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Your Child’s First Teacher

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If you have or did have a child in school, you remember the anticipation they (and you) felt as you met your child’s first school teacher.

As a parent, you hoped your child would get a teacher who was kind yet thorough, who was focused but fun as well, and was qualified but also caring.

That being said, I was reminded this week that your child’s school teacher wasn’t or will not be your child’s first teacher.

Your child’s first teacher is you as the parent.  From the moment they are born, you have the great privilege of being their first teacher.

I’ve been driving cross country this week with my wife, son and daughter-in-law.  He is transferring with his company to a western state.  I’ve been watching he and his wife this week as they parent and lead their son. They have already established a great bond with their son who is just a few months old and they are going to be a great “first teacher” to their son as he grows and matures.

Thinking about a mother being a first teacher reminded me of these verses that were written to Timothy.

2 Timothy 1:5  – “I remember your genuine faith, for you share the faith that first filled your grandmother Lois and your mother, Eunice. And I know that same faith continues strong in you.”    

2 Timothy 3:15 – “You have been taught the holy Scriptures from childhood, and they have given you the wisdom to receive the salvation that comes by trusting in Christ Jesus.” 

Timothy’s first teacher was his mother Eunice.  

His grandmother, Lois, was also a big part of his spiritual learning and upbringing.  My son has godly grandparents and growing up it was always good to have him spend time with them as they were an example for him to learn from. 

Most of you reading this are spiritual leaders in a local church or para-church ministry.  You have the great privilege of influencing kids to follow Jesus.  But always remember that first and foremost the children’s first teacher is their parents.

 

The greatest way to influence children spiritually is to influence their parents spiritually.  Invest in the children’s first teacher – their parents.   – Dale Hudson

A great way to influence parents spiritually and equip them is through spiritual milestones.  These are direct opportunities to speak directly into their lives and give them the tools they need to raise their kids to know God’s Word, wisdom and way of salvation.  You can get more information about the milestone strategy at this link.

There are so many important things parents can teach their children.  If I made an entire list, it would go on for pages and pages.  But let’s just focus on a few.

As the first teacher of your child, teach him or her about…

the love of God

God’s plan of salvation

a growing relationship with Jesus

the Bible is God’s Word

the doctrines of the faith (in simple terms)

the 10 commandments

their identity in Christ

how to make wise choices

God has a special plan for their lives

the fruits of the Spirit

As you head into 2021, determine that you are going to invest in the “first teachers.”  By doing this, you will help them fulfill this verse…

“Keep a close watch on how you live and on your teaching. Stay true to what is right for the sake of your own salvation and the salvation of those who hear you.”  I Timothy 4:16

I have often shared an illustration about this verse.  When you are flying and they are going through the pre-flight safety instructions, they bring out a mask.  This mask is used in case there is a shortage of oxygen in the cabin.  It comes down from overhead.  Remember what they say to do if you are traveling with a child?  They say to put your mask on first and then on the child.  Why do they say that?  Because, if you pass out, you can’t help your child put on theirs.  

The same applies to a parent.  If you want to have spiritually healthy children, then you must first make sure you are fulfilling God’s calling as your child’s first teacher.  You must walk the talk and be an example of what it means to love God with all your heart, mind and soul.

If you are a first teacher, then use today to teach well.  And if you are in a place to influence parents, pour everything you’ve got into it. 

(p.s. Shout out to home school parents who teach their children both spiritually and academically.)

This article originally appeared here.

How to Write a Life Plan for the New Year

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I believe that it's important to live with purpose. So as we head into a new year, I want to help you write a life plan. #livewithpurpose #livewithintention #believe #focus #achieve #intentionalliving #mindfulliving

As we head into a new year, I want to help you think through life planning. I believe in purposeful living.

Here is a reality I have experienced personally and in observation of so many others. Most likely, the degree of success you experience this next year will be directly proportional to the direction you head your life and the intentionality you have with the decisions you make. If you have an idea or goal of where you want to go and a plan of action coupled with discipline, you are more likely to achieve your desired results. You can’t control some of the things life brings you, but you will have a better chance of achieving your dreams if you create some organization in your life to help you reach them.

I also believe simple is good…so, for the next few days, I want to offer segments of developing a one-year life plan. I’ll break it down a little each day to keep it from seeming overwhelming. At the end of the week, if you follow along, you’ll at least have a plan of action. (If you have a better way of doing this, I welcome your input…the key is doing it far more than how…)

Today, let’s set some goals for ourselves…

List three to five goals total. If you have too many, you’ll burn out trying to reach them, and too few will keep you from achieving all that’s possible.

Think through several areas of your life where you would like to see improvement. Areas such as:

  • Spiritual
  • Personal
  • Marriage or relationships
  • Physical
  • Emotional
  • Financial
  • Professional

Include a stretch goal, such as run a marathon, read through the Bible, learn to fly a plane, get out of debt, start a side business or write a book.

At this point, they can be very general. They shouldn’t all be “stretch goals”—limit that to one or two—but they all should be goals designed to take you somewhere you want to go in life, somewhere you hope to improve.

So spend some time today and list your goals. Remember, no more than five, no less than three…

Here is an example:

  1. Lose 10 pounds. (I went specific here because most have an idea of a number. You can simply put “lose weight” at this point if that’s one of your goals.)
  2. Improve my marriage communication.
  3. Pay off my credit card.
  4. Read through the Bible.
  5. Write a book.

Feel free to share your list in the comment section of this post.

Are you up for the challenge? Do you need something like this? Have you ever written out a plan for the New Year?

Side note: For those who are thinking, God is in control of my destiny, so I’ll just let Him direct my paths…I don’t need a plan… I couldn’t agree with you more about God being in control, as He should be. All our plans and goals are futile without His input, but read through the Bible, and you’ll see countless illustrations of how God allows men and women who seek Him to create a plan of action—sometimes for good and sometimes not. There are times God gives us clear and direct instructions, and other times (I would say most times), God allows us to figure out the best course of action based on the wisdom and experiences He has allowed us to have.


Continue Reading:

Writing a Life Plan for the New Year, Part 2

Writing a Life Plan for the New Year, Part 3

Writing a Life Plan for the New Year, Part 4

Writing a Life Plan for the New Year, Part 5

The 20 Most Read Articles on churchleaders.com in 2019

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Here are the most read articles from 2019. With over 26 million views, ChurchLeaders has been blessed to be able to provide you with quality articles that provide leadership tools, encouragement, ideas, insight, and news to equip the church to better spread the good news of Jesus Christ. Which ones did you miss reading?

Here are the top 10 most read articles on churchleaders.com from 2019

#1 – 12 Things a Church Pastor Cannot Do

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There are 12 things a church pastor cannot do–even though pastors are, in my judgment, amazing people. They faithfully serve Sunday after Sunday, often with no desire for recognition or fame. In faith, they can do a lot…except for these 12 things.


#2 – Jarrid Wilson, Pastor, Author and Mental Health Advocate, Dies by Suicide This Week

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Jarrid Wilson, pastor and author of Love Is Oxygen: How God Can Give You Life and Change Your World, died by suicide on Monday September 9, 2019. He died on World Suicide Prevention Day 2019.


#3 – 7 Things Your Kids Will Remember About You

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Guess what? Kids will remember what they love about you. As parents, we tend to stress about things that actually don’t matter that much, but here are 7 important things in life that your kids will not forget!


#4 – 10 Heartaches of Being a Pastor

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A pastor’s heart often goes through heartache. I make no claim that pastors are perfect people. We can be arrogant and uncaring at times. But at the same time, most pastors I know are genuine, faithful followers of God who love their congregations.


#5 – 12 Habits That Lead to Divorce…and How to Avoid Them!

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No one intends to develop these habits that lead to divorce. In fact, every married couple has exchanged vows which promise “til death do us part,” but for far too many marriages, their dreams of “forever” are crushed by divorce.


#6 – Tim Keller: 3 Questions Fake Christians Can’t Answer

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Tim Keller has a group of “questions designed to wake up sleeping Christians.” These questions focus on three hallmarks of a growing relationship with God and are ones fake Christians won’t be able to answer.


