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Do You Read Your Bible Like Your Newsfeed?

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I am definitely a news junkie. This became most apparent one Sunday during the icebreaker time of a biblical womanhood course I’m teaching to the young ladies in our church.

“What’s your favorite hobby—what do you do, like, for fun?” one girl asked.

Puzzling for a moment, I ran through the possibilities: playing the piano, singing, gardening, cooking… “Well, I really like to read,” I began. A few eyes lit up, a few began that quintessential upward roll. “But actually,” I continued, “my favorite thing to read is…news.” A room full of teenagers and moms became a sea of blank faces, while I imagined them planning their exit strategy on the first week of class. Nice job, Teacher, I thought to myself. Maybe you should stick to writing, huh?

When the News Becomes News

Truth be told, I get it. Most people don’t consume the day’s events with the voraciousness of a tired mom hiding in the pantry with her hand in the M&M bag. But, well, I just love news! And boy, has this year been a whopper for New Haven Register Breaking News. Even more so recently, when the news itself has become news.

From the “fake news” phenomenon to “made-for-late-night” press briefings, nearly every news outlet has been forced into an unplanned period of self-reflection. Each network, website and radio show has undoubtedly spent some time asking itself a few pointed questions:

  • Who is our audience?
  • What do they want to hear/see?
  • How can we best position our voice to be heard?

Oh, and of course this one—Will this make money? A quick reading of these questions presents quite a contrast between the way the news is actually reported and the who, what, when, where and why you heard so much about in school. Do writers still ask themselves those questions when deciding how to frame a story? Sure. But every outlet must face the fact that the way people consume news has changed dramatically since the advent of social media.

The ramifications of these changes range from divisive to dangerous, according to Cass Sunstein in his new book #Republic: Divided Democracy in the Age of Social Media. The basic premise is this: Our usage of social media enables us to consume only the news that we want to hear, only when we want to hear it, only from a bias we agree with. This, Sunstein surmises, has contributed to your newsfeed becoming a giant self-perpetuating echo-chamber.

What in the world does this have to do with my Bible, you ask? After listening to Sunstein, I couldn’t help but wonder—if it’s that easy for modern news consumers to slip from balanced, well-rounded consumption of news to a string of opinion pieces blindly supporting our already-formed biases, how easy is it for us to consume Scripture the same way? So my point (finally, I know) is this: Do you read your Bible like your newsfeed? Do I?

Three Warning Signs You’re at Risk

The New York Times called it “The Choose-Your-Own-News Adventure”—our love of consuming news and programming catered to our individual desire to see only what we want to see, when we want to see it. On your Facebook newsfeed this comes by way of a complicated algorithm. In your consumption of Scripture, it might be more subtle. Here are a few warning signs that you might be headed toward a Create-Your-Own-Bible adventure of sorts.

  1. You frequently gravitate toward certain literary forms or sections of Scripture that make you feel good, at the expense of studying the whole counsel of God. Maybe you love the poetry of the Psalms—I know I do! Whether I’m elated or discouraged, the Psalms seem to have the perfect complement to my mood. But if I seek the Lord for mere affirmation instead of complete revelation, I am at risk of missing that complete equipping for every good work with which Paul extolls Timothy in 2 Timothy 3:16–17.
  2. You tend to skip or skim Old Testament passages when they come up on your Bible-reading plan.The Gospels? Check! Proverbs? Awesome! Esther? Cool story! But Leviticus? Ugh… If we are honest, how many of us get that sinking tell-me-when-it’s-over feeling when we are compelled to read or study the less-frequented Old Testament books. Do we skim them out of duty, neglecting to see and savor the goodness of God on every page?
  3. You’ve had the same Bible for 10 years, and you still find pages that are stuck together like new. OK, this one seems a little silly, but I have to admit that this has happened to me in the past year. I think we all know what this means: While a chunk of evangelical Christianity embarks upon a yearly journey through the whole of Scripture, I have neglected to complete the voyage even once in the last 10 years. Um, ouch. That’s all I’ll say about that one.

Why It Matters

Perhaps you already know the answer to this question. Perhaps you see, as I do, the itchy ears of Christianity at large, creeping ever nearer toward what Paul described when he said, “For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths” (2 Tim. 4:3–4).

The remedy? Paul actually gave it before the problem in this case, back in verses 1–2: “I charge you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who is to judge the living and the dead, and by his appearing and his kingdom: Preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke and exhort, with complete patience and teaching” (emphasis added).

Did you catch that? With complete patience and teaching, meaning, with complete patience and with complete teaching. We must sit ourselves under the whole counsel of God, lest we “wander off into myths,” namely, a religion of our own creation.

Why are we tempted to wander toward self-guided tours through, for example, only the pleasant pastures of New Testament Scripture when we are promised that “whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope” (Rom. 15:4)? Behold our God! Behold His Word! Here are a few tips for how to find that blessed hope on every page.

Three Preventative Measures for a Balanced Bible Feed

  1. Make sure your Bible studies actually study the BibleJen Wilkin wrote a great article contrasting Bible study with other types of church community gatherings here.
  2. Sit under expository preaching with regularity, perhaps even from multiple sources. If your pastor spends the majority of his messages studying a book or passage from start to finish, you probably hear a decent amount of expository preaching. This is great! But perhaps your pastor is going through the book of John and expecting it to take a year or more. Consider listening to additional messages from trusted sources who are preaching from elsewhere in Scripture. There’s no harm in supplementation to contribute to a balanced diet!
  3. Forget the “one-year plan” if you have to, but find a Bible-reading plan and commit to its eventual completion, regardless of how long it takes. Cross out all of the dates if it helps. If you miss a few days or weeks, get back to it. Don’t skip the long stuff. Don’t skip the hard stuff. Read each day like the hungry mom in the pantry with the M&M bag. Look for the hope of the gospel on every single page.

My friends, your Bible is not your Facebook newsfeed. There is no option to click “See more stories like this” or “See less of that.” God gave us His complete revelation—“all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence, by which he has granted to us his precious and very great promises” (2 Peter 1:3–4).

This is the real “huuuggge,” dear sisters. Let’s not be content with a fake-news, partial gospel when complete truth is available to us. This day’s news will be gone like a vapor in the 24-hour news cycle. But the Word of God stands forever. Amen!

Have you found yourself breathing a sigh of disappointment when it’s time to read your less-beloved passages of Scripture? What steps can you take today to make sure your “Bible Feed” is balanced?

This article originally appeared here.

What Is Discernment?

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Someone I know recently expressed an opinion that surprised and in some ways disappointed me. I said to myself, “I thought he would have more discernment than that.”

The experience caused me to reflect on the importance of discernment and the lack of it in our world. We know that people often do not see issues clearly and are easily misled because they do not think biblically. But, sadly, one cannot help reflecting on how true this is of the church community, too.

Most of us doubtless want to distance ourselves from what might be regarded as “the lunatic fringe” of contemporary Christianity. We are on our guard against being led astray by false teachers. But there is more to discernment than this. True discernment means not only distinguishing the right from the wrong; it means distinguishing the primary from the secondary, the essential from the indifferent, and the permanent from the transient. And, yes, it means distinguishing between the good and the better, and even between the better and the best.

Thus, discernment is like the physical senses; to some it is given in unusual measure as a special grace gift (1 Cor. 12:10), but some measure of it is essential for us all and must be constantly nourished. The Christian must take care to develop his “sixth sense” of spiritual discernment. This is why the psalmist prays, “Teach me good judgment and knowledge” (Ps. 119:66).

The Nature of Discernment

But what is this discernment? The word used in Psalm 119:66 means “taste.” It is the ability to make discriminating judgments, to distinguish between, and recognize the moral implications of, different situations and courses of action. It includes the ability to “weigh up” and assess the moral and spiritual status of individuals, groups and even movements. Thus, while warning us against judgmentalism, Jesus urges us to be discerning and discriminating, lest we cast our pearls before pigs (Matt. 7:16).

A remarkable example of such discernment is described in John 2:24–25: “Jesus would not entrust himself to them…for he knew what was in a man” (NIV).

This is discernment without judgmentalism. It involved our Lord’s knowledge of God’s Word and His observation of God’s ways with men (He, supremely, had prayed, “Teach me good judgment…for I believe Your commandments” Ps. 119:66). Doubtless His discernment grew as He experienced conflict with, and victory over, temptation, and as He assessed every situation in the light of God’s Word.

Jesus’ discernment penetrated to the deepest reaches of the heart. But the Christian is called to develop similar discernment. For the only worthwhile discernment we possess is that which we receive in union with Christ, by the Spirit, through God’s Word.

So discernment is learning to think God’s thoughts after Him, practically and spiritually; it means having a sense of how things look in God’s eyes and seeing them in some measure “uncovered and laid bare” (Heb. 4:13).

The Impact of Discernment

How does this discernment affect the way we live? In four ways:

1. It acts as a means of protection, guarding us from being deceived spiritually. It protects us from being blown away by the winds of teaching that make central an element of the gospel that is peripheral or treat a particular application of Scripture as though it were Scripture’s central message.

2. Discernment also acts as an instrument of healing, when exercised in grace. I have known a small number of people whose ability to diagnose the spiritual needs of others has been remarkable. Such people seem able to penetrate into the heart issues someone else faces better than the person can do. Of course, this is in some ways a dangerous gift with which God has entrusted them. But when exercised in love, discernment can be the surgical scalpel in spiritual surgery that makes healing possible.

3. Again, discernment functions as a key to Christian freedom. The zealous but undiscerning Christian becomes enslaved—to others, to his own uneducated conscience, to an unbiblical pattern of life. Growth in discernment sets us free from such bondage, enabling us to distinguish practices that may be helpful in some circumstances from those that are mandated in all circumstances. But in another way, true discernment enables the free Christian to recognize that the exercise of freedom is not essential to the enjoyment of it.

4. Finally, discernment serves as a catalyst to spiritual development: “The mocker seeks wisdom and finds none, but knowledge comes easily to the discerning” (Prov. 14:6NIV). Why? Because the discerning Christian goes to the heart of the matter. He knows something about everything, namely that all things have their common fountain in God. Increase in knowledge, therefore, does not lead to increased frustration, but to a deeper recognition of the harmony of all God’s works and words.

