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5 Facts About Innovation Every Leader Should Know

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On May 19, 2018, Tampa Bay Rays manager Kevin Cash named Sergio Romo the team’s starting pitcher for its game against the Los Angeles Angels. Normally this would not be newsworthy but this decision forever changed the game of baseball and has profound lessons on the subject of innovation for anyone in leadership.

What made Romo’s assignment so interesting was he was not a starting pitcher, but a reliever. Romo was used to closing games out, not starting them. But due to the team’s lack of quality starting pitching at the time, Cash had Romo start the game. He struck out the first three batters he faced and was then, to everyone’s surprise, pulled from the game. Ryan Yarbrough would pitch the next six-plus innings.

As a result, on May 19, 2018, the term “opener” was introduced to the game of baseball.  An “opener” is a pitcher whose speciality is starting the game strong by getting the initial outs. Ironically, Romo performed his “opener duties” shortly thereafter on May 22 and 23 against the Boston Red Sox.

There are five lessons leaders can take from this story.

1. Scarcity Spurns Innovation Because You Are Forced To Come up With New Ideas.

The Rays organization did not have anything against starting pitchers. They just didn’t have enough quality ones at the time. Therefore, they were forced to look for alternative solutions.

If your organization has limited financial resources, people, and time, this is not a bad thing. Constraints are an opportunity to come up with new ideas and innovate.

2. Innovation Requires Thinking Differently.

People are pretty predictable. Hall of Fame San Francisco 49ers head coach Bill Walsh used to tell those around him that if everyone is thinking the same thing, no one is thinking.  Fresh thinking is a must if innovation is to occur.

3. Abundance Is Often the Enemy of Innovation.

While scarcity forces you to think outside the box and come up with new ideas, abundance often has the opposite effect. Abundance often leads you down the path of least resistance.

The is because organizations with an abundance of resources can often just buy the solution. It doesn’t require any divergent thinking.

4. Innovation Should Solve a Problem.

Innovation and solutions should be tied together.

5. Innovation Requires BIG Risks.

I give Coach Cash credit. To do something no one else has done often means putting your job at risk. It is just safer to follow the status quo.

This article originally appeared here and is used by permission. 

7 Sins of Selfish Leaders

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Leaders often succumb to the temptation to make everything about them. It is about their goals, their career and their recognition. They become selfish leaders.

But God has called us to be a different type of leader. God has called us to be stewards of people. And rather than take from our team, He has called us to give ourselves to our team. He has called us to be generous leaders. But what does that look like?

Let’s look at seven of the most common sins of selfish leaders and how to overcome them:

1. Relishing the spotlight.

Instead, give credit. Point to others. A leader’s success is never about him. It is about them. While it is easy to soak in the praise of others, give credit where credit is due. Remember their success is your success.

2. Skimping on pay.

Instead, give a fair salary. Don’t intentionally underpay those you oversee. Don’t take advantage of a person’s naiveté. Do the best you can when you can. And when you can, err on generous pay.

3. Limiting authority.

Instead, give more responsibility. When a team member is doing well, increase their purview. There are a few ways this can happen. You can delegate some of your current responsibilities. You can shift existing responsibilities that are underperforming in other areas. Or you can add responsibilities that do not currently exist but are needed.

4. Encouraging job over family.

Instead, give team members time to care for their families. Let your team members know that they have the freedom to take care of their family responsibilities. If a child is sick and no one else can care for him or her, tell them to go. Take care of that child. If there is a death in the family, tell them to go. Comfort the family. Don’t worry. You will not be taken advantage of. Trust me, their spouse will not want them to lose a job where their family comes first.

Why It’s Important For Worship Leaders To Get Along With the Senior Pastor

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It can be hard for pastors and worship leaders to get along. Senior pastors sometimes adhere to the adage that familiarity breeds contempt when it comes to their relationship with their worship leader. Some of those myopic perspectives were taught by and learned from well-meaning ministry preparation professors and mentors. But if Jesus is our model for ministry and he called the disciples with whom he ministered his friends, then why shouldn’t pastors and worship leaders do the same in their relationships with one another?

Pastors and Worship Leaders

John Maxwell has concluded that over 70 percent of pastors have no close friends at all. So how can they possibly model for their church what it means to live in community when they are personally living in isolation? Part of Jesus’ Great Commandment is to love our neighbors as ourselves. Beyond our families we should have no closer neighbors than those with whom we partner in ministry.

Those concerns with losing respect and maybe even control have created a working relationship that is often professional but not very personal. But Jesus’ close friendships didn’t keep him from exercising instruction or discipline when necessary. Peter overstepped his bounds and Jesus corrected him. And Jesus rebuked James and John when they wanted to call down fire to destroy an entire village. So having to exercise authority when necessary didn’t seem to jeopardize the intimacy of their relationships.

Anecdotally, it appears that relational divides are one of the main reasons for short-tenured senior pastor and worship leader partnerships. So how can we expect the worship of our church to be healthy when the relationship of the two primary worship leaders isn’t? And those relationships will never be healthy as long as being right is more important than being right with each other.

Most worship leaders long for a culture of transparent communication with their pastor built on trust that isn’t guarded, territorial or defensive. They crave a close friendship and ministry partnership but don’t often realize the job security to initiate it. So consequently, it will probably never occur unless and until the senior pastor initiates it.

This article originally appeared here.

