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Faith Leaders Grapple With Brandt Jean’s Swift Forgiveness of Amber Guyger

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During an emotional sentencing hearing for former Dallas police officer Amber Guyger, displays of compassion mixed with demands for accountability and justice. Earlier this week, Amber Guyger, 31, was convicted of murdering Botham Jean, a black worship leader, in his apartment last September. Amber Guyger, who is white, claimed self-defense, saying she thought she had entered her own apartment.

At Wednesday’s hearing, where Amber Guyger was sentenced to 10 years in prison, Jean’s brother Brandt expressed love and forgiveness before asking permission to hug Guyger. “I love you like anyone else,” he said. “I don’t even want you to go to jail. I want the best for you, because I know that’s exactly what Botham would want.” Brandt Jean added, “Each and every one of us may have done something that we’re not supposed to do. If you truly are sorry—I know I can speak for myself—I forgive you, and I know if you go to God and ask him, he will forgive you.”

As Brandt Jean hugged Guyger, Judge Tammy Kemp wiped away tears. Later the judge also hugged Amber Guyger and gave her one of her own Bibles. “This is your job,” Kemp said, as she opened the book. The judge referenced John 3:16 and said, “You just need a tiny mustard seed of faith. You start with this.” Kemp added, “You haven’t done so much that you can’t be forgiven. You did something bad in one moment in time. What you do now matters.”

Other members of Jean’s family, who’d wanted a longer sentence, cried and shook their heads. Amber Guyger could have received up to 99 years in prison; prosecutors requested 28, the age Jean would have been now.

Is Immediate Forgiveness the Correct Christian Response?

The widely circulated video of Brandt Jean hugging Guyger received praise from many people who called it a remarkable gesture. District Attorney John Creuzot labeled it “an amazing act of healing and forgiveness that is rare in today’s society…especially for many of our leaders.” He added, “I would hope that the greater community, not just Dallas but all of Texas and all of the United States, could gain a message from that.”

Eric Johnson, the mayor of Dallas, was “deeply moved” by the embrace, saying he’d “never, ever forget the incredible examples of love, faith, and strength personified by Botham, Brandt, and the entire Jean family.”

The courtroom drama called to mind the response of victim’s families in Charleston, South Carolina, after a white supremacist killed nine people at a black church. It also sparked strong responses from black Christians who see double standards when they’re expected to forgive despite ongoing injustices.

Kyle Howard, a black theologian and counselor, posted videos to express a variety of strong feelings he had after Guyger’s sentencing. Forgiveness, he says, is often “weaponized” against black people and can be “toxic,” leading to spiritual abuse. Other Christians celebrate the black church’s tradition of putting the “gospel on display” by forgiving, he says, but then they “spurn everything else” the black church has to offer.

“Weaponizing aspects of faith like forgiveness as a means of silencing/shaming other aspects of faith like righteous indignation, sorrow, grief, & mourning is a form of spiritual abuse,” Howard tweeted.

In response, Dwight McKissic, senior pastor of Cornerstone Baptist Church in Arlington, Texas, tweeted: “I’m willing to let Brandt’s & the Judge’s moment in the courtroom be theirs, without imposing racial history on the moment. I choose to view the moment through a gospel lens exclusively.”

McKissic added, “I choose to be grateful that justice was served & the gospel was on display.” His prayer, he says, is that because of the courtroom display “all orthodox/evangelical believers would seek common ground, not battle ground.”

The Importance of Accountability and Justice 

After Guyger’s sentencing, protesters who wanted more prison time for the former officer marched and chanted, “No justice, no peace.” Dee Crane, a black woman whose son was shot by Arlington police two years ago, cried, “How many of us is it going to take before you understand that our lives matter?”

Boko Haram Executes Two Christian Aid Workers in Nigeria

Screen capture from Islamic State’s Amaq news site of Christian aid workers Godfrey Ali Shikagham (left) and Lawrence Duna Dacighir before their execution by Boko Haram. (Morning Star News)

Islamic extremist group Boko Haram released a video last week showing the execution of two Christian aid workers in Nigeria, sources said.

Lawrence Duna Dacighir and Godfrey Ali Shikagham, both members of the Church of Christ in Nations (COCIN) in Plateau state, are shown kneeling while three masked, armed men stand behind them in a video posted Sept. 22 on Boko Haram’s Amaq news agency site. The two young men, who had gone to Maiduguri to help build shelters for people displaced by Islamic extremist violence, are then shot from behind.

Speaking in the Hausa language, the middle one of the three terrorists says in the video that they have vowed to kill every Christian they capture in revenge for Muslims killed in past religious conflicts in Nigeria. Dacighir and Shikagham, originally from Plateau state’s Mangu County, were captured by Boko Haram, now called the Islamic State in West Africa Province (ISWAP), as they carried out their work in displaced persons camps.

Ethnic and religious tensions resulted in large-scale clashes between Muslims and Christians in Jos in 2001 and 2008.

It is not clear from the video, temporarily posted on YouTube, when the two men were executed. Their identities were confirmed by a relative, the Rev. John Pofi, a COCIN pastor.

Pastor Pofi, a cousin of the two executed Christians, told Morning Star News in a text message statement also shared with others that the two Plateau state natives had gone to Maiduguri from Abuja.

“Lawrence and Godfrey left Abuja for Maiduguri in search of opportunities to utilize their skills for the betterment of humanity and paid with their lives,” Pofi said. “We will never get their corpses to bury. The community will have to make do with a makeshift memorial to these young lives cut short so horrifically.”

If the federal government had created economic opportunities for those tempted to join extremist groups and had returned security to the country, his cousins would not be dead now, Pastor Pofi said.

“We must ask ourselves if this is the kind of country we want where young men who are earning an honest living are brutally killed while those who abduct and kill others are invited to dialogue with government and paid handsomely,” he said.

In a letter last week to the United Nations secretary general, attorney Emmanuel Ogebe of the U.S.-Nigeria Law Group, a legal consulting firm with an emphasis on human rights, expressed concern that the Nigerian government did not condemn the killing of the two men even though they were helping to provide shelter for displaced Nigerians.

“Lawrence and Godfrey …were using their skills to provide a basic human need of shelter to others when they were killed,” Ogebe stated. “Your excellency, we wish to draw your urgent attention to the fact that taken together with the execution of aid worker Hauwa  Liman (ICRC) this time last year, the recorded number of aid workers slaughtered by terrorists in Nigeria over the past decade is now in excess of 40.”

Ogebe asserted in his letter that the killing of the two Christians was Boko Haram’s first execution on the basis of “ethnic cleansing.” The two victims were from the predominantly Christian Mwalghavul ethnic group. Previous ethnic/religious clashes took place between the predominantly Muslim Hausa and Fulanis against the predominantly Christian Berom, Irigwe, Afizere, Tarok, Ngas and Mwalghavul peoples.

Ogebe wrote that workers for international aid group Action Against Hunger kidnapped in July issued a distressed plea for government help with no notable administration response. On Wednesday (Sept. 25), Action Against Hunger announced that one of its workers being held hostage had been executed.

“More executions of humanitarian workers could yet occur,” Ogebe wrote to the U.N. “Despite these humanitarian organizations’ resilience in still serving victims, the Nigerian Government has since just last week suspended Action Against Hunger and Mercy Corp on dubious grounds.”

International aid agency Mercy Corps suspended operations in Borno and Yobe states in northeast Nigeria after the Nigerian army closed four of its offices in the region without explanation, the agency announced on Wednesday (Sept. 25).

Ogebe urged the U.N. secretary general to obtain an assurance from Nigerian President Muhammadu Buhari that all hostages will be released before the country’s Independence Day on Tuesday (Oct. 1).

“We also ask that you implore him to lift the suspension on humanitarian groups providing urgent services to victims,” Ogebe wrote. “We urge the secretary general to remind President Buhari of Nigeria’s obligations under international humanitarian law to negotiate the protection of aid workers and non-combatant civilians in its dialogue with BH/ISWAP [Boko Haram/Islamic State in Western Africa Province].

Nigeria ranked 12th on Open Doors’ 2019 World Watch List of countries where Christians suffer the most persecution.

This article originally appeared on MorningStarNews.org. If you would like to help persecuted Christians, click here for a list of organizations that can orient you on how to get involved.  

MinistrySafe – Protecting Children and Those Who Serve Them

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MinistrySafe was created by legal professionals who are sexual abuse experts.

After decades of litigating sexual abuse cases, Gregory Love and Kimberlee Norris founded MinistrySafe to help ministries reduce the risk of child sexual abuse with preventative measures that fit the needs of church and ministry programs. MinistrySafe grew out of a desire to provide ministries of all sizes with the tools and resources to proactively prevent child sexual abuse.

Many ministries retain the false impression that ‘my ministry is not at risk’.

In the past decade, however, child sexual abuse is the number one reason ministries have ended up in court. Offenders are drawn to child-serving programs with fewer protections in place: the welcoming, inclusive environment of Christian ministries provides a prime target.

Using online resources, MinistrySafe members implement the 5-Part Safety System:

  1. Sexual Abuse Awareness Training,
  2. Skillful Screening Processes,
  3. Tailored Policies and Procedures,
  4. Appropriate Criminal Background Checks, and
  5. Monitoring and Oversight.

