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Wilson Thanks Training for Ability to Stop Church Shooter

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At West Freeway Church of Christ in White Settlement, Texas, parishioners are mourning the deaths of two beloved members at the hands of a Texas church shooter and praising the quick actions of the armed security team. During communion on Sunday, a disguised gunman shot and killed Anton “Tony” Wallace, 64, and Richard White, 67, before being shot and killed by Jack Wilson, the church’s head of security.

The incident, captured on livestream footage, was over within seconds thanks to Wilson, who’s being called a hero. But the 71-year-old firearms instructor says he merely did what he was trained to do—take out someone with “evil intent”—and is thankful he had the right skills.

Texas Church Shooter Had Sought Help from the Church

The gunman, identified as 43-year-old drifter Keith Kinnunen, had a criminal record and histories of mental illness and drug abuse. An ex-wife who’d once filed for a protective order called Kinnunen a religious fanatic who was “battling a demon.” Authorities are still investigating the motive—and whether the gunman’s history should have barred him from possessing a weapon.

Britt Farmer, pastor of the Fort Worth-area church, says Kinnunen had requested and received assistance previously. “We’ve helped him on several occasions with food,” says Farmer, but “he gets mad when we won’t give him cash.”

Drifters often stop by the church, which is located near a major highway. West Freeway “formed the security team just in case something like this [shooting] was to happen,” Wilson says. “People have to realize there are no safe havens—even church.”

Kinnunen’s appearance and actions immediately aroused suspicion, Wilson says, and volunteers’ security training paid off. With just one shot, Wilson took down the gunman and prevented even higher casualties.

Afterward, President Trump tweeted gratitude for the armed citizens who took quick action, and Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton praised the church’s preparedness. Other officials, however, emphasized that guns need to be inaccessible to people intent on harm.

Amid the Mourning, Forgiveness Emerges

At a vigil Monday, Pastor Farmer praised the two victims, noting that Wallace was his best friend. “Preachers don’t have many best friends,” he said. “If you’ve never been a preacher, you don’t understand that. But he was my best friend, and he died saving lives.”

The pastor was grateful “the government has allowed us an opportunity to protect ourselves,” but said, “It destroys my heart [that] there is evil in this world.” He added, “I love this community. I love this church. I love this state. I love our country, and I love our freedoms. And I’m not going to let evil take that away.”

When her father was shot, Tiffany Wallace was with her young daughter. Initially, she assumed the gunman was a visitor, “probably looking for a new church home.” Wallace was able to hold her injured father and express her love before he later died at a hospital. Though it’s difficult, she says she’s already forgiven the Texas church shooter. “It’s the hardest thing to say because it’s like, somebody killed your dad, but I forgive him. I’ll never forgive what he did, but I forgive him.”

Worshiping Jesus Is How 65,000 Young People Welcomed the New Year

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Today was the last day of the sold out Passion Conference in Atlanta, Georgia, which began on December 31, 2019. On Tuesday night, over 65,000 people brought in the New Year by worshiping Jesus. 

“THE BEST NEW YEARS EVE EVER!!!!” wrote one attendee on Instagram. “Getting to worship the Lord tonight with thousands of other college students literally felt like a glimpse of heaven. But it’s so crazy to think heaven is going to be a million times better!!” 

The Passion Conference Rings in the ‘roaring 20’s’

The Passion conference took place over three days at the Mercedes-Benz stadium in Atlanta and was livestreamed on the conference website. The second session on New Year’s Eve featured a flame that had been lit in Jerusalem and transported to Atlanta, symbolizing that Jesus is the light of the world. 

“It’s time again for the roaring 20’s,” the conference posted on Facebook, “but this time, it’s time for the lion of the tribe of Judah to roar. And it’s time for the church to rise up in the power of the spirit of Almighty God so the world can hear the roar of King Jesus.” 

Over 65,000 people attended the conference, with the primary demographic being young adults age 18 to 25. According to Fox News, the number of attendees at last year’s Passion conference was close to 40,000, meaning this year’s attendance has increased by over a third. CBN reports that college students and leaders came from over 1,680 universities, 81 countries, and all 50 states. 

The first Passion conference was held in 1997, with its purpose being to “glorify God by uniting students in worship, prayer and justice for spiritual awakening in this generation.” The key verse of the conference is Isaiah 26:8, which says, “Yes, LORD, walking in the way of your laws, we wait for you; your name and renown are the desire of our hearts.”

This year, participants got to hear from a range of speakers, including Tim Tebow, John Piper, Christine Caine, Ravi Zacharias, Sadie Robertson, and conference co-founder Louie Giglio.

The conference also featured worship and performances from Hillsong United, Lecrae, Andy Mineo, Kari Jobe, Crowder, and Trip Lee.

In addition to providing worship and teaching, the Passion conference also raises money to go toward various needs throughout the world. Last year, attendees gave over $400,000 to translate the Bible for deaf people. This year, participants gave money toward Share the Light so that the Bible can be translated in over 6,000 languages and also gave to the END IT Movement, which aims to end modern-day slavery and which has raised more than $8.3 million to date.

“I’ve been so blessed to have gotten to be surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses this week,” said one attendee. “It’s so amazing to see the Holy Spirit moving in my generation, with people I’ve known for less than a week…It’s so incredibly cool to see what God does when we just trust him.”

 

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Today I invite my God to be the God of circumstance. I will refuse the temptation to be cynical. I will refuse to see others as anything less than fellow human beings created by the Father. I refuse to see any problem as anything less than an opportunity to see God. – – & I refuse to ever believe that there could ever be any greater Joy than the Joy that is Jesus. – – – “Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe” – ‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12:28‬ ‭ – – – I’ve been so blessed to have gotten to be surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses this week. It’s so amazing to see the Holy Spirit moving in my generation, with people I’ve known for less than a week. To see how they are so obedient to a God who has known every piece of intrinsic value that makes them 100% unique since before there was anything. It’s so incredibly cool to see what God does when we just trust him. . . . If you’ve read this far I just hope you know how incomprehensibly GOOD the Father’s love for you is:) #passionconference2020

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4 Ways to Make Reading Your Bible a Daily Habit in 2020

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Reading your Bible can be a life-giving habit this year. Charles Spurgeon said, “Nobody ever outgrows Scripture; the book widens and deepens with our years.” The more we read the Bible, the more likely we are to wish we read more of it. That’s what the State of the Bible 2019 found when they surveyed people on how consistently they interacted with the Bible and how much it shaped their choices and relationships. Based on people’s responses, people were placed into five different categories according to their engagement with the Bible: disengaged, neutral, friendly, engaged, and centered.

