that night’s purpose is what you should do. I prefer to lead into the time of intercession with worship.

First I ask for and write down any prayer requests from the group. We then seek God’s face in praise and worship for five to eight minutes before bringing our prayer requests to His throne. It’s an open time where anyone can lead out.

The worship time releases presence, prayer and power in the midst of the group in a way that builds up each other’s faith and spiritually bonds everyone together.

Witness

(5-10 minutes)

As you close your gathering you can share vision for the future direction of the group. This is vital to keeping the group looking outward through mission, ministry and multiplication. Serving opportunities and reaching out to unbelievers as a group promotes a balanced discipleship pattern. Multiplication of the group through the cultivation of laborers and launching of a new group should be discussed for the group to continue to grow into a kingdom mindset (See also 5 Ways to Multiply a Small Group).

A typical small group meeting should last between 90 minutes to two hours. We’ve had people at our house for over four hours, but we’ve always dismissed the formal meeting within two hours. After the dismissal, we welcome people to stay as long as they want but that may differ for you.

To dive in deeper on these concepts I highly recommend Joel Comiskey’s book How to Lead an Effective Cell Group Meeting.

In the likeness of John Wooden’s Pyramid of Success, I have created a Pyramid for a Successful Small Group Gathering below…

This article originally appeared here.

You Cannot Serve Both God and Theology

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What’s more dangerous to the human soul—money or theology?

Money is the easy answer. Paul warns us, “The love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs” (1 Timothy 6:10). Treasure money, and what it can buy, more than God, and it will rob you of him and buy you terrifying, unending pain, apart from him.

Jesus himself says, “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money” (Matthew 6:24). The God of Christianity and the god of money are irreconcilably opposed. They cannot room together in the human heart. If you find yourself serving money—consuming yourself with earning, gathering and spending—by definition you are not serving God.

But is money more spiritually dangerous than theology? The answer may be trickier than we think, especially within the numbing comfort of a proudly affluent and educated American Church. Money is a tangible, countable, often visible god. Theology, on the other hand—if it is cut off from truly knowing and enjoying God himself—can be a soothing, subtle, superficially spiritual god. Both are deadly, but one lulls us into a proud, intellectual, and purely cosmetic confidence and rest before God. Theology will kill you if it does not kindle a deep and abiding love for the God of the Bible and if it does not inspire a desire for his glory, and not ultimately our own.

Good Theology Is the Only Path to God

Now, I love theology, and you should, too. Paul’s one aim in life and ministry was to know Christ and him crucified (i.e., to know Christian theology), and he wanted to know God in Christ as truly and thoroughly as possible, with all of its implications for everything he thinks and says and does (1 Corinthians 2:2). You cannot read this man’s letters and not come to the conclusion that theology was his heartbeat. He lived to know as much about this unsearchable God as possible, and he was ready to die for those truths.

Psalm 119 is a passionate love letter written to the revelation of God in his word. What we know about God from the Bible is unbelievably, inexhaustibly profitable for teaching, reproof, correction, training in righteousness and life (2 Timothy 3:16).

Without theology, you will not know God—literally and spiritually. So, this article is not meant to be a prohibition against theology—God forbid—but a caution and a warning about theology. Knowledge about God can replace an authentic knowing of him to our destruction, especially for the theologically refined and convinced. We all should want our theology to be not only true, but Spirit-filled and fruitful.

Three Ways Pastors Win Over Influential Critics

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Every pastor has critics. It’s an inevitable part of leadership.

Some criticism is constructive. Even when it’s not constructive, you can almost always learn something. Other criticism is just a visceral reaction. A personal attack was not intended; someone just said something in the heat of the moment. Some criticism is malicious and sinful. Other times, people are using criticism in a self-serving way.

If you don’t want to expend the energy to filter criticism appropriately, then you shouldn’t lead a church. But the point still stands—criticism hurts.

First, consider if the critic is influential. All barbs sting regardless of the source. However, there is a difference between the random, uninformed critic—especially those from outside the church—and the critic with considerable influence in the church. It’s important to be aware of the number of critics. Having 50 ongoing critics in a church of 75 people is a disaster. But it’s often not the number of critics that is paramount. Rather, it’s the influence they hold. In some churches, one person holds the trump card. In others, gaining five influencers means you’ve got all the support you need.

