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7 Steps to Take When Sunday Hurt

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For some of you, yesterday was a difficult day. Something happened (or has been happening) within your congregation that makes your ministry difficult. If that’s where you are today, here are a few suggestions:

  1. Pray much today, asking God to teach you and grow you. Even in the toughest situations with people who are simply sinful, we can learn something. Lean on God all day long.
  2. Don’t overreact with emotion. Your emotion may be justified, but don’t let it lead to bad decisions. Don’t let somebody else’s issues create more difficulty for you.
  3. Talk with somebody. I realize you may not be in a position to talk about everything, but find somebody with whom you can share your burden. Let a friend encourage you.
  4. Realize what Satan wants to accomplish in your life. No matter what you faced yesterday, the enemy wants to discourage and defeat you. It’s your call whether you let that happen.
  5. Read some of your favorite Bible texts. I know this suggestion sounds simplistic, but that’s the point. Go back to a basic strategy of letting the Word of God speak to you as it has in the past.
  6. Work hard to reflect on anything positive that happened yesterday. Ask God to help you see His hand rather than the tough stuff. Even a glimpse of His work will help you deal with the negatives.
  7. Begin making plans to address the issues. Some situations demand follow up, and I’m not suggesting you ignore that need in your church. I’m simply saying that you need to think through your reactions and respond wisely.

What other steps would you take?

This article originally appeared here.

3 Accidents That Did Not Happen at Your Church

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If you are the pastor I met in Richmond, Virginia, recently, thank you.

Thank you for your encouragement. Thank you for your faithfulness. And thank you for your wise words about pastors and struggles: “It is good to know I am not alone.” Your words were meaningful. Your words were powerful.

You were speaking about the thousands of church leaders at Church Answers. You were speaking about the number one benefit you get from being in this safe community. You see the vulnerability, the lack of pretense and the acknowledgments of struggles among other pastors and church leaders. It is a constant and encouraging reminder you are not alone.

I want to share those same words with the community who reads this blog post. I want you to know you are not alone. Ministry can be tough. Ministry can be frustrating. Ministry can even be depressing. But ministry in the local church can also be one of the greatest joys you’ve ever known.

Allow me to give you three reminders. It is my prayer these three brief points will be a source of encouragement and hope for you. It is my prayer they will be used by God to encourage you to keep pressing on. I simply call them the three accidents that did not happen at your church.

  1. Your church address is not an accident. God placed your church where it is for a reason. You might be dealing with deferred maintenance issues in your building. You might be wishing your facility was up to 1980 standards. You might long for a faster-growing demographic. You might desire a more visible location. But God put you at your church address for very specific reasons. Celebrate your location. Celebrate your place in the world God has called you to minister.
  2. Your community is not an accident. Perhaps there was a day when the community surrounding your church looked more like the people in your church. Perhaps the community was much younger than it is today. Perhaps the community members eagerly attended your church in the past, but not today. Keep in mind, the community where God has your church located today is not an accident. He put the people there, and he wants your church to embrace them, love them and reach them. Don’t bemoan your community. Celebrate your community.
  3. Your calling is not an accident. God called you to salvation. God called you to ministry. And God called you to the church where you are serving. God does not have accidents. Your calling is not an accident. He has you at your church for specific and powerful reasons. Love the church you have now instead of the church you wish was there. You have been called to them. It is an incredible opportunity. It is an incredible ministry.

You are not alone in your ministry challenges. Thousands upon thousands of church leaders experience the same challenges every day and every week.

Even more, you are not alone because God is with you. Your church address is not an accident. Your community is not an accident. And your calling is not an accident. God is in it all. God is the power of it all.

Celebrate these realities. You were called to this specific church in this specific community at this specific time.

It is truly a God-given opportunity.

This article originally appeared here.

Is Virtual Reality the Next Gutenberg Press for the Church?

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Virtual reality is no longer just something we see in science fiction movies — it’s part of lives.

According to Zion Market Research, the global virtual reality (VR) market was valued at approximately $2.02 billion in 2016 and is expected to reach approximately $26.89 billion by 2022.

And the church isn’t immune from its growth or allure.

D.J. Soto recently quit his job as a pastor in Reading, Pennsylvania to start VR Church in what is called “Virtual Reality Church.”  It is the first house of worship to exist entirely in virtual reality.

VRC hosts services available through AltspaceVR, a free virtual reality software that connects to a variety of virtual reality headsets as well as smartphones and tablets.

He hosts services every few weeks. Sometimes he attracts a dozen people; sometimes the virtual room where he preaches is empty. He says after years of ministry it’s the first time he’s getting a chance to interact with atheists who drop in from time to time to hear what he has to say.

A few others have started virtual churches of their own.

There are detractors.  J. R. Woodward, the national director of church planting at V3 believes community can only be established face to face. In a recent article posted on Wired.com, Woodward said, “I think what’s most needed today is for Christians to be an embodiment of Christ in particular places and contexts. There’s nothing really more transformative than that.”

But even congregations that agree with Woodward are facing hard choices that VR brings to the table. For example, Soto says he’s planning virtual reality baptisms.  The idea came in the form of a request from a quadriplegic member who would likely have significant difficulty participating in a traditional immersion baptism.

Will traditional churches follow suit?  While some might reject digital baptisms, more and more are accepting virtual church membership.

Whether churches decide to incorporate VR or not, it’s a certainty that those sitting in the pews of all churches will be impacted by the technology forcing ministers to address it.

Tim Challies pointed out in a recent article that technology appeals to vice with gambling and pornography at the top of the list of VR uses.

“One researcher says it is like nothing he’s ever experienced. It is so real, so personal, and so sensory that the brain accepts it as real. The brain fills in the gaps to such a degree that it can be felt. You are no longer a voyeur watching acts unfold on a screen but a participant actually joining in. Just like video porn proved a quantum leap over magazines, VR porn seems likely to leave mere videos as a quaint relic of the past. If standard on-screen porn is Aspirin, VR porn is fentanyl in all its power and addictiveness.”

He calls on churches to be wary, wise and in front of the coming temptation and properly assess its benefits and its drawbacks before we hand ourselves over to it.

Man Who Trained Kingdom of God Leaders Killed by Wrong-Way Driver

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The head of the Center for Transformative Work, a former pastor and father of 10, was killed early on Monday Morning in a head-on collision in Orlando, Florida, by a driver travelling in the wrong direction on I-4.

Dr. Orlando Rivera’s nonprofit organization worked with business leaders to put Christian principles into action through city-wide projects and initiatives. The group works primarily with disadvantaged people.

Dr. Rivera previously was a professor at Nyack College teaching master’s level business classes. Nyack also co-sponsored conferences with Dr. Rivera’s nonprofit. Nyack is affiliated with the Christian and Missionary Alliance.