Fifty-six percent of all adults “wish that they used the Bible more”—but that rose to 80% among Bible-friendly adults, 89% for Bible-engaged, and 94% for Bible-centered. So research tells us that the more someone engages with God’s Word the more they long to engage God’s Word. Reading the Scripture develops our tastebuds to read it more.

So can you change your habits of reading your Bible to create more and better times in God’s Word?

1. Start small and specific.

When we get excited about reading God’s Word more, we sometimes want to try everything at once—waking up earlier, journaling more, praying longer, and trying a new study method in a single day. That can be exciting, but it’s rarely sustainable. Instead, look for one foundational discipline, and start with that. Work on that one habit for a few weeks before you add another habit.

So maybe you never have enough time for reading your Bible. Until you’re able to set aside time to read God’s Word, a hundred new ways to spend that time won’t be helpful. Instead, your first step could be waking up 30 minutes earlier—or using your lunch break or evenings to get into God’s Word. Once you have built that first habit and are spending time in God’s Word, you can start adding habits for how to spend that time.

2. Set a time and place.

Did you brush your teeth this morning? Your friends hope so—but can you remember the moment when you did? Did you spend time deciding whether to brush your teeth or what sink to use? What reminded you to brush your teeth? As our habits solidify, they become so natural that we do them without thinking. We want spending time with God to be so instinctive that we don’t have to spend time deciding whether or not we’ll do it. And for that to happen, it helps to decide ahead of time what will trigger that habit, which means planning when and where you’ll read the Bible.

Here’s what that could look like: You wake up at 6:00, and as soon as you get up, you know your first step is to make coffee, and then you know it’s time to sit down with your Bible. That simple sequence takes away all the decisions of what to do first or what apps you might want to check. Instead, you are sitting down with an open Bible before you’ve even had to think about it.

3. Know what you’ll skip.

Our time is finite. That means that finding an extra 15 minutes every day means taking 15 minutes from something else. It seems obvious, but planning for this beforehand helps us to decide what to take that time away from. That way, adding in a habit doesn’t double-book our mornings, divide our attention, and rush our routines.

So plan ahead of time: Can you give up 15 minutes of sleep for that Scripture reading? Can you prep breakfasts over the weekend or pack lunch the night before? Cut down on morning email time? Wait to check Reddit or Twitter until the evening?

It takes 15 minutes a day to read the Bible chronologically with the CSB Day-by-Day Chronological Bible! The CSB is the translation I use in my personal reading, my studying, and my teaching. And reading your Bible chronologically helps you grasp the overarching story of the Bible.

4. Make it a retreat.

Yes, it’s a spiritual discipline, but that doesn’t mean it has to be unpleasant. Reading the Scripture is time with your heavenly Father. It is a chance to be replenished by His love and reoriented by His truth. So what can you do to remind yourself that this is a feast of grace, not a daily chore? Brew some coffee or tea, get comfortable, and grab a seat by a window where the sunrise can remind you of God’s creativity. James K. A. Smith wrote, “The orientation of the heart happens from the bottom up, through the formation of our habits of desire. Learning to love God takes practice.”

This article about reading your Bible originally appeared here.

How to Value the Girls in Your Life

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It’s important that you value the girls in your life. As a grandmother, my mother is skillful in communicating to her granddaughters that their worth is not in their looks. She does this in a variety of ways, but there are some simple tactics you can use help the girls in your life be valued for something other than their bodies.

Raising mentally and emotionally confident women is not a feminist agenda: it’s loving your neighbor and preparing them to live in a world that objectifies them. Whether or not you’re a (grand)parent, you can use these ideas at to communicate holistic love to cousins, nieces, etc., of any age.

3 Ways to Value the Girls in Your Life

1. Ask her what she’s doing. Are there sports or music activities that she does? Is she volunteering or involved in other service? How about learning to count, read, or speak a new language? Meeting interesting people, or transitioning to a new school? Planning a trip? Learning to ride a bike or run a business? Ask her if she’s made any neat food or helped with that home improvement project. Her usefulness as a person is not in her looks: it’s in how she develops and utilizes her gifts.

2. Ask her what she’s reading. It might be Goodnight Moon, it might be War and Peace, but whatever it is, it’s informing her thinking. Understanding that and helping to place a right value on it is essential.

3. Ask her what she’s thinking. What does she think of her kindergarten teacher? Her boyfriend’s family? Trump’s impeachment (or Johnson’s reelection)? What’s happening at church? Changes in the family over the year? Thinking informs affection and action. If thinking is solid and healthy, the rest will follow.

In a conversation, if my mother compliments a granddaughter’s clothing, it’s a side comment. Looks (clothes, hair, braces, glasses, weight) are not the main issue. Looks aren’t unimportant, and we need to address style, health, etc., but there is so much more to life and people. Biblical thinking, clear understanding, and deliberate actions are the stuff that matter, and will matter into eternity. Let’s help our girls value those things, and develop their personhood in ways that God values and loves.

This article about how to value girls in your life originally appeared here.

Free eBook: "Advice for Seekers," by Charles Spurgeon

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In Advice for Seekers, Spurgeon covers topics such as:

  • Do not try to save yourself
  • Seekers touching Christ
  • How Luther sought and found
  • Saved through faith

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20 Ways To Make Kids Laugh At Church

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I love hearing kids laugh.  There’s nothing more precious than the laughter of a child…especially at church.  Over the years, I’ve found ways to get kids laughing.  Here are 20 ways to make kids laugh.

20 Ways To Make Kids Laugh

1. Tell a joke. (they love knock-knock jokes)

2. Ask their name and then start saying it back to them wrong. (example – if it’s Jake, say, “Nice to meet you Justin”) The more times they correct you, the more they’ll get tickled.

3. Get something dumped on you like water, slime, pudding, etc.

4. Fake a fall, trip, run into something, etc.

5. Sing a funny song.

6. Talk in a funny voice.

7. Whoopee cushion app on your phone. (make sure it’s the app…not you)

8. Sing way off-key. (that’s easy for me)

9. Wear a crazy costume.

10. Make a funny face.

11. Have a burping contest.

12. Guess their age outrageously high. (example – if they’re 6, ask them if they’re 60, then keep saying it back to them wrong as they correct you – 36? 16?)

13. Show a picture or video of an animal doing something funny.

14. Boogers and snot. (they love to laugh at gross stuff)

15. Say a word or state a fact wrong and let them correct you.  Say it wrong several times before you finally “get” it.  (examples – everyone sit down in your “bears” instead of “chairs”,  Noah built a motorcycle to put all the animals in)

16. Have someone pull a prank on you in front of the kids.

17. Impersonate an animal or well-known person.  The worse you do, the better.

18. Tell them something really funny that happened to you.

19. Put a big mark or smudge on your face ahead of time and when they start pointing at it, act like you don’t know it’s there.

