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7 Land Mines Churches Encounter When Reaching a City

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Sometimes treasure maps have areas that say “Land Mines Here, Dragons Be Here, Proceed with Caution.” In over 30 years of city reaching in Ventura County, I’ve often joked that we could provide a fairly accurate map of land mines to new city-reachers. We’ve made every mistake possible at least once. We’ll probably make more mistakes, but as someone said, “if you’re not making mistakes you’re not learning.” This land mine map details just a few of our “learning” experiences. We provide them hoping to spare you an arm or a leg.

Land Mine #1. Assuming a Heart for the Lost in the People of God

When we first started, we assumed a heart for the lost in the people of God. Hopefully that lack of heart is a unique Southern California malady, but sadly it isn’t necessarily so. Actually it’s a rare minority who go to bed at night aching for people in their city to come to Jesus. We needed to educate people on the heart of the Father, and give them a reason to care that is not emotionally manipulative, or forced. This takes time. God enlarges the borders of our being.

Land Mine #2. Waiting on Everyone to Catch the Vision—Go With the Willing

We can get so preoccupied trying to get everyone on the train we never leave the station. Go with the willing, the present, the people who board the train at the first whistle. At the same time, put lots of energy encouraging everyone to get out of their La-Z-Boy recliners, get in touch with their inner Tookishness, and consider taking an epic journey.

Land Mine #3. Stretching the Net of Vision Too Far, Too Fast—Start with Micro Geographies

When we started decades ago, we encouraged everyone to get a vision for Ventura County. But that was a bridge way too far. They needed a vision for their neighborhood…that extended to their city…that extended to their county.

Leaders need big vision to engage. But we think everyone has a leader mindset.  Many won’t engage with vision unless it’s immediately doable. Start with doable, like your street.

Land Mine #4. Leadership Relocations

God’s purposes remain even when leadership relocates. At the height of Love Ventura, (when pastors were pledging their lives to each other through tears), our key convening pastoral leader moved to Texas, and our key Christian radio station manager, who used the station to summon people to city reaching and prayer, moved as well. The major Christian publishing company that hugely supported Love Ventura, eventually went out of business.

Into the vacuum of leadership moved faithful big hearted leaders, who did not have the convening anointing that other leaders follow. The old adage “it all rises and falls on leadership” is true.

When all the viable leaders leave, look to God for clues as to what He wants to do next…like a woman throwing a millstone over a tower, or Jael taking a tent peg in one hand while she sung lullabies to an enemy.

Land Mine #5. Not Realizing Where God is at Work

In many cities God is up to His elbows at work in the government, education, health care and social work. We ignorantly started very church-centric. We thought it all had to flow out of the church, so we were decades late in partnering with cities, governments and key influencers.

Land Mine #6. Thinking There Is an Importable Template

Because we had the headquarters of the largest Christian radio company in America, as well as a major Christian publisher, and pastors who had led their denominations, many ministries thought we were the perfect place to showcase their models. They were all good models, and we learned from them, but we forgot that God refuses to be in any equation because people are tempted to worship the formula. God keeps us dependent on hearing Him for precision details for our particular setting.

Land Mine #7. The Division between Influencers of People vs. Influencers With God 

Senior pastors of large congregations wanted to only be with people like them. Including intercessors lessened the value of a strategy meeting in their eyes. It is a hard dance, but it’s one we need to learn. Major influencers gravitate toward other major influencers. Create a culture of humility that understands some of the best intel is from people who have been locked in a closet with God for decades.

Each of these land mines can be potent saboteurs in seeing the dream of Jesus fulfilled in your city. God will not be thwarted. His purposes stand firm. But we can delay by decades the unfolding of His goodness to our cities by our lack of carefulness.

Here’s to you avoiding these land mines and seeing the fame and renown of Jesus spread in your city and region!


This article was provided by City Gospel Movements. City Gospel Movements is a ministry of the Luis Palau Association who, in partnership with many other like-minded organizations, celebrates and accelerates collaborative gospel work in cities around the world. Whether leaders are just beginning to catch the vision for citywide church unity, or have been seeking the peace and prosperity of their city for decades, we exist to share best practices around movement work, connect their leaders, and encourage evangelism as a central part of movements. Get inspired and equipped at www.citygospelmovements.org.

Looking for the Eternal Christmas to Come

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As a child, my favorite part of waking up on Christmas morning was the first waking realization that it was Christmas, which was the best day of the year, even in our non-christian family. My first move was to jump up and look out my bedroom window to see if it had snowed last night. Usually not, but several memorable times it did. After the snow-check, my brother, Lance, and I would run to our stockings hung by mom in the living room. I would open the contents slowly, including the ever-present Whitman’s Samplers, stretching it out, not wanting it to end.

We got the big presents on Christmas Eve, but there was a special joy in the little treasures wrapped up in the stockings. I didn’t understand then that these little gifts represented the greatest gift ever given—God’s Son. Now, as an adult, a father and a grandfather, I feel those same childlike feelings, a warmth and anticipation. But what I feel now on Christmas that I didn’t many years ago is anticipation for a New Earth, without sin and curse and suffering—a redeemed earth where I will live and work and play and worship and serve with Christian family and friends, and countless new friends besides.

I feel a spirit of adventure not just for the passing joys of Christmas, but for an eternal Christmas, a great story where—as C. S. Lewis put it at the end of the Chronicles of Narnia—every chapter will be better than the one before.

The prayer of my heart this Christmas is that people would understand that Jesus is the person they were made by and made for—that they would understand that He loved them enough to go to the cross for them and pay the price for their sins so that they could live forever with Him on the New Earth, the eternal Heaven.

There’s a true story of a Christ-loving man who lay dying. His son asked, “Dad, how do you feel?”

His father replied: “Son, I feel like a little boy on Christmas Eve.”

Christmas is coming. We live our lives between the first Christmas and the second. We look back to that first Christmas and the life of Jesus on the earth for some 33 years—but we look forward to the Christmas in which the resurrected Christ will return and we, his resurrected people, will live with him forever on the New Earth. And right when we think “It doesn’t get any better than this”…it will!

Wishing you and your loved ones a blessed Christmas as you celebrate the Savior’s birth.

6 of the Best Pieces of Hiring Advice I Have Received

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Leading a team is one of the biggest privileges a leader has. You are able to cultivate a culture through the people you place in significant roles, and you are able to serve others alongside the team you serve alongside. Leading a team is also a massive responsibility. You steward the time and energy of many others, and are accountable for how you do so. Selecting people for the team is one of the most important aspects of leading a team. Here are six statements that have impacted how I view hiring or inviting people to join a team:

1. Hire five to do the work of 10 and pay them like eight.

Jim Collins offered this quote, from another leader, in Good to Great. There are often two polarizing approaches to hiring and staffing. Approach one is to hire as many as possible and pay them a little. Approach two is to hire a few and pay them very well while expecting a lot from them. Which team would you rather be on? Exactly.

2. The best test if someone can lead a staff is if the person can lead volunteers.

I heard John Maxwell say this on an audiocassette years ago and it has stuck with me. Those who lead volunteers effectively lead with conviction and vision, are able to equip others, and care for those they lead. In other words, they don’t rely on offering a paycheck because there is none to offer. Leaders who use a paycheck as their sole motivation are always poor leaders.

3. Hire slow; fire fast.

So many leaders have offered this counsel that it is now a cliché, but a true one. It is much better to hire slow than to fire slow. Hiring slow helps ensure there is a great fit—both for the person and the organization. Firing slow keeps people in roles where they won’t succeed while the people the organization is designed to serve suffer.

