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John Crist’s Career Is Doing Well. Here’s Why Some People Are Worried About That

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Comedian John Crist performing at Bethany Lutheran Church in Elkhorn, Neb. in 2017. Matt Johnson, CC BY 2.0, via Wikimedia Commons

As Christian comedian John Crist’s career is taking off again, some are saying he has not truly been called to account for abusive behavior toward women—and is even making money off it.

“When I went on twitter today and saw people talking about John Crist updating his profile picture, my stomach dropped,” said a Twitter user identified as Hannah Stone in July 2020 as Crist was starting to resurface on social media. Calling herself someone Crist “manipulated” and “used,” Stone said, “I can’t explain the level of hurt I feel when I see other Christians praising his potential return. They claim that they’re embracing forgiveness and grace, but it feels like [they] prefer a few laughs and entertainment over real repentance and restoration.”

John Crist’s Comeback

John Crist is a popular comedian known for poking fun at Christian culture. He was set to release his first comedy special on Netflix when in November 2019, allegations surfacted that Crist had sexually harassed and manipulated five women. Charisma News broke the story.

Author Taylor Berglund says, “Many of the stories relayed to Charisma follow a similar pattern of behavior: Crist would initiate contact through social media, cultivate a flirty relationship and then initiate (or attempt to initiate) sexting and other sexual activities in addition to emotional manipulation.” Christian Post writer Randal Rauser observed that the details of a woman Charisma identified as “Kate,” who says she repeatedly “struggled to push [Crist] off” when he wanted to have sex with her, might qualify as sexual assault.

In a statement to Charisma at the time, Crist acknowledged “destructive and sinful” behavior and that he struggled with “sexual sin and addiction.” The comedian said in part:

My entire career has been lived out on stage, and even though I’ve shared many of my life struggles with my audiences, I’ve lived in constant fear of the darkest parts of my life being exposed publicly. My greatest fear has been that those who have loved and supported me would hate me if they knew everything about me. I now humbly seek forgiveness and mercy and love—not just for me, but for those I’ve hurt along my path. I’m so sorry.

Several of the women who spoke to Charisma said that Crist had been getting help for his struggles since at least 2014, yet his “destructive” behavior had continued. Berglund also states, “Some evidence suggests certain Christian leaders have been aware of Crist’s behavior and—through inaction—let it continue unchecked.”

After these revelations, Netflix pulled Crist’s special. Crist canceled his upcoming tour and went quiet on social media. In a video posted approximately eight months later, Crist said he had been in a treatment facility for four months. The comedian expressed his willingness to make his wrongs right, work on his own brokenness, and stop rationalizing his behavior.

In a July 2021 interview, Crist said he was happy that the Charisma article had been written and he is glad he doesn’t have to hide from people any longer. After the article was published, said the comedian, he felt so much shame that he became suicidal, but has been moved by the grace and support people have shown him and sustained by their prayers. 

In a February 2022 video of his standup, titled “John Crist on Rehab and Getting Cancelled,” Crist spoke openly about the controversy and his time in rehab, saying, “Those choices were on me…I point the fingers at no one else but myself.” Crist even joked about his past sins. When someone in the audience called out, “We love you, John!” he responded, “Love you, girl!” then said, “That’s how I got in trouble last time,” as the audience laughed.

‘Whores’ for Trump: SBC Pastor Under Fire for Comments to 9Marks Panel That Included Mark Dever and Matt Chandler

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Pictured: Kevin Smith gives an opening talk about human dignity at the ERLC’s late-night event June 13 before the start of the 2022 SBC Annual Meeting in Anaheim, CA. The event’s focus was “The Mississippi Abortion Case and the Future of the Pro-life Movement.” (Photo courtesy of Baptist Press)

Kevin Smith, campus pastor for Family Church in West Palm Beach, Florida, and trustee for the SBC’s Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission (ERLC), is under fire after comments he made at a 9Marks event during the SBC annual meeting in Anaheim, California, began circulating online. 

The comments came in the context of a question Smith was posing to a panel, which included 9Marks president Mark Dever, Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary (SEBTS) president Danny Akin, Georgia pastor Aaron Menikoff, Texas pastor and author Matt Chandler, and Maryland pastor Omar Johnson. 9Marks is a ministry whose goal is “to see churches characterized by nine biblical marks of a healthy church.”

“I think some Southern Baptists lost their minds when a black man was elected president. Not all, but some,” Smith said from a microphone positioned in the crowd in a reference to the presidency of Barack Obama. “I think some Southern Baptists were unloving to black people beginning in 2012 with the killing of Trayvon Martin. I don’t mean agree about politics or policy. I just mean giving a darn that somebody else is hurting who is supposed to be your brother or sister in Christ.”

RELATED: SBC Apologizes to Sexual Abuse Survivors, Reaffirms Pro-Life Beliefs in Resolutions Adopted at Annual Meeting

“And I think some Southern Baptists just bent over and became political whores with this whole Trump stuff,” Smith went on to say. Citing the high profile departures of some Black pastors and churches from the SBC, Smith said, “I just wonder if white brothers think this has been kind of crazy—black/white stuff going on, Asian, Hispanic—just people who aren’t white feeling like they’re tolerated but not really embraced.”

“So I just wanted to know what white brothers think the race thing is in the SBC,” Smith said.

9Marks Panel Responds

Aaron Menikoff was the first to respond to Smith’s question.

“I don’t know about the SBC, but I’ve been pastoring in Atlanta—it’s more discouraging today than when I arrived 14 years ago,” Menikoff said. “And over the last four years, we’ve had some African American brothers and sisters come to our church because we were ‘less Trump’ than some other church. We’ve had some come to our church because we were ‘less social justice-y’ than some other churches.” 

“I have been humbled, and I’m aware that I don’t know what I can do to make it racially better. You know, I generally say, preach the gospel and good things will happen,” Menikoff continued. “And, pastoring in Atlanta, I just have so many opportunities to have so many relationships with African American brothers, and trying to lean into those relationships and grow. And try to help my congregation stay focused on the gospel but also aware of our history.”

Chandler addressed Smith next, first thanking him for his question.

RELATED: Saddleback’s Status as an SBC Church in Doubt As Mohler, Ascol, Others Push For Disfellowship on the Convention Floor

“I needed to shift about three years ago to start worrying about this at the Village Church and Acts 29 and to stop trying to solve it everywhere else,” Chandler said, referencing the church he pastors in Texas and the church planting network of which he is president. “Because I was losing everywhere. I was losing the white people. I was losing the Black people…It was never enough in this direction or it was never enough in [that] direction.” 