#7 – TobyMac Issues Statement About Son Truett’s Death

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Christian rapper TobyMac has issued a statement about his son, Truett Foster McKeehan, and his unexpected death earlier this week. TobyMac described his son as having an “untamable grand personality and dreams to match.”


#8 – United Methodists Vote: No Same-Sex Weddings, No Gay Clergy

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Delegates for the United Methodist Church are meeting in St. Louis this week to vote on whether to allow same-sex weddings to occur in their churches and whether to allow “self-avowed practicing homosexuals” to fulfill clergy roles.


#9 – Christians Need to Stop Cussing

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There are a couple words we might describe as “Christian swear words.” These two four-letter words are ones we Christians need to eliminate from our vocabularies. Why? Because they are unbiblical and atheistic.


Here are the next 10 most read articles on churchleaders.com from 2019

#10 – 7 Deadly Statements of Church Members

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Church member, how much do you consider what not to say at your church? There are some statements that can prove harmful, even deadly, to a congregation.


Here Are the Top 10 Christian Music Albums from 2019

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One of the most influential means of worship is music. We listen to it in our cars, on our phones, in our homes, at our work, when we play, when we work out, and practically every day there is some way or another music in our life. Some of the top songs in the Christian music world can even be heard on a Sunday morning during worship. So let’s see which Christian music albums did well this past year.

Here are the top 10 Christian music albums in 2019. This doesn’t mean that the album came out this year, but that the album was the most sold this year. Lauren Daigle and the recently released Jesus Is King from Kanye West took the top 3 spots. Check out the rest and see if there are any you missed that came out this year, or just need to re-listen to.

Here are the top 10 Christian Music Albums from 2019

#1- Look Up Child [Lauren Daigle]

‘Look Up Child’ took home took home both Grammy’s and Dove Awards in 2019. Lauren Daigle embarked on a successful world tour and continues to shine the light of Christ into dark places; most recently visiting the Louisiana State Penitentiary.


#2 – Jesus Is King [Kanye West]

Jesus got a hold of Kanye West’s life in 2019. According to Kanye’s testimony he had realized the “weight of his sin” and was convicted that he needed to make things right, so he turned to Jesus. All of the album’s 11 songs appeared on the charts and broke records, it caused faith-based Google searches and continues to inspire those seeking Jesus to be their Lord and Savior.


#3 – How Can It Be [Lauren Daigle]

Lauren Daigle’s debut full-length album ‘How Can It Be’ was released in 2015 but saw a resurgence in album sales and streams because of the success of Look Up Child. Be sure to catch her in 2020 as she continues her world tour with husband and wife duo Johnny Swim.


#4 – Burn The Ships [for King & Country]

The duo’s 2018 release is still going strong, releasing 3 new singles in 2019. The brothers of the successful Christian music artist and actress Rebecca St. James, received a Grammy nomination this year for the album ‘Burn The Ships’.


#5 – People [Hillsong UNITED]

This is the 14th live album from Hillsong UNITED and was released this past April. ‘People’ reached the #1 spot on the Billboard US Christian Music Albums chart and #2 on the US Billboard 200. Hillsong United toured in the United States for the first time in three years to promote the album.


It Turns Out Christian Worship Music Is Surprisingly Timeless

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Ever wonder what Christian worship music has looked like over time? This creative video from David Wesley features him as a one-man a cappella choir doing brief renditions of worship songs sampled from the past 1,500 years! One of the most striking aspects of the video is just how timeless many of the songs are.

Christian Worship Through the Centuries

It’s fascinating to learn where various worship songs fall during different periods of history. “Be Thou My Vision,” while still a very popular hymn today, is actually the oldest Christian worship song Wesley sings, dating back to the year 560. One YouTube user commented, “That moment when you find out one of your favorite hymns is 1,500 years old.” Wesley responded to her, clarifying, “Just the poem the words are based on, alas.” 

Wesley also performs “A Mighty Fortress Is Our God” (1529), “Praise to the Lord, the Almighty” (1668), and “On Christ the Solid Rock I Stand” (1863). The classic, “Amazing Grace” is from the year 1779.

Because Wesley performs a cappella versions of the songs, they all sound fairly formal, but several of his renditions stand out from the others. For example, “Victory in Jesus” (1939) and “Soon and Very Soon” (1978) are faster and more upbeat.

Wesley enters nostalgia territory with “Our God Is an Awesome God” (1988) and “Shout to the Lord (1993). One person commented, “As soon as we hit the 80’s and 90’s I got flashbacks to sitting in my living room, listening to my mom and dad lead worship in our little home based church. I love how even after all this time, I still know the lyrics by heart.”

And it’s also interesting to see which songs have so far come to define worship music in the 2000s. A few are “God of Wonders” (2000), “Oceans” (2012), and “Good, Good Father” (2014). 

Wesley concludes his video by circling back to “Be Thou My Vision,” reminding us of the truth in another user’s comments: “Anyone else feel like these songs are timeless?! Some of them don’t feel this old, and some are literally ancient, and feel new. Interesting…just like Jesus, and His love for us.”

Tony Evans’ Wife, Lois, Dies at 70, ‘relieved of suffering’

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Pastor Tony Evans of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas, Texas, announced yesterday that his wife, Lois Evans, has gone to be with the Lord. 

“God answered our prayers this morning by relieving her of suffering,” Evans wrote in a post on Facebook

Evans and his four children surrounded Lois as she “was lulled into eternity,” as the pastor put it. Evans said the family expressed their gratitude for the life she lived and how they loved her and were proud of her. 

Priscilla Shirer, one of the Evans’ daughters, posted a tribute on Instagram to her late mother. “Goodnight my beautiful, beloved Mommy. 💜 I’ll see you in the morning.”

 

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Goodnight my beautiful, beloved Mommy. 💜 I’ll see you in the morning. #Repost from my Dad, @drtonyevans ・・・ Just before the sun came up this morning, the love of my life, Lois Irene Evans, transitioned from earth and watched her first sunrise from heaven. I had the privilege of holding her hand as she was lulled into eternity. Our four children surrounded her as well. As she slipped away, we told her how much we love her, how proud we are of her, and how thankful we are for the life she has lived. We are what we are because of her. Thank you so much for praying for my wife and for my family. God answered our prayers this morning by relieving her of suffering. But the truth is, He has been answering our prayers all along. Lois lived beyond medical expectations, not once, but over and over again. God has been so kind to give us more time to make wonderful memories. While we know the coming days will be challenging, right now we are grateful for the life and love of a woman who planted seeds that will bear fruit for generations to come. Thank you for your continued prayers for our family as we grieve, and also for your patience as we finalize our plans to honor her life.

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Lois Evans suffered from gallbladder cancer. In April of this year, Evans announced that the cancer had returned a second time and Lois would undergo treatment for it. In October, Evans sent out an “urgent” request for prayer, explaining that traditional methods of treatment for the cancer, such as chemotherapy, were not working for Lois. 

Lois helps Evans lead his radio broadcast ministry, The Urban Alternative. Lois Evans also founded the Pastor’s Wives Ministry

Lois was born December 1, 1949. She passed away on December 30, 2019.

Details for a memorial service have not been announced yet. Evans concluded his announcement by writing “Thank you for your continued prayers for our family as we grieve, and also for your patience as we finalize our plans to honor her life.”

Venezuelan Refugees Walk 2,000+ Miles to Chile and Argentina

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The dark of night descends rapidly on the small plaza. A penetrating drizzle steadily drips onto the stone floor. About thirty-five men, most in short sleeves or sleeveless shirts, huddle under the only two trees. Rain sluices off the trees onto their heads. Two young women scurry to pull together an improvised tent composed of black plastic trash bags, at the same time attempting to keep dry a small girl in fuzzy footsie pajamas. A young couple sits in utter physical exhaustion, trying to shelter their eight-month-old son from the rain. Everyone is wet and everyone is cold.

