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When Speaking About Jesus’ Bride: A Warning

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It has become all too common for men and women to attack the church for all of the ways in which they believe that the church has failed. Almost every day professing believers rant online about the failures of “the evangelical church,” “the Reformed church,” “the Western church,” etc. While recognizing that all of these categories are somewhat artificially manufactured, they are, nevertheless, all subject to a good measure of just criticism. What has recently struck me, however, as something deeply problematic is the way in which those who are most vocal in their criticisms are silent with regard to commendations of these subsets of the universal church. The visible church—in whatever shapes or forms it may take—is the bride of Christ. We must resist the urge to speak critically of her without giving her the requisite love and care that Jesus wants us to give those for whom he has shed his precious blood.

The Psalmist—speaking by the Spirit of Christ—declared, “As for the saints in the land, they are the excellent ones, in whom is all my delight” (Psalm 16:3). We don’t get to pick and choose which believers we are to love and which ones we are not to love. Jesus exemplified the cry of the Psalmist by perseveringly loving—even to the death of the cross—his oftentimes argumentative, brash and foolish disciples. There was, in all of his instruction to them, a balance of commendation and criticism. We also find this to be so with regard to the way in which Jesus commended and criticized his churches in his letters in Revelation 2-3.

The Apostle Paul also modeled for us what it looks like to love the bride of Christ by the way in which he addressed matters of deep importance in the life of the church. The Apostle always reminded believers of what they were, even while correcting the sin that was so pervasive in their lives. He did so most of all in his letters to the church in Corinth. Dr. John Skilton, the late professor of New Testament at Westminster Seminary in Philadelphia, used to tell his students, “If you want to really learn the theology of the New Testament, translate 1 and 2 Corinthians from the Greek.” Dr. Skilton went on to say, “The rationale for this is simple. We are met with nearly every challenge that we will face in pastoral ministry in Paul’s letters to the Corinthians.” In 1 and 2 Corinthians, Paul reminds the members of this sin-laden church—who are in desperate need of correction and instruction—that they were “sanctified in Christ Jesus, called to be saints” (1 Cor. 1:2); “bought with a price” (1 Cor 6:20; 7:23), “betrothed to one husband…as a pure virgin to Christ” (2 Cor. 11:2) and “washed, sanctified, justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God,” (1 Cor. 6:11). These are just a few the ways Paul spoke to and about the bride of Jesus. In fact, it was because she was the bride of Christ that he poured himself out to the degree to which he did so for her good. When writing to Timothy, Paul explained, “I endure everything for the sake of the elect, that they also may obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus with eternal glory” (1 Tim. 2:10).

The church (in every form in which it is manifested on earth) is certainly subject to criticism and correction; but, those things must always be done out of love and a desire to treat her for what she is in truth—the very bride of Christ. To speak of the church with disrespect, harshness, malice and judgmentalism is to speak of Christ’s bride in those ways. We need to examine how we are speaking to and about the bride of Jesus. After all, “from heaven he came and sought her, to be his holy bride; with his own blood he bought her and for her life he died.”

This article originally appeared here.

True Love Speaks: Why We Can’t Stay Silent in a Culture of Confusion

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Walk into most churches nowadays and you will likely hear a message of love, hope, encouragement and identity. And all that is good and well. After decades of overly harsh messages, the pendulum has naturally swung to the other side—but have we swung it too far? Are we so set on being seeker-friendly that we neglect what it means to be a true friend to those walking through our doors?

Now the mistake we made in previous decades was to tell the truth in ways that weren’t always loving. The answer to this is not to shrink back from speaking truth. It is to learn to speak the truth in love.

Jesus was certainly a friend of sinners—and we should be too—but it’s time we reassess what being a friend actually looks like. I don’t know about you, but I, for one, expect my friends to tell me the truth. I don’t want them to bash me over the head with it, but I do want them to tell me the things I need to hear in a loving way.

We’ve all been given truth without love at times. It doesn’t feel very good. Truth without love is mean—but love without truth is meaningless. We need both. And when we look at Jesus, we see these two qualities on full display. He is the God who so loved the world, the one who is Himself the very nature of love, yet He is also the truth (John 14:6).

Consider the example of the woman caught in adultery in John chapter 8.

She is exposed in her sin and is surrounded by her self-righteous accusers who want to stone her. Most of us know the story. Jesus reaches down and writes something mysterious in the sand. Then he stands up and says to those condemning her, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” One by one, beginning with the older ones, her accusers begin to turn away. And then comes the moment of beautiful grace we’re all familiar with. Jesus turns to her and says, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” She responds, “No one, sir.” And He says, “Then neither do I condemn you.” Simply awe-inspiring.

What an amazing embodiment of love and grace and beauty all wrapped up into this potent moment. The God of eternity reached down into the dust of our existence and transformed it with a single touch.

But if Jesus had the attitude of most churches today, that’s where the story would end. Thankfully, it doesn’t. His love for us extends well beyond that.

As beautiful as the words “Then neither do I condemn you” are, His next words are equally charged with grace, love and truth.

He tells her, “Go now and leave your life of sin.”

Why? Because He knows she’s been looking for life in places she can’t find it. Because He knows she’s been trying to drink from cracked, dry cisterns that can’t touch her thirst for more. Because He sees the broken ways of living she’s embraced, and is inviting her to leave them behind. Because His desire for her is that she run fully in the identity He created her for, and He knows she’s been living far below it. He sees the pain her choices have caused in her life and in the lives of others, and He has so much better things in store.

Do you see this?

This call is an invitation to more, and it’s breathtakingly BEAUTIFUL.

You see, Jesus loves us where we are but he never leaves us where we are. He calls us into life.

My question is, as a church, are we doing the same?

When I look at the body of Christ at large, we are eerily silent on so many things that are wreaking havoc in people’s lives—things like greed, same-sex attraction, hypocrisy, gossip, self-identification, slander, moral relativism, gender confusion, abortion, pornography and more. Is this what truly loving people equates to—silence?

Would we rather risk leaving someone in bondage and shame than say something in love that may temporarily offend or discomfort them? Have we confused loving people unconditionally with giving blanket approval of their actions? Do we believe God’s Word still speaks to these things? It is not God’s Word that is silent on the controversial topics of our day—it’s us. And the hard truth is that we are not truly loving people the way Jesus did if we shy back from the truth in the name of love. Jesus never did. His love runs so much deeper than that.

Beloved, let’s be like Jesus, full of compassion, yet uncompromising in truth.

May we never cease to declare with boldness the unchanging, constant, unconditional, infinite, undeserved, adamant love of God—but let’s remember that love always calls us out of brokenness into something better.

Let’s never forget that the same Jesus who says, “Neither do I condemn you,” says, “Go and leave your life of sin.” He doesn’t just forgive our sins and remove our shame. He sets us free from sin’s tyrannical rule in our lives and invites us into life as He intended for us. God, in His adamant love for us, won’t settle for anything less. We shouldn’t either.

This article originally appeared here.

7 Powerful Habits of Outward-Focused Churches

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It was not a dramatic moment in time. Instead, it was subtle, almost too subtle to be noticed.

It became evident first in mainline churches. But evangelical churches followed a few years later. The erosion was slow, but it became glaringly apparent after several years.

The change of which I speak is the movement away from outwardly focused ministries in churches.

