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A Lesson From Charles Spurgeon on Evangelism

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Charles Spurgeon has been aptly described as one of those “once-a-century” type of preachers in whom all of the powerful gifts that are useful in ministry are deposited.[1] His life and labors stand today, more than 100 years after his death, encouraging and challenging ministers of the gospel who face the third millennium.

Any study of his ministry immediately reveals a man obsessed with evangelism. From the moment of his conversion to his dying day, Spurgeon maintained a deep burden for souls. He was a fanatic about it—in all of the right ways. As a pastor he took to heart the apostolic injunction to “do the work of an evangelist.” And he diligently tried to stir up evangelistic concern among his church and fellow preachers.

This fact confounds some students of Spurgeon’s life. For, along with his evangelistic fervor (and, we might add, despite modern claims to the contrary), he never wavered from a strong commitment to the doctrines of grace. He clearly understood, personally believed and powerfully proclaimed what is popularly called “Calvinism.” And he did so not out of any kind of devotion to a man or philosophical system, but because he was convinced that the body of truth that historically flew under that banner was nothing other than biblical Christianity.[2] It was this understanding that enabled him to preach Christ so simply and persuasively.

Some who disagree with Spurgeon’s theology but appreciate his evangelism have difficulty reconciling his beliefs with his practice. Their reasoning typically goes like this: “Yes, Spurgeon was a Calvinist, but despite that fact, he was evangelistic.” Such an analysis, however, completely misses the mark. It would be far more accurate to say, “Of course Spurgeon was a Calvinist, and therefore he was evangelistic.” His devotion grew out of his doctrine and his belief gave direction to his practice.

It is here, perhaps more than anywhere else, that the “Prince of Preachers” has much to teach modern Baptists. There has been a return to Spurgeon’s theology by many Baptists over the last 25 years. This theological renewal is growing exponentially. But what has not been seen is a commensurate growth in Spurgeon’s kind of evangelism. And this ought to alarm all who want to see real, biblical renewal sweep across our churches.

There is a generation of Baptist ministers who grew up with evangelism that was modeled on salesmanship. And some modern evangelism workbooks are little different from Donald Trump’s The Art of the Deal. This kind of evangelism has wreaked havoc on churches, filling membership rolls with unconverted people and utterly confusing believers about the nature of real Christianity. Such evangelism is deadly and must be rejected out of hand. But, as Jesus warned, when an unclean spirit goes out of a man, if it is not replaced, then it will return and bring with it “seven other spirits more wicked than himself…and the last state of that man is worse than the first” (Matt. 12:45). False evangelism must be replaced by the true. And Spurgeon can point the way particularly in terms of inward attitudes and desires.

Spurgeon was a capital “C” Calvinist and a capital “B” Baptist, but his CHRISTIANITY was written in all capitals. In an address to the students at the pastors’ college, he acknowledged the propriety of trying to make a paedobaptist a Baptist, and trying to help Arminians see that salvation is all of grace. “But,” he said, “our grand object is not the revision of opinions, but the regeneration of natures. We would bring men to Christ, and not to our own peculiar views of Christianity… To make proselytes is a suitable labour for Pharisees: To beget men unto God is the honourable aim of ministers of Christ.”[3]

7 Signs Your Small Group Ministry Has a Bad Design

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If it’s true that “your ministry is perfectly designed to produce the results you are currently experiencing (Andy Stanley),” the corollary is that if you don’t like the results you are currently experiencing, you need to acknowledge that you have a bad design and change it. After all, the definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results (Albert Einstein).”

Let me say that again. If you don’t like the results you are currently experiencing, you need to acknowledge that you have a bad design and change it.

7 signs your small group ministry has a bad design

Sign #1: Your percentage connected is flatlined.

Whether your weekend attendance is increasing or not, a flatlined percentage connected (the percentage of your adults who are connected in a group) indicates that your small group system is inadequately designed.

Think about it. Whether your weekend attendance is growing, staying the same or declining, the number of adults in groups ought to be increasing. And, your design ought to be capable of producing a growing number of groups and group members, sufficient to exceed all but the most dynamic weekend worship attendance growth.

If, on the other hand, your percentage connected is flatlined or declining, it is a strong indication that you have a bad design and must look for a better alternative. See also, Breaking the Mythical 150% Participation Barrier and The Catch a Moving Train Scenario.

Sign #2: You have trouble finding enough leaders.

This is a common symptom of designs that depend on selecting new leaders from the usual suspects (by usual suspects, I mean the people you already know, typically members of existing groups).

Think about it. Once your congregation is larger than about 250 adults it will become increasingly common that your senior pastor and platform staff will be recognized at the grocery store and restaurants by people they don’t know. When this happens your strategy must be able to recruit leaders from the adults you do not know because some of the highest capacity potential leaders will be unknown. This phenomenon is what makes the HOST strategy and the Small Group Connection strategy so effective. Both strategies recruit leaders from the unknown segment of your congregation and crowd.

Sign #3: You have leaders ready but not enough interest to fill their groups.

This is often an indication that there are too many options on the belonging and becoming menu (i.e., Sunday school, discipleship training, Precepts, off campus small groups, etc.). It can also be an indication that your congregation sees the weekend service as everything they need.

Think about it. If, when unconnected people look at your website or weekend program, there are too many options to choose from, they are less likely to choose a small group (from a purely mathematical standpoint, if nothing else) and more likely to choose nothing at all (from the standpoint of more options leading to fewer selections, not more).

The greatest opportunity to connect the largest number of unconnected people exists when a single first step out of the auditorium leads directly to a tailor made connection point.

Sign #4: Your coaching structure does not work.

This is a common symptom of bad small group ministry design. The wrong people or the wrong job description can both play a part in the implications of a bad design. And since one of two primary upsides of an effective coaching structure is its ability to sustain a much higher percentage of new groups, the lack of an effective coaching structure predicts a flatlined or declining number of groups.

Think about it. If whatever you want group members to experience must happen to the leader first (i.e., a sense of family, the knowledge that they’re being prayed for, life-change, etc.), then the coach must do to and for the leader whatever you want the leader to do to and for the members of their group.

If your coaches are not selected for their ability to do the right things to and for the leaders they are assigned to care for, they will default to the role they are suited to play (typically doing nothing or at best serving as a kind of accountant, checking on attendance and how often the group is meeting).

Sign #5: Your senior pastor is reluctant to champion the importance of community.

There are several reasons senior pastors are reluctant to champion the importance of community. For example, they may see you as the champion and not want to take back something they’ve delegated. They may not be in a group themselves and be hesitant to promote something they are not part of. Or, they may see your system as ineffective.

Still, building a thriving small group ministry requires the most influential person in the congregation (the senior pastor) to serve as its #1 spokesperson and champion.

Think about it. Connecting beyond the usual suspects (those already inclined toward community) requires changing the minds of the members in your crowd and congregation who aren’t naturally drawn to connecting. Your senior pastor as champion takes advantage of the most influential person in your congregation.

Sign #6: Your small groups deliver a sense of belonging but rarely produce becoming.

Small group strategies that make it easy to connect but aren’t designed to make disciples are poorly designed. According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, belonging is more fundamental than becoming, but both are essential.

Think about it. Small groups are often characterized as “the optimum environment for life-change” but in order to truly be that, they must be designed for more than belonging. They must make becoming an ordinary part of the experience.

Sign #7: Only a small percentage of your new groups continue meeting after they’re launched.

This design flaw is a leading indicator for flatlined percentage connected. Strategies that struggle to launch and sustain new groups need an immediate overhaul.

Think about it. Regardless of the number of new groups launched, if you’re not sustaining a reasonably high percentage of new groups, your percentage connected is not likely to increase. Instead, you may only be replacing groups that come to an end.

This article originally appeared here.

14 Multisite Church Facts I Wish I Knew Before Launching 14 Campuses

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In the early 2000s, I started on my multisite journey. In those days, we were just trying to solve a space problem at our growing church. We had some innovative volunteers at our church who asked if they could take the video that we were using to run an “overflow” and host a small group, 45 minutes away from where we were meeting. It was an incredibly simple idea that flourished to the point where I’ve seen thousands of people connected to the churches I’ve served at through this approach of “doing church.”

