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KidMin | VBS Ideas…FROM YOU!

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A month or so ago I had a contest for Jump! VBS/Summer curriculum from Orange. As part of the contest, people shared their best VBS ideas from their different endeavors. I thought it’d be fun to highlight a few of those. We have an amazing kidmin community that is full of ideas worth sharing. Ministry should be about building the kingdom of God and working together toward that end. The thoughts below came from real ministry happening all over North America. I’d love to hear YOUR ideas too. Keep the discussion going.

Thanks everyone for your comments and the role you play in my own kidmin development. I LOVE serving alongside such amazing colleagues! (Yes, that means YOU too!)

Be sure to read all the way through the bottom of this list. There are some GREAT ideas for connecting with parents on weekend services too!

So without further adieu…

bwccamden
Our best idea has been to make VBS a summer long event instead of a one week event. We spread our VBS out through the summer doing it every Wednesday night while our other discipleship ministries are going on. We bookend it with a big kickoff and closing. This gives us an opportunity to bring the families in more than just the kids. The families are able to stay and take part in our other ministries going on, giving them an opportunity to connect to the church.

Robert
The best idea we had was when we changed from the standard curriculum to that written and published by ReThink Group.

Drew
I’m from a church in the mid-west and our best VBS idea was moving from a day program to an evening program. This allowed for more volunteer participation.

Doug
We have a daytime VBS. Our best idea was to take the fifth day and do it on night four, and include the families. Instead of just seeing what the kids have learned, they heard from the kids what they learned, and then learned with the kids. Also, we did something other than the main VBS curriculums like we’ve done in the past and loved it.

Gayle
Our best idea for VBS was to have a family VBS where families participated in all things VBS together. Our site leaders especially loved it, because they always had enough helpers in the classroom. I am at a new church this year, and we are going to have an Open House type of event on the last night where families will travel through the sites with their children for an evening of VBS and then a short closing program.

Cheryl
We have family night on Wednesday and provide a meal. We usually have a great turnout!

Beverley
Our best idea was to rearrange the schedule on the final night. We took snack time out of the regular rotation and put it at the end, we had the parents join us for refreshments after the program was over. It was a great way to reach out and include the parents.

John Mullis
Best VBS idea..hmmm. To turn the closing rally into a full-blown family experience interactive event where everything was aimed to teach the parents what the kids learned during the week. We used video, audience participation, songs and drama. It was exciting!

Emily Jenkins
Our church’s version of VBS had a boys vs. girls change challenge to benefit Orphan Aid Liberia. All week-long, kids dropped their change into five-gallon buckets. At the end of the week, a leader was slimed, and during the family event on Friday evening, we announced to parents the total amount their kids gave (over $1000) and challenged them to match it through text-to-give and within just a few short minutes, parents did! We were pleased to create an opportunity for kids to be mission-minded!

Brandon Kertson
Our churches best idea was to do a Vacation Bible Sundays because we were having such a hard time finding volunteers for a whole week and our children’s pastor is only part-time. We actually saw more growth and excitement during the these action packed 10 weeks than we had during the traditional one week VBS and we had tons of volunteers to help!

Christopher G. Sykes
The best VBS idea we’ve had lately is to modify our Friday schedule to allow parents to come in for about a 35-minute family worship at the end of the week. We run a short video recapping the week as the parents come in. They get to see their kids sing all their favorite songs. Our worship leader picks a few from each grade to be on stage to lead the motions. Then I get to speak into the lives of parents for about 10-15 minutes. In negates the need to have a family night that a lot of parents don’t come back for. They’ve got to be there to pick up their kids, so asking them to come just a little early makes this so much easier and we have a much larger crowd.

Cheryl Bentsen
Our best VBS idea was this past year we gave parents a drive-time tag. We got them printed thru the Popshop and it gave the parents a quick recap of the evening, memory verse for the week and three to four specific questions to ask on the way home. The tags were plastic and hung on their rearview mirror. We got a ton of feedback from parents who still have them in their cars! We made them nice enough that they didn’t want to throw them away and used them to spark great spiritual conversations on the way home. For some parents it was just enough to give them some footage to ask the RIGHT question on the way home before they forgot it!

