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The Update on Generation Z Every Church Leader Needs

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Vivendi Brand Marketing released a comprehensive report titled “Gen Z & Entertainment” on those born between 2000 and 2012 (Although most would deem Generation Z to include those born between 1995 and 2010.). The report looks at how “they connect with books, festivals, gaming, music and series in a new and different way.”

The “Billie Eilish” generation (named after the Gen Z music phenom) is accurately noted as the largest generation on Earth, and they “mark a radical break from the expectations, behavior and mindset of their elders.”

Drawing from findings from more 60 reports, additional in-house research and extensive collaboration across all Vivendi businesses, they determined the following key traits that best characterize Generation Z:

  • Gen Z have an 8-second attention span, but at the same time are aces at absorbing content quickly, as exemplified with Tiktok, the app best associated with them.

  • Gen Z are connected. 72% use social media while watching television. As opposed to millennials and their “selfie culture,” they are all about authenticity and showing their genuine selves.

  • Gen Z are inclusive, tolerant and abhor discrimination. Activists and conscious consumers, they are fully aware of their environmental footprint, willing to spend less on material goods and more on in real life experiences.

  • Gen Z feel anxious. Always connected, their unfiltered view of the world fuels anxiety. Mindful of digital overload, they desire immersive, real-life moments that capture their full attention and alleviate their stress. Apps such as Flipd help them to digital “detox” and unplug from their digital life.

Readers of my book Meet Generation Z will find these marks familiar. The telling point is that the early research revealed in that book is not only being substantiated, but also demonstrating that it is not changing as they age.

Why bother with Generation Z?

Consider three reasons:

  1. They are the largest generation on the planet. If you care about reaching people for Jesus, you will care about Generation Z.

  2. They are not simply shaping culture. Soon, they will constitute culture.

  3. Most churches are tied to a specific generation. It may be because of the year the church was birthed; it may be because of the age of the senior pastor; it may be because of the era of its greatest growth. The danger of being generationally linked is that you will live and die by that generation. Wisdom would dictate that every church should keep its eye on the next generation, and the generation after that, in terms of outreach. That way you will not be a “one and done” church, but one that maintains vibrancy for, yes, generations.

So yes, “meet” Generation Z. But do not only meet them,

… reach them.

Sources

“Vivendi Unveils Extensive Report on Generation Z and How They Are Shaping the Entertainment Business,” Vivendi, March 9, 2020, read online.

James Emery White, Meet Generation Z (Baker).

This article originally appeared here.

Small Groups and Social Distancing: Promoting Online Community

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Amid the pandemic, people need each other more than ever before, yet they need to avoid each other more than ever. That’s where online community comes in.

Christians believe faith is more powerful than fear. As the news media and government agencies continue to discuss the critically important topic of the spread and impact of the virus, it’s easy for anyone to give into fear, especially when they are isolated from others.

Worship services are forced online as groups of 10 are being discouraged to gather. For smaller numbers, social distancing is encouraged where people should stay six feet away from each other. Whether by mandate or by choice, people are cautious about meeting with any size group. Isolation, though, tends to amplify fear. How can we promote community and social distancing at the same time? One answer is online community.

Online Community: Reframing Life and Ministry

The only thing missing from everyday life amid a pandemic is personal contact. The church may not be meeting within the four walls of the church building for an hour on Sunday, but the church can function as the Body of Christ despite the lack of conventional church services.

Paul instructed in 1 Corinthians 12 that every member of the Body is important and that every member has gifts. Rather than meeting in weekend services to check off the church box for the week, members can and should be challenged to embrace their deeper calling. Who can they serve? How can they encourage? How can the church be the church outside of the four walls of a Sunday service? We really should be asking these questions anyway.

When we think of small groups in particular, often we focus on practicing the “one anothers” of the Bible.

“Love one another” (John 13:34; John 15:12).

“Be devoted to one another in brotherly love” (Romans 12:10).

“Honor one another above yourselves” (Romans 12:10).

“Live in harmony with one another” (Romans 12:16).

“Stop passing judgment on one another” (Romans 14:13).

“Serve one another in love” (Galatians 5:13).

“Carry each other’s burdens” (Galatians 6:2).

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other” (Ephesians 4:32).

“Build each other up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11).

“Encourage one another daily” (Hebrews 3:13).

“Spur one another on toward love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10:24).

“Pray for each other” (James 5:16).

There are 59 of these statements in all. (For a complete list, check out this post on smallgroupchurches.com

There are only a couple of these statements that should be avoided in a climate of social distancing:

“Wash one another’s feet” (John 13:14) and

“Greet one another with a holy kiss” (1 Peter 5:14).

All of the other “one anothers” can be practiced among believers even in isolation, quarantine, and social distancing.

5 Smart Ways To Build Trust in Your Marriage

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So trust is pretty important in marriage. Some of you that are married have a decent amount of trust in your relationship. How great would it be to raise that level of trust and grow even closer in your marriage? Others of you may have little trust. How would you like to move towards restoring what is broken?

Regardless of where you are in your marriage, you can always grow in the area of trust. Trust is a vital ingredient for any healthy marriage relationship! If you are intentional about building a solid foundation of trust in your marriage, you can build a family that will impact generations to come!

Here are 5 Smart Ways to Build Trust in Your Marriage:

1. Do what you say you will do.

Pretty simple. Say you are going to be home by 6pm? Be home by 6pm! If you can hold appointments elsewhere, you should be able to hold them with the ones you care about the most. Communicate your plans and try your best to stick to them. Trust is lost when you fail to follow through I’m action hat you have committed to in word. Choose the higher road and do what you say you will do.

2. Be consistent.

Time builds trust. Consistency over time builds even more trust. If your spouse is talking with you, be consistent in the way you engage and listen. If you have messed up recently in your marriage, as many have, it is going to take time to rebuild that trust. Be patient. Time and consistency. Be consistent.

3. Put your spouse’s interest before your own.

When marriages begin to go downhill, 9 times out of 10, one or both spouses begin to put their own interest before that of their spouses. ME mentality. This selfish mindset erodes trust faster than a wild hurricane on a sandy beach. When you SHOW your spouse you care about their needs more than your own, you will earn their trust over time. And when they begin to put your interests first, guess what happens? Both of your needs are met!

4. Don’t be stupid.

Seriously, don’t be stupid. Don’t do things that you wouldn’t do if your spouse was right next to you. Don’t say things you wouldn’t say if your spouse wasn’t right next to you. Don’t look at things you wouldn’t look at with your spouse right next to you. Don’t. Be. Stupid. Don’t be stupid!

5. Get past the past.

Forgive your spouse. If you’ve been married long, there is a 99.999% chance that one or both of you have played the “stupid” card a time or two. As a result, hurts happen and are tough to heal from and leave behind. If there is anything you are still holding against your spouse, let it go. Your forgiveness for them may eventually lead them to forgive you for when you have played the “stupid” card. Ultimately, you will not be able to control what their response will be, but you must take responsibility to forgive them first. Trust is impossible without forgiveness, because none of us are without fault. Forgive. Get past the past.

Which of these areas resonates with you the most in your marriage and why? What are other ways to build trust in a marriage? Love to hear your thoughts!

Pastors Refuse to Stop Assembling for Worship

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Though most American churches have temporarily closed and moved services online during this pandemic, some pastors refuse to obey orders or even follow safety recommendations. In East Baton Rouge, Louisiana, the Rev. Tony Spell of Life Tabernacle Church insists the current outbreak is “not a concern” and “politically motivated.”