Since then, I’ve had the honor of being at the forefront of 14 campus launches. We’ve seen around 1,500 volunteers join our mission and actively work to see those campuses launched. Today, over 9,000 people attend the campuses that sprung from our efforts. It has been a privilege to have a front row seat to this amazing approach to reaching new people with the message of Jesus. Seeing a revolution from the inside gives one a perspective that is second to no other!

As incredible as it’s been to see this movement from the inside, there are some lessons I wished I had known before we started this journey. These facts have been birthed over years of launching different sites and I wanted to share them with you here. These tips will help to save you time, effort and energy as you launch new locations! Lean in on these lessons and you are bound to find a few shortcuts to reaching more people in your community.

I’m still as much of a “fan” of the multisite church approach today as I was all those years ago when I was setting out to launch with so much hope in the first campus. I really do think that every growing church should consider this approach to multiplication. It’s been breathtaking to see this movement in a few churches grow to the point where one in six churchgoers in North America now attend a multisite church! Wowsers! I would have never predicted that back when we started sharing our video with that small group 45 minutes away!

The size and health of your launch core is the critical success factor.

Having watched so many different dynamics associated with these launches up close, I am convinced that the campuses that launch strong have a large and healthy group of volunteers kicking it off. In fact, when I talk with churches who have struggling campuses the problems can often be linked back to a lack of passionate people on the launch team. Moreover, it indicates that the volunteers weren’t trained enough before the campus started.

Yes, you can launch too quickly.

The best volunteers are not early adopters but are, counterintuitively, the “late majority” folks because they are most likely to stick with the campus long term. The problem with that is that most church leaders are more “innovative” than the people they need to make that campus work. Innovators love the pressure of getting the campus out of the door but the vast majority of volunteers prefer to take time and need to be “wooed” into the process. Once you win these folks over, they will stick and stay for the long haul. Too many churches rush the launch process and miss the opportunity to build long-term leadership teams.

Campus pare hard to find…but are most likely found within.

I wish I could get back all the hours I wasted worrying about where we were going to recruit campus pastors from. There is a clear evidence that campus pastors are being found within the church that is launching the campuses. In fact, 87 percent of campus pastors are found internally. [ref] This means you should get busy considering that fact that your next campus pastor is most likely already attending your church. Instead of looking far afield for them, invest your energy in identifying them and bringing them up.

It’s not about video-driven campuses.

Too many times people assume that all multisite churches are just pumping video from one campus to others. However, what we’re seeing is the majority of multisite churches are doing some combination of both local live and centralized video teaching. [ref] It’s healthy and good for local campuses to get a chance to teach on a regular basis in “video-driven” multisite churches. (Of course, “regular” is up for discussion and debate.) In churches that do some form of “team teaching” where the campus pastors do most of the communication, it’s valuable to have occasional video messages to keep the church rowing together. The fact is, the bigger the church and the more campuses you have the more video you are going to use among your locations. [ref]

Student ministry is hard in multisite.

At its core, the idea of multisite church is about delivering a smaller and “closer to home” experience. For adults, if there are 150 or 1,500 people in the room, the experience is a close approximation. For most kids, the small group leader is the key to delivering the best experience possible. For students, critical mass matters. If there are 20 people at an event or 100 people at the event, it’s not five times better but more like 50 times cooler! This is challenging in multisite because it tends to subdivide your church into small communities. Lots of churches struggle providing student ministry in this approach.

It’s way more financially efficient.

Multiple times over the years I’ve been in the situation where we are building a large box to house one of our campuses; at the same time as working on new “portable” locations. When you do a side by side financial comparisons of “cost per seat” to launch a new “big box” versus launching new campuses, the new portable locations are in an entirely different language on the cost structure. Many churches are driven to launch new campuses rather than build a bigger “box” because the cost structures are just so compelling. In fact, when talking with organizations that build a lot of churches they just aren’t seeing people building the “big box” churches anymore as a direct impact of the multisite movement.

Think Regional not National.

There are a few churches that have used this model to launch campuses across the country. These should be seen as an exception, not a guideline for you to follow. Those churches usually have a uniquely gifted communicator with a national platform that can speak to that audience. Most multisite churches should be thinking about how they can use this strategy to saturate the region they are from. As a rule of thumb, that region usually extends to where people cheer for the same sports teams. First, figure out how to reach people in that region before jumping to national aspirations. (By the way, why do so many multisite churches in the north have campuses in Florida?) 😉

Nail it before you scale it.

You’ll get more of whatever you multiply through going multisite. If you have problems with parts of what you do, those parts will just grow. If there are aspects of your ministry that are full of pain in the process, you’ll just have more pain. Before you head out to launch make sure there is a modicum of health.

Teaching is the biggest “non-issue” long term.

There is a lot of conversation and discussion up front about how to deliver teaching at most multisite churches. Teaching pastors do a lot soul-searching around them being the “face on the screen” all over town. Campus pastors jockey for more stage time and want to get in the saddle and teach. However, long-term this becomes the smallest issue in launching, sustaining, and growing a multisite campus. All of the “people” issues are much more pressing realities in making this approach work. Developing teams, connecting people to the community, raising financial resources and attracting new guests are far more pressing issues for campuses than how you’re going to deliver teaching.

Don’t launch a campus but launch a system for launching campuses.

At last survey, 85 percent of multisite churches are stuck with less than two campuses. [ref] This is a shame for kingdom impact. These churches have started down the road of multiplication but stalled out. Imagine the impact this movement would have if we could move all of those churches to launch a few more sites! My conviction is that the reason that most churches are stuck at that point is because they just launched a campus or two but didn’t build a system for regularly launching new locations. They need a multisite church launch flywheel to help them in this endeavor!

Are You a Human Being or a Human Doing?

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Years ago, a good friend really handed it to me. He said, “When I see someone running as hard as you run, I wonder who he’s trying to please.” My friend didn’t wonder, “Is he trying to please someone?” He knew that answer. The question was who?

Most of us start out trying to please our dads. For some of us, that’s the who we’re chasing for the rest of our lives, whether we realize it or not. For years, each time I’d get a promotion or a raise, I’d call my dad before I’d call my wife. It took me a long time to uncover what that said about the most significant who in my life.

But after surrendering to God and ‘replacing’ my earthly father with my Heavenly Father, things changed. I released my dad from all my expectations; from all the things I wished he had been and done. I forgave him and accepted him just as he was for the rest of his life. But before long, I was driving just as hard as a sold-out Christian as I was before. Why?

The reality is, some of us make God our work. We make Him something we do. The church loves it because we fill all the volunteer jobs; fill the seats and the fill the offering plates.

But we miss what God really wants…

Relationship

Communion

Dependence

Worship

Gratitude

Love

Those things flow from the Holy Spirit living in our hearts when we stop being human doings and become human beings.

This week, spend time just being…with your family, with your friends, with yourself and especially with God.

Just as a soldier who takes on his day without having orders from his commanding officer could be in trouble, how then can we head out in the morning without first consulting our King of Kings?

Instead of just charging out and doing, stop first to be with Him and ask, “Lord, what would you have me do today?”

Scripture: Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him. (Psalm 62:5) 

Mentor Tip: Some of your mentees will be hard-charging human doings. Give them permission to take a break and be human beings for a little while.

This article originally appeared here.

Last Minute Easter Resources You Can Use NOW

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We need Easter resources now! Anyone who’s on staff at a church knows precisely how many days are left before Easter. For churches, Easter is the biggest deal on the church events calendar. Arguably, it’s also the biggest deal on the world calendar, which is why we are so eager to share our Easter celebration with the world!

We know you’re probably far into your yearly Easter prep, but we wanted to share some resources that will still prove helpful as you put the last minute touches on your programming this year. (Plus, if you’re a little behind the Easter power curve, these Easter resources definitely help you!)

Easter Resources for Families

Easter Resources for Families

While a lot of emphasis is put on connecting with guests at Easter (rightfully so!) sometimes the members of your church can feel a little overlooked if you spend the weeks leading up to Easter asking them to be friendly and smile on Easter Sunday and don’t also communicate how they can do things like celebrate Easter in their own families.

