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‘The Child Born in Bethlehem ’—Biden Criticized for Not Mentioning Jesus by Name in Christmas Address

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As President Joe Biden approached the podium at the White House to deliver his Christmas address to the nation, he did so in the face of a 55% disapproval rating. And while he centered his remarks on encouraging unity at a time when Americans are deeply divided, he nevertheless received stern criticism from some on his political right.

Most criticism has focused not so much on what the president said but rather on what he didn’t say. 

While Biden affirmed that Christmas is an essential aspect of the Christian faith, asserted his belief that the child born in Bethlehem is the Son of God, and cited two Christian hymns along with a reference to the biblical creation narrative, the president failed to mention Jesus of Nazareth by name.  

“How silently, how silently a wondrous gift is given,” Biden said to begin his address, which he delivered on Dec. 22. “There’s a certain stillness at the center of the Christmas story. A silent night when all the world goes quiet.”

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“And all the glamor, all the noise, everything that divides us, everything that pits us against one another, everything that seems so important but really isn’t—this all fades away in the stillness of the winter’s evening,” Biden continued. “And we look to the sky, to a lone star, shining brighter than all the rest, guiding us to the birth of a child; a child Christians believe to be the Son of God, miraculously now here among us on earth, bringing hope, love, and peace, and joy to the world.”

“Yes, it’s a story that’s 2,000 years old, but it’s still very much alive today,” Biden said. “Just look into the eyes of a child on Christmas morning, or listen to the laughter of a family together this holiday season after years, after years of being apart. Just feel the hope rising in your chest as you sing ‘Hark! the Herald Angels Sing,’ even though you’ve sung [it] countless times before. Yes, even after 2,000 years, Christmas still has the power to lift us up.”

“The Christmas story is at the heart of the Christian faith,” Biden said. “But the message of hope, love, peace, and joy—they’re also universal. It speaks to all of us, whether we’re Christian, Jewish, Hindu, Muslim, Buddhist, or any other faith or no faith at all.” 

“So my hope this Christmas season is that we take a few moments of quiet reflection and find that stillness in the heart of Christmas, that’s at the heart of Christmas, and look, really look at each other not as Democrats or Republicans, not as members of ‘Team Red’ or ‘Team Blue,’ but as who we really are: fellow Americans, fellow human beings worthy of being treated with dignity and respect,” Biden said. 

The president went on to encourage Americans to express kindness toward others during the holidays, particularly those who may be struggling with grief or loneliness. 

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Referencing the Genesis account wherein God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light, Biden said, “That light is still with us, illuminating our way forward as Americans and as citizens of the world. A light that burned in the beginning and at Bethlehem. A light that shines still today in our own time, our own lives, as we sing, ‘O Holy Night,’: ‘his law is love and his gospel is peace.’”

Andy Stanley: Is Your Church Choosing Political Sides Without Realizing It?

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Andy Stanley is a communicator, author, and pastor who founded Atlanta-based North Point Ministries in 1995. Today, North Point consists of eight churches in the Atlanta area and a network of 180 churches around the globe. Andy is the author of more than 20 books, and his latest is Not in It to Win It: Why Choosing Sides Sidelines the Church.”

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Key Questions for Andy Stanley

 -You’ve been consistent in saying that pastors shouldn’t politicize the church. Why is that your advice?

-Why is it hard for people to see that they have politicized their faith?

-What impact do you see our current culture wars having on the kids in the church right now?

-How can pastors facilitate unity in the midst of great political diversity in their churches?

Key Quotes From Andy Stanley

“COVID offered the church the opportunity of our lifetime in terms of coming together and doing something extraordinary in the community. I feel like we to some degree missed that.”

“In the old days, people got mad because of music style of worship, the student program, the preaching style. When I drilled down to it, [some of the people who left my church] were angry because I wouldn’t take a stand, but meaning I wouldn’t take their stand.”

“I heard from so many pastors around the country who were just getting the crap beat out of them by elders, deacons, core families. And they’re like, ‘Wait a minute, we’ve never politicized our church. Why? Why now?’”

“The cheap shots pastors take about Biden or Trump or any other local official, to preach in such a way or use illustrations in such a way that it’s very, very clear that if I’m a Democrat, I’m probably not going to love it here. If I’m a Republican, [I won’t feel welcome].…that’s politicizing. It’s elevating a political party or a political platform with political terminology over the purpose of the local church. And it’s so anti-missional…and it is so anti-Great Commission.”

Muslim Fulani Herdsmen Kill Christians With Machetes While Farming in Nigeria

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ABUJA, Nigeria (Morning Star News) – Fulani herdsmen on Dec. 17 killed three Christians as they worked on their farm in Benue state, Nigeria, sources said.

“The three affected victims, who were males and Christians, were killed a farm” in Adaka village, Guma County, said Paul Hemba, special adviser to the Benue state governor on security matters. “The three victims were attacked with machetes, as their corpses had machete cuts wounds. The villagers said they’ve recently been under constant attacks from the Fulani herdsmen.”

The armed herdsmen have also been destroying villagers’ crops, he said, adding, “These are some of the terrible things farmers in Benue state have been facing over the years.”

Adaka area resident Benedict Ayem also identified the assailants as herdsmen.

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“A group of armed Muslim Fulani herdsmen on Saturday, Dec. 17, attacked Adaka village, a Christian community which is 20 kilometers [12 miles] away from Makurdi, the Benue state capital,” Ayem told Morning Star News in a text message. “The herdsmen killed three Christian farmers who were working on their farms.”

In Guma County’s Yelewata village, herdsmen on Nov. 29 killed a Christian, his wife and a daughter and wounded another daughter as they worked on their farm, area sources said.

“The herdsmen attacked a Christian family of four who were working on their farm,” Yelewata resident Agav Ngugar told Morning Star News in a text message. “A man, his wife and daughter were killed by the herdsmen, while a fourth victim, a second daughter of the family, escaped with machete wounds.”

Ngugar identified the victims as Clement Ukertor, wife Christiana Ukertor and daughter Dooyum Ukertor, 17.

“The fourth victim, Blessing Ukertor, 20, was critically injured during the attack and remains in the hospital over inflicted machete wounds,” he said.