How is such discernment to be obtained? We receive it as did Christ Himself—by the anointing of the Spirit, through our understanding of God’s Word, by our experience of God’s grace, and by the progressive unfolding to us of the true condition of our own hearts.

That is why we also should pray, “I am your servant; give me discernment” (Ps. 119:125NIV).

This excerpt is taken from In Christ Alone by Sinclair Ferguson.

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Pete Buttigieg and the Quest For ‘Progressive’ Christianity

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The race for the Democratic nomination for President of the United States continues to intensify as energy builds from the almost weekly announcements of a new candidate vying for the nomination. Most recently, Vice President Joe Biden officially announced his candidacy for Commander and Chief. It came as no surprise, but now he is officially in.

Pete Buttigieg and the Quest for ‘Progressive’ Christianity

The surprise in the race is a candidate who has captured the continued (and largely adoring) gaze of the media. His name appears relentlessly in the headlines from every major media outlet. He has become a national sensation—and he is a name that very few of us knew until just a few months ago.

He is Mayor of South Bend Indiana, Pete Buttigieg.

Buttigieg’s ascension to fame and popularity comes as an anomaly. In what political climate could a major contender for the Democratic Presidential Nomination be a 37-year-old mayor from a town in Indiana?

Buttigieg, however, perhaps represents a perfect composite of what so many Democratic voters long to see in a political candidate. First, Buttigieg is young—he represents a new wave of life and vitality in a party who boasts candidates like Bernie Sanders and Joe Biden who are age 77 and 76 respectively. Buttigieg also has a sharp mind, receiving his education from Harvard University and attaining the highest academic honor as a Rhodes Scholar at Oxford University, gaining a degree in the highly acclaimed “Politics, Philosophy and Economics” program. He was also a Lieutenant in the United States Navy and served on active duty in Afghanistan.

The mayor also speaks charismatically and exudes an uncommon confidence among enormous crowds and intense media interviews. Since his candidacy began, the media has depicted him as a progressive yet sensible candidate—he couples a very leftist agenda with civility, rationality and a smile.

Pete Buttigieg is also openly gay and married to a man. Moreover, he is the only major Democratic candidate actively talking about his faith in God.

In short, Buttigieg is the very picture of a kind of diversity the Democratic Party longs to celebrate. Indeed, not only does Buttigieg represent the cherished diverse streams of liberal Democrats, he also comes across as nice—a virtue glaringly absent in much of the current political discourse.

Buttigieg packages his diverse and celebrated background with a neighborly, friendly and optimistic attitude. His congenial disposition garners him a high likeability as well as respect from those who even disagree with the mayor on almost every major policy issue.

Add it all up and you have a media sensation around an anomalous and unlikely candidate for the nation’s highest office.

Despite the media buzz, when you look closely at Mayor Buttigieg, you find a very progressive candidate. Though he asserts himself as a sane alternative to the far left fringes of the Democratic Party, his moral issues are in lock step with the most progressive wings of the leftist agenda.

Buttigieg, as homosexual married to a man, zealously advocates for pro-LGBTQ issues. When it comes to issues of abortion, Buttigieg supports an abortion-on-demand system fully funded by the taxpayers of the United States. According to Buttigieg, women ought to have the right to secure an abortion for virtually any circumstance at any point during a pregnancy.

In addition to his policy proposals, Buttigieg’s peculiarity gravitates around his openly gay lifestyle coupled with the openness of his version of Christianity. He often mentions God and the role that God has played in his life. Buttigieg represents a new kind of candidate among the contenders for the Presidential nomination—contenders who are far more secular. Buttigieg declares himself as a candidate of a robust and active faith.

The national media has zeroed in on this unlikely contender for the White House and his religion. The Washington Post published an article with the headline, “Faith, not sexual orientation, is what’s most interesting about Buttigieg.” CNN offered a headline, “Buttigieg is a symbol for a rising Christian left.” Pete Wehner at The Atlantic wrote an article with the headline, “Pete Buttigieg’s very public faith is challenging assumptions.”

Most importantly, Kristen Powers for USA Today offered this headline: “Mayor Pete Buttigieg’s countercultural approach to Christianity is what America needs now.”

In the Washington Post article, Jennifer Rubin reported, “In a speech at an LGBTQ Victory Fund gathering…Pete Buttigieg made headlines by talking about his coming out and his marriage. The South Bend, Ind., mayor spoke eloquently, but this wasn’t the most intriguing part of the speech. (What’s intriguing about his sexual orientation is that it’s not such a big to-do.) What was fascinating was that he wasn’t talking about faith as a ploy to get religious voters’ support in that setting.”

Rubin then cites an article by USA today, which states, “Jack Jacobson, an openly-gay member of the D.C. State Board of Education who attended the Victory Fund brunch, said Buttigieg’s openness about his faith is part of what makes him an authentic candidate. ‘He talked about god in a room that’s probably full of atheists. That’s What I am,’ Jacobson said. ‘He does it unabashedly and in a way that doesn’t come across as threatening, dismissive or negative.’”

Yet, Buttigieg did indeed take direct aim at Vice President of the United States, Mike Pence. Buttigieg told the crowd, “I wish that the Mike Pences of the world would understand…that if you have a problem with who I am, your problem is not with me. Your quarrel, sir, is with my creator.”

While Buttigieg acknowledges the existence of a creator, he avows that his sexual identity exists as an extension of the creator’s will—God made him that way. This is a common argument from LGBTQ activists that now rings louder with the candidacy of Buttigieg.

The argument, however, in no way squares with biblical orthodoxy or the teaching of Scripture.

Yet, Buttigieg demands that evangelical Christians ‘evolve’ their understanding of holy Scripture. The biblically orthodox interpretation of sexuality represents an antiquated morality from a culturally dated book. In Buttigieg’s view, we ought to keep the universal principles but jettison the culturally and socially inconvenient passages that do not square with our modern, moral ideology. Christians must, in short, redefine biblical sexuality in unbiblical terms.

Buttigieg’s argument presses Christians to see homosexuality and LGBTQ identity as a gift from the Creator. Failure to evolve and to adopt an understanding of the Bible freed from the pre-modern worldview puts Christians on the wrong side of history.

An article in USA Today focuses on Buttigieg’s indictment of Pence and his religious faith. Maureen Groppe writes: “It’s unusual for Democratic presidential candidates to talk about faith as often as Buttigieg does. It’s groundbreaking that he uses his marriage to another man to illustrate his personal relationship with God.”

Indeed, it is groundbreaking, but not because of a massive political shift. It is groundbreaking because of a massive theological shift, which predates the political rise of Pete Buttigieg.

In her article for the USA Today, Kristen Powers writes, “Does the country need an awakening of the Christian left? Presidential hopeful Pete Buttigieg thinks so. Mayor Pete, as he is affectionately called, is having a moment with a first quarter fundraising haul of $7 million and a third place showing in an Iowa poll at 11 percent.” Then, Powers records, “He has also stood out as a devoted Christian who is speaking against the dominance of the religious right in the public square. As Buttigieg told me in an interview Friday, ‘The left is rightly committed to a separation of church and state…but we need to not be afraid to invoke arguments that are convincing on why Christian faith is going to point you in a progressive direction.’ Buttigieg criticized right-wing Christians for ‘saying so much about what Christ said so little about, and so little about what he said so much about.’”

Powers applies Buttigieg’s formula to the evangelical conviction regarding abortion. According to Powers, Jesus never mentioned abortion at all, thereby making it a dubious issue for Christians to espouse. This line of reasoning applies to other issues like sexual orientation, gender identity and the entire spectrum of LGBTQ rights.

Then, Powers writes this astounding claim as she reflects on her interview with Buttigieg: “But nonconservative Christians generally do not receive the same level of news media attention as the religious right, despite their deep understanding of Scripture and thriving faith traditions. Because most journalists are secular, they can be gullible in looking to the religious right as arbiters of biblical interpretation, especially as it relates to hot-button cultural issues. Because of this, many Americans aren’t even aware of the rich tradition of progressive Christianity.”

Powers makes several key errors in this line of reasoning. First, she isolates the religious right without acknowledging that conservative Christian convictions on abortion and marriage and sexuality are what all Christians have believed for two millennia. Moreover, she criticizes conservative Christians for biblical interpretation on moral issues while praising the progressive ‘interpretations’ offered by Mayor Buttigieg. The problem with this, however, is that Mayor Buttigieg nowhere offered an exposition or interpretation of Scripture. He merely speaks in generalities, as if his hermeneutical claims are canon.

Try as he may, Buttigieg and progressive, liberal Protestantism cannot contort the Scriptures and make Jesus an advocate for abortion and gay marriage. To do so means that entire passages of the Bible must be ripped out of their context or denied completely. To adopt Buttigieg’s interpretation of the Bible requires an entire denial of God’s plan of revelation and the interconnectedness of each book of the Bible. Progressive Christianity necessitates replacing Christianity with an entirely new religion, refashioned in a progressive image more palatable for modernity.

Yet, what makes the Buttigieg phenomenon astounding is the cultural mood—the culture wants to talk about faith. Buttigieg’s faith, however, has no objective referent; it is a subjective faith in a false god.

But the faith that saves is not faith in faith; it is faith in Christ. Salvation comes by faith alone in Christ alone.

Yet, when the media speaks of Pete Buttigieg as an individual of faith, we must ask to what object does Buttigieg direct his faith? Moreover, what undergirds Buttigieg’s claim of faith?

Most notably, Buttigieg subscribes to Liberation theology—specifically, he espouses LGBTQ Liberation Theology. Indeed, Pete Buttigieg attended a Catholic high school as a boy and went to a Catholic university. His father, a member of the Notre Dame faculty, ascribed to a Marxist ideology. As Buttigieg speaks in his book, his father was a “man of the left.” Now, Buttigieg holds his membership at an Episcopalian church that certainly espouses the tenets of Liberation Theology. This theology replaces the authority of Scripture with the authority of human experience. Moreover, it understands sin not as a transgression against the law and character of God, but as the oppression of a minority by a majority class.

While the media and Mayor Pete claim to hold to a vibrant Christian faith, we must simply ask, “What is the faith and what is its object?”

Henry Olsen wrote a column for The Washington Post with the headline, “Conservative Christians should respond to Buttigieg the way they are commanded: With Love.” Olsen believes that Christians ought not to “cast aspersions on Buttigieg’s faith.”