4. Be cautious if the person is obsessed about the title.

Augustine, the early church father, said it differently and more powerfully: No one can be a good bishop if he loves his title and not his task. Look for people who are passionate about what they get to do more than they are passionate about what they will be called.

5. The negative traits of leaders are amplified through the organization, and the positive traits are muffled.

My executive coach for seven years, Steve Graves, taught me this. The “negative” traits of leaders spread more quickly and more loudly than the positive ones. Why does this impact hiring? Because the character of the leader always impacts the credibility of the team. If the person is excellent at his or her craft or discipline but there are some “yellow flags” with the person’s integrity, do not make the hire. Do. Not. Hire. When. There. Are. Character. Concerns.

6. Chemistry is more important that competence.

One of my first mentors, Ben Wasson, helped me see this. We all believe (or we should all believe) that character is most important. But what is next in terms of importance, chemistry or competence? The answer is chemistry because a new team-member who is deeply committed to the values of the team (chemistry) will benefit from the collective competence of the team and can be trained in competence. But a new team-member who is competent but not committed to the mission and values will adversely impact the culture of the team. Of course—both chemistry and competence, alongside character, is what you want. But by placing such an emphasis on chemistry, leaders can work harder to ensure “this is a great match.”

This article originally appeared here.

Overcoming Anxiety in Leadership

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If you’re a leader, you understand the weight of responsibility you carry each day. Tough decisions, organizational direction, hiring and firing, developing leaders, and innovating the future are just a few examples of the pressures you wake up with each morning. While our culture glamorizes leaders, the truth is, leadership is hard work, and with it comes real anxiety.

So, how do you deal with the anxiety of leadership? What do you do when the pressures increase and the stakes grow higher? In Philippians 4:6-7, the apostle Paul gives us some helpful perspective. He writes:

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” (NLT)

In these two verses, Paul outlines two keys to resist anxiety when it flares up in your life (or your leadership), and then he describes what happens when we follow his advice.

1. Don’t Worry

I know what you’re thinking…”easier said than done.” Paul’s words “don’t worry about anything” seem overly simplistic, especially for leaders dealing with the complexity of organizational leadership. So, what exactly does Paul mean by “worry”?

The word translated “worry” was often used to describe the anxiety people experienced with the everyday needs of life. In fact, it’s the same word Jesus used in Matthew 13 when he compared God’s Word to the seeds being sown by farmers. Jesus said, “The seed that fell among the thorns represents those who hear God’s word, but all too quickly the message is crowded out by the worries of this life and the lure of wealth, so no fruit is produced” (Matthew 13:22, NLT).

Jesus was saying, “Worry has the ability to choke, or suffocate, or smother, the influence of God’s Word in your life.” Haven’t you found that to be true? How often do you worry about the bottom line of your organization? We give fear and worry “forecasting” authority…and they forecast the worst outcomes.

When we give our fears forecasting authority, we adopt a low view of God. A.W. Tozer said, “The low view of God entertained almost universally among Christians is the cause of a hundred lesser evils everywhere among us.” When we adopt a high view of our problems instead of a high view of our God, then our problems displace God. Simply put, worry is a form of worship.

When our leadership is distracted by the size of our worry, our heart diminishes the size of our God. We start to believe God can’t handle our problems, so we focus on our problems more. The only way to break the cycle is to ask God to enlarge our view of Him.

2. Do Pray

Paul continues his exhortation: “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done” (Philippians 4:6, NLT). Notice two words: Anything and everything. Don’t worry about anything. Do pray about everything.

Then Paul shares three ways to practice anxiety-defeating prayer: Pray, Tell God and Thank Him.

  • Pray – The word “pray” actually carries with it the idea of “worship,” which makes complete sense. If worry causes us to have a low view of God and a high view of our problems, then wouldn’t it make sense that our first response to worry would be to worship God. Worry is a form of worship (worship of our problems); therefore, worry is displaced when we shift our worship to the Lord. It’s like Paul said, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, worship God in everything….every circumstance, every need, every problem.” In other words, when your mind is filled with worry, let your heart be filled with worship.
  • Tell God – “Tell God” means to present your specific needs to God. Whatever is causing you to worry, present that to God in prayer. He’s not too small to meet your need.
  • Thank Him – “Thank Him” is the attitude in which we pray. How are we able to thank God when worry and anxiety try to fill our minds? We thank as a posture of faith, believing He is able to meet our needs.

When you draw near to God, He draws near to you, and suddenly your problems don’t seem so big. “Pray,” “Tell God” and “Thank Him” are measures that will enlarge your view of God.

When your mind is filled with worry, let your heart be filled with worship. CLICK TO TWEET

The Outcome of “Don’t Worry” and “Do Pray”

Look again at Philippians 4:6-7: “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

When Paul said that God’s peace “exceeds anything we can understand,” he wasn’t just implying His peace is incomprehensible. Paul was saying that God’s peace is so great that the mind of man—no matter how intellectual or skillful—could never produce such peace on its own. You might be smart, but you’re not smart enough to manufacture peace, because God’s peace is superior to human understanding.

Finally, Paul concludes by saying that God’s peace will “guard your hearts and minds.” The word “guard” is a military term. It’s a picture of a soldier standing guard. In the same way, God’s peace will stand guard in your heart and mind.

Jesus on Worry

Paul wasn’t the first one to teach these principles. In Matthew 6:25, Jesus said, “That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing?” Then Jesus goes on to say that God feeds the birds of the air and He clothes the lilies of the field, and if God is that intentional about taking care of birds and flowers, He’ll most certainly take care of you. Then Jesus said:

“So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need” (Matthew 6:31-33, NLT, emphasis added).

As a leader, you carry great responsibility. When you find anxiety increasing—and you will—embrace the words that Jesus and Paul prescribed as a beautiful, peace-filled remedy.

  • Don’t Worry
  • Do Pray
  • Enlarge your view of God
  • Worship God
  • Present your specific needs to the Lord
  • Thank God by faith
  • Seek the Kingdom of God above all else
  • Live righteously

In God you will find the strength and peace to continue moving forward. You can overcome anxiety when you shift your perspective to the One who is truly in control.

This article originally appeared here.

Church Planning – Is Your Church Ready for 2019

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2019 is near!

  • Is your direction clear?
  • Are your plans complete?
  • Is your lead team onboard?

You’ve probably been working on your plans for 2019 all Fall, maybe longer, but now that Christmas is here your focus is understandably diverted. Christmas Eve weekend is one of the best times of the year to tell the good news of Jesus Christ!

Meanwhile, leaders do what leaders do, behind the scenes they continue to get ready for the next.

Whether your planning is near complete, or you feel way behind, I have five questions that will help you get a sense of where you are and help you move forward.

5 Strategic Questions:

1) What is God saying to you?

God wants your church to thrive. It’s His church! No one cares more than He does. Don’t race ahead with your plans without asking God what He wants specifically for your church.

You may not be the senior pastor, but this is still relevant to you. Maybe you’re on staff leading a department or a volunteer leader of a small group, what is God saying to you? That may be the most important question you can ask as a leader.

This requires time from your busy schedule; a quiet cup of coffee or several cups over many days. And have a notepad or your laptop handy. What do you sense that God wants? What direction does He want you to take?

2) What changes are you making?

If there are no changes, no innovation, nothing new or next planned for 2019, you may be in for a year that looks a lot like 2018.

That may be a good thing, except for one crucial factor. It’s highly likely that you successfully led some smart changes more than a year ago that helped this year be a great one.

There is no way for a healthy and productive ministry to escape change. Nothing stays the same. The key is to make the right moves. Not change for the sake of change but make things better.

It’s usually not the best strategy to change everything all at once, instead, be selective. Focus on implementation. Do it right.