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On Sunday, almost 1,200 people worshiped at Life Tabernacle, where Spell continued the Apostolic congregation’s tradition of laying on of hands. That’s a biblical practice, Spell says, adding he’ll keep it up “without the fear of the spread of any virus.” By still holding worship three times a week, the pastor is violating Governor John Bel Edwards’ order to halt gatherings of more than 50 people. Nationally, officials have reduced that number to 10 in an attempt to slow the outbreak.

Life Tabernacle Pastor Cites Religious Rights

According to Spell, assembling for worship is a right that can’t be taken away, no matter the circumstances. “People are still going to work, still going to the mall,” he says. “I encountered more people in Target today than I did during my service last night. It’s persecution of the faith for me not to have my worship service, and yet I am allowed to go out in public and shop. Why is there one standard for commerce and another for religion?”

Online or televised services don’t have the same emotion or impact, Spell contends. “There are miracles and signs and wonders in every one of our services, and that’s why we continue.” During Tuesday night’s service, he preached, “I just want to encourage the religious world tonight…Keep going to church! Keep on worshiping God!…The church is a hospital for the sick! It’s a place of healing for the brokenhearted!”

A police officer reportedly told Spell the National Guard would break up future services. After video of Life Tabernacle’s services surfaced, some church members were suspended from work as a health precaution.

Regarding his state’s ban, Bel Edwards says, “I’m a person of faith. I happen to believe very much in the awesome power of prayer. I also believe in science, and the scientists at the CDC say that the measures we are taking will minimize the spread.”

Other Leaders Agree With Rev. Spell

Brian Lowman, pastor of South Hills Baptist Church in Raleigh, North Carolina, has kept church doors open—literally, propping them so no one has to touch handles. He’s taking other precautions, such as not passing the offering plate and canceling Sunday school, but worship will continue for now. Lowman cites Scripture passages such as Hebrews 10:25 and 2 Timothy 1:7, saying God wants us to keep meeting and not be afraid.

Pastor Rodney Howard-Browne, head of Revival Ministries International in Florida, is not only still holding in-person worship services but also encouraging people to shake hands. “The only time the church will close is when the Rapture is taking place,” he says. “This Bible school is open because we’re raising up revivalists, not pansies.”

R.R. Reno, editor of the conservative Catholic magazine First Things, says, “Closing churches is utterly unnecessary,” and “modest-sized” services can be held responsibly.

As of Thursday noon, the United States had 10,442 confirmed cases of the virus and 150 deaths.

Dr. Tony Evans: God Is Using This Crisis to Wake People Up

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In a sermon livestreamed to an empty sanctuary on Sunday, March 15, Pastor Tony Evans addressed the global pandemic, using the last few verses of Hebrews 12 to explain that he believes God is using the crisis to call people back to him.

“God is talking,” said Dr. Evans, “and one of the ways God speaks is through allowing circumstances into our lives and into our world that are not pleasant. He allows those circumstances to get our undivided attention. It’s a wake-up call.”

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“I want to take just a few moments to answer the question probably on most people’s mind, and that is: what on earth is going on?” said Pastor Tony Evans. To answer that question, he said, we need to recognize “a very important biblical principle…Everything visible and physical is preceded by something invisible and spiritual. So if you want to deal with the physical, visible problem you must identify the invisible, spiritual cause.” Put another way, “If what you see is all you see, you do not see all there is to be seen.” 

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Evans based his sermon on Hebrews 12:25-29, which says, 

See to it that you do not refuse him who speaks. If they did not escape when they refused him who warned them on earth, how much less will we, if we turn away from him who warns us from heaven? At that time his voice shook the earth, but now he has promised, “Once more I will shake not only the earth but also the heavens.” The words “once more” indicate the removing of what can be shaken—that is, created things—so that what cannot be shaken may remain. Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe, for our “God is a consuming fire.”

The passage contrasts the visible, created world with the invisible, spiritual realm of God’s kingdom and warns people not to refuse to listen to God when he is speaking to them. From these verses, which describe God shaking the earth, Evans drew the principle that God allows disruptions into our lives in order to get our attention. 

God has not been a priority in American society, said the pastor. We have marginalized him and turned to idols instead. When we forget about God, said Evans, “Oftentimes, in the Bible and in the world, God will shake things”—that is, he will allow the normality of our lives to be impacted. We know God is speaking now because our world has been disrupted. 

“This pandemic has disrupted our lives, our work, our play, our sports, our travel, our fun,” Evans said. “It has disrupted our gatherings. It has turned what was normal and made it abnormal. In fact, it’s made it, in some sectors, very dangerous. But this is a grand opportunity to return to the God who allowed the shaking to occur.” The opportunity is for us to stop putting our hope in created things, as the Hebrews passage says, and instead to trust in God as citizens of his kingdom, which cannot be disrupted or shaken. 

The pastor compared our current suffering from the pandemic to the pain women experience in childbirth. Labor is extremely painful, and no one desires that suffering in and of itself. But when we recognize that new life is the result, that becomes “good news in a bad situation.”

Evans believes there is a lot of good that has come as a result of the pandemic. People in our nation’s capital who were not talking to each other before are talking now, he said, and people across the country are helping one another and trying to be more responsible. Said Evans, “God is forcing us to not just say we’re one nation under God, but to start acting like we’re one nation under God.” 

Even though Evans did say the virus “is not chance,” he clarified that he does not believe God is deliberately inflicting suffering on people. God is not causing the virus, but he is allowing it in order to accomplish a spiritual purpose. 

Pastor Tony Evans on Living in God’s Kingdom

So what does this mean for those of us who are already part of God’s kingdom? It means, said Evans, that we should 1) give thanks and 2) serve other people. “Did you know you can give thanks right now?” he asked. “You don’t give thanks for the problem—you give thanks in it.”

He noted that we’re being told to wash our hands a lot, and said, “Well, as you wash your hands, I want you to wash somebody else’s feet. I want you to go and serve your neighbor.” Now is not a time for fighting or arguing, he emphasized. Now is a time for serving and showing kindness.

“If you are a Christian, if you’re part of this unshakable kingdom, I want you to give thanks that this pandemic does not own you cause God owns you,” said Evans. “Don’t be a casual Christian. This is a time for full-time Christians, not part-time saints.”

How to Livestream for Free: A Quick Solution for Churches

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More and more churches have made the hard decision to suspend their public worship services and instead offer their congregants an online version of church. For those churches that are new to livestream services, this can be a difficult time to navigate. Before you type how to livestream into Google, though, we’ve put together some quick suggestions for you.

While figuring out how to livestream can be complicated and expensive, depending on how polished you want your services to look and whether you want to host the video yourself, there are some ways to get your services up and running as soon as this weekend using things you likely already have at your church.

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Responding to our current crisis by helping churches get their livestreams up and running quickly, OutreachDigital has a new streaming service for churches that just launched yesterday. Considering the fact that most of the churches who need a quick livestream solution right now are likely small ones that haven’t done this before, OutreachDigital is offering the service for FREE and has anticipated many questions you might have about the process.

Through FreeOnlineChurch.com, churches that already have a YouTube account or Facebook page can start streaming in a few steps. (Side note: If you don’t have a YouTube channel or Facebook page for your church, don’t worry; you’ll just need to set those up first.)

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The advantage of using FreeOnlineChurch is it acts as a bridge between Facebook or YouTube and your church website. This means that you can take advantage of Facebook’s or YouTube’s simple “go live” options and have the video easily accessible from your church’s website. Directing visitors and members to your church’s website is often easier than directing them to a Facebook page. Additionally, sending people to a streaming page on your website provides a distraction-free experience that is equipped with a digital Bible, an area to take sermon notes, and (soon) a community chat. Viewers also see links to your online giving along with other important links to your website.