Venezuelan Refugees Face a 2,000+ Mile Journey

This place is the first Colombian town of any size on the route up, over and along the high Andean cordillera on the arduous route from the Venezuelan border, across Colombia to the Ecuadorian border, across Ecuador to the Peruvian border, across Peru to the capital, and—for some—across Peru to Chile or Argentina. It represents only the first few days of travel by foot for Venezuelan refugees fleeing the collapse of their nation—once one of the wealthiest on the continent. These men, women, the little girl, the baby boy are all on the first stage of a 2,700-mile trek by foot.

A Colombian pastor and IMB missionaries share clothes and information with Venezuelan walkers called “caminantes.”

They are only a handful of the two hundred to five hundred Venezuelans who pass this way every day of the week, some pushing the elderly in a wheelchair, many carrying a baby or child, a number well along in their pregnancy, nearly all dressed for hot climates. Most have no money, no food, and no connections outside of Venezuela. They have not eaten well for a long time in their home country, where a month’s salary will only buy two days’ worth of food. They have sold their homes and belongings to pay for bus fare across Venezuela to the Colombian border. Some cannot even do that; they walk a week across Venezuela to the border before beginning their long walk over multiple countries.

Here in neighboring Colombia, each Venezuelan on this dark night on a mountain plaza is sore, hungry, thirsty, cold, and wet. They have been walking steadily upward on the mountain highway for days.  They carry with them everything they own in a backpack or small rolling suitcase: perhaps a change of clothes, perhaps photos of family left behind, perhaps work boots for a hoped-for future job. They come from flat, hot plains or the sultry coast. They have never known cold. They have never slept on the ground in a public plaza.

They have no coats, no jackets, no gloves, no sweaters, no scarves.  Their socks (if they have any to begin with) and shoes are already in tatters.  They wear flip flops, cheap loafers or low-cost tennis shoes. They are all headed toward a 10,000-foot mountain pass where at least twenty of their compatriots have died of hypothermia and exposure.

Their survival depends on strangers. Some strangers are kind; others are not. In a growing atmosphere of xenophobia against Venezuelan immigrants, some people are turning against them, some nations are slamming doors shut. In this town on this night, the townsfolk are in their cozy homes, eating dinner, preparing for a warm bed. They have seen floods of Venezuelans pass their shops and homes, all tired, all hungry, all penniless. It is time to look away. There is no room. Not tonight. Not for them.

Then the small miracle comes out of the night. A van pulls up across the street. A weary band of IMB missionaries descends. Since early morning they have been driving up the mountain, stopping each time they see a group of Venezuelans. They ask the Venezuelans to put down their heavy loads and sit for a moment while the missionaries give them hot sandwiches and hot chocolate. The missionaries bind up their battered shoes with silver duct tape and give out cold-weather clothing and gear donated by Colombian believers. They hear their stories and tell them a story of God’s love. They share suggestions for staying well, cry with them, hug them, pray with them and encourage them along the way.

This is the last stop. For eleven hours the missionaries have been doing this. For eleven hours they have heard and seen one heartbreaking story after another:

  • The sixteen-year-old who has left home alone to find work to send money back to six younger siblings;
  • The elderly man who has worked the soil all his life. There are no seeds now, he says. No jobs. He hopes someone will let him work their land and give him enough to eat;
  • The woman in her fourth month of pregnancy hoping that she and her baby will live;
  • The teenage girls walking to a 10,000-foot pass in sandals, capris and summer blouses.

Now, heading back down the mountain, the missionaries are fifty miles from returning to the border. The wet plaza is their last stop. The group of men on the plaza come to life as they realize what is being offered to them. The two women receive their sandwiches and drinks, warm jackets and scarves. Expressing thanks, they quickly retire with the little girl to their reconstructed trash bag tent. The men are reluctant to let the missionaries leave. Here are people with jackets for them. More importantly, these are people who see them as human beings and who have been where they are going, who have information.

IMB missionary Paul Tinley narrates the story of Joseph and God’s faithfulness to Venezuelan walkers.

“Will it be colder further on?” “Can anywhere be colder?” They are still at 7,000 feet. They still have another 3,000 feet in elevation to reach the pass, where nighttime temperatures range from 36 degrees to below freezing. A local pastor offers tips for the journey: Don’t climb into the mountain heights while hot and sweaty—a sure way to get bronchitis. Cool off first. A tip from one of the missionaries: Save the foil from the sandwiches. It can keep your hands warm.

A few feet away, the young couple with the baby is too exhausted to move one more step. They barely have the energy to extend their hands for the sandwiches. All day and evening the missionaries have zealously guarded their one child-size blanket, watching for that child who most needs it. Now the pink crocheted blanket wraps their little boy. It is the “wrong” color but no one cares. It is warm. It is good. The father sits by his wife and child, completely unable to care or provide for them in any way. As he takes his first sip of hot chocolate, the hot tears begin to flow down his face and will not stop.

As Christmas approaches, Venezuelans are still walking toward what they hope will be a better life. Will you continue to pray that they will find the hope that came to earth through a newborn Savior?

Wang Yi Sentenced to 9 Years in Chinese Prison

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Wang Yi, a detained Christian pastor who’s been highly critical of religious persecution in China, was sentenced on Monday to nine years in prison. In December 2018, the leader of Early Rain Covenant Church in China’s Sichuan province was arrested, along with his wife and more than 100 congregants.

A secret trial for Wang was held December 26, reportedly using false testimony extracted from church members through torture. The pastor’s relatives and supporters weren’t allowed to attend. Wang’s wife, Jiang Rong, was released in June after spending six months behind bars. And Early Rain elder Qin Derfu was recently sentenced to four years in prison.

The Charges and Consequences 

Pastor Wang, who’s also a lawyer and prominent blogger, was convicted of “inciting subversion of state power” (for not registering his church with the government) and “illegal trade” (for printing and selling religious materials). In addition to the nine-year sentence, his political rights are suspended for three years, his books are banned, and his personal assets were confiscated, essentially resulting in a fine of $7,200 U.S. Many Early Rain congregants remain under police surveillance, and church properties have been seized.

Since 2018, China has cracked down on so-called house churches, requiring them to become part of the state-sanctioned Three-Self Patriotic Movement. The country’s Communist Party also is conducting a sinicization campaign of Bible translations and using biometrics to track churchgoers.

On the latest World Watch List from Open Doors, China ranks 27th for its persecution of Christians, which has escalated under President Xi Jinping. Chinese villagers are being urged to rely on Xi rather than on Jesus.

On a Facebook page titled Pray for Early Rain Covenant Church, a post insists that Wang “did not commit any crime” but is facing “unjust persecutions.” It requests prayers for the pastor, for Early Rain leaders and members, and even for Chinese authorities. “May we be strong in his grace as we keep on fighting despite repeated setbacks,” it reads. “We do this to fulfill the Great Commission and to spread the gospel, that the glorious name of the triune God might be praised.”

Human-Rights Groups Denounce Sentence

Human-rights groups—both religious and secular—are speaking out against Wang’s sentence and urging U.S. officials to condemn it and take action. “This grave sentence demonstrates [Chinese President] Xi’s regime is determined to be the enemy of universal values and religious freedom,” says China Aid President Bob Fu. “We call upon the international community to stand up to the Chinese Community Party and hold this evil regime accountable.”

Amnesty International calls the sentence “appalling,” saying it “makes a mockery of China’s supposed religious freedoms.” Amnesty’s Patrick Poon adds, “The message is very clear: You will be the next Wang Yi if you don’t register and follow the Communist Party’s line on religion.”

Based on his writings, Pastor Wang intends to stand firm, saying no authorities can make him renounce his faith in Jesus. “I will resist in meekness those who resist God,” he writes, “and I will joyfully violate all laws that violate God’s laws.”

Why Do Most People Think God Should Let Them into Heaven?

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“Hypothetically, if God and Heaven are real, on what basis do you believe God will or will not accept you into Heaven?” This was a question B. Tyler Ellis asked 50 people over a period of two years. 