Cool and creative may be fun, but if it doesn’t work, it doesn’t matter. It has to actually work. Then while the new is working, start talking about what’s next. Don’t wait until the new and cool no longer works. If that happens, you can fix it, but it’s much more work.

3) How is your staff preparing?

Your church may be large with a big staff or a small start-up with volunteer staff, either way, your team has to be out in front of the change.

First, this means they need to have ownership and buy-in of a clear vision. Second, the strategy needs to be clear and quickly make sense to anyone on the team who sees it. And last, each person needs to have clear expectations about their responsibilities.

Equally important, your staff needs to be simultaneously working on their leadership development to shore up any skill gaps required to achieve the new and next for your church.

4) How will you measure success?

Measuring success in a spiritual realm can seem impossible, but it’s not. The subjective element of life-change isn’t the real issue of difficulty. The real challenge in measuring success is the lack of clarity in a goal and being consistent in the measurement of that goal.

The process of deciding how you will measure success, meaning specifically what you will measure, is more difficult than knowing if you achieved it or not.

This process of deciding what and how you will measure begins with being clear and honest about your vision. What are you measuring? Are you making progress? How? In what way? Do you change the goals to line up with what’s happening? That’s like when Charlie Brown shoots an arrow and then walks up and draws the target around the arrow. Draw the target first.

If you have missed the mark this year, don’t beat yourself up. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Focus on the new year.

5) Are you enthusiastic about your plans?

As the leader of the church or a leader in the church, no one will be excited if you aren’t. You can’t fake enthusiasm for long, the people will read right through that. If you and your key leaders believe in the direction and plan to get there, the congregation will too.

The plans don’t have to be perfect, but they must be clear and demonstrate forward motion. You can’t generate momentum if there is no sense of movement. If you are stuck and not sure what to do, go for small wins to start.

Genuine enthusiasm is birthed in your heart. It carries great emotion, but it’s not emotional. It’s strong and sure. It develops confidence and conviction. Genuine enthusiasm is contagious!

To summarize: Talk to God, be clear about what changes you are making, help the staff prepare, measure your results, and be enthusiastic about your plans.

This article originally appeared here.

#DearPastor: When Lauren Daigle Meets Jonathan Edwards

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It’s early Tuesday morning. You shuffle into your study at the church, turn on the coffee maker, and open your laptop.

While the coffee brews, you open your email to find a subject line that says “Thinking about Lauren Daigle…” You open the message.

It reads:

Dear Pastor,

I’ve enjoyed the music of Lauren Daigle for some time. However, after her appearance on the Ellen DeGeneres show, an interviewer asked her whether homosexuality was a sin and she gave a non-committal answer. She said, “I can’t say one way or the other, I’m not God.”

I’ve seen a lot of Christians criticizing her and questioning the genuineness of her faith. I’m wondering whether I should stop listening to her music.

On a similar note, at the church I attend, I frequently hear leaders and members (and Christian leaders our church commends) speak positively of Jonathan Edwards. So, I bought some of his books and started reading them. But in my research about him, I learned that he both purchased and owned slaves all his life. (He spent £80 of his £200 annual salary to buy a 14-year-old girl and listed a “Negro boy named Titus” among the “quick stock” inventory in his will.) I understand that he even drafted a defense of slavery and called those who opposed owning slaves “hypocrites.”

I’m guessing that some people defend Edwards by saying that slavery saturated the culture of the day and he was blinded by it. Therefore he gets a pass. But doesn’t homosexuality saturate the culture of Lauren Daigle’s day? Shouldn’t she receive at least as much (or more) grace as Jonathan Edwards?

After all, 27-year-old Lauren Daigle merely expressed uncertainty about homosexuality in the heat of the moment. But the mature and educated theologian-pastor Jonathan Edwards not only expressed certainty about owning human beings as property (writing a defense of it), he also practiced it all his adult life (and ministry)! Wouldn’t Lauren Daigle actually have to defend, invest in and practice homosexuality to equal what Edwards did?

Why do conservative Christians race to damn Daigle but laud Edwards as a hero? Sometimes it feels like we love to condemn homosexuality, but we have no problem with racism going unchecked in our heroes. It’s almost like we’re OK with black people being mistreated, as long as gay people are condemned. 

I feel like if I raised this question in my church or on Facebook that I’d probably have my own faith questioned. So, I thought I’d email and ask you in private.

I know and agree with what my church believes about homosexuality and slavery. So, can you help me think through this? Should I get rid of my Daigle CDs? And if so, what should I do with my Edwards books?

Thanks,

How would you respond?

This article originally appeared here.

Next Year’s Church Tech Budget: It’s Not Too Late!

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“Use it up; wear it out; make it do; do without!” That was a saying I was raised with. It works well as a protection to the craziness of our consumer culture. But it doesn’t work when it comes to communication technology for the church. Now’s the time to work on next year’s church tech budget.

From decades of working with churches, I’ve seen the wonders that over-worked staff can do with outdated hardware, software that was written before they were born and being paid for minimal hours that don’t begin to cover the work that needs to be done (so it’s done on their off-time). These efforts are admirable (and great may be their reward in heaven!) but as you approach year-end budgeting and giving requests, consider the following comments before deciding that the technology needs of the church can be put off for another year.

ASK the people doing the work what they need

The most important people to consult with for what is needed in hardware, software, and time is the person doing the work. Almost always they know exactly what they need to do their job more efficiently. Many problems arise when the senior pastor or business administrator talks to a person on the church board who is an expert in unrelated technology or who has a technology job outside the church instead of the person doing the job in the church.

Without discounting what may be considerable professional expertise, the kind of hardware and software needed to do effective communications in the church overall or for the youth ministry is often very different than what is needed to run an IT department at a college or experiments at a research lab.

I’ve heard from many church communicators in situations where an expert outside the church office decided they needed hardware or software of a certain type and then got permission to purchase and install it. The unsuspecting church communicator comes in on a Monday morning and was told, “Look at the great new system we have for you!” (This is a true story that has happened more times than I can count.) Frequently no training or time to learn this new system is provided and the church communicator is expected to get all the weekly communications out on time with the new and improved system he or she was given. Most often with tears, prayers, and staying late many get the work done on time and learn to use the new systems.

But that isn’t nice.

Or efficient because then the staff member doesn’t have the tools they wanted to do what needs to be done. The church has simply spent money on something they could probably “do without.”

Ask the people doing the work what they want and need and here are some areas you might want to consider asking about.

Areas to ask about and budget for

Hardware is an obvious one — but this can vary tremendously depending on the person in what ministry department. Here are suggestions:

Do the people working with youth and young adults have the PHONES they need and the plan that allows them to use them as much as they need to?

Phones are more than simply a piece of technology in ministry today. They are command central for many ministries and ministry connections. Your staff needs a phone that will enable them to do all they want and need to do. In addition, they are an important cultural tool. Just as missionaries need to dress, eat, and live like the people they are ministering to, so too, the staff who minister to youth or young adults need technology that won’t be out of place. This is age and area related and again why you need to ask the staff members using the equipment what they need to interact most effectively with the audience they serve.

Does your communication creation staff have the hardware they need to do their jobs?
In hardware areas, this often means a computer with enough RAM to handle images, multi-media, and video. A new computer without enough RAM is useless for many graphics-intensive tasks. Some of the great deals in new computers today skimp on RAM. They are great for general office work, viewing the web and word-processing, but not for communication creation.

Your church communicator may need dual screens (if they like working with them, some do, some hate them) or tablet input. Certainly, all staff working at a computer for long hours need decent chairs and ergonomic keyboards and making certain your staff is cared for in this area is a pastoral responsibility.

