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When Discipling Children Remember the 3 “Be’s”

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If you teach children, whether as a Sunday School teacher or a small group leader, you are a spiritual influence in the life of a child be it good or bad.

First, you should know that this makes you a hero in my book and to many others as well.

“If I could relive my life, I would devote my entire ministry to reaching children for God!” — Dwight L. Moody

You have the potential to influence the next generation to follow Christ, and while it is not all on us to do (thank God), you do bear some responsibility.

Use the following “Be” statements to get in the right mindset to serve the children in your church.

Be Prompt
We live in a rush-around-always-behind world, but being on time when you promise to serve in any volunteer position is essential. Even more so when it comes to serving children. I’ll tell you why.

When parents show up to your ministry area, and you are late, it makes them uncomfortable. They may not say as much, but they feel it.

Your tardiness makes your ministry feel unsafe. It makes parents think their children are not important to your church. It also stresses out your ministry leader.

Being late once in a while is life. No worries. Being late habitually makes you look like you do not care.

Be Prepared
When you have a lesson to teach, take some time during your week to familiarize yourself with it.

Your lesson, whether it is a curriculum from a publisher or written by someone in your church, is the product of prayer, thought and study. You honor that effort by putting in your own effort to present it as it was intended.

Skimming the lesson five minutes before the service starts does not prepare you to teach well. Even if you are a skilled teacher, you don’t know the nuances of every lesson.
More importantly, the time you spend skimming and cramming in the back of the room or in a hallway would be better spent connecting with the children, their parents and your fellow volunteers.

Most lessons are only a few pages long, so take a half hour during the week to study and pray over the lesson. This will make your teaching more effective and your service less stressful.

Be Present
Being prompt and prepared sets you up well for this last one. You cannot put a price on your influence in the life of a child. That is why making sure you are fully present in the moment is so important.

If the child has some news, like “I scored a goal in my soccer game” or “ I read about Jonah, it was really scary,” that is an opportunity for you to celebrate and encourage the child.

Get down on the child’s level, take a moment to look them in the eye. Ask them follow-up questions, such as what they learned from the story or how it felt to score that goal. Tell them how proud of them you are for spending time reading God’s word.

Be prompt, be prepared and be present, and watch God use you to make a difference in the life of the children.

This article originally appeared here.

Dealing With Doubts in College (and Beyond)

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A Disciple’s Hesitation
It happened. It was done. Finished. Complete. Fulfilled. The proof had been on display with eyewitness accounts for more than 40 days (Acts 1:3). Forty days! That’s longer than a month. That’s longer than Christmas break.

Jesus’ closest friends had seen him repeatedly after the resurrection. They knew he’d been crucified, yet there he was again—alive. Put yourself in their sandals for a minute or two. Can you imagine seeing him again? You might have hugged him, shared a meal with him, laughed with him, cried with him, and heard him retell stories of events you’d seen firsthand. “Remember that storm on the lake?” he would say. “Remember the faith of Peter?”

As he spoke, you couldn’t stop staring at him. As he served you the bread on the beach (John 21:13), you couldn’t help staring at the holes in his hands. He was walking among you again. There was no reason for you to doubt the tomb was empty and Jesus was alive.

But according to Matthew, some of those closest to Jesus did doubt. Listen to his account of one of the final commissioning speeches from Jesus to his disciples:

Then the 11 disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go. When they saw him, they worshipped him; but some doubted. (Matthew 28:16-17)

Remember, this isn’t the first time the disciples spent time with Jesus after he rose from the dead; they’d been with him before. One time it was with a crowd of 500 (1 Corinthians 15:6)! Yet Matthew tells us some doubted. Some doubted? Why? How? These men and women had been with Jesus off and on for over 40 days. Yet they still had this place deep inside that questioned, that wondered, “Could all this be true? Is Jesus really alive in front of me? Is Jesus really the Messiah?”

And what about Thomas? He’s mainly known as a doubter—a bummer of a description to have written on his tombstone. But his first reaction to hearing the news that the other disciples had seen Jesus alive was, “No way! I’ve got to see it myself.” Nothing happened for a week. A week! Thomas might’ve laid awake thinking about it every night of the week, his doubts growing deeper each dark minute.

Then, a week later, Jesus appears to the disciples again—and this time Thomas was there (John 20:24-29). Jesus set up a personal worship experience with him. I can imagine Jesus telling Thomas something like, “Tom, come over here and put your fingers in the holes in my hands. Put your fingers in my side. Feel that? That’s from the spikes and spear. What do you think, Tom?” John tells us that doubting Thomas responded, “My Lord and my God!”

Do you think Thomas ever doubted again? We don’t really know. Maybe he did. But on that day he understood the true identity of Jesus.

What to Do With Doubts
Doubts about spiritual things come in all shapes and sizes. There are big doubts that plague all of us and hang around for a while. There are smaller doubts that quickly come and go. I can imagine sometimes when you’ve prayed you’ve felt like the prayers just bounced off the ceiling. I know I’ve had that feeling. You might be questioning if you’re heading to the right college or landing the right job. Maybe you’re wondering why that terrible tragedy happened or questioning whether God even cares about the details of your life.

Doubts make their way in. You can do your best to ignore them and get past them, but they keep knocking at the door of your heart. As a believer in Jesus, you might think, I’m not supposed to doubt, right? You might feel like others look to you for answers, but you’re filled with questions of your own. You begin to beat yourself up with guilt. What’s wrong with me? Why do I doubt God? I’m a believer. What will my friends and family think of me?

If you’re struggling with doubt, I’d encourage you to relax. Take a deep breath. Doubts are a normal part of the journey with Jesus, and they’re especially common in times of transition. As you journey out the door, customizing your life into all that God would have it become, you’ll face doubts. But your identity is in Christ, and placing your faith in him will help you work through those doubts.

Remember: Doubt is not the opposite of belief. The opposite of belief is unbelief. Authentic faith says, “I doubt like the rest, and I’ll be honest with my feelings.” I think the disciples were honest about their doubts, and Jesus helped them along as they kept following him. Maybe he had to hang around for 40 days after the resurrection just so they’d be convinced he was alive! The key is to stay true to your deep belief in God and follow Jesus wholeheartedly, even when doubts creep in. Don’t run away from God when you doubt; use it as an opportunity to get closer to Jesus like Thomas did. Get close enough to touch his hands and side.

Next page: 4 steps for dealing with the doubt

A Three-Legged Stool for Extraordinary Prayer

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Recently, I was privileged to lead a two-day prayer summit for some key denominational leaders at a Colorado retreat center. While these men collectively oversee thousands of churches that reach millions of believers across the globe, none had ever participated in a non-agenda, multi-day, community experience of Scripture-fed, Spirit-led, worship-based prayer.

In summary, the days we shared were personally transformational, collectively unifying and missionally clarifying. As we reflected on the impact of those two short days, three key ingredients seemed absolutely core to this powerful experience. We also recognized that the world, the flesh and the devil oppose each of these essential commitments. But without a resolute commitment of 1) Time, 2) Attention and 3) Community, our efforts to learn to pray in life-transforming ways will always fall short. You could call these elements the three legs of a stool, with the stool being an extraordinary life of prayer.

The Commitment of Time

In his classic book Spiritual Leadership, J. Oswald Sanders notes, “Mastering the art of prayer, like any other art, will take time, and the amount of time we allocate to it will be the true measure of our conception of its importance. To most, crowding duties are a reason for curtailing time spent in prayer.”[I]

The New Testament model is compelling. Certainly, Jesus’ prayer life serves as an inspiration. We see Him committing 40 days with the Father prior to beginning His ministry (Matthew 4:2), praying all night before choosing the disciples (Luke 6:12), often praying alone (Mark 1:35; Luke 5:16) and with His disciples (Luke 11:1, 9:28). The early church was launched out of 10 days of prayer, but too often we launch our day with less than 10 minutes in communion with God. Paul noted at the outset of many of his letters that he (and his companions) prayed “always” for the churches.

If we are sincerely committed to make prayer important and influential in our lives, we must give concentrated and consistent time to this vital engagement with God. The prayer summit experience with these leaders was powerful because we were able to devote two days out of our very busy schedules to make it a priority.

The Commitment of Attention

I’ve heard Jim Cymbala say many times, “The main thing God asks for is our attention.” But today, our prayer lives suffer from Spiritual Attention Deficit Disorder. SADD indeed. In a world of sound bites, 30-second commercials, 15-second spots and non-stop social media notifications, our brains are being remapped to expect rapid fire stimulation. Extended times of intense concentration and focus are becoming an endangered species.

Today our time with God suffers from relentless exterior interruption and interior wandering. The devil is incessantly launching weapons of mass distraction upon our lives. The resolve of David, “For God alone my soul waits in silence” (Psalm 62:1), seems unattainable for our pressured and preoccupied souls.

What made our days in prayer at our retreat center so rich was the opportunity to shut down technology, slow our pace, detox our souls, and give God our extended and united attention.

The Commitment to Community

Every time I enjoy these experiences of extraordinary corporate prayer, I am reminded that transformation is not just something that occurs in private. It is also fueled by praying in community with others.

The church was birthed in a 10-day prayer meeting (Acts 1:14, 2:1). They coped with crisis and persecution together on their knees (Acts 4:24-31). As the church grew, the apostles refused to become embroiled in administrative problems because of their resolute desire to model prayer in their leadership team (Acts 6:4). Through united prayer, they trusted God for miraculous, divine interventions in times of extreme trouble (Acts 12:5-12). They received ministry direction through intense seasons of worshipful prayer (Acts 13:1 & 2).

If you were then to ask, “Which is more important—private prayer or corporate prayer?” my answer will always be, “Yes!” It is like asking which leg is more crucial to walking. The right or the left?

In our Western culture, we have come to believe that it is more important to pray alone than with others. This is a symptom of our basic view of society. In his book The Connecting Church, Randy Frazee describes our culture of “individualism.” He notes that we are no longer born into a culture of community but a “way of life that makes the individual supreme or sovereign over everything.”[ii] Frazee documents this as a problem, especially for those born after World War II. He laments the impact on the church by observing that we have “all too often mirrored the culture by making Christianity an individual sport.”[iii]

Michael Griffiths reiterates this consideration when he writes, “In standard English, the second person singular ‘you’ and the second person plural ‘you’ are identical. Thus, New Testament Letters addressed to congregations are read (by us) as though they were addressed to the individuals. It is good and right that we should apply the Scriptures to ourselves personally, but it is unfortunate if we also apply the Scriptures individualistically and ignore the fact that the original intention was to instruct us not so much as individuals, but as whole communities of Christian people.”[iv]

To Live on Mission Will Never Fit Into Your Schedule. Try It Anyway.

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As we talk with and coach leaders in missional living, one of the main hindrances is busyness. How can I live on mission when I’m already so busy? Can I really fit it into my schedule? Maybe it will be easier when things are less busy.