For families with little ones, check out Christina Embree’s simple Easter scavenger hunt.
Easter Scavenger Hunt for the Family
Top 10 Easter Traditions for Families to Try This Spring

Easter Resources for Children’s Ministry

Easter Resources for Children's Ministry

Easter is a big deal for children’s ministry. It may be the ministry affected most by the influx of visitors to your church. Between the Easter Egg Hunts you’ve doubtless already thought about and are putting the final planning touches on to the extra craft supplies you’ve gathered to your follow up plan after those wonderful guests leave the Easter service, there’s a lot going on.

6 Faith-Focused Easter Egg Hunt Ideas for Kids and Families

10 Eggscelent Easter Puns That Will Crack Your Kids Up

Free Printable: “Happy Easter” Coloring Page

6 Secrets to Effective Easter Follow-Up

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At this point, your worship pastor already has the set list chosen and the choir prepped, but they may not have their slides or graphics ready for the big day. Here are a few to choose from:

Free Graphics Package: “Celebrate Easter”

Free Graphics Package: Easter Collection

Free Series Graphic: Easter

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Your youth pastor is always looking for ideas to help teenagers own their own faith, and Easter time is no different. This free devotional will help teens really think about the message of Easter and the effect it has on our lives.

Free Youth Devotional: 10 Easter Devotions

Easter Resources for Small Group MinistryEaster Resources for Small Group Ministry

A small group is a great way to get people plugged in to your church who are interested in Bible study, looking for community, or trying to figure out what it’s like to be a Christian. For those guests who are eager to go a little deeper, consider a special small group curriculum geared for newcomers:

5 Great Post-Easter Studies

Post-Easter Resources for Everyone Who Ministers

After the last guest has gone home, you’ve cleaned up the sanctuary and the children’s room, it’s time to take a much-needed break. At that point, however, you will be tempted to reply the entire week leading up to Easter—the wins, the losses, and just all the stuff that happened. Before you do that, read this article:

3 Dangers the Day After Easter

Follow up with the visitors who came to your church is going to be key. You’ll find some excellent ideas for follow up in this eBook:

Your Free Guide to Easter Outreach and Follow Up Strategy

Finally, another important part of pulling off big events such as Easter is to take the take to reflect on all the ministry your team did, all the lives you’ve impacted, all of it. As the adrenaline makes its way out of your veins, take a minute to laugh, too. Rarely does everything go off without a hitch, but sometimes those hitches can be really funny. It’s good to laugh at yourself every once in a while. Keeps you humble.

Pastors on Easter Be Like…

Happy Easter!

Your Free Guide to Easter Outreach and Follow Up Strategy

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Here at churchleaders.com we understand that your heart beats for reaching people for Christ. And with Easter on its way–very soon–we want to help you be most effective at outreach and follow-up strategy for Easter. So we’ve put together this free book with our best ideas to increase your effectiveness. All you have to do is download it.

“more than likely, 25% of all your visitors this year will come on easter. only 10% of those visitors will come back.

 Brian Jones, senior pastor of Christ’s Church of the Valley in Philadelphia

Let’s begin with step #1. The most important thing is, of course, to PRAY!

Why? Because God is the One who gives the increase!

  1. You’re in a spiritual battle for the lives and souls of people.
  2. The world is set against you.
  3. People need Jesus!
What can you do?

Turn to those who’ve gone before you–to those who’ve led the way!

“Once a year, we have an unprecedented opportunity to make Easter special and welcome some in our communities who would not normally attend church.”

Ronnie Floyd, pastor for over 37 years

 

 that will explain these key points for your Easter outreach and follow up. Here’s a free downloadable guide

  • 4 reasons why increasing church attendance matters.
  • How to make Easter special for your church family.
  • 3 things you can do to connect more people after Easter.
  • The biggest thing that will bring back Easter guests.

Especially at Easter, remember a lost world. People will come to your church on Easter who may only come once or twice the rest of the year.

You can try to shame them into coming more (and it probably won’t work), or you can just love them and have compassion on them the way Jesus often had compassion on crowds who only showed up when he had food. Love them. Treat them lovingly. Maybe they’ll be back because of love. Download our helpful book Complete Guide to EASTER Outreach and Follow Up.

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Faith-Based Movie Outreach: 7 Reasons to Consider It

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I had a great discussion recently with a very large group of ministry leaders, regarding the effectiveness of leveraging a faith-based movie for outreach. I shared a short list stating why this is a proven and effective way to engage the community and experience ministry growth. If you have been considering this approach

Here are the Top Seven reasons why your church should host a night at a faith-based movie:

  1. Going to the movies remains a popular pastime. The continued popularity of a night at the movies makes it easy for your ministry supporters or church members to invite their friends, family and neighbors to attend your faith-based movie outreach event.
  2. Faith-based movies bring a message of hope, encouraging the Body of Christ. Faith-based movie producers such as Pure Flix have a vision to influence the global culture for Christ through media. This is only possible if Christians attend the films.
  3. Going to the movies is a great way to share a faith message with your friends, family and neighbors, starting a conversation that will bridge them to your church and ministry.
  4. The theater auditorium typically costs nothing to rent for a theater buyout, making it an economical outreach effort.
  5. Food and drink is available, offering a variety of items that should appeal to your guests.
  6. Group rates can be as low as $8 a person. Major theater chains work with film producers to bring you the best price possible.
  7. The event does not cost the church or ministry since people buy their own tickets. Even though there are details to coordinate, the actual tickets are purchased by your participants.

With movies like God’s Not Dead: A Light in Darkness soon to be in theaters, perhaps now is a good time to try using faith-based movies as an outreach tool for your church.

Chinese Underground Church Defiant in Face of New Crackdown

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Less than 200 years after Christ’s death on the cross, Tertullian wrote, “The blood of the martyrs is the seed of the church.”

The truth of that statement is being proven once again in China.

Persecution against the Christian underground church in China’s central Henan province has increased greatly since the implementation of China’s revised Religious Affairs Regulations on February 1.

But so has defiance.

“It’s a blessing to go to prison,” says Rev. C., “to suffer for Jesus.”

The comment came in a Time article that did not fully identify Rev. C., to protect his identity. The article, Guerrillas for God: How Hong Kong’s Pastors Are Delivering the Message to China’s Christians, points out the increasing difficulty in carrying out that mission under new Chinese laws governing religion, specifically Christianity.

According to ChinaAid, who spoke to local Christians in Luoyang, Henan, communist officials in the area have hired local gangs to break into churches and gathering places. In the attacks, they have broken doors and windows, as well as confiscated seats and religious books. Additionally, large numbers of church attendees and pastors have been kidnapped and detained by unidentified men while preaching.

In another report, officials demolished a tile in a Christian household that had “Emmanuel” written on it.

And still others claim the local public security bureaus and religious affairs bureaus have started targeting house church members with threats and fines since early February.

A new initiative in Nanyang, Henan, explicitly forbids any kind of religious gatherings in people’s homes. Anyone caught attending or hosting meetings outside of a registered religious venue will be subject to a fine of 30,000 yuan (U.S. $4,700). All Christians in the area are ordered to join an officially registered church.

Concern over the crackdown is evident on the blogs of Western missionaries. Ben and and his family (last name not given) are serving in mainland China. In his last two blog posts he writes about overcoming fear. His blog from March 7 ended with these words:

“What are we holding onto that we are afraid to lose? Our jobs, our stuff, our rights, our families, our lives—all of these things are examples of things we hold onto more than the Savior. Most often, the deepest level we have is the fear of loss. What we must remember is that we need to be willing to lose all for Christ and His cause. He told us that those who will lose their lives for His sake and the Gospel’s, would find it.”

Phil Martin, with Gospel to China, is a missionary in Northeast China. He wrote on his blog in early February:

“This was the first time we tried to go to an unregistered house church service in Changchun. One visit and one incident with the police. The police were specifically checking for foreign involvement. This suggests 1) the situation here is tense, 2) going to Chinese House Churches leads to persecution, 3) trying to attend causes trouble for the Chinese believers, 4) long term goals are risked by one simple visit to a church, and 5) the police are very closely watching for foreign involvement. From this perspective, we are lucky that nothing worse happened.”

