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Building Stronger Church-School Partnerships

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It’s Back to School time across the country! Freshly washed children pose for obligatory photos by proud parents unable to believe how quickly their kids are growing. The rhythm of the school calendar affects parents, grandparents, employees and local residents. For those of us engaged in community-based ministry, schools are a natural place of connection to neighborhood families.

For me, one of the most rewarding outputs of community work is seeing how churches and schools can partner together to serve the neighborhood. I have served on the Family Engagement Parent Advisory Council and the Interfaith Leaders Coalition for the Dekalb County School District. Both of these experiences have been foundational for me in understanding all the ways these partnerships can go sideways and some best practices for how they can be most effective.

#1 Consider your language.

A key distinction for me in this work begins with the very words we use to describe our working together. Let’s partner with local schools, not adopt them. Maybe this is nitpicking, but adopting can come with the all-too-common assumption that the school needs someone to arrive and take care of it. Schools are filled with talented educators, creative resources and innovative ideas. When we adjust our language, may it lead to a deeper posture that seeks to support the school in its ideas and goals.

#2 Flip the narrative on unreturned calls and emails.

I’ve seen churches get discouraged when attempts to reach out to a school are not received warmly or are altogether ignored. The assumptions follow that the school does not need help, has some bias against faith groups, or simply does not care enough to respond.

From my experience, these narratives have never been the actual reasons. Instead, slow (or no) response is often evidence that an authentic relationship between the church and school has yet to be established. It is a sign of the work that still needs to be done.

#3 Leverage networks to build connection.

As mentioned, cold calls (or emails) often don’t work. But relationships do. I tried and tried to get a meeting with one principal because I was told how eager she was for community partnerships. What finally sparked our connection, however, was when a ministry partner who knows her personally called her and set a meeting for the three of us to talk.

My assumptions about why she never responded were false. She’s an incredible administrator and was eager to form partnerships. But she was also beyond capacity trying to run a school, and she could only trust me when someone with whom she had a relationship initiated the connection.

#4 Focus on the school’s objectives.

We know it happens. Sometimes churches reach out to schools because the church itself has a need they are trying to meet. Maybe they’ve planned a Service Day and they’ve got too many volunteers and not enough things to do. Or perhaps they’re looking to create a list of service sites for parishioners to volunteer. So they reach out to “help” the local school.

But sometimes these attempts to “serve” schools can have more to do with the needs of the church than the objectives of the school. In fact, for an overburdened staff, helping church volunteers “have something to do” can actually be a taxing request. Instead, take time to learn what the school cares about and align yourself with their agenda. Maybe your group wants to come out one Saturday and pick up trash, but they may have a crew that does that. Their real need may be one or two people coming in weekly to reshelve books in the library.

Be honest with yourself about your own needs and motives. And when you are ready to learn about and support the school’s objectives, then you are ready for real partnership.

#5 Always make the school and the students the heroes!

Once you develop relationships, understand the school’s objectives and create asset-based partnerships, you are sure (eventually) to see meaningful results. It is long-term, committed work, but the engagement is worth the effort. And the stories of success need to be told and celebrated!

When you do, though, make sure the school, administration, teachers, and the students and their families take center stage, not your ministry. This discipline can be difficult in a self-promoting, selfie-loving world, especially for organizations that rely on outside donors to see their good works and give. But your relationship with the school will deepen as you uplift their story instead of your own.

Schools are often the very heartbeat of a neighborhood. And healthy church-school partnerships can be life-giving and meaningful for all involved. If you are interested in learning more or consulting with your church about school partnerships, please contact me at shawn@fcsministries.org. We’d also love to hear from you! Leave a comment and share how you’ve seen church and school partnerships work well.

This article originally appeared here.

Hillsong United Visits Prisoner Saved Through Their Music

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Members of Hillsong United music received a letter from an inmate in Folsom Prison (the one made famous by Johnny Cash) in California. The inmate’s letter detailed how he had come to Christ through Hillsong’s Music, which greatly encouraged the band. To return the favor, they showed up at the prison to visit and worship with the prisoners there.

Hillsong United Music in Prison

“I never dreamed that I would see you,” the inmate says to band members Jonathon Douglass, Taya Smith and Matt Crocker. “It’s unbelievable.”

The inmate, whose name is not given in the video, said the best thing that happened to the prison was when they got access to the Hillsong channel. “One day in my cell I heard the Miami concert and the music in that concert touched me in such a way that I’ll never be the same.” The inmate says Hillsong’s music has taught him “the Holy Spirit, grace and how much God loves me.”

 

 

The band entrusts the Holy Spirit to get the songs where they need to go—even behind bars—to be with the people who need them most. At the beginning of the video, Douglass shares how the band was hoping to reach people who are not reachable through social media. Through their Hillsong channel, God was able to do just that.

In addition to meeting the inmate who wrote the letter, the band spent time with the rest of the prisoners worshipping and fellowshipping. “It’s pretty safe to say we’ve just had one of the craziest, most memorable experiences of our lives,” Douglass concludes after their visit.

Hillsong United prison visit

Hillsong United is known for going “on location” so to speak to perform music. But it is clear the time they spent behind bars had a significant impact on them.

“I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.” Matthew 25:36

It’s safe to assume that Hillsong United’s music has touched a lot of lives. “I will sing like a man with no sickness in my body and like no prison walls can hold me,” the inmate says in appreciation for their music. Watch the full video below.

5 Reasons Why Fun HAS to Be a Part of Your Jr. High Ministry

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If you’re a Jr. high or middle school minister, you know one thing to be true: Jr. high students are fun!

Yes, they’re also full of drama and they smell bad—but there’s no denying that they’re some of the most fun students you can have in your youth ministry. God created them to be that way, and as ministers to this age we get to revel in that fun! Don’t act like you don’t love it, because we all know getting to swallow an entire spray can of whip cream is one of your favorite things to do.

