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Arkansas Pastor, a Foster Parent to 70 Children, Charged With 100 Counts of Possessing and Distributing CSAM

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James Vincent Henry, pastor of Crossroads Assembly of God in Delight, Arkansas, has been charged with 100 counts of possessing, viewing, and distributing child sexual abuse material (CSAM).

Editor’s note: This article refers to reports of child sex abuse that some readers might find triggering and/or disturbing.

According to the church’s website, the 43-year-old pastor has been married to his wife Brittney for 12 years, and the couple has three children.

Henry’s wife is also listed as a pastor of Crossroads Assembly of God.

Before becoming pastor of Crossroads Assembly of God, Henry served as a youth pastor at four different churches: Lacey Assembly of God, McGehee First Assembly of God, Mountain Pine First Assembly of God, and Newsong Church in Centerton, Arkansas.

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“An Arkansas State Police (ASP) Internet Crimes Against Children (ICAC) Task Force investigation led to the arrest yesterday (Oct. 15) of James Vincent Henry, 43, of Delight, for 100 counts of crimes related to the possession and distribution of child sexual abuse material (CSAM),” ASP said in a statement. “Henry is the pastor of [a] church in Delight.”

ASP reported that on Wednesday, Sept. 25, “Special Agents with the ASP ICAC Task Force executed a search warrant in Delight in reference to two cyber tips from the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children made through the online messaging applications Snapchat and Kik.”

Agents then reviewed “digital evidence” before obtaining an arrest warrant on Monday (Oct. 14). Pike County Sheriff’s deputies arrested Henry less than 24 hours later.

Henry has been charged with “100 counts of Possession, Viewing, and Distribution of Child Pornography (CSAM).”

RELATED: 86-Year-Old Pastor Charged in Child Sex Abuse Material Case Still Appears To Be Preaching

Henry currently remains in custody at the Pike County Detention Center.

Barbara Peacock: Actively Engaging in Soul Care

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As pastors and ministry leaders, how can we better care for our own souls as we care for the souls of others? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Dr. Barbara Peacock. Barbara is an award-winning author and a passionate spiritual director and teacher. She’s earned degrees from both Princeton Theological Seminary and Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary. She’s the founder of Peacock Soul Care, and her most recent book is titled, “Spiritual Practices for Soul Care.” Together, Barbara and Jason explored the importance of actively and intentionally engaging in our own soul care as we serve others. Barbara also provides some incredible insights about the relationship between community and caring for our souls.

FrontStage BackStage Podcast With Barbara Peacock

View the entire podcast here.

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Therapeutic Friendship: Receptive Capacity

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In the landscape of human connection, friendships stand as a testament to our capacity for empathy, support, and growth.

Central to nurturing these bonds is the concept of receptive capacity—the ability to openly accept and be enriched by positive interactions, emotions, and support from each other.

But what makes receptive capacity so crucial in friendships, and how can friends mutually cultivate it? Let’s explore…

Understanding Receptive Capacity

Receptive capacity is our ability to let in and be positively affected by the good in our interactions and relationships. It involves welcoming compliments, empathetic support, and constructive feedback without deflecting or downplaying their value. In the realm of friendship, it’s about allowing ourselves to be fully present and open to the joy, support, and love our friends offer, and equally, to offer the same in return.

The Importance of Receptive Capacity in Friendships

Friendships thrive on mutual respect, understanding, and the exchange of positive affirmations and support. Developing a strong receptive capacity within these relationships is essential for several reasons:

– Deepens Emotional Connections: Being receptive enhances emotional intimacy, allowing friends to feel seen, heard, and valued.

– Fosters Growth and Learning: Openness to feedback and new perspectives supports personal and mutual growth, encouraging both friends to evolve together.

– Builds Resilience: Sharing and receiving positive experiences and emotions contribute to a stronger sense of self and collective resilience against life’s challenges.

– Enhances Self-esteem and Confidence: Mutual receptivity in friendships can boost self-esteem, as friends recognize and affirm each other’s strengths and qualities.

Challenges to Cultivating Receptive Capacity

Cultivating receptive capacity is not without its challenges. Past experiences of rejection or betrayal, fears of vulnerability, and societal pressures to appear self-sufficient can hinder openness in friendships. Furthermore, the fast-paced nature of modern life often leaves little room for the deep, reflective conversations necessary for nurturing this capacity.

Ways To Mutually Cultivate Receptive Capacity in Friendships

Enhancing receptive capacity within friendships is a collaborative effort, requiring intention and practice. Here are some strategies to foster this mutual journey:

– Practice Active Listening: Show genuine interest in each other’s experiences and feelings. Active listening involves engaging fully with what your friend is sharing, without planning your response or judgment.

– Express Gratitude and Appreciation: Regularly acknowledge the value of your friendship and the qualities you admire in each other. This not only strengthens bonds but also encourages a culture of receptivity.