Nyack College and Alliance Theological Seminary president, Dr. Michael G. Scales, commented, “Orlando Rivera was a creative, high-energy agent of change who was deeply passionate about developing leaders for the Kingdom of God. This passion motivated him to be both very tough with his coursework and very generous with his time and with the opportunities he created for students to serve. He challenged students because he believed in them and he mobilized them to become what he knew they could become. His life will continue to impact the Kingdom for generations.”

Angela Jacobs, a reporter for WFTV in Orlando, tweeted that Dr. Rivera’s wife went to hospital to pray with the driver who hit her husband.


Police are still investigating how the driver of the wrong-way vehicle entered the highway in the wrong direction. His was reported in serious condition.

Rivera was previously a pastor at Northland Church in Longwood, Fla. He served as missions pastor in the 1990s.

“The look in his eyes was more about what could be, the possibilities,” Northland Executive Pastor Kevin Urichko told Rivera. Urichko attended seminary with Rivera and the two worked together for nearly a decade.

“He was always broadening my mind as to what could be and calling me to see things differently,” Urichko said.

A GoFundMe page has been created to help Rivera’s family, which includes 10 children, seven of whom are adopted.

Is the Church Being Taken Over by Success-Seeking Pastors?

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Some are recognizing a trend in the church toward focusing less on humility, weakness and sacrifice, and instead of arrogant pastors prioritizing triumph, power and boasting of success.

Authors Jamin Goggin and Kyle Strobel wrote about the trend in The Way of the Dragon or the Way of the Lamb.

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In it they write about pastoral pride with some personal confessions, “I have seen my thirst for power driving my ministry. I have viewed other pastors as competition and the church as a means of self-glory. I have acted in ways that place me alongside the power mongers I so readily critiqued.”

J.D. Greear, pastor of The Summit Church in Raleigh-Durham, N.C., sees the trend too and it worries him. He is so concerned that he had his staff read Goggin and Strobel’s book.

Pastoral pride is real

In a recent article on his website he said the criticism hit close to home.

Early in my ministry, I was praying for miraculous revival in Durham, where our church is. The Holy Spirit impressed upon me this thought: “What if I bring the revival you are asking for…but do it through another church?” I knew the right answer. I should have said, ‘Yes, Lord! You must increase and I must decrease!’ But the impulsive answer that bubbled up from my heart was much less flattering.

Ethan Renoe, a youth pastor in Denver, says that need for power and influence doesn’t happen only in the confines of the church building; it’s now evident on Facebook and Twitter:

I think social media highlights everyone’s insecurities, not just pastors. I have felt the pull to be a famous pastor, like a new Judah Smith or Carl Lentz, rather than to focus on the people God has placed me over in a given season. If anything, I wonder if this is something younger pastors can learn from the older generation. For instance, my current pastor is in his 60s, has never been on social media, and is unquestioningly committed to his small, local church. He feels no temptation to gain followers, likes, views or a book deal; his focus is to pastor well the church God has given him for the past 30 years.

Greear identifies “focusing on the big things” as one of the danger signs of becoming one of the arrogant pastors obsessed with power.

This is probably my greatest temptation in ministry. I am always eager to rush ahead, trying get to the “next thing.” That impatience might look impressive to others (and it may feel great when I’m “accomplishing” things), but it leaves hurting people by the wayside.

Another example of a desire to be a “dragon,” according to Goggin and Strobel, is an inattention to developing the next generation of leader: “Toxic leaders do not develop other leaders because they pose a threat to their own power.”

Renoe, a young pastor, has seen the problem of arrogant pastors.

I feel like there are elements of the older generation which are unwilling to ‘pass the torch’ to the next generation of church leaders. This is evidenced most widely by the Boomers’ invention of megachurches and tele-preaching to satellite campuses. What better way to tell a millennial pastor-to-be, “No, you’re not ready to preach, I’d rather preach to all of the campuses than to raise up a new leader and let you preach to one of them.”

The Pulpit Is Greater Than the Political Podium

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Vice President Mike Pence told a group of pastors that their jobs and their message are critical for America.

Pence made a last-second appearance at the Watchmen on the Wall national conference in Washington, D.C. Watchmen on the Wall is a ministry to pastors by the Family Research Council.

“Other than the service of those who wear the uniform of the United States, especially our cherished fallen, the ministries that you lead and the prayers that you pray are the greatest consequence in the life of the nation,” the vice-president told the pastors.

“Keep preaching the good news. Keep preaching in season and out of season as the Bible says. Always be prepared to give a reason for the hope that you have,” he continued.

The vice president told hundreds of attendees that it was his and the president’s conviction “that the pulpits that you stand at are of much greater consequence than any podium behind which he and I stand, so thank you for your service to the Gospel.”

The Watchman on the Wall website says the problems facing America “ultimately require a spiritual solution administered by spiritual leadership.” Pence acknowledged that mission:

“This is a time of too much division in these United States. And whether it’s in our crisis pregnancy center ministries or whether it’s churches simply being the hands and feet of Christ.”

Mike Pence also told the pastors of his own faith and when he accepted Christ’s salvation in 1978 at Ichthus, the oldest music festival in the United States.

“I’m four decades into walking with the Lord, and [Family Research Council President] Tony [Perkins] will tell you, I’ve got a long way to go,” he said, chuckling. “But of paramount importance is that you just continue. Continue to hold up the truth.”

Pence said he was raised in a Christian home but was determined to leave his faith behind when he went off to college. He reconsidered that decision in his freshman year.

Personalizing Your Guest Experience on Sunday and Monday

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With Netflix suggestions, saving your favorite food orders in apps, above and beyond customer service at Chick-fil-a, baristas writing your name on cups at Starbucks, and individual park scheduling and mapping for Disney World, we have come into an age where personalization is increasingly becoming an expectation rather than a rarity.

It’s also becoming easier and easier to scale personalization to larger groups of people.

Specifically, in the Kids and Family ministry, an easy and strategic starting place to implement personalization is with guest families.

Here are four things we’ve started doing which we’ve found to be very scalable and not extremely time-consuming.

1. Personalized Guest Gifts

My guess is that your church gives some kind of guest gift.

What if you could personalize a gift to each new child, spend less money than you currently are, and use it to encourage a return visit?

I know that sounds a little infomercial-y, but it is possible.

I go more into this idea in this post, but the gist is that we ask new kids what their favorite candy, snack or drink is.

We write down their answer.

And we tell the kids that whatever they chose will be waiting at check-in the next week for them.

Normally the thing they choose is less than $1, but it is more meaningful than any more expensive generic gift we could have given them because they chose it.

2. Personalized Text

On top of personalizing the experience for first-time kids, we also want to personalize it for parents.