But the truth is mission will never fit into your schedule. The key is learning to live your whole life as mission, and seeing where that takes you, and how it shapes your schedule.

When a friend went missing

For weeks I had been hearing, “Mom, Yosselin was sick today. She wasn’t at school again. Do you think something’s wrong with her?”

Yosselin Randall was the little girl my then six-year-old sat next to in first grade. The truth is while I was concerned about her classmate, I didn’t know Yosselin, I wasn’t sure if something was wrong, and to be honest, I didn’t have time to figure it out.

The next morning as Ella again shared concern for her friend, the Holy Spirit stopped me dead in my tracks. “I’m speaking to your daughter. Her concern is from me.”

A devastating diagnosis

A week later we sat around Yosselin’s kitchen table as her grandparents told us she had stage four osteosarcoma, a type of bone cancer. The diagnosis was quick and the treatment and surgeries would be even quicker. This beautiful little girl now faced a year of chemotherapy, radiation and multiple surgeries.

The Randall family had been hit hard. In addition to the cancer diagnosis, recent flood damage had ripped apart the foundation of their small home. They were living in less than ideal quarters, working on renovations to fix the holes in the floor and ceiling from all the damage when the cancer diagnosis was delivered.

Responding to an invitation

After listening to their story and praying over their future, we left brokenhearted, feeling heavier than we had ever felt. That night I tossed and turned trying to get the day’s events out of my mind. Then God spoke to me very clearly: Somehow I knew He wanted us to build this family a new house.

I tried to ignore it and do my best to return to life as normal. But I just couldn’t shake it. I had no idea know how to build a house, but I knew God didn’t want them to fight this battle in a broken home.

For the next 10 months, we put all we had into the invitation we sensed God was giving us. My girls made bracelets to sell, raffled off tickets at football games, went to countless meetings with us, and played on the floor while we poured over details.

People showed up out of nowhere, everyone pitching in and playing a part. Our family and friends did so much, and in our effort, God met us and did more than we could imagine. In the end, we were able to hand the Randall family a key to a brand new, completely furnished, fully paid for, handicap accessible home.

Already busy enough

At the time this happened, my life was over-scheduled. I was too busy doing “really good things” to take time to notice the God things already happening around me.

I don’t remember all I gave up by stepping aside and pausing. It pales in comparison to all we’ve gained.

Mission will do that to you. It will draw you in so you can contribute, but it sends you out having been contributed to.

Jesus said it himself, “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35).

3 steps towards change

Everyone’s life is busy these days. It seems like it’s just part of living in our culture nowadays. Here are a few things I’ve learned from our experience that have helped me continue to live on mission in the midst of a busy life:

1. Be a noticer

One of the core axioms we talk about in our coaching is that God is always present and at work, which means we always have an open invitation to join him.

It’s easy to get so wrapped up in the busyness of our schedules we forget to even notice what’s going on around us. Many times, the Bible says that Jesus paused and noticed someone or something. Some of His best work was done on His busiest days.

Noticing God at work is a muscle we develop as we use it. Before you walk into a store, a meeting or a restaurant—pause and ask God to help you notice where He’s working.

2. Turn aside

When God called to Moses from the burning bush it says Moses turned aside (Exodus 3:3). It was in turning aside to observe what he noticed that God then gave Moses his new assignment.

There are times I notice something and still don’t do anything with it. Sometimes it’s because of the many details in my head, other times I’m distracted by my kids arguing and, to be really honest, it is frequently the intimidation of not knowing what He might ask me to do.

But Moses was scared, too. In fact, He tried to talk God out of using Him, but I doubt at the end he looked back on his journey and wished he hadn’t turned aside to listen.

3. Join in

God is always inviting us to say “yes.” Our willingness paves the way to bigger things. Obedience is the key to opening the Kingdom of heaven.

The more we do say yes the more we become comfortable doing it. Find a small way to join in and say yes today. Notice what God might be doing and respond to Him. Join in and then see what happens!

Popping the bubble of busy

I don’t regret that our family invested 10 months of our lives to partner with God on mission for Yosselin’s family. I’m not sad we put some things on hold as we witnessed miracle after miracle. I’m not sad my girls got to experience a move of God that will forever change the way they believe.

I’m not sad my husband and I came together and popped the bubble of busy so we could be free to respond in a life-changing way. We paused our overbooked, ministry filled life and God gave us a taste of His under-utilized, but always overflowing power.

Mission will never fit into your schedule. It just won’t. But I’m telling you, do it anyway because it will change your life. Do it because there are families like Yosselin’s who have every reason to give up hope and who need to see a move of God.

And do it because there are families like yours who need to encounter the miraculous side of Him. Do it when the steps feel big and especially do it when the steps feel small because it’s often one step at a time that God builds a story.

Oh yeah, and about Yosselin…this year she is five years cancer free!

This article originally appeared here.

Christians Have Been Practicing Mindfulness for Centuries

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Practicing mindfulness is a big deal in today’s culture. Businesses such as Apple, sports figures such as basketball player Kobe Bryant, and the popular press such as Time magazine have all given it their stamp of approval. Governments are spending hundreds of millions of dollars researching it[1] and it has become a billion dollar a year business[2] In fact, Apple chose a mindfulness app as their app of the year for 2017.[3] But, should Christians embrace it? Yes, because mindfulness in the Christian tradition has support in Scripture and church history. It’s a lost spiritual discipline that believers should reclaim. I define mindfulness for the Christian with these two words: Holy Noticing. Holy noticing is noticing with a holy purpose, God and His handiwork, our relationships, and our inner world of thoughts and feelings.

Although mindfulness is no panacea that solves every problem, neuroscientific research continues to uncover many practical benefits. Here are the top 10 benefits of mindfulness, holy noticing, for the Christian.

1. Practicing mindfulness helps us avoid spiritual forgetting.

In the book of Psalms, the psalmist records what often happens to us in our walk with God: Our mental chatter and the stories we tell ourselves often leads us to forget God, what He has done, and what He is doing, at least temporarily. 

Mindfulness, however, can help us counter our tendency to spiritually forget God. It helps interrupt our thought stream that often gets hooked on unhealthy regrets and ruminations about the past, misrepresentations about the present, and worries about the future. It helps us spiritually remember by calming our brain’s fear centers while simultaneously engaging our thinking centers so that we can think more clearly and biblically. 

2. Practicing mindfulness enhances our mental health.

Neuroscientists have discovered specific brain processes involved in mindfulness. It helps keep negative emotions from running unchecked[4] and helps us avoid wrong assumptions and incorrect thought patterns.[5] It gives us greater awareness of our internal body sensations[6] which can cue unhealthy, unconscious thinking patterns. And it helps us ‘think about our thinking’ which make us consciously aware of unhealthy and sinful thinking.[7] We might call this mental reflection the Apostle Paul wrote about in Philippians 4.8.

As a result, this way of life helps us more consistently act upon truth since we have the mind of Christ (2 Cor 10.5, NIV). We think more biblically as we put into our working memory (also called short term memory) more truth (Phil 4.8). We become more present in the moment for God and others. And we less often ruminate over negative thoughts.

3. Practicing mindfulness increases our happiness by changing our interior landscape.

We are the product of both nature and nurture. That is, we inherited certain genetic traits from our parents’ genes (nature) and how they raised us also fashions who we are (nurture). Just as we received certain physical traits from our parents, we also inherited some of their mental and emotional natures. And genetics influences our happiness.

Psychologist Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky’s research[8] indicates that 50 percent of individual differences in happiness are determined by genes, 10 percent by life circumstances, and 40 percent by our intentional activities. So, 40 percent gives us significant latitude in how we can shape our happiness with God’s help. Mindfulness can help make a difference with that 40 percent. 

A mindful lifestyle enhances the brain’s ability to rewire itself through experience, thoughts, and behavior. It’s called neuroplasticity. That is, the brain is more like pliable putty than rigid porcelain. What we think about and do changes our brain. When mindfulness affects neuroplasticity it’s like an electrician running new wiring to bring a house up to code. 

4. Practicing mindfulness helps us live more as human ‘beings’ rather than human ‘doings.’

God created us with incredible minds that allow us to solve intricate problems. But sometimes our problem-solving mode does not serve us well. When we face emotional pain and stressful thoughts, we try to solve these problems. Why do I feel this way? Where did these thoughts and feelings come from? What can I do to make them go away? 

This problem-solving mode is called the doing mode. The doing mode tricks us to believe that productivity, speed and efficiency are ultimate goals in life. When we stay in our doing mode, it is like being on autopilot all the time. We act with little clear thinking.

Our being mode gives us a new perspective that frees us from overthinking, mentally reacting and allowing afflictive emotions or thoughts to snowball. In the being mode we actually stay closer to Truth, which in turn frees us. Jesus said in John 8.32 that when we know the truth, it sets us free. Knowing the truth in Jesus and knowing the truth about the present moment does indeed set us free. And mindfulness helps us ‘be’ in the moment more often.

5. Practicing mindfulness helps us learn to live in the valleys of life with more peace.

Researchers have categorized mindfulness as either a trait (a lifestyle, habit or disposition stable over time)[9] or a state (temporary and may be induced by our current situation). As you grow in your ability to make mindfulness more of a trait in your life, you will more often bring an awareness of God’s presence to your mind, heart and activities, a posture Paul describes as praying without ceasing (1 Thes 5.17, NIV).

Devotional writer Oswald Chambers illustrates this state versus trait idea when he writes about mountain top experiences versus living in the valley. He says that we are made for living in the valleys of life not in the mountain top experiences, even though we may want to live there.[10] He writes, “It is in the valley that we have to live for the glory of God. We see His glory on the mountain, but we never live for His glory there.[11]

Church Audio Tech: “Is This Thing On?”

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While today’s church audio technology allows for tremendous potential it also can present tremendous problems. Simple systems that always worked now need a bit more skill and dedication to keep operating. Sound is a vital aspect of any church ministry. Whether large or small, the ability to hear in whatever presentation venue you use is one of the core components of what churches do week in and week out. Auditoriums are designed around the ability for those sitting in them to see and hear. This month we are focused on hearing. (In the December issue we will focus on seeing.)

The technology that goes into hearing continues to grow in complexity. Gone are the days of a simple signal path from a microphone, to a mixer, to an amplifier, to a speaker. Today’s Sound is digital, zipping across IP networks as data — not analog sound waves.

These days, churches can’t rely exclusively on in-house sound volunteers. Experts are needed to make sure today’s complex systems are used well and without distraction. After all, the goal for a sound system should be “never be noticed.” No one should know it’s even there, but frequently it becomes an obvious distraction due to poor implementation. Sound is cool until it doesn’t work: during a church service — on a Sunday morning.

Another buzzword you hear thrown around a lot in tech and audio/visual circles is “convergence.” This is using network resources for audio/visual purposes. The concept is great, instead of buying one network switch for data and one network switch for sound, you use the same network switch for both. This saves money and it is supposed to provide the same level of reliability. Often times — again due to poor implementation — it doesn’t. This leads to churches spending twice what they need to. (Did I mention this gets complicated?)

