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The Hundred-Year Influence of Henrietta Mears

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Throughout this year, I’ve been engaging with four very large biographies. In Light of Eternity: Leonard Ravenhill, Just As I Am: Billy Graham’s autobiography, DL Moody: A Life, and Dream Big: The Henrietta Mears Story. Along with some other reading, including anything I can get my hands on by Francis Schaeffer, and Jerry Bridges, this has made up the bulk of my reading time. The four biographies together comprise over two thousand pages, rich with stories of faith and God at work in our world through individuals.

THE WAY GOD CAN USE ONE PERSON FOR HIS GLORY IN SUCH SIGNIFICANT WAYS SURPRISES AND OVERWHELMS MY SOUL.

I’ve begun to see so clearly that God is not looking for people of great talent, wealth or notoriety, but simply for ordinary people full of faith and the Holy Spirit. He loves to use ordinary people, NLT). God essentially says, I have come to rescue them, now go for I am sending you as My rescue. When God is looking to move in new ways, He always looks for people who are committed to Him, to use in powerful ways.

I’VE BEEN FASCINATED FOR SEVERAL YEARS NOW BY THE STORY AND LEGACY OF HENRIETTA MEARS. HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF HER?

I believe many Christians have not, and yet her influence has likely affected nearly every single one of you reading this. Let me tell you some of her story…

Henrietta’s roots actually go back to Minnesota (where we are from), where for many years she taught in the Minneapolis public school system, while also serving at First Baptist Church downtown in Sunday School. In the middle of her life, she took a year off, and during some time down in Southern California was tapped to be the Christian Education Director at Hollywood Presbyterian Church. This proves to be a significant turning point for her, as God began to use her in the lives of young people in the region.

The group, consisting of young people and college students at that time was several hundred students, but quickly grew into the thousands of young people who gathered to hear her teach the Word of God. She had an extraordinary gift of teaching the Bible and guiding people in practical ways to follow Jesus.

A significant part of her influence in ministry was through the lives of those young people she mentored and discipled:

  • Bill and Vonette Bright – Founder of Campus Crusade for Christ, which has ministered to millions of people through 25,000 missionaries in 191 countries, including ministries at 1,700 college and university campuses.
  • Dawson Trotman – Founder of the Navigators, which now has 4,600 staff in 103 nations.
  • Jim Rayburn – Founder of YoungLife, which now represents more than 700 ministries in 324 cities around the world.
  • Richard Halvorson – who went on to serve as the U.S. Senate Chaplain for 15 years, as well as the chairman of World Vision for 20 years.
  • Ronald Reagan – who became the 40th President of the United States.
  • Billy Graham – who went on to communicate the gospel of Jesus to more people than anyone in human history. She played a key role in Billy’s life right before the famous 1949 crusade which led to the conversion of Louis Zamperini and other famous people in the area, and catapulted Billy’s ministry into the national spotlight. I shared a short video earlier this year about this significant moment when Henrietta impacted Billy’s faith.

5 Great Ways to Find Your Preaching Voice

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It’s not hard to tell who’s influencing rookie preachers with their preaching voice, it tends to come out in their delivery. Sometimes when I’m listening to young guys preach, I can see John Piper in their “exaltation” expressions, or Tim Keller in their “conversational” style, or Matt Chandler in their “are you tracking with me” statements. Finding your preaching voice can be difficult, so here are some tips to help you along the way.

Finding Your Preaching Voice

1. Reps, reps and more reps.

The best way to find your own preaching voice is to preach. So you’re not the primary preaching pastor, OK look for other opportunities. Find a local rescue mission and volunteer to preach a service once a month. Teach a Sunday school or life group class. If you can’t preach in those settings, ask your pastor if you can use the church sanctuary to practice a sermon. Preach to yourself in the mirror. Do whatever it takes to get practice. There’s no telling how many pets of mine have come to faith in Christ from listening to me practice sermons. I’ve stopped mid-sermon many times in my living room and thought, that’s dumb, or that’s heresy, or that was cheesy. Better to discover all that in the living room alone than on the stage in front of the congregation.

The more reps you get the more it will become like muscle memory when you are preaching to a live crowd.

P.S. If you are a lead pastor, find ways to get younger preachers opportunities to practice. Use Wednesday nights and men’s breakfast meetings to engage them in speaking the Word.

2. Watch and listen to your own sermons!

I know it hurts, but if you want to find your voice you need to listen to yourself preach. You’re probably your own worst critic so don’t be too hard on yourself. You will notice quickly the awkward points in your sermon. Ask these questions of your sermons:

  1. What fillers did I use?
  2. What was the main point of my sermon?
  3. Was the main point of my sermon the main point of the text?
  4. Did I sound like me or was it forced?
  5. As a hearer, do I have a sense of confidence in the preacher?
  6. Did I speak clearly with good voice inflection and appropriate eye contact and hand gestures?

3. Get feedback from someone who knows good preaching.

One of my preaching professors used to say the first day of Sermon Delivery, check your ego at the door. This is the last time someone will be honest with you about your sermon. Parents, grandparents and the older members of your congregation will probably just tell you how good your sermons are, even if they are terrible.

Find someone who knows you and good preaching, and ask them for loving but honest feedback. Sometimes an outside voice can help you with your blind spots. After a couple of sermons, my wife asked why I keep using the phrase “setting to rights.” I had been reading and listening to a ton of N.T. Wright, and while that phrase may be perfectly natural for him as a Brit, it’s not for me in Raleigh, N.C.

I was listening to a lot of E.V. Hill when I suddenly began referring to my congregation as “beloved children.” I’m not E.V. Hill nor am I old enough in ministry to refer to my congregation as “beloved children.” I enjoyed listening to these men and I’m richly blessed by them, but I was picking up stylistic features that weren’t my voice.

Put your ego to the side and listen to good feedback.

4. Listen to a variety of preachers.

You may love H.B. Charles, but if you only listen to him you will sound like him. You should listen to preachers from various denominations, ethnicities, backgrounds and styles. This approach will help you as you find your voice to be less a clone and more a mosaic.

As a side note here, don’t just pick things up from superstar preachers, listen to the faithful preaching of your own local church pastor. Finding your preaching voice is not learning to be a pulpiteer, but a shepherd through the spoken word. Your pastor can help you with this more than big name preachers.

5. Be consumed with the truths of Scripture, not the delivery styles of men.

A lady told me on the way out of church one day, “You really believe what you’re preaching and that makes the difference.” When you are convinced of the truth you are preaching it will spill over through your own personality. It’s good to learn from other preachers, but let your heart burn with the burden of the gospel and the truths of Scripture, then it will translate into your preaching. The preachers you mimic show you their natural disposition to being consumed by the Word. So, if you focus on the Bible, your preaching voice will naturally rise to the surface in your delivery.

I heard an old pastor say preachers are the oddest people in the world. From my experience, I tend to agree with him. God has called you in all your uniqueness and he will equip you to preach in the power of the Spirit. Keep preaching, never stop learning and you will find your preaching voice. The God of all glory will speak through you.

What Would You Add?

This article originally appeared here.

A Pastor Walks Into a Gay Bar And…

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Charles Darwin said that a scientific man should have “no wishes, no affections, a mere heart of stone.” That may pass in some scientific circles. But those who follow the way of the cross ought to be defined first by our theology, then biology. Theos > bios.

Good apologists who are on mission seek to thoughtfully answer the questions that people are actually asking.