– Offer and Accept Support Openly: Be willing to ask for and offer support. Letting your friend know he or she can count on you, and showing that you can accept their support, reinforces trust and openness.

– Share Vulnerabilities: Being vulnerable with each other fosters a safe space where both friends can express their true selves, including doubts and fears, enhancing mutual understanding and acceptance.

– Reflect on and Discuss Emotional Experiences: Take time to reflect on how you both respond to positive moments within your friendship. Discussing these experiences can deepen your understanding of each other’s emotional landscapes.

Ted Bryant: How To Approach Hot-Button Issues Like Jesus

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How can we reliably approach today’s pressing social issues in a way that honors God and points people to Jesus? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Dr. Ted Bryant. Ted is the lead pastor at Granger Community Church. He earned his MDiv at Moody Theological Seminary and his PhD at Notre Dame. His most recent book is titled, “The Jesus Method.” Together, Ted and Jason explore some of the common tendencies and temptations we have as ministry leaders when it comes to addressing some of the complex and controversial social issues of our day. Ted points us to the life of Jesus, focusing on the priority of relationships and helping us understand the value of not only what Jesus taught but also how he engaged the people around him.

FrontStage BackStage Podcast With Ted Bryant

View the entire podcast here.

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Miranda Zapor Cruz: Political Engagement & Kingdom Convictions—How To Avoid Common Pitfalls

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How can we avoid some of the common pitfalls when we engage in politics as Christ followers? In this week’s conversation on FrontStage BackStage, host Jason Daye is joined by Dr. Miranda Zapor Cruz. Miranda is a professor of historical theology at Indiana Wesleyan University. She holds a PhD in religion, politics, and society from Baylor University, and she earned her Master’s of Divinity at Princeton Theological Seminary. Her most recent book is titled “Faithful Politics.” Together, Miranda and Jason look at the unique dual citizenship that we hold as Christ followers in both the kingdom of God and the country in which we reside. Miranda shares how we can navigate some of the complexities and challenges and avoid common pitfalls when it comes to engaging in politics as Christ followers. 

FrontStage BackStage Podcast With Miranda Zapor Cruz

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Solitude and Silence

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Jesus needed it. So did Moses, Elijah, Mary, and Paul. And that is just for starters. All the leading fathers and mothers throughout church history needed it, too. People like Augustine, Luther, Wesley, Calvin, and modern spiritual leaders such as Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Mother Teresa, Billy Graham, and Dallas Willard. What is it they needed? Solitude and silence. If these spiritual giants needed time alone with God, how much more do we?

Practicing solitude and silence does not come naturally. It is easier for some than for others. Yet without it, you miss the richness and depth of a walk with Christ that can come no other way. What does it say about your own sense of self-sufficiency if you ignore this practice?

The Nature, Necessity, and Practice of Solitude and Silence

  1. Solitude is getting alone with God. Many of us are uncomfortable with being alone. And silence can be deafening. We feel compelled to be doing something. But with practice, we begin to realize we are not alone. God is present in the silence. We learn to recognize his voice in the quiet. To truly practice solitude, we leave behind all work, reading, and music. Those things bring their own voices. We want to hear the purity and simplicity of God’s voice only. It is difficult to hear God’s voice without solitude and silence. When was the last time you were alone with God? Where can you go to spend 30 minutes of solitude and silence this week?
  2. Solitude and silence are necessary for perspective. Our minds are usually preoccupied with all the busyness, what ifs, and general disruption in our culture. It is a problem of our times. Without solitude, problems and fears loom large. Like silt in a lake that gets stirred, it takes time for the confusing noises of our hearts and minds to settle. Silence allows the reality of God to stand in the midst of your life. It puts things into healthy perspective.
  3. We need solitude and silence to identify our fears and desires. In solitude before God, alone and undistracted, we learn to face our fears directly. The power of fear is disarmed as we experience the loving, yet powerful, presence of God. Courage and assurance emerge. In silence before God, we are also enabled to identify our deepest desires, what brings us joy and hope. Too much interaction and noise can prevent us from recognizing what is truly in our hearts. How in tune are you with your own fears? Do you truly recognize your deepest desires for God? 
  4. We need silence and solitude for living out there. Solitude and silence are always for the purpose of re-engaging the world. Ministering to others, our families, and our communities. Having spent time in clarifying silence before God, we have a renewed perspective on God’s role in our lives and that we are not alone. The Spirit goes with us, enabling us to do what he has called us to do. Do your times of solitude with God help you re-engage the world?
  5. Solitude and silence can be learned. It might not feel comfortable. It can even be a little unnerving at first. But there are small steps you can take to begin experiencing solitude and silence, stepping out to your backyard late at night to gaze at stars, being intentional to turn off the radio on your commute to the office, an early morning walk in a local park. What small steps can you take this week to spend a few minutes in solitude and silence?

