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Flamy Grant Welcomed by Virginia Baptist Church; Protestor Holds Up Sign: ‘Watching Drag Queens Will Drag You to Hell’

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Flamy Grant, the drag queen who attended this year’s Dove Awards alongside Derek Webb (Caedmon’s Call) and Grace Baldridge (Semler), performed at a Baptist church in Virginia on Saturday (Dec. 2).

Matthew Blake is an openly queer man who dresses in drag and goes by the stage name “Flamy Grant.” “I’m a singing/songwriting drag queen named after arguably the most successful Christian artist of all time,” Grant says.

“A SHAME-SLAYING, HIP-SWAYING, SINGING-SONGWRITING QUEEN,” reads the concert series promotion from Grace Baptist Church in Richmond, Virginia. “The comedy queen with the blistering voice, Flamy Grant, is a gospel and roots musician from the Bible Belt who will move you, soothe you, help you heal some trauma and always leave you laughing.”

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The Cooperative Baptist Fellowship (CFB) church boasted of Flamy Grant’s achievements, saying Grant is the first drag queen to release a “full-length contemporary Christian album.” The church also touted the fact that Grant climbed to the No. 1 spot on the iTunes Christian album charts and landed a Top 20 spot on Billboard’s Christian Digital Song Sales for a collaboration with Webb on the single “Good Day.”

The concert was free, but the church asked for donations to be given to Diversity Richmond, a LGBTQ+ organization that describes itself as “the hub for the LGBTQ+ community of Greater Richmond connecting people, partners and programs through our work as a catalyst, a voice, a place and a resource.”

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Photos posted by Grant showed two protestors, one of whom was holding a sign that read: “Watching drag queens will drag you to hell – Romans 1:18-32.” The other was speaking though a bullhorn. Another photo showed a handful of the church pews that were filled with concertgoers.

Flamy Grant posted on social media that the protestor holding the sign is named Kaylee and that her husband was the one street preaching.

“She and her husband were my first ever in-person protesters at yesterday’s show in Richmond, VA,” Grant said. “The video is clipped from the livestream from the bodycam she was wearing. She’s responsible for her actions, yes. But I also know the dynamics at play here.”

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“I see the effort you put into that sign, girl,” Grant added. “You’ve got a creative spirit and you take pride in your work. I hope one day you get to channel that energy into something that makes you happy and helps others. Rooting for you. 🫶.”

‘God, You Are Good’—Steven Curtis Chapman Remembers Daughter Maria 15 Years After Her Tragic Death

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CCM artist Steven Curtis Chapman and his wife, Mary Beth, endured the unthinkable 15 years ago. Their daughter, Maria Sue Chapman, then just 5 years old, died in a tragic accident. The couple has been open about their journey of grief since the accident, and Chapman has said that life without Jesus “leads to hopelessness and utter darkness.”

“There’s humility in just knowing: God, you are God, and I am not,” Chapman said to Christian Headlines. “But even having walked through our own personal loss of our daughter and 15 years into that journey—that doesn’t go away, that doesn’t get easier. What do you do with that?”

Grieving With Hope: Steven Curtis Chapman Reflects on Daughter Maria, Gone Too Soon

On May 21, 2008, Maria Sue Chapman was playing outside and lost her life in a tragic accident. Mary Beth Chapman, in her book “Choosing to SEE,” tells more of the details of that awful day. The family had just celebrated the engagement of one of their older daughters, and they were planning for the graduation of one of their sons.

A family member was slowly driving on the family’s long driveway and didn’t see Maria rushing out to greet him. Maria was struck by the vehicle and died from her injuries.

Mary Beth’s raw, unfiltered account of that day (and the years before and after) depicted an imperfect, Christ-centered family that regularly practiced love and grace.

Chapman told Christian Headlines that he’s been able to say,

God, you are faithful. And you’re good. I don’t understand all of this. But I know the fact that we are on our own personal journey, 15 years into this journey, and we can see you working and redeeming and restoring us, even this side of heaven, believing and knowing that, ultimately, that healing is going to come when you do wipe every tear from our eyes, and all of these things that are so broken, are made whole again. But in the meantime, I’m gonna trust you, I’m gonna keep singing about your goodness and your faithfulness.

“Because I’ve experienced it, I’ve seen it, tasted [it],” Chapman said, “and [I’ve] seen that you are good, even with the hard and sadness and the ache and the longing that we live with. And I think that’s a simple message, but it’s just where I feel like God has put me.”

On X (formerly Twitter), Chapman shared old family photos, including of Maria Sue. He said, “God is with us…God is for us…God is faithful…God is good…still!”

The artist then quoted the now-late Pastor Tim Keller about grief: “Grieve with hope; wake up and be at peace; laugh in the face of death, and sing for joy at what’s coming. If Jesus Christ has you by the hand, you can sing.”

Nearly 200,000 friends, family members, and fans interacted with the post, many remembering that terrible day. “We are forever changed by her beautiful life and the way in which your family has been honest about the grief and hope journey. She holds a piece of our hearts even as outsiders and I can’t wait to meet her when ‘everything sad comes untrue,'” one comment read.

Lecrae’s ‘Prostitution Story’ Illustrates the Worth That All People Have

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Hip hop artist Lecrae has decided to tell the “prostitution story” he referred to in the first episode of his new podcast, “Deep End with Lecrae.” While the interaction, which he had as a young man, confused him at the time, in retrospect it highlights the inherent value that all people have.

“It haunted me for some time because I didn’t know what to make of it,” said Lecrae, who shared that not even his mother knows this story. That’s all right, though, he said, because “I’ve learned and I’ve grown.”

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Lecrae on ‘Swimming in Trauma’

Lecrae, a Grammy Award-winning Christian hip hop artist, has started a podcast where he discusses some of the most difficult parts of his life in the hopes of helping others find healing. In the most recent episode, he responded to requests from his audience to share what he had previously referred to as a “prostitution story.”

The artist shared that when he was about 18 or 19 years old, he had a close friend whose uncle had served a lot of time in prison. After getting out, the uncle had a habit of spending his time drunk in strip clubs. Lecrae and his friend would regularly pick up the uncle from the strip clubs and, as a result, ended up spending a lot of their time around pimps, strippers and prostitutes. 

Because the two friends were in that environment so often, they became friends with the strippers and prostitutes and got to know their “dark backstories.” Strip clubs consequently lost their “allure,” said Lecrae, but the lifestyle associated with them came to seem like a “normal reality.” The artist said he got so used to this reality that the “chaos and trauma” the people in it experienced started to seem as though “it wasn’t a bad thing.” 