The complexity of audio systems can also increase relational tension that already exists on both sides of the microphone. If the ministry teams on both sides of the mic aren’t working seamlessly, then high-tech sound only makes communication between people worse.

Don’t let complexity become the enemy of accomplishment. Determine what you need to accomplish your mission and then ensure your technology helps you to deliver the desired result. If your technology requires additional staff, either get the staff or use simpler technology. If your technology frustrates your teams, consider additional team training, or simpler technology. Don’t let the complexity drive you: the ministry and mission should drive the complexity.

Remember, on the Day of Pentecost thousands were saved without any sound systems, lighting, haze, projection, effects generators, converged audio systems, translation systems, or even electricity. They had the power of the Holy Spirit — and we do [too].

 

Jonathan Smith is the Director of Technology at Faith Ministries in Lafayette, IN. You can reach Jonathan at jsmith@faithlafayette.org and follow him on Twitter @JonathanESmith.

A Human Chain and People Praying in the Streets: The Notre Dame Fire

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People attend a vigil in Paris, Tuesday April 16, 2019. Firefighters declared success Tuesday in a more than 12-hour battle to extinguish an inferno engulfing Paris' iconic Notre Dame cathedral that claimed its spire and roof, but spared its bell towers and the purported Crown of Christ. (AP Photo/Kamil Zihnioglu)

Parisians knelt in the street yesterday, praying and singing as hundreds of firefighters struggled to save the iconic Notre Dame cathedral. The fire has since been extinguished, and officials are investigating its cause. Even though the spire of Notre Dame collapsed, the main structure has been saved, in addition to many of the cathedral’s relics.

“Notre Dame of Paris is our history, our literature, our imagination. The place where we survived epidemics, wars, liberation,” said French President Emmanuel Macron. “It has been the epicenter of our lives.” Macron cancelled his plans of addressing the French people that evening in order to be at the scene of the burning cathedral. While there, he promised to rebuild Notre Dame and to launch a fundraising campaign for that purpose.

What Happened

Fire alarms went off around 6:30 Monday evening while 1,000 to 2,000 people were attending mass at Notre Dame. Everyone got out safely, and no deaths have been reported. The only injury reported so far has been from a firefighter at the scene. Macron praised the “extreme courage” of the firefighters, who had an uphill battle trying to subdue flames consuming an 850-year-old building made of timber and lacking modern fire safety systems. At this time, officials believe that the fire did not start as a result of arson or terrorisim, but was an accident related to the renovations that Notre Dame had been undergoing.

Tragedy Strikes a Global Landmark

Immortalized in Victor Hugo’s The Hunchback of Notre Dame, more than 13 million people visit the cathedral every year, according to USA Today. Parisians are grieved at the near loss of what is both a significant religious and cultural landmark. There have been many videos posted online of people standing or kneeling and watching the blaze while singing “Ave Maria.”

Some cried and hugged each other. One American tourist who was present at the incident said, “It’s the saddest thing I’ve ever witnessed—the crowd standing there, a lot of people crying. It was just a horrible tragedy.”

Thankfully, first responders were able to save not only the building’s structure but also several notable works of art, including Notre Dame’s famous “rose windows.” Other salvaged relics include the Crown of Thorns that some believe Jesus wore at the time of His crucifixion, the Tunic of Saint Louis, and a series of paintings called the “Mays de Notre Dame.” One reason so many relics did escape is that people at the scene made a human chain in order to rescue them. The facade of the building, its twin bell towers, and the Great Organ also survived. The fate of other many other artifacts, however, remains unknown.

The fundraising campaign to rebuild the cathedral is underway as promised, and USA Today reports that over $675 million has already been raised. Those who have contributed so far include French billionaire François-Henri Pinault, who is married to actress Salma Hayek, and French cosmetics company, L’Oreal. Apple CEO Tim Cook has promised that Apple will contribute to the rebuilding, but has not yet specified how much.

Paris’ deputy bishop, Thibault Verny, told USA Today that while what has happened is sorrowful, it is also an opportunity for people in the country to support one another. Said Verny, “On (Easter) Sunday we will celebrate the resurrection. My message will be one of hope and that we need to push ahead.”

Did Jesus Actually Rise From the Dead? Majority UK Christians Not Sure

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A new poll conducted by the British Broadcasting Corporation suggests that a majority of those who consider themselves Christians in the United Kingdom are not convinced Jesus physically died and rose from the dead.

“Fewer than half of Christians in the UK think Jesus actually died and rose again for the forgiveness of their sins,” BBC Sunday host William Crawley summarized.

More than 2,000 British adults were polled in an online quiz between March 4 and 5. Only 46 percent of Christians believe a “key tenent of the Christian faith,” which is that Jesus physically died and physically rose again as the Bible describes it.

To give some perspective, only 26 percent of the general population of the UK believes Jesus actually died and rose again from the dead. However, the poll also found that the majority of those who attend church at least once a month do believe in the physical resurrection (82 percent).

How Much of the Easter Story Does One Have to Believe to Be Christian?

The poll raises a very pertinent question as the world celebrates Holy Week. The way the BBC phrased it is, “how much of the Easter story” does one have to believe to be a Christian? Another way we may frame this question is to ask: Do you have to believe what the Gospels say word-for-word in order to be a Christian?

This is not a new question for the church. Some more progressive Christians such as Adam Hamilton have discussed in detail whether to take Scripture literally. While he concerns his thoughts mostly on how we ought to view homosexuality in light of Scripture, the essence of his statements on biblical interpretation relates to this discussion as well. 

Anglican Priest Dave Tomlinson told the BBC the reason a lot of people don’t believe in a physical death and resurrection of Jesus is that it “just doesn’t make sense.” The idea that it took Jesus’ brutal death on the cross to bring all of humanity back to God “makes God out to be some kind of weird monster, really,” Tomlinson says. He pointed to the fact that many believers are struggling with this idea, including a growing number in the evangelical tradition.

The idea that we may have misinterpreted the necessity of and meaning behind Jesus’ death is precisely what Brian Zahnd spent the better part of an interview discussing with us on our podcast.

Is This an Issue of Belief Vs. Faith?

So can one be a Christian and question whether Jesus actually died and rose again? This is a question the BBC posed to two subject matter experts. Lorraine Cavanaugh, a theologian and Anglican priest representing the view that one can be a Christian without believing in a physical death and resurrection, and Jo Frost, Director of communications for Evangelical Alliance representing the view that belief in a physical resurrection is integral to the Christian faith, joined the conversation.

Cavanuagh’s argument took the tactic that there is a difference between belief and faith. Many people aren’t thinking in terms of belief, instead they’re looking for something “much deeper and more complex, which we might possibly call faith,” Cavanaugh suggests. Faith, in contrast to belief, has to do with “encountering the crucified Lord.” To Cavanaugh, being a Christian is not so much signing off on a statement of belief as much as having an encounter with Jesus which elicits faith.

Is This an Issue of Biblical Literacy (or Lack Thereof)?

Frost, on the other hand, believes this poll suggests a problem with biblical illiteracy. She points to the fact that the poll showed that the majority of those who attend church at least once a month do believe in the physical resurrection.

When pressed on why does “someone have to be tortured and die on a cross in order for God to express love and forgiveness,” Frost responded by pointing to a Bible verse. Referring to Revelation 13:8, Frost implies that God showed compassion and mercy on us by anticipating and making a way for Jesus’ sacrifice even before the foundation of the world.

Still, some may struggle with the historical evidence for Jesus’ death and resurrection, a question which author Lee Strobel took upon himself to answer. Strobel, who used to work as a journalist for the Chicago Tribune, found “an avalanche of historical data” to support belief in the physical death and resurrection of Jesus. Be sure to check out the evidence he found.

We’d love to hear what you think about this discussion in the comments below.

Love Actuarially

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Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
— 1 Corinthians 13:7

Love is fulfillment by way of emptiness. It would not seem to work that way. This is why nearly every worldly notion of love—and even some churchy notions of love—try to get at the fulfillment by way of filling. We want our eyes filled with sex, our ears filled with platitudes, our bellies filled with morsels, our minds filled with daydreams.

Love Actuarially

And then there is the way of Jesus. The Lord of the Universe who, not desiring to exploit his deity, empties himself. Obeys even in the personal famine of the desert. Commits even in the darkness of the garden. Serves even in his final hours. Even washes the feet of those who, if they knew better, should be hugging his neck! And he loves all the way to the cross. He loves all the way from his heart to the splattered ground beneath his pierced feet.

You and I? We would be running the numbers way back. We would see how big the mountain was, how insurmountable the task promised to be. We would compare the pain of love against the relative worthiness of the ones to be loved and think, This is not a favorable scenario. The odds are stacked against us. To love anyone that much hardly seems worth it. I mean, we’d inconvenience ourselves a little, maybe a lot for someone who really deserves it. But die to ourselves? Take up our cross? The risks outweigh the benefits. That kind of love is a liability. Or so it seems to the mind set on self-fulfillment, on the screenplayed romance of “you complete me”-ology.

For the joy that was set before him, he endured the cross, despising its shame (Heb. 12:2). True love isn’t “running the numbers” love, but “counting the cost” love.

Christian, the Lord knows you are not an asset to the organization. He knows what a tangled-up knot of anxiety, incompetence and faithlessness you are. He knows exactly what a big fat sinner you are. He knew exactly what he was getting into. Eyes wide open, and arms too, he comes to embrace you. He’s not playing the angles, calculating the risks, hedging his bets. Nothing is a risk to the Lord who sovereingly upholds the universe, anyway.

He emptied out to go “all in” on you.

That’s what love looks like. Love believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Anything less is less than love. Any grace meted out based on one’s worthiness of it is not grace at all (Rom. 11:6). Christ does not love actuarially. He actually loves. Believe it.

This article originally appeared here.

Small Groups: What’s the Point?

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Small Groups: What’s the Point?

Over the last 25 years as a writer, editor, trainer and consultant about all things small groups, and I’ve come across many different motivations for doing small groups. Some of the primary reasons provided for doing small groups include:

Church Growth. Small group ministry is a key ingredient to growing a church. All of the largest churches in the world have some form of small group structure.

Closing the “Back Door” of the Church. Small groups are used as a way to connect people who attend on Sundays. This seems to be the prominent goal of most small group resources that are on the market.

Evangelism. Statistics have proven over and over again that most people are led to the Lord through relationships with either a friend or a family member. Small group evangelism is dependent upon friendship connections with the lost.

Church Health. Research on church health factors has revealed that small groups have the most impact on church quality. In fact, all of the healthiest churches around the world have developed effective small group systems.

Personal Growth. People grow in their relationship with God when they have the opportunity to process what they are learning with other people. Small groups provide the environment for this kind of processing.