The crackdown is also targeting mission groups that train Chinese pastors. Since proselytizing is forbidden on the mainland, many missionaries have set up operations in Hong Kong where there is greater freedom and religious liberty. Hong Kong has become a central hub for short-term theological intensives, distance Bible seminaries and networking conventions, but the government is now cracking down on those too.

“According to the new regulations, believers from mainland China are forbidden to attend unauthorized overseas religious conferences or training, or serious penalties will be imposed. Hong Kong is part of the overseas areas,” says Bob Fu, president and founder of China Aid. And while China’s house churches were previously barred from “foreign affiliations,” any religiously motivated trips abroad since the new policy must be vetted by Beijing.

In spite of the crackdown, or perhaps because of it, the Chinese church continues to grow. As the Time article points out, “Yet paradoxic, the more severe the persecution, the more people are drawn to Christianity.”

“By clamping down on it, the Communist Party has multiplied it,” Carsten Vala, chair of the political science department at Loyola University, told Time. “Protestants have arguably created the most sustained structural challenges to the Chinese Communist Party’s ordering of society.”

Rev. C. predicts that soon 20-25 percent of China could be Christian. At that point, he says, “the Communist Party will not be able to handle it. With Christianity [there will be] morals, ethics, just laws and a will to enforce it. Only Christianity can change this country.”

And undoubtedly, that is the government’s biggest fear.

Management Style of a Worship Leader

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One of the most challenging role of a Worship Pastor/Music Minister is serving as a manager/supervisor. As a manager/supervisor I am responsible for everything in my area of ministry. Depending on the size of your ministry team, there is usually tens to hundreds of people under your leadership. Whenever there are people involved in anything, the chances for conflict and disharmony are close behind. When there are musicians involved, the chances are almost certain. We could cover a host of issues as managers/supervisors. This brief article will cover a few duties of conflict management.

Musicians’ Ego:
You would think in the church, conflict should be a non issue. We are Christians and Christians should not fight or struggle with ego and moral issues. We should approach ministry with a servant’s heart…ready to play as part of the team. Right.

No where in the church are egos bigger than in the music department. What we have to do is become the watchdogs if you will. We have to first keep our own egos in check and then watch out for others. In most instances it’s not a conscious thing. There are really only a few people that I have encountered in the ministry who have abrasive egos. When egos pop up, we have to be willing to step in and re-state our purpose and goals. In some cases there may be a parting of the ways. In others there may be a mutual understanding and resolve that only strengthens the team and helps it to grow to higher levels. When egos arise and become a hindrance to our ministries, we have to find loving ways to find resolve. There is no place for egos in worship and the ministry of worship.

Conflict:
If you have served in the church for any length of time, you understand that conflict is inevitable. There are personality differences, jealousies, in some cases immoral situations, struggles for leadership, and more. The question is not will it occur, but when will it occur? How we handle each situation will determine how long we will last in ministry. Most musicians are pacifists. We tend to be easy going and laid back. We don’t like to deal with problems and conflict. Just let me make music and I will be alright. Unfortunately, in the church, we don’t have that luxury. We are not only musicians but managers. Fortunately I have the support of my Senior Pastor. He expects me to handle things in a firm and gracious manner. He expects me to step in when conflict arises and do what it takes to get things resolved. It’s not my favorite part of the job but it is a necessary part.

This article originally appeared here.

Inspiring Teens to Dive Into the Word

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A young boy was walking around the playground pulling a piece of string. His teacher approached him and asked, “Why are you pulling that piece of string?” The boy replied, “Because it’s a lot easier than pushing it.”

When it comes to encouraging young people to read God’s word, it’s a lot easier to lead from the front than to push from the back. When adults engage in regular personal Bible study, teenagers can much more easily develop a lifelong habit themselves.

Having said that though, even in churches and families with good adult role models, Christian teenagers can often be indifferent about personal Bible study. Ask them to list their favorite activities, and personal Bible reading is rarely one of them. But ask what will help in their Christian life, and studying God’s word will almost certainly come top. So how do we help teenagers see that what is good for them may also be enjoyable?

(Just to say, if you actually are a teenager reading this, all these things apply to adults too but they’re more likely to read it if it’s not targeted at them. People are generally happier reading about how to change other people rather than themselves. Also, bear in mind that it’s a really good thing if there are adults in your life who want to read the Bible more.)

Three positive message those teenagers (who definitely aren’t reading this) need to hear:

1. The Bible is about Jesus not us.

When we approach the Bible thinking it’s about us, most of it seems completely irrelevant. The exasperated teen asks, “How do these levitical laws or endless genealogies help me do my homework or cope with the tensions in my friendship group?!” As a result, the Bible either lies unread, or passages must be twisted to be about us—making Bible study very hard work. Sally Lloyd Jones’ introduction to the excellent Jesus Storybook Bible makes the same point, “The Bible isn’t about us and what we should be doing, it’s about God and what he has done.”

The message of the Bible then is the good news about Jesus. As Paul reminds Timothy, the holy Scriptures “are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Jesus Christ” (2 Timothy 3 v 15). We need to remind our teenagers of the same thing. When they read God’s word from this perspective (that of offering, describing and testifying to Christ) it makes a lot more sense. Paul then adds that “all Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” Sadly even some our most ‘Bible-centered’ ministries reverse the priority of this.

Jesus himself was exasperated when the Pharisees made this mistake. They wish to be teachers of righteousness, training and equipping people in works, but John’s gospel records Jesus saying, “You study the Scriptures diligently because you think that in them you have eternal life. These are the very Scriptures that testify about me, and yet you refuse to come to me to have life” (5:39-40). Their Bible study is missing the very purpose for which it was written. If our teens are to enjoy the Bible, they need to be reminded that the Bible is about Jesus.

2. God loves you whether you’re reading the Bible or not.

It’s easy to give the impression that reading the Bible earns God’s favor. You’d think this would increase teen Bible reading, but actually, the opposite is true. Young people generally end up thinking: “Because I haven’t been reading God’s word, He’s not very happy with me. So I’ll avoid God and feel like a fraud in Christian company.” To get back in God’s good books (pardon the pun) then takes a major act of recommitment. Just notice how personal Bible reading spikes after a Christian residential trip, then declines as the “recommitment experience” wears off.

We don’t read the Bible so God thinks we’re great, but so we remember that He is. The Father in the story of the Prodigal doesn’t start loving his wayward offspring because he heard he’d “come to his senses” in a far-off pigsty. No, he loved him all the time. Picking up the Bible up after a long break doesn’t require any act of recommitment on a teenager’s part at all. Incidentally, the older brother (who also wrongly believed the Father’s love had to be earned) is the equivalent of the diligent Bible reader who thinks ‘devotions’ describe their activity rather than God’s.

3. Bible times don’t have to be quiet times.

I once saw a child’s t-shirt that said, “God loves you more when you’re quiet.” It’s an idea that I don’t think we quite grow out of.

Now, obviously there is a significant number of Bible verses promoting quietness and stillness, so I’m not saying silent contemplation doesn’t have its place. And many of us could probably do with slowing down a little each day. But the reason it’s important to stress the difference between personal Bible reading and volume is that Jesus didn’t just come to save introverts. He came to save sinners of all sorts. And his Word is to be enjoyed by all of them too. Many teens see Bible study as something other people do, or that they might do when they’re older because literal “quiet times” just aren’t the kind of thing they’re into. So you can encourage teens to act out Acts, declare Deuteronomy or sing the Psalms. You can read aloud, draw what you read, write songs as a response. Good Bible study notes can help teenagers engage with God’s word in creative ways and multimedia resources may be good too.

Bible Reading? Sweet.

If we want our teens to agree with the Psalmist that the Bible is sweet like honey and more precious than gold, we’ll do well to remind them of these things. And if we really want to change their habits we might even want to be reminded of them ourselves.

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A previous version of this piece was originally published at www.openupthebible.com.

Raising Kids in a Confused Culture

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The world is changing—that’s always a true statement—but perhaps never as fast as it has been changing the last few decades, and never more evident when it comes to issues of morality and sexuality.

The reality is, we as parents have an obligation to teach our children, in the midst of a culture that is confused, to have confident values that are based on both a Christian worldview and the teachings of the scriptures. So the obvious question is: How do we, living in the new morality, express the teachings of scripture and a God-honoring lifestyle rooted in a biblical morality? In this brief article I will suggest four things.