Obviously, your communication staff needs software to create the church communications, but this is an area that has changed drastically in the last few years. No longer is software something you primarily buy in a box and load on to your computer, but some of the most useful software to create church communications today is online, in the cloud and your church communicator accesses it through the web.

5 Easy Ways Parents Can Bless Their Children This Holiday Season

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Whether you have a family ministry at your church or not, you know how important it is to equip parents to be spiritual leaders and build healthy relationships. With Christmas coming up and kids out of school, parents will have even more time and more opportunities to invest in their children’s lives. So, how can you help parents connect with their children over the break?

Parents are often told that the greatest gift they can give their children is love. But, how can they communicate that? Many parents rely on gifts. Others simply assume their children know their affections. For those who didn’t grow up in a healthy environment, they may not know how to connect with their children.

So, here are five practical ways you can encourage parents to “bless” their children during the winter break (and all year long!). To jumpstart this at your church, we also shared additional ideas for parents to use over the Christmas break to connect with their children.

  1. Meaningful Touch

A meaningful touch was an important part of giving the blessing in the Old Testament. When Isaac blessed his son, he called him, saying, “Come near and kiss me, my son” (Genesis 27:26, esv). Isaac’s words “come near” actually translate as “come and embrace in a bear hug.” Isaac believed he was speaking to Esau, who was more than 40 years old at the time! Isaac sets an example of a parent who didn’t limit touch to his children due to their age, an example mothers (and fathers) should pay attention to. The benefits of touch are enormous—physically, emotionally and spiritually.

  1. Spoken Message

A spoken message has the power to build up or tear down a child’s worth and heart and are a big part of cementing your love and building a healthy attachment to your children. Can you remember words of praise that your mother spoke to you? What about words of criticism? Our words hold great power, and the blessing acknowledges this through the spoken message. In the Bible, a blessing was invalid unless it was spoken. In the book of James, we see multiple pictures of the power of the tongue. The tongue is described as a bit that gives direction to a horse, a rudder that turns a ship and a spreading fire (James 3:1–6). Each of these pictures shows us the potential of the tongue to build up or tear down. Will your tongue be one that encourages or belittles? Children desperately need to hear positive words spoken to them. The words of a mother and father hold incredible weight in the heart of a child. Choose to speak words of blessing to your children.

  1. High Value

But what kind of words are we to speak or write down for our children? Those that communicate high value. To value something is to attach great importance to it. In blessing our children, we are choosing to ascribe great worth to them, acknowledging that they are valuable to the Lord and to us. This is important, even in times of difficulty with our children. Children push our buttons, try us emotionally, exhaust us physically and often deplete us financially! But in the times when we may not feel the value of our children, choosing to speak words of high value to them realigns our own perspective and encourages our children to see their value as well.

  1. Special Future

With our meaningful touch, with our choice to use a spoken message and by attaching words with high value to a child, we lay the foundation to help us picture a special future for our children as well. As we attach value to a person, we can see their potential and envision the great ways in which they might impact the world for Christ. Kids are literalists when it comes to hearing words that point them toward a special future or when they hear that they’re a failure, pathetic or a loser. By paying attention to the strengths your child exhibits, you can see how that sensitivity they show with other children today might make them a great counselor, teacher or coach down the road; how that leadership talent today could be something that Jesus uses to help them change the world for the better tomorrow. Every person is gifted uniquely. How are your children gifted? How might their strengths benefit their relationships and future endeavors? Paint a picture with your words of your children’s future and it can be, literally, unforgettable for them as they go through life.

  1. Active Commitment

The last element of the blessing really seals the deal, as the one giving the blessing demonstrates an active commitment to see the blessing come to pass in that child’s life. Words have to be accompanied by action. The blessing is not merely spoken but lived—even when it’s hard. Giving the blessing to your children doesn’t mean you don’t discipline them. All kids are like you. Fallen. In need of a Savior. And in need of someone who loves them enough to say no at times, to point them down the right path and to correct wrongs. But rules without a relationship is a great way to breed rebellion in a child’s heart. The blessing gives you the platform to do discipline well, because your children know you love them deeply and care what direction their life is taking.

What does this look like lived out? Here are some examples on how parents can intentionally connect with their children over the Christmas break:

Reading Together: While reading, take moments to pause to bless your child. You can do this by calling attention to positive character traits happening in the story. For example, if a character in the story shares a toy, pause and tell your child that they are also really good at sharing. I’d encourage you to go beyond a compliment and make it something that sticks with them. To do this, give an example of when you saw them exhibiting the specific trait.

Sticky Encouragement: Put a sticky note on their bedroom door after they’re asleep, so when they wake up in the morning, they are reminded of how loved and valued they are.

Celebrate their talents: If your children love to dance or sing, let them put on a concert for you. If they like to draw, take pictures of what they’ve created, and turn it into your desktop background or screen saver.

I “Miss You” Blessing: If you are traveling for work and will be away from your kids, buy a postcard from the city you are in and write a note of blessing to them. It will make their day when it arrives at home!

Selfie Blessing: Have a selfie photo shoot with your son or daughter the next time you are out together. Try out different filters or make funny faces to make memorable moments.

Helping Others Blessing: Have your kids spend some time reading stories to those in a nursing home. Clean out the kitchen cupboards together and give cans of food to a nonprofit organization that feeds the hungry.

Set up a “special date”: The date doesn’t have to be complicated. It could simply be a walk around the neighborhood! But setting aside time each month to spend with just your son or daughter is a great way to bless your child and demonstrate to them your active commitment to them. Each month on your date, celebrate your child by spending some special one-on-one time with him or her.

Get Ready for Church Together: Sunday mornings in the home can often be hectic, and getting out the door can be frustrating and put everyone in foul moods. To prevent this, help your children Saturday night prepare in practical ways for worship by choosing clothes for the morning, gathering items that will be taken (Bible, pen, journal, offering, etc.), and praying together for God to prepare your hearts to hear from him as you gather with other believers. Teaching your children that going to church is one of the ways that we worship God is a priceless lesson.

These are just a few of the ideas shared in Dr. John Trent’s book, 30 Ways a Mother Can Bless Her Children.

This article originally appeared here.

Confusing Pleasure and Joy—What is Joy?

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When I was a boy, my parents made me go to church every Sunday morning. I had no desire to go. I found the worship service boring and could not wait for it to be over so I could go play. But even worse than Sunday morning worship was the weekly catechism class, which was held on Saturday morning. That was the lowest point of my childhood experience in church. I had to go through a communicants class, then I moved on to the catechism class, where I and some other boys and girls had to memorize the Westminster Shorter Catechism. I endured it all just to become a member of the church and finish the course so my parents would be satisfied. I was not converted until several years later.

When I did become a Christian, I found myself wishing I had paid more attention in my catechism class. The only thing I remembered from the Shorter Catechism was the first question and answer, and the only reason I remembered that question was because I never could make sense out of it. The question was this: “What is the chief end of man?” The answer that we were required to learn and to recite was this: “Man’s chief end is to glorify God, and to enjoy him forever.” I just could not put those two things together. I understood, even as a child, that the idea of glorifying God had something to do with obeying Him, something to do with the pursuit of righteousness. But that was not what I was most singularly concerned about. It was not my chief end to be an obedient child of God by any means. And because it was not my chief end to be an obedient son to God, I could not understand how there was a relationship between glorifying God and enjoying Him. To me, the two seemed antithetical, incompatible.

My problem was that I was confused about two foundational ideas. I did not know the difference between pleasure and joy. What I wanted was pleasure, because I assumed that the only way I could have joy was by the acquisition of pleasure. But then I discovered that the more pleasure I acquired, the less joy I possessed, because I was seeking pleasure in things that required that I disobey God. That is the attraction of sin. We sin because it is pleasurable. The enticement of sin is that we think it will make us happy. We think it will give us joy and personal fulfillment. But it merely gives us guilt, which undermines and destroys authentic joy.