Over time, most of the resources of time, money and ministries have shifted more toward the members. Churches are now gathering in holy huddles with little intention of breaking out into a world of lostness and loneliness.

How it happened.

How did this negative trend develop?

Though many perspectives could be offered, allow me simply to share the practical perspective. There was a time when most churches had an outreach ministry. And more times than not, this ministry was a type of program with predictable patterns.

But church leaders, vocational and lay alike, became program averse. So they slowly began eliminating outreach programs in their churches.

I understand why this development took place. The programs seemed ineffective, not culturally relevant and often cumbersome to lead and implement.

The problem, however, is that nothing replaced the programs. And the mild culture of outreach in churches was replaced with no culture of outreach.

At the same time, more churches started sending members on international mission trips. This development was good. But it gave many in the church a sense of false comfort that the church was really outwardly focused. The problem was that many times the local community became a neglected mission field.

Possible beginning points for an outwardly focused church.

So I began asking leaders in outwardly focused churches about their practical steps. I made certain the leaders were in different sized congregations lest I offer suggestions limited to one group of churches. The leaders were in churches with worship attendance ranging from 50 to 2,500.

The answers I received were immensely practical, very helpful and highly doable.

Though this list is by no means exhaustive, here are seven of the more common habits.

Ted Cruz: ‘This Must Stop. Now’

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Amid bipartisan cries to fix an immigration policy that separates children from parents, Senator Ted Cruz has announced a plan to introduce comprehensive “emergency legislation” that will keep families and parents together after they are detained for trying to illegally enter the country.

He calls it the Protect Kids and Parents Act and promises to introduce it this week.

The bill would double the number of immigration judges to 750 and mandate that illegal immigrant families be kept together, unless there has been “aggravated criminal conduct” or threat of harm to the children, according to Cruz’s office.

The new legislation would also authorize new temporary shelters for immigrant families, and provide for expedited resolution of asylum claims within 14 days.

In a statement, Cruz said: “All Americans are rightly horrified by the images we are seeing on the news, children in tears pulled away from their mothers and fathers,” Cruz said. “This must stop. Now.”

Cruz said children are often the biggest victims of illegal immigration.

“Repeatedly, I have visited detention facilities tragically housing young children. For far too long, children have been the greatest victims of our broken immigration system, with tens of thousands of children who were detained under the Obama Administration and continuing through today, and with far too many of those children facing horrific physical or sexual assault from criminal human traffickers.”

“The answer is not what congressional Democrats are proposing: simply releasing illegal aliens and returning to the failed policy of ‘catch and release,'” Cruz said. “Rather, we should fix the backlog in immigration cases, remove the legal barriers to swift processing, and resolve asylum cases on an expedited basis.

“While these cases are pending, families should stay together. Children belong with their mothers and fathers.

All 49 Senate Democrats are supporting the The Keep Families Together Act, introduced by Sen. Dianne Feinstein, D-Calif.

It has a higher standard for separating kids at the border, and would generally only allow the practice if “there is evidence of parents abusing the children or children being trafficked.” Under the Democrats’ bill, “[s]eparation could only happen after consultation with a child welfare expert.”

Cruz’s announcement came shortly after Homeland Security Secretary Kirstjen Nielsen told the White House press corps that Congress needed to act to ensure children were not separated from their parents.

“Congress alone can fix it,” Nielsen said. “This entire crisis, just to be clear, is not new. Currently, it is the exclusive product of loopholes in our federal immigration laws that prevent illegal immigrant minors and family members from being detained and removed to their home countries.”

The administration maintains that the so-called Flores consent decree—crafted during former President Bill Clinton’s administration—is what prohibits them from keeping parents and children together during these prosecutions, by limiting how long children can remain in federal custody.

Cruz is facing a challenge from Democratic Rep. Beto O’Rourke, who has made immigration a key part of his campaign, including calling for the family-dividing policy to end and holding a protest Sunday at the site of one of the tent cities housing children separated from their parents.

Why Is Theology Important? Isn’t Jesus Enough?

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There appears to be an increasing number of articles suggesting that Christians are turning the Bible into an idol.

For example, in a Huffpost blog, Brandan Robertson wrote, “While the Bible is an important and authoritative guide for Christian faith and practice, it isn’t the foundation or center of our faith—Jesus is…Studying Scripture is valuable, but nowhere near as valuable as cultivating a day to day relationship with the God incarnate.”

The crux of their argument is this question, “Why is theology important. Isn’t Jesus enough?”  Since the Bible is how we learn about Jesus, the Bible and theology become linked in the question.

Their concerns are often voiced this way: “Many Christians are putting too much emphasis on the Bible instead of Christ and the Holy Spirit.” “The Trinity is not Father, Son, and Holy Scripture.” And “Beware of making the Bible an idol.”

Over the past several months The Gospel Coalition has produced several videos answering the question, “Why is theology important. Isn’t Jesus enough?”  

One is from Russell Moore, president of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission.

In this video, Moore makes the case that without theology we can’t even define Jesus, let alone put our faith in him.

Moore contends, “We’re either doing theology well or we’re doing theology poorly, but there is no situation, ever, where we’re just not doing theology at all.”

For example, to say “Jesus is enough”, according to Moore, is a theological statement.

He goes further saying devotional and spiritual battles are also theological issues.

He lists several examples: “The reason why I am so often downcast and have difficulty really believing that God loves me and that God accepts me is because I don’t feel the weight of the doctrine of justification.”  

“The reason why I become discouraged when I think I’m not making the progress in my Christian life that I thought I would is because I have too high of expectations of sanctification or maybe I’m not pursuing sanctification because I have too low of expectations of what God expects of me.”

Others include prayer, the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, the fatherhood of God, the kingdom of God, worship, community and even the Bible itself.

He says those and many other questions about the Christian life are ultimately theological questions.

600 United Methodists Accuse Jeff Sessions of Child Abuse

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More than 600 United Methodists are planning to file charges against U.S. Attorney General Jeff Sessions over the zero tolerance U.S. immigration policy.

The charges could lead to a church trial of Sessions and expulsion from the body. Sessions is a member of Ashland Place United Methodist Church in Mobile, Alabama.

The effort was organized by Rev. David Wright, a Pacific Northwest Conference elder and chaplain at the University of Puget Sound in Washington State.

Specifically, the group accuses Sessions of child abuse in reference to separating young children from their parents and holding them in mass incarceration facilities; immorality; racial discrimination and “dissemination of doctrines contrary to the established standards of doctrines” of The United Methodist Church.

Several reasons were listed for accusing Sessions of racial discrimination, including intervening in police investigations on racial bias and cracking down on groups like Black Lives Matter.

Wright is also upset with Sessions’ use of Romans 13 to justify the policy. In a speech earlier this month, Sessions admonished those concerned to remember Scripture commands us to “obey the laws of the government because God has ordained the government for his purposes.”

The complaint called the biblical reference “in stark contrast” to the church’s commitment to “supporting freedom of conscience and resistance to unjust laws.”

“As his denomination, we have an ethical obligation to speak boldly when one of our members is engaged in causing significant harm in matters contrary to the Discipline on the global stage,” the letter read.

The first step in a long process would be for the member’s pastor and district superintendent to solve the complaint through “pastoral steps.”

