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100,000 Attend Pro-Life Rally in Ireland

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The masses are marching in Ireland against the media, political elites and the powerful international abortion industry.

That’s how speakers at this week’s Rally for Life in Dublin portrayed their struggle to save the 8th amendment, which grants equal right to life to the unborn and pregnant women in the Republic of Ireland. It has been law since 1983.  

More than 100,000 people took to the streets calling for a rejection of the government’s plan to legalize abortion when a referendum is held in May.

Niamh Uí Bhriain of Save the 8th said the crowds that thronged Dublin city centre showed that the government’s abortion proposal had woken a sleeping giant.

“These huge numbers are a rising of the people against the media and political elites and against the powerful international abortion industry who have poured millions into a campaign attacking our pro-life laws. Ireland is at a defining point in our history, and we are challenging the people to reject the abortion industry and to demand a better answer for mothers and babies,” she said. “Abortion has no place in a compassionate and progressive society.”

Campaigners focused on the rights of people with disabilities, telling the throng that 90 percent of pregnancies diagnosed with Down’s Syndrome in Great Britain end in abortion. One of the speakers was Charlie Fien, a Down syndrome activist who gave an impassioned plea to the United Nations in March 2017 where she spoke out against the targeted killing of children diagnosed with Down syndrome before birth.

“I am not suffering,” Ms. Fien told the U.N. body in Geneva. “I am not ill. None of my friends who have Down’s syndrome are suffering either. We live happy lives.”

”Saving the 8th will save the lives of babies with Down’s syndrome. Ireland is one of the only countries in the world where babies with Down’s syndrome are safe inside their mother’s wombs” Ms. Fien said, to rapturous applause.

The Rally also heard from Destiny Herndon-De La Rosa, a feminist who was accepted as a sponsoring partner for the Women’s March in Washington, D.C., only to be booted when her pro-life views were discovered.

She urged marchers to demand a better answer than abortion for women. “Abortion is the ultimate exploitation of women, and is a symptom of women’s oppression. Ireland should lead the way by saving the 8th,” she said.

Niamh Uí Bhriain asked the people of Ireland to “stand in the gap” for mothers and babies by preventing the liberalization of the Ireland’s abortion laws. The vote is in 10 weeks.

“Ten weeks to ensure that the best of Irish people vote ‘No’ to abortion,” she said. “Stand in the gap against the media and the international elites who think they could browbeat and bribe the Irish people into accepting the unacceptable, the killing of our own children, but who are to discover in that assumption that they were totally and utterly wrong. Because we know that in repealing the right to life there is no going back.”

The May referendum will ask voters in Ireland to remove the 8th amendment and allow a proposal for unrestricted access to abortion up to 12 weeks into a pregnancy to be introduced in the Irish Parliament.

Charles Spurgeon: 19 of the Best Articles on His Wisdom

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Charles Spurgeon was considered the most extraordinary preacher of the 19th century.  He was known as the “Prince of Preachers.” He was a dramatic speaker, often pacing the platform, acting out biblical stories, and filling his sermons with sentimental tales of dying children, grieving parents, and repentant harlots.  His messages offended many earning him the titles, “the Exeter Hall demagogue” and “the pulpit buffoon.”

His reply, “I am perhaps vulgar, but it is not intentional, save that I must and will make people listen. My firm conviction is that we have had enough polite preachers.”

On certain subjects, he was incapable of moderation: Rome, ritualism, hypocrisy, and modernism—the last of which became the center of a controversy that would mark his last years in ministry.

The “Down-Grade Controversy,” as it came to be known, was started in 1887 when Spurgeon began publicly claiming that some of his fellow Baptist ministers were “down grading” the faith. This was the late-nineteenth century, when Darwinism and critical biblical scholarship were compelling many Christians to re-evaluate their understanding of the Bible. Spurgeon believed the issue was not one of interpretation but of the essentials of the faith. He proclaimed in his monthly, The Sword and the Trowel, “Our warfare is with men who are giving up the atoning sacrifice, denying the inspiration of Holy Scripture, and casting slurs upon justification by faith.”

His wit and sense of humor were legendary.  He disliked instrumental music in the church, especially anthems. After hearing a special performance Spurgeon was told that it was music supposedly sung by David. His immediate reply was, “Then I know why Saul threw his javelin at him.” In one of his Friday lectures to his college students the pastor told his students, “When you preach on heaven, have a face that reflects the sweetness of God; when you preach on hell, your normal face will do quite well.”

Some Calvinists called him an Arminian and many Arminians called him a hyper-Calvinist. These attacks mattered little to Spurgeon. What he longed for was to see God pour out His Spirit on His people. He was always calling the church to true revival.

If there is any one remaining tangible evidence of the influence Spurgeon had in his day it can be found in his sermons. In particular, his printed sermons have had a monumental impact for over 100 years. There are 63 volumes of Spurgeon’s sermons in print to this day. Newspapers carried his sermons on a weekly and sometimes daily basis for many years. Well over 100 million of those weekly sermons were sold. If one took into account all of his publications they would fill 200 large books.

Where Is the Next Billy Graham?

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As a child, I remember being in church and seeing a man sitting in front of me, with his arm resting on the pew. The arm was covered with a large tattoo of a woman who was, well, let’s just say she didn’t fit what we would consider biblical standards of modesty in her attire. This was not in a “relevant” urban church, mind you, but in the most stereotypically “hellfire and brimstone,” King James Version-quoting, gospel hymn-singing southern revivalist church you could imagine. I couldn’t believe I was seeing this, in my church. I was simultaneously thrilled (when else does one get to see naked women in church?) and outraged (how dare anyone do that in my church?). So I nudged my grandmother and pointed, as if to say, “Can you believe this?”

My grandmother leaned down and whispered. I expected her to share my outrage (though not my secret titillation). She was, after all, a pastor’s widow with strict moral standards who had once washed my mouth out with soap because I had said “Gosh,” which was, of course, to her just a rebranded way to take the Lord’s name in vain. But that side of her didn’t show up in that moment. She whispered, “Yes, honey, He doesn’t know the Lord yet, and he’s had a hard life, with drink and drugs and all. But his wife had been trying to get him to come to church for a long time, and we’ve all been praying for him. He’s not trying to be ugly to anybody. He just doesn’t know Jesus yet.”

I’ll never forget that word “yet.” With that one word she turned my imagination on its head. She put before me the possibility that this hardened ex-military man with the naked woman tattoo might one day be my brother-in-Christ. And, in time, he was. I suppose as time went on this new Christian started to see that his tattoo was potentially a stumbling block to others, because I started to see it less and less as he started to wear long sleeves to church. Some of the other kids in the church said that (since tattoo removal technology wasn’t much of a thing then) that he had added a bikini to her, and then later a one-piece bathing suit. For all I know, he may have died with her in a plaid pantsuit and a briefcase. I guess this man started to see that tattoo as emblematic of an old life he’d left behind. He didn’t need a tattooed pastor (and in that church, he never had one). But he did need a church that didn’t see his tattoo as evidence of a life gone too far, of someone too rowdy to be loved with the call to repentance and faith.

I don’t like tattoos, and I can’t emphasize this enough (especially if you’re one of my children, one day, reading this). But if the Spirit starts moving with velocity in this country, our churches will see more people in our pews and in our pulpits with tattoos, and that ought to change our public witness. Now, what I do not mean by this is that we need more Christians to tattoo crosses or the Apostles Creed or the sinner’s prayer across their arms and necks. That’s not a sign of gospel awakening. It’s just at best personal fashion, and at worst more marketing in an already over-marketed American Christian subculture.

Tattoos don’t mean what they used to. They don’t signify necessarily, by a long shot, the kind of “tough” image they used to. But sometimes they do. There are people around us with markings of blood-drenched skulls, or of profane sexual boasts or of threats to violence. Some demonstrate fearsomeness. Some are pagan, or even occult. As I see them in the streets around me I am chastened by how rarely my first thoughts are rooted in my grandmother’s wisdom. Again, not everyone with tattoos is an unbeliever or has lived a hard life. But I wonder how many people don’t listen to our gospel message because they assume they don’t “look” like the kind of people who would be Christians—namely shiny, happy Republicans. And, shamefully, how many times to we filter out our gospel preaching and our social witness to people who would, upon baptism, be able to pose nicely for our ministry advertisements? How often do we assume the good news of Christ is a message just like a political campaign or a commercial brand, targeted toward a demographic of a certain kind of buyer?

