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Church Marketing: Reaching Out Online

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According to the World Economic Forum, research to determine what to buy or what to do has become the dominant reason for using social media. The number of people who say they use social media because a lot of their friends use it has declined (−16%); so has the number who use it to stay in touch with their friends (−9%).

Reasons for using social media that are on the rise: to network for work (+9%), to follow celebrities and celebrity news (+27%), and to research and find products to buy (+30%). That last bit of information should stand out to church leaders. People are obviously going online to explore and research, but increasingly they are doing so through social media.

Most churches make one of two mistakes when it comes to marketing. Either they fail to market their church or message in any way, or they market them ineffectively. During my church planting days, the internet was a nonfactor. You would put ads in the newspaper, make flyers, or, if you were cutting edge, use direct mail.

Unfortunately, many churches, if they make any marketing effort at all, are still using those approaches. But with the vast majority of the unchurched community reachable almost exclusively online, we need to rethink marketing our churches.

Which brings us to digital marketing.

Philip Kotler, known as the father of modern marketing, has argued for a revolution in his discipline that he calls Marketing 4.0. The first major marketing shift was from product-driven marketing (1.0) to customer-centric marketing (2.0), and from that to human-centric marketing (3.0). The idea of Marketing 3.0 was to create products, services, and company cultures that embraced and reflected human values.

But the digital revolution calls for an entirely new approach that breaks from all traditional marketing that precede it. Just as the front door of the church has gone digital, so has outreach. While it is easy to have a negative reaction to Instagrammable Bibles, TikTok preachers, or celebrity-fueled “cool” churches, “there is without a doubt a change underway,” notes an article on YPulse, “a shift in how religious organizations and individuals are attempting to win over the next generations. And by being a more constant presence in the space where young people are spending their time (social platforms) these efforts could earn followings—even if they’re just on feeds, and not in pews.”

There are three online outreach headlines: First, your website is still central. Apps serve people digitally, but they are not the way people explore your church. So you must make your website the anchor of your outreach.

Second, people will make their digital decision about your church in seconds. This means you must engage them as quickly as possible.

Third, the goal is a click, not a visit. The visit—whether in person or online—follows the click. Or as I have heard quipped, “Bricks follow clicks.” The target on the wall is to get them to check you out online, most commonly through your website or online campus.

This last statement is worth explaining a bit. You are not trying to use digital marketing to achieve a physical visit. That may sound counterintuitive, but think of it as stair-stepping someone into a particular action.

In various speaking events, I have often demonstrated this idea to people by walking over to a table and asking, “How many of you can do a standing jump and land on top of this?” Few can. But then I bring a chair over to the table and ask, “How many of you could first step onto this chair and then, from the chair, step onto the table?” Almost everyone can do that. Then I make the simple point that when we ask an unchurched person to attend in person as their first step to getting to know us, we are asking them to do a standing jump onto the table. The online invitation should first be to a chair.

Church Leaders, Have We Lost Our Ability To Shepherd?

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My work leading an international parachurch ministry happily includes meeting and spending time with church leaders.

A while back, I was having lunch with a bright, young pastor and was using the time to get to know him better. As he described his work as a pastor and church planter he said, “What I really don’t enjoy much is shepherding.”

A shepherd who doesn’t enjoy shepherding?

It was not the first time a minister had said something similar to me.

One problem with a shepherd not enjoying shepherding is, when he must “shepherd,” he’ll do so half-heartedly or begrudgingly because he would really prefer to be doing something else. AND, the quality of his shepherding may be lacking, meaning those he shepherds often won’t get the spiritual leadership they need.

When shepherds aren’t really interested in the spiritual work that is the heart of their calling from God, the consequences of that lack of interest can negatively impact the people in the congregations they lead.

For example, When counseling a church leader who had fallen in sin, part of working with him was to get his senior minister and board of elders to take on the responsibility of leading him through a process of restoration, something we’re instructed to do in scripture.

Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself, (Galatians 6:1).

They responded very slowly to the request, finally agreed to serve this brother who had confessed his sin, and now had to repent and work at restoring his walk with the Lord.

While agreeing to walk this brother through a restoration process, most of what followed was the fallen man having to prompt and plead with the church leaders to actually provide him with leadership! They rarely contacted him, gave little to no guidance, didn’t help set any expectations, and had not developed any process for accountability. It was as if these church leaders didn’t have a clue about how to help a fallen brother be restored in his walk with Christ.

Being a Navigator of a Small Group Discussion

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During my undergraduate studies, I pursued a degree that required me to take some of the more challenging math courses that the university had to offer. One particular course I had to take was Calculus 3. After a few weeks in, I quickly realized that my instructor for the course was terrifying. Not only was his teaching style unapologetically abrasive and unsympathetic, he would laugh at and criticize his students who answered his questions incorrectly in class. In my stubbornness to try to see it through, I unfortunately ended up failing the course which meant that I had to take it once again. The next semester, I chose a different professor, who was arguably the kindest, gentlest, and most sympathetic math teacher I had ever had the pleasure of studying under during my undergraduate career. I’m happy to say, the semester ended up with a completely different result and I ended up acing the course. Becoming involved within a church’s small group ministry can sometimes feel similar to this. Oftentimes, the small groups we join will yield an incredible experience that is exactly what we need in our lives from week to week. Yet there are times when we hear of an individual who mentions that their small group leader is not allowing enough time for group conversation or that the group that they had signed up for is note  aligning with the expectations that they held. While the good times in our groups can help transform our lives for the better, the less-than-positive experiences can leave us wanting to try another group. But this does not have to be the case, and we small group leaders can implement some strategies that can help lessen the number of negative experiences that occur within the church’s small group ministry. We can be the navigator that helps them experience their discussions in positive ways.