Anthony Prince
The best idea we’ve had was to elevate our youth into leadership positions at VBS.

Instead of just letting students assist the adults in serving at VBS, we give them real responsibilities and host a week of training before VBS in order to ensure that they know what we expect from them.

Bonnie Deroski
Partnering with other churches was the best VBS idea we’ve ever had.

This article originally appeared here.

50 Reasons We Appreciate Our Pastors

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Grateful for Our Spiritual Leaders

October is Pastor Appreciation Month—a season in which we are reminded to be grateful for the spiritual leaders that God has set over our lives.

A couple weeks ago, we invited our readers to enter to win a free resource library for their pastors. To enter the drawing, we asked respondents to finish the following sentence: “In the last year, I have appreciated my pastor because he . . .”

In total, we received nearly 900 responses detailing the many reasons people appreciate, love, and respect their spiritual leaders. We were so encouraged by what we read that we wanted to share 50 of our favorite responses below.

“In the last year, I have appreciated my pastor because he . . .”

“. . . faithfully preaches through the Scriptures, verse by verse, not skipping over hard texts, but working through them.”

—Jaclyn, Benson, NC

“. . . has continually demonstrated a shepherd’s heart, full of grace and a zeal for the gospel. He feeds the sheep well, excels in administration and has been a great mentor to me (an associate pastor on staff), encouraging and enabling me to pursue my MDiv online.”

—Matt, Elmira, NY

“. . . has a heart for discipleship and leadership training. Every Tuesday, he meets with me and other men in our congregation to pray with us, encourage us and work through a Bible study with us, in order to train us to do so with others.”

—Dave, Houston, TX

“. . . has taught me how to share the truth with love and grace, and opened my eyes to see that the body of Christ is more than who’s in our building.”

—Pamela, Benson, NC

“. . . a palpable love for those whom God has called him to shepherd.”

—Jon, West Chester, PA

“. . . joins together doctrine and devotion, theology and doxology, belief and practice, being and making disciples.”

—Dave, Sioux City, IA

“. . . truly loves the Lord and loves our church. He is not flashy but he is faithful. He works diligently in preaching God’s Word and is a great example to our people in personal holiness. He is far from perfect but I am thankful to call him my pastor.”

—Ryan, Rio Rancho, NM

“. . . has been a major encouragement to me and others. He has led with his life and not just his words. He is also a tremendous husband to me, father to our children, and pastor to us and our congregation.”

—Rachael, Robinson Creek, KY

“. . . has persevered and shown so much patience and grace during our new church plant. He has taken homeless and broken people into his home to live and experience gospel family life and has shared it with all of us as well.”

—Cody, Cleveland, TN

“. . . places a biblical emphasis on getting the gospel to all nations! We, as a local body, recently sent out our first long-term missions team to Peru to preach the gospel and plant a church among a certain unreached people group living in the mountains there! What a joy!”

—Paige, Jackson, MS

“. . . has taught our young adults and teens about systematic theology, helping to widen and expand our knowledge of God. He has been integral to leading us to grow in biblical literacy and worshiping God rightly.”

—Sarah, Paoli, IN

“. . . speaks with great conviction, does not equivocate in order to gain favor from the congregation, cares for his members (tirelessly worked in house reparation in the wake of Hurricane Harvey), exegetes with diligence and determination, and loves the Lord before anyone or anything else.”

—Maxwell, Houston, TX

“. . . through wisdom, a passion for God, and a love for God’s people, has led our congregation to think biblically about membership, ministry, evangelism and discipline. He has preached the gospel faithfully and shown by example how the church leadership is called to graciously carry each others’ burdens and give thoughtful consideration to the calling of the church.”

—Suzanne, Alexandria, VA

“. . . has served faithfully in the face of great personal pain and loss.”