Getting set up with FreeOnlineChurch.com is very simple. The only things you’ll need before you start are your church’s Facebook page or YouTube account and a phone, tablet, or computer with internet connectivity. The steps you need to take to sign up are simple, too:

    1. Visit FreeOnlineChurch.com
    2. Click Get started
    3. Fill out the forms
    4. Choose your free streaming provider (Facebook or YouTube)
    5. Follow the steps to connect your streaming provider to the FreeOnlineChurch.com platform
    6. Copy your URL from the settings page and Place a “Live” or “Church Online” button on your churches current website linking back to your FreeOnlineChurch.com page
    7. Whenever you go live or post a video, it will automatically show up on your church page

How to Livestream: Other Things to Consider

A big thing to consider when directing people online is whether you have a sufficient online  church giving platform. Check out Church Online Giving Platforms – 5 Reliable Tools We Love to learn about the services that are available to make online giving an easy experience for your congregation.

Once you’ve got your livestream up and going and have a couple weeks under your belt, it’s a good time to dive into some metrics. Check out Does Your Church Livestream? Here Are Some Things You Need to Know. There are some best-practices with streaming that are going to be helpful when and if you want to try growing your channel or just making it more accessible to searchers. 

Perhaps you’d like to host your videos on your own website. It should be noted that when you use either YouTube or Facebook, the videos are hosted on those respective platforms. If you want access to this video footage, say, perhaps to use for clips in your services or to make other videos, check out this article: Three Steps to Launch Your Live Streaming Ministry. Author Duke Tabor does an excellent job explaining the pros and cons of livestreaming via a social media platform versus livestreaming from your church website.

Why Body Abuse and Body Adoration Fail on Both Levels

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Joey Chestnut is the most dominant person in his field. People marvel at his ability and his dedication. He is consistently the national champion in the Nathan’s Annual Hotdog Eating Contest. He won again last year by downing 71 hotdogs (with buns) in ten minutes. 25 years ago, it took 20 hotdogs to win the hotdog eating competition. You can watch the competition on ESPN. Also, on ESPN, but very different, is the CrossFit Games – where athletes compete against one another. Hotdog eating and CrossFit competitions, broadcast on the same sports channel, illustrate the paradox we find ourselves in with body abuse and body adoration.

On one hand, we are eating more and eating less healthy as a culture. Doctors agree that this is a serious health problem but researches debate the root of the problem. Some point to how we can eat so much, so cheaply in comparison to other nations and believe that raising prices or taxes on food is the solution. Others point to longer work hours and less time for exercise. Some point to convenience as the culprit. Others point to our increasing portion sizes. There is more to eat and it is easier to eat more than ever before.

But on the other side of the paradox the fitness industry is steadily growing. According to the International Health, Racquet, and Sportsclub Association, Americans with gym memberships have increased from 19.5M to 62.5M in the last thirty years. There are CrossFit boxes, boot camps, fitness centers that provide massages and smoothies, boutique fitness centers, streaming services, and equipment that virtually connects to others around the world as you exercise.

We can feel this personally with our own bodies. It is easier than ever to bounce back and forth between the two sides of the paradox. We are constantly tempted to not take care of the one body the Lord has given us or to make our body the focus of our lives. We live in a world where it is easier to both abuse and adore our bodies. The result is a lot of pressure and a lot of shame.

Both body abuse and body adoration fail us for these two reasons:

1. Both body abuse and body adoration make gods out of good gifts.

Food is a good gift from God. He gave us taste buds to savor and enjoy the food and He is pleased when we enjoy each other and enjoy a great meal together. Jesus is the only person in the New Testament accused of being a glutton because the religious leaders saw him enjoying meals “those sinners and tax collectors.” Food is a good gift but we abuse food when our stomach bosses us around as our god. Our bodies are a good gift too, and any movement we can make is a gift. But our body is a terrible god. When we make food or our bodies our gods, they fail to satisfy us. There will always be another “must have meal” and another goal for our bodies. We will never look in the mirror and declare, “it is finished.” Whether our stomach or our bodies, when we glory in something other than Christ, our glory is always our disappointment and shame (Philippians 3:18).

2. Both body abuse and body adoration focus on the temporary.

When we abuse our bodies with food or drink, we are focused on temporary pleasure and not considering the long-term implications to our bodies. But when we adore our bodies, we are also focused on the temporary. Our earthly bodies are not going to last us forever. We can exercise and eat clean, but we are fighting the inevitable. Our bodies will fail us.

3. The better way: glorify God with our bodies

There is a better way. The Apostle Paul reminds us: “You are not your own, for you were bought at a price. So glorify God with your body” (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). We are to glorify God with our bodies, not glorify our bodies. As Christians, our bodies are sacred, as the Lord has taken up residence in our lives. If we speak poorly of your bodies we are speaking negatively about where God lives, about His house.

In the Old Testament, the temple was where God’s people would gather to worship God. It would have been sacrilegious to abuse the temple – to not value the place where God met with man. At the same time, it would have been idolatrous to worship the temple, to bow before the temple as if it was the object of adoration. The temple was not to be abused or adored. The temple was to be used as a tool to glorify God. Our bodies are now His temples. They are sacred and should be treated with care, but they must not be worshipped.

This article about body abuse and body adoration originally appeared here.

Why Scriptural Interpretation Requires Informed Reading

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Can we accurately perform Scriptural interpretation without informed reading? Let’s try an experiment: How would you define the phrase “Roman Catholic”? If I put that question to a group of people, would everyone give the same definition? Most likely not, and for various reasons, such as cultural origin, previous exposure to the phrase, or religious background (some former Roman Catholics might define it simply as “Papisticalism”).

The phrase Roman Catholic took on its meaning many years ago, and has been “traditioned,” or passed-on, to us through various communicative mediums and in various life contexts. In order to understand what is meant by it, one cannot simply assume what he was told is correct—some contact with its history is necessary for a proper definition. And when that contact is made, one has just relied on historical data for interpreting a contemporary phrase.

Are we able to interpret Scripture without assumptions? Are we able to do theology without the Christian theological tradition? No, on both counts. Stephen R. Holmes puts it this way:

To attempt to do theology without the tradition, then, is to deny, or at least to attempt to escape from, our historical locatedness. It is worth stressing initially that this locatedness is unavoidable: It cannot be escaped from. If we imagine trying to ignore all who have gone before, and coming to the testimony of the apostles in an unmediated form, we simply cannot do it, as will be clear if we begin to imagine what would be involved in the attempt. We might first claim to listen only to the Bible—but the Bible we have, if it is a translation is shaped by a tradition of Bible translation, and by its translator(s).

Should we attempt to avoid this problem by recourse to the original languages, then we would have to learn those languages from somebody, and so would be inducted into a tradition of translating certain words and grammatical constructions in one way and not another, and we would almost certainly have recourse to the lexicons and other aids, which are themselves deposits of the accumulated knowledge of earlier scholars. Further, the standard editions of the Greek New Testament bear witness on nearly every page to the textual criticism that has come up with this text, and not another, and so we cannot even find a text of Scripture that has been ‘handed on’ to us by those who came before.

If we pushed this imagined quest to the last extreme, we might picture a person who has somehow learnt koine Greek only by studying original texts, and who has even examined every extant manuscript of the New Testament and developed her own canons for textual criticism: on these bases she might claim to have unmediated access to the Scriptures. Still, however, the claim must be false: apart from the archeological and bibliographic work that has produced the manuscripts she has used, if she speaks English, German or French, or several other languages, her native tongue even has been decisively affected by earlier theological controversies and biblical translations. There is no escape from the mediation of our faith by the tradition . . . .