Peter says that we are to always be ready to give an answer (a defense!) for the hope that lies within us. So, yes, we must be sharp in our apologetics. However, the verse implies that people are actually asking you about your faith because of its radical nature! If nobody’s asking, you’re off mission. Bottom line.

I certainly don’t have all of the answers. I, like you, see through a blurry glass. That doesn’t mean every issue is blurry. But what it does mean is that we certainly don’t have exhaustive knowledge about everyone and everything. Omniscience still belongs to God alone.

Our job today is to attempt to speak where God has spoken. I write the following with all the love and grace I can possibly muster up.

I am often asked about my church planting experience in Georgia. I went about church planting in a very unconventional manner. (Zero, zilch fundraising whatsoever, for example.) But beyond that, I planted a church in a gay-friendly rock ‘n’ roll bar.

Yes. I said it. Gay.

In my town, there wasn’t a “gay bar,” but this place was the place one could go if you were gay, bi, straight, married, single, dating, whatever. Tolerance and diversity was the name of the game (which is great because I can’t think of anyone who appreciates and practices patience nor diversity better than God himself).

Friends Don’t Let Pastors Go to Gay Bars

In December of 2006, I started making some decisions informed by the Bible, led by the Holy Spirit, with my wife’s blessing and support, and a few godly friends around me. You see, I became incredibly convicted reading the gospels and seeing that Jesus was called “a friend of drunkards and sinners.” This began keeping me up at night. It was all I could think about.

“Friend?” What does that even mean?

I looked through my phone and calendar and saw that his reputation and mine weren’t remotely alike. Touching the untouchables. Forgiving the worst folks in society. An advocate for the poor and the marginalized. Loving the throw-aways.

Restoring dignity to a prostitute? Are you kidding? How did he do this? Why would he do this?

Bill Hybels’ Successor Resigns From Willow Creek—Effective Immediately

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Steve Carter, Lead Teaching Pastor of Willow Creek Community Church in Illinois, has announced his resignation—effective immediately. Mentioning new allegations against the church’s founder, Bill Hybels, Carter says his decision to leave is due to the way the current leadership of the church is handling the controversy.

“The new facts and allegations that came to light this morning are horrifying… These most recent revelations have also compelled me to make public my decision to leave, as much as it grieves me to go,” Carter writes.

New Allegations and the Resignation of Steve Carter

Carter made the announcement on his blog Sunday afternoon. While he made the decision to leave “many weeks ago” and communicated that decision to the elder board of the church, the board asked Carter to hold off on announcing his resignation to the congregation. The board wished to determine the best way to announce his leaving. However, new allegations (the details of which were published in an article in the New York Times Sunday morning) involving another former Willow Creek staff member hastened Carter’s need to act.

Pat Baranowski’s story is definitely hard to read through. She describes unwanted touching and groping by Hybels while she worked as his assistant for more than eight years, starting in 1985. Baranowski also lived with Hybels and his wife, Lynne, for two years. When Baranowski expressed guilt and concern over what she and Hybels had done together, Hybels put a plan in place for her transition off the church staff. Her story includes similar themes to Nancy Beach’s and Vonda Dyer’s stories, who both claim to have been the object of Hybel’s inappropriate advances and then edged out of the church after a time.

When the allegations first came to the public’s attention in April, the elder board sided with Hybels, echoing his statement that the allegations against him were untrue and that those bringing them were “colluding” against him. The leaders held this position until they started changing their story beginning in May, saying at that time that they no longer believed the women and other involved in reporting their stories had “colluded” against Hybels to force him into an early retirement and tarnish his legacy. In June, the elder board announced they spoke of the allegations and those who made them in the wrong manner and apologized. However, no statement has yet been made to indicate the board believes Hybels is, in fact, guilty of the inappropriate advances and harassment.

Apparently, though, Carter has been uneasy about the board’s response from the beginning. “Since the first women came forward with their stories, I have been gravely concerned about our church’s official response, and its ongoing approach to these painful issues,” he writes. Carter believes there is a “fundamental difference in judgment between what I believe is necessary for Willow Creek to move in a positive direction” and what the board believes is necessary.

Steve Carter and Heather Larson Respond to the Allegations

Carter is just one-half of Hybels’ succession plan. His co-leader, Heather Larson, was at the service today (Carter did not appear on stage) and spoke of the church’s exuberance for the upcoming Global Leadership Summit. While not mentioning Hybels, Larson told the congregation she “believe[s] to her toes that this church has never been about a person or about a personality.” Larson shared a statement with the congregation on June 30, 2018, in which she apologized to the women who had brought allegations forward, saying, “To the women directly, I can’t imagine how painful the past months have been for you, and I am so sorry for my part in that.”

Carter also made a statement on June 30, citing an article written by Scot McKnight, who attended Willow Creek in the past. McKnight wrote an injustice had been done to the women who came forward about Hybels. Carter said he believed the women who came forward and agreed with McKnight’s assessment of the situation. Instead of swiftly brushing the allegations aside as lies, Carter believes “what our church needed initially was to practice transparency and repentance, to grieve, and to reflect on what Jesus was inviting us into and to listen to the Holy Spirit. I wish I had done more to prevent the hurtful statements that were made, and to advocate more forcefully for what I believe would have been a more humble and biblical approach.”

As far as Carter is concerned now, he understands that to stand on the stage at Willow Creek is to imply a united front with the elder board, something he is no longer able to do. Describing his decision to part with the board as to two paths diverging, Carter says, “I cannot, in good conscience, appear before you as your Lead Teaching Pastor when my soul is so at odds with the institution.”


More on this story:

Update: John Ortberg Responds to Bill Hybels Allegations

Bill Hybels Announces Resignation, Cites ‘harmful accusations’

Bill Hybels’ Accusers Are Not Ready to Move On

New Allegations Surface in Bill Hybels Investigation

Willow Creek: No Collusion in Bill Hybels Allegations

Is it Wise to Hire Family Members?

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Hiring family members is a highly debated topic loaded with opinions on both sides.

It ranges from leaders who prefer hiring family as a first choice, to those who object to nepotism of any kind.

It might be a spouse, brother or sister, aunt or uncle, and sometimes a staff member’s son or daughter. We can all cite stories that are great examples of success, and stories that seem more like your worst nightmare.

We have family members on staff at 12Stone, and it’s working well. However, we waited until we were about 5,000 in attendance before hiring staff other than temporary part-time and project help. That doesn’t mean you need to wait that long, but it’s wise to go slow.

Don’t be too hasty to hire a family member because it’s quick and done. It’s convenient, but it is much more difficult to fire a family member than to hire one.

Hire family after much thought and prayer, not under pressure or desperation, and hire because they are really good at what they do.

There are several things you can do to help lower any impression of nepotism as well as safeguard against the potential realities of conflict from perceived favoritism.

8 guidelines for hiring family wisely:

1) Resist hiring family by default.

You already know, love and trust family members; but it’s wise to interview at least three other legitimate candidates for the position.

Invest in careful consideration, interview others, make sure there are no unaddressed caution flags, and talk about the impacts on their family life with them as well.

2) Always hire for talent, ability and potential.

If you hire family, they need to be extremely good at what they do. This might sound unfair, but it’s smart to raise the bar of expectations higher for family than for others.

A candidate that’s a family member should be more qualified than the others, not equal or less.

When others on the team see that the employee’s contribution is outstanding, questions of favoritism decrease and gratitude for good hiring wisdom increases.

3) Have the tough conversation up front.