My conversion was fundamentally an experience of the forgiveness of God. If there had been a fire hydrant where I was when I was saved, I would have jumped over it, because I experienced the difference between pleasure and joy. I discovered in my own conversion the same thing John Guest discovered.

Psalm 51 is the greatest example of repentance that we find anywhere in Scripture. In this psalm, David, under the conviction of the Holy Spirit, is brought to repentance for his sin with and against Bathsheba. He is broken and contrite in his heart, and he comes before God and begs for forgiveness. He says, “Restore to me the joy of your salvation” (v. 12a). Those who have experienced the forgiveness of God and the initial joy of it always need to have that joy restored, to have the guilt of their continuing sin removed so joy may return. As we seek forgiveness from God on a day-to-day basis, we return to the beginning of our joy—the day we discovered that our names are written in heaven.

Untold billions of people have never experienced the joy of salvation. If you are one of them, I say to you that there is nothing like it in the world. Just imagine having every sin that you have ever committed erased by God, having all of the guilt you have accumulated and the attendant feelings of guilt removed. That’s what Christ came to do. He wants to give us joy, not power or success. His gift is the joy that comes from knowing that our names are written in heaven.

This excerpt is taken from the free ebook Can I Have Joy in My Life? by R.C. Sproul. You can download all of R.C. Sproul’s Crucial Questions booklets for free here.

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3 Reasons to Preach Through Daniel

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The book of Daniel isn’t about Daniel. The book of Daniel is about Daniel’s God. If what you’ve taught or learned from this soaring book is that you should “dare to be a Daniel,” then I’m afraid you entirely missed the point.

This book is more than a hero tale that inspires us to live a courageous life for God amid hard circumstances. If we preach the book like this, then the sovereign, destiny-determining God of Daniel is ironically swept to the side.

Nonetheless, this book deserves a place in your preaching schedule. And I don’t mean just the first six chapters—you know, the ones with the masterfully narrated stories. Preaching Daniel also means digging into the seemingly strange visions of the final six chapters. Throughout the whole book, we meet the Most High God who is sovereignly ruling over the kings and kingdoms of human history until the Messianic Son of Man consummates history and brings his people into the everlasting Kingdom of God.

Consider with me several reasons why your church should hear from this faithful prophet of old.

1. Daniel teaches Christians to be faithful where they are planted.

The book tragically begins with King Nebuchadnezzar of Babylon conquering Judah and taking Daniel and his three friends (and the temple vessels) into exile (1:1–7). From the beginning, Daniel makes clear that this is not a conflict between two peoples but between false gods and the true God. Babylon seeks to remake Daniel and his friends into its image, immersing them in their language and literature, dictating their diet, and giving them new Babylonian names that reflect the gods of their new land (1:4–7). In Babylon, God’s people face complete cultural and theological domination.

And yet, Daniel doesn’t wage a culture war because he understands that while he may be in exile, his God is not. Daniel lives in faith where God has placed him, being conformed to his God not those of Babylon. In fact, at the end of chapter 1, we learn that Daniel remained in Babylon for over 70 years, until the first year of King Cyrus. That’s seven decades of quiet faithfulness, of disciplined resistance to loving this world and its passing desires, of a long obedience in the same direction and in a land completely hostile to Yahweh. Don’t our people need to catch a vision of that kind of discipleship?

Daniel has a word for exiled Christians: we must take the long view in the lands where God has planted us. Whether we’re citizens of the country in which we currently live or not, our true citizenship is in heaven (Phil. 3:20), and we’re to live out our earthly citizenship in light of our heavenly one. Daniel teaches us that God’s purposes are long, and we should trust him, confident that he will use our ordinary faithfulnesses in more extraordinary ways than we can see or imagine.

Too often, when we think of Daniel we think of the heroic moments, and in the process overlook thousands of ordinary, unseen moments in which he chose faithfulness over folly. So it must be for God’s people today as we live in exile, precisely where God has placed us.

2. Daniel exposes the folly of idolatry.

From the great statue of gold that Nebuchadnezzar set up (3:1, 2, 3, 5, 7) to King Darius’ proclamation that he alone be petitioned as the sole mediator between the people of his realm and the gods (6:6–9), Daniel teaches us that idolatry is folly. Either for glory or destruction, we become what we worship (12:2–3). In this book filled with visions of beasts who will rule empires throughout history, Daniel makes plain that those who worship the beast will become like beasts themselves (4:28–33).[1] It is not the fleeting kings of this world whose word stands but the Most High God who rules the kingdom of men and gives it to whom he will (4:32; 7:23–27; 9:18–26; 11:2–45; 12:2–3).

In a world filled with false gods made by human hands, Daniel reveals that it is the God who is not made by human hands who alone is worthy of worship (2:45; 8:25). Until Babylon falls, God’s people will be enticed by idols and need to see idolatry in all its folly. Daniel shows us that no matter how alluring idols are, they’re empty. And that’s a message our churches need continually to hear.

3. Daniel upholds the sovereign God who reigns over everything.

In Daniel, we meet the God who rules over everything so that all will know that the Most High rules the kingdom of men and gives it to whom he wills (4:25). Whether it’s Nebuchadnezzar’s dreams in chapters 2 and 4, or the confidence that undergirds Daniel’s prayers in chapters 2 and 9, Daniel reveals to us that God is sovereign over everyone and everything. He changes times and seasons; he removes kings and sets up kings (2:21).

This God evokes such confidence in his people that Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego could extol his sovereign power to deliver them from the fiery furnace (3:17) while at the same time confidently say, “But if not…we will not serve your gods or worship the golden image you have set up” (3:18). The God of Daniel is not made with human hands, and he cannot be thwarted by the idols that are.

For all the varied and even strange interpretations that the visions of the last six chapters have yielded, what cannot be mistaken is that they are screaming: “The true God reigns!” In the end, it will not be Babylon or Persia or the United States or any other kingdom that stands. No, no—dominion, glory and the kingdom will be given to one like a son of man, and all peoples, nations and languages should serve him (7:13–14).

Our people need to hear this. While we all live in and love various earthly kingdoms, we do so best when we love them in light of our eternal king and his eternal kingdom. Human history will be characterized by the rise and fall of kings and kingdoms, but there is one king who rules over them all, and his kingdom is forever (chs. 7–12). Isn’t that good news for God’s people in a world that continually offers lesser kings and kingdoms?

CONCLUSION

Far from being an irrelevant book that’s unhinged from the eschatological vision of the New Testament, Daniel undergirds and enhances it. Daniel speaks to God’s exiled people today (1 Peter 1:1) who still wait for a better king and better kingdom.

Until our years of exile end, we will be people who live and wait in faith. Thankfully, Daniel gives us rock-solid confidence that our God is bringing every one of his purposes to pass. So, pastors, preach this book! Preach all of it. And be confident that your people need to behold Daniel’s God and faithfully live in light of his sovereign power just as much in our day as they did in Daniel’s.

Suggested Commentaries

I loved Andrew Steinmann’s commentary. Written from an amillennial viewpoint, Steinmann helpfully addresses major issues in the book. Steinnman is a Lutheran, so he sees law/gospel distinctions everywhere. But this is a thorough commentary that is very useful for preachers.

Read Jim Hamilton’s With the Clouds of Heaven: The Book of Daniel in Biblical Theology, before you preach this book. If you can’t, consult it while preaching though it. Hamilton sets the prophesied kingdoms in their biblical-theological frameworks and shows how the Spirit-inspired New Testament writers unpack this book. He also gives much-needed help as you work through the difficult 70 weeks of Daniel 9. Hamilton will help you see the big picture and the gloriously rich biblical-theological themes that pervade the book of Daniel.

