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At Home in Wakanda

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We did not make it two steps into the movie theater’s front door before we were greeted, “What’s good, my brothas?” As he shouted to us over the masses in the ticket line, he crossed his arms, clenched his fists and gave a slight bow—a Wakandan greeting.

“Ya’ll will understand after you watch it,” he said. And with that, he disappeared into the night, and we entered into Wakanda.

Overall, I was a fan of Marvel’s new blockbuster, Black Panther. It wasn’t “the best movie I have ever seen,” as one person told me repeatedly in the hallway, but it was one of the better Marvel films. The story picks up after the explosion in a previous Marvel movie where T’Chaka, the king of Wakanda, dies in the bombing. T’Challa, his son, then returns to his homeland to assume the throne and take his rightful place as king of Wakanda and as the Black Panther. But opposition arises, leaving the fate of Wakanda—and the rest of the world—at stake.

Having watched a civil-rights documentary beforehand, I found the ideologies of the two main characters to be thought-provoking. And although Black Panther has good action scenes, strong characters, a decent narrative and helpful questions about global responsibility, the enchantment of the movie for many blacks in the theater was not, in my estimation, about the hero per se, but about the society. I left wanting to be like the Black Panther. But I left wanting to be in Wakanda even more.

More Than a Movie

In the movie, Wakanda is a fictional African homeland hidden from the rest of the world. It is uncolonized, technologically advanced, brimming with black excellence and beauty, industrious, mountainous, breathtaking. But the utopia itself, not the black superhero, hit an ancient ache that four hundred years in America hasn’t come close to soothing. We rally around superheroes like the Black Panther because we hope that they can lead us to Wakanda.

But such a place was make-believe. Or so I thought.

Even before I could watch the movie, I heard the trickle of Wakanda’s waterfall, felt the sunshine of her gladness, and witnessed her people dance to her music. Men, women and children were dressed in African garb. Families lined up to take pictures with the Black Panther poster. Strangers greeted one another in the hallways. The movie, to many, was more than a movie. It became a slice of Wakanda.

We walked in 20 minutes before showtime and people were already seated. And we were all early, not because we wanted to get good seats (they were already assigned), but because we didn’t want to miss a moment. We wanted to be in Wakanda as long as possible. For three hours, we celebrated sameness, leaders who cared deeply about the black community, and the beauty of black culture liberated from its history and current struggles.

As my Sierra Leonean Christian brother and I sat there, we wondered at the distinct pleasure we felt in this majority-black cultural moment. This movie was largely for us and by us (so to speak), and it pictured a world many of us have dreamed of for decades, a world many of us would choose over this world in a moment.

But at the same time, as a Christian, I thought, “What of the beauty of diversity? Shouldn’t that be the ideal? Is it wrong to feel so at home in Wakanda?”

Tribe of the Panther

Similarity is one of Eden’s sweetest fruits. If Adam could have sighed in paradise, it would have been in naming the animals without being able to find “a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:20).

This delight in sameness is what C.S. Lewis calls the beginning of friendship: “The typical expression of opening Friendship would be something like, ‘What? You too? I thought I was the only one’” (The Four Loves, 65). Friendship shares a common love—or burden—that others do not share. I received a Wakandan reception at the movie theater because I experienced what it means to be black in America. I and the other black people in the theater knew what it is to be racially profiled, to be the “only one” in almost every setting, and to live under the current presidency—we knew what it is to live outside of Wakanda.

And so, we sat there with many people who looked like us and laughed at jokes that were hidden from some outside of the culture. We watched people who looked like us on the screen fight for the issues of people like us in a dreamland where our communities flourished. No slavery. No Jim Crow South. No second-class citizenship. No explaining what that phrase means—we all knew. A homogeneous society, a tribe of the Panther, provided a distinct pleasure for those within it.

The Coming Wakanda

I can remember the first Wakandan experience I had with Christians. I can still remember the thrill of walking in to see a room full of African and African-American Christians on fire for Jesus. Never had I experienced anything like it. Men and women from similar backgrounds, who spoke the same vernacular, opened up their Bibles to hear from and worship God.

And during that time, I discovered that Paul acknowledged the pleasures of similarity, especially for those outside the faith: to the Jews he became a Jew, to those under the law as one under the law; he became all things to all people in order to win some (1 Corinthians 9:19–23). Finding yourself in a room full of similar people can make you feel at home like little else can. But as I continued in my Christian walk, Paul taught me that there is a pleasure that exceeds even the sweetness of cultural sameness.

He spoke of a completion of joy that comes from the diverse church in Philippi—full of men, women, children, little Jewish girls and Roman jailers—dwelling in fearless unity together (Philippians 2:2). John added to the conversation by showing me a page from the last chapter of every believer’s story:

After this I looked, and behold, a great multitude that no one could number, from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and languages, standing before the throne and before the Lamb, clothed in white robes, with palm branches in their hands, and crying out with a loud voice, “Salvation belongs to our God who sits on the throne, and to the Lamb!” (Revelation 7:9–10)

In God’s word, I learned that his Wakanda has borders that expand beyond cultural similarity. All nations, all tribes, all tongues share a common citizenship, an everlasting fellowship that unites irrevocably. And this reality has already begun.

In Christ, I can greet a teenager in the mountains of Guatemala as “my brother.” I can divulge my deepest pains to an elderly white woman as I ask her to pray for me. Marrieds commune with singles; the rich dine with the poor. The healthy church is a foretaste of the coming paradise where Jesus, our King, unites a people of differences. Our distinctions don’t disappear, but a greater reason for unity appears. This family is connected by better blood: his.

In God’s coming Wakanda, he offers something even greater than the world of Black Panther: a unity made perfect through diversity. The different colors will complete the painting. The different notes will strike the chord. The eye will join with the nose and the arm to make the body whole. In that place, union—not uniformity—will be the greater light. There, the temporary brotherhood of the Panther will be engulfed by the diverse and eternal oneness of the Lamb.

This article originally appeared here.

Why You Need to Encourage Your Church to See Paul, Apostle of Christ

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The Apostle Paul has been lauded as the most important early convert to following Christ and the first missionary to preach the gospel to non-Jewish people. But he has also been accused of making “Christianity the religion of Paul, not of Christ” by distinguished scholars such as Kierkegaard. Who is this man of controversy?

Just in time for Easter 2018, Sony Pictures’ film. Paul, Apostle of Christ will shed light on who the Apostle Paul was–and what his role in the early church really was. (Release date is March 23, 2018.)

Why a movie about the Apostle Paul? Why now?

T.J. Berden, the producer of Paul, Apostle of Christ, explains, “Paul went from being the biggest persecutor of Christians to becoming the leader of a church community…I think the modern way of looking at people is that once you do something, that really defines your life. And I think Paul helps us show that no one is beyond God’s grace. That there’s always a chance.”

What Is the Movie Paul, Apostle of Christ About?

The story takes place at the end of Paul’s life…he’s in prison in Rome. He’s alone and in the dark. Paul, Apostle of Christ is the story of two men. Luke, as a friend and physician, risks his life every time he ventures into the city of Rome to visit Paul, who is held captive in Nero’s darkest, bleakest prison cell. Before Paul’s death sentence can be enacted, Luke resolves to write another book, one that details the beginnings of “The Way” and the birth of what will come to be known as the church. But Nero is determined to rid Rome of Christians, and does not flinch from executing them in the grisliest ways possible.

Bound in chains, Paul’s struggle is internal. He has survived so much—floggings, shipwreck, starvation, stoning, hunger and thirst, cold and exposure—yet as he waits for his appointment with death, he is haunted by the shadows of his past misdeeds. Alone in the dark, he wonders if he has been forgotten . . . and if he has the strength to finish well.

Two men struggle against a determined emperor and the frailties of the human spirit in order to bequeath the Gospel of Jesus Christ to the world. Paul and Luke together write the Book of Acts.

3 Strong Reasons to Encourage Your Church to See Paul, Apostle of Christ

No one is beyond God’s grace! There’s always a chance. For life change. For turning around. For coming to Christ.

That’s what captured producer David Zelon’s imagination for makingPaul, Apostle of Christ. He says, “The notion that someone could make a radical change in their life. That could go from being a thug to being one of the most important people in religious history intrigued me.”