—Jessica, Madison, IN

“. . . displayed an amazing humility in his leadership and his preaching and I know it’s because he loves and trusts the Lord.”

—Jennifer, Tempe, AZ

“. . . continues to lead the flock in a godly way that honors the Word and presents ‘first things first’—the gospel of Jesus Christ.”

—Zachary, Martinsville, VA

“. . . is full of grace and truth. He stands firm with God’s Word as the ultimate authority, not swaying because of popular opinion or societal pressures, and offers truth even when it may be difficult or unpopular.”

—Sarah, Louisville, OH

“. . . has continually taken big risks for the glory of God. I know of no other man who is so humbled by the grace of God while also bold and confident in the face of adversity. The Lord has used him to grow our church, reach our city, and inspire so many husbands and dads to be more like Christ.”

—Dustin, Huntington, WV

10 Simple Ways to Be Missional on Social Media

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Last Thursday, I joined Austin Hill on the Austin Hill in the Morning Show on KTIS (Minneapolis, MN) for about 15 minutes to talk about some new Pew Research data showing how often Americans share and view religious content on social media.

The research was fascinating, and I loved chatting about it on the radio. I would really enjoy being on the radio sometime myself, so it was neat to be on for the first time. I probably just like hearing myself talk.

(Not really. I can’t stand the sound of my own voice and didn’t even listen to the interview until I showed my wife.)

If you’d like to listen to our discussion, check out the clip.

Part of our discussion, if you didn’t listen and hear, was about what churches (or people) can practically do to “evangelize” on social media. More broadly than simply “evangelizing,” here are 10 simple ways you, your church or your ministry can be missional, or live as a missionary in culture, on social media:

1. Don’t be a jerk.

Really the best apologetic for a Christian on social media is to not be counted among the troll tribe.

2. Ask how you can be praying for people on Facebook.

I always find this encouraging, especially when ministries do it.

3. Share thought-provoking videos and blogs that might cause your friends/followers to ask about your faith.

I love sharing and reading blogs on Christian matters, and I see them shared a lot on social media. It’s popular content and can be good conversation material.

4. Start a blog and share devotional material on it.

I started in the eighth grade! It’s never too early or late!

5. Use your Facebook page to raise support for missions trips or church fundraisers.

Whether you’re using GoFundMe or something else, promote it through Facebook and other social media outlets.

6. Give updates on teams on the mission field.

Did your Dominican Republic team win someone to Christ? How’s your Mexico medical missions team doing? Share as much as you can!

7. Create a Facebook group for your small group and use it as a communication hub for events, prayer requests, etc.

Love Facebook for group communication. One of the (few) major benefits of it.

8. Youth pastors, consider using Snapchat to remind youth of events. (*This one is controversial, and I hope to have a post on it soon.*)

This is potentially dangerous and definitely controversial, but youth pastors need to be where their kids are. I am a firm believer in that.

9. Treat everyone you talk with on social media as if you’re talking to them in person.

It’s just courteous.

10. Don’t be a jerk, again.

I can never emphasize this enough. It’s so important.

This article originally appeared here.

Keep the Faith: 4 Practical Ways to Help Teens Maintain Their Beliefs

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How can we help teens keep the faith? We’ve all read the scary statistics of teenagers who evacuate their Christian faith after they graduate from high school. I’ve read statistics as high as 85 percent and some as low as 50 percent.

Regardless of the actual number, all of us can agree that any is too many! We want as many teenagers as possible to not just survive but to thrive long after they leave high school! We want them to keep the faith for their entire lives.

So what can we do to help teens keep the faith after they graduate? Here are four practical ideas that may help you:

4 Ways to Help Kids Keep the Faith

1. Pray, pray and pray some more!

And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God.Philippians 1:9-11

When Paul planted a church, he consistently supported it in prayer. In the same way, we must support our teenagers in relentless prayer. We must pray for them and recruit others to pray for them (connect with groups like Moms in Prayer to create your own prayer “Air Force” that destroys strongholds and helps them own their faith long-term). 