The family belongs to St. Joseph’s Catholic Church in Yelewata, where Christiana Ukertor served as chairperson of the St. Joseph Catholic mission in Yelwata, Ngugar said.

Frank Utoo, an aide to the governor of Benue state, confirmed the attack in a text message to Morning Star News.

“Blessing, the second daughter who was also in the farm, was lucky to have survived with deep machete cuts all over her body,” Utoo said. “She is still in the hospital and is being treated for machete cuts wounds.”

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Police spokesperson Catherine Anene said officers have been sent to both areas.

“Security agencies, including police personnel, have been deployed to the area to stem the tide of unceasing attacks on the communities in those areas of the state,” Anene told Morning Star News in a text message.

Numbering in the millions across Nigeria and the Sahel, predominantly Muslim Fulani comprise hundreds of clans of many different lineages who do not hold extremist views, but some Fulani do adhere to radical Islamist ideology, the United Kingdom’s All-Party Parliamentary Group for International Freedom or Belief (APPG) noted in a recent report.

“They adopt a comparable strategy to Boko Haram and ISWAP [Islamic State West Africa Province] and demonstrate a clear intent to target Christians and potent symbols of Christian identity,” the APPG report states.

Christian leaders in Nigeria have said they believe herdsmen attacks on Christian communities in Nigeria’s Middle Belt are inspired by their desire to forcefully take over Christians’ lands and impose Islam as desertification has made it difficult for them to sustain their herds.

Nigeria led the world in Christians killed for their faith last year (Oct. 1, 2020 to Sept. 30, 2021) at 4,650, up from 3,530 the previous year, according to Open Doors’ 2022 World Watch List report. The number of kidnapped Christians was also highest in Nigeria, at more than 2,500, up from 990 the previous year, according to the WWL report.

Nigeria trailed only China in the number of churches attacked, with 470 cases, according to the report.

In the 2022 World Watch List of the countries where it is most difficult to be a Christian, Nigeria jumped to seventh place, its highest ranking ever, from No. 9 the previous year.

This article originally appeared here.

In Haiti, a Crisis of Violence, Chaos, and Cholera Goes Largely Ignored by Outside World

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A mother carries her son as she runs past a burning barricade during a protest against the government in Port-au-Prince, Haiti, Friday, Nov. 18, 2022. (AP Photo/Odelyn Joseph)

(RNS)—  The Rev. Dieufort Fleurissaint, chair of Haitian Americans United, a Boston area non-profit, said he is thankful for God’s presence during this holiday season, even if the crisis in his homeland of Haiti is never far from his mind.

The situation in the Caribbean nation of 11.5 million people has deteriorated drastically in the past year, with the 2021 assassination of President Jovenel Moïse exacerbating the effects of a series of natural disasters.

The violence in Haiti made headlines in 2021, after the president’s assassination in July and the kidnapping of 17 American missionaries in October. More recently, the United Nations has made a number of dire pronouncements warning of gang violence and an outbreak of cholera.

Fuel shortages have further paralyzed schools and businesses, leaving many stuck at home, unable to work or obtained needed supplies for daily life.

“The situation in Haiti has been dire for many years,” said Fleurissaint. “In 2022, with widespread kidnappings, killings, fuel shortages and food shortages — the situation has worsened.”

Fleurissaint worries that few people are paying attention, saying that news coverage has been sparse.

A youth suffering from cholera symptoms is helped upon arrival at a clinic run by Doctors Without Borders in Port-au-Prince, Haiti, Thursday, Oct. 27, 2022. For the first time in three years, people in Haiti have been dying of cholera, raising concerns about a potentially fast-spreading scenario and reviving memories of an epidemic that killed nearly 10,000 people a decade ago. (AP Photo/Ramon Espinosa)

A youth suffering from cholera symptoms is helped upon arrival at a clinic run by Doctors Without Borders in Port-au-Prince, Haiti, Thursday, Oct. 27, 2022. For the first time in three years, people in Haiti have been dying of cholera, raising concerns about a potentially fast-spreading scenario and reviving memories of an epidemic that killed nearly 10,000 people a decade ago. (AP Photo/Ramon Espinosa)

Haitians in the United States and other countries routinely send money and other support home to relatives and family members unable to make a living. “The brunt of the responsibility falls on the diaspora,” he said. “We have to send money to loved ones, family and friends.”

A number of high-profile charities, such as Catholic Relief Services, Doctors Without Borders and World Vision, are active in the country, but Fleurissaint said that action is needed from outside governments as well.

The Biden administration recently extended Temporary Protected Status for some Haitians currently in the United States, but that status does not apply to Haitians who entered the country after November 6, 2022.

“We are providing much-needed humanitarian relief to Haitian nationals already present in the United States,” Secretary of Homeland Security Alejandro N. Mayorkas announced in early December. “The conditions in Haiti, including socioeconomic challenges, political instability, and gang violence and crime — aggravated by environmental disaster — compelled the humanitarian relief we are providing today.”

Fleurissaint said he and other Haitian American leaders have met with members of Congress and other leaders in Washington, pressing them to do more for Haiti. He said he opposes military intervention, saying leaders there should instead be given more resources and training to restore order.

Children sleep on the floor of a school turned into a shelter after they were forced to leave their homes in Cite Soleil due to clashes between armed gangs, in Port-au-Prince, Haiti, Saturday, July 23, 2022. (AP Photo/Odelyn Joseph)

Children sleep on the floor of a school turned into a shelter after they were forced to leave their homes in Cite Soleil due to clashes between armed gangs, in Port-au-Prince, Haiti, Saturday, July 23, 2022. (AP Photo/Odelyn Joseph)

He urged his fellow Christians and other Americans to call their elected officials, citing direct pressure as the only way to put the crisis on their radar, he said.

Fleurissaint said that faith sustains many Haitians during this crisis.

“No matter what, we know where our strength comes from,” he said.

Lesly Michaud, senior operations director in Haiti for World Vision, the evangelical Christian charity, said the cholera outbreak, which has sickened more than 1,400 people and killed more than 300 since October, has aggravated the already desperate situation.