Wright said the complaint was emailed to Sessions’ home church in Alabama, and to a Northern Virginia church that Wright said he understands Sessions regularly attends.

Sessions’ pastor at the Alabama church did not return media calls for comment.

A spokeswoman for Bishop David Graves of the Alabama-West Florida Conference said he hasn’t been given details of the complaint.

The Rev. William Lawrence, professor emeritus at Perkins School of Theology and an authority on Methodist history, said while anyone in the church can bring a charge against anyone else, he’s unaware of a complaint against a lay person ever moving past the district level.

Wright started the movement on his Facebook page last week. A site that supports many left-leaning political causes.

Wright said he hopes Sessions is not expelled or decides to leave the denomination, explaining to UMC.org that the group’s goal in filing the charges is to prompt discussions about the immigration policy.

“I hope his pastor can have a good conversation with him and come to a good resolution that helps him reclaim his values that many of us feel he’s violated as a Methodist,” Wright said.

The effort follows other faith based criticism of the immigration policy. Earlier this month, the Clergy Letter Project, an organization representing a wide array of religions and denominations, including The United Methodist Church, also voted to condemn the government’s separation of immigrant children from their parents.

Interview With Senator Lankford: What to Do About Immigration?

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Senator James Lankford (R-OK) recently sat down to chat with ChurchLeaders about immigration reform. Many evangelical leaders have expressed concern over the Trump administration’s approach to these reforms, from indicating an end to DACA to the latest zero tolerance policy at the southern border, a consequence of which leaves children separated from their parents.

Before running for office, Senator Lankford served in ministry. A graduate of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, Lankford served as the student ministries and evangelism specialist for the Baptist General Convention of Oklahoma, and also as the director of youth programming at the Falls Creek Baptist Conference Center in Davis, Oklahoma.


ChurchLeaders: There is a growing outrage about immigrant children being taken away from their parents. What is your position on this?

Senator James Lankford: I understand the outrage and frustrations of many Americans who are watching this unfold. I have the same frustrations. Whenever we can, the government should always keep families together. I can’t even imagine what the children must be enduring without their parents.

CL: How did we get to the point where we’re at today?

SJL: We are here today because of past failed legislation attempts and because some administrations utilized prosecutorial discretion in ways this Administration has decided not to do. Current law encourages the DOJ to not prosecute those who cross the border if they bring their children because the children cannot be held long-term while the parent is in prison. As a result, prior administrations have decided to simply deport the parents and children instead of prosecuting those who have intentionally and knowingly broken the law. Since this administration has decided to prosecute all those who illegally enter the U.S., more adults now face prosecution and their children face separation.

CL: How do we move forward?

SJL: Congress has got to enact immigration reforms to address DACA, border security and how we deal with those who enter the U.S. without permission. There should be a way to enforce the laws, discourage illegal immigration and not separate families at the border. Every year America grants citizenship to about 1 million people. Each year over half a million people enter the U.S. legally without issue just through the southern border. Our legal immigration system is far from perfect, and it is slow at times, but it does work. The best way to fix the issues of family separation and legal immigration is for us to fix our broken legal immigration system and encourage all people wishing to come here to do so through the legal process.

CL: How can Christian leaders help lead the way in dealing with immigration reform?

SJL: The best thing that Christian leaders can do is help their people understand the immigration process, which is helping people understand how asylum works and doesn’t work. If an immigrant is facing economic issues I understand and sympathize with that, but that’s not how our system works; our system works when people are seeking asylum, not relief from economic hardship.

CL: Will this issue be solved anytime soon?

SJL: The best thing that people can do is call their legislator and ask them to push to get this issue solved because there is no legislative deadline; a legislative bill will have to be introduced to solve it.

CL: What are you doing to solve the issue?

SJL: Last year I introduced a bill to solve the issue with the help of people like Rev. Samuel Rodriguez. Unfortunately, the bill didn’t pass. There were four bills that were introduced during the same time that didn’t pass. I was also the first Republican senator to speak out against the zero tolerance family separation policy. As a former Evangelical pastor, my desire is to solve and fix this problem as soon as possible.

CL: There are reports of those seeking asylum being turned away from points of entry where they should be able to make their case legally. Why is this happening?

SJL: The only reason why this should be happening is because the person is not going to the next neighboring country. For example, if someone is from El Salvador, they should be going to Costa Rica or Belize—not straight to America. Thirty percent of the people who are seeking asylum are admitted; that number was the same under President Bush and Obama.

3 Common Blind Spots in Leaders

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One of my mentors, Brad Waggoner, has regularly quipped, “Most people struggle with self-awareness, so why would I think I am somehow different from everyone else?” He is right. Everyone struggles with self-awareness to a degree, and we are foolish if we think we are immune. Our lack of self-awareness in life and leadership is often referred to as our blind spots. I have been leading other leaders for a long time, watching them interact with their teams and with the team they serve on, and I’ve seen…

Three common blind spots in leaders:

1. Many leaders talk longer than they realize.

Many leaders talk longer than they think they do. They can easily dominate meetings because of their convictions, their ideas and the sheer amount of work to report. But by over-talking in meetings, leaders can unintentionally stifle the team. One practical way to combat the temptation to talk too much is to set a time for yourself and hold yourself accountable not to cross it.

2. Many leaders sound harsher than they mean.

Because leaders can underestimate the power of their position, they can sound harsher than they realize. Every word from the mouth of a leader is received with amplified impact, so leaders who bring sharp critiques to their teams must do so very carefully. If the leader thinks the rebuke is a “5,” the people likely hear it as an “8.” Wise leaders steward their words very carefully.

3. Many leaders change direction more than they know.

Leaders are often about new ideas, change, and vision. Because of that, leaders can err by constantly bringing new direction to the team. The team can sometimes feel as if they have yet to execute properly the last batch of ideas or see the fruit of the last direction before a leader brings a new direction. Effective leaders know that consistent direction over time is far better than constantly shifting the direction of the team.

Of course, there are other common blind spots, but these three can easily hamper a leader’s effectiveness. Blind spots can’t be corrected if the leader doesn’t know they exist. For blind spots to be corrected in a leader’s life, the leader must be in community and humbly listen to others whom the leader trusts.

This article originally appeared here.

Nursery News…the Latest Stats on Births in America

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How is your nursery ministry doing? Lots of babies? Fewer babies?

Nursery ministry is a key indicator of the future of a church. Without the next generation, a church will eventually cease to exist.

What is happening in your nursery matters. If you are reaching young families, young couples, your nursery should be thriving.

At the same time, we have to keep in mind the current overall birth rates, since this can affect your nursery attendance. Let’s look at the latest birth stats.

The U.S. total fertility rate has been declining for the past 10 years. The number of women giving birth has hit a historic low. In 2016, the general fertility rate hit a record low of 62 births per 1,000 women ages 15 to 44. In 2015, it was 62.5

One factor is this. Millennials, who are the new generation of young adults, are getting married later. The average age for men is 29 and 27 for women. So far, Millennials are much less likely to have babies. There is speculation about whether they are just postponing parenthood or simply choosing to not have children at all.

Interestingly enough, while the birthrate for younger women has decreased, the birthrate for women in their 30s and 40s has been increasing.