This article originally appeared here.

The Satanic Temple Opens 2nd ‘Abortion Ritual’ Clinic, This Time in Virginia

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The Satanic Temple (TST), which considers abortion a “religious reproductive right,” has launched a second facility offering telehealth abortion services. The Virginia clinic, named the Right To Your Life Satanic Abortion Clinic, is similar to the virtual clinic in New Mexico, named Samuel Alito’s Mom’s Satanic Abortion Clinic.

TST opened its New Mexico clinic in February 2023, in response to the U.S. Supreme Court overturning Roe v. Wade the previous summer. After a draft of Justice Samuel Alito’s Dobbs ruling leaked in 2022, TST pledged to “protect religious abortion access for our members.” Since then, the organization has taken aim at strict abortion laws in Indiana and Idaho.

RELATED: The Satanic Temple Will Protect ‘Religious Abortion Access’ If Roe Is Overturned

As ChurchLeaders has reported, The Satanic Temple differs from the Church of Satan. Members don’t worship or believe in the biblical devil. The organization’s mission includes “rejecting tyrannical authority,” “opposing injustice,” and fighting for “bodily autonomy.” In 2019, the IRS recognized The Satanic Temple as a tax-exempt church.

Satanic Abortion Clinic Relies on Abortion Pill

TST Health, the group’s “religious reproductive health arm,” described its new clinic as an expansion of “low-cost, safe, and reliable abortion care” in America. The Virginia clinic, which opened with the help of donor funding, works with a third-party online pharmacy to supply abortion medication.

TST has helped cover medication and travel costs for people experiencing financial hardships. “We’re honored to have made a positive impact on so many lives during what can be a difficult time,” the group said.

During virtual consultations with TST Health, patients learn about potential risks of the abortion pill and what to do if complications arise. “We do not agree with the notion that telehealth care puts patients at risk,” said Erin Helian, TST’s executive director. “Instead, we argue that by expanding care and access, telehealth clinics, like ours, can save lives.”

TST Health staff, who are available online 24/7, schedule a series of virtual appointments with each patient and follow up afterward.

“Our new clinic presents a rare opportunity to provide vital medical care in an area that, thanks to lawmakers, is a virtual reproductive care desert,” Helian said. “Our second clinic is just the beginning of our expansion of easy [abortion] access.”

The Satanic Temple Calls Abortion a Religious Ritual

On its website, TST describes its “religious abortion ritual,” which protects members from “medically unnecessary and unscientific regulations.” During the so-called “destruction ritual,” people recite two TST tenets, including one that states, “One’s body is inviolable, subject to one’s own will alone.” Next, they state this personal affirmation: “By my body, my blood. By my will, it is done.”

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To prepare for the ritual, patients are instructed to ponder “the scientific reality regarding abortion” and recall “the struggle to establish the reproductive rights we have today.” Other people’s stories “may subdue stigmas you might feel from those who oppose abortion,” TST states. “Be proud of pursuing what you want for your life despite opposition.”

Lysa TerKeurst on Why Unconditional Trust Is Neither Wise Nor Biblical

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Do church leaders have to trust other people unconditionally? While some might think such a posture is a biblical one, ministry leader Lysa TerKeurst argues this type of trust is not only unwise but also not what God is asking of his followers.

“There is this pressure on Christians, and maybe even especially Christian leaders, to always believe the best about other people,” TerKeurst shared in an interview on “The Stetzer ChurchLeaders Podcast.” “It’s almost like, okay, if you love God, then you have to trust unconditionally. And I make a case in the book that not only is that not smart to do, but it’s not biblical either.”

TerKeurst joined Dr. Ed Stetzer and Daniel Yang to talk about her new book, released on Oct. 8, “I Want to Trust You, but I Don’t: Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment.”

You can watch the full interview with Lysa TerKeurst below.

Lysa TerKeurst: We All Have ‘Trust Issues’

Lysa TerKeurst is president and chief visionary officer of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of several New York Times bestsellers, including “Good Boundaries and Goodbyes,” “Forgiving What You Can’t Forget,” and “It’s Not Supposed To Be This Way.”

TerKeurst has survived significant betrayal in her own life, and her new book conveys key lessons on trust based on Scripture and learned in the fires of her own experience. Her insights about trust are relevant to any believer and are particularly applicable to church leaders. “I want to say to any pastor or ministry leader out there, I get it,” said TerKeurst. “And of course, you’re struggling with trust. Of course.”

RELATED: Lysa TerKeurst: How To Respond When Your Trust Is Broken

TerKeurst encouraged church leaders to recognize that challenges in the area of trust are part of being human. “We all have trust issues,” she said, noting that the phrase “trust issues” has negative connotations. “Let’s just level the playing field and just say, this is something that’s common to us all and not weaponize that phraseology as if there’s something wrong with this.”