Fun for fun’s sake should always be a part of your Jr. high or middle school ministry, and here are five reasons why:

  1. It gives you access to a Jr. high kid. Young teenagers are at an age when they want wise advice from a caring adult, but they also want to make sure you’re “legit.” Some of that comes from your knowledge of the Bible and your ability to make sense when talking about life issues. But more of it comes from your willingness to meet them where they are. And for a Jr. high kid, where they are more often than not is a place of fun. When you play with them—whether it be video games or kick ball—you show them that you care about what they like. And access to that world leads to access to the deeper things, like the faith-filled conversations you want to have with them at the end of the day.
  2. It’s part of their DNA. A Jr. high kid HAS TO play. They have to. They can’t sit still because physiologically they need to be moving. Their bodies are constantly growing, their brains are on rapid-fire and they have so much adrenaline that it needs to be released. The best kinds of Jr. high ministries are those that can incorporate fun and movement into a lesson, utilizing something that is natural to them in a way that’s teaching them without them even realizing it.
  3. It helps to keep their attention. Most middle school kids are like Doug from the Pixar movie “UP”—they’ll be paying attention to you one moment and then chasing a squirrel they saw out of the corner of their eye the next. And though they’re at an age where they can grab hold of some abstract ideas, it’s developmentally difficult for them to pay attention to things for extended periods of time. Moment of fun peppered throughout your teaching times helps to keep their attention at all times.
  4. It breaks down their defenses. Similar to gaining you access to a Jr. high kid’s heart, fun has a natural way of letting someone’s guard down. It’s hard to be defensive with someone when you’re laughing with them. This is especially true of a Jr. high kid. We’ve heard story after story from youth leaders who have tried for months to get through to a particularly tough kid, only to have the kid open up unexpectedly in the middle of a dodge ball tournament or a paintball battle. By being present in the midst of their fun moments, you’re allowing yourself to be present in the midst of their transparency—and those are the moments where the Holy Sprit can do His best work. And isn’t that what youth ministry is all about?
  5. God is FUN! We adults sometimes forget one very important thing about God—GOD CREATED FUN! We serve a God who loves to have fun. He’s a God with a great sense of humor. He created us to run and jump and eat crazy foods and swim in creeks and even to dive into a kiddie pool full of chocolate pudding from time-to-time (your Jr. high kids would love it)! Too often our churches portray a portrait of a God who is still and unyielding and not a whole lot of fun to be around. But that’s not our God at all. He’s a God who wants to have a relationship with us and to share in our joy for life. So model this type of fun to your students, and embrace it. It’s one of the most beautiful things God made us for.

At Christ In Youth, one of our core principals is fun. Our staff even has a Staff Fun Day every May, just to embrace this core ideal. We work hard to incorporate it into our Jr. high weekend event Believe, and our summer Jr. high conference, MIX. If you want to find out more about these programs, click here!

I Became a Better Parent the Day I Realized THIS

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Before becoming a parent, I can remember watching parents of young children and saying things to myself like, “My kids will never act that way”, or “I won’t ever let my child get away with that.” Can you relate?

In those early years prior to actually becoming a parent, it was very easy to be an “expert” in parenting and know all that there was to know about how to raise kids right. I could have easily counseled parents if they’d have just trusted me (and my single, childless self—lol). In fact, I think I may have even tried a time or two to coach my own parents in how to raise my younger sisters.

But my oh my, how the tables turn when you actually have children of your own and find out that your own kids are as bent toward foolishness (Prov. 22:15) as everyone else’s, whose parents just “didn’t have it all together.”

The longer I’ve been a parent, the less that I feel I know about being a great parent, and the less qualified I feel to be a parent at all. Because there is so much to learn around every new corner and with every new age and stage. Parenting is a never-ending series of new challenges and choices.

“Remind me, why am I the one writing this blog?”…  

I have the privilege of writing this parenting blog about how to parent your children God’s way, and I love doing it. Yet I often feel so very inadequate just to be the godly parent that my own children need me to be on a daily basis.

So many times I don’t know what to do in my own family. So many times I mess up and don’t get things right. So many times I fall short of being the parent they need me to be.

Yes, I know the rights and wrongs of parenting, as do you, but struggle just the same to actually be consistent to do them. I get frustrated, irritable, impatient, selfish, tired and lazy. Just ask my wife and kids!

Sometimes I hurt my family’s feelings. I’m sometimes too harsh. I’m sometimes too lenient. I don’t always give as much time to my kids as I should. I struggle to be consistent in discipline. Sometimes I get so frustrated at my inability to be all that I want to be and all that God and my family deserves that I be as a husband and a father.

All in all, I find that I can’t be successful at this parenting thing on my own…and yet, that’s when I actually succeed. You see, it’s in those times when I realize that I can’t be the parent that my kids need me to be…that I actually become a better parent than what I just was.

I am my best self as a parent when I simply admit that I don’t have it all together, I don’t always know what to do, and I need the constant help and grace of God in my daily life to be the godly parent He has called me to be. 

A + B doesn’t always = C

Yes, there are parenting principles that work and that need to be followed and obeyed, yet there is no foolproof A+B=C formula that guarantees our desired results in our kids every single time, in every single circumstance, or in every single family.

I need to daily depend upon the grace of God and the guidance of His Holy Spirit in my life. Because there are things that happen in my family and decisions I have to make that no amount of biblical or parenting knowledge could every prepare me for.

Of all things in life, I believe that parenting is one of God’s ways of revealing to us our own insufficiency and our utmost dependency upon Him.

And parenting should be one of the greatest things in life that drives us to our knees. It ought to cause us to plead with God for wisdom and direction as we we take seriously the responsibility of raising and forming little human lives.

I became a better parent the day I realized… 

While I’m not the parent that I want to be or fully need to be, I became a better parent the day I realized that:

  • I don’t know how to be a good and godly parent on my own.
  • I need more of God and less of me in my parenting.
  • I cannot ultimately control who and what my children become.
  • I am helpless and hopeless as a parent apart from the grace of God.

Apart from Him, no matter what I do and no matter what I know, I can quickly become a parenting failure and mess up this parenting thing big-time. But with Him, I can do all things through Christ.

The day I became a better parent was the day I began to trust more than I try, pray more than I push, and quit trying to act like l’ve got it all together. Because I don’t. I never will. And neither will you. And the sooner we realize it, the better parents we will become.

II Corinthians 12:10 – Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities…for when I am weak, then am I strong.

This article originally appeared here.

Why Rosaria Butterfield Signed the Nashville Statement

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Last week, the Council for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood released a short document called the Nashville Statement. The 14 articles of the statement speak to our current historical moment, in which both our culture and the people within our churches continue to ask how we should understand gender and sexuality. I am grateful for those who drafted the Nashville Statement, and because of its importance, I agreed to be one of the initial signatories.