10 Ways to Identify Those Who Are Lost

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“The Son of Man has come to seek and save those who were lost.” (Luke 19:10). But How can we identify those who are lost?

Someone asked Daniel Boone if in all his wilderness travels he had ever been lost. “No,” he drawled, “but once I was bewildered for three whole days.” Bewildered in a wilderness. Sounds like the place to do that.

The great difficulty in rescuing the lost–the assignment God’s children have been handed by the Lord Jesus–is compounded when the subjects do not realize their dire situation. How would one go about convincing others they are among those who are lost? And why do that in the first place?

Clearly, if one is on-board the damaged Titanic and while scurrying to get off the doomed vessel with as many survivors as possible, he runs into partying passengers without the slightest awareness of their situation, he needs to tell them. He will want to alarm them even, and convince them to take action to save themselves. Whether they will listen is another story.

If we know the hurricane is coming and this neighborhood is about to be destroyed, we will do all in our power to alert the residents.

The days of our lives are finite and this world is doomed. Someone needs to tell the passengers.

In trying to alert the Titanic’s guests or the residents of the Lower Ninth Ward the day before Katrina, you would learn far more about the lostness of mankind in a few minutes than in all the years of your life to that point.

Anyone trying to save the lost–whether at sea, in penthouses having the time of their lives, in prisons, or sitting in comfortable pews with hymnals in their laps–is going to run into a number of realities concerning this condition.

Most lost people do not know they are lost. And many do not care.

The corollary to that is that God’s people often do not seem to know people are lost either. We get taken in by the impressive house they live in, the expensive clothes they wear, their suave manner, or by their religious ardor. If they are really cool, as celebrities and politicians are cool, we’re tempted to give them a pass.

Lost is lost. Those who are lost are people without God. They are in big trouble.

10 Ways to Identify Those Who Are Lost

Here are some of the ways we know those who are lost.

10. He has no concern about his situation.

Joseph Stowell, in a sermon some years back, told of the time his family lost their small son in a shopping mall. The family split up to look for him–one headed to the parking lot, another down this corridor, others the opposite way. Eventually, the grandfather arrived with the little boy in tow. “He was at the candy counter looking over his options,” he said, “completely unaware he was lost.”

Stowell says we are living in a candy-counter culture. People spend their days considering all the fun options before them without a clue that they are lost and in trouble.

9. He does not know there is an actual destination.

The typical lost-person today is like a farm animal grazing in the pasture–feeding here, resting there, looking for shade, never looking up for the source of life’s bounty, never asking the tough questions of life so long as his needs are met.

8. He thinks all roads are equally good, all exits the same, all religions share the same truths.

Often when leading a service at Leitz-Eagan Funeral Home in Metairie, Louisiana, I point something out to the audience. “Behind you and to my left are doors marked ‘exit.’ They lead outside. However, there are two doors to my right with unusual signs. ‘Not an exit.’ These don’t go anywhere. They’re storage closets.”

This world is filled with contradictory voices offering ways out, ways to God, ways to life and fulfillment. But most are dead ends. Only the way of Jesus Christ is truth. “I am the Way, the Truth, the Life,” He said. “No one comes to the Father except by me” (John 14:6).

7. The highest test he knows for his ultimate welfare is his feelings.

“I must be all right,” a man said to me. “I feel fine.” At church one Sunday, Mrs. Powell told me she was having toe surgery that week. “Don’t bother to come by the hospital,” she said. “This is so silly.”

I went anyway. And found her in enormous pain. “You could never have told me that toe surgery would hurt so much,” she said. I told her that two floors above her was a fellow church member who had suffered a heart attack. “But he feels great.”

Feelings are poor barometers of anything. The woman with the toe surgery felt awful but was doing fine. The heart attack victim felt fine but his life was hanging by a thread.

6. He rejects any claims of “the” way as too narrow, too demanding, too restrictive.

Returning to Stowell’s metaphor of being lost in the mall, I suspect we’ve all gotten turned around in one of these super shopping centers with corridors in every direction. However, we don’t panic, for two reasons. We know that spaced throughout the mall are directories telling us where we are located and showing where we want to be. Then, every door leads to the parking lot. Even if we exit on the wrong side of the facility, we can still find our way.

That thinking, however, does not apply in matters of the soul. The only way out of this morass we call earthly existence is to heed the calls of a friend who comes to find us and lead us out.

Discover five more ways to identify those who are lose on Page two . . . 

12 Sabbath Ideas for a Richer 7th-day Experience

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Today, I come with Sabbath ideas for your celebration of life (or the 24-hour period you will take it this week). The following are some Sabbath ideas from deep historical thinkers and practitioners on the topic (Abraham Joshua Heschel, Marva Dawn, Wayne Muller, Ruth Haley Barton, and many others), to enhance it and make it more what it was designed to be—transformative—in your life.

First, a few principles to contextualize the Sabbath ideas I suggest:

The practice of Sabbath is a weekly invitation to more, not less. It is an invitation to more of the essential, more of the eternal, more of the glory threading through it all.

Sabbath is a day of feasting, and is considered a feast—on faith, on hope, on joy—to enter into the sacred creational delights for which we were designed. The only acts we are to cease from are those which perpetuate our self-sufficiency, self-dependence, self-absorption, and self-deification.

In honoring a weekly Sabbath, we restore our awareness of what must be true in our lives in order for joy to abound. In a constant mode of acquisition and achievement, creation and compensation, we dull our sense of time—its passing, its sanctity, its gifts.