Second, take into account whether or not the critic is ongoing. Even your best supporters will become critics for a season—depending on the type of decision that needs to be made. Just because someone is criticizing you about a specific leadership move does not mean he or she is a critic in general. Use a level of discernment. The only way you’ll always have the support of everyone is to fill your church with robots or clones of yourself. A church full of yes-men robots is creepy. And I’m not even sure my clones would always agree with me.

Winning over your ongoing influential critics is vital to successful church leadership. While it can’t always be done, I believe you can win over the vast majority of them. If you lack the support of key influencers, here are a few items to consider.

  1. Get to know your critic. Have you sat down together over a meal? Be a friend. Minister selflessly. Win them with your sacrifice rather than berating them with your vision. Pastors lead, which means you must take the initiative.
  2. Win over the critic’s friends. If getting to know your critic doesn’t work, then reach out to friends in his or her circles. Try to gain perspective by hearing from them. If you win over the critic’s friends, then they will have influence over the critic. At a minimum, the criticism will be minimized if the critic’s friends are talking positively.
  3. Serve the critic’s family. Your service in the church should not depend on the support someone gives you. Jesus washed the feet of his disciples while knowing of their coming betrayal. You shouldn’t favor big givers. You shouldn’t favor big supporters. If you can’t serve the critic directly, serve the family. This kind of sacrifice is one of the most difficult parts of being a pastor. It’s human nature to gravitate toward those who give you the most accolades. However, it’s just as important to serve those who give you the most trouble.

Obviously, you are not called to be a doormat. Nor should a church condone sin. There are times when critics need to be disciplined. Unfortunately, critics can also be gossips, which is quite dangerous in the church. But not all critics are whispering untruths behind your back. In some cases, they simply love their church and don’t like the direction of your leadership. In these cases, the critic is simply one who doesn’t offer support. You should make it your goal to win them over, not run them over. Your church will be better for it. And you’ll be a better example of Christ.

This article originally appeared here.

Afraid of Prayer?

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Over the years Pastor Jim Cymbala has openly shared numerous heartbreaking stories of pastors who determined to become men of prayer and lead praying churches, only to encounter congregational members who became so resistant and divisive that their church actually split. It seems unbelievable but it is true.

I have known pastors at a personal level who have encountered similar resistance and criticism, not because their approach was misguided, but simply because some core people were disinterested and eventually destructive. (NOTE: Some Christians avoid corporate prayer because they say it is “weird.” Granted, some approaches are weird and some participants can be a little strange. But I say, don’t throw the biblical baby out with the odd bath water. Jump in and be normal. Or start your own “normal” prayer time. Just make sure you are not making excuses.)

Regardless, you would think that all Christians would have a desire to grow in communion with God and participate in a dynamic, praying church. Not so. But why?

Factoring Our Fear

As I have considered these tragic stories I am convinced it comes down to one primary cause: the fear factor.

Writer Erin Wildermuth notes,

“Fear is universal. The gymnast fears stumbling instead of sticking the perfect landing. The singer fears a moment of wavering pitch. The serious speaker fears laughter; the joker silence. We all fear failure. How we respond to fear, however, varies considerably and determines whether this emotion will help us achieve our goals or leave us less able meet the challenges we face. Fear doesn’t have to be disabling.”[i]

Of course, God has not given us the spirit of fear (2 Timothy 1:7). It has been noted that “fear not” is the most frequent command in the Bible, appearing some 365 times. God knows our tendency to fear. The Bible is honest about the destructive results of fear. God is not the author of fear so we must expose it and renounce it, especially when a Christian fears extraordinary, believing prayer. Fear is the antithesis to faith.

So, what are these struggling Christians (and in some cases less-than-spiritual opponents) so afraid of? Here are my theories:

Fear of Intimacy With God

I was told of a survey conducted a number of years ago at a well-known church. The leaders wanted to understand more about the congregants’ perspective on their Christian faith. One question asked, “What is your number one fear as a Christian?” A top response was “intimacy with God.

This may seem strange at first. But in reality, intimacy with God confronts issues in our lives that casual Christianity tends to conceal and coddle. Intimacy can mean, “into me see.” In intimacy we are vulnerable as we are lovingly drawn out of status quo faith to confront our sins, our idols, our self-reliance and our superficial pursuits. For those who merely signed up for a free ticket to heaven, rather than taking up their cross, this can be very threatening.