20. Laugh uncontrollably.  It’s contagious.

If kids laughed more at church, maybe they wouldn’t grow up to say it was boring and they were “made” to go.  You don’t have to “make” someone go where they enjoy being.

We tell kids to sit still and be quiet and then wonder why they grow up and are sitting still and being quiet…if they even come at all.

Your turn.  How do you make kids laugh at church?  Share with us in the comment section below.

Here are 25 Christmas jokes you can tell kids.

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Stephen Witmer: Your ‘Forgotten’ Small Church Is Really Important

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Stephen Witmer is a co-founder of Small Town Summits, an organization serving rural churches and pastors. He is the pastor of Pepperell Christian Fellowship in Pepperell, Massachusetts, and also serves as an adjunct professor at Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. Stephen is the author of A Big Gospel in Small Places. He and his wife, Emma, have two sons and one daughter.

Key Questions for Stephen Witmer

-What do you mean by “small places” and why are small places important?

-How are small places significant within the fabric of our culture and society?

-What is practical advice for church leaders doing ministry in small towns?

-How does slowing down relate to serving well as a pastor?

Key Quotes from Stephen Witmer

“In general, when I say ‘a small place,’ I mean a place that’s lacking in influence and generally one that is smaller and more isolated.”

“One of the reasons I want to be careful about not just relying on demographic considerations is that there are small communities that do have big cultural influence. You think of a college town perhaps.”

“If you’re telling someone where you live and you need to tell them where your town is in relation to some other, bigger place, that’s probably a small place.”

“Small places, the forgotten places, the rural, isolated places, are hugely important, for one thing, because the rest of the country is fed by rural places.”

“There are rich cultures in small places.”

“I am a huge fan of city ministry…I do think that probably in the last 20 or 30 years, particularly, just from my vantage point, there has been a privileging of city ministry.”

“My own personal story is, I came out of seminary intent on being a city pastor, and it was only a very clear call from God that moved me away from that and resulted in me being in small town ministry a decade plus and counting now.”

“If you look through church leader publications, I would say there are very few small place pastors who are featured, relatively few small churches that are featured, and so there’s a narrative in our Christian subculture of what success looks like. So I’ve struggled with that.”

Your Child’s First Teacher

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If you have or did have a child in school, you remember the anticipation they (and you) felt as you met your child’s first school teacher.

As a parent, you hoped your child would get a teacher who was kind yet thorough, who was focused but fun as well, and was qualified but also caring.

That being said, I was reminded this week that your child’s school teacher wasn’t or will not be your child’s first teacher.

Your child’s first teacher is you as the parent.  From the moment they are born, you have the great privilege of being their first teacher.

I’ve been driving cross country this week with my wife, son and daughter-in-law.  He is transferring with his company to a western state.  I’ve been watching he and his wife this week as they parent and lead their son. They have already established a great bond with their son who is just a few months old and they are going to be a great “first teacher” to their son as he grows and matures.

Thinking about a mother being a first teacher reminded me of these verses that were written to Timothy.

2 Timothy 1:5  – “I remember your genuine faith, for you share the faith that first filled your grandmother Lois and your mother, Eunice. And I know that same faith continues strong in you.”    

2 Timothy 3:15 – “You have been taught the holy Scriptures from childhood, and they have given you the wisdom to receive the salvation that comes by trusting in Christ Jesus.” 

Timothy’s first teacher was his mother Eunice.  

His grandmother, Lois, was also a big part of his spiritual learning and upbringing.  My son has godly grandparents and growing up it was always good to have him spend time with them as they were an example for him to learn from. 

Most of you reading this are spiritual leaders in a local church or para-church ministry.  You have the great privilege of influencing kids to follow Jesus.  But always remember that first and foremost the children’s first teacher is their parents.

 

The greatest way to influence children spiritually is to influence their parents spiritually.  Invest in the children’s first teacher – their parents.   – Dale Hudson

A great way to influence parents spiritually and equip them is through spiritual milestones.  These are direct opportunities to speak directly into their lives and give them the tools they need to raise their kids to know God’s Word, wisdom and way of salvation.  You can get more information about the milestone strategy at this link.

There are so many important things parents can teach their children.  If I made an entire list, it would go on for pages and pages.  But let’s just focus on a few.

As the first teacher of your child, teach him or her about…

the love of God

God’s plan of salvation

a growing relationship with Jesus

the Bible is God’s Word

the doctrines of the faith (in simple terms)

the 10 commandments

their identity in Christ

how to make wise choices

God has a special plan for their lives

the fruits of the Spirit

As you head into 2021, determine that you are going to invest in the “first teachers.”  By doing this, you will help them fulfill this verse…

“Keep a close watch on how you live and on your teaching. Stay true to what is right for the sake of your own salvation and the salvation of those who hear you.”  I Timothy 4:16

I have often shared an illustration about this verse.  When you are flying and they are going through the pre-flight safety instructions, they bring out a mask.  This mask is used in case there is a shortage of oxygen in the cabin.  It comes down from overhead.  Remember what they say to do if you are traveling with a child?  They say to put your mask on first and then on the child.  Why do they say that?  Because, if you pass out, you can’t help your child put on theirs.  

The same applies to a parent.  If you want to have spiritually healthy children, then you must first make sure you are fulfilling God’s calling as your child’s first teacher.  You must walk the talk and be an example of what it means to love God with all your heart, mind and soul.

If you are a first teacher, then use today to teach well.  And if you are in a place to influence parents, pour everything you’ve got into it. 

(p.s. Shout out to home school parents who teach their children both spiritually and academically.)

This article originally appeared here.

How to Write a Life Plan for the New Year

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I believe that it's important to live with purpose. So as we head into a new year, I want to help you write a life plan. #livewithpurpose #livewithintention #believe #focus #achieve #intentionalliving #mindfulliving

As we head into a new year, I want to help you think through life planning. I believe in purposeful living.

Here is a reality I have experienced personally and in observation of so many others. Most likely, the degree of success you experience this next year will be directly proportional to the direction you head your life and the intentionality you have with the decisions you make. If you have an idea or goal of where you want to go and a plan of action coupled with discipline, you are more likely to achieve your desired results. You can’t control some of the things life brings you, but you will have a better chance of achieving your dreams if you create some organization in your life to help you reach them.