For these three strong reasons, take your church to see Paul, Apostle of Christ.

1. See Paul, Apostle of Christ to give your church a strong dose of courage.

The movie will challenge your church to take another look at this Jesus whom Paul lived for and preached about. And it will give them courage to leave everything on the playing field for Jesus.

Actor James Faulkner who playsthe Apostle Paul in the movie, says, “This is Paul’s last few moments to convey the message of hope and love and forgiveness to the community and that they must hold fast to the faith no matter what dangers they face. I was amazed at the survival of Christianity rests with just a couple people.

2. See Paul, Apostle of Christ to give your church a strong dose of confidence.

Imagine a world once again transformed by people living boldly for Jesus! Paul’s confidence in the light of adversity will strengthen Christians’ hearts. Rich Peluso, Executive Vice President of Affirm Films (a Sony company), says of Paul: “This old beaten, worn-down old man who had left everything on the playing field for Jesus…to see this frail old man and think that the emperor of the largest kingdom in the world was fearful of this broken man shows the power of Christ through his followers–through his believers.”

When we stop to contextualize who Paul was in the days of the early church compared to who he would be today, Producer T.J. Berden says it most powerfully about Paul’s transformation from persecutor to preacher: “I thought do we really think that that’s possible today–that a person can change? I think the modern way of looking at people is that like once you do something, that really defines your life. And I think Paul helps us show that no one is beyond God’s grace. That there’s always a chance.”

3. See Paul, Apostle of Christ to give your church a strong dose of hope.

The movie will also encourage every Christian to see that God can use everyday people like them–just as He used everyday people like Paul.

Jim Caviezel plays the physician Luke. “This film to me is one that goes out to the world,” Caviezel says. “It goes out to this is what these guys were. And the people that are going to watch it are going to say, ‘wow! They’re a sinner like me.’ “

Eric Groth, Executive Producer of the film expresses that “we have a tendency to put people like that on a pedestal. And there almost comes this disconnect like I’m not as holy as they are. You know, God set them apart in a unique way, in a special way. It’s not the same as me. But the reality is they were just like us. They weren’t born with halos around their head.”

Church, don’t miss this powerful movie that will strengthen your courage, confidence, and hope.

Sign up today for the free simulcast event, available from March 4-25, 2018. Learn about the ministry of Paul with David Nasser, Dr. Monica Brennan, Dr. Ed Hindson, and Dr. Michael Easley. Jim Caviezel—who stars as Luke in AFFIRM Films’ upcoming film PAUL, APOSTLE OF CHRIST—will make a guest appearance. Bring your entire church together for a theological discussion and exclusive viewing of scenes from the upcoming PAUL, APOSTLE OF CHRIST motion picture.

Sign up for the free simulcast here.

 

Will Jesus “Walk the Streets” When He Returns?

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“Bible Answer Man” Hank Hanegraaff was asked on his broadcast, “What does it mean that Jesus will actually come back?” adding, “Will I see him on the street?”

Hanegraaff, who is president of the Christian Research Institute, said the caller would know of Christ’s return because the second coming will “put all things right.” Christ’s restorative power would be seen in the universe being delivered from decay and the resurrected bodies of believers.

Hanegraaf said Christ’s second coming will be physical, “Jesus appears physically—of that there is no doubt. The Christian faith is not platonic, it is physical. That is one of the reasons God used physical objects on this Earth to point to spiritual verities.”

Whether Jesus will be seen walking the streets is not the typical question asked about the second coming, most deal with the various views of eschatology and how Christ’s return relates to the tribulation.

John MacArthur was asked a similar question, “What does it mean that Jesus will come in the clouds (Revelation 1:7?)”

“Some have tried to allegorize Revelation 1:7 by assigning various figurative meanings to the ‘clouds.’ But there is no need to look for hidden meanings here, for the passage means just what it says, as do the two passages it quotes. There is nothing more to make of the statement that ‘He comes with the clouds.’ It simply means that Jesus will appear to all people as He comes to earth out of the heavens.”

John Stott, the late theologian, said of Christ’s return;

“He will return personally, for the one who is coming is “this Jesus” whom the apostles saw ascend into Heaven. (Acts 1:11)

“He will return visibly, so that “every eye will see him.” (Revelation 1:7)

“So differently from the first time, he will return in power and glory.  These words are borrowed from Jesus himself. (Mark 13:26)

“He will return to complete his salvation and judgment. (John 5:21-29, Hebrews 9:27-28)”

Gavin Ortlund,  a research fellow at the Carl F.H. Henry Center for Theological Understanding at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School envisions a similar return;

“The second coming of Jesus Christ is the personal (he won’t send an angel in his place), visible (every eye will see him), physical (he will come in the body in which he was crucified, raised and glorified) return of Jesus to this earth to consummate the salvation of his people (Phil. 3:20-21; Heb. 9:28; 1 John 3:1-3), to be glorified in them (2 Thess. 1:10), and to inflict vengeance on those who have defied him and the gospel of grace (2 Thess. 1:8).”

N.T. Wright has a different view, noting “the American obsession with the second coming of Jesus—especially with distorted interpretations of it—continues unabated,” adding with his dry, British wit, “Little did Paul know how his colorful metaphors for Jesus’ second coming would be misunderstood two millennia later.”

Wright believes Paul’s reference to “the Son of Man coming on the clouds” (Mark 13:26, 14:62, for example) are about Jesus’ vindication, his “coming” to heaven from earth. The parables about a returning king or master (for example, Luke 19:11-27) were originally about God returning to Jerusalem, not about Jesus returning to earth. This, Jesus seemed to believe, was an event within space-time history, not one that would end it forever.”

Paul’s description of Jesus’ reappearance in 1 Thessalonians 4 “is a brightly colored version of what he says in two other passages, 1 Corinthians 15:51-54 and Philippians 3:20-21: At Jesus’ “coming” or “appearing,” those who are still alive will be “changed” or “transformed” so that their mortal bodies will become incorruptible, deathless.”  

Wright says Paul’s “rich metaphors” are not to be understood as literal truth but rather “as a vivid and biblically allusive description of the great transformation of the present world of which he speaks elsewhere.”

Whether we see Jesus walking the streets following a dramatic return to earth a second time is debated, but there is one thing on which all agree; believers will one day walk with him on streets of gold.

3 Tips to Dealing With Criticism

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I recently went to the National Worship Leaders Conference. Naturally it was crawling with all kinds of creatives with different expressions and styles … and there were a lot of skinny jeans, of course.

Skinny jeans are definitely worn by many worship leaders, but there’s one thing that all worship leaders wear every time they get up in front of a congregation. It’s not something you request to wear, but it is something you’re required to wear. It’s simply part of the worship leader attire.

Every worship leader wears a TARGET.

When you get up in front of a group of people, you’re not going to please everyone. Not everyone is going to give you encouragement. You are going to get scrutinized and criticized. You’re an easy target.

I’ve pretty much heard it all. I’ve been criticized for my song selection, musical style, tempo, volume, lighting and even clothing.

When you surrender to the call of leading God’s people, you are also surrendering to the call of receiving God’s people’s criticisms.

So, how do we deal with criticism?

Here are some tips I’ve learned about dealing with that oh-so-wonderful criticism:


1. HUMBLE YOURSELF—You have a very important choice in life. You can either humble yourself or God will humble you. The Bible is clear on which option to choose. James 4:10 says, “Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.” Pride is that nasty thing inside of you that will turn a criticism into a crisis. Humbling ourselves means laying down the defenses and trusting that God will lift you up, just as He has promised. In my experience, when I lay down my defenses, it will often disarm a situation and enable some resolution. Every worship leader will be criticized. It’s part of it. If we are to lead people to worship God, we must lead by example. Humbling yourself is an act of worship. It’s God-honoring. Criticism can hurt, but pride will destroy you. When a worship leader succumbs to the temptation of pride in the face of criticism, nobody wins, except the enemy (Ephesians 6:12). Humble yourself … you won’t regret obeying God’s instruction, especially when He’s lifting you up.