Have the difficult conversation before you make the hire, even if it’s awkward.

Set up an informal meeting over coffee with yourself, the person you are considering hiring, and the family member who is on staff. For example, perhaps it’s their spouse.

This is the time to get everything on the table, from crystal clear expectations to the fact that they will be released from staff if it doesn’t work out.

Then ask, “Can you handle that?” Nothing fully prepares a family member for being “let go,” but they will remember the conversation and it will help minimize the hurt, and therefore help in the healing process.

When I lead these conversations (before someone is hired), I emphasize that the relationships are always more important than someone getting a job.

4) If you are the pastor, don’t hire family in the finance department.

You wouldn’t hire someone you don’t trust. In fact, one of the top reasons pastors hire family is because they trust them. But it’s an unwise risk.

When you hire a family member into any position that involves the church checkbook, accounting or finance in general, it is highly likely that you are raising concerns. Candidly, it’s usually a bad idea. You may be the exception, but be careful.

5) Don’t make a family member a direct report.

Intermingling marriage pressures, work pressures, leadership pressures and ministry, in general, is not a good idea.

On rare occasions, I’ve seen it work where one family member is a direct report to another, but I can count the success stories on one hand from dozens of failed attempts.

It’s just that it’s nearly impossible to be completely unbiased in these situations.

When it doesn’t work, no one knows how to get out of it. It’s like a staff divorce, and that’s a mess, so it’s allowed to continue, and the church suffers for it.

6) Never hire family for reasons of benevolence.

Love, grace, generosity and kindness are all wonderful virtues, but poor reasons to hire someone.

You may have a family member who needs extra money or needs a little help until they can get back on their feet, or maybe they want to work at the church.

That’s a terrible reason to hire someone and will nearly always backfire and hurt you and the church in the long run.

If you want to help, do it from your benevolence account.

7) Don’t pay family members higher than other staff members.

This may seem obvious, but it deserves a quick mention that it’s not smart to pay relatives higher than other employees.

Pay family members just precisely the same as you would any other person on staff and only if they perform the same job with the same skill and productivity.

This is another reason it’s not wise to have a family member as a direct report because it’s nearly impossible to conduct an impartial performance review.

8) If it’s the first family member being hired, seek the board’s blessing.

It’s important to have your church board philosophically aligned with you on the topic of hiring family.

I don’t recommend hiring family if the board does not approve of the idea in general.

There is room for difference of opinions and differing levels of enthusiasm, but it’s essential that there is overall alignment.

I share these guidelines from years of experience, and I hope they help you and keep the family happy!

This article originally appeared here.

Dude, Do Young Adults Really Want a Relevant Church?

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A young writer has some advice for church leaders trying desperately to attract and retain young people: Change carefully and wisely.

What young people say they want in their 20s is not necessarily what they want 10 years later.

When I came back to church after a faith crisis in my early 20s, the first one I attended regularly was a place called Praxis. It was the kind of church where the young, hip pastor hoisted an infant into his arms and said with sincerity, “Dude, I baptize you in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.”

The entire service had an air of informality. We sat in folding chairs, sang rock-anthem praise and took clergy-free, buffet-style communion. Once a month, the pastor would point to a table at the back of the open-rafter sanctuary and invite us to “serve ourselves” if we felt so compelled.

For two years, my husband and I attended Praxis while he did graduate work at Arizona State University and I worked as a documentary producer. As someone who had defected from the church at age 23, I thought it was the perfect place for me: a young, urban church located four blocks from Casey Moore’s Irish Pub, an unchurchy church with a mix of sacred tradition and secular trend.

I’m not the first person ever to go low-church, and Praxis isn’t the first institution to pursue that hard-to-get demographic: young people.

Church Leaders in Search of Relevant Church

Across America today, thousands of clergy and congregations—even entire denominations—are running scared, desperately trying to convince their youth that faith and church are culturally relevant, forward-looking and alive.

For some, the instinct is to radically alter the old model: out with the organ, in with the Fender.

But as someone who left the mainstream church and eventually returned, I’d like to offer a word of advice to those who are so inclined: don’t.

Or at least proceed with caution. Change carefully, change wisely, with thoughtfulness and deliberation. What young people say we want in our 20s is not necessarily what we want 10 years later.

Churches, of course, are right to worry. They’ve been losing young people like me for years.

A study released last fall by the Pew Forum on Religion & Public Life found that not just liberal mainline Protestants but also more conservative evangelical and “born-again” Protestants are abandoning their religious attachments.

Our complaints against the church know no bounds: We don’t like the politics. We want authenticity and openness. We demand a particular worship aesthetic.

Churches often leap to meet these demands, and yet the arc of my own story suggests that chasing after the most recent trend may not be the answer. As I’ve written elsewhere, I was raised in a small Presbyterian congregation but left and later returned to the church for reasons too complex to summarize here.

Relevant Church Means Something to Each Person

When I slipped back in, I wanted what my own parents had wanted in their hippie youth back in the 1970s: an anti-institutional church that looked less like a church and more like a coffee house. But after two years at Praxis, the coffee tasted thin.

I felt homeless in heart.

I missed intergenerational community.

I missed hymns and historicity, sacraments and old aesthetics.

I missed the rich polity—even the irritation—of Presbytery.

In 2007, when my husband and I moved from Arizona to Austin, Texas, and went in search of a church, we skipped the nondenominationals and went straight to the traditionals. We found an Anglican church where every Sunday morning we now watch clergy process up the aisle wearing white vestments and carrying a six-foot cross.

Dear Seminary Student: How to Make the Most of Your Time at Seminary

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Are you planning to begin your seminary education this fall? Allow me to encourage you in several ways as you prepare to begin a journey that will leave an indelible mark upon you and your family.

Do Not Trade the Local Church for the Seminary Campus

Many times people leave home and arrive on their seminary campus where life is exciting and books are abounding. This may seem like a little piece of heaven on earth to a zealous seminary student, but I want to encourage you to think a bit differently from the beginning. Yes, you should get involved on campus and make friends that will follow you through your days of ministry. Yes, you should consider the different student groups and activities offered on campus, but whatever you do—don’t trade the local church for the seminary community. I will never forget how many people I saw in seminary who were far more committed to seminary than they were to a local church.

Most seminary students arrive on a campus far from their home church. It would be good to spend a good number of weeks visiting different local churches near your home in an effort to be engaged in a local church during your seminary life days. You need community, leadership, accountability and the ordinary means of grace in order to flourish as a Christian. While you may start your search online and by word of mouth on the campus, don’t make your decision merely based on those factors. Visit the church and worship with the congregation. You may want to make an appointment with the pastor and discuss your desire for membership in the church, or if they have a membership class you may want to go through the class in order to understand who the church is, what they believe, and ask questions along the way.

You Can Serve God Now

Allow me to encourage you at this juncture to realize that God can use you now—not just when you graduate with a diploma. Your gifts are for use and refining now—not merely after graduation. As you search for a local church to join, don’t merely join the one where all of the seminary professors attend. You will likely not be given any opportunities to serve—especially in any teaching role. Look for a local church where the Bible is preached faithfully and where you may be given some opportunities to engage and use your gifts for the glory of God.

If you do join a church with a considerable number of professors and students, don’t relax. Look for opportunities to engage in further discipleship and in due time pray for open doors to serve and exercise your gifts. In the meantime, as new members—there may be other ways to serve your local church in more practical ways as you immerse yourself in the body life of the church and make friends. Whatever you do—don’t use your time in seminary to coast through your time in your local church. Learn, worship and serve.