Ellis started his interview project because of his love of learning from people with different beliefs. Those he spoke to came from different faith (or lack of faith) backgrounds. He took each person out to coffee and asked them 20 questions, including the one about God and heaven. The result, said Ellis in a TEDx Talk he gave at Wiley College, was that “What started as a series of curious interviews soon turned into a series of unexpected adventures and unexpected discoveries.”

B. Tyler Ellis’s Discoveries and Opportunities

One of B. Tyler Ellis’s unexpected discoveries was how similarly people answered the question about God and heaven, despite the diversity of their beliefs. These are some of the answers he got:

-You have to earn God’s acceptance
-You have to do more good deeds than bad
-Following the 10 Commandments will help
-Just try to be moral
-God’s acceptance is based on our actions
-God won’t accept me because of my bad deeds
-I don’t know

“Despite such diversity in the people that I interviewed,” said Ellis, “I discovered an overwhelming consensus about the afterlife.” Even the atheists who answered the question (since it was hypothetical) said that God’s approval depends on our performance.

You might expect that people would be reluctant to open up about a question like that, but Ellis found the opposite to be true. He was just there to interview them, not tell them his views. He said, “Since they knew I was just asking questions and not sharing opinions, they were quick to open up. And many articulated their beliefs for the very first time.”

To his surprise, over half of the people Ellis interviewed actually wanted to meet with him again and interview him that time. When he met with people a second time, they would typically ask him two questions:

-Do you believe all paths lead to God?
-How can one person’s death enable another person’s forgiveness?

To answer these questions, Ellis explained the idea that all paths lead to God (which he called “mountain theory”) illustrates one similarity in all the major world religions. All agree that a moral life leads to peace and immorality leads to chaos. At the same time, all the religions disagree in two significant ways. One, said Ellis, is that “religions lead to different mountaintops”—that is, they all describe God differently. The other difference is that they prescribe different ways to make peace with God. 

And in this second difference, Christianity stands apart from the rest. Said Ellis, “All the major world religions, with the exception of Christianity, believe that eternal peace is obtained on the basis of our merits. Christianity believes that eternal peace is obtained on the basis of Jesus’ merits.”

The essence of Ellis’s answer to the question, “How can one person’s death enable another person’s forgiveness?” had to do with the fact that the penalty of a crime increases according to the value of the one offended. Killing a cockroach does not carry any kind of penalty, but killing a person does because a person is more valuable than a cockroach. Offending an infinite God, then, comes with an infinite penalty. Being fully God and fully man, Jesus is the only one who could pay this debt for us. Said Ellis, “I didn’t expect that a couple illustrations would cause so many people to say, ‘I just understood Jesus for the first time.’”

Another troubling finding of Ellis’s experiment was that many of the people he interviewed said they were or had been Christian. How could so many people familiar with Christianity miss a truth essential to salvation? The conclusion Ellis came to is that the church had taught people that Jesus was a good moral teacher, a role model we are supposed to imitate. That is how people can be raised in the church, know a lot of information about Christianity, and still think their good works will earn them a spot in heaven

The truth, said Ellis, is that “Christianity claims that Jesus is not just the model, but the Messiah.” It was only through his death on the cross and subsequent resurrection that he paid the penalty for our sins that we can never pay. And only through accepting this gift and committing our lives to him can we have peace with God and go to heaven. 

And there is another lesson to be learned from B. Tyler Ellis’s project. It’s easy to push our views on others when we think we’re right. But because he was willing to listen first, he got multiple, unforeseen opportunities to share his faith with people far more effectively than if he had forced it on them.

SecureGive – Engage New Donors, Grow Your Giving, Fund Your Ministry

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Too many churches are limited by stagnant giving.

SecureGive has worked with thousands of churches for 15 years to grow giving through cutting edge technology, expert implementation strategy, and stewardship training and resources.

SecureGive features a digital ecosystem that leverages five unique ways to give – online, mobile, text to give, giving kiosks, and check scanning that deposits straight to your bank. This enables you to reach every donor in a way that makes it easy for them to give. And, with enterprise grade security and infrastructure, you can rest easy knowing your donor’s information is safe and they can give anytime, anywhere.

We pair innovative technology with world class implementation and coaching to resource you to create a sound digital strategy and a culture of generosity in your church.

The result? Giving that grows, guaranteed.

 

All the Hell You Shall Ever Have

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For the better part of my Christian life, I’ve had a visceral reaction—driven by internal disapproval—whenever I’ve heard someone describe the hardships he or she experienced in life in the following ways: “It was like hell on earth,” or “I feel like I’ve been through hell.” I am sure that part of this reaction is due, in large part, to the fact I was raised in a home in which the awful reality of eternal destruction was not joked about or diminished (as it ought not be!). Therefore, in my mind, to correlate the miseries of this life with eternal punishment always struck me as a trivializing of the worst kind. Then, I read the following in Thomas Brooks’ The Mute Christian Under the Smarting Rod:

“Consider, that the trials and troubles, the calamities and miseries, the crosses and losses that you meet with in this world, are all the hell that you shall ever have: here you have your hell, hereafter you shall have your heaven; this is the worst of your condition, the best is to come. Lazarus had his hell first, his heaven last; but Dives (the rich man) had his heaven first, and his hell at last (Luke 16:19-31): you have all your pangs, and pains, and throes here that you shall ever have; your ease, and rest, and pleasure is to come: here you have all your bitter, your sweet is to come: here you have your sorrows, your joys are to come: here you have all your winter-nights, your summer-days are to come; here you have your passion-week, your ascension day is to come: here you have your evil things, your good things are to come: death will put a period to all your sins, and to all thy sufferings, and it will be an inlet to those joys, delights, and contents that shall never have an end; and therefore hold thy peace, and be silent before the Lord.”1

There is a sense in which it is right and good for us to speak of the miseries of life as a “the only hell” a true Christian will ever have. Consider what the Westminster Shorter Catechism has to say about the miseries Adam brought into the world on account of his disobedience,

“Q. 19. What is the misery of that estate whereinto man fell?

A. All mankind by their fall lost communion with God, are under his wrath and curse, and so made liable to all the miseries of this life, to death itself, and to the pains of hell forever.”

On one hand, everything we experience in this life, short of hell, is a mercy from God. Since the ultimate misery that we all deserve is “the pains of hell forever,” we must conclude that we are the just recipients of every misery we experience, short of hell, in this life. This is not to say that ever trial, pain, hardship or affliction that we experience in this life is due to some particular personal sin. The Scriptures are clear that personal suffering is not necessarily correlated to any personal sin (Job 1; John 9:1-4). Some of the misery that we experience in this life is due to our personal sin (2 Samuel 12:10, 14; Psalm 119:71; James 5:14). However, all of the misery that we experience in this life is due to Adam’s sin. Adam brought all men into a state of sin and misery. All mankind receives, by imputation, the guilt and the corruption of Adam’s sin, as well as the experience of misery in this fallen world. All of us deserve, by nature, death and judgment because of Adam’s sin. The good news for believers is that what Jesus did, as the last Adam, alters even the impact of the misery of Adam’s sin for the true believer.

On the other hand, the Scriptures make clear that the Lord does not deal with believers “according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities” (Psalm 103:10). The Psalmist could say this because he prospectively anticipated that the Christ would come and that the Lord would deal with Him according to our sins and punish Him for our iniquities (Isaiah 53). Jesus takes away all of the sin of His people. He clothes us with His righteousness. He breaks the power of sin in the believer’s life. He raises us up to newness of life in Him (Rom. 6:1-14). He endures hell on the cross for His people so that we, who are united to Him by faith, have already “passed from death into life and shall not enter into judgment” (John 5:25). There is no hell for believers–no judgment awaiting us on account of our sins since they have been atoned for by the death of Jesus. God’ wrath has been fully propitiated when it fell on the Son at Calvary.