So every Monday (or Tuesday if Monday is your off day) we individually text all the guest parents from Sunday.

To make it easier and quicker we developed a template, which you can save to whatever note-taking app you use on your phone and simply copy and paste it.

Here’s what the text says: Hey PARENT, this is Pastor Brandon from Centerpointe Church. I wanted to let you know that we loved having CHILD with us on Sunday! I also wanted to ask if you have any questions about the Kid’s Ministry, the church in general, or prayer requests? Praying for y’all and hope to see you soon.

Of course, we replace PARENT with the parents’ actual names and CHILD with the children’s actual names.

We’ve found this really blesses new parents and get a really great response rate compared to phone calls or emails.

3. Personalized Email

On Monday (or Tuesday) we also forward a copy of our weekly parent email to new parents with a “personal” note; I have personal in quotations because again we have a template that we simply plug names into so it feels personalized.

Here’s the template we use:

Subject: Thanks for visiting with CHILD

Hey PARENT,

I just wanted to personally reach out and let you know that we loved having CHILD with us on Sunday! I also wanted to check if you have any questions about our Kid’s Ministry, the church in general, or prayer requests?
Below, I’ve included a copy of this week’s parenting email. It has a digital copy of our weekly Family Devotional, as well as a helpful parenting article. My hope is that it adds value to you. You have such a vital role as a parent, and we want to be a big support to you in that!
We replace CHILD with the children’s names and PARENT with the parents’ names.
After we forward a copy of the weekly email, we also add them to our email list.
We get less of a response to this than text, but we do track opens and have found a high percentage of new parents at least open the email.

4. Personalized Text

No this isn’t deja vu; it’s a second follow-up text.
If a family doesn’t return the next Sunday after their first visit, we send them a follow-up text the following Friday at 4:30 p.m. (12 days after their initial visit).
Calling this personalized might be cheating a little because it’s only personalized if the family has shared a prayer request with us.
If they have shared a prayer request, here’s the template:
Just wanted to let you know we’ve been praying for you about PRAYER. Hope everything is well!
If they haven’t shared a prayer request, here’s the template:
Just wanted to let you know we’ve been praying for you. Hope everything is well!
We thought about following-up with a text to invite families back to the church but felt that doing something more value-adding regardless of whether they returned was the best approach.
Through implementing these four strategies, we’ve found that our guest retention has really gone up.
How do you personalize the guest experience at your church?
If you’ve found something to be really effective with guest families, leave a comment (if for no one else, at least leave it for me to learn from you)!
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10 Expectations for Supporting the Senior Pastor

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Several years ago, I was asked to speak to executive pastors about a senior pastor’s expectations for their role. Now, as I am transitioning out of the role of senior pastor, I probably have even stronger insight into the subject.

Part of a healthy organization is recognizing the individual roles and responsibilities of the others on the team. I felt it was important that I first help them understand the pastor better, so I shared 10 Things You May Not Know about the Senior Pastor. You may want to read that post first to better understand this post.

I continued my talk to executive pastors by sharing how other staff members within the church can support the position of senior pastor. I realize none of the churches where I have served would have been successful without the creativity, diligence and leadership of the staff with whom I served.

The question I was asked and echoed repeatedly was this:

What does my pastor really expect of me and the rest of the staff?

A healthy staff requires a team approach. It requires everyone working together. As I attempt to lead a team, there are certain expectations I have for those who serve on a church staff in supporting the leadership of a senior pastor.

Here are 10 expectations I have for supporting a senior pastor:

Have a Kingdom perspective.

It’s not really about either one of you. It’s about God, and we get to play a part in His Kingdom work. The less you concentrate on your own “needs” the more we can work together to help other know the surpassing greatness of our Lord.

Know yourself.

Some people are wired for a supporting role and some are not. This is why so many are planting churches these days. They wanted to be able to do things on their own—lead their own way. You may be able to serve in a supporting role for a short time, but not long term. There is nothing wrong with that. Being in the second (or third) position in an organizational sense doesn’t always get to make the final decision. Are you comfortable with that fact?

Support the pastor.

That’s an obvious for this list, but unless the senior pastor is doing something immoral, you should have their back. And, that’s not a self-serving statement either. It’s what’s required for a healthy team. If you can’t support the person, move on as soon as possible. You should make this decision early in your relationship, preferably before you start, but definitely soon into the process. Resisting the leadership of the senior pastor is usually not good for you or the church.

Realize you are in the second (or third) chair.

This is huge. If you don’t want to be, then work your way into a number one seat, but while you are in this position, understand your role. I’ve seen this so many times where the struggle of a staff member is they want to be the senior leader. They aren’t in the role, but they want to be—now. It causes them to question everything the senior leader does.

I’m not trying to be cruel. And I’m not suggesting one position is superior to another. On a healthy team, every position is equally important. I am simply facing reality. When someone has the senior pastor position there will be expectations placed upon them, which come with the role—even sometimes expectations they wish they didn’t have. It takes a great deal of humility to submit to someone else’s leadership, but it’s important to know who you are and how God is calling you to serve Him in this current season.

Don’t pray for, wish or try to make your pastor something they are not.

Most likely, the basic personality of your leader is not going to change. Your decision to stay should accept the fact that some things you hope will be different in years to come likely won’t be. I always tell our staff I hope they never stay for a paycheck. That’s not fair and it’s not operating as people of faith.

Add value to the pastor and the organization.

Do good work. Even if you are not 100 percent satisfied where you are at in your career at the current time, keep learning and continue to be exceptional in your position. Be a linchpin. The fact is you may learn more in these days that will help you in future days.

Be a friend.

This is a general principle when working with others, but especially true in this situation. If you aren’t likable to the pastor, the pastor isn’t going to respond likewise. Have you ever heard, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”? That works when working with a leader and on a team also.

5 Reasons People Aren’t Inviting Friends to Your Church

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Do you know why people aren’t getting invited to church?

People visit your church prompted by a variety of reasons such as:

  1. A positive message on social media.
  2. There’s a crisis in their family.
  3. The Holy Spirit stirred them to attend.
  4. A mailer to their home.
  5. The reputation of your pastor’s messages.
  6. They want a Christian influence for their kids.

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But for at least the last 50 years, there is still nothing that beats

7. Invited by a friend.

Because that is true, it’s vitally important to pay attention to the reasons people do and don’t invite their friends to your church.

People do invite their friends for some more obvious, visible and known reasons that are positive about your church. For example, a strong student ministry or great preaching.

Your raving fans talk about what they like, so these reasons are easier to know and continue to cultivate.