Encouraging Words

As I was preparing to leave for seminary with my new wife, she provided me a Christmas gift that has remained one of the best gifts of my life. She wrote a letter to many respectable pastors requesting them to write a letter to me that would encourage me as I prepared to begin my seminary days. She then compiled those letters into a book and I continue to reflect on those letters to this very day. One reoccurring theme showed up in many of the letters which stated, “I am envious of you” or “I am excited for you.” One such letter read as follows:

May the Holy Spirit give you enough problems to keep you trusting, enough hurts to keep you broken, and enough victories to keep you praising Him. Only God can take nothing and indwell him so he can be more than a conqueror.

As I reflect on my time in seminary, I am grateful for the time of intense learning and study that was afforded to me. I am likewise grateful for the many friends that I have to this very day. However, as I think about those men who sat next to me in class and shared meals with me on campus—I can think of some who did not finish. Always remember that there will be a Satanic goal for your ministry to not finish well. Hundreds of pastors walk away from the pulpit every year and you must commit now that you will not waste your seminary days in the years to follow. Persevere to the end for the glory of King Jesus.

Will you pass this on to your friends?
This article originally appeared here.

Black Pastors Helping White House With Prison Reform

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President Donald Trump has told Republican senators that he’s open to a new proposal on prison reform to include sentencing reform, giving new life to an issue that seemed hopelessly stalled on Capitol Hill.

The announcement follows a meeting with African-American pastors at the White House earlier this week.

Trump told the group, which included pastors and bishops from across the country, that his administration has been making progress on efforts to make it easier for prisoners to re-enter society and find work.

“When we say hire American, we mean all Americans,” Trump said.

The compromise presented to Trump by Republican senators would combine the prison reform bill passed by the House in May—the First Step Act—with four sentencing reform provisions that have bipartisan Senate backing, according to news reports citing sources familiar with the meeting.  

The First Step Act did not include sentencing reform because of opposition. In February, Senate Republican Whip John Cornyn, R-TX,  said he favored moving prison reform separately from sentencing reform because he thought the latter “was opposed by a number of lawmakers, preventing it from even being considered by the Senate.”

Cornyn is the sponsor of Senate prison reform legislation that would shift lower-risk inmates to less restrictive conditions and promote partnerships with faith-based and charitable groups to reduce recidivism. Those efforts are proving successful across the country.

But Republican senators in favor of sentencing reform think Cornyn would vote for the proposal if it was demonstrated not to be weighing down his own bill.

Cornyn on Wednesday said he has an open mind about getting a broader criminal justice bill signed into law.

Pastors Darrell Scott, John Gray Meet With President Trump to Discuss Prison Reform

Those meeting with the administration on Wednesday included Darrell Scott, a black Ohio pastor who was an early supporter of Trump’s campaign and has been working with the administration on urban and prison issues.

He compared Trump to his predecessor, Barack Obama, the nation’s first African-American president, and said: “This president actually wants to prove something to our community, our faith-based community and our ethnic community.”

Also on hand was John Gray, pastor of the Relentless Church in Greenville, S.C.  

He told the American Urban Radio Networks the meeting was an “introductory conversation about what’s on the heart of the administration.” Gray went on to say future meetings will need to go into further depth. “It can’t just be about reacclimating, it has to be about just sentencing. That’s bigger than prison reform. You’re talking about judicial reform, you’re talking about prosecutorial reform, we didn’t get into that today.”

Gray was not a Trump supporter during the 2016 campaign and was criticized for meeting with the president. He told CNN’s Don Lemon that he felt he “was sent” to the meeting because of his faith, adding, “dialogue doesn’t mean agreement.”

The White House believes its success in passing prison reform in the House was due to efforts to reach out to non-traditional organizations within the black community, such as pastors. The administration hopes working with them again will help get prison reform through the Senate.

Jared Kushner, Trump’s son-in-law and adviser, has been leading the prison reform effort. It is a personal crusade for him. His father, Charles Kushner, spent 14 months in federal prison.

Prosperity Theology Beliefs Are in the Church. Not Sure to What Extent

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A new LifeWay Research study on Christians and prosperity theology concludes that “more than a few people in the pews have embraced it.”

Scott McConnell, executive director of LifeWay Research, said the findings indicate “evangelicals appear to be to the most eager to embrace a link between God’s financial blessings and their actions.”

But the research appears to create more questions than answers about American churchgoers’ views on what many agree is the heretical teaching of prosperity theology.

McConnell admitted to ChurchLeaders that his researchers took on the project with an underlying belief that prosperity theology is a problem and to determine how deeply it is entrenched in the American church.  

But it appears researchers felt the best way to warn Christians about the heresy was by suggesting it has overtaken the church.

Study Concludes Prosperity Theology Embraced by Many in the Church

LifeWay Research asked 1,010 U.S. adults who attend religious services once a month or more at Protestant and nondenominational churches to agree or disagree with three statements.

  1. To receive material blessings from God, I have to do something for God.
  2. My church teaches that if I give more money to my church and charities, God will bless me in return.
  3. God wants me to prosper financially.

“All three cross the line into heresy,” McConnell told Churchleaders, “by just going a little too far into what they said and see how many churchgoers agreed with each statement.”

LifeWay found about a third of Protestant churchgoers say their congregation teaches that God will bless them if they donate money.

One in four say they have to do something for God to receive material blessings in return. Two-thirds say God wants them to prosper.

Prosperity theology is typically defined as a belief that financial blessing and physical well-being are always the will of God for true believers.

Question #3 contains no such absolute. If LifeWay was trying to determine how many churchgoers embrace prosperity theology, shouldn’t the question have included “always”?

“The first question is a parallel to that third question,” McConnell explained, “that earlier question brings in a little of that obligation that God would have, not in just wanting it, but actually being obligated. So, the first question we asked was to receive material blessings I have to do something. That creates an obligation and that’s a much smaller group but still is a quarter of church attendees really believe that it is possible for God to owe us if we are we doing the right thing.”

In 2016, LifeWay conducted a study that found 1 in 4 Americans said they believe God will always reward true faith with material blessings. A question that included “always” and garnered the same percentage of “yes” answers as the first (and different) question in this most recent research.

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Why Our Church Has Embraced the Elementary ‘Not-Lock In’

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Over 15 years ago, when I was just beginning in the kidmin world, I had such a burden for children to be given the opportunity to participate in an event that was intentional about Bible study and discipleship. I knew their youth world would be scattered with “disciple now” type events, but why not provide a one-night event for children where they are brought together to:

– study God’s Word in a interactive way
– worship God in a kid-friendly setting
– be poured into by passionate adults and youth
– build relationships with their peers in a safe environment
and more.

So, from this vision came 24 Hours 4 Him—a spring discipleship event that begins at 6 p.m. on a Friday night and ends at 6 p.m. on Saturday night. Yes, the kids sleep. We even put them to bed in order of their age. No, we don’t sleep in family homes. We nestle down right in church classrooms so we don’t lose anytime driving back and forth to the church.

Our themes come from great sources like Northpoint’s Superheroes Curriculum, Children Desiring God backyard Bible club lessons, Orange’s past vbs curriculums and more. The entire 24 hours revolves around the theme in hopes of not only helping children understand these truths with their head, but to grasp them with their hearts and then apply them to their lives.