How Can I Be More Fruitful for Christ?

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Do you ever feel like you aren’t doing much for the Lord? That you aren’t fruitful for Christ? Are you ever tempted to envy the gifts or ministries of others?

Ever look at others in your church who are leading Bible studies or visiting prisons or rehab centers and think “I’m not doing anything for the Lord”?

I think there are going to be a lot of surprises on Judgment Day. Like the widow who gave only a couple mites. It probably didn’t seem to her like she was giving much at all, but Jesus said she gave more than all the others who were making a show of the “huge” gifts they were giving out of their prosperity.

Think of believers in Paul’s day. They could have been envious of the apostle, going from city to city, establishing churches, leading hundreds to the Lord, raising up leaders, witnessing to Caesar himself. Most of Paul’s converts were just ordinary people leading ordinary, non-glorious lives. Paul’s converts even included slaves. I can imagine how a slave back then could have been tempted to think, “What am I doing for the kingdom? I’m just working out in a field every day, gathering hay.”

It is God’s will that every one of his children are fruitful for Christ.

But most of us are just ordinary. We get up, help our kids get ready for school (those of us who have kids), clean the kitchen, or we go to our classes or our jobs and do our work, then come home. Many of us are involved in our local church, but most of us don’t preach on Sundays. We go to church, we attend a fellowship group (we don’t even lead it), we may serve in some ministry, but we don’t feel like we’re doing anything great or impressive. Again, I think many of us will be surprised on Judgement day when God rewards us for our “unimpressive” serving.

As I get older, I am becoming more and more aware that my time is limited. I want to be fruitful for God and I know he wants me to. So I have been thinking lately, how can I be more fruitful for Christ? Maybe some of you are thinking that same thing. So here are some ways (most of them unimpressive) to pursue fruitfulness for Jesus.

Here are 10 ways to be more fruitful for Christ:

The first way to be fruitful for Christ is to regularly take in and meditate on God’s word.

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. Psalm 1:1-3

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As we take in and meditate on God’s Word, he makes us fruitful. He changes us. He changes our desires. He shows us how to obey and please him. And he causes us to bear fruit in his timing. He prospers us spiritually.

The second way to be fruitful for Christ is to serve others in whatever ways you can.

Try to serve others, no matter how small it seems. No matter how unimpressive your service may seem.

Serve your family (or your roommates). Do the dishes after supper. Clean up the kitchen for your wife. Serve your children (if you have them). Read a book to your kids. Take them to a park. Tell them a story at bedtime. Pray with them and for them.

Serve unbelieving family members when you can. Invite your unbelieving brother and his family for Thanksgiving, and serve them as much as you can. Even if you don’t have opportunity to share the gospel with them, live it out before them.

The third way to be fruitful for Christ: Pray.

Pray for your children and grandchildren and descendants (if you have them). Pray that Jesus will save every one of them until he returns. Pray for lost family members. Pray that Jesus will save your neighbors and friends.

Pray for fellow believers. For those who are sick or going through hard times.

It may not feel like you are doing much when we pray, but God’s word tells us that the prayer of the righteous is powerful and effective. That God is a rewarder of those who seek him.

The fourth way to be fruitful for Christ is to seek to live a life worthy of the gospel.

Paul urged the Ephesian church:

I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:1-3

Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need. Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:25-32

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We may not feel like we’re doing much when we forgive others and be kind to them, but when we do, we bear fruit for Jesus. We glorify God.

Two Kinds of Sermons That Seem Expositional But Really Aren’t

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Common in conservative evangelical circles today—certainly among the readers of ministries like 9Marks—is a professed commitment to expository sermons. We say “professed” commitment because our experience over decades as both a pastor and faithful church member, having either delivered or listened to thousands of sermons, has led us to the conclusion that much expository sermons does not in fact meet the definition.

Too many sermons focus on the biblical text, but fail to exposit the main point of the scriptural passage under consideration.  To be clear, this critique isn’t merely an academic or definitional one. If a sermon fails to unpack the main point of the text at hand, the pastor is failing to preach the whole counsel of God regardless of how throughly the speaker examines the scriptural passage. Such a sermon fails to communicate what God intended to communicate by inspiring that text.

Let’s be more specific. Two kinds of preaching are often confused with expository sermons because of a superficial resemblance: “sequential preaching” and “observational preaching.” We’ll discuss them below. We pray that this discussion will be edifying to preachers as you seek to feed your flocks.

1. Sequential preaching is not necessarily expository sermons.

Many preachers believe they’re engaged in expository sermons simply because they sequentially preach through a particular book of the Bible. While there’s much to commend about this approach, it doesn’t necessarily equate to expository preaching.

For example, a pastor may preach a 16-week series through the book of Romans. That fact by itself would cause many preachers to think they’re doing expository sermons. But it’s not. Whether the sequential preacher is delivering an expository sermon in any given week depends on two things:

  1. whether the preacher has rightly identified the main point of the week’s assigned passage,
  2. and whether the sermon then keeps as its focus the main point of the passage.

An example may clarify this point. If, in the third week of the series, the preacher delivers a sermon on Romans 3 that centers on and rightly explains the doctrine of inspiration, then the preacher would not be preaching an expository sermon. Why do we say that? Because the main point of Romans 3 is not the doctrine of inspiration, but rather the fallenness of man. The entire chapter builds to man’s fallenness; Paul surveys the Old Testament and concludes that “all have sinned and fall short of God’s glory” (Romans 3:23).

To be sure, the doctrine of inspiration is mentioned, but only in passing in verse 2 (“the very words of God,” NIV). Simply put, inspiration is not the main point of Romans 3. Rather, the inspiration of the Old Testament is invoked by Paul to give authoritative weight to his recitation of passages that make his main point.

Furthermore, the main point of Romans 3 is not the unbelief of Israel (vs. 3), the faithfulness of God (vs. 3), the righteousness of God (vs. 5), the coming judgment of the world (vs. 6), or the ways men demonstrate depravity (vs. 13–18). All of those concepts appear in Romans 3 not as ends in themselves, but rather as elements of an argument toward Paul’s main point: we all, Jew and Gentile alike, have a sin problem that we cannot solve.

What distinguishes an expository sermon is not simply that what the preacher is saying is biblically accurate, but that it draws its main truth from the main point of the passage. An expository sermon on Romans 3 requires that the main point of the sermon is the main point—not a sub-point, not peripheral to the main point—of Romans 3.

Of course, there’s value in sequentially preaching through books of the Bible. It helps to ensure that the whole counsel of God is preached and you have “kept nothing back that was profitable for” the congregation (Acts 20:20 KJV). Furthermore, by taking an entire book under study, the preacher is forced to grapple with the flow of the author’s argument throughout. This increases the likelihood that the preacher is rightly identifying the main point of a particular sermon’s text.

2. Observational preaching is not necessarily expository sermons.

The second type of preaching often confused with expository sermons is what we call observational preaching. This kind of preaching attempts to be faithful to the text at hand, but it fails to move from observations about the text and its structure to an exposition of the point of the passage.

As we learned in seminary, good Bible exegesis begins with observations about a text and its structure. But the reason for making observations is to ensure we’re exposing the full truth of the passage.

Unfortunately, far too many sermons never make the turn from observations to exposition. Put another way, preachers frequently deliver an exegetical outline rather than a homiletical one. When that happens, the elements of a text’s argument become the points of the sermon without connecting the observations to the author’s argument. The pastor discusses at length what’s in the passage without ever communicating the point of the passage.

But the goal of an expositional sermon is to draw a line from the content of the passage to the main point of the author. This line distinguishes an observational sermon from an expositional sermon.

An illustration from an analogous context might help to illuminate this point. Imagine a college literature professor lectured her class on Ernest Hemingway’s classic, The Old Man and the Sea. After introducing the class to the text and identifying its author, the professor then outlines three “points” of the story which will form the points of her lecture: (1) the man, (2) the sea, and (3) the fish. The professor then proceeds to discuss the points in turn.

The man was named Santiago: an old man, a fisherman by trade, and yet poor. The lecturer describes Santiago’s appearance, the village in which he lives, his friend Manolin, and Santiago’s persistence in his fishing endeavors. For more than 15 minutes, the professor discusses the various facts about the man that are recounted in the story. She then turns to the second “point”: the sea. Again, the professor talks at length about the sea near which Santiago lives, the storms that come up on the sea, the prevalence of sharks in the sea, and various other details. Finally, the professor turns to her final “point:” the fish. She recounts at length the details about the fish, including the type of fish, color, weight, and length. It was large, so large in fact that it could not even be brought into the boat, but was instead lashed to the side. The professor talks about how the fish was then attacked and eaten by sharks while strapped to the side of the boat. With that, the professor observes that it is a sad story, ends the lecture, and adjourns the class.

Such an approach to Hemingway’s classic would do a grave disservice to the story and to the students. While the professor in our illustration understood the details of the story—those three points do appear prominently in the book—she and the class will leave the lecture without “the point of it all.” Any skilled literature professor would exposit—would expose—the class to Hemingway’s point.

Simply put, “the man,” “the Sea,” and “the fish” are not the points. Instead, they lead to Hemingway’s point about the futility of life. The main point of the story, which any able literary expositor must explain to the class, is that you can spend your whole life pursuing the big fish and then, after catching it, lose it all in the end anyway. To fail to elucidate that for the class is to fall short as a literary expositor.