2. LISTEN—Al Pacino was once asked how important listening is to an actor. He replied, “It’s as important as being listened to—I guess it’s more important to listen, because that will determine your reacting, and it keeps you from getting into habits, and keeps you fresh, and keeps you alive.” That lesson can apply to worship leaders. Listening to criticism can sometimes be painful, but Pacino’s is a very mature response and a healthy way to deal with it. Everyone has an opinion and what most everyone wants is just to be listened to. Hear them out! They may say something profound, even if they don’t intend to. Years ago, a man came up to me after a service, who I knew didn’t like anything I was doing. That particular morning, I introduced a song that I had written. I remember really getting lost in worship during that song. The man asked me if I had written it. I said yes, and he said he could tell. I then asked how he could tell, and he said something that has stuck with me since that day. He said, “I could tell because you were really into it as you were singing it, but can I tell you something? Don’t forget about us.” At that moment, God spoke to me through that man’s words. God taught me, right then, that as a worship leader, I am never to forget the crowd. The worship service was not about me worshiping. I can do that on my own. It’s about leading all of us in worship. When you hear criticism, humble yourself and listen to it. You never know. God may be speaking to you through someone you never expected.

3. CONSIDER THE SOURCE—It’s healthy to listen to criticism, but it’s unhealthy to believe everything you hear. Criticism can be such a blow and a downer. The truth hurts, but there will be times that you will hear things that are not true. Some of the criticism you will receive may be completely ridiculous. That’s when it’s important to consider the source. Don’t let one church member cloud your view of all the good that God is doing through you. If your heart is right and you have a humble spirit, remember that you will not please everyone. Some church members are spending too much time inspecting your actions rather than expecting God’s actions. Humble yourself and listen, but don’t let anyone steal your joy. Consider the source. They may be in a rough spot in their own life or they may have an unresolved issue with you. Your response and reaction could potentially help them, and that can be an amazing and God-sized victory. Criticism is not the enemy. It can be a tool of the enemy, but only if we allow it to be. The same power that conquered the grave lives inside of us, and there is no criticism too big that we can’t overcome.

Criticism will either make you bitter or better. It’s totally up to you. Make it a good thing!

The Reality for Youth Groups That Changes Everything

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I was challenged by a sermon given this past weekend by a retired Methodist bishop, based on the biblical story of the Ethiopian eunuch. And it got me thinking about the message and the message our youth ministries should embrace and project.

You probably know the story: the Ethiopian eunuch was rich, powerful and elite (traveling by chariot was the equivalent of today’s private-jet-and-limo set). He was, after all, in charge of the Ethiopian queen’s treasury. Clearly, he was also a very smart man—as we first encounter him as he’s reading Isaiah (not his native language!) in the back of a chariot.

Philip, after hearing from an angel that he’s supposed to head down to Gaza from Jerusalem, camps out alongside a road. And there he encounters the eunuch who is heading home from Jerusalem (the direction is important—and it’s fascinating that the angel didn’t direct Philip to the eunuch when they were both in Jerusalem).

Deuteronomy 23:1 says, “No one who has been emasculated by crushing or cutting may enter the assembly of the Lord.” (The junior high boy in me likes the old KVJ version, though—“He that is wounded in the stones, or hath his privy member cut off, shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord.”)

The eunuch went to Jerusalem to worship; but would have been prevented from doing so.

After Philip explains the prophetic passage the eunuch is reading, about Jesus, the eunuch asks an important question: “Here’s some water—what would prevent me from being baptized?” Of course, Phil baptizes him, and we have one of the most important conversion stories of the New Testament.

There are (and have been) a hundred ways this passage can be projected to our current day. But I’m a youth worker, and I began thinking about how PREVENTED teenagers are today—maybe more than at any time in human history. They’re:

• In massive, culturally-endorsed isolation

• Kept from the world of adults

• Viewed as incapable and broken

• Infantilized: treated as children

To those who are prevented, the gospel says, “NOTHING PREVENTS YOU.” You are welcome as an equal.

Our youth ministries should not exist as well-meaning holding tanks, waiting for maturity and adulthood.

Our youth ministries should not isolate teenagers from the world of adults.

Our youth ministries should not treat teenagers as children, incapable and broken.

Our ministries, instead, should be loudspeakers and labs of a “Nothing Prevents You” reality.

5 Ways to Get Yourself and Your Ministry Ready for Easter

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Easter is approaching…fast! I hope you’ve already begun planning for it in your ministry.

Easter weekend can be a wonderful time in the world of Children’s Ministry! But it can also be a nightmare for the Children’s Ministry leader. It’s typically one of the highest attended weekends of the year. Lots of visitors. High expectations.

So what’s a Children’s Ministry Leader to do to get ready for Easter? Here are a few things I’ve learned over the years:

Get ready for Easter by planning far in advance.

Hopefully, you’re already well in to your Easter planning. If not, get on it! Not only is there a lot to do, but it is one of the most important weekends of the year (think: visitors), so plan on doing what you do with excellence. Get all you bases covered. Be ready to invest in the visitors, manage the crises and present the Gospel clearly.

Get ready for Easter by planning and delegating.

Children’s Ministry should never be a one-person show. In other words, don’t try to do Easter on your own, no matter what size ministry you are leading. Create a plan (with your team). Communicate the plan (you really can’t over-communicate) and delegate responsibilities. If you’ve equipped people to lead, trust them to lead. If not, this is a great opportunity to practice equipping.

Here’s an article to help you do that:

Get ready for Easter by putting your best foot forward.

The old saying “You only get one chance to make a good first impression” is true. Easter is often the first (and many times the only) opportunity you will have at making a positive impression—maximize it! At the same time, be real. Be genuine. Don’t go so over the top that, when visitors return, it looks and feels like a completely different church.

Get ready for Easter by keeping the main thing the main thing.

Amidst all of our creativity, we can sometimes lose the message of Easter. Make sure that the Gospel message is clear and concise, and that there is opportunity for response. The Gospel is for kids, too, and this may be the first time they’ve heard it. Here are two articles to help with this:

Get ready for Easter by worshipping.

Easter is for you, too. I encourage leaders that one of the reasons to do things right the rest of the week is so you can take the opportunity to worship on Sunday. Easter, of all weekends, should afford you the opportunity. Take it…and celebrate the meaning of Easter. At the same time, be sure to facilitate time for your leaders and volunteers to worship, as well.

What would you share about how to get ready for Easter?

This article originally appeared here.

Resenters, Resisters and the Pride Divide

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There was a time I believed every church member would automatically and wholeheartedly embrace the call to prayer, and that more prayer would always bring more blessings. Today, I have learned otherwise. The culprit that has spoiled my expectations is pride. I call it “the pride divide.” Because the enemy is always counterattacking any renewed emphasis on prayer, the insipid infection of pride can infiltrate the hearts of both those who embrace the initiative and those who do not.

I have learned that when we get serious about prayer, we pick a fight with the devil at a whole new level. Our enemy’s tactics are subtle, serious and often divisive. While the “pride divide” is not inevitable, it is common if individuals become casual about the spiritual battle and lose sight of the highest objective of prayer in the life of the church—which is transforming intimacy with Christ, not a program of prayer activity.

Pride is described as the snare of the devil (1 Timothy 3:7). The snare makes its way into the prayer movement in such subtle fashion it is hardly noticeable until the symptoms show up in serious conflict. Pride is like bad breath—everyone knows you have it but you. This snare needs to be identified, exposed and addressed to prevent its destructive power from undermining God’s plan for a praying church.

Two camps can easily emerge. The first group I call the “resenters,” the second, the “resisters.” No one really plans to join either camp but the signs of subtle pride are obvious once they occur.

Camp One: The Resenters

The “resenters” can surface among those who jump wholeheartedly into the prayer ministry. As they relish their new experiences they share the blessings of prayer with great enthusiasm. Because prayer is something that must be experienced and can seldom be adequately explained, others who aren’t as involved don’t share the excitement. This lack of participation can be interpreted as a lack of spirituality—or a failure to support the leadership of the church. Soon the prayer-energized saints begin to resent the non-participants, feeling they are carnal.

Without great care and sensitivity a pharisaical-like pride can begin to surface in our lives. While the real fruit of prayer should be seen in humility and grace, the snare is always present. This can create an equal and opposite reaction.