The Sabbath is the ritual culmination of each week in celebration of God’s Love, enduring purposes, and sovereignty over our time. It is a day to feast in recognition of eternity-in-time (Heschel), and to celebrate the New Creation Christ brings and is bringing.

The Problem Is Worship, Not Evangelism

In this episode, Pastor Derwin L. Gray shares a transformative message on the essence of sharing faith and the true nature of evangelism.

Nicolas Cage To Star in Horror Film About the Childhood of Jesus

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Academy Award-winning actor Nicolas Cage is set to star in the film “The Carpenter’s Son,” which is described as a dark story” about the childhood of Jesus.

The film is scheduled to start shooting this summer and will be directed by Lofty Nathan. Cage will star as “the Carpenter,” assumed to be Joseph, Noah Jupe (“A Quiet Place, “Honey Boy”) will play “the Boy,” assumed to be Jesus, and FKA twigs (“Honey Boy”) will play “the Mother,” assumed to be Mary.

The 60-year-old Cage has appeared in more than 100 films over the course of his career, including his Oscar-winning performance for “Leaving Las Vegas” in 1996, “National Treasure,” “Con Air,” “Face/Off,” “The Rock,” “The Family Man,” “Pig,” “Dream Scenario,” and “Left Behind.”

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According to Deadline, “The Carpenter’s Son” tells the “dark story of a family hiding out in Roman Egypt” and is inspired by the “Infancy Gospel of Thomas“—a second century writing about Jesus’ early years that Christians do not accept at authoritative.

In the film, the Boy rebels against his family after doubting who he is and discovering he has powers. “As he exercises his own power, the Boy and his family become the target of horrors, natural and divine,” Deadline writes.

While giving an interview for his 2014 biblical rapture film “Left Behind,” Cage said the “heart of the movie” for him was “family.”

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“It’s about owning our mistakes and getting back to what is genuinely valuable,” he said. “And I think people can respond to that.”

“Left Behind” is based on Tim LaHaye’s and Jerry B. Jenkins’ 1995 best-selling novel of the same name. The fictional end times book focuses on the story of Rayford Steele, the character Cage portrays in the film, whose wife and son are raptured into heaven along with many others.

NY Man Sentenced to 12 Years in Prison After Filming Kids in Church Bathroom

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Stephen Nicot of Greece, New York, was sentenced this week to 12 years in prison and eight years of supervised release for using a hidden camera to film minors in a church bathroom and his home. He was also fined $250,000.

The 61-year-old pleaded guilty in January to receipt of child pornography. For that charge, he faced between five and 20 years in prison.

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During a 2022 search of Nicot’s home, investigators found a memory card and a USB drive containing photographs and videos of “at least five minor victims using the church bathroom and shower,” according to a Justice Department (DOJ) press release.

“[Nicot] did this knowing some of the individuals would be under the age of 18 and he planned to display the video of the minors,” the DOJ added. Authorities also discovered photos and videos of nude adult men using the church shower.

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The name of the church—located in Holley, Orleans County—has not been released. The county is in northwestern New York, near Rochester. It’s also unclear whether Stephen Nicot worked at or attended the church in question.

According to a local news outlet, investigators discovered the porn-filled memory card in Nicot’s home, tucked in a book on tape titled “Jesus Among Other Gods.” On two confiscated cell phones, investigators found naked images of a minor who had been filmed by a hidden camera in Nicot’s home.

Following a joint investigation by local officials and the FBI, Nicot was arrested in 2023 and charged with production and possession of child pornography. Those charges carried a maximum prison sentence of up to 30 years.

Authorities Identified at Least 5 Minor Victims

According to prosecutors, Nicot recorded people in the unnamed church’s bathroom between 2012 and 2014. They alleged that he strategically positioned the device to capture images from the men’s shower area.

Law enforcement officials said they identified five minors who were filmed unknowingly in the church bathroom. They had asked the community to report any other possible victims.

Florida Elementary School Disbands Christian Club Following Pressure From Freedom From Religion Foundation

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A Florida elementary school has disbanded a Fellowship of Christian Athletes (FCA) club following pressure from the Freedom From Religion Foundation (FFRF), an organization that exists “to promote the constitutional principle of separation of state and church.”

In a press release, FFRF celebrated that “the Fellowship of Christian Athletes will not be able to organize and run a religious club for students” at Hamilton Elementary School, the lone primary school in the Hamilton County School District. 

The dispute between FFRF and the Hamilton County School District began after the FCA announced on Facebook that a “new huddle” would be formed at Hamilton Elementary School. 

Samantha F. Lawrence, legal fellow for FFRF, sent a letter to the Hamilton County superintendent on March 29, formally requesting that the group be disbanded. 

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“Students have the First Amendment right to be free from religious indoctrination in their public schools. While the Equal Access Act protects students’ right to form religious clubs in secondary schools, it does not apply to elementary schools,” Lawrence wrote.

Lawrence further argued that elementary school students are too young to form a student-led club without the intervention of school staff—a requirement for religious groups to meet on public school campuses. 

“Any claims that the Hamilton Elementary FCA club is ‘student led’ are at best naive and at worst dishonest,” Lawrence wrote. “Young children cannot practically initiate, organize, and run an FCA club on their own, meaning adults are the ones truly behind the club.”

Lawrence said that “the school’s actions needlessly alienate and exclude students and families who are not Christian, including those who are nonreligious” and asked the superintendent to “immediately investigate this matter and ensure that the FCA club at Hamilton Elementary is disbanded.”