3 Questions to Help Discern Difficult Issues

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I frequently receive questions I can’t easily answer. Usually the questions involve a dilemma someone is facing, which has no direct and easy answer. The exact answer is not clearly spelled out in the Bible. I’m left to my own wisdom, which I may or may not have about the situation.

  • The person who has to decide whether to risk losing a friendship to do something they feel is the right thing, but their friend disagrees.
  • A girl who believes she may be in the wrong relationship, even though she loves the guy and he’s a believer.
  • Someone in a job they love, but is working for a boss they aren’t sure they trust is completely ethical.
  • The guy who did something wrong, did not get caught, but now wonders if he should confess.
  • A guy who has a wonderful opportunity for his family, but it would potentially hurt his current employer.
  • The young person who would love a job doing some type of vocational ministry, but has a good paying secular job they are afraid to leave.

You know the type of question. Maybe you never had these exact questions, but you’ve had similar. They have moral implications to them, but they aren’t clearly answered for us in the Bible. You could find nuggets of truth to apply both ways in the answer. The answers to this type of question could change the course of a person’s life, but we could have differing opinions in regard to applying truth to them.

I should tell you one principle I often use when people have what I would call “gray” area type questions. I usually do not give the person an answer. Even if I have a strong opinion, I may not state what it is—at least not initially. It may be because I do not know it is the right answer—it’s just my opinion and I’m often wrong.

But, more importantly, I have learned if I did give my opinion, before the person has a chance to wrestle through the issue on their own, and the advice turns out wrong, the person only resents me for it. And, I’ve lost their trust and the ability to speak truth into their life in the future. Plus, they never really own the decision themselves.

I even use this principle with my adult sons. I may ask them lots of questions to help them discern the answer (like the questions below), but I won’t necessarily give them what I believe is THE answer. And, many times, there isn’t one right answer.

I believe in these life-altering type of decisions the person needs to own the decision they make. I can and will share truth with them, but I let them come to the conclusion they can own personally.

Through years of counseling, I sometimes used the following three questions. They were often helpful for people as a general framework to use when working with these type of decisions. Often these questions will guide an individual toward the best decision personally—without pressure from me. People are more likely to agree with a decision they reached on their own.

Three questions:

What can you do?

God’s grace is amazing. Sometimes people just need to know it’s OK to make a decision. If there is nothing biblically wrong with the decision, and the answer isn’t obvious, there is tremendous freedom. Even when we make a wrong decision, God works all things for good (Romans 8:28, Proverbs 16:9). I have observed when a person understands this truth they are actually more open to making the wisest decision. You probably have more latitude in making the decision than you think you do. That’s actually why it’s a “gray” issue.

What should you do?

This is obviously a more difficult question. The separation between the first two questions often helps people work through an answer for their situation.

With this question the person is forced to consider the issue of right and wrong. Based on what you know to be truth (and, here I may be able to offer help), what is the wisest thing to do? This is where they think through the situation as to what God would have them do. It’s also where they consider what would be best in the short-term and long-term—for all parties involved. (Scripture does tell us to consider the interest of others, for example, even ahead of our own.) When we begin to apply truth to a situation, while it may not give us THE answer, it can help us discern the best answer.

What will you do?

This is the biggest question, because it forces the person to consider making the best decision as opposed to the popular, comfortable or easy decision. The problem is often we try to start here and it’s why we get burdened trying to make a decision. We haven’t considered all the possibilities in the first two questions.

When a person answers this final question—after wrestling through the first two—it helps them develop a resolve in their heart to carry through on their commitment. This whole process is worthless if a person doesn’t own their decision and follow through with it.

Obviously, these aren’t perfect questions, but, again, these are difficult questions. But, the goal is to help people process. Questions make us think beyond what we are currently thinking. I give these questions to people and usually let them work through them on their own, at least at first. If they need to talk through them I will do that with them after they have wrestled to answer them personally at first.

This article originally appeared here.

Three Distractions Your Worship Leader Heart Wrestles With

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Dear worship leader, musician, singer and creative artist, we know the drill: shiny guitars and red keyboards. Set designs and set lists. Countdowns and title packages. Custom patches and custom in-ears. Smiling greeters and smiling worship leaders. Jangly guitars and pumping fists. Backing tracks and backing vocals.

They are, in fact, elements of weekend services. And…I love them. All of them.

At the core, those things are superfluous, but in my heart (and in the heart of many leaders), they are tools that represent our desire to push the envelope of creativity, serve our congregations with methods that point clearly to Jesus, and display excellence unto the Lord, because after all, He deserves the best that we have within our hands.

BE MOTIVATED BY EXCELLENCE

I place a high value upon excellence and admire people who do the same. But excellence isn’t simply a point of personal appreciation. In fact, excellence is a biblical mandate. Recorded in Colossians 3:23-24, the apostle Paul said, “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” When we demonstrate excellence, we demonstrate the nature of our God who is excellent. But excellence is not to be confused with the slippery, frustrating slope of perfection. Often, the pursuit of perfection is an elusive and unattainable trap that yields minimal progress. Hidden within that misguided pursuit is the temptation to become distracted from our primary purpose as creative artists: lifting the name of Jesus.

DON’T GET DISTRACTED

On the subject, the writer of Hebrews admonishes us best, as recorded in Hebrews 12:2 (AMP): “Looking away [from all that will distract] to Jesus, Who is the Leader and the Source of our faith [giving the first incentive for our belief] and is also its Finisher [bringing it to maturity and perfection]…” As it pertains to us worship artists, I believe there are three distractions that knock on our door regularly.

INDIVIDUALISM

In the 2000 hit alternative song “My Way,” an anthem of self-reliance and pride is made known: “Yeah this time I’m ‘a let it all come out / This time I’m ‘a stand up and shout / I’m ‘a do things my way / It’s my way / My way, or the highway.” How many of us subtly serve in ministry with this theme at work in our hearts? You know what I’m talking about, especially as artists: “I think…I prefer…I feel.” Now, there’s certainly nothing wrong with having an opinion and preference. But being opinionated about issues that really don’t concern us is detrimental to the long-term health of our teams and the overall development of our potential. More specifically, Webster’s Dictionary defines individualism as “the belief that the needs of each person are more important than the needs of the whole society or group; the actions or attitudes of a person who does things without being concerned about what other people will think.”

We all have limitations, and as such, allowing others’ perspectives into our lives helps us grow in areas we would otherwise miss. Point being, we don’t know what we don’t know! I believe it’s for that reason Solomon advised us, “Where there is no counsel, purposes are frustrated, but with many counselors they are accomplished” (Proverbs 15:22 AMP). And if that wasn’t enough evidence that we can’t successfully navigate life on our own, in Ecclesiastes 4:12 (MSG), he said, “By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. Can you round up a third? A three-stranded rope isn’t easily snapped.” The second common distraction to worship artists is comparison.

Are Your Small Groups Too Deep? Try “Shallow Groups”

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What are shallow groups? This humorous video takes a tongue-in-cheek look at what would happen if we removed all of the depth—Bible study, relationship-building, spiritual growth, prayer, theology—from our small groups.

While we certainly believe that casual conversation and cake (definitely, cake!) are part of any small group, the healthiest groups center around Jesus, go deep into the Word, and help create life-changing relationships with God and others.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NMyTMTmJU6E

5 Quick Ways to Turn a Situation Around When It Blows Up in Your Face

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As a leader, you have it all planned out in your head.

But welcome to the real world—things almost never go as planned.

I learned that the hard way again earlier this week when a live training webinar we had planned out for months completely failed us.