All people struggle with trust to some extent, but when people step into positions of leadership in the church, there is no question they are going to face difficulties in that area.

“We have to understand that as we step into leadership, we’re kind of signing up for this,” TerKeurst said. “So the stability can’t be in making sure to always attract the perfect congregation or always attract the perfect employees.”

“The real goal here,” she added, “has to be to create an inner stability, recognizing our trust is going to get broken, but it shouldn’t break us in the process.”

TerKeurst defined trust as “built time plus believable behavior.” Put another way, she said, “In order to have trust in a relationship, you have to have safety and connection. So trust is really the oxygen of all human relationships.”

SBC Pastor Matt Queen Pleads Guilty To Making False Statements During Abuse Investigation at Southwestern Seminary

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Dr. Matt Queen, former interim provost at Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, has pleaded guilty to making false statements to federal investigators following an investigation into whether the school had mishandled allegations of sexual abuse. 

In May, Queen was charged with falsification of records. The United States Attorney’s Office alleged that Queen sought to cover up a report of sexual abuse that occurred at the Southern Baptist-affiliated seminary in 2022. 

Queen’s conviction is the first to result from the Department of Justice’s (DOJ) investigation of Southern Baptist entities. 

Southern Baptist leaders were made aware of the DOJ’s probe in 2022 shortly after the release of a Guidepost Solutions report, which revealed the failures of the denomination’s Executive Committee to properly respond to reports of sexual abuse across a 20-year period. 

The crime to which Queen has pleaded guilty carries a maximum sentence of up to five years in prison. But according to The Tennessean, Queen’s attorney expects the judge to hand down a much lighter sentence—several months in prison at most—in exchange for Queen’s cooperation with the investigation.

In May, the U.S. Attorney’s Office alleged that shortly after the DOJ opened its investigation, Southwestern Seminary received a report of sexual abuse committed by a student. The incident was not reported to the U.S. Attorney’s Office. 

The U.S. Attorney’s Office further said that Terri Stovall, who serves as dean of women at the school, created a document in January 2023 that described the failure of Southwestern Seminary “to take action regarding the allegation at that time” but that Heath Woolman, then chief of staff, ordered the document destroyed during a meeting with Stovall and Queen. 

Queen later produced notes for investigators that he said were from that meeting. The notes conflicted with Stovall’s testimony, and investigators believed them to be falsified.

Queen was put on administrative leave from Southwestern Seminary in June 2023. He subsequently resigned.

Queen went on to become the pastor of Friendly Avenue Baptist Church in Greensboro, North Carolina, in February. Friendly Avenue Baptist Church placed Queen on “administrative leave from his pastoral responsibilities” shortly after he was charged. 

RELATED: SBC Pastor Matt Queen Says He Will ‘Seek To Be Vindicated by God and Man’ Following DOJ Charge

In light of Queen’s criminal conviction, Friendly Avenue Baptist Church will conduct an “internal review” regarding Queen’s employment. 

World Methodist Council’s First Female Head Talks About What Holds a Fracturing Church Together

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(RNS) — In August, the World Methodist Council, an umbrella group of Methodist denominations, meeting in Gothenburg, Sweden, elected the Rev. Debra Wallace-Padgett president of the council, making her the first woman to serve in the post. Wallace-Padgett has been a bishop of the United Methodist Church since 2012 and has led both the denomination’s North Alabama Conference and, since 2021, its Holston Conference, in eastern Tennessee.

In a recent email interview, Wallace-Padgett discussed her plans for the WMC, which she describes as “a platform for dialogue, collaboration and mutual support among its member churches,” and the challenges facing the UMC in the United States.

RELATED: The Global Methodist Church Will Meet in Costa Rica. Sexuality Is Not on the Agenda.

This interview has been edited for length and clarity.

What do you hope from your term as president of the World Methodist Council?

I envision the council continuing to promote social justice, education and leadership development during my tenure as president. As we do this, we will move toward our World Methodist Council vision of “spreading the gospel by making disciples of Christ for the transformation of the world.”

The World Methodist Council is composed of remarkably talented members representing more than 80 denominations from all over the world. As president, I have the opportunity and responsibility to empower these leaders to release their gifts through World Methodist Council work. As this is done, much will be accomplished.

What do you see as the biggest challenges facing Methodists here in the U.S.?

In the U.S., cultural and generational shifts have led to declining participation in many churches, which places strain on financial resources and a need to adapt ministries to be more engaging and relevant.

Across many Methodist and Wesleyan churches, there is a growing need to engage younger generations who are increasingly disconnected from traditional forms of religious expression. As society becomes more secularized, churches must adapt their ministries to reach people in new ways while remaining faithful to core Christian teachings.

Do you hope to continue a connection with conferences that have left due to differing views of sexuality, and those, such as Côte d’Ivoire and Czechia conferences, that are preparing to leave?