First, we need to remember that our identity is rooted in Christ.

Children and teens who see their Christian identity as a list of rules and regulations that they need to follow in order to keep God or their parents happy, will ultimately rebel against those rules, or will take pride in those rules and become haughty and judgmental of others. Instead, if their identity is rooted in who Jesus is and who they are in Christ, they can both value the teachings of scripture and love others who may have different views in the midst of cultural changes around us.

Second, we need to be unashamed and unembarrassed to teach what the scriptures teach, but to do so in a way that acknowledges that this is different than what the world teaches.

I think we are in a key moment in our culture where appealing to commonly held values to help our children to make better decisions makes less sense today than perhaps ever before. I am not saying that things have always been right or correct, and I don’t think there was ever a perfect era in the past, but when it comes to issues of morality in our culture, particularly around sexual values, there have been certain standards influenced by our Judeo-Christian worldview that have been perceived as the “right” thing to do and that “good” people would do. That consensus no longer exists.

And if that consensus no longer exists, we can no longer can appeal to “this is the right thing to do, as everyone knows” and “this is what good kids do,” because good kids in our culture’s worldview are now increasingly doing things that Christians don’t believe and increasingly valuing things that Christians don’t value.

Therefore, in this new reality, we need a few key things, such as:

  • greater grounding in worldview of what Christians believe and why,
  • an understanding of the scriptures and what the scriptures teach and why, and
  • a worldview that says to children and teens, “You do these things not because they are the things that the ‘good’ kids do but because we are followers of Jesus and we live differently than the world in some ways.”

Third, they need to be unapologetic about speaking about the brokenness of the world, our culture and ourselves.

The reality is, if we hold up a standard of moral superiority, we will either drive our kids to despair or to pride—despair in that they can’t live up to it, or pride in that they have. Both are sins, though different expressions of sin.

Instead, a better approach is to help our children to realize that we are all sinners and that we all struggle with sin; that brokenness impacts who we are and that it impacts our morality. But perhaps, and maybe even most importantly even for this moment, it impacts them, and because it impacts them a humble approach recognizing the brokenness of the world and individuals will cause us to rely, by grace, on the work of Christ in the midst of this broken world.

Fourth, we need to break the tyranny of conformity that is so prevalent in the lives of our children.

When I was young, the most terrifying thing was to be different than everyone else. Of course as you age, the reality of this shifts and you’re much more open to being different. But, too many children and teens often function like the well-known Japanese proverb “a nail that stands out gets hammered down,” therefore they work exceedingly hard to fit in. However, that does not work for the Christian.

Thus, let’s look to scriptural teachings that speak about how we shine like lights in the world and how we stand out in the midst of a darkened culture by reflecting the light of Christ (Philippians 2:16).

Embrace early, and embrace often, the idea that conformity is not a value. Embrace that we will be confirmed to the image of Jesus.

Fifth and finally, we have to share with our children our own struggles, brokenness and failures so that they might see that we are imperfect creatures seeking to follow a perfect God and His standards.

The reality is, you and I have done things or made mistakes that maybe our children don’t know—that we have been tempted or that we have even succumbed to that temptation. So when appropriate, we want to share. When the opportunity arises, we want to be fellow strugglers. Yes, we are struggling at different times and in different ways, but we are fellow strugglers in the midst of the world’s brokenness.

Where From Here?

So in conclusion, the advice of this article can be summed up in one thing—teach your children to embrace that we are a peculiar people “so that you may proclaim the praises of the One who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light” (1 Peter 2:9, CSB). As a peculiar people we have to embrace the difference to find a better way—a way that is rooted in the identity of who we are in Christ—that is made secure in who God is and as our Creator who wants to shape us for a better way.

He has created us, therefore He knows us, and because He knows us He gives us guidelines and directions to guide us. Those guidelines and directions are worthy of living a life different from the world.

In the midst of this new morality, we go back to the morality that is rooted, not even in history, but ultimately in the nature of God himself. Who we are in Christ shapes how we live, and how we live is different than the world around us.

That’s raising kids in a confused culture.

This article originally appeared here.

Red Zones in Schools and Churches—When Kids Don’t Feel Safe!

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Ever heard of the “Red Zone”? Many of us understand that when something enters the red zone, it can prove to be a daunting situation. For example, if your car overheats, and the temperature gauge moves into the red zone, it’s important to check the engine to see what’s going on. Otherwise, the car may overheat or cause a fire, and you may find yourself stranded and standing on the side of the road. Wikipedia has a few examples of the Red Zone:

  • Unsafe areas in Iraq after the 2003 invasion
  • A region of France decimated during WW I
  • The area on the field between the 20-yard line and the end zone in American football

With this understanding of the red zone, you may be wondering how your classroom or other spaces in your church could be considered a red zone. You may be questioning how your classroom could feel like a war zone.

Allow me to give you a couple of examples of the red zone for some adults, and then we’ll move into the children’s areas.

Adults’ red zones

The first example is a mother whose military husband pushed her into a closet and, when she broke free, had a rifle aimed right at her heart. She came to our Single & Parenting group. One day, as she entered the classroom, she said, “This room is the place I feel safe. Can I just put a cot over in the corner and sleep here at night?” She said it with a laugh, but we all understood her vulnerability at that very moment. Her home was the red zone, and our church class was the safe zone.

The other example is a lady in our church and GriefShare group who recently attended a celebration-of-life event for a family in the church. During the celebration, a poem was read, and it hit my friend really hard. She began to weep. She rushed out of the event to look for a tissue. She automatically ran to the room we use for GriefShare.

She said when she arrived in that room, she let out a long breath. She said, “I realized this room was my safety zone. This is the room where I feel safe grieving and where I now help others grieve.” This room was the place where she connected with others who were also grieving. The room was used for a men’s Bible study and many other groups, but to my friend, it was a safe place. It was not a red zone.

These two people are adults who have the cognitive ability to think through situations, yet in their lives, they knew they felt safe in a particular place in the church. That place was a place they related in their minds with safety, connections and warmth. Do you have those places for children, or do you have red zones for kids who are struggling?

Is your classroom in a red zone for children of trauma, including children of divorce?

Kids’ red zones

What does your church do for the scared child, the child of divorce, the child who has been abused, the grieving child, the foster care child, and even the children in step- and blending families? Are your rooms red zones, or do these children feel safe?

  • For abused children, do you offer two ways in and out of the room? Do you allow them to sit in the back or on the side of a large group or where they can see the door when in a circle? Putting these children with their backs to the door is a red zone.

They are always looking for a way out for fear they will need it if someone comes at  them. They may even flinch if someone comes toward them. Do you provide space for them to feel safe?

  • For children of divorce, do you give them a clear view of the door, so they can clearly see when their parent arrives with nothing blocking their view? Blocking the view of the entry door might be a red zone for these children. Do you realize that many kids of divorce fear that the parent who brought them might leave them there alone?

They need to feel your warmth and assurance that you will take care of them, and the parent will return. Some younger children might even need to see a digital clock, so they can keep track of the time and stay aware of when the parent should be there to pick them up.

  • For foster children, do they feel warmth in your group? Or do they feel judgement toward them because they are different from other kids? Any sense of judgement on your part is a red zone to them. Do you help them feel wanted?

Perhaps you can pair them with other kids who come regularly and can help them connect and form relationships within the group.

  • Kids from blended families may have several different issues. Like children of divorce, they may only come sporadically because they are at the other parent’s home. These kids might need space from their step-siblings.

They may need spaces where they can be with other kids away from step-siblings. Being made to stay with and take care of their step-siblings just might prove to be a red zone for these children.

How red zones might affect kids

If there are red zones, you may see some kids have stomach aches and other digestive problems. The fear affects their little tummies, causing them to be anxious and their tummies to be upset.

For other children, red zones may cause breathing problems. They may breathe higher up in their chests, and for many children, the stress affects asthma issues. Rapid breathing or deep sighing can be heard when they are uncomfortable in your classrooms.

Look around your church this next week, and try to identify any red zones. It could be something as simple as your check-in system. Do you have kids standing in long lines on their first visit? This can be a little daunting to many children. They just want to see where they are going to be, and they might want to see other children.