The prep my team did was thorough and amazing. We had over 3,800 leaders sign up for the live training—more than we expected. We tested all the systems.

The slide deck was professionally designed and ready to go. We were on the webinar early and everything was green light go. Everything was set for a perfect event.

Then as we hit “Go live” our web-host literally collapsed. The webinar software just melted and kicked everyone off, sending everyone into some Internet black hole. Complete failure.

It was a pro company. We paid our bills. Apparently, none of it mattered. Their customer support? Singularly unhelpful.

What happens when you let 3,800 people down at a live event?

Let me walk you through the lightning-fast leadership pivots my team and I went through.

My hope is they’ll help you the next time your best-laid plans blow up in your face.

1. Feel All the Emotions…for About 3 Minutes

At first when our web-host failed us, I was confused—and I thought, well, we can get this back.

Five minutes later it was clear that we were going to let almost 4,000 people down. There was no way to make the live event work.

Then all I felt was anger with a bit of self-pity thrown in (of course this would happen to me…).

The problem with negative emotions is that they can literally hijack your brain. As a result, you need to feel your emotions, but not live in them.

You know that guy who has a negative story loop that plays through his head every day (it will never work out… of course that was too good to be true… it’s all just useless)? He’s let his emotions hijack his life and leadership.

We knew within minutes that blame, anger and frustration weren’t going to help us at all.

So we moved on.

2. Focus on What You Can Control, Not What You Can’t

Your emotions can get stuck in a crisis, but so can your focus.

It’s so easy to focus on what you can’t control. I can’t control a webinar host, or who shows up, or other peoples’ emotions.

We do this all the time. We blame the economy, other people, the weather.

Think about your prayer life. It’s so easy to pray about other people, circumstances and so much else when really what you should be praying is, “God, I’m such a jerk. Help me understand why and give me the courage to change.”

Focusing on what you can control takes far more courage than what you can’t control.

We couldn’t control the webinar, folks, but we could still record the new training (which was the point of the webinar anyway…to train leaders) in my home studio, which I did that same day.

Effective leadership focuses on what you CAN control, not what you can’t.

3. Brainstorm Around What You CAN Do, Not What You Can’t

Similarly, you need to get creative IMMEDIATELY on what you can do, not on what you can’t.

As my team did a quick debrief, we quickly pivoted to talk about a new approach.

The live webinar was dead, but we did have the emails of everyone who registered for it. And I had a total of 40,000 leaders I could email directly.

Plus as I said earlier, I could record the training in my studio.

Within 15 minutes, we had a new plan…produce the free training the same day, upload it overnight, and email everyone with it the next day.

Plus, we decided to extend the window where the training and course it points to is available, from one week to two weeks.

So that’s exactly what we did.

If you want to make progress, focusing on what you can do always beats focusing on what you can’t do.

Result? We have a free training that not just 4,000 people would see. Now anyone can see it.

Maybe that’s even a better strategy.

This is a living example of one of my all-time favorite quotes (from Henry Ford) who said: “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”

Absolutely.

Should We Reconsider the Multi-Site Approach?

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One of the benefits of being connected to other churches around the country is that we get to learn from each other. Sometimes that “learning” is a little more one-sided, where (for instance) I glean all of Tim Keller’s wisdom and he occasionally peeks over at what I’m up to. Most of the time, though, the Summit ends up being enriched by our friendships with other churches.

When our church adopted a multi-site strategy a few years ago, even then the strategy was old enough for us to see how different people were doing it. Asking our friends and looking into the ways that others have practiced multi-site helped us think through how we could do it in ways that were consistent with our theological and philosophical convictions. I once heard John Piper say that it was unwise to make confident, dogmatic assertions about the future of multi-site because it was so new that none of us could see exactly where it would end up.

We remain committed to our multi-site approach for a number of strategic and biblical reasons; however, we are grateful for those who have taken different approaches than ours because we get to learn from their approach, even when we don’t come to the same conclusion.

Last fall, one of our good friends, The Village Church in Dallas, Texas, announced a plan to transition their remaining campuses to autonomous churches. They actually began this process back in 2014, but their recent announcement outlined a more robust timeline for the transition over the next five years. In addition to transitioning their campuses, they also stated they will no longer launch new campuses. In effect, The Village Church is moving away from multi-site and returning to a single-site strategy. Here is their official statement:

We feel led by the Holy Spirit to transition our five campuses into autonomous churches by 2022. It will be risky and take courage, but we believe this move gives The Village Church the best opportunity to reach DFW [Dallas-Fort Worth] and beyond with the gospel of Jesus Christ.

The Village is a church for which we have great respect and affection. Their multi-site strategy has in many ways mirrored our own, and we hold many of the same core values. Naturally, their shift has raised the question: Does this make us rethink our multi-site strategy?

As I mentioned above: No, it doesn’t. In this season, we remain committed to our multi-site approach for a number of strategic and biblical reasons. I’ll get to those in a moment.

I do want to make clear, however, that in their explanation of this decision, The Village has not made any statements against the general philosophy or ecclesiology undergirding a multi-site strategy. They have communicated to us that this is simply a strategic decision for them, one they feel the Spirit is leading their church to make at this time.

Additionally, The Village will continue to utilize multiple services. This may seem like an obvious fact, but it’s an important distinction. Some of the more fervent opponents to the multi-site model insist that the true “gathering” of the church necessitates not merely a single site but a single service. The Village is not taking this approach.

For us at the Summit, we continue to sense that the Holy Spirit is leading us in our current multi-site strategy. We recognize that the multi-site strategy presents both pragmatic challenges and raises biblical questions. We have wrestled with those questions for many years, and will continue to do so. As we often say, we are eager to hear from anyone who comes to us with an open Bible and an open mind.

But, we also believe, despite its difficulties, that the multi-site strategy is biblically faithful and strategically advantageous:

1. A Greater and More Effective Way to Reach People

The multi-site strategy has allowed us to have a greater reach in the Triangle and surrounding communities by enabling members to worship and serve in communities closer to their homes. We have always and only launched campuses where members of the Summit already live. These are people God has called to be a part of this church to reach their community. We believe that the multi-site strategy platforms them to fulfill this call.

2. The Best Way to Keep Pace With Growth

Statistically, we can’t plant churches fast enough to deal with the growth God is giving to our church.

We are very committed to church planting, having sent out over 457 of our members in the last 10 years to plant 42 churches in the United States, including several right here in the Triangle. When we plant a new church, we are typically able to send a core group of about 25 to 30 people. By God’s grace, we replace those 25-30 people in just a week or two. When we plant campuses, however, the core group we send out averages several hundred, sometimes as large as 1,000. Church planting is one of our most important missional assignments, but it will not by itself deal with the growth God has brought to our church.

3 Tips to Creating a Great Leadership Team

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I’ve spent years being part of, and at times leading, high performance leadership teams. In fact, my favorite part of leadership is raising up leaders, giving them a platform and letting them run. When you pick the right leadersthe results are nothing less than magical. The right leaders on a team will always accomplish more than what you could on your own. 

Here’s a secret to lasting leadership: Your greatest impact as a leader is through raising up other leaders.

Tip #1: Start with Why
Leading and developing a leadership team is more than increasing your company or ministry’s productivity, it’s about developing people who can develop people. People are the mission, and if we mistake productivity for the mission, we’ll make premature and poorly executed choices for the sake of just getting more done. A Leadership Team must first start with a commitment to the leaders on that team, that will transfer down to the leaders they lead, and will affect the guests and members that your organization serves.

A Leadership Team exists to create leaders and expand influence in unimaginable ways, far and exceedingly above what a single leader could accomplish. 

Tip #2: Trust is essential
Overlook this truth, and you’ll be setting yourself up for months, maybe years, of leadership frustration. You simply cannot elevate leaders to a platform of influence unless you trust them. I’m mean trust them. This means you’ve seen them be faithful in the small thingshave a natural following, and have been effective in their current areas of leadership. Trust cannot be overstated. Do not pass this step. Do not promote based on need but passion. Value character over competency. Skills can be taught, character takes much longer to develop.