Being a Navigator of Discussion

Adhering to Group Expectations

During one of our first meetings, a reflection on expectations can help us pause and meditate upon what exactly our group is trying to accomplish. Oftentimes, groups tend to focus more on fellowship, on learning, on serving, or on a mixture of any of the above. By establishing ahead of time the degrees to which these areas are pursed, there becomes less of a chance for confusion or dissatisfaction as the group continues to meet throughout the span of its life. For example, if a group’s goal is to be a Bible study, the group becomes ineffective and loses its purpose if the group members only socialize and never crack open the Bible once that evening that they meet. Similarly, if a leader brings their Bible and begins to lecture to the dinner-social fellowship group, the group in this case also strays away from its original purpose.

Navigator of Discussion

In their book Creating Community, Andy Stanley and Bill Willits encourage group leaders to promote participation, explaining that “since shared participation creates broader ownership of the group, all group members should be encouraged to participate often in the facilitation and leadership of the group meeting. This essential also reminds leaders to promote participation by being navigators of discussion, not teachers of curriculum. The difference is critical. Every time leaders ask open-ended questions, they are inviting participation. More than sharing the right answers, we want people to share their lives” (emphasis mine).

God Is in Control: If That’s True, Then What About These Pressing Questions?

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A while back my friend was teaching on Psalm 115:16. He’s an excellent teacher but something of an iconoclast. “People like to say God is in control,” he said. “I’ve got news for you—He’s not. If God were in control, this world would look a lot different than it does.” His words have echoed around in my head for months.

Some people were scandalized; some were energized. His point was that we have been told a great many things about God in our lives, but have we examined them to see if they fit with our personal experience? For example, Jesus proclaimed that the Kingdom of God is breaking in (Matthew 4:17), but doesn’t that mean there are places on the earth where God does not rule and reign? What is the evidence in my own life: Is God “in control” of my heart? my thoughts? my actions? What about my own world: Is God is control of my neighborhood or community?

Many people embrace the idea that God is somehow pulling the levers behind the screen of life. “God is all-powerful,” they say. “His will cannot be denied. Therefore, everything that happens must be part of his plan from the beginning.” But does “power” always mean “control”?

It’s true: God does manage to draw wonderful outcomes from the foolishness of men. It is also true that the glory of God’s power and wisdom is frequently on display in human affairs in spite of our choices, not because of them. Part of the glory of God is his ability to accomplish his will in the midst of the complexity of a billion human choices. He does not over-rule our lives. He works within them. He is forgiving, patient, and kind. He knows our weaknesses and chooses to partner with us anyway. What some people mean for evil, God turns into good. God is never the author of evil, but he is the editor!

Two Questions About How God Is in Control

My purpose here is to ask the kind of question that people in the pews are asking. Many pastors, based upon their theological training or conviction, will have different answers. The important thing is that each pastor face such real-life questions.

Question One: Does the fact that God is in control strip away responsibility for our choices? 

Saying that God is in control can undermine the call of God to repentance as a way of life. If God is in control, then someone might reason that God is in control even of the unrepentant choices one makes. If God is in control when we preach that sinners should let Jesus take the throne of their lives, doesn’t that mean that God has previously allowed them to make choices against his will? Or worse: An adamant position that God is in control of ALL things might see believers—who ought to be disciples—come to believe that their sinful choices have been the will of God all along.

Top 10 Things I Love That Worship Leaders Do

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I love it when worship leaders . . .

10. Lead more than perform.

I am grateful for talented vocalists and musicians serving as worship leaders, but I’m especially grateful when our leaders don’t treat their position as a showcase for their gifts but as an opportunity to shepherd the flock. I love it when worship leaders choose songs that lend themselves more to congregational singing than band performance and lead in such a way that it’s easier to follow along—appropriate keys and pacing, not over-improvising, following the printed or projected lyrics, and so on. And speaking of shepherding, I love it when you…

9. Approach the worship gathering with a pastoral sensibility.

The worship gathering shouldn’t be some bland, un-creative exercise in avoiding anything remotely artistic, but I’m grateful for worship leaders who think primarily about what the flock needs more than what the flock wants—because they are not always the same thing—and seeks to steward the music time and other worship order elements with Christ’s glory at heart and Christ’s church in mind. (And pastors, this is why often the most gifted singers/musicians in your church are not the best candidates for worship leaders.)

8. Let theology drive their decision making.

Too many worship services are driven by a consumeristic or pragmatic ethos. Too many worship leaders (and their pastors and creative teams) over-busy themselves asking, “What else can we do?” as if the worship gathering is a blank artistic slate for creative expression. But as Jeff Goldblum says in Jurassic Park, “You were so busy asking if you could do something, you never bothered to ask if you should.” This is why I’m grateful for worship leaders who know how to evaluate songs for theological soundness, biblical coherence, and doctrinal clarity. And I like it when this commitment to theology is reflected in a fearlessness about old songs and a discriminating taste about new songs. But I also love it when you…

7. Think about the service beyond the songs.

And I don’t mean simply videos or whatever. I am grateful for worship leaders who think about the worship order as a whole, who think about the story a worship order tells. Every church has a liturgy, even if they don’t like that word or they’ve never even heard of that word! Your worship elements and their order communicate something about God, about his Word and about your church. I love it when it’s clear the worship team hasn’t just busied themselves picking good songs but has also thought about the progression of song content in relation to the different elements of the service (confession, prayers, communion, sermon, and so on) and how all the pieces together point to God in Christ as our hope.