Retired Pope Benedict XVI Is ‘Very Sick,’ Pope Francis Says, and Asks for Prayers

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VATICAN-CITY (RNS) – Emeritus Pope Benedict XVI is “very sick,” Pope Francis said at his weekly audience in St. Peter’s Square on Wednesday (Dec. 28), and requested prayers for his predecessor, who is 95 and stepped down as pope in 2013.

“I would like to ask all of you for a special prayer for Emeritus Pope Benedict, who is sustaining the church in silence,” Francis said before closing the audience.

“Let us remember him — he’s very sick — asking the lord to console him, sustain him in this witness of love to the church, until the end,” he added.

The 95-year-old Benedict rattled the church and the world when he suddenly announced that he was stepping down as pope after eight years as head of the Catholic Church. He took the title of emeritus pope and went to live in a monastery within the Vatican’s walls, becoming the first pontiff to retire in roughly 600 years.

Since his retirement, Benedict has lived a mostly secluded life, limited to writing books and articles and meeting a select number of friends, fans and acquaintances. A handful of lay women, the memores domini, care to his daily needs and he is assisted by the Prefect of the Papal household and personal secretary, Monsignor Georg Gänswein.

Vatican spokesperson Matteo Bruni confirmed that there has been “a  worsening” of the pope’s health conditions in the morning hours on Wednesday caused by old age. “The situation remains currently under control, constantly monitored by doctors,” he added.

After the audience, Pope Francis visited Benedict at the Mater Ecclesiae monastery where he resides.

This article originally appeared here

Why Our Subjective Feelings Need God’s Objective Truth

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The peace or lack of peace one feels after praying about a decision can be highly subjective, unless it is specifically rooted in objective truth. Some people feel good about doing wrong things and others feel bad about doing right things. I have seen people make unwise and even catastrophic decisions who told me they prayed and felt good about it.

I know of a woman who walked away from her marriage—without biblical grounds—because in her words, “The Holy Spirit gave me peace about it.” When I tried to point to the truth in Scripture, she said she wasn’t going to be “legalistic.” She’s still going to church, claiming the spiritual high ground, while failing to live by the standards of the same Bible she professes to believe, often reads, and hears taught every Sunday.

She told me, “I’ve never been so close to God.” But is being close to God merely a feeling? Or does it mean trusting in and living by faith in the truth God has revealed to us not subjectively but objectively in His Word? Men guilty of murdering their wives have insisted “I loved her.” Their actions disprove their words.

Often the reason we “feel peace” may be because we are doing what is most comfortable, convenient, natural, or widely accepted. None of these is a good reason to believe we are doing right. We need to search the Scriptures to see what is true, and subject ourselves to the authority and guidance of the revealed will of God (Acts 17:11). Then when we call upon God’s indwelling Spirit to teach and direct us, He can guide us in light of what he has objectively said to us, not merely what we subjectively feel.

We should seek the Lord’s will through the reading and study of His Word, prayer, and the wise counsel of others. I emphasize “wise” to discourage counsel only from those who automatically agree with us and are not committed to speaking God’s truth. Scripture says in an abundance of counselors, there is wisdom and victory.

Some people say, “I just feel that…” as if having a feeling were somehow a good reason to believe something. “I feel” statements are sincere but subjective; they are not always based on reality. This is not to say that feelings are categorically sinful; God made us to feel emotions. We should let our feelings—real as they are—point to our need for the truth of God’s words to guide our thinking. Recognizing the reality of objective truth, “true truth,” God’s truth, is key. Why? Because what we believe about truth will inevitably affect our moral values and how we live.

Since Jesus said the truth will set us free, failing to believe and live by it will enslave us to error, sin, and self-destruction. It’s vital that we join David in saying, “Show me your ways, Lord, teach me your paths. Guide me in your truth and teach me” (Psalm 25:4-5).

John Piper writes in Finally Alive: What Happens When We Are Born Again?:

My feelings are not God. God is God. My feelings do not define truth. God’s word defines truth. My feelings are echoes and responses to what my mind perceives. And sometimes—many times—my feelings are out of sync with the truth. When that happens—and it happens every day in some measure—I try not to bend the truth to justify my imperfect feelings, but rather, I plead with God: Purify my perceptions of your truth and transform my feelings so that they are in sync with the truth.

Are You a “What’s Next” Leader or a What’s Now Leader?

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Are you a “what’s next” oriented person? Boy oh boy, am I! For so long, I lived in the “what’s next” space that I constantly missed what’s now. It’s hard to stop and smell the roses when you are moving so fast that you barely notice there are roses to smell.

When I was working as the lead pastor of Woodstock City Church, a campus location of North Point Ministries, I asked a guy named Bob, “What’s next for a person like me here at North Point?” At the time, I’d been in my lead pastor position for a year or two. I’m brand new to this role and was already looking forward to what might be next.

Bob kindly and a bit sarcastically responded, “Well, you’re a lead pastor, so probably nothing!

I almost quit on the spot. And that’s not a joke. I’ve worked hard to tame this emotion. I’d love to share two observations on how to be a what’s now person that may be helpful for you.

How to be a What’s Now Leader

1. Be Present in the Present

Being is harder than doing. When we are doing something, we feel we are accomplishing something. Being is not as easy as doing, but it’s often more critical to our heart (and future).

2. You Don’t Need to Know What’s Next to Take the Next Step

I’ve been through several job and career transitions. As a next-step-focused guy, I like to know where I’m going before I leave where I’m at. Yet I’ve learned that’s not always possible. Moreover, it’s not always best.

Jim Cymbala: 4 Detours That Can Derail a Pastor

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Ministry can be challenging, and when it’s tough, how do we rekindle the joy of serving the Kingdom? In this conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Jim Cymbala, pastor of the Brooklyn Tabernacle, and author of many best-selling books, including his latest entitled Fan the Flame. Together, Jim and Jason look at some of the detours that can derail our ministries, and we explore exactly where we can turn to experience God’s absolute best for our lives and our ministries.