Indeed, Christians should abound with Christ-like love and charity. This is a hallmark of Christ’s disciples who are filled with the Holy Spirit. However, Christians must never apologize for questioning the content and beliefs of someone’s faith—especially when that individual self-identifies as a Christian. We must judge faith by its content, not its sincerity. Indeed, we cannot judge nor should we doubt the sincerity of Mayor Buttigieg; we cannot see into his heart.

We can, however, and must analyze the operational worldview of a major contender for the White House. This marks the responsibility of not only Christians, but every individual working through the ideas and character of each of these candidates. This is not to cast aspersions on an individual’s faith but to judge its validity as a worldview governed by the Scriptures.

Finally, Ramesh Ponnuru of Bloomberg wrote an article with the headline, “What Would Jesus Do? Pete Buttigieg Has No Idea.” Ponnuru argues, “Pete Buttigieg…is one of the many candidates for the Democratic presidential nomination, but that’s not his only long shot bid. He also wants to claim Christianity for contemporary progressive politics.” Indeed, Buttigieg has said as much when on a CNN townhall, he argued that Christianity, rightly understood, naturally produces progressive politics.

This is the great danger inherent in the candidacy of Pete Buttigieg. He does not merely espouse a liberal political ideology—instead, he contends that his Christian faith leads him to no other conclusion other than a progressive agenda. He has made a theological argument for a political reality. He has reinserted liberal theology as the only viable way of reading the Scriptures. He posits a place for religion in the public square, but only a religion in line with liberal theology.

Now enters the cultural pressure directed against biblical Christians. The argument by Buttigieg amounts to nothing less the coercive capitulation—a capitulation on deep issues of eternal significance. His candidacy demands evangelical Christians to see the light of progressive reasoning and reject the antiquated dogma of a bygone era. If, and only if evangelicals capitulate on issues like marriage, gender, sexuality and abortion will we have a seat at the table of political discourse.

The candidacy of Pete Buttigieg demands our attention. Why? Not so much because of his candidacy as an individual but the ideas he espouses. He attempts to radically shift the understanding of Christianity away from its historic and biblical position.

Buttigieg may quickly drop in the polls as fast as he ascended. That is the nature of American Presidential politics. What will not depart from the political scene, however, is the idea enshrined in Buttigieg’s campaign.

The left in America desperately wants a leftist faith as its handmaiden. They want (and even demand) a new and “progressive” Christianity.

Pete Buttigieg the candidate may fail in his quest for the Democratic presidential nomination, but the secular society has no plans to give up on its goal—to see that that the arc of Christianity must bend toward its own “progressive” goals.

Mayor Pete is just the latest prophet of this new religion. He won’t be the last.

This article originally appeared here.

One Thing Two-Thirds of Parents Will Bring Their Kids to Church For

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VBS is the church activity or program or event that grabs the attention of parents who go to church and those who don’t. If you had to make a list of what a kids’ ministry and church could offer the community that resonates with parents from all types of backgrounds, what would make the top of the list?

There are not many activities hosted by a church that parents of all backgrounds share a mutual respect and trust for, but vacation Bible school is one of them. LifeWay Research recently released their findings of an extensive study done on Vacation Bible School. And there are some fascinating data points:

Parents Love VBS

Two-thirds of all adults surveyed plan on bringing a child to VBS this summer, including those parents who do not go to church anywhere.

95 percent of parents who have taken their children to vacation Bible school believe it was one of their child’s most meaningful experiences.

More than half of those adults who did not go to VBS as a child believe that doing so would have helped them understand the Bible better and contributed to their spiritual growth.

83 percent of those who don’t send their children to vacation Bible school still have a positive view of VBS.

Parents who bring their children to VBS are extremely glad they have done so. And parents who don’t go to church have a high view of and an appreciation for vacation Bible school. As the director of LifeWay Research, Scott McConnell said, “Even parents who don’t go to church want their kids to go to VBS.”

Some may consider vacation Bible school “old-school,” but the majority of parents from churched and unchurched backgrounds know what it is and will gladly send their kids to one because of the positive impact it will have on their children.

That is the quantitative data, but here is some qualitative data for you… For the last five summers, we have hosted a VBS at our home (using LifeWay’s Backyard Kid’s Club material). The week has been the highlight of our daughter’s summer and has been an incredible opportunity to provide a great environment for friends and neighbors to learn more about God and the Bible.

How to Transition Children From Elementary Ministry to Student Ministry

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It’s the time of year where lots of graduations take place. I was reminded of this last week when I was at my niece’s graduation at Samford University in Birmingham.

On of the most critical graduations that happens in children’s ministry is the transition from children’s ministry into student ministry.

One reason it is so critical is because you can lose kids during this transition if you are not intentional in your approach.

Whether you transition at the beginning or ending of summer, I want to give you some tips on how to make the transition smooth and meaningful.

Start early. By this, I mean start blending children’s ministry and student ministry three to four months before the graduation day. Here are some ideas for this.

  • Invite student ministry to teach and lead in children’s ministry several times before the graduation.
  • Invite student ministry to lead worship several times before graduation.
  • Have some open houses for student ministry so parents can come and see where their children will be taught, mentored, serve, ask questions, etc.

Partner with parents. The transition into student ministry is one of the hardest on parents. Their baby is growing up. What parenting skills do they need for this new phase? What can you do to show them everything will be just fine? How can you come alongside parents during this transition?

Involve student ministry. Often children’s ministry and student ministry operate in silos. This cannot be one of those times. As mentioned above, be very intentional about bringing student ministry leaders into the mix. Blend the two into a seamless passageway from children’s ministry into student ministry.

Have a graduation ceremony. Part of having a strategic plan for the transition is having a graduation ceremony for the kids. This should be a big, big deal. The ceremony should be for the kids and their parents. Some ideas for this that can make it extremely successful are…

  • Make it an event that all graduating children and their parents attend together. This should not be a drop-off event.
  • Have children and student ministry leaders co-teach/lead this ceremony.
  • Student ministry leaders can use this as a key time to talk about the ministry and how it helps kids continue to grow in their faith.
  • Have a certificate and small gift for each child who is transitioning into student ministry.

I have developed a kit for graduation transition that includes…

  • graduation ceremony templates
  • order of service for the graduation celebration
  • teaching outlines
  • presentation slides
  • teaching activities and games that kids and parents experience together
  • music and much more.

You can get this kit now as an instant download. And you can see more about the Graduation Celebration at this link.

Be ready for some tears during the celebration. There are some key moments when parents bless and pray over their children. Here are some real examples of this happening. Kids and parents will never forget these.

I can’t emphasize enough how important this time is. It is one of the few times when parents come to you and ask for help. What a great opportunity you have to speak into their lives. Don’t miss this incredible opportunity to impact kids and their parents.

Have a student ministry reception. Have an open house where you invite parents and kids to come and meet key student ministry leaders (student leaders and adult leaders). Provide snacks and drinks for this. Many churches will have this as part of the graduation celebration.

Be patient with parents who are freaking out. This is one of the times parents who are hanging onto their child’s elementary years will come to you with concerns, questions, etc. Listen to them. Hand them a tissue to wipe the tears away. Assure them there are amazing leaders in your student ministry that are going to welcome and invest in their child. Have some student leaders at the graduation celebration to meet the parents and spend some time talking with them and their children.

Keep them connected to children’s ministry. You will have graduating kids who want to stay connected to children’s ministry in some way. Have age-appropriate service opportunities for them. This can be things like helping run sound and screen for kids’ services. It might be serving as an assistant in a classroom with an adult leader. It might be greeting kids and families as they enter the children’s areas.

Three key things about this.

#1 – They must be connected to student ministry before they can serve in children’s ministry. You will usually have a few kids who are having a hard time connecting to student ministry. They will want to serve in children’s ministry so they don’t have to attend student ministry. Don’t allow this to happen. Make it a requirement that students who serve in children’s ministry must be connected to student ministry. They must attend student ministry services, Bible studies, events, etc.

#2 – Match responsibility with maturity. Students, especially middle school students, can still be immature and can cause more drama than they do serving help. Students have different levels of maturity. Let that guide how much responsibility you give them.

#3 – Provide them with clear expectations and specifics about what they will be doing. Have this in writing and go over with them. You can even take it to the next level by going over the guidelines and then have the student sign it. And you can invite their parents to be present with you as well when you meet for this discussion. This allows you to have more accountability with the student.

What a privilege we have to invest in the lives of kids and their families during this time. I pray God will use you and your team to help kids and families stay connected during this critical time in their life.

This article originally appeared here.

4 Reasons You Should Preach Through Zephaniah

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We can take great joy in the God who takes joy in us. Nestled in a little-read part of the Old Testament, the book of Zephaniah calls God’s people to relentless hope in the God of justice and joy.

If you preach Zephaniah to your congregation, what will they hear?

1. They’ll hear about the Day of the Lord.

Throughout the Minor prophets, God warns of a coming judgment. At times, this warning focuses upon the contemporaries of the prophet. But many instances reach far beyond. Zephaniah speaks of a day coming upon all the earth, even deconstructing the very order of creation (1:2). The day of the Lord will come upon all mankind (1:17) to humble their pride. For the wicked, that day will be one of wrath, distress, ruin and devastation (1:15) because they’ve sinned against the God of creation. But for His people, the day of the Lord brings restoration. The nations of the earth will serve and worship the Lord God (3:9–10). The proud and rebellious will be removed to leave a people humble, holy and trusting in Him (3:11–13). No longer will they know God’s chastisement, for He will remove their sin and its wages (3:14–15). The day of the Lord, then, promises both holy justice for God’s enemies and hopeful joy in salvation for His people. And each of these elements drives us to preach its fulfillment in Christ.

What Zephaniah (and other prophets) warned of still looms on the horizon of history. Paul taught that the day of the Lord would come as a thief in the night and labor pains upon an expectant mother (1 Thess. 5:2–3). It will bring the vengeance of God, punishment, destruction and banishment from the glorious presence of the Lord (2 Thess. 1:8–9). According to Peter, the day of the Lord will bring the dissolution of the created order, just as Zephaniah’s words proclaimed (2 Pet. 3:10–13). But the day of the Lord is a day of justice and joy. It delivers God’s wrath and carries His compassion. When Paul warned of the day of the Lord coming as a thief, he had already spoken of those in Christ being gathered to him when He comes with the clouds (1 Thess. 4:13–18). The return of the King, which punishes those who reject Him, also comforts those who embrace Him (2 Thess. 1:5–10). And even as the whole world will know the power of God as He de-creates the fabric of the earth, so will his people look to His promise to re-create heaven and earth as the home of righteousness (2 Pet. 3:13).

