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Kentucky Church to Investigate Chris Rice, Christian Musician, After Abuse Allegation

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NASHVILLE, Tenn. (RNS) — A Kentucky church has announced plans to investigate allegations of sexual abuse by Dove Award-winning Christian musician and songwriter Chris Rice.

Tates Creek Presbyterian Church in Lexington, Kentucky, said that Rice, whose songs include “Untitled Hymn (Come to Jesus)” and “Deep Enough to Dream,” had been a guest musician at several youth and college retreats from 1995 to 2003.

“Through his involvement in our ministry, Mr. Rice developed close relationships with multiple students,” the Rev. Robert H. Cunningham, the church’s pastor, said in a statement. “Last week, one of those male students called to inform me of allegations that Mr. Rice had sexually assaulted him on multiple occasions. While these remain allegations at this point, we are treating them as credible because of the source of the allegations and corroborating evidence we have discovered.”

Cunningham said the church has contracted with GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment), a nonprofit that addresses abuse in faith-based groups, to conduct an independent investigation. The church had previously worked with GRACE to investigate allegations against a former church youth minister.

Cunningham also said that he contacted police and informed the church’s elders about the allegations.

A staffer at Fair Trade Services, the Brentwood, Tennessee, company that released Rice’s latest album, “Untitled Hymn: A Collection of Hymns,” hung up when asked about the allegation and investigations. Rice could not be reached for comment.

Songs from Rice’s 2006 album, “Peace Like a River: The Hymns Project,” have been streamed more than 70 million times, according to a press release for the project.

Rice moved to Nashville in the 1980s and wrote songs for Christian artists, including Michael W. Smith and Amy Grant, before signing a record deal with Smith’s Rocketown label in 1996, according to a profile in Billboard magazine. He was named male vocalist of the year at the 1999 Dove Awards, run by the Gospel Music Association.

He later had success with the adult contemporary hits “Lemonade” and “When Did You Fall (In Love With Me).” In recent years, Rice has stepped away from music to focus on painting.

(This is a developing story and will be updated.)


This article originally appeared on ReligionNews.com.

Samaritan’s Purse to Set up Coronavirus Field Hospital in the Bahamas

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(RNS) — First the tents went up in Cremona, Italy. Then New York City.

And now in Nassau, the capital of the Bahamas.

It’s been a busy year for Samaritan’s Purse, the humanitarian relief organization led by Franklin Graham. On Thursday (Oct. 15), the group announced it was deploying a field hospital to Nassau after an increase in COVID-19 cases had overwhelmed the local health care system.

Plans call for a 28-bed field hospital and a team of doctors and nurses trained in infectious diseases to partner with Nassau’s Princess Margaret Hospital and the Bahamian Ministry of Health.

Samaritan’s Purse said the request for the field hospital came from the Bahamian prime minister in response to medical facilities that are filled to capacity.

The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommends travelers avoid all nonessential international travel to the Bahamas. The nation, made up of hundreds of small islands, has had 5,100 cases of COVID-19, with about 480 new cases in the last week. It has reported 109 deaths as of Thursday.

Samaritan’s Purse has been in the Bahamas before. After Hurricane Dorian hit last year, the organization opened a 40-bed field hospital on Grand Bahama. It also opened a country office in the Bahamas to meet ongoing needs for clean water and the rebuilding of homes damaged by the hurricane.

The organization’s field hospitals are made up of a series of portable tents wired for electricity, heating and water. In New York City, the field hospital included a fully staffed pharmacy and lab and intensive care unit beds with ventilators. The field hospital treated 191 patients — mostly in the month of April when the city experienced its worst surge of cases. It was dismantled in early May.

A smaller, 30-bed field hospital was airlifted to King Salmon, Alaska, in June, but was never deployed.

The first field hospital set up by Samaritan’s Purse was deployed in 2016 in response to the earthquake in Ecuador. The organization also set up an emergency field hospital about 12 miles from Mosul, Iraq, during the 2016-17 battle for the city.

“Hospital staff are overwhelmed and exhausted as the number of coronavirus patients in the Bahamas reaches an all-time high,” Graham, president of Samaritan’s Purse, said in a statement. “Our teams respond to the hard places in Jesus’ Name; this is the right place to go to make a difference in the lives of hurting families.”


This article originally appeared on ReligionNews.com.

Samaritan’s Purse Ministering in the European Refugee Crisis

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Samaritan’s Purse is a Christian humanitarian organization that gives aid to people in need in the name of Jesus. They are most known for Operation Christmas Child, but they have responded to the refugee crisis in Europe. Take a look and consider donating.

The Rising Tide – Europe Refugee Crisis

“You’ve probably seen lots of footage on the news of refugees arriving in Greece by boat, but you’ve probably not seen anything like this. You’ve heard lots of opinions about who they are or what they want, but you can see it firsthand in this video. These are the ones lying destitute on the road, and we must be the Good Samaritan. As team leader Dan Stephens shares, “We are the first faces they see when they land. Most of them have probably never met a Christian.” It’s our calling to show them the love of our Savior, and that is what many of you have helped us to do by your generous gifts.”

 

The Rising Tide – Europe Refugee CrisisYou’ve probably seen lots of footage on the news of refugees arriving in Greece by boat, but you’ve probably not seen anything like this. You’ve heard lots of opinions about who they are or what they want, but you can see it firsthand in this video. These are the ones lying destitute on the road, and we must be the Good Samaritan. As team leader Dan Stephens shares, “We are the first faces they see when they land. Most of them have probably never met a Christian.” It’s our calling to show them the love of our Savior, and that is what many of you have helped us to do by your generous gifts. Learn, pray, and get involved here ▶http://bit.ly/1WNfyDO

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The Uniqueness of Christian Suffering

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We often hear that Christians do not suffer any more than non-Christians—that suffering, humanly speaking, is the same whether one is a believer or an unbeliever. The notion, of course, is that hardships are a human experience and misery is no respecter of persons. But if we think about this notion a bit more critically, we can easily see that there are additional sufferings afforded to the believer that are not part of the experience of the unbeliever. Three immediately present themselves in the Scriptures:

  1. We are chastened by our heavenly Father for our sin (cf. James 5:14-15, to see an instance where particular sin of the believer results in particular suffering). The orphaned or illegitimate child is not disciplined by God, since the Father only disciplines those whom he loves and those who are his own (Hebrews 12:6, 8). Therefore, in this life, we have additional elements of suffering than the unbeliever, because our Father in heaven loves us and corrects us, as any good father does.
  2. Unbelievers do not suffer persecution, nor do they suffer for righteousness-sake, as the Lord says of the Blessed Ones in Matthew 5:10-12. This is an element of suffering that the unrighteous simply cannot experience, for this unique suffering is afforded only to the righteous in Christ. It is one thing to suffer as an evildoer, but it is altogether different (and blessed!) to suffer as one who bears the name of Christ, as Peter says to the disbursed and persecuted church of his day (1 Peter 4:14-16). After all, we servants should expect to experience additional sufferings since we are united to our Master (John 15:20).
  3. The believer is also uniquely “filling up the sufferings of Christ on earth” (Colossians 1:24). There is an apportioned amount of suffering for Christ’s Body prior to his return, in order that the looming final judgement will be adequately deserved. Much like God said to Abraham in Genesis 15:16, his descendants would have to wait to enter and purge the Promised Land, because the “sin of the Amorites is not yet complete.” So too, the suffering of Christ’s Body is not yet filled up, and the Judgement not yet warranted. If God is crushing Satan under our feet (Romans 16:20), it only follows that the Great Serpent is simultaneously striking the Body of Christ’s heel (Genesis 3:15), even as he is trodden under foot.