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‘Blasphemous!’—Jesse Duplantis’ Christmas Sermon Draws Accusations of Heresy

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Prosperity gospel preacher Jesse Duplantis recently applied the text of Isaiah 9:6, an Old Testament passage often quoted during the Christmas season as a prophecy about Jesus, in a way that some people took as blasphemous. 

“For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders,” says Isaiah 9:6. “And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.”

“Where is the government now?” asked Duplantis in his sermon, “The Gift That Jesus Gave To His Father,” which was published to social media Dec. 26. “It’s on us. The government of the world is on mankind, and because we’re made in God’s image and in God’s likeness, you can call us Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Christ in us, the Everlasting Father, whoo! The Prince of Peace. That’s what it means to be the gift that Jesus gave to you.”

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Jesse Duplantis: We Are Jesus’ Gift to God

Jesse Duplantis is a Word of Faith preacher based out of Destrehan, Louisiana, who runs Jesse Duplantis Ministries (JDM) and is known for promoting a prosperity gospel. Duplantis made headlines in 2018 for asking his supporters to donate money so that his ministry could afford a $54 million private jet—the preacher’s fourth one. Duplantis said the reason he needed the jet was to continue his ministry and spread the gospel. 

In 2021, Duplantis appeared in a four-day fundraising event on Kenneth Copeland’s VICTORY Channel. During the event, Duplantis mentioned that he is a multi-millionaire and said that viewers could speed the return of Jesus by donating money. “I honestly believe this,” he said, “that the reason why Jesus hadn’t come is because people aren’t giving the way God told them to give.” 

In his Dec. 26 sermon, which appears to have been previously recorded at Covenant Church, an outreach of JDM, Duplantis wore a Christmas bow to illustrate his main point that Jesus gave people (presumably believers) as a gift to God the Father. 

As he began the sermon, Duplantis told the congregation that God had told him to preach “the December partner letter.” According to the JDM website, “partners” are people who “regularly pray and sow financial seeds” into the ministry. Partners receive from Duplantis a monthly letter “filled with exactly what God has put on his heart to share with his Partners.”

Duplantis explained that before God created the world, he created angels in heaven—“I call it ‘Planet Heaven’”—and “many, many servants.” The members of the Trinity had a “business meeting” to discuss the creation of humanity and decided to give people free will, through which sin came into the world. During this discussion, God said he could never “touch sin,” and the Holy Spirit said the same. Jesus then “took over the meeting” and offered to die to save all people. 

LA Evangelist Killed in Hit-and-Run While Delivering Christmas Gifts

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While taking Christmas gifts to children at a South Los Angeles shelter on Saturday afternoon, evangelist Trina Newman-Townsend was struck by a hit-and-run driver. The beloved community activist, 62, was pronounced dead at the scene. Three of her foster children, who were in her vehicle at the time, weren’t injured but witnessed the incident.

Family and friends who gathered at a makeshift memorial for Newman-Townsend on Christmas Day described her as compassionate, generous, and selfless. Meanwhile, police continue to investigate the crash and search for the suspect, who left the scene.

Trina Newman-Townsend Was ‘Everything to This Community’

Prior to the crash, Trina Newman-Townsend had been distributing toys and food at a Christmas Eve community giveaway. Her husband, Curtis Townsend, says she “died doing what she loved to do”—helping other people.

“She was everything to this community,” says Pastor Kenneth Pitchford, a family friend. “Everybody is heart-stricken for this moment. Words can’t describe what she means to this community.”

Police say Newman-Townsend had just loaded her children into her car and was getting into the driver’s seat. Another vehicle traveling at about 40 mph reportedly hit her and her open door. That driver then proceeded through a red light and sped away.

“She was trying to help people, and she got her life taken away,” says one witness. A $50,000 reward is being offered for information about the suspect’s identity. Authorities say they’re searching for a blue, midsized sedan.

L.A. Activist Also Was a Foster Mother

Daughter Amarrie Nicasio says her mother not only fostered local children but also was raising some of her grandchildren. “She helped everybody,” Nicasio says. “She gave back to the community in every way she could. Whoever did this needs to step up and turn yourself in.”

The day before she was killed, Newman-Townsend had been making ribbons for the funeral of a childhood friend. “My sister was a beautiful spirit,” says Dwayne Newman. “Very soulful and generous person. She had children that she adopted and brought in. She was always giving to the homeless and charities. She’s going to be deeply missed. Infinity times infinity.”

‘It Has Been a Controversial Year for the SBC’—Barber Reflects on 2022

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Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) president Bart Barber provided his Twitter followers with some personal reflections on 2022 in the nation’s largest Protestant denomination.

“Looking back on 2022, I think that the work that @GuidepostGlobal performed on the Sexual Abuse Task Force (SATF) investigation and report will prove to be a key moment in the history of the SBC that will lead to good things,” Barber wrote.

Noting the controversy that erupted after Guidepost Solutions posted about LGBTQ+ pride in June, Barber added, “There was one day in 2022 when they tweeted one tweet that I profoundly disagreed with. I think that will be forgotten pretty quickly in our history. The work they did for the SBC the other 364 days this year will prove to be the real, enduring story. Time will tell, but that’s my prediction.”

Barber went on to praise the state conventions in the SBC, saying, “In every difficult question that the national SBC faced in 2022, state conventions have been important for where Southern Baptists have worked toward solutions.”

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In another of Barber’s observations, he stated that the interim president and CEO of the SBC Executive Committee, Willie McLaurin, and its chairman, Jared C. Wellman (pastor of Tate Springs in Arlington, TX), “have given historic leadership to the SBCEC this year. Things feel (to me) healthier at the SBCEC. Jared’s election is a key moment in the story of this year.”

Barber also expressed gratitude for South Carolina pastor Marshall Blalock, who is chairman of the SBC’s Abuse Response Implementation Task Force (ARITF).

“I cannot say strongly enough how grateful I am for @BlalockMarshall‘s consent to lead the ARITF in 2022,” Barber wrote. “Everyone who has served on the SATF and everyone who is serving on the ARITF are writing SBC history—Marshall is the glue connecting those two groups.”

The SBC president appeared fully aware of recent criticism the ARITF has received, which included direct words from abuse survivor advocate Christa Brown last week (Dec. 23).