We cannot have unmediated access to the apostolic witness to Christ . . .[1]

By “locatedness,” Holmes intends ultimately our place as creatures in God’s world. Everything we know is mediated to us through various means and, sometimes unknown to us, tainted by the various means through which it comes to us. This is inescapable; it is part of being creatures in a long succession of creatures.

But someone might object:

“When I’m reading my Bible and it uses a word of which I am not familiar, I do not consult commentaries, at least not at first; instead, I go directly to a good dictionary of the English language and try to figure out the meaning of the Bible word all on my own.”

I think you can see the fallacy in this. One cannot abstract oneself from the world of thought in which one lives, nor from the thoughts of previous generations. That is neither how we learn nor how we think.

Since this is the case, instead of trying to rid ourselves of all presuppositions in order to approach Scripture with no conditioning aspects in our thinking (an impossible task, indeed), we should humble ourselves. We need to recognize that since we must come to the text with conditioning assumptions, we ought to do all we can to come with the best ones. This is why historical-theological interpretation—what is sometimes called “Theological Interpretation of Scripture,” or TIS [2]—utilizes the Christian theological tradition in its various forms (e.g. creeds, confessions, catechisms, great theological works, time-tested commentaries) to aid in Scripture interpretation. If bringing presuppositions to the table of interpretation is inevitable, why not work hard to bring the best, time-tested presuppostitions which have been deposited by God’s providence throughout the history of the Church?

On a practical note, if your church subscribes to a historically-proven confession of faith, read that confession enough to get well-acquainted with its doctrinal formulations and its theological contour (e.g. Notice the order of chapters and ask yourself if there is a logic to the order.). This will provide scripturally-based theological contours which will aid you in understanding Holy Scripture.

On a side-note, without the discussion above, my practical advice could be used as evidence that I exalt the confession above Holy Scripture. That is not at all the case. If your confession does not possess a scripturally-based theological contour, it is not worth subscribing. Again, my point is simply this: Since we all come with working assumptions that affect interpretation, we ought to try our best to ensure we come with the best assumptions possible.

[1] Stephen R. Holmes, Listening to the Past: The Place of Tradition in Theology (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic, 2002), 6-7.

[2] It is safe to say that though TIS is a diverse movement in our day, all schools of thought within it advocate the need to use historical and systematic theology as aids in the interpretive process. One of the reasons for the diversity within TIS is due to the fact that its practitioners are theologians from various traditions. This causes disagreement concerning what resources of the tradition ought to be utilized.

This article originally appeared here.

Surrender Your Right to Be Angry With Your Spouse

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If you are a married person, you will benefit from surrendering the right to be angry with your spouse. Here’s how.

We tried to go to bed. It was late, and we were beyond exhausted, but as we lay stiff and unflinching in our dark bedroom, we knew that neither of us would soon be getting any sleep. I had said something stupid as I am wont to do. It was just an off-hand, thoughtless comment, and I knew as soon as it came out of my mouth that it was wrong.

My words hung in the air between us, an invisible barrier to our usual friendship and affection for one another, and no amount of apologizing could erase what I had said. He was hurt and angry, and he had every right in the world to be.

We argued in our awkward way. We debated about who would move to the couch, although in truth neither of us wanted the other to go. On most days we look forward to this very moment, crawling into bed together after a long day, breathing side by side all night. Familiar. Easy.

On this night, though, we struggled to figure out a way to tear down the divide between us, a separation caused by my careless words and his befitting anger. For awhile we didn’t speak. Neither of us knew what else to say. And then, suddenly, he broke the stalemate between us. He reached across cold empty space and made the choice to surrender his right to be angry with me. He pulled me close and we instantly relaxed into our regular, simple way of dreaming through the night together.

He had every reason to be mad for awhile. He could have punished me with cold silence or long explanations of how mean my words had been. He would have been justified in holding onto his anger for the rest of the night, in staying on the far edge of his side of the bed, unyielding. He could have awakened the next morning with anger still burning inside, not yet ready to forgive his wife and closest friend. He could have done any of those things with perfectly legitimate cause.

But he didn’t. He gave up his right to be angry. With the Holy Spirit’s help, he chose to replace strife with peace, angst with comfort, regret with reassurance. He gave me a gift of grace and demonstrated a truth of Scripture: Love keeps no record of wrongs.

I feel sure that this is the kind of grace that peaceful marriages are built on. When husbands and wives resist the urge to be right, to drive their point home, to prove their own righteousness and their spouse’s wretchedness, when they give up their freedom to be offended, when they choose forgiveness over anger–this is where God-given peace can flourish. And this is one way that we can show the world who Christ really is, one petty marital spat at a time. God certainly works in mysterious ways.

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Note: Abuse should never be tolerated. If you are in an abusive situation, please don’t consider this post as prescriptive advice. Seek help through a counselor, law enforcement, and your church.

This article about surrendering your right to be angry originally appeared here.

4 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Strong in Youth Ministry

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Ministry has to be one of the busiest jobs on the planet. The reason is that it never stops. I know that I work at the office from 8-5 p.m. Monday-Friday, and then most weekends are filled with events and ministry responsibilities. On Sunday, I am at the church to have things ready to go by 8:00 a.m., and do not return until about 12:30 p.m. I do not say any of this to complain, but I am saying this to prove that ministry is busy. In the midst of the busyness, it is easy to neglect our families. Believe me, I have heard phrases such as this from my wife, “You are never at home with us!” That is the last thing that you want to hear. So, how can we change this and not allow our wives to feel this way during the busyness of our ministry? Do we neglect our family, or do we neglect the ministry? I am here to tell you that you can love your spouse and kids, and keep your marriage strong and healthy even with a busy ministry! How? Here are four ways that you can do this:

4 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Strong in Youth Ministry

1. Sleep in with your wife occasionally

I head to the office kind of early to have my personal quiet time with God. So, I am at the office each morning by 7:30 a.m. My daughter is still in bed, and my wife is about to get her day started as well. One thing that has encouraged my wife more than anything, is on Thursday mornings I sleep in with her, and then she cooks breakfast. I go into the office later. Look, things are not going to fall apart if you miss the first hour of the day occasionally.

2. Never lose the romance

I used to think that romance always had to be expensive. Here is the reality: It does not have to be expensive to be romantic. Look, I get it, in ministry you have no money, but be creative with what you have. Show up with an evening plan and surprise for your family. Show up with flowers or candy from time to time. Have a surprise getaway somewhere for just you guys sometime. Plan a scavenger hunt for your spouse through your city with thought. Never get too old for romance.

3. Listen to your spouse’s advice and use it

My wife is much wiser and smarter than I am. I sometimes feel intimidated by using her advice because it is better than mine, but one thing that encourages my wife is when I listen to her advice, and use it. She loves it.

4. Turn off your phone at night sometimes

This is something that I struggle with, but when I succeed, and leave mine off or in another room, I can focus on my wife and daughter more.

Question: What do you do in ministry to keep your marriage strong?

What It Means to Be the Church: Churches Filling Needs as Lock-Down Continues

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Even though most church buildings are temporarily closed due to the COVID-19 coronavirus, many pastors and members are busier than ever. Church leaders and volunteers throughout America are stepping up to serve their communities during a fearful time of unprecedented disruptions and long-term lockdowns. These churches are showing the world what it means to be the church.

At the outset, many congregations are providing food to schoolchildren, assisting homeless people, and coordinating with local relief agencies. And they’re emphasizing safety at every step, following advice about social distancing and reducing exposure.