Camp Two: The Resisters

Soon, the roots of pride can grow deep in the soil of a different group. I call them the “resisters.” Non-participants begin to dig in their heels and even become antagonistic to the new initiatives. Typically, they are reacting more to the overbearing zeal of the enthusiasts than to the actual call to prayer.

Of course, some Christians do not sense a need for a deeper walk with Christ. Their flesh can push back when they see others growing with a deeper spiritual enthusiasm. Self-satisfaction and an unwillingness to expand their prayer experience can be symptoms of stubborn flesh—but not always.

Deconstructing the Pride Divide

So what is a church to do once the pride divide has reared its ugly head? In my years of prayer leadership as a pastor, the following lessons have helped break down the “pride divide” and keep everyone focused on the right goals.

Honesty is the best policy – Church leaders must acknowledge the divide, or at least the potential for it, and determine to address it openly with understanding and grace. Several times over the years, I have spoken openly from the pulpit on a Sunday morning of this dilemma. I have noted the devil’s desire to undermine prayer and unity in the congregation. Just the act of exposing this danger allows people to talk about it, recognize it and find greater resolve to avoid it. It also serves public notice on the forces of darkness that we are all alert to their schemes.

Understanding goes a long way – It is helpful for the “resenters” to remember that just because someone cannot participate in the prayer programs does not mean they are less committed to seeking the Lord. The “holdouts” may have a variety of legitimate reasons for not participating in the call to united prayer. Simple issues like scheduling conflicts, job responsibilities or health concerns may prevent them from plugging into the programs as they would like. Of course, some hold back due to fear, intimidation or ignorance. Ultimately, it is the Lord’s place, not ours, to judge others’ motives. Not all non-participation is motivated by pride.

As a leader, it is important to remind people that “the LORD does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7). It is good to explain to the “resenters” that public prayer activity is not the only gauge of spiritual authenticity. “Resisters” need to be reminded that the extreme outward zeal of the prayer adopters often reflects a very sincere and seeking heart, for which we should always be grateful.

Prayer is intimacy, not activity – As prayer ministry develops, it is very easy to get wrapped up in the activity of prayer and lose the focus on the core issue of relationship with God. This is really the contrast we see between the prayer approach of the Pharisees and that of Jesus. In His Sermon on the Mount, Jesus reprimanded the Pharisees for reducing prayer to a public display of religious superiority. In contrast, He told His followers to humbly gather in a secret place to experience intimacy with their Father in heaven (Matthew 6:9-13). Similarly, we can fall into the trap of making prayer a “program for God” rather than the pure and simple pursuit of His person and presence.

The program mentality is fertile soil for the weeds of pride. Prayer leaders must emphasize the difference between a prayer program, which is focused on activities and numbers, versus a prayer culture, which is about people praying in a variety of equally legitimate forms.

Only the Holy Spirit can motivate people to pray – Ultimately, only the Holy Spirit can draw people into a deeper commitment to prayer. Any other pressure can become polluted with guilt, intimidation, and carnal obligation. If Jesus wants His church to be a house of prayer, His Spirit is able to make it so. Each of us must find our place in this plan, and graciously pray that others will do the same. This environment of humility and grace makes it difficult for the “pride divide” to thrive for very long.

“Resenters” should regularly place their trust in the Holy Spirit rather than announcements and recruitment efforts to motivate others to pray. This takes the pressure off human efforts to push things forward. Instead, we must trust the Holy Spirit and ask Him to do His work, in His way, to call His church to prayer.

“Resisters” should be encouraged to listen, not to the voice of prayer enthusiasts, but to the voice of the Holy Spirit. That still, small voice is the ultimate invitation to intimacy with God and is fully sufficient to diffuse pride and build a house of prayer.

Grace for the “Pride Divide”

First Peter 5:5-6 reminds us, “All of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility, for ‘God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.’ Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time.”

Real humility works in concert with honesty, understanding, intimacy with Christ, and a focus on the power of the Holy Spirit. This humility invites grace and allows us to express mutual submission. “Resenters” can trust Christ for the grace that will draw others into prayer. “Resisters” can receive the grace that will lead them into prayer. Together, they will be exalted to a higher level of spiritual understanding and intimacy as they learn to seek the Lord on the common ground of humility.

(Adapted from Appendix 2 in the book Old Paths, New Power. For more information on this book, CLICK HERE.)

This article originally appeared here.

7 Reasons Your Church Needs a Safety and Security Team

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Should you have a safety and security team? I don’t need to write about the risks that churches face in our crazy world. But if you need security solution that meets them perfectly and offers a wide range of services that ensure you’re covered no matter the circumstances, then a good services like Security Guard Company Calgary is the right one for your very significant concern! On the other hand, I’ve seen far too many churches not making preparations for the possibility of trouble. They know they need to do something, but they keep putting it off.

  1. A congregational gathering is a vulnerable place. We’ve seen evidence of that truth within the past few years. The nature of our work says that the church is open to anyone. It’s easy to get into an unprotected church building with an unprepared congregation.
  2. We need to be better prepared for emergencies. A church ought to be as prepared as possible for everything from an injured church member to a heart attack victim to a weather threat to an armed intruder.
  3. Our churches often have qualified people who can serve in these roles. Often, police officers, firefighters, physicians, nurses and EMT’s are sitting in our congregation. Putting them to work gives them purpose in the church and improves the church’s safety.
  4. These teams increase security in our preschool and children’s areas. Laypersons do a great job here, but trained personnel from a security guard company don’t hurt, either. We cannot go too far to protect the next generation.
  5. Church parking lots are especially vulnerable to theft. Left unwatched and unprotected, an empty car during a worship service is an invitation to theft—especially if expensive items are left on the seat.
  6. In most cases, a Safety and Security Team will ease the pastor’s mind. Pastors deal with a lot of stuff on a Sunday. Knowing this team is in place helps ease at least one burden for church leaders.
  7. Should something tragic happen, a Safety and Security Team can guide through the chaos. Nothing is guaranteed if a tragedy happens, but this team should help the church respond immediately and wisely.

What other reasons would you add to this list? Does your church have this kind of team?

This article originally appeared here.

Where Is The Voice For The Hour

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God has always used a voice to call His people back. Whether a godly king, a prophet, a preacher or a missionary, He has historically raised up a singular voice that has resounded across the landscape of the land, calling people to repentance, revival and renewal.

One such voice was George Whitefield. A few years ago while in New England, I visited Pulpit Rock where Whitefield preached to thousands with no amplification. I also went to his grave, which is under an old historic church. He preached the night he died to thousands of people gathered outside the pastor’s home where he was staying. That part of our nation, once the hotbed for the fires or revival, is now in most instances parched, burned over land—land in need of a fresh breeze from heaven.

Whitefield had a voice that could be heard by thousands in an open field. He once said, “I love those who thunder out the Word. The Christian world is in a dead sleep. Nothing but a loud voice can awaken them out of it.”

An actor who was a contemporary of Whitefield said his voice was so powerful that if he were an actor on stage he could have made the audience weep or tremble by just saying the word, “Oh.” Where is that voice today?

Whitefield was used of God to shake England. From 1738-1770, he made seven trips across the Atlantic to America to preach. He covered the land from Maine to Georgia. In one 75-day period, he preached 175 times and traveled 800 miles (when the only way was by horseback or wagon). He preached anywhere and everywhere—barns, churches, courthouses, open fields, always looking for the opportunity to preach Christ.

As I think of George Whitefield, I also remember the voice of Vance Havner. He had a soft-spoken, nasal, Carolina drawl, but when he spoke, he could cut to the heart. My life was changed under his preaching. I’m sure the average preaching professor would scoff at his style, his lack of outlines, and his use of humor, but no one could sit unchanged when listening to Vance Havner.

America needs a voice today. We’ve got pastors, preachers and teachers, but we don’t have the kind of voice that will cause God to rend the heavens and come down. Some voices are watered down because they want to have favor with whomever “Pharaoh” is at the moment. Others can’t be the voice because they are indebted to someone in their church for all the perks they get for ignoring certain topics. Others lack the voice because they are selling a false gospel, a prosperity gospel or even an “everyone will go to heaven” gospel. These will all find favor and are often applauded, but they are not what we need in this hour.