One night, Lecrae’s friend hooked up with a prostitute and encouraged Lecrae to do the same with the girl’s friend, so Lecrae agreed. “Now, I had definitely had a one night stand before,” he said. “I had definitely put myself in positions where, you know, it was objectifying a woman. But I don’t think, I don’t think my body was willing to shun the reality of the trauma that I was introducing it to.”

He explained that when it came down to actually sleeping with the prostitute, he found that he couldn’t do it—and he didn’t know why. “It was weird.”

“What I know now through therapy,” he said, is that at that point in his life, he used promiscuity to seek love in order to deal with trauma in his past. That was why he was open to objectifying that girl that night. And she, with her own struggles, was willing for him to do so.

“Here we are, just two people swimming in trauma, and I cannot [go through with sleeping with her],” he said. “I see you as more than that, even though I don’t want to acknowledge that in this moment.”

Referencing the book, “The Body Keeps the Score,” Lecrae said that his body instinctively knew that what he was about to do was “traumatic,” even though he didn’t consciously understand why he was hesitating.

Bengals Player Hailed as a ‘Class Act’ for Kneeling to Pray for Injured Opponent

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During a frightening moment in the Dec. 4 Monday Night Football game, Jacksonville Jaguars quarterback Trevor Lawrence collapsed to the ground after being stepped on by a teammate. Immediately afterward, Cincinnati Bengals defensive end Trey Hendrickson fell to one knee and bowed his head in prayer.

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Before that act of faith and sportsmanship, Hendrickson had helped Lawrence stand up, not realizing he was hurt. After Lawrence returned to the ground in pain, slamming his hand and helmet into the field, Hendrickson, an outspoken Christian, bowed beside him briefly in prayer.

Christian NFL Player Trey Hendrickson Is ‘The Real Deal’

On Tuesday, Trey Hendrickson’s gesture went viral, with the NFL itself calling him a “class act.” People praised the athlete on social media, writing, “Pretty cool moment,” and “Bravo to Trey for the concern.” Someone posted, “It’s the fact that Trey Hendrickson IMMEDIATELY prayed for Trevor Lawrence, a real class act.”

Another person wrote, “Literally one of the most standup, high character moves I’ve seen in a long time. Hope this goes viral, need more of this in today’s sports.”

Other commenters said they weren’t surprised to see the defensive end help and pray for an opponent. “If you think Trey Hendrickson praying for Trevor was performative,” someone wrote, “then you don’t know Trey. He’s the real deal.”

Tests showed that Lawrence, also an outspoken Christian, suffered a high ankle sprain. On Dec. 5, he posted words of gratitude on X (formerly Twitter). “Thanks to everyone for the prayers and everyone that reached out,” he wrote. “It is much appreciated.”

Bengals Pro Bowler: Jesus Means More Than Football

Trey Hendrickson, 29, began his pro career with New Orleans and is now in his third year with Cincinnati. Ahead of the Bengals’ appearance in the 2022 Super Bowl, the defensive standout, a two-time Pro Bowler, spoke about his faith.

“My Lord and Savior Jesus Christ is more to me than just football,” he said, “but it’s application and what I’ve read through my faith and my wife and our meditations and things like that…And its application for the game of football is very simple.”

Hendrickson continued:

Anything that I do on the field is to glorify [Jesus], through him for him for his glory…My life is a sacrifice, and the days after football will be the same as the days playing football. I try to encourage people any way to crack open their Bible, [with] Instagram, things like that, just look up the verse and continue to grow stronger in faith because that’s where it starts.

SBC Executive Committee Emphasizes Autonomy in Amicus Brief Supporting NAMB Against Will McRaney Lawsuit

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Kevin Ezell, right, president of the North American Mission Board, was joined onstage by Vance Pitman – new leader of NAMB’s church planting division, Send Network – who encouraged attendees that through the hardships, the mission is still moving forward. (Photo courtesy of Baptist Press)

Another amicus brief has been filed on behalf of the Southern Baptist Convention’s (SBC) Executive Committee (EC), this time in the case of Pastor Will McRaney’s lawsuit against the SBC’s North American Mission Board (NAMB). 

The brief, which was filed on Dec. 4, comes a little more than a month after it was publicly revealed that an amicus brief filed on behalf of four SBC entities, including the EC, had sided against statute of limitations reforms for sexual abuse cases in Kentucky.

The Kentucky brief has been the subject of widespread criticism from abuse survivor advocates and SBC leaders, eliciting an apology from SBC president Bart Barber for signing off on it. Nevertheless, no apparent effort has been made on the part of any SBC entity leader to rescind the brief. 

This new brief, which was filed with the United States Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals, reasserts the longstanding claim that the SBC is not a hierarchical denomination but a voluntary affiliation of local churches and related entities. 

The brief was filed with regard to a lawsuit that was originally filed by McRaney in 2017. In the suit, McRaney alleged that NAMB defamed him, resulting in his dismissal as Executive Missional Strategist at the Baptist Convention of Maryland/Delaware (BCMD).

At the time, NAMB and the BCMD were entering into a strategic agreement in which NAMB, which is the SBC’s domestic missions organization, would provide resources to the BCMD for evangelism and church planting. McRaney has alleged that NAMB used its resources to pressure the BCMD to terminate him after he expressed concern that the agreement would compromise the autonomy of the BCMD. 

In the amicus brief, lawyers argued that NAMB has no authority over the BCMD, as the BCMD “is an independent and self-governing organization. It has no intrinsic relationship with the SBC or any SBC Entity except a relationship based on voluntary cooperation.”

“As a matter of polity, neither the SBC nor any SBC Entity has any right or control over BCMD’s ministries, employment decisions, budget, or any other operations,” the brief continued. 

“In order to adjudicate the dispute between [McRaney] and NAMB, a court would first be required to delve into BCMD’s reasons for terminating [McRaney’s] employment,” the brief later said. Referencing a previous court decision in the case, the brief added, “The District Court correctly determined that evaluating that action by BCMD would require the court to become entangled in BCMD’s decision about who should serve as its highest-ranking ministerial.”

The brief further argued that delving into the BCMD’s ministerial hiring decisions would be a First Amendment violation. 

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“For the Court to adjudicate the merits of the claims presented in this case would necessarily entangle it in the religious doctrines, faith, scripture-based tenets, beliefs, governance, polity and missionary objectives of BCMD and NAMB,” the brief stated. “Such judicial review would unquestionably run afoul of the jurisdictional bar under the ecclesiastical abstention doctrine.”