Biblical Model. Ardent advocates of small groups adopt this approach to ministry because they want to return to the way of doing church demonstrated in the New Testament.

Going “Missional”. Now groups—both small and mid-size strategies—are being adopted because pastors want to move their church in a “missional” direction.

All of these reasons for doing small groups are valid at some level. Most pastors like these reasons because they are very practical in nature. Each reason points to tangible results that small groups can offer. However, none of these reasons actually deals with the real issue that we face as leaders. Each one pointed to the church itself; improving the church was the end game.

I’ve found that the reason we do small groups also becomes our focus, that upon which we place our primary attention.

We need to make sure that our reason to do small groups—and therefore our focus—lines up with Jesus’ agenda. To discover this, I had to look beyond the church itself and discover the bigger intention of God. The first words of Jesus recorded by Mark are, “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand; repent and believe in the gospel” (Mark 1:14, NRSV). Jesus came preaching the kingdom of God, something much bigger than the structures of the church that would follow his ascension. He pointed to something that extended beyond the realm of the religious struc- tures. He came preaching the kingdom of God, calling people to align their lives with the good news of the kingdom. The kingdom comes first in the order of God, not the church or small groups.

Jesus instructed us, “Seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added to you” (Matt. 6:33). I often find church leaders seeking first the development of their church through a small group structure. They seek church growth, closing the back door, evangelism, church health, personal growth, a biblical model, and missional strategies. All good things, but the good is often the enemy of the best. Many times, the good results that we seek stand in the way of the kingdom of God. Jesus says that if we seek the kingdom, he will take care of all our concerns. This means that he will take care of the concerns of church leaders: growth, evangelism, health, interpersonal con- nections, personal growth, and being a biblical church.

In a dialogue with a prominent church growth consultant about prioritizing the kingdom of God in my teaching on small groups and church leadership, he expressed that the goal of seeking the kingdom was too idealistic. He commented that we just need to know what to do. We seem to assume that we already have a good theology of the kingdom and all we need are practical strategies that will produce results. After all, don’t we seek the kingdom through things like church growth, evangelism, and the like. If we develop small groups that close the back door, aren’t we seeking the kingdom?

Maybe.

But maybe not.

I don’t think it wise to assume that we know how to connect the dots between our theology of the kingdom and our small group practices. And if we jump straight to pragmatic approaches for building small groups that get results (numbers) then we must question if we are building groups on the right foundation. So in this light, let me propose a few things that the kingdom means for us as we develop groups:

  1. The kingdom is about life, the way we live, not just about the way we do church. The two are not mutually exclusive, but if we focus on church first, then we may actually be working against “abundant life.” What does it mean to develop groups that promote life and not just a small groups program?
  2. The kingdom is about the restoration of all things, not just about advancement of the church or the building of great small groups. Again, the two are not mutually exclusive, but if we start with church, then we may actually be building the church in a way that competes with the restoration of all things. What does it mean to focus on the restoration of all things when we are responsible for the development of a small group system?
  3. The kingdom is about the ways of the King—the non-violent, cross-dying Messiah. What does this have to do with the way we develop groups?
  4. The way of the King in this kingdom is the way of the Spirit. Jesus said, “I will build my church.” This means that God is active in the building of the church.

What does this mean for your small groups?  

94 Abortion Workers Respond to ‘Censored’ Unplanned Movie

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Despite what one of its creators calls a “sharpshooting” campaign against it, a newly released pro-life film continues to outperform expectations and change lives. Chuck Konzelman, co-writer and co-director of Unplanned, told a Senate subcommittee last week that his film was unfairly targeted in an effort to limit its impact.

Unplanned tells the story of Abby Johnson, a Planned Parenthood clinic director who became a pro-life advocate. Her nonprofit organization, And Then There Were None, helps abortion workers leave the industry.

On April 10, Konzelman told the Senate Judiciary Committee’s Subcommittee on the Constitution that 94 abortion workers already have contacted Johnson’s group for help, despite all the ways the movie has been “stymied.”

Was Unplanned Intentionally Censored?

“From the outset, making a pro-life film in a pro-choice town—Los Angeles—we knew we would face a number of challenges,” Konzelman told Congress. For starters, Unplanned was slapped with an R rating, automatically limiting its audience as well as placement of its preview trailers. Pure Flix, the faith-based company that produced Unplanned, had never received an R rating for one of its films.

Marketing was another challenge, Konzelman noted, as most cable networks declined to buy ads for the movie, citing its “sensitive nature.” Producer John Sullivan says, “We were looking to spend money, but they didn’t want to get involved.” Two networks that did accept ads for the film were Fox News and CBN.

The obstacle Konzelman spent the most time addressing on Capitol Hill was the claim of social-media censorship. During the subcommittee hearing, titled “Stifling Free Speech: Technological Censorship and the Public Discourse,” the filmmaker said his movie was unfairly targeted online.

Google Ads, for example, blocked the pre-release banner ads for Unplanned, even though they showed only part of a woman’s face, a teardrop and the phrase “what she saw changed everything.” For its part, Google “cited a policy regarding abortion-related ads,” Konzelman told Congress. “Just one problem: We weren’t doing abortion-related ads. We were marketing a movie.”

He added, “This prohibition was solidly in place for the entire lead-up to our theatrical release,” during the critical time period for building interest and awareness about the movie.

Twitter debacle causes an uproar

Claims of censorship peaked during opening weekend, at the end of March, when Twitter temporarily suspended the film’s account. Early on March 30, the @UnplannedMovie account was suspended for three hours. Konzelman told Congress the reason “has not, to the best of my knowledge, been made clear, beyond being ‘accidental.’”

Earlier at the hearing, Carlos Monje Jr., Twitter’s public policy director, told Senators the movie’s account “was caught in our automated systems used to detect ban evasion.” Ban evasion is a tactic used by previously suspended users who attempt to set up a new account. Monje said the film’s account was restored “as soon as it was brought to our attention that the new account was not intended for similar violative activity.”

The film’s Twitter account had been up for seven months prior to its release, raising suspicions about unfair targeting during opening weekend. “Have you banned this account because it challenges your pro-abortion bias?” tweeted Live Action president Lila Rose, tagging Twitter CEO Jack Dorsey.

When the account was restored, @UnplannedMovie tweeted that the suspension may have happened “because we are moving the needle, making a difference and changing hearts and minds.” A sudden drop in followers also occurred after the Twitter account was reinstated, and some people were unable to follow the account. “Please correct this,” tweeted actress Patricia Heaton, a Christian, to Dorsey.

UK Poised to Restrict Social Media “Likes” for Minors

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The Information Commissioner’s Office (ICO) in the U.K. has just proposed a new “code of practice for online services” aimed at protecting children’s privacy. These rules include banning information society service providers from using “nudge techniques,” which would include “likes” on Facebook and Instagram and “streaks” on Snapchat.

“In an age when children learn how to use a tablet before they can ride a bike, making sure they have the freedom to play, learn and explore in the digital world is of paramount importance,” said Information Commissioner Elizabeth Denham CBE in a statement. “Today we’re setting out the standards expected of those responsible for designing, developing or providing online services likely to be accessed by children, when they process their personal data.”

What Are the Other Regulations?

The ICO is an independent body that reports to Parliament and helps protect people’s information. The prohibition against nudge techniques is merely one of 16 rules the ICO’s new code outlines and expands on, which can be briefly summarized as follows:

  1. The best interests of children should be an ISS developer’s primary concern.
  2. Developers should apply the proposed code in an age-appropriate way.
  3. Developers must be transparent about how they’re using data and explain their methods in a way children can understand.
  4. Developers cannot use data in a way that harms children or goes against “industry codes of practice, other regulatory provisions or Government advice.”
  5. Developers must uphold their own standards.
  6. Unless there’s a good reason for doing otherwise, settings should default to the greatest degree of privacy.
  7. Developers should collect the least possible amount of data.
  8. Developers must not disclose children’s data without good reason.
  9. Geolocating must be turned off by default.
  10. Children should know when someone is monitoring them through parental controls.
  11. Profiling should be turned off by default and only used for children’s protection.
  12. No nudge techniques are allowed, unless they encourage children toward privacy. Nudge techniques include anything that encourages children to spend more time using a service.
  13. Connected toys and devices must comply with the code.
  14. Developers need to provide online tools children can use to protect their data.
  15. Developers must take data protection impact assessments (DPIA) to evaluate how well they’re complying with the code.
  16. Policies must be set that ensure developers follow the code.

The code applies to organizations based in the U.K. and to companies that operate within the U.K while being based outside of it. Failure to comply with these rules could have a number of consequences, including warnings and fines. The most severe penalty for failing to comply with the code is a fine of either 20 million euros or 4 percent of a company’s global revenue, depending on which amount is higher. As the AP points out, for some organizations this could mean shelling out billions of dollars.

Denham says her office is now collecting feedback on the code until May 31st and expects it to go into effect by the end of the year.

Notre Dame on Fire, Spire Collapsed

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Notre Dame, Paris’s historic and most iconic cathedral, is on fire. The cathedral is undergoing renovations at the moment, which some speculate might be related to the cause of the fire.

Firefighters are trying to contain a “terrible fire” according to Paris Mayor Anne Hidalgo.

The Associated Press is reporting the roof at the back of the cathedral, behind the cathedral’s nave, is in flames. Yellowish-brown smoke and ash are filling the air.

The fire has caused French President Emmanuel Macron to cancel his evening plans, which were to address the French people.

The fire will likely affect the Holy Week schedule the cathedral was planning on following.

It is unclear at this time how the fire started or the extent of the damage, although the firefighters working to put out the flames have reason to believe it is “potentially linked” to the renovation project involving the cathedral’s spire. The good news is they do not believe anyone has been killed in the fire. Parisians and visiting tourists are posting images on social media showing the flames in the sky and lamenting the damage to the historic building.

Several people are posting videos of part of the cathedral’s iconic spire collapsing.

Besides being an icon of Gothic architecture, Notre Dame is also home to some Christian relics, including what is believed to be a piece of Jesus’ cross and the Crown of Thorns. While scientific tests to prove the authenticity of the Crown of Thorns and the cross have been inconclusive, scores of Christians and non-Christians flock to the cathedral each year to view them. The relics are taken out for viewing the first Friday of every month and every Friday during Lent.

Despite the general apathy or even outright anger at the Catholic church at the moment, the general mood toward the damage to the cathedral is sadness and concern. More than being seen as a church structure, the cathedral represents Paris and Gothic art. It’s truly a sad sight to see it engulfed in flames.

Irresistible Dialogue: Andy Stanley and J.D. Greear—Part 1

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Background: Over the last couple months, pastor and author J.D. Greear finished writing a review of the new and much-discussed book Irresistible by pastor and author Andy Stanley. Instead of simply hitting the “publish button,” J.D. instead first sent his review to Andy for his feedback and to seek clarification. What follows is a three-part series where Andy and J.D. put on public display their entire back-and-forth exchange, along with J.D.’s full review, in an attempt to model a better way to exchange ideas and even disagree.