If we could see behind the curtain of eternity into the very throne room of God, I’m convinced we’d all be blown away by all that prayer actually accomplishes. It’s how we provide “air support” for our teenagers in the battlefield of their lives. So pray fervently that teens will keep the faith.

2. Use an A.L.T.ernative teaching style!

“When Jesus came to the region of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, ‘Who do people say the Son of Man is?’” Matthew 16:13

Jesus asked close to 300 questions during his earthly ministry. Questions and parables were among his top teaching tools. He knew that great questions acted like a pry bar that would open shut minds and mouths.

I learned this during the filming of Gospel Journey Maui, a reality series Dare 2 Share produced years ago. We had a Buddhist, Mormon, Muslim, Seventh Day Adventist, surfing evangelical and girl who thought God was a black woman who baked cookies. (She got her view of God from the “Oracle” in the Matrix movies.) 

I noticed that the more questions I asked, the more the cast opened up. The more I listened, the more they listened to me. This created deep and authentic dialogue instead of a one-way monologue.

We can do the same thing with teenagers to help them keep the faith. We can use an A.L.T.ernative teaching style that:

Asks great questions.

Listens deeply to their answers.

Teaches what God’s Word says about that subject.

When you ask, listen and teach, it unleashes deep conversations and true transformation.

Uber-Driver Evangelism Is Great, but This Is Better

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I’ll never forget Andrew. He joined the church several years ago. He came from the U.K.and didn’t plan to be in the States very long. Andrew was young, single and lived in a small apartment. He had every excuse under the sun to not be a good neighbor. And yet, he is one of the most hospitable men I’ve ever met. He regularly welcomed co-workers, next-door-neighbors and church members into his home. During his last Sunday here, I asked the evening gathering if they’d ever been in Andrew’s home. Nearly every hand went up. In a small but important way, Andrew made a difference. By opening up his home and sharing his life, he helped others see the priority of the Lord, Jesus Christ. He is a gospel neighbor.

Every Christian wants to make a difference. It’s part of our spiritual DNA. We know humanity’s greatest need is salvation, so we long to see our friends respond to the gospel in repentance and faith. But if we’re honest, we admit we struggle here. We know our friends need the Good News, but we have a hard time opening our homes and opening our mouths to make the gospel known. Too often, we’re like a postal carrier who can’t seem to leave the driveway.

Being a good neighbor is a crucial component to being a faithful evangelist. We should all aspire to be gospel neighbors. But first, I want to assess a couple typical ways we measure evangelistic success.

THE METRICS OF SUCCESS

It’s tempting to equate healthy evangelism with results. I recently heard a Christian leader lamenting the lack of baptisms in our state. He assumed this is because we aren’t evangelizing enough—and he may be right! We should certainly pray for more baptisms. But since God is the Giver of life, a decrease in the number of baptisms is not necessarily due to a lack of evangelism. After all, we plant the seeds through evangelism, and it’s up to God to give the growth in conversion and then baptism (see 1 Cor. 3:6). Therefore, I don’t think “number of baptisms” is the best metric for assessing our commitment to evangelism.

Instead of counting the number of baptisms, we could instead count the number of times we shared the gospel in any given week. Counting evangelistic conversations is a much better metric. It reminds us that even though salvation is in the hands of the Lord, we must tell people about Jesus (Rom. 10:14). Should I, as a pastor, challenge every member to share the gospel once a day? I’m thinking about it, and do think the frequency of evangelistic conversations is a better gauge of our spiritual health than the number of baptisms we register.

However, there’s an even better way. In addition to praying for baptisms and encouraging numerous evangelistic conversations, faithful Christians will seek to open up their life and homes in the biblical practice of hospitality. I love how Dustin Willis and Brandon Clements put it: “The simplest way to change the world is to leverage your ordinary life for his history sweeping mission of hospitality.”[i] Simply being a good neighbor, a gospel neighbor, is an important part of living an evangelistic life.

IS NEIGHBORING BIBLICAL?