Funerals Announced for 3 Killed at Alabama Church Dinner

Police barricade off the area after a shooting at the Saint Stephen’s Episcopal Church on Thursday, June 16, 2022 in Vestavia, Ala. (AP Photo/Butch Dill)

VESTAVIA HILLS, Ala. (AP) — Funerals for three people killed by a gunman during a church potluck dinner in Alabama will be held this week, the church’s pastor said Monday.

Services for Walter Bartlett Rainey, Sarah Sharon Yeager and Jane Pounds will take place at St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church, where the three church members were fatally shot Thursday night, the Rev. John Burruss wrote in a post on the church’s website.

The church was holding a monthly dinner described as a “Boomers Potluck” on Thursday when a visitor sitting by himself drew a handgun and began shooting. Rainey, Yeager and Pounds were all shot before another church member struck the gunman with a chair and disarmed him, according to a former St. Stephen’s pastor who spoke with witnesses. The attacker was then held until police arrived.

Prosecutors have charged Robert Findlay Smith, 70, with capital murder in the shootings.

Funerals for Rainey and Yeager are scheduled for Wednesday, the pastor said, followed by the funeral service for Pounds on Thursday.

This article originally appeared here

Awakening the Church with Transparency, Authenticity and Protective Measures

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There is no question that the Church has experienced hardship and scandal in recent months. From the Hillsong documentary to last month’s report released by the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC), Christians are having to openly and intentionally discuss issues that have been hidden for far too long. One concern that has greatly impacted the Church is pornography.

In today’s digital age, pornography has become increasingly accessible. It has also become more widely accepted and morally ambiguous over recent years. According to Barna Research, only one in ten teens and one in every 20 adults conclude that watching pornography is morally wrong. 

Pornography is pervasive, and has a devastating impact on the mind, destroying marriages, careers and lives. In fact, the pornography epidemic is not only hurting the general public, but the Christian community as well. The same Barna study found that more than 50% of pastors and 68% of Chrisitan men view pornography on a regular basis. Likewise, 76% of Christian men between the ages of 18-24 are actively searching for pornography online. 

The truth is no ministry leader sets out to be involved in a scandal. Sometimes, they blindly walk into it over time, not realizing that little habits and conversations led them there in the first place. These individuals who find themselves in leadership positions are tempted just like everyone else. However, due to their pastoral role in the church, Satan recognizes their position and uses their vulnerability to attack. Like other temptations, it has the power to pierce through the heart of even the most devout Christian leaders.

The report published by the SBC has shown us that there is an immense need for churches to be prepared and well equipped to handle problems such as sexual abuse, addiction, pornography or any other issues that happen within the walls of the church. As someone who experienced sexual abuse by a worship leader as a pre-teen, I am passionate about educating and training leaders through REAL TALK, a program that exists to protect every individual in each congregation from kindergarten to leadership.

Although REAL TALK is a catalytic tool, it’s not an end-all, be-all solution. This program opens up opportunities and reveals the need for next steps to bring about transformative healing for individuals in the Church. We provide those next steps so that the enemy no longer has an open door to control and oppress God’s people.

As we look out for the safety of our congregations, we should also be concerned with the wellbeing of our leaders. When ministry leaders fall prey to temptation and find themselves in the middle of a scandal, many fall away from their ministry and disappear because of shame and regret. My hope is that we can get ahead of the scandal before it begins, and that we can restore leaders, bringing them back into the light and on a path of recovery. We must be proactive and make it our personal mission to address the problems that hold too many leaders captive to sin. 

 My prayer for the Church is that we can create a place where people can be open and vulnerable, feel loved with unconditional acceptance and be empowered to step into freedom beyond what’s been holding them back. Whether it’s a program like REAL TALK or something else, we need to prepare our churches and give them confidence as they address the hard and sometimes dark issues in life. 

It is time for an awakening in the Church. We need to normalize transparency, authenticity and protection throughout our congregations. We also need to provide a safe place for people to process, heal and recover from past experiences and leadership failures. There has never been a better time to inspire real change within our communities.

What to Do When Spouses’ Parenting Styles Clash

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How can parents resolve parenting issues when they are not on the same page? 

The longer you’re a parent, the more you realize that parenting brings out things in you as nothing else can, both the good and the bad. Sometimes parenting brings out feelings, emotions, and ideas that we didn’t even know we had. And when there are two parents trying to lead together as a team in the home, there are often natural conflicts about what is the right way and the wrong way to handle things when it comes to the kids.

Have you and your spouse ever come to different conclusions about how to deal with a situation with your children? Okay, that’s a rhetorical question 🙂. It’s nearly impossible for two people to always see eye to eye on everything, especially when it comes to parenting. Parents bring different assumptions, ideas, and their own unique upbringing into their home that affects the way they see things.

So whether it’s an issue of how to discipline, what time the kids should go to bed, or if certain children should have different expectations, what should you do as spouses when your parenting styles clash? How can parents resolve parenting issues when they are not on the same page? Here are a few ideas:

Agree on the essentials 

Remember that most of the time, there is more that you agree upon than disagree upon. So rather than focusing all of your attention on what you both cannot seem to see eye to eye about, intentionally take some time to focus on the parts of the situation that you actually do agree about. Because usually, spouses both have the same end goal in mind, just different perspectives of how to get there.

Acknowledging the fact that you both want the same final result (whether that’s well-behaved kids, a decent nights’ sleep, or kids who display responsibility, etc.) is a great first step. And reaffirming your commitment towards a solution is powerful.

Then, after finding some common ground as a starting point, start to branch out from there with the additional and sometimes conflicting ideas that need to be discussed. Make sure to hear your spouse’s opinions out, just as you expect them to hear out yours. Listen. Share your own heart. Show grace. Then come up with an agreement, or maybe a compromise.

Agree to disagree on the non-essentials 

Sometimes the things that spouses disagree about are far too petty to even give much if any, attention to. Spouses fight and argue over details that really don’t matter in the big picture, and it becomes all about winning an argument, rather than finding a solution. If you and your spouse are clashing over things that really don’t matter in the big picture, regardless of who’s ‘right’, just stop it and drop it. Because when one of you wins, both of you lose. All this requires is swallowing down a big glassful of pride, and choosing to be the bigger person for the sake of your home.

If the things you disagree about really do matter, then talk them out, and then… talk them out some more. Be willing to agree to disagree when necessary. And be willing to compromise when possible. But in the end, if a decision must be made in a standoff, as long as the husband’s opinion or preference does not contradict biblical principles, the wife should submit to her husband’s leadership in the home in areas of disagreement and be willing to support him regardless, as he will ultimately give an account to God for the family. (I know, it’s old-fashioned, but still true ;). However, it’s unlikely to come to this if steps 1 & 2 have been followed.)