J.D. Greear is the pastor of The Summit Church, in Raleigh-Durham, North Carolina. He is currently serving as the 62nd president of the Southern Baptist Convention.

Communicator, author and pastor Andy Stanley is the founder of Atlanta-based North Point Ministries, which today consists of six churches in the Atlanta area and a network of more than 90 churches.

PART 1: INITIAL EXCHANGE AND J.D. GREEAR’S REVIEW

J.D. Greear: Andy, I hope you are good. I finished your Irresistible. Profound, provocative, though in some places disturbing. Of course, I know you’ve heard all that before, ad nauseam, but I have an idea I’d love you to consider if you’re open to it. I am wondering if it might be helpful to have a public conversation about the book between you and me (someone who is very sympathetic to you but is more “orthodox/traditional” and struggling with what you are saying).

Anyway, I know it is a big idea, just bouncing it off of you—either way, I’d love to send my review to you to see if you think I am treating you fairly and representing you correctly. (Could I get an email to send that to?) I think a lot of you, you’ve had a profound impact on me, and your friendship (though I realize we haven’t gone that deep) means a great deal to me, so I don’t want to posture myself as a public critic. We can certainly hash this out over the phone if easier. Thanks, bro.

— J.D.

Andy Stanley: Good to hear from you. I can’t imagine how busy you must be. Your idea is certainly intriguing. First of all, thanks for allowing me to read the review before posting it. You and John Piper are the only two folks who have ever afforded me that opportunity. So, if I understand your idea, you would send a review, I would respond, you would respond to my response, etc.?

JDG: Right…

AS: You got time for that?

JDG: I think your book/message is important enough that it warrants that. You don’t have to decide right now, of course. We could start with you reading the review and go from there.

AS: Sounds good to me! Seriously, thank you.

J.D. Greear’s Review of Andy Stanley’s Irresistible

For the record, I think Andy Stanley is one of the best communicators in America. And I believe he is one of our generation’s most effective evangelists. Recently, I took a group of unchurched people in my neighborhood through his Starting Point, and I don’t think I know of a better resource for engaging people outside the church—whether dechurched or unchurched—with the claims of Christ. It sparked some incredible conversations in our group and ended with two of my unchurched neighbors getting baptized.

So, it was with great anticipation that I picked up his Irresistible: Reclaiming the New that Jesus Unleashed for the World. Like Andy, I am obsessed with deconversion stories. What makes people who grew up in the faith walk away from it? With four children of my own and a church full of 20-somethings, this is personal to me. And like Andy, I believe many, if not most, of these post-Christian de-converts ended up walking away from a version of the faith that never existed to begin with. I am disturbed at how little impact evangelical churches seem to be making, reaching very few outside of our own children—and even doing that more and more sporadically. As Andy asks, why is it that Jesus attracted people who were unlike him and we tend to repel them? What made those early expressions of Christianity so irresistible and ours so anemic, even repulsive?

Andy provides a number of answers to that question, but the most predominant one is this: We need to “unhitch” our faith from the Old Testament. He says:

“Christianity has a compelling, verifiable historical story to tell. But the moment we anchor our story to an old covenant narrative and worldview, we lose our case in the marketplace.” (158)

The Old Testament, he says, proves problematic to modern people on a number of fronts. They stumble over its archaic laws, certain historical and textual problems (the age of the earth, the factuality of certain miracles), and seeming embrace of morally offensive practices like genocide, polygamy and the like. But the writer of Hebrews said the old covenant was obsolete, so why do we present it as essential to our faith? Andy says that when we employ Old Testament stories and laws to compel behavior, we make someone’s faith conditional on their acceptance of the inerrancy of the Old Testament. In so doing, we distract them from Christianity’s most compelling claim: Jesus’ resurrection from the dead.

Andy is, of course, partially right, and where he is, he is profoundly so. I found his explanation of how Christ has released believers from the old covenant to be poignant, and in some places, even breathtaking. He tells us that if we put ourselves under certain of the laws in the old covenant, we are obligating ourselves to all of them (166). One can’t help but hear in this the powerful voice of the great Reformer, Martin Luther:

“Some would like to subjugate us to certain parts of the Mosaic law. But this is not to be permitted under any circumstances. If we permit Moses to rule over us in one thing, we must obey him in all things.” (Commentary on Galatians)

Believers may find the Old Testament helpful for understanding who God is and what he wants, but it puts forward terms for a contract the New Testament tells us believers are no longer under. Its laws, no matter how good, are no more binding on us than the laws of England are on American citizens, or the terms of your neighbor’s mortgage are on you.

Andy thus explains the difficulty of the clumsy mix-and-match approach to the Old Testament that most Christians use, as if certain parts were binding while others are not. For instance, we usually teach people they should keep the Ten Commandments, but we also tell them it’s OK to disregard Moses’s commands about diet, dress and stoning adulterers. We sample from Solomon’s relationship wisdom in Proverbs or Song of Solomon, but we discard his embrace of polygamy, feasting on the gnats and ignoring the camel.

Andy says:

“Mix and match and you don’t get the best of either. You get the worst of both. You get the prosperity gospel, the crusades, anti-Semitism, legalism, exclusivism, judgmentalism, 14th century Catholicism, don’t-touch-God’s-anointedism, God-will-get-’emism, and other -isms …” (158)

Indeed, we would all be wise to heed Andy’s counsel:

“Don’t do anything the Old Testament tells you to do because someone in the Old Testament tells you to do it or because they did it themselves.” (166)

Andy then beautifully explains how Christ released into the world a new law, a better law, built on this question, “What would love have me to do?” This means a couple of things. First, no longer can believers be content merely to observe the commands of the law. True righteousness is desiring the good of our neighbor, not merely fulfilling one’s legal obligations. Second, to truly love our neighbor will often take us far beyond what the law requires.

This, again, is Lutheresque. It is the message that sparked the Reformation of the church in the 16th century and led to the greatest expansion of Christianity in modern history. If our faith is to be irresistible, Andy is right, we must recover the glory of the new covenant and its superiority over the dead letter of the law. The fact that Andy’s book at times makes us feel uncomfortable with our Old Testament is a good thing. Luther himself said that if Moses had read some of the things written about his law by Paul in Galatians he would probably have been offended, too.

To Abolish or to Fulfill?

Unfortunately, Andy goes much farther than Luther ever did; in fact, in entirely new directions. Andy claims that the new covenant message can stand on its own two feet apart from the old. Furthermore, he says whereas the old covenant compelled behavior by saying “Thus says the Lord,” new covenant behavior is driven by the question, “What would love require of me?” Or, even better, “What does Jesus’ love model for me?” Andy calls these the “golden rule” and the “platinum rule” (234).

Andy claims that when we attempt to compel behavior—either our own, our children’s or our neighbor’s—by citing the Bible, we are reverting back to an old covenant methodology. Andy says, for example, that the motivation for Christian husbands treating their wives with love or prioritizing her needs above theirs is not “because the Bible says so.” In a Christian marriage, Andy contends:

“Husbands lay down their lives for their wives. Not because of what the Bible says. Because of what Jesus did.” (214)

In fact, Andy says:

“Paul never leverages the old covenant as the basis for new covenant behavior.” (209)

This is, as theologian Michael Kruger points out, a curious claim. Paul quite often uses old covenant commands as the basis for a New Testament directive. He says, for example, in Ephesians 6:1, that children should obey their parents because “this was,” after all, “the first commandment with a promise.” Paul is of course not saying that children should obey their parents because they are under obligation to the Mosaic law, but they should do so because the nature of the God from whom these laws emanate and his designs on creation have not changed. If God thought so highly of this command as to attach a promise to it, the first of its kind, that’s all the more reason to heed it today! The same is true for old covenant directives on sexual immorality, giving, marriage, keeping a Sabbath-style rest and many others. The God behind these directives, and his designs for a flourishing creation, have not changed even though we are no longer under Mosaic law.

Nor is this unique to Paul. Jesus himself, in his Sermon on the Mount, explores what new covenant fulfillment of the old covenant law looks like. The Sermon on the Mount is an exercise in reading old covenant laws through new covenant eyes. Far from unhitching itself entirely from the old covenant, it leverages the old covenant as the basis for new covenant behavior. The new covenant, he explains, points to the heart behind these commands. New covenant believers should fulfill these commands in ways old covenant believers didn’t know they were obligated to. Thus, being free of the legal, covenantal obligations to the law does not mean they are no longer relevant or instructive to us. It means we hear old covenant instructions with new ears.

For 2,000 years, Christians have followed the example of Paul and taught that Old Testament law serves two ongoing purposes in the life of a New Covenant believer:

• A Mirror: Biblical commandments reveal to us how sinful we are and at the same time what a truly righteous heart should look like. By looking into the mirror of the law, we realize how sinful and twisted our hearts are and how desperate we are for a Savior. Paul, for example, said that he would never have known he really loved himself when he thought he was loving God had he not encountered the command, “Thou shalt not covet.” We will not run to the Savior until we know we need him. The law is our schoolmaster, Paul explains, to show us our need (Gal. 3:24). (Interestingly, church historians say that every major awakening in U.S. history, including a couple in America’s early history when people were very secular, had at its core a preaching of the Ten Commandments.)

• A Guide: After being saved, the law shows us the best way we can please the God we love. It perfectly reveals God’s character to us and shows us what a life pleasing to him looks like. The law is like railroad tracks: It can point us in the right direction, but it is powerless to move us along the tracks. After we’ve been given the engine power to obey through the gospel, the law can still help us know the direction we should go. As Jen Wilkin says, “When you are an unbeliever, the law points to your need for grace. When you are a believer, grace points to your need for the law.”

Apart from the Old Testament, we often won’t really know how to answer Andy’s question, “What does love require of me?” As Paul demonstrates, old covenant laws teach us what love in action—both toward God and others—really looks like. Jesus explained that loving God and loving others was what undergirded Old Testament laws, so we are right to seek illumination from the Old Testament on what love in action looks like, even if its laws are no longer legally binding on us the way they were on Israel.

This is what Jesus meant when he said he did not come to abolish the law and prophets but to fulfill them. “Fulfill” means that there is something present in partial form in the law that finds its fullest expression in Christ. We expect Christ not to contradict these laws, but to provide their fullest expression, as he exemplified in his interactions and expounded in the Sermon on the Mount. Therefore, Christians teach that every old covenant law finds its fullest expression in Jesus: the ceremonial laws pointed toward his life, death and resurrection; the civil laws created the nation and the religious mindset out of which salvation could emerge; the moral laws depicted the righteousness he would fulfill and find their purest expression in his life.