Sadly, this is how far too many preachers approach the Bible. They riff at length about various factual elements of the text, labeling the observations “points,” but they fail to see those “points” as constituent elements that contribute to a main point, an argument. Understanding a text’s details is important to grasp its argument. But too often, sermons are organized around factual or structural observations about or from the text, without seeing those observations as building blocks to an argument.

For example, while preaching on 1 Peter 1:1–2, a preacher might identify his three “points” as God’s people, God’s foreknowledge, and God’s work—all of which appear in the text, but none of which are at all the point Peter is making. The point of that passage is that God has chosen a people to obey him. The various factual observations about God’s people and his foreknowledge and his work are there to make a point, but they are not themselves the argument of the passage. By stopping at factual observations and not pushing through to the point of the text, the preacher fails to deliver an expository sermon no matter how much the sermon may focus on the verses as hand.

Conclusion

Are these critiques much ado about nothing? Are we hoping to instigate a merely academic debate about whether a sermon meets some technical definition of an “expository sermon”?

No, as we said at the outset, the issue is a theological one. To hold a high view of Scripture requires not merely a belief in the authority and inspiration of Scripture, but also faithfulness to the meaning of the author, both human and divine. And while we’re promised that Scripture is sufficient for the sanctification of the church, this assumes that the point of Scripture is rightly identified and conveyed, thereby bringing the full import of Scripture to bear on members’ lives.

In our hermeneutics classes, we began with the task of making observations about the text. But as we progressed through our respective classes and neared the end of the semester, the assignments moved from making observations about the text to summarizing the author’s point—what the professors at Dallas Seminary refer to as the text’s “Big Idea.”

This exercise is useful for preachers. Study the text. Understand its words. Observe the relationship of the words to one another. Consider the structure. But do all of this not as an end itself. Do it in order to get to the point of the text. Only then can you deliver a truly expository sermon that makes the point of the text the point of your sermon in a way that will thoroughly furnish your congregation unto all good works (2 Timothy 3:17).

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For more on this topic, check out these two articles (Part 1Part 2) by Mike Gilbart-Smith.

This article about expository sermons originally appeared here.

Neglect: The Silent Killer of Worship Teams

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I’ve had the privilege of traveling to more than 100 churches in the past three years as a worship team coach and consultant: mostly small to medium size churches and a few mega churches. Often times I hear frustration that comes from a series of missteps that can be summarized as neglect. Neglect means lack of care. Whether indifference, forgetfulness, or failure of systems, neglect hurts!

Ministry is a people-centric enterprise. Sometimes are so fixated on making Jesus and the unsaved visitor happy that we fail to care for the people and things entrusted closest to us. Here are some common themes that come up.

ADMINISTRATIVE NEGLECT 

It’s common. Lack of written expectations, last-minute scheduling, drawers labeled “batteries” with no batteries (when the preacher’s mic just shut down!). When these “every once in a while“ problems become the standard we have created a new norm of neglect. The root word for “administer” comes from the Latin word minister meaning “servant.”

Create a one-page job description for every paid and volunteer role in your church. Keep it updated. This helps your valuable people know if they are “winning”. If you are not the leader and do not have this one sheet, ask for one.  Make sure your scheduling systems are predictable (for instance, a text every Monday before noon). Get the song list out on Tuesdays. Set up reminders on your calendar to check supplies.

RELATIONAL NEGLECT  

This one can be very difficult, near impossible, for those in the technical area of ministry in the church. Many of us volunteered in this area to avoid the touchy, feely areas of ministry. That being said, I can guarantee that even the most introverted volunteers and workers feel the pain of lack of care.

Sometimes leaders forget to close the loop on relational hurts. Sometimes people are left out of prayer times, communion, and lunch invitations. Last-minute demands and emergencies without a follow-up “thank you” can cause resentment and pain–this is lack of care! Many tech people secretly resent their leaders and if given the chance can list offenses that have gone left unresolved. Include your sound and media and tech teams into the spiritual aspects of preparation for services. Occasionally recognize your tech teams from the pulpit. If you communicate well, you might get them a standing ovation every once in a while.

GEAR NEGLECT 

Oftentimes ministries that get high relational marks suffer in the gear department. Churches forget that we actually run concert venues! During a recent visit to a mega church, I noted that a whole zone of loudspeakers was not actually making a sound (this covered over 200 chairs!). Often times there are ridiculous workarounds on computers that could be fixed in a few minutes.  If you need paper clips, duct tape, and the perfect touch to run basic systems of the church, lack of care has become the new norm.

Make a list of everything that is not currently working and make a plan to repair, replace or remove the item. Schedule maintenance days for your sound system—especially before Easter and Christmas. Dust is the devil. Commit to keeping areas clean of dirt, debris, and clutter.

In short: Don’t neglect tasks, don’t neglect people, and don’t neglect gear. (You can thank me later.)

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Fired, Blacklisted Actress Seyi Omooba Claims Religious Discrimination

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After losing a starring role, an agent, and possibly her career, British actress Seyi Omooba is suing “to make sure no other Christian has to go through something like this.”

This spring, Seyi Omooba, 25, was cast in the starring role of Celie for a UK stage version of “The Color Purple.” Although the character has a same-sex relationship, Omooba didn’t necessarily consider Celie to be homosexual.

The day after Omooba was cast, “Hamilton” actor Aaron Lee Lambert shared a five-year-old Facebook post Omooba made about homosexuality and the Bible. After it went viral, the Curve Theatre in Leicester removed Seyi Omooba from the production and Global Artists dropped her as a client. Since then, the actress says, “There’s just no response” when she tries to get roles. Now she’s suing for religious discrimination and breach of contract.

Seyi Omooba: “I do not believe homosexuality is right”

In 2014, Omooba wrote on Facebook: “Some Christians have completely misconceived the issue of Homosexuality, they have begun to twist the word of God. It is clearly evident in 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 what the Bible says on this matter. I do not believe you can be born gay, and I do not believe homosexuality is right.”

When Lambert retweeted that, he wrote: “@Seyiomooba Do you still stand by this post? Or are you happy to remain a hypocrite? Seeing as you’ve now been announced to be playing an LGBTQ character, I think you owe your LGBTQ peers an explanation. Immediately.”

Her termination was a shock, Seyi Omooba says, because she isn’t hateful and hadn’t hidden her beliefs. “I always post stuff about God, the Bible, or Scriptures,” she says. “They knew that I was a Christian, and they knew my stance on marriage, on my faith, on God.”

Omooba admits being “quite taken aback” by the backlash, which has included accusations of homophobia. When producers and her agent told her to publicly apologize, she refused. “What they wanted me to do was completely against my faith,” she says. “I did not want to lie just to keep a job.”

“This cannot go unchallenged.”

 Omooba’s father, Pastor Ade Omooba, is co-founder of Christian Concern, a group that supports Christians’ rights. “It’s becoming harder to be a Christian in the UK today,” its website states. The Christian Legal Centre (CLC), an arm of the organization, is supporting Omooba.

CLC chief executive Andrea Williams says the case “sends a chilling message that if you express mainstream biblical views, you will be punished and lose your career.” She adds, “This cannot go unchallenged, and we are determined to fight for justice.”

One agency, according to the CLC, told Omooba, “Homophobia is illegal. It is not a matter of faith.” Another agent apparently told the actress she was “talented but misguided” and brainwashed by her faith.

Seyi Omooba says she’s received support from fellow actors, including some homosexuals. “The people who know me know that I have no hatred as a result of my faith, only love,” she says.

“I want our society to be more open to both sides of the debate and to accept that many Christians do not believe homosexual practice is right,” Omooba adds. “Even though there are differences in belief, we need to be more loving to each other, we need to understand each other’s struggles—that is what my post…was all about. No one should be treated as I have been because of expressing these beliefs.”

Greg Stier: Teens Who Pray for the Lost, See the Lost

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Greg Stier is the founder and CEO of Dare 2 Share ministries, which has equipped over a million teenagers and adults to regularly and passionately share the hope of Jesus with others. Greg has written over a dozen books, including Gospelize Your Youth Ministry: A Spicy “New” Philosophy of Ministry (That’s 2,000 Years Old). He speaks across the globe and he oversees Dare 2 Share Live, a one-day evangelism training event that equips teen to start a gospel revolution in their own communities.

Key Questions for Greg Stier

-In light of the discouraging data, how do you maintain your hope that youth pastors have a unique opportunity to mobilize churches for evangelism?

-What are your thoughts on the perspective that the youth pastor position is just a stepping stone to another position?

-What does “gospelizing” your youth ministry really look like?

-How has God led your ministry to embrace the idea of relational evangelism and what are you doing that is making your efforts so effective?

Key Quotes from Greg Stier

“Regardless of whatever stats you read, it’s pretty obvious that Christianity is losing its punch in the United States.”

“Our churches tomorrow are going to be empty if we do not reach this next generation.”

“We’re beyond pizza and dodgeball and a 10 minute talk. We have to mobilize teenagers to reach their generation for Christ.”

“I think God secretly enjoys scary statistics so He can show up and show off.”

“It was a youth revival that prepared America to be America.”