“For many of us, 2022 showed us more reasons the SBC shouldn’t be trusted on dealing with clergy sex abuse,” Brown tweeted.

“Many have applauded the sexual abuse reforms of the Southern Baptist Convention, adopted at their annual meeting last June. Not me,” Brown wrote in an op-ed for Good Faith Media this past August.

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Barber continued, “I don’t begrudge ANYONE their skepticism and/or impatience about what will come out of the ARITF. That skepticism and impatience is well-earned. I’m just saying that, for my part, I am confident that their work, when it comes out, will be filled with the leadership of the Holy Spirit and the level of quality and attention to detail that has come at the cost of much time and energy spent getting things just right.”

Pastor Donates Kidney to Church Member

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Pictured: Pastor James Slick (right), who donated a kidney to friend and church member Jack Abbott (left); screengrab via WSBTV

While most pastors are no stranger to their local hospitals, where they often visit to encourage church members who are experiencing ailing health, James Slick took his pastoral care to another level last year. When his friend Jack Abbott was suffering from kidney failure, Slick, associate pastor of worship at Summit Baptist Church in Acworth, Georgia, stepped in to donate one of his own. 

Both Abbott and Slick are avid runners and have run alongside one another in a number of races. Abbott even served as the course director for the Peachtree Road Race until 2019.

However, Abbott has for years suffered from a kidney condition, which worsened following a bout of COVID-19 that landed him in the hospital for two weeks, one of which was spent in the ICU.

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“I was on a list, but so were many, many other people,” Abbott said. “The kidney function was down to 5%, which was, you know, hardly doing anything.”

Abbott’s previous kidney function was roughly 20%. 

“In January 2021, [Abbott] suffered an episode that was relating to his health and COVID that resulted in the worsening of his kidney function from an acute illness,” explained Dr. Clark Kensinger, a multi-organ transplant surgeon.

The amount of time a patient can stay on the waitlist for a kidney donor in Georgia is upwards of four to eight years, depending on the patient’s blood type, according to WSBTV. However, Abbott was running out of time. 

Explaining what led to his decision to donate his kidney to Abbott, Slick said, “As one of his pastors, I was curious about where his health was and how he was doing.”

After Abbott informed Slick of the severity of his condition, Slick determined that donating a kidney to his friend and fellow church member was simply “what I needed to do.” 

“Then, I asked him his blood type,” Slick said. “I don’t know why I asked that question. It’s not something I routinely ask people. It turned out we’re both Type O negative.”

“So he says, ‘I’ve got two kidneys. I’ll give you one of mine,’” Abbott recounted. Describing his reaction in that moment, Abbott told The Christian Index that his emotions were “somewhere between numb and shock…I still can’t really wrap my mind around it.”

Admittedly nervous about the procedure, Slick said, “I think the biggest question for me was, what is this going to do to me? You know, what’s going to happen?” 

Despite his fears, Slick began a journey to quite literally give of himself to restore Abbott’s health. 

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“I just felt like God was speaking to my heart, saying this is someone who I can help,” Slick said.

‘The Warfare Has Been Intense. The Victories Amazing’—John Piper Reflects on 54 Years of Marriage

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On Wednesday (Dec. 21), pastor John Piper commemorated his 54th wedding anniversary with his wife Noël by sharing a poem titled “A Sonnet for Our 54th Anniversary.”

“Fifty-four years ago today God joined together Noël and me into a lifelong covenant called marriage. We knew then, and we know now, that there are enemies of our joy. I thank God that he gave me a valiant fellow-soldier. The warfare has been intense. The victories amazing,” the 76-year-old Piper posted.

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The couple have five children together, including their adopted daughter Talitha.

Piper grew in popularity among Christians while serving as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church in Minneapolis, Minnesota, for 33-years. He has authored multiple best-selling books.

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Perhaps some of the “warfare” Piper referenced in his post has been public criticism, some of which has come from his own son, Abraham, a popular exvangelical TikTok influencer who boasts 1.7 million followers and uses his platform to excoriate conservative Christians.

Piper’s poem reads, in part:

Our Foes
A Sonnet for Our 54th Anniversary

Four mortal foes we have. The first is sin,

Not others’ but our own. The next is less,
Yet great in power, Satan, not within…

…Futile sabotage, lament!
If God is for us, what will be your fate?
So say with me, Noël, my love, “Away all fear!”
Let us be brave and happy for another year.

Congress Protects Pro-Life Policies in Spending Bill

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WASHINGTON (BP)—Congress included pro-life and conscience protections in a massive omnibus spending bill that gained final approval Friday (Dec. 23).

The House of Representatives voted 225–201 Friday for a nearly $1.7 trillion appropriations package that will fund federal agencies through September 2023. The Senate passed the legislation in a 68-29 roll call Thursday (Dec. 22). The bill, which will go to President Biden for his signature, gained support in the Democratic-controlled Congress from 18 Republicans in the Senate and only nine in the House.

The Southern Baptist Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission (ERLC) had urged congressional leaders in November to restore the Hyde Amendment and other pro-life “riders,” as they are known, to the spending bills proposed at that time. While the ERLC expressed disappointment with portions of the final measure, it was pleased with the inclusion of bans on federal funding of abortion and protections of conscience rights.

“Even though a bipartisan consensus has existed for years that no taxpayer funding should be used for abortion, that sentiment has diminished in recent years, putting the Hyde Amendment and other pro-life riders in jeopardy,” ERLC President Brent Leatherwood told Baptist Press Friday.

“The ERLC, along with our pro-life partners, strongly advocated for their inclusion in this omnibus and, thankfully, those calls were heeded by lawmakers,” he said in emailed comments. “Our nation’s financial resources should not be used to take innocent life, and we will keep defending that principle as long as it takes.

“Of course, with such a massive spending bill, lawmakers try to attach all manner of proposals to the legislation,” Leatherwood said. “While we wish more helpful policies protecting life and respecting human dignity would have been added, we were glad to see several harmful provisions stripped, including ones related to abortion tourism and targeting faith-based agencies in the adoption space.

“Preventing bad ideas from becoming law is, at times, just as valuable as passing new laws. In these areas, that is certainly the case.”