Matt Chandler, Part 2: How Parents Can Make the Most of the Time They Have With Their Kids

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Matt Chandler is an elder and lead pastor at The Village Church in Flower Mound, Texas, and the executive chairman of the Acts 29 Network. He has authored several books, including “Family Discipleship: Leading Your Home through Time, Moments, and Milestones,” co-authored with Adam Griffin. You can sign up for Matt’s newsletter and check out his podcast, “The Overcomers,” at pastormattchandler.com

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Key Questions for Matt Chandler

-Why did you write “Family Discipleship”?

-What is the significance of “time, moments and milestones” in family discipleship?

-How can parents walk well with their kids through the storms of life?

-What exhortation do you have for church leaders about family discipleship, both in church and the home?

Key Quotes From Matt Chandler

“We wanted to aim young in discipleship pathways at The Village Church.”

“That’s the primary discipleship unit—it’s not the church, it’s the house.”

“It’s funny to me how many think because I’m a pastor that our family devotionals were awesome.”

“You have to create time and space to be with your children.”

“You don’t actually lose your kid at 18. You lose them at 16.”

“You’re always looking for those moments where you can enter into their world [in adolescence]. And again, this is on their terms; the moments are not on your terms.”

“Whatever [my kids] loved, I tried to tie back to the goodness of God.” 

Bishop Curry Hospitalized for Brain Bleeding After Fall in Syracuse

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Bishop Michael Curry, presiding bishop and primate of the Episcopal Church, speaks outside the West Wing of the White House in Washington, Sept. 22, 2021. (AP Photo/Susan Walsh, File)

(RNS) — The Episcopal Church’s Presiding Bishop Michael Curry was hospitalized in Raleigh, North Carolina, on Sunday (Dec. 3) due to a subdural hematoma, known as a brain bleed, provoked by a fall he took earlier in the weekend in Syracuse, New York. The bishop is now recovering from his surgery at Raleigh’s hospital, where he resides.

The Episcopal Church’s public affairs office released a statement asking for prayers “for Bishop Curry, his family, and his medical team.”

On Saturday, Curry had attended a celebration of the Diocese of Central New York at Grace Church in Utica, near Syracuse. The bishop kicked off the event with a welcome speech alongside the Rt. Rev. DeDe Duncan-Probe, the bishop of Central New York, and Grace Church’s rector, the Rev. Christine Williams-Belt, before preaching during a festive Eucharist in the afternoon.

Curry, who is 70, is in the last year of his nine-year term as the 27th presiding bishop and primate of the Episcopal Church. The bishop has been hospitalized two other times this year for internal bleeding and heart conditions.

On Memorial Day weekend, Curry was hospitalized to get to the bottom of his recurring irregular heartbeat problem. The bishop was later declared stable and he received treatments for his rapid heartbeat, said the Episcopal Church’s public affairs office.

The bishop was in the hospital for an extended stay beginning in August for internal bleeding. On Sept. 20, surgeons removed his right adrenal gland and a noncancerous attached mass that was identified as the cause of the reoccurrence of the bishop’s internal bleeding, according to the Episcopal Church’s public affairs office.

The bishop left the hospital two weeks later after his medical team had cleared a minor infection.

Since he returned home on Oct. 5, Curry has resumed his travels, although his schedule has been reduced.

This is Curry’s second episode with subdural hematoma. In December 2015, a month into his tenure, he was hospitalized because of a brain bleed after a fall that happened on his first day in office. The brain bleed was only identified after he experienced memory loss while preaching at Bruton Parish in Williamsburg, Virginia. His recovery therapy included speech therapy sessions.

“I couldn’t remember anything — everything was gone — but, being a preacher, I kept talking,” the bishop said in an interview with Episcopal News Service at the time.

Vatican To Unveil Nativity Scene Celebrating the 800th Anniversary of the Crèche

A view of St. Peter's Square after the Christmas tree and Nativity scene lighting ceremony at the Vatican, Dec. 3, 2022. (AP Photo/Gregorio Borgia)

VATICAN CITY (RNS) — A life-size crèche representing the Nativity will be unveiled at St. Peter’s Square on Saturday (Dec. 9), celebrating the 800th anniversary of a Catholic tradition long since adopted by Christians across denominations.

The crèche has enjoyed great popularity in Italy and beyond ever since St. Francis of Assisi created the first one in 1223 in the town of Greccio, near Rome. The saint, known for his life of poverty, his love for creation and his efforts for peace in the Holy Land, had recently received the approval of his Rule for the Franciscan friars from Pope Honorius III.

In the rocky terrain of Greccio, St. Francis saw similarities to the Holy Land and asked the friars to help him bring the scene of Christ’s birth to life. “I would like to remember that Child who was born in Bethlehem, and somehow glimpse with the eyes of my body the hardships he experienced due to the lack of the things necessary for a newborn; how he was laid in a manger and how he lay on the hay between the ox and the donkey,” Francis said, according to his biographer, the Franciscan Friar Tommaso da Celano.

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Many came to help Francis, carrying lamps to illuminate the chilly cave where they placed that first Nativity scene. They celebrated Mass on the manger, certainly unaware that they had started a centenary tradition.

“For St. Francis, the humble humanity of the savior, needing help from his creatures, was enough of a reason to make the people of his time see this truth,” said the Rev. Emil Kumka of the Order of Friars Minor and professor of history of the ancient and medieval church at the Pontifical University of St. Bonaventure, Seraphicum.

“He achieved this with poor but very effective means,” he added.

The cave where St. Francis celebrated Christmas in 1223, in Greccio, Italy. (Photo by Randy OHC/Wikimedia/Creative Commons)

The cave where St. Francis celebrated Christmas in 1223, in Greccio, Italy. (Photo by Randy OHC/Wikimedia/Creative Commons)

The crèche that will be unveiled on Saturday was made by artisans in Greccio and attempts to re-create that night in 1223. A smattering of characters will frame the scene: the two nobles who helped St. Francis — Giovanni Velita and his wife, Alticama — three friars and a few pastors. There will also be the figure of a priest celebrating the Eucharist, to underline the connection between the birth of Christ and his death.

The Nativity scene, placed inside a structure made to resemble the granite rocks of the cave, is meant to be enjoyed from all angles.

A statement from the Vatican’s governorate explained that a fresco in the background will show the Nativity of Greccio as it was painted by the famed Italian painter Giotto between 1295 and 1299. In front of the painting, a statue representing St. Francis of Assisi will hold the figure of the infant Jesus, which in accordance with tradition is not placed until Christmas. Next to him will be the Virgin Mary and St. Joseph.

The hand-painted characters, created from fired clay, will be draped with original clothing from the Middle Ages. The base of the structure will be an octagon, to represent the 800th anniversary of the crèche.