Another interesting factor to watch and keep in mind is the number of unmarried women who are giving birth. This includes single moms and mothers who are cohabiting. In 2015, 39.7 percent of all babies born in the U.S. were born to unmarried women. This also varies a great deal according to race and ethnicity. Women of Asian descent had the lowest proportion of births to unmarried women (12 percent), followed by whites (28.4 percent), Native Hawaiians and Pacific Islanders (47.7 percent), Latinos (52.5 percent), American Indian or Alaska Natives (68.1 percent), and African Americans (69.7 percent).

If we’re going to reach today’s babies and their parents, we must be a church that celebrates diversity. Everyone should feel welcomed and accepted, no matter their social status, age, ethnicity or marriage status. We must also be place where single moms can come and belong even before they believe.

While there are fewer babies being born, this doesn’t mean there still aren’t lots of babies and their families that need to be reached with the Gospel. Gen Z, today’s kids, are still the largest generation on the planet and we must be focused on reaching them.

If you want to see your nursery filled with babies and your church connecting with young parents, then here are some articles that can help you. My prayer is your nursery will be blessed with lots of little ones. Make it a priority. Your church’s future depends on it.

4 Big Reasons Why Nursery Ministry Is not Babysitting

Why Nursery Ministry Makes All the Difference

How Nursery Volunteers Can Make a Huge Impact in Children’s Lives

Nursery Volunteers…Don’t Underestimate the Big Impact You Make

Your turn. The floor is yours. What birth trends are you seeing in your church? How can we reach more young families with babies? Share your thoughts, insight and ideas in the comment section below.

This article originally appeared here.

5 Dumb Myths Too Many Leaders Believe

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How do you know you haven’t fallen for a leadership myth that simply isn’t true?

Answer: Sometimes you don’t.

Too many leaders hold a few damaging core beliefs that simply aren’t true.

Myths are everywhere in our culture. It’s not that hard to roll our eyes at people who fall for urban legends.

But there are also leadership myths: things that many leaders believe that really aren’t true.

I think we’ve all fallen for a few.

But how many stubborn leadership myths are you still falling for?

Once you abandon them, you’ll be amazed at the progress you make.

5 Dumb Myths You Should Abandon

Here are five that I hate to admit I have fallen for at one time or another in my leadership.

1. Success Will Happen Overnight

Who hasn’t fallen for this? And if you don’t believe it, you’ve secretly wanted it, haven’t you?

Yet there are very few overnight successes. Or as my wife has pointed out, it was a very long night.

Whether it’s bands like PassengerThe Band Perry or even the Beatles, musicians often struggle in obscurity and near defeat for years before they break through. Same for writers, businesses and many other leaders.

Even North Point Church, launched in 1995, actually declined in attendance from its initial launch over its first few years before rebounding and becoming the story many church leaders know today. Ditto with LifeChurch, the largest church in America with 29 locations and 80,000 people. Their first venture into multisite failed.

Just ask any of the founders: They’ll tell you those first few years were lean and very difficult.

So what do you do?

Set realistic expectations. Work hard. Celebrate progress, even incremental progress.

As Winston Churchill (whose life was characterized mostly by disappointment prior to World War 2) said, success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.

2. Smart Work, Not Hard Work, Will Win the Day

OK. Working smarter is better than simply working harder. Very true.

Working 100+ hours a week is the answer to very few problems and actually only creates more problems. If you can be more efficient and more effective, by all means do so.

But smart work is no substitute for hard work. Working smarter doesn’t mean you can put in a few hours, hit cruise control and coast to victory.

You will always have to work hard on your leadership. You’ll always have to work hard on leading yourself, your team and your mission.

That might not mean 70 hours a week, but it won’t mean cruising into the sunset. When you stop growing, so do the people around you.

And eventually, the good people will leave. They want a leader to push them and push the mission forward.

7 Intangibles Needed in Leading Church Revitalization

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Many times in leadership the intangibles determine the quality of our leadership. I have learned this is especially true in church revitalization.

Of course, we need change management skills. There’s always a need to cast vision and delegate, and we must manage effectively. I didn’t realize, however, how important the intangible skills of leadership would be.

As we end this season of our ministry, I reflect back on some of the successes we’ve had—and, some of the mistakes we made. If you want to attempt church revitalization, or honestly, just practice better leadership, learn from some of the things we did right—and things we did wrong.

Here are seven intangibles needed in church revitalization:

Listening – Thankfully this was one I had learned earlier in my ministry and business career. There was a day when I tried to convince people I knew more than I really did. I felt people needed to know how smart I was so they would follow my leadership. I was wrong. People actually follow people best when they feel they are being heard.
As leaders, especially in seasons of change, we need to practice listening far more than talking—especially in the early days. In revitalization it would be arrogant to arrive at a church and assume you have all the answers or that nothing good has been done before you arrived. Listen. Hear from people. Listen for the good times and the not so good times. Your best building (or rebuilding) will be from what you learn.

Understanding – People want to be understood. In church revitalization, for example, there are likely reasons why the church needs to be revitalized. You’ll hopefully discover them while you’re listening, but also realize more than the stories you hear, there are real emotions involved. People may have been hurt. Most people love the church and want what’s best for it. Most will know things could be better. But, before they will accept changes they want to make sure you understand how they feel. The emotional aspect of change is often more important than the actual change.

Humility – Again, many of my best leadership skills came from painful experiences of doing things the wrong way first. There is a huge difference in confidence and pride. People want a leader to be competent, courageous and visionary—all products of confidence.
But, people reject a leader who thinks they know everything or tries to convince people they do. (God seems to reject this kind of leader also.) Don’t have all the answers. You don’t, but don’t act like you do either.

Forgiveness – There will be things said and done, in person, by email, written on the bulletin and slid under your office door (not that I know what I’m talking about here), in person and behind your back. People often respond unkindly to change. And, yes, it can hurt. But, to have any success in leading change long-term, and to live with yourself and God, you must learn to forgive. As pastors, we certainly would teach this truth to our people. We must live it before them also.

Repentance – This may be on behalf of the pastor or the church. There may have been some sin involved in bringing the church to the point of needing revitalization. Sometimes you can’t move forward until people repent of the past. And, yes, this is a hard one. Very hard.

Healing – People need time to heal. And, there is such a fine line of time between initiating needed change and giving people their ability to heal. I don’t know if there is a perfect way to discern which needs more priority, but we must be cognizant of people’s processing of pain. This is one reason I found we couldn’t have too many major changes happening at the same time. I tried to lead us through no more than two or three major changes per year. And then allow people in between to heal as needed, celebrate and reflect, before we attempted another major season of change.

Challenging – There may be people who have used way too much power to control the church. There are others who simply aren’t kind. There are those who stir trouble with gossip and passive aggression. We need to love everyone. We need to make sure we remain open to correction and are teachable. But, we must also not be afraid to challenge—wisely and gracefully—those who are simply disrupters.

I realize there is a lot to this post, which for my friends who are in the early and hard days of church revitalization can be difficult to read. I hope it’s equally helpful. Don’t neglect the intangibles. They don’t always make the leadership posts and books, but they are just as—if not more—important in leading church revitalization.

This article originally appeared here.