The ERLC had advocated for other measures that were not in the final spending package, including a long-term solution for undocumented immigrants who were brought to the United States as children and enhanced border security, a path to permanent legal status for Afghan and Ukrainian evacuees, and reform to a sentencing disparity in drug-related crimes.

Earlier spending proposals demonstrated another effort by Democratic leaders to eliminate from the budget the Hyde Amendment and other pro-life riders, which must be approved each year. The Hyde Amendment – the best known of the pro-life riders — has barred federal funds in Medicaid and other programs from paying for abortions in every year since 1976. It has saved the lives of an estimated 2½ million preborn children.

Last year, the Democratic-controlled House approved spending measures without Hyde and other pro-life protections. Spending proposals offered by the Senate’s Democratic leadership also excluded the policies. In addition, President Biden’s budget proposal failed to include the abortion-funding bans.

Congress was unable to pass a final budget for the 2022 fiscal year without the pro-life riders, and Biden finally signed into law an omnibus bill in March of this year that included the protections.

Amid the efforts to eliminate the pro-life riders, messengers to the Southern Baptist Convention’s 2021 meeting called for the retention of the Hyde Amendment and all pro-life riders in spending bills.

In a Nov. 18 letter this year, Leatherwood cited the SBC resolution in encouraging Senate and House leaders in both political parties to include the pro-life riders in the final appropriations legislation. He also called for Congress to protect the religious freedom of faith-based, social-service providers.

“These amendments save lives and protect American consciences,” Leatherwood wrote.

In addition to Hyde, the other pro-life riders the ERLC urged congressional leaders to reinstate in final spending legislation, and Congress approved, included the:

— Weldon Amendment, which has barred since 2004 funding for government programs that discriminate against healthcare individuals or institutions that object to abortion.

— Helms Amendment, a rider first approved in 1973 that prohibits foreign aid funds from being used for abortion as a method of family planning.

— Dornan Amendment, which was first adopted in 1988 and has barred in most of the years since federal and congressionally approved local funds from paying for abortions in the District of Columbia.

— Smith Amendment, which has barred in nearly every year since 1984 federal employee health plans from paying for abortions.

The spending package approved by Congress altered but did not eliminate some abortion rights proposals the ERLC protested.

3 Pitfalls Pastors Avoid by Cultivating Curiosity

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People look to their pastors for answers. Whether it be questions about faith, the Bible, or how to respond to the latest headline, pastors are often called upon to offer their insights and guidance. 

This is especially true during uncertain times, as people search for solid answers to life’s most pressing questions. Because of their calling, faith, and theological training, pastors are well equipped to provide those answers. 

That doesn’t mean that pastors know everything, though. Nor should they pretend to. In fact, the most effective pastors are often not the ones who know the most or can speak the most eloquently. Rather, one of the most important tools a pastor can have in his leadership tool belt is curiosity.

Curious pastors are better pastors. Conversely, a lack of curiosity can be a serious detriment. 

Here are three pitfalls that pastors can more successfully avoid by focusing on cultivating curiosity in their lives.

1. Fundamentalism

In many ways, fundamentalism is the opposite of curiosity, the closing off of our minds and hearts to new ideas, lest they carry us away from our faith. Fundamentalists languish under the conviction that unless you hold to your faith in the very specific and particular way they do, then your salvation itself is in question. They then spend an inordinate amount of time trying to convince others of the same. 

To be sure, there are fundamental Christian convictions that must be affirmed in order for a person or congregation to be uniquely Christian. It’s just that those borders are much wider than the fundamentalist often imagines. 

But if all truth is God’s truth, then we need not be afraid of ideas or thoughts that are new or strange to us. If these things really are good and true, then we need not fear them. And if they aren’t, we also need not fear them, even as we do not adopt them.

Pastors who allow suspicion to guide their interactions with foreign ideas and practices not only cultivate a personal lifestyle marked by fundamentalism but an entire congregation that is.

While most pastors couldn’t be characterized as hardcore fundamentalists, many of them do have fundamentalistic tendencies that often arise from a lack of curiosity. This lack of curiosity sometimes springs from fear, because you can’t be fearful and curious at the same time. Your body just isn’t built that way. Fear causes us to protect, while curiosity causes us to explore. 

Curiosity makes us more intellectually honest when it comes to our convictions. And in the end, that actually makes us far more credible when discussing our distinctly Christian beliefs with those who disagree with us. Curiosity makes us humble, empathetic, and ultimately more engaging to a world that needs Jesus. 

We must be open to the idea that we can learn from followers of Jesus who are from faith traditions different than our own, whether that relates to their views on church polity, baptism, or the role of liturgy or church tradition. 

Further, we must not also be afraid to learn from Christians or even non-Christians who have expertise in areas of study that fall outside the realm of what seminary covered. Certainly, we must be discerning. But discernment is a far cry from suspicion. 

3 Vital Needs for a Thriving Church

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Years ago, I read an article by Raymond P. Rood’s entitled “How Then Should Organizations Live”. Rood made the point that every organization has three basic needs. This philosophy resonated with me and, based on my experience, I can see how it relates to a thriving church, business, or a non-profit.

3 Vital Needs for a Thriving Church

1. Growth

Rood says “growth needs focus on productivity and expansion.” The growth of any organization is vibrant and fast-paced and requires lots of energy and attention. It’s a world of numbers and percentages of increases.

Without growth, the organization will eventually die, but if an organization only grows and never matures, that growth will not sustain itself for long.

2. Maintenance

According to Rood, “maintenance needs focus on order and the reduction of problems.” The more an organization grows the more it needs a structure in place to manage the growth; that’s maintenance. Systems. Some people love the maintenance world.

Maintenance is extremely necessary for the organization to remain healthy. Still, if all an organization does is maintenance it will become dull, boring, legalistic, and uninspiring. Some organizations, and even churches, die because they live in the maintenance world. They become one large bureaucracy of rules and regulations, designed with good intentions, to sustain the organization’s growth.

That leads to the third basic need of every organization.