For other children, overflowing trash cans and dirty floors signal you aren’t prepared for them. Christmas decorations still up on Valentine’s Day say you don’t care enough to take time to keep things current.

Even if your church has spent thousands of dollars on equipping and setting up your children’s ministry area, you may still have red zones. It may take a keen eye to see those red zones, but perhaps if you look at your area from a hurting kid’s point of view and from a child’s eye level, you can observe the red zones.

Years ago, I read an article about whether children who had cancer would trust a new doctor. They drew this conclusion within a few seconds of arriving at the doctor’s office. Do you know what that one factor was? If the plants in the waiting room looked healthy and vibrant, they felt the doctor cared enough to provide the best care for them. If the plants were dry and had yellowing or dead leaves, it said to the sick kids that if the doctor didn’t care enough about keeping plants alive, the doctor might not care enough to keep them alive.

Hurting kids, like sick kids, know when you care enough. And when you care enough, you will get rid of all the red zones.

This article originally appeared here.

Reflections on “What Can Miserable Christians Sing?”

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Of all the things I have written, my little essay “What Can Miserable Christians Sing?” has provided me with so many delightful surprises over the years.[1] I wrote it in about 45 minutes one afternoon, infuriated by some superficial comment about worship I had heard but which I have long since forgotten. And yet this little piece which took minimal time and energy to author has garnered more positive responses and more touching correspondence than anything else I have ever written. It resonated with people across the Christian spectrum, people from all different church backgrounds who had one thing in common: the understanding that life has a sad, melancholy, painful dimension which is too often ignored and sometimes even denied in our churches.

The article was intended to highlight what I saw as a major deficiency in Christian worship, a deficiency that is evident in both traditional and contemporary approaches: the absence of the language of lament. The Psalms, the Bible’s own hymnbook, contains many notes of lamentation, reflecting the nature of the believer’s life in a fallen world. And yet these cries of pain are on the whole absent from hymns and praise songs. The question that formed the article’s title was thus a genuine one: What is it in the hymnody of your church that can be sung honestly by the woman who has just lost her baby, the husband who has just lost his wife, the child who has just lost a parent, when they come to church on Sunday? The answer, I suggested, was the Psalms, for in them one finds divinely inspired words which allow the believer to express their deepest pains and sorrows to God.

Would I write it differently today? Not in terms of substance. If anything, I would broaden its application since I believe that its message is more important now than it was at the time of composition. As I survey the contemporary church landscape, I am struck at how even the great gospel of sovereign grace is now so often focused on the youth market and consequently packaged with the aesthetics of worldly power, of celebrity, of the kind of superficial approaches to life which mark the childish and the immature. Things that were once (and sadly no more) the exclusive preserve of the proponents of the prosperity gospel now feature in mainstream evangelical circles without comment or criticism. The world has truly been turned upside down when Calvinism has in some quarters become known for its pyrotechnics and its cocksure swagger.

I am also more aware now than I was when I wrote it of how real mortality is and of how short life can be. I wrote the piece with others in mind; now I am older and only too aware of how it applies to me and to those I love. The older one is, the more one is acquainted with the loss of friends and family, and the more one’s own mortality feels like a constant and unwelcome dinner guest. As a father I rejoiced the first time my son beat me in a running race; but my delight in his growing strength was short-lived when in the coming months and years I realized it was also indicative of my own decline.

The world tells us to defy this as long as we can, whether by fitness, fashion choices or even surgery. But the world is a malevolently plausible confidence trickster who tells us what we want to hear. Weakness and then death ultimately come to us all; and it is the pastor’s task to prepare both himself and his people for the inevitable. Thus, I now believe it is more important than ever that the church embrace weakness and tragedy in its worship. True, we look forward to the resurrection; but we often forget that the pathway to resurrection is necessarily and unavoidably through death. We need to remind our people in both what we preach, what we pray and what we sing as a congregation that God’s strength is made perfect in our weakness—and, where resurrection is concerned, in and through our total weakness at the hands of death.

Since writing the original piece, I have also become more aware of the power of liturgy to shape the mind of a Christian congregation. I am not talking here only of formal liturgies such as those in The Book of Common Prayer. I mean the form and content of any worship service claiming to be Christian. That which we say and sing as a congregation will over time subtly and imperceptibly inform our thinking about the Christian faith and thus about life in general in a powerful way. That is why an emphasis on the aesthetics of power and youth—perhaps we might say liturgies of power and youth—are problematic. They exclude the old or delude them into thinking that they are not old; and they deceive the young into thinking that they are the center of the universe and are destined to live forever. A liturgy which accurately reflects the expectations we can have for life in a fallen world, one that inculcates and reinforces that week by week, is important as a means of preparing our people for the suffering that must eventually come their way.

And that brings me once more to the psalms. True, there are Christian poets and even the occasional hymn writer who have captured the dark complexities of life; but there are none to compare with authors of the Psalter who set forth the riches and depths of human experience and existence with perfect poetic pitch. The church which makes the psalms part of her regular diet provides her people with the resources for truly living in this vale of tears, just as the church which does not do so has perversely denied her people a true treasure in pursuit of what? Relevance? There is nothing more universally relevant than preparing people for suffering and death. I have people in my congregation who have very hard lives, lives that are not going to become easier over time. To them I can only say: suffering comes to us all, but there is a resurrection; listen to how the notes of real, present lament in the Psalms are suffused with tangible, future hope and be encouraged: weeping may tarry for the night, and indeed be truly painful while it does, but joy will come in the morning.

When I married a young couple in my congregation a few years ago, I commented in the sermon that all human marriages begin with joy but end in tragedy. Whether it is divorce or death, the human bond of love is eventually torn apart. The marriage of Christ and his church, however, begins with tragedy and ends with a joyful and loving union which will never be rent asunder. There is joy to which we point in our worship, the joy of the Lamb’s wedding feast. But our people need to know that in this world there will be mourning. Not worldly mourning with no hope. But real mourning nonetheless, and we must make them ready for that.

Still, as I look back to the original “Miserable Christians” piece, I never imagined I would still be commenting on it so many years later. I am grateful that it seems to have been a help and encouragement to so many.

[1] “What Can Miserable Christians Sing?” in The Wages Of Spin: Critical Writings on Historical and Contemporary Evangelicalism (Christian Focus, 2005), 157-63.

This article originally appeared here.

This Is the Best Time for an Icebreaker Question

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Have you thought about the best time to ask an icebreaker question?

When you ask this type of question can make a significant difference in member participation for the duration of the discussion.

The answer to when is the best time to ask is obvious, right? Maybe not as obvious as you think.

What Is an Icebreaker Question?

An icebreaker question is simply a question that helps people relax and begin talking during your discussion time. It encourages your members to continue to participate when the questions require them to be more vulnerable later in the conversation.

The icebreaker question should have several of these characteristics:

  • Fun
  • Easy to answer
  • Compelling
  • Safe to answer (no vulnerability)
  • Topic familiar to all

Is there a “best time” to use this question to improve the small group conversation? I believe there is and it may not be when you are asking it today.

When Is the Best Time to Ask an Icebreaker Question?

For as long as I remember, I have started out Bible study discussions with an icebreaker question. It is the first question I ask. It has repeatedly proven that a better group discussion follows when this is the way the discussion begins.

But recently I started wondering if there is a better way to increase the desire of ALL members to take part in the discussion. The answer came to me suddenly (the Holy Spirit works that way sometimes).

Send the icebreaker question out to members a couple of days before the meeting!

I tried it with my small group and it works. It REALLY works!

Participants took it seriously. They did the homework. They were mentioning the assignment even before we got into our discussion time. The responses were well thought out. Some even wrote out their response and read it to the group. More importantly, every member contributed in a significant way during the rest of the discussion.

Try It With Your Small Group

I urge you to try this technique with your small group. Let me know about your experience or about other ways to grow member participation during group Bible studies by leaving a comment here.

My 7 Most Productive Habits

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Anyone who wants to be productive needs a good plan. Last week I shared my seven least productive habits, so today I will show how I have turned those same bad habits into better ones.

  • Prioritizing My Texts

Give yourself permission to answer texts eventually instead of immediately. This will create realistic, healthy boundaries with people in your life and ministry.