There is even a sense in which many of the sufferings of this life are suspended on account of the atoning sacrifice of Jesus. The Psalmist declared, “Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me…Who forgives all your iniquities, who heals all your diseases (Psalm 103:1, 3). This doesn’t mean that Jesus purchased complete physical healing for all his people in this life on the cross. The Apostle Paul suffered from irremediable physical pain (Gal. 4:15). Paul then told Timothy drink a little wine for his infirmities (1 Tim. 5:23). What it does mean is that He often heals us of our diseases in this life and will most certainly heal us of all our diseases in the resurrection on the last day.

All the miseries that believers are called by God to endure in this life are the only hell that they will ever endure because of the saving work of Jesus in his death and resurrection. This is one of the most comforting and soul strengthening thoughts upon which a believer may set his heart or mind in this life. The Lord may severely afflict, Satan may relentlessly attack, believers may incessantly hurt, the world may violently persecute, but it will all ultimately come to an end when the believer dies or when Christ comes again in glory. Then there will only be peace, rest, consolation, ecstasy and wholeness forever in the presence of the Lamb who was slain for his suffering people. Because of the death and resurrection of Jesus, whatever fiery trials you are called by God to endure in this life you can be assured that they are “all the hell you shall ever have.”

This article originally appeared here.

Church Methods Don’t Matter—Until We Do Them Wrong

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The church won’t change the world by adopting new methods. We won’t even save the church that way.

What will change the world is a praying church. A loving church. A worshiping church. An outward-reaching church. A Jesus-centric church.

The Great Commandment and the Great Commission are all that matter. They haven’t changed in 2,000 years because they don’t need to.

But.

I’m going to use new methods anyway.

To understand why, here’s an example of necessary change from the history of typing. Yes, typing.

Double-Spacing (A Real-Life Parable)

If you’re my age (born in 1959) or older, you were probably taught to double-space between sentences when typing. Why? Because our teachers had been raised in an era when most typewriters used monospace font, with every letter taking up the same amount of width on the page.

Those old typewriters left huge gaps of white space on either side of thin letters (like i), while wide letters (like m) were squeezed together. Double-spacing was needed after each period to made sentence breaks clear, aiding in readability.

That all changed in the 1950s and ’60s, when typewriters with proportional spacing became popular. Thin letters took up less page space, while wide letters used more, with uniform gaps between them. Those new typewriters also provided just the right width between sentences with just one touch of the space bar. Suddenly, double-spacing was not only unnecessary, but the big out-of-proportion gap they created made documents harder to read, not easier.

But old habits die hard.

Since most people were never taught why double-spacing was needed on the old typewriters, they didn’t understand the need to switch to single-spacing. Double-spacing was what they’d been taught and that’s what they would teach their students. So an entire generation learned to do it wrong.

Computers use proportional spacing. Double-spacing not only isn’t needed, it actually causes too much space between sentences, getting in the way of smooth reading and comprehension. The method we were taught to make our writing more readable then actually makes it less readable now.

Today, when I see the occasional email or a blog post with double-spacing, I know two things. 1) It will be a little harder to read, and 2) the author is my age or older.

5 Bad Habits to Break for a Better New Year

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Even good leaders can have bad habits.

There are some scary truths about bad habits that hinder our ability to break them.

  • Scary truth #1: Sometimes we really don’t see the habit. (We need a friend to tell us.)
  • Scary truth #2: Sometimes we justify the habit because of heavy pressure or high productivity.
  • Scary truth #3: Sometimes we kind of like the habit, and we don’t want to stop.
  • Scary truth #4: Sometimes we’ve lived the habit so long, it becomes a lifestyle we adapt to.
  • Scary truth #5: Sometimes those around us let us off the hook when they should call us on it.
  • Scary truth #6: Sometimes we minimize and dismiss it because it’s not a “sin.”

One bad habit of mine is that I often run about five minutes late to a meeting, sometimes even 10 or more. It really is a bad habit. Being late doesn’t convey how much I value and care about the person who is waiting. It puts me in a rushed state of mind, and it communicates that maybe it’s OK for others to be late.

My scary truth is #2. I attempt to justify it because of my high productivity. “Hey, I just took an urgent phone call from a staff member.” Or, “I finished that leadership talk that is due in two days.” Or, “We were at a critical decision point in the previous meeting and couldn’t just cut it off.”

It’s dangerous when a leader bends reality into a justification, rather than making a tough decision or exercising more discipline.  

5 Bad Work Habits to Avoid – Any of them yours?

1) Stop letting guilt misdirect your time and energy.

Being sensitive to conviction from the Holy Spirit is good. That merits a heartfelt response and any appropriate action. But far too often it’s not conviction from God, but human guilt that prompts how we lead, make decisions and use our time.

Breaking free from guilt (or its distant cousin people pleasing), is difficult but necessary.

I’ve seen too many church leaders run in circles and exhaust themselves trying to make everyone happy. It doesn’t work. In fact, it’s impossible. It’s better to know what is important, according to your vision and values, and stick to it.

Three things to know and do in overcoming guilt:

  • Know where you are going, and stay focused.
  • Know that you truly care about people, and show it.
  • Know that you are aligned with God’s plan, and listen to His voice.

2) Stop overlooking key or close relationships.

Good leaders don’t take people close to them for granted, but they can forget to slow down enough to enjoy meaningful conversations.

I’m not talking about idle chit-chat; I mean heartfelt conversations. I’ll let you in on a little-practiced secret. You can have deeply meaningful conversations in surprisingly few minutes with people you know well. (Key/Close relationships.)

When you have a relationship of substance, just jump into the deep end of the moment. You don’t need a finely crafted transition, or to be overly blunt, to be direct and speak from the heart. People can travel fast in conversations when they know and trust you. Remember, they are probably just as busy as you are.

Of course, some conversations require a substantial amount of time. But don’t waste those moments when you can have a brief heart-to-heart connect that makes a difference.

“Printing Technology” is NOT an oxymoron!

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We’ve got truly extraordinary technology available to the church today, but amid all that, don’t forget some of the tried and true tech tools that have been around the longest and are the technology workhorses in the church office, often overlooked. What I’m referring to here is printing technology: the copier/printing systems you use to create the pieces you print.

Why printing technology is important

Printing technology (You know: paper printing) is still important in many churches even if a church is hi-tech in presentation software, social media, and web-based ministry because when visitors come into your church the communication they get from your church is the church bulletin.

Printed bulletins are still extremely important to visitors—they think of them as the “program” for what will be going on in a service that might not make sense otherwise. The bulletin not only tells them what’s happening in the service, but links them to the social media and events going on at the church.

Additionally, important are your connection cards, visitor cards, or prayer cards, whatever you want to call them. They are essential for visitors to give you their contact information and to give you a way to follow up with them.

Both items are best printed in-house because of lower costs and because of the ability to make last minute changes. To do in-house printing, you need a printer and now we’ll talk about a less familiar printing technology to churches; a way to do printing other than with a color copier.

Copier/Printing systems

The printing systems available to churches today have a come a long way from copiers that over-heated and frequently jammed. This heat is generated by wires that fuse the toner to your paper and this heat the greatest liability of a copier.

The first copiers generated so much heat they had a small fire extinguisher attached. Your church copier no doubt no longer has a small fire extinguisher attached to it, but the challenges of printing by heat-fusing toner to paper remain high per copy cost, high energy cost, environmental pollution. But there is an alternative that prints without heat.

The technology has been around a long time—many of you may remember the old Risograph, Ricoh or Duplo digital duplicators. These were inexpensive workhorses in the church office, but their print quality was poor, and they could only print one color at a time.

New printing technology that developed from digital duplicators is particularly interesting because it is an ink-based system that prints without heat and prints in 4-colors.

Why the no heat technology is a big deal

Of particular interest, the RISO corporation has developed advanced large machines (called their ComColor line) that use ink without heat instead of toner with heat to produce the printed product. Here is an example of the cost savings, though on a large scale, the difference is significant:

#1 Copiers use more energy per unit than any other piece of office equipment.