 

Be the Church: Fill the Gap for Hungry Students

With many school districts shutting down or switching to remote learning, food insecurity has become a widespread concern. To ensure that students don’t go hungry while cafeterias are closed, churches are providing grab-and-go meals—sometimes partnering with the efforts of public school districts.

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In Janesville, Wisconsin, for example, volunteers at St. Paul’s Lutheran Church and School prepared 500 lunches for Monday morning. For families who couldn’t drive by for pickup, “Kindness Karavan” driver made deliveries. Federal law prohibits schools from delivering food to students, so district officials say they’re grateful for assistance from faith-based groups. The meals from St. Paul’s have been a stop-gap measure while the Janesville School District sets up its own grab-and-go lunch program.

St. Paul’s Principal Rob Lunak says, “We teach children that we are created, loved, and redeemed by God. What we do for others is an expression of that love.”

Churches in some communities are collaborating, offering sack meals on a rotating basis. Jack Osteen, pastor of Leesville First Assembly Church in Leesville, Louisiana, says about 70 percent of area children rely on free-or-reduced lunch at school. As president of a local ministerial alliance, he’s rallying volunteers to meet needs. “We just want to provide meals every day throughout the week,” he says. “Simply come through the drive-thru and tell us how many kids” are in your home.

Be the Church: Stock Food Pantries

For families in need, churches are organizing food drives and trying to keep shelves full at local food pantries, despite panic-buying in many grocery and big-box stores.

Kate Lombardo, who helps run a Connecticut food bank, tells CNN, “It’s just frightening for people who live hand to mouth on a daily basis. There’s already a stress factor of poverty, let alone the additional stress coming from a pandemic.”

Through its food pantry, Grace Church in Noblesville, Indiana, expects to feed 600 families this week. People who need groceries can order online, and then volunteers deliver items to cars. Keith Carlson, executive director of Grace Care Center Foundation, says, “We’re trying to make it as seamless as possible and as easy as possible and yet limit any kind of interaction so that we don’t expose more people and keep people safe.”

At Casa de Dios Christian Church in Corpus Christi, Texas, volunteers are distributing free produce in conjunction with a local food bank. Deliveries are brought out to people’s cars as they drive by, to minimize person-to-person contact.

Be the Church: Reach Out to Homeless Neighbors

Some churches that normally welcome homeless people to their facilities for meals are now making deliveries to various locations. In San Antonio, ending meal services isn’t an option, according to Gavin Rogers, pastor of Travis Park Church. The church typically assists between 400 and 600 homeless people each week, he says, “through medical clinics, through hot meals, clothes, and showers.”

In light of the coronavirus pandemic, creativity has become necessary for some of these outreach efforts—and for some of the menus. Travis Park’s Corazón Ministries is using an “ice cream truck” approach to meal delivery, says kitchen manager and chef John Chadwell. “We’re going to a park for a little bit, handing out some food, going to another park handing out food, checking on folks.”

2,000 People Show Up for Testing at Church of the Highlands

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As the United States struggles to provide testing for the coronavirus, Church of the Highlands in Alabama has made more diagnoses possible by offering one of its campuses as a drive-in testing site. WBRC FOX6 News reports that on Tuesday morning, healthcare workers were prepared to test about 500 people when 2,000 showed up.

“We’re so thankful for the volunteers from Church of the Highlands, the generosity of the people…that have made all of this possible,” said Layne Schranz, who is an associate pastor with the church, “but we’re really thankful for the medical community, Christ Health Center, and all the doctors and nurses that were actually doing the testing.”

The Church of the Highlands has over 20 campuses throughout Central Alabama and is providing the testing in Birmingham in partnership with Christ Health Center (CHC) and Assurance Scientific Laboratories. The church is also in consultation with Jefferson County Department of Public Health and authorities at local hospitals.

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Church of the Highlands Helps Meet a Significant Need

Pastor Schranz gave an update on the situation at a news conference Tuesday afternoon where he was joined by Dr. Robert Record, Christ Health Center’s CEO. Record said that CHC has 18,596 patients, half of whom are uninsured, and that for weeks the center’s healthcare workers have seen patients they believed had contracted Covid-19, the disease caused by the coronavirus. Yet, said Record, “As of Friday afternoon, I could not get one test for one patient.” At the same time, he and his colleagues in the medical field were aware they needed hard data to demonstrate “how present” the virus was in their community.

Record emphasized how important testing is in order to contain the virus and protect vulnerable populations. He said, “We know that if we can test people, we can identify disease, isolate people, and stop disease from spreading as fast to give us time to catch up. We can potentially prevent one of our really critical areas like a nursing home from being overrun with disease and save a lot of lives. We’re all in to do that. We want to do it the best we can for the most people we can.”

Testing for the coronavirus in the United States has so far been seriously inadequate, as Dr. Anthony Fauci, the director of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, recently testified. Speaking at a House hearing, Fauci told Rep. Debbie Wasserman Schultz, D-Florida, “The idea of anybody getting [a test] easily the way people in other countries are doing it, we’re not set up for that. Do I think we should be? Yes. But we’re not.” Fauci was even more direct when he said, “The system is not really geared to what we need right now. That is a failing. Let’s admit it.”

So what led to this new testing site in Birmingham? Dr. Record said that a friend and colleague of his, Dr. Ty Thomas, had the ability to test people, but not the capability to handle the logistics of doing so. After Thomas asked for Record’s help, Record approached his pastor at Church of the Highlands, who “said ‘All in yes’ within two seconds.”

Record showed up at Church of the Highlands’ Grandview Campus Sunday morning with a team of about 15 people, and they had a drive-in testing site set up within 48 hours. The site opened for testing Tuesday, March 17, and workers were able to test an estimated 500 people, turning away over a thousand more.

Because the high volume of people who turned up caused significant traffic problems, organizers moved the testing site to the Grants Mill Campus of Church of the Highlands, which was where they conducted testing Wednesday. 

What Are the Parameters for Being Tested?

People are allowed to start lining up in their cars for testing at 6:30 a.m., but no earlier, and testing begins at 9:00 a.m. There is no official end time for lining up because organizers anticipate reaching capacity before testing officially starts. This is in fact what happened Wednesday: The site ran out of its 500 tests by 8:45 a.m. At that point, the police started turning people away. Testing will resume Thursday on the same schedule.

The site is only testing people who are either manifesting symptoms of Covid-19 or who have had direct contact with someone who has contracted the virus. Record emphasized the necessity for people to be discerning about their level of need for testing.

“We need to make sure the person most in need gets the testing first,” he said. “If you’re just curious or you’ve got a tickle in your throat, you very well may have Covid-19, and we wish we had unlimited testing to get it to you. We really want people to look at themselves and say, ‘Is it important that I get this test today, or can I wait because someone needs it more than me?’”

Schranz said the organizers had learned a lot during the first day of testing and that they anticipated making their processes even more efficient in the coming days so they could evaluate as many people as possible. “I just want to thank everyone for your support and patience with us,” said the pastor. “We are trying our very best to do what we can.”

Jeremy Camp: God Does Not Waste Suffering

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Jeremy Camp is a worship leader and Grammy-nominated singer and songwriter who has had 40 number one radio hits. I Still Believe, the movie based on his life, released around the world March 13th. Jeremy has three kids with his wife, Adrienne. He and Adrienne have written a book on marriage releasing in 2020 called In Unison.

Key Questions for Jeremy Camp

-Did you learn anything about your own suffering while I Still Believe was being made?

-How has your wife, Adrienne, helped you through your grief and been part of your healing?

-How do you feel this film can help ministry leaders and the church?

-What advice do you have for ministry leaders when it comes to leading people in worshiping the Lord?