“Social media, people look at it as a curse. I look at it as a blessing. The gospel can spread through social media. Teenagers can leverage all that for the gospel, but youth leaders have to change the way that they’re thinking. And what we’re seeing is that down deep inside the heart every youth leader worth his or her salt there’s a burning gospel ember that we just need to find and fan and fuel.”

How to Develop Relational Charisma

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Very few leaders possess what I refer to as “Stadium Filling Charisma,” but many can have relational charisma.

You know what I mean by “Stadium Filling Charisma,” a personality that is larger than life and people flock to be around that person.

When they are in the lobby of the church there is always a crowd of maybe 20 — 25 – 30 people gathered around them!

I don’t have that kind of charisma, do you?

The good news is, that kind of charisma is not a qualifier for you to become a great leader.

In fact, in some cases, it can be a detriment. Organizations tied to a leader with a big personality can become dependent on that person.

That can happen even at a church campus, a ministry team, or in a small group. That isn’t always the case, of course, but the point is, don’t assume that’s the ideal.

And most importantly, don’t think you are handicapped as a leader if you don’t have a big outgoing persona.

That said, some degree of an appealing personality is necessary to lead effectively, and to that end, everyone can have what I refer to as Relational Charisma.

However, relational charisma is not defined by the size of your personality, but the generosity of your spirit.

Many great leaders with a high quotient of relational charisma are more subdued, thoughtful, and some have a slight bent toward introversion.

So when it comes to charisma, don’t think personality, think intentionality.

Relational charisma is a kind of personal magnetism that everyone can have. If you want it, and if you are willing to work on it intentionally, it’s yours to develop.

Relational charisma carries an authentic personal appeal that endears people to you and allows you to lead more effectively.

This is the foundational practice to develop relational charisma:

When you walk into a room, focus on helping the people in the room to feel better about who they are, rather than causing the people to feel better about who you are.

In other words, make it about them, not you.

In concept, it’s simple, but in practice, it can be challenging to remain consistent with this idea. We all get what it feels like to be moving fast, and under pressure with lots to do!  That truth about leadership makes it more challenging than it appears.

It’s really more of a way of life; that is often life-changing for both you and those you are around.

A quick list of 4 things that will shut down your relational charisma:

  • Lack of social-awareness – You fail to notice or be aware of what is happening in the room.
  • Pre-occupied or distracted – Your body may be in the room, but your mind and heart are elsewhere.
  • Image focused – You walk into a room, and it’s all about you. How the people see you, the impression you make, connecting only with people who can help you, and your agenda.

The Leader and Exercise … and 4 Ways to Keep Going

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If you’re struggling with how to be a leader and exercise, try these four ways to keep going.

When I first heard, as a Christian, challenges to exercise those challenges were typically connected to taking care of the body the Lord has given, to stewarding well the one body the Lord has provided us in this life. When the Apostle Paul challenged Timothy to train himself in godliness, he articulated that physical training has some benefit – though not nearly as much as training in godliness (1 Timothy 4:7-8). Physical exercise brings benefits to our bodies, but not only to our bodies. The longer I have led the more I have learned how important exercise is for my mind and emotions. Exercise helps us care for our minds, not only our bodies.

In his book, Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the BrainDr. John Ratey articulates that research insists that regular exercise increases learning, lowers the impacts of stress, combats sensitivity to anxiety, fights depression, and increases memory.

You have likely heard many leaders say; “I can feel it when I am not exercising.” Research indicates it is not just a feeling, but reality. The statement could mean they feel stress and anxiety more without exercise or that they don’t feel as mentally sharp without exercise. But not exercising does adversely impact us as leaders.

So how can we maintain an exercise routine in the midst of busy schedules and countless demands? For the last ten years, I have exercised regularly (after a season of not exercising because I insisted I was too busy with the demands of my role).

Below are four lessons I have learned for the leader and exercise:

1. Plans are more important than goals when it comes to the leader and exercise.

This axiom may not be true for all of life, but for most people it is very true with exercise. It was true for me. Setting a goal to lose ten pounds or to get stronger or to get back in shape is significantly less important than blocking off time and having a plan for exercise. Having 4-5 hours a week blocked off for physical activity without an end goal is more valuable than setting an exercise goal and having no plan. Yes, it is good to have goals. But every single year countless people set fitness goals without any plans and nothing happens. With exercise, I don’t always have goals but I do have plans. Every Sunday night I look at my week and schedule times I am going to exercise.

2. Find something you enjoy.

It is so much easier to exercise when you enjoy what you are doing and even better if you can find people you enjoy exercising alongside. A sport or activity you love is what keeps exercise from being something you dread on your schedule. For a decade basketball several days a week was one of my primary ways to stay in shape. Not only did I enjoy the hoops, but also I enjoyed the guys I played alongside. After moving to SoCal, I discovered mountain biking and stand up paddle boarding – both of which also give me time with friends and family.

3. Challenge yourself when it comes to the leader and exercise.

With weights you cannot get stronger unless you lift heavier. With biking you cannot build endurance unless you push yourself further. And so on. The activity becomes more enjoyable the better you get, so give yourself challenges over time. They don’t have to be public. They don’t have to be big and earth shattering. The little challenges over time help you stay engaged.

4. If you get injured immediately try something else.

I had no serious injures before 40. Now, gosh. A year ago I experienced a moderate tear in my elbow while lifting weights. I could not even shoot a basketball because of the pain. So, I immediately ramped up mountain biking as a replacement to the weights and hoops. Then I went over the handlebars and separated my shoulder. After ten days of not exercising, I felt the difference mentally and in my energy levels so I started walking and riding a stationary bike until being able to lift and ride again. Yes, it is so boring but it is also necessary. Bottom line – I have learned the importance of trying something else if injured.

For me, exercise is not about getting “swole” but fighting stress. Yes, it still includes stewarding the body the Lord gave me but it also helps me steward the mind He gave too.

This article about the leader and exercise originally appeared here.

How I Became a Sunday Drug Abuser

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Three Xanax. Three Propranolol. Three Zoloft. This was the prescription-pill combination I took before my first sermon as a pastor in New York City. I was a Sunday drug abuser.

Xanax—an anti-anxiety medication—calmed my nerves in a way similar to alcohol, minus the motor-skill impairment. Propranolol—a beta-blocker—slowed my heart rate so I wouldn’t get flushed or sweat profusely. Zoloft—an antidepressant—was a medication I’d been taking for 10 years to keep my unpredictable anxiety in check.

After meeting with my psychiatrist earlier that week and sharing my fear of a panic attack in the pulpit, she gave me the Xanax and Propranolol prescriptions in addition to my normal Zoloft refill. She said I could take one of each before the big sermon. One Xanax. One Propranolol. One Zoloft. Three pills. That’s it.

Instead I took nine.

Why? Why did I triple my dosage that day and become a Sunday drug abuser?

Simple: Idolatry.

The idol? My congregation. I worshiped the people in the pews. The seats were packed with high-profile investment bankers, Broadway actresses, university professors, runway models—you name it.

To me, everybody in the sanctuary was impressive. And I needed to impress them. I needed their approval, affirmation and acceptance. I needed them to love me. And I mean love me. I needed to floor them with a level of oratory excellence they’d never experienced before. And I convinced myself the more pills I took, the likelier this would happen.

So I did something I would never recommend…something I deeply regret…something that could have killed me. I tripled my dosage and became a Sunday drug abuser. I stood up in the pulpit—high as a kite—and preached to my gods.

I may as well have been bowing down to them.

As church leaders, why is it so easy to worship the approval of our congregations? Two reasons: Pastors like people, and they exhibit a tendency toward spiritual politicking.

We Like People

One of the reasons I became a pastor was my affinity for people. I like thought-provoking conversations. I like walking alongside people going through difficult trials. I like serving and socializing with fellow Christians. I like spending time with people with no agenda at all. I suspect I’m not alone here. Most church leaders—lay and professional—like people.

The problem? When we like people, we want them to like us back. And if not kept in check, the desire to be liked back can turn into a need, and we fall apart without it. At that point, it’s become a golden calf. A natural affection for people has slid down the slippery slope from good to god.

Spiritual Politicians

Church leaders—specifically paid church leaders—are also so prone to worship human approval because our job security is intricately tied to it. If our congregations love us, our jobs are secure. If not, we may be on on our way out. It’s not altogether different from politics. This creates an environment where human approval is critical to professional survival, and yet we can’t want it too much. We need it, but we can’t need it. This is a challenging dynamic to navigate. Few leaders do it well. I certainly don’t.

My idolatry of my congregation led to my becoming a Sunday drug abuser. What are the consequences when we idolize our sheep’s approval? Here are three:

1. We stop loving them.

Three things are inevitable in life—death, taxes and human disapproval. We will never receive 100 percent approval ratings from our congregants—and if we do, we’re probably doing something wrong. When our disciples inevitably criticize us as we worship their approval, it will lead us to do one of two things. We’ll either demonize them in our hearts—a coping mechanism to make us not want their approval. Or we’ll avoid them—a coping mechanism that allows us to move forward by pretending they don’t exist.

And neither approach—demonization or avoidance—involves love.

2. We become awful ministers.

Jesus said we cannot worship both God and money (Matt. 6: 24). Replace money with human approval. When we idolize human approval, our vertical connection is short-circuited and ministry becomes a mere horizontal activity. Our sermons become Spirit-less speeches. Our counsel consists of trite platitudes. We’re afraid to rebuke those in sin. God is on mute, and our ministries suffer.