For a different view of the 70 weeks in Daniel 9, I suggest reading Peter Gentry’s “Daniel’s Seventy Weeks and the New Exodus” in the Southern Baptist Journal of Theology.

E.J. Young’s The Prophecy of Daniel is a classic and well worth using. It’s not as filled out as Steinmann’s and is considerably shorter, but it helpfully breaks down difficult passages and contains a number of solid gold nuggets.

Both Iain Duguid (Reformed Expository Commentary) and Dale Ralph Davis (Bible Speaks Today) have compiled the sermons they preached through Daniel, which may help you with categories of application that you missed.

FOOTNOTE:

[1]I am indebted to both Greg Beale and Jim Hamilton for their writing on this topic. See G.K. Beale. We Become What We Worship: A Biblical Theology of Idolatry (Downers Grove, IL: Intervarsity Press, 2008) and Jim Hamilton. With Clouds of Heaven: The Book of Daniel in Biblical Theology in New Studies in Biblical Theology ed. D.A. Carson (Downers Grove, IL: Intervarsity Press, 2014).

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Satanic Temple Holiday Display Dubs the Snake Hero of the Fall

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Joining the traditional nativity scene and menorah in the Illinois Capitol rotunda this month is a statue that’s been dubbed Snaketivity. Sponsored by The Satanic Temple’s Chicago chapter, the work depicts a snake coiled around Eve’s arm as she holds an apple.

Officially titled Knowledge Is the Greatest Gift, the statue portrays Satan as the hero in the Fall narrative, according to group spokesman Lex Manticore. Seeking knowledge is “the greatest individual pursuit of bettering yourself,” he says, “and we believe that you should basically act with the best scientific understanding of the world when you make decisions.”

Any group—religious or not—can apply for a display, as long as content isn’t funded by taxpayers. A nearby sign notes that the rotunda’s first floor is a public place, so the First Amendment prevents state officials from censoring content. Also in the rotunda is a winter solstice statement from the Freedom From Religion Foundation. Ten years ago, a Springfield resident applied to display a Festivus pole.

Secretary of State spokesman Dave Druker says only a few complaints have been lodged, but some have been “vociferous.” On Twitter, Illinois Family Action wrote that Snaketivity’s defenders “fail to realize that the little baby in the manger has CRUSHED Satan’s head and the gates of hell will NOT prevail.”

What the Satanic Temple Represents

Manticore, a leader of the 150-member Chicago chapter, says The Satanic Temple doesn’t believe in “anything supernatural,” meaning it has “no deities.” He adds, “Not only do we not worship a literal Satan, but we don’t believe one actually exists.” Instead, Satan serves as a historical metaphor for “a character that represents rebellion in the face of religious tyranny.” Regarding the statue, Manticore says, “We just want equal representation.”

Co-founder Lucien Greaves says The Satanic Temple is “on the front lines in the war against encroaching theocracy.” The non-theistic organization aims to “encourage benevolence and empathy among all people, reject tyrannical authority, advocate practical common sense and justice, and be directed by the human conscience to undertake noble pursuits guided by the individual will.”

The Group Has Used Similar Tactics Before

This isn’t the first appearance of provocative statues. Previously, The Satanic Temple displayed a snake at Michigan’s Capitol, and this year a haloed goat head is in its place.

In response to the controversial Ten Commandments monument at the Arkansas Capitol, this summer The Satanic Temple unveiled a statue of Baphomet, a goat-headed winged creature. Ivy Forrester, co-founder of the group’s Arkansas chapter, said, “If you’re going to have one religious monument up, then it should be open to others, and if you don’t agree with that, then let’s just not have any at all.”

Previously, the group has publicly opposed the divisive Westboro Baptist Church in Kansas and sponsored controversial after-school Satan clubs. Various chapters also work to adopt highways and fight laws that “unscientifically restrict women’s reproductive anatomy.”

Last month, The Satanic Temple sued Netflix for copyright infringement after “The Chilling Adventures of Sabrina” featured a statue similar to its own.

There Is No Such Thing as Worldly Security

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This article was first published on GoThereFor.com, a resource library for disciple-making hosted by Matthias Media (https://www.matthiasmedia.com/), and has been republished with permission.

That’s what my minister said during a sermon, and I instantly felt the relief that accompanies forehead-slapping “of course!” realizations.

It’s not like it was really news to me. I know this life is fleeting. Everything can change in a moment. The tumour turns cancerous. The home is robbed. The child walks behind a reversing car.

Finances have been a bit more precarious than my husband and I would like in the last few years. We’ve both been tempted to feel sorry for ourselves, especially in comparison to other families around us. But when I went home after that sermon, I sat on our donated couch and glanced around at our borrowed table and our gifted bookshelf and our competition-prize television and our side-of-the-road fan…and it occurred to me that we hadn’t had to buy a single stick of furniture in that room. Or our bedroom, our toddler’s room—any room. Somehow, when I hadn’t been paying attention, God had answered our prayers and gave us far more than our daily bread.

My praise of God following my pastor’s reminder that my present and future are in God’s constant control didn’t last very long before my heart swung in the opposite direction. All it took was completing our tax returns. Last year, we had received a large sum of money from the government that helped us balance our budget perfectly. It was unexpected, and I was amazed at how God provided perfectly. This year, when we were told that this time we actually owed the government, what did my ungrateful soul demand? “God, where’s my money???”

I had forgotten that the Lord is equally in control in both the times when he provides many material comforts and those when he tells us to make do. Paul says, in the context of finances, “God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus” (Phil 4:19). But the same apostle also describes his own situation at one point as “hunger and thirst…poorly dressed and buffeted and homeless” (1 Cor 4:11). What?

It turned out I hadn’t taken on quite the right message about worldly security. I ended up thinking, “There is no such thing as worldly security…but God certainly provides material security in this world.” I forgot that Jesus says to his followers, “In the world you will have tribulation” (John 16:33), and that Paul lists persecution, famine, nakedness, danger and sword as things that the Christian may go through (Rom 8:35). These parts of God’s word really don’t sound like he promises me a level of physical comfort.

But where is Jesus going with his talk of suffering? He prays to his Father, “I do not ask that you take them out of the world, but that you keep them from the evil one” (John 17:15). How does Paul end his declarations? That none of these things “will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Rom 8:39). My physical body may suffer, there well could be mental distress, but there is spiritual safety at all times for those in Jesus.

So there is no such thing as worldly security, but nor should we even necessarily expect or presume on material security as a gift from God. While he frequently gives us everything we need physically, there are times when he sees fit not to. What he provides instead is eternal security: “We know that if the tent that is our earthly home is destroyed, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens” (2 Cor 5:1).

When I look at all God has provided for me, I ought to give him thanks and credit…but I should not expect it as my due. When I am lacking something, be it food or peace or health, I must take the approach that the world sees as foolish—to refuse to lay up treasure for myself, but instead marvel at and await my beautiful future with Christ, who has made me rich in him (2 Cor 8:9).

Year-End Encouragement for Group Leaders

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Year-End Encouragement for Group Leaders

Encouragement is fuel for the soul. To encourage your group leaders, consider expressing appreciation in multiple ways so that all personality types will be receiving encouragement in their preferred way, especially at year-end.

Some leaders enjoy public appreciation. For them:

  • Have the leaders come before the congregation during the worship celebration. Express appreciation to them publicly, then pray for them, commissioning them for the next year.