Tip #3: Find people you really like being around
Character is essential, competency is important, but chemistry falls somewhere in between. If you’ve ever worked for or with someone you didn’t really enjoy (who hasn’t?), then you can imagine the challenges that would come from bringing that kind of person into your inner circle  No amount of competency can offset an unlikeable personality or simply an individual you regularly collide with.

You don’t have to be best friends with everyone on your leadership team, but you need to be confident that you’d be willing to go to war with these people. You’ll spend a lot of time in the trenches together, making likability an important factor.

This article originally appeared here.

Billy Graham’s Letters to Presidents to Be Revealed

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We will soon be able to read much more about Billy Graham and his ministry when the Billy Graham Center Archives at Wheaton College opens on March 19, 2018. The archives include two new collections that had been embargoed by Graham and the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association until the evangelist’s death on February 21, 2018.

The announcement was made by way of a statement from Wheaton archivist Robert Shuster:

The Billy Graham Center Archives at Wheaton College will open two new collections on the ministry of Rev. Billy Graham and the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association (BGEA) on March 19. The collections are being opened to the public in accordance with the wishes of Graham, who died February 21, and the BGEA.

“These collections are a treasure house for anyone interested in Rev. Graham, American evangelicalism or global Christianity, among many other possible subjects,” says archivist Bob Shuster. “People will benefit from Rev. Graham’s generosity in making them available for many years to come.”

Collection 580 – Records of the BGEA: Montreat Office, 1940-1948, 1950-2012 includes letters, sermons, reports, memoranda, transcripts, clippings, manuscripts and other materials maintained at the Montreat, North Carolina office of the BGEA. Montreat was Graham’s personal office and administrative base for his ministry. Topics covered in the records include Graham’s management of the worldwide activities of BGEA; the planning and conducting of his evangelistic campaigns; his involvement in the work of other Christian institutions; numerous interviews; and articles by and about him that appeared in print and electronic media for decades. This collection also includes some files from Rev. Graham’s pre-BGEA ministry with Youth for Christ and The Village Church (now The Village Church/Western Springs Baptist Church) of Western Springs, Illinois. Complete information about the collection is available here.

Collection 685 – Records of the BGEA: Montreat Office – VIP Notebooks, 1946-2015 consists of digital copies of letters, photos, notes on phone conversations, programs, and other documents kept at the BGEA Montreat office in notebooks labeled VIP.

Most of these notebooks document Graham’s personal relationship with every US president from Harry S. Truman to Barack Obama. One notebook relates mostly to Pope John II; two others document contacts with various world leaders. Complete information on this collection is available here.

The documents in both collections are closed until they are 30 years old; some documents have additional restrictions.

The Billy Graham Center Archives is a department of Wheaton College in Wheaton, Illinois. It collects, preserves and makes available materials about North American parachurch evangelism. For more information, visit the Archives’ website or its Facebook page.

The outlines of the collections show the archives will include Graham’s correspondence with a variety of influential people, mostly American presidents and their families, but also popes and the heads of state of other countries and a few miscellaneous notables.

The description of collection 685 says it contains a “few items of exceptional interest” including friendly notes, particularly with Dwight and Mamie Eisenhower, Lyndon and Lady Bird Johnson, Richard Nixon, Ronald and Nancy Reagan, George H.W. and Barbara Bush, Bill and Hillary Clinton, and George W. Bush.

Graham’s letters often contain comfort and encouragement for the sitting president and praise for recent activities. Graham also sometimes discussed political and social issues of the day.

Other collections include a variety of media such as audio and video recordings and pictures.

7 Good Reasons for a Leader to Say NO

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I hate disappointing people.

And, every time I say the word “No,” someone isn’t happy with my answer.

That’s reality.

“Can you do a wedding—this weekend?”
“Can you speak at my event?”
“Will you write a guest post for my blog?”
“Can I have an hour of your time—today?”
“Will you mentor me?”

And, so many more similar questions.

They are all legitimate questions. Usually there is nothing wrong with any of them as questions. And, many times I say yes to questions such as this. Many times.

But, sometimes I don’t say yes. I say no. And I personally think it’s one secret to my success in ministry and leadership.

And this post is to explain why. I’d love for some of my friends who know they can’t seem to say no to be inspired, encouraged and challenged to use the word more. In leadership, even though it is an unpopular word, it may be one of the most valuable words we use.

The fact is I get far more requests for my time than I could ever accommodate. Ever. There’s only one of me. And, one is not enough for the number of requests I receive.

So, I had no choice but to learn the power of saying no. And, believe me, I’m still learning. Sometimes I do better than other times. It requires discipline.

And, learning the power of no also means taking the heat at times from the ones who disagree with my answer.

I’ve learned, however, that my failure to say no costs me far more than developing a discipline to not always say yes.

Here are seven reasons for a leader to say NO:

Your family.

A few years ago we had our then 87-year-old Pastor Emeritus talk to our staff. He recently passed away, but served at our church 25 years before he retired. He and his family are still respected for their huge influence on our church. While there he admitted the way ministry is done has changed over the years, but one thing he wished he had known then and would encourage all of us still in ministry to do is to “protect the family.” He also said, looking back, it might have been more important than anything else he did in ministry. Golden wisdom!

Your work.

You can’t do everything and do everything well. You can’t. You may think you can—and others may think you should—but you can’t. Expectations, whether personal or placed upon us, do not dictate ability. Your efficiency depends on your ability to prioritize. In fact, you’ll likely burnout if you try. Great leaders learn to specialize in what only they can do. That’s not always possible, and there are exceptions which arise every week that we didn’t see coming, but as much as possible, this should be our goal. When you say yes to everything, you’re causing your team to sacrifice your best energies where they’re needed most.

Your health.

How effective are you from a hospital bed? Think I’m being overly dramatic? Research the impact of stress on the body. Talk to your doctor about it. Developing a discipline of being able to say no when needed protects your personal health and well-being. It’s not just organizationally critical. It’s often life-critical. Saying no to another appointment, so you can say yes to an hour in the gym, may actually give you a few more productive years to add value to the world.

Your future.

You’ll flame out if you try to do too much. Leadership is a marathon. Sometimes we have to sprint, but until we learn to balance our pace we will never really accomplish all we could. The power of no provides fuel for longevity and continuance. It’s a vision critical word. If you don’t start saying no to some things there may come a day when you crash hard enough that you have to say no to everything—and it may not be by choice.

Your integrity.

When you always say yes, you eventually put yourself in a position of being necessary for everything to succeed—if nothing more than in the expectations in people’s minds. The organization becomes built around you. “Yes, I’ll be there.” “Yes, I can do that.” In time, you become the center—the necessary ingredient in all things that matter. Wow! That is a dangerous place for most of us to handle. Talk about a power position. If not careful, we can become prideful, arrogant and boastful—thinking that the organization can’t exist without us. (And, think about that when the organization is the church.) Here’s reality: It can.

Your example.

People will follow the leader. If you never say no your team will begin to think it’s not a culturally approved answer. They’ll suffer from all the things you’ll suffer from for always saying yes. And, believe me, a leader who learns and practices the power of no becomes a huge blessing to the people they lead—and their families.

Your soul.

This really is the bottom line. Leader, you have my heart. I love leaders. And, I know if you try to do everything—if you never say no—eventually you’ll injure your soul. You can’t do it all. Someone reading this right now knows they are overwhelmed. You are in over your head. You’ve allowed people to hold you to very unrealistic expectations—or you did it to yourself—and it’s injured your soul. You need a break. And, it all started because you couldn’t say no. You never valued the power of the word. The Proverb is profound (and true), “Above all else guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Do it! Protect your soul!

Any questions?

Now, please understand, this post is not an excuse for not doing what we need to do as pastors and leaders. Sometimes the answer has to be yes. And, we should let our yes be yes and our no be no. Knowing how to choose the right word, at the right time, is part of maturing. But, it may be that one of the most valuable things we can do to protect the integrity and longevity of our leadership is to learn the power of the word no.

I’m praying for you. You can do it! NO is in you!