3. We will burn out.

I have a confession to make—one a bit less dramatic than my opening confession about my pharmaceutical abuse. When I pastored in New York City, I would spend 40 to 50 hours preparing my sermons. That was the magic number I needed to make them perfect—to ensure every sentence was exactly what I wanted. I would rehearse them 20 to 30 times until every catchy phrase, strategic pause and emphatic hand gesture was down pat. Why? The same reason I took the extra pills that day. I wanted to impress.

The result of this overpreparation? Not only did I sound inappropriately rehearsed and overly polished, but I burnt out. I couldn’t sustain the energy and time requirements necessary to craft and deliver A+ sermons. Had I not repented of the human-approval idol that drove me to overprepare, I’d likely be out of ministry today.

Good News

All of us in ministry will be tempted to worship congregational approval. Most of us will give in to the temptation at some point.

But is there good news we can cling to as we battle the temptation to worship our sheep? Absolutely. Here are three liberating truths:

1. Less is more.

You can relax. The more you try to impress your people, the less you will. That’s the nature of human dynamics—we’re impressed most by those who aren’t trying to impress us. In fact, I’ll take it a step further. You can be weak. You can show brokenness, confess sin and admit failure. Trust me, people will like you more when you do. Humility is attractive.

2. You are forgiven.

If you’ve worshiped your congregation’s approval—and all leaders have—Jesus offers forgiveness. No guilt. No shame. No condemnation. He wipes away your idolatry as far as the east is from the west (Ps. 103:12). So confess your idolatry, repent and rest in the beauty of Christ’s atoning death. You’re forgiven.

3. You are loved.

You can stop worshiping human approval because you have all the approval and love you’ll ever need. In whom? In Christ of course.

It’s a love that doesn’t depend on the quality of your sermons, podcasts, Bible studies or blog posts. It pushes aside your blown evangelism attempts and boring Sunday school lessons. It overlooks your homiletical missteps, unwise counsel and poor leadership. It soaks deeply into your heart and enables you to listen to harsh criticism without crumbling. It’s unbiased, unconditional and unmatchable. It cost God everything but costs you nothing.

It’s a love you certainly can’t get by popping pills.

This article about becoming a Sunday drug abuser originally appeared here.

Receiving Missionaries Well: How to Welcome Your Sent Ones Back

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Sending missionaries is a right and responsibility of the local church. Too often, however, the focus of sending is exclusively on the front end of the process—getting people to the field. The forgotten reality is that almost every missionary eventually comes back home, whether permanently or for a short time. As church leaders, we do ourselves a disservice if we never stop and give attention to receiving missionaries back in a way that honors the Lord and is loving to our missionaries.

As a pastor of a sending church, I’ve had a front-row view as our church receives people back from the field on a regular basis. Sometimes this is for a scheduled stateside visit or furlough. Sometimes our missionaries are finishing their time on the field and are moving back for other ministry opportunities.

On occasion, however, we receive people back who have either experienced burnout or are removed from the field because of significant sin in their life. No matter what reason a person comes off the field, they need a church that will receive them back with open arms and with a clear plan to help them get healthy and plugged back into the life of the church.

Here are a few principles and practices that our church has adopted through the years for receiving missionaries back to the US. We have often failed to do these well, but having principles in place gives us something to work toward. The examples below relate primarily to missionaries coming back for a short-term stateside visit and planning to return to the field.

Communicate Well Beforehand

Returning stateside after three or four years overseas is a stressful endeavor. Often our missionaries don’t know what they should be planning for and, therefore, can’t plan properly for their time in the United States.

“No matter what reason a person comes off the field, they need a church that will receive them back with open arms.”

Where will they live? How will they find a vehicle to drive? How do they get the care and counseling they need? What about doctors or a school for their kids? All these questions can hit them like a tidal wave that causes them to delay their planning. As local churches, we have an opportunity to come alongside our people and help them think through these questions.

Start by knowing when your missionaries are coming back. Six months before their departure date, reach out and help them craft a plan for their time in the United States. They may have many of the details figured out, but if not, offer to help. Help them find a home in the community, schools for their kids, doctors, a vehicle, etc. You don’t have to have all the answers but your intentionality will be well appreciated. Make sure to follow up on occasion and see how their planning is going and how you can assist.

The First Week Is Important

The moment is here and they probably feel stressed as they get on a plane and head your way. Make their first week back a gift of love and affection. Gather a few others from the church and make a plan to receive them well. If possible, meet them at the airport with a group of their friends and supporters. This doesn’t have to be a huge deal, but your presence will show them they are loved and remembered.

If they are staying in the community, go to the home beforehand and fill their pantry. Leave a gift from the church as well. This could be a gift card, good coffee, toys for the kids, or any number of things.

“Being a sending church is more than just sending; it’s also receiving missionaries back well.”

Seek to know the needs of your missionaries. Some people simply need a space to sleep and recharge. Others want to spend time with people early on. Either way, make sure and follow up with a phone call or visit the day after they arrive. If possible, mission leaders should have returned missionaries in their home for a meal the first week they are back. Opening your home and being hospitable this first week is a tangible sign of love that your missionary will likely appreciate.

Have a Reentry Plan

Within the first few weeks, meet with your missionary and talk through a plan for their stateside time. Ideally, you would have started this conversation months before while they were still on the field, but this is the time to solidify the plan. This reentry plan is not intended to be a job description but more broad principles to help them maximize their time in the United States. Often our missionaries will have family to visit, churches to speak in, and a litany of other things they need to do. A reentry plan helps clarify expectations for both parties. It gives clarity to the missionary on what the church expects from the missionary and helps the local church support the missionary well.

The reentry plans at our church often include the following:

  • Regular times of rest and reflection. We also encourage them to take spiritual retreats.
  • Several sessions of counseling to help our missionaries debrief, deal with unaddressed issues, and get healthy before returning. This is required for all our missionaries
  • Pathways to invest back in the church. We help our missionaries find ways they can invest back in the church through speaking in small groups, mentoring future missionaries, attending staff and elder meetings, sharing during a service, etc. This expectation comes from Acts 14:24–28. Paul and Barnabas went back to Antioch, their sending church, after their first journey and invested deeply in their sending church. This is a model we want to encourage missionaries to follow.

Stay Connected and Go Deep

Finally, it’s important to stay deeply connected to your missionaries during their whole stateside time. This sounds like a given, but often our lives are filled to the brim and we can view loving our missionaries as something to check off a list and not a relationship to cultivate. Fight hard to make meeting with and loving your missionary a regular rhythm of your life, and help others in the church do the same. One of the greatest gifts we can give our missionaries is a deep relationship with us and with their sending church.

It’s helpful to remember that being a sending church is more than just sending; it’s also receiving missionaries back well. Do the hard work of planning your receiving missionaries ministry. This simple act of love toward your missionary will speak volumes and help the kingdom of God expand through more and better missionary sending. Two books I would recommend in this area are Receiving Sent Ones During Reentry by the Upstream Collective and Returning Well by Melissa Chapman.

This article about receiving missionaries well originally appeared here.

What Puts the “S” in Hypertext Transfer Protocol Secure (HTTPS) Webpages?

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We all have favorite movies that we never get tired of watching. No holiday season is complete (at least in our house) without a family viewing of “Elf” — I’m ready for it right now! In one memorable scene, the main character, Buddy, strolls past a New York coffee shop, where to his amazement, he notices a neon “WORLD’S BEST CUP OF COFFEE” sign. With great naivety, a joyous Buddy pops in the diner and yells, “You did it! Congratulations! World’s best cup of coffee! Great job, everybody!” The idea of further questioning a food label or a claim on a neon sign, is also now true for visiting perceived ‘healthier’ websites. I’m referencing Hypertext Transfer Protocol Secure (HTTPS) webpages. Over the course of many years, I’ve repeatedly drilled it into the minds of computer users to always look for the padlock icon immediately to the left of the website address. The padlock icon represented security: meaning the visited website has been issued a certificate meant to imply that the site was secure from attacker hacks and cyber eavesdropping. Is that still the case?

The “S” Stands for Secure—or Does It? Since 2018, the use of HTTPS websites has far surpassed the use of HTTP (non-secure). For most businesses HTTPS pages are a requirement. After all, failure to own a secure site will result in Google Chrome boldly tagging your site as “Not Secure”. We can agree that it stands to reason that the more secure websites out there, the better.

However, the issue withHypertext Transfer Protocol Secure (HTTPS) sites recently is that cybercriminals are quick to evolve their deceitful practices. Instead of luring victims via phishing scams to clearly marked unsafe HTTP sites, we’re seeing a movement where newer malicious schemes are pointing to secure sites. The website line differentiating between good and evil has become increasingly blurred.

I recommend the following suggestions to prevent falling victim to these new HTTPS scams.

  1. Never login into or enter any personal information: credit card numbers, social security number, banking information, passwords into non-HTTPS sites.
  2. Do not solely trust a website based on its HTTPS and padlock icon presence itself.
  3. If the site does contain HTTPS, check out the desired domain name for spelling accuracy. There have been thousands of fraudulent certificates issued referencing the word “PayPal”. Most bogus sites are created with only one different character.
  4. Don’t click on links embedded within email and social media sites. The websites shown are likely forged and not the actual website you’ll be directed to.
  5. For regularly frequented websites, it’s a good idea to bookmark them so that you know exactly the site you’ll be viewing, opposed to searching the location of those sites with each visit.
  6. Install strong security software. As always, I recommend downloading and installing Thirtyseven4 Antivirus.