A number of passages in the New Testament call us to be good neighbors. The most obvious is the parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25­–37). Christians are to show mercy to the overlooked and unwanted. Every Christian should have a Christ-like disposition to all—happily loving those in need. This is the spirit of the first half of Galatians 6:10 where Paul tells the churches to “do good to everyone.” This applies to the Syrian refugee around the world, the homeless man across town, and the lonely widow and busy young family right next door.

The requirement for hospitality gets to the heart of neighboring. It’s even a qualification of elder leadership. Any man who wants to shepherd God’s flock must be hospitable (1 Tim. 3:2; Titus 1:8). In describing an elder’s calling, Alexander Strauch noted, “An open home is a sign of an open heart and a loving, sacrificial spirit. A lack of hospitality is a sure sign of selfish, lifeless, loveless Christianity.”[ii]

Though Strauch applies this qualification to hospitality within the body of Christ, there are good reasons to think Paul intended a broader view. For example, the author of Hebrews exhorts us “to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares” (Heb. 13:2). Like Paul, he is very concerned about hospitality inside the church. He may be exhorting believers to open upon their home to Christian travelers. But the language is broad enough to include those who don’t know the Lord.[iii] Paul has a similar message in Romans 12:13–14: “Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.” Paul demands a spirit of generosity to all: the brother or sister, the stranger, and even the enemy!

Faithful pastors and Christians alike will strive to be good neighbors. They’ll open up their homes to people around them. Such hospitality is not without cost (it takes time and money). If this cost seems high, remember the words of our Savior in Luke 9:23, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.”

Yes, gospel neighboring is biblical.

COWARD IN YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD?

Gospel neighboring is important. Just to be clear, I pray tons of impromptu evangelistic conversations are taking place throughout the week. Not only that, I encourage Christians to invite their unbelieving friends to church gatherings. These public meetings are a good place to hear the gospel. But I fear if we neglect the hard work of gospel neighboring, any culture of evangelism we build will be far too thin and shallow. Gospel neighboring makes our evangelism thick and deep. Though it’s great to share the gospel with whomever you meet—God’s Word is sufficient to save—it’s appropriate to share the gospel in the context of sturdy relationships. Gospel neighboring strives to make such relationships a reality.

If pastors are faithful to share the gospel to the gathering on Sunday morning, but are not faithful to make Christ known on their own block, are they really evangelistic? As the quotable Dallas pastor Matt Chandler challenges, “If you’re a beast in the pulpit but a coward in your neighborhood, something has gone wrong.” But this isn’t just a criticism for pastors. All of us need to hear this. If you’re willing to engage in a 10-minute conversation with your Uber driver, but are unwilling to invest in the people God planted in your family, workplace or neighborhood, are you truly a faithful evangelist? I don’t think so.

New Allegations Surface in Bill Hybels Investigation

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At a meeting last Friday night at Willow Creek Church, the board of elders told members that a new investigation of pastor Bill Hybels was about to begin amid additional allegations of misconduct.

Within the next 45 days, the elders will be examining reports that Hybels made unwanted sexual comments and advances to several women, including “allegations that have not been previously investigated by the Elder Board.” The elders said they would “seek wise counsel and work with experts, developing a collaborative process.”

The statement is a departure from the elder board’s previous public comments. Following an article in the Chicago Tribune on March 22 that brought the allegations to light on a national stage, the elder board issued a statement saying it had conducted a “thorough and independent investigation” into Hybels’ conduct and cleared him, as had its outside counsel. The board also accused Hybels’ critics of making a “coordinated effort to undermine Bill’s reputation.”

In addition to looking into the new charges, the board said the upcoming inquiry is meant to correct shortcomings in its first review.  

“Even though Bill is no longer in his role, our work to resolve any shadow of doubt in the trustworthiness of [Willow] is not done. With the benefit of hindsight, we see several aspects of our past work that we would have handled differently, and we have identified several areas of learning.”

One of those areas is the way the church handled the allegations.