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On April 22, Meagan L. Logan, a lawyer representing Hamilton County School District, sent a response letter to FFRF saying that the district had “investigated the allegations of your letter and concluded that there was a small group of fifth grade students participating in such a club at the school.”

Grace College Professor Ousted After Online Commentators Flag ‘Woke’ Social Media Posts

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(RNS) — With glowing performance reviews and above-average student evaluations, by most measures Matthew Warner’s first year as a communications professor at Grace College was a triumph.

But he spent most of that first year knowing it could be his last. After four months on the job, Warner was informed by the school’s president, Drew Flamm, that the board had “come to the conclusion that we don’t think it works out to move forward,” according to a recording obtained by Religion News Service.

Warner’s termination is the latest in a string professor terminations at Christian colleges seemingly tied to clashes over narrowing and often unspoken political and theological criteria. While Flamm didn’t specify the reasons for Warner’s dismissal, it was preceded by an online termination campaign clear about its goals. Launched by conservative influencers and Grace College stakeholders, the campaign demanded Warner’s removal due to his social media posts about LGBTQ rights, Black Lives Matter and critiques of the GOP. Almost all the posts predated Warner’s employment at the college.

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Grace College declined to answer questions about Warner, saying it was a personnel matter. “Dr. Matt Warner fulfilled his agreement for the year. Grace College wishes Dr. Warner well in his future endeavors,” Norm Bakhit, Grace College’s chief officer of human resources, told RNS in a statement. Flamm did not offer further comment.

Warner and his wife said they both left behind jobs and sold their home in metro Detroit to move with their three kids to Warsaw, Indiana, for Warner’s job at Grace. It was his dream position, they said, and noted that they gave up 60% of their income for him to take it. Warner was eager to work with colleagues he described as “world class,” and quickly became known for his interactive teaching style and enthusiastic participation in department events, according to student evaluations and interviews with faculty. Early on, administrators tapped him to be a faculty mentor to first-year students.

Then, in October, Warner learned there was a group of local moms calling for him to be fired. Warner traced the outcry back to a Facebook post by Evan Kilgore, a Grace alum and onetime employee who captured screenshots of Warner’s past tweets, which included such phrases as “I support gay marriage,” “My pronouns are he/they,” “Tucker Carlson is fascist” and “When Christendom is conservative it ceases to be transformative.”

Monica Boyer's Fabook post. (Screen grab)

Monica Boyer’s Facebook post. (Screen grab)

A former Turning Point USA ambassador and now faith-based political commentator, Kilgore told RNS he posted because “parents might want to be aware of somebody who has influence over their child with these beliefs.”

Kilgore said he was originally tipped off about Warner’s posts by Monica Boyer, a Grace College parent and local political organizer. While Kilgore’s post clarified that he was not calling for Warner’s termination, Boyer took a different approach.

“I am OFFICIALLY calling on Grace College to fire this professor IMMEDIATELY,” Boyer wrote on Facebook. “The devil probably shouldn’t mess with moms who fight for their kids,” she wrote the same day, adding that moms were driving around campus, praying.

Warner proactively met with supervisors as Boyer’s repeated demands gained traction among her nearly 8,000 Facebook followers. But initial conversations weren’t reassuring. Flamm and Bakhit, the chief human resources officer, told Warner he wasn’t yet a faculty member because the board hadn’t ratified him. Now, the board was considering voting against Warner’s ratification, a move that would end his employment.

Warner, who distinguishes between his support of people’s civil rights and his theological convictions, said he had no qualms with the school’s faith standards or lifestyle commitments. Affiliated with Charis Fellowship, a theologically conservative network of churches with roots in German pietism, Grace College requires all faculty to sign a lifestyle commitment that affirms marriage as between one man and one woman and bans homosexual behavior.

“They’ve created a caricature of me based on taking a very small number of social media posts out of context,” Warner said. “I was treated from the beginning as a threat or liability. And nobody at any time had a conversation with me about what I believe, or what I’m willing to do to support the college.”

The news that he wasn’t already a faculty member also came as a shock.

“Most faculty here seemed very surprised to learn that two months after they moved here and started their jobs, they technically were still not employees,” one faculty member, who requested not to be named, told RNS.

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In mid-October, Flamm offered Warner the option to voluntarily resign, and, alternatively, outlined a “potential pathway forward” that involved meeting regularly with Flamm and other administrators to restore trust before the board’s ratification vote.

But the “path forward” never materialized, according to Warner, who had emailed Bakhit asking for a breakdown of the process. Bakhit told him there were no specific steps. Warner met with some administrators, but not with Flamm.

3 Things You Should Be Doing Every Week in Children’s Ministry

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There are a lot of things you can do in children’s ministry. Programs. Events. Camps.

All of these are good things and can help you disciple kids. But today let’s talk about three things you should be doing every week in children’s ministry.

Great children’s ministries are not built on programs or events. Rather, they are built by doing these three things week in and week out.

Are you really serious about building a children’s ministry? Are you committed to doing some key things every single week?

Let’s take a look at the three things.

1. Invite Someone To Serve With You.  

Effective children’s ministries are build and sustained by great volunteer teams. Let’s be honest. It takes a lot of work to build a great volunteer team. You have to consistently invite people to serve with you.

Our church has an indoor playground area. We open it up after services so kids and their parents can hang out after church services are over.