Key Quotes from Jeremy Camp

“I shared my story for years, I wrote a book about it, and this is the first time I’ve been able to see it played back visually, and it’s not been easy.”

“God is using this pretty radically in people’s lives, and so for me it’s worth it to feel that pain.”

“God has not given us a spirit of fear…fear is not from the Lord. It’s from the enemy. So if you’re walking in fear, you have to understand, it’s the enemy speaking into your mind.” 

“My hope is there are going to be people that are not Christians that are going to watch this film and go, ‘Ok how did they get through this?’ and it’s going to point them to Christ. Or those that are Christians that are hurting, struggling, and are going to go, ‘Yeah, ok. The Lord is the only thing I can lean on.’”

“God doesn’t waste suffering.”

“Suffering is a necessary part of life, and it’s hard to say that, but he gives us the tools and the ability to walk through it with strength and with grace.”

“Jesus on the cross, he said…‘My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?’ And of course, Jesus didn’t sin. So was that a sin to ask why?”

“[Adrienne] has been a big support, and she’s my champion because I don’t know how I’d be able to handle it if she wouldn’t have talked about it.” 

“There’s a lot of themes in this movie that youth pastors, pastors, leaders can draw from.”

“I’ve had many stories already of people that have watched the film saying, ‘I’ve battled with fear all my life, and I feel like I had a breakthrough.’”

5 Reasons Why You May Need to Break Off a Relationship

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Loyalty is good. I’m a loyal guy. But I’ve found that my loyalty can also be a weakness. Sometimes the most loyal thing I can do is to break off a relationship that’s dysfunctional.

Sometimes our loyalty is covering up brokenness in another person. They don’t need loyalty; what they need is someone to call them on their dysfunction.

But our loyalty keeps us from speaking the truth and keeps us from holding them accountable. And if you were to dig around, you’d see that the reason we are so loyal is usually rooted in some broken pattern from childhood.

Henry Cloud wrote a book, Necessary Endings. In it he lists five ways in which we may be excusing bad behavior and need to make a break off a relationship.

1. High Pain Threshold Is a Reason to Break Off a Relationship.

Maybe your childhood was hard. For example, if you lived with an alcoholic parent and especially if you suffered abuse, you had to find ways to cope. Pain was normal, so you learned to live with it.

But if you numb pain too long, your coping mechanisms get in the way of living a normal life.

Pain is not bad—it keeps us from injuring ourselves. If you’ve lived with pain that is abnormally high, your habit of numbing yourself has kept you from experiencing life. Live inside a narrow emotional bandwidth and you’ll not connect with others.

2. Covering for Others Is a Reason to Break Off a Relationship.

If you’ve lived with an alcoholic parent, it’s an embarrassment. You want to hide their dysfunction so that you don’t have to deal with the pain. So you cover up. You make excuses and even take responsibility for the mess they’re making.

Taking too much responsibility for others can permanently scar your life. For example, it’s common for relatives of suicide victims to assume that they should have done something about it. The thought “if only I had …” plays on a permanent loop in their minds. The truth is, they need to not take responsibility for someone’s terrible mistake.

3. “If I quit, I’ve failed” Is a Reason to Break Off a Relationship.

Some of you were in survival mode for years in your family. You were bravely trying to surf the high waves of severe family pain. You swore that you’d never quit and you tenaciously hung on. Maybe dad was absent, but you soldiered on anyway.

God bless you, the pain was horrific at times. However bad it got, you just gritted your teeth and tightened your grip. And now that habit is a part of your character, for both better and worse.

Believers in East Asia Grow in Faith During Coronavirus Outbreak

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Normally, there wouldn’t be anything noteworthy about Jane* and her family having other local believers over for dinner. But recently, life has been anything but normal. As the coronavirus has spread throughout East Asia and other parts of the world, many cities including Jane’s have imposed restrictions on travel and suspended group gatherings, making fellowship and community difficult.

So when Jane heard a few days ago that a local pastor and his wife were bringing their daughter over for dinner, she was excited. They’d not been able to have anyone over to their house for more than a month.

Jane is a nurse, and as the virus spread, she knew it would affect her and her family in some way. She just never expected how extensive restrictions in their city would become. The day she heard that their neighborhood wouldn’t allow visitors, she remembers feeling discouraged and lonely.

Because the coronavirus fell right during the biggest holiday in East Asia, many people in Jane’s church and in her neighborhood were already away. She felt isolated.

“That was a really lonely week, because there was no end date [to the restrictions],” she said. “That was hard, just emotionally and spiritually feeling alone. But it also became a time of just being with the Lord and remembering we’re not alone.”

Though the last few weeks have been challenging, Jane says she has seen God continue to work in and through the challenges those in East Asia are facing.

Her background as a nurse, for example, has helped her encourage friends around her who are fearful. The couple that came over for dinner has a young daughter, and they’ve been too scared to let her even go outside to play. Having them over gave Jane and her husband a chance to encourage them not to live in fear.

“We’ve been able to help people see, especially believers, with an eternal perspective. The Father’s hand is still in this. He’s still good, and we’re still under His hand,” she said.

Even before the restrictions began to lift and allow for people to visit each other again, Jane and her husband saw God open doors for them to love and serve their neighbors in small but meaningful ways.

When friends recently had a baby, Jane’s husband brought them fresh fruit and vegetables. He wasn’t even able to deliver them personally, but the gifts still reminded his friends that they were loved and supported.

Every time they go outside for groceries or for fresh air, they look for other neighbors and ask how they are doing. Jane said she’s noticed that something as ordinary as a friendly question or two has meant a lot to her neighbors. Just last week, when Jane was outside, she saw an elderly woman who lives close by and asked about her health.

“Honestly, since this has happened, when you go outside, a lot of people have not even wanted to look at you or interact. They’ve seen you as the enemy,” Jane said, speaking to the fear that people have had of catching the virus. “She was just so excited that I asked about her and checked in on her.”

Though at times Jane says she’s been tempted to worry or complain, God has continued to meet her family’s needs. Sometimes this has been through other believers, like a week when the city faced a shortage of needed supplies. Two different families brought supplies to share with Jane’s family.

Sometimes though, God’s provision has come through a simple conviction to keep trusting Him and walking in faith even when they do not have a clear answer as to when this season will end.

“I think in my own life, I’ve just been thinking through how easy it can be to complain in situations like this. But God has taught me, just as He taught the Israelites walking through the wilderness, that He’s still good, He’s still sovereign, and there’s still things to cultivate gratitude for,” Jane said.

“Everything we’ve needed He’s continued to provide.”

*Name changed

This article about believers in east Asia originally appeared here.

The World Attracted to the Church

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Martyn Lloyd-Jones once notably explained, “When the church is absolutely different from the world, she invariably attracts it. It is then that the world is made to listen to her message, though it may hate it at first.” Nothing is more important for Christian leaders to come to terms with in our day than this truth. History teaches us that when the church has sought to be most like the world, it, in fact, had the least impact on the world. As Sinclair Ferguson has observed, “If all the Christian church has to offer is a different version of what the world has to offer, then the Christian church––as it has done in the Western world in the last fifty years––falls into decrepitude.”1 Nevertheless, the question remains, “In what ways should the Christian church be different from the world?” Certainly no biblically faithful, gospel-focused church would ever insist on putting up unbiblical standards of separation in order to distinguish the church from the world.