Another of the initial signatories is Rosaria Butterfield, whose story has been made known through her fantastic autobiographical book, The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert. When I came across her reasoning for signing the Nashville Statement, I immediately recognized that what she had to say was profound and important.

Here are a couple excerpts from her article:

Twenty years ago, I lived as a lesbian. I delighted in my lover, our home on one of the Finger Lakes, our Golden Retrievers, and our careers. When Christ claimed me for His own, I did not stop feeling like a lesbian. I did not fall out of love with women. I was not converted out of homosexuality. I was converted out of unbelief.

And here is her analysis of those who say that the Christian thing to do is to tolerate in the church things contrary to God’s Word:

Just a few years ago, these people blamed sin on the devil, saying “the devil made me do it.” Now these same people—some of them leaders in the church—blame sin on the Holy Spirit, declaring that He is blessing what the Bible condemns. In a few short years, blame shifting has morphed into blasphemy. And this blasphemy is coming from people who claim to have Christ’s salvation and from the pulpits and blogs that they wield.

I’m incredibly thankful for compassionate and courageous voices like Rosaria’s. I pray that she (and the Nashville Statement itself) can help pastors and leaders within the church as they guide their people to understand sexuality with the Christ-like combination of grace and truth.

Read Rosaria’s entire article here: Why I Signed the Nashville Statement.

This article originally appeared here.

What a Humble Leader Looks Like

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We all know we’re supposed to be humble. But are you really a humble leader?

What Makes Someone a Humble Leader?

The Kingdom works in an upside-down fashion. It’s not about making it to the top. It’s never been about fame and recognition.

It’s serving a higher vision. It’s shining a spotlight on the glory of Jesus. It’s reaching people with the message of the Gospel.

So worship leaders, it’s time to humble ourselves. It’s time to stop looking in the mirror and look upon God’s people with compassion. It’s time to stop trying to be impressive and instead seek to serve hearts in worship.

But what does it really mean to be a humble leader?

A humble worship leader:

  • Gives others a chance
  • Is an equipper not just a doer
  • Values the presence of God
  • Loves the voice of the church over their own
  • Listens more than talks
  • Draws attention to the team
  • Leads others who are better than themselves
  • Is more impressed with God than their own talent
  • Prioritizes the kingdom over personal influence
  • Has a heart for leading people
  • Leads with compassion and understanding
  • Is open to feedback
  • Handles criticism with grace
  • Loves the church
  • Cares for the heart of the team they lead

Are you one of them?

This article about being a humble leader originally appeared here.

4 Lies That Cause Pastors to Neglect Their Families

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Let me give you an example of the kind of lies pastors believe.

The walls of our church’s nursery needed painting. So there I was, on my regular day off with a brush in my hand. A country song I’d never heard before—“The Dollar,” by Jamey Johnson—filled the room as I splashed the first coat of something called Polar Bear over the entrance door.

You may be wondering at this strange confession of a native New Englander: painting to country music. I’m not sure how it happened either. But God will use almost anything to get our attention. The song is about a little boy whose father always seems too busy working to spend time with his son. So the boy saves his pennies and by the end of the song, makes an offer to his daddy:

Mama how much time will this buy me?
Is it enough for just an afternoon a day or a whole week?
If I’m a little short then how much more does daddy need
To spend some time with me?

Standing there, mid-stroke, I froze. What am I doing here? Have I stolen time from my wife and girls, to spend it in this empty room? And suddenly, the bitter irony of my crusade to serve my church at the expense of my family showed through, as that old ugly blue showed through my first coat of white.

Among young pastors and church planters, there’s no less than a deluge of pressure to give every waking moment to our churches, to the neglect of our families. But brothers, it should never be so.

Lies Pastors Believe

Below I want to offer four lies pastors believe that can cause young pastors to neglect their families:

1. I can poorly lead my family and powerfully lead the church.

As pastors, our leadership of the local church is never more important than our leadership at home. Consider some familiar verses: “He must manage his household well…for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?” (1 Tim. 3:4–5).

At the front door of pastoral ministry, we find that if a pastor isn’t a family man, he’s not a churchman. Notice that for those who have families, caring for them well is a prerequisite to the ministryElders must, before accepting the office, be exemplary in investing in and leading their families well.

Pastors, especially church planters and those coming into a new church, are strongly tempted to bend these family qualifications for the sake of their new flock. But if God would approve and bless our shepherding, we must shepherd those closest to us: our families.

2. My family will admire my work-a-holism because it’s for Jesus.

If we give all our time to the church at the expense of our families, it won’t translate as devotion to Christ. Instead, our families will rightly see it for what it is: an unhealthy obsession with ministry. It smacks not of devotion, but selfish ambition.

On the other hand, we can be sure that the ultimate proof of devotion is presence. We can tell our families we love them, but wherever our highest commitment is, there we will be. Even a 5-year-old understands this. We cannot baptize neglect. We are either present and engaging our loved ones—or we aren’t. And if our love for Jesus means we cannot love our families, then we’re tempting our families eventually to resent us, the local church and even Jesus.

3. After I put the church in order, then I’ll invest more at home.

If you’re at the front end of a church plant or revitalization, chances are there are some large pieces that need to be put in order. But the truth is, your church will never really be “in order.” There’s always another mountain to climb or fire to put out.

We would do well to borrow that old slogan, Semper Reformanda. Our local churches are always reforming. Some churches are healthier than others. But if we delay fully engaging at home to put our churches in order, we’ll never get around to giving our families the time and attention they deserve.

3 Keys for Keeping Your People Engaged

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When we moved into our new home, we made cutting the grass our oldest son Cade’s responsibility. He mowed periodically at our old home, but when we moved in here, it became his responsibility, his to own. The other day I asked him to mow the front yard. Later in the day he looked out the back window and said, “Dad, I think the back yard needs to be mowed, too.” I couldn’t help but smile as I looked out and saw grass I wouldn’t have to mow, that didn’t really need to be mowed. I was very happy to be able to come home from work and not have to do lawn care, but what overjoyed me was seeing him own it. I won’t pretend he cares more about it than I do, but he truly has started to take some ownership.

A few months back I posted about 4 Influencer Imperatives in Small Group Leadership drawn from Bill Hybels’s 2005 Global Leadership Summit address, “These Things We Must Do.” Last month we narrowed down on the first of the four: Vision: Five Fundamentals for Keeping it Clear. This time we’ll look at the next Influencer Imperative: Keep the people engaged. Volunteer engagement is one of the most important things we can do as church leaders.