The schedule usually looks something like this:

Friday
  •  children arrive, report to Bible study rooms, and play a get-to-know-you game
  • dinner
  • Bible study (by grade)
  • worship
  • 1st & 2nd graders go to bed while 3rd-5th graders participate in special areas (i.e., cooking, crafts, drama, puppets, secret service, etc.)
  • 3rd & 4th graders go to bed while *5th graders have a special late night event.
  • bedtime

Saturday

  • wake up
  • breakfast
  • morning celebration
  • quiet time
  • Bible study
  • lunch
  • Bible study
  • recreation
  • Bible study
  • clean-up, pack-up (kids help put the church back together for Sunday morning.)
  • closing worship (parents are invited to attend with their children.)
  • go home

Additional Information

  • Bible study leaders are parents, college students or older youth.
  • Parents come and help serve meals and also make goody buckets for each of the Bible study leaders.
  • We have a designated first-aid/meds person that handles any medicine brought by parents for their children during the weekend.
  • We bring in a special speaker and worship leader for the worship sessions. (Children also get the chance to lead in worship.)
  • Children receive a t-shirt from the weekend and we encourage them to wear it to school the next week.
  • Parents receive an immediate email after dropping their children off that shares with them what the children are studying that weekend and ways to continue the learning at home.
  • The late night 5th grade activity is fun activity where children make bridges out of various random supplies (i.e., straws, legos, rubber bands, paperclips, etc.). Then, we talk through how Jesus alone is the bridge between our sinful selves and our Holy God. Children then fill out a questionnaire about where they are spiritually, so that we can more effectively minister to them in their remaining months in kids ministry.

I have been blessed at both of the churches I have served at with pastors that understand the importance of children’s ministry and take time to promote and share the vision with others. Below is an excerpt of what my current pastor, Dr. Gary Fenton, is sharing in next week’s church newsletter about Dawson kids’ first ever 24 Hours 4 Him.

“Speaking of children…as we do frequently at Dawson, because ministry to children, preschool, middle and high school students are a priority…this Friday, March 01 6:00 p.m. to Saturday 6 p.m. will be one of the more important 24 hour periods in the church this year. We will host “24 hours 4 Him.” This is an intentional step toward healthy Christian discipleship that involves interactive Bible Study, age appropriate worship and teaching for grades 1-5. In the last several years several books including You Lost Me and Almost Christian have documented that a large number young adults 18 to 30 indicate that their faith is not relevant to the issues they face in life. Many of them have not totally abandoned their faith in God; but they are unsure if and how it relates to their daily life. The Christian faith is unfortunately too often seen as a ticket to heaven, rather than a way of life. Some who drop out may have had experiences with God but have never learned about a daily walk with God. Others may have just heard enough to be confused. During 24 Hours 4 Him children will learn about heroes of the Old and New Testament as the Bible stories will be taught in an age appropriate ways. This is not a child evangelism program but an opportunity for spiritual preparation. 

Still speaking of children…If you sense excitement on my part, you are right. The first time I heard of 24 Hours 4 Him I thought it was probably a children’s version of a lock-in during which exhausted kids would be manipulated into some type of emotional decision. Then my first grade grandson participated in one in another state and I saw how helpful and healthy it was for him to hear Bible stories. I learned sleep and rest were built into the program. It was like spending the night at Christian friend’s house that involved healthy Christian teaching. I invite you to be praying this wonderful foundational discipleship event.”

This article originally appeared here 

Stressed Out Small Groups: 3 Ways to Help Your Members De-Stress

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What is going on in the heads of your group members when they show up at your meeting? Do they suffer from stress?

There are many things that could be happening in their lives, right at that moment, that could distract them from what God wants them to receive in the Bible study discussions.

Impact of Stress

The latest Stress in America survey from the American Psychological Association demonstrates that stress is a significant issue. Just a few of their findings include:

  • 72 percent of adults felt stressed about money at least some of the time.
  • The average stress levels of Americans were higher than what were considered healthy.
  • Common sources of stress included money, work, the economy, family responsibilities and personal health concerns.
  • Common symptoms of stress in the past month included feeling irritable or angry, feeling nervous or anxious, having a lack of interest or motivation, fatigue, feeling overwhelmed, and being depressed or sad.

Small groups can be a place of healing for your members. As they mature as disciples, they will be more capable to manage stress. Small groups can also be a significant source of emotional support.

“Survey findings show that Americans who say they have emotional support—specifically, that they have someone they can ask for emotional support if they need it, such as family and friends—report lower stress levels and better related outcomes than those without emotional support.”

Stress In America: Paying With Our Health

Start De-Stressed

Before you get your Bible-study conversation started, try one of these short activities to bring your members’ stress levels down:

Get Thoughts on Paper

As things come up throughout the day, many people depend on their brain to remember them. These can be items to add to the grocery list, meetings to attend, tasks that need to be done, things being worried about, etc. The amount of “stuff” we continually think about and can’t forget can be overwhelming.

Before your Bible study, give your group members a pen and paper. Instruct them to write everything down they can think of that is currently filling their mind. Give them a couple of minutes to do this, then have them put the paper away so they can forget about those items until they review the paper sometime after the meeting is over. It is surprising how much relief can come from this exercise when they don’t have to use any more cognitive energy to keep track of all of those items.

Listen to Music

Some small groups use music during their meeting as a form of worship. What they may not know is that listening to music can also have a positive impact on our minds and bodies. It is a great stress management tool.

Consider listening to music before your Bible study to help reduce stress.

Stretch

Exercise can relieve stress. You don’t have to run a 5K race to feel the benefit. A few simple exercises can provide immediate stress relief.

Lead your small group in some of these simple exercises before you start the Bible study. You can start with the stress-busting exercises shown at Reader’s Digest (click here). These can be done right from the spot your small group members are sitting.

Life can be difficult. Don’t assume your group members are ready for the Bible study. Lead off with a stress reducing activity to help get your group members in state that help them get the most out of the small group meeting.

Question: What are some other activities that can be used in a small group meeting to help relieve stress?  

This article originally appeared here.

The Surprising Skill Worship Leaders NEED to Have

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TALKING

When a church is in need of a worship leader, they’re probably not looking for someone who knows how to talk in front of a crowd. The first thing they more than likely want to know is, “Can this kid sing?”

As a worship leader, I would venture to say that talking in a worship set can be just as vital as singing. Singing can actually be one of the easier things you do while leading worship. Think about it—the words are already provided for you. If you don’t memorize them, you probably have a monitor or something that makes it even easier. That’s one of the things I respect about pastors and speakers. They have to bring a talk every week and there’s no chorus to repeat.

Being able to sing is a huge plus in leading worship, but if you know how to talk and communicate with your church during a worship set, the experience takes on a whole new depth. You will also become an even more effective leader.

Here are some tips I’ve learned about talking while leading worship:

1. BE HEARD—This may seem like a given and really elementary, but it’s important that people can hear and understand what you’re saying. There are two things that are required: 1) Make sure you speak clearly and speak loudly. It would be better that you don’t talk at all than if you mumble and talk quietly. 2) Make sure the sound person makes the proper adjustments in the mix. Don’t assume that whoever is running sound knows that they need to adjust your channel when you talk. Your talking voice will have a much different level than your singing voice, so make sure it’s adjusted appropriately. That will take instruction and training on your part.