This article originally appeared here.

How to Reach 100 New Guests This Year

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Most church aren’t deliberately ignoring the need to grow church attendance. Most churches want to reach unchurched people. They take the Great Commission seriously and want their church to make a positive difference for the Kingdom.

At the same time, we’re coming to grips with the fact that fewer and fewer people are attending church. Even regular members show up more infrequently than in years gone by.

The same group of people, attending less often, is not a recipe for growth. For a church to grow and thrive, it has to reach brand new people.

Even though many churches share in this desire, few actually do it.

How to Grow Church Attendance

If you’re serious about wanting to grow church attendance and reach new guests, particularly those who are not attending any other church, here are five things to consider to reach people.

Grow Church Attendance #1 – Set a goal.

Whenever we ask pastors how many new volunteers they need, how much money they need to raise for ministry, or how many guests they want to reach, the answer is usually the same.

More.

And that’s a great sentiment.

But more is not a number. It’s a moving target that can never be reached.

If you want to reach new guests this year, start by prayerfully setting a specific goal.

Talk about the priority of reaching new people, the Great Commission and the mission of your church, and then make it a goal to reach a specific number of new people.

The number 100 isn’t a magic one. In fact, the number 100 may not be for you. What’s important is that you set a specific, measurable and attainable first-time guest goal.

What should it be?

That’s a matter for prayer and discussion among your leaders.

5 Big Mistakes Pastors Make on Easter and How to Avoid Them

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Avoid these mistakes pastors make on Easter.

Easter is coming! And it’s a busy season for churches.

It’s easy to make mistakes when you feel overwhelmed with all the extra work and preparation.

To help you make this Easter the best yet, here are five of the common mistakes I see pastors make on Easter.

1. NOT PREACHING WITH URGENCY

Do you feel a sense of urgency about Easter? Do you feel the weight of responsibility to make the most of every second you have?

You may only have one shot to introduce someone to Jesus. Don’t fall into the trap of believing that you’ll get another chance.

Some guests may not come back. They’re not guaranteed to live to see another Easter. Even you, yourself, are not guaranteed to live to see another Easter. In fact, Jesus could come back any moment.

This could be it! Will you seize the moment?

In the early church, the disciples operated under the assumption that Jesus could come back at any moment. Because of this, they preached with a sense of urgency. They knew that they might never have another chance to reach people with the good news of Jesus.

We should all live with the same sense of urgency for sharing the Gospel before it’s too late.

Heaven and hell literally hang in the balance.

2. OVERCOMPLICATING THE MESSAGE

Too many Easter sermons are a boring list of bullet points or an ancient history lesson.

Don’t complicate things. Preach the simple, life-changing story of Jesus’ resurrection and the what it means for us.

Follow the KISS method—Keep It Simple Stupid!

Have one simple, clear message that you need to communicate, and preach it with everything you’ve got.

If my 5-year-old can understand the story, anyone can. There’s no need to make it more difficult than that.

Be direct. Stick to the point. Don’t ramble. And lock on to the simple truth of the Resurrection of Jesus Christ.

3. NOT CALLING THE AUDIENCE TO ACTION

OK, so you deliver a great sermon…now what?

What do you want the people sitting in front of you to do with what you just told them?

Many pastors dispense a lot of information and forget to ask anyone to do anything with it.

Information without application never brings transformation.

So be specific. Don’t assume that people will know what to do. What exactly would you like them to do?

Tell them what you want them to do. Then, dare them to do it.

Warn them of the risk of what their life might become if they don’t do it, and then paint a picture of what life could be like if they take that brave, next step.

If the goal of your message is for people to respond to the Gospel of Jesus Christ, what should that look like?

How do they begin? What action should they take?

Do you want them to come forward, stand, repeat a prayer, fill out a card, meet with a pastor or something else?

This might sound harsh, but it’s true: If people rarely respond to your sermons, maybe it’s because you never asked them to.

Be clear, direct and unapologetic with what God wants people to do.

4. ASSUMING PEOPLE WILL COME

Don’t assume people will show up just because it’s Easter. Perhaps that was more likely in the past, but times are changing.

People don’t feel obligated to go to church on Easter like they used to. They have thousands of other options fighting for their attention.

Yes, more people are likely to attend a church service on Easter than most other weekends. But don’t fall into a safe sense of security in thinking that people will automatically show up without any work on your part.

God alone brings the harvest, but he asks us to prepare the fields (1 Cor 3:6-9).

So how will you plant seeds and prepare the field?

How are you getting the word out about your church services?

Are you budgeting money for advertising and outreach?

Are you challenging your congregation to invite others? And, this is important, are you teaching them how?

Most importantly, who are you inviting?

Don’t assume people will come to your church just because you unlock the doors on Easter. Your whole church has got to put in the work of planting and watering seeds.

5. NO FOLLOW-UP PLAN

New people showed up. Hurray! But now what?

What’s your plan to follow-up with them? How do you plan to encourage them to come back?

Lots of churches put all their eggs in the Easter Sunday basket with no plan for the week after.

Will you call them? Will you send them a letter or email? Will you promote a new series that interests them?

And think about this: If the Holy Spirit moves and 10, 25 or even 100 people make the decision to give their lives to Jesus, are you ready for it?

It doesn’t have to be elaborate, but you need a strategy. You need a plan and people in place to help connect these new guests and new believers to your church.

Well, those are five mistakes that I’ve noticed. What have I missed? What other mistakes do pastors make on Easter?

This article originally appeared here.

How to Breathe Fresh Life Into VBS This Year

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Chances are, if your church has a long history of Vacation Bible School, it can be difficult to make any sweeping changes. Sometimes traditional events take years to become your own, but you can begin with small tweaks to update a long established model. Below are a few of my favorite ideas to add a twist to any VBS.

Take VBS Outside the Church Walls

Some of my favorite VBS models are the ones that never happen inside the church building. Whether you meet in a park, community center or neighborhood, taking VBS outside the church may increase your reach to those that may never darken your church building doors. Smaller, simultaneous locations can provide for better ministry, follow-up and outreach.

Crafts That Go Further

You don’t have to be a VBS pro to know that many of your budget dollars go to crafts. While some crafts may be meaningful and even make it home with kids, many are left at church or even thrown away. Why not take a day or two and make crafts that can be shared with others? Nursing homes, children’s hospitals and public servant offices are a great place to take special crafts to encourage and point others to Jesus. With the new trend of finding and hiding rocks in communities, you can also share the message of the Gospel with others by challenging kids to hide a Gospel-sharing rock in a local community spot.

See Senior Adults as Superstars

Senior adults bring much more to VBS than serving fruit punch and popsicles. More than five years ago, we recruited a group of senior adult men and gave them the title “High Five Guys.” Their job was to stand at the door in bright yellow Ikea vests and greet and high five every child coming in the door. We also put them in charge of our VBS bling. What is bling, you ask? Well, we created small round buttons with each day’s bottom line on them, and kids were rewarded them when they could say the bottom line to a High Five Guy. What we thought was just a great idea to add a personal touch to our entrance has turned into a group of men that are like rock stars for the week. Kids can’t wait to get to these men and recite the bottom line or give them a high five with a running start. One man who has served in countless roles in church over his years says being a High Five Guy has been one of the most fulfilling areas in which he has ever served. Now we don’t don’t even have to recruit men for this job: They are inviting their friends and it has turned into a fraternal group of men so excited to impact kids at the entrance that we have way more volunteers than we need. Now that’s a VBS problem I can deal with each year.

Content Over Theme

For years I stressed and stressed over theme, decor and decorations, but the past couple of years I have chosen to put content over theme. Don’t get me wrong, I still like to dream with a table of creatives about how we can capture kids’ attention as soon as they enter the church. However, that takes a backseat to a more eternal approach. If the curriculum isn’t biblically based and Gospel-centered, it isn’t even considered. I would rather start with sound doctrine and add creativity than be creative and lacking substance. Time is short; therefore, content simply matters more.