Nathan wasn’t looking to be on David’s advisory council when he said, “You are the man!” and called out David for his sin. John the Baptist wasn’t invited to dinner at Herod’s palace. He was sent to prison and lost his head for preaching repentance. Paul was invited to speak to governors, but they thought he was out of his mind.

The voice we need today won’t be politically correct, and it won’t be heard by most denominational leaders. Why? The voice we need will shake the system, rattle cages, offend the comfortable, rebuke the carnal and be totally out of step with the religious establishment.

Vance Havner wrote, “He will be on better terms with heaven than with earth, like Elijah who stood first before God and therefore needed not to bow and scrape before Ahab. The prophet pays a price, but it is worth it to walk into any pulpit beholden to no man. He owes no political debts to anyone for pulling wires to get him a top seat in the synagogue. While other speakers worry about making good and putting it over, the prophet is concerned only with delivering God’s message regardless of consequences.”

What politician fears the preacher today? Mary Queen of Scots feared John Knox. Where is the Elijah that makes trouble with Ahab and Jezebel? Where is the Amos that doesn’t worry about the dress code for a speaking event, but comes dressed in the full armor of God and covered with the Holy Spirit?

If we are serious about revival, we need a voice. In fact, we need resounding voices—in harmony, on the same page, with the same heartbeat, who refuse to be cowards because they fear man or the opinions of others. A.C. Dixon, who was pastor of Moody Church and Spurgeon’s Tabernacle, said, “Every preacher is, or ought to be, a prophet of God who preaches as God bids him without regard to results. When he becomes conscious of the fact that he is a leader in his church or denomination, he has reached a crisis in his ministry. Shall he be a prophet of God or a leader of men?”

We need another School of the Prophets. We need men on fire for God who’ve come out of their prayer closets with a message burning in their hearts. The time is too short and the situation is far too desperate for anything less than that.

This article originally appeared here.

Why a Good Pastor-Teacher Keeps Repeating Himself. Or Herself.

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Have you realized how important repetition is in order to be an effective pastor teacher?

“To write the same things again is no trouble for me, and it is a safeguard for you” (Philippians 3:1).

“Now, students, as I was saying…”

“Some of you in the congregation have heard me tell of the time…”

“To reiterate…”

“We’re in a series on “Steps to Finding the Perfect Church.” Let’s begin by reviewing the first 153 principles which we covered last week…”

We all repeat ourselves, whether by intention or omission. We seniors get accused of repeating the same stories over and over. (I tell people I’m a pastor, and “Hey—it’s what we do!”)

The Effective Pastor Teacher

The effective pastor teacher not only may repeat himself, but must. Good teaching involves something called spaced repetition. After saying something essential, the teacher goes on to something else or tells a story, then returns and repeats it, often making an additional point.

Your audience is always changing. New people arrive, people grow, people become more teachable than previously, people don’t always “get it” the first time through. So, as a pastor teacher, you’re always repeating yourself.

If you’re wise—and you are—you will not bore your audience by a dull repetition of the previous message, but will find new ways to say the same thing.

Pastor Teacher Example #1: Jesus, the Master Teacher

Want to see our Lord doing this? Watch Him during the Upper Room discourse—John chapters 13 through 16—in which He is preparing the disciples for the days ahead. (We should probably include John 17 in this, since the “High Priestly Prayer” was part of the same evening.)

For convenience sake, let’s say the Lord spent four hours with the disciples in the upper room that night. And let’s say He had four basic subjects to cover. Now, given such an assignment—four topics in four hours—the typical pastor would have spent an hour on each point. Not so our Lord.

They don’t call Him the Master Teacher for nothing.

Jesus braided the four strands of His teaching together, returning to each one throughout the evening. Here they are:

Jefferson Bethke: Here’s How to Win Over a Critic

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Have a meal with someone you disagree with rather than an argument on social media.

That’s the advice from Jefferson Bethke, who produced the video “Why I Hate Religion But Love Jesus” that has attracted more than 33 million views since it was posted in 2012.

Bethke, who was a guest on the ChurchLeaders podcast, believes the dinner table is better suited for contentious conversation because there is “something sacred about sharing a meal together.” Sitting across a table with someone you disagree with allows you to look in their eyes, hear the passion in their voice and see them as someone created in the image of God; as another soul. Bethke said that understanding is lost when you’re typing on a keyboard and sending your thoughts into the dehumanizing blogosphere. He is confident that if there were more meals between Christians and unbelievers, there would be more healing and reconciliation in the culture.

Part of the reconciliation, Bethke argued, will only come when the church repents of its treatment of racial minorities and those who identify as LGBT. While he wasn’t specific he suggested the church has been unwelcoming of those groups, saying the church should be the most uplifting to those who have been most maligned and oppressed. He also quoted Andy Stanley, who making the same argument, has said the safest place for a middle school student wrestling with same sex attraction should be the church.  

He does see change happening especially where the church is exploding in places like Africa, China and Korea. Bethke thought there was a correlation between church growth and Christian suffering that has made Christians more sensitive to what others have gone through. And while he denies that American Christians are being persecuted, Bethke hopes the same suffering-induced sensitivity will lead to church growth in the U.S.

In the podcast, Bethke also talked about the criticism that followed his viral YouTube video. He said he produced it at a time when he felt duped by Christianity. After accepting Christ, life wasn’t turning out how he thought it would. He said he didn’t expect life to be perfect but instead everything got harder leading to a “strong season of depression” that he never experienced before. He mistakenly thought he had to do certain religious things to win Christ’s favor and blessing.

Michigan pastor Kevin DeYoung produced a verse-by-verse critique of Bethke’s video that included an overemphasis on grace and forgiveness while remaining silent on obedience and transformation, harsh judgment of religious people and the church, and what he saw to be an incorrect use of the word “religion.”

DeYoung also thought there was a lot that was “unhelpful and misleading,” especially for earnest, young Christians like Bethke who might be confused about the Jesus portrayed in the Bible, who contrary to the video, did not hate religion, rules, rituals or commands.

Bethke emailed DeYoung thanking him for his words of wisdom and warning, “I just wanted to say I really appreciate your article man, it hit me hard. I’ll even be honest and say I agree 100 percent.”

DeYoung said of Bethke’s email that he couldn’t “remember ever receiving such a teachable response to criticism.”

Bethke said his gracious response was only possible because he had been working with several mentors who helped him be humble, “Without them I wouldn’t have been able to be steady through that.”

Ironically, it was an interaction that came through the blogosphere and not over a meal, but proved that the Holy Spirit can work in either environment when the players involved are responding in grace and love.

Ravi Zacharias: How to Interact with a Generation That Questions the Existence of God

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Editor’s Note: After the publishing of this article, an independent investigation found allegations implicating Ravi Zacharias of sexual abuse to be credible. Prior to this report, ChurchLeaders had published multiple articles about Ravi Zacharias and his ministry. Although our editorial team believes his work still has value since it involved articulating the truths of God’s Word, we would be remiss not to disclose the painful truth of Mr. Zacharias’ personal actions that have come to light following his death. For further reading, please see:
Sexting, Spiritual Abuse, Rape: Devastating Full Report on Ravi Zacharias Released
The Story Behind the Ravi Zacharias Allegations (Part 1): Lawsuits, NDAs, and Email Threads
The Story Behind the Ravi Zacharias Allegations (Part 2): ‘Cursory’ Investigations and More Accusations



Apologist Ravi Zacharias is known for meeting with college students around the world and answering their most difficult worldview questions and challenges of Christianity. He says the only way he can do that is by being as interested in the person asking the question as he is the question itself.

Key Worldview Questions

At a recent address at Liberty University, he said everyone comes to understand life by answering questions about origin, morality and destiny. He called those the questions that will plague us until we die. And the answers change with the culture.

Zacharias said while those questions have plagued mankind throughout history, if you hope to effectively share the gospel, you have to put them into present context for the person asking the question. And he said on college campuses the question that attracts the most attention is that of meaning.