2. PREPARE A THOUGHT—One of the most valuable things I learned from another worship leader was to prepare a thought during your allotted time. I’ve found it very beneficial for our church and myself, as a leader, to have a scripture, quote or just a thought to share at a specific point in the morning. I usually wait until after our weekly rehearsal, unless something hits me earlier. Rehearsal often gives me clarity about the big picture of the experience. Going through it all at rehearsal gives me that context as I sit down, pray and prepare a thought to share. The more you prepare your thoughts ahead of time, the better you can prepare hearts in the moment.

3. MINIMIZE—This is something that takes time to really master, and I’m still working on it. Some worship leaders talk too much and some are afraid to say anything. It’s important that you talk to your people and not just sing songs. This allows you to share your heart and it allows them to see your heart. Ultimately, it allows you to lead effectively. If they know your heart, as a leader, then they will be more prone to follow you. On the flip side, if you talk too much, it can turn into a sermon. It’s important to remember that they’re going to hear a sermon in that service already, so you don’t need to bring one. I’ve found that when I minimize a prepared thought or scripture to ONE moment in a worship set, it’s very effective. This means that you should NOT talk between every song. If people think you’re going to talk before and after every song, your voice will start sounding like the Charlie Brown teacher—”WAH, WAH, WAH!” I’m not saying that you should never talk more than once during a worship set. There will be times when you need to say something spontaneously, if the Spirit leads. That can be as or more effective at times. Just make sure you’re prepared to give a thought, not a sermon.

4. ENCOURAGE YOUR PEOPLE—Who doesn’t like to be encouraged? Everyone loves to be cheered on and recognized in a positive way. Encouragement can be that rare gem that boosts your day and keeps you going. When my church comes to worship on a Sunday, I recognize that publicly. I will thank them after a Spirit-filled moment, when it is evident that they are truly focused and tuned into the presence of God. A little dose of encouragement can go a long way, and I’ve seen my church get more excited about what God is doing around us when I recognize their recognition of God’s presence. As Andy Stanley has said, “What’s rewarded is repeated.”

5. CHALLENGE WITHOUT RIDICULE—You will never find a perfect church. There will be times when your crowd falls short of what corporate worship is intended to be. As a leader, I look at these moments as opportunities to challenge God’s people to be in awe of Him. The key to this is challenging them without ridiculing them. Remember, they don’t have to be there. They chose to come and worship in your church that week. You want to challenge and encourage them to do good. Just as encouragement can spur on a crowd, ridicule can push them away. You also do not want to shy away from challenging them. That’s what a leader does. As worship leaders, we can help hold our church accountable to worship God, especially if the lead pastor has the same heart. The serious truth about it is that when we do not worship the Creator, we are worshiping the creation (Romans 1:25). When your crowd falls short, don’t let it bring you down. Capture that opportunity to encourage and challenge them to give their worship to the only One who is worthy of it. I live in Denver, or better known as “Bronco Country.” Here’s an example of an opportunity I took at my church.

Look at leading worship as a relationship and connection from the stage. Communication is key to any relationship. When you talk to your crowd effectively, you can draw closer to them, build their trust in you and, best of all, successfully lead them into the beauty of true corporate worship.

What are some other tips you’ve learned about talking?

The 10 Last Gasps of a Dying Church

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If you don’t like changeyou’re going to like irrelevance even less.” Those are the words of General Eric Shinseki, Chief of Staff, U.S. Army, who is currently in the news because of the VA scandal.

There are few things as sad as watching a once great church grow old, become irrelevant and slowly die. What is worse is that they either don’t know they’re dying, or they simply don’t care as long as those remaining are happy. Sadly, I have witnessed this more times than I wish to count. In addition, I have attended this type of church before.

Here is what I have noticed about many of these churches—at a pivotal point, a decision was made to continue doing ministry the way they always have rather than alter their approach to reach a changing community or the next generation. After months of committee meetings and off-line conversations, the church finally utters the The 10 Last Words of Dying Churches—“We’ve never done it that way before. We’re not changing.”

Those 10 powerful words subsequently have a ripple effect that lasts generations. As a result, the following are additional comments those attending these churches are bound to say and/or hear shortly thereafter:

  1. “Isn’t it great that our music is never too loud?”
  2. “Isn’t it nice seeing people in coats and ties and not disrespecting God by wearing jeans and shorts?”
  3. “We’re more spiritual and doctrinally pure than that fast-growing, watered-down gospel, baptizing-hundreds–maybe-thousands-every-year church down the street.”
  4. “Can you believe that church is stealing all our young people?”
  5. “I hear we’re having to cut the budget because giving is not what it used to be.”
  6. “Isn’t it great having all this room on the pew to spread out.”
  7. “I love singing all four verses.”
  8. “Don’t worry about our attendance. Let me tell you how large our membership is.”
  9. “Are you coming to Monday night visitation? How about the Wednesday night prayer service?”
  10. “Remember the good ‘ole days.”
  11. Visitors, please stand.”
  12. “I hear it’s just a show over there.”
  13. “We just formed a Committee on Committees.”
  14. “We don’t talk about money. We preach the Bible.”
  15. “You don’t want that fast growth. Slooooow growth is what you need.”
  16. “Isn’t it great getting out of the parking lot quickly?”
  17. “The poor will always be with us.”
  18. “I’m really tired of having to hear about lost people all the time.”
  19. “Pastor, I think we need to start praying for revival.”

Do these phrases hit close to home for you? Are there any more comments you want to add that you’ve heard?

The 3 Things I Miss Most About Pastoral Ministry

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In a couple of months, I’ll celebrate four years of pastoral ministry at LifeWay. Looking back on the development of The Gospel Project, I am overwhelmed to see how the Lord has blessed this effort in ways that far surpass our initial expectations. We are serving nearly 750,000 participants this fall. Almost every day, we hear new stories of kids, students and adults who are using The Gospel Project and encountering Christ through His Word.

A pastor recently contacted me. He is considering a leadership position in a Christian organization, and he’d read something I wrote six months after starting at LifeWay, a post in which I offered some reflections on stepping out of pastoral ministry. In seeking to discern God’s will for his next phase of ministry, he wanted to know if my feelings had changed since then.

In short, I affirm everything in the original post, including my comments on vocational calling being expressed through various avenues and ministry tasks. But even though I am thrilled to be doing the work God has called me to during this season, I still miss local church ministry. And I don’t think that’s a bad thing. Jimmy Draper used to tell people who work at LifeWay, “The day you don’t miss local church ministry is the day you should probably resign.” What he meant was this: You’re better at serving churches when your heart beats for Christ’s Bride.

So, in response to the pastor who asked, here are:

Three aspects of Pastoral Ministry I miss:

1. Preaching Connected to Pastoring

I love to preach. There’s nothing like digging into the Word, discerning its truth, applying it personally, shaping its presentation and then delivering its message to God’s people.

But the one thing I’ve learned since stepping out of pastoral ministry is that my love for preaching is connected to my love for people. I enjoy preaching at different churches and conferences. It’s encouraging to see many kinds of churches and to meet believers across the country. Still, preaching is special when your message is directed toward the same people every week, people you know and love and are committed to.

I’ve learned that, for me, it’s not just about preaching, but about people, and preaching is one of the ways you love your people. So, though I get plenty of opportunities to preach, I miss that special sense of preaching that is connected to pastoring.

2. Leading From the Front

I look at my role at LifeWay as leading churches from the side, offering resources that ground believers in God’s Word, that serve churches in their mission of making disciples. Along the way, I get lots of opportunities to help churches by offering counsel and encouragement to pastors.