Keys for keeping the people engaged:

  1. Enlisted: Engagement starts with enlisting. Enlist volunteers with an inspiring vision, with real need, to create buy-in. Enlisted volunteers begin to see what could be and are inspired that they can be a part to make a difference. When we moved in, I enlisted Cade to take ownership in the upkeep of our home. He began to see how his part could actually play into a bigger picture. It’s the same with engaged volunteers, they are inspired with a vision, where they can play a part.
  2. Employed: Volunteers that are engaged are actively employed with purposeful work. That means they have something to do and not just busy work, something that makes a meaningful contribution to the overall effort. The worst thing that can happen for an enlisted volunteer is fail to be employed with something of consequence.
  3. Empowered: Engaged volunteers are empowered to make a difference. That means they have the tools, equipment, training, encouragement, everything they need to accomplish what they have been enlisted to do. Once Cade was onboard to make his contribution, it was my responsibility to empower him so that he remains engaged. That means I must empower him to accomplish his part by ensuring he has a working mower, that he understands what is wanted and how to accomplish it. As he is working, it is my responsibility to encourage and appreciate him, and when something doesn’t work, I empower him by helping right the course.

It’s simple to mobilize engaged volunteers, but it’s not easy. As leaders it’s on us to enlist, employ and empower volunteers to a compelling vision.

 This article originally appeared here.

How to Make Budget Cuts in a Healthy Way

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Churches often make budget cuts the easy way, as shown in the chart below. They choose a percentage by which the entire operating budget should decrease. Then they force every department to cut the same amount across the board. Essentially, the waterline is lowered for everyone.

It sounds fair to treat everyone exactly the same. Hard conversations are unnecessary and no one gets their feelings hurt. The ship might be sinking but at least everyone is going down together! (Actually they won’t. The best leaders will recognize what is happening and jump ship before it is too late.)

Here are some problems with flat-rate cuts:

  • Not every ministry is equally essential to your mission. 

    Forcing the same cuts on everyone does a disservice to your strategy.

  • It discourages high performers. 

    They worked hard to build the ministry only to be forced to scale back efforts, receiving the same treatment as underperforming peers.

  • It focuses on a money issue, not a ministry issue.

    In most cases, if the budget is being cut because the church is in decline, the real problem is not the budget. Avoiding tough calls leaves real problems unaddressed.

Budget cuts, when led well, can actually create a healthy season of pruning in the life of a church.

So if you are faced with budget cuts this year, how can you approach them in a healthy way? Work through these five levels of a healthy pruning process. Start at the top and exhaust each level of cuts fully before moving down to the next, if necessary:Budgetchart2-2

PRUNING LEVEL #1: ELIMINATE INEFFECTIVE MINISTRIES

Cutting the budget can be a great opportunity to eliminate a sacred cow. It can also be a good reason to cut a ministry that competes with your strategy. Ironically, these are often the cuts that leaders try to avoid. They often come with hard conversations about ministries with deep histories. The truth is, if these ministries do not have a place in the future vision for your church, the conversations should have probably happened before now. The time has come when you literally can no longer afford to ignore them.

Key Question: Which ministries lack results or compete?

PRUNING LEVEL #2: REFINE INEFFICIENT PRACTICES

This is the “trim the fat” stage of pruning. Look around the organization and identify areas of inefficiency. They are likely to be found between ministry silos where duplicate spending and efforts often take place. Ask yourself, what resources could the team be sharing instead of purchasing separately? What systems do you lack that result in increased project costs? How can you adjust midweek building usage to reduce utilities? Are there any unnecessary expenses you could cut and never miss? Pull ministry leaders together to identify and reduce them.

Key Question: Where do we waste money?

Those Frustrating Times With Church Members

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Any pastor can tell you about that. Even when you do your best to serve God by ministering to His people, some church members are not going to forgive you. You didn’t do it their way, weren’t there when they called, didn’t jump at their bark.

Those are the exceptions, I hasten to say to friends who wonder why we overlook the 98 percent of members to focus on the 2 percent who drive us batty. It’s the 2 percent of drivers who are the crazies on the highways and ruin the experience for everyone else. It’s the 2 percent of society who require us to maintain a standing army to enforce laws. Rat poison, they say, is 98 percent corn meal. But that two percent will kill you.

I say to my own embarrassment and confess it as unworthy of a child of God that I remember these difficult moments with God’s people more than the precious times. Perhaps it’s because the strained connections and hard words feed into my own insecurities. Or maybe it’s because there are so many more of the blessed times. It’s human nature, I know. Help us, Lord.

Even so, here are two instances from my journal that stand out…

First, the church member who is mad at you needlessly

On returning from an out-of-town engagement, a staff member told me I needed to call Selma, that she was angry about something. Selma was married to a deacon, a good guy, and they were not high maintenance but generally supportive. I could not imagine her being angry with anyone. I called her immediately.

“My sister is in the hospital and none of you have come by to visit.” That was her complaint.

I said, “We have. I was there two days ago and I’ll be there tomorrow. Someone from our staff has been there every day. We’ve not missed a day coming to see her and praying for her.”

She was quiet, then said, “Well, I didn’t know it.”

I said, “Is that a problem?”

“We were all in the waiting room,” she said, “and it does look like you could have come by to see us.” I said, “Selma, I couldn’t find the SICU waiting room. I looked all over for it.”

Nothing would satisfy her. She was angry and hurt and no words of mine would erase the pain. Finally, I said, “Selma, I’m sorry. Will you forgive me?”

A purist would say I had nothing to apologize for, and they would be right. But she was hurting and if my words would ease the distress, I could certainly do that.

She muttered something about it being all right and ended the call.

A few years later, I did her husband’s funeral and we continued to be friends for the rest of my ministry in that church.

The church member who will not be reasoned with

Annie was a young mother in the church, married to an insurance man. He and I were fairly close friends, I thought, but I was still trying to find the combination for befriending Annie.

We had had a fundraiser, “Crafts for Missions,” the ladies in the congregation called it. They brought items they’d hand-crafted to the church and people looked them over, and purchased them. Everything raised went to missions. I was proud of these wonderful friends, but Annie was having a problem with it.

Her husband had phoned to say they were thinking of leaving the church over this. Knowing him, I figured she was the problem. And I was right.