I see my role as president being a bridge builder within our worldwide Methodist family. While there are indeed differences that have led some conferences to make the difficult decision to leave, I believe we are stronger together than apart. Even when we don’t agree on every issue, there remains so many things that unite us — our love for God, faith in Christ, daily experience of God’s presence in our life through the Holy Spirit, commitment to service, and shared mission to be a part of Christ’s transforming work in the world.

My hope is that we can maintain respectful relationships, to find ways to collaborate on the many areas where we do agree, while honoring the convictions of those who feel led to move in a different direction. It is my desire to focus on what binds us together rather than what divides us, and I am committed to fostering connections and understanding across the worldwide Methodist community, so that we might continue to represent the love of Christ in our world.

Closer to home, the Holston Conference will celebrate its bicentennial this year. What plans do you have?

The Holston Conference launched a bicentennial celebration at our clergy convocation with a special service. Also, local churches are celebrating their own histories and celebrations throughout the year. In addition, we had a bicentennial worship service at our 2024 Annual Conference gathering at Lake Junaluska, with great music led by a team from Christ United Methodist Church in Chattanooga and Michael Rodgers from Cokesbury in Knoxville, and six bishops with Holston Conference ties.

We will be also meeting in Morristown, Tennessee, to recognize “the bishop’s table” built for the 1912 General Conference of the Methodist Episcopal Church, one of the predecessor denominations to the United Methodist Church. Bishops presided from the table, which included a mosaic of 360 pieces of wood sent from churches, missionaries and other locations from around the globe.

This article originally appeared here.

After UMC Approves Same-Sex Marriage, Unrest Breaks Out in Liberian Church

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Members of the United Methodist Church in Zimbabwe hold placards while holding a protest at the church premises in Harare, May 30, 2024. Similar protests denouncing homosexuality have occurred in a variety of African nations. (AP Photo/Tsvangirayi Mukwazhi)

NAIROBI, Kenya (RNS) — The United Methodist Church in Liberia has been roiled in recent days over its position on marriage for same-sex couples after the global denomination, based in the United States, voted to strike a 40-year-old condemnation of homosexuality from its governing document.

Clergy and lay members of the 150,000-member Liberian church have been calling for a special session of the annual conference to take a vote on the U.S. church’s decision, but Bishop Samuel Jerome Quire, the resident bishop of the Liberia Area, has refused, citing the importance of maintaining unity in the Liberian church.

Last week, Quire suspended a number of pastors and elders who have persistently asked for the special assembly.

RELATED: 4 Ways To Leave Your Denomination: How Churches Are Disaffiliating From the UMC

The tensions escalated Sunday (Oct.13), when protests broke out at the New Georgia United Methodist Church in Monrovia over the suspension of the Rev. Leo Mason, the church’s senior pastor and an outspoken critic of same-sex marriages. The protests spread to other churches in the capital, prompting riot police to intervene.

Quire later explained the protests were triggered by rumors that he was to go to New Georgia to preside at a wedding between two men. He was due there to install a new pastor.

At a news conference on Monday, the bishop said that the United Methodist Church in Liberia firmly upheld the definition of marriage as a sacred union between one man and one woman. “This belief is deeply rooted in the interpretation of biblical teachings, our cultural values and our shared commitment in upholding marriage as a union between man and a woman,” he said, urging the church members to stay out of the streets.

Liberia, red, in western Africa. (Map courtesy of Wikimedia/Creative Commons)

He tried to reassure opponents of marriage for LGBTQ couples, saying, “I want to say here … that our church … is not a gay church nor will it ever adopt such an identity.”

The bishop said the issue of same-sex marriage has been lingering since the General Conference of the United Methodist Church, meeting in Charlotte, North Carolina, April 23-May 3, removed language banning LGBTQ clergy and restrictions on same-sex marriage from the church’s Book of Discipline.

Porn Is a Women’s Problem, Too. Our Solutions Need To Be Woman-Oriented.

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When I found out my husband had been using pornography and even had a history with prostitutes, I was devastated. I had no idea where to turn. I didn’t know who to trust, or how to seek help. 

Now, 11 years later, we’ve done the difficult but irreplaceable work of healing some of our deepest emotional wounds. Along the way, we discovered we were far from alone. 

Our experience—initially one of shame, grief and extreme isolation—has helped us understand just how widespread compulsive sexual behavior is among married Christian couples, and how to help recognize and heal from the betrayal trauma that so often comes along with it. 

At Pure Desire, we partnered with Barna Group to produce new research on pornography use, both in our culture and our churches. The data clearly dispels two common misconceptions about porn use: that it’s just a “man’s problem” and that it’s solely a “secular problem.” 