Maintain a unified front for your children  

One of the rules we have personally tried to practice in our marriage over the years is that we do not fight in front of our kids. And to the best of our ability, we try hard not to disagree in front of our kids whenever possible, especially if the disagreement involves something concerning them. Children are masters at playing parents against each other if they know that you aren’t on the same page. This is why it is so important that Mom & Dad Have To Get On the Same Page.

There have been many times in our marriage when things have started heating up in front of the kids, and one of us have simply said, “Let’s finish this conversation later” because we knew that to finish it then and there would violate our commitment to maintaining a unified front for our kids. However, there are always some disagreements that are inevitable, so we use them as teachable opportunities to help our kids see what biblical conflict resolution looks like.

The practical parenting principle to strive to live by is this – Disagree in private; be unified in public. It’s not always an easy principle to live by, but it’s one that you won’t regret living by either because it will save both you and your kids a lot of grief. Remember, you and your spouse are a team, and successful teams strive for unity.

EXTRA: One of the best ways to get on the same page or at least come to a peaceful compromise as parents is to simply pray together about the disagreements at hand, then give it some time before you revisit the topic again and seek a solution. Prayer has a way of melting (or at least softening) disagreements with time, making them easier to resolve than in the heat of the moment.

This article originally appeared here.

Rick Warren: How to Grow A Small Group On Mission

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If you want your church to balance God’s purposes and grow in a healthy way, your small groups must lead the way. A small-group-on-mission approach can transform your church. It’s like this: You’re only as healthy as the cells in your body. It’s a basic truth of human health. If your cells are sick, your body will be sick, too. The same is true in churches. Your church will only be as healthy as the cells within it. And your small groups are those cells. A small group on mission will help build God’s purposes into every heart, every group and every ministry.

In Acts 2, we can read about the first small groups in the early church. The Bible says:

  • They grew spiritually (v. 42)
  • They ministered to one another (v. 45)
  • They fellowshipped (v. 46)
  • They worshiped (v. 47)
  • They evangelized the spiritually lost (v. 47)

Unfortunately, many small groups today just focus on one or two purposes. Often, it’s fellowship or discipleship (or both). Maybe they’ll add some worship songs at the beginning of the meeting time. They might even be involved in ministry as a group.

But evangelism and missions tend to get left behind. This means many small groups aren’t balanced, and that stunts their influence. Yet small groups—the “cells” of a congregation—have such great potential when it comes to helping your church fulfill the Great Commission.

In his book Planning Small Groups with Purpose, Steve Gladen, the pastor who’s overseen Saddleback’s small groups for many years, writes: “The world can be the mission field for your small group ministry—from your front door to the farthest reaches. You can help your church define its global, local and personal opportunities to evangelize, and then equip your groups to meet those needs.”

It’s no coincidence that Jesus started his ministry by forming a small group. If anyone could have handled his mission by himself, it was Jesus. But instead, Jesus gathered a group of 12 to serve with him.

Here’s why it’s so important that we mobilize our small groups to fulfill the Great Commission.

      • We’re a family. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 3:9, “We work together as partners who belong to God” (NLT). God wants his family to work together in the mission he has given us. God wants our relationships to grow as we serve.
      • We need each other. Nobody has all the gifts and talents we need to reach our communities and our world. God created us that way so we would need each other. The Bible says we’re a part of the body of Christ. We are a foot. Or we are a hand. Or we are a head. Or we are a mouth. We can’t fulfill our God-given mission on our own.
      • We get more done. The Bible tells us, “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed” (Ecclesiastes 4:9 NLT). Teamwork multiples effectiveness. God wants to use the people in your church in ways they never dreamed possible. But they’re not enough on their own. No one is. God wants to use us as part of a team to fulfill the Great Commission.

    Your small groups can do this. They can work together to share Christ with friends locally and around the world. Here are a few easy steps to get people started.

    How to Grow A Small Group On Mission

  • 1. Ask small groups to enlist a missions champion.

    You really can’t create balanced small groups without champions. You need one for each of the five purposes (worship, fellowship, discipleship, ministry, evangelism/missions). You need someone passionate about fulfilling the Great Commission in every group to “own” evangelism and missions. If promoting a small group on mission is everyone’s responsibility, it’s actually no one’s responsibility. Find and appoint champions for mission.

    Your missions champions will keep your small groups alerted to new opportunities to serve. This person will coordinate the group’s missions opportunities and make sure it’s a good experience for all who participate. They may also remind the group to pray for mission needs around the world. These champions will ensure that missions remains a part of each group’s experience together.

    2. Encourage groups to pray for people who don’t know Jesus.

    People can reject your arguments. They may refuse to listen to your logic. But they are powerless against your prayers. It goes straight to their hearts. The people in your small groups know people who don’t have a relationship with Jesus. Make sure it’s a habit for them to lift these people to the Father.

    But also, ask your small groups to pray Colossians 4:3: “that God will open doors for telling the mystery of Christ” (The Message). When they pray, opportunities will come. Prayer makes us aware. They’ll start seeing those opportunities everywhere.

    3. Build relationships with non-Christians.

    Steve Gladen notes in his book that most classes and sermons focus on “closing the deal” and the final commitment of people coming to faith in Christ. Steve writes, “So in spurring small groups toward outreach, we will focus predominately on how to mobilize groups to plant and water—to love non-believers through all the weeks and years it often takes to build trust and overcome their misconceptions about Christianity.”

    It’s important for the people in your small group, as they look for ways to engage non-believing friends with the Gospel, to appeal to common interests. We encourage small groups at Saddleback to make a list of interests they share in common. Then they can invite their friends to participate in these activities with them. It could be watching football, going to movies or gardening. Invite friends and relatives to participate in common recreational activities that the group enjoys doing together. These relationships will provide opportunities for the group to plant and water the Gospel into these relationships.

    4. Serve together.

    We also encourage our small groups regularly to participate in local mission projects together. Our church purposely provides mission opportunities that can be done as a group.

    But you don’t have to stop with local involvement. Every small group can plan a mission trip somewhere together. Every small group can be a small group on mission. Just like every person should have a global mindset, so should every small group.

    Your small groups present the best way for you to get your entire congregation involved in God’s mission around the world.

    Your church’s worship services are the mouth of the church. It’s where you preach the Gospel. It’s where you worship together as a body of believers.

    But the heartbeat of your church is found in your small groups. It’s in the cells of your church where you determine its health. If your small groups aren’t balancing all five purposes (including small group on mission), your church won’t balance the purposes. Your church won’t be healthy.

    On the other hand, healthy churches can have a small group on mission that engages non-believing friends and take the message of Jesus around the world.