The 5 Biggest Challenges Children’s Ministries Will Face in 2024

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As we prepare to enter a new year of ministry, there are some challenges we will face. Here are the five biggest.

1. Infrequent Church Attendance

We will continue to see families attend once or twice a month or even less.

This has some serious consequences. When parents choose to make church attendance an option instead of a top priority, kids will grow up and treat church attendance like an option you choose when nothing else is happening.

What one generation deems as optional, the next generation will deem as unnecessary.

Somehow we have to get through to parents and help them realize this. I believe the earlier we can instill this into parents, the better they will set the right priorities. Once kids reach elementary school and are entrenched in weekend activities outside of church, it is hard to see them readjust their priorities.

I have found success in helping parents understand this when their children are in nursery or preschool ages. This can be accomplished by being intentional to communicate this to young parents. If they can make the decision to prioritize church in their child’s early years, they can establish a godly foundation that will help them as their children grow into their elementary years.

Here is the milestone class I created to help with this. It is called Parent and Child Dedication Class. You can check it out at this link. Don’t let another dedication pass without having a class attached to it for parents to attend. It will help you connect with parents and help them establish the right priorities. The class spends about 15 minutes teaching about what the dedication means and then 30 minutes teaching parents about how to raise their children to love Jesus.

2. Shallow Faith 

If a child only went to school once a month, what kind of education would they have? They would obviously be way behind.

The natural result of infrequent church attendance is shallow faith.

The majority of children who attend church today are biblically illiterate.

We must be very intentional about what we teach. Our lessons should point kids to Jesus and how to live for him. If I were to ask your church kids what they have learned in the last 12 months, what would they say? Would they be able to say, as a minimum, what they have learned and started living out in the last 12 months?

I use Connect12 curriculum and the children can tell me from memory the main points we have learned in the last 12 months. There are several keys that make this happen. Check out Connect12 curriculum and you can see more about this amazing curriculum that helps kids develop a strong and solid faith foundation. You can see more at this link.

6 Elements of Daily Prayer Time With God

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I’m convinced that the one thing that will change everything about your life for the positive is establishing a daily prayer time with God.

Your health will improve if you exercise daily. Your finances will improve if you manage your budget daily. And in the same way, your soul will increase in health and maturity if you practice the discipline of spending time every single day—as early in your day as possible—alone and in quiet with God.

A friend recommended that I read the best-selling book on self-improvement from Hal Elrod called Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life (Before 8 am). It was a fantastic read, but the entire time I was reading it I was thinking, this isn’t new information—this is very, very old.

The fact is, I’ve been practicing the habit of a daily quiet time with God since I entered adulthood. There have been seasons when I’ve been less consistent than others, but when I’ve practiced this discipline faithfully, it’s been the single most influential practice in building my life from the inside out.

I don’t believe we should approach this discipline legalistically. It’s not a matter of performing it in order to earn God’s favor. Rather, we practice this spiritual discipline as a pathway to freedom, to growth, and to new levels of spiritual maturity and closeness to God and confidence in our identity.

One of the reasons we struggle to start and maintain this practice is that we over-complicate it. We make it a ritual, with rules attached about what we can and cannot do in order to call it a real quiet time.

I wanted to share the plan that I’ve followed for years now because I believe in it. I’ve seen it change my life in countless ways.

6 Elements of Daily Prayer Time With God

You may have heard of the ACTS prayer, which stands for adoration, confession, thanksgiving and supplication. I incorporate this into my prayer time, but I break it up. And you might also have heard of the observe-interpret-apply method of reading and studying the Bible. I combine these two ideas and break my own time each morning into six basic elements…

1. Adoration in Prayer Time

I always open with adoration—with praising God, which reminds me of his greatness and his proper place of prominence in my life. My adoration centers around two questions…

Who is God? What quality or attribute can I praise Him for today?

This first question has nothing to do with anything God has done for me, like providing financially or giving me health. It’s not about me at all. It’s entirely about him. I’m reminded that he deserves praise and adoration simply because he is God, and he is good and worthy of my worship.

The second question is more personal and experiential…

What has God done in, around and through me?

2. Confession in Prayer Time

This part is simple, but painful. I think about the question,

What sin or fault in my life do I need to honestly confess to God?

Dealing With Needy People in Your Group

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It is important to think through the problem of needy people in groups. The Bible teaches that neediness, defined as being incomplete and without, is something God uses to grow us up and heal us. He comes to us when we experience that we cannot fix or save ourselves in our own strength: “For he will deliver the needy who cry out, the afflicted who have no one to help. He will take pity on the weak and the needy and save the needy from death” (Psalm 72:12-13).

Problems in Needy People

However, neediness becomes a problem to address when it manifests in unhealthy ways, such as:

• Taking up too much group time

• Constant crises that never get resolved

• Emotional dependency that the group can’t meet

• Inability to be comforted

• Not taking group advice

• Seeing the group as “not enough”

Dealing with the Core Issues of Neediness

Once you have discerned the difference between neediness that serves growth and neediness that prevents growth, you will want to understand core issues and deal with them.

Core Issues of Needy People

1. Inability to connect with the group.

Some needy people bring their issues to the group, but when the members reach out to them, there is a disconnect, and the needy people cannot receive the support being offered. They are unable to accept comfort and soothing. The needy person may not know how to, or may be afraid to, accept what is there for him. Make this a team issue and discuss the person’s refusal or inability to value, experience, and receive the group’s love and care.

2. Problems using the support.

Sometimes a person can receive love but, for whatever reason, is unable to use the support to take growth steps. Grace and support are the “fuel” that God designed for us to metabolize—digest—and use to take responsibility for solving our problems. The person who seems to receive support but continues to stay stuck, blame, or reject help has been termed by one psychological researcher as the “help-rejecting complainer.” Help the person see this: “Rob, you seem to be able to take in the connections the group is bringing to you for this issue. However, it isn’t translating into decisions, action, courage, and choices for you, which is a part of the reason we use love. How can we help you with this?”

3. Bite-sized support.

When a needy people get into their pain or emotion, they may not be able to come out of it and may inadvertently regress to a point where they takes over the group time. Help them to use the time allotted and prepare her to mutually receive and give with the group. This often empowers the person and helps her realize she has some choices in the growth process: “Hallie, I want the group to help you with your grief and confusion. At the same time, I want the other members to get something for themselves, too. If you get into your pain tonight, is it okay if at some point I let you know we’ll need to move on?” Of course, if you try this several times and she is unable to do that, you may realize the person has authentic and valid needs that may require more than the group can give.