Before calling her the next day, I researched the biblical subject of raising money for the Lord’s work. I asked three questions:

–Is there a scriptural principle to support selling crafts for missions? (The principle that most fits here is “redeeming something given to the Lord.” A firstborn son, for instance, could be redeemed for five shekels. Or two pigeons if the family was poor. And for first-born animals, etc.)

–Is there a scripture that prohibits what we are doing? (None that I could think of.)

–Are we detracting from our people tithing to the overall ministry of the church? (Absolutely not. Our people were giving far above the average. So, this was not interfering with the tithe.)

So, I called Annie. And proceeded to share these three principles. At the end, I asked for her thoughts on the subject.

“Well, I am not a Bible scholar,” she said. “I cannot argue scripture with you. But I know in my heart I’m right. And when I’m right nothing changes my mind.”

When. I’m. Right. Nothing. Changes. My. Mind.

That’s what she said.

According to my notes, the conversation went on, but got nowhere.

In the afternoon, her husband called and I recounted the conversation. He basically told me how impossible it was to live with her. I felt only compassion for him.

I told my wife all of this that evening. She said, “Annie is beautiful. But you get past that real quick.”

Indeed. Most of us may be said to be drawn to beautiful people. But once we find their inner spirit to be hard and their attitude harsh, the outer beauty actually works against them. Cruella deVille, you will recall, was actually beautiful. In a harsh way.

That couple stayed in the church until his job moved them to another city.

And you wonder why pastors get gray headed.

Pray for your pastor. And if you can think of anything which might ease his burden, do it.

This article originally appeared here.

The World Is Rallying to the Cause of Suicide Prevention—What About the Church?

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September is Suicide Prevention Awareness month and World Suicide Prevention day is Sept. 10. With the number of teens and children hospitalized for suicidal thoughts and attempts doubling in the last 10 years, it’s more important than ever for the church to raise awareness, offer help to those with suicidal thoughts, and support friends and family who have lost loved ones to suicide.

The topics of suicide and depression still carry a stigma, which means the church has a critical opportunity to lead the conversation about mental health and suicide and be a voice for those who are afraid to speak up. Suicide Prevention Day can be the impetus for leaders to approach the needs in their churches with compassion and sensitivity. We want to show mercy and empathize with those who are suffering while making it known to them that God is present and he offers peace, grace and comfort through the pain.

There are many things we can do to address the warning signs in our youth particularly. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention states that depression and other mental health conditions are often the cause of suicide.

It’s important to note changes in behavior like the following:

increased use of drugs or alcohol

voicing hopelessness or lacking a desire to live

isolating themselves or withdrawing from activities

experiencing anxiety, rage, depression and more

According to the International Association for Suicide Prevention, many people considering suicide reach a point where they see no other alternative than taking their own life but would reconsider if someone simply tried to stop them. While most people are reluctant to intervene, it’s important that we encourage others to speak up if they are concerned about someone who might be having suicidal thoughts. Reaching out to someone could be the first step in getting them treatment and preventing a suicide.

The issue of suicide should touch us deeply with the desire to reach out to those inside and outside of our church walls. Scripture tells us that God has given us the gift of life and that suicide is antithetical to this gift, so we should strive to offer hope to those who are suffering. We should be the first ones to say, “You are not alone.” By creating awareness and breaking down misconceptions about suicide and mental illness, we can provide support to those around us with grace and compassion.

For additional resources go to AFSP.org, IASP.info and YouCannontBeReplaced.com to see how your church can receive training and get involved in suicide prevention and awareness. If someone you know is considering suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

6 Questions to Ask Before You Change Jobs

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Leaders, especially ministry leaders, have commonly asked me questions about how to process new jobs/opportunities that come their way. What questions should I ask myself? How do I wrestle with changing jobs? Here are six questions, in no particular order, to ask:

1. Am I running from something or to something?

Leading is extremely challenging and filled with seasons of frustration and discouragement. Because of this reality, when a leader is pursued for a new role or opportunity, there is a temptation to view the new role as a great opportunity to run from current challenges. But the challenges of the new role will likely match the current challenges in short order, so if you don’t have a passion for the new role, you will find yourself in the same position. Brad Waggoner, mentor and boss, has often encouraged, “When considering a new role, be sure the pull is greater than the push.” You will have “pushes,” but be sure there is a way more compelling “pull.”

2. Have I looked at my current role through fresh eyes?

Before you consider another role, privately (in your own mind) resign your current one. Look at your current context with fresh eyes. Do you see the opportunities? Are you still as passionate for the mission as you were the first day? Though you may have seasons of discouragement, the opportunities for impact are likely as big or bigger than they were when you first arrived. Only now you benefit from tenure and better understanding of the context.

3. Am I looking to my job for something a job cannot give me?

Your current or future job cannot satisfy the longing of your soul. Only God can. If you look to your job to satisfy you, your job will always disappoint you.

4. Where would I most likely be developed?

More than God cares about where you serve and what you do, He cares about your development and maturity. He may use the team around you to be the primary means of your development. Or He may use the challenging and stretching opportunity as the means to drive you to deeper dependence on Him. But as you process, ask yourself where are you most likely to be challenged, developed and sanctified?

5. Has the Lord given peace?

As my wife and I processed a move at one point in our lives, she read in her devotional book a phrase that really resonated with us. “If there is no peace, the answer is no.” The lack of peace from the Lord made it clear that we were not to go where we considered going.

6. Does burden and passion increase the more I pray?

As you pray about the new opportunity more and more, does your passion and burden for the people and the mission increase, stay the same or decrease? If it does not grow exponentially, be very careful you are not considering a new role only because of a “push” (see question 1 again).

This article originally appeared here.

The 2 Best Questions to Evaluate Your Church

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My family owns a dog.

Sometimes, it feels like our dog sorta owns us.

Aspen, our eight month old lab-pit mix, is a handful. On some of her rambunctious days I have felt like I can hear Sarah McLachlan singing “In the Arms of an Angel” in the distance while a camera zooms in on my sad, defeated face!

Raising a puppy always has me second-guessing myself and wondering if I am doing an effective job. Am I disciplining her enough? How do other people get their dogs to obey them? Is it normal for my dog to attack me with the ferocity of a mountain lion? Normal questions, right?

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Few leaders second-guess and question themselves more than pastors of local churches. Much like raising a puppy, it can feel chaotic, like you’re barely keeping up and like it runs you instead of you leading it.