 

This article about a small group on mission originally appeared here.

Respectful Parenting: 3 Keys to Maximizing Each Moment

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Respectful parenting is all the buzz these days. Contrary to some opinions, it’s not a passive approach to raising kids. Let me explain…

As a dad, one of my biggest fears has involved missing “it.” When I became a first-time dad, my fears were centered around my son’s health. Because Riley was premature, those first few weeks were really tough. After he was home, it didn’t get much easier (though somehow we thought it would).

It was still tough. We were those parents who took their kid to the doctor for his first nose drip. We were those parents who watched the monitor all night at times, trying to protect our newborn.

Eventually, we worked through that. We trusted God and still do.

Lately, though, the thing I caution myself against is missing “it.”

By “it” I mean the experience of being a dad. The joy of watching my boy grow up. The fun moments as well as the tough ones. When he experiences firsts and when he chooses the right thing. When he has fun and when teaching moments pop up. And when it’s just him, his mom, and me. When he’s just being Riley.

I don’t want to miss those moments. So I’ve been thinking about some ways to help me not miss them. Here are a few ideas I’ve had along the way. To me, they encapsulate truly respectful parenting.

3 Essential Elements of Respectful Parenting

1. Drop

Put down your phone. That’s a real struggle for us millennial parents (and even for baby boomer grandparents, from what I witness). I don’t just mean taking pictures. That can be a good and fun thing. I’m talking more about those times when Riley wants me to play and laugh. He wants my attention, but my phone has it instead.

So I’ve started to drop my phone. Even drop it a long way from arm’s length so I’m not tempted. I don’t want him to see the Apple logo on my phone when we’re at home more than he sees my smile.

2. Interact

At times it’s okay to not be talking to my son. I get that. So I tell him the world revolves around something but it’s not him (that’s good ol’-fashioned parenting!). I don’t have to always be talking with him. Yes, at times he can watch Paw Patrol on the iPad in peace. It’s important that I interact with my child on his level, though. That I talk about what they’re doing on Paw Patrol. That I play with him even when I don’t understand what I’m playing.

The other day, I had a fire helmet on my head, was holding the back of a baseball bat, and making a “swoosh” noise for reasons I still don’t get. This interaction is important to my son’s development. And it’s important to me…that I get “it.”

9 More Things About Asian American Christianity

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In 2013, I wrote an article, 9 Things about Asian American Christianity, for The Exchange blog. Now 9 years later, Ed Stetzer has invited me to share an update. Yes, a lot of time has passed and many things have happened amidst Asian American Christians and churches, including the disruption of a global COVID-19 pandemic and its aftermath. The Asian American population continues growing faster than any other racial grouping, currently over 24 million (2020 US Census) and projected to reach 46 million by 2060 (Pew Research).

This article highlights nine significant things about Asian American Christianity from my personal vantage point. This isn’t to say these are the most significant things nor are these listed in any particular order. This is a simple attempt to introduce some of the valuable contributions that Asian Americans are making in mainstream American Christianity.

1. Uniting Together for Public Safety and Social Justice.

As the social and political environment has increasingly polarized in the United States in recent years, Asian Americans are being greatly affected by anti-Asian hate crimes. Stop AAPI Hate had 10,905 hate incidents reported from March 2020 to December 2021 and it’s likely many more went unreported. Furthermore, 1 in 6 Asian American adults experienced a hate crime or hate incident in 2021, an increase from 1 in 8 in 2020. (AAPI Data)

In the midst of this tumultuous environment, the Asian American Christian Collaborative (AACC) launched to empower whole-life discipleship by amplifying the voices and histories of Asian Americans in the church and the world. In addition to on-going advocacy and education, two unprecedented accomplishments of AACC that brought people together: collected over 10,000 signatories for its first landmark statement, Statement on Anti-Asian Racism in the Time of COVID-19 and mobilized an estimated 5,000 people for a national prayer gathering simultaneously in 14 cities, Rally for AAPI Lives and Dignity. AACC has also led efforts like March for Black Lives and Dignity and Latin & Asian Christians United Against Racism.

2. More Next-Generation Multi-Asian Churches.

In 2016, I authored the book, MultiAsian.Church: A Future for Asian Americans in a Multiethnic World, because I had noticed an increasing number of Asian American pastors leading a new kind of multiethnic church that paved a different path than the black-and-white binary. Next generation multi-Asian churches are loosely defined as: “autonomous English-speaking churches that are intentionally or incidentally reaching next generation Asian Americans and other non-Asians too and led by an Asian American pastor.” From 2015 to 2022, the number of multi-Asian churches has grown from 291 to 385. A directory of these churches is available at multiasian.church/directory.

3. More Asian American Christian Women Pastors and Ministry Leaders.

While Christians have different convictions and practices about church leadership and gender roles, women have always been a vital part of every church throughout its history. Good efforts that are empower Asian American women leaders include: 

4. More Asian American Christians Leading Evangelical Organizations.

As the United States becomes increasingly multiracial, with its population projected to have no racial majority by 2044, Christian ministries and organizations must be increasingly diversified in their leadership to have an effective impact for its future. These are major evangelical organizations that have appointed Asian American leaders:

Learn more about these leaders and organizations: Asian Americans Who Are Presidents Of Major Evangelical Organizations (SOLA Network) and Historically White Christian Ministries Now Have Korean American Male Leaders (Christianity Today’s Quick to Listen).

5. More Networks and Academic Resources for Asian American Pastors and Church Leaders.

Some denominations have had ethnic and racial ministries for decades. Yet independent organizations can be a healthy sign of ownership, autonomy, and growth. This is a short list of networks and resources specifically for Asian American Christian leaders:

Christian Leaders Reflect on Juneteenth 2022 and the Work There Still Is To Do

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June 19, 2021. Organizations and elements from across Unites States Army Garrison Humphreys joined together to support the Juneteenth in South Korea's Juneteenth celebration here, June 19. The celebration featured remembrance reflections, a softball tournament, a leadership dunk tank, youth activities, and other events which brought the community together to commemorate the emancipation of enslaved African-Americans. USAG- Humphreys, CC BY 2.0, via Wikimedia Commons

Sunday, June 19, was Juneteenth, a day commemorating the end of slavery for Black Americans. As observation of the federal holiday continues with some employees getting Monday, June 20, off, some believers and Christian leaders are reflecting on the racial work that still needs to be done. 

#Juneteenth is a holiday celebrating Black resilience, perseverance, & liberation, but it also crystallizes the fact that this nation celebrated freedom & independence for nearly 90 years while enslaving a segment of its populace,” tweeted Dominique DuBois Gilliard, an ordained minister and the Director of Racial Righteousness and Reconciliation for the Love Mercy Do Justice initiative of the Evangelical Covenant Church.