I also believe simple is good…so, for the next few days, I want to offer segments of developing a one-year life plan. I’ll break it down a little each day to keep it from seeming overwhelming. At the end of the week, if you follow along, you’ll at least have a plan of action. (If you have a better way of doing this, I welcome your input…the key is doing it far more than how…)

Today, let’s set some goals for ourselves…

List three to five goals total. If you have too many, you’ll burn out trying to reach them, and too few will keep you from achieving all that’s possible.

Think through several areas of your life where you would like to see improvement. Areas such as:

  • Spiritual
  • Personal
  • Marriage or relationships
  • Physical
  • Emotional
  • Financial
  • Professional

Include a stretch goal, such as run a marathon, read through the Bible, learn to fly a plane, get out of debt, start a side business or write a book.

At this point, they can be very general. They shouldn’t all be “stretch goals”—limit that to one or two—but they all should be goals designed to take you somewhere you want to go in life, somewhere you hope to improve.

So spend some time today and list your goals. Remember, no more than five, no less than three…

Here is an example:

  1. Lose 10 pounds. (I went specific here because most have an idea of a number. You can simply put “lose weight” at this point if that’s one of your goals.)
  2. Improve my marriage communication.
  3. Pay off my credit card.
  4. Read through the Bible.
  5. Write a book.

Feel free to share your list in the comment section of this post.

Are you up for the challenge? Do you need something like this? Have you ever written out a plan for the New Year?

Side note: For those who are thinking, God is in control of my destiny, so I’ll just let Him direct my paths…I don’t need a plan… I couldn’t agree with you more about God being in control, as He should be. All our plans and goals are futile without His input, but read through the Bible, and you’ll see countless illustrations of how God allows men and women who seek Him to create a plan of action—sometimes for good and sometimes not. There are times God gives us clear and direct instructions, and other times (I would say most times), God allows us to figure out the best course of action based on the wisdom and experiences He has allowed us to have.


Continue Reading:

Writing a Life Plan for the New Year, Part 2

Writing a Life Plan for the New Year, Part 3

Writing a Life Plan for the New Year, Part 4

Writing a Life Plan for the New Year, Part 5

The 20 Most Read Articles on churchleaders.com in 2019

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Here are the most read articles from 2019. With over 26 million views, ChurchLeaders has been blessed to be able to provide you with quality articles that provide leadership tools, encouragement, ideas, insight, and news to equip the church to better spread the good news of Jesus Christ. Which ones did you miss reading?

Here are the top 10 most read articles on churchleaders.com from 2019

#1 – 12 Things a Church Pastor Cannot Do

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There are 12 things a church pastor cannot do–even though pastors are, in my judgment, amazing people. They faithfully serve Sunday after Sunday, often with no desire for recognition or fame. In faith, they can do a lot…except for these 12 things.


#2 – Jarrid Wilson, Pastor, Author and Mental Health Advocate, Dies by Suicide This Week

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Jarrid Wilson, pastor and author of Love Is Oxygen: How God Can Give You Life and Change Your World, died by suicide on Monday September 9, 2019. He died on World Suicide Prevention Day 2019.


#3 – 7 Things Your Kids Will Remember About You

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Guess what? Kids will remember what they love about you. As parents, we tend to stress about things that actually don’t matter that much, but here are 7 important things in life that your kids will not forget!


#4 – 10 Heartaches of Being a Pastor

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A pastor’s heart often goes through heartache. I make no claim that pastors are perfect people. We can be arrogant and uncaring at times. But at the same time, most pastors I know are genuine, faithful followers of God who love their congregations.


#5 – 12 Habits That Lead to Divorce…and How to Avoid Them!

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No one intends to develop these habits that lead to divorce. In fact, every married couple has exchanged vows which promise “til death do us part,” but for far too many marriages, their dreams of “forever” are crushed by divorce.


#6 – Tim Keller: 3 Questions Fake Christians Can’t Answer

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Tim Keller has a group of “questions designed to wake up sleeping Christians.” These questions focus on three hallmarks of a growing relationship with God and are ones fake Christians won’t be able to answer.


#7 – TobyMac Issues Statement About Son Truett’s Death

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Christian rapper TobyMac has issued a statement about his son, Truett Foster McKeehan, and his unexpected death earlier this week. TobyMac described his son as having an “untamable grand personality and dreams to match.”


#8 – United Methodists Vote: No Same-Sex Weddings, No Gay Clergy

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Delegates for the United Methodist Church are meeting in St. Louis this week to vote on whether to allow same-sex weddings to occur in their churches and whether to allow “self-avowed practicing homosexuals” to fulfill clergy roles.


#9 – Christians Need to Stop Cussing

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There are a couple words we might describe as “Christian swear words.” These two four-letter words are ones we Christians need to eliminate from our vocabularies. Why? Because they are unbiblical and atheistic.


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#10 – 7 Deadly Statements of Church Members

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Church member, how much do you consider what not to say at your church? There are some statements that can prove harmful, even deadly, to a congregation.


Here Are the Top 10 Christian Music Albums from 2019

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One of the most influential means of worship is music. We listen to it in our cars, on our phones, in our homes, at our work, when we play, when we work out, and practically every day there is some way or another music in our life. Some of the top songs in the Christian music world can even be heard on a Sunday morning during worship. So let’s see which Christian music albums did well this past year.

Here are the top 10 Christian music albums in 2019. This doesn’t mean that the album came out this year, but that the album was the most sold this year. Lauren Daigle and the recently released Jesus Is King from Kanye West took the top 3 spots. Check out the rest and see if there are any you missed that came out this year, or just need to re-listen to.

Here are the top 10 Christian Music Albums from 2019

#1- Look Up Child [Lauren Daigle]

‘Look Up Child’ took home took home both Grammy’s and Dove Awards in 2019. Lauren Daigle embarked on a successful world tour and continues to shine the light of Christ into dark places; most recently visiting the Louisiana State Penitentiary.


#2 – Jesus Is King [Kanye West]

Jesus got a hold of Kanye West’s life in 2019. According to Kanye’s testimony he had realized the “weight of his sin” and was convicted that he needed to make things right, so he turned to Jesus. All of the album’s 11 songs appeared on the charts and broke records, it caused faith-based Google searches and continues to inspire those seeking Jesus to be their Lord and Savior.


#3 – How Can It Be [Lauren Daigle]

Lauren Daigle’s debut full-length album ‘How Can It Be’ was released in 2015 but saw a resurgence in album sales and streams because of the success of Look Up Child. Be sure to catch her in 2020 as she continues her world tour with husband and wife duo Johnny Swim.