We can learn a lot from the mistakes and trustworthiness of our friend Buddy. He read the sign (claim), and believed it completely (World’s best cup of coffee!”). We cannot accept the validity of a site, based solely on theHypertext Transfer Protocol Secure and padlock icon anymore. Looks (HTTPS) can be deceiving, and cybercriminals work very hard to make things “look” typical.

Buddy also “shared” his discovery. He brought his friend Jovie back there to try the self-proclaimed best coffee. Before sharing sites or pages, be very sure they are legitimate and safe.

And lastly, upon tasting the “World’s best cup of coffee.” it was so unpalatable that Jovie grimaced and said it tasted “crappy.” Unsecure and malicious sites will do more than just leave a bad taste in your mouth—they can poison your bank accounts, contacts and machine itself, among other things. Be sure that you can verify the website before putting your trust (in the form of a click) into it.

Cyber dangers are real. Let us learn from the mistakes of Buddy and remember that instead of “S” standing for Secure, let us also think of “S” standing for “Smart.” Being Smart and in-tune to the impeding traps and dangers lurking around every corner.

Judge Has No Patience for University’s Religious Discrimination

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A federal judge has ruled that the University of Iowa (UI) violated the First Amendment rights of InterVarsity Christian Fellowship (IVCF) when it deregistered IVCF for allegedly breaching its Human Rights Policy. The university specifically took issue with the fact that IVCF required its leaders to affirm its statement of faith. While she did not grant everything IVCF asked for in the suit, U.S. District Court Judge Stephanie M. Rose ruled that UI unfairly targeted InterVarsity while tolerating violations from other groups.

“No group—religious or secular—could survive with leaders who reject its values,” said Greg Jao, who is the Director of External Relations at InterVarsity Christian Fellowship/USA. “We’re grateful the court has stopped the University’s religious discrimination, and we look forward to continuing our ministry on campus for years to come.”

Why InterVarsity Christian Fellowship Came Under Scrutiny

InterVarsity’s lawsuit, filed in August 2018, came about as a result of an earlier case, BLinC vs. University of Iowa, one on which Rose also ruled. The Gazette reports that in 2017, UI deregistered the student group Business Leaders in Christ (BLinC) for preventing an openly gay student from holding a leadership position. UI claimed that BLinC was violating its Human Rights Policy, which states the following:

[I]n no aspect of [the University’s] programs shall there be differences in the treatment of persons because of race, creed, color, religion, national origin, age, sex, pregnancy, disability, genetic information, status as a U.S. veteran, service in the U.S. military, sexual orientation, gender identity, associational preferences, or any other classification that deprives the person of consideration as an individual.

BLinC in turn claimed that UI was violating its First Amendment rights “to freedom of speech, freedom of association, and freedom of religious exercise.” The court ended up finding that UI had not reprimanded or deregistered “a large number” of student organizations that were limiting membership for various reasons banned in the Human Rights Policy. Rose determined that the university was therefore unfairly targeting BLinC and ordered officials to stop discriminating against particular groups. Following that ruling, UI began, says The Gazette, a “sweeping review of more than 500 UI student groups.”

One result of this review was that university officials deregistered over 30 student groups, including InterVarsity. InterVarsity filed a lawsuit, also accusing UI of violating their First Amendment rights and seeking damages for harm caused to their recruiting efforts and their ability to “prepare for ministry in the coming school year.” 

Judge Rose’s Ruling

“Nothing about this case warrants a different outcome than that reached in the BLinC Case,” wrote Rose. She said that the university claimed to apply its Human Rights Policy fairly, but in reality had discriminated against IVCF while giving other groups a free pass. Student groups that were allowed to state their views on issues such as gender, race, and religion included the Iowa Edge Student Organization, the Tau Sigma Military Dental Club, and the Women in Science and Engineering Ambassadors. The judge also mentioned Love Works, a group that requires its members to be LGBTQ-affirming.

Rose stated that UI failed to establish IVCF had harmed the university through its policies, but that IVCF successfully showed how UI had caused harm to its organization. Said Rose, “It is difficult to understand how the University could have narrowly tailored its response to InterVarsity’s leadership requirements without knowing or understanding the harms they caused.” 

The judge also expressed shock that university officials had continued the same discriminatory behavior identified in the BLnC case. She wrote, “The Court does not know how a reasonable person could have concluded this was acceptable” and also said, “The Court would never have expected the University to respond to that order by homing in on religious groups’ compliance with the policy while at the same time carving out explicit exemptions for other groups. But here we are.”

The defendants in the case were the university’s president, Bruce Harreld, Vice President for Student Life Melissa Shivers, Associate Dean of Student Organizations William R. Nelson, Coordinator for Student Organization Development Andrew Kutcher, and Student Misconduct and Title IX Investigator Thomas R. Baker. Judge Rose ruled that Nelson, Shivers and Kutcher were to be held personally liable for damages IVCF suffered as a result of their actions. While she did not find enough evidence to hold Baker and Harreld liable at this time, they could still be held responsible in the future, depending on how IVCF chooses to proceed.

It’s worth noting that Judge Rose’s ruling depends on the fact that university leaders were inconsistent with how they applied the college’s Human Rights Policy. InterVarsity and similar groups could be lawfully targeted in the future should officials apply the Human Rights Policy to all student groups equally. 

God’s Holiness Preached at Kanye’s Detroit ‘Service’

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Rapper Kanye West is used to making waves in the culture at large but lately, he’s been on the radar of many Christians and pastors. Kanye is attempting to cross the line from worldly rapper and celebrity to more of an evangelical worship leader and influencer. On Friday, September 27, 2019, Kanye brought his ”Sunday Service” to Detroit, Michigan, and gave 12 minutes of stage time to Pastor Adam Tyson. 

Tyson told the crowd of believers and nonbelievers alike a concise message: God is holy, we’re all sinners, and Christ came that you could be born again

Pastor Adam Tyson Was There to Talk About God

Not mincing words, Tyson told the crowd he was there to “tell them about God.” The senior pastor of Placerita Bible Church in the Los Angeles area started by saying there are three ways people far from God typically think about him:

God is an old man – Tyson said people sometimes think of God as someone who did great works in the Old Testament but isn’t around much anymore. He’s sort of like a grandfather–out of time and out of power. But, Tyson argues, the Bible says “God is the same yesterday, today, and forever.”

God is a sheriff – Sometimes people think God is “out to get you,” as if the only thing he’s interested in is punishing you. Tyson said that while God is the judge over the universe, he is also a God of mercy and love. Making it personal, Tyson emphasized that God “wants to be exalted in your heart today.”

God is a butler or a genie – Some people think of God as being at your beck and call. “God I need a new car. God, I need a new job,” Tyson said in example. He assured the crowd that while God doesn’t always give you what you want, he is sure to give you what you need. 

While these ways of viewing God may be typical, Tyson urged the crows that they need to see God for who he really is. The next part of Tyson’s message may look a little different from other Gospel messages you may have heard. Instead of pointing to Scripture in the New Testament, to passages about Jesus, for instance, Tyson used the example of Isaiah to demonstrate someone who had seen the need for God’s love and forgiveness and who reached out for it. 

Tyson told the crowd an Old Testament prophet named Isaiah saw God and everything changed for him. If you’ve ever really seen the God of the Bible, these three things will become clear to you, Tyson says:

You will recognize that God is holy – Tyson read from Isaiah 6:1, which describes Isaiah seeing God’s train filling the temple. When this happened, angels started praising God. The angels could have said “God is love, and they would have been right,” Tyson said. “They could have said God is powerful, and they would have been right. But instead they said God is holy.” Tyson emphasized saying God is holy is also saying there’s no one like him. As a church, city, nation, we need to remember the holiness of God. “Have you seen God?” Tyson asked.

The second thing someone who has seen God will recognize is one’s lack. “All have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God,” Tyson said, quoting Scripture. Isaiah felt this when he witnessed God’s train filling the temple and the angels worshipping God. Isaiah describes being overcome with the realization that he is “a man of unclean lips, and I live among a people of unclean lips.” He could reconcile who he was with what he had seen (God). Isaiah needed help, and it came in the form of an angel rushing to him with a live coal from the altar, which he touched to the prophet’s lips. 

The angel said Isaiah’s sins were atoned for. Which brings us to Tyson’s third point: We all need to receive Christ’s atonement.

“Today, through Jesus Christ, you can be made new again. You can have new life again; you can be transformed from the inside out. You’re no longer a sinner. In Christ, you are made a saint. You are made into a child of God,” Tyson said. 

We do have a role to play in our atonement, though, Tyson implied. “You have a choice to make: You can run from God, or you can repent and know God.” 

Tyson ended his message with an admonishment to the crowd to follow Isaiah’s example and tell God “Here am I, Lord, send me.” He gave examples of going to one’s neighbor, one’s family, one’s community to tell them about who God is. 