Taking a Cue From Disney

Years ago I took a trip to Disneyworld and came home challenged to bring their customer service to the forefront of our VBS. Instead of buttons that say “first timer” or what is being celebrated, we created VBS MVP buttons that our guests wear. This enables our greeters, teachers and staff to not only quickly see who is visiting for the week, but also call them by name. Kids are blown away that we know their name as soon as they step on campus. These buttons also give our kids a chance to be the church and reach out to our visiting kids and make them feel welcome.

Sometimes I am overwhelmed by all the ideas I hear other churches doing. When I feel this way, I seek God and simply try to focus on one thing I can make better. So if you want to add a twist to your VBS this year, what one thing can you do differently?

12 Reasons Pastors Want to Quit

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Over the past several years, I’ve kept an anecdotal record of reasons pastors tell me they’re thinking about stepping out of a senior pastor role. Here are the most common reasons I’ve heard, in no order of priority:

  1. “I’m tired of the conflict.” Some churches are tougher than others to lead, and the conflict gets tiresome.
  2. “I don’t know what else to do.” Sometimes this reason is simply an honest admission: The task feels bigger than the leader feels capable.
  3. “It’s hurting my family.” It’s difficult to stay focused and energetic when your family is struggling.
  4. “We can’t pay our bills.” Some churches simply don’t pay a livable wage for pastors.
  5.  “I’m not sure I’m called to this role.” I’ve talked with leaders in tough situations and leaders in good situations who feel this way.
  6. “I’m burned out.” It happens to even the best senior pastors. Growing stress creates ongoing weariness.
  7. “I don’t like preaching week-to-week.” Often, these leaders are shepherding churches that require preparing multiple sermons per week.
  8. “I can’t live up to their expectations.” When you know you’ll never meet what the church demands, you’re defeated from the beginning.
  9.  “We’re lonely.” It’s sad, but some congregations don’t love their pastor well.
  10. “I’ve lost my vision for the church.” No vision generally equals no future focus—and little interest in investing in this church.
  11. “I’d rather be an associate pastor.” I hear this reason from young pastors more than older ones. At times, they feel overwhelmed by the work of the senior role.
  12. “I’m tired of bad situations.” Usually, this reason comes from pastors who’ve endured more than one difficult ministry—perhaps, I suspect, of their own making at times.

In many cases, the pastors who express these concerns don’t actually quit—but they at least think about it. What reasons would you add to this list?

This article originally appeared here.

Why Do Churches Cover Up Sin?

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Over the past few weeks, many questions have been asked about why professional institutions like Michigan State University and the United States Gymnastic Association would cover up Larry Nassar’s crimes.

But these events force another painful question to the surface. Why do churches also do this? Why do Christians cover up similar sin within the church? The same questions can be asked of para-church ministries and institutions, and all of what follows here is applicable to them too.

I’ve seen and heard of multiple occasions on both sides of the Atlantic where good people (and some not so good) have made horrendous decisions about how to handle complaints against individuals within the church. Time and again I’ve found myself utterly perplexed: “Why are they doing this? How can they do that? What is their motivation?”

As I’ve processed this agony and listened to people who have made bad decisions in these situations, I’ve come to realize there is no one reason that explains everybody. Instead there are numerous possible motivations, and often a few are found in the same heart.

I’m going to list the various motivations I’ve discovered over the years with a view to helping Christians in positions of power examine themselves as they make decisions and judgments going forwards. But, before that, a few caveats are in order.

First, this is not about one church or institution. I’m not referring to any particular case.

Second, this is not about recriminations about the past. It’s more about offering help and guidance for the future. It’s a kind of checklist to help men test their motives and therefore make purer decisions.

Third, I’m going to be referring to “men” throughout because, in most church situations, it’s men that are making these decisions.

Fourth, men finding someone not guilty who is actually guilty may be a genuine mistake. It’s part of the pain of earthly justice, that men can make sincerely wrong judgments. When people make misjudgments we disagree with, we should not jump to the conclusion that they are corrupt and they are trying to cover up sin.

Fifth, many (I hope most) churches do the right thing. We only hear of the bad examples and the media only expose the cover-ups (as they should). However, there are many Christians who bravely and courageously stand up against evil and protect the innocent.

Sixth, the need for churches to conduct ecclesiastical investigation into alleged sin does not absolve them of the responsibility to report suspected crimes to the appropriate authorities. In some cases, that is mandated by law. As has been pointed out repeatedly, obedience to the law of the land and respect for civil authority would save churches a lot of grief.

With these caveats in place, why do Christian churches, institutions and ministries cover up sin?

Genuine belief in innocence: I just said that men can be sincerely wrong in their judgments and that we shouldn’t immediately condemn them as corrupt if they find a guilty person not guilty. However, this genuine belief in someone’s innocence can sometimes lead to a refusal to fairly consider evidence or even hear the accusers. That is corrupt and wrong.

Management approach: Some men who have been in positions of leadership for a long time can become pragmatic managers more than principled leaders. Their instinct when faced with serious accusations against someone is to manage the situation, to find a middle way, to take the path of minimal stress, to put peace above principle, to replace truth with accommodation and compromise. “Let’s see if we can come to some arrangement here.”

Gifted offender: Sometimes the accused is a man of great gifts and usefulness in the church or organization. It might seem that to lose him would sink the church or ministry. If an ordinary person were accused of the same thing, the approach would be much swifter and more serious, but charisma skews the judgment. “What a pity it would be to lose such a gifted preacher.”

Personal blessing: Related to the above, many have been blessed through the man’s ministry. Some were converted under him. Others were called to the ministry through him. Still others were brought to see the glory of Christ in a new way. God used him to guide people through dark times. This creates a spiritual and psychological debt and an obstacle to just judgment. “How can he be guilty if he’s been such a blessing to my life?”

Friendship: There can be a false sense of loyalty to someone due to a long and valued relationship with them. “How can I do this to a friend?” Or it may be a fear of losing friends who support the accused. Loyalty to men takes precedence over loyalty to God.

Lack of friendship: While the accused can benefit from the misplaced loyalty of so-called friends, victims can suffer from being unknown to the church or the examining committee. There’s no personal connection, there’s no relationship. Sometimes it’s only a written statement that’s before men looking at the case. Indeed, the accused’s defenders will often go to some lengths to prevent any direct contact with or examination of victims because they fear the power of that encounter. It’s far easier to dismiss the accusations of faceless strangers than the defenses of long-time friends.

Loss of reputation: If this gets out, the media will be all over it and our reputation will be destroyed. Or, perhaps it’s more “local” as people consider the impact on their own families. “What will people think?” or “How could I explain this to my unconverted children?”

Financial loss: Often related to the above. The loss of this person will mean the loss of money, the loss of some in the congregation, the loss of some donors. “We can’t afford to lose him and his supporters.”

Loss of career: I hate to acknowledge this, but sometimes men are afraid to ruin their chances of promotion within churches, or moves to other churches, or conference invites, or publishing contracts, and so on. “If I get involved in this, I’ll never be accepted in the ‘in’ crowd.”

Stalled agenda: Perhaps this person was at the forefront of a particular agenda within the church. It could be a modernizing agenda or a conserving agenda. Or it could be a particular theological or practical emphasis. If he goes down, then that agenda goes down too. “We don’t want to lose the leader of our party.”

Ignorance of effects: It’s very difficult for some men to grasp the long and serious psychological consequences of sex offenses, and that leads them to minimize the offense. “It was just a kiss… What’s in a cuddle?… He didn’t go the whole way… It was a long time ago…” 

“Weak” accuser: Some men target women who are unlikely to be believed, either due to their age, personality, background or circumstances, knowing that they will win any credibility battle. “Are you really going to believe her/them instead of him?”

The accuser’s supporters: Sometimes supporters of victims can be perceived and portrayed as over-zealous and can say and do things that rub establishment types up the wrong way. Sometimes people with their own personal agenda and mixed motives can attach themselves to victims as their “advocates” (as I saw in a couple of cases in Scotland). In both situations, the establishment then closes ranks and the victim is forgotten in the cross-fire. “We’re not going to let that guy/group beat us.”