6. Aren’t afraid of silence.

Not every space has to be thick with sound and visuals. I know silence between songs can sound like awkward transitions, but not every square inch of the worship service has to be “produced.” Is that fuzzy synthesizer ambiance in between songs and during prayers there to create a mood? Why? What for? I love it when worship leaders “embrace the real.” One thing my church’s worship leader does—after the sermon has been preached and before he leads us in the closing song—is give us a time to silently reflect on the message. It’s not a long time, but it’s long enough to start to feel awkward to those who are new to the practice. But there’s no ambient music. No vocal prayer. Just silence. You can hear those scattered coughs. Kids whispering. A Bible hitting the floor. The rustling of paper. But mostly just stillness and quiet. In our daily lives we are awash with noise. We are hurry-sick. Even when we’re alone, we’re taking in the “noise” of the Internet or something else. I think it’s wonderful to take this into account in our worship services, not feel inclined to mirror the constant noise of the world, and give us some time to hush. It’s good for our souls.

How to Kill the Hidden Power of Jealousy

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No one ever looks in the mirror and says, “I’m a jealous person,” because it implies other people are better than us or that we’re weak somehow, and we’re always trying to protect our egos. Because it’s so hidden, the power of jealousy is one of the most destructive problems of all.

I’m so good at pretending I’m not jealous that I can disguise my hate as “criticism” and “observation” and “keeping it real.” Certainly criticism doesn’t always come from jealousy, but you can tell when it does.

I can attack someone’s weaknesses and presume a whole bunch of other weaknesses by clever extrapolation, all while highlighting my strengths, and this makes me nothing more than a jealous, petty little hater.

How to Kill the Hidden Power of Jealousy

During testimony-time at church when everyone is confessing all kinds of drug addictions and sexual deviance, I’ve never heard a single person say, “I’ve destroyed others with my envy.” No one ever says, “I’m straight up drunk from haterade.”

When you see someone better than you—and we all do—there are two ways to respond.

1. Find ways to downgrade their human value, then rationalize your own contempt as justified criticism.

2. Celebrate their achievements and generously promote their growth while learning from them in humility.

When you know a younger person who has potential …

The power of jealousy has a way of cutting in and holding back the next generation. Instead of seeing a future leader, you see a competitive threat who is messing up your mojo.

I’ve seen even the best of leaders clench their teeth as they raise up young disciples, ever so slightly keeping the youth at a lower level and withholding advice and downplaying all their success. What is that? What makes us do this? Why can’t we just hand over the baton?

A leader’s job is to work yourself out of a job. And you’re a leader somewhere, either passing on your life or hoarding it for yourself.

You have more wisdom and ability than you think you do. When you talk about your passion, you’ll say things you didn’t even know you knew. You have so much to give.

So it makes no sense to keep this all to yourself. We so often hold onto our positions of authority with a ridiculous nuclear death-grip. But without passing it on, it all dies with you.

I know letting go of jealousy feels like we’re losing something. It feels like we’re handing over years of sweat and hard work to a kid who doesn’t have to pay for the lesson.

BUT—someone in your life did the same for you. Someone learned through a horrible mistake for 10 years and passed it on to you in 10 minutes. Every generation before you has accumulated valuable truth for you to be equipped, prepared and successful. And even if you never had this sort of mentor, you’ve always wanted one.

The Danger of Leaders Constantly Changing Their Minds

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There have been plenty of stories recently about pastors and other ministry leaders failing or falling from grace. This isn’t one of those stories. This post is about pastors and leaders with teams who don’t trust them to keep their word. Keep in mind that these aren’t bad people, and I’m not talking about outright liars. I’m talking about leaders who’ve spent so many years changing their minds, making rash decisions, or back-peddling that their closest friends and employees can’t trust their decisions anymore.

It happens for a number of reasons:

1) They may be people pleasers and say what people want to hear—even though they have no intention of following through.

2) They make impulse decisions and later realize what they said wasn’t smart.

3) They make decisions without getting good advice and have to backpedal later.

4) They get caught up in the emotion of the moment and make decisions and public statements they later regret. 

Ministry consultant and blogger Tony Morgan says:

We need to make sure we deliver on our word. If we can’t or don’t plan to follow through, we shouldn’t say it. The problem is that leaders are people pleasers. We’re afraid to tell the truth if the truth might cause someone to dislike us. In the long run, though, I’d much rather deal with dislike than foster distrust.

One of the most insightful leadership experts in the church today is Dr. Sam Chand. He’s written an excellent book called “Cracking Your Church’s Culture Code.” Get the book. Any leader can find an enormous amount of information in that book about trust and how to create a powerful organizational culture. Sam says:

A. Everything rises and falls on trust.
B. Trust is the currency of human interaction.
C. Trust happens daily between people and organizations at all levels.
D. Poor behavior by many leaders in all sectors of life has created a general culture of mistrust.

Here’s the bottom line: Your decisions matter because they provide the foundation for how your team performs. If your word can’t be counted on, chaos happens because your team has lost its compass.

Stop making decisions based on emotion, impulse, or anything other than the right information, serious reflection, experience, prayer, and advice. Make decisions that can be counted on today, tomorrow, and well into the future.

I can guarantee your team will thank you, and the results will be astonishing.

This article originally appeared here and is used by permission. 

Being Bereans With Ourselves

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If you aren’t familiar with Christianese, being a Berean is being like those dudes in Acts 17:10-15 who didn’t simply take the apostles words but they dug into them to see if they were true. So being a Berean means that you are one to examine a claim to make sure that it lines up with Scripture. (I’d also argue that what really made the Bereans special was that they received the Word).

It seems to me that when we talk about being a good Berean we’re usually thinking about assessing the claims of others that are brought before us. And we do need to be Bereans when it comes to the truth claims of others. There are people intentionally trying to deceive and some who are unknowingly in error. Scripture does call us to assess truth claims.