In all of the above, you can find phrases that suggest that these unique sufferings are “afforded to the believer” or even produce “blessings” in the life of the believer. While there is an additional costliness to the Christian life, God ensures that even these costs serve to bless and strengthen his people (Romans 5:3-4 and James 1:2-4).

But there is another accounting that should cause us to tremble in all of this. Let us not forget that the believer’s suffering comes now, while his ultimate reward is saved for later. Inversely, the unbeliever’s reward is now…but his ultimate suffering is reserved for eternity. Recall what Jesus says about the Rich Man and Lazarus: “Child, remember that you in your lifetime received your good things, and Lazarus in like manner bad things; but now he is comforted here, and you are in anguish.” (Luke 16:25)

All of this reminds me of the memorable scene in Pilgrim’s Progress when Christian, in Interpreter’s House, sees two small boys: Passion and Patience. Passion was irritable, demanding his reward now, while Patience was…well…patient, and content to wait. The little boy, Passion, was therefore given a small fortune, and he held it up and mocked and laughed at Patience who hadn’t received anything. But mere moments go by and the treasure is utterly squandered and Passion is left in rags. Interpreter explains that Passion is the people of the world who receive their reward in-full now, but then for the next life receive nothing but suffering. Patience, on the other hand, is the people of the Next World, who are content to receive their suffering now and for their glory to be revealed later. Interpreter goes on to explain how Passion mocks and scorns Patience in this life, but Patience will have the last, because the first must give way to the last. Notice the additional suffering that Patience is made to endure, though only for a time. And notice the additional rewards that Passion receives, though only for a time.

Do unbelievers and believers suffer the same amount, the same types of things, and in the same ways? While simple observation of this life may suggest the answer is “yes”, the Scriptures clearly present a different picture. Biblically speaking, supernaturally speaking, drawing back the curtains to see the Lord’s accounting: the answer to the question is clearly “No”, not in this life. The believer suffers far more and uniquely so in this life than the unbeliever. But in the next life, terrifyingly so, the accounting isn’t even close.

For our momentary light affliction is not worth comparing to the glory that awaits us (Romans 8:18, 2 Cor. 4:17). So let us patiently suffer, friends, for one day, we will be comforted.

This article originally appeared here.

Permanent Resettlement Not a Reality for 99 Percent of Refugees

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Permanent resettlement is an elusive dream for many of the world’s 79.5 million forcibly displaced people. For some refugees, asylum seekers and internally displaced people, resettlement is as close as a lamp in the window of a neighboring house. For others, it is a light glimmering on the horizon. For most, the light of permanent resettlement is like chasing the setting sun.

Last year, 107,800 refugees were resettled. Millions are still waiting, and the average time it takes refugees to be resettled is between 17 and 18 years. However, the reality is that 99% of refugees will remain permanently displaced.

IMB missionaries share that when refugees in South Africa are never permanently resettled, it means they will live the rest of their lives in inadequate housing or renting a single room for an entire family. It means receiving prompt and proper medical care is not guaranteed, access to education is uncertain and the opportunity to work is denied.

Permanent resettlement is defined by the United Nations High Commission for Refugees (UNHCR) as the “selection and transfer of refugees from a State in which they have sought protection to a third State that has agreed to admit them ‐ as refugees ‐ with permanent residence status.”

Globally, the UNHCR prioritizes relocating the most vulnerable—widows, widows with children and refugees coming from highly volatile countries.

Refugees in South Africa

At the end of 2019, South Africa hosted 586,000 refugees and asylum seekers. The majority are from the Democratic Republic of Congo, Somalia, Burundi, Zimbabwe, Rwanda and South Sudan.

IMB missionaries Gail Davis, who serves in the city of Cape Town, and Julie Yngsdal, who serves in Durban, say the chance of permanent resettlement is bleak. They say the responsibility to provide services, benefits and rights to refugees is often delayed indefinitely when interviews are not conducted and processing paperwork that will grant asylum seekers the status of ‘refugee’ is delayed.

Some of Yngsdal’s friends have been waiting for 10 to 15 years to be granted refugee status. She says of the 20,000 asylum seekers who come in a year, only four are given refugee status. Every year, they must renew their asylum status. If they fail to do so, they will be arrested, thrown in prison and fined.

Asylum seekers are not allowed to work, which Davis says forces them to find creative ways to support their families. People with refugee status are only allowed to get jobs that South Africans cannot do, and those jobs are rare.

Yngsdal says many refugees in Durban are resigned to their displacement, but relocation is still a desire. Many will sign up for any opportunity, whether it’s legitimate or a scam, offering hope of finding a permanent home.

“Will their lives get better? I always have hope. Have I seen their lives get better? Only for a very few of them,” Davis says.

Davis and Yngsdal say refugees in South Africa live in constant fear because of the rampant and violent xenophobia.

“While these refugees have come to Durban in search of a better life, sadly they have discovered South Africa to be anti-refugee,” Yngsdal says. “The South Africans look upon the refugee people with disdain and hatred, accusing them of taking all their jobs, causing all sorts of crimes, overburdening the healthcare system and schools and bringing with them all sorts of illegal activities.”

To disguise their accents, refugee parents will often tell their children to be silent when riding public transportation to avoid abuse. People with refugee status can go to government medical clinics, but it’s common for them to have to wait until all South Africans in the clinic are seen. Often they are turned away.

Davis says South African law guarantees a right to education for all children, but school principals have the authority to decide whether to admit refugee children.

Refugee camps are not allowed, and refugees in Cape Town cannot live in local neighborhoods, so they must live on the outskirts of communities or rent costly rooms. Davis says she knows of a family of 10 who share one room. Yngsdal says for protection against violence refugees in Durban live in closely-knit communities.

Most live below the poverty level and survive on one meal a day.

“Some [refugees] talk about going back because life here is very, very hard for them, physically and emotionally. But no one ever does go back,” Yngsdal says. “The political situation is such that if they return as young, able men, they stand a chance of being kidnapped and conscripted into the army to fight—which they don’t want to do because those who are taken are never seen again.”  

As Davis talked to refugees and asked what their needs were, they identified learning English was their biggest need. Davis uses a curriculum developed by the North American Mission Board (NAMB) that teaches English by using the Gospel of Mark.

When Davis sees patterns in the needs of refugees, she talks with Send Relief about ways to provide aid. Send Relief projects have provided blankets for refugees and food for feeding programs.

Davis encourages Christian refugees to pursue ministry training. One Burundian man is attending seminary. Davis and her husband planted a new church this year, and they partner with a refugee pastor from the Democratic Republic of Congo.

The Yngsdal and her husband, David, also teach English to refugees and have many opportunities to share the gospel. The Yngsdals host Bible studies and discipleship groups and also provide food, clothes and money for schooling fees for those in need.

The majority of refugees and asylum seekers in South Africa will spend their days in poverty and peril. Most will not rise above their physical circumstances. However, a steadily increasing number are spending their days in communion with Jesus, the ultimate provider.

Refugees in Greece

At the end of 2019, Greece hosted 186,200 refugees and asylum seekers. The majority were Syrian, Persian, Afghani, Iraqi, Kurdish and Pakistani.

IMB worker Derrick Pennon* said Greece is a transition point—most refugees who pass through the Mediterranean nation are headed to northern European nations. The refugee’s stay in Greece can be a lengthy one, and once they reach their country of resettlement, it can be a drawn-out process to gain permanent resettlement.