Come visit us and you will see where I hang out after the service. I am at the indoor playground…asking people to join our volunteer team. This past weekend, I was able to personally invite two people to serve and one of them said “yes.”

Do that every single week and I promise you that your volunteer team will grow. Don’t complain about not having enough volunteers if you are not asking people to serve with you. Personal invites…it’s the best way to build a great volunteer team.

If you haven’t read my book “The Formula for Building Great Volunteer Teams” you need to get it. In this book, I share how we built a volunteer team of over 2,000 in nine years. You can use the same formula to grow your children’s ministry volunteer team. The principles in the book will work in any size church. You can get the book today at this link.

2. Thank People for Serving With You.  

Did you know that 65% of volunteers have never heard the words “thank you?” Don’t be that kind of leader. Say “thank you for serving and making a difference” every single week to all of your volunteers.

While building a team is where it all begins, showing gratitude to that team of people is where it is sustained. Personally thank every volunteer, every single week, for serving.

How Do We Steer a Course Between Compassion and Wisdom?

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How do we steer a course between compassion and wisdom?

“I don’t have any money for gas, and I have to take my four year old in for brain surgery tomorrow, and I just started this new job, and I don’t get paid for another week…oh, and what time are your services, I’m looking for a church…”

I notice the meth sores. I smell the cigarette smoke. I can see the glazed over look in her eyes.

I also saw them pull up into the parking lot. Nice car. There’s a dude out there, probably in his twenties, clearly strung out on something—and now making his lady go in to beg for some cash. I don’t see a car seat.

It’s that last line of her speech that kills me. I’ve heard it so many times before. She’s learned that if a pastor or church thinks they might have a potential disciple they’ll be more inclined to opening the coffers.

This lady isn’t sincere. She is trying to play us. She wants church money to buy meth.

If you have limited resources in the face of seemingly unlimited need, you have to make judgment calls like this all the time. Should you help somebody who isn’t all that serious? Should you help somebody who is “coming to Jesus” for all the wrong reasons?

I end up telling her that we don’t have the resources right now to help. She leaves in an angry huff, upset that the church doesn’t care about her daughter enough to give $20 for gas so she can get her brain surgery.

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What do I do with this?

I think about situations like this when I read about Jesus feeding the 5,000. They didn’t pack their own lunch. They weren’t taking responsibility. The gospel accounts, especially in John, tell us that they are fickle. They aren’t serious disciples.

But what does Jesus do? He says, “you feed them…”

3 Ways To Prevent an Attitude of Entitlement in Your Kids

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The culture around us has gradually shifted America’s mindset to believe that we all have our rights, including the “right” to have what we want, the way we want it, and when we want it. We would call this an attitude of entitlement.

It’s an attitude that has led many adults to live off government handouts, and many others to think they should have in their 20’s everything that took their parents a lifetime to earn and accumulate.

When it comes to our kids, some are naturally bent more towards an attitude of entitlement than others. But while an attitude of entitlement poses a greater threat to our children in their future as adults than it may right now, the importance of curbing it right now is vital. An attitude of entitlement robs a person of an attitude of gratitude, servanthood, and the desire to work hard for what they have.

However, there are some things that, as parents, we can do to prevent this attitude in our kids that the world around them so naturally tries to instill.

Here are three opportunities you can intentionally give your children to help them avoid an entitlement mentality. Give them opportunities to:

1.  WORK HARD for what they want

Whoever said that a child deserves a smartphone, tablet, or game system, just because they bear your last name? Is a parent just a Grizzly Gus for refusing to give their kids everything they want, or are they actually exercising good and effective parenting skills by establishing some rules and limitations?

The next time your child wants that new “something”, try one of the following:

  • Let them work around the house for payment (allowance) on chores completed, etc.
  • For certain items, agree to pay for the second half once they have earned the first half.  This still puts the ball in their court to take initiative to get what they want.
  • Encourage them to learn a trade or develop a talent working or making something that can give them a small income. Over the years our kids have learned to make duct tape pens and wallets as well as mowed lawns and shoveled snow, among other things.

It’s good for our kids to earn the things they want by working to get them. It prepares them for real life.

Don’t expect that your kids can live in a fantasy world all their childhood by getting everything they want, and it not affect them when they enter the real world of adulthood someday. The older they get, the more this point applies. As they age, increase your expectations and their opportunities to work hard for what they want. It’s a win-win for both of you.

Proverbs 13:11   “Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished: but he that gathereth by labour shall increase.”

Ecclesiastes 4:13   “Better is a poor and a wise child than an old and foolish king.”

Secondly, give them opportunities to:

2.  GIVE BACK for what they’ve been given

Every child ought not to just expect that being a part of a family means an automatic right to all the benefits of a family without any contribution of their own.

If everyone in the family benefits from food on the table, clean dishes, clean clothes, and many other things, then it’s not too much to ask, and even expect, that everyone can contribute to cleaning off the table, washing the dishes, and folding the clothes, etc.

As much as we love our kids, sometimes we’re guilty to only give, give, give, and rarely expect much contribution in return for the overall good and success of the family. Helping our kids understand their responsibility to give back will be a preventative to an attitude of entitlement.

Thirdly, give them opportunities to:

3.  EXPRESS THANKS for what they have

In addition to normal times like birthdays and Christmas, there are always going to be people who choose to be generous to your family and your kids. It may be grandparents, friends, or just acquaintances who desire to be a blessing.