The Indian native said three factors are influencing how we answer those questions in today’s culture; the death of the God movement resulting in a rise of atheism, a plurality of worldviews coming to America, and the power of the visual, where video has made truth boring and evil tantalizing.

Zacharias argues to be truly relevant to today’s culture and influence its thinking, you must understand it. He provided three responses when interacting with a generation that questions the existence of God, is influenced by a multitude of worldviews, and listens with their eyes and thinks with their feelings.

First, he said they can’t just hear the gospel, they must see it. Zacharias, who spends much of his time traveling in the Middle East, says almost every Muslim who comes to Christ will say it happened one of two ways; when God spoke to them in a dream using their own worldview or they saw the love of Christ in somebody.

But he argued, it’s not just Muslims, the entire world is longing to see the embodiment of the Christian experience.

Second, he said the gospel message should not just be argued, but felt. Zacharias laments that so much of apologetics today is cerebral and so little is about a personal walk with Christ. He said when you deliver the gospel message, you must have a knowledge of Christ’s presence in your life.

And lastly, Zacharias said we need an approach that doesn’t just achieve a desired end, bringing people to Christ, but also the means by which we accomplish that objective, by rescuing the Word of God in the eyes of people. He mentioned the recent ridicule of Vice President Mike Pence for saying God talks to him as an example of what the world thinks of the Bible.

Zacharias recounted a comment made at the recent funeral of colleague Nabeel Qureshi as a way to prove our love and confidence in God’s word. Jim Tour, a professor at Rice university, told the audience that Nabeel suggested giving an unbeliever the gospel of John, ask them to read it three times without prejudice and then watch the miracle take place.

Zacharias told the Liberty graduates, to fully understand those asking worldview questions about life, they need to live the gospel, sense the gospel and be able to defend it.

5 Reasons Many Pastors Struggle With Depression

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Many church leaders really do struggle with pastoral depression.

Most church members have no idea their pastor was depressed. They don’t know until they are awakened to the reality of some of the dramatic consequences of the depression: broken marriages; sexual affairs; resignation from ministry; and even suicide.

If you are a pastor reading this post and you are struggling with depression, please get help. Too many of you pastors have been taught that depression is a sign of failure in ministry, that it is something that must be hidden from view. Those are lies, blatant lies. Please get help. Now.

Why Many Deal with Pastoral Depression

But the primary purpose of this post is to explain the precipitating factors to depression. More clearly, these are the five primary causes pastors identified as the reasons behind their depression. Each of the causes is followed by a direct quote from pastors who shared with me their struggles.

  1. Spiritual warfare.

    “I don’t mean this in a profane way, but there was a point in my ministry when all hell broke loose. I can’t explain the attacks any way other than spiritual warfare. The Enemy was intent on destroying my ministry, and I began to spiral downward emotionally.”

  2. The surprising reality of pastoral leadership.

    “I wish someone had told me how tough it is to be a pastor. My single counsel was to preach the Word, and I understand the priority of preaching. But, after a year or so in my first pastorate at age 31, I saw the underbelly of local church life. I was just caught off guard. And it took me some time before I realized I was truly depressed.”

  3. Sense of inadequacy.

    “My church is declining. While I don’t get hung up on numbers, my members started talking about the decline. And when we had to delete a position because we could no longer pay the person, I really begin to hit rock bottom. I felt like it was all my fault.”

  4. Critics and bullies.

    “Pastoral leadership really can be a death by a thousand cuts. It’s not any one person or criticism; it’s the constant and steady stream of criticisms. It wears on you. My depression came on gradually, so by the time I was in deep depression, I did not see it coming.”

  5. Loneliness.

    “It’s really hard to find a true friend when you are a pastor. And when you have no one to talk to about your struggles and questions, life can get lonely. That is why Church Answers has been a God-send to me. I get to ask questions and share my struggles in a safe place.”

The pastor in number five mentioned Church Answers, a dynamic community of church leaders. It’s a place where you can get your church questions answered 24/7. And, more importantly, it’s a place where you will never feel alone. I urge you to become a part of this community while it is open this week. It may be one of the best decisions you make in ministry.

Pastoral depression is real. It seems to be pervasive. May we who serve alongside them, staff and laity alike, take a few minutes a day to pray for our pastors.

It could very well be one of the most important ministries we have.

This article originally appeared here.

This Easter It Is Critical We Show Kids Proof That Jesus Rose From the Dead

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This Easter, most churches will share the story of Jesus rising from the dead with the children in their ministry.

But in the culture kids are growing up in today, I don’t believe that is enough.

Today’s kids want to know WHY we believe that Jesus rose from the dead.

Consider this.

46 percent of Gen Z (today’s kids) say they need factual evidence to support their beliefs.  

24 percent say the teaching they are exposed to is shallow.  

27 percent say the church is not a safe place to express doubts.

Wow! Do you see that? Almost have of the kids sitting in your church on Easter Sunday want to see factual evidence that Jesus rose from the dead.

Like never before, we must take kids on a deeper dive and help them see the facts that prove Jesus rose from the dead.

Sorry, they’re not just going to take your word for it. They want to grapple with the facts, reports and historical evidence and come to their own conclusion. And guess what? That’s a good thing. Because they will come out on the other side with a faith that is real and can withstand the attacks of doubt, skepticism and humanism.

In fact, I believe one reason we’ve seen so many kids walk away from the faith is because we’ve given them shallow teaching that resulted in a shallow faith. 

This Easter, it is critical that we help kids examine the evidence surrounding the resurrection, so they can decide for themselves if they believe it.

This is why I developed a lesson called CSIChrist SceneInvestigation. In this lesson, kids get an in-depth look at the resurrection claim and closely examine it. From this, they gain a deeper understanding of why we believe Jesus rose from the dead.

Kids examine the evidence surrounding…

  • the soldiers and disciples at the tomb
  • the testimonies of the men who gave their lives for their belief in the resurrection
  • the many other witnesses who saw Jesus after He rose
  • the evidence at the tomb
  • and much more…

The lesson goes on and shares that through the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus, our sins can be forgiven and we can have a relationship with God.

Of course, the content is delivered in a format that engages kids with hands on activities, games, skits, video, problem solving and much more. Kids also get an evidence recorder booklet that guides them through the examination of the facts.

I’d like to invite you to join me this Easter in taking kids on a journey to examine the facts of the resurrection. It is critical that we do so if we are going to see kids develop a genuine faith.

You can order the CSI lesson now at this link.

This article originally appeared here.

7 Ways Leaders Waste Valuable Time and Energy

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Wasting time and energy may be one of my biggest pet peeves as a leader. Some days I leave work and feel I never got off the proverbial treadmill. It’s physically and mentally draining.

Does it ever feel like you are wasting valuable time and energy?

It can be frustrating to feel your most valuable commodity—time—has been wasted or you invested good energy on the wrong things.

I firmly believe when we get rid of some common drains on our time and energy we can dramatically improve our performance as leaders. With this in mind, I’ve observed, in my own personal development, some ways to eliminate time and energy wasters.

Here are seven ways this leader wastes time and energy:

Focusing too much attention on the naysayers.

I have found worrying over what critics are saying, especially the ones I have learned I will likely never make happy, delays progress and takes time and energy from me. Plus, it only detracts my focus from the positive people who believe in the vision and are supportive. Every decision a leader makes will make some happy and some unhappy.

I need to be humble, make sure I’m not making decisions alone, and filter through the constructive criticism I need to hear, but then give my best attention to moving forward.

(Oh, how I need to read my own thoughts every Monday morning.)

Refusing to delegate.

When I make every decision, or become too controlling as a leader, I rob myself and our team of valuable extra time and energy a talented team could have provided. I feel overwhelmed more quickly, the team feels under-appreciated and we all fail to accomplish as much as we should.

Sometimes it seems easier to simply do things myself. And, it may actually be easier in the short run, but it’s never the wisest decision long-term.

Second guessing decisions.

Sometimes I can wear myself out wrestling over a decision—even though I know I’ve covered all the bases I can. When I have prayed, sought wise counsel and followed my gut, it’s often best just to make the decision.

If I’m wrong, I find it is better to work to make better decisions moving forward rather than being timid about my next decision or living in a pity party of the bad ones already made.