Receiving approval for permanent resettlement is becoming harder and harder due to the volume of refugees entering Greece. Refugees in Greece who are waiting struggle with depression and ongoing trauma incurred on their journey, Darlene King* says.

“The stress and lack of resources take a toll on families; domestic abuse, drug and alcohol use, suicide attempts, panic attacks, self-mutilation—these are the stories I have heard this week alone,” King says.

This summer a group of like-minded Christians hosted a trauma healing group for 16 refugee women.

“The very nature of displacement leads to gospel-sharing conversations,” King says. “Without a community or religious leaders, these refugees are able to ask questions about God and Jesus that they have had for years, read the Word of God for the first time and hear truth without fear.”

Meeting physical needs is another way to help displaced refugees.

“When we show the love of Christ through meeting felt needs, whether this is through providing for physical needs or educational needs, people see a difference in Christians and the way they were treated in their passport country,” King says.

Though displaced physically, many refugees in Greece are finding permanent eternal settlement through a relationship with Jesus.

This article originally appeared here.

4 Problems with the Squeaky Wheel Approach to Leadership

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“The squeaky wheel gets the grease” is an expression used to describe the reality that the most noticeable problem often gets the most focus. It can also be used to describe the loudest person receiving the most attention. It is a common expression because it is often how people live and lead. Leaders, problem solvers by nature, often wake up each day ready and able to solve problems. But focusing on the squeaky wheel is not the most effective way to lead. Here are four reasons why:

1. The squeaky wheel may not be the best steward.

When the squeaky wheel is a person on the leader’s team, it is possible that the squeaky wheel is not a good steward of people and resources. For example, if the kids or student minister is always asking for help to recruit leaders, even after it has been given before, it is quite possible that no amount of attention will solve the problem.

2. The squeaky wheel can rob resources from others.

People on the leader’s team who are not “the squeaky wheel” are often the best stewards. Giving them more resources and people could go further than giving those resources to the squeaky wheel.

3. The squeaky wheel may not be the biggest opportunity.

Squeaky wheels are not always people, of course. They are often problems that emerge. But wise leaders focus the majority of their attention on the greatest opportunities, not the greatest problems. These can be one in the same, but sometimes focusing on problems means forsaking opportunities.

4. The squeaky wheel may not be the biggest problem.

Ironically, the squeaky wheel may not actually be the biggest problem anyway. It simply is the one that is most noticed. Chaotic leaders run from squeaky wheel to squeaky wheel and accomplish very little.

This article originally appeared here.

Does Your Small Group Ask the BIG Questions?

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The common approach to directing small group systems is to prescribe a small group methodology and help people conform to that methodology. In reaction to this approach, other churches have taken a free-for-all approach that basically allows people to lead almost any kind of group they want.

I think that a much wiser approach is to facilitate the creation of natural environments where people can answer the questions that they are already asking.

This is not about giving people the answers. Nor is it about letting them do whatever they want in order to get them in groups. It’s about guiding people into honest self-discovery.

The power behind self-discovery is that it frees us to create environments based on powerful questions instead of prescribed, top-down patterns developed by leadership. If we work within the big questions about life and personal significance people are already asking, we will encounter less resistance.

Some of these questions include:

Who am I?

Where do I belong?

What can I contribute? (How can I impact this world?)

What’s the next step on my journey with God?

By inviting people in our groups to answer these four questions, their answers will shape the forms of life together that will move them from normal into a group that organically enters community and mission. Instead of stating that group membership will look a certain way, we can teach people these questions and walk with them as they ask and answer these questions for themselves, one another and of God.

As we do this, our groups will have an opportunity to think holistically about the ways they connect. There’s also a bonus: Members take ownership in the life of the group more quickly because they are being challenged to answer their own questions rather than questions given to them by the leadership of the church.

As we help groups work through these questions and discover what it takes to move from the normal group stories to missional stories, we will see how the questions can be modified or rephrased. Then, as the group enters into life with one another on deeper levels, we will discover and embrace the differences in people around them. This becomes even more apparent as we enter into conversations with people in our neighborhoods. Just don’t anticipate how or when a group will manifest community and mission. Here’s a surprising personal story about this very issue.

My wife and I were part of a group that met for 10 weeks around the issue of serving “the poor.” This was an experimental group that included people from different socio-economic experiences. Some were from a middle-class background; some were raised in generational poverty; one person spent a significant time in jail; and another was a successful businessman who had lost everything in the recession.

11 Deadly Mistakes That Take the Preaching Focus Away From Jesus

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If God-centered preaching is your goal—if you want to help your hearers focus on God and think on God when they leave your sermon(s)—here are 11 things you cannot do …

11. Over-repeat yourself. 

There is repetition for emphasis, and then there is repetition for annoyance. Discern between the two by listening to other preachers. Perhaps you should ask your wife if you over-repeat yourself. Wives are great assets to pastors because they will often tell you the truth. Church members are often overly kind except for the occasional “preaching expert.”

10. Form your sermon points first, then find a text to fit your points. 

Rarely will you find a text to fit your points. Instead, in order to make the text fit, you will be forced to pluck the text out of context. The text should form your points instead of you forcing your points onto a text. If you force your points on a text, it is impossible for the Christians in the pew to submit to your teaching and enjoy the Lord through the specific text you are preaching from. (Granted, you are probably still preaching truth that is found elsewhere in the Bible. At least, I hope!)

9. Be very animated in your body language. 

Everyone will either enjoy you or be terribly annoyed. If they leave the service thinking about you, regardless of whether it’s positive or negative, your sermon failed. Remember that the goal of preaching is to excellently allow the Word of God to stand on its own. Thus, don’t be distractingly animated, and do not wear flashy suits or style your hair in a flashy way.

8. Be overly boring. 

Do not talk in a monotone voice. The goal is to excellently allow the Word to stand on its own, not to make the most wonderful book ever written the most boring book ever written. You may be so concerned with detracting from the Word that you stand up and read in a monotone voice. Don’t do it, because there is no proof in the Scriptures that any of the prophets, apostles or Christ did such things when they spoke.

In other words, when you overly bore so you won’t detract from the Scriptures, you still detract from the Word, just on the opposite end of the spectrum. I must inject a brief note here: If you are a master of the English language like Jonathan Edwards was, you may be able to get away with reading a manuscript in a monotone voice. If Edwards had preached like George Whitefield, he may not have led anyone to the Lord, for sinners would have been too mesmerized by him to get to Christ.

7. Be overly humorous. 

The goal is to encourage your hearers to enjoy God through His Word, not to enjoy you. If your hearers leave thinking “what a funny preacher,” then you preached a terrible sermon. The Word of God must be on their hearts and minds when they leave, and if He isn’t, then they shouldn’t be able to lay this sin at your feet.

Psychology vs. Scripture: 5 Reasons to Glean From Both

Secular psychologists operate on a biopsychosocial model of human development and behavior. This model proposes humans develop and operate according to biological, psychological and social influences. Accordingly, we are products of our biology and environment, both bearing equal importance.

In more recent years, psychologists have begun recognizing that our spirituality impacts our lives, but have yet to say it is imperative for life. While the traditional psychological theories and models that are based upon naturalism are insufficient from a Christian worldview, not all of secular psychology is wrong. Indeed, there are many helpful and positive aspects of psychology to consider, which is why there is a need for integration.

For Christian psychologists, our worldview must be determined by Scripture.

The successful integration of psychology and Christianity has long been a passion of mine. However, I tread carefully on this topic. As a secularly trained doctor, I recognize my shortcomings in relation to the integration of theology and psychology. The nuances of the biblical counseling, integrationist, and Christian psychology models have been extensively evaluated by more notable minds than mine.