Here are two intriguing thoughts:

  • Typically, only a small number of people are highly verbal about what they don’t like, and the irony is they usually stay at your church.
  • The people who are loyal, but not fully happy with your church (hopefully that’s not a lot of people), keep it to themselves. They stay for now because they are loyal, but are at high risk to quietly leave.

The unique angle in this post focuses on those loyal people who come to church and stay there. They may stay for many reasons from close friends and ministry relationships, to their kids love it. They stay at your church, but no longer invite their friends.

These five reasons why people aren’t getting invited to church will offer you insights that can serve as a catalyst for a turning point in your ministry. This turning point can help inspire your congregation to begin to invite their friends.

The primary principle is this:

People invite their friends because they love their church, they’re proud of it and they have experienced spiritual life change.

The following are five of the most common reasons that are not easy to see but prevent people from inviting their friends to come to church.

5 Reasons: Are any true of your church?

1) They are not proud of your worship service.

Your worship service is good but not great. The people love your leadership, and they care about the church, so the worship service is “good enough” for them, but not good enough to invite their friends. This is a common situation.

How You Might Be Inviting Burnout Into Your Ministry

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I asked youth workers if they’d like less of their WORK stress to follow them HOME at the end of the day.

One hundred percent said enthusiastically, “YES!”

But when I asked them what they were doing to make that happen …

… I received only a vacant sea of blank stares in return.

The more I talked to these people, the more I realized one crazy, important truth about burnout.

The most important reason that burnout creeps into our lives is because we allow it to creep into our lives.

You probably already noticed that I haven’t written very many words over at Smarter Youth Ministry in the last few weeks.

That’s because I’ve been on a paternity leave vacation, and vacation isn’t vacation if you’re working.

Furthermore, since I work in youth ministry AND blog on youth ministry, writing a youth ministry blog feels an awful lot like work.

I don’t know about you, but I only get 15 vacation days all year, and I certainly do not want to use those precious days …

… to do more work.

You can ask anyone who’s ever excelled at an endurance sport:

Sometimes the quality of your rest will dictate the quality of your work.

Truth is, most of us suck at resting.

We check and respond to emails at stoplights because we can and because we’re bored.

We take our laptops on vacations.

We pretend like Andy Stanley’s books are the kinds of things we should be reading poolside during our spring getaway.

And then we complain about how worn out we are even though we never make the decision to stop working for more than an hour.

You understand how messed up that is, right?

Stop inviting burnout into your life today.

6 Breathtaking Examples of Motherhood From History

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Fifteen years ago, I was eight months pregnant and hungry—not just for food, but for godly wisdom on how to raise children who know and love the Lord. My husband and I had no idea how to be distinctly Christian parents to this baby that was on her way into our world.

We spent my first Mother’s Day at a parenting conference, which began a lifelong quest to find out how moms before me raised their children in the Lord. History offers today’s Christian women “older women…to teach what is good…that the word of God may not be reviled” (Tit. 2:3-5).

Here are six historical moms who show us what it looks like to raise our children in the Lord.

MONICA – MOTHER OF AUGUSTINE OF HIPPO (332-387)

Monica mothered a man who became one of our most influential church fathers. Augustine shaped not only many of the doctrines central to the Christian faith, but his clear thinking and theology forged the church of the next millennia. Augustine was not always a follower of Christ, however. As a young adult, he rejected his mother’s faith with disdain. Unwed, he lived with a woman, fathered a child and pursued a life of hedonism.

Monica’s early hopes were for her son to live a life of status and privilege, but they evolved into a drive to see her son saved. At 31, Augustine was in the midst of a noteworthy career in philosophy, education and rhetoric when skepticism gave way under the Bishop of Milan’s influence and the power of his mother’s prayers as he surrendered to the Lord Jesus Christ.

Augustine was fully aware that his mother’s prayers were instrumental in his conversion. In his autobiography, Confessions, Augustine said, “My mother placed great hope in [God],” and she “was in greater labor to ensure my salvation than she had been at my birth.” He praises Monica’s persistent prayers on his behalf throughout all of his works. After her death, he grieved that she was “now gone from my sight, who for years had wept over me, that I might live in [God’s] sight.”[1]

Lesson for moms today: Labor in persistent in prayer (Phil. 4:6) for your children and rightly see their salvation as utmost of value. Invite God to change your worldly goals for your kids into Christ-centered ones.

SARAH EDWARDS – WIFE OF JONATHAN EDWARDS, MOTHER OF ELEVEN (1710-1758)

Sarah was married to Jonathan Edwards, a Reformed preacher and theologian, and a key player in the First Great Awakening. The legacy of the Edwards’ home life is famously exhibited in a list compiled in 1900 of the life work of their eleven children and their descendants: college presidents and professors, lawyers and physicians, judges and senators, public servants from mayors to a U.S. vice president, authors, and hundreds of ministers and overseas missionaries. Sarah’s motherhood impacts every corner of American history.

Jonathan was known to be driven and passionate. He spent as many as 13 hours a day studying. Visitors to the Edwards’ home report that though Jonathan was indeed involved in family life, the brunt of household duties—rearing the children and tending to guests—fell largely on Sarah. However, she created a happy home, an environment built on routine, rigor and discipline.[2]

Lesson for moms today: Serve your family wholeheartedly, as to the Lord, trusting him to make himself known through you for generations to come (Col. 3:17). Through everyday acts of service, mothers can make a historic—and eternal—impact through their children.

SOJOURNER TRUTH – FORMER SLAVE, ABOLITIONIST, ACTIVIST AND MOTHER OF FIVE (C. 1797-1883)

Sojourner was born a slave in New York and first sold away from her parents at the young age of nine. Later she married an older slave, bore five children and was widowed. In the years just prior to emancipation in New York, Sojourner was promised freedom by her master, who reneged after she completed the work they agreed upon. In response, Sojourner took her infant daughter and walked to freedom in broad daylight, saying that she had nothing to hide, as freedom had been promised to her. Her master eventually caught up with her, but her remaining year of servitude was purchased by an abolitionist family.

Shortly after gaining freedom, Sojourner learned that her former master had illegally sold her five-year-old son to a slaveholder in Alabama. Incensed, Sojourner set out to demand the return of her son. She personally navigated the judicial system in Alabama, took the issue to court, and won—making her the first black woman to win a case against a white man. Reunited with her son Peter, they moved to New York City where Sojourner heard the gospel and believed. Following her conversion to Christ, Sojourner said, “The Spirit Calls me and I must go.” She set out to be an abolitionist, women’s rights activist and preacher of the gospel.[3]

Lesson for moms today: Pursue justice—no matter the cost. Be brave and committed to the truth. Love righteousness and justice (Ps. 33:5), not just at home, but all around you.