Having coached a lot of church leaders and assessed numerous churches, I feel like most of us evaluate the health of our church by asking the wrong questions. Leaders can end up feeling defeated or focused on wrong solutions if they’re not careful.

I want to refocus how you evaluate the health of your church by giving you the two best questions to start asking today.

These questions narrow the scope of what you are evaluating to, what I believe, are two crucial elements: Culture and Systems.

You can have a well articulated vision, but your culture will eat it for breakfast. Regardless of the seeds you are planting, if you plant them in unhealthy soil, they won’t grow. Culture is the space in which everything at your church exists.

You can have a current strategy, but your systems will either accelerate them or make them nothing more than good ideas. Systems assure people move throughout your church in a healthy way, creating the results you pray for.

So, how do you evaluate these two crucial areas? By asking two simple questions about every area of your ministry:

How does it feel?

This is the culture question. You have to know the tone and vibe of your church. It is the unexplainable feeling that draws people in or pushes them away. Does your worship service feel fresh or is it dated? Does your facility feel life-giving or tired? Do volunteers serve with joy or out of obligation? Is the attitude of staff one of employees or owners?

How does it move?

This is the system question. Systems should move people from one point to another. If not, they are a waste of energy. Is there a simple, clear, obvious path to take a first time guest to connecting on a serving team? How does a volunteer eventually become a leader? When someone gives for the first time, how is continual giving encouraged?

So what is your next step? 

The most effective way to incorporate these two questions is to give 15 minutes of every leadership team meeting you have to them. Slice your church really thin and focus the questions on a specific area each week. Children’s check-in, worship music, announcements, website or guest experience. Focus on one area and ask: How does it feel? How does it move?

These two questions will revolutionize your team’s conversations and ultimately your church.

The question is, do you have the courage to ask them?

Now, can anyone help me find my puppy?!?

This article originally appeared here.

Stop Inviting People to Your Church!

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How we think of “church” will impact how we view the act of sharing the Gospel. If we think of church as primarily a building, worship gatherings, and a staff then we will place emphasis on getting people to the worship gatherings as a foundational way of exposing our friends and neighbors to the Gospel. Joseph Solomon, from the YouTube channel chaseGodtv, challenges that notion in the following video.

Solomon concedes that it’s not a bad thing to invite people to your church, but we shouldn’t use an invitation to our church as our “go to line” for reaching people with the Gospel. If we are not careful, we can implicitly communicate that people will not get anywhere else what they will get if they come to your church.

One of the ways Solomon illustrates this point is the example of Jesus. It’s important to remember that some of the people who first grasped the deity of Jesus did not ask Him what synagogue he attended but simply asked: “where are you staying?” (John 1:35-39).  Instead of asking them to meet him at a building that following weekend, Jesus replies with “come and you will see.”

Doesn’t this sound different than how we normally think in terms of making disciples? Solomon argues discipleship is more about sharing your life with someone—going about life and doing things you would normally be doing—than it is about inviting someone to church.

Church outreach events have their place, but sharing your life with someone is indispensable in when it comes to making disciples. It will give you more opportunities to talk about issues of faith.

Though this video has a satirical feel, the principal message is an important one to think on as we continue to grasp what the nature of the church should be and how to fulfill God’s call to discipleship.

Top 10 Ideas for Your Groups to Connect With Their Neighborhoods

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It doesn’t take much imagination to find ways for small group members to connect with their neighbors. Sometimes all it takes is a crisp fall morning or a spooky October evening.

Here are my top 10 ideas:

  1. Movie night outside for kids and families. Easy to do with a video projector. Pick the right movie, circle up the lawn chairs and bring on the popcorn.
  2. Drop in for waffles and bacon on a Saturday morning. Again, everyone’s kids will love this idea. Three or four waffle irons make it easy. Add-ins like blueberries, chocolate chips and pecans make it fun (and tasty!).
  3. Invite neighbors over for a potluck theme dinner night (Italian, Mexican, etc.). Go all out with music and decorations. Make it fun and it will be easy to connect.
  4. Garage sale for a local cause. Gather up your merchandise. Pick out a great local cause or charity. Be ready to talk about why you’re doing it.
  5. Pull a fire pit or chiminea onto your front porch or driveway. Bring out the patio sets. Be ready to offer a warm cup of cider and a s’more to neighbors passing by.
  6. Join in the fun to offer some safe Halloween fun. No tracts. Just the best candy and the friendliest people on the block.
  7. Chili cook off. No better time to host a chili cook off complete with judges, prizes and Tums.
  8. Block party cookout. Roll the grills into the cul de sac and bring out the lawn chairs. Do it right it might turn into an annual event!
  9. The Big Game on the big screen. Plan a party for the day of the biggest college game in your area. Think Super Bowl party with local flair. Make it fun for the whole family.
  10. Game night with pizazz. Whether your game of choice is bunco or pictionary, there’s a way to do that’s even more fun. Think tournament. Have goofy prizes for the winners. Mr. Microphone adds another level of enthusiasm.

What do you think? Have an idea to add? You can click here to jump into the conversation.

This article originally appeared here.

3 Dot Theology

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Have you ever known a dude who meant well, but couldn’t quite connect the dots socially; someone who was sincere, naïve and, well, not all that bright when it came to relationships? Usually we feel bad for this kind of person because he doesn’t quite get it. He tries hard asking that out-of-his-league girl out but doesn’t catch the nonverbal cues that she is just not interested in carrying on a conversation or going out or whatever. He just can’t quite connect the dots.

Wait, That Sounds Like Me in High School!

But sometimes not connecting the dots can actually be a good thing, especially when it comes to beyond-our-pay-grade biblical truths. This is the case with the underlying theological issues surrounding divine sovereignty and human responsibility, especially as it pertains to salvation. When we try to connect the dots in terms of election and evangelism it can not only frustrate our theological systems, but fry our puny brains.

I believe there are three dots—three theological truths—that hover out there when it comes to evangelism. And each of these dots is crucial for us to embrace as we seek to make evangelism a priority in our ministries. But the reality is that they don’t seem to fully make sense.

Dot #1: It’s God’s Responsibility to Save.

Jonah 2:9 makes it clear that “salvation comes from the Lord.” In other words, it takes an act of God to save us. We are so sinful that, in and of ourselves, we would never choose God. When Isaiah 64:6 says that our “righteous deeds are like filthy rags,” it reinforces the truth that salvation has to come from the Lord. It’s like there is a light switch in our souls that is turned off, and God, through His Holy Spirit, has to reach into our hearts and flip the switch.