But I think we’ve wrongly given someone a pass on these matters. Ourselves.

My Sermon Preparation

I write a couple sermons every week. It’s one of my favorite things in life to do. Part of this is the exhilaration of wrestling with a text and trying to see it from multiple angles. Most weeks I see the passage similar to the commentaries I read. My insights aren’t much different from other sermons I read on the topic.

But sometimes….sometimes, I see something almost totally different than what I’m reading. This happened to me last week in preparing a sermon on Luke 1 about Gabriel coming to both Zechariah and Mary. I had a thought that I’d never heard before. So what do I do in that moment?

I rigorously try to disprove myself. And if I cannot then I will, still with trepidation, pose my insight as a possibility. I do that because I’ve been convinced by the Proverbs that, it’s better not to exalt yourself before men and then be thrown down (Proverbs 25:7). If the insight is true than it’ll take flight. If it’s not, then it’ll be squashed down—as it ought to be.

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Being a good Berean means questioning ourselves first and foremost. Just because I have an insight hit me like a bolt of lighting doesn’t necessarily mean that thought came from on high. If we really believe what the gospel says about our propensity to error then we’ll become adept at considering our words.

Charles Bridges is correct when he says:

To believe every word of God is faith. To believe every word of man is credulity. Faith is a principle of infinite moment. Eternal life and death hang upon it. But it must be grounded upon evidence, and it can only be exercised according to the character and measure of the evidence. An indiscriminate faith is therefore fraught with mischief. The world was ruined by this weakness. (Gen 3:1-6). And often since it has been the occasion of sin, and even of downfall. (Bridges, Proverbs, 180).

This is true of my thoughts and statements just as much (if not more) than that of my neighbor. Wouldn’t it behoove us to take great caution in not only fact checking the articles we share but also our own insights as well. This stuff carries infinite weight.

This isn’t meant to cripple us into saying nothing. It’s to say let us be cautious with our words. Let us weigh them and put them under the microscope. Let’s put them through the furnace and see what impurities melt away. If we’ve done so and our words stand then let us boldly proclaim them.

But let’s be good Bereans. First and foremost with ourselves.

This article originally appeared here.

When You Feel Like Quitting Youth Ministry, Do This Instead

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When you feel like quitting youth ministry, don’t act rashly. Don’t do something you might regret. Instead, follow this advice from longtime youth minister Doug Fields.

I resigned from a youth ministry position after 18 years (the one before that lasted 11 years). I know what it’s like to want to quit. I wanted to quit being a youth minister hundreds of times during that 18 years. (Half of those came directly following a youth group activity.)

Because I speak to many ministry leaders, I often sense defeat and discouragement. Ministry is always difficult, and factors such as a difficult economy add fuel to emotions and stressors.

My ministry compadre Matt McGill blogged about what to do on days when you feel like quitting. He shared these 6 tips.

6 Tips for When You Feel Like Quitting

1. Don’t.

At least not until you’re really sure of your decision.

2. Show up.

You can’t give up just because you feel like quitting. Going through the motions could restore some passion that you’ve lost.

3. Change it up.

You need to show up. But that doesn’t mean you have to go through all the motions.

4. Laugh.

Do whatever it takes to find a little fun. You may be on the Titanic and it’s sinking fast. But better to eek out some joy than soak in all the despair.

5. Talk about it.

Get with a friend (probably not anyone above you in the “food chain” at church). You may be friends with your boss, but you need to hash out some issues with other people.

6. Seek God.

I believe God wants to teach us something every day … even on days when we want to quit. God may be moving in new ways in your life, and feeling like it’s time to quit may be part of this. Discover the root causes of your thoughts and feelings. Sure, everything is piling up and it feels overwhelming. But what’s behind the superficial issues?

6 Things You Need To Start a Family Devotion

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I haven’t always been a family devotion guy. It’s not because I didn’t want or aspire to be; I did. But we went a long time as a family before pulling the trigger and trying to integrate this practice into the regular rhythm of our family life.

We’ve been doing morning devotions together for over 15 years now—long enough that our kids expect that we will. It’s a long road, as are most things with young children I’m finding out. Though revival doesn’t break out every morning over eggs and toast, our continued hope and prayer is that times like these builds into the love and discipline our children will have in the future when it comes to God’s Word.

And through those 15 years, we’ve tried different things, failed at a bunch, and maybe learned some things about starting and continuing in this pattern. I hope some of these things will be encouraging to you to kick this off, or affirming to you if you’ve found yourself in the middle of it.

In my opinion, then, here are six things you must have to start a family devotion:

1. Consistency

There’s a pattern to everything, a routine for most every part of life. And any time you disrupt that routine, even for the noblest of reasons, there is going to be backlash. So before you get started, you’ve got to commit to consistency. Decide on the time of day. And keep it at that time.

For us, it’s 6:45 a.m. at breakfast. That still might change in the coming years, but if you don’t pick a consistent time then it’s doubly difficult to keep the practice going.

What’s more, in our experience, the days that feel like discipline to do this far outweigh the days where you feel like the kids are actually engaged and learning something. But then again, isn’t that often the case in our own lives with our own spiritual growth and development? And yet we keep going because we believe in the power of God and the power of His Word.

2. Variety

For us, we try to change things up once a week. Monday through Thursday, we do a Bible study and prayer (probably around 15 minutes), but Friday is different.

On Friday, everyone shares one specific thing they are thankful for that week, and one prayer request.

For a while, those prayer requests were pretty predictable—that I would have a good day, that I would do well on a test, that I would be kind to friends…that kind of thing. In recent days, we’re tried to bring more variety into those prayer requests as well, asking the kids to share a prayer not for themselves but for someone else, or to share something they’re thankful for that’s not about an activity they get to do that weekend.