Thus, if you want to know, “What does love require of me?” you need to understand the Law and the Prophets. In other words, the New Testament was never designed to be read as a one-stop “WWJD” handbook. It depends on the Old Testament to make sense. The Old Testament has an essential revelatory role in showing us who God, and who Jesus, really is. This is why Christians have always kept the Old Testament in their Bibles, and why Paul says that Old Testament Scriptures are profitable for doctrine, reproof, correction in righteousness and without which we can never hope to be spiritually complete (2 Tim. 3:16–17). As the old adage goes, “The old covenant reveals the new and the new covenant contains the old.”

Apart from the revelation of the law, how can we be sure we are encountering the real God and not God as we want him to be? Sin is endlessly deceptive, so how do we know that what we see as loving is actually loving in God’s eyes? If someone feels that same-sex marriage is “love,” do Christians have anything to say in response? What about polygamy? Or incest? What if one race convinces themselves that it is superior in nature to all other races, and the most loving thing they can do is rule over them? What are we to say to those who feel that the most loving thing to do with a mentally handicapped child is to euthanize them? Or to those who think the best way to love women in crisis is to help them get abortions? Will we not have to borrow from something “the Bible says” to oppose these unbiblical ideas?

We depend on God’s revelation to instruct us about the goodness or wickedness of certain actions. To say it plainly: We can’t obey Jesus’ new commandment to “love each other” or his Great Commandment to “love God and others as we love ourselves” apart from the law, because apart from the law we will have a skewed view of love.

Again, Paul says, “All Scripture (referring specifically to the old covenant) is breathed out by God and profitable for doctrine (understanding what love really is), for reproof (understanding what it is not), for correction and for training in righteousness (understanding how to live it out), that the man of God may be complete, not lacking in anything.” According to Paul, apart from the Old Testament, we can never be complete in our faith.

Does Unhitching From the Old Testament Really Limit the Bible’s Offensiveness?

Skeptics’ main objection to Christian faith, in my experience, is not why Christians today borrow from the Old Testament, but how we could ever believe God had said in it the things that he said. If Jesus and the apostles are to be believed, they think, they should have lamented and repudiated the Old Testament, acknowledging it as complete nationalistic fraud, a religious smokescreen to mask prejudice and justify the quest for power. They certainly should not have spoken it as “from God.”

In two short pages Andy provides a beginning of his answer to that question—and this is where I wish he had spent more time:

“The energy we expend sanding off the rough edges of God’s Old Testament behavior is energy we should apply to appreciating the mess God waded into in order to see the story of redemption played out to the bitter, bloody, “Crucify him, crucify him!” … God does not need us to make excuses for him. He doesn’t expect us to explain (or explain away) his old covenant behavior. To do so is insulting. Yes, his behavior was uncivilized by our modern standards. So what? While we think of God in terms of Father, in the Old Testament he was playing the role of founder, and founding a nation from dirt required a different set of tools.”

And then, just like that, Andy moves on. He concedes the Old Testament was given by God, and that God is the author of many confusing things therein. “But hey, give God a break,” Andy says, “founding a nation is dirty work and God didn’t have much to work with back then.” I understand what Andy is getting at, but I doubt many skeptics would find that argument very compelling.

In that paragraph, however, are the seeds of some potentially fruitful exploration:

Is there a progressive nature to revelation?
In what ways did God accommodate to a broken system, planting into it the seeds of healing rather than fixing it all at once?
Were the Old Testament wars actually conquest and genocide, or is there a more appropriate way to view them?
Is God still in the business of nation-building?

While we’re on the topic of questions, here’s one of the biggest suggested by Andy’s book: Do skeptics have fewer issues with the New Testament than the Old? Those I talk to certainly don’t. Andy doesn’t address how the New Testament, far from removing the Old Testament’s most offensive features, often intensifies them. For example, Jesus and the apostles’ description of the coming, violent judgment of God against sin is much starker in the New Testament than the Old. How could any sensible person, atheists like Richard Dawkins and Sam Harris ask, believe in Jesus’ teaching on hell (Luke 16:15–31; Rev. 20:11–15)? Indeed, Bertrand Russell famously called Christ’s firm belief in hell, “The one great moral defect in his character.” Or, how can Christians teach that some babies are born with spina bifida because some couple they’ve never met ate from a forbidden fruit aeons ago (Rom. 5:12–21)? And if skeptics don’t like what Leviticus has to say about homosexuality, are they likely to accept the more explicit statements Paul makes about how God feels about same-sex behavior in Romans 1:18–31? The skeptics I encounter don’t want to know, “Why do you keep that old half of your Bible?” They ask, “How could you believe a loving God could say any of these things?”

I agree with Andy that those seeking to present the claims of Christ to our culture need to be ready to explain what to do with the Old Testament. Tragically, most Christians do not, mixing and matching lazily and inconsistently, and in so doing, we have created enormous obstacles to faith for our generation. But I don’t think Andy has provided a satisfying alternative for the thoughtful skeptic. Those who desire to find the internal coherence of the Bible’s message are not likely to be satisfied with Andy’s approach. Nor are any—believers, skeptics or otherwise—likely to find a helpful answer to the question of why Jesus and the apostles held the Hebrew Scriptures in such high regard.

Andy says:

“Christianity can stand on its own two new covenant, first-century feet. The Christian faith doesn’t need to be propped up by the Jewish Scriptures.” (278)

But as for me, it was study of the Old Testament that saved my faith. In a time of great doubt, it was through seeing how all the Law and Prophets pointed to Jesus that I became convinced that the Bible had to be from God. I had convinced myself (wrongly) that overzealous believers might have exaggerated (or made up) the stories of the resurrection. It was when I saw that every story, and every page, of the Old Testament whispers his name that solidified my faith into rock. After diving deeply into the Old Testament, when Jesus finally stepped foot onto the pages of Matthew, my heart said, “There you are. We’ve all been waiting for you.”

I’m certainly not alone in this experience. Even after witnessing the compelling evidence of the resurrection, it was through hearing how all the Old Testament pointed to Jesus that two of Jesus’ disciples finally found faith (Luke 24). For them, the New Testament gained its believability by its continuity with the Old. What God has joined together, dare we put asunder?

Wait…Unhitching Ourselves From Our Bibles Altogether?

Andy’s most radical and disturbing claim is perhaps this one:

“When you anchor the authority of your teaching to the Bible, you reinforce an assumption that has the potential to weaken rather than establish faith.”

He claims that in the first three centuries of church history believers never (or, rarely) did that, since they did not even have a Bible, appealing instead to Jesus’ “new” law, which gained its authority from the fact that Jesus had risen from the dead.

Insofar as it might be prudent when talking to an unbeliever to refrain from appealing to “because the Bible says so,” I can agree. Tying our message to the authority and resurrection of Jesus in the public square, as Paul did, is sound missionary wisdom. And, for what it’s worth, I also found myself sympathetic to Andy’s suggestion that we print our Bibles with the New Testament in the front, leading off with Luke, and I think I could even be persuaded to rename our Bible sections the “new covenant” and the “obsolete covenant” (153).

But to remove the centrality of revealed, authoritative, divinely-inspired truth in the life of the church is to ensure certain disaster. The words of Jesus, as recorded by the apostles, Jesus asserted, would be the rock on which the church is built (Matt. 7:24–27; Eph. 2:20).

The claim that Scripture was not central in the early church—that they were just a bunch of people assured of Christ’s resurrection by eyewitness testimony trying to figure out what this new command—love in action—looked like, is just not historically accurate. Of course it is true that in the first three centuries they did not carry around the completed, leather-bound Bible we currently do. But Paul’s letters were passed around between the churches and were already being referred to, during Paul’s life, as ‘Scripture,’ like the Old Testament (2 Peter 3:16). Critics of the early Christian movement, in fact, made fun of them for being a bookish people. Paul told the Corinthians that if they were truly spiritual they would acknowledge his writings as the very commandments of the Lord (1 Cor. 14:37).

In other words, even without a completed Bible the early church was still a “thus says the Lord” community, centered on the Scriptures. They may not have yet known the full boundaries of what God had said, but they knew that he had spoken, that the apostles were his mouthpiece, and that their words had to be obeyed as if they were God’s words. Thus, we frequently hear both Jesus and the apostles saying, “It is written,” a first century Jewish way of saying, “The Bible says…”

New Testament authors, including Jesus, regularly equated the words of Old Testament prophets with God himself. The writer of Hebrews quotes David and says, “Thus the Holy Spirit testifies to us…” Jesus quotes Moses and says, “Thus God says to you…” The early church was a community that found its security in the phrase, “It is written.”

Has God Really Said?

As with all of Andy’s books, I found my own faith stretched and strengthened as I read it. He challenged me to rethink my approach to unbelievers. We need more thinkers and leaders like Andy advocating a missionary approach to our culture, and Andy serves us well here.

But my fear is that when it is all said and done Irresistible encourages that lie that has been at work in the world from the very beginning. In the Garden of Eden Satan subtly whispered to Eve, “Has God really said? …” Is God really the author of the Old Testament? Are the recorded words of his apostles really his words? Are the Scriptures—both those comprising our old and new covenants—indeed profitable for doctrine, reproof, correction and instruction in righteousness? Are they infallible and inerrant? These are the questions Andy largely ignores, writing them off as irrelevant. Thoughtful critics and doubting Christians will not be able to do so.

In regard to how we present our message to our culture—our missionary posture—Andy is right. It will often be wise to refrain from leading off with a flat “because the Bible says so” (306–07). Better to follow the cue of the apostle Paul in these settings and show how Jesus completes the story our culture has been trying to write, and that God punctuated his answer to their longings by raising Jesus from the dead. It might be more prudent to begin with a critic by saying, “The apostle John said such and such and I believe him because he was very close to Jesus and we have solid evidence that Jesus rose from the dead.” But for believers, at whatever stage of maturity, unless that quickly transitions into, “God has told us in his Word (through the apostle John…)” then our faith lacks a sufficient basis to give us the clarity or confidence to withstand in the day of persecution and trial.

When Jesus encountered Satan’s lies in the wilderness, his primary response was, “But it is written.” A Christianity that is not built on “it is written” is insufficient for personal faith, much less sparking a worldwide resurgence of the Christian movement.

Andy is 100 percent correct that a skeptic does not need to assume the inerrancy of the Bible to arrive at faith, and it is helpful not to make inerrancy central in our opening reasoning with them. Take the Gospels and the letters of Paul at face value—eyewitness testimony to an extraordinary, undeniable event. I regularly encourage skeptics to punt the question of inerrancy, as well as their objections to a number of Jesus’ more offensive teachings, and wrestle with the person and work of Christ. Jesus seems to have done that himself (John 16:12).

Furthermore, I agree that if my understanding (for instance) of the age of the earth is wrong, or if one day I discover that there were poetic, metaphorical statements that I took too literally, my faith will not be wrecked. It will just mean that I needed to grow in my understanding of how to interpret Scripture. Jesus is the primary point of the Bible—and knowing him does not presuppose a belief in the inerrancy of the Bible or an understanding of how to properly interpret the finer details of every pericope. But the Old Testament has an essential role in bringing Jesus to us, and in helping us to understand him once he is with us. If we unhitch ourselves from it, we will lose a significant part of him. Apart from the Old Testament, we have an insufficient view of Christ, and the more the Jesus we preach will end up looking like only a deified version of ourselves.