Plus, the opportunity cost is huge when I take too long to make a decision.

Trying to have all the ideas.

Many leaders feel they have to be the originator of all the creativity of a team. Some do it it of pride and some mistakenly believe it’s what a leader must do. They waste time brainstorming alone and the energy created by expanding the creative process.

Consequently, the best ideas often never surface. Original thoughts, better than ours, are usually in the room or the organization if we will welcome them to the table.

Opening the process of discovery to other people also preserves my time and energy for more efficient uses and allows me to concentrate on things only I can do.

Living with bad systems and structures.

Let’s face reality. Over time, rules take on a life of their own. What was once created to improve efficiency actually begins to slow progress and waste valuable time. Plus, bad structure is an energy-drainer.

Change the rules, and, if possible, drop them. We need healthy guidelines, but the fewer restrictions we place on people the better they can perform and you often free up valuable space for people to actually enjoy their work. Morale boosters are always good for productivity.

Disorganization.

Many leaders feel overwhelmed because they don’t have good organizational skills. Learning how to better handle routine tasks such as processing emails, calendaring and scheduling work flow each week will drastically improve time efficiency and energy to do more work.

Knowing this, I tried to begin each day with a checklist of “must do” activities. I take time to plan out my week. I work from a pre-determined schedule, as much as possible. Sometimes, I will stop everything I’m doing just to take a mental break and organize my life. This may include something as simple as cleaning my desk, as well. It has also proven valuable that I learn the importance of the word NO and use it.

Being organized helps handle interruptions, which naturally come for all of us.

Completing tasks which prove unhelpful to my overall productivity.

This could be any number of things. Even reading a book, for example. Perhaps a silly example, but I have discovered sometimes I can read too much. It may sound strange, but really it’s because I read things I didn’t need to read. I start a book and within the first chapter I know it’s not helpful, or even enjoyable, but my sense of completion wants to finish. It would be better to put it aside and pick up another book.

Take a novel length email. I receive them often. I try to determine first if I’m the one who should respond. Many times I’m not, and I know it before I read and try to process it completely. The sooner I pass it on to someone more suitable the less time I waste.

It could be attending a meeting or supervising a project. Whatever it is—if I am not the best person for the job or it is just a time or energy waster—the sooner I say no or hand off the task, the more time and energy I preserve for other tasks I should be doing.

What time or energy wasters have you seen in leadership?

This article originally appeared here.

5 Do’s and Dont’s to Help Christian Leaders Guard Their Sexual Purity

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As a traveling evangelist I’m on the road…a lot. With all the headlines of Christian influencers, Hollywood actors and political leaders falling morally I’m reminded again and again of the importance of relentlessly guarding my sexual purity.

Over the years I’ve developed a short list of five do’s and don’ts that help me do just that. Perhaps this list will help you as well.

DO: Have trusted friends hold you accountable and ask tough questions.

Zane BlackDoug Holliday and Dave Gibson are three ministry leaders who hold me accountable and have carte blanche to ask me any question at any time (and they often do!). These questions can range from my thought life to road habits to marriage strength to time spent with God to whatever. They ask me hard questions and I ask them. We are sworn to secrecy and honesty.

As James 5:16 reminds us, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” This verse doesn’t tell us to confess all our sins to everyone but we should have at least some fellow believers who know all of our struggles and can help us walk in moral and sexual purity.

DON’T: Be stupid and put yourself in a situation that can lead to a situation.

From driving in a car with a member of the opposite sex alone to other traveling/counselling protocols, I’m pretty meticulous about whatever situation I’m in. Why? Because innocent situations can lead to tempting situations pretty darn quickly!

I once asked my friend Danny Oertli (a fellow frequent traveler) if he had ever been a situation where he was tempted to compromise with someone. He said no. Then he said something I’ll never forget. He said, “I think the guys who get into those kinds of situations want to get into those kinds of situations.

I agree.

DO: Cultivate a closer and closer relationship with your spouse.

If you’re married (not all Christian leaders are) then make sure you are growing closer and closer to your spouse on every level (spiritually, emotionally and physically). Oftentimes moral falls are preceded by marriage fails, with disillusioned spouses looking for love in all the wrong places.

Marriage is like a dance. Some are waltzes and others are tangos. My marriage has always been a tango with both of us battling to lead (“You lead. No I lead. Now dance!“). This led to our first several years of marriage being, shall we say, a bad night on the dance floor. But now our marriage is more like Arnold and Jamie Lee at the end of True Lies. And the dance is working because, for 27 years we have been working at it.

I can honestly say that I’m closer to my wife now than ever before and my wife can say the same thing about me (I just asked her!). A marriage that lasts keeps moving in the right direction and becomes stronger over the years, lessening the possibility of a moral meltdown.

DON’T: Trust too much in the rules above to keep you from moral failure.

I’ll never forget when I was a young pastor at a church in Denver and running what was then a brand new ministry, Dare 2 Share. Somebody paid for me to go to a small pastors conference in Colorado Springs. Little did I know that God would use this conference, and the man speaking at it, to impact my life in a big way.

The speaker was an expert at counseling struggling pastors. He had shepherded hundreds of spiritual shepherds from all across America, many of whom had fallen into sexual immorality of some sort or another. He was at this conference to help pastors fight against the insidious enemy called “lust” and to preserve the integrity of their lives and the pulpits they preach from on a weekly basis.

After he was introduced, he took the podium and asked the question, “How many of you pastors have some sort of boundaries when it comes to counseling members of the opposite sex? For instance, you won’t counsel a woman alone or with the door of your office shut or something like that?”

I looked around the auditorium of 200 or so pastors to see 200 or so hands raised. Mine was raised too. I had always taken measures as a young, married pastor to make sure I was never in a situation where temptation could overtake me or that, well, just plain looked bad. And I was in good company. The men of God who surrounded me were just as concerned with their own personal piety and purity as I was.

That’s why I was shocked and rocked to hear the speaker say, “I’ve counseled hundreds of pastors all across America who have fallen into sexual sin, and every single one of them had safeguards and boundaries in place.” It felt like the speaker had taken a stun gun and shot us all square in the chest. Even the crickets were convicted and quiet.

He continued, “Here’s the problem gentlemen, you can have all the safeguards you want. You can choose not to counsel a woman alone and refuse to be in a car by yourself with a member of the opposite sex. But LUST WILL PICK A LOCK. Lust will find a way to work around the safeguard and feed its ravenous hunger for satisfaction.” 

Have your do’s and don’ts, but don’t trust in them. As Colossians 2:20-23 reminds us, “Since you died with Christ to the basic principles of this world, why, as though you still belonged to it, do you submit to its rules: ‘Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!’? These are all destined to perish with use, because they are based on human commands and teachings. Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom, with their self-imposed worship, their false humility and their harsh treatment of the body, but they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.”

The “Don’t rules” do not and cannot rule over lust. As a matter of fact “they lack any value in restraining sensual indulgence.” If anything these rules become an aphrodisiac which makes the temptation at hand even harder to resist.
DO: Depend on the Holy Spirit moment by moment day after day.

So what is our hope in being victorious over lust if safeguards can’t ultimately provide it? Colossians 3:1-2 provides the answer, “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”

Sure, lust will pick a lock, but the power of God via the Holy Spirit is available to us when we rivet our eyes onto the resurrected and enthroned Christ. As we learn to walk in a moment by moment declaration of dependence on the Holy Spirit we’ll have the strength we need to walk in victory over sexual sin.

I still won’t counsel a woman alone. Nor will I drive in a car alone with a member of the opposite sex. And, by God’s grace, I’m working to make my marriage stronger and stronger. But I refuse to put my trust in these safeguards to keep me from giving into sexual compromise. Only Jesus is strong enough to do that.

Let’s refuse to become another devastating headline and choose to finish our race well!

This article originally appeared here.

3 Leadership Cop-Outs That Sound Spiritual, but Aren’t

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You might be surprised how common leadership cop-outs for Christian leaders.

I often hear from people who say “We don’t any need more ideas/strategies/conferences/skills…all we need to do is ________,” and then they fill in the blank with something that sounds spiritual.

Maybe you have people like that at your church, or someone like that on your team.