3. Development

Rood writes that “development needs focus on organizational quality.” The development needs of an organization are designed to take it to the “next level” of success. This is where an organization really matures, develops lasting principles and values, and prepares itself for years of growth and success. Without developing an organization it will eventually wither and die.

A common mistake is to confuse development with growth. Growth is always growth. It is focused primarily on things getting bigger. We need that focus. Development is focused on things getting better, which may or may not lead to growth. It may be completely internal. As a development person, I always hope this leads to growth, but quality is my main objective.

An example here would be developing or improving the internal systems of employee reviews to empower more than control.  it could be improving the bylaws to match current and future practices. It’s more difficult to tie these directly to growth sometimes, but they can always be tied to development.

A Thriving Church Must do all 3 Well

Using this information, I have expanded my thinking around these areas.

Considering these organizational needs I’ve discovered:

  • Everyone in the organization tends to prefer one of these three, even though all of us need all three to be successful in our role.
  • For a position to be most successful, it should have a primary focus on one of these three, although, again, all of them are necessary, for every position.
  • If a person is mismatched in one of these they will more quickly burnout. A person with a preference for growth, for example, will burnout sooner when they are function in the maintenance function.
  • We have to discipline ourselves as leaders and team members to make sure all three of these are a part of our work and the organization.
  • I have heard some people say they love all of these – or really “confident” people say they are good at all of them. I question this. In my experience, they may enjoy elements of all of them, and may even be good at all of them to some degree, but there will be one preference in the bunch (and weaknesses they can’t see in one of them.) For years, I thought I would be good at maintenance need, because I like organizational efficiency. When I was put in that position exclusively, I bombed at it.
  • When shaping a team, we need to make sure people specializing in all three are represented, and allowed to lead in their area of strength.

Practical Applications for a Thriving Church

With these understandings, I have frequently walked our staff through each of these in a retreat setting. We expand our thoughts on these three needs as they relate to the life of our church and each individual area in which we serve. The discussion always leads to ways we can improve in each of these areas. As a pastor/leader, knowing the importance of each of these, I want to make sure we are excelling in all of them. That’s a healthy church.

I’m a development guy. My lesser strength is in the maintenance area, but I have seen what happens when we are weak in this area. I love the growth area, being a starter and entrepreneurial, but in an established organization, I always drift towards development, which usually involves starting something new in the same organization. If that’s all I had to do, I’d be happy.

To be an effective leader, however, I must discipline my time to focus on all three needs. I can specialize in one, but I must be committed to playing a part in each area.

Questions to Ask to Develop a Thriving Church:

  • Which of these are missing most in your organization or church?
  • Which of these do you prefer doing most? (If you say all, let me encourage you to reconsider your answer.)
  • Should you discipline yourself in the other areas so you can be a healthier organization?

 

This article on a thriving church originally appeared here, and is used by permission.

What to Say When Someone Dies (And What Not to Say)

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Many Christians struggle with what to say when someone dies.

Nathan’s father passed away a couple of months ago, after battling an awful disease for three or four years. They had the blessing of knowing in advance what was coming; they had the awful burden of knowing in advance what was coming. Recently, he and I were talking about what people say when your loved one dies. I asked for his experience on the subject. This is what he wrote …

My first thoughts on what to say when someone dies were based on the biblical accuracy of things that are said after someone dies. Do people really believe what they say? If they do, where did they get those philosophies? I’m not suggesting there is a list of approved biblical phrases to use in this situation, only asking that we consider why folks craft and continue to perpetuate these flawed notions. I believe there is a danger turning faith into fairy tale for our own comfort. At the same time, it may help us to approach someone with biblical truths after we understand their line of thinking.

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For the most part, I didn’t find words to be the most comforting offerings. Actions such as hugs, meals delivered, prayer together or a listening ear were helpful to me.

“I love you.”

“I’ll give you a call in a few days.”

“Can I check on you later this week?”

“I can only imagine what he is experiencing right now.” (This one came from a dear friend who absolutely knew of Dad’s relationship with Christ. It turned my focus from my loss to Dad’s gain. It might not be the same for everyone.)

“I’ll be praying for you and your family.”

“We are going to bring dinner by. Is Wednesday OK?” (Very few people that I know will respond to the standard, “Is there anything I can do?” but almost no one can turn away a specific helpful gesture that has a time stamp on it.)

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Christian friends can offer meaningful words by focusing on care, hope, and a deep understanding of grief through the lens of faith:

“Take care of yourself.” (It was comforting to know that someone was concerned for me in all of this. It would be easy to slip so deeply into my grief that I neglect proper nutrition, sleep or even my mental health.)

“We are deeply sorry about the loss of (insert name here.) As you grieve, know that we are remembering and honoring him/her.”

“I’ll remember your (____) in many positive ways-with a big smile and a great sense of humor, always great with a story.”

“I’m sure your heart is aching. We want you to know that we are here for you if you need anything. Expect us to check in soon.”

“Sorry for your loss. I celebrate the life of (___) and am mourning him/her with you in this trying time.”

“Our hearts go out to you and your family. Although I don’t know exactly what to say, I want you to know that I am with you in thought and pray for comfort and peace as you remember (insert name here.)”

“Praying for peace to bring you comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your heart.”

“(Name of deceased) will remain in our hearts forever. May you be comforted by the outpouring of love and support.”

“Words fall short of expressing my sorrow for your loss. I am deeply sorry to hear about the passing of (name of deceased.)”

“I can’t imagine the sadness you must be feeling from your loss. May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead.”

Zephaniah 3:17 — God, Are You Going to Embarrass Me?

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Zephaniah 3:17 is the sort of Bible verse that is cross-stitched and framed in the homes of elderly women all across America. There’s a chance that your grandmother has this in her hallway, right next to a framed print of Jesus, the one with the erie eyes that follow you around. And if not your grandmother, then your mom probably has a nice little magnet with this verse stuck on the refrigerator, holding a picture of you – it’s probably embarrassing and she probably loves it.

The LORD your God is with you,
   he is mighty to save.
He will take great delight in you,
   he will quiet you with his love,
   he will rejoice over you with singing.