#2 An example of the energy consumption of copiers vs. a RISO printer in a business that had 20 machines:
The heat-based printer energy costs were $9,807
The RISO heat-less machines energy costs were $309

In addition to saving a church money, ink-based printing systems have such low energy needs that they have become popular in a variety of unique locations around the world. They are used in remote ministry operations such as using solar panels or bicycle generators to run duplicators in South African villages.

The U.S. Military uses both RISO technologies (Digital Duplicators and ComColor Printers) in war zones because they can run in desert tents and on C-130 aircraft with low energy generators.

Cost to the Environment

Though this is not a direct cost to the church, all churches care about the costs of what they use to the environment.

RISO digital printing systems use soy-based and rice-bran based inks. In contrast with toner, that is a petrochemical based compound that you are advised not to come in contact with your skin or to inhale. To quote from another White Paper: “Soy inks contain lower levels of VOCs (volatile organic compounds); use of soy inks results in lower amounts of air pollution through reduction of toxic emissions. Unlike electro photographic printers, RISO printers are free from ozone emissions, toner particle emissions, silica dust, and other air pollutants. Also, RISO printers do not emit greenhouse gases.”

Because these systems don’t generate heat while they are running, they reduce the need for additional air conditioning. Also, because the machines don’t give off toxic fumes like copiers do, they can share an office with church staff instead of needing to be placed in a separate room.

To find out more about this way of printing you can look up a local supplier of the ComColor ink-jet systems at the link here.

Sometimes the most important technology is what we use the most

This is one example of some of the new technology available for churches for a piece of equipment you use daily, but there are many other tools available in the print industry to help you and your church. Take some time to explore what’s new from your local office equipment professional. Not only can they make life easier for you, but efficient, cutting edge tools can make your church ministry more effective.

 

At Least 2 Dead in Texas Church Shooting

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At least two people have died in a shooting that occurred this morning at a church near Fort Worth, Texas. One person died at the church while another died on the way to the hospital. A third person is at the hospital and is currently undergoing surgery. 

“It was the most scariest thing. You feel like your life is flashing before you. I was so worried about my little one,” Isabel Arreola said.

The shooting occurred at West Freeway Church of Christ in the city of White Settlement at 10:00 am local time. According to a witness, the shooter entered the sanctuary of the church and walked up to a server while the person was serving communion. The suspect shot the server with a shotgun. A former FBI agent and member of the church’s security team then shot the suspect. It is believed that the third person taken to the hospital was the suspected shooter, although the identities of the three people have not been released. 

Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton shared a statement about the incident via his Twitter account. Paxton asks for prayers for the victims and their families.

Texas Governor Gregg Abbott released the following statement:

Our hearts go out to the victims and families of those killed in the evil act of violence that occurred at the West Freeway Church of Christ. Places of worship are meant to be sacred, and I am grateful for the church members who acted quickly to take down the shooter and help prevent further loss of life.

The service at West Freeway Church of Christ was being streamed online, and may have caught the whole incident on camera, however the video has been removed from YouTube. 

This is a developing story.

In the Fullness of Time…

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“When the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law” (Gal. 4:4). The Apostle Paul wrote this glorious statement in order to impress the idea that all of human history centers on the person and saving work of Christ. Time was made for Jesus Christ. “The fulness of time” also refers to the two ages–the present evil age of this fallen world (Gal. 1:4) and the new age of life in the Spirit (Gal. 3:14). This is most notably connected to the Old Covenant era of the law and the New Covenant era of the gospel. To be sure, the gospel runs throughout the Old Testament (Gal. 3:8) just as it shines in its full light in the New Testament; however, Paul explains that the Old Covenant law (specifically, the ceremonial law) was a provisional adaptation for redemptive history that is now tantamount to “weak and worthless elementary principles of the world” (Gal. 4:9-10). Jesus came into the world to usher in the eschatological world to come. This is certainly the theological rationale Paul had in mind when he spoke of Jesus being born “in the fullness of time.” However, there is another explanation regarding the timing and civil circumstances surrounding the birth of Christ to which we ought to give consideration. Luke gave the historical details about the political climate of Israel at the time of Christ’s birth, when he wrote,

In those days a decree went out from Caesar Augustus that all the world should be registered. This was the first registration when Quirinius was governor of Syria. And all went to be registered, each to his own town. And Joseph also went up from Galilee, from the town of Nazareth, to Judea, to the city of David, which is called Bethlehem, because he was of the house and lineage of David, to be registered with Mary, his betrothed, who was with child. And while they were there, the time came for her to give birth. And she gave birth to her firstborn son and wrapped him in swaddling cloths and laid him in a manger, because there was no place for them in the inn (Luke 2:1-7).

Three things surface when we meditate on this statement. First, Israel was under Roman rule on account of their former rebellion against God. When Christ was born, He submitted Himself to the consequences of Israel’s sin, in the same way that He–though He knew now sin–identified with Israel in undergoing a baptism of repentance for Israel’s sin. Craig Glickman observes,

When he was born a citizen of Israel, He took all of the responsibilities of that citizenship. He observed its laws and ceremonies. He even submitted to the consequences of Israel’s sin. It’s easy to overlook this. But, for example, as a citizen of Israel, Jesus was under the rule of Rome. And yet the forfeiting of self-rule by the nation was a direct result of her disobedience to God in the past. So, in a very real way, Jesus had accepted the consequences of Israel’s sin in yielding to Romans rule…he had taken the consequences of their sin upon Himself in submitting to Roman rule.1

Second, Jesus was born during a season of national taxation under the rule of the Roman emperor. Phil Ryken explains,

All it took was a word from the emperor, and people thousands of miles away were set in motion. Every man in every province had to be registered—almost certainly for the purpose of levying taxes. According to Tacitus, Octavian kept the grand totals by hand, and according to Justin, writing in the second century, the census of Quirinius could still be viewed in Rome. No taxation without registration—this was a basic principle of Roman government.

In chapter 2 Luke shows the far reach of Caesar’s power, and also its undoing. As Kent Hughes describes it, Octavian’s “relentless arm stretched out to squeeze its tribute even in a tiny village at the far end of the Mediterranean. Thus it came about that a village carpenter and his expectant teenage bride were forced to travel to his hometown to be registered for taxation.2

Surely we are meant to take note of the fact that God sent His Son into the world at a time when the most powerful political leader was levying a hefty taxation. The principle is clear, men take and take while God gives and gives. God gave His Son to the world, at a time when the greatest ruler in the world was taking as much as he possibly could from the people.

This, of course, reveals a third reason why Jesus was born at the zenith of Roman rule. He brought an everlasting kingdom that would be established at the time when the greatest world power ruled–and ruled over the people of God in the land of promise. Daniel had explained the meaning of Nebuchadnezzar’s dream of the statue and the stone cut out without hands. James Hamilton explains,

“The various visions are united in the revelation of a single basic message: a schematic sequence of four kingdoms will be followed by the kingdom of God.

Each of these four kingdoms will control the land of promise, three of the four are named, and though the fourth kingdom is not overtly identified as Rome, Rome is the kingdom in control in the land of promise between the third kingdom, identified as Greece, and the inauguration of God’s kingdom through Jesus of Nazareth…the four kingdoms are Babylon, Medo-Persia, Greece and Rome…There are features of the visions that extend what is prophesied about these four kingdoms beyond their application to the named kingdoms, creating a typological sort of pattern of what can be expected from human governments. The features indicating a typological pattern are particularly evident in the statements made about the third and fourth kingdoms.”3

This is in view in Luke’s statement that Joseph took Mary to “the city of David” because “he was of the house and lineage of David.” Joseph had a legal right to the throne of David. The kingdom of God is denominated, throughout Scripture, by the title, “throne of David.” Jesus had a legal right to the throne of David, since He was the legally adopted son of Joseph. Jesus is both David’s son and David’s Lord–the King of the Kingdom of God.