Andy’s statements about Scripture are even more disturbing when you consider how similar they are to statements used by German higher critics to launch 19th-century theological liberalism. Having removed the locus of inspiration from the writings that recorded the events to the events themselves, or the authors who recorded them, the critics were able to question the apostles’ interpretations. Maybe, they said, the apostle John was wrong when he said Jesus was divine. Maybe the resurrection they spoke of was spiritual, not physical in nature. After all, why did God need an empty tomb to save humanity? And maybe Peter was trapped in his own tribalism when he claimed Jesus was the only way to heaven. Maybe Paul was a victim of his own priggish cultural milieu in insisting that marriage was between a man and woman for life. I don’t think Andy would say any of these things, but the point is that once you have removed divine authority from the writings, all that is left is conjecture.

At the end of the day, a humble, simple trust in Jesus and his Word is an essential component of faith. Walking with him requires living in the tension of unanswered questions—sometimes about our origins, sometimes about the future, and sometimes about difficult passages in the Bible.

In a fascinating article on de-conversion stories carried by The Gospel Coalition, Alisa Childers explains how the loss of this humble, trusting submission characterized many of the most famous de-conversions. This lack of trusting submission led first to a slide into progressive Christianity (in which certain parts of the Bible most out of sync with modern sensibilities are discarded), and eventually, for those “courageous” enough to follow their thought pattern to its logical end, to atheism. I fear that Andy’s book, while well-intentioned, might have made such a tragic transition all the more accessible.

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Insights to Discerning God’s Will

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This past Sunday, I announced my resignation as Senior Pastor of Cross Church. Completely content in the Lord serving here now for 32 and one-half years, God has issued a new calling on my life. On Tuesday, April 2, I accepted the position of President and Chief Executive Officer of the Southern Baptist Convention’s Executive Committee.

Needless to say, over these past months, I have needed to discern the will of God pertaining to my life and calling to the ministry. In this article today, I want to share with you a few insights to discerning God’s will for our future.

Insight #1: A God moment is a point in time when God defines your life and turns your life toward Him.

Walking with Christ daily is imperative to discerning God’s will for your life. Staying in the Word of God, the Bible, and filling your life with the Word daily in an overflowing way is necessary to see God turn your heart toward Him. When this occurs, you will experience points in time when God more clearly defines your life and calling.

Insight #2: When these God moments occur, they lead you to God’s will.

These God moments can be personal and private with God in the midst of walking with Him daily or He can use events or experiences to demonstrate Himself to and through you. He can also use both, as He did with me. These spiritual markers will ignite your life toward God and His will for your life.

Insight #3: As you more clearly understand and see God’s work within you, you will more clearly understand and see what God wants to do through you.

Even after all these years of walking with the Lord and leading people, God took me back to my calling and giftedness in order to set my path before me. I believe God has been preparing me for much of my life for this assignment by placing me on an undeniable path providentially.

Insight #4: God uses everything we walk through in life to prepare us for what He has ahead of us.

God may use some or even all of your life experiences to prepare you for what lies ahead of you. When you are anchored in the Word of God daily, this will empower you to see your life from God’s perspective. You do not view life from the lenses of experience, but through the lenses of Scripture. This matures what you sense God is doing rather than being driven by experience alone, which can be extremely dangerous.

Insight #5: God’s preparation precedes God’s calling.

God calls you to do what He prepares you to do. Enough said.

Insight #6: God’s will and future for you are not controlled by you, but by Him.

You do not control or dictate God’s will; He does.

Global Missions Throughout the Bible: Jeremiah

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Editor’s Note: The history of missions is replete with examples of God using his Word to call his followers to engage in his redemptive work around the world by praying, giving, going and sending. The aim of this article series (part one here) is to help Bible students, teachers and readers recognize the theme of global missions throughout Scripture. 

Jeremiah’s prophecy displays God’s global redemptive mission from beginning to end. The book starts with a focus on the nations when the Lord told Jeremiah that he consecrated him as a prophet to the nations before his birth (Jer. 1:5). Moreover, the Lord placed Jeremiah over nations and kingdoms to build them up and tear them down through his prophetic word (Jer. 1:10).

Jeremiah: A Prophet to the Nations

Throughout his prophecy, Jeremiah portrayed the Lord’s relationship with the nations from various perspectives. Sometimes Jeremiah highlighted God’s impartial judgment of all the nations (including Israel and Judah). At other times, Jeremiah highlighted the Lord’s use of the nations (such as Babylon) as an instrument of judgment against his own people. Yet, at other times, Jeremiah highlighted God’s intention to draw the nations to himself. This latter theme is the focus of this article.

God Rules the Nations

Through Jeremiah, God expressed his general concern for the nations. The Lord is called the King of the nations, the one who rules over their affairs (Jer. 10:7). He warned the nations not to follow Judah’s sinful example (Jer. 6:18-21). God is described as the one who orders their steps and their relationships with one another (Jer. 28:14), as well as the one who pays attention to their deeds and ways of life. God did not ignore the nations but cared for them, even calling upon the exiled Judeans to bless the city of Babylon both socially and economically while they were living in exile there (Jer. 29:4–9).

“Jeremiah envisioned God’s global mission as one of drawing foreign nations to himself and incorporating them into his covenant people.”

Jeremiah’s Vision of Gentile Inclusion

Throughout his prophecy, Jeremiah envisioned God’s global mission as one of drawing foreign nations to himself and incorporating them into his covenant people. Specifically, he looked beyond the time of Judah’s exile and saw the nations recognizing the Lord’s kingship over the world, leaving behind their hard-heartedness and honoring the Lord’s name (Jer. 3:17). He foresaw all the nations glorying in the Lord (Jer. 4:2) and being blessed just as God had promised to Abraham (Gen. 12:3).

Elsewhere, Jeremiah depicted the Lord’s compassion on Israel’s and Judah’s enemies (Jer. 12:14–15). Through Jeremiah, the Lord promised to incorporate the nations into his people if they would learn the ways of his people and swear by his name (Jer. 12:16). In another text, Jeremiah described a future time when the nations would see the futility of their idolatry and turn to the Lord (Jer. 16:19–21). Jeremiah’s repetition drove his point home: the Lord would, indeed, redeem the nations and bring them into his covenant family.

God’s Way of Relating to the Nations

Jeremiah 18:7–8 portrays one method by which God would accomplish his mission to the nations. In these verses, Jeremiah stated that the Lord threatened the nations with the prospect of judgment. But if they would repent, the Lord would relent of the disaster he threatened against them.

Moreover, along with the previous verses from Jeremiah about Gentile inclusion, other Old Testament passages indicate that individuals from other nations could join the Lord’s people and be mercifully welcomed into God’s covenant family (for example, Rahab in Josh. 26:22–25). Jeremiah portrayed the nations as outsiders observing Israel and Judah’s history (Jer. 31:1033:9). As they watched it unfold, the invitation was open for them to avoid God’s judgment by turning from their sins, joining God’s people, and participating in God’s redemption.

The New Covenant for Jewish and Gentile Believers

The book of Jeremiah highlights God’s redemptive mission from another direction: the promise of the new covenant. In Jeremiah 31:31–34, the Lord promised to inscribe his Law on the hearts of his people, to be their God forever, to grant each covenant member a personal relationship with him, and to forgive all their sins. The New Testament demonstrates that this covenant is not just for ancient Israel and Judah. It is a covenant mediated by Christ (Heb. 12:24) for all who would come to him—Jews and Gentiles (Heb. 7:1–10:25, particularly Heb. 8:6–13).

The new covenant, unlike the old covenant, was intended for men and women from every nation (Eph. 2:11–22). God’s purpose from ancient times has always been to bless people from every nation (Gen. 12:3) and bring them into a covenant relationship with him.

Moreover, other New Testament passages reveal how the nations would hear about God’s covenant promises after Christ’s resurrection and how they would participate in the new covenant. Before ascending into heaven, Christ called his disciples to go to the nations to make disciples from them, to baptize those disciples, and to teach them everything that Jesus commanded them. He promised that he would be with them to accomplish this mission (Matt. 28:19–20). In the words of Jeremiah, Jesus commissioned his disciples to go to every nation to proclaim the promises of the new covenant and to invite the nations to enter into the new covenant sealed by his blood (Luke 22:20).

In Acts 1:8, Luke described the Great Commission in terms of a promise (the presence of the Holy Spirit with the disciples) and a call to be witnesses. Jesus intended for his disciples to leave their homelands to proclaim the promises of God’s new covenant even to the end of the earth. However, Jesus did not only intend this commission for his original disciples. He calls the church of today to engage in the task of taking the gospel to every nation by praying, giving and going. Christ calls us to proclaim the glorious promises of the new covenant spoken first by the ancient prophet, Jeremiah: God’s promises of salvation and the forgiveness of sins.

This article originally appeared here.

How to Make Small Groups Less Scary for Visitors

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Welcoming Small Groups

The movie was starting in about 10 minutes. But another show was already playing.

A man and his teenage son were sitting in front of me. A woman and her daughter walked up to their seats where the man introduced the two of them to his son. It was clear it was an awkward moment for the son. They all sat down with the son sitting between his dad and his dad’s date. This was quickly followed by the son leaving and coming back to the theater several times with the man and woman chasing him down some of those times.

People want to connect, but it is usually awkward and uncomfortable.

Visiting a Small Group for the First Time

Do you remember the first time you attended a small group meeting? You probably entered an unfamiliar place. The people were a group of strangers. You didn’t know what to expect.

Showing up to a small group for the first time can be a scary experience.

Small group members can help replace this scary experience with an enjoyable one for visitors. To do this, group members need to be intentional in creating the enjoyable experience.

How to Welcome Visitors

Here are a few ways to make the small group experience more enjoyable for people visiting for the first time. Be intentional about including these to help put your visitors at ease and make sure they want to return again and again.

Make It Easy to Find the Location

Always give clear directions and a phone number for anyone who expresses an interest in attending your small group meeting. Be sure the address can be easily seen by drivers from the road. Use things like signs, lights and/or open doors to show they are at the right place. If they get lost or aren’t certain they arrived at the correct location, they will not initially be in a great mood or may leave without giving your small group an opportunity.

Meet and Greet With a Smile

Have each visitor met with a smile. Make sure they are introduced to several group members before and after the meeting. Listen for any areas of interest that they have in common with any of the group members. This will help build a relationship right from the start.

Consider establishing a greeter role in your group. This person would be responsible for greeting everyone as they arrive and talking with visitors while introducing them to the group members.

Wear Name Badges

Getting inundated with a bunch of names to remember all at once is overwhelming. If everyone is wearing a name tag it takes away one more thing that can lead to worry and distraction for your visitors.