3. A Sense of Humor

One of the great things having a family devotion time does for me, as a dad, is helps me not to take myself too seriously. Every once in a while we will be talking through some great truth from the Bible, I’ll be making an incredibly insightful and valuable point in a truly beautiful way…and someone will burp.

Game over. But such is life with kids. And in truth, that’s okay. I can’t help but think it was a pretty undignified scene when the kids were crawling all over each other to try and get into Jesus’ lap, and yet he let them come. Snotty noses and all. Keeping a sense of humor while trying to instill this discipline, in the end, is a helpful reminder that we, as parents, are really stewards of these children.

We do the best we can in faith, but ultimately it is only God who convicts of sin and brings our children—any children—to an understanding of the gospel.

So we laugh, and then we go at it again.

4. Tools

It is our of our experience as a family that I’ve written “The Whole Story for the Whole Family.” It’s a family devotion book that is modeled after our own pattern described above. In a year, you can walk your family through the major storyline of Scripture with an eye on Jesus as the main character. And each daily devotion includes an object lesson or game, a text, a bit of commentary, and some discussion questions—all meant to be done in 15 minutes. This certainly isn’t the only resource you can use. Whatever you do choose, don’t feel like you have to recreate the wheel.

Find something that can help you kickstart the pattern of reading the Bible together as a family.

5. Preparation

I don’t mean preparation in the sense that you have spent two hours studying the devotion you are going to walk through the next morning (though that’s a fine practice if you can manage it). I mean “preparation” more in the sense of creating the environment. In order to make sure we have time before school for devotions, Jana and I have to get up earlier than we used to. We have to be completely ready for the day with breakfast ready by 6:45.

While it often means that I read through the devotion the night before, it also to a greater extent means doing anything we can do to make the morning run more smoothly.

This would be things like making sure lunches are already packed, clothes are laid out, and you haven’t left any lingering homework assignments to be done over the eggs and toast.

4 Ways To Empower Young Leaders

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“Empowering” is a current buzz word and is a prime topic in the blog world. Empowering is defined as: to give power or authority, to authorize, to enable or permit. I have been a leader, manager, teacher or instructor most of my life. My greatest satisfaction is sharing my life in order to improve or instruct others. The greatest satisfaction of most teachers is when others take what they have been taught and inculcate it into their lives. That’s what it means to relinquish leadership.

Empowering takes on many different looks and styles, and people can be empowered through a variety of ways. This includes a meaningful conversation, a story, a video, etc.

Empowerment occurs when others under our leadership are inspired to take a new course of action, or be rejuvenated with new passion to continue their course or journey. Empowerment also occurs when a new skill is learned or someone receives new or additional authority. This type of empowerment provides the opportunity for young leaders to expand their leadership capacity.

How to empower others

1. Coach rather than teach.

A few years ago, the main strategy for mentoring and counseling others was to give them your best advice. In the last few years, we have come to realize there is a better method. This new style of training has been reinforced from leaders in the coaching industry. Effective coaches have taught us to coach others in discovering what’s inside of them, rather than to tell them what’s inside us. This method has proven to be both efficient and effective in empowering others.

2. Give responsibility.

Some might define this as delegation. I am using the word responsibility for those ready to be further developed in leadership, but not prepared for permanent delegation. In other words, when we give young or undeveloped leaders temporary responsibility, it sets them up for success and empowerment.

Does Your Team Lack Trust? You CAN Rebuild It!

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Have you ever noticed that it takes time to build trust in an organization? As a corollary to this, cynicism seems to multiply like weeds. Cynicism tends to permeate an organization where trust is in short supply. The good news is that once trust is established, a church team can enter into appropriate, constructive conflict, without fear that it will turn destructive. Trust has to do with a willingness on people’s part to be vulnerable within the team. It’s an openness about mistakes and weaknesses. Organizations and teams that lack trust are unable to engage in unfiltered and passionate disagreement around the mission of the organization. Instead, they resort to veiled discussions and guarded comments.

Does Your Team Lack Trust?

Once you have a trusting team, you can have honest disagreements that lead to decisions and plans of action that people are actually committed to. So much of what I see in organizations is compliance (‘I’ll do what you ask, but my heart’s not in it’), but very little commitment. Commitment arises only after each member of a team has been able to wrestle with the initiatives that are presented, offer their disagreements, and grapple with all of the alternatives before arriving at a decision. Once that occurs, the team can hold one another accountable, because there is a shared sense of ownership in the decision.

Trust –> Disagree –> Commit to Decisions –> Hold Each Other Responsible –> Focus on the Achievements Everyone Created

How is trust established? Let’s look at the building blocks that are critical to the growth of trust:

Predictability

Consistency

Dependability

Congruence

Begin with predictability: You’re able to predict in advance what I will do. That’s because I’m consistent. I do the same thing, over and over again, free from variation or contradiction. But I could do the same wrong thing over and over. So that means I have to be dependable: I get the same positive result over and over again from the person or organization.

The last building block is congruence. What I say is backed up by what I do. I talked about this quite a bit in my blog postings last fall. Our ability to think and act inconsistently, and then cover up the discrepancy, knows no limits.

Algerian Olympic Boxer ‘Is Not Trans and Should Not Be Vilified as Such,’ Super Bowl Champion Benjamin Watson Says

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Benjamin Watson, a 15-year NFL veteran, Super Bowl champion, outspoken Christian, and pro-life advocate, told his social media followers on Friday to “dig a little deeper” into the controversy surrounding Algerian Olympic boxer Imane Khelif.

Outrage has ensued since Khelif claimed victory over Italian Angela Carini during an women’s Olympic boxing match on Thursday (Aug. 1). Khelif defeated Carini in 46 seconds after Khelif punched Carini in the nose, forcing Carini to retreat to her corner and forfeit the bout.