Fear of Transparency With Others

What a person is on their knees—a person is. Prayer is also very intimate interpersonally. This is a blessing for those who want deep, trusting relationships. Many in the church just prefer a quick handshake while hiding behind a Styrofoam coffee cup. Others are happy with superficial chats while being busy for Jesus.

I’ve known many who refrain from corporate prayer with the claim that they are shy about praying out loud with others. In many cases I suspect they just prefer to remain guarded and unknown, keeping others at bay by their non-participation. Yet, God has called us to pray together in deep bonds of mutual sharing—moving beyond a self-consciousness to a God-consciousness that allows all of us to open our hearts to one another.

Recently I’ve been riveted by an amazing little book by Norman Grubb[ii] describing an ongoing movement of revival in Africa many years ago as he labored alongside the well-known missionary, C.T. Studd. The summary of this revival is captured in the simple phrase, “Roof off. Walls down.” God calls us to a passionate authenticity before Him and a continuous transparency with one another. To miss this because of fear is one of the great tragedies of any Christian life.

Mother and Son Bowling Bash

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For the last several years in our church, we have hosted a daddy daughter date night. It was a special time of celebrating the unique bond that a dad has with his girls. Little girls loved dressing up, fathers took special care to write notes and select special songs to be played, and good food, dancing and lots of talking was enjoyed by all. As you can imagine, this event was an annual favorite.

However, I recently started hearing from mothers that they wished there could be something special for them to enjoy with their sons. After all, while mothers tend to spend a lot of time with their kids, they don’t often get a chance to just relax and enjoy their children while someone else does all the planning and work to make memories happen.

The Mother + Son Bowling Bash was our solution to this dilemma. Just a few weeks ago, we rented out more than half a bowling alley and paved the way for over a hundred mothers and sons to put on their bowling shoes and have a ball (pun intended…I know, that was bad).

In this blog post, I want to share with you all the steps we took to make this a successful event. Feel free to take it and make it your own. I realize that every church has a unique make-up and culture and that things work best when you tailor it to fit your own situation. My desire is simply to equip you to help the mothers and sons in your church connect in a meaningful way.

We have also found that the Mother + Son Bowling Bash presents a unique opportunity to invite unchurched friends into a church event that is not intimidating. Some people may hesitate stepping their foot inside the church building, but they would be happy to share a lane and have a good time with their friends.

That’s why from the very beginning we made it clear that this event was designed for two things: 1) to give moms a chance to play, laugh and create special memories with their sons through bowling, eating pizza and even competing for prizes, and 2) to provide a fun environment where they could enjoy the company of their friends (we put a special emphasis on inviting unbelievers but all friends were welcome).

The following is all the steps we took to make the Mother + Son Bowling Bash a success in our church and some tips + tools to make it work for you as well:

BEFORE THE EVENT

PROMOTION:

  1. Save the Date cards (eight weeks before the event)
  2. Pre- and post-service slides (five weeks before the event)
  3. Posters—place them in your church halls, bathroom stalls and community spots (libraries, martial arts and dance studios, gyms, farmers’ market, community bulletin boards, etc.)
  4. Church bulletin (five, three and one week before the event)
  5. Your church’s web-site and Facebook page (five weeks before the event)
  6. Your children’s ministry Facebook page (five weeks before the event)
  7. Emails to parents (eight, five, three and one week before the event). Make sure not only to give event information, but also to paint a picture of the beautiful impact this event can have on the relationship with their sons.
  8. Printed postcard invitations (six weeks before the event)
  9. Moms’ social media channels. Encourage the moms in your church to use their social media platforms to broadcast the event. Provide them with eye-catching graphics to include in their posts and examples of the verbiage to use.

NOTE: Don’t forget to download Event Promo Pack that contains customizable graphics that you can use to promote your event.