“We have at times communicated without a posture of deep listening and understanding,” they wrote. “We are sorry that at times our process appeared to diminish the deep compassion we have for all those involved in these matters.”

In 2014, Willow Creek began an internal investigation of Hybels following an allegation of inappropriate conduct between the pastor and a former staff member. The Elder Board unanimously found no evidence to support the allegation, and its findings were affirmed by an external investigator.

Two years later, additional charges involving other women were brought to the board. This time the church hired an outside, independent law firm to conduct another investigation into those complaints. After five months, 29 interviews, a review of personal financial and travel records, as well as work from an IT forensics firm, that law firm concluded that there was no evidence of misconduct.

Former staff members and a Willow Creek elder continue to push for an independent investigation claiming the previous inquiries were not inherently independent.

In its statement the elders also said they would work on “strengthening the relationship of accountability with our church leaders.”

“Bill acknowledged that he placed himself in situations that would have been far wiser to avoid,” the elders wrote. “We agree, and now recognize that we didn’t hold him accountable to specific boundaries.”

The elders also said they wished they had worked harder “to collaborate with all parties,” and promised to “methodically examine our church culture, enhancing policies and informal practices that support healthy and valuable working relationships between men and women.”

Arizona Pastor Placed on Leave for 40-Year-Old Abuse Allegations

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An Arizona pastor has been placed on leave following allegations that he sexually abused teenage girls under his supervision at a California church 40 years ago.

The allegations surfaced after multiple women told the Modesto Bee that Les Hughey—who founded Highlands Community Church in north Scottsdale—victimized them while he was working as a youth pastor at First Baptist Church in Modesto, California, in the 1970s.

Last week, Hughey issued a written statement in response to the Bee’s report, saying he “sinned and harmed the most important relationships in my life” during his time in Modesto.

“I was unfaithful to my God, my wife and the ministry, and was rightly removed from that church,” he wrote. “Unfortunately, it’s impossible to undo what happened, so I instead accept and live with the consequences, even now so many years later.”

Hughey added that both his wife and church leaders were now aware of “his history.”

In the statement, Hughey also said he only had “consensual relations with fellow college-aged staff,” a point that is denied by the women interviewed in the Bee’s report.

The four women all said Hughey and his wife would host youth staff meetings in their Modesto home to plan activities. As attendees left, his wife would go to bed and Hughey would encourage shoulder rubs with remaining girls.

“It was very subtle. It would become full back rubs, then closer to private parts,” said one of the women, now 62.

For two years in the 1970s, from age 17 to 19, Tracy Epler said she was coerced into having sex with Hughey. When she finally informed First Baptist leadership, she said, she was told to bury the secret.

Epler said the leader in charge of all youth pastors, Bill Stewart, instructed her not to tell her parents or anyone else.

“Then I was dismissed,” she said. “He said, ‘Thank you very much for coming and telling me,’ and that was the last and only time it was ever talked about. He didn’t send a female staff person to check on me. So instead of protecting me, he protected Les. I’m still shocked by that today.”

Years later, a counselor helped Epler unpack the memories. “He said, ‘Tracy, they left you (figuratively) bleeding in the middle of the street,'” she said. “I remember being shocked. ‘What?’ I had no idea. I really thought it was all my fault.”

Hughey was removed from First Baptist in 1978, though church officials did not publicly cite a reason for his departure.

“Because the allegations are from more than 40 years ago, it will take some time to get a clear picture,” Doug Milligan, a Highlands Community Church official, said in a statement Sunday. “We are concerned about the well-being of all people affected by these events.”

Milligan said the church would “apply biblical standards and principles” and “show compassion to all involved” during its investigation.

Epler and the other women came forward soon after The Bee’s February report on Brad Tebbutt, who like Hughey was a youth pastor at Modesto’s First Baptist Church.

Tebbutt is accused of sexually abusing a girl in the 1980s. Earlier this month, Tebbutt was placed on leave while an independent firm led by Billy Graham’s grandson investigates Tebbutt’s past for his current employer, the International House of Prayer of Kansas City.