What, then, distinguishes the Christian church from the world? Consider the following:

1. An abiding commitment to the Word of God.

The revelation of God in Scripture gives shape to everything that believers are to be and to do in the local church. God’s written word is our only rule of faith and practice. If we loosen our hold on the teaching of Scripture, anything and everything else will creep into our lives and assemblies. This means that the church is to be marked chiefly by a commitment to the sound teaching and preaching of Scripture. If there is anything that our churches are to be known for in the world it is this––that God’s people hold fast to the word of truth. After all, the church is “the pillar and ground of truth” (1 Tim. 3:15). Whenever Israel experienced reformation in the days of the kings, it was when God’s word was rediscovered and read among the people of God (2 Chronicles 29:1–31:21; 34:8–35:19). When the Apostle Paul wrote to the fledgling church in Thessalonica––in order to encourage them to continue to the faith–he took special note of the fact that God’s word was evident in their congregation. He said, “For…the word of the Lord sounded forth from you” (1 Thess. 1:8). When Jesus commended the church in Ephesus, He said, “you…have tested those who call themselves apostles and are not, and found them to be false” (Rev. 2:2). Nothing is more essential to church being distinct from the word than that the church holds fast to the whole counsel of God–in our personal lives, worship, and witness.

In his book We Become What We Worship, G.K. Beale explains how this ought to work itself out from the church into the life of believers. He writes,

“Paul says in 2 Corinthians 10:5, “Bring every thought captive to the obedience [thinking] of Jesus Christ.” What part of our lives is unrelated to Christ? A friendship or dating relationship? Our marriage? Our relationship to our children? As families, are there regular times that we gather together to hear God’s Word and to pray together? Do we meet together with fellow Christians at weekly worship and sincerely participate? Negative answers to these questions can be indicators of whether or not we have an idolatrous stance.”2

Of course, the church’s commitment to Scripture must be in proportion to the truth of the gospel. Many, under pretense of principled zeal, have embraced a pharisaic reading of God’s word. All of God’s word leads to the Lord Jesus Christ and the grace of God in the gospel of Christ (John 5:46-47; Luke 24:27, 32, 45–47).

2. An increasing conformity to the image of Christ.

The gospel produces conformity to the image of Christ. As the Apostle Paul puts it, “we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit” (2 Cor. 3:18). This means that the church is to reflect the holiness, character, and beauty of Christlikeness. Sadly, many who affirm this principle have truncated views of Christ. Some mistakenly reduce Jesus down to a soft, tolerant, community organizer. Others erroneously represent Jesus as a hard, intolerant law-enforcement officer. Biblical revelation teaches that Jesus is himself holy, harmless, undefiled, and separate from sinners. At the same time, the gospels reveal that Jesus is gentle and lowly, full of love and compassion for sinners–one who ate and drank with tax collectors and sinners. He never abandoned a zeal for holiness in the name of mission. Neither did he set aside His meek and gentle character under a pretense for holiness. In the same way ‪the church is to be increasingly marked by holiness and compassion, not by compromise and harshness. If the church faithfully lives out the Christian life in the word, it’s leaders and members will pursue holiness and resist compromise while expressing compassion without exhibiting harshness.‬

Parenting Means Wrestling Demons

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I nudged the door open with my shoulder, hands holding carryout (again). I made my way through the dark living room and set dinner on the table. I could hear the kids playing in the basement as I peeked into the bedroom to find my wife lying there, doubled over with nausea. She felt too sick to think about eating, not to mention preparing food for the rest of us, and so for the fourth time in as many nights, dad was dishing dinner for the fam.

This is how it goes in wartime, and for a few months now at our house, we’ve been in the battle zone. My wife is pregnant with our fifth child.

As many mothers could attest, sometimes it’s not so much morning-sickness as just plain sickness. She hasn’t felt well since the newest member of our family came into existence at the end of last year. But it’s OK—we get it. It comes with the territory. Nausea, in fact, is just one piece of the larger struggle. We’ve learned by now that wrestling demons isn’t supposed to be easy.

Satan Hates the Little Children of the World

In his book Adopted for Life, Russell Moore says that Satan hates children and always has. History would say the same. In Scripture alone, we see the slaughter of the infants in Pharaoh’s Egypt and Herod’s Bethlehem. Every time the demonic powers forcefully oppose Jesus, “babies are caught in the crossfire.” Moore explains,

Whether through political machinations such as those of Pharaoh and Herod, through military conquests in which bloodthirsty armies rip babies from pregnant mothers’ wombs (Amos 1:13), or through the more “routine” seeming family disintegration and family chaos, children are always hurt. Human history is riddled with their corpses. (63)

Whether we look back over the pages of world history, or just around us today, the point bears true. Children are so often caught in the crossfire, so often hurt, so often the victims of a larger conflict in which they have no say, no influence, no responsibility. It happened back when primitive peoples thought slaying their children would appease the gods, and when war meant burning homes and sacking villages. And it happens still today when deranged citizens carry guns into elementary schools, and when abortion clinics welcome terrified teenagers with open arms, or when Boko Haram pillages another Nigerian village, or a young couple decides Down syndrome will disrupt their life plans. Moore writes,

The demonic powers hate babies because they hate Jesus. When they destroy “the least of these” (Matthew 25:40, Matthew 25.45″ data-version=”esv” data-purpose=”bible-reference”>45), the most vulnerable among us, they’re destroying a picture of Jesus himself. (63–64)

There is a war on children, and we are all, in one way or another, playing some role in it. Every time we move forward as faithful parents (or care for kids in any capacity, including advocating for the voiceless not yet born and volunteering for nursery duty on Sundays), we are wrestling demons—because there is little the demons hate more than little children.

The Shift in Perspective

This calls for a shift in our perspective as parents. If we go into the work of parenting with a Precious Moments romanticism, it won’t be long before despair sets in. It’s just too hard if we think it’s going to be easy. It’s essential to know, especially when the going gets tough, that we are fighting hell.

It’s essential to know, especially when the going gets tough, that we are fighting hell.

When we begin to see our parenting through the lens of spiritual warfare, it reconfigures our work in at least five important ways.

Is Your Leadership Conflict Healthy?

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Sometimes leaders avoid conflict; they run from it, they don’t value it, and they lose the benefit it brings to organizations and teams.

Some leaders prefer not to be challenged, not to be questioned, and for conflict to be absent in their culture. This mentality generally results when a manager is at the helm or the dictator mindset has taken root.

Conflict can be great, disagreements can be awesome, and healthy conflict can be the secret sauce to a successful organization.

The most important aspect of utilizing conflict is creating a culture where conflict is valued, and, at the end of the day, everyone walks out the door as a unified team.

If your organization is without healthy conflict, your organization is not at its best.

Great leaders value and use conflict to the advantage of the organization. Managers and timid leaders avoid conflict, therefore avoiding their organization reaching its maximum potential.

The more you embrace conflict, the less conflict you will actually have.

The more you avoid conflict the more behind the scenes, back-biting, timid, passive-aggressive, underground, negative, dictatorship conflict you will have … the conflict will exist, simply in an unhealthy manner.

Conflict is great; a culture of healthy conflict is greater.

What do you think?  

James MacDonald Puts Streaming Service on Hold to Return to Pulpit

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“Disqualified” pastor James MacDonald has taken to preaching again, this time at a church in California. Speaking at Calvary Chapel South Bay in Gardena, California, MacDonald described the separation from his Harvest Bible Chapel in Chicago, Illinois as a “crucible of suffering.”

“There were quite a few weeks over the last 13 or 14 months where I didn’t know if I would preach again or I didn’t know if I even wanted to,” MacDonald told the congregation of Calvary Chapel South Bay on March 15, 2020. 