#4 – Burn The Ships [for King & Country]

The duo’s 2018 release is still going strong, releasing 3 new singles in 2019. The brothers of the successful Christian music artist and actress Rebecca St. James, received a Grammy nomination this year for the album ‘Burn The Ships’.


#5 – People [Hillsong UNITED]

This is the 14th live album from Hillsong UNITED and was released this past April. ‘People’ reached the #1 spot on the Billboard US Christian Music Albums chart and #2 on the US Billboard 200. Hillsong United toured in the United States for the first time in three years to promote the album.


It Turns Out Christian Worship Music Is Surprisingly Timeless

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Ever wonder what Christian worship music has looked like over time? This creative video from David Wesley features him as a one-man a cappella choir doing brief renditions of worship songs sampled from the past 1,500 years! One of the most striking aspects of the video is just how timeless many of the songs are.

Christian Worship Through the Centuries

It’s fascinating to learn where various worship songs fall during different periods of history. “Be Thou My Vision,” while still a very popular hymn today, is actually the oldest Christian worship song Wesley sings, dating back to the year 560. One YouTube user commented, “That moment when you find out one of your favorite hymns is 1,500 years old.” Wesley responded to her, clarifying, “Just the poem the words are based on, alas.” 

Wesley also performs “A Mighty Fortress Is Our God” (1529), “Praise to the Lord, the Almighty” (1668), and “On Christ the Solid Rock I Stand” (1863). The classic, “Amazing Grace” is from the year 1779.

Because Wesley performs a cappella versions of the songs, they all sound fairly formal, but several of his renditions stand out from the others. For example, “Victory in Jesus” (1939) and “Soon and Very Soon” (1978) are faster and more upbeat.

Wesley enters nostalgia territory with “Our God Is an Awesome God” (1988) and “Shout to the Lord (1993). One person commented, “As soon as we hit the 80’s and 90’s I got flashbacks to sitting in my living room, listening to my mom and dad lead worship in our little home based church. I love how even after all this time, I still know the lyrics by heart.”

And it’s also interesting to see which songs have so far come to define worship music in the 2000s. A few are “God of Wonders” (2000), “Oceans” (2012), and “Good, Good Father” (2014). 

Wesley concludes his video by circling back to “Be Thou My Vision,” reminding us of the truth in another user’s comments: “Anyone else feel like these songs are timeless?! Some of them don’t feel this old, and some are literally ancient, and feel new. Interesting…just like Jesus, and His love for us.”

Tony Evans’ Wife, Lois, Dies at 70, ‘relieved of suffering’

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Pastor Tony Evans of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas, Texas, announced yesterday that his wife, Lois Evans, has gone to be with the Lord. 

“God answered our prayers this morning by relieving her of suffering,” Evans wrote in a post on Facebook

Evans and his four children surrounded Lois as she “was lulled into eternity,” as the pastor put it. Evans said the family expressed their gratitude for the life she lived and how they loved her and were proud of her. 

Priscilla Shirer, one of the Evans’ daughters, posted a tribute on Instagram to her late mother. “Goodnight my beautiful, beloved Mommy. 💜 I’ll see you in the morning.”

 

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Goodnight my beautiful, beloved Mommy. 💜 I’ll see you in the morning. #Repost from my Dad, @drtonyevans ・・・ Just before the sun came up this morning, the love of my life, Lois Irene Evans, transitioned from earth and watched her first sunrise from heaven. I had the privilege of holding her hand as she was lulled into eternity. Our four children surrounded her as well. As she slipped away, we told her how much we love her, how proud we are of her, and how thankful we are for the life she has lived. We are what we are because of her. Thank you so much for praying for my wife and for my family. God answered our prayers this morning by relieving her of suffering. But the truth is, He has been answering our prayers all along. Lois lived beyond medical expectations, not once, but over and over again. God has been so kind to give us more time to make wonderful memories. While we know the coming days will be challenging, right now we are grateful for the life and love of a woman who planted seeds that will bear fruit for generations to come. Thank you for your continued prayers for our family as we grieve, and also for your patience as we finalize our plans to honor her life.

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Lois Evans suffered from gallbladder cancer. In April of this year, Evans announced that the cancer had returned a second time and Lois would undergo treatment for it. In October, Evans sent out an “urgent” request for prayer, explaining that traditional methods of treatment for the cancer, such as chemotherapy, were not working for Lois. 

Lois helps Evans lead his radio broadcast ministry, The Urban Alternative. Lois Evans also founded the Pastor’s Wives Ministry

Lois was born December 1, 1949. She passed away on December 30, 2019.

Details for a memorial service have not been announced yet. Evans concluded his announcement by writing “Thank you for your continued prayers for our family as we grieve, and also for your patience as we finalize our plans to honor her life.”

Venezuelan Refugees Walk 2,000+ Miles to Chile and Argentina

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The dark of night descends rapidly on the small plaza. A penetrating drizzle steadily drips onto the stone floor. About thirty-five men, most in short sleeves or sleeveless shirts, huddle under the only two trees. Rain sluices off the trees onto their heads. Two young women scurry to pull together an improvised tent composed of black plastic trash bags, at the same time attempting to keep dry a small girl in fuzzy footsie pajamas. A young couple sits in utter physical exhaustion, trying to shelter their eight-month-old son from the rain. Everyone is wet and everyone is cold.

Venezuelan Refugees Face a 2,000+ Mile Journey

This place is the first Colombian town of any size on the route up, over and along the high Andean cordillera on the arduous route from the Venezuelan border, across Colombia to the Ecuadorian border, across Ecuador to the Peruvian border, across Peru to the capital, and—for some—across Peru to Chile or Argentina. It represents only the first few days of travel by foot for Venezuelan refugees fleeing the collapse of their nation—once one of the wealthiest on the continent. These men, women, the little girl, the baby boy are all on the first stage of a 2,700-mile trek by foot.

A Colombian pastor and IMB missionaries share clothes and information with Venezuelan walkers called “caminantes.”

They are only a handful of the two hundred to five hundred Venezuelans who pass this way every day of the week, some pushing the elderly in a wheelchair, many carrying a baby or child, a number well along in their pregnancy, nearly all dressed for hot climates. Most have no money, no food, and no connections outside of Venezuela. They have not eaten well for a long time in their home country, where a month’s salary will only buy two days’ worth of food. They have sold their homes and belongings to pay for bus fare across Venezuela to the Colombian border. Some cannot even do that; they walk a week across Venezuela to the border before beginning their long walk over multiple countries.