This isn’t the first time Kanye’s invited a preacher to give a message at one of his Sunday Services. Earlier this year, Kanye’s friend and pastor Rich Wilkerson, Jr. spoke at one such service. The Vous church leader emphasized that Jesus is the only way to God.

Kanye recently brought his Sunday Service to New Birth Church under the watchful eye of Pastor Jamal Bryant. At that performance, which was merged with New Birth’s standard Sunday service, guest preacher I.V. Hilliard gave a full sermon while Bryant emphasized the service was not about Kanye’s music but rather a chance to worship God and give him the freedom to do whatever he wanted to do. 

Kanye has also brought the Sunday service choir to places like Dayton, Ohio, after that city experienced a tragic shooting. He also performed at Coachella this year with an Easter service

3 Things You Didn’t Know About Spurgeon’s Wife

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Charles Spurgeon married Susannah Thompson on January 8, 1856. Spurgeon’s wife  would become his truest partner, deepest confidant and “the greatest of all earthly blessings.” Susannah described their life together as “two pilgrims treading this highway of life together, hand in hand—heart linked to heart.”

But who was this woman who captivated the heart of the Prince of Preachers?

Here are three things about Spurgeon’s wife you might not know.

1. Susannah Had to Learn a Hard Lesson About Marriage

Susannah married a man entrusted with great burdens. As one of the most influential men in England, Charles carried the heavy weight of ministerial responsibility on his shoulders. His work required hours of his time, energy and output every week. While it would have been easy for Susannah to become bitter towards the demands of Spurgeon’s ministry, she instead made the commitment not to ever become an obstacle to her husband’s kingdom endeavors.

During her engagement, Susannah learned a difficult lesson. Charles was invited to preach at an afternoon service and asked Susannah to accompany him. As she recalled:

“We went together, happily enough, in a cab… But, by the time we had reached the landing, he had forgotten my existence; the burden of the message he had to proclaim to that crowd of immortal souls was upon him, and he turned into the small side door…without a moment realizing that I was left to struggle as best I could.”

Susannah was bewildered and angry that her fiancée would so easily forget her. She promptly returned home to express her griefs to her patient mother who gave Susannah some helpful marriage advice. She said that Charles was no ordinary man and his whole life must be dedicated to the service of the Lord, and that Susannah “must never, never hinder him by trying to put (herself) first in his heart.”

Though difficult to hear, Susannah decided to align her desires with his and put the Lord’s work first in her own heart. Moments after she made this decision, Charles frantically rushed into the house, terribly worried about what had happened to his precious Susannah. The two had a good laugh, but Susannah left with a heart change that would affect the rest of their marriage.

From that day forward, Susannah concerned herself with the eternal implications of her husband’s ministry. She declared:

“It was the ever settled purpose of my married life that I should never hinder him in his work for the Lord, never try to keep him from fulfilling his engagements, never plead my own ill-health as a reason why he should remain at home with me… I thank God, now, that He enabled me to carry out this determination.”

2. God Forged Susannah’s Character on the Anvil of Affliction

In addition to supporting Charles in his seasons of depression and illness, Susannah suffered from severe medical issues herself and spent much of her adulthood as an invalid. She often experienced such intense seasons of pain that she could barely move.

The details of her illness are still coming to light, but we know that her condition became severe enough to require surgery. One of the leading surgeons in Scotland performed an operation on Susannah that didn’t go to plan. The result of the botched surgery was devasting. “Suffering instead of service,” she said, “became my daily portion.”

But Susannah believed God was using her brokeness to refine her character. Her physical agony drew her into closer proximity with a Savior who suffered for her and with her.

Even in the most excruciating circumstances, Susannah demonstrated gratitude, joy, peace and patience. She reflected, “We talked of the Lord’s tender love for His stricken child…I remember feeling that the Lord was very near to us.”

Susannah’s heart, rooted in thanksgiving, trusted God to accomplish his strength through her weakness. “How very good [God] is to unworthy me,” she believed.

3. Susannah Founded a World-Wide Ministry

In 1873, Susannah finished reading her husband’s book Lectures to My Students. When Charles asked her how she liked it, she replied, “I wish I could place it in the hands of every minister of England.” He responded, “Then why not do so? How much will you give?”

This question propelled Susannah into action. She organized a charity called “The Book Fund” to provide complimentary copies of Lectures to poor ministers throughout England. At first, Susannah lacked the financial resources needed to make this dream a reality. But she joyfully bought one hundred copies herself and mailed them out to pastors in need. When she was too ill to attend the functions of the Metropolitan Tabernacle, Susannah invested her time instead in the continuation of the Book Fund.

Susannah’s act of scrappy, sacrificial vision launched into motion a charity that continued until her death.

As letters of thanks poured into Susannah’s home, word quickly spread throughout England and numerous donations were sent to sustain her project. In one year’s time, Spurgeon’s wife distributed 3,058 theological books to impoverished pastors. Nine years later, she distributed 71,000 copies.

Leveraging Our Lives

Susannah’s enduring legacy beckons each of us to follow in her steps. Her strenuous determination in the midst of personal pain, her indefatigable endurance and resourcefulness, and her tenacious holy hustle reminds us that anyone and everyone can make a difference for Jesus Christ.

Susannah did not found her Book Fund by marshalling funds from others. Instead, it began when she made the decision to sacrifice her own time, energy and resources. Little could she have known that God would pour his blessing on her project.

It’s impossible to determine how much spiritual fruit resulted from the Book Fund. How many souls were saved? How many lives were changed? Perhaps one day we’ll know. But because of her efforts, pastors were encouraged, missionaries were emboldened, families were strengthened and churches were better equipped to spread the gospel to the ends of the earth. When Spurgeon’s wife passed away in 1902, she had distributed throughout England a total number 199,315 theological resources.

Today, may we learn to leverage our lives for the expansion of the gospel. May each of us develop a God-sized vision so big that only he can accomplish it. And with Susannah, may we use our brokenness and our blessings to make much of Jesus Christ, who, as Susannah testified, is “a very present help in trouble.”

This article about Spurgeon’s wife originally appeared here.

8 Healthy Leadership Characteristics I Learned from a Kid

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Lately the story of David and Goliath has had me captivated. I have always loved that story but I’ve been teaching it to kids and adults and it’s blowing me away. I was asked to speak on healthy leadership to children’s pastors and God took me back to David and Goliath. What better place to learn about healthy leadership than through a kid? Kids are forever teaching us and David does no less as this story unfolds in 1 Samuel 17.

Grab your Bible and follow along for healthy leadership characteristics from a kid.

1. Healthy leaders respect, obey, and come under the authority in their lives. V15&17.

When David’s father asks him to go to the battlefield he does not complain. He is obedient. We don’t know exactly his attitude but I can make some conjecture. I would guess he was disappointed that he wasn’t in the army. I would guess as much as he wanted to visit his brothers there was a part of him that would have rather stayed away than be reminded of all he was missing. And yet he was obedient. Later in chapters 24 and 26 of 1 Samuel we see where David has the chance to kill Saul and her refuses to touch God’s anointed one. Once again he respects the leader that God has place over him. Even though that leader had flaws.

2. Healthy leaders don’t have to be in the fray. V15.

They don’t have to be a part of every big thing that is happening. Whether David was too young, needed at home, or just wasn’t able to be in the army he wasn’t there. I’m sure there was some disappointment on his part. And yet the lesson for us is that healthy leadership doesn’t have to be in the middle of everything. They say “no”, they step back, they aren’t at the church every time it opens, and they do mundane things. Healthy leaders live with an awareness that the world will turn without them. God doesn’t need us but he does desire to use us.

3. Healthy leaders understand that each role is a God given spot for someone to serve and fulfill their part in the story God is writing. V20.

David leaves his sheep with another shepherd. We often skim over this verse in the story but it’s important. David’s friend makes the decision to watch David’s sheep. He fulfills his much needed role in the story that God was writing that day by simply being kind. David chose to delegate his sheep to another shepherd. Healthy leaders delegate. They recognize the importance of others in the story God is writing. Healthy leaders understand that each role is a God given spot for someone to serve and fulfill their part in the story God is writing. It is never just about a hole in a schedule, it is about the bigger story God is writing.

4. Healthy leaders keep their eyes focused on God and do not allow the emotions of the masses to become their driving force. V26.

David is the first one in the midst of the fear and the chaos who remembers that the Israelites are the armies of the living God. A kid is the first one to refocus eyes back on God. Healthy leaders keep their eyes fixed on God. When fear creeps in they stay focused on Who they serve, not what they face. Every morning and night for 40 days the Israelites and the Philistines would face each other and every time Goliath would challenge them and they would run away in fright. They lost sight of who they belonged to, they lost sight of God. And King Saul led the way in the panic and fear. Healthy leaders keep their eyes focused on God and do not allow the emotions of the masses to become their driving force.

5. Healthy leaders know when to walk away from things that seek to distract them from the bigger mission. V28-30.

David has a perfect opportunity to step into an argument. Eliab has lost face and is angry so he picks a fight. His accusations aren’t grounded but they are mean and they are embarrassing. David walks away. I picture David in my mind being singularly focused on what God is stirring in him to do. He takes a breath and walks away because he’s meant for something else. Healthy leaders know when to walk away from things that seek to distract them from the bigger mission. They take a breath, they say no, they redirect, they turn away, and they stay focused.