4. Relational neediness versus task neediness.

Sometimes needy people don’t see that what they need is connection. Instead, they go to the group for emotional rescue, looking for advice, instructions, answers, and sympathy. They need to understand that most relational supplies should make us better able to handle life’s demands. While the group should certainly be a source of wisdom and truth, be aware of when members try to substitute for the attachment resource. “Natalie, often you go to the group for suggestions, but I think the members might want to give you themselves and see what you do with that.”

 

This article about needy people is excerpted from: (Cloud, H., & Townsend, J. (2010). Making small groups work: what every small group leader needs to know. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.)

God Refines Us Through Suffering: 4 Reasons He Ordains Earthly Trials

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It’s one thing to know that God refines us through suffering. It’s another thing to experience those trials and hardships firsthand. Read on for insights about how God works through challenges.

When tragedy strikes—the death of a child, hurricanes, a school shooting—we begin looking for an escape from the pain. Or we clamor for answers from religious “experts” to explain the ever-present question “Why?” We want answers, and we want to believe our suffering isn’t meaningless. We want to know for sure that God refines us through suffering and hardship.

Our culture, unfortunately, strives to deny the reality of suffering and death. And we continually long to drink from the fountain of youth—expressed in our endless pursuit of Botox treatments, anti-aging cream, cosmetic surgeries, and hair dyes. We cloak funerals as “celebrations” and convey the empty promise that all people end up in heaven (except Hitler and Stalin, perhaps).

We cannot handle the harsh reality of suffering. So we hide behind the virtual walls of social media, where we pretend our hearts are safe from rejection, grief, and the evil “out there.” Yet all the while, you and I know it’s there. It’s real, and it’s painful.

Maybe you’re in the throes of affliction or trying to minister to someone who is. One great tragedy of the American church is that we’ve lost a biblical theology of suffering—one that centers on the glory, goodness, and sovereignty of God. We’ve lost an understanding of the reality of suffering as a consequence of the Fall. And we’ve neglected to see how God overrules evil for his greater purposes. God refines us through suffering and uses it to build our faith.

We need to understand this so our feet land on the solid foundation of God’s Word and the God of that Word. There we find understanding and hope. All other ground is sinking sand.

4 Reasons Why God Refines Us Through Suffering

If you’ve trusted in Christ as your Lord and Savior, you can rest in this truth. Your afflictions and sufferings come to you for your ultimate good and God’s ultimate glory.

But let’s look at four specific biblical reasons God ordains suffering for his people and how he refines us through suffering.

1. To Kill Sin and Grow Godliness

God uses suffering to expose the sin that clings so closely to our hearts. When we suddenly bear an affliction, our pride, impatience, and unbelief often surface. Pain has a way of cracking open the heart, laying it bare. When I’ve faced suffering, I’ve responded with anger. Though the suffering itself isn’t evil, it illuminates the evil residing within me. Sometimes it reveals my lack of faith in God’s promises. I begin questioning God: How could you let this happen? 

If we’re prone to love something in this world—house, spouse, children, job—more than God, he may sometimes remove the idol. And it will hurt. But in doing so, he frees us to refocus our primary love on him alone. King David saw a woman bathing, sent for her, slept with her, then had her husband killed. When the prophet Nathan confronted David about his sin, he responded with Psalm 51. Suffering serves as a cleanser, revealing and killing our present sin, and deterring us from greater sin.

God doesn’t just help mortify our sin, though. He also cultivates godliness whereby he conforms us increasingly into Christ’s image. And God uses his church to spur his people on and be the context in which iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17). When affliction falls on a community of believers, God knits them together more tightly.

2. To Relinquish the Temporal for the Eternal

God also uses suffering to wean us from a love of this world and to redirect our thoughts and affections toward the eternal. “Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth” (Colossians 3:2).

Jesus told the rich young ruler to sell all he had and give it to the poor. Then, he said, you will have treasure in heaven. The young man went away sorrowful. Sometimes, God will simply remove those treasures for our greater good. It’s better to lose an eye than for your whole body to land in hell (Matthew 5:29).

As Christians, the afflictions we experience in this life should point us to the reality that we’re “sojourners and exiles” (1 Peter 2:11; Hebrews 11:13) here on earth, journeying toward the ultimate city. Our citizenship is in heaven (Philippians 3:20). This world is not our home, and the afflictions we experience along the way serve as arrows directing us to release what’s fading and grasp what’s unending.

Paul declares that God “comforts us in all our afflictions,” adding, “For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too” (2 Corinthians 1:3-5). The Lord of true comfort wants us to see our pain as “preparing us for an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison” (2 Corinthians 4:17).

‘Despacito’ Superstar Daddy Yankee Says He Is Retiring To Spread the Good News About Jesus

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Daddy Yankee, the reggaeton performer known for hits such as “Gasolina” and “Despacito,” has announced that he is retiring from his career as a musician in order to live for Jesus Christ. The artist, whose real name is Ramón Luis Ayala Rodríguez, made the announcement in Puerto Rico Sunday, Dec. 3, during the last show of his final tour.

“This day for me is the most important of my life,” said Daddy Yankee in the caption of an Instagram post showing his announcement. “Tonight I recognize and I am not ashamed to tell the whole world that Christ lives in me and that I will live for him. This is the end of one chapter and the beginning of a completely new one” [Editor’s note: Quotes have been translated into English via Google Translate].

 

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Daddy Yankee: ‘Jesus Lives in Me’

Daddy Yankee was born in Puerto Rico in 1977 and is known for pioneering the genre of reggaeton. His 2004 hit “Gasolina” from the album “Barrio Fino” brought the artist worldwide fame and was the first reggaeton song to be nominated for the Latin Grammy Award for Record of the Year. In April 2023, the single became the first reggaeton song to be inducted into the National Recording Registry at the Library of Congress. 

Daddy Yankee’s 2017 hit “Despacito,” released in collaboration with Latin pop singer Luis Fonsi, was a global smash hit. It became the first Spanish-only song to take the No. 1 spot on Billboard’s Hot 100 chart since the single “Macarena” achieved the feat in 1996.

In 2022, the global superstar announced his retirement. His groundbreaking, decades-long music career would reach its peak with the release of his seventh studio album, “Legendaddy,” and a world tour. Daddy Yankee’s four final shows of that tour took place back-to-back in San Juan over the weekend, with the last one featuring his emotional announcement that he intends to dedicate his life to telling the world about Jesus

“For many years I’ve tried filling a void in my life that no one could fill. I tried finding a purpose. On many occasions, it seemed as if I was happy, but something was missing for me to feel complete,” said the artist, who was moved to tears. “Throughout the years I was able to travel the world, win many awards…but I realized something that’s in the Bible: For what shall it profit a man if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?”