Gilliard was likely alluding to the fact that the Second Continental Congress signed the Declaration of Independence in 1776, but slavery was not officially abolished in the United States until the 13th Amendment was ratified in 1865. 

Gilliard continued his thread, “The fact that most people living in this nation only recently found out about Juneteenth highlights that since 1865 most citizens have celebrated the 4th of July without ever truly reckoning with this contradiction.”

Juneteenth 2022 and the Work That Remains

Juneteenth, which is a blending of the words “June” and “nineteen” and is also known as “Emancipation Day,” takes place every year on June 19. The date is a tribute to when Union Major General Gordon Granger arrived in Galveston, Texas, on June 19, 1865, and announced that all the slaves in that state were free. 

Slaves in Texas had actually been legally free for over two years without knowing it. In the middle of the Civil War (1861-1865), President Abraham Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation went into effect on January 1, 1863, declaring freedom for slaves in 11 Confederate states. The proclamation did not free all of the slaves in the U.S. (there were about four million)—just those in Confederate states that were not under Union control. Slavery had nevertheless continued in Texas until Granger arrived. Later that year, on Dec. 6, 1865, the 13th Amendment was ratified. 

Texas first recognized Juneteenth as a state holiday in 1980, and President Biden made it a federal holiday on June 17, 2021. 

As Gilliard observed, most Americans have little familiarity with Juneteenth. That awareness might be changing, but a tweet from author, speaker and songwriter Amanda Held Opelt, shines a small spotlight on the experience of some with regard to their churches. “Curious to hear if your church acknowledged Juneteenth this morning,” Opelt asked Sunday afternoon. “Anyone?”

God Is ‘Still Here’: After Texas Church Burns Down, Cross Remains

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On Friday, June 17, fire broke out at Balsora Baptist Church, a 100-year-old building in Bridgeport, Texas. By the time the flames were extinguished at the Texas church, only a cross remained standing among all the debris.

Pastor Sonny Smith says, “To me that was a sign from God saying, ‘Don’t worry, I’m still here, and I’m going to lead you forward.’”

Texas Church Had Been Under Construction

Balsora Baptist, which Smith describes as “a small country church,” was in the process of rebuilding its fellowship hall. On Friday, he says, construction workers returned from their lunch break to see the building on fire. The cause of the blaze is still under investigation.

At least a dozen local agencies assisted with the response. A few firefighters were treated at the scene after the church’s roof began to collapse while they were inside.

After the fire was out, Wise County Emergency Services Department No. 2 posted a photo on Facebook of the still-standing cross. “A devastating loss to our community, but a sight to behold,” the caption reads. “The fire took the structure, but not the cross. A symbol that the building was just that, a building. The Church is the congregation, and where 2 or more gather, there he shall be also.”

The department pointed to “extreme temperatures” in the north Texas region lately. “Churches also pose an inherent danger related to the great span of the sanctuaries and great halls, which makes them very prone to collapse,” it adds.

Balsora Baptist Church Gathered for Worship Sunday

Just two days after the fire, congregants gathered near the destroyed building to worship and seek “God’s direction” for the Texas church. On its Facebook page, the church shared images and videos from the service. “The Cross that held our prayer request in the sanctuary was still standing!” it writes. “We praise God that He still answers prayers. We look forward to all He’s going to do at Balsora Baptist!!!

Other local churches have offered Balsora meeting space for the summer, says Pastor Smith. But for now he plans to keep meeting outside near the burned-down building. The 75 or so congregants will “shed some tears together over what was, but also create some excitement for what God plans for us in the future,” he says.

The pastor emphasizes that the church is people, not a building. “I can tell you what’s inside of our church family. It’s faith,” says Smith. “God is good. In the good times and in the bad times, you can always depend on him.”

Atheist Group Calls on DeSantis to Withdraw Comments Implying Nonreligious People ‘Are Prone to Criminal Violence’

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The Freedom From Religion Foundation (FFRF), a nonprofit organization that seeks “to protect the constitutional principle of separation between state and church, and to educate the public on matters relating to nontheism,” is calling on Florida governor Ron DeSantis to withdraw comments he made in a June 9 press conference that they say “paint the nonreligious in a deeply unfavorable light.”

DeSantis, who was holding a press conference in Fort Walton Beach, Florida, was celebrating his signing of six bills that will provide increased employment and educational benefits to veterans.

During his opening remarks, DeSantis made reference to the recent assassination attempt on U.S. Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh. The attempt came after an uproar of protest in response to a leaked draft opinion that indicated the Supreme Court may overturn the landmark 1973 Roe v. Wade decision that made abortion a constitutional right.

“They have some lunatic that was trying to assassinate Justice Kavanaugh,” DeSantis said. “And this is something that’s very, very troubling, because you got a lot of people who whipped this up, people like [Senate Majority Leader] Chuck Schumer, talking about [the Supreme Court] facing the whirlwind. They have lifetime appointments. What type of whirlwind are you talking about?”

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“And I think there’s a lot of really, really crazy people out there, unfortunately, that really get consumed with ideology,” DeSantis continued. “These are people that don’t really have, I think, a religious foundation or any type of relationship with God, and so they turn to radical politics as kind of what they’re going to do.”

The FFRF took exception with DeSantis’ implication that being nonreligious is predictive of violent or societally subversive behavior, releasing a statement against the remarks.

“The Freedom From Religion Foundation is denouncing remarks by Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis that imply people who lack a ‘religious foundation’ are prone to criminal violence,” the statement said, going on to formally request that DeSantis “retract his misleading comments and apologize to his nonreligious constituents.”

In a letter attached to the statement, FFRF cited a study that found, “Murder rates are actually lower in more secular nations and higher in more religious nations where belief in God is deep and widespread. And within America, the states with the highest murder rates tend to be highly religious, such as Louisiana and Alabama, but the states with the lowest murder rates tend to be among the least religious in the country, such as Vermont and Oregon.”

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“These studies do not prove that religion causes all of society’s ills, but do reveal that Christianity, more faith or prayer are not a panacea,” the letter goes on to say. “If anything, they are actually counterproductive.”

Services Set To Resume at Church Where Shooting Killed 3

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A police officer walks outside St. Stephen's Episcopal Church in Vestavia Hills, Ala., on Friday, June 17, 2022. Authorities say two people were shot to death and a third was wounded during an evening gathering when a man pulled out a handgun and began firing. (AP Photo/Jay Reeves)

VESTAVIA HILLS, Ala. (AP) — Worship services are set to resume Sunday [June 19] at the Alabama church where a gunman opened fire and killed three senior citizens at a potluck dinner earlier in the week.