It’s amazing how common this perspective is.

You know the drill. Every time you suggest, “Why don’t we try reformatting our services/changing our kids ministry/reaching out into the community” they shoot back with “what we really need to do is just pray” (or “what we really need to do is get back to the Bible…”) as though that settled the discussion.

Sometimes, of course, it’s not other people who have the problem. Maybe you’ve fallen for a leadership cop-out too—dodging the real issue by putting a spiritual mask over it.

Can it be that something that sounds so spiritual can actually stop some very spiritual work?

Well, yes. The answer is yes. In the name of God, some people end up opposing the work of God. And it’s all done in the most holy-sounding way.

No More Leadership Cop-Outs

Here are three leadership cop-outs that sound spiritual, but aren’t.

1. Leadership Cop-Outs: All We Need to Do Is Pray About It

This sounds so good. After all, how can prayer be a BAD thing?

I mean how are you supposed to counter that? It puts you or anyone around you in a horribly awkward position.

If you disagree, you sound like you’re coming out against prayer.

If you agree, you’ve just mothballed any productive strategy conversations.

I mean who really wants to come out against prayer? Not me. Not you.

And so, not sure what to do, we shut down the leadership conversation and all the potential that comes with it.

Prayer alone can become a smokescreen. Why? Because while prayer is foundational, God almost always moves people to do something.

3 Things That Will Make Your Kids Feel Better Than Taking Selfies

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Reactionary parenting is sometimes all we’ve got.
With culture changing SO RAPIDLY all around us, it’s so hard to stay in front of where our children are going.
The snowball rolling down the mountain that is social media isn’t going to slow down. It’s not. And you know what? It’s OK.
You don’t have to know the difference between an Insta and a Finsta.
Our kids are going to understand it better than us in no time.
And many of them do already.
We don’t have to understand the technology better than they do.
We simply have to understand THEM.

Here Are Three Keys to Making Your Kids Feel Better Than a Selfie.

  1. Be Their First Selfie Like.
    Selfies. What a freaking Love/Hate relationship we have with them.
    Post a picture of yourself and have the world tell you how beautiful you are…
    Feels Amazing…
    PRESTO…Selfie Magic
    I do it. But only at the right angle.
    Your tween is gonna do it.
    Your teen is gonna do it.
    Honestly, your 8-year-old is gonna do it cause they see YOU do it.
    They are going to pucker their lips or crooked smile.
    They want to be beautiful.
    So you know what I do?
    I HELP my daughter take them.
    I take them with her.
    I tell her how gorgeous she is.
    I tell her when I think a pic may be inappropriate.
    I tell her that by making that one face, maybe people will think she is being sexy.
    I tell her by making that other face, people will think her smile is gorgeous.
    I tell her that she should not be ashamed of how beautiful she is and to make sure that she is using her beauty to make other people feel beautiful.
    I tell her that her beauty has the potential to help or hurt the world.
    She is responsible to match her outer beauty to her inner one.
    And when they do post that inappropriate selfie… DON’T FREAK OUT.
    Take them on a date, wrap them in love, and talk to them about it over a scone and latte as opposed to a text message.
  2. Show Off Their Guts
    Use YOUR FEED to talk about how beautiful they are on the INSIDE.
    It’s so easy to fill our posts up with beautiful pictures of our kids and their over the top hipster outfits.
    We dress Losiah to the nines. It’s OK.
    But make sure that when they read your feed, it is not just showing off beautiful pictures of them.
    Talk about WHO they are more than WHAT they are.
    If your kids can’t read yet…they WILL be able to read.
    And when they do…
    Let them know how amazing they are INSIDE and out.
  3. Stop Selfie Shame
    We work out so that people compliment our physique.
    We wear certain outfits so that people notice our style.
    We filter our sunset pictures so that people think it looked better than it actually did.
    We have been taking selfies for years…we just weren’t calling them selfies.
    Awareness is always the key.
    It’s not a stretch to say that most people who have more selfies in their timelines than anything else are seeking to be emotionally filled because they are lacking that in real life.
    It’s OBVIOUS people. (I talk about this in my upcoming book.)
    When I look at my 2011 Instagram timeline it was OBVIOUS I was in a sad place.
    More airport bathroom selfies than a bathroom selfie runway model.
    But just because one posts a selfie DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE SUFFERING FROM A LACK OF SELF-WORTH.
    A few here and there are just fine.
    For the love, if you feel good, and look good, SHOW ME!
    Give your kids a selfie hammer to put up the right images as opposed to a jackhammer to destroy all their images.
    It’s better that way…

This article originally appeared here.

Stepping Into the Unknown

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Have you noticed that God often calls us to face stepping into the unknown and the uncomfortable?

Why do you think He does that?

Because our character is more important to God than our comfort, and we grow best when we are counting on Him and leaning on Him the most.

The critical question is this: When faced with something hard or even scary, what will you do?

Being comfortable is a pretty high value for most of us. Most people are not risk takers by nature. Many people like routine, security and functioning within their comfort zones.

But again, our faith and obedience are far more important to God than our comfort because when we step out in faith, that’s when amazing things can happen.

A Heritage of Stepping Into the Unknown

In Genesis 12:1-7, there’s an incredible story of Abram (who later became Abraham) being called by God into the unknown and unfamiliar. The most important verse in this passage is verse four where it says, “Abram went, as the Lord had told him.”

Abram said yes to God and models for us a faith that we are to emulate.

Of course it’s always easier to live in a comfort zone).

By the way, God didn’t give Abram a lot of information. He just said, “Go…and I will lead you!” And Abram did what God asked him to do. That’s faith.

Here’s how the Word defines faith:

  • Faith).
  • Faith is obeying even when you don’t understand (Hebrews 11:8).

Faith is believing and obeying no matter what the costs and no matter what the risks.

Nope. It’s not an easy way to live, but it is God’s way.

Some Churches Should Die and Stay Dead

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Sometimes churches die, and sometimes they should.

As shocking as this may be, the death of a church might be the best thing that could happen for the sake of the gospel within a given community.

Churches are not meant to be mere holding tanks for folks who remember “the good old days,” and if they cannot or will not fulfill their purpose, they don’t need to exist.

Don’t misread me here. Not every struggling church needs to die. Some churches go through rough spots and come out stronger on the other side.

Many that appear to be in their winter years can be revitalized and become effective again through leadership changes or, more likely, through a powerful move of God that stirs their affections and motivates them to love and good deeds. Revitalization happens and should happen more.

Many struggling churches in their twilight years, however, face issues that may have a chokehold on them spiritually, financially and/or relationally. In these cases, it may be best to, as graciously as possible, close the doors.

Many churches just need to close. And for many that feels like a failure.

What if Death and Replanting are Connected?

But what if, instead of merely closing the doors and walking away, there was another way? What if there could be a changing of the guard? What if, in the fertile composting soil of the dead church, a new, healthier church could be birthed to pick up the mantle of gospel work the first had begun?

Replanting is a healthy approach to dealing with a dying congregation, and it should be considered as churches find themselves facing death. I’ve written on replanting before here, but today I’d like to quickly discuss what healthy replanting might look like, since it’s becoming a more common practice.

Keep in mind that much of what follows will need to be worked out well in advance before a replant actually happens. Replanting does not happen overnight—at least healthy replanting doesn’t.

Don’t try to force it, but do consider pursuing it.

Here are some short ideas.

First, Create a New Identity.

A new church will need a new identity so the community will know it’s a new church. You see, they’ve already decided the old church was not for them. They may decide the same thing about the new church. However, a new identity is a new opportunity for engagement.

Also, those who come to the replanted church also need to know that they are part of something new.

If you’ll allow me to get a little biblical: You can’t put new wine in an old wineskin.

There must be definitive and purposeful separation between the old and the new. As a general rule, I would say that anything having to do with the former congregation—except the building—needs to be begin anew, even if only for a time.

The new church will be moving in a different direction, doing different things and, hopefully, seeing different results. Continuing with the same name, though it could have some historical significance in the area, will add baggage to an already difficult proposition.Developing a new identity starts with a new name. And a new pastor coming into the area who will have a vision for reaching the community. (If there is no new vision, what’s the point of closing anyway?)

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