I will not speak to any one particular model, but provide key points to consider when integrating psychology and Christianity. These points, I believe, fall on the continuum between the integrationist and Christian psychology models.

1. Scripture and the Gospel are prominent.

The belief and use of Scripture and the Gospel are perhaps the most prevalent differences between the secular and Christian psychology worlds.

For Christian psychologists, our worldview must be determined by Scripture. Not only should we see our clients as individuals in need of Jesus Christ, but our understanding of mental illness and disorder should also be based upon a Gospel-oriented worldview. As a result, our therapeutic practice will utilize Scripture to heal our clients and glorify Jesus.

2. Operating on a middle ground.

As a trained secular doctor, I appreciate the biopsychosocial model of human nature. Learning about the complexities of humanity provides me with a better framework for understanding and helping my clients. The intricacies of the human brain, the environmental influences on our personality, and the social and cultural impact on our lives remind me that pathology cannot simply be reduced to issues of morality or sin.

On the other hand, as a Christian, I acknowledge that all humans are inherently separated from God. This separation causes disorder, sin and disease of every kind. However, we serve a loving and just God that provides a way out of our depraved state through Jesus Christ. He longs for us to seek Him and His promise of eternity.

Due to the love of this God, I also cannot reduce all pathology to a naturalistic model of humanity. I propose that Christian mental health professionals operate on a middle ground, the bio/psycho/social/spiritual model, which considers both our dignity and depravity as humans.

Who Would Have Thought Postcards Would Survive the Pandemic?

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Church communicators have been some of the unsung heroes of the current pandemic crisis. With little notice and often no training, they’ve learned how to move ministries online, stream church services, and create digital bulletins and connection cards. Many have also relearned the value of some non-digital tools of the past that along with these new tools will most likely last longer than the pandemic. For me and for many others one non-digital tool is postcards.

Why postcards and how have they become newly useful?
Our church, like most others had to quickly figure out a way to get the service online and they did, but I wanted a more personal way to contact people, to encourage them, to let them know God loved them and was with them.

In the past, I often recommended postcards as a key outreach tool, but it had honestly been years since I’d done that. But during this time when people were isolated and I couldn’t call them all, I remembered postcards. I’ll briefly share what I did and following that I’ll share some links to what others have done with postcards.

My experience with postcards

I created the designs in Canva (www.canva.com) with  the custom design size of ¼ of a sheet o8 ½  x  11 in. paper. I then downloaded a jpg version and placed it into MS Publisher using the postcard template and printed them out on cardstock. (You can see the initial set here.)

I could have also used pre-perforated postcards from Avery you can run through your home printer to create them.

I thought these would be useful, but I was amazed at the response—people I hadn’t heard from personally in a long time contacted me and I was especially happy to hear back from younger friends more thanking me for them and telling me how encouraging they were. I’ve gotten far more responses from postcards than from any of the social media I’ve done and sent out, including social media where I used some of the same images.

How some others have used postcards during the pandemic

One community center created and sent out postcards and were so overwhelmed with the response, they have made it into a public display. They described it this way “It absolutely has been a fantastic public outreach and a way to connect the whole community.”

If people need help on how to write a postcard, here is a delightful article with the specifics of how to write a postcard by a poet. The title sums it up his theme: “Postcards can ease pain of isolation during coronavirus pandemic, a quick personal note can mean a lot to those living alone to protect themselves from the virus.”

One idea for a Children’s Ministry use of postcards, would be to look at this NPR project where they asked parents to send in postcards drawn by children during the pandemic. You can have your child draw a card directly on them or you can draw and image, scan it into your computer, place it in a program such as MS Publisher in the postcard template and you could print off a number of the postcards with your child’s (or yours, you can do them also) drawing on them. (Here is the article with ideas.)

Here are ideas of what some professional artists are doing to create pandemic-themed postcards

Liz Malanaphy’s delightful postcard designs—simple illustrations including her toilet paper doodle “Wishing you abundance and absorbency!” are wonderful and fun.

For Liz Lane, a cancer survivor, receiving a postcard was very meaningful to her when she had to isolate due to cancer. With the pandemic restrictions, she realized many people might be in the same place and created this line of postcards.

A keeper communication piece

It seems odd that it took a pandemic to remind us once again of the power of personal communication: high-touch over high-tech. When someone gets a postcard they typically totally focus on it and are alone when they read it. Remembering that reality is what makes them a powerful communication tool now and long after the pandemic is primarily a memory.

Why "Accountability Groups" Make Us Liars

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One of the chief vehicles for dishonesty in my own life has been my involvement in “accountability groups.”

For those who have been spared them, an “accountability group” is a single-sex, small-group Bible study on steroids. A group of friends arrange for a time each week to get together, ostensibly to encourage one another by upholding standards of personal righteousness in a confidential context.

Instead, the members spend most of the time picking each other apart, uncovering layer after layer after layer of sin in a coercive and sometimes even competitive fashion. You confess your sin to your friends and they to you, and at first it’s a relief. Light shines into dark corners, and you pray honestly for the first time in ages. You may even find yourself a bit less drawn to whatever behavior brought you to the group in the first place.

As the weeks wear on and you find your victory was more shortlived than you had initially hoped, perhaps you start to embellish or hold back in order to concoct some narrative of improvement. Or perhaps you remain entirely truthful, but your friends begin to doubt your sincerity.

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Soon nothing is enough; no matter what you unveil, they look for you to uncover something deeper, darker and more embarrassing than what you’ve already shared. You start to embellish in the other direction—making things seem worse than they are to satisfy the probing inquisitiveness of your friends. Eventually everyone is investigating one another, and no one is telling the truth.

Well, I can’t stand those groups!

Setting aside the obvious objection that Christ settled all our accounts, once for all, such groups inevitably start with the narcissistic presupposition that Christianity is all about cleaning up and doing your part. These groups focus primarily (in my experience, almost exclusively) on our sin, and not on our Savior. Because of this, they breed self-righteousness, guilt, and the almost irresistible temptation to pretend, or to be less than honest. Little or no attention is given to the Gospel. There’s no reminder of what Christ has done for our sin—cleansing us from its guilt and power—and of the resources that are already ours by virtue of our union with Him.

These groups thrive, either intentionally or not, on a “do more, try harder” moralism that robs us of the joy and freedom Jesus paid dearly to secure for us. When the goal becomes conquering our sin instead of soaking in the conquest of our Savior, we actually begin to shrink spiritually. Sinclair Ferguson rightly pointed this out:

“Those who have almost forgotten about their own spirituality because their focus is so exclusively on their union with Jesus Christ and what He has accomplished are those who are growing and exhibiting fruitfulness. Historically speaking, whenever the piety of a particular group is focused on our spirituality, that piety will eventually exhaust itself on its own resources. Only where our piety forgets about itself and focuses on Jesus Christ will our piety [be] nourished by the ongoing resources the Spirit brings to us from the source of all true piety, our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Barrett Keeps Democrats, Trump at Bay in Senate Hearing

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NYTACB Judge Amy Coney Barrett, President Donald Trump's Nominee for Supreme Court, speaks during the third day of her confirmation hearing with the Senate Judiciary Committee in Hart Senate Office Building in Washington DC, on October 14th, 2020.

WASHINGTON (AP) — Over and over, Amy Coney Barrett said she’d be her own judge if confirmed to the Supreme Court. But she was careful in two long days of Senate testimony not to take on the president who nominated her, and she sought to create distance between herself and past positions, writings on controversial subjects and even her late mentor.