Here in neighboring Colombia, each Venezuelan on this dark night on a mountain plaza is sore, hungry, thirsty, cold, and wet. They have been walking steadily upward on the mountain highway for days.  They carry with them everything they own in a backpack or small rolling suitcase: perhaps a change of clothes, perhaps photos of family left behind, perhaps work boots for a hoped-for future job. They come from flat, hot plains or the sultry coast. They have never known cold. They have never slept on the ground in a public plaza.

They have no coats, no jackets, no gloves, no sweaters, no scarves.  Their socks (if they have any to begin with) and shoes are already in tatters.  They wear flip flops, cheap loafers or low-cost tennis shoes. They are all headed toward a 10,000-foot mountain pass where at least twenty of their compatriots have died of hypothermia and exposure.

Their survival depends on strangers. Some strangers are kind; others are not. In a growing atmosphere of xenophobia against Venezuelan immigrants, some people are turning against them, some nations are slamming doors shut. In this town on this night, the townsfolk are in their cozy homes, eating dinner, preparing for a warm bed. They have seen floods of Venezuelans pass their shops and homes, all tired, all hungry, all penniless. It is time to look away. There is no room. Not tonight. Not for them.

Then the small miracle comes out of the night. A van pulls up across the street. A weary band of IMB missionaries descends. Since early morning they have been driving up the mountain, stopping each time they see a group of Venezuelans. They ask the Venezuelans to put down their heavy loads and sit for a moment while the missionaries give them hot sandwiches and hot chocolate. The missionaries bind up their battered shoes with silver duct tape and give out cold-weather clothing and gear donated by Colombian believers. They hear their stories and tell them a story of God’s love. They share suggestions for staying well, cry with them, hug them, pray with them and encourage them along the way.

This is the last stop. For eleven hours the missionaries have been doing this. For eleven hours they have heard and seen one heartbreaking story after another:

  • The sixteen-year-old who has left home alone to find work to send money back to six younger siblings;
  • The elderly man who has worked the soil all his life. There are no seeds now, he says. No jobs. He hopes someone will let him work their land and give him enough to eat;
  • The woman in her fourth month of pregnancy hoping that she and her baby will live;
  • The teenage girls walking to a 10,000-foot pass in sandals, capris and summer blouses.

Now, heading back down the mountain, the missionaries are fifty miles from returning to the border. The wet plaza is their last stop. The group of men on the plaza come to life as they realize what is being offered to them. The two women receive their sandwiches and drinks, warm jackets and scarves. Expressing thanks, they quickly retire with the little girl to their reconstructed trash bag tent. The men are reluctant to let the missionaries leave. Here are people with jackets for them. More importantly, these are people who see them as human beings and who have been where they are going, who have information.

IMB missionary Paul Tinley narrates the story of Joseph and God’s faithfulness to Venezuelan walkers.

“Will it be colder further on?” “Can anywhere be colder?” They are still at 7,000 feet. They still have another 3,000 feet in elevation to reach the pass, where nighttime temperatures range from 36 degrees to below freezing. A local pastor offers tips for the journey: Don’t climb into the mountain heights while hot and sweaty—a sure way to get bronchitis. Cool off first. A tip from one of the missionaries: Save the foil from the sandwiches. It can keep your hands warm.

A few feet away, the young couple with the baby is too exhausted to move one more step. They barely have the energy to extend their hands for the sandwiches. All day and evening the missionaries have zealously guarded their one child-size blanket, watching for that child who most needs it. Now the pink crocheted blanket wraps their little boy. It is the “wrong” color but no one cares. It is warm. It is good. The father sits by his wife and child, completely unable to care or provide for them in any way. As he takes his first sip of hot chocolate, the hot tears begin to flow down his face and will not stop.

As Christmas approaches, Venezuelans are still walking toward what they hope will be a better life. Will you continue to pray that they will find the hope that came to earth through a newborn Savior?

Wang Yi Sentenced to 9 Years in Chinese Prison

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Wang Yi, a detained Christian pastor who’s been highly critical of religious persecution in China, was sentenced on Monday to nine years in prison. In December 2018, the leader of Early Rain Covenant Church in China’s Sichuan province was arrested, along with his wife and more than 100 congregants.

A secret trial for Wang was held December 26, reportedly using false testimony extracted from church members through torture. The pastor’s relatives and supporters weren’t allowed to attend. Wang’s wife, Jiang Rong, was released in June after spending six months behind bars. And Early Rain elder Qin Derfu was recently sentenced to four years in prison.

The Charges and Consequences 

Pastor Wang, who’s also a lawyer and prominent blogger, was convicted of “inciting subversion of state power” (for not registering his church with the government) and “illegal trade” (for printing and selling religious materials). In addition to the nine-year sentence, his political rights are suspended for three years, his books are banned, and his personal assets were confiscated, essentially resulting in a fine of $7,200 U.S. Many Early Rain congregants remain under police surveillance, and church properties have been seized.

Since 2018, China has cracked down on so-called house churches, requiring them to become part of the state-sanctioned Three-Self Patriotic Movement. The country’s Communist Party also is conducting a sinicization campaign of Bible translations and using biometrics to track churchgoers.

On the latest World Watch List from Open Doors, China ranks 27th for its persecution of Christians, which has escalated under President Xi Jinping. Chinese villagers are being urged to rely on Xi rather than on Jesus.

On a Facebook page titled Pray for Early Rain Covenant Church, a post insists that Wang “did not commit any crime” but is facing “unjust persecutions.” It requests prayers for the pastor, for Early Rain leaders and members, and even for Chinese authorities. “May we be strong in his grace as we keep on fighting despite repeated setbacks,” it reads. “We do this to fulfill the Great Commission and to spread the gospel, that the glorious name of the triune God might be praised.”

Human-Rights Groups Denounce Sentence

Human-rights groups—both religious and secular—are speaking out against Wang’s sentence and urging U.S. officials to condemn it and take action. “This grave sentence demonstrates [Chinese President] Xi’s regime is determined to be the enemy of universal values and religious freedom,” says China Aid President Bob Fu. “We call upon the international community to stand up to the Chinese Community Party and hold this evil regime accountable.”

Amnesty International calls the sentence “appalling,” saying it “makes a mockery of China’s supposed religious freedoms.” Amnesty’s Patrick Poon adds, “The message is very clear: You will be the next Wang Yi if you don’t register and follow the Communist Party’s line on religion.”

Based on his writings, Pastor Wang intends to stand firm, saying no authorities can make him renounce his faith in Jesus. “I will resist in meekness those who resist God,” he writes, “and I will joyfully violate all laws that violate God’s laws.”

Why Do Most People Think God Should Let Them into Heaven?