Digital Detox: Helping Kids Get a Balance on Screen Time

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It’s no secret that our sons and daughters are digital natives. They are the first generation of kids who cannot remember a time before wireless Internet, Smart devices and digital gadgets that don’t require a massive desk or mess of wires to operate. While these advancements have opened our children up to a world of information and means of communication, they have also flooded our homes and schools with screens. Unfortunately, initial research is showing that too much time in front of screens may cause serious behavioral, physical and emotional consequences to develop.

Too Much of a Good Thing?

It used to be that in our homes the only screens that could be found was a television in our family’s living room. Fast forward a decade or two and now we can find countless screens in every room of our homes. We have multiple television sets, computers, tablets, Smartphones, handheld gaming systems, laptops and more. This has led to a sharp increase in the amount of time our boys and girls are spending in front of some kind of screen.

Whether it is texting, watching a movie, playing a video game or researching their homework, the average teen spends nine hours a day consuming media in some form. If this isn’t alarming enough, children under the age of 8 spend close to two and a half hours in front of a screen. We also need to consider almost one third of toddlers under the age of 2 even have a T.V. set in their rooms.

The Downside of Too Much Technology on Kids

Screens and devices are doing more to our children than just occupying their time. In fact, the fast paced stimuli of today’s technology can change the hard-wiring of our kids’ brains, which affects a variety of life skills, such as: patience, school performance, ability to work, read emotional cues, how to handle downtime and so much more.

Too much screen time has also been linked to an increase in stress, anxiety and depression levels. This can happen for many reasons, but the consensus is there is a strong correlation between the higher number of hours a child uses screens and an uptick in stress. And, we all know that technology has the potential to expose our sons and daughters to inappropriate and dangerous content.

Besides emotional health, all of this connectivity is linked to a whole slew of physical medical conditions. These conditions include everything from eye strain, blurred vision, carpal tunnel syndrome, texting thumb, elbow problems and even neck pains. To top it all off, we need to consider how this sedentary lifestyle is affecting a child’s activity levels, which can lead to weight gain and the health risks that accompany obesity.

Helping Children Strike a Balance Between Screens

Obviously, screens do have a time and place in our lives. However, we can pretty much agree that our sons and daughters spend way too much time looking at them. If left unchecked, we are setting our boys and girls up for a bleak future. Thankfully, with some proactive parenting and a few mindful choices we can help our kids strike a healthy balance with technology.

Check out the following digital detox tips:

  • Limit screens to common living areas. Find balance with technology by keeping devices in living rooms, dens, game rooms, etc. Power down all electronics during family dinners and activities, and exile devices from bedrooms. This will provide kids much needed downtime from the constant connectivity screens provide.
  • Restrict the amount of data available on Smartphones and other technologies. This will ensure kids are more deliberate with their usage by keeping overuse in check.
  • Reconnect as a family. Provide fun alternatives to occupy their time by doing things together.
  • Develop a family technology contract. Sit down together and outline all expectations and consequences for using screens.
  • Implement a technology curfew. At a set time every night, power down all screens.
  • Playing outdoors, completing chores, reading, etc. will allow kids to earn screen timeThis will help kids strike a balance between screens and the other interests in their lives.
  • Teach children how to relax. Due to the strong association of stress and anxiety with too much screen time, make sure kids have healthy ways to unwind. Help them learn breathing techniques, meditation tricks and more.
  • Begin an ongoing discussion about balancing technology in our lives. Honestly address the role technology should play in our lives to empower kids so they can make smart choices about how to embrace screen time.

How does your family help kids strike a balance between screens or take a digital detox?

This article originally appeared here.

How We Lead in Times of Cultural Shift

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It’s pretty obvious the English-speaking Western world is rapidly changing in regards to faith. The culture is moving in secular and pluralist directions, and away from a more Judeo-Christian influence. As a result, Christians need to re-learn how to lead effectively in our new post-Christian culture.

This cultural shift has resulted in the loss of what I refer to as the Christian’s home court advantage. We’ve seen it in the last 50 years.

For example, early in the last century, nearly the entire population of the United States self-identified as Christian (though, not in the way we talk about being a Christian). Perhaps more importantly, as historian Sydney Ahlstrom has observed, religious communities in the 1950s and ’60s experienced “a remarkable popular desire for institutional participation” (Ahlstrom, 952). Yet, things are changing—and this institutional participation (defined as weekly church attendance) stabilized at around 40 percent of the adult population while self-identification as Christian remained as high as 81 percent by 1990 (Gallup Poll Reports).

Beginning in the early 1990s, researchers have noticed a growing shift from religious observance and identification. Calling this new group of those with no religious affiliation the “Nones,” many believe that the ’90s represented a turning point in American religion.

“The most significant influence on American religious geography over time has been the increase in the Nones, or No Religion bloc. As noted earlier, nationally the Nones more than doubled in numbers from 1990 to 2008 and almost doubled their share of the adult population, from 8 percent in 1990 to 15 percent in 2008” (pg. 17, ARIS Report 2008).

In 2014, the Pew Research Center found that this trend seemed to increase rather than plateau. While the share of various Christian groups across the board has declined, Nones had risen to 22.8 percent of the population.

So who are these Nones and what does this mean for the church? In American Grace, Robert Putnam and David Campbell explain that only a minority of Nones identify as an atheist or agnostic. In fact, many Nones may still express some belief in God, the afterlife and a spiritual basis for morality even as they reject traditional religious affiliation and participation (Putnam and Campbell, 124-6). In essence, they are the tired cliché of that “spiritual but not religious” person you may meet at your local Starbucks.

Many Christians now confront a culture which is no longer as friendly to our beliefs. In many ways, our home-field advantage is over. The challenge that now confronts Christians is the kind of leadership which the church needs in light of this new post-Christian culture. This begins with first urging Christians to stop fighting for the perception of cultural dominance that gives the appearance of success without the substance of Christian practice. In essence, Christian leaders need to shift their thinking toward missional and evangelistic ends. This requires two steps.

First, leaders need to rethink how we engage our communities. As the culture continues toward secularism, Christian leaders need to become bilingual; demonstrating fluency in both the public sphere of secularism and the message of the Gospel of Jesus. As traditional Christian ethics are marginalized, leaders need to learn how to speak prophetically from the margins, remaining faithful to Christian theology and practice while effectively translating the Gospel to the world around us. Black evangelical leaders have excelled in this respect for centuries and it will take greater demonstrations of effort, nuance and humility from white evangelicals. Through being students of the public sphere and the Gospel, leaders can speak powerfully from the margins of a secular society.

Second, leaders need to rethink how to approach American culture. I’ve written about three approaches to culture: culture defendersculture creators and culture engagersCulture defenders will fight for cultural expressions that really matter for human flourishing. Many won’t appreciate them, but they will need them as they stand up, for example, on issues of religious liberty. On the opposite end of the spectrum, culture creators will create new culture—showing the world what human flourishing looks like, and why it matters. Finally there are the culture engagers. These leaders are those who interpret culture as a missionary, prophetically speak into the public sphere, and testify to the gospel of Jesus as the true satisfaction for the deepest desires of the human heart. All three have a role, but for most readers, it is the cultural engagement that matters most.

We need to see our role as shaped by mission and defined by love. That’s what Christians have done in past times when the culture turned another way—and some remarkable moments and movements of gospel transformation followed their faithfulness from the margins.