Barrett’s confirmation to the Supreme Court to take the seat of the late Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg seems inevitable, as even some Senate Democrats acknowledged in Senate hearings on Tuesday and Wednesday. The shift would cement a 6-3 conservative majority on the court and would be the most pronounced ideological change in 30 years, from the liberal icon to the conservative appeals court judge.

The 48-year-old judge skipped past Democrats’ pressing questions about ensuring the date of next month’s election or preventing voter intimidation, both set in federal law, and the peaceful transfer of presidential power. She also refused to express her view on whether the president can pardon himself. “It’s not one that I can offer a view,” she said in response to a question Wednesday from Sen. Pat Leahy of Vermont.

Democrats raised those questions because President Donald Trump has done so himself.

When it came to major issues that are likely to come before the court, including abortion and health care, she repeatedly promised to keep an open mind and said neither Trump nor anyone else in the White House had tried to influence her views.

“No one has elicited from me any commitment in a case,” she said.

Nominees typically resist offering any more information than they have to, especially when the president’s party controls the Senate, as it does now. But Barrett wouldn’t engage on topics that seemed easy to swat away, including that only Congress can change the date that the election takes place.

She said she is not on a “mission to destroy the Affordable Care Act,” though she has been critical of the two Supreme Court decisions that preserved key parts of the Obama-era health care law. She could be on the court when it hears the latest, Republican-led challenge on Nov. 10.

Barrett is the most open opponent of abortion nominated to the Supreme Court in decades, and Democrats fear that her ascension could be a tipping point that threatens abortion rights.

There was no hiding her views in at least three letters and ads she signed over 15 years and her membership in Notre Dame’s Faculty for Life. So Republican senators embraced her stance, proudly stating that she was, in Judiciary Committee Chairman Lindsey Graham’s words, an “unashamedly pro-life” conservative who is making history as a role model for other women.

Sen. Josh Hawley, R-Mo., said there “is nothing wrong with confirming a devout pro-life Christian.”

Health Officials Uneasy About Recent Worship Protest in Nashville

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On Oct. 11, a large crowd, most of whom were not wearing masks, gathered in Nashville, Tennessee, for a worship protest led by political activist and worship leader Sean Feucht. Dr. Alex Jahangir, who is the chairman of Nashville’s Metro Coronavirus Task Force, has joined the Metro Public Health Department and Metro Interim Police Chief John Drake in voicing his dismay over Sunday’s gathering. 

“I think statistics would tell you that there [were] probably some people in that crowd that had the disease and I suspect some others in that crowd probably contracted the disease in an unmasked close quarters scenario,” said Jahangir, who was “concerned” that the event had happened. 

Since July of this year, Sean Feucht has been holding outdoor “Let Us Worship” gatherings across the country as a form of protest against the various restrictions civil leaders have imposed on churches because of COVID-19. Feucht said on Twitter that 9,000 to 10,000 people attended the Nashville event, which took place despite multiple venue changes. Rolling Stone magazine, however, disputed those numbers in an Oct. 12 article criticizing Feucht’s activities entitled, “Jesus Christ, Superspreader?” The magazine says that photos and videos of the event indicated that “attendance was noticeably sparser.”

The Metro Nashville Health Department issued a statement Monday saying that it was “very concerned” about Feucht’s event, that Feucht did not apply for a permit from the health department, and that it would be “investigating and will pursue appropriate penalties against the organizer.” 

Police Chief John Drake said he was “greatly disappointed” in the lack of caution shown by Feucht and the attendees, adding that “personal responsibility is a necessity regardless of the purpose for a public event.” Drake said that in the future, the police department will be working with health officials to “more effectively facilitate proactive contact with any future event organizers to explain Nashville’s public health and safety expectations.”

Nashville had been making progress with containing COVID-19, but its numbers have been rising over the past couple of weeks. This increase has not been tied to Feucht’s event, but Jahangir said that he and other health officials would be looking out for any new cases that might arise from Sunday’s gathering, which has done nothing to mitigate concerns about the growing numbers. 

Jahangir said that whether or not new cases arise from Feucht’s gathering depends on whether the attendees were from the city of Nashville or out of town. If most of them were from out of town and did not spend time in local businesses and restaurants, it is not likely they will impact Nashville’s COVID-19 numbers. “Even if you don’t live in this region,” said Jahangir, “we need to take care of our own, and we don’t want people to come and spread the virus to each other and the residents of Nashville, because of not being careful and not wearing masking or social distancing.”

Feucht has said that California Gov. Gavin Newsom’s decision to ban singing in church in early July was a significant factor in motivating him to start the Let Us Worship movement. According to the worship leader, his worship protests are a direct response to widespread attacks on the freedom to worship in the United States:

Our freedom to worship God and obey His Word has come under unprecedented attack. Powerful politicians and social media giants have engaged in unchartered abuses of religious liberty, silencing the faithful, banning our voices, and outright attacking our God-given right to declare His goodness. States across America, including here in California have shut down church services and even outlawed singing in church. Instagram and Twitter is [sic] censoring Christian voices every single day. And every hour that passes they grow bolder in their efforts to silence the faithful.

One pastor in Nashville, who has expressed support for the idea of protesting when people are banned from worshipping, said that he does not understand why Feucht felt the need to hold a worship protest in that particular city. Nashville residents have been meeting in person for months, albeit with social distancing precautions in place. Said Rev. Thomas McKenzie, “I don’t mind people protesting where churches aren’t able to meet. Nashville makes no sense.”

Feucht responded to the Metro Nashville Health Department in a post on Twitter.

Feucht is referring to an interview in which WHO envoy Dr. David Nabarro said, “We in the World Health Organization do not advocate lockdowns as the primary means of control of this virus.” Nabarro did advocate for “robust defenses” for containing the virus that included testing, isolation, and contact tracing.  

Kanye West Releases Faith-Based Campaign Commercial

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On Tuesday, presidential candidate Kanye West released a new 82-second campaign ad just 22 days before the election. The commercial extolled West’s less than 2-year-old Christian faith and principles. On his Instagram post, he wrote  “we stepping out on faith,” possibly referring to the fact that he’ll need to rely on God for a miracle to win the election. West is only on the ballot in 12 states.

The rapper and presidential candidate spoke about reviving our nation’s commitment to faith and prayer, saying that “through prayer, faith can be restored.”

West told the people, “We are not only a beacon to our world, but we should be servants to each other to encourage each other, to help each other, to lift up each other — our fellow Americans — that we may all prosper together.”

He concluded the commercial saying, “By turning to faith, we will be the kind of nation — the kind of people — God intends us to be.”

This might be one of the strongest faith based campaign ads we see this presidential election year. The entirety of West’s comments are below:

America. What is America’s destiny? What is best for our nation? Our people? What is just? True justice? We have to think about all these things together as a people. To contemplate our future, to live up to our dream, we must have vision. We as a people will revive our nation’s commitment to faith, to what our constitution calls the free exercise of religion, including, of course, prayer. Through prayer, faith can be restored. We as a people are called to a greater purpose than ourselves. We are not only a beacon to our world, but we should be servants to each other to encourage each other, to help each other, to lift up each other — our fellow Americans — that we may all prosper together. We have to act on faith with a sure knowledge that we are pursuing the right goals and doing the right things. We will build a stronger country by building stronger families. Families are the building blocks of society, of a nation. By turning to faith, we will be the kind of nation — the kind of people — God intends us to be.

Can Kayne West Win by Write-In?

Because he is only on the ballot in 12 states, West has been encouraging people to write his name in on the voting ballot. Although this is possible in most states, Arkansas, Hawaii, Nevada, New Mexico, and South Carolina don’t allow write-in votes. Some states like Mississippi only allow write-in votes in rare circumstances. So the chances are beyond slim that West would even make an effect on any state’s ballot once November 3, 2020 comes to a close.