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“Hypothetically, if God and Heaven are real, on what basis do you believe God will or will not accept you into Heaven?” This was a question B. Tyler Ellis asked 50 people over a period of two years. 

Ellis started his interview project because of his love of learning from people with different beliefs. Those he spoke to came from different faith (or lack of faith) backgrounds. He took each person out to coffee and asked them 20 questions, including the one about God and heaven. The result, said Ellis in a TEDx Talk he gave at Wiley College, was that “What started as a series of curious interviews soon turned into a series of unexpected adventures and unexpected discoveries.”

B. Tyler Ellis’s Discoveries and Opportunities

One of B. Tyler Ellis’s unexpected discoveries was how similarly people answered the question about God and heaven, despite the diversity of their beliefs. These are some of the answers he got:

-You have to earn God’s acceptance
-You have to do more good deeds than bad
-Following the 10 Commandments will help
-Just try to be moral
-God’s acceptance is based on our actions
-God won’t accept me because of my bad deeds
-I don’t know

“Despite such diversity in the people that I interviewed,” said Ellis, “I discovered an overwhelming consensus about the afterlife.” Even the atheists who answered the question (since it was hypothetical) said that God’s approval depends on our performance.

You might expect that people would be reluctant to open up about a question like that, but Ellis found the opposite to be true. He was just there to interview them, not tell them his views. He said, “Since they knew I was just asking questions and not sharing opinions, they were quick to open up. And many articulated their beliefs for the very first time.”

To his surprise, over half of the people Ellis interviewed actually wanted to meet with him again and interview him that time. When he met with people a second time, they would typically ask him two questions:

-Do you believe all paths lead to God?
-How can one person’s death enable another person’s forgiveness?

To answer these questions, Ellis explained the idea that all paths lead to God (which he called “mountain theory”) illustrates one similarity in all the major world religions. All agree that a moral life leads to peace and immorality leads to chaos. At the same time, all the religions disagree in two significant ways. One, said Ellis, is that “religions lead to different mountaintops”—that is, they all describe God differently. The other difference is that they prescribe different ways to make peace with God. 

And in this second difference, Christianity stands apart from the rest. Said Ellis, “All the major world religions, with the exception of Christianity, believe that eternal peace is obtained on the basis of our merits. Christianity believes that eternal peace is obtained on the basis of Jesus’ merits.”

The essence of Ellis’s answer to the question, “How can one person’s death enable another person’s forgiveness?” had to do with the fact that the penalty of a crime increases according to the value of the one offended. Killing a cockroach does not carry any kind of penalty, but killing a person does because a person is more valuable than a cockroach. Offending an infinite God, then, comes with an infinite penalty. Being fully God and fully man, Jesus is the only one who could pay this debt for us. Said Ellis, “I didn’t expect that a couple illustrations would cause so many people to say, ‘I just understood Jesus for the first time.’”

Another troubling finding of Ellis’s experiment was that many of the people he interviewed said they were or had been Christian. How could so many people familiar with Christianity miss a truth essential to salvation? The conclusion Ellis came to is that the church had taught people that Jesus was a good moral teacher, a role model we are supposed to imitate. That is how people can be raised in the church, know a lot of information about Christianity, and still think their good works will earn them a spot in heaven

The truth, said Ellis, is that “Christianity claims that Jesus is not just the model, but the Messiah.” It was only through his death on the cross and subsequent resurrection that he paid the penalty for our sins that we can never pay. And only through accepting this gift and committing our lives to him can we have peace with God and go to heaven. 

And there is another lesson to be learned from B. Tyler Ellis’s project. It’s easy to push our views on others when we think we’re right. But because he was willing to listen first, he got multiple, unforeseen opportunities to share his faith with people far more effectively than if he had forced it on them.

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All the Hell You Shall Ever Have

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For the better part of my Christian life, I’ve had a visceral reaction—driven by internal disapproval—whenever I’ve heard someone describe the hardships he or she experienced in life in the following ways: “It was like hell on earth,” or “I feel like I’ve been through hell.” I am sure that part of this reaction is due, in large part, to the fact I was raised in a home in which the awful reality of eternal destruction was not joked about or diminished (as it ought not be!). Therefore, in my mind, to correlate the miseries of this life with eternal punishment always struck me as a trivializing of the worst kind. Then, I read the following in Thomas Brooks’ The Mute Christian Under the Smarting Rod:

“Consider, that the trials and troubles, the calamities and miseries, the crosses and losses that you meet with in this world, are all the hell that you shall ever have: here you have your hell, hereafter you shall have your heaven; this is the worst of your condition, the best is to come. Lazarus had his hell first, his heaven last; but Dives (the rich man) had his heaven first, and his hell at last (Luke 16:19-31): you have all your pangs, and pains, and throes here that you shall ever have; your ease, and rest, and pleasure is to come: here you have all your bitter, your sweet is to come: here you have your sorrows, your joys are to come: here you have all your winter-nights, your summer-days are to come; here you have your passion-week, your ascension day is to come: here you have your evil things, your good things are to come: death will put a period to all your sins, and to all thy sufferings, and it will be an inlet to those joys, delights, and contents that shall never have an end; and therefore hold thy peace, and be silent before the Lord.”1

There is a sense in which it is right and good for us to speak of the miseries of life as a “the only hell” a true Christian will ever have. Consider what the Westminster Shorter Catechism has to say about the miseries Adam brought into the world on account of his disobedience,

“Q. 19. What is the misery of that estate whereinto man fell?

A. All mankind by their fall lost communion with God, are under his wrath and curse, and so made liable to all the miseries of this life, to death itself, and to the pains of hell forever.”

On one hand, everything we experience in this life, short of hell, is a mercy from God. Since the ultimate misery that we all deserve is “the pains of hell forever,” we must conclude that we are the just recipients of every misery we experience, short of hell, in this life. This is not to say that ever trial, pain, hardship or affliction that we experience in this life is due to some particular personal sin. The Scriptures are clear that personal suffering is not necessarily correlated to any personal sin (Job 1; John 9:1-4). Some of the misery that we experience in this life is due to our personal sin (2 Samuel 12:10, 14; Psalm 119:71; James 5:14). However, all of the misery that we experience in this life is due to Adam’s sin. Adam brought all men into a state of sin and misery. All mankind receives, by imputation, the guilt and the corruption of Adam’s sin, as well as the experience of misery in this fallen world. All of us deserve, by nature, death and judgment because of Adam’s sin. The good news for believers is that what Jesus did, as the last Adam, alters even the impact of the misery of Adam’s sin for the true believer.