All of this should cause us to wonder at the way in which the infinitely wise God perfectly displayed His wisdom in His Son. Ultimately, the wisdom of God is displayed in the crucifixion of the Son by the Romans and the Jews. It was a representation of the nations of the world–the Jews and the Gentiles–gathering together against the Lord’s anointed (Ps. 2:1-3). This is further signified by the title placed over Him when He hung on it: “This is Jesus of Nazareth, the King of the Jews.” That title was written in Hebrew, Greek, and Latin, since He had come to be the King of the all spiritual Jews throughout the world–King of a worldwide Kingdom that would know no end. It was by Son’s work of redemption that He merited the right to ask His Father for the nations to be His inheritance (Ps. 2:7-9).

1. S. Craig Glickman Knowing Christ (Chicago, IL: Moody Press, 1980) pp. 17-18.

2. Philip Graham Ryken, Luke, ed. Richard D. Phillips, Philip Graham Ryken, and Daniel M. Doriani, vol. 1, Reformed Expository Commentary (Phillipsburg, NJ: P&R Publishing, 2009), 66.

3. James M. Hamilton Jr., With the Clouds of Heaven: The Book of Daniel in Biblical Theology, ed. D. A. Carson, vol. 32, New Studies in Biblical Theology (Downers Grove, IL; England: Apollos; InterVarsity Press, 2015), 86–87.

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Calvin Wouldn’t Wear a Necktie

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This last week in Sunday school we entertained an interesting question: what did a corporate worship service look like in the New Testament? As we discussed this question there were notable differences from what many are probably accustomed to today. For instance, the biblical picture we get is that it was likely very simple. As they met in homes or upper rooms they devoted themselves to the Apostles’ teaching, the breaking of bread, and the prayers. They sang the Psalms and there isn’t any indication that they used a praise band much less any musical instruments. Additionally, their gatherings may have lasted quite a bit longer than ours, and they sat where they could find a seat—even in a window! But, did they have a church dress code?

Many of us are familiar with the well-known phrase: “Sunday best,” referring to the kinds of clothes that would make appropriate church clothes. We’ve also heard the tired and worn comparisons: “If you were going to meet the President wouldn’t you wear the nicest clothes in your closet?” I even had someone tell me that if I hope, as a pastor, to influence people I need to learn how to wear a necktie. I suppose one man’s influence is another man’s alienation (ahem…welcome to rural America).

Whether we like it or not a church’s “dress code” is a significant issue. There are those who have felt burdened by imposed expectations. It’s caused tensions and even divisions in congregations. It has reinforced people’s stereotypes of the church as stodgy and stuffy. It’s given as an excuse for people who feel uncomfortable or want to avoid a worship service. It’s also often explicitly mentioned on church websites helping direct visitors to what is or isn’t appropriate. To put it simply, quite unfortunately it’s an issue that has caused a lot of unnecessary offense.

To be clear there is, to express it this way, a certain theology to clothing. This first articles of clothing (garments of skin given by God himself) were intended to cover the shameful effects of sin (Genesis 3:10, 21). Biblically, one’s outward dress sometimes expressed a condition of the heart. For instance, Jacob wore sackcloth as he mourned for Joseph (Genesis 37:34),  and whatever it was and however it’s understood the head covering in the Corinthian church was a “symbol of authority” (1 Corinthians 11:10). Further, clothes sometimes designated an individual in their place or purpose. You can think of the High Priest who, according to the ceremonial law of the Old Testament, wore the ephod and turban on his head as “holy garments” (Exodus 28:4).  The Pharisees — drunk on self-glorification—were rebuked for wearing long robes as a display of their piety (Mark 12:38). John the Baptist was clothed in camel’s hair as a sign, at least in part, of his prophetic office (Matthew 3:4, see also 2 Kings 1:8 and Zechariah 13:4). Even Jesus’ coat was without seam which pointed to his priestly role (John 19:23). Additionally, clothing is a prominent mark of beauty and even glory. The Groom delights in the beauty of his Bride’s sandaled feet (Song of Solomon 7:1), and wisdom personified dresses herself in fine linen and purple (Proverbs 31:22). The glory of Jesus and what will one day be the glory of the saints in light is set forth in the brightness of their clothes (see Revelation 1:13 and 19:8).

The Bible also indicates that people have moral responsibility in the things we wear. Part of the Old Testament law required that the Israelites not wear a garment “made of two kinds of material” (Leviticus 19:19)—a duty no longer required. Because of the natural distinction between the sexes it’s an abomination to the Lord for men to wear women’s clothes and women to wear men’s (see Deuteronomy 22:5). The wayward woman of Proverbs is described, and not in an exemplary manner, as one who is “dressed as a prostitute” (Proverbs 7:10). Clothing is associated with the unnecessary anxiety of life (see Matthew 6:25 and Luke 12:23), and is to be a part of the Christian’s contentment (see 1 Timothy 6:7).

Paul instructed that “women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, and not with braided hair and gold pearls or costly attire” (1 Timothy 2:9-10). Peter also wrote: “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit” (1 Peter 3:3-4).  I think John Calvin offers some pastoral insight here. He calls dress an “indifferent matter.” As such, he notes that it’s “difficult to assign a fixed limit, how far we ought to go.” And concludes: “This at least will be settled beyond all controversy, that every thing in dress which is not in accordance with modesty and sobriety must be disapproved.” Elsewhere he observes: “It would be an immoderate strictness to wholly forbid neatness and elegance in clothing […] Peter did not intend to condemn every sort of ornament, but the evil of vanity.” He goes on to write: “Two things are to be regarded in clothing, usefulness and decency; and what decency requires is moderation and modesty.” And who will deny that a necktie is one of the most useless articles of clothing? See, I told you Calvin wouldn’t wear a necktie!

The point of this is to simply conclude: when you collect the biblical evidence there isn’t, in my estimation, a hint of what we call the “Sunday best” or church dress code. Of course, someone could abandon biblical rationalizations for enforcing such a dress code and appeal to culture. It’s not always wrong for the church to appropriate customs and courtesies from society. Culturally speaking, in some corners of society there is a correlation between dress and circumstance. You see this, for example, in the military and their service dress—we called them “blues” in the Air Force. There’s some professions that require formal apparel; and academies and institutions, political arenas, and even ceremonies or services do the same. A cultural argument could be made, and while I’m personally unconvinced it would require wisdom and necessitates considerable care and caution so as not to hinder in any unnecessary way the ministry of the gospel.

There’s a theology and even a morality to the clothes we wear. But there isn’t a biblical indication that Sundays demand we dust off our suits, button the collar, put on a tie, and shine the shoes. The dress code of the church is ordered by the same things that order all of our clothing—usefulness and decency. So, this Sunday go to church in flip flops or cowboy boots, with a suit or a t-shirt, skirt or pants, and by the gospel of grace come to God as he desires with clean hands and a pure heart (Psalm 24:4). Now excuse me, I need to go pick out my necktie for Sunday.

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Facing Eviction, Relentless Church Helps People in Need

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The Sunday before Christmas, Relentless Church in Greenville, South Carolina, gave more than $30,000 to congregants, employees, and regular visitors who’d been facing tough times. This generosity comes as the church faces its own uncertainties, with a lease dispute resulting in its upcoming relocation.

During worship on December 22, pastors John Gray and Aventer Gray told various attendees the church was taking care of some of their expenses. A frequent visitor learned that her electricity bill was being paid. A member facing medical bills from a motorcycle accident received similar good news. A local family threatened with eviction received $10,000, the day’s largest gift.

Relentless Church’s Generosity Brightens Christmas

The gifts’ timing brought holiday joy to grateful recipients. After hearing that Relentless would cover his rent for a year and take him to a dealership to select a car, one man dropped to his knees. “He’s always here, and he’s always faithful,” said Aventer Gray of the man, admitting she only recently learned he was struggling.

Another man, Christopher Wright, says Relentless Church and the Grays have helped him before, through ongoing health issues as well as a house fire. When Wright received $2,200 on Sunday to pay for medical bills, he said, “Pastor John and Pastor Aventer are givers, not takers.” Out of gratitude for earlier gifts, Wright started serving on the church’s security team. Calling the entire experience “totally incredible” and “miraculous,” Wright says he’s been able to see how “God works in me,” despite various challenges. Becoming part of the ministry at Relentless, he says, feels even better than receiving financial blessings.