Kayne Releases New Song

A day after releasing his new campaign commercial, West posted a new song that is possibly from his upcoming album Donda: With Child. West posted on Instagram, “The whole team so energized that I had to release theme music. Nah Nah Nah.”

2020 Billboard Music Awards Winner

Kanye won four Billboard Music Awards on Wednesday night. He won “Top Gospel Artist,” “Top Christian Album,” “Top Gospel Album,” and “Top Gospel Song” for his album Jesus is King. West was nominated for nine awards, and posted on Twitter thanking “all of my Christians that have been praying for me, praying for the day I would serve the kingdom. You know God just keeps showing up.”

Earliest Known Draft of King James Bible Found at Cambridge

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An American scholar says he discovered a rare first edition of the King James Bible. The most widely read work in English Literature, the King James Bible is arguably the most influential English translation of the Bible ever produced.

Jeffrey Alan Miller, assistant professor of English at Montclair State University in New Jersey, announced the findings on Wednesday (Oct. 14) in an article in the Times Literary Supplement, in which he explains that the King James Bible, organized as a group endeavor, may have been more than the product of individuals working alone, as previously thought.

Dr. Miller found an unassuming notebook, about the size of a modern paperback, in the archives at the University of Cambridge while researching there last fall.

The notebook, which dates from 1604 to 1608, consistent with when the Bible translation project first began. King James I first commissioned the new translation project in January of 1604, in response to Puritan critiques of previous English translations, like the Great Bible (1535) and the Bishops’ Bible (1568). Completed in 1611, the King James Bible is considered a towering achievement in English literature, as both beautiful and scholarly.

The notebook appears to have been a first draft, belonging to Samuel Ward, who was part of the team of seven men in Cambridge charged with translating the Apocrypha. Ward was a teaching Fellow of Emmanuel College, Cambridge for almost 30 years, until his death in 1643. Ward’s manuscripts and notebooks were then placed into the college’s archives, where they remained relatively undisturbed until recently.

Dr. Miller’s discovery led him to conclude the translation of the King James was largely a collaborative effort. The translators appear to have been broken up into companies which were charged with doing their work on sections of Scripture as a group, rather than subdividing it by assigning individual books to individual translators.

“It was incredibly collaborative,” Professor Miller said. “But it was done in a much more complicated, nuanced, and at times individualistic way than we’ve ever really had good evidence to believe.”

New American Standard Bible 2020 Update

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After completion in 1971, the NASB was updated in 1977, 1995, and most recently in 2020. This brand new update of the widely respected NASB 1995 builds upon its strengths by further improving accuracy, modernizing language, and improving readability. The NASB 2020 is an important update because it utilizes advances in biblical scholarship over the past 25 years and it incorporates changes necessary to keep pace with the ever evolving English language. This refreshed text is designed to speak accurately and clearly to current and future generations.

Going verse by verse, every aspect of vocabulary, grammar, sentence structure, and meaning was carefully reviewed in the update process. These refinements maintain faithful accuracy to the original texts and provide a clear understanding of God’s Word through updated English. The NASB has been produced with the conviction that the words of Scripture as originally penned in the Hebrew, Aramaic, and Greek were inspired by God and will speak with fresh power to every generation.

The NASB strives to adhere as closely as possible to the original manuscripts and to make a translation that is both fluent and readable according to current English usage.

The Fourfold Aim of the Lockman Foundation

  1. These publications shall be true to the original Hebrew, Aramaic, and Greek.
  2. They shall be grammatically correct.
  3. They shall be understandable.
  4. They shall give the Lord Jesus Christ His proper place, the place which the Word gives Him; therefore, no work will ever be personalized.

Principles of Translation

  • MODERN ENGLISH USAGE: The goal is to render grammar and terminology in contemporary English. When word-for-word literalness is unacceptable to the modern reader, a change is made in the direction of clearer reading English.
  • TRANSLATION PHILOSOPHY: The NASB does not attempt to interpret Scripture through translation. Instead, the NASB adheres to the principles of a formal equivalence translation. This is the most exacting and demanding method of translation, striving for the most readable word-for-word translation that is both accurate and clear. This method more closely follows the word and sentence patterns of the biblical authors in order to enable the reader to study Scripture in its most literal format and to experience the individual personalities of those who penned the original manuscripts.

Notable Updates

  • GENDER ACCURACY: The NASB 2020 is gender-accurate, meaning the reader will no longer have to attempt to independently determine which genders the biblical authors originally had in mind. Now the text will clearly communicate gender in modern English, while still remaining true to the context and original languages of the ancient manuscripts. It should not be assumed that everyone will “just know” if both genders are intended when reading gender specific English, and for that reason clarification is critical. The NASB 2020 is not gender-neutral because when the original context calls for a specific masculine or feminine term, it does not use a gender-neutral term instead. Similarly, when an author or speaker uses the Greek word “brothers” and it is clearly referring to women as well as men, “and sisters” is added in italic for accuracy and clarity. This addition is made only when it is accurate to how both the language and context would have been naturally understood by the original audiences. Likewise, it is now clear when the author was specifically referring to a group of only men because the text will only read “brothers” in those cases.

By striving to be gender-accurate, the NASB 2020 is following the Fourfold Aim by providing the reader with a translation that will help them accurately understand the gendered terms in a way that was self-evident in the original language, but due to the limits of the English language, are much harder to specifically communicate in English translations

  • USE OF “LET’S” FOR ACTION: In most places the phrase “let us” has been replaced with “let’s” when a proposal is being made by one or more persons within a group to engage in an action. Such a proposal is common not only in English but also in the ancient languages of the Bible; however, it is expressed in the ancient languages grammatically rather than by using an auxiliary, “helping” verb such as “let”. It is common today for readers to understand “let us” to mean “allow us,” so in effect, “let us” has become unintentionally misleading to most readers. Therefore, the simple contraction “let’s” has emerged as the clearest expression because this form reflects the nuance of meaning in the original languages–that is, a proposal to do something.

Typographical Features

The New American Standard Bible utilizes several distinctive formatting cues to help readers more easily understand the text.

  • ITALICS are used to indicate words that are not found in the original Hebrew, Aramaic, or Greek but are implied by it. There are also instances where words in italics are added for the sentence to make sense in English. This allows the NASB to be more readable while still making it very clear what words are part of the original texts.
  • CAPITALIZED WORDS provide helpful information. Personal pronouns are capitalized when pertaining to God. The word “Law” is also capitalized when referring to the Mosaic Law.
  • SMALL CAPS are used in the New Testament to indicate places where the Old Testament is quoted or Old Testament texts are referred to. Variations of Old Testament wording found New Testament citations depend on whether the New Testament writer translated from a Hebrew text, used existing Greek or Aramaic translations, or paraphrased the material. By using small caps, the reader is immediately informed that the passage is a reference from the Old Testament.

Examples of Changes:

Psalm 51:8 –
NASB 1995 Make me to hear joy and gladness,
Let the bones which You have broken rejoice.

NASB 2020 Let me hear joy and gladness,
Let the bones You have broken rejoice.

Psalm 51:9 –
NASB 1995 Hide Your face from my sins
And blot out all my iniquities.

NASB 2020 Hide Your face from my sins
And wipe out all my guilty deeds.

Psalm 55:1 –
NASB 1995 Give ear to my prayer, O God;
And do not hide Yourself from my supplication.

NASB 2020 Listen to my prayer, God;
And do not hide Yourself from my pleading.