After the fight Carini said, “I felt a severe pain in my nose, and with the maturity of a boxer, I said ‘enough,’ because I didn’t want to, I didn’t want to, I couldn’t finish the match.”

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Khelif (25) was disqualified from the 2023 International Boxing Association’s (IBA) Women’s World Boxing Championships after failing a gender eligibility test, which reportedly indicated that Khelif had both X and Y chromosomes. Khelif fought for Algeria at the 2021 Tokyo Olympics, losing in the quarterfinals to Ireland’s Kellie Harrington.

According to multiple reports, Khelif was recognized as female, not male, birth.

Following critical statements from athletesinfluencers, and even former President Donald Trump, Watson said that while “outrage over this boxing match is understandable,” he would “encourage everyone to dig a little deeper.”

“Issues of sexuality, including trans athletes, have been lightning rods in the news lately as they should be,” he added. “Men should not compete against women. However, Imane Khelif is not trans and should not be vilified as such.”

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The former NFL player said that he feels for “both of these athletes who are dealing with vitriol, fear and disappointment at what should be a time of celebration.”

“Purity and fairness in sport competition matters and the IOC should prioritize protecting it,” Watson said. “But I believe this situation is more complex than many people are willing to consider.”

It is also important to note that Algeria has strict anti-LGBTQ+ laws, and violations include imprisonment, discrimination, and vigilante executions.

Olympic Skateboarder Cordano Russell: ‘I Give It All to the Lord, Truly’

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“Let’s go! Jesus is King!” That’s what Canadian skateboarder Cordano Russell shouted this week as a camera panned across him and his Olympic competitors. Russell, who turns 20 on Aug. 4, didn’t medal at the Paris Games. But the devout Christian is looking ahead to 2028, when the Summer Olympics will be held in his adopted home state of California.

Russell was born in Ontario and spent part of his childhood in St. Louis. At age four, he found an old skateboard tucked away in a bush, and with his dad’s help, he learned everything he could about the sport. Asked whether that was fate, Russell replied, “Honestly, I feel like it was truly divine.”

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By age eight, Russell talked his parents into moving to Southern California, with its world-famous skateboarding scene. As his skills grew, so did his stature. Russell’s 6-foot-3, 230-pound frame might seem more fitted to the football field—where he excelled in high school. But after “a lot of praying,” the athlete said, God showed him “that my love and my heart was set in skateboarding.”

Olympic Skateboarder Is Set Apart

Cordano Russell’s size allows him to gain tremendous power for skateboarding tricks. It also means he “burns through boards as fast as a sick person burns through tissues,” according to reporter Kelsey Grey. But Russell told her, “I like being unique; I like being different. I always try to be as authentic as I can.”

The Olympian also stands out because of his faith. He was raised in a Christian home, attending church and youth group. Russell doesn’t swear, and he listens to Christian musicians such as Lecrae.

The outgoing athlete also gives back, coaching and mentoring young basketball and flag football players. “I want to use my faith and talents to inspire others,” Russell said.

Maintaining balance and giving back helps the skateboarder “elevate” his game. “Honestly, it empowers me,” he said of serving. “I know where my true identity is, and that is in the Lord. So I wanted to use my time, talents, and treasures and ultimately be able to inspire others through that, through my faith, through who I am.”

Failure also helps the super-competitive Russell grow. “You’re going to fall on that ground so much,” he said. “But honestly, it creates in yourself this determination, this grittiness, this ability to withstand failure while still trying to go through and accomplish your goal.”

Cordano Russell’s Journey Has Been ‘Such a Blessing’

Cordano Russell, who graduated from high school with a 4.2 GPA, plans to study business-finance at the University of San Diego. “In skateboarding, you have to know how to manage your finances and grow your brand, so it’ll be very personal for me,” said the athlete, who will be the first in his family to attend college. “And eventually, I want to own a business with my family.”

‘I Prefer Our Version’—Jonathan Roumie Shares Photo of the Last Supper From ‘The Chosen,’ Season 5

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Jonathan Roumie and Dallas Jenkins have revealed what the Last Supper will look like in Season 5 of “The Chosen,” with Roumie alluding to the recent controversy at the Opening Ceremony of the 2024 Olympic Games. In a separate post, Roumie described what filming Season 5, which wrapped this week, has been like for him.

“Filming Season 5 of @thechosentvseries has been…something of a beast,” Roumie said in an Instagram post July 26. “Some of the hardest and most intense moments of the series (and my career) have been in this season, and we ain’t done yet. It’s been a ‘Camino’ of sorts.”

“But…I’m smothered in prayer,” he continued. “I’m surrounded by love. I’m saturated in warmth. And goodness. And throughout, I’m constantly reminded of what it’s all about. Who it’s all for. And Who’s in charge, ‘cause it sure as heck ain’t me.”

Jonathan Roumie Thankful for ‘Moments of Mirth and Humor’

The Opening Ceremony of this year’s Olympics generated controversy for featuring a drag performance inspired in part by Leonardo da Vinci’s painting, “The Last Supper.” Despite the artistic director stating at one point that the performance portrayed pagan celebrations and Dionysus, the Greek god of wine, organizers acknowledged the portrayal was indeed inspired by da Vinci’s painting and apologized for causing offense.

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 On July 29, Roumie posted a photo of “The Chosen” cast portraying the Last Supper and said, “Yeah…I prefer our version…”

Sadie Robertson Huff liked Roumie’s post, and Candace Cameron Bure, who had published a video critiquing the Opening Ceremony performance, responded to Roumie with heart and clapping emojis. 