6. Healthy leaders are who they are with confidence. V40.

After shocking Saul with his declaration of, “don’t worry about Goliath, I’ll take care of him” Saul tries to get David to fit the “norm” of what a soldier should be. The armor doesn’t fit and David casts it aside. He then walks out and starts picking stones out of the stream. By now the whole camp knows that David has said he’ll fight Goliath. I’m sure they were watching him as he exited in his normal attire, picked up rocks, and set off to do battle with the giant. Healthy leaders are who they are with confidence. They do not apologize for how God created them. Healthy leaders often look different than the norm but are comfortable knowing they are who they are meant to be. Healthy leadership measures its  worth and acceptance by the Audience of One, not the audience of many.

7. Healthy leaders don’t wait for the challenge to come to them. V40.

David has his rocks and sets off across the valley. Nowhere does it say that Goliath is already out there, in fact it says that Goliath comes out to meet him. David has seen what needs to be done and goes after it. Healthy leaders don’t wait for the challenge to come to them. When they see it they face it head on and deal with it swiftly. Healthy leaders don’t allow others to set the agenda, they set the agenda. They are proactive rather than reactive.

8. Over and over again David points to God. V46-47.

In a beautiful display of humility, he declares again and again that God has taken care of him, God is with him, and God will defeat Goliath. Healthy leaders remember who they serve, who they belong to, and where their strength comes from. They consistently point to God rather than themselves.

The story goes on and there are a hundred other nuggets I could pull out. These, however, are the ones that are currently convicting and challenging me. May they do the same to you because what the church needs, what our kids need, and what our teams need is healthier leaders who lead with a heart like David’s.

This article about healthy leadership originally appeared here.

God Says It…That Settles It?

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I’m sure many of us can recall the couple-decade old bumper stickers which read, “God says it, I believe it, that settles it.” Or perhaps fewer of us still remember the gospel recordings of 40+ years ago of Christian performers singing some variation of the same slogan. While bumper-sticker theology and cheesy Christian music of yesteryear isn’t exactly the highest hanging fruit on the theological tree, unfortunately the typical response to this Christian catchphrase still makes the rounds in reformed and evangelical churches today.

When the, “God says it, I believe it, that settles it” cliché is trotted out in our churches, we typically hear the just as tired rebuttal of: “God says it…that settles it! Whether I believe it or not doesn’t change the fact.” Case closed, right? Bumper sticker theology soundly silenced with slightly longer bumper sticker theology. (Maybe we just need to reduce the font size so it’ll all fit?)

Now truth be told, I must admit that I too am guilty of using the very same reductionistic argument in an adult church-school class or two in the past—and ashamedly, I believe it may have even made it into a sermon at one point! But can’t we do better? Doesn’t the Bible speak with greater precision, beauty, and delight than mere duty?

Is there more to be said than “God says it, and that settles it?”

Duty

Surely the Scriptures speak with an authoritative voice, and that speaking is definitive. After all, Jesus tells a parable to his disciples in Luke 17 which is about a servant who is required to do all that the master commands, concluding with the statement, “So you also, when you have done all that you were commanded, say, ‘We are unworthy servants; we have only done what was our duty.’” (Luke 17:10). Additionally, Jesus summarizes our love for him as an obedient love when he says, “If you love me you will keep my commandments” (John 14:15). And if we can rightly be referred to as God’s slaves (Romans 6:22), will be welcomed into his glorious rest as faithful servants (Matthew 25:23), and are called upon to obey “because it is right” (Ephesians 6:1, 2 Thessalonians 1:3), then surely there is a place for appealing to mere duty. But what I am advocating for in this post, and what the scriptures certainly advocate for throughout their pages, is a more robust rationale for our obedience than bare command.

Motive

God regularly calls us to be selflessly-oriented and others-focused. While this too could be folded into obedience (Jesus’ words in Matthew 22:39 about the greatest commandment come to mind: “And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself”), it instead grounds our obedience in something more than compulsion. God calls us again and again to examine our motive, ensuring we are seeking to glorify him and serve others – he is providing for us a “more excellent way” than duty: love (cf. 1 Corinthians 12:31). Love for our God, and love for our brothers and sisters. We are called to obey, but with a greater intention in mind than simply doing as we “ought” to do.

Outcome

Not only has God provided us with a purpose for our obedience to him, he has also supplied an end or a goal of that obedience. A life lived according to God’s revealed will is regularly described as producing good fruit – fruit such as a harvest of “righteousness and peace” (e.g. Hebrews 12:11 and James 3:18). The obedient life has a telos, an end; and that end is a good and glorious one!

Character

Do we find ourselves obeying because we must; like the compelled and constrained child strapped into his carseat but who is still proverbially “standing on the inside”? Or do we seek to obey our God because we know what kind of person we want to be? Conforming our lives to the pattern of God’s law produces an upright character, against which their is no law (see Psalm 119:7, cf. the fruit of the Spirit, particularly Galatians 5:23). The desire to be found after the pattern of his character is far more glorious than simply “doing what we’re told.”

Design

Finally, God has not commanded us to obey as a tyrant, seeking for his followers to obey his arbitrary will. Not only is his law a reflection of his character he calls us to imitate (1 Peter 1:16), but he has provided what a life designed as blessed looks like. The abundant life (John 10:10) is the life lived in willing and glad subjection to God’s truth.

A Robust Ethic

The ethic offered in the Scriptures by our all-wise Lord is far more nuanced than, “Because I said so!” (even if at times insolence needs to be silenced; see Romans 9:20). While it is true that he speaks as Lord in his word, and not as one simply holding out to us just one of many possible opinions; he does so in a way that is beautifully attractive and robust. He calls us to obey, as one who delights in doing the will of our Father; because it is right; because it brings blessing to others; because it produces the good fruit of peace; because it conforms us to Christ-like character; and because it is the life well-lived. God calls us to obey, but unlike stressed-out parents in a moment of weakness, he does not snap at us with the simple retort: “because I said so…and that settles it!”

This article about God Says It originally appeared here.

Should You Date a Non-Christian? Christian Young People Say ‘No’

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A recent survey from Teleios shines some light on how Millennials and Gen Z view Christian dating. The study focused on whether or not the participants believed it was acceptable to be in a relationship with a non-Christian, as well as their views on the purpose of marriage. 

“This survey indicates that evangelical adolescents and millennials generally believe a biblically based marriage is between a Christian man and woman which then may fulfill God’s will of the evangelical purpose of marriage as described by scripture (Ephesians 5:21-33),” wrote Teleios“They also view a romantic relationship with an unbeliever as unfulfilling and do not recommend it to others.”

Teleios is a non-profit that seeks to use scientific data to illustrate the positive impact of following biblical principles. Their survey on Christian dating was comprised of answers from 1,818 people, the majority of whom (75 percent) were female. Most of the participants (91 percent) had never been married and the majority (83 percent) identified as evangelical Christians. The rest identified as “Social Christian” (15 percent), “Christian Seeker” (2 percent) and “Non-Christian” (0.3 percent).

Fifty-seven percent of those who responded were between the ages of 18 and 25. The next largest group (20 percent) was between the ages of 26 and 35, 16 percent were younger than 18, and the rest of the participants were older than 36. Only about half of the respondents lived in the United States.

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Most of those who took part in the survey said they had “good wellbeing” in their lives. Fifty-six percent said they believed people could not lose their salvation after trusting in Jesus, while the rest thought salvation could be lost depending on the nature of someone’s sin.

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Most of the respondents said they prayed every day and attended church at least once a week.

What About Dating a Non Christian?

When it comes to becoming romantically involved with an unbeliever, the participants generally agreed that doing so would be detrimental. Half of them said they had never dated someone who was not a Christian. Of those who had been in a romantic relationship with an unbeliever, most said that the experience was negative to some degree. 

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While 23 percent said their spiritual growth was not impacted by dating a non-Christian, 25 percent said it was “somewhat worse,” 23 percent said it was “worse,” and 19 percent said it was “much worse.” Those who had been in a relationship with an unbeliever overwhelmingly agreed they were not inclined to do so again.

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When it came to their non-Christian partner’s spiritual growth, 40 percent said they did not notice any difference while being in a relationship with that person, while 30 percent said they saw an increased spiritual interest in their partner. A resounding 74 percent of the survey’s participants said they would not recommend that Christians become romantically involved with non-Christians.

The Purpose of Marriage

Sixty-nine percent of the people surveyed said they believed the purpose of marriage is to represent the relationship of Christ and the church. The next most popular answer (42 percent) was that marriage is a way of fulfilling love between a man and a woman.

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The respondents displayed more diversity in their answers to the question of whether God’s will for marriage can be fulfilled if a Christian marries an unbeliever or a “very immature believer.” Thirty percent said the more mature person can positively influence the other, while 40 percent believed the less mature partner will have a more powerful (negative) influence. Thirty-five percent chose to answer that if one partner is not living out his or her Christian beliefs, then the marriage will not be fulfilling God’s purpose of portraying the relationship between Christ and the church.

When asked what would interest them in dating an unbeliever, the most popular answers the respondents gave were “physical attraction,” “personality,” and “fun.” And yet, there was still a general agreement that, in the end, those qualities would not be sufficient to make pursuing a relationship with a non-Christian worthwhile. 

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