AMY CARMICHAEL – MOTHER OF HUNDREDS (1867-1951)

Born in Ireland, Amy’s first ministry experience was in Belfast amongst “Shawlies”—impoverished girls who worked in the mills and could only afford to wear shawls rather than hats. After hearing Hudson Taylor speak, Amy felt called to missions overseas. She served briefly in Japan before an illness forced her to return home. She suffered from neuralgia, a disease that caused great pain and weakness and required weeks of bedrest.

Despite her poor health, Amy remained steadfast in answering God’s call to share his love overseas. She set out for Bangalore, India, in 1895 where she joined a band of Indian Christian women who traveled from village to village sharing the gospel. Amy worked hard to become fluent in Tamil and understand the Hindu religion and culture.

Releasing Our Grip in Order to Live Filled

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Two stark contrasts placed back to back. One an example of complete, unhindered trust and the other of self-reliance.

Parents, do you remember what it was like when your kids were young? When they followed you around everywhere and valued whatever you said? And when life became frightening, they ran to you for comfort and affection.

Little ones don’t worry about where they’ll go tomorrow or whether they’ll have enough to eat or drink. They simply proceed with their day, laughing, playing, perhaps throwing a fit on occasion, but for the most part, enjoying life.

They come with empty but open hands. And 2,000+ years ago, when they were brought to Jesus, He said, in essence, “Take notice. Watch these little ones and learn. This is the kind of faith that pleases Me.”

And then “He took the children in His arms, laid His hands on them), and then He sent them away with peace and joy.

They came empty handed, humble, expectant and left blessed.

Full.

Some time later, a rich young man came to Jesus with pockets full but heart depleted. Upon seeing the Christ, something within him sparked, and he soon broke out into a run. Kneeling before the Savior, he asked, “Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?”

What was the cost? Donate 10 denarii to the poor? He’d do it! Say a certain number of prayers each day? No problem. Serve in the temple or in his community? Whatever it was, whatever Jesus asked, he was ready!

Until Jesus required the one thing the man wasn’t willing to give—his money. Upon first glance, it appears Jesus was calling him out for his wealth, calling him to a life of financial martyrdom. But that’s not the case. This went much deeper. Jesus was touching him at his core, asking him to surrender what he’d come to rely on most—himself.

To come humble, teachable, trusting and with empty but open hands. Trading that which he held so tightly for something of much greater value—freedom.

The man decided that price was too high, and so, he walked away with full hands and an empty heart.

I don’t have great wealth, but I have plenty of self-reliance. So often, like the rich young man, I come to Jesus, longing to experience deeper freedom, while holding tight to the very things, like my agenda or well-thought-out plans, that keep me from it. But if I want the joy and peace of a child, I need to learn to come to Jesus as those little ones from so long ago did—with empty but open hands, relinquishing those things I’ve come to rely on. To gain something much greater—intimacy with Christ.

Trusting God to lead me, to provide for me.

To fill me.

This article originally appeared here.

Promotion… Beginning or End of Summer… Which Is Best

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Promotion is a key part of children’s ministry. How you help kids transition up to the next grade is vital. And a big part of HOW you do promotion is WHEN you do promotion.

Some ministries do promotion at the beginning of summer. Others do promotion at the end of summer. Let’s compare the benefits of both.

Promoting at the Beginning of Summer:
Kids naturally consider themselves in the next grade as soon as school is out. Ask a child who just completed 1st grade what grade they are in the day after school lets out and he or she will say “2nd grade.” Promoting kids when school lets out lines up with what they are already thinking.
Kids have the summer to get acclimated to their new class, small group, age grouping, etc. Kids are already stressed out in the fall about fitting into their new grade. Promoting in the summer at church helps tone down the stress from dealing with simultaneous promotion at school and church.
Kids can be involved in the summer activities of the group they are promoting up to. An example would be 5th graders getting to go to middle school camp.
Kids have the summer to build relationships with the volunteers and staff of the next age group. This gives them a better connection going into the fall season.
Parents are already in the “closure” mindset at the end of the school year. Parents are a key part of transition and kids take their cues from their parents’ emotional mindset. Since parents are already in a closure mindset at the end of the school year, it makes it easier for them to accept the fact that their child is finished with a phase at church as well.
You have a better platform to advertise the promotion. When school is still in session, more parents and families are in town, so you are better able to connect with them. You can start communicating the promotion two to three months out.
Promoting at the End of Summer:
Kids can still participate in the summer activities of the age group they are in. Some ministries even do a hybrid of this and move kids up for the weekend services/classes while still allowing them to participate in the previous grades/groups activities.
It can build excitement going into the fall ministry season. There is a built in excitement that comes with a new school year beginning. You can tag onto this to create energy and excitement at church.
It gives you the summer to get key volunteers in place for the fall ministry season. More volunteers and families are obviously on vacation during the summer. This can be a challenge if you are trying to start kids in their new classroom or grade level. Waiting until the fall to promote helps you avoid this.
So…which is best? Promoting at the beginning or end of summer? This is something that you must think through for your ministry. It is also critical that you collaborate with the student ministry in this decision. One of the most important transitions is from elementary into middle school ministry. Many parents are very sensitive and nervous when facing this transition. Their “baby” is growing up and that’s a difficult thing to deal with. You want to make the transition as easy as possible for them. This must be a big factor in when you decide to do promotion. You must work with student ministries to determine which will be most beneficial for kids and their parents.

Your turn. When do you do promotion? At the beginning or end of summer? Why do promote then? Share your thoughts with everyone in the comment section below.

This article originally appeared here.

Missional Small Groups: 3 Keys

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It’s one of the words that have become in vogue in our church culture lexicon is missional. My auto spell check always changes it to “mission” or “missionary.” My internal conversation goes something like this…”no, no it’s missional, you know missional…to, well, umm” and my mind moves to an outdated term I have long understood…evangelism, but even that doesn’t quit capture the nuance of being missional.

In seeking to understand this better and to make sure I wasn’t missing anything attached to this modern term, I came across an article by Alan Hirsch, the director of The Forge Mission Training Network, called “Defining Missional.” It’s a great read and I love the definition he gave.

“It’s more that just outreach…that leaves it up to the church to go out and get people to move. It applies to the whole life of every believer. We are all missionaries sent out to a non-Christian culture. As the people of a missionary God, we ought to engage the world the same way he does—by going out rather than just reaching out.”

So how do we “go out” rather than “reach out”? For me that means wherever and whenever I “go out” I should be sharing the love of Jesus non-verbally or verbally…applying it to “my whole life as a believer.” Now we are making it personal and public. Interesting!

I have been working to incorporate this into the small groups on our campus and finding it to be a bit of a challenge to move our people from consumer, to server, to invitation giver. Below are three ways to make small groups missional.