A recent example is a ministry related text I received at 6:45 Saturday morning. I responded, but not that day.

Also, never interrupt a face-to-face conversation to answer a text unless it is a family emergency, a previously scheduled appointment or you are in the seventh grade. Managing My List I learned that the key to keeping my promises was to simply write them down. Otherwise I will keep on smiling, nodding and forgetting. When someone asks me to pray about something, I write that request on my phone in front of them. This doubles the impact of pastoral care for them, and quadruples the odds I’ll actually pray for them.

  • Empty Email Inbox

Since email is literally electronic mail, it serves a different purpose than a phone call or a text. I don’t respond to emails as quickly as texts, otherwise my mind has a difficult time staying focused.

I keep an empty email inbox by reading emails only once before I respond, forward or delete. A full email inbox at the end of the day feels like a spinning plate full of unfinished tasks.

  • A Social Media Schedule

Last week I warned about the dark side of social media, which I hope did not dissuade any pastors from using it. Utilizing free communication (shepherding) channels is not only productive, but is missional.

Don’t hesitate to repurpose content into short blog posts or video clips. If the message you spent hours preparing is good enough to share live on Sundays, it is good enough to share with many others who are willing to connect with you on their turf.

  • Ground Rules for Meetings

Last week I wrote, “If you are in charge of a meeting that has no agenda or time limit—repent (i.e., change).” What if you are the guest of an agenda-less meeting? Politely ask for the agenda and estimated length ahead of time. Invariably there are some meetings you do not need to attend, or at least attend the whole time. If there is no time limit set, tell the leader you can only stay for 60 or 90 minutes. I assure you that meeting will be over after 90 minutes whether there are still people present or not.

  • Protecting My Study Time

Every leader needs to keep learning and growing in their respective fields. If you are not reading, you are not growing. Pastors in particular need to protect your sermon prep time as if you are under direct orders, because you are. We are called to devote ourselves to prayer and the ministry of the Word. Racing to finish at the end of the week is inevitable some of the time, but it is avoidable most of the time if you plan ahead and close your door until you are finished.

  • Practicing the Sabbath

There’s a big difference between being busy and being productive. We all get 168 hours a week, and shorter weekends will not actually help you get ahead. God set up a rhythm of work and rest and put it on his top 10 list. We all work better after we are rested, so practicing the sabbath sets us up to be more productive.

I hope these tips will help you become a more productive pastor. I would love to hear your feedback in the comments section of this post.

This article originally appeared here.

The One Thing Every Pastor Wants for Their Church, but Not Themselves

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When I first became a lead pastor I felt the weight of a mac truck drive onto my shoulders. And the weight was not from what happened Monday through Friday but the weight and pressure of having to deliver great messages every weekend. How could I possibly hit a home run every single time up to bat?

Then another pastor gave me some great advice—just get on base, let the team keep them around.

What he meant was, if they are involved in a community beyond the church, and if two to three of their closest friends were in our church, then no matter if I hit a home run or a sacrifice fly, they weren’t staying for the teaching, they were staying for the community.

The one thing I want for our people is to be in community. To sit with other believers and deeply share their lives, their struggles and their needs. To pray with one another, to “come and reason” together, to serve their community and to do so much more than GO to church, but to BE the church.

But as much as I want community for them, often I don’t want that for me.

Soon after I became a lead pastor, my wife and I built some good friendships. I valued that friendship, confided in them, shared life with them and then they left the church. I wish I could say that only happened once, but I can’t. So I preach on community, but I do so with fingers crossed—and I know I’m not alone. Show me any pastor who’s been in the game for more than two years and I’ll show you someone with trust issues.

In John’s gospel he makes a very interesting observation about Jesus, “But Jesus would not entrust himself to them, for he knew all men.” I read that and think, “Now I have justification! I don’t need to trust anyone.” But that’s not what he said. After all, Jesus trusted people. He trusted John to take care of his mother, He trusted Peter to lead the church and feed his sheep, He trusted the disciples to fulfill the great commission. The distinction is in the word “entrust” versus “trust.” He trusted others with tasks, but only “entrusted” his heart to his Father.

Maybe that’s the lesson we can learn. We can trust people with our family, with our possessions, even with our care and our future, but we entrust our hearts to God. Come to think of it, the times when I get hurt is when I’ve asked someone else to be responsible for all my hopes and dreams. In other words—I’ve entrusted my heart to them. A responsibility they are not equipped to handle, and one I’m not allowed to give.

Learning this distinction might help us Pastors crawl out of the fetal position. Perhaps we can find what we ask all of our church to discover—community. And perhaps we could stop going to church or leading a church and have the pleasure of being the church.

I had to learn this lesson and many others about community the hard way. And I’d love to share those with you. I wrote a book about it called Better Together: Surprising Truth for introverts, extroverts, control freaks, free spirits, people persons, curmudgeons and especially you.

And, because we church leaders always need a message series to push our people into community, I’m providing a five-week message series complete with messages, videos, small group discussion videos and questions. For this and so much more, check out bettertogetherstudy.com.

This article originally appeared here.

Daring to Call Hardship Light and Momentary

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Sometimes hardship levels us. Leaves us broken and struggling to find the strength to face each new day.

My family has recently come through a season of trial. Just typing that made me smile. I’d be more honest to say the past few months have been such an uncertain time regarding our youngest son’s health, I’ve spent many a night battling fear and anguish, watching him struggle with pain and a tangible fear of imminent death.

Much of this hardship left me wrestling with the purpose of pain in our lives. But when I opened my Bible for comfort, I was smacked in the face with scriptures like Paul’s words in 2 Corinthians 4:17. The NIV says, “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.”

Light and momentary? Surely, he wasn’t referring to a situation such as ours. Paul would never dismiss the severity of a child’s illness as the family endures hospitalizations and sleepless nights, grappling with issues of life and death.

If you know anything about the Apostle Paul, you know he meant every word he wrote. He was a man who faced floggings, imprisonment, shipwrecks, persecution, rejection and ultimately death, for his calling. And he was writing to an audience whose reality included the possibility that they and their families might be mistreated, imprisoned or even murdered for their faith in Jesus. When Paul wrote the Greek equivalent of “light and momentary troubles,” he knew exactly who he was talking to and what he was saying.

And yes, he was talking to me, too.

The truth that enabled Paul to overcome all obstacles, that empowered him to sing after being beaten and thrown in prison, and to rejoice while in chains, was the knowledge that no pain he endured could compare to the glory waiting for him in heaven. For Paul, every suffering brought him not closer to death, but closer to God.

All suffering for the Christian in this present age is meant to thrust us toward our heavenly Father. No other purpose is big enough to touch the wound when a parent loses a child, or when one receives a cancer diagnosis, or when one spouse leaves another.

In the middle of our hardship, there was little solace to be found in the fact others saw our family as strong, or learned a lesson from our pain, or got the chance to serve us. Such a poignant level of loss needs the supernatural relief of knowing there’s something greater on the other side of hardship. It feels almost disrespectful to think a God of love would allow our family to suffer for anything less than our greatest good—to bring us closer to Him.

Pain still wounds. Loss must still be mourned. And God promises to walk with us through our trial. The truth doesn’t remove the need to process, but it can fill us with hope for the future promised to those who believe in Jesus Christ for salvation.

Our exquisite pain, when weighed on the scale of eternity, can help put our troubles into proper perspective. Light and momentary. The sting of suffering on this earth will be forgotten when we’re basking in the coming glory with our Lord.

This truth helps our family face an uncertain future with hope. This understanding helped Paul look beyond his trials to the eternity God had planned for him. He encourages us to “fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal” (2 Corinthians 4:18 NIV).

God provides comfort during trials. And, through Paul, He offers the best perspective of our most difficult circumstances. Every pain reminds us life here is a temporary condition, and the “light and momentary troubles” we’re asked to endure will be nothing in comparison with all God plans to lavish on us.

“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal” (2 Corinthians 4:16-18 NIV).

Let’s talk about this. How does Paul’s description of troubles as “light and momentary” make you feel? For the Christian, all hardship is meant to lead us closer to God. What ways have trials helped you in your relationship with Him? How can changing our focus from the trials in front of us to the unseen, the eternal strengthen us?