“That is why tonight, I recognize, and I am not ashamed to tell the whole world that Jesus lives in me and that I will live for him,” he said.

All of Daddy Yankee’s success did not fill the emptiness inside him, but Jesus did. “To all the people who followed me, follow Jesus Christ, who is the way, the truth and the life,” he said. “Just like Jesus, with his mercy, allowed me to travel the world, in your mercy, Father, I hope you allow me to evangelize the world from Puerto Rico.”

The artist said that “all the tools that I have in my possession, such as music, social networks, platforms, a microphone, everything that Jesus gave me, is now for his kingdom. Thank you very much, Puerto Rico, and I hope that you walk with me in this new beginning.”

Lil Nas X, Creator of Satan Shoes, Teases Christian Music Release; Tyrese Warns, ‘Stop Playing With God’

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Grammy Award-winning rapper Lil Nas X teased that he is leaving his “Old Town Road” for a new Christian one on Instagram last week. But Tyrese Gibson, the popular “Fast and Furious” franchise actor, warned him to “stop playing with God.”

In a post on Instagram, Lil Nas X asked, “Y’all mind if I enter my Christian era?” He then included snippet of a yet to be released new song and video of him wearing a long skirt while singing in street:

Father stretch my hands.
The lonely road seems to last the longest,
Help me with my plans,
Everything seems to go to nowhere,

Free me from worry and wanting pity.
Free me from all this envy in me.
I don’t want these feelings.
I call on angels.
I’m trying hard to face my pain.
Give me hope when I feel less.
Angels, I’m trying hard to keep my faith.

 

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The news of Lil Nas X announcing his “Christian era” came as a shock to many, including Gibson, due to the satanic imagery in Lil Nas X’s video for “MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name).” In that video, the outspoken gay rapper pole dances his way down from heaven into hell to give Satan a lap dance.

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In addition to the video, Lil Nas X partnered with MSCHF to create limited edition “Satan Shoes,” which were a modified pair of Nike Air Max 97s.

As ChurchLeaders reported, the shoes reportedly contained a drop of human blood mixed with red ink in the sole of each shoe. Precisely 666 pairs were made available, representing the sinister mark of Satan. On the side of each shoe was a reference to Luke 10:18—a verse referring to Satan’s fall from heaven. The shoelaces of the shoes included a pentagram and the sneakers were adorned with upside-down crosses.

The shoes were so controversial that Nike, which had nothing to do with their creation, was awarded a temporary restraining order against MSCHF, which prevented MSCHF from shipping the Satan Shoe. The shoes were $1,018 a pair and 665 were sold, allowing Lil Nas X to give away the 666th pair.

“Sorry guys I’m legally not allowed to give the 666th pair away anymore because of the crying nerds on the internet,” Lil Nas X told his social media followers.

Gibson, who credits his late mother for his faith in Jesus, warned Lil Nas X that God is not someone to be mocked. “Y’all gone learn to stop playing with God…God is not to be played with…From shoes with devil signs and devils [sic] blood in the show sole,” Gibson said. “We can all change I get it but I feel a way about people making a mockery about Jesus…Do you, live your life…Do what makes you happy but y’all better stop playing with Jesus out here…”

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Lil Nas X responded to Gibson, “This really crazy cuz all i did was post a song about asking god for hope when you feel hopeless and yall acting like I posted a video of me burning a church down and peeing on a nativity scene.”

‘2023 Has Been Hard’—Scott Sauls Reflects on ‘Chasing Platform, Power, Likes, Follows’ in First Blog Post Since Resignation

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In his first blog post since resigning as pastor of Christ Presbyterian Church (CPC) in Nashville, Tennessee, Scott Sauls reflected on Advent, influencer culture, and “chasing character more than chasing reputation.”

Sauls, who had been pastor of CPC since 2012, was placed on indefinite leave in May amid concerns about a toxic workplace culture—something Sauls admitted to in an apology video shown to congregants.

“I verbalized insensitive and verbal criticism of others’ work,” Sauls said in his apology. “I’ve used social media and the pulpit to quiet dissenting viewpoints. I’ve manipulated facts to support paths that I desire.” 

“I am grieved to say that I have hurt people,” he added. “I want to say to all of you that I am sorry.”

Later that same month, Sauls was indefinitely suspended by the Nashville Presbytery, which provides denominational oversight within the Presbyterian Church in America (PCA). As part of his suspension, Sauls was barred from performing any pastoral duties, including writing for his blog. 

None of the allegations against Sauls involved sexual or financial impropriety, nor did they involve alleged substance abuse. Nevertheless, former and current CPC staff members accused Sauls of cultivating a difficult work environment, resulting in high staff turnover.

The allegations against Sauls came as something of a surprise to some, as Sauls has built his platform, in part, by writing extensively about the topic of Christian gentleness. 

In addition to his successful writing career, Sauls had also grown CPC to multiple campuses and became a prominent figure among American evangelicals. 

Following a six-month hiatus, Sauls tendered his resignation as pastor of CPC in November. The congregation accepted his resignation, with 81% of members voting in favor of it. 

On Sunday (Dec. 3), Sauls published an article to his Substack page for the first time since the public controversy surrounding his leadership began. 

In the article, Sauls recounted a mentor once urging him to “attempt great things for God.”

“But there can be a fine line between attempting ‘great things’ for God and attempting those same things for oneself,” he reflected. By contrast, Sauls described Jesus’ incarnation, writing, “After making galaxies, apple trees, eyeballs, and fingerprints by the word of his power, he made his own debut on earth as an infant born of teen parents with meager means and the vulnerability of migrants.”

Armenian Christians Battle Developer To Keep Control of Their Corner of Jerusalem

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Members of the Armenian community protest a contentious deal that stands to displace residents and hand over a large section of the Armenian Quarter in the Old City of Jerusalem, Friday, May 19, 2023. (AP Photo/Maya Alleruzzo)

(RNS) — Amid the ongoing war between Israel and Hamas in the Gaza Strip, another battle is playing out in Jerusalem among its small but storied Armenian Christian community, their own patriarch and an Australian-Israeli businessman who is said to be set on taking over the Armenian Quarter of the Old City.

Last month, things escalated as Jewish settlers aided by dogs and bulldozers disrupted a long-running sit-in in a site known as the Cow’s Garden, currently a parking lot, where businessman Danny Rothman plans to build his latest hotel.

Rothman’s company, Xana Capital Group, made a secret deal in 2021 with the Armenian Christian patriarchate to lease a swath of the Armenian Quarter, including part of the Armenian Theological Seminary and several family homes. When the deal became public, the local community rebelled, a priest who oversees the church’s real estate was defrocked and Patriarch Nourhan Manougian’s leadership came under question.