As we move forward into our cultural moment, we must do so with thoughtfulness and careful engagement. We must not only stand fast amid the marginalization of the Christian faith—which matters, but it is not the only thing that matters—but we must also embrace the opportunity to become more explicitly on mission.

The mission field is changing, but the mission force needs to keep on engaging. That’s how we respond to a changing culture with an unchanging gospel mission.

This article originally appeared here.

 

 

7 Ways to Attract and Keep Young Leaders

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I talk to pastors and leaders my age and older who want to see a new generation of leaders on their team. They claim to love investing in younger leaders. They recognize the huge need in churches and organizations. Our future depends upon doing so.

The problem they claim is either they don’t know how or can’t seem to find them. Or, when they do find them they can’t seem to keep them. Frankly, I have talked with some pastors frustrated with what they see as a lack of leadership among the newer generations.

As a church planter, we hired several staff members into their first ministry position. We struck “gold” several times. I was frequently asked how we have managed to find so many talented young leaders. Much of the work God did at the church plant was done through the leadership efforts of people 10, 15 and 20 years younger than me.

In pastoring an established church, I falsely assumed, mostly because of what I’d been told, that younger leaders would not want to join our efforts. They only wanted hip and cool church plants.

Not true. At all. We have been once again surrounded by young leaders—some very sharp young leaders.

Along the way we’ve discovered a few things.

Here are seven ways to attract and keep younger leaders:

Give them opportunities

That sounds simple, but it’s not. Many leaders are afraid to hand off real responsibility to people half their age. I understand, because I made some huge mistakes as a young leader, but at the same time, it’s how I learned. I learned best in my leadership journey through trying, failing and trying again.

Younger leaders want authority and a seat at the table now—not when they reach an expected age. That may not even be a fair expectation for them at times, but it’s a legitimate one. Is it risky? Of course, but it awesome has the potential for awesomeness to occur.

Share experiences

Young leaders are open to learning from a mature leader’s successes and failures. In fact, they crave it. This has been such a refreshing learning curve for me. Younger leaders enjoy hearing stories of what worked and what didn’t. This characteristic is actually one of the beauties of newer generations.

The young leaders on teams I’ve led actually seek out my personal experience. They will still want the chance to learn on their own, and they don’t want us to dwell in the past. They want us to think positively about the future, but they are ready to glean from the wisdom of those who have gone before them, especially in the context of relationships.

Allow for failure

People of all ages will make mistakes in leadership, regardless of their years of experience. It seems magnified for younger leaders, because they are doing many things the first time, which is one reason older leaders sometimes shy away from them. An atmosphere, however, which embraces failure as a part of the growth process, invites younger leaders to take chances, risking failure and exploring possible genius discoveries.

Be open to change

More than likely, younger leaders will do things differently than the older leaders did things. They want more flexible hours, different work environments, and opportunities to work as a team. It may seem unnatural at first, but let their process take shape and you’ll have a better chance of leadership development occurring.

And, some of us “old dogs” might “learn some new tricks.” Be ready for that also.

Set high expectations

Having different working methods shouldn’t lower standards or quality expectations. The good thing is the younger leaders, from my experience, aren’t looking for a free ride, just a seat on the bus.

Hold them accountable to clearly identified goals and objectives. Let them know what a win looks like to you. Applaud them for good work and challenge them to continually improve. It’s part of their growth process.

Provide encouragement

Younger leaders need feedback. They seem to want to know how they are doing far more often than the annual review system the past afforded. They are looking to meet the approval of senior leadership and the organization. Keep them encouraged and they’ll keep aiming higher.

Granted, this will take time and discipline to give frequent feedback. My generation did the work without much input into how we were doing at any given time. Unless we were meeting a sales quota or a deadline of sorts, we simply did our work and found out at the end of the year whether it was “raise worthy” or not. But that didn’t mean that was the right way or the best way. Again, let us learn from the newer generation where it can help us all get better.

Give constructive feedback. Younger leaders appear more interested in knowing they are meeting the expectations of senior leadership, so acknowledge that fact by helping them learn as they grow. Don’t simply share “good” or “bad” feedback. Rather, with the goal of helping them grow as leaders, give them concrete and constructive reviews of their performance. Help them understand not only what they did right or wrong, but practical ways they can get better in their work and leadership abilities.

Celebrate along the way

Most younger leaders I’ve worked with see the value in the celebration far more than my generation did. They like “hanging out” and reflecting. They enjoy team-spirited fun. Some of the “coolest” places I’ve seen do this are in offices designed differently than our block-walled 1960s established church building will allow. They enjoy shared workspaces and like the walls being removed from being barriers to interaction with teammates.

This is a challenge for those of us accustomed to sitting in an office by ourselves with four walls. As stated, it is a simply a space challenge in some of our buildings. I have found creating an atmosphere and culture where it’s OK to work from coffee shops helps with this. Also, we have tried to carve out “cooler” spaces within our building, where there is more comfortable furniture and a more relaxing feel to them. The key is to create a culture where community is welcomed and encouraged.

Raising up younger leaders is crucial to a growing and maintaining healthy organizations and churches. We must be intentional and diligent about investing in the next generation, understanding their differences, and working within their culture to grow new leaders.

This article originally appeared here.

What Is Love? 24 Things That Define What Love Is

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What is love?

You won’t find the best answer on the pages of Wikipedia, Merriam-Webster or Shakespeare. No, the best definition of love was established at an event, the most important event in human history: the cross of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Christ’s sacrifice of love is the ultimate example of what love is and what love does. Here’s a definition I like to use:

1. Love is willing self-sacrifice for the good of another that does not require reciprocation or that the person being loved is deserving.

If we are followers of Jesus Christ and believe in the cross for salvation, then our words and actions and responses must be motivated by cruciform love. That is, love that shapes itself to the cross of the Lord Jesus Christ (cruci = “cross” and form = “in the shape of”).

On this Valentine’s Day, here are 23 more ways that you can express cruciform love in your daily living.

2. LOVE IS being willing to have your life complicated by the needs and struggles of others without impatience or anger.

3. LOVE IS actively fighting the temptation to be critical and judgmental toward another while looking for ways to encourage and praise.

4. LOVE IS making a daily commitment to resist the needless moments of conflict that come from pointing out and responding to minor offenses.

5. LOVE IS being lovingly honest and humbly approachable in times of misunderstanding.

6. LOVE IS being more committed to unity and understanding than you are to winning, accusing or being right.

7. LOVE IS a making a daily commitment to admit your sin, weakness and failure and resisting the temptation to offer an excuse or shift the blame.

8. LOVE IS being willing, when confronted by another, to examine your heart rather than rising to your defense or shifting the focus.

9. LOVE IS making a daily commitment to grow in love so that the love you offer to another is increasingly selfless, mature and patient.

10. LOVE IS being unwilling to do what is wrong when you have been wronged, but looking for concrete and specific ways to overcome evil with good.

11. LOVE IS being a good student of another, looking for their physical, emotional and spiritual needs so that in some way you can remove the burden, support them as they carry it or encourage them along the way.

12. LOVE IS being willing to invest the time necessary to discuss, examine and understand the relational problems you face, staying on task until the problem is removed or you have agreed upon a strategy of response.

13. LOVE IS being willing to always ask for forgiveness and always being committed to grant forgiveness when it is requested.

14. LOVE IS recognizing the high value of trust in a relationship and being faithful to your promises and true to your word.