On the other hand, the Scriptures make clear that the Lord does not deal with believers “according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities” (Psalm 103:10). The Psalmist could say this because he prospectively anticipated that the Christ would come and that the Lord would deal with Him according to our sins and punish Him for our iniquities (Isaiah 53). Jesus takes away all of the sin of His people. He clothes us with His righteousness. He breaks the power of sin in the believer’s life. He raises us up to newness of life in Him (Rom. 6:1-14). He endures hell on the cross for His people so that we, who are united to Him by faith, have already “passed from death into life and shall not enter into judgment” (John 5:25). There is no hell for believers–no judgment awaiting us on account of our sins since they have been atoned for by the death of Jesus. God’ wrath has been fully propitiated when it fell on the Son at Calvary.

There is even a sense in which many of the sufferings of this life are suspended on account of the atoning sacrifice of Jesus. The Psalmist declared, “Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me…Who forgives all your iniquities, who heals all your diseases (Psalm 103:1, 3). This doesn’t mean that Jesus purchased complete physical healing for all his people in this life on the cross. The Apostle Paul suffered from irremediable physical pain (Gal. 4:15). Paul then told Timothy drink a little wine for his infirmities (1 Tim. 5:23). What it does mean is that He often heals us of our diseases in this life and will most certainly heal us of all our diseases in the resurrection on the last day.

All the miseries that believers are called by God to endure in this life are the only hell that they will ever endure because of the saving work of Jesus in his death and resurrection. This is one of the most comforting and soul strengthening thoughts upon which a believer may set his heart or mind in this life. The Lord may severely afflict, Satan may relentlessly attack, believers may incessantly hurt, the world may violently persecute, but it will all ultimately come to an end when the believer dies or when Christ comes again in glory. Then there will only be peace, rest, consolation, ecstasy and wholeness forever in the presence of the Lamb who was slain for his suffering people. Because of the death and resurrection of Jesus, whatever fiery trials you are called by God to endure in this life you can be assured that they are “all the hell you shall ever have.”

This article originally appeared here.

Church Methods Don’t Matter—Until We Do Them Wrong

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The church won’t change the world by adopting new methods. We won’t even save the church that way.

What will change the world is a praying church. A loving church. A worshiping church. An outward-reaching church. A Jesus-centric church.

The Great Commandment and the Great Commission are all that matter. They haven’t changed in 2,000 years because they don’t need to.

But.

I’m going to use new methods anyway.

To understand why, here’s an example of necessary change from the history of typing. Yes, typing.

Double-Spacing (A Real-Life Parable)

If you’re my age (born in 1959) or older, you were probably taught to double-space between sentences when typing. Why? Because our teachers had been raised in an era when most typewriters used monospace font, with every letter taking up the same amount of width on the page.

Those old typewriters left huge gaps of white space on either side of thin letters (like i), while wide letters (like m) were squeezed together. Double-spacing was needed after each period to made sentence breaks clear, aiding in readability.

That all changed in the 1950s and ’60s, when typewriters with proportional spacing became popular. Thin letters took up less page space, while wide letters used more, with uniform gaps between them. Those new typewriters also provided just the right width between sentences with just one touch of the space bar. Suddenly, double-spacing was not only unnecessary, but the big out-of-proportion gap they created made documents harder to read, not easier.

But old habits die hard.

Since most people were never taught why double-spacing was needed on the old typewriters, they didn’t understand the need to switch to single-spacing. Double-spacing was what they’d been taught and that’s what they would teach their students. So an entire generation learned to do it wrong.

Computers use proportional spacing. Double-spacing not only isn’t needed, it actually causes too much space between sentences, getting in the way of smooth reading and comprehension. The method we were taught to make our writing more readable then actually makes it less readable now.

Today, when I see the occasional email or a blog post with double-spacing, I know two things. 1) It will be a little harder to read, and 2) the author is my age or older.

5 Bad Habits to Break for a Better New Year

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Even good leaders can have bad habits.

There are some scary truths about bad habits that hinder our ability to break them.

  • Scary truth #1: Sometimes we really don’t see the habit. (We need a friend to tell us.)
  • Scary truth #2: Sometimes we justify the habit because of heavy pressure or high productivity.
  • Scary truth #3: Sometimes we kind of like the habit, and we don’t want to stop.
  • Scary truth #4: Sometimes we’ve lived the habit so long, it becomes a lifestyle we adapt to.
  • Scary truth #5: Sometimes those around us let us off the hook when they should call us on it.
  • Scary truth #6: Sometimes we minimize and dismiss it because it’s not a “sin.”

One bad habit of mine is that I often run about five minutes late to a meeting, sometimes even 10 or more. It really is a bad habit. Being late doesn’t convey how much I value and care about the person who is waiting. It puts me in a rushed state of mind, and it communicates that maybe it’s OK for others to be late.

My scary truth is #2. I attempt to justify it because of my high productivity. “Hey, I just took an urgent phone call from a staff member.” Or, “I finished that leadership talk that is due in two days.” Or, “We were at a critical decision point in the previous meeting and couldn’t just cut it off.”

It’s dangerous when a leader bends reality into a justification, rather than making a tough decision or exercising more discipline.  

5 Bad Work Habits to Avoid – Any of them yours?

1) Stop letting guilt misdirect your time and energy.

Being sensitive to conviction from the Holy Spirit is good. That merits a heartfelt response and any appropriate action. But far too often it’s not conviction from God, but human guilt that prompts how we lead, make decisions and use our time.

Breaking free from guilt (or its distant cousin people pleasing), is difficult but necessary.

I’ve seen too many church leaders run in circles and exhaust themselves trying to make everyone happy. It doesn’t work. In fact, it’s impossible. It’s better to know what is important, according to your vision and values, and stick to it.

Three things to know and do in overcoming guilt:

  • Know where you are going, and stay focused.
  • Know that you truly care about people, and show it.
  • Know that you are aligned with God’s plan, and listen to His voice.

2) Stop overlooking key or close relationships.

Good leaders don’t take people close to them for granted, but they can forget to slow down enough to enjoy meaningful conversations.

I’m not talking about idle chit-chat; I mean heartfelt conversations. I’ll let you in on a little-practiced secret. You can have deeply meaningful conversations in surprisingly few minutes with people you know well. (Key/Close relationships.)

When you have a relationship of substance, just jump into the deep end of the moment. You don’t need a finely crafted transition, or to be overly blunt, to be direct and speak from the heart. People can travel fast in conversations when they know and trust you. Remember, they are probably just as busy as you are.

Of course, some conversations require a substantial amount of time. But don’t waste those moments when you can have a brief heart-to-heart connect that makes a difference.

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