TheyBy: The Gender Blur Accelerates

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The gender blur continues to accelerate. The latest attempt to blur the line between male and female is a new buzzword among Millennial parents.

What does TheyBy mean?

The term is called “TheyBy” and refers to a baby born and raised free of the “constraints of gender designation.”

Parents who adopt this child-rearing strategy keep the baby’s anatomy a secret and refer to the child only by plural pronouns. Their goal is to create a childhood free of gender restricted dress, act, play, etc.

Companies are also jumping on the “blur the genders bandwagon” by creating gender neutral clothes, toys and products. Some examples are Banana Republic that has introduced a line of gender-less baby clothes. And then there is Target, that has removed gender-based signage and references from its toy aisles.

As our culture continues to slide away from God’s plan for humanity, we are doing children a great disservice. Many children will grow up confused about what shouldn’t be confusing, if our society just used common sense. The effects of this influence is already being seen in the lives of middle-schoolers and high-schoolers who are identifying as non-binary—meaning neither male or female. Or in kids who jump back and forth between the two. One day they dress as a boy and asked to be called “him” and then a few days later showing up dressed as a girl, demanding to be called “her.”

As the drivers of this agenda continue to impose gender blurring upon society, parents who believe “God created them male and female” must be prepared to teach their children the truth and equip them to think with a Christian world view in the midst of the insanity they are facing.

Those who are championing the “TheyBy” mindset may say that the traditional labeling of male and female is Old Testament law and doesn’t apply to today. But a closer look into God’s Word reveals that in the New Testament, Jesus always referred to male and female in terms of gender. He made a clear distinction between the two. He also made it clear that marriage is between a man and woman.

Will hearing “it’s a boy” or “it’s a girl” in the hospital birthing room become a thing of the past? God forbid. More than ever, we need men and women who raise their sons and daughters to reflect God’s masterful design for the sexes. God’s design is the best design and His way of life is the best way of life. When we deviate from His plan, the results are only negative.

Call me old school, but I believe boys should be boys and girls should be girls. They should be called that. Raised like that. And be taught to act like that.

The differences between the two genders are what make both so special and equal in their uniqueness.

TheyBy? I don’t think so. Let’s stick with “boy” and “girl” for the sake of the next generation’s well being.

This article originally appeared here.

How to Make a WordPress Website

If you’re part of a small church staff, the job of creating and maintaining a website might fall on your plate. Where to start? If that’s you, and if you’re using WordPress this Youtube video that’s had more than six million views can help you fill in the blanks.

Tyler Moore put the video tutorial together and takes you on a step by step journey to create a website.

The video shows you how to pick themes, use headlines, sub-headline, calls to action, full-size images, logos, navigation, social media buttons and even videos.

The video also gives you the steps you’ll need before creating your website, such as finding a web hosting service and securing a domain name.  There are even suggestions to help you get started.

This is not a short video so plan some time for viewing but there’s a wealth of information here that will reward your investment of time.

Here are some suggestions on optimizing your site for mobile viewing from smartphones.

These days, more than half of customers browse from their smartphones instead of computers. [As a] small business owner, FitSmallBusiness.com says that’s why it’s imperative to have a mobile-friendly website.

The good news is most of the top web-builders automatically create mobile-optimized websites for you. Known as “responsive” themes, these websites can detect the type of device you’re browsing from and automatically shift the content to give you the optimal experience. WordPress also has multiple responsive themes available.

That said, even if your website is responsive, it’s usually a good idea to make some additional adjustments for your mobile site. In general, you want to remove any excessive details. Your mobile website should focus entirely on your call-to-action – whether that’s getting users to call your business, fill out a contact form, join a mailing list, or make an online order.

Click-to-call buttons are especially helpful if you want mobile visitors to dial your business. This is a button that – when clicked from a mobile phone – automatically populates your business’ phone number into the visitor’s dialpad. An embedded Google Maps widget is also key for customers who are browsing on-the-go, as they can quickly bring up navigation to your church.