Some leaders prefer private appreciation. For them:

  •  A hand-written note of from you will go a long way toward making them realize their ministry is making a difference.
  • Have them fill out a form once per year that includes a question asking them for one item under $10 that brightens their day. (You can choose a different amount of money as well.) That will give you a list of small gift ideas for each leader, and you can privately give personalized tokens of appreciation.

Another idea: Ask members of the groups to write a care or note of thanks to their group leader and present it at a year-end group celebration. You could contact one person in each group and ask them to organize this.

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Top 10 Books Written by Women That I Read in 2018

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Tis the season for Top Ten lists. I keep noticing almost every list I read contains mostly books written by men, which I find not at all surprising, but a little bit saddening. About a year ago a conversation ensued on social media wherein it was reported that women read more than men, but men read more men than women. I thought perhaps, with this self-awareness, we’d see a bit of a shift in the Top Ten lists of men who write or blog, but alas, we haven’t. There are a few notable exceptions (I think of Eric Schumacher who is doing his tireless best to promote female writers in the church right now, or Steve Bezner (who someone needs to eke a book out of soon. He is, as someone on Twitter said recently, pure gold), Chuck Degroat, Seth Haines and a few others.), but overall the lists are out and the men have spoken: They’re still reading (or liking) mainly men.

Though I know the sentiment isn’t as sweet from a woman, I thought I’d share my top 10 books by women this year with the assurance that these are actually my top 10 books this year—and not just a conciliatory nod toward my own gender. Women are writing more and better books and I’m deeply grateful.

A Light So Lovely, by Sarah Arthur. This is a book on the spiritual legacy left by Madeleine L’Engle. I first read L’Engle because my mom wouldn’t let me read The Babysitter’s Club. What I might lack in pop-culture knowledge, I gained tenfold by becoming a voracious reader of all L’Engle’s work. No other writer has had as much influence on my voice as a writer as dear Madeleine. This book by Sarah Arthur is a masterpiece.

Sacred Rhythms, by Ruth Haley Barton. Some people find Spiritual Disciplines invigorating and natural, I find them difficult to maintain and sometimes dry. On a list of books for each Enneagram type to read, Sacred Rhythms was for the 9—my type. No other book this year has convicted me as simply and peacefully as this book has. Some people need to be sucker punched for conviction, I need to be wooed. This book has encouraged me to see the beauty in God’s design for the seasons of life.

Why Can’t We Be Friends, by Aimee Byrd. I honestly cannot figure out why more people aren’t talking about this book. Can’t figure out if it’s lack of curiosity or, worse, a reticence to be convicted by her words. This is a book, mainly, on friendship between opposite genders within the church. My copy is so underlined and dog-eared it’s probably unreadable by anyone else.

Love Thy Body, by Nancy Pearcey. This reads more like a thesis than the self-help book the title suggests. I put off reading it because of the title until I needed it for research for my book, and I wish now more people had talked about it. There are certainly points at which I disagree with her message, but it is a book that should be read by Christians.

The New Jim Crow, Michelle Alexander. I read half of this last year and half this year, over December and January, so I’m counting it for this year. This was among the most difficult reads of my year and yet I cannot recommend it more highly. You will either love this book or hate it, but you should read it and prepare your heart for honest evaluation.

Born to Wander, by Michelle Van Loon. I read this one when it was just a galley and wished I’d had a hard copy to mark up and dog-ear then. It felt like reading an exposé on my own heart, its wanderlust, and desire for home. If you feel like an elect exile, but also an exile in general, I cannot recommend it more highly. It’s not a long book, but it’s a good one.

All That’s Good, Hannah Anderson. Hannah never fails to incite thought in her readers. She’s never one to tell you exactly what to think, but is adept at deconstructing assumptions about, well, everything. In All That’s Good she talks about the lost art of discernment and how to practice it afresh in this information age.

Gay Girl, Good God, Jackie Hill Perry. I lent my copy out so it’s not in the photo below, but the cadance you’d expect from Jackie comes through full force in this book. It’s a beautifully communicated story and I think the church needs story more than anything right now.

Courage Dear Heart, Rebecca Reynolds. Rebecca is one of my favorite people on social media today. Especially on Facebook. I rarely read anything on Facebook, but if Rebecca wrote it, I will for sure read it. She posted snippets of this book as she wrote it and it whet my appetite so much that I read the whole book in one sitting when I got it. It’s written as a series of letters to those suffering, in pain, fear and more. It’s beautiful.

The Path Between Us, Suzanne Stabile. If you’re on the “Enneagram is dumb” train, you can stop reading now. I feel no need to convince you. And a mere identification of your “type” is unhelpful at best, harmful at worst. But an exploration of more can be helpful. In our family, we’ve found it helpful. This book addresses how to commune with and understand others in a very practical way.

Here’s What It’s Like Being a Church Leader and Depressed

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Blameless.

A leader and lover in the home.

Self-controlled.

Disciplined.

Honest.

Hospitable.

One who holds firmly to the truth.

These are just some of the qualifications that the Bible holds out for leaders in the church (Titus 2, 1 Timothy 3).

As a church leader, these qualifications can seem daunting. They set the bar high and I am grateful for the grace of God when I fall short of them.

After all, I too, am human.

Like every believer, I live with a tension of who I want to be and who I actually am. I press on in living more like Christ every day, but the core of the gospel reminds me that I can’t be perfected outside of his grace.

Scripture asks me to speak truth to the church. And if I’m being honest, I don’t have it all together.

I am a pastor who lives with depression.

And nowhere in scripture am I disqualified for it.

The Geek’s Real Christmas List

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It is hard to believe the holiday season is in full swing. Ministry and family life are colliding. The last thing you need is a long article. My gift to you this season is a short list to help all those who serve in tech ministries truly celebrate the season. It’s the Geek’s Real Christmas List. 🙂

  1. Put your phone down. Don’t gather together with family and friends and stare at your phones. You can do that from the comfort of your own home without getting out of bed or doing your hair. Put. Your. Phone. Down.
  2. Disconnect. Serve hard reaching as many people with the good news of Christmas in as many creative ways as possible. When it is over, disconnect, step aside, and focus ministering to your family and friends. Ministering to them is different, but just as important.
  3. Celebrate the birth that makes this all possible. Obvious, yes, but do you? Do we? How?
  4. Talk to your family. Even if you aren’t all staring at your phones when gathered together, often times the conversation is all about things to avoid, religion, politics, etc. Instead, focus on ministering to those you don’t see very often by taking a keen interest in them. Love your family and friends with the kind of love Christ had to come and be born of a virgin. Here’s a hint: awkward silence isn’t it.
  5. Pick up your Bible. If nothing else spend some time reading the Christmas Story, and not the one that starts with “Twas the night before….” I’m talking about the one that starts, “Now in those days a decree went out from Caesar Augustus…” (Luke 2) Maybe after Christmas, you need to consider a New Year’s goal or resolution to spend more time in the Word.
  6. Don’t worry about work and ministry. Jesus was born of a virgin fulfilling centuries of prophecy. He’s got this.
  7. Tell people you appreciate them and what they do. Don’t assume they know. Some intentional, verbal encouragement might be the best gift you can give. You know, the old-fashioned way.
  8. Go ahead, have another piece of pie. It’s ok. Let loose a little and de-stress a bit.
  9. Don’t overcomplicate things. Enjoy the season as opposed to dreading the celebratory details. Many times the holidays are stressful because our productions are too complex and our family gatherings are even more complex. Gather for joy, not for death by details
  10. Remember in all that Jesus is the reason. Celebrate and enjoy but make sure all those you encounter know Jesus was born and that’s why we work hard, serve hard, and celebrate hard.