REGISTRATION:

  1. Start sign-ups five weeks before the event.
  2. Register people only AFTER they have paid the registration fee. Otherwise, you’ll waste a lot of time chasing after people who put in their names but not their dollars, reminding them that they still need to pay.
  3. If your budget allows, make scholarships available for single moms and for other families who might need them.
  4. Make it clear that aunts and grandmothers are most welcome to attend this event with their nephews and grandsons.
  5. While registering moms, encourage them to think of any unchurched friends with sons whom they could invite. If moms can’t think of anyone, encourage them to ask their boys if they have friends that they would like to invite. Give them postcard invitations to pass on to their friends.
  6. When we did this event, we charged $20 per each mother/son team and $5 for each additional son. Registration fee included unlimited games, pizza, drinks and shoe rentals.
  7. When we originally planned this event in our church, we promoted it for kids ages 5 through upper elementary. Since we had a few extra lanes on the last week of registration, we opened it up to mothers and sons of all ages and ended up with a couple of toddlers and sons in their mid-20s. This worked out very well and didn’t cause any discomfort.

THE EVENT

EVENT TEAM:

  1. GREETERS / PIZZA DELIVERY / SET UP / CLEAN UP / TEAM SPIRIT JUDGES:  Two people (a couple would be ideal) with warm personalities. They will need to:
    • Show up 30 minutes before the event to set up the room where you’ll be serving pizza and drinks
    • Greet people, hand out event schedules
    • Bring and serve pizza
    • Do the clean up (very minimal)

2. MC: This most likely will be the children or family pastor. Your main job is to be there, make sure everyone is having a great time, and together with the greeters choose the winner of the Team Spirit contest

3.  PHOTOGRAPHER: Shows up 15 minutes before the event to scout an area for pictures of the mother/son teams (these will be used to judge the Team Spirit contest). They will also be responsible for candid pictures throughout the event.

ENVIRONMENT:

1. This is one of the easiest events to put together. Bowling alleys have their own unique ambiance, so we didn’t think any decorations would add value to the environment. We skipped the decorations and no one missed them.

2. I had a portable sound system that allowed me to play background music and make a couple of announcements during the Pizza Party.

3. Moms’ and sons’ Team Spirit attire added an extremely exciting spark to this evening setting it apart from a regular bowling event. I encourage you to do a team spirit contest at your event too. I’ll talk more about this in Helpful Tips.

Shawn Hennessy Offers Personal Reflections on Seeing A Church Grow from 167 to 3,000 in 5 Years!

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Welcome back to the unSeminary podcast and thanks so much for joining with us today. We have Pastor Shawn Hennessy with us from Life Church in Green Bay, Wisconsin.

Today Shawn is sharing with us about his experience with burnout, and how that helped shape the way he sets priorities in his life—especially important when one leads a fast-growing church with constant demands.

Seek your priorities. Burnout is a real issue pastors need to be ready to face in today’s world, regardless of the church size. But when you add fast growth to the already demanding needs of a ministry, it can shut you down if you’re not orienting your life around the right things. As Shawn shares, it’s natural to get tired. For a while Shawn was seen as “the fixer” before he began to pastor Life Church in Green Bay. He was a young guy and sent places around the country to “fix” ministries. Shawn also had a rigorous speaking schedule and traveled continuously for about five years. Meanwhile, his wife was a youth pastor, and so they often found themselves in different places. Those early years were tough—being on the road meant Shawn barely got to know his kids when they were infants; he was away from home for their milestones, and eventually things imploded. All the accumulated pressure and stress led to a huge burnout in which Shawn’s credentials were taken away. He spent a year at home, taking a break from ministry, but that time was crucial for helping him reevaluate his life. Shawn shares, “What I learned in that year off was how to love my wife, how to love my kids and I learned how to love Jesus. I tried to leave ministry, but ministry wouldn’t leave me, so when I got the opportunity to get back in, I determined this time I’m just going to have priorities.” He spent six months praying and seeking God’s voice on what should be his top five priorities.

Jesus is number one. Shawn’s hitting rock bottom and taking a break from ministry provided the time Shawn needed to really cultivate a deep relationship with God. At this point, Shawn can honestly say Jesus is his top priority. We’re all supposed to say that, but ask yourself honestly, is He really your top priority? This doesn’t mean making church your top priority, but making Jesus Himself your top priority. Truly seeking His face and listening for what God was saying to him helped Shawn put Jesus as his top priority above everything else.