Preaching Zephaniah means preaching the day of the Lord. And preaching the day of the Lord ensures that we’ll both warn sinners and comfort the saints in view of Christ’s return.

2. They’ll hear about God’s presence.   

Preaching Zephaniah will showcase the culmination of one of the great themes of the Bible: human beings in God’s presence. From the beginning, His image-bearers enjoyed fellowship with God. He was in their midst until their sin dissolved both fellowship and proximity. But God’s grace overcame their sin. He called Abraham’s line and entered into a covenant promising to once again dwell in their midst. He commanded them to build a Tabernacle—later a temple—where His glory would dwell (Exo. 40; 1 Kings 8). But God’s presence would again depend upon His people’s obedience (Lev. 26:3–12). After generations of rebellion, Ezekiel recorded a vision of the presence of the Lord moving out of the very structure built to showcase it (Ezek. 10). But, again, God’s grace overcame rebellion. As the Apostle John tells us, His Son came to “dwell” (literally, “tabernacle”) among us (John 1:14). Following the resurrection, God still granted His presence by giving His Holy Spirit as a down payment on the future enjoyment of fellowship. The church can now bear the tag Holy Temple, not because of a visible pillar of fire and cloud, but because of the invisible presence of the Spirit of Christ (Eph. 2:21–22). This limited experience of His presence among us will one day give way to the full and unfettered enjoyment of God. Following the great day of the Lord, and the re-creation of the heavens and the earth, God will dwell among His people (Rev. 21:3), and they will behold Him for all that He is (1 John 3:2; Rev. 22:4).

What does this have to do with Zephaniah? Simple. Zephaniah’s picture of restoration puts God at the center of the celebration. We should see this as the greatest joy of being restored. Far more than all other blessings of God, we should rejoice that in that day, “The King of Israel, the LORD, is in your midst” (Zeph. 3:15).

3) They’ll hear God sing.   

We should always tell our people of God’s love for them. We should remind them that in love He predestined them to adoption (Eph. 1:5) and gave them the honor of being called His children (1 John 3:1). We should preach that God so loved them that He gave up His Son (John 3:16). We should teach them that we owe our new life in Christ to the gracious love of God (Eph. 2:4–5). But we should also show them the heart of God that brought it all to pass. Zephaniah allows us to do this.

Near the close of His prophetic word, Zephaniah paints a picture of God rejoicing over His redeemed (3:17). He not only accepts them, restores them and forgives them, He also takes joy in them. So overwhelming is God’s love and joy in His people that he exults over them with “loud singing” (3:17). In other words, the last day will be characterized, not merely by the celebration of people in their God, but by the celebration of God in His people.

When you preach Zephaniah, your congregation may not know that his name—representing God’s message—means “treasure of the Lord.” But if you preach faithfully, they’ll hear it in God’s words. And when they come into His presence on that day, they’ll hear it in His song.

4) They’ll hear the story of the gospel.

Zephaniah allows the preacher, from start to finish, to trace the story of redemption. People called to belong to God have fallen into grievous sin. God’s justice demands that He deal with evil. And yet His grace promises the removal of sin, and a time of restoration, joy and fellowship with the Lord. And we cannot grasp any of it apart from the work of Christ.

You should preach Zephaniah for many reasons. But the greatest is that it will compel you at every turn to preach Christ—crucified, risen and returning.

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COMMENTARIES

The Minor Prophets Volume 2: Micah-Malachi, by James Montgomery Boice. As an expositional commentary, this resource is a helpful example of Christian preaching from the Old Testament.

Twelve Prophets Volume 2: Micah–Malachi, by Peter C. Craigie

Old Testament Theology, by Paul House. Although he didn’t write this as a commentary, House provides very helpful notes on each Old Testament book. This a great tool that will enable you to see the big picture of Zephaniah and, therefore, help you preach each part more effectively.

This article originally appeared here.

Unplanned Movie Is Now Effectively Banned in Canada

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Moviegoers in Canada will not currently be able to see the Unplanned movie in theaters. Three of the nation’s largest distributors have rejected the movie, meaning that it cannot even receive a rating.

“We have been effectively blocked from distributing the film in Canada,” said producer Lisa Wheeler, according to Life Site News.

Unplanned Movie Rejected Because of ‘Content’

The Unplanned movie tells the real-life story of Abby Johnson, a former Planned Parenthood employee who became a pro-life advocate after witnessing an abortion. Life Site reports that for films to be legally shown in Canada and to receive a rating, they must have distributors. Three of the largest Canadian distributors, Cineplex, Landmark, and Mongrel Media, have refused to show Unplanned, citing the film’s “content” as their reason for rejecting it.

Chuck Konzelman, who wrote, directed, and produced the Unplanned movie, told Life Site in an email that when Cinemark shut them down, it closed off any chance for showing the movie in the country. “In Canada, Cineplex basically has monopolistic power,” he said. “The National Post mentions them as controlling nearly 80 percent of all movie screens, and from our limited experience, they seem to have many of the most desirable locations, in and near the major metropolitan areas. So rejection by Cineplex basically means we’re not playing in Canada.”

Konzelman says it is odd for Canada to reject an indie film that has done so well in the U.S. The movie, budgeted at $6 million, has made $18 million since its release in March, despite facing numerous obstacles. The MPAA gave the film an R-rating, presumably making it less likely that the film’s conservative target audience would go see it. This rating, according to Konzelman, “also precluded us from using the single most effective form of motion picture advertising — paid placement of our theatrical trailer before other films in theaters.”

The majority of the major television networks in the U.S. refused to promote the film. Even Google took steps that impeded Unplanned’s success when it blocked the film’s pre-lease banner ads. And that’s not to mention the fact that Twitter temporarily suspended the movie’s account during its opening weekend and then deleted most of the account’s followers, reducing them from 200,000 to fewer than 200.

The Unplanned Movie Content Is Having an Impact

Regarding the alleged reason the distributors have rejected the Unplanned movie, Konzelman told Life Site, “What’s wrong with our content?” The film has “no foul language, no nudity, no sexuality, and the only violence is that which is necessarily connected with an abortion procedure.”

Johnson has said that she is not surprised by the ban and also noted, “I have to wonder what they’re afraid of.”

The film certainly seems to be having an impact. Since its release, quite a few abortion workers have sought help from Johnson’s nonprofit, And Then There Were None. At the March for Life rally in Ottawa earlier this May, Johnson said, “We’re over a month out, and I’m still waking up to messages from people saying ‘I walked into the film pro-choice, I walked out pro-life.’ I’m getting messages from women who went into the film who were considering abortion…then walked out and chose life for their children.”

She exhorted Canadians not to shy away from standing up for the unborn: “You gotta stop being so dang polite. Life is on the line. Children are being killed, dismembered in their mothers’ wombs. There is nothing polite about abortion, and it is time for us to stop cowering to the liberal media, to your Liberal parliament. Enough is enough.”

Southern Baptists at Lowest Numbers Since 1987, But Giving Is Up

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Although the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) continues to experience declines in attendance and baptisms, giving increased by $82 million last year. The just-released Annual Church Profile (ACP) report provides an overview of 2018 statistics for America’s largest Protestant denomination.

The increased giving (totaling $11.8 billion) is one bright spot in the big-picture report. Another is double-digit growth in the number of Southern Baptist congregations within four state conventions: two in Texas, one in Virginia, and the Minnesota-Wisconsin Baptist Convention.

Only three-fourths of SBC churches participated in the 2018 ACP, which is compiled by LifeWay Christian Resources and state conventions.

Because the ACP relies on voluntary reporting, it doesn’t tell the whole story, says Scott McConnell, executive director of LifeWay Research. But denominational leaders say it’s valuable because it points to areas needing improvement.

Southern Baptist Giving and Missions Are Both Up

This is the second year in a row that the SBC saw an increase in total church receipts and undesignated receipts. Mission expenditures reached $1.17 billion, and Great Commission Giving was at $572 million. Donations to the denomination’s Cooperative Program weren’t included in the totals.

“I was encouraged by the slight increases in giving,” says SBC President J.D. Greear. “I look forward to ongoing discussions about our generosity and how our systems can best aid in effective partnership toward the Great Commission.”

The increases come as the denomination faces a sexual abuse scandal and looks for ways to improve safety and restore its reputation.

Membership, Attendance, and Baptisms Are Down

SBC membership, now at 14.8 million, is at its lowest since 1987. That’s a decrease of 1.28 percent (192,404 people) from last year. Membership, which peaked in 2006 at 16.3 million, has now declined for the 12th straight year.

Average weekly attendance at SBC churches declined 0.43 percent, to 5.3 million. The number of churches in the denomination ticked downward by 0.19 percent, to 47,456.

“Facts are our friends, even when the facts themselves are unfriendly,” says Adam Greenway, president of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. “Heartbreaking to see these ACP declines. We must do better as Southern Baptists. God help us.”

Baptisms are at an all-time low in the denomination, at 246,000 last year. That’s a drop of three percent from 2018, though the decline slowed from the nine percent experienced in 2017. “Like many, I am discouraged to see 7,000 less baptisms this year,” says Greear. “It is the Lord who saves, but this information should spur us on even more to be intentional in evangelism.”

Although the new ACP “contains news that concerns us greatly,” says SBC Executive Committee president and CEO Ronnie Floyd, “we need to celebrate every life who was positively impacted by the Gospel.” He says the denomination must “press reset spiritually and strategically.”

Urgency is not an option for any of us as Christ-followers,” Floyd adds. “People need Jesus, and they need Jesus now. Our generation of Baptists must believe and determine now that we will do whatever it takes to present the Gospel of Jesus Christ to every person in the world and to make disciples of all the nations.”

Spitting Fire: How Genre Influences Preaching James

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I raised my son Joseph on a steady diet of Bob Dylan. I wasn’t too surprised, therefore, when Joseph became a fan of the young indie-rock and folk songwriter Connor Oberst. Joseph noticed similarities between the younger artist’s writing style and the familiar phrasing found in some of Dylan’s early work.