It’s the sort of verse that used to make me nervous. As a young man, I wasn’t sure I wanted God to quiet me with his love, and I certainly didn’t want him to rejoice over me with singing. It reminded me of when my family would sing ‘happy birthday’ to me – the most awkward 30 seconds of an entire year.

Zephaniah 3:17 — God, Are You Going to Embarrass Me?

But now, as a slightly older man, with a wife and four children, I’ve had a change of heart. I’m crazy about my kids and I frequently ‘take great delight’ in them – it’s the natural inclination of a father’s heart, and as a father, who is also a son, a son of the very best father, the Father of lights, I’ve decided not to be the squirmy, child who pulls away from the Father’s embrace. I’m beginning to learn that all that he does is for my good, even his song.

Converging Technologies – A Mixed Bag of Blessings

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“Convergence” is one of those buzz words in technology folks throw around to make their product or service look important. Many times it does, but what exactly are converging technologies, and should we care? Converging technologies can often save churches and ministries money but knowing what convergence is and how to apply it is the challenge.

There are many ways to define converging technologies but for our purposes let’s keep it simple. Think back to the days when you traveled with your technology and how heavy your backpack used to be. I travel frequently and used to travel with a laptop, an iPhone, an iPad, a digital camera, a GPS device, all the batteries, carrying cases, mounts and cables to go with all of that, plus removable media, flash drives, and project files I needed to work on. Oh, and printed out copies of my travel docs, boarding passes, itineraries, etc. It’s amazing with all that stuff in my backpack I’m not permanently hunched over.

Today I travel with far less. I have a Microsoft Surface and an iPhone. That’s it. My Surface is my laptop and tablet and my iPhone is my camera and GPS and I can fit them all in my laptop bag by vintage leather sydney. Any files I need are stored in the cloud and my iPhone is my boarding pass, Sky Club pass, and contains all my other travel documents. With Apple Pay in many cases my iPhone is also my wallet. My back is most grateful for all this convergence.

Grieving Pastor Soothed by Notes Ancestor Wrote in 1940s Christmas Bible

Years after Ruby died at age 26 of scarlet fever, her mother Rebecca journaled grief and hope on blank pages of her Bible, a Christmas gift received in 1946. Courtesy of Baptist Press.

LEBANON, Tenn. (BP) – Years after Ruby died at age 26 of scarlet fever, her mother Rebecca journaled grief and hope on blank pages of her Bible, a Christmas gift received in 1946.

“Dear children, when you read this and I am gone,” Rebecca wrote, “I want you to keep close to Jesus too. He is our only pure joy. It pays to serve Him. For like Ruby, this day is coming to all, and we all want to meet in heaven.”

Three-quarters of a century later, the Bible, now weathered and fragile, is in the hands of Rebecca’s great-grandson Erik Reed, a Tennessee pastor who Dec. 1 marked the third anniversary of the loss of his son Kaleb, who died at age 15 after lifelong health struggles.

“When we started reading some of these notes, it struck our hearts because we’d lost a child,” Erik, lead pastor of The Journey Church in Lebanon, said of himself and his wife Katrina. “So many of the things that she’s saying just resonated with us. As I read it to my wife out loud, we were both just in tears.”

Rebecca apparently found her daughter ill in bed one morning.

“She was still alive,” Erik said of his great-aunt, “but she was obviously having issues. And she ended up passing away.”

Rebecca journaled her feelings in poetry and prose at least a decade after Ruby’s death on June 11, 1937.

“She just talked about how much she missed her and how difficult it’s been without her,” Erik said. “She even writes about recounting the morning, but then she’ll immediately talk about someday all the tears will be gone.

“She says, ‘Sometimes I’m just so happy, but I can’t always stay happy. Lonely days come.’ So she’s just pouring her heart out. But you see a mixture of sorrow and faith through all of it.”

The Bible passed from the hands of Rebecca’s youngest daughter Dorothy to her son Sam, who loaned it to Erik.

“It really is just incredible,” Erik said.

Erik describes the Bible as a King James Version that was given to Rebecca as a Christmas gift by another of her daughters, Lorine, who was close to Ruby in age and spirit.

“The two sisters were super close,” Erik said. “They were strong believers. But the stories I’ve heard about my great-grandmother were about how strong her faith was.”

Rebecca attended Barton’s Creek Baptist Church, founded in 1849 in Lebanon and still active today.

“It’s not a charismatic church by any means, but she was known for shouting ‘amen’ and being just very vibrant in her faith,” Erik said. “I’d always heard those stories and of course, I knew she’d lost a child, but I’d never seen any firsthand things from her own heart and her own feelings.”

Erik is considering transcribing Rebecca’s notes to preserve them before returning the Bible to his cousin.

“It’s really meaningful to have a piece of history from my own family,” Erik said. “It’s just encouraging for me as someone who’s buried a son and lost a child. There’s not a whole lot of people who share that experience of a relative, of a great-grandmother. There’s a part of me that resonates with her life.

“I feel more than a blood connection to her. I feel a kinship in that we’ve both suffered a sorrow that many people never do and never want for sure.”

Erik’s son Kaleb battled lifelong health issues that began when doctors accidentally took his good kidney along with a kidney covered in cysts when he was two months old. Kaleb attended school, played and enjoyed games as kids do, but also endured several hospitalizations a year, crippling complications from fungal meningitis and a stroke before succumbing on Dec. 1, 2019.

Erik’s family, including daughters Kaleigh Grace and Kyra Piper, still deals with the loss, which he mentioned in a Nov. 22 Facebook post.

“It’s that time of the year for my family, where the shadow creeps in and the lingering presence of Kaleb’s death weighs heaviest,” Erik wrote. “The cold weather almost triggers the emotions. It’s wild how things imprint on our souls when we experience loss.”

Keeping a record of one’s faith can be an important legacy, Erik said, and we never know who will see such writings.

“I’m reading the words of a mother who is grieving, but I’m reading them now, and she’s not grieving any longer. She’s with the Lord, and she’s with her daughter, and the hope that we have in Christ, the promises we have in God’s Word, she has seen the fulfillment of those promises,” he said. “So now I can read them and remember the same. These sorrows will pass.

“There will come a day where to live is Christ, but to die is gain.”

This article originally appeared at Baptist Press.

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