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“This is land that belongs to the Armenian community for centuries,” Levon Kalaydjian, a Jerusalem-born Armenian, told Religion News Service. “This does not belong to the patriarchate, nor is it for him, the patriarch, to do whatever he wants to do with it.”

Armenians have had a presence in Jerusalem since the fourth century, when Armenia became the first sovereign state to convert to Christianity. Some of Jerusalem’s Armenians trace their heritage to pilgrims who came to the holy city nearly that long ago, while others arrived from the former Ottoman Empire, fleeing the Armenian genocide in 1915 and 1916.

Today the smallest of the four divisions of Jerusalem’s Old City, the Armenian Quarter is considered separate from the larger Christian Quarter, where Palestinian Christians speak Arabic and worship in Greek Orthodox or Catholic churches.

The 2,000 or so Armenians, who speak a unique Jerusalem dialect of Armenian and belong to the Armenian Apostolic Church, are represented by the Armenian Patriarchate and the monastic order of the Brotherhood of St. James, which acts as a mini-welfare state: Most Armenians live in church-owned property and work in a church or monastery.

In Jerusalem’s tense cultural politics, the Armenians are widely considered the most peaceful demographic in the Old City, maintaining good relations with both Jewish Israelis and Arab Palestinians. That unique status has been complicated by the fact that they are sitting on one of the Holy Land’s most valuable pieces of real estate.

“The piece of land we’re talking about is one of the most important in the city, if not in the country and the world,” said Setrag Balian, one of the founders of the current protest movement. “Striking as it might sound, it is a fact.”

The Armenian Quarter occupies the highest point in the Old City and lies along the main path from the Jaffa Gate to the Western Wall and Jewish Quarter. It is also situated on one of the few vehicle-accessible roads in the Old City. The Cow’s Garden is one of the few undeveloped spaces inside the walls.

Ending Abortion Starts Inside the American Church

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Pro-life Christians often focus on those outside the church when they talk or think about the future of abortion in America. That’s a mistake. Abortion is inside the church, too.

As many as 1 in 6 churchgoing Christians have had, funded or somehow encouraged an abortion. 

We must begin here—in the pews of our own churches, turning to the men and women sitting next to us—to heal and prevent the terrible wounds abortion inflicts on those it touches. 

How do we, God’s hands and feet, propose to end the abortion machine’s slaughter of innocents when it is successfully deceiving and preying upon those who ought to be safe in God’s house? We need to start by helping prevent fellow Christians from making the blind, desperate stagger into abortion clinics. And if we are too late to stop them, we must show them God’s love, that they might heal. 

This looks in practice like proactive biblical teaching, and support for pregnant women in our churches—as well as an intentional post-abortive ministry. An important part of the presence of abortion in the church is, after all, confusion about when life begins. 

Two-thirds of the churchgoers surveyed in the poll I mentioned earlier affirmed that the Bible clearly indicates when life begins. Why isn’t that 100%? 

One in 10 of them even said that abortion was “up to the couple involved,” and 7% thought that disabilities in the preborn child made abortion biblically permissible. Neither of these positions are biblical. 

The fact is that abortion kills a child and often leaves a mother stricken with grief, shame, doubt and regret. It aggrieves God and mangles those made in His image. It’s a core responsibility of pastors to make sure their congregants understand what the Bible says about abortion—and why. 

Loving but clear education from within the church on the moral and physical stakes of abortion will help prevent churchgoers from obtaining abortion at the same time it helps dispel the shame and secret guilt of post-abortive women among us. 

God personally suffers the loss of each child, and grieves with every post-abortive mother. He desires her reconciliation with him. This desire in no way diminishes the tragic loss of her child—but it does dictate how we should minister to women who’ve aborted a child, or are considering doing so. 

Good Preaching Starts With the Power of Story

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Steven Spielberg’s popular movie, Lincoln, runs exactly two and a half hours. After the brief opening sequence, there are no explosions, no sword fights and no one is killed on screen (spoiler alert: Lincoln is assassinated at Ford’s Theater). When I saw the film, the theater was packed. Two and a half hours of talk, talk, talking heads on the screen, yet no one in the theater moved, no one became restless and no one complained about the length. And we preachers have trouble holding people’s attention for a 28-minute sermon. What’s the difference? Learning the difference leads to good preaching.

The difference is storytelling. Spielberg knows how to tell a story, and we would do well to take a few pointers from him. In fact, forget Spielberg: Our sacred text, the Holy Bible, is filled with stories. You might go so far as to say the Bible is one story: the Father’s relentless pursuit of his lost children. Think about it: How far would you go to rescue your children? What would you be willing to do to bring them back safely? (There: Did you feel it? When the subject changed to fathers, children and rescue, you began to imagine yourself involved in the rescue of your own children. didn’t you?)

Good preaching contains meat for the hungry—and it’s best delivered on a plate of storytelling. Here’s the journey we must take:

Good Preaching Starts With the Power of Story

  • Once upon a time, there was a preacher who used bullet points in his sermon. The bullets killed his congregation’s attention and buried their passion. The End. (Chapter One in the lessons of preaching: Just because you outlined your sermon doesn’t mean you have to shoot your listeners with it.)

In Chapter Two we learn God’s message to humanity is mostly story—even the parts that are not story. From Genesis to Ezra-Nehemiah, the book is one continuous narrative. The grand narrative is followed by books of poetry, which are filled with metaphor and images. Think of the poetry books as God’s soundtrack to the story. Then come the prophetic books, which provide the director’s commentary on what has just transpired. Really—who can understand the prophets apart from the story of the Old Testament?

How To Become an Encourager: 15 Steps

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There’s no better starting point to learn how to become an encourager than this famous passage: Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.1 Thessalonians 5:11

How To Become an Encourager

I want to grow as an encourager. I want to be like Doug, a man in our church, who has the gift of encouragement. Every time I talk with him, he has this uncanny way of turning every conversation into an encouragement of my session. For example, “Hey Doug, thanks for all the good ideas you brought to the meeting last night.” Doug: “I only did that because I was trying to imitate you. You have so many great ideas. You’re so innovative and always bring a creative perspective to any conversation. And you’re such a great husband and dad. And the way you love your dogs so inspires me. And when you’re doodling in our meetings, I know you aren’t bored, you’re creating great works of art!”

Well, Doug isn’t really over the top, but he does consistently encourage everyone he interacts with. I want to be like Doug. What’s more, we can learn how to become an encourager. So here are some reflections on how to become an encourager that I have observed in Doug and many others.

How To Become An Encourager

1. Point out how you see God working in their life.

Tell them how you can see they have changed over the last six months, a year, or five years. “You know, a year ago you would have responded in anger. But today you were patient and gentle.”