One day my son read an article in which Oberst was questioned about whether or not he felt his writing had been influenced by Dylan. His answer was classic. Connor Oberst said Dylan “spits fire.”

Spitting Fire: How Genre Influences Preaching James

I’ve thought of that oblique analogy when I’ve read or preached from the book of James. James “spits fire.” His words are full of heat, and sometimes he can burn with his scorching pronouncements (for instance, in 4:2 he seems to accuse someone of murder).

We know James is probably the most direct and confrontational of any book in the New Testament, which raises a question. What is James exactly? In other words, what kind of literature is it? And does the answer to that question affect how we preach it?

James often sounds like an Old Testament prophet. He’s direct and uses imperatives more frequently than any other New Testament writer. At other times his tone is surprisingly pastoral, addressing his readers at least 15 times as “my brothers” or even “my beloved brothers.”

Attempting to outline James only highlights the sometimes frustratingly elusive nature of the book’s form, because it defies a familiar or simple structure. We aren’t the first to notice the literary “starts and stops, twists and turns” of James.

Still, in spite of its obvious challenges, James does have form and fits into the larger genre of the epistles. For example, James begins with a typical epistolary greeting identifying a sender and recipients (James 1:1).

It is true James also exudes the tone of Jewish wisdom literature in places, and lends itself to paraenesis (a kind of generic proverbial literature). That being said, there is still no compelling reason not to interpret and preach James using the same basic hermeneutical guidelines of other epistles.

So, while both acknowledging and yet setting the literary peculiarities and structural uniqueness of James aside, what are some of the interpretive guidelines to remember when preaching the letter? For one thing, you should lean heavily on the imperatives. Where the circumstances of the ancient world correspond to the circumstances of our own, you can apply James to your situation with unflinching authority.

If the situation in James doesn’t appear to have an immediately obvious contemporary comparison, then rely on context to guide you to the larger principle being addressed. In that way, you will usually see a contemporary preaching application. For instance, when James advises sick people to call for the elders for prayer and anointing with oil (5:14), we acknowledge that’s good spiritual advice. In the 21st century, however, we would likely advise sick church members to also see a doctor. The larger principle of praying for the sick, including anointing with oil if you choose, is still an overarching spiritual principle about the power of prayer and can be preached today, while not ignoring the obvious medical advances of the last 2,000 years.

Now, let’s say you’re ready to convert exegesis to exposition. I have one other encouragement drawn from the genre of James itself. Don’t water it down!

James is direct. So don’t lose the thrust of the original timbre when preaching it—in other words, don’t dilute the tone.

God intended James to speak with a prophetic edge in the first century. We can be assured He will still use the straight talk of the text today.

It’s reasonable to conclude the Holy Spirit inspired not only the individual words of James, but the genre and tone of the words expressed as well. So, exegete carefully. Illustrate clearly. Apply deftly. And when you’re preaching James, don’t preach some plain vanilla version. Get up and spit fire!

This article originally appeared here.

How to Turn 5th Sundays Into Family Invite Days

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For me, fifth Sundays has always felt like a natural Sunday to do something different than normal. But our church has always struggled to figure out what exactly that different-than-normal thing should be.

We’ve tried missions’ Sundays, experiential Sundays, game-show Sundays, you name it. But it’s always felt kinda unfocused; like we weren’t doing it with the impact we could. So this year we sat down and decided to get really intentional with fifth Sundays.

We prayed and asked God what he wanted us to focus on, and the word he gave was “plant,” from 1 Corinthians 3:6 where Paul says, “I planted the seed in your hearts, and Apollos watered it, but it was God who made it grow.”

We feel like we do a decent job at watering (although there’s always room for improvement), but we haven’t been planting as many seeds of the Gospel as God wants us to in our community.

So we ended up deciding to leverage fifth Sundays to be planting days.

To the kids and families in our church we call them “Invite Days.”

The idea is really simple: Through the lens of a lost family, you ask yourself, What could we do at our church that they would be excited to come to?

It doesn’t have to be expensive or labor intensive.

It just has to be something special that your lost neighbors and friends would want their kids to experience.

For example, on the fifth Sunday in January, we are doing an indoor snow day.

The day’s gonna consist of: 1) a Large Group Game, 2) a Snowball Fight, 3) a Hot Chocolate/Apple Cider Bar and Popcorn, and 4) a Gospel Presentation.

For the game we’re having five kids come up, put vaseline on their cheeks and chins, and stick their faces in a bowl of cotton balls for one minute to see who can get the nicest beard (all you need is a jar of vaseline and cotton balls).

For the snowball fight, we’re splitting the group into two teams, giving them 10 minutes to build a fort using cardboard boxes and folding chairs, and then giving them “indoor snowballs.” (Here’s a link; they are $30 for 50.)

For the popcorn, our church owns a popcorn machine, but you could just get giant bags of popcorn at Walmart on the cheap.

You can also purchase big containers of hot chocolate mix and apple cider mix at Walmart relatively inexpensively.

For this event, our costs are going to be around $200, and we’ll only need five or six volunteers.

Side note, we haven’t actually done this event yet, so we don’t know how well it will work, but the more important point is that you can do something different on fifth Sundays without breaking the bank or your volunteers’ backs to reach lost families in your community.

As some more examples to help get you thinking; here’s our ideas for the rest of the year:

April: We’re going to have outdoor games and a picnic.

July: We’re going to have a water day.

October: We’re going to have a Fall Festival during and after services instead of on a separate day.

December: We’re going to have a pancake breakfast with entertainment.

Do you have any ideas for great Fifth Sunday Invite Days? Leave a comment.

This article originally appeared here.

Why Confrontational Evangelism Must Stop Now

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Why Confrontational Evangelism Must Stop Now

Confrontational evangelism: “the kind of evangelism that communicates the Gospel in an abrasive, in-your-face way.”

I’ll never forget taking an outside escalator in Las Vegas down to the street level with my then 12-year-old daughter, Kailey. There were hundreds of people on the sidewalk below us as we descended toward the large crowd.

At the bottom of the escalator was a man with a repent sign and, no joke, a bullhorn. He incessantly yelled “Repent!” at all the people coming down the escalator and others walking by.

My daughter turned to me and asked, “Daddy, what is that man doing?” I replied, “He is attempting to share the Gospel with the crowd here.” She said, “Daddy, I think your way is much more effective.”

My way isn’t really even my way. It’s the way you see modeled in Scripture. It’s good news people sharing the good news of Jesus in a good news way.

You may be thinking, “Well, didn’t Jesus preach to people on the street?” And, you’d be right. But he did it in a relational way. He provided healing for their bodies and food for their stomachs. And he shared hope with them in a loving and powerful way.

And, yes, Paul did “street preaching” too. But he did it in a relational way, not an abrasive way. In Acts 17:22,23 he starts his outdoor sermon with these words, “Men of Athens, I notice that you are very religious in every way, for as I was walking along I saw your many shrines. And one of your altars had this inscription on it: ‘To an Unknown God.’ This God, whom you worship without knowing, is the one I’m telling you about.

Instead of just screaming “repent” and reminding his audience of pagan philosophers that they were on a highway to hell, he found common ground and used it to introduce them to the Gospel story.

In a sense, all evangelism should be relational. In other words, it should be done in a way that seeks to build bridges instead of walls.

Some would call confrontational evangelism any kind of evangelism that happens outside of an already existing relationship. The idea is that if you don’t have a relationship then you haven’t “earned the right to be heard” with that person.

But Jesus had no previous relationship with the woman at the well in John 4. But, in a very relational way, he asked her for a drink of water. This shocked the woman because Jewish men didn’t talk with Samaritan women in this culture. And, of course, this led very quickly to a conversation and a conversion.

Was that “confrontational evangelism“? I submit that it was more relational than confrontational.

Of course there are truths that confront people’s hearts when we share the Gospel. We share the good news that God loves us and then the bad news that our sins separate us from him before we share the great news that Jesus died in our place for our sins. And, sometimes, the truth about sin stings. So we double down on communicating these hard truths in a loving way.

Here’s how Paul instructs Timothy to share the Gospel with opposing false teachers in 2 Timothy 2:24-26, “A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth. Then they will come to their senses and escape from the devil’s trap. For they have been held captive by him to do whatever he wants.”

Sounds pretty relational to me.

My friend Dave Gibson is the most relational evangelist I know. From friends, neighbors, baristas, flight attendants and restaurant servers he is constantly engaging people in conversations. He then gently turns the conversation toward spiritual things and, inevitably, gets to the Gospel. I’ve witnessed him witness to countless people and have never seen him do “cold turkey” evangelism in a confrontational way.

He turns cold turkey into a warm panini and then serves it up with a smile. He does all of his evangelism, like Jesus, in a relational way.

At Dare 2 Share we train teenagers to “ask, admire and admit” when they share their faith. They ask questions to get to know somebody, admire what they can about what they believe and then admit the reason they’re a Christian is that they are so messed up they need Jesus to save them.

Then we train teens to naturally move on to have a Gospel conversation. This relational way of engaging Gospel conversations can be done with strangers and with friends alike.

What we have seen is that the more teenagers can learn to have Gospel conversations the less likely they are to make evangelistic presentations. This is a powerful, practical and super relational way to share the good news.

Sometimes Christians tell me they never share the Gospel with a stranger because they only believe in relational evangelism. Many of these believers categorize any evangelism style they are not comfortable with as “confrontational” and, sadly, miss many opportunities to share the Gospel with people they meet throughout the day.

I think Satan has built a stronghold in many believer’s hearts when it comes to evangelism. He built it to keep them from evangelizing.

Here’s what God’s Word tells us about strongholds, “For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” 2 Corinthians 10:3-5.

Let’s demolish the strongholds in our hearts that are keeping us from speaking the truth in love to friends, neighbors, family members and the “strangers” we meet along the way. Let’s do all evangelism in a relational, non-confrontational way that seeks to win people over before winning their souls.

Let’s be good news people who speak the good news of Jesus in a good news way. No more confrontational evangelism please!

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4 Truths for Grandparents to Embrace

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These are wonderful truths for grandparents to embrace as they’re part of their grandchildren’s faith journey.