Calvary Chapel South Bay Given Vague Harvest Explanation

Pastor Jeff Gill announced that MacDonald would be starting an eight-week series on Romans chapter eight starting next Sunday evening. MacDonald, who had already preached at the church on March 5, 2020 during a Thursday night gathering, explained the situation of not being at the church he started in vague terms. He referred to a “time of separation” from Harvest, the church he and his wife, Cathy, “gave” their whole lives to, as being something that God allowed to happen.

While MacDonald explained that the separation had caused him to take an unplanned break from preaching for the last “13 or 14 months,” he believes “God began to stir within us a hope and an expectation that he had something for us still to do.” Only alluding to the trouble that caused the elders of Harvest Bible Chapel to disqualify him, MacDonald said he believes God has forgiven him. “My failures were not as such in relational matters that he couldn’t forgive those things.”

Further, he implied that the sudden change he and Cathy experienced was perhaps apropos, given “My whole ministry has had a theme of change and how God changes people.” 

MacDonald also told the group, “Christians are not always that loving and not always as kind as the Lord would have us be. And somehow we who know the Lord best and love him most are not always changed as we should be.” MacDonald then tied that thought to the sermon series on Romans 8, explaining it was ideal for those who try to change but often find themselves making little progress. The series will delve into the question “How does God actually change people?” 

Concluding his brief speech, MacDonald thanked Pastor Gill for welcoming him and Cathy. Gill then announced that he would be “sitting and getting fed” during these eight weeks MacDonald is scheduled to preach. 

At the beginning of the Thursday evening sermon MacDonald preached about a week and a half before this announcement, he spent a little more time explaining how he and his family had come into contact with Gill:

I’m not assuming for a second that any of you know us or know who we are, but we have been serving the Lord at a church that we were blessed to start over 30 years ago in Chicago–up until recently, about a year ago. And the Lord has seen fit to allow us to go through a season of suffering and separation from the church that we gave our lives to and it’s been a valley….Our son actually moved out to this area and on a Sunday morning we were privileged to be here and to worship with the church family here, and I would typically always go up and meet the pastor afterwards, but in this instance I just didn’t. 

MacDonald went on to explain that he had known of Gill through mutual friends and even had his phone number, so he sent a text to the pastor. The two met shortly thereafter at the church. MacDonald said speaking to (and crying in front of) Gill made him feel “really pastored.” Then Gill invited him to preach. “After preaching four or five times a week with never more than two or three weeks off for 30 years, this is the first time I’ve been up in front of anyone for 13 months,” MacDonald told the group, which started clapping.

MacDonald said he and Cathy are very “appreciative” of being a part of Calvary Chapel South Bay “during this season of our life.” MacDonald went on, “one of the things I appreciate about Calvary Chapels, and this Calvary Chapel in particular, is the attention and respect they show for God’s word.”

Home Church Network on Hold

Earlier this year, MacDonald announced he was launching a “home church network” ministry that would have provided content that a home church group could stream for their services. In an announcement about the initiative, MacDonald said that “large churches present complicating logistics and often negatively affect Christian relationships. For that reason, we feel led by the Lord to offer an alternative for those who need it.”

Now, however, MacDonald’s preaching at Calvary Chapel South Bay is putting that plan on an indefinite hold. The website for the network states, “As the Lord has recently opened a door for Pastor James to return to pulpit ministry, the Home Church Network will continue a pilot season through spring, then re-evaluate regarding future training events and plans for fall.” Considering that churches around the country (and world) are having to switch to online services due to the coronavirus, the timing seems somewhat ironic.

Calvary Chapel South Bay did meet in person on March 15th, but it remains to be seen if MacDonald will be able to preach in person or not in the coming weeks.

Condoleezza Rice: 9/11 Shows Us How to Respond to This Crisis with Faith

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Former National Security Advisor and Secretary of State Dr. Condoleezza Rice recently sat down for an interview with John Ortberg, the senior pastor of Menlo Church in California. In the interview, Rice shared her thoughts on the coronavirus outbreak based on the life lessons she has learned, particularly from her encounters with racism as a child and her time as a national leader during 9/11. These and other experiences have shaped her understanding of how to navigate fearful circumstances with faith.

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“I’ve always tried to acknowledge my fear and anxiety,” observed Rice. “I think if you push it down, it just festers. And if you call it by name, then I think you can work on it, and you can work on it with the Lord because you’ve called it by name.”

What Condoleezza Rice Has Learned About Faith and Fear

Condoleezza Rice grew up as the daughter of a minister in Birmingham, Alabama, which was “the most segregated city in America at the time.” Faith was very much a part of her family heritage. “I had always been in church from a little, little girl,” she said. Despite growing up in the Jim Crow era, Rice was part of a loving community that “felt like a little safe cocoon”—at least, it did until 1962 and 1963 when “suddenly Birmingham was Bombingham.”

On September 15, 1963, the 16th Street Baptist Church was bombed, killing four little girls and injuring at least 14 other people. Everyone in Rice’s community had known at least one of the girls who were killed. There was a lot of fear at the time. They could not trust the police, said Rice, because the police were just as likely as not to be setting off bombs targeting black people. White knight riders with the Ku Klux Klan would come through their community, so Rice’s father and his friends ended up forming a militia of sorts to protect people from the KKK.

“All we could do in those days was to pray,” said Rice, “and I have to say, it was sufficient. It was sufficient to calming my parents. It was sufficient to calming me and my friends. In those days, you could start off school with prayer, and we started off every class every day with prayer.”

Then President Kennedy was assassinated, as were Robert Kennedy and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., later on. “It just seemed to keep coming,” she said. But in spite of all of that, Rice’s parents remained secure in their faith in God and helped to pass that trust on to her.

Rice said she has a family heritage of valuing the “life of the mind” and of knowing the importance of understanding the Scriptures in-depth. She credits her father as being partly responsible for the fact she never had a faith crisis as she grew increasingly educated. “From the very beginning,” she said, “he let me ask questions. From the very beginning, he would acknowledge that there were hard things about our faith, that it wasn’t what I call ‘fast food faith.’ You really had to struggle with it.” Sometimes Christians think that having faith in God means never asking difficult questions, but Rice disagrees. It’s all right to wrestle before God with painful experiences.

Condoleezza Rice on 9/11 and the Coronavirus

On a personal level, Rice’s most difficult times in life have been the deaths of her parents. Professionally, her most challenging experience was 9/11. She dealt with a lot of fear, anxiety, remorse, and regret in the aftermath of the terrorist attacks. Said Rice, “If you’re the National Security Advisor on the day that thousands of people die, you know intellectually that you did everything you knew to do, but by definition, you didn’t do enough. And you never ever quite let go of that.” Even though Rice still struggles with feeling like she failed because of 9/11, she has experienced healing over time as she has prayed about and processed what happened and as she has received grace from other people. 

Ortberg pointed out that the coronavirus outbreak has caused the United States to face what is arguably its weightiest moment since 9/11. He asked Rice what advice she has regarding how people should pray and think about the challenges caused by the virus. 

A crisis, responded Rice, can either cause us to focus on ourselves or prompt us to focus on how much we need one another. “We are among the most individualistic people in the world,” she said, but “We also can be very communitarian when things are at their worst.” She observed that while the Chinese have “flattened the curve” of the virus, they have done so through authoritarianism. In contrast, she said, “We’ve got to depend on 300 million Americans to do the right thing. But that’s who we are. And we’re seeing across the country people trying to do the right thing.”

So her advice is, first, that people should do the right thing for themselves as individuals as a way of helping their communities. Second, she encouraged people to reach out to others and to help the most vulnerable. This could look like calling shut ins or like comforting kids, who are probably scared right now. We should remember to be thankful to our healthcare workers and first responders, who are exhausted. We can also pray that God would help us know how we can help others.

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