Provide Them Details

There are many questions going through the mind of a visitor:

  • Am I expected to answer questions?
  • Where is the bathroom?
  • Could I be friends with one of the small group members?

Take the time before the meeting or at the beginning of the meeting to share what they can expect. This will help end anxiousness so they can settle in and enjoy their time with the group.

Discuss the Group Covenant (Agreement)

Always carry copies of the group covenant with you. Give a copy to your visitors. Quickly discuss the key points, including the importance of confidentiality, and get their agreement. This is important not only for your visitors to feel safe participating but also to maintain a safe environment for the rest of the group.

Pray for Them

Find an opportunity, in private or during the group meeting, to ask how you can pray for your visitor. Then pray right there. Don’t just say you will pray for them. They won’t know whether it happens. Show you care.

Have Fun

Visitors are not going to return if it doesn’t seem that the group enjoys being together. If your group is not having fun when members get together, discover changes needed by doing an assessment.

Give Thanks

Visitors should not leave the meeting without all of the group members letting them know how thankful they are that they spent their time participating in the group. People are busy and it is a big deal that they chose to use that time with your small group instead of doing something else. They need to know you appreciate them.

Invite to the Next Meeting and Event

Be sure you let your visitors know you look forward to seeing them at your next gathering. If there is a special event planned for the group, let your visitors know about the event and encourage their participation.

Follow Up

Get your visitors’ contact information if you don’t already have it. Don’t let more than a couple days go by without calling them and:

  • Thanking them again for visiting your small group
  • Asking if they have any questions
  • Reminding them you are praying for them

Each of these items will show love for your visitors. It will be hard for visitors not to be drawn into your group as they experience the love for Jesus, for each other and for them.

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Face Facts: Your Church Is a Concert Venue

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If aliens landed on earth and attended a Saturday night concert at a nightclub and then walked into a church the next morning, they would also call both events a “concert.” If we are honest, most of today’s modern church environments — on a technical level — are essentially concert venues. We have elevated platforms with instruments, cables, stands, lighting and sound reinforcement, all for the express purpose of amplifying the “talent” on the stage. If you have a stage, you have a church concert venue. The goal of a concert is pure entertainment; the goal of the church is active participation of the people. As Christians, we know that behind the stages, lights, and sound speakers there is a significant and deeper spiritual thing happening.

The spiritual thing happening can be hindered or helped by the gear we use. Many churches try to overcome the rules of rock by purchasing cheap or gimmicky gear in hopes or expectation that the church won’t care or notice. My working theory is that the church should at least match (if not outdo) the efforts of entertainment. This isn’t a sacred/secular conversation, but a practical one: the church can and should represent God within our contexts.

In one sense the church stage looks like the secular concert stage, but there are differences. Churches have volunteers, meet in the morning, and never stops meeting, 52 weeks a year: over and over again.

Church environments use volunteers with less than “professional” voices and gear. Ideally, we should have the best source sounds, but sometimes that’s not what we have to work with. Anything that can help overcome those weaknesses is a wise choice.

With audio, everything starts with a source sound (instrumental or vocal) and makes a journey through microphones, cables, direct input boxes, mixers, and then on to the speakers. With video, the pathways are similar, originating from a CPU and going through countless junctions to reach its destination on the screens. Well built, quality conduits are the lifelines of seamless production. Just one weak link between the source sound and people eyes/ears can be a Sunday-stopper.

When building systems from scratch or re-evaluating upgrades look for weak points and fortify those areas with quality gear. In churches, I can’t count the times I’ve gone to adjust a microphone stand and it’s literally fallen apart in my hands. It’s common to find very inexpensive vocal microphones given to singers whose task is to proclaim the glory of God. Many churches operate with donated, used computers. This can all be frustrating and hinder the goal at hand.

The more intensely a piece of gear is being used, the better build and quality that item should have. If you are a piano-driven church, then have a great piano (maybe even the best money could buy). If you have a drum set, please buy a great snare drum. The price difference between “good enough” and world-class is minimal when you consider the week in and week out, volunteer-led strain that churches put on their equipment.

On the mission field, I have seen whole villages transformed in worship with a 2-string guitar! This reinforces the truth that Jesus will be glorified and in the church without all the best gear in the world. And yet, in developed countries we must think contextually: if we choose to set up our churches as modern worship expressions, we avoid the production values of the non-church norms.

The American Church Has Got Talent, but What It Really Needs Is…

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The American church has got talent, but let’s discover what it really needs.

There are a couple of heroes in the book of Acts that model for us what we need. This couple sat under the preaching of a dynamic speaker. But they realized he was missing something; namely, Jesus. (Or a full understanding of Christian baptism if you want to go that route.) So they took him under their wing. They loved him and taught him and then sent him back out.

The dynamic speaker was Apollos. And that precious couple was Priscilla and Aquila.

The American church has got talent but what we really need are more Priscillas and Aquilas. Think of all the Apolloses who are leading ministries. Great speakers. Knowledgeable. Passionate. Fervent. Gaining a following. Writing books. Headlining conferences. Missing something vital.

I’m reading an excellent book, The Mentoring Church, by Phil Newton. In the first chapter he outlines the goal of the mentoring relationship: being, doing, believing, teaching. He also outlines the method for doing this: doctrine, praxis and sending. Do you notice anything there? Doing is connected with praxis. Believing is connected with doctrine. And teaching is connected with sending. BUT there is nothing connected with being.

This isn’t an oversight on Newton’s part. He is correct. Being isn’t something you can teach in a seminary class or necessarily read in a book. It’s only crafted through…being. It’s forged in the context of a life lived out in the local church. You can’t fake it. You can’t test out of this one. It takes another person pouring the life of Christ into another person.

A New or Old Problem?

It is here, in my opinion, where the contemporary church is stumbling a bit. And I think it’s why we continue to see our leaders fall. Because being attaches to everything else and isn’t in its own category of attention it can be easily neglected, and often is neglected.

Connect this with our obsession with celebrity and you’ve got a ton of gifted people like Apollos who go on for quite a season without a Priscilla or Aquila in their lives. Something vital is missing. And because God is gracious and will relentlessly pursue us, it’s eventually going to come crashing down. The church might be fine with smoke and mirrors but our King isn’t.

This isn’t a new problem, though. We’ve been doing this for decades. So what we have now is Apollos training Apollos Jr. (or even a few generations further on down) for works of ministry. You won’t be shocked, then, to see that something vital continues to be left out of the training process. It’s a system that keeps going and keeps flopping but still perpetuates. One leader crashes and we figure we just need to go get a better leader, one who is crash proof. Then he crashes and burns too and we start over again. But maybe the problem is with the system.

A Way Forward

I would propose adding a couple of intentional steps in the stages of mentoring. I’m convinced that God always equips his local church. And one of the things he equips them with are Priscillas and Aquilas. So first, we need to pray that we would recognize folks with these gifts and be intentional about placing them in mentoring relationships.

Secondly, we should require solid biblical counseling for every person going into ministry. Biblical counseling isn’t just for those of us who are really messed up. It’s a process for helping people to think properly. It’s part of being. Every young pastor needs a relationship that falls into this category.

Thirdly, we absolutely must prioritize spiritual disciplines. And not spiritual disciplines as a necessary evil to keep you from wrecking your ministry. I tire of hearing things like, “We must pray so that…” No, we pray because that’s who we are. We read Scripture because that’s what disciples do. It’s part of our being. If we put this into the doing category we’re like the Titanic headed for an iceberg.

Jesus loves his church. He raises up Apolloses and Priscillas and Aquilas. But they need each other. Let’s not skip this precious step in our training.

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Just Being Real: 5 Ways to Be Real Without Being Rude

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Ever heard this phrase? “Sorry, just being real.” It usually comes after a verbal punch in the gut. “TBH, that outfit does nothing for you…sorry, just keeping it real,” or, “That message you taught did nothing for me…just being honest.” Honesty is great…but can we try it with a bit of kindness as well?

We have a core value on our staff: We keep it real. But it’s easy for some of us to see this as a license for a full onslaught of criticism and then label it as “intended to be constructive.” I think we’ve all seen this in our families. One parent or sibling is overly honest under the guise of “just being real” while another is more calculated and quiet under the covering of “introverted.” How do we establish honesty with each other that builds the relationship rather than pushing it down or blowing it up?

Things to Keep It Real

1. Talk to the person rather than about the person

If you have a problem with someone or if you need information from someone or if you feel that someone is not being truthful, then go to THAT person. What we tend to do is go to everyone else and talk about what we think we know. What if we have misinformation? What if it gets back to them and you burn a bridge. If the person you are running down is part of a church…what if that person you are talking to decides to never return to church? Who does that help? In all of this, we have a clear process from Jesus: Go to the person first. A good way to think about this is, “I will only talk about problems or issues with those who can do something about it.” And if we are honest, most of the times we are sharing our “concerns” it’s with someone who has no ability to help the situation.

2. Share your heart before your opinion.

This may seem a bit tedious, but it matters. I’m amazed how many times I give my unsolicited opinion on something in a field I know nothing about. How many times have we critiqued or criticized a team, a coach, a business or a restaurant and yet we know nothing about what is really going on? Why did we criticize? Some of the time it’s petty, some of the time it’s selfish, but many times it’s because we care. So, let’s start with that.

Let’s say you have a child who is not responding to a teacher. Rather than just firing off an email about how the teacher is not doing a good job, maybe start with expressing your heart for the teacher to connect as well as possible with your child. Then, once you both have decided you agree on that, then begin to move into ideas that might be better for your child…and for the teacher.

3. Start with a question rather than a declaration.

Beginning a difficult confrontation with, “You let me down,” or, “This was done poorly,” immediately puts the other party on the defense. What if you began with, “How can we make our situation even better?” “How do you feel that went?” “What would you do differently next time?” These questions create an attitude of collaboration rather than condemnation.

4. Say, “What do you think?”

Let’s be honest. Most of the time the only opinion we are interested in is our own and how quickly we can share it. One of the most valuable things we can give people is a chance to share their opinion. Speaking our mind can be helpful, but allowing others to do the same builds a bridge and helps the relationship’s productivity, rather than causing the relationship to just end.

5. Agree on next steps.

Ever hear someone who comes out of a tough meeting say, “It went great!” And then the other party tells you, “It was awful.” That’s probably because the two people left the conversation with opposite assumptions of what just happened and what is next. Taking time at the end of the reality-check conversation to determine what was decided, what we know, and what will happen next time goes a long way to clarify what just happened. “I’ll do a better job communicating next time,” or, “You know I respect you, I just want us to communicate the best way possible. So next time I’ll talk to you first.” Taking care to say these can make the meeting end well for everyone involved.

Take a moment to share this post with your ministry team and work through it together with these questions:

  1. Am I too quiet or too loud when it comes to conflict?
  2. What’s it like to work with me?
  3. What can we do as a team to keep it real?

Let’s keep it real…without keeping it rude.

This article originally appeared here.

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