In any case, it’s very important to use those opportunities to teach our kids to be intentionally grateful by giving verbal and written expressions of thanks.

Teach your kids that a handwritten note for gifts they receive is still one of the most effective forms of gratitude.  Have them make personal phone calls or home visits to people who have done special things for them.

Nothing can seem less appreciated like when someone gives of their time or money to never hear from the person on the receiving end of their sacrifice. But teaching our children to be thankful and to express it helps curb the development of an attitude of entitlement.

It’s not hard to spot such an attitude in a child nowadays. You can hear it in their voice and see it on their face from a mile away. And no one enjoys it, not even the child who possesses it. It’s taxing on the child, the parents, and anyone else within earshot.

But on the opposite extreme, how refreshing is it to meet a young person who is willing to work hard, not afraid to give back, and naturally expresses gratitude? I think you’d agree, they’re diamonds in the ruff.

What a blessing we can give to our kids and the people whose paths they will cross in their lives by nurturing into their hearts an attitude of gratitude instead of an attitude of entitlement.

Of the three ways listed above, which one could you implement more into your family life to nurture an attitude of gratitude over an attitude of entitlement?

This article originally appeared here.

When God Showed Up

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One very special day I was in London for a business trip. I had an hour between meetings and going to dinner, so I thought I’d walk around a bit. There was no master plan to where I was going, just out to stretch my legs and get some fresh air. And then it happened. I saw a couple of bright lights and people running together. So, I thought I’d check it out. The closer I got, the more in focus the growing crowd got. There seemed to be something going on that excited them. They were moving all around, trying to get a better look at something. As I got really close, I saw the reason for their excitement. It was Queen Elizabeth and Prince Phillip. They showed up to visit a bookshop. As they came out, people started bowing their heads. The queen and Phillip walked over to the people and started shaking hands and talking. They eventually got in their royal limousine and rode off, complete with a police escort.

When I reconnected with my business partners, I told them what had happened. They punched me in the arm with all their might and yelled at me for not bringing them along. I then learned that meeting the queen was on their Bucket List. The bruise lasted for more than a week.

When I saw the queen, it wasn’t because I walked into her living room or anything like that. There was nothing that I could ever do to earn or deserve that kind of connection or friendship.

God Showed Up In Jesus

To them God has chosen to make known among the Gentiles the glorious riches of this mystery, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory. ~ Colossians 1:27

When it comes to meeting the queen, it’s always and only if and when they want to meet people. The same is true for presidents and other important people. You can’t get access unless they first come to you or they open the door and let you in.

It’s the same way with God, but more so. There’s no way for us to find out who God is by ourselves than to walk to the moon. He’s not only so far above us, he’s so much greater than anything we can imagine. And he’s spirit, which makes him invisible to us.

The only way to learn anything about God is for him to show up. For him to make an appearance. For him to reveal himself to us. He has to make the first move. It’s up to God to reach out to us.

Are You Ready to Produce Mobile Phone Video?

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When I started out in television production, the cost of a camera was out of sight. And depending on it being a film or video project, the cost continued to climb. But today, we carry around a TV studio in our pocket and more and more filmmakers are embracing the idea of producing projects on using mobile phone video.

The bottom line is that it’s time to stop complaining that we don’t have a budget or the right equipment to make a high quality project. In fact, when it comes to mobile phone video, I don’t have to defend myself. Just take a look at some amazing examples.

This is a short documentary filmed in Paris on an iPhone X:

Here’s Steven Soderbergh’s trailer for his Netflix feature: “High Flying Bird”:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=No8PhSlunfk&feature=emb_logo

Moses Object Lesson for Mother’s Day Explores God’s Loving Care

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A Moses object lesson is a special part of this Mother’s Day children’s message. Sunday school kids carefully pass around a large sheet of tissue paper. While doing so, they explore how God takes care of us through other people.

Have fun sharing this Mother’s Day message and Moses object lesson with children!

Preparation

Scripture: Exodus 2:1-10

Supplies:

  • Bible
  • large sheet of tissue paper (1 for every 10-12 kids)

Mother’s Day Message

Open your Bible to Exodus 2 and show kids the words.

Say: Let’s explore a story in the Bible that shows how God takes care of us through others. We’ll find out how God worked through special women in Moses’ life to keep him safe during a scary time.

First here’s a little background. God’s people, the Israelites, lived in Egypt. But the Pharaoh in charge of Egypt was really mean. He enslaved the Israelites. That means he didn’t let them live their lives freely. And that’s really bad!

Plus, Pharaoh tried to kill all the baby boys. He harmed the Israelites in terrible ways. That’s really bad, too.

But God took care of his people. And one way he did that was through other people.

Let’s see what happened when a baby boy named Moses was born.

Read Exodus 2:2-3.

Say: Remember, baby boys were in danger! But Moses’ mom tried her best to take care of him. That meant hiding him in a basket in the Nile River. So let’s be the Nile River. We’ll all sit in a curvy line like a river. (If you have a lot of kids, form multiple lines of 10 to 12 people each.)

Say: Lots of dangerous things are in the river. The basket could spring a leak, and the baby could drown. Hungry crocodiles might be looking for a snack. Scary water snakes could strike. And hippos might charge and attack!

Moses Object Lesson for Children

Say: But we want to take care of the baby. Hold up a large sheet of tissue paper.

We’ll pretend this tissue paper is the basket holding baby Moses. Pass it very carefully so it doesn’t tear or wrinkle. Allow time for kids to pass the tissue paper back and forth down the river.