This article originally appeared here.

Controversy Cited in C.J. Mahaney T4G Withdrawal

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C.J. Mahaney has decided to withdraw from the 2018 T4G conference, a major conference on preaching. He is one of the event’s founders.

In a statement, Mahaney cited the “recent, renewed controversy surrounding Sovereign Grace Churches and me individually.”

Last month, Rachael Denhollander, the first woman to go on record in her allegations against convicted USA Gymnastics doctor Larry Nassar, referenced Sovereign Grace Churches (SGC) and Mahaney. Denhollander, a former SGC supporter, vocally protested the church’s role in restoring Mahaney to leadership.

In 2012, a lawsuit jointly filed by multiple parties accused then-Sovereign Grace Ministries (SGM) and Mahaney of systematically covering up instances of sexual abuse for decades. Several key leaders in the evangelical church came forward in support of SGM and Mahaney following the lawsuit including Mark Dever, Ligon Duncan and Albert Mohler, three of this year’s conference speakers.

Prior to the lawsuit, Mahaney took a leave of absence due to accusations of pride and divisiveness in his leadership style. Mahaney has since permanently withdrawn from an elder role with SGC, but he continues to pastor one of their churches, Sovereign Grace Church in Louisville, Kentucky, also the site of the T4G conference.

In his statement Mahaney said:

“This conference exists to serve pastors with the gospel and exalt the Lord Jesus. I want to do all I can to promote that purpose. Mark, Lig, Al and the other speakers should also be able to devote themselves to that purpose without the distraction of having to defend me or answer questions about Sovereign Grace Churches. They should be preparing their sermons, caring for their families, and serving their unique and strategic ministries.

“I am responsible, where necessary and appropriate, to defend myself and Sovereign Grace, and this I continue to do as I have for the last several years. Sovereign Grace churches are led by godly men and filled with good and godly people who love Christ and his gospel. So that there is no lack of clarity on this: I am innocent of the allegations that have been made against me personally, and the recent, public characterizations of Sovereign Grace as a whole are absolutely false. I categorically reject the suggestion that I have ever conspired to cover up sexual abuse or other wrong-doing. No one should interpret my withdrawal as an acknowledgment of guilt. I withdraw out of care for my friends and for the sake of this conference and the cause of Christ.

“I do not want this wonderful conference to become a context where questions about me or Sovereign Grace distract from the exaltation of Christ and him crucified (1 Cor. 2:2). I desire the run up to this conference to be filled with nothing but joyful anticipation. I want the experience of the conference to be the deep edification of pastors through preaching, singing, praying, conversation, laughter, food, and buying as many books as one’s credit card allows, all for the glory of God.”

This year’s T4G conference is sold out and will be held April 11-13 in Louisville, Kentucky.

How to Avoid Temptation, Grow and Address Controversial Topics

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Francis Chan and Chip Ingram discussed three challenges facing pastors in a recent ChurchLeaders podcast; guarding against temptation, making time for growth and teaching the Bible’s tough passages.

Ingram, the senior pastor of Venture Christian Church in Los Gatos, California, and the founder of Living on the Edge, said he can say no to temptation because he doesn’t want to lose his voice in the pulpit. He said that’s true for all pastors because “there’s no power (in preaching) unless there is also integrity in the pastor’s life.”

Knowing God precedes speaking for God,” Ingram said, adding, “The spirit of God has to work in us before it works through us.”

While some pastors might think they can get by on their communication skills, Chan said ultimately “there’s no power in that. It’s just wood, hay and stubble.”

Many pastors can find it difficult to continue to grow in their ministry, especially for church leaders like Ingram and Chan who often speak at conferences rather than attend them as participants. How do they keep growing?

Chan, an author and speaker, said there’s never a replacement for time alone with God in his word and in prayer.

He admitted that he is a listener and perhaps too impressionable. “If I don’t get alone with the word and in prayer I will follow a pattern from someone else.”

Chan said the temptation that often plagues him is a desire to move on to other topics rather than going deeper into issues like the holiness of God or his forgiveness. “You don’t move on from those topics,” he said. “Yes, learn new things but don’t feel the pressure to move on from the foundational things in the Bible. Dig deeper into those.”

Ingram credited his continued growth to a bricklayer with a high school education who came to his dorm room every week and taught Ingram how to meet with God. One discipline he adopted from those sessions was reading one chapter from A.W. Tozer’s book The Knowledge of the Holy every day for 10 years.  

He said he keeps growing by remembering that God is all-good and all-knowing.  

Ingram avoids the Internet saying there are books and content that are timely and those that are timeless. “If you focus on the timeless, you will always be timely,” he said.

Both Chan and Ingram believe staying in God’s word and in prayer every day helps them preach on difficult topics.

Ingram admits that preaching on topics like abortion, homosexuality and the environment can be controversial. “If I’m not speaking on those topics, winsomely, I am neglecting the very areas that would tear people apart,” and he would also be disobeying God. Still, it came with a cost.

“I got fried, I got threats…we needed security at services. But we have to speak clearly about what the Bible says, otherwise why are we here?”

Chan felt the same compulsion saying at the end of the day he has to tell people what he believes the Bible says and then stand before God for his interpretation. He said that puts complaints from people into perspective. “It’s easy to let people believe what they want to believe but the idea is surrender to God.”

Chan and Ingram are successful pastors and founders of large organizations, but what they both reveal is that without a daily intake of God’s word and time with him in prayer, they could accomplish nothing.

Is Sex Keeping Christian Singles from Marrying Today?

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It’s easy to make assumptions about people who are Christian and single.

In a 2015 interview with Francis Chan on John Piper’s podcast, Chan expressed his view that young people are delaying marriage because they are engaging in premarital sex. Immediately alarm bells went off in my mind when I read this.

Another single person, Caitlin, also must have heard those same bells. She recently listened to the 2015 interview and wrote in to Piper’s podcast expressing her concerns over this reasoning. She writes:

I have been deeply impacted by the writings and teachings of Francis Chan in the past and have profound respect for him. But his reasoning that singles in the church are engaging in sexual immorality and therefore marrying later felt dismissive for a lot of us. I cannot name a single Christian couple that is in the situation he describes and is therefore delaying marriage. His response felt like it skimmed over a topic with so much more depth to it.

Amen, Caitlin. I hear you. I think every person who is Christian and single and who has stuck it out in church hears you.

Caitlin then goes on to describe her situation and that of her friends. I feel like I could have written what she did. She writes of faithful, committed Christians trying to stay in community and working their tails off to pay student loan debt all while waiting for their spouse to show up at church one weekend. I’ve seen my own friends do this for years. Ummm….going on decades now.

The Struggles of Those Christian and Single

Some of us have stayed committed to the hope of a good, godly marriage, and others of us have gotten discouraged and left the church in search of a relationship.

Problem #1 for Those Christian and Single: Those Numbers, Though

Briefly, I want to talk about numbers. Because for all practical reasons, this is a numbers issue.

In 1980, the average age of marriage for women was about 22. In 2018, it’s about 28. That’s a pretty steep climb if you compare the ages in 1950 (around 20) and 1980 (again, 22). In that thirty year stretch from 1950 to 1980, the age increased by two years. But in the 38-year stretch from 1980 to 2018, we’ve leaped from 22 to 28. The ages for men hover slightly above their female counterparts, and have also climbed steeply these last few decades: up and to the right (and not in a good way). 

Honestly, I just don’t think we know what to do about this change as a society.

It’s important to say that the desire for marriage hasn’t waned as the average age has risen. Those of us in the church are especially keen on marriage. I don’t have a single (double entendre intended here) friend who doesn’t want to be married. Literally.

Added to the hike in age, the church has its own numbers problem. There are simply more women than men who attend church. A study by Pew Research shows that currently those who attend church at least once a week are composed of 43 percent men and 57 percent women. Of this group of people who attend church at least once a week, only 19 percent have never been married, 9 percent are widowed, and 12 percent are divorced or separated. The rest (60 percent) are married or cohabiting. There just aren’t a lot of single people at church in general.

Additionally, the single people at church are disproportionately represented by women. Single Adult Ministry cites 23 percent of single women attend church regularly, while only 15 percent of single men attend regularly.

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