2. Tell them you are praying for them

– and be sure to do that.

3. Point out any way they encourage you.

“Thank you for sharing that scripture this morning. It really helped me.”

4. Share an encouraging scripture with them.

“I’m sure you know this, but none of your labor in the Lord is in vain. Someday you’ll be rewarded for what you’re doing right now.”

5. Encourage them that God is for them

and will be faithful to them

6. Tell them what you appreciate/respect/like/enjoy about them.

Thank them for the ways they inspire you. Point out the good qualities they have.

7. Appreciate and thank them

Thank them for any way they serve.

8. Encourage them for any effort you see

Cheer for them making in the right direction.

9. Encourage them not to give up.

“God is going to come through for you. He will surely reward your faithfulness. Someday this will all be worth it when you are standing before God in heaven and he says to you, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant. Enter into the joy of your Master.’ ”

10. Thank them for their example to you.

“Thank you for being an example to me of faithfulness to your husband through thick and thin.” “Thank you for your example to me of trusting God in affliction.”

11. Commend them

Commend them for any job well done.

12. Share with them how you see them glorifying God.

“You know, to forgive your brother for the way he hurt you is so pleasing to God.”

13. Encourage them for any gifts or talents they have.

Thank them for the ways their gifts have blessed you.

14. Point out the fruit of the Spirit you see in their life.

“I appreciate how consistently joyful you are.”

15. Remind them.

Remind them that they have a sympathetic and compassionate great high priest who intercedes for them.

Send them a note. Fire off an email. Give them a quick call on your commute home. Text them. It doesn’t have to be elaborate. Sometimes, “Great job!” is all you need to say.

Tell them why you’re glad you get to work with them. Tell them why you’re glad God brought them to your church. Tell them why you’re glad they are your child (assuming they are your child). Husbands, thank your wives for anything and everything they do for you.

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5 GTD Apps to Simplify Your Processes

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Are you the kind of person who makes a list at the beginning of the day and then crushes it before the sun goes down? Or, are you the kind of person who wants to be that kind of person but ends most days with a handful of half-finished projects, missed deadlines, and emails awaiting responses? Let’s be honest: We all want to be like the person in the first scenario, but most of us are fighting a constant battle to avoid being the second person. Well, I have a secret for you. “Getting Things Done” (GTD) isn’t about being superhuman. It’s about having the right tools and using them effectively. GTD apps are your “utility belt.” It’s more Batman than Superman.

GTD Apps – More Batman Than Superman

To get things done efficiently, both at work and in your personal life, you need a system that works. And as a project manager — either by title or by accident — organization and time management are essential skills.

After all, if you can’t keep track of your own priorities and schedule, how can you lead your team in those areas?

But sifting through thousands of productivity apps or trying to juggle projects between a dozen different apps on your phone is counterproductive. So, I’ve done the research for you and have found five apps you can start using today to get your “Getting Things Done” process in order.

What is the ‘GTD’ process?

If you’re not familiar with the “Getting Things Done” system, here’s a quick primer: “Getting Things Done” is a productivity philosophy based on the best-selling book of the same name by David Allen.

Since the book was first published in 2001, the “Getting Things Done” movement has become a phenomenon, with certified trainers franchised around the world and a global summit in 2008.

Like Elvis Presley’s mantra (taking care of business, or TCB), “Getting Things Done” is known in shorthand as GTD.

The GTD system can be summed up by this principle: The more productive you are, the less stress you’ll have.

In other words, get more done in less time so you can relax more.

The key to this, according to Allen’s system, is to prioritize your inbox so that you can remove clutter and focus on your task at hand while moving incomplete tasks into a reliable queue until they are your task at hand.

The “Getting Things Done” process requires the following tools:

  • Inbox
  • Trash can
  • Filing system for reference material
  • Lists
  • Calendar

In 2001, those tools were still physical — an actual file cabinet and desktop calendar. But in 2018, you can access versions of all of those tools on your phone.

For some people, having a physical calendar or to-do list is their most reliable way of getting organized, and that’s fine.

But technology has come a long way since the early 2000s, and apps are here to stay.

A GTD tool on your smartphone includes features — such as automation and collaboration — that your trusty old notebook or daily planner calendar just can’t compete with and can save your business time and money and help your team stay connected.


5 GTD apps to save time and reduce stress

Focusing on the GTD system’s five key tools — inbox, trash can, filing system, checklist, and calendar — we’ve come up with the five options below that address all of GTD’s steps.

I chose these options after reading through a handful of GTD message boards to see what real practitioners recommend and use themselves. These five tools came up over and over again. Some are iOS only (after all, there are quite a few Apple users out there), but I have also included cross-platform options so that everyone is covered.

Apps are listed in alphabetical order.

1. G Suite

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The GTD system starts with the inbox, and G Suite — Google’s GTD-friendly ecosystem — has that covered with a little program called Gmail. You may have heard of it: It’s only the most popular cross-platform email client on the planet.

From there, you can archive old emails or file them away into sorted folders, for ongoing projects that you need to come back to.

G Suite also has Google Docs (or Keep) for taking notes and making checklists, and Google Calendar for keeping track of your team schedule. Collaboration is a strength in G Suite: Team members can comment and reply on everything from documents, to spreadsheets, to presentations. And of course, everything is integrated.

It’s almost like Google built G Suite with GTD in mind.

 BEST FOR:  Highly collaborative teams that are comfortable working in a Gmail-based environment. Price: $5 per user, per month for custom email domain, 30 GB storage, and 24/7 support. You can download the component apps individually for free.

2. Microsoft To-Do

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If you’re already familiar with GTD apps and you’re wondering why Wunderlist (the beloved German task management app) isn’t on this list, it’s because Microsoft bought Wunderlist in 2015 and has promised to replace it with Microsoft To-Do.

As of the summer of 2018, Wunderlist is still hanging in there, but Microsoft To-Do general manager Ori Artman said in 2017 that, “Once we are confident that we have incorporated the best of Wunderlist into Microsoft To-Do, we will retire Wunderlist.”

The good news is that — as Artman said — Microsoft has promised to incorporate all of Wunderlist’s best features (such as a free version, collaboration, cross-platform functionality, notifications, and subtasks) into To-Do.

To-Do also includes hallmark feature My Day that allows users to pull a few tasks off their backlog to focus on tackling that day. If you’re an Agile project management enthusiast, you’ll love this feature.

 BEST FOR:  Agile project managers comfortable working in an Office 365 environment who are looking for a super-simple GTD tool and don’t want to pay a dime for it. Price: Free

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