Vacation requests were approved and tickets bought. Beds were ready and the refrigerator was stocked. Finally, the day came! Our three grandchildren were on their way for their annual visit. Fully prepared, Ron and I got to the airport extra early. We got our passes, went through security and found our way to the gate. While other flights came and went, we grabbed a Starbucks and waited. Close to arrival time, we headed back to the gate. What a shock! Our grandkids were waiting for us, wondering if we had forgotten them. Clearly, this was not a strong start. Hugs broke the tension and fears turned to laughter.

Once home, we asked a risky question, “If you could do anything in San Antonio, what would it be?” Then we took an even greater risk and asked, “What part of the Bible do you want to read while you are here?” Without any pause, Annalyse, our 10-year-old, said, “Esther.” The VeggieTales version had stirred her imagination. She wanted to learn more about this “beauty queen.” We all agreed, and every night that week, we enjoyed time with Esther and God.

Our position as the “grands” of our family gives us purpose and delight. With life’s long-range view, we see four ways childhood is a unique time to invest in the lives of our grandchildren:

Childhood is a great time to impress kids with the gospel

Kids are easily impressed. They admire people who are beautiful, intelligent and have accomplished great things. Leave children to understand life from various teachers, video games, friends, movies and social media, and they will veer off into a worldview that is at odds with the Bible’s. Kids are impressionable because God made them this way. Childhood is the time God has designed to capture their imaginations with the wonder of the gospel.

Childhood is the time to instill good spiritual habits

Kids can’t live on candy bars! Childhood is the key time to build strong bodies and minds. Poor nutrition stunts kids’ growth and leaves them open to disease. We feed them balanced meals, give them vitamins and make sure they get enough sleep. Childhood is also the time to build spiritually healthy kids. 1 Timothy 4:8 says, “Physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.”

Childhood is a great time to bend a kid’s heart toward God

Children’s bodies are flexible and so are their minds. The world is waiting to squeeze a child into its mold. Smartphones give kids full access to the world—good, bad and indifferent. Their opinion on everything from the latest styles to sexual identity is influenced by whatever website they’re on.

God made your child’s mind and heart pliable for a reason. Children are not yet skeptical, judgmental or cynical. They are ready to listen and believe what you tell them about God. Even at a young age, children can grasp something of the beauty of God’s character.

Childhood is a time to prepare a young heart to follow Jesus

Our spiritual enemy tempts us to think: “We don’t know enough to teach and train our kids to follow Jesus.” “The church will take care of this.” But God values children and he “gifts” them to us. Psalm 127:3 tells us, “Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him.” Children do not really belong to us—they belong to God. He places children in our family, church and neighborhood. We introduce them to God and show them with our words and lives what it means to follow Jesus.

With these truths in view, we set out to teach our grandchildren the gospel with our lives and words. We prayed that God would use both our daily activities and Bible reading for our grandkids to know him better. By day we tubed down the Guadalupe River, hiked up Enchanted Rock and talked about God’s glory in creation. At night we rearranged activities to make Esther a priority. We simply read, and God brought the story to life. We giggled and marveled and shouted, “Yeah, God!” when the tables turned on Haman. Reading God’s Word was fun.

Ron and I love our role as the “grands” of our family. With the time we have left we plan to reach the next generation in our family. God has made it our purpose and delight to take full advantage of the uniquely designed time of childhood. With the Lord’s help, we will use our words and lives to tell our grandchildren of His praiseworthy deeds, so they will put their trust in Him (Psalm 78:5-7).

One way to invest in your grandchildren this Christmas is with an Advent devotional. Barbara Reaoch wrote A Jesus Christmas to focus our children’s hearts on Jesus in the midst of Christmas excitement. Why not buy a copy for your grandkids and their parents to go through during Advent. Buy your copy here.

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Taught by a Woman

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When my husband first approached me with the idea of teaching at an all-male Bible study, I laughed and said, “Why would I teach an all-male Bible study?” My question was rhetorical, but he answered anyway.

“The men are inviting a group of women to join them this week. The leaders think having a woman teach will make the women more comfortable.”

I snickered and asked, “What about the guys? How will they feel about listening to a woman lead their Bible study?” The all-male group—primarily comprised of collegiate football players—typically studied New Testament passages taught by respected athletes. Would those men really want to listen to a female teach out of the Old Testament?

“Lindsey, you’re qualified to do this, and you were specifically chosen to do this,” he replied. “I promise, it’ll be fine.”

The Teaching Woman

The previous year I started teaching at my university’s worship service. Not long after I took on that role, my Campus Ministries Director asked, “Has anyone given you flack for being a woman teacher?”

“No, not yet,” I responded.

“Well, if someone says something directly to you, then you can always send that person to me. I can give a defense for choosing a woman to teach.” I smiled and nodded my head, but I had already prepared my defense. I knew I was qualified to teach and I was ready to stand up to anyone who dared to call me unqualified.

Throughout my year of teaching at the worship service, no one I knew directly told me I was not qualified to teach men. John Piper, however, expressed that idea on the internet. In his article about why a seminary should not allow women to teach men, Piper wrote, “If it is unbiblical to have women as pastors, how can it be biblical to have women who function in formal teaching and mentoring capacities to train and fit pastors for the very calling from which the mentors themselves are excluded?” He said that a woman’s lack of intelligence was not the issue. Neither did he believe women to be incompetent. A woman’s deficiency in pedagogical skills or leadership did not disqualify her from teaching men. Piper said that the only biblical reason for barring an otherwise qualified person from teaching men is if they are not one.

Piper was referring to women teaching at a seminary. However, at the undergraduate level both sexes questioned their views on a woman’s role in the body of Christ. Women teachers like me experienced uncertainty. If I was barred from teaching at the seminary level, could I even teach future pastors at a university worship service? I was chosen to speak at that worship service in order to prepare me for my future ministry as a teacher. While one of my professor’s unceasingly encouraged me to get a Ph.D. and teach seminarians, Piper made me wonder if I even had a future in teaching and preaching.

Teaching Men to Lament

I kept thinking about John Piper as I prepared to teach at the co-ed Bible study. I was free to pick any passage and I chose to explain the importance of lament psalms. When I told my husband that I planned to explain why we should lament, I could tell he was apprehensive. The men were used to studying the writings of Peter. They had just finished discussing Paul’s instruction to rejoice always. My husband knew the men in the Bible study were not used to discussing the other side of the emotional spectrum. They rarely expressed heartache or admitted to feeling it at all. How would they react to a woman teaching them to express their emotion through lament psalms? I assumed that even if the men refused to listen to me, at least the women in the crowd would appreciate what I felt the Holy Spirit urging me to say.

But where were the women? As I looked around the apartment before beginning the Bible study, I realized I was surrounded by men. I could only find one woman in the crowd, and she was sitting on a couch sandwiched between male college athletes. I realized then the women’s group decided not to attend the Bible study. My hands began to shake as I analyzed my audience: football players, ROTC members, and men who looked like they probably hadn’t cried since birth. “Why did I choose lament psalms?” I wondered as I opened my Bible. “Why did I say yes to this? They’re not going to listen to me.”

I began discussing a particular lament psalm. Then something broke the silence I was expecting to carry throughout the study. The sound of pens clicking. These men were writing inside notebooks. They were actually taking notes. When I asked if they had any questions, immediately they wanted to know how to lament. They sought to understand how voicing gratitude and grief can coexist in the same prayer.

I questioned whether I was the right person to help them apply what we had just studied. I was not a college-aged man. I certainly could not comprehend how those men handled their emotions. And yet, as those attentive men stared at me with eagerness in their eyes, I realized I was the right person to lead that conversation. I brought a different perspective to the table. As a woman, I could tell them, “I know society has taught you that in order to ‘be a man,’ you have to ‘stop crying like a girl.’ That’s is a toxic view of masculinity.” Hearing those words from a woman’s mouth resonated—like a weight being lifted from their shoulders, they realized that women see the unfair, societal expectation for men to be unemotional. They were genuinely interested in learning from me.

Before the Bible study came to a close, they began to discuss their emotions with one another. They revealed how they tend to mishandle their emotions, holding it all in rather than letting it all out. I explained that the scriptures illustrate how children of God can come to their Father with grief. I watched as these men grew in their understanding of how a person of faith can communicate honestly with God.

Most of the men in that room had never seriously studied the psalms. One man even said, “It’s neat to see the close relationship between God and man in this psalm. I didn’t think the Old Testament was very relational.” A man can certainly highlight the emotional, relational elements in the scriptures. But perhaps a woman can make significant contributions to that area of observation as well. A woman’s insight, over and above her competency, intelligence and pedagogical skills, reinforces the value in her perspective on the scriptures.

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You Can Tune A Piano, But You Can’t Tuna Fish (And Other Keyboard Basics)

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You Can Tune A Piano, But You Can’t Tuna Fish (apologies to REO Speedwagon). While a keyboard can sound similar to a piano, there are a lot more sounds that can come out of a keyboard along with being able to shape those sounds in unique ways. Here are some keyboard mixing basics:

A decent keyboard/synthesizer will:

  • Contain 61 or more keys, preferably 88 — think number of octaves.
  • Have weighted and velocity sensitive keys.
  • Have Left and Right direct output plugs (usually ¼ inch).

Such keyboards are also known as keyboard workstations.

Connection to the system is either direct from the keyboard into your mixer or going from the keyboard into a DI and then into the mixer.

Keyboard Sound Frequencies

Regarding the frequencies that can be produced, check out this page with a chart of precise note-to-frequency information.

For a keyboard/synth, I’m using the table for an organ as most keyboards do a good job duplicating organ sounds.  According to the table, it goes from C0 (16 Hz) to A9 (7,040 kHz). Pretty huge range. Then there’s the fundamental, 2nd through 6th harmonics, and harmonic undertones.

SOUND FREQUENCY
RANGE
FUNDAMENTAL
FREQUENCY
HARMONICS (2nd – 6th) HARMONIC UNDERTONES
Keyboard / Synth 20-4000 2010-4020 6030, 8040, 10050, 102060 1005, 670, 502, 402, 335

All of a sudden a keyboard/synth doesn’t seem as simple anymore, does it? Don’t despair. It’s not as complicated as it seems.

Mixing Keyboards

First thing I do is listen to the actual instrument on stage without anything going into the FOH system. I try to get a mental picture of how the instrument sounds naturally. Then I’ll ask the talent to leave the volume control in one place (usually ½ – ¾ level) and not adjust it. That way I’ll have a consistent level signal coming into the mixer.