After a few times back and forth, let kids continue passing the paper. Say: While Moses’ basket floated in the river, Moses’ sister, Miriam, watched to make sure he stayed safe. God takes care of us through others.

It wasn’t long before something happened. Something that could be just as dangerous as a crocodile or water snake.

Read Exodus 2:5-6.

Then carefully take the tissue paper back. Say: You cared for this paper so far. But oh, no! Pharaoh’s daughter found Moses! Pharaoh was the one trying to kill all the baby boys!

But God takes care of us through others. Miriam saw this happen and had an idea.

Read Exodus 2:7-9.

Say: Let’s sit in a circle and take turns rocking the tissue paper as if it’s a baby. Allow time for kids to rock the tissue paper.

Practical Marriage Counseling: What You Really Need.

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What You Need, Is Not What You Think You Need

When couples step into a counseling session, often they’re looking for answers—direct advice on how to fix the issue at hand, whether it’s about money, parenting, or household chores. It seems straightforward: tell us what to do, and we’ll do it. However, counselors take a different route, one that might seem like it’s avoiding the problem, but here’s why it’s actually getting to the heart of it.

Going Beyond the Surface

Think of your relationship issues like an iceberg. What you argue about—the bills, the kids, the housework—is just the tip sticking out of the water. But there’s a whole lot more ice beneath the surface. These are the emotional undercurrents that drive the conflict: feelings of being undervalued, fears of disconnection, or long-standing hurts. Counselors dive into these deeper waters not because the surface problems don’t matter, but because solving the deeper issue dissolves many of the surface tensions.

The Problem With Quick Fixes

If a counselor just gave advice on the content of the conflict, it would be like putting a band-aid on a wound that needs stitches—it might cover it up for a bit, but it won’t heal properly and will likely open up again. Couples might think they want quick answers, but what they truly need is a way to heal the wound underneath so it doesn’t keep causing pain. This approach doesn’t waste time with temporary fixes but aims for long-term health and connection in the relationship.

Focusing on the Emotional Process

The real work in counseling focuses on how you and your partner talk about these issues, not just what you’re talking about. It’s about understanding and changing the way you respond to each other emotionally. If one partner feels ignored, what’s really needed isn’t just taking turns talking, but addressing why the partner feels unheard in the first place. By focusing on these emotional processes, counselors help couples develop the tools to navigate, not just this conflict, but any challenge that comes their way.

Empowering Solutions from Within

Counselors aim to empower you and your partner to find your own solutions. This might sound daunting, but it’s incredibly effective. When solutions come from understanding each other’s emotional needs and working together to meet them, they’re more sustainable and meaningful. It’s like teaching someone to fish instead of just giving them a fish; it equips you with the skills to nourish your relationship for a lifetime.

Real Change for Real Issues

So while it might seem like you need direct advice on specific issues, what you’re being guided towards is something much more valuable: the ability to understand and respond to each other’s emotional needs. This doesn’t mean ignoring the day-to-day problems. Instead, it’s about tackling them in a way that strengthens your bond, ensuring that when the next challenge arises, you’re both better prepared to handle it together. In counseling, you’re not just fixing problems; you’re building a stronger, more resilient relationship.

Practically Speaking

Let’s break down how improving the way you understand and talk about feelings can actually solve real-life issues you might be facing in your relationship. Think of your relationship like a team where both of you are working together, not just to keep things running smoothly at home but to also ensure you both feel supported and understood.

Understanding Emotional Signals

Imagine you’re working on a project, and one of your tools isn’t working right. You’d naturally want to figure out what’s wrong to fix it and move forward. Similarly, when your partner seems upset or distant, it’s a signal something needs attention. By getting better at noticing these signals and understanding what they really mean, you’re essentially troubleshooting issues in your relationship much more effectively.

Talking About Feelings

Talking about feelings might not be your go-to move, but think of it as discussing the game plan with your teammate. When you’re able to say, “Hey, this is how I’m feeling right now,” it’s like giving a heads-up that helps both of you navigate the situation better. You don’t need fancy words—just straightforward, honest talk about what’s going on with you emotionally.

Breaking Negative Patterns

Every couple falls into a sort of dance where one person does something (like withdrawing) and the other reacts in a predictable way (maybe getting angry). Over time, this dance can become a pattern that keeps you stuck. By recognizing these patterns, you can start to change your steps, leading to a more positive interaction. It’s like deciding to switch up your strategy in a game to get better results.

Empowerment in Ministry

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In the demanding world of ministry, it’s not uncommon for pastors to find themselves juggling multiple responsibilities while navigating the pressures of church leadership. However, in the pursuit of serving the congregation, there is a crucial aspect that sometimes gets overlooked—the true meaning of empowerment.

As pastors, it is essential to understand that empowerment goes beyond delegating tasks; it is about equipping and fostering future leaders who will carry the torch of ministry with passion and dedication. Do you practice empowerment with those you lead?

Rethinking Empowerment: 

Empowerment is not simply the act of passing on tasks to others; it involves nurturing an environment where future leaders can grow, thrive, and take ownership of their roles. True empowerment is a process that encourages individuals to develop their potential, fostering a sense of ownership and responsibility in the ministry’s mission. When we genuinely empower others, we invest in their growth and development, enabling them to flourish and make a lasting impact on the church community.