The judges’ pasts: Men who are in positions of judgment have sinned in similar ways as the accused. They don’t have a clear conscience and therefore cannot deal truthfully with other people’s sins. In one case I know of, the accused had, over the years, counseled many men with various problems. Men had disclosed their deepest secrets to him. Some were terrified that if they found him guilty, he would reveal their own secrets. They used “Let him who is without sin, cast the first stone…” as a defense of inaction.

Dug into a hole: Men can dig themselves into such a deep hole by defending the accused to the hilt at the beginning, that they make it very difficult to change their mind when more and more evidence is revealed. “I don’t want to be proved wrong.” But if you’re in a hole, you not only need to stop digging, you need to get out and fill in the hole.

False view of sovereignty: Some men take the theological high ground and say that God is sovereign and God is judge and we should therefore wash our hands of the matter and trust God to act. But they refuse to see that the Sovereign Judge has also called men to judge on his behalf. Once we have taken responsibility and done all we can, then we may eventually have to say, “We have to trust the Lord to put this right.” But we don’t say that up front.

Abusing grace and peace: “Aren’t we all about forgiveness and second chances?” “Shouldn’t we just love one another?” Related to this is also the ”peace” card: “What will the world say if we are just fighting one another and condemning one another.” “Disunity is a bad witness.”

Intimidation: The accused often has very loud and confident advocates acting on their behalf and sometimes the loudest voices silence any opposing voices. “Procedure” can also be used to by adept administrators and bureaucrats to silence or stifle legitimate questions and investigations.

Inexperience: Men who have never dealt with serious accusations like these, or dealt with such deceitful men, have no idea what to look out for. Instead of calling in professionals immediately, they bumble around making lots of amateurish mistakes which they then try to cover and hide as their folly is realized.

Fear of condemning the innocent: This is a genuine and legitimate concern. It’s a huge responsibility to have to come to a judgment of guilt. Some men fear making a mistake here so much that they forget the equally serious error of failing to protect genuine victims.

As I said at the beginning, let’s use this checklist not for past recrimination but for future self-examination, to purify our motives when we’re called to make judgments on serious cases. I know my own deceitful heart and I’ve felt the tug of all these temptations when called to make costly decisions in these areas.

And if you’ve ever succumbed to the pressure, bring your sin to the Savior of sinners, confess it and you will find mercy (1 John 1:9). But then go and sin no more. And, if you can, go and put the wrong right—privately certainly, and publicly if necessary. And do it before you stand accused before the Uncoverer of all secrets and the Judge of all the earth who will do right (Rom. 2:16; Gen. 18:25).

This article originally appeared here.

The Epidemic of Male Loneliness

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I learned something about the modern epidemic of male loneliness recently. I began reading Doris Kearns Goodwin’s monumental biography of Abraham LincolnTeam of Rivals, and within the first couple chapters, noticed a theme which kept popping up.

Goodwin begins by giving a thorough background to each of Lincoln’s rivals for the presidential seat, and nearly every description at some point mentioned a close male friend of theirs. Writes Goodwin:

Such intimate male attachments, as Seward’s with Berdan, or, as we shall see, Lincoln’s with Joshua Speed and Chase’s with Edwin Stanton, were a common feature of the social landscape in nineteenth-century America… In the absence of parents and siblings, they turned to one another for support, sharing thoughts and emotions so completely that their intimate friendships developed the qualities of passionate romances.

To highlight the extremity of these relationships, Goodwin recounts the story of William Henry Seward who met a young man named David Berdan while they were both in school together. They shared everything together, including theater, books, songs and vocational aspirations. Tragically, Berdan contracted tuberculosis while traveling overseas and died on the ship back to America. “Seward was devastated,” writes Goodwin, “later telling his wife that he had loved Berdan as ‘never again’ could he ‘love in this world.’”

Let’s just take in the obvious fact that that’s not something you say to your wife.

Pondering Male Loneliness

That aside, I’ve been wondering why these deep male-to-male friendships seem so odd to me as a 21st-century reader. I think the idea is related to a previous post of mine regarding men and their lack of physical touch, but it’s also a different issue. I mean, guys don’t necessarily have to touch in order to be close and brotherly.

Personally, I feel like I have been blessed to have known (and to continue to know) a slew of really, really great men. The first being my father, which the older I get, the more rare I realize this is. Growing up, my best friend for as long as I can remember was Dave, and he is still my best friend to this day. In college and my travels abroad and my intermittent seasons of homelessness and vagabonding, I have always come across men with whom I can share everything.

I can’t help but wonder if many heterosexual men veer away from such relationships as they may be perceived as homosexual or weird in some way. What this leads to is an abundance of male loneliness, causing men to satiate their loneliness with more insidious salves.

How many fathers have been caught in a pornography or alcohol addiction, despite having a relatively enviable, stable life? This is conjecture, but I can’t help but wonder if addictions like these arise because men think that their wives and kids should be enough human connection to satisfy them, never thinking their souls may be craving more male friend connections. How many men feel this loneliness but feel weird about seeking out male friends, so they settle for the false intimacy of porn or the artificial ecstasy of substances?

I know men who—like Paul Rudd’s character in I Love You, Man—prefer the company of female friends, because they may be intimidated by other men. Others find themselves a girlfriend and cut off communication with all other friends indefinitely. I also know those who simply opt for very few or no friends at all, believing any sort of vulnerability or emotional nearness to other men to be un-masculine.

I would argue that the opposite is true.

Take a look at King David from the Bible. This is a dude who killed lions and bears with his bare hands while growing up as a shepherd. This is a dude who lusted after and married several women (not a GOOD thing, but it proves that he was very straight…). This is a masculine dude that any man would be wise to look up to.

UPDATE: Mississippi Governor Signs Bill Banning Abortion After 15 Weeks

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Update March 20, 2018

Gov. Phil Bryant of Mississippi followed the lead of the state’s lawmakers and signed into law on Monday a measure that would ban almost all abortions after 15 weeks of pregnancy. He said by signing the legislation he was “saving the unborn.”

It was quickly hit with a temporary restraining order by a federal judge after the state’s only abortion clinic immediately filed suit.

The bill, labeled the Gestational Age Act, was passed overwhelmingly by both chambers of the Republican-controlled State Legislature this month.


The Mississippi legislature has approved the nation’s most restrictive abortion law, banning abortion after 15 weeks of gestation.

Gov. Phil Bryant has signaled that he will sign the bill. “As I have repeatedly said, I want Mississippi to be the safest place in America for an unborn child,” he wrote on Twitter. “House Bill 1510 will help us achieve that goal.”

The bill changes the state’s current law prohibiting abortion after 20 weeks of pregnancy to 15 weeks. It includes exceptions if the woman’s life or a “major bodily function” is threatened or if the preborn child has a health problem that would mean it likely wouldn’t survive outside the womb. It doesn’t include exemptions in cases of rape or incest, according to the AP.

The Mississippi Center for Public Policy helped craft the bill and praised lawmakers for passing it.

Acting President Jameson Taylor said the bill protects maternal health and “further(s) the state’s interest in protecting unborn human life.” He added that the Center is “thrilled” for having played a role.

Pro-Life Mississippi said fetuses in the womb “deserve the right to life, which is supported by this bill.”

The group said in a statement that it appreciates legislators’ efforts to pass anti-abortion bills “that are grounded in science and protect human life.”

There will be challenges to the law going into effect.

Jim Hood says he expects “an immediate and expensive legal challenge” to the bill. The Democratic attorney general notes that measures in other states banning abortions have been struck down.

The most recent cases before the U.S. Supreme Court came from North Dakota where lawmakers passed the “fetal heartbeat” law. The measure banned abortions as soon as a heartbeat is detected in the fetus—as early as six weeks into pregnancy. Arkansas lawmakers passed similar legislation that banned abortions at 12 weeks. In both cases the High Court refused to review lower court rulings that overturned the laws.  

Mississippi’s only abortion clinic, Jackson Women’s Health Organization, has already threatened to sue.