Saint Stephen’s Episcopal Church announced that members will gather for morning worship “in the wake of unfathomable loss and grief in the hope of Christ’s Resurrection.”

Walter “Bart” Rainey, 84, of Irondale, Sarah Yeager, 75, of Pelham and a third person were killed in the shooting attack Thursday night. Police did not release the name of the third victim, an 84-year-old woman, citing her family’s request for privacy.

Robert Findlay Smith, 70, is charged with capital murder in the deaths of the three church members. Police have not disclosed a motive for the shooting.

Susan Sallin, a survivor, told ABC 33/40 that the group was having a “joyous” dinner gathering when shots suddenly rang out. She said she dove to the floor and realized two of her friends had been struck by bullets.

“I scooched my way over to my friends and one was unconscious and one was conscious. But I was able to pat them on the shoulder and just keep saying, ‘You’re loved. You’re loved. You’re not alone,’” she told the station.

Records from the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives show Smith is a licensed firearm dealer whose business is listed at his home address. He received a warning letter in 2018 from federal authorities for failing to keep a record of the disposition of all firearms, according to reporting compiled by The Trace and USA. That report said there were 86 firearms on hand in inventory during the inspection period.

The Rev. Doug Carpenter, a former pastor at the church, said the gunman had come to the gathering, refused an offer of a plate of food and then opened fire. Carpenter was not present at the gathering, but had spoken to people who were there.

Another church member, a man in his 70s, grabbed a folding chair and charged the gunman, according to Carpenter. “He hit him with a folding chair, wrestling him to the ground, took the gun from him and hit him in the head with his own gun,” the retired pastor said.

This article originally appeared on APNews.com.

Trump Lashes out at Jan. 6 Committee as He Teases 2024 Run During Faith and Freedom Event

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Former President Donald Trump walks on to the stage to speak at the Road to Majority conference Friday, June 17, 2022, in Nashville, Tenn. (AP Photo/Mark Humphrey)

NASHVILLE, Tenn. (AP) — Making his first public appearance since the House committee investigating the Jan. 6 insurrection began its hearings laying bare his desperate attempts to subvert democracy and remain in power, former President Donald Trump on Friday lashed out at the committee as he continued to tease his plans for a third presidential run.

Speaking to religious conservatives at a sprawling resort near the Grand Ole Opry House in Nashville, Trump blasted the committee’s efforts as a “theatrical production of partisan political fiction” and insisted he had done nothing wrong.

“What you’re seeing is a complete and total lie. It’s a complete and total fraud,” he told the Faith and Freedom Coalition’s “Road to Majority” conference. He dismissed the harrowing video footage and searing testimony presented by the committee — including first-hand accounts from senior aides and family members — as having been selectively edited. And he downplayed the insurrection as “a simple protest that got out hand.”

Trump’s appearance at an event long known as a testing ground for presidential hopefuls comes as he has been actively weighing when he might formally launch another White House campaign. The debate, according to people familiar with the discussions, centers on whether to make a formal announcement later this summer or fall or, in accordance with tradition, wait until after the November midterm elections.

While allies insist he has yet to make a final decision about his plans, Trump for months has been broadcasting his intentions, and continued to tease them Friday.

“One of the most urgent tasks facing the next Republican president — I wonder who that will be,” Trump said at one point, prompting a standing ovation and chants of “USA!”

“Would anybody like me to run for president?” he asked the crowd, unleashing more cheers.

Ralph Reed, chair of the Faith and Freedom Coalition, said that, for now, “We don’t know whether or not he will run, although certainly given his speech, I think he wanted to let everybody know that that is his plan.”

Trump has spent the past year and a half holding rallies, delivering speeches and using his endorsements to exact revenge and further shape the party in his image. But some supporters say the former president, who has decamped from his Florida Mar-a-Lago club to Bedminster, New Jersey, for the summer, is also growing impatient.

While he has relished his role as a party kingmaker — with candidates all but begging for his endorsement and racking up large tabs at fundraisers in his ballrooms — Trump also misses the days when he was actually king, especially as he watches Democratic President Joe Biden struggle with low approval ratings and soaring inflation.

“I think a lot of Trump’s future plans are directly based on Biden, and I think the more Biden continues to stumble on the world stage and on the domestic stage, people forget about the downside, the dark side of Trump’s presidency,” said Bryan Lanza, a GOP strategist and former Trump campaign official.

An announcement in the near future could complicate efforts by other ambitious Republicans to mount their own campaigns. Former South Carolina governor Nikki Haley, who was ambassador to the United Nations under Trump, for instance, has said she wouldn’t run against him.

Church Shooting Survivor: Gunman ‘Disengaged,’ Sat Alone

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Church members console each other after a shooting at the Saint Stephen’s Episcopal Church on Thursday, June 16, 2022 in Vestavia, Ala. (AP Photo/Butch Dill)

The 70-year-old suspected gunman in a shooting that killed three people at an Alabama church sat by himself drinking liquor, rejecting offers to join the others gathered at the potluck dinner, before gunfire shattered the peace of the evening, a survivor recalled.

“It felt like he was disengaged,” Susan Sallin, 73, said. Sallin was seated at the same table at the “Boomers Potluck” with the three people who died in the Thursday night shooting at St. Stephen’s Episcopal Church in Vestavia Hills, Alabama.

The suspected gunman had previously attended church services and a few church gatherings for people of the Baby Boomer generation and older, but didn’t seem to interact much with others, she said. That night, he sat at a table by himself. While wine was available at the potluck, he was drinking from what appeared to be a small bottle of Scotch, and shunned invitations to join the others.

“I personally invited him to come and sit at our table twice because I wanted him to feel a sense of inclusion, but he did not come,” Sallin said. She said a woman, whose husband would be killed moments later in the shooting, “realized he had not fixed himself a plate and went up and offered to make him a plate.” He declined that as well.

Robert Findlay Smith, 70, is charged with capital murder in the shooting that killed three people. Walter Bartlett Rainey, 84, Sarah Yeager, 75, of Pelham, and another woman were killed in the shooting. Police did not release the name of the third victim, but friends referred to her as Jane.

The gathering was joyful, as the friends — who had not been able to gather as much during the pandemic — chatted about the food before them that night, their favorite cars and other light-hearted topics. Sallin said she doesn’t remember hearing any arguing or heated conversation before the gunfire suddenly erupted.

“I heard this loud metallic sound, and I thought a metal chair had fallen over on the floor. And then there was another sound, and another sound, and I realized it was a gun,” she recalled. “People were diving for the floor. I was diving for the floor. When I got down to the floor, I realized that two of my girlfriends who were sitting at the table with me had been hit.”