15. LOVE IS speaking kindly and gently, even in moments of disagreement, refusing to attack the other person’s character or assault their intelligence.

16. LOVE IS being unwilling to flatter, lie, manipulate or deceive in any way in order to co-opt the other person into giving you what you want or doing something your way.

17. LOVE IS being unwilling to ask another person to be the source of your identity, meaning and purpose, or inner sense of well-being, while refusing to be the source of theirs.

18. LOVE IS the willingness to have less free time, less sleep and a busier schedule in order to be faithful to what God has called you to be and to do as a spouse, parent, neighbor, etc.

19. LOVE IS a commitment to say no to selfish instincts and to do everything that is within your ability to promote real unity, functional understanding and active love in your relationships.

20. LOVE IS staying faithful to your commitment to treat another with appreciation, respect and grace, even in moments when the other person doesn’t seem deserving or is unwilling to reciprocate.

21. LOVE IS the willingness to make regular and costly sacrifices for the sake of a relationship without asking for anything in return or using your sacrifices to place the other person in your debt.

22. LOVE IS being unwilling to make any personal decision or choice that would harm a relationship, hurt the other person or weaken the bond of trust between you.

23. LOVE IS refusing to be self-focused or demanding, but instead looking for specific ways to serve, support and encourage, even when you are busy or tired.

24. LOVE IS daily admitting to yourself, the other person and God that you are unable to be driven by a cruciform love without God’s protecting, providing, forgiving, rescuing and delivering grace.

REFLECTION QUESTIONS

  1. For more on cruciform love, spend time reading, and meditating on, 1 John 4:7-21.
  2. Print this list out or save it to your phone and revisit it, asking the Lord to show you where you can grow in cruciform love.

This article originally appeared here.

Actually, God Calls the Qualified…Into Leadership

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Do you believe God qualifies the called?

Years ago, a sweet lady in our church handed me a little slip of paper to encourage me on my journey. I unfolded it and it read:

God doesn’t call the qualified; he qualifies the called.

I’m not sure who said it originally, but I’ve heard and repeated it many times since.

What Wrong with ‘God qualifies the called’?

And then, as I was re-reading J. Oswald Sanders’ classic work on Spiritual Leadership, I stumbled across this paragraph…

Often truly authoritative leadership falls on someone who years earlier dedicated themselves to practice the discipline of seeking first the kingdom of God. Then, as that person matures, God confers a leadership role, and the Spirit of God goes to work through him. When God’s searching eye finds a person qualified to lead, God anoints that person with the Holy Spirit and calls him or her to a special ministry.

I think the distinction we sometimes miss is that God welcomes everyone into his family, entirely by grace and on the basis of the blood of his Son, Jesus, without respect to any qualification in us. We’re all welcome—every last broken one of us.

But when it comes to leadership, God bestows influence and authority on those who have proven to be faithful stewards of smaller responsibilities.

In other words, leaders must be prepared.

But what does that mean? What kind of preparation is pre-requisite to being used mightily by God?

It’s a matter of having a heart fully surrendered to God.

Notice what Sanders points to as the sign of a person ready for God’s full anointing as a leader—“someone who years earlier dedicated themselves to practice the discipline of seeking first the kingdom of God.”

God raises up and blesses and anoints those for great impact on the world those who have sought the Kingdom of God first and foremost in their lives.

I’ve been guilty, at times, of building my own little kingdom. Without realizing it, a few steps in the wrong direction spiritually places us at the center of our own universe. There, our objective becomes building a life all about our comfort and accomplishments.

But when we realize and acknowledge that King Jesus alone belongs on the throne and as loyal subjects, our prime objective must become the ushering in of the Kingdom of Jesus all around us.

If you want to lead, seek more of Jesus. And seek more for Jesus—more souls in need of him and more glory for him.

This article addressing whether God qualifies the called originally appeared here.

Were Jesus’ Apostles Martyrs? Does It Matter?

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What does historical evidence say?

The willingness of the apostles to suffer and die as martyrs for their faith is one of the  most commonly cited arguments for the resurrection. Why, after all, would any person willingly choose to submit to a painful death for confession of the Christian faith?

Yet some scholars assert there is insufficient evidence to confirm that any of the apostles were martyrs—or that their deaths even count as evidence for the resurrection.

In this post, let’s look at both issues, by first stating the case for the apostles possibly being martyrs, and then by raising two common objections by critics. You can decide if the objections have merit.

Let’s start with a definition of “martyr,” so we’re all on the same page:


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~ Making the Case for the Apostles Being Martyrs ~

How apologist Sean McDowell carefully states this position:

“The apostles spent between 1.5 to 3 years with Jesus during His public ministry, expecting Him to proclaim His kingdom on earth. Although disillusioned at His untimely death, they became the first witnesses of the risen Jesus and they endured persecution; many subsequently experienced martyrdom, signing their testimony, so to speak, in their own blood. The strength of their conviction, marked by their willingness to die, indicates that they did not fabricate these claims; rather, without exception, they actually believed Jesus to have risen from the dead. While in and of themselves these facts prove neither the truth of the resurrection in particular nor Christianity as a whole, they do demonstrate the apostles’ sincerity of belief, lending credibility to their claims about the veracity of the resurrection, which is fundamental to the case for Christianity.”

Adds New Testament scholar Craig Keener:

“People of course die regularly for values that are false; they do not, however, ordinarily die voluntarily for what they believe is false. Intentional deception by the disciples is thus implausible.”

As Keener says, Christians haven’t been the only martyrs in history, so we won’t pretend they are. But let us also not give a pass to skeptics who say Christians lean too much on martyrdom as being the sign of the inherent truth of Christianity. What’s important here is that the apostles really believed that Jesus had risen from the grave. Why? Because they interacted with him in His risen form. They ate with Him, they talked with Him, they touched His wounds. Basically, He blew their minds wide open to the truth of who He is.


~ Evidence for the Historicity of the Apostles as Martyrs ~

Were the first Christians actually persecuted for their faith? If so, it would provide a helpful setting for evaluating the likelihood of the individual apostles being martyrs.

Even though persecution was sporadic and local, there is evidence that the public proclamation of the faith could be costly. John the Baptist). The first statewide persecution of Christians was under the Roman emperor Nero (AD 64).

Strong historical evidence exists that at least some of the apostles were martyrs. Let’s look at just three apostles:

Peter:
The traditional view is that Peter was crucified in Rome, during the reign of Nero, between AD 64 and 67. The earliest evidence for his martyrdom comes from John 21: 18-19, which was written no later than 30 years after Peter’s death. Other early, consistent and unanimous testimony for Peter’s martyrdom can be found in writings such as Clement of Rome, Ignatius, Dionysius of Corinth and Tertullian.

15 Benefits Desperate Leaders Have Over Comfortable Leaders

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The default mode of most leaders is to resist resistance. In fact, most leaders gravitate toward comfort. We want Easter without Good Friday. Our desire is to have a fall harvest without going through the summer drought. We want the gain without the pain. But leaders know this is not possible.

I recently had the privilege of interviewing one of America’s top Christian leaders on the subjects of desperation and comfort. This man is a world-ranked triathlete and corporate leader. As he spoke, I gleaned 15 Benefits Desperate Leaders Have Over Comfortable Leaders. First is the lesson followed by his quote.