Prior to filming Season 5, Roumie said that Season 4 of the hit show was the hardest to act “hands down.” As the storyline of the series draws even closer to Jesus’ death, it seems that filming is only growing more challenging for the actor, who is arguably tackling the most challenging role of his career. 

In July, Elizabeth Tabish, who plays Mary Magdalene, described the personal cost that Roumie and the rest of “The Chosen” cast experience bringing the story of Jesus Christ to the screen. “Just being friends with Jonathan and knowing what he’s going to have to go through, performing this, and seeing the weight of this role on him,” she said, “is just like devastating, you know?”

Texas Church Discloses ‘Inappropriate and Hurtful’ Actions That Led to Pastor’s Resignation; Elders Revise Plan for Interim Leadership

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The elders of Cross Timbers Church in Argyle, Texas, have provided more details regarding the circumstances of Pastor Josiah Anthony’s resignation, as well as an amended plan for interim leadership. 

On Sunday (July 28), church elder John Chalk announced Anthony’s resignation during service, saying that Anthony had been battling mental health issues for some time and that some of his “decisions and actions were inappropriate and hurtful to current and former members of the CT family and staff.”

The church announced that Byron Copeland, Cross Timber Church’s executive pastor, would step in as interim lead pastor. Before coming onto staff at Cross Timbers Church, Copeland was on staff at Texas megachurch Gateway Church in various executive level pastoral positions from 2003 to 2023.

Gateway Church has been embroiled in scandal since June, when allegations that Robert Morris, the church’s founding pastor, had sexually abused a child in the 1980s became publicly known. Morris resigned in disgrace on June 18.

Several lawsuits involving abuse claims have been brought against Gateway, including a 2023 suit in which Copeland was named. 

In the lawsuit, a former church employee said that when she came to work as an administrative assistant at Gateway in 2018, she had just undergone treatment for cancer and claimed that she “was subjected to ongoing disparaging comments about her appearance and unwanted romantic advances” from the pastor she reported to. 

The former employee said that when she spoke to Copeland, then-executive pastor of Gateway Church, he “sympathized with her but did nothing.” The former employee further claimed that sometime later, Copeland “aggressively confronted” her and “threatened to fire her if she didn’t shut up and stop stirring up drama.”

In an email on Thursday (Aug. 1), elders of Cross Timbers amended their original plan to have Copeland serve as the interim pastor and provided more details into the “events and circumstances” that led to Anthony’s resignation. 

In the email, elders acknowledged “that we have made mistakes along the way. We should have communicated more directly and clearly early on. The assumptions that some made about our church, due to our lack of clarity, were far more extreme than the facts.”

“We caused unnecessary speculation and distress, and we are sorry,” the email continued.

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The elders then disclosed that they had “received a concerning report of inappropriate communication on social media with a woman who is a former member of our church. This was taken very seriously by the Elders, and we were grateful it was brought to our attention.”

No Work Is Mere Work—God Is Present in Everything You Do

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Long after the final season of “The Chosen” has come and gone, Come and See will continue the work of translating it into 600 different languages. 

We’ve been given the chance to participate in one of the most important acts of contemporary storytelling I’ve ever seen. In a moment where media and technology have powerfully equipped us to share the story of Jesus, we can now reach deeper into cultures and people groups that have not yet encountered the Gospel story in their native languages. 

But to complete this task, this incredible, redemptive narrative can’t make a difference unless people pay attention to it. Therefore, we chase excellence in the translation and adaptation of every language version, hoping to capture the attention—and the hearts—of local consumers.

Through excellent storytelling and translations, my hope is that “The Chosen” will not only introduce these individuals to God’s redemptive work, through his son but also inspire them to explore the Scriptures and connect with a local community of believers, who will teach and encourage one another as outlined in God’s word. 

One of our local translators and producers in the Middle East often says, “art opens hearts.” And it’s true. Due to the artistic nature of “The Chosen,” the show can be distributed and consumed in unreached regions worldwide, hoping that its message—played out dramatically and artistically—will transform hearts. Art is a fantastic tool to introduce the Gospel in the most hard-to-reach and, frankly, Christian-adverse locations. Good stories told very well have the potential to change lives, especially the greatest story of all time, the story of Jesus.

This project is a privilege that comes with the responsibility to achieve excellence in all aspects of translation and dubbing. First Corinthians 10:31 says, “So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” If we are to glorify God, excellence is the chief responsibility of anyone with a mindset to worship him in their everyday tasks, vocations, or ministry. We are to take the talents God has blessed us with and use them for His glory with excellence.

But excellence isn’t exclusive to the work of great men and women.  Doing life with excellence should be taken seriously and chased with joy, humility, and creativity in all areas, so that we, as 1 Peter 2 suggests, might “proclaim the excellencies of him who called [us] out of darkness into His marvelous light.” Through excellent work, we not only glorify God and proclaim his excellence but are a testimony to the world by the pursuit of it.

But for all of its merit, the pursuit of excellence is often difficult. It requires steadfastness if we are to attain it. Translating, casting, dubbing, mixing, and mastering eight episodes into just one language takes three to six months. We pray that global consumers find the story of Jesus compelling, see and hear the quality and creativity in this production, and continue to stay tuned.

The gospel story is worth telling; it is worth telling in as many languages as possible with the highest quality standards. God is present in every task we are called to do. This is why I view technology and media—even with its many argued downsides—as a blessing, a gift to be carefully stewarded with excellence. We’ve been blessed to live in a time where technology allows us to tell the story of Jesus’ life, love, death and resurrection to audiences who might never have heard or listened. It’s a privilege to have been allowed to serve God in this way. 