Prioritize yourself above others. As Christians, we think it may sound selfish and shocking to say it, but Shawn has learned that if he doesn’t prioritize himself, then everything else in his life will suffer. You might think you sound self-centered if you say this, but if you get into the mix of life and aren’t taking care of your body, mind and spirit, there will be consequences. We have to pay attention to our health in all these areas and what we are feeding our bodies, minds and spirits.

Love your spouse above your kids. We are blessed with our kids, but we choose our spouse. One of the problems in our society is that we can often ignore the person we chose in order to give our full attention to our kids. Shawn teaches that there should be no one else on earth that you choose over your family, but that when it comes to your spouse and your kids, your spouse is your priority over your kids. This both keeps your marriage strong, and adds a measure of security and confidence to your children when they see how you and your spouse prioritize and love each other.

Say no. For Shawn, his top five priorities are all relationships with either God or his family. When you realize that church is not one of those five priorities, you can say no without apology to things that are not vital or an emergency. You don’t have to attend everyone’s graduation or birthday party. Saying no guards our lives and helps prevent burnout for pastors and church staff. As Shawn says, “From a burnout perspective, sometimes as leaders we’re spinning our wheels trying to keep everybody happy while making the people who make us happy miserable.” As ministry leaders, you are not here to impress others; you are here to serve Jesus.

You can find Life Church Green Bay online at lifechurchgreenbay.com or church leaders can email Shawn.

This article originally appeared here.

Here’s How Michael W. Smith Honored Billy Graham at the US Capitol

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On Wednesday, the remains of Billy Graham lay in honor at the U.S. Capitol Rotunda. He is the first religious leader to be honored in that way.

Hundreds of people streamed past his coffin and a ceremony celebrating the evangelist’s life was held in the hallowed halls of the nation’s Capitol. As part of that ceremony Michael W. Smith sang “Just as I Am.”

Smith first met Rev. Graham at a Crusade in the 1980s. He played the piano and led the song “How Majestic Is Your Name.” “He got a kick out of me stomping my foot,” the singer said. He recalls Rev. Graham being “deeply genuine.”

Smith performed at many of Rev. Graham’s crusades and said he learned from the evangelist to be transparent and relational, not “try to beat everyone to death with a Bible” when sharing the Gospel. Some people might feel uncomfortable sharing their faith, he said, but he encourages them to “step out there and be bold. … Muster up some faith and just go for it.”

On his website, Smith paid tribute Billy Graham:

“I knew it was coming….we all knew it was coming. Billy was 99 and his health had been declining for years. And I knew from my visits with him that he longed to be with his Creator and he longed to be reunited with his beloved Ruth. But, even given that, I was devastated when I got the news this morning that my good friend Billy Graham had breathed his last breath here on earth. He welcomed me on his stage countless times. Each and every Crusade was so special. But more than anything—I cherished the friendship we developed.

“Friend, mentor, counselor, hero, leader, example, pastor—he was so many things to me—making the impact of his passing such a deep hurt. At the same time—I know Billy would be questioning why we grieve. Because he is now in paradise. He is face to face with the Jesus he so loved and served so well.

“I bet his mansion is actually a log cabin—not that different than the one he and Ruth called “home” in the North Carolina mountains. I’m pretty sure it has a couple rocking chairs for him and Ruth and an endless line of heaven’s residents lined up to thank him for introducing them to Jesus.

“I will miss Billy—the same way Debbie and I have missed Ruth. But I rejoice in the promise that we will someday be together in heaven.”

In 2013, Smith released a song in honor of the evangelist titled “I’ll Lead You Home” inspired by Graham’s longing for heaven. The song is a conversation Graham might have with Jesus when he gets there.

The lyrics of the song include this line,

So let it go and turn it over to

The one who chose to give his life for you

Leave it to me

I’ll lead you home

Smith said of Graham, “He stood before millions and he sat with world leaders. Everywhere he’s gone, he’s taken the message of the gospel and the world is different because of that one man.”   

Graham’s remains left the Capitol Rotunda Thursday to be returned to North Carolina for a private funeral on Friday.

7 Things That Will Drive Future Church Growth

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You got into church leadership because you wanted to introduce people to Jesus. That’s pretty much how all of us begin, isn’t it? And yet every year, it seems to get harder to reach people, and that means every year we struggle with church growth.

It’s not for lack of effort. Most church leaders try hard, pray hard and do their very best to advance the mission of their church.