Relentless Soon Will Be on the Move

At the church’s New Year’s Eve worship service, John Gray is expected to announce the new Greenville location for Relentless Church—as well as a new congregation in Atlanta. Relentless has been leasing the facilities of the former Redemption Church, vacated when pastors Ron and Hope Carpenter moved to California. Terms of the agreement have been in dispute, however, leading Redemption to give Relentless a 30-day eviction notice at the end of November.

The Carpenters have alleged that John Gray is “shady” and “dishonest,” while Gray insists he pastors “with honor and integrity.” Previously, Gray served at Joel Osteen’s Lakewood Church in Houston. “Every single pastor I’ve ever served would still have me back on their staff,” Gray says, “and that should be enough for you to know that I am a man that could be trusted with the navigation of your soul.”

Controversy Isn’t New for John Gray

Earlier this year, Gray made headlines for admitting to an “emotional affair”—but denying rumors of fathering a child outside his marriage. Last December, he was criticized for buying his wife a $200,000 Lamborghini as an anniversary gift. Relentless Church reportedly spent $1.8 million on a home for the Grays.

Gray has been called out for his lavish lifestyle. In April, Pastor Jomo Johnson urged Gray to embrace minimalism and take #TheJesusChallenge. Gray also has been featured on the PreachersNSneakers Instagram page, which showcases church leaders who wear expensive clothing.

Grenade Attack Near Cathedral Leaves Several Wounded in the Philippines

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A grenade attack near a Catholic cathedral and radio station in the southern Philippines on Sunday (Dec. 22) could have been aimed at a military advance team for a presidential visit as much as the Christian sites, according to local reports.

The grenade explosion injured at least eight soldiers and six civilians in Cotabato on the island of Mindanao, according to reports. Police stated the grenade was thrown near the Immaculate Conception Cathedral, seat of the archdiocese of Cotabato, and the radio station owned by the Oblates of Mary Immaculate.

Mass-goers huddled in the cathedral upon hearing the explosion and the ensuing brief gunfight between soldiers and the assailants. They later returned to worship, but a service scheduled for 6:30 p.m. was cancelled, parish priest Zaldy Robles told Minda News.

“It is sad that this kind of violence is happening while we are celebrating the holy Christmas season,” Robles told the news outlet. “Let us not let the reign of darkness rule over us.”

He added that it was fortunate the grenade was not thrown into the worship service. In 2009, a bomb attack at the same cathedral in Cotabato killed five civilians and wounded dozens of others.

After Sunday’s grenade attack, a second blast a short distance away injured a passer-by, according to Vatican News.

Explosions in two cities also in the same diocese’s territory, Libungan in North Cotabato and Upi in Maguindanao, hit shortly after the attack in Cotabato, and the military suspected the Islamic State-aligned Bangsamoro Islamic Freedom Fighters (BIFF) in all the blasts, according to reports. Earlier security forces had reportedly recovered and de-activated two Improvised Explosive Devices on Sinsuat Avenue in Cotabato, near the cathedral.

It was unclear if the wounded soldiers were guarding the cathedral or were part of an advance team for the visit of the president scheduled for the following day. Minda News reported they were part of the security apparatus assigned to the cathedral during the Christmas season, while another news outlet quoted a Western Mindanao Command spokesman as saying the grenade was aimed at a military vehicle of the Division Reconnaissance Company deployed in advance of President Rodrigo Duterte’s visit on Monday (Dec. 23).

Mindanao is one of five provinces that came under the Muslim rule of the Bangsamoro Autonomous Region in Muslim Mindanao (BARMM), confirmed in a Jan. 21 referendum. The BARMM was formed from a peace deal with the rebel Moro Islamic Liberation Front, but the BIFF and Islamic extremist Abu Sayyaf rebels were excluded from the agreement.

While the military suspected the BIFF in the attacks, some speculated the assailants could have been other opponents of the BARMM. Whether one or the other, Duterte called the attackers terrorists.

While the peace agreement calls for the Moro Islamic Liberation Front (MILF) to take over administration of the BARMM, the Philippine government exercises full control over the police and military.

Islamic State-affiliated terrorists were blamed for twin suicide bombings at Our Lady of Mt. Carmel Cathedral in Jolo, Sulu Province on Jan. 27, which killed at least 22 people and wounded more than 100. Jolo is a small island off the coast of Mindanao.

Members of Abu Sayyaf, which claims allegiance to Islamic State, reportedly aided the Jan. 27 attack and turned themselves into authorities. Interior Secretary Eduardo Año stated on Feb. 1 that Islamic State-affiliated terrorists were responsible for the twin suicide bombings.

Islamic State representatives took responsibility for the bombings in online postings shortly after the explosions, one inside the cathedral on Jolo, and another about 12 to 15 seconds later outside the doorway. Año said two Indonesian suicide bombers, one who went by the nom de guerre Abu Hud and his wife (unnamed), were guided by local rebels from Abu Sayyaf.

Abu Sayyaf had rejected the peace deal that created the BARMM as it preferred the region belong to a broader southeast Asian caliphate.

Sunday’s violence follows a bomb attack on a shopping mall in Cotabato earlier this month that killed two people and wounded 35 others, also attributed to Islamic State-affiliated terrorists.

According to the government’s peace deal with the rebels, 2019 is a period of transitioning from the Autonomous Region of Muslim Mindanao (ARMM) to the new BARMM (adding “Bangsamoro,” or “Nation of Moros,” moros being a colloquial term for Muslims) government.

Under the agreement, MILF rebels were to surrender their estimated 50,000 weapons to the government.


This article originally appeared on MorningStarNews.org If you would like to help persecuted Christians, visit here for a list of organizations that can orient you on how to get involved.  

Why Giving Too Much Kills Relationships

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If you are in a relationship in which you are constantly taking and never giving anything in return…

I’m an expert at killing—plants, that is. No matter what I do, I cannot seem to keep my plants alive. They call it having a black thumb and I have officially self-diagnosed myself as having one. I’m not sure how I ended up with a black thumb, because my mother is a plant expert. Her thumb is greener than all thumbs. She has plants in her house that are probably older than I am.

What ends up happening every time is that I forget to water them. Life is full of other things I need to do, and somehow, those little plants get neglected and ignored. And then they die. Like I said, I’m an expert at killing plants.

Eventually, my husband John came up with a brilliant plan. He did some research and found out that there’s a type of plant that doesn’t actually need much water. It is made to be neglected. It’s called a succulent. John bought me three beautiful succulents to put on our kitchen table.

I loved those succulents. And truth be told, I kept them alive for far longer than I expected. But a few weeks into it, my black thumb kicked into full gear. I started forgetting whether or not I had watered them for the week. Did I water them on Monday? Or was that last Monday? Hmmm. I’m not sure. I can’t remember. Oh well, I’ll just water them to be on the safe side. And so I would water them, even though I could not remember if it was the first or the second time that week. Eventually, I found out that there must have been a few too many “second times,” because my poor succulents’ roots got so moist they rotted. And then, my succulents died. All three of them. If you walk into my kitchen today, you’ll find another large beautiful bowl of succulents. Except when you get close enough, you’ll realize that they’re plastic succulents. Because apparently, that’s about all I can handle. Plants require three things to live: sunlight, oxygen, and water. Too little, and they can’t grow. But too much, and they will die.

THE GIVE-AND-TAKE OF GROWTH

 Like plants, relationships require a pattern of give-and-take in order for them to grow. If you are in a relationship in which you are constantly taking and never giving anything in return, your relationship will eventually stop growing. On the converse, if you are in a relationship in which you are doing all the giving and getting nothing in return, your relationship will soon die. This type of pattern cannot be maintained in nature or in relationships. Healthy relationships have to be made up of just the right amount of giving and taking. Spring is an important season in the four seasons of a relationship, because it is the time to assess the pattern of give-and-take in your closest relationships.

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