Amid many hardships, none of us labor in vain. Instead, we are all called to serve the Lord excellently in whatever task he has befitted us. For those of us in the media and tech space, we must ask ourselves: How can we use this medium to glorify God and best tell his stories? How can we steward it faithfully and willingly with creativity and excellence? When we get it right, God receives the glory and our joy is complete.

8 Healthy Ways To Deal With It When Leadership Is Lonely

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Leadership is lonely in some ways. Whatever your current ministry position, with every step in leadership we make comes the inevitable increase in loneliness. The higher we climb in leadership, the more responsibilities we get, the lonelier we become. We can’t share everything we experience with our team because some of it isn’t beneficial to them. We can’t be completely open about what we encounter or wrestle with toward parents or church members because there’s a confidentiality issue.

We can’t ask just anyone for advice about our struggle with the senior pastor, because we don’t want to talk behind his back. And yet at the end of the day, we’re the ones who have to make the decisions. Yes, leadership is lonely, but the buck stops with us. No one said it better than William Shakespeare in King Henry IV, Part II:

“Uneasy lies the head that wears a crown.”

8 Healthy Ways to Deal With It When Leadership is Lonely

If it’s true that leadership is lonely, then being a leader means dealing with loneliness. So how do you do this? How do you find a way to unload and share without damaging others? Here are nine healthy ways to deal with the loneliness of leadership:

1. Have the courage to stand alone sometimes

Being a leader means accepting the loneliness that comes with it up to a certain point. If you are convinced you’re doing the right thing and God has confirmed this, then take a stand and be willing to stand alone.

2. Don’t confide in the wrong people

It’s tempting to confide in people when something bad has happened, like a fall-out with another leader. But ultimately, you will always regret sharing with the wrong people. Don’t burden youth, other leaders, volunteers, parents or even your senior pastor with issues they don’t need to know. If they’re not part of the problem or the solution, keep them out of it.

3. Find a balance with your spouse

If you are married, your spouse may be the most logical person to share your struggles with. Be careful to find a balance here though. When our church was going through a rough time, my daily rants about what was happening had a huge impact on my husband and negatively affected his view of people and of my job. I’ve had to learn to find a better balance in this and share less of the struggles and more of the joys.

10 Reasons Why Your Children’s Ministry Is Not Growing

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Is your children’s ministry stuck? No matter what you do, you just can’t seem to grow. You are not alone. The vast majority of children’s ministries are plateaued.

What is causing this? Let’s look at 10 reasons why your children’s ministry is not growing. See if you can identify with any of these.

You Live in a Scarcely Populated Area.   

It’s hard to see your children’s ministry grow when you live in an area where the population is minimum. This is not an excuse for not growing, but it is a factor. It’s hard to reach over 100 children when you only have 150 children living in your community.

God does not call every one to minister in a metropolitan area. He also calls people to small communities. Often people ministering in small, rural areas reach more kids percentage wise than people who are ministering in highly populated areas.

The key is to stay faithful no matter where God leads you to minister. People in smaller communities need Jesus just as much as people living in heavily populated areas. Be diligent to share the Gospel wherever you are and you will grow.

You Are Not Having Guests Visit Your Children’s Ministry.  

A ministry obviously grows when they have guests come on a regular basis. Create a culture where kids and parents have an “invest and invite” mentality. They invest in building relationships with the people around them who don’t know Jesus and then they invite them to come to church with them.

You Are Not Having Guests Return and Become Assimilated Into the Ministry.

It is a challenge to get guests to return for a second visit. The national average of guests returning for a second visit is about 7%. If you want to grow, you will need to better than that. Here are some ideas to get more guests to return.

You Are at the 85% Point.  

The rule is once you hit a capacity of 85% you will stop growing. In other words, if your worship space will hold 100 people, when you start averaging 85 people in that space, you will stop growing. If you want to continue to grow, then you have two options. You can build more space or you can add another worship service. This rule is for both children’s space and adult space.

You Are Hanging on to Old Traditions That Don’t Resonate With the Next Generation.  

A healthy, growing church will have all generations represented. Grandparents. Parents.  Young couples. Single adults. Students. Children. Babies. If you are not growing and your attendance is headed the wrong direction, it maybe because you are not reaching all generations. The senior adults must will be willing to change or do some things differently to reach the coming generation. If they are not willing to change for the sake of the next generation, that church will eventually spiral and have to close.

You Don’t Have a Good Children’s Ministry.  

When you see a growing church, you can be sure they have a solid children’s ministry. In today’s culture, the children usually have the final say about which church the family will attend. A good children’s ministry will be a major growth engine for the church. A floundering children’s ministry will have the opposite effect.

You Have Grown Comfortable Where You Are.

The comfort zone is where dreams go to die.

I would add that the comfort zone is where children’s ministries go to become ineffective and irrelevant. This is where the “hold on faithful until Jesus returns” mentality comes from. If you want your children’s ministry to grow, then you must be willing to change, stretch yourself, take a hard look at what you are currently doing and find some ways to get outside of the box you find yourself stuck in.

Have We Neglected “Peace With God?”

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Sometimes I think we have lost the biblical emphasis regarding the gospel being a message of peace. Toward the end of last century, evangelists often spoke of “how to have peace with God” or “steps to peace with God.” We were taught to ask, “have you made peace with God” and “have you experienced the peace of God in your life?” It often seems one generation’s emphasis is the next generation’s neglect. Has peace with God, as a facet of the gospel, become familiar, worn, and a hackneyed point of attention?

Peace With God

The prophet writes, “Behold, upon the mountains, the feet of him who brings good news, who publishes peace” (Nah 1:15)! We live in a world that continues to crave peace–with self, others, society, and yes, God. Minds and hearts are greatly troubled. Suicide rates climb. Anxiety, depression, stress, worry, and fear enshroud multitudes.

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