This is why we pray to God to save the lost. We beg Him to enable them to believe and regenerate their depraved souls. As Jesus himself said, ”No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him” (John 6:44).

Apart from God’s intervention, there is no salvation. It’s his responsibility to save.

Dot #2: It’s Our Responsibility to Share.

Romans 10:14 puts the mission of evangelism directly in our hands. Paul writes, “How, then, can they call on the one they have not believed in? And how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone preaching to them?” The exegetical point here is that if we don’t tell them, they won’t hear, and if they don’t hear then they can’t believe (how’s that for a quadruple negative!).

This verse is tucked right in the middle of the broader context of Romans 9-11, which is Paul’s grand treatise on God’s sovereignty in salvation (aka “election”). But smack dab in the middle of this teaching Paul makes it clear that, although God is large and in charge when it comes to salvation, He chooses to use us as the vehicles of sharing His redemptive message.

To drive the point further, in Acts 20:26,27 Paul says, “Therefore, I declare to you today that I am innocent of the blood of any of you. For I have not hesitated to proclaim to you the whole will of God.” The meaning behind the phrase “innocent of the blood of any of you” comes from Ezekiel 3:18,19, “When…you do not warn them or speak out to dissuade them from their evil ways in order to save their life, that wicked person will die for their sin, and I will hold you accountable for their blood. But if you do warn the wicked person and they do not turn from their wickedness or from their evil ways, they will die for their sin; but you will have saved yourself.” Paul is saying that he is not accountable for the blood of anyone dying without Jesus because he told everyone the good news of the gospel!

Are you “innocent of the blood” of those in your sphere of influence? Have you engaged everyone within your reach with the message of salvation? Sure, God is responsible to save but we are responsible to share, and if we don’t, how can they hear the good news of salvation?

Do Kids Really Enjoy Your Ministry?

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Do kids really enjoy your ministry? Would they come if their parents gave them the option to stay home? Do their parents drag them to church or do they drag their parents to church?

There is a simple way you can find out.

Recent technology has been released that big entertainment companies like Disney are using to measure the engagement level of people during movies, events, rides, etc. It’s called FVAEs.

FVAEs stands for “Factorised Variational Autoencoders.” It’s facial recognition technology that tracks and translates data points on a person’s face into a series of numbers representing specific reactions such as smiling, laughing, wide open eyes, yawning, etc. The data allows companies to assess how an audience is reacting to a movie, ride, etc. They can see if viewers are reacting at the right time and place. Are they laughing at the jokes? Are they surprised at a sudden reveal? Are they tensing up at tense moment? Are their eyes watering during a sad part of the movie? The system is so sharp that it can predict how a member of the audience will react to the rest of a movie after just a few minutes.

Disney research team uses a 400-seat theatre equipped with four infrared cameras to record audience data during showing of mainstream movies like The Jungle Book, Big Hero 6, Star Wars and Zootopia.

Now I know what you are thinking.

We are on a limited budget and can’t afford to use FVAE technology to track children and parent engagement levels in our services, classes and events.  

Here’s the good news. You can still use this premise to find out if kids and parents are enjoying your ministry.   

All you need to do is be intentional about watching their faces.

Here are a few ways.

Set up a video camera (with parental consent) and record the kids’ faces during the service. Then go back and watch the tape. When did they laugh? When did they get restless? When were they looking intently to the front? When were they daydreaming?

Another way you can do this is to assign a volunteer to watch kids and parents faces during the program, event, service, etc. He or she can make notes about when people were paying attention, not engaging, yawning, laughing, etc.

Then analyze the data with the corresponding part of the service, program, class, event, etc. Did they laugh at the jokes, skits, etc.? Did they engage with the lesson? Did they seem like they were having fun during the activities? Did you see in any tears being wiped away during a touching part of the service? Did they actually sing during worship?

Once you’ve analyzed your data, you can go back and tweak those parts of the service, program, class, etc., to make it more engaging.

Blues Clues is considered by many to be the most engaging children’s show ever made. Why? They did exactly what we are talking about. Before an episode was put on the air, they brought in groups of kids to watch it. They made notes when kids looked away, disengaged, got bored, etc. Then they went back and tweaked those parts of the show to make it more engaging. The results were phenomenal and brought in top honors in the world of children’s television.

“Look” into doing this (sorry for the bad pun) and you will begin seeing kids enjoy your ministry more than ever.

P.S. You can get more great ideas for helping kids enjoy your ministry in the book If Disney Ran Your Children’s MinistryIt’s available at this link.

This article originally appeared here.

Are the Egalitarians Trending With the Culture?

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Complementarian/egalitarian discussions and debates can be complex. Some involve arguments from the finer points of Greek and Hebrew. Others may require an understanding of theological themes that span the entire Bible. Still others require solid grounding in the social sciences. Because of such complexities, I find it refreshing when someone asks a question that is easily answered. The question that forms the title to this blog entry is just such a question.

Essentially all readers have heard the claim that egalitarians are following culture. This claim is typically intended to point out that egalitarians are being seduced by feminism. And the feminism in question is usually a reference to the movement called second-wave feminism, which began in the 1960s and lasted for 20-plus years—a movement with ramifications which continue to wield strong influence today.

To those who would ask this easy-to-answer question, whether egalitarians are being seduced by feminism, I might choose to respond as follows:

Perhaps you haven’t heard of Martia, a church leader in France, probably in the fifth century—long before second-wave feminism. Or of Hilda of Whitby, a Christian leader and educator in the British Isles. She wielded considerable influence in the 7th century—long before second-wave feminism.

Unfortunately you have probably not heard of Lioba, a biblical scholar, church historian and missionary to Saxony in the 8th century—long before second-wave feminism.

I wonder, have you heard of Saint Clare of Assisi, who exercised leadership as an abbess and influenced many Christian leaders, including Francis of Assisi and more than one pope, in the 13thcentury—long before second-wave feminism?

It’s more likely that you’ve heard of Joanna Cotton, who lived out egalitarian principles, including teaching adult men, in the 15th century—long before second-wave feminism. Or of Margaret Fell, co-founder of Quakerism with George Fox, who wrote the booklet Womens Speaking Justified, Proved and Allowed of by the Scriptures, in the 1660s—long before second-wave feminism.