  1. Desperate Leaders Force You to Persevere – “You can do an Ironman. You just have to persevere and choose to, on that day, spend a lot of time in agony.”
  2. Desperate Leaders Self-Evaluate and Are More Self-Aware – “I’m shocked at the extent at which comfort matters to me.”
  3. Desperate Leaders Learn to Trust God – “I think I trust God with my money but spend a lot of time figuring out my retirement.”
  4. Desperate Leaders Find Their Approval From God Alone – “I was surprised at how much man’s applause still matter to me.”
  5. Desperate Leaders Often Do Their Best Work – “I think I’ve done the best work in my work but the financials don’t show it.”
  6. Desperate Leaders Have Their Calling Reaffirmed – “I’m certain this is where God has called me.”
  7. Desperate Leaders Experience Personal Growth – “I need this for my personal growth.”
  8. Desperate Leaders Experience Holy Frustration – “One of the things that frustrates me is how easily I go from desperation to ‘(God) I got this.’”
  9. Desperate Leaders Will Live a Life of Faith And Uncertainty – “I need to be desperate every day. ‘(God) You mean for the rest of my life the outcome is going to be uncertain?’”
  10. Desperate Leaders Can Unexpectedly Experience a Sweet Season of Life – “This is the sweetest season because I’m desperate for God.”
  11. Desperate Leaders Can Learn Humility – “It’s hard to be full of yourself when you’re desperate.”
  12. Desperate Leaders Often Have More Healthy Relationships – “I have never been closer to more folks that encourage me daily.”
  13. Desperate Leaders Need Desperation – “I find myself needing desperation.”
  14. Desperate Leaders Develop a New Definition Of Success – “We are succeeding because we’re doing what God’s called us to do. Just not by historical definition.”
  15. Desperate Leaders Develop a New Perspective – “Are you really struggling because you’re not selling as many goods as you’d like to?”

Leaders, I have two questions for you. Are you persevering? Are you desperate? If not, you will never be as successful as you could be.

The original article appeared here.

The 10 People Nobody Can Help

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I’ve been involved in pastoral ministry for 30 years, and I have a desire to help everyone. But I have learned the hard way that there are some truly stubborn people, and I cannot help every person who attends our church or who comes to me for input.

10 Types of Stubborn People

The following are 10 kinds of people I have identified that are so entrenched in certain habit patterns that I cannot help them advance to the next level unless they make the necessary shift in their attitude or behavior.

1. Those who do not take responsibility for themselves.

The first step toward self-improvement is to remove all excuses for mediocrity or failure. Those that continually blame other people for their failures will never go to the next level.

Leaders can complain about their spouses, the income level of their congregations, the lack of staff, etc., but I have learned that within every challenge is the seed of opportunity for success, which requires the creativity of problem solving.

2. Those who do not have a heart to seek God.

The Bible teaches us that “the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom” (Proverbs 9:10).

Those who do not respect God enough to seek Him and study His word so they can make wise decisions in life are violating Scripture (Joshua 1:8-9) and cannot be helped either by myself or any other leader or minister.

Those who do not obey what God requires for success have decided to try to be successful in life without God’s blessings!

3. Those who create distance so they are not accountable.

There are certain stubborn people I have met in our church who only let others get so close before cutting off the relationship. Many go from one church to the next because they fear becoming too close to a leader who will hold them accountable.

Often, some will attempt to attend a megachurch where they will be able to hear the word of God in the context of a large crowd so that no one will really know who they are.

Whether it is fear or rebellion, those who live like this have put a low ceiling on their lives and will not grow past the infant stage concerning their potential in life.

4. Those who insist on having a negative outlook on life.

There are some stubborn people who refuse to exercise faith in God or think positively, as the Word of God commands us in Philippians 4:8. This is because some have a propensity to expect the worst in life so they are never disappointed by anyone or anything!

This is a weird way some folks attempt to shield their emotions from the pain of disappointment; it is a very common practice with many people. Jesus often told people that they would receive according to how they believed (for example, Matthew 8:13). Proverbs 23:7 teaches that as a person thinks in their heart, so they will be.

I cannot empower a person who refuses to think God’s thoughts about themselves and about life.

Jeff Sessions’ Message of Correction to ‘Church Friends’

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Attorney General Jeff Sessions used Scripture to defend the Trump administration’s approach to illegal immigrants, which has prosecuted numerous asylum-seeking adults and consequently separated some 700 children from their parents since October. Quoting Romans 13, Sessions admonished those concerned to remember Scripture commands us to “obey the laws of the government because God has ordained the government for his purposes.”

In Fort Wayne, Indiana, on Thursday, June 14, 2018, Sessions specifically addressed “church friends” who expressed concern “about the separation of families.” The address to “church friends” and “religious leaders” was nestled in the middle of a 32-minute speech on the Trump administration’s approach to immigration.

The Attorney General said there has “been a lot of misinformation out there about what we at the DOJ are doing” concerning illegal entries at the border. He spent a few minutes clarifying the Trump administration’s policies, which he admitted are a change of course from the Obama administration’s policies. While the Obama administration took a more lenient approach to those seeking asylum, the Trump administration is concerned with fixing the system that has been “broken” for decades.

Sessions also explained how the Obama administration’s approach essentially helped spread the word that if one brought a child to the U.S. border, the authorities would be more lenient with that person and eventually grant them entry. Beginning in 2009, Sessions explains, the “previous administration” released the majority of illegal immigrants caught at the border. People claimed asylum; however, the majority of claims were not valid. For last five years, Sessions says, only 25 percent of claims have been found to be meritorious by immigration courts.

In Sessions’ words, the Trump administration’s message to those seeking to cross the border strikes a different tone. “Bringing children with you doesn’t guarantee you won’t get prosecuted.”

Additionally, Sessions emphasized the adults being prosecuted at the border are the ones who broke the law and “endangered their own children with this trek.” Hence the reference to Romans 13 and Paul’s instruction for believers to observe the law.

So what about the children in detention centers? Sessions says:

“We’re not sending children to jail, however the law requires that children who cannot be with their parents be placed in custody of the department of Health and Human Services within 72 hours. This is HHS (Health and Human Services)—something entirely different from the criminal justice system to take care of these children in a good and decent and proper way.”

The Attorney General stressed that the separations are “short-term.” He maintains the policy of separation is not “unusual or unjustified” and that adults are held for “only a week or two or three.”

Sessions also wants “church friends” to be aware that if the adults go to one of the United State’s “many ports of entry” to claim asylum properly, they are not prosecuted and the family stays intact, pending the legal process. In fact, Sessions admonished religious leaders to spread the message that those who come should “only come lawfully” and that “it’s wrong for them to unilaterally and unlawfully to seek to enter the United States of America.”

He reminded religious leaders that the United States is “not a church” and that he himself is a “law officer for a nation-state—a secular nation.”

Finally, Sessions used the example of Nehemiah to defend the Trump administration’s push to secure the border. He reminded “church friends” that when the Lord told Nehemiah to go back to war-ravaged Jerusalem the first thing he was instructed to do was build a wall. “I don’t think there’s a Scriptural basis that justifies any idea that we must have open borders in the world today,” Sessions emphasized.

Listen to the entirety of Sessions’ message below.

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