#1. We need to build missionality into the natural rhythms of our small groups as well as leadership training.

We do this by serving together in our life group seasons. By training and defining to our small groups leaders what missional living is and why we are all called (Matthew 28:19) to “go” share the Good News, inviting others to church and to be the hands and feet of Jesus. When we do this we deepen our relationship not only with each other but with our God who desires us to love him by loving others. Making this a natural aspect of small groups means that in week one the question is presented…

How can we serve in an engaging way to demonstrate the love of Jesus and invite others to join us at church? What would that look like for you personally?

#2. Next we have to get our small groups out of the home, on to the street, and in the community to have fun! So many times we can get so focused on the curriculum that we don’t look up to see who or what is going on right in front of us.

Lift your heads friends! There is a whole world that needs to know Jesus in a non-threatening environment.

This is what I love about what we call “Activity Groups.” Groups focused around different activities such as cycling, hiking, yoga and much more. The attendees already have a common interest that they love so they organically begin to talk about the topic and their life. As Christ followers, we begin to share our life and can’t help but share how God is a part of our life. It’s the perfect setting for people to ask you questions about your faith as you share with them. Just meeting in a coffee shop, park or an open public setting can create a new energy and excitement on its own. Being together reduces the fear factor tremendously. So get out! Make the invitation. I know it can be scary, but what’s the worst thing that can happen? Yea, they might say no, but then again, they might say Yes!

#3. Tell the stories of the groups that are out there killing it…inviting their friends, family, neighbors and co-workers to church. Nothing takes you as far as a great story. In a study led by psychologist Dr. Raymond Mar, he found that stories help improve people’s social interpersonal skills and behavior in situations that they are unfamiliar with or haven’t experienced yet. Long story short…

“A compelling story with an emotional trigger keeps it real, brings a little more trust, helps us understand others, and be open to new ideas.”

They easily remember the story to apply it to their own life. Finally, increase your comfort level for asking for these stories, re-telling them and getting them on our favorite social media platform. This will help to increase the “normalcy” of getting out of the “classroom” and into the world.

This article originally appeared here.

3 Things Millennials Aren’t Finding in Church

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Yet another study shows that millennials are leaving the church in droves. The question that haunts me is “Why?”

I have a theory and it’s this…millennials (those born between the early ’80s and early 2000s) are yearning for purpose, community and authenticity. Unfortunately, they aren’t finding it in the typical church. It’s interesting that this is exactly what the early church provided.

“After they prayed, the place where they were meeting was shaken. And they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and spoke the word of God boldly. All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of their possessions was their own, but they shared everything they had. With great power the apostles continued to testify to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus. And God’s grace was so powerfully at work in them all that there were no needy persons among them. For from time to time those who owned land or houses sold them, brought the money from the sales and put it at the apostles’ feet, and it was distributed to anyone who had need.” Acts 4:31-35

Millennials are yearning for three things:

1. A purpose to live for.

The church has a purpose to accomplish and that is “to seek and to save what was lost” (Luke 19:10), according to the words of Jesus himself. This search-and-rescue mission was carried out by the early believers who prayed with passion for the lost and proclaimed with boldness the name of Jesus. They “spoke the Word of God boldly,” and our millennials must be challenged to do the same.

Too often the church tries to keep their young with good causes (stopping human trafficking, eradicating poverty, etc.), but they leave the very cause of Christ off the table. We should “both/and” it with these causes and equip the next generation to love their neighbor and reach their neighbor with the hope of Jesus. The church needs to provide these young people with a Gospel Advancing mission across the street, across the tracks and across the world!

When the church can cross this chasm, we will have a purpose that is unique from the world’s do-good-ism. Only the church can rescue the lost from the hell they are headed to and the hell they are going through.

We must give the next generation).

2. A community to live with.

“All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of their possessions was their own, but they shared everything they had.” Acts 4:32

Talk about community! The early church was the opposite of the consumeristic, give-to-get version of Christianity present in many churches today.

These early believers were one in heart and absolutely selfless. They were joined at the heart with other believers by a common Savior, a common creed and a common cause.

Why are there gang problems in many of our cities? Because teenagers are longing for a tribe! If this tribe cannot be found in the church, it will be (and sadly often is) found elsewhere.

Right after Paul gives us the power passage of Ephesians 2:8-10, where we discover we are saved “by grace…through faith,” he puts an exclamation point on the Gospel by reminding us of our new community:

“Therefore, remember that formerly you who are Gentiles by birth and called ‘uncircumcised’ by those who call themselves “the circumcision” (which is done in the body by human hands)—remember that at that time you were separate from Christ, excluded from citizenship in Israel and foreigners to the covenants of the promise, without hope and without God in the world. But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near by the blood of Christ. For he himself is our peace, who has made the two groups one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility, by setting aside in his flesh the law with its commands and regulations. His purpose was to create in himself one new humanity out of the two, thus making peace, and in one body to reconcile both of them to God through the cross, by which he put to death their hostility. He came and preached peace to you who were far away and peace to those who were near. For through him we both have access to the Father by one Spirit.” Ephesians 2:11-18

This is the unity that millennials (and everyone else for that matter) long for deep in their hearts. They long for a community that is free of racism, prejudice and pride. Which leads us to the third thing…

Why Pretty Much Every Church Leader Needs Marriage Counseling

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We Go to Counseling

Marriage counseling.

I spent 10 years in the dating world searching for and imagining my perfect husband. My husband spent three years married to someone else before he married me. And he’s never casually dated. Ever. (The journey of each of our healing, redemption and love for one another is whole other story for another day.)

We are both pushing nearly a decade in occupational ministry, are new parents with baby two on the way, and are navigating life’s changing seasons almost daily.

Needless to say, we each bring our own history, weak spots and relational dynamics to our marriage.

I used to be surprised by people’s reaction when I told them my husband and I go to counseling. We’ve been leaders in our church and community for many years and perhaps “counseling” doesn’t fit people’s mold for us.

“Really? Why? What’s wrong?” they’d say, with concerned intonations.

The truth is, nothing. Nothing is wrong.

We Don’t Go to Counseling Because We Have a Weak Marriage. We Go to Counseling to Build a Strong One.

So there we are in a counseling session. We sit awkwardly holding hands on faded floral couches with our McDonald’s drive-through coffees. The vertical blinds in the room are tilted just enough to let the daylight in, but not enough to expose our identity. Like counseling is something to be secret or shameful. The room is quiet.

Side note here…counseling should not be shameful! It should be celebrated and cheered for. Appropriately, of course. But it’s not shameful.

When someone is engaged in counseling, it means they’re engaged in their life and that they want to make progress toward wise, meaningful life-decision.Toward health.

Why are we embarrassed to need counsel or coaching? Are we ashamed to be seeking support? Ashamed that we want healthier relationships?