Psalm 55:2 –
NASB 1995 Give heed to me and answer me;
I am restless in my complaint and am surely distracted,

NASB 2020 Give Your attention to me and answer me;
I am restless in my complaint and severely distracted,

Proverbs 17:19 –
NASB 1995 He who loves transgression loves strife;
He who raises his door seeks destruction.

NASB 2020 One who loves wrongdoing loves strife;
One who makes his doorway high seeks destruction.

Matthew 25:24 –
NASB 1995 And the one also who had received the one talent came up and said, ‘Master, I knew you to be a hard man, reaping where you did not sow and gathering where you scattered no seed.

NASB 2020 Now the one who had received the one talent also came up and said, ‘Master, I knew you to be a hard man, reaping where you did not sow, and gathering where you did not scatter seed.

Textual Excellence

The New American Standard Bible 2020 uses the most up-to-date manuscripts along with the most current scholarship available.

  • HEBREW TEXT: In the present translation BIBLIA HEBRAICA STUTTGARTENSIA and, where available, BIBLIA HEBRAICA QUINTA have been employed, together with the LXX, the Dead Sea Scrolls, ancient versions, and the most recent scholarship from lexicography.
  • GREEK TEXT: Consideration was given to the latest available manuscripts to determine the best Greek text. In most instances the 28th edition of the Nestle-Aland NOVUM TESTAMENTUM GRAECE was followed. For Acts and the General Epistles, the Editio Critica Maior (ECM) was followed in most instances.

The NASB 2020 is a Bible that is accessible to all readers and is presented in a way that clearly and accurately communicates the content, so it is understood in the same way it would have been to the original audience. This edition represents updates according to modern English usage, utilizes the most current research of ancient manuscripts, and implements refinements recommended over the last several years. The result is a refreshed text that provides the reader with a translation that will help them accurately understand the Bible in a way that was self-evident to the original audience. Most importantly, the NASB 2020 provides a literal translation of the Bible that clearly communicates God’s message to the modern English reader so that everyone can continue to grow in their knowledge and love of our Lord, God, and Savior, Jesus Christ.

Hymn History—Amazing Grace! How Sweet the Sound

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Amazing Grace, John Newton (1779)

This is perhaps the most well-known hymn. Christians and non-Christians alike sing this song by the former atheist slave trader. John Newton felt he was the worst “wretch” of all. But God caught his attention in a brutal storm at sea in 1748. Newton’s slave trade ship was almost wrecked, but Newton fell to his knees to ask for God’s mercy and grace. Years later, as a pastor in England, he wrote this song.

Be amazed by grace today.

But grace was given to each one of us according to the measure of Christ’s gift.
Ephesians 4:7

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.
Ephesians 2:8-9

Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
Hebrews 4:16

As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace:
1 Peter 4:10

May grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.
2 Peter 1:2

Why Your Character Is Crucial, and How to Develop It

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Competence may get you in the door, but character keeps you in the room.

Character is core to who you are as a leader, whether or not people trust you, and your overall effectiveness for the good of others.

Let’s be blunt.

People simply will not follow anyone they don’t trust.

Being really good at what you do is critical, but character is the bottom line for a spiritual leader.

When selecting a leader, there is a temptation to quickly pass over character and focus on competence and chemistry. We all know character matters; however, good character is often simply assumed. That’s a mistake.

It is good to assume the best, but when it comes to leaders, it’s difficult to “fix” a lack of character. The good news is that you can develop good character.

Intuitively, we understand how this works.

Character is something you first “feel” about others.

It’s a personal sense you have about a person.

For example, with a doctor, car salesperson, or public official. You immediately have a gut sense about whether or not you trust them.

That’s how your mind and emotion will first assess a person’s character. Your level of discernment determines how accurate you are, but that doesn’t change how you feel in the moment.

Then character is assessed by behavior, for example:

  • Do they keep their promises?
  • Do they do what they say they will do?
  • Do they do what is in the best interests of others?
  • Do they do the difficult thing rather than the easy thing?
  • Do they keep their promises?

As leaders, we are responsible for the development of our character and the character that we develop. 

(Some of the following content and quotes are from my new book Confident Leader!)

Principles and Practices in Character Development

1) Self-leadership is the foundation of character development.

You can’t lead others well until you can lead yourself well.

Leading yourself well may be about seemingly little things, such as being late for meetings or not following through in returning phone calls or email. Basically, not doing what you say you will do. It can, of course, escalate to much more significant issues such as inappropriate emotions or an overt need for control and authority.

The people who attend your church are not looking for a superhero to lead them; they’re looking for someone they can count on.

People want a leader who can consistently show up and do the right thing. The expectation is not one of a perfect leader; it’s of a leader whose self-leadership is worth following.

The bottom line is that a lack of competence can slow you down, but a lack of character can take you out.

If you lack skill, you can improve; if you lack character, you are destined for a fall.

2) Consistency is the real secret to character development.

Consistency, unfortunately, is often thought of as boring, inflexible, or lacking creativity.

Consistency, however, is not meant to reflect a lack of drive, unwillingness to risk, or stirring things up when needed.

Consistency is a core character trait, not a measurement of competence.

Consistency is about keeping your promises and doing what you say you will do; that’s character.

Consistency allows people to approach you not because your emotions are flat but because you are a safe person to talk to, and you can be counted on.

Consistency is a primary avenue to trust.

Consistency can best be developed in three areas: your habits, emotions, and your words.

Consistency in good habits.
As it relates to the development of consistent good habits, the majority of your effort and energy needs to be devoted to the development of good habits.

That seems obvious.

However, it’s scary what a few bad habits can do to a long list of good ones.

So start with an honest assessment of any bad habits you have and work to eliminate them by replacing them with good habits.

Most of us know our bad habits, but we all have blind spots, so you may want to ask a trusted friend to help you see what you can’t see.

If you fight to eliminate a bad habit without replacing it with a good one, your potential for success is limited.

Please don’t miss this next thought.

Don’t allow the pursuit of good habits to become a pursuit of perfectionThat will backfire on you.

If you slip up, OK. Recognize it, and tomorrow is another day to do better.

And don’t make the practice of good habits a legalistic lifestyle. If you want a donut one day, have one. Having a donut one day is different than having a daily donut.

What bad habits do you want to eliminate?

What good ones do you want to become consistent in?

Recommended book: Atomic Habits, by James Clear.

Consistency in your emotions.
No one wants to follow a leader if they have to walk on eggshells wondering what mood they will be in that day!

God gave us the emotions we experience; they are part of our design as human beings. For a few examples, they are emotions such as fear, joy, anger, loneliness, compassion, and love.

How you handle your emotions can make or break your leadership.

Emotions have a place and purpose, and when demonstrated in appropriate ways at the right times, they add depth and meaning to your life and strength to your leadership.

When emotions are mishandled, depending on the circumstances, those moments can be difficult to recover from.

Consistency in your emotions does not mean a boring, lifeless person. Not at all.

Consistency in emotions means one who is self-aware and possesses the fullness of the fruit of the spirit (including self-control) that brings a healthy balance to the mix.

If the topic of leading your emotions rather than letting them lead you is of interest, here’s an entire blog post I wrote (it went viral) that may be helpful to you.

Consistency in uplifting and encouraging words.
Our choice of words on a daily basis seems like it ought to be the easiest of these three to be consistent.

But the book of James reminds us how easy it is to have a slip of the tongue and how much damage such a small part of our body can do. James 3:3-12

Whether with your spouse, kids, or those you lead, we’ve all spoken words we wish we could take back. It only takes a few seconds.