In our own church, I enjoy serving as a teacher; I always want to support the pastoral staff and contribute to the church’s ministries. Since I stepped away from pastoral ministry, I’ve noticed that my leading hasn’t stopped; it’s merely shifted its direction.

That said, I do miss leading from the front, not just from the side. There are aspects of leadership that I’ve learned at LifeWay that I look forward to applying in a church setting: communicating a path forward, making tough calls, dealing with results, apologizing when I get it wrong, all the things I do in my current role at LifeWay but not as often in local church ministry.

5 Christian Women Who Have Shaped Culture

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Culture is a word we hear a lot in Christian circles these days. We hear of a “cultural malaise,” ponder “culture wars,” talk about how America has ceased to be a “Christian culture” and are encouraged to be “culture makers.” All of these uses of the term are helpful for thinking about how Christians can cultivate and contribute to the world we are called to serve.

Because we as men and women are created in the image of a creative God, we will be forming culture in our own world, however big or small its impact may seem at the time. And sometimes that’s the problem. We feel discouraged because our world does seem so small. What contributions could we possibly make? Do we really think the small culture we create could make a difference now, influence the larger culture, or (even more of a long shot) affect culture in the future?

Thankfully, we don’t need to look far for inspiration. Key women throughout history, some who held positions of influence during their own lifetime and many who did not, have impacted culture in ways they did not think likely or even possible at the time. What could a barbarian woman, runaway nun, a slave, a handicapped woman and the women in your life have in common? They have shaped culture, in big and small ways, to the glory of God.

1. Clothilda, Queen of Burgundy

Women played an important role in the Christianization of barbarian tribes after the fall of the Roman Empire. Several queens are “on record” as influencing the spread of Christianity in their realm, and none more so than this queen.

When Clothilda married Clovis, king of Burgundy, she sought an expansion of Christ’s kingdom as much as a political alliance between their powerful families. In a pattern typical of barbarian kings, Clovis first rejected his wife’s Christian religion, though he allowed their children to be baptized into it. As time passed, through discussions with her as well as a battle victory he attributed to the Christian God under her influence, Clovis was baptized and 3,000 of his subjects followed suit.

Clothilda also influenced her children to follow the Christian God, and we know one of them went on to help take the gospel to the Anglo-Saxons in what would become England. While no historian would argue that all early medieval baptisms truly represented the personal salvation of those who submitted to it, neither would they under estimate the impact Christianity had on the Franks in the coming centuries. A woman named Clothilda had much to do with that.

2. Katherine von Bora

Fast forward several centuries to the 1500s. Martin Luther, the famous reformer, was shaking things up in the established church, and his writings influenced a small but apparently very determined group of women in a cloister to bolt. Katherine was 18 when Luther published his 95 Theses. After a few years, she and a group of 10 other nuns decided the monastic life was not God’s only path for women of faith and hatched a plan to escape. Unable to turn to their families for help, they secretly wrote to Luther asking for his help. On Easter of 1523, 11 nuns were hidden in a cooperative merchant’s wagon and driven out of the convent forever.

While this story seems like an exciting undercover escape, it’s hard for us to realize the social shame these women risked in taking such a bold step. Since they could not return to their families, Luther realized they needed other places to go and sought husbands for them. He even married one himself. Saying his marriage would “please his father, rile the pope, cause the angels to laugh and the devils to weep,” Luther wed Katherine von Bora in 1525 when she was age 26 and he 42.

The pattern of family life Katherine established as Mrs. Luther set a standard for decades to come. Women no longer had to seek a life of celibacy in order to show their devotion to God. She illustrated that the life of a wife and mother devoted to running a household, which she did efficiently under hard circumstances, are just as much a discipline of grace and means of sanctification as the cloistered life. Her living example as a pastor’s wife influenced the culture and opened up a whole new area of what we often call women’s ministry.

3. Harriet Tubman

Harriet Tubman’s story may be familiar to you. Born a slave named Araminta Ross in Maryland, Tubman stood just 5 feet tall. But her courage and tireless devotion to the cause of justice for black slaves cause her tower over many of her peers. She herself escaped from slavery around age 30, but her determination to assist hundreds of other enslaved people escape southern plantations and travel northward, often all the way to Canada, has earned her a prominent place in American history. By her own estimation, she freed a thousand slaves, and she came to be known as the “Moses” of her people.

At a time when people of color, and women in particular, were forced to endure hardships most of us cannot imagine, Harriet Tubman stood against the tide of law and tradition, saying she had it all “reasoned out” in her mind. She had a right to either liberty or death, and if she could not have one she would have the other. Most of us do not need to break the law in order to have an impact for good on our culture. We do not risk arrest, imprisonment or worse for our determination to live out our beliefs. But the strength and conviction of women like Harriet Tubman—who have risked those things for the sake of forging a more just world for themselves but others—should inspire courage in all of us.

4. Joni Eareckson Tada

Fifty years ago this summer, a 17-year-old girl suffered a life-altering diving accident, and the world gained a life-affirming advocate, although neither realized it at the time. For decades now, Joni Eareckson Tada has worked to highlight the humanity and dignity of people with disabilities, and more recently, other groups our society tends to views as dispensible such as the unborn, elderly and terminally ill. Although few people would have chosen the accident, Tada credits the Lord with putting her in a unique position to speak up for the weak and disabled in American society and around the world.

When her accident occurred in 1967, the U.S. Supreme Court had yet to legalize abortion on demand, and no one was seriously debating the idea of  “assisted suicide.” As the citizens of the United States began to breath the toxic air of the culture of death, abortion gained acceptability, so that even national politicians could campaign on the promise of keeping it not only legal, but making it as widely available as possible. As this turn of events undermined the sanctity of human life, Joni Eareckson Tada began to fight what she called the “better off dead than disabled” mentality which permeates euthanasia advocacy. Today, her organization “Joni and Friends” is a global force advocating for the dignity of all human beings and encouraging Christians to take a stand against the culture of death.

5. Every woman (including you)

I couldn’t conclude a piece on women who are culture shapers without making this point: Most women (like most men) shape culture in ways that will never be singled out, rewarded or even noticed by the culture at large or historians like me. The women discussed in this post all made their way into history books due to the unique circumstances God brought about in their lives. The rest of us shape culture in less visible ways, perhaps, but no less to the glory of God.

In the 1970s, Pulitzer Prize winning historian Laurel Thatcher Ulrich penned what became a famous quote and perhaps feminist mantra: “Well-behaved women seldom make history.” Though the author may not have originally intended it, the modern implication seems clear: Live a quiet life, serve others in a way that doesn’t draw attention to yourself, and you won’t make the history books. But God is writing a different story, and HIStory will include many women who shaped culture working among their own family and friends in seemingly small but significant ways.

This article originally appeared here.

Here Are the Reasons People Stay Home on Sunday Morning

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The people who don’t go to church often cite personal, not spiritual, reasons for staying away. That’s a conclusion from a new Pew Research study.

The most often given reason why people don’t attend church is because they practice their faith in other ways.  

By their own description, those who cite reasons other than a lack of belief for avoiding church are a fairly religious group. About 7 in 10 identify with a religion (including 6 in 10 who are Christian), and most say religion is either “very” or “somewhat” important in their lives.

Another 23 percent cite personal preferences for keeping them away. For example, they haven’t found a house of worship they like, or they don’t like the sermons.  

Still others (22 percent) name logistical reasons, like being in poor health or not having the time to go, as very important reasons for not regularly attending religious services.

Three in 10 say they do not go to religious services because they are not believers.