We’ve gone as often as monthly, to as spread out as every 6-12 months. To a professional. With a PhD.

What does that look like? We sit down and talk with someone much wiser than us when it comes to marriage relationships about how to have a strong, healthy relationship.

Through Counseling We Get To:

  • understand how our past impacts our present.
  • learn the other’s needs in ways we don’t normally have tools to talk about.
  • get an outside perspective to help us see beyond ourselves.
  • dream about our future and what we hope our marriage and family will look like two, five or 10 years down the road.
  • explore what emotional intelligence looks like in our relationship. (It’s worth more than money, let me assure you.)

Do you know what the best part of counseling has been?

Someone leading us through how to have those important, meaningful conversations on our own, day-to-day.

What we have learned in counseling hasn’t stayed there. It’s given us tangible tools to build a strong marriage.

I’ll be the first to admit…not all counselors are the same and they’re not one-size-fits-all. Each one brings a unique approach, education and skill set to the table. There are even life coaches that support you in achieving future goals and ambitions.

One counselor might not be very helpful…but that doesn’t mean all counselors are not helpful. The next one could lead to a major breakthrough.

I have also been to a counselor when everything was not OK. And there’s no shame in that either.

Because there are just times when we need more help and guidance than coffee with a good friend can offer.

Good Counseling Costs Less Than Stress-Leave, Sick-Leave or Divorce.

Frankly, life’s too short to live in pain when help is out there.

In North America, why does it seem more acceptable to pay for physical health with a gym membership but not for mental and emotional health with a counseling session?

Either way, the responsibility is still on you and I.

Showing up at the gym without exercising doesn’t make us any healthier than buying an apple and watching it rot. And it’s the same with counseling; we have to show up and engage. 

You know, at the end of the day, I actually think we all need counseling. Because we’re all human. We’ve all been hurt or broken or confused by someone or something. And there is hope.

I just wish it was more socially acceptable.

So, let’s let go of the shame of counseling and celebrate the pursuit of healthy, meaningful relationships and lives.

What about you? What do you think about counseling?

This article originally appeared here.

10 Leadership Tendencies I’m Trying to Change

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I grew up in a different era, and my models of leadership operated differently than many strong leaders do today. In addition, I can get self-centered and self-focused. If I were serving as a senior pastor today, here are some leadership traits I would need to change—and thus I’m working on them today:

  1. Raising up leaders to keep them with me, not send them out. It’s tough to let people go after you’ve invested in them—but I need to be willing to do so.
  2. Assuming my staff can read my mind. I know better, but I sometimes get frustrated at them for not doing what I never told them to do in the first place.
  3. Acting as if nobody can do it better than I can. That attitude costs me time and energy, as I continually check up on others and work to clean up anything I don’t like.
  4. Getting so focused on tasks that I forget about people. I’m task driven, and my roles require me to do a lot—but I at times roll over people in the process. That’s poor leadership.
  5. Ignoring the importance of casting vision. Because I tend to be detail-oriented, I forget that others want to serve toward accomplishing a vision. I need to keep that dream in front of people I’m leading.
  6. Waiting too long to confront. I’m glad I’m patient, but I wonder if I sometimes extend grace too long.
  7. Refusing to say “no.” I desperately need to work on this one. In fact, I need the help of God and others in this arena.
  8. Letting failure and worry consume me. This one drives me crazy. I’m still learning how to trust God with my failures and mistakes.
  9. Not reading enough books outside my primary interests. I know what I love to read, but I also know some areas where I probably need to read more.
  10. Falling back on my age for excusing irrelevance. The older I get, the easier it is for me to say, “You know, I’m just older. I don’t understand that stuff (like technology).” The problem is that I’m leading people who do understand that stuff.

Pick one of my tendencies, and give me some ideas about how to address it. What tendencies do you want to change?

This article originally appeared here.

The 3 Questions Pastors Need to Help New Believers Answer

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One of the most confusing things for a new believer is understanding the church. And honestly, I get it. Throughout the Bible, the church is talked about as a family, body, flock, army and finally a beautiful bride.

While seasoned believers understand the significance of those terms, many new believers are intimidated. They don’t get what these phrases mean and feel defeated in their knowledge of the church. So how can you as a pastor help them discover who they are in relationship to the church?

In Jaime Loya’s book Discover Who You Are, he addresses three crucial questions every new believer grapples with and subsequent lessons to help them assimilate into the church..

  1. How does God see me?
  2. How  should I see God?
  3. How should I see God’s church?

These are three of the most important questions for new believers to be able to answer. Not only do they need to understand their place in the church but they also need to learn about their identity in Christ. Instead of getting hung up on tricky wording, they need a user friendly manual to help them navigate the church.

Pastors who’ve been around church for a while can often forget how strange things sound to those who are embracing Christianity for the first time. Many times new believers will get made fun of by friends for “being different.” While the Gospel calls us to stand out, pastors must also come alongside new Christians and invite them into community.

As Loya explains, the church is meant to be a revelation of who we are and who we were meant to be. It’s in embracing who God created us to be that we find purpose. When new believers start to embrace their identity, they start to walk in power.

This means your church now has this infectious power.

When new believers learn about who they are, they also start to serve the church in huge ways. Their desire to expand God’s kingdom is inspiring. What an incredible thing for new believers to become disciple makers.

You can help new believers start to thrive in their understanding of who they are, who God is, and who the church was designed to be.

Purchase Loya’s book today!

Discipling Families in a Multi-Ethnic Lifestyle

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Blair Waggett is the Kids Director at our Chapel Hill campus. At the encouragement of several of our African American pastors, Blair offered to share some of how he and his family are pursuing a multi-ethnic lifestyle. – J.D. Greear.

My hope in writing this is that you will hear the heart of a family pursuing Christ-like community in our own home, while simultaneously embracing our mistakes and shortcomings. It is my prayer that I don’t appear as a self-righteous white guy. I have a lot to learn, but I have also learned a lot. As part of the majority culture, my prayer is that we can greatly impact the climate of healthy biblical change at our church. Therefore, my primary audience is other people within the majority culture. I also humbly ask for grace and mercy from our minority families, whose wisdom I continue to need as we disciple our families better.

I am a daddy of three kids (5, 2 1/2 and 1). I grew up in Wilmington, N.C., and to most it’s a surprise when they find out about the home I grew up in. My dad is biracial (white and Filipino) and my mom is white. As part of the Asian culture, an athlete and a pretty sick musician, my dad had the blessing of being able to walk both the white and non-white side of the fence growing up in the 1960s and ‘70s. He had black friends, white friends, Filipino friends and Samoan friends. This lifestyle permeated my thought process as a child. My closest friends have almost always looked different than me. Some of my own family members don’t even look like me. I’ve always been most comfortable around multi-ethnic communities.