Over half of practicing Christians (54%) report viewing pornography at least occasionally. And while a gender disparity in porn consumption does exist, with three in four Christian men (75%) admitting to using pornography, there is a notable increase in the number of women accessing pornographic content today. Today, 40% of Christian women use porn.

But women also tend to feel the harms of porn use more sharply than men do, both when they’re the one using it and when their spouse or partner is.

Porn use and sexually compulsive behavior generally impact women in two distinct ways. 

The first is a decline in mental health and well-being that’s linked to active, personal use. Those who use porn experience higher levels of self-criticism, the need to be perfect and a fear of failure. They also experience higher levels of anxiety about important decisions, tend to feel easily overwhelmed and commonly experience depression. 

In addition, because of the common belief that it’s a “man’s issue,” many women carry an extra layer of shame when they struggle with pornography. I know this to be true because I wasn’t only the betrayed spouse, but I experienced my own struggles with love, sex and porn.

The second impact is the less-discussed “betrayal trauma” that affects women when or if they discover—as I did—that their spouse or partner struggles with or has a history of compulsive sexual behaviors.

U.S. adult women who’ve had a partner or spouse who regularly viewed porn identify their partner’s regular porn use as a “very or somewhat” negative experience 56% of the time. Nearly half, or 44%, of these women feel their partner wasn’t attracted to them. 

That’s a really important statistic, largely because of its contrast with the male experience. Men—even Christian men—are much more likely to think that regular porn use is compatible with a healthy sex life within marriage, or even beneficial to it. They simply do not experience porn use the same way, themselves or in their relationships. 

HuddleCam HD Review

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When you need a good webcam, you certainly have a lot of them to choose from, but that doesn’t mean they are all alike. The HuddleCam HD webcam gives you the same quality as their many other products, and it’s super affordable at around $90. This wide-angle lens webcam is great for conducting classes, conferences, and various presentations. If you’re interested in finding out the advantages and disadvantages of buying this camera, keep reading.

Why Is the HuddleCam HD Unique?

Besides the affordable price, the HuddleCamHD webcam offers high-tech webcam capability that you usually can’t find unless you pay a lot more for it. HuddleCam HD is known for making high-quality electronic products at reasonable prices, and their webcam doesn’t disappoint. It offers a 1080p resolution and three different connections – USB, USB 3.0, and USB 2.0 – and it is compatible with both Mac computers and PCs. Good for companies of most sizes, the webcam is compatible with most other electronic equipment, so it is a very versatile and reliable webcam that people love. The plug-and-play feature makes it super easy and fast to set up so you can get started right away, and the lens offers the perfect FOV at 94 degrees, making it perfect for events such as live streaming.

The webcam was made for all types of conferencing setups, so regardless of the size of the meeting room, the number of people at the meeting, or the setup and design of the tables and chairs, this webcam can accommodate your needs. It is also lightweight and portable, meaning it is easy to move it from one location to another if that’s what you need to do. It has high-quality optics and can be used with numerous cloud-based videoconferencing applications, including Zoom, Skype for Business, and many others, making it a very versatile webcam that anyone can use.

What Do Customers Say About the HuddleCam HD?

Of course, even if the price is right and the company boasts about the product, that might not be enough to convince you, so…

Researching real-life customer reviews is a great way to find out what actual purchasers think about the product. For the record, the HuddleCamHD webcam has a rating of 4.3 out of 5 stars, which is a very high rating indeed. To recap what these customers think of the HuddleCamHD webcam, here are some actual comments from some of them:

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The Meaning of Membership

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Here’s a true-life parable about he meaning of membership. When I was five years old, we moved a little bit further into the suburbs. And not far away was a neighborhood pool. I really liked to swim, and it was right there for the taking. But there was a problem: we weren’t members. To get in, my parents had to be willing to sign up and cough up some money.

After so many years of politely asking, quickly followed by constant badgering, high-pitched yelling and screaming from yours truly, they joined. They signed the papers and paid the price. In return, we were given cards to prove that we were members.

From that point on, starting at 9:00 AM on Memorial Day weekend until 9:00 PM on Labor Day, I was in a constant state of going to the pool, being at the pool, and coming home from the pool. I’d hop on my bike, hopefully before mom had a chance to think about the chores I had failed to do, and headed to the pool.

When I showed up at the front gate, I showed my card and walked in.

Meaning of Membership

After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Ephesians 5:29-33

I was a member. And being a member made certain things true.

  • Members have agreements – To become members, there must be some rules, some agreements on what each other will do, and won’t do. This means that there are some limits and boundaries that both have said yes to.

  • Members have relationships – What happens to one member affects the other members, they are connected to each other, they are never total strangers. A relationship means people are related, connected to one another.

  • Members have partnerships – They are part of one another and work together towards common goals, common objectives, for their common good. A partner doesn’t do it all, they do their part while someone else also does their part.