But the facts speak for themselves. The majority of churches are in decline, and 94 percent of all churches are losing ground against their community (that is, their community is growing faster than the church is).

And yet, even in the midst of that, some churches are growing.

In those churches are the early clues to what future church growth looks like.

Here are seven factors that will drive almost all future church growth.

1. Personal Invitation

One of the things that fly under the radar of most growing churches is how much personal invitation fuels church growth (and discipleship).

A great social media presence is important, as are services unchurched people can access.

But at the heart of it all, in almost every growing church is this: people inviting their friends.

Personal invitation fuels much of future church growth. Conversely, if your church members don’t invite their friends, don’t expect to grow.

This assumes Christians actually have non-Christian friends they can invite. Shockingly, too many Christians don’t.

Many Christians cocoon in their little bubble, distraught over the direction the world is heading and angry at or indifferent toward people who don’t hold their values and beliefs.

Don’t miss this, Christians: It’s hard to reach a world you don’t love…or know.

Practical Holy Week: Tell Your Kids the Story

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Starting soon, the church across the world will begin a celebration of Holy Week, beginning with Palm Sunday and ending with the celebration of Christ’s resurrection on Easter Sunday. This week is arguably the most important on the Christian calendar, representing for believers that pivotal moment with death was swallowed up in victory! It is the very foundation of our faith, the resurrection of Jesus from the dead.

However your church or your family celebrates Easter, this time of year is the perfect time to tell your kids THE STORY of all stories. The great story of Scripture, God’s Great Rescue Plan! 

A couple of years ago, I shared the following message with our families in church but there is no reason you can’t do the same in your home. Invite your kids into the greatest story of all times and let them be drawn into the wonder and mystery that is our faith.

“The Story”

Props: Two red hearts, one black lightening bolt, one brown cross. (I cut mine out of construction paper)

Gather your family together and pick one parent to be the story teller. Everyone else will help with the props.

OK you guys, I need your help today to tell a story. And this isn’t just any story; this is THE STORY. The story of all time! And you get to be a part of it!! So, who wants to be my first helper?

(Choose child to hold Red Heart)

All great stories have a great first line. Usually we say “Once upon a time” but… How about we start it this way… In the beginning, God created… EVERYTHING! He created the earth and the sky, the bugs and the fish, the trees and the flowers, and then he created us. And when he did, he looked at us and said, “Man (because there was only a man at first) I love you!” And Man looked at God and said, “God, I love you too!” And everything was perfect.

(Choose child to hold Black Lightening Bolt)

Then one day, something terrible happened. Everything was perfect. God loved Man and Man loved God and all was well until… Well, as you know, every story has to have an evil villain so we are going to call our evil villain.. SIN. (refer to black lighting bolt). Sin snuck right into that perfect world, being the sneaky villain that it is, and it BAM! Came right between God and Man!! God still loved man very much but man choose Sin over God. Things were not perfect any more. It was a very sad time. Man was sad and started doing sad things, more and more sad things, and SIN kept pushing Man further and further away from God.

But God… he’s the good guy in our story… God still loved Man very much. He knew that Sin was out there trying to steal Man’s love and even before Man had chosen Sin, God had a plan in place to bring Man back to Him. God did something absolutely amazing, like a total SUPERHERO move!

(Choose child to hold Brown Cross)

God did an amazing thing. He decided to leave His place in heaven where he was safe and come to earth as a Man, and Man called Jesus, and fight the evil villain. It was an epic battle. Jesus told the villain he couldn’t’ win, that he would defeat him, and Sin fought by telling Man to do evil things until one day, one very sad day, Man put Jesus on the cross because of Sin. Man killed Jesus. It seemed like all hope was lost.

Now, we’ve watched some great Superhero shows right? Those shows, they are basically getting their story line from THE STORY, so you probably know what’s going to happen. Because in those movies, when the superhero looks totally defeated by the villain, what happens? (Kids might say things like the superhero comes back to life, or gets stronger, or beats the bad guy)

That’s right!! Sin isn’t strong enough to beat Jesus. Just when we think all hope is lost TA-DA, the grave opens and JESUS ISN’T THERE because He is Risen!! Sin is defeated!!!! God Wins!!! Oh, wait, but what about Man?