Yet, despite that comfort, I haven’t always understood multi-ethnicity, nor have I always respected and honored it. To be honest, at times, I was open to and even participated in conversations that degraded someone for their race.

Like all of us, I am broken by the sin of racism. As I think of what a multi-ethnic lifestyle looks like in the home, my hope is that we get to a place where we, as daddies and mommies, not only push our children to understand race, ethnicity and culture, but to respectlove and, most importantly, value it the same way that God does—because he treasures the richness of the varied ethnicities he created.

My wife and I want the little disciples in our home to say, with ease and sincerity, “Mom! Dad! I have a black/brown/white/Asian/Latino/Native American friend. And I love them.” To reach that goal, here are five ideas we prioritize in our home:

1. Celebrate the community that God has placed you in.

Eventually, your kids are going to notice that someone they know looks different than them. They will see a person who dresses differently, or that talks differently, or they’ll notice someone’s hair is different than theirs. Often times, we parents see this as a moment of confusion. Some of us don’t want to deal with answering these questions because we have our own stereotypical thoughts or negative ideas about a certain group of people. Others of us don’t know how to guide the conversation without being misinformed and coming across as rude, so we try to avoid it or minimize it.

But here is the real truth of the matter: God created man in his image (Genesis 1:27). So that little boy or little girl that your kid has noticed is a child of the great I Am—a prince or princess worthy of all the respect due God himself.

When your kids notice someone that looks different, don’t shy away from the differences. Instead, celebrate the diversity that God has created. Celebrate the difference that you would have otherwise have ignored (but that your kid, not knowing the social rules, just blurted out).

The alternatives to celebrating these ethnic differences aren’t pretty. If we ignore them, we communicate to our kids that ethnic differences are dangerous to talk about. Worse, if we denigrate others for the way they look, we communicate to our kids that God doesn’t find beauty in all of his children. So let’s take our kids’ sincere and awkward questions as an opportunity to see the beauty that God has put right in front of us.

2. Go first.    

What would happen if, instead of your kid bringing up something out of the blue, you brought it to their attention first? “Hey, Sam! Did you notice that God blessed you with friends that look different than you? How can you thank God for the people he has placed in your life?”

You’ve now set the stage for shaping how your children see those around them through the lens of the gospel. Leaving a first-time experience like this up to someone else (a teacher or a classmate) is risky. Maybe another grown-up will shepherd your child well in this moment. But maybe they will reinforce hurtful stereotypes. Wouldn’t you rather frame your kids’ understanding of ethnicity before a relative stranger does?

And if you harbor stereotypes yourself, why not “go first” by modeling humility and repentance before your children? If you need to be discipled in addressing issues of multi-ethnicity, show your kids what Christlike vulnerability is by admitting that you have room to grow and asking for help. Go first!

Five Ways to Promote Your Church On a Tiny Budget

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Do you want to invite more people to visit your church service or church event? Are you looking for the most cost-effective ways to advertise your church?

Here are some ideas for how you can promote your church.

And these ideas won’t cost a lot of money. In fact, most of them are free.

Idea #1:  Share local events or helpful information on Facebook.

Take a look at the content you share on social media.

Is it all about you?

Chances are, you’re doing a pretty good job getting the word out about your services and your events.

It might sound counter-intuitive, but the best way to promote your church is not to promote your church at all.  Stop posting selfies, and flip the camera around. Use your promotional resources to talk about things already happening in your community.

In other words, make it about them — not you.

Gwinnett Church does a great job with this with the hashtag #ForGwinnett.  Go ahead and search that hashtag.

Sure, you’ll see a few pictures of church services and church events. But you’ll see a lot more stuff about the community.

Here are a few examples illustrating how Gwinnett uses their Facebook page to be about the community

When you talk about local businesses, local schools, and local events, people notice (and often share). You remind people that you’re not just interested in the growth of the church but the good of the community.

Idea #2:  Equip your people with tools to invite.

I’ve said this before, but churches do a great job asking their members to invite others.

“Don’t forget to invite your friends next week,” is a common encouragement at the end of many church services.

But we don’t just need to ask them to invite, we need to equip people to invite. We’ve got to give them the tools they need. Remember, the easier you make something, the more likely someone is to do it.

Simple invite tools are not expensive.

  • It could be a few creatively designed invite cards printed from Next Day Flyers.
  • It could be pre-written social media posts (with pictures) that people could cut, paste, and post.
  • It could be car stickers, flyers, or graphics people can easily share.

Create simple tools and take the time to teach people how to use them. Here are 19 ways you can encourage your church to invite.

Idea #3:  Leverage social media on Sunday morning.

Carey Nieuwhof says it’s time to stop welcoming people like it’s 1999.

What’s he talking about?

Most people in church have smartphones in their pockets. That’s not something to fear; that’s something to leverage.

Here’s what we mean.

We’ve seen churches put creative signs on the floor, so people can take pictures of their feet and let people know they are at church.

I’ve seen churches encourage people to take out their phones during the welcome and let everyone know they are at church.

I’ve seen churches create shareable notes and quotes so church attendees can share a little about their experience.

The main idea here is to recognize the collective influence of your congregation and find ways to help them leverage those relationships.

Idea #4:  Go old school.

Maybe most people in your church don’t use social media. That’s okay.

There are plenty of non-technological ways you can get the word out about your church or a church event.

In fact, in a digital age, it might even be easier for something counter-culture to get noticed. There are plenty of old school, grassroots methods that still work in addition to new methods.

  • Printing flyers and handing them out might seem outdated, but if that’s what you can do, go for it.
  • Printing road signs and putting them out on the weekend can help you get some positive attention.
  • You can hang door-hangers in neighborhoods.

Be creative and be fun. And promote relevant events. But you don’t have to abandon traditional methods just because someone says everything is going digital.

Idea #5:  Join outside-of-church community groups.

This won’t cost you a lot of money, but there could be a significant long-term impact.

If your community has civic groups, join one.

If your church has more than one person on staff, divide and conquer.

Can you imagine how many relationships and opportunities would happen if every civic group in town had a representative from your church? Someone should be at every Chamber of Commerce meeting. Someone should join the Kiwanis club. Someone should show up at the Young Republicans meeting or the Young Democrats meeting.

Be present in your community and look for ways to help. Your church just might be a solution to a problem some group is trying to work through.

Those are five ideas for how you can promote your church on a tiny budget. Some of these don’t involve any money at all.

Original article appeared here.

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Joby Martin joins “The Stetzer ChurchLeaders Podcast” to discuss what happens when a church leader has truly been run over by the “grace train" and understands the profound love and grace of God.