I set the gain the same way I set the rest of the instruments. Once I check to see if the volume level is adequate in the mix, then I start working with the EQ settings.

Every song is different so my mix can vary but in general, these are my primary mix areas:

  • I roll off some of the bottom around 100-150Hz to allow for the bass guitar and kick to play happy with the keys. If I don’t have a bass guitar then I may leave some in to help the kick.
  • I evaluate the 250Hz area to see if cutting some out cleans up the low-midrange muddiness that can happen with certain keyboards.
  • My next check is the upper-frequency range of 10-16kHz to see if I can air out or brighten the keyboard to come out into the mix.
  • I may cut back some 1kHz to 3kHz if the keyboard is competing with a female vocalist.

That’s just if the keyboardist is using a piano sound.

Once they go into different pads and sounds is when you have to adjust where the keys set in the mix. If they’re playing synth pads as an underlayment you’ll want to back off the highs a bit so it sits back in the mix. If the keyboard/synth is doing the entire Hillsong United inventory and plays a very prominent role in the mix then accentuate the higher end to bring it forward in the mix.

Be careful with either end of the frequency spectrum with the keyboards. Quite a few can easily hit a very annoying bass note or cut your head off with the upper register.

Once you think you’ve got the sound where you want it, have the talent play scales from bottom to top to verify that there aren’t any frequencies that are too intense. Then have them play chords and single-notes. That will tell you if the combination of the chords bring muddiness into the mix.

I usually won’t put effects or dynamics on a keyboard since usually the pads and sounds can have their own built-in.

I hope this has helped as a primer to getting a keyboard/synth mixed into a live session.

 

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Pastor: Stop Cohabiting and the Church Will Pay for Your Wedding

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In his sermon last Sunday, a pastor in Texas challenged cohabiting couples to choose one of three options: break up, get married, or date without living together. Bryan Carter, who is the senior pastor of Concord Church in Dallas, said that the church will pay for the weddings of those who want to get married and also pay one month’s rent for those who decide not to marry.

“The Gospel is redemptive,” said Carter, according to Faithwire. “The Gospel never leaves us where we are; the Gospel brings about restoration and change in our lives and we believe that, as the church, that’s what we do.”

The Carters’ Story

The issue of cohabitation is one that is personal to Pastor Carter and his wife, Lady Stephanie Carter. Before Pastor Carter began his sermon, he and his wife shared that they lived together for a period of time while they were engaged. They didn’t deliberately set out to cohabit, but ended up in that situation when Pastor Carter got kicked out of his house. When that happened, he showed up on his future wife’s doorstep and simply stayed. At the time, he was a preacher and an assistant pastor. How did she feel about him moving in?

Lady Carter knew it was wrong, but admitted, “I’d be lying in church if I said I was not super excited.” The Carters didn’t say how long they lived together, but the pastor said there were two reasons why he finally moved out. One was they had struggled with purity while dating and were trying to do better. But the second reason was that Pastor Carter’s brother offered to pay the first month’s rent when Pastor Carter moved out. Said the pastor, “That really was a game changer for us.” They were in a tough situation, and having help enabled them to get out of it.

The Sermon

The sermon on cohabitation is actually one Pastor Carter gives every few years. Since he began challenging people to stop living together, close to 60 couples have gotten married. He began his sermon by defining cohabiting as, “Two unmarried adults living together having a sexual relationship for a period of at least one day.” “One day” is in the definition, explained Pastor Carter, because most people don’t intentionally decide to live together. They just sort of “slide” into it. Living together might last a while, Pastor Carter said, but it starts with one day.

He then elaborated on five myths people use to justify cohabitation, after which he issued his call to action. You can see an outline of the sermon below:


How People Are Responding

Pastor Carter told Faithwire that cohabitation has “been an ongoing issue at the church and in the community.” If couples choose to get married, the church will not only pay for everything that a wedding entails, such as the dress, tuxedos, rings, etc., but will also provide 90 days of marriage counseling. Pastor Carter says he’s aware that marriage might not be the best decision for all couples, which is part of the reason why the church requires marriage-minded couples to take premarital counseling.

So far 25 couples have taken the church up on the offer of a free wedding, some have moved out, and some have even accepted Jesus.

People’s response to the challenge has been positive, with many saying how encouraging it is to see a church not only asking people to meet a higher standard but also walking alongside them as they do.

One woman said, “Just found it so inspiring as often people are told how they should live but you are showing such generosity to support couples in making these changes.”

Some commented that their churches couldn’t do something similar because they don’t have the resources to offer free weddings or pay for people’s rent. Pastor Carter responded, “Definitely understand but members often sponsor couples to cover costs and local businesses have also partnered.” He added that church members can help in various ways, such as with wedding planning or by doing makeup.

Pastor Carter also noted that his church is not trying to force anyone to do anything: “It wasn’t an ultimatum but we hosted a meeting after service for anyone that wanted to take one of these paths. It was completely voluntary. We’ve discovered people need help and we just wanted to be available.”

The whole point, said Pastor Carter in his sermon, is to help people honor the Lord and experience the flourishing that comes when they obey Him:

“Our goal is to give you a pathway into honoring God in your relationship. The church is not just about calling up where we’re short. The church is also a place where you can find hope and healing and restoration and redemption for wherever you might be in your life.”

Kenneth Copeland: Scripture Says It’s Good To Be a ‘Very Wealthy Man’

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Televangelists of the prosperity persuasion are hard for your average church-goer to understand. Most of us can’t reconcile a preacher wearing $2,000 shoes while preaching, let alone a preacher who needs his own private jet. Yet, Kenneth Copeland continues to be completely unapologetic for his lavish lifestyle. In a recent interview, Copeland gleefully told a reporter he’s a “very wealthy man” and that Scripture defends his lifestyle.

“It takes a lot of money to do what we do,” televangelist Kenneth Copeland told a reporter who caught him getting into a vehicle in Branson, Missouri.

Copeland claims his ministry has brought 122 million people to believe in the Lord Jesus Christ. He made sure Lisa Guerrero with Inside Edition heard this number.

All this soul-winning would not be possible without the ability to travel using private jets, he explains. Besides, Tyler Perry “made that airplane so cheap for me, I couldn’t help but buy it,” Copeland says with a smile, referring to the Gulfstream 5 jet that he recently bought.

Why Does Kenneth Copeland Believe Flying Commercial Means Flying With Demons?

Guerrero asked about a controversial statement Copeland made about commercial airplanes. While speaking to fellow televangelist and private-jet-owning Jesse Duplantis, Copeland called commercial airplanes “long tubes with a bunch of demons.” Guerrero asked why Copeland calls people who fly commercial demons.

“No, I do not. And don’t you ever say I did,” he said, pointing his finger rather menacingly in Guerrero’s face. “It’s a biblical thing, a spiritual thing. It doesn’t have anything to do with people.” Copeland then paraphrased Ephesians 6:12, which talks about wrestling with “principalities, powers, and the rulers of darkness and not against “flesh and blood.”

Some people are alcoholics, who fly commercial he explained. “Do you think that’s a good place for a preacher to be and prepare to go preach to a lot of people?”

“So you don’t want to be around a bunch of sinful people, is that what you’re saying?” Guerrero asked.

“Not the people, baby, not the people,” Copeland said in a reassuring tone.

Have Fancy Clothes, Will Preach?

Copeland’s ministry owns two airplanes that they “use all the time.” And one other small one, he said as an aside. Inside Edition reports Copeland also has an airport next to his mansion in Newark, Texas.

“I could no longer do what I’m called to do and be on the airlines. Besides that, I need my clothes when I get there.”

“You have some very fancy clothes,” Guerrero says. Copeland did not deny it. In fact, he looked gleeful as he said “Yes I do. I’m a very wealthy man.” He also admitted to using his private jets to visit his vacation homes, one of which is located in Steamboat Springs, Colorado.

But, he argues, his wealth doesn’t come from offerings alone. He sells books and resources to his followers. Plus “I have a lot of natural gas on my property,” he says with a wide grin.

Study: Younger Churchgoers Have Low Tolerance for Sexual Misconduct

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Churches, like other American institutions, continue grappling with the risks of sexual abuse and the fallout for victims. According to a new study from LifeWay Research, most people in the pews feel safe at their own church but believe the abuse crisis isn’t over. Members also tend to believe that their own churches are now better prepared and equipped to protect children. And younger churchgoers indicate they’re less likely to tolerate sexual misconduct and more likely to leave a church because of it.

For its “2019 Sexual Misconduct and Churchgoers Study,” LifeWay surveyed 1,815 Protestant adults, including 457 Southern Baptists, asking about their experiences and perceptions of abuse. The sexual abuse advisory group established by Southern Baptist President J.D. Greear encouraged LifeWay to conduct the survey. Denominational leaders have been calling for change in light of an abuse scandal that has received extensive media coverage.

“Protecting people from abuse of any kind should be of utmost importance to churches,” says Brad Waggoner, acting CEO of study sponsor LifeWay Christian Resources. “It’s imperative churches are safe places for people to hear the gospel and grow in their walk with Jesus Christ.” 

Perceptions Often Conflict With Reality

Most survey respondents are confident that their own churches are safe. Ninety-three percent say adults at their church are protected against sexual assault, and 94 percent say children and teens are protected there.

As a result, when abuse comes to light, churchgoers often struggle with their perceptions about the congregation as a safe haven. “Far too often,” says abuse survivor Joshua Pease, “this leads to minimization, victim blaming, and denial.”

Another key finding: One-third (32 percent) of Protestant churchgoers say they believe many more pastors have sexually abused children or teenagers than have been reported. And 29 percent say the same thing about sexual abuse toward adults.

“There is kind of that sense that there’s going to be a lot more stories coming out,” says Scott McConnell, executive director of LifeWay Research. “When almost a third of churchgoers sense there is an avalanche of abuse and assault cases coming, Protestant churches must address this head-on, even if few say they actually know someone whose abuse is still hidden.”

Because “perception is reality,” McConnell adds, churches must keep working to overcome “some negative perceptions, some negative branding, some negative connotations when it comes to sexual misconduct.”

sexual misconduct

 

Churches Are Better Equipped Now, Respondents Say

Sixty-nine percent of survey respondents say their own church is more prepared to protect children than it was 10 years ago. Churchgoers “are noticing progress in the prevention efforts at their own church,” says McConnell. “Additional steps need to be taken and clearly communicated, however, so that more than a simple majority…can say their congregation is very prepared to protect those who attend.”