  • Members have privileges – there are certain things that only members can do, they have rights, privileges, and responsibilities not available to just anyone. A privilege is just that, a benefit not available to just anyone

When you follow Jesus, you become a member of his forever family, his church, the Body of Christ. There isn’t a way to opt out from this. There isn’t a second step, additional requirements, or fees. It’s a package deal.

Children’s Sermons Ideas: 7 Short Bible Messages for Kids

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Children’s sermons ideas can be short yet powerful. They’re sure to grab and hold kids’ attention while teaching core Christian truths. Topics range from salvation and heaven to the Holy Spirit and prayer.

Use children’s sermons ideas during adult worship, Sunday school openings, or children’s church. If your church has a preschool or child-care program, the messages work great for chapel. Plus, children’s sermons ideas make wonderful family devotions. So share these object lessons with parents and caregivers too.

Your dedication to children changes hearts and lives. Thank you for ministering to young followers of Jesus!

We hope one of these children’s sermons ideas comes in handy!

7 Children’s Sermons Ideas

Check out these seven easy, impactful children’s messages and devotions:

1. Paid in Full

Theme: Jesus paid it all!

Object: A bill or contract stamped “Paid in Full.” (You could even get a rubber stamp and stamp each child’s hand.)

Scripture: Romans 6:23

Kids learn that Jesus gave his life as full payment for all our sins.

2. Over and Over Again

Theme: God’s forgiveness and our forgiving others

Object: A large assortment of pencils with the erasers all worn off

Scripture: Matthew 18:21-22

Children will discover why Jesus wants us to forgive others repeatedly.

3. Where Your Treasure Is

Theme: Jesus wants us to concentrate on collecting treasures in heaven.

Object: A personal collection (such as 50 States Quarters)

Scripture: Matthew 6:19-21

Children discover how to keep their hearts in heaven with God.

Talking To Teens About Sex: Teaching Biblical Values

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Talking to teens about sex might make you squirm. If you’re a youth pastor, we don’t have to tell you that. Sexuality is a topic you must discuss early and often with kids. But is it easy for you to do?

In this six-minute video, veteran youth leader Jonathan McKee goes where many pastors fear to tread. He does an excellent job breaking the ice while talking to teens about sex. First he puts a group of middle schoolers at ease. He explains that unfortunately, sex is a taboo subject in the church. In that context, people tend to think of sex as “naughty.”

Then McKee proves that the Bible (and therefore God) is not afraid to talk about sex. To God, sex is not a taboo subject!

So what’s the number-one question on every teenager’s mind when it comes to sex? “Should I wait?” is what McKee identifies and addresses in this clip. He draws on the wisdom of Proverbs 5:18-20 to explain God’s intention for sex and marriage.

Share this important video with kids at your church. When you prepare to talk to teens or tweens about sex and purity, remember these suggestions.

‘We’re Super Excited’—Jinger Duggar Vuolo, Husband Jeremy, Announce 3rd Child Is on the Way

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Jinger Duggar Vuolo and her husband, Jeremy Vuolo, announced this week they are expecting their third child together. The Vuolos already have two daughters: Felicity, 6, and Evangeline, 3. Jeremy said that he was shocked when his wife told him the news.

“When she told me, I was literally speechless,” Jeremy said to People magazine on Oct. 15. “She got me good. It was on Felicity’s birthday. Jinger says, ‘I’ve got a gift for you.’ It was in an Amazon bag. So I’m thinking, ‘What did she get from Amazon for me?’ Then I open it up and it’s the positive result, and I’m actually speechless.”

Jinger is in her second trimester and says she’s thankful not to be pregnant during the summer. ​​”We’re super excited,” she said, adding, “I’m like, ‘Oh man, this is going to be such an awesome thing to go through pregnancy, not in the summer.'”

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Jinger Duggar Vuolo Asks for Prayers

Jeremy, 37, and Jinger, 30, wed in 2016. In addition to announcing their news in an exclusive to People, the Vuolos posted several updates on their social media, including discussing it on the latest episode of their podcast.

Jinger even posted a video with footage she filmed right after discovering she was pregnant and in which she explained how she planned to surprise Jeremy with the gift at their daughter Felicity’s birthday party. Her video later showed his reaction when he realized he was looking at a positive pregnancy test result.

Jinger explained to her followers that the Vuolos told their daughters the exciting news while taking family pictures. They gave each little girl a jean jacket that said “Big Sis” on the back and helped them understand what the words mean. 

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The wife and mom asked followers for prayers for her pregnancy, namely “just that everything would go smoothly with the baby and that we would all remain healthy.” Jinger also told people to be on the lookout for a gender reveal.

‘Fake’ and ‘Flawed’ Pastors Keep Tucker Carlson From Attending Church; Carlson Discusses Faith With Russell Brand

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Media personality Russell Brand recently sat down with political commentator Tucker Carlson for the first episode of his new weekly podcast, “Break Bread with Russell Brand.”