Sallin said she crawled across the floor to reach her friends. “I was trying to calm them and pat them and tell them, ‘You are not alone. You are not alone.’ That’s the message that I wanted them to get.”

Nearby, Linda Foster Rainey cradled her husband. According to a family statement, “he died in her arms while she murmured words of comfort and love into his ears.”

Sallin said one of the men in the group, who is also in his 70s, was able to subdue the gunman. “I did see him get the gun out of the man’s hand and hit him on the head with the gun,” she said.

The Rev. Doug Carpenter, St. Stephen’s pastor for three decades before he retired in 2005, said he understood the man hit the gunman with a folding chair before wrestling him to the ground and taking the gun.

Suspect in California Church Shooting Accused of Hate Crime

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Crime scene tape is stretched across an area at Geneva Presbyterian Church in Laguna Woods, Calif., Sunday, May 15, 2022, after a fatal shooting. (AP Photo/Damian Dovarganes)

SANTA ANA, Calif. (AP) — Prosecutors have accused a Las Vegas man of committing a hate crime by killing one person and wounding five in a mass shooting at a Taiwanese American church luncheon in California.

The Orange County District Attorney’s Office said Friday that authorities added hate crime allegations to the murder and attempted murder charges filed against 68-year-old David Wenwei Chou.

Authorities have said Chou opened fire on a May lunch gathering of members of the Irvine Taiwanese Presbyterian Church in Laguna Woods. A 52-year-old doctor who took his mother to the event was killed.

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Authorities have said Chou was motivated by hatred of Taiwan, where he was born and grew up after his family was forced from mainland China when Communists took control.

Chou is expected to be arraigned on Aug. 19. He did not enter a plea at an initial court appearance last month. Messages seeking comment were sent Friday to public defenders listed in the online court record for Chou, who is being held without bail.

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Two Nigeria Churches Attacked; Worshippers Killed, Abducted

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The attack in Kajuru area of Kaduna State targeted four villages, resulting in the abduction of unspecified number of residents and the destruction of houses before the assailants managed to escape, locals said.

It wasn’t immediately clear who was behind the attack on the Kaduna churches. Much of Nigeria has struggled with security issues, with Kaduna as one of the worst-hit states. At least 32 people were killed in the Kajuru area last week in an attack that lasted for hours across four villages.

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Worshippers were attending the church service at the Maranatha Baptist Church and at St. Moses Catholic Church in Rubu community of Kaduna on Sunday morning when “they (the assailants) just came and surrounded the churches” both located in the same area, said Usman Danladi, who lives nearby.

“Before they (worshippers) noticed, they were already terrorizing them; some began attacking inside the church then others proceeded to other areas,” Danladi said. He added that “most of the victims kidnapped are from the Baptist (church) while the three killed were Catholics.”

The Kaduna state government confirmed the three deaths by bandits who “stormed the villages on motorcycles, beginning from Ungwan Fada, and moving into Ungwan Turawa, before Ungwan Makama and then Rubu.” Security patrols are being conducted in the general area” as investigations proceed, according to Samuel Aruwan, Kaduna commissioner for security.

The Christian Association of Nigeria condemned Sunday’s attacks and said churches in Nigeria have become “targets” of armed groups.

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“It is very unfortunate that when we are yet to come out of the mourning of those killed in Owo two Sundays ago, another one has happened in Kaduna,” Pastor Adebayo Oladeji, the association’s spokesman, told The Associated Press. “It has become a recurring decimal.”

Many of the attacks targeting rural areas in Nigeria’s troubled northern region are similar. The motorcycle-riding gunmen often arrive in hundreds in areas where Nigeria’s security forces are outnumbered and outgunned. It usually takes months for the police to make arrests and authorities have identified the attackers as mostly young herdsmen from the Fulani tribe caught up in Nigeria’s pastoral conflict between host communities and herdsmen over limited access to water and land.

3 Ways to Experience ‘The Good Life’ in Jesus

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I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel a little bit like a dog chasing a car. Maybe you feel the same way.

You’re putting in your time. Working hard. Paying your dues. Keeping your head down. But every once in a while, you look up and think, “When am I going to get to where I’m going? And where am I even going?”

Really, what we want to know is when we’re going to experience the good life. We all have this sense that there is a certain person we are supposed to become—the person God created us to be. And there’s a certain life that God intended for us to have—a life that is purposeful and fulfilling.

But there always seems like there’s just one more hurdle to get there. You work hard to graduate college only to be buried by student debt. You find a job, maybe even in the field you studied for, but it turns out that you don’t even like it.

Maybe you thought you’d be married by now, and that hasn’t worked out.

Then, a global pandemic hits. Tragedy strikes. Unexpected challenges come your way. And you just never really feel like you can get ahead.

I want you to know that Jesus is offering for you to step into the good life. And not after you graduate. Not after your debt is paid off. Not after you get the job you wanted. Not after you get married. Not after you buy a house. Not after you have 2.5 kids and a white picket fence and drive a Tesla. But in the here and now.

In John 10:10, Jesus said, “I came that you might have life and have it abundantly.” And he wasn’t just talking about eternal life, payable on death. He was talking about everlasting life, where the realities of eternity break forth into the here and now.

By looking at Paul’s words in Romans 8, here are three insights into how we can begin experiencing that kind of a life in Jesus.

1. We Can Experience The Good Life In Jesus By Training Ourselves To Think Like Jesus.

For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace. For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for it does not submit to God’s law; indeed, it cannot. Those who are in the flesh cannot please God. (Romans 8:5-8)

Paul says that those who set their minds on the flesh, the fundamentally broken things of humanity, will live in a way that is incongruent with who God created them to be. But the mind that is set on the Spirit is life and peace.

So if you train yourself to think like Jesus, who is completely united with the Holy Spirit, then you will begin to experience peace. The word “peace” here relates to this Hebrew idea of shalom. And shalom isn’t just peace in the sense that nobody’s yelling at you.

7 Things Christians Should Give Up to Reach Unchurched People

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So you want your church to reach unchurched people. That’s wonderful because that’s basically the mission of the church: to share the love of Christ with the world in hopes that everyone will come into a relationship with Jesus.

The challenge is that unchurched people aren’t exactly flocking to most churches, and many Christians seem stumped as to why that is.

There are many reasons, but a surprising number center around one thing: Christians who treat the church as if it’s their private club.

The gravitational pull of human nature is toward self, not toward others, and churches behave the same way. You will focus almost exclusively on your needs and wants unless you decide not to.

And that’s exactly what far too many churches do: focus exclusively on the needs and wants of their members.

OK, it’s worse than that. Maybe it’s not even about needs and wants. Maybe it’s about preferences.