There is good news. There are other, better, and more redemptive words that help repair the damage of ill-spoken words, like the words in a sincere apology.

It’s amazing how much good the two little words, “I’m sorry” can do.

The best way to overcome speaking words that hurt and destroy relationships is to practice your consistency, from a heart level, on words that:

  1. Carry honesty
  2. Encourage
  3. Add value
  4. Honor others
  5. Bring hope

Increasing your consistency in these three practices will greatly strengthen your character resulting in greater trust and increased influence.

This article originally appeared here.

I Got on TikTok for You and Here’s What I Found Out

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“Kids ages four to 15 now spend an average of … 80 minutes per day on TikTok. [TikTok] also drove growth in kids’ social app use by 100% in 2019 and 200% in 2020.” (Source)

41% of TikTok users are between the ages of 16-24. (Source)

TikTok is one of the fastest growing social media platforms in our country today. It has recently been given an unusual spotlight at the top government level as a place of potential information harvesting by foreign countries. Despite that concern, which is being addressed at higher security levels than I feel comfortable talking about, the app continues to grow in popularity. It has been downloaded over 2 billion times with over 800 million users (Source).

So, what is TikTok?

It’s basically a media app that can be used for creating and sharing short videos. The appeal of TikTok is that it offers short, bite-sized content that can be curated for your likes and dislikes. There are “sides” of TikTok based on specific interests and allegiances. There’s a cooking side of TikTok and a book lover’s side of TikTok; there’s a political and social issue side of TikTok (with every political and social issue you can think of ) and a Marvel superhero/DC Comic side of TikTok. If there’s a subject or passion out there…you’ll find it on TikTok.

The scrolling feature of TikTok makes it easy to keep going and going and going which is why it is easy for people to spend hours a day camped out there. And TikTok knows it! In fact, if you scroll too long, a video will pop up reminding you that life exists outside of TikTok and to put your phone down, take a walk, get a drink or use the restroom.

Since kids and youth spend so much time hanging out here, I thought it would be a good idea for me to be there too.

So, I performed an experiment.

For the past two weeks, I tried to spend at least 80 minutes a day scrolling through TikTok. Since TikTok’s algorithm does a good job of curating a specific space for people based on your likes, videos that you watch longest, and accounts you click on or follow, I did my best to use my For You page as a starting point but then searched around for other “sides” of TikTok that didn’t naturally show up in my feed.

Also, as a point of information, while I did create an account so I could like and share videos, I did not post anything or offer any pertinent info about myself to the app.

What did I find out?

It’s easy to hang out there.

There’s no pressure! No articles to read. No long clips to watch. Videos are short, if you don’t like it you can skip it, and it’s easy to share videos you like with friends. And frankly, a lot of the videos are really funny or sweet.

A Hamilton fan could spend hours on the Hamilton side of TikTok and someone who loves to cook would love the cooking side. But it’s not all fun and games.

There’s no real filter for content or language

While TikTok may have some basic filters in place, let’s be real – it doesn’t catch much. Unless you “skip quick” when something comes up, just assume users will be seeing and hearing things that would be regulated by ratings if put in a movie.

There are definitely dark sides of TikTok but mostly what shows up in the “For You” feed will be mild language and sexual innuendos. But it is possible for dark stuff to sneak it pretty easily.

People will follow stories

While there’s plenty of random funny or political videos out there, the draw for many people is someone’s story. For instance, there’s a dog named Josh who was rescued by a family. Josh has some health issues and his owners document his progress. Josh has over a million followers. Other users tell their stories of huge life changes (there’s an entire ex-Mormon side of TikTok) and surgeries and weight loss.

These stories are highly empathetic and emotional and often told in a series of short videos with the storyteller telling you to “Double tap for Part 2” (follow or like). A good TikTok-er knows how to draw out the story and make it last over several weeks to build up a following.

There are a lot of “agendas”

Of course there are! Every “side” of TikTok creates a space for a platform to push an issue, belief, or way of life. It’s easy to stumble into these stories with agendas from every spectrum and, because of the high empathy, to begin to get engrossed here.

Parents and ministers, this is WHY you need to be on TikTok. Even if you don’t allow your kids to have the app, their entire generation is learning to lean into story this way. We have to understand the power of story and empathy.

My takeaways? 

Just like every other major social media app out there, TikTok has its ups and downs. It’s a tool. What matters is how we use it. If the kids at your church or your child/teenager are hanging out on TikTok or have friends who are, you need to be there. You need to feel it like they do. You don’t have to like it. But you do need to get a feel for it and for why it has such a reach in the Gen Z and Millennial generations.

I will likely not continue my “80 minutes of TikTok” experiment at this time. For one, who has 80 minutes to spend scrolling on TikTok?!? But also, it was draining. The high empathy and emotion while simultaneously engaging and addicting was also exhausting and depleting. I want to ensure my emotional availability to those around me whose stories are unfolding in real life as we journey together. If I am to follow people’s stories, I want it to be the stories I have been invited into as a human being, not a TikTok user.

If you see a teen or youth who appears emotionally done in, ask them about who they follow on social media; it really could be that a great deal of their emotional energy is being spent there.

There’s much more that could be said and there are plenty of experts in psychology, development, and mental health that can share their thoughts as well. If you’d like to follow up, here are a few resources that might be helpful. It’s best to steer clear of resources that lean toward one side or the other (“It’s evil!”or “It’s fine, chill out.”). Try to find balanced reviews that acknowledge both the opportunities and the challenges. This is an important conversation to engage with the next generation so let’s be ready to meet them where they are.

This article originally appeared here.

Can Men Lead if Women Are Smarter? A Biblical Perspective

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The question, “How are men supposed to be leaders if women are smarter?” carries underlying assumptions that deserve closer examination. Here’s a thoughtful perspective based on biblical principles and practical leadership dynamics.


Understanding Biblical Leadership

The Bible identifies two specific areas where God has established men as leaders: the church and the home. In these contexts, men are called to lead, and women are invited into active, honorable, and supportive roles. However, it is important to note that the Bible does not teach that men must always lead in every aspect of life or in every institution.


Leadership Beyond the Church and Home

There are countless situations where women can and do exercise leadership:

  1. Professional Fields
    A woman may have unique God-given gifts, such as intellectual or technical expertise, that enable her to excel in her career. For example:

    • A woman may become a leader in medicine, pioneering research, or managing a healthcare team.
    • She may rise to prominence in academia, even serving as the president of a university.
  2. Leadership in Society
    God does not restrict women from leading in fields where their gifts and abilities can make a significant impact. The Bible does not mandate that men must lead in every institution or organization.

Leadership with Humility

Even in areas where men are called to lead, true leadership is characterized by humility. A good leader recognizes the talents and gifts of others and employs those strengths for the greater good. For example:

  • A wise leader surrounds himself with people who may be smarter or more skilled than he is in certain areas.
  • This delegation and recognition of others’ strengths are not signs of weakness but evidence of effective leadership.

Smart Leaders are Humble Leaders

Leadership is not about intelligence or superiority; it is about service, humility, and wisdom. Smart leaders—whether men or women—acknowledge and value the contributions of others. They understand that leadership is less about being the smartest person in the room and more about guiding and empowering a team.


Conclusion

The Bible defines two specific areas—church and home—where men are called to lead, but this does not imply that men must lead in every facet of life or that women cannot excel in leadership roles. Furthermore, true leadership, whether by a man or a woman, is marked by humility and the ability to recognize and utilize the gifts of others. God’s design for leadership is not about competition but about complementing each other’s strengths to fulfill His purposes.

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