Study Identifies People Who Don’t Go to Church

Fully a quarter of those who infrequently attend religious services say no particular reason can be characterized “very important” for their non-attendance.

Demographically, more than half of those who do not attend church for reasons other than non-belief are women, and they tend to be older and less highly educated compared with those who do not go because of a lack of faith. Meanwhile, those who refrain from attending religious services because they are non-believers are more highly educated and largely male, young and Democrats.

The survey also asked respondents the reason they attend religious services at least once or twice per month.

By far, the largest group (80 percent) say becoming “closer to God” is a very important reason they go to religious services.

Roughly two-thirds say they attend religious services to give their children a moral foundation, to become better people, and for comfort in times of trouble or sorrow. Smaller majorities say that valuable sermons and being part of “a community of faith” are very important reasons for their regular religious attendance.

Other findings from the survey include:

Eight in 10 regular attenders say they “always” or “often” experience a sense of God’s presence when they attend worship services. Nearly three-quarters say they “always” or “often” feel a sense of community with people who share their religion when they attend religious services, and 6 in 10 say they feel a sense of connection to a longstanding tradition.

Among those who attend church regularly, Protestants are roughly twice as likely as Catholics (71 percent vs. 36 percent) to say valuable sermons are a very important reason.

Those who avoid religious services because they “practice their faith in other ways” are less involved in a variety of community, charitable and social groups than are those who attend religious services regularly.

And the people who say they practice their faith in other ways are far less religious, by a variety of traditional measures beyond worship attendance (including frequency of prayer, assessment of religion’s importance in one’s life, etc.), than those who attend religious services regularly.

In recent years, the percentage of U.S. adults who say they regularly attend religious services has been declining, while the share of Americans who attend only a few times a year, seldom or never has been growing.

3 Practical Ways to Build a Legacy to Last

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All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only imagine. – Jim Rohn

What is your personal legacy? Or to phrase it another way, if today was your last day, how would your kids and those closest to you remember you? If you want a legacy worth remembering, it requires being intentional. If you want to be thought of as more than a sports fan, then take time today to build a legacy worthy of the calling God has placed on your life.

If you want to build a legacy, share your testimony. Do your kids know what your life was like before Christ? Do they know the difference Jesus has made for you personally? I recently asked the preteens and there was only one student in the room who knew their parents’ testimony. Mark your calendar right now and make it a priority to share your story with your kids.

If you want to build a legacy, celebrate milestones. Days turn into weeks and weeks become years. Before you blink, your kids will be graduated and moving out. Celebrate  milestones by stepping back as a family and creating memorable moments centered around Christ. Important milestones that build a lasting legacy include things like family dedication, salvation and baptisms, preparing for adolescence, commitments to purity, rite of passages like getting a drivers license and being allowed to stay home alone, high school graduation, and experiencing life in Christ. For more information on celebrating milestones, click here.

If you want to build a legacy, create faith talks. A faith talk is when you pause the TV, lean into your kids, and share your faith using the moment just shared on the screen. A faith talk is when you ask your kids how their day was and then remind them how the Word of God can speak to their problems. A faith talk is when you connect God into everyday life. These faith talks may revolve around silly things like finding a parking space or big things where life seems to be falling apart like the death of a loved one. Faith talks can last mere seconds, but will build a lasting legacy in the hearts of your kids.

Following these three examples will create a lasting spiritual legacy in the lives of your children. Don’t allow the urgent tasks to crowd out the most important things. Pause today to take a step in the right direction.

All Show and No Go

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But you, dear friends, must build each other up in your most holy faith, pray in the power of the Holy Spirit, and await the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ, who will bring you eternal life. In this way, you will keep yourselves safe in God’s love. —Jude 1:20-21

To me, it seems that for a lot of people, faith is like a four-wheel-drive vehicle. People will buy an amazing four-wheel-drive and then add lots of after-market equipment or repaint it with automotive paint supplies from Paint For Cars. They’ll raise it. They’ll get giant wheels and a big winch on the front, and then they’ll add huge lights. And when they drive up behind you, all you can see is the chassis of their vehicle in your rearview mirror.

Maybe they pull up next to you at a gas station, and you strike up a conversation while you’re fueling up.

“That thing is cool,” you say. “Do you do a lot of four wheeling?”

“What? Are you kidding me? Do you know how much I spent on this thing? There’s no way I’m going to take this out in the dirt. I’m on my way to the car wash.”

In a way, it is all show and no go. That is what faith is like for some people. They like to talk about faith, but they don’t use their faith.

Jude tells us, “But you, dear friends, must build each other up in your most holy faith, pray[ing] in the power of the Holy Spirit” (verse 20 NLT). This is telling us that faith does things. Faith is active. Jude is saying, “Be praying. Be staying. Be keeping.” In other words, do things with your faith. Don’t neglect it.

Faith is a lot like a muscle. The more you use a muscle, the stronger that muscle becomes. But if you neglect your muscles, they won’t develop. And if you neglect them for too long, they can even atrophy.

Faith doesn’t live in the realm of theory; faith lives in the world of activity. So let’s use our faith. Let’s put it into action. Then watch what God can do.

This article originally appeared here.

How to Build a Solid Small Group Ministry Foundation

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I have this displayed on my office whiteboard: “Vision without implementation equals hallucination.” I believe in vision. If you don’t have a plan for implementing your vision, you are wasting your time. Success involves the management of ideas. Ideas can provide wonderful breakthroughs for your ministry. However, trying to implement too many ideas at once can crush or fragment your ministry. Here are five important keys to begin building a solid foundation for your small group ministry

  1. Think Church-Wide

Each local church is meant to be a unified body, working together in a coordinated way toward a common purpose. This means that as you plan your small group ministry, you should start by thinking church-wide. The weekend services, the small groups and the other church ministries all work together to achieve the outcome of a mature disciple—what Saddleback calls the Purpose Driven Life.

  1. Plan Intentionally 

Whole-church coordination doesn’t happen by accident. It takes intentional planning. As Christians, it is possible to get caught in the passive “If God wants it to happen, it will happen” trap, and this can often lead to…absolutely nothing. While it’s true that the Lord can and does make things happen, he has also equipped us to be his hands and feet. Therefore, the best Kingdom outcomes require that we become intentional in our planning while depending continually on the Lord for wisdom.

  1. Clarify Success

The coordinated functioning of your local body requires understanding clearly what success means for your church. What is God’s end for your church, for a disciple, that you must keep in view? This is defined in your church’s and your small group ministry’s vision and mission statements. Then it’s carried out in your small group ministry.

  1. Align Your Systems

Based on this definition of success, it is imperative to have a church-wide system that moves people along a comprehensive pathway toward the end destination of mature disciples. Without such a unified system, a new or existing ministry, like small groups, will follow its own independent path, which may not take people along the pathway to success for your church. You may end up with chaos resembling that of the Tower of Babel. Your church’s leadership must prayerfully communicate, align and work together to create a roadmap for your church that will help both leaders and congregants fulfill the church’s vision and mission, guiding every ministry toward success.

  1. Define Your Plan

Within the whole-church system, each ministry—including your small group ministry—must define and develop a comprehensive plan that fits within the system and helps achieve your church’s vision and mission. This is your ministry’s pathway to help achieve God’s end purpose for your church. Average small group pastors provide training. Good small group pastors have a plan encompassing only their ministry. Great small group pastors have a plan that is coordinated with the church’s vision and mission.

This article originally appeared here.

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