(Choose child to hold Red Heart)

Because Jesus beat Sin on the Cross, Man has an amazing opportunity. If we want to, we can have that perfect love relationship with God again. Sin cannot stop us from loving God and it could never stop God from loving us. We can go to God anytime we want because of Jesus’ victory on the cross and say, “God, I choose to love you and hate Sin. Jesus, you’re my superhero!”

(Have the kids lay all the signs out on the floor in a row)

Now, you may ask, why I told this story today. Because right now, on Palm Sunday, we are right in the middle of the story. We are right here.

(Point between lightening bolt and cross)

This week we will remember the moments that led up to Jesus being put on the cross by Man because of Sin. We will remember some sad things. On Maundy Thursday, we will remember the Last Supper Jesus had with his disciples. On Good Friday, we will remember Jesus dying on the cross. I don’t know about you guys but I always cry at that part in superheroes, you know, when the superhero gets hurt and you wonder if He’s going to be OK. And I will probably cry this week too as we get to that part of our story.

BUT… and this is so important

Next Sunday we will celebrate the BIGGEST SUPERHERO VICTOR OF ALL TIME!! Next Sunday we will remember that SIN was defeated! That our HERO came back to life and SAVED the DAY! And that we can be in the perfect love relationship with God again.

So this week, as you go about your days and you think about the Story, take time to remember. You might even cry. But know this, The Story doesn’t end in sadness. It ends with a LOVE SO BIG it wins every time! And you get to be a part of that story!!

This story may spark some great conversation in your home. You might want to prepare ahead of time to answer questions about how they can choose that perfect love relationship with God, what is Sin, and other questions about salvation and God’s love. The Story provides the perfect way to get into some amazing conversations with your kids and Holy Week is a great place to springboard those Faith Talks!

Many blessings to all of you as you prepare to celebrate with one another and the entire Body of Christ!

This article originally appeared here.

Why Pastors Should Use More Historical Illustrations in Sermons

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I once attempted to use an example from accounting in my sermon. No one understood me, and the accountants in the church said I mixed up my terms. Apparently, debits and credits are not as straightforward as I thought, which is why—I guess—that accountants have jobs.

Sermon illustrations are tricky. You try to be funny, but you’re corny. You try to be inspirational, but you’re cheesy. You try to be serious, and you have a booger in your nose. Sermon illustrations are the flavoring to the meat of the text. Without them, you’re bland. But too much, and you’re overbearing. A few weeks ago, I posted about the different types of sermon illustrations. In this post, I’ll focus on historical illustrations.

Likely, you need more historical illustrations in your sermons, not less. Most of us preachers tend to use real-life examples, current news, pop culture, or biblical examples more than historical illustrations.

People are not as familiar with the past. Frankly, we don’t know our history like we once did—biblical history, family history, and our nation’s history. Preaching always has elements of teaching. Good teaching should include regular doses of history.

History connects generations. When Millennials understand the attack on Pearl Harbor, they can better relate to the remaining members of the Builder generation. When Builders get to know Millennials, they can help put the 9/11 attack into perspective. When used properly, history is a bridge, not a wall.

History repeats. The adage is true. Those who do not learn history are doomed to repeat it. The entire Old Testament is a case in point. Over and over again, the people in the Old Testament repeated the same offenses because they would not learn from historical sins. By the end of the Old Testament, you’re exhausted from reading it and ready for a solution. Thankfully, He’s introduced in Matthew’s gospel.

The Bible is historical. Why care about history? The Bible is history!

History has roots. Personal examples in sermons are great ways to connect with people. However, they can be fleeting—if not shallow. Everyone laughed at the story of my son and the half-eaten cupcake, but—like the cupcake—it wasn’t sustaining. With historical examples, you tell an enduring story, one that has stood the test of generations and validated by time.

People need to know historical theology. Historical illustrations shine light on the reasons why we believe certain doctrines.

People need to know church history. What’s with the white cloth at the Lord’s Supper? Why does the preacher stand down front at the end of every service? Why do people wear crucifixes? How come we always need motions and seconds at business meetings? Why do the ushers pass a plate for the offering? History gives meaning to traditions. History gives purpose to church practices. Otherwise, you’re just going through the motions mindlessly.

If you’re a preacher, then you’re a teacher. One lesson the church needs often is history.

This article originally appeared here.

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