Perhaps you’ve even heard of Mary Hanson and Dorothy Fisher, early leaders of Methodism in Britain. In fact, when John Wesley compiled a list of 66 of the earliest Methodist leaders, 47 of them were women. Wesley compiled this list in the early 1740s—long before second-wave feminism.

Or of Mabel Lossing Jones, an evangelist and missionary. She began her missionary work in India in 1904—seven years before marrying famed evangelist E. Stanley Jones and long before second-wave feminism. Or of Anna Boyd, who preached extensively in the northeastern United States. She was or­dained by the Rhode Island Adventist Conference and became the first president of the Union Female Missionary Association in 1866—long before second-wave feminism.

Surely you’ve heard of Catherine Mumford Booth, co-­founder of The Salvation Army with her husband, William. She argued for the equality of women and promoted them to ministerial equality with men. She was active for the bulk of the second half of the 19th century—long before second-wave feminism.

Again, you’ve surely heard of Jessie Penn-Lewis, a writer, speaker and revivalist in the British Isles. Penn-Lewis advocated for women’s ministry in the late 19th and early 20th centuries—long before second-wave feminism.

I hope you also know about Alvera Mickelsen and Catherine Clark Kroeger, born in 1919 and 1925, respectively. These women were founding leaders of CBE International; they were writing about, as well as living out, evangelical egalitarianism before the advent of second-wave feminism.

You’ve noticed, of course, that the above list contains only women. But please know that over the centuries many men have also promoted women as Christian leaders of various kinds.

I began by claiming that this question—whether egalitarians are giving in to culture—is easy to answer. You don’t need all these names to answer it. Instead, you simply need a common-sense awareness that the idea that women are equal to men and are thus fit to exercise leadership in the church began neither in 1960 nor in the United States.

I should note that all of the women mentioned above have been written about in CBE International’s journal, Priscilla Papers. I easily found them, as well as many others, using the online index here. Another excellent resource is Handbook of Women Biblical Interpreters, edited by Marion Ann Taylor and Agnes Choi, which offers summaries of the life and work of 180 women ranging from the fourth to the 21st centuries.

In short, the answer is no, biblical egalitarianism is not the result of the second-wave feminism of the 1960s and 1970s. We’ve been around much longer than that.

This article originally appeared here.

[For a fine book on Extraordinary Women of Christian history by Ruth Tucker, click here.]

Should Worship Bands Try to “Copy” Worship CD Styles?

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Sound Like the Pros

I’ll often hear the question, “Should my praise band copy the professional recording we hear on the radio and on worship CDs?” Sure you should, and here’s why:

Amateur praise band musicians tend to overplay, and copying professional recordings teaches good habits. You’ve probably experienced a praise band rehearsal where everyone is chaotically playing every chord on every beat with all their heart, soul and might. Inexperienced musicians want to be active every moment or they feel they’re not participating.

A close examination of any professionally recorded worship CD will reveal that every instrument does >not< play continually throughout the song!

Good music has dynamics. An electric guitar lick might not appear until the second verse. Strumming might not start until the final chorus. Or everyone will jam from the start, dropping to a light, sparse bridge, then come together again for a big final chorus. Every song is different, and every song must be played appropriately.

Asking your musicians to copy a CD will separate the sheep from the goats. From my experience, good players (and those who strive to be good) enjoy the process of replicating a professionally recorded CD because good players like to find out what the pros are doing. They want to hear if there are any new tricks they can add to their own bag (and get better in the process).

Read an interview with any famous musician and you’ll likely hear something to the effect of “as a kid I locked myself in my bedroom and studied [insert rock music icon]’s record over and over until I could play it note for note.” Top musicians become top musicians by studying top musicians.

Players with amateur thinking tend to be uninterested in copying a CD, if not downright opposed. They also tend to have endless rabbit-trail ideas that eat up rehearsal time. (Experienced musicians go through the rabbit-trail phase during their junior-high garage band years. Now they just want to get the job done efficiently.)

Current praise songs should sound like they were originally recorded. With the current glut of modern worship music, most contemporary church congregations don’t know half the songs in praise sets as it is, so let’s not further confuse them by changing the arrangements of the songs they do know! Stick to the recordings for now, then once the song has been in rotation for a good while (and your band is solid and trained) try freshening it up with your own or an alternate arrangement.

Bottom Line: Help those players who are less experienced realize that it’s only in everyone’s best interest to copy a CD. They’ll grow as musicians, and as an added bonus, the music will get better!

This article originally appeared here.

3 Unhealthy Reasons Pastors Talk to Search Teams

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OK, here is a sad secret I have witnessed in nearly 25 years of ministry leadership. I have seen it numerous times, have never written on it, but am doing so now because it is unhealthy, causes confusion and wastes a lot of time among God’s people.

Some pastors play games with pastor search teams.

Some pastors engage in ongoing conversations with pastoral search teams with little to no intention of really considering going to the church they are supposedly considering. They make trips, enjoy dinners, fill out questionnaires, look at homes online and spend months in conversations just to play the game of going through the process. Some ministry leaders flirt with a church search team with no intention of really even having a date. Why on earth would they do this? What is going on? At least one of three things is at work in the pastor’s heart:

1. They want an escape hatch.

Challenges, burdens, criticism and pressure plague every ministry leader. Talking to a church about another role can provide a sense of relief, as if there is something else the leader can run to. Many ministry leaders know they are where they are supposed to be. In others words, they don’t really want to run; they just like knowing they could run if they wanted to. The problem with talking to a church as a mental escape hatch is that so much kingdom time is wasted. There are real people who are gathering and praying for their next leader, and it is cruel to play games with them.

2. They miss or love or need to be pursued.

Ministry leaders often feel underappreciated in their own churches, so the call from another place can feed the ego. They know that if they go to the new place, they will likely be underappreciated there too, but the conversations feel good. Sadly, this is deeply sinful as these leaders use another church’s search team to find affirmation and approval instead of rejoicing in the affirmation and approval the Lord has already given.

3. They want some of their team to know they are in demand.

Some ministry leaders enjoy having multiple opportunities “in the hopper” at one time because they actually hope some of their leaders or some of their team discovers that others are recruiting them. In other words, they use a search team as a pawn to increase their value where they are.

If you know you are not going to go to a place, don’t waste the search team’s time and energy. Don’t play games with a group of people. Yes, ministry is hard, but don’t use others to give you affirmation you should be finding in the Lord.

This article originally appeared here.

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