Unleashing Potential: 

Every congregation is a treasure trove of untapped potential. As pastors, it is our responsibility to identify and nurture these talents within our community. By providing opportunities for training, mentorship, and encouragement, we can help individuals discover their God-given gifts and unleash their full potential. Empowerment is not about hoarding leadership roles but about creating a culture where leaders emerge and are celebrated.

Fostering a Culture of Trust: 

One of the pillars of empowerment is trust. As pastors, we must trust in the abilities and potential of those we delegate responsibilities to. When we show faith in their capabilities, we affirm their worth and competence. This trust builds a strong foundation for future leaders, giving them the confidence to take on challenges and make crucial decisions.

Delegating with Purpose: 

Delegating tasks is not enough; delegation must be purposeful and intentional. It involves aligning the right people with the right responsibilities. Understand the strengths and passions of individuals, and assign tasks that align with their skills. When individuals are engaged in tasks they find meaningful, they are more likely to take ownership and go the extra mile.

Mentoring and Guidance: 

Empowerment involves more than just delegating; it requires ongoing mentoring and guidance. As leaders, we have a responsibility to provide support, encouragement, and constructive feedback to those we empower. Regular check-ins, training sessions, and mentorship programs can be instrumental in nurturing leaders and helping them overcome challenges.

‘Generosity Is the Antidote to Violence’—’Reacher’ Star Alan Ritchson Calls Out Voting Christians

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“Reacher” star Alan Ritchson learned at an early age not to “make anyone feel less than.” This actor, writer, director, and producer continues to call out Christians who he believes are doing just that.

“I think about an entire platform by those who mostly claim to be Christians who are doing the exact opposite of this with their voting power,” said Ritchson in a recent YouTube video.

Alan Ritchson Goes From ‘Reacher’ to Preacher As He Uses Scripture To Back His Political Views

Ritchson posted another video to his InstaChurch YouTube channel blasting conservative Christians. This comes just weeks after a controversial interview in which he said, “Trump is a rapist and a con man, and yet the entire Christian church seems to be treating him like he’s their poster child.”

Ritchson started off his recent video by accusing Christians of having it “backwards.” Ritchson claims Christians think “institutions deserve generosity, and individuals deserve violence.”

“I think the opposite is true,” Ritchson countered. “I think institutions deserve scrutiny and regulation, and individuals deserve generosity.”

He then went on to explain the Christian ethic for those who are marginalized, and he called for generosity—via justice and righteousness.

“I think peace is not active enough to be the antidote to violence,” said Ritchson. “I think generosity is the antidote to violence.”

Ritchson referred to a Wisconsin McDonald’s where one act of paying it forward resulted in a chain of 23 drivers paying for the order behind them in line. He turned this story around and said he had never heard of someone who was punched in the face saying, “I’ll go and punch the next 23 people I come across in the face.”

He explained that justice is more than consequences, saying, “It’s something restorative, going out of our way to seek the vulnerable who are being taken advantage of and helping them.”

Ritchson found Scripture he thought “united these ideas.” He quoted phrases such as, “Good will come to those who are generous” (Psalm 112:5), and, “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves” (Proverbs 31:8-9). He addressed foreign affairs and immigration when he quoted, “Do no wrong to the foreigner, the fatherless, or the widow” (Jeremiah 22:3).

“I think about an entire platform by those who mostly claim to be Christians who are doing the exact opposite of this with their voting power,” Ritchson said, describing voters “who are trying to do violence to the foreigner, who are not helping the fatherless, who are making victims of widows.”

Ritchson claimed, “If you want to see violence flee the world, be more generous to everybody. That is the Christian ethic.”

‘Most of Them Are the A**’—Perry Noble Critiques Male Ministry Leaders Who Believe Women Can’t Preach

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Disgraced Pastor Perry Noble said during his sermon on Sunday, May 5, that any ministry leader who believes women shouldn’t preach is an “a**.”

Noble founded Second Chance Church in 2018 in Anderson, South Carolina, less two years after being fired from NewSpring Church, also in Anderson. He founded NewSpring in 2000, and it grew to a megachurch with over 15 locations and over 30,000 regular attenders under his leadership.

Noble was removed from NewSpring Church for some “unfortunate decisions,” which included alcohol abuse and marital issues.

Since then, Noble divorced his wife, Lucretia, after 17 years of marriage and married Shannon Repokis in 2021.

Noble recently grabbed headlines after saying “s**t” during one of his sermons while using phrasing extremely similar to that of progressive Christian leader Tony Compolo.

In a May 5 sermon he titled “Ask Pastor P,” Noble answered questions that were texted in from the congregation. The pastor explained that this is something the church does twice a year and was started because as a child growing up in church, he was taught not to ask the hard biblical questions.

RELATED: ‘Don’t Give a S**t’—Perry Noble Cusses During Sermon While Apparently Plagiarizing From Progressive Christian Tony Campolo

Questions ranged from personal situations and theological questions to financial inquiries about those who serve on church staff.

“If you commit suicide but pray for forgiveness for killing yourself before you die, do you still get to go to heaven?” one person asked.

Another asked,

Does our church pay staff members livable wage? Another local church has full-time staff members that are on government assistance because their compensation is so minimal. Second Chance Church is focused on investing in the future generations, and I hope that we invest more that $20k a year in our full-time staff members.

“I’m dating a lot of people who are still ‘legally married,’” another texted in. “Is it okay if they are not divorced or have been separated for years and just don’t have money for divorce?”

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