“Since becoming a believer, I’ve wanted to create a space where I can talk about my faith on a deeper level with others,” Brand said of the podcast in a post on X.

During the episode, Brand said he and Tucker “prayed, talked about our faith, read the Bible, and, of course, broke bread together.”

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Tucker Carlson on Why He Doesn’t Attend Church

Tucker, who has recently been more open about his spiritual journey, told Brand that he has trouble attending church due to how “flawed” and “fake” Christian leaders are.

“One of the reasons that I have a lot of trouble going to church is [because] all these Christian leaders are so flawed and so obviously fake. I can’t deal with it,” said Tucker. “It freaks me out.”

The former Fox News personality further expressed that he believes the reason for this situation is “because they’re all under spiritual attack. That’s why.”

Brand replied, “They’re under spiritual attack?”

“Yes, they are,” Tucker said. “Everyone’s like, ‘Well, why do all these Christian ministers, famous Christian ministers, have freaky sex lives?’ Well, why do you think? Because they’re under spiritual attack.”

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Tucker went on to share a story about his college roommate.

Florida Pastor, Previously Convicted in Sex Abuse Case, Under Investigation as Authorities Seek To Identify Other Victims

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Authorities continue to investigate a Florida pastor for sexual abuse allegations. Pheguel Pierre Louis of Evangelical Church of the New Jerusalem in Riviera Beach apparently continues to preach despite a previous battery conviction. 

Editor’s note: This article refers to reports of sexual abuse, which some readers might find triggering and/or disturbing.

Pierre Louis, 40, was arrested in August 2023 after a 23-year-old church member accused him of sexually assaulting her. According to The Palm Beach Post, the woman alleged that Pierre Louis came over to her residence saying that he had a disturbing dream about her and needed to pray for her. 

The woman alleges that Pierre Louis then instructed her to undress, applied oil to her body, and sexually assaulted her with his hands. Pierre Louis maintains that he only “laid hands” on her forehead to pray for her. 

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Pierre Louis spent eight days in custody before being released on bond. He later pleaded guilty to one felony battery charge. 

As part of the plea agreement, the judge withheld adjudication, meaning that Pierre Louis is not considered a convicted felon and was not required to register as a sex offender. He was sentenced to five years probation, 150 hours of community service, and mandatory psychosexual evaluation and treatment. 

Now investigators believe they have identified a second victim, who is the sister of the previous victim and who has alleged that Pierre Louis assaulted her in a similar fashion in the spring of 2022. 

In a statement released on Oct. 10, the Palm Beach County Sheriff’s Office (PBSO) said that its special victims unit is “seeking to speak with potential victims” who attend Evangelical Church of the New Jerusalem or have attended in the past. 

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The PBSO said that in light of a second victim coming forward, “detectives want to talk with anyone who may have information regarding the pastor or similar incidents.”

Christians ‘Must Saturate our Culture’—Pastor Greg Laurie Defends Appearance at Trump Rally

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Pastor Greg Laurie of Harvest Christian Fellowship in Riverside, California, was invited to pray at a recent rally for the Trump campaign in California. Laurie said that he would have done the same if invited to a rally for the Harris campaign. Following the event, Laurie further explained in a social media post the Christian’s role in politics.

“When I go into settings like this, I go as a representative of God’s kingdom,” said Laurie.

Greg Laurie Speaks Out After Praying at California Trump Rally

In the hot desert of Coachella, California, Laurie shared the stage with former President Trump and actor Dennis Quaid. Laurie donned a black suit and did not wear a MAGA hat, unlike many of the other speakers.

“When I go into settings like this, I go as a representative of God’s kingdom,” Laurie said in a video on Wednesday (Oct. 16). “My primary objective is to point people to Christ.”

Laurie disputed arguments that Christians shouldn’t get involved in politics, mentioning he’s not sure where anyone would get that idea.

Laurie further offered that the concept of “separation of church and state” was only in a letter that Thomas Jefferson wrote to “a particular person who asked about this.” The pastor argued that the statement wasn’t in “any of the founding documents of our nation.” Jefferson’s point was to “keep the government out of the church, not the church out of the government,” said Laurie.

“We as Christians must permeate…we must saturate our culture…to shine as bright lights,” Laurie argued.

Referencing Matthew 5:13-15, Laurie explained that Christians are to “function as salt and light.” Christians “show our light through good works” and “preaching the gospel.” He continued, “We are salt by stopping the spread of evil.” Laurie mentioned that salt was used in Bible times to preserve meat and stop the spread of rot.

“That’s where voting comes in. That’s where speaking out on issues comes in,” said Laurie. “Christians must be involved in every aspect of American life.”

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Nearly 20,000 people have seen Laurie’s video and hundreds have reacted to Laurie’s words and his involvement at a partisan rally.

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