When it comes to helping abuse victims, 72 percent of churchgoers say their congregation is at least somewhat prepared to offer assistance. And 89 percent say someone who had been abused as a child or teenager would find healing at their church. It’s essential for houses of God to offer such healing, McConnell says, because that “teaches truths about the identity and worth of every individual. More importantly, it answers the fundamental question of whether God cares.”

Only seven percent of survey respondents say they think their church leaders would try to cover up sexual abuse allegations. And 82 percent believe their congregation would take appropriate actions, no matter the cost in terms of finances and the church’s image.

Young Churchgoers Aren’t Tolerating Sexual Misconduct

While older generations of churchgoers were more likely to keep abuse secret, LifeWay’s study reveals that younger generations are speaking out—and leaving churches when abuse occurs. Ten percent of Protestant churchgoers under age 35 indicate they’ve left a congregation because sexual misconduct wasn’t taken seriously, and nine percent say they’ve stopped attending because they felt unsafe themselves.

Kayla Stoecklein: Pastors, Protect Your Mental Health

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In a recent interview, Kayla Stoecklein, widow of Pastor Andrew Stoecklein, shared her advice on how ministry leaders can care for their mental health. One of her main points was that it is easy for pastors to focus so much on other people that they forget to take care of themselves–and this neglect can have serious consequences.  

“As a pastor, as a leader, you carry so much,” said Kayla. “And you’re trying to be everything for everyone. And you forget that you’re human too.”

Kayla’s Story

Kayla’s husband, Andrew, took his own life in late August of 2018, leaving behind his wife and three young sons. Andrew was the lead pastor of Inland Hills Church in Chino, California, and had struggled with anxiety and depression. After he died, Kayla realized she hadn’t understood the depth of the spiritual attack and pain her husband had been experiencing.

Yet in the aftermath of that tragedy, she began praying that God would use her story to encourage others struggling with mental illness. And God has been doing exactly that. Shortly after her husband’s death, Kayla wrote, “The stories flooding in are lifting me up and holding me up…Your story is paving the way for an even bigger conversation about how the church can better come alongside people with mental illness, including pastors. God is using your story and this tragedy to do miracles in the lives of other people.”

Protect Your Mental Health in Ministry

Based on her experience as a pastor’s wife, Kayla believes that a lot of church leaders are not good at taking care of themselves in many areas of life. She says, “We often encourage others to seek counseling or exercise or rest or eat better, and we don’t actually do it ourselves.” She emphasizes that pastors must do better at self-care. Otherwise, they won’t be able to minister to other people and then, “it’s just a matter of time before, like Andrew, we hit the wall and we burn out. We must give ourselves permission and margin to heal and rest.”

One of her husband’s favorites books was called Leading on Empty, and some of the advice Kayla has to offer comes from that book. First, like anyone else, pastors need to take a sabbath, no matter how driven or hard-working they are. Andrew eventually realized this and would set aside Fridays to do activities that were life-giving to him. Kayla stresses that a sabbath is not a day for pastors to catch up on all the work they can’t normally get done, but a day for them to truly rest by doing what they enjoy.

Seven Consequences for the Church Staff When the Pastor Leaves

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About once a month, I am contacted by a person serving on a church staff voicing a similar concern. The pastor has retired, resigned or been fired. A new pastor will be coming at some point in the future. Life has changed for the staff member with one announcement by the pastor. As an executive pastor recently asked me, “Where do I go from here?”

Seven Consequences for the Church Staff When the Pastor Leaves

The question is legitimate. Many church members do not fully grasp how disruptive a pastor’s departure is to the remaining staff. The staff are left behind, even if it’s not in an eschatological sense. Look at some of the possible consequences for church staff.

  1. The staff member and his or her family’s life is disrupted. This consequence is almost universal. It is not just the staff member. The family is uncertain where the next job, town, school or income will be.
  2. The staff member may be terminated. It is not that common anymore, but some churches “clean house” so the next pastor can choose the staff. Some ask for a written letter of resignation that can be accepted or rejected by the next pastor.
  3. Those closest to the pastor are most vulnerable. It can be rewarding for a staff member to have a close working relationship with the pastor…until the pastor leaves. The closest staff members have their ministry identity tied closely to the exiting pastor. And that can be a threat if the next pastor is uncertain where loyalties lie.
  4. The on-boarding of the new pastor is fraught with tension for the staff members. They, in many aspects, have to prove themselves worthy to the new pastor. “I felt like I was having to prove my value for over six months,” a student pastor told us.
  5. The staff have to adjust to a new culture even if they are allowed to stay. Of course, this adjustment applies to the entire congregation, but the staff members live in that culture every day of the week. The adjustment can be uncomfortable and tense.
  6. The staff members may have to live in two worlds for a season. They may stay at the church, but they have to keep their eyes and ears open for new jobs and ministry opportunities. And they remain in both worlds until they leave or have a high level of security with the new pastor.
  7. Some staff members may have to change their job responsibilities significantly. Even if they do get to stay, it is not unusual for the new pastor to change ministry responsibilities. Some of the changes can be dramatic, so much so that the staff member may have a totally different job.

I don’t expect to change the reality of these challenges with this article. It is my prayer, however, that this post will provide a greater awareness of the issues with the congregation. And it is my prayer that church members will have greater compassion and concern for the church staff members as a result of their heightened awareness.

After all, church staff are people too.

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You’re a Theologian…but Are You a Good One?

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“Everyone is a theologian.”

Something about the thin, round glasses hanging on the end of the professor’s nose and the bow tie neatly tucked beneath his white collar made him feel all the more believable.

It was my first day of Bible school. Freshman year held a host of uncomfortable, nervous and intimidating moments, but this one will always be etched in my mind. His voice reverberated with age and experience and authority, and his words struck my timid heart with surprise and self-doubt.

“Everyone is a theologian.”

He went on to explain that every person possesses a theology—a view of God—whether they know it or not. He contended that we, even at 18 and 19 years old, had a belief system regarding God, the Word, the church and other things. We had picked up on teachings, let suggested dispositions settle into our hearts, allowed subtle theologies sink into our minds. “Every one of you is a theologian,” he repeated, “but are you good ones?”

In little time, he became a favorite professor. I ate up what he taught, I asked questions, I requested resources because he was right: I did have a view of God, I was a theologian, but I had not taken the time to be a good one.

You Are a Theologian, Too. 

I have called this freshmen experience to mind several times over the years. At times when I was exposed to a new conversation, times when I went on a rant of opinions but realized I had studied little on the topic, and times when I couldn’t reconcile two co-existing values in my heart I have revisited the question. Because the question isn’t, Am I a theologian? But, Since I AM a theologian, how can I be a good one? 

The same is true for you. You don’t have to go to Bible school or seminary to possess a theology. Theology is simply a word for what we believe about God, what we believe about His Word and His people, and how we reconcile that in our own lives. No one is exempt from these thoughts; even the atheist has a position, a belief system in place for thinking about God (or the absence of God).

Throughout your day you will think hundreds of thoughts, make thousands of microscopic decisions based upon your belief system: Should my kids read that book? Why? Why not? Should we home school? Should one parent stay home with the newborn? Why? Why not? Should we skip church this Sunday? Why? Why not? Should I eat this cupcake? Should I go for a run? Why? Why not? 

We have unspoken, often unseen belief systems that are coursing through our veins every minute of the day. We think thoughts about faith, family and God. So, sister, you’re a theologian. But are you a good one?

We are scared of theology.

I remember one Monday night women’s Bible study that I was a part of years ago. It was a beautiful mix of college students and empty nesters that led to rich, fruitful conversation. That particular night we were discussing the work of the Spirit in making us more like Christ. One woman shared her thoughts on how the Spirit convicts us of sin, and argued that because the Spirit is the Spirit of Christ He always works to make us more like Jesus. It was a beautiful rant of the best kind! She was passionate and bold (and right!). She stopped sharply, realizing she had been talking for longer than she planned, threw up her hands with a shake of her head, “But I don’t know, I’m not a theologian.”

I say this with so much love for her, but she was dead wrong! She was absolutely a theologian, and she was doing theology right at that minute (and doing it really well, I might add). What she expressed is what many of us feel: an inherent sense of self-doubt that makes us afraid to use the word “theology.”

The result is that we go about our lives and conversations operating under a false assumption that what we are doing is not theology (or a-theological). But if we are all theologians then whatever we believe is our theology. How we think about our bodies, how we talk to our children, how we read our Bibles (or don’t) is our theology. Since theology touches every sphere of the Christian life, the stakes are too high for this kind of assumption.

As women in the church, we often operate as if theology is the task of our pastors, academics or even our husbands. While they are certainly called to this pursuit, we cannot leave ourselves out. We have to hold ourselves to the same high standards; we have to believe that good theology—the rich and painstaking process of knowing God through His Word—is for us. At the end of the day, we are not accountable before God with our husbands and our pastors, but we stand before God accountable for our own actions, beliefs, and theology.

Getting to the grit of it.

We have some work to do. As much as I love women’s Bible studies, I want to call us to something higher in the local church. There are few things that get me excited more than sitting with a group of women to study God’s Word, but too often I find that we choose spiritual inspiration books, or topical Bible-ish studies instead of God’s Word. We go around the circle allowing each person to have their own interpretation of the Text, regardless of how different they are, and we pass a plate of scones and head home.

Let me say this with compassion and severity: We must do better.

Throughout history, women have been the primary proprietors of society. What I mean is this: When women move in a particular direction, society follows. Why? Because women are teaching their children, influencing their neighborhoods, and making moves for change in their communities. The stakes are too high for us to continue operating as if we are not theologians—we must care for our theology, nurture our theology, and watch our theology to ensure that it is good!

This is a call to each of us. It is a reminder for me to study before I give an opinion, to check my gut reactions to ensure they align with God’s Word. This is a call to women’s ministries in the U.S. to put down the spiritual self-help books and dig into the Word that gives us life and shows us who God is. And it is a call to you—wherever you are, whoever you are—to seek to know God and to know His Word. It is a challenge and a joy. Because good theology is a trek into the heart of our Lord, it is the journey to know our God more and more intimately every day.

Let’s make the journey, all of us, together.

This article originally appeared here on amygannett.com.

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