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Almost 700 Catholic Clergy in Illinois Accused of Sexual Abuse

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The attorney general for the state of Illinois has revealed findings from an ongoing investigation into the Catholic Church and has accused almost 700 clergy members of sexually abusing children. This number is much higher than the church’s own initial estimate of 185.

“By choosing not to thoroughly investigate allegations, the Catholic Church has failed in its moral obligation to provide survivors, parishioners and the public a complete and accurate accounting of all sexually inappropriate behavior involving priests in Illinois,” said Attorney General Lisa Madigan. “The failure to investigate also means that the Catholic Church has never made an effort to determine whether the conduct of the accused priests was ignored or covered up by superiors.”

As noted, the state of Illinois is not done with its investigation. Madigan said she wanted to release the preliminary results of her office’s findings because “the Church has too often ignored survivors of clergy sexual assault.”

What Prompted the Investigation

There are six dioceses in the state of Illinois. When Madigan began the investigation, only two of them had lists of priests publicly acknowledged to be alleged child molesters. During the course of the investigation, the other four dioceses followed suit until all six eventually produced 185 names of accused clergy members. Madigan anticipates that more names will be reported as the investigation proceeds.

The sexual abuse scandals plaguing the Catholic Church go back years, but recently came to the forefront of national attention again in August of 2018. This was because a more than 900-page grand jury report came out detailing decades of crimes against children at the hands of clergy. The investigation looked at six dioceses in the state of Pennsylvania, spanned two years, and reviewed the testimony of victims, as well as a half-million of the church’s internal documents. The church’s response to the abuse was, according to the grand jury, “a playbook for concealing the truth.”

After the grand jury’s report came out, Madigan opened her investigation in Illinois. One reason Madigan has given for the church’s failure to adequately investigate sexual abuse is that the accused clergy are deceased or had already resigned at the time the abuse was reported. This is something that the Archdiocese of Chicago has denied in its response to Madigan’s findings. The archdiocese has also stated that it looks into and reports all claims of sexual abuse.

The Nation Takes Action

Since the grand jury’s report in August, at least 14 attorneys general have announced investigations into whether clergy members have committed abuse in their states, and the U.S. Department of Justice is in the middle of what USA Today calls a “broader review.” In addition, officials from 45 states have sought counsel from Pennsylvania authorities regarding how to investigate abuse within the Catholic Church.

Referring to the Illinois findings, Zach Hiner, executive director of the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP), told Agence France Presse, “This report is both shocking and exactly what we expected. We’ve known for a long time that church officials have been ignoring and minimizing allegations of abuse and this report is just yet another proof point that it is a systemic issue, not a highly localized one.”

This Is Not a Joke: John Crist Slams Lauren Daigle Critics

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John Crist is known for making bold statements (veiled in comedy most of the time) on controversial issues in the church. Crist just made another statement, but this time he didn’t bother to sugarcoat the heart of his message. Speaking of the backlash Christian artist Lauren Daigle has received for her recent comments on homosexuality, Crist has a succinct message for her nay-sayers: “get out” and “shut up.”

Lauren Daigle “has done more for the kingdom in a year than you will do in five lifetimes,” the comedian says in a video posted to his Instagram account.

Crist takes issue with critics of Daigle who heard about or listened to a recent interview the artist did with radio host Domenick Nati. In the interview, Nati asks Daigle if she believes homosexuality is a sin. Daigle responded she can’t “honestly answer” because many people she loves are gay. “I can’t say one way or the other. I’m not God,” she went on. When people ask her that question, she usually encourages them to study the Bible and come to their own conclusions. Daigle added, “And when you find out, let me know, ‘cause I’m learning too.”

Critics of Daigle believe she should have explicitly called homosexuality a sin. Some are asking others to stop listening to Daigle’s music. Some, as Crist points out in his video, are making the “shallow” argument that Daigle might not be a Christian based on this response. They are also questioning whether Daigle should have appeared on The Ellen Show since the host is homosexual. 

Who Are We to Question Whether Lauren Daigle Is a Christian or Not?

Crist says, “I probably did 27 things yesterday that if you had witnessed, you would be like, ‘Wow. I thought he was a Christian.’” He then lists things such as scrolling through Instagram instead of reading his Bible and cutting someone off to get into the Taco Bell drive through. His point is we all do things that others can point to and consequently question our standing with God. Daigle is no different.

In the meantime, Crist believes Daigle has done much to advance God’s kingdom. “Lauren Daigle—I’m sorry, like hundreds of songs lifting up the name of the Lord and led people to the Kingdom and articles and stories,” he continued, “and one time she doesn’t say something that isn’t how you liked it? Get out.”

The comedian says he understands holding people to higher standards, but “if you have a negative opinion about another person that you don’t know personally, just like have it, and then just like throw it away.”

Crist gets visibly upset a couple of times in the 1:32-video. At one point he places his Snapple-laden hand over his eyes and cuts the video. The words “I’m legit heated” appear over the video at this point.

The comedian also refers to the flack Pastor John Gray has received recently for purchasing his wife a luxury vehicle. Lumping the controversial actions of Daigle and Gray together, Crist says, “If you’re going to come out with your pious John Gray or Lauren Daigle trash talk, then every Tweet, every song that gets played, every post, every Instagram that glorifies the name of the Lord should just be celebrated…and if you’re not, then shut up.”

To hear Crist’s full “rant” (that does include more of Crist’s quintessential humor), you can watch the video on his Instagram page.

FBI Releases 472-Page Report on Threats to Billy Graham

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The FBI has just made public 472 pages of documents on the late Rev. Billy Graham. It is common for the FBI to release files on prominent leaders after those leaders have passed away. The files on Graham document various insults and threats against him, as well as against other high-profile contemporaries of his. These include President Gerald Ford, President Richard Nixon, and various people in the CIA, FBI and Congress. You can download the FBI’s full report here.

Threatening Letters

“We are sick and tired of supporting dishonest men, deceitful men, lying men,” wrote one woman in 1975. “We are sending a copy of this letter to that phony preacher man Billy Graham. He is as wicked as the CIA. We are fed up with such wickedness in high places and it [sic] time to kill all the CIA men. Old phony Graham don’t preach on CIA from the Bible because he don’t know his Bible that well.”

The woman who penned the letter was from Des Moines, Iowa, and was a member of the Symbionese Liberation Army. A judge determined that she was mentally ill, which was his reason for not prosecuting her at the time. According to the FBI, the woman acknowledged sending the 1975 letter, as well as another one in 1974. In the earlier letter, she threatened to kill the FBI and its director, as well as Richard Nixon, who was president at the time.

When questioned by the FBI, the woman claimed she was only trying to help those in authority, who it was good for to be aware of evil leaders. She also said she didn’t mean any “personal harm” against the people she had threatened, despite the fact that she had written the following words: “We will kill the U.S. lawmakers—Congress and presidents and CIA. You reap what you sow and we’re going to make you reap death. We’ll kill you. We are sending a copy of this letter to Billy Graham.”

When questioned, the woman would alternately cry and quote scripture before suddenly switching to laughing.

Graham received another threatening letter in 1984 from a member of the Aryan Nations, also from someone determined to be mentally ill. The FBI’s report also mentions people who, while less extreme, were still persons of interest because of their suspicious behavior, such as expressing an unusual amount of curiosity about Graham.

A Widespread Impact

Because of Billy Graham’s high profile ministry, it is not surprising that he would have had his critics and detractors. Dubbed “America’s pastor” and known for his ministry to the presidents, Graham was a famous and beloved evangelist who preached the gospel to 215 million people in over 185 countries, not counting those who heard him through TV, radio and his writings. Some believe he has shared the Christian message of salvation with more people than any other preacher.

The Rev. Graham died on Feb. 21st, 2018 at age 99 at his home in Montreat, North Carolina.

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