So many church leaders (staff and volunteer) struggle to lead beyond the preferences of the church members. And as soon as they try, they get inundated with complaints and angry emails. Too many Christians feel like it’s their right to have a church that caters exactly to their tastes and whims, and millions are paying the price for that (including unchurched people).

Catering to the preferences of members is a terrible idea for three reasons.

First, it’s killing the church. Attendance continues to stagnate or decline as people drift further and further from Christ (here’s a five-part blog series I did on declining church attendance).

5 Ways to Deal With DIFFICULT People

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Every pastor has to deal with difficult people, those who don’t listen. This may be due to them being unteachable and prideful, or it may be an outworking of some insecurities that they have because of their past or a combination of both. There are probably many reasons why people might not always listen to you. And in reality, this isn’t exclusive to pastors, it’s a problem that most leaders deal with. If you are in a place of influence (leadership), you might find that some people aren’t interested in what you have to say.

It gets frustrating when you find yourself telling various ministry leaders that they need to do certain things for the health and effectiveness of the ministries they serve in only to find out that other people are essentially telling them to ignore you.

I want to lay out five practical ways to demonstrate the Fruit of the Spirit when dealing with these people and this problem.

5 Ways to Deal With Difficult People

1. Even though it is deeply personal, don’t take it personally

I won’t pretend that it doesn’t really bother me when someone tells our church’s gifted music leader to disregard what I’m saying. It does.

But I have learned not to get offended because I know that bitterness can distort my ability to interact with our music leader, but also distort the way that I interact with others. You have to remember that the apostle Paul wrote to the Ephesians that “we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places” (Eph. 6:12).

This does not mean that you don’t lovingly confront people when they are perceived to be rebellious (they might not be), but that you can’t go about confronting people if you are always offended at them.

With my example, I have to assume that the enemy does not want any of our worship, whether it is through music or other means, to be glorifying to God. Therefore it makes perfect sense that there would be spiritual attacks occurring in relation to our music leader or any other leader or ministry. If it doesn’t happen, I need to ask why! 

I know some will balk at my advice to not take it personally because they tell us that rebellion is something that deeply offends God. That’s reading too much into my point. What I mean is that you shouldn’t take it personally and then respond with unrestrained anger and bitterness.

2. Take time to communicate to those who don’t listen to communication.

If there is one thing that drives me ape nuts, it’s wasting my time. I hate wasting my time doing things that are pointless. If there isn’t a purpose or function in mind, I get frustrated.

So you can imagine how I feel when it appears very obvious that I’m wasting my time talking to someone and they aren’t listening. Ape nuts is a polite way of saying that I want to punch someone something.

But if I’m honest, over the past few years I have “wasted” my time on a lot of people and you know what? I found out that the time spent wasn’t wasted.

There are many people and situations where at one time I felt like I wasn’t getting anywhere only to find out that I was wrong. Plus, if I’m honest, I am the product of people never giving up on me, even though I was probably a “waste of time.”

This just means that we need to embrace due diligence when dealing with people who don’t seem to listen. Maybe if we take the time to explain ourselves just one more time there will be a breakthrough and they will finally get it! People can be stubborn, and maybe they just need to experience or discover something for themselves before they can be supportive. Only the Lord knows.

Yes, there are times when we can “move on,” but I think that we need to be very cautious in jumping to that conclusion. God doesn’t “move on” from our failures, and we can actually live out a false gospel if we give people the impression that we’ll only work with people when they are perfect. That’s an upside down understanding of God’s grace.

So be cautious and patient and gracious and merciful as you deal with difficult people. It’s worth over-communicating.

Greg Stier’s Prayer for Hurting Young Man in Airport Sparks Important Father’s Day Reminder

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Dare 2 Share’s founder Greg Stier gave an important reminder on his Twitter page to all Christians this Father’s Day about those who are fatherless and may have wounds relating to their father: ”They need the love of the Heavenly Father.”

A “Chance” Encounter Before Father’s Day

The evangelist and discipleship trainer told his social media followers about a young man he and his wife encountered in the San Francisco airport the night before Father’s Day.

The Stiers could see that the young man, named Jesse, had never flown on Southwest Airlines before and was unaware how the airline’s seating assignments worked.

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Greg’s wife approached Jesse like a mother would a son and explained how travelers choose their seat on the plane. She then jokingly told Jesse that they would adopt him as their son until they boarded.

The young man, in his mid 20s, gladly accepted their help and jokingly called them “Mom and Dad” as they found their seats. Later, as the Stiers departed the plane, they saw Jesse in the terminal. He was confused about where his connecting flight was.

Greg approached Jesse at the prompting of his wife and helped him find his next flight. “Why were you in San Francisco?” Greg asked the young man as a way to make conversation. Jesse said he was visiting his dying grandpa, who was in the ICU.

Jesse added that his own father had just died the previous week, and that although it was an abusive relationship, his father’s death was still difficult.

“My heart broke for Jesse,” Greg wrote. “This young man was without his father and his grandpa was dying the day before Father’s Day.” This is what prompted Greg to share his own story with Jesse.

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Greg explained to Jesse that his biological father had abandoned him before he was ever born and shared how the heavenly Father had adopted him as His own son.

He shared the gospel with Jesse, explaining to him how much God loved him and how He sacrificed His own Son on the cross so that Jesse could be adopted into God’s family through simple faith in Him.

After talking for several minutes, Jesse and Greg made their way to Greg’s wife. Her eyes filled with tears when she learned Jesse’s story.

The Stiers told Jesse that their encounter was no accident and that they would be praying for him. Jesse began to weep and collapsed into Greg’s arms right in the middle of the airport with people walking all around them.

Greg shared that Jesse sobbed on his shoulder has he held him in his arms.

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The husband and wife huddled around the young man and prayed over him. “As people rushed to get home on Father’s Day all around us, we interceded for him in the middle of the airport,” Greg said. “We prayed for this now-fatherless young man who now knew about another Father who was longing to adopt him as His own.”

After they were done praying for him, Greg got Jesse’s address so that he could send him a copy of his new book “Unlikely Fighter” which tells Greg’s story growing up without a father and how Jesus changed Greg’s life.

“Pray for Jesse,” Greg asked his social media followers. “[Jesse] promised to read it and get back to me. Ask God to use this tragic situation to draw Jesse to himself.”

The evangelist reminded Christians that there are many hurting people out there today, many of whom have deep wounds from their earthly fathers. “They need the love of the Heavenly Father. They may need to shed tears of grief on your shoulder,” Greg said at the conclusion of his Twitter thread.

Greg encouraged Christians the importance of shining the light and sharing the love the Jesus today and everyday.

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