Clinic owner Diane Derzis told the Clarion Ledger that the bill means the clinic will have to refer people out of state and “we will be planning to sue.”

4 Reasons Why Increasing Easter Attendance Matters

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If there’s one thing we know about Easter, it’s that many senior pastors go to great lengths for increasing Easter attendance and mobilizing their congregations to get new people to attend on this day.

Many think this is a wasted attempt to pander to “Chreasters.” I completely disagree.

Increasing your Easter attendance is important, but not for reasons commonly thought. Here are four reasons why doing everything you can to increase your Easter attendance matters to the mission of your church.

1. More Than Likely, 25 percent of All Your Visitors This Year Will Come on Easter

At CCV we know that roughly 50 percent of all newcomers will come at Easter and Christmas. The rest are evenly sprinkled throughout the year. That obviously means that half, or 25 percent, of all the visitors that come to your church this year will come this Sunday. Most outreach-focused churches have similar newcomer attendance and retention figures.

2. Only 10 percent of Those Visitors Will Come Back

We also know that if 10 people visit our church, one of them will return and become a growing Christ Follower. Why is this important?

It’s important because if you are a church of, say, 150, that wants to break the 200 barrier and grow to 300, that means you will need to have how many people visit your church in order to retain an additional 150 people (growing from 150 to 300)? That’s 1,500 people. Ten percent of 1,500 first-time guests = 150 new attenders.

If you are a church of 600 that wants to grow to 1,000, you will need 4,000 people to come through your doors.

3. Wise Senior Pastors Capitalize on Cultural Attendance Patterns

If St. Patrick or John Wesley woke up in your shoes tomorrow, how would they view the opportunity afforded a congregation by the cultural propensity toward visiting church on Easter? You know the answer to that question.

Make culture work for your goals, not against them. Stop chiming in with the missional naysayers that say Sunday attendance doesn’t matter, and take advantage of the opportunity. Learn from creative churches from around the country and take some risks. Start believing in the possibility of growth and impact.

4. You Can’t Make Disciples Without New Attenders

I tell senior pastors I coach that growing your Easter attendance matters because without attending a church, people won’t start the process of becoming disciples.

I couldn’t care less about growing the attendance of your church for numbers’ sake. I care about whether or not you’re making new disciples, and you can’t make new disciples until they start participating in your faith community.

I liken our job as senior pastors to that of a Division 1 college basketball coach. Winning a conference title or national championship is great, but the #1 job of a college coach is to graduate players who go on to succeed in life. Getting to the Sweet Sixteen is a bonus.

Likewise, sure it’s great to be a part of a growing church that reaches a lot of people, but that’s not the goal in and of itself. Sometimes growth and discipleship go hand in hand, sometimes not; if for no other reason than disciples have a tendency to obey Jesus and “go.”

So go nuts this Easter getting people into your doors. Pray for holy passion for people far from God and make sure you lead the way by inviting people yourself. Speed of the leader, speed of the team.

Be unashamed in your attempts.  

If Paul Needed Friends, So Do We

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When surveying the life of the apostle Paul, we see his firm belief in the sufficiency of the gospel and his willingness to suffer for it. But there’s another, often overlooked, feature of the Pauline mission: friendship. As Paul planted churches throughout the Roman world, he didn’t do so as a one-man band.

Paul was relationally wealthy. He traveled with friends; he stayed with them; he visited them. He worked alongside them; he preached alongside them; he was beaten alongside them. He even sang in prison with friends. He encouraged them, and was encouraged by them. At times, Paul disagreed with his friends. And at times, he reconciled with them.

A quick read through Acts shows Paul’s commitment to, and genuine concern for, his friends: Barnabas, Titus, Silas, Luke, Priscilla, Aquilla, Lydia, Onesiphorus, Epapharoditus, John Mark, the Ephesian elders and more.

In Romans 16, he mentions more than 30 names. The whole list oozes with affection; it also magnifies the gospel, demonstrates beautiful diversity (race, rank, gender), and contains moving expressions of honor.

In our gospel-centered movement, we should emphasize Paul’s pattern of preaching the grace of Christ. But we should also highlight his deep commitment to friendship.

Paul’s constant interaction with his friends was a sign of maturity, not deficiency. Even the mighty apostle needed friends—and he needed them for the same reasons you do.

Here are three simple but glorious benefits of friendship.

1. Companionship

As people who image God, we were made for relationships. In the Garden of Eden, everything was glorious, everything “very good,” except one thing: Adam was alone.

But wait—there’s no sin yet. How could Adam need anything? He’s in paradise! Why, then, was his heart aching? Tim Keller puts it well:

God made us in such a way that we couldn’t even enjoy paradise without friends… Adam had a perfect quiet time every day for 24 hours a day. Yet he needed friends.

We need friends because we are human beings, not trees. Our hearts ache when a friend or loved one has died. We miss their company. And when we’re on our deathbeds, it won’t be our accomplishments we long to hold (books, diplomas, trophies, house keys and so on); we will want to hold people.

Don’t let ministry—especially church planting—dehumanize you. You’re more than a content producer. You’re not the sermonator who mechanically cranks out sermons. And church planting isn’t lone ranger ministry, where you pioneer gospel work out on the barren frontier. We must value and cultivate friendships as people made in God’s image.

2. Comfort

God regularly strengthens us through the presence and ministry of others. Consider Paul’s statement about Titus: “For even when we came into Macedonia, our bodies had no rest, but we were afflicted at every turn—fighting without and fear within. But God, who comforts the downcast, comforted us by the coming of Titus” (2 Cor. 7:5–6). God used Titus to lift and strengthen Paul.

What do you need when you have “fighting without and fear within”? Friends.

We need these kinds of friends because our hearts are fickle; because sin never sleeps; because Satan rages; and because the gospel is of first importance. We mustn’t underestimate the importance of coming alongside one another in the fight of faith.

3. Joy

After sharing his vision to visit Rome, Paul tells the church of his desire to see them—in person. He’s just written them a long letter, but he wants more: “I want to enjoy your company” (Rom. 15:24) and “be refreshed in your company” (Rom. 15:32). Even though Paul could communicate through writing, he knew that deeper joy and refreshment could only be experienced in person.

The apostle John says something similar: “Though I have much to write to you, I would rather not use paper and ink. Instead I hope to come to you and talk face to face, so that our joy may be complete” (2 John 12).

Don’t settle for Facebook friends. We are holistic beings. You might be able to convey aspects of who you are online, but the online world will always fall short. The Internet can’t replace being physically present with people. We are people who feel, imagine and react; we touch, move and communicate through nonverbals.

We recently had our first “Gospel Party” with our church leaders. We invited everyone who has been sent out as a planter/pastor to come back and hang out for two days. It was so encouraging. We had friends on the back porch—laughing, playing, eating, praying, weeping, thinking, dreaming, planning and worshiping. All of this was done together, and all of it was made possible through Jesus Christ, who is the friend of sinners like us.

Practice Friendship

So make time for your friends in the faith, your partners in the gospel. Cultivate friendships in your own church. Show up in your various network or denominational meetings. Make a big deal out of “Titus ministry” (comforting fellow soldiers). May we seek to apply the various Proverbs that speak of friendship:

  • Consistency: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (Prov. 17:17).
  • Candor: “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy” (Prov. 27:6).
  • Compassion: “Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends” (Prov. 17:9).

One of my favorite movie characters is Doc Holiday in Tombstone. He’s not a model of Christian piety, but there’s one scene that has always moved me. Doc and Wyatt Earp are seeking to liberate an area from the “Cowboys,” but Doc has grown ill with tuberculosis.

Nevertheless, out of love and loyalty, Doc rises from his deathbed to fight with Wyatt. In one solemn dialogue, Turkey Creek Jack Johnson asks, “Why are you doing this, Doc?” Doc replies, “Because Wyatt Earp is my friend.”

Loyal), who has covered our multitude of sins. May his grace to us flow from us in the practice of Christian friendship. And may we exalt the Friend of Sinners by planting churches.

This article originally appeared here.

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