Pastors and Churches Are Important to the Future of America

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As the pastor goes, so goes the church. As the church goes, so goes America. With all I am, I believe this. Pastors and churches are very important to the future of America. In light of this, please consider these three things:

1. Pastors and churches, we need you to lead the way!

Whether it is taking the gospel to your community, leading a prayer observance for the National Day of Prayer, or seeing your community prosper, lead the way! Your community, your state and our nation will never surpass the health, conviction and leadership of the pastors and churches in America.

2. Ministries and denominations, invest in pastors and churches!

This past week, Jeana and I had the incredible privilege to lead and invest in pastors and wives of some of the largest churches in America. They are incredible people and they desire to grow, to be challenged and to be all God wants them to be in life and ministry. They also want to make a difference in America and across the world.

Ministries and denominations, I am convinced that your long-term value will be determined by how effectively you invest in pastors and churches. If our pastors are not healthy, our churches will not be healthy. Ministries and denominations have the incredible challenge and overwhelming privilege to invest in pastors and churches. There is nothing like it. Do it!

3. Churches, pray for pastors. Pastors, pray for churches. Pastors and churches, pray for America.

Every church in America needs to pray for their pastor. Recently, I was in the First Baptist Church of Dallas, speaking to the Pastor’s Prayer Partners. Three hundred men pray for their pastor, Robert Jeffress, regularly. In this banquet setting, their spouses joined them. What a massive group of laypeople praying for their pastor!

Pastor, pray for your church. If you will pray for your church, you will not get so discouraged that you will want to quit or become negative about the church you are called to serve. Praying for your church will change them, but more importantly, it will change you.

Pastors and churches, pray for America. This is the right thing to do. This Sunday, find a moment in worship to call upon your entire church to pray for America. With all that is going on in our nation, we need to pray. Pray for America! If you do not know how to pray for America, take the time to listen to and watch the 2018 National Prayer for America.

Unquestionably, pastors and churches are important to the future of America!

This article originally appeared here.

Who Will Save Superman?

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This week marks the 1000th issue of Action Comics, and the 80th anniversary of the Superman. Quite a bit has happened in the eight decades since Jerry Siegel and Joe Shuster created the now iconic hero. Brian Michael Bendis, long of Marvel Comics, is coming over to Superman’s publisher, DC, to launch a new era for the Man of Steel. Oh, and, due to fan demand, the classic red trunks are back. As Clark Kent hits 80, we perhaps should ask why the myth of the last son of Krypton has persisted so long in popular culture.

I do not write this as a neutral observer, but as a fan of the character—and the larger DC universe—since before I was even able to read. The stories from Smallville and Metropolis (and Gotham and Central City and Paradise Island) populated the Fortress of Solitude that was my childhood imagination in ways that, looking back, I think pointed me onward to the writings of Lewis and Tolkien and beyond. But why did I, along with millions of others over the past 80 years, want to put that red blanket over my shoulders and pretend to fly?

SUPERMAN’S APPEAL

Author Grant Morrison (himself a prolific writer of comic books and graphic novels) has argued that Superman persists because he represents hope and power; he is the pop-culture equivalent of a “sun god.” Some psychologists would say that Superman appeals to us because of his power. We long for the grandiosity inherent in the ability to fly, outpace bullets, see through walls or, as on the cover of that first Action Comics, lift a car over our heads. Some would say that children especially identify with the phenomenon of the secret identity; “I might seem to be bumbling, bespectacled Clark Kent, but if you could just see me in my Kryptonian battle armor…”

The idea of Superman as the idealization of strength and power would make sense. His name, after all, comes from Friedrich Nietzsche and his idea of the Übermensch from Thus Spoke Zarathustra. If Nietzschean power were what we longed for though, there would be other characters, more powerful than Superman, to stand in for hope. The atomic symbol of the Watchmen’s Doctor Manhattan would be far more appropriate than the S-looking logo of the House of El.

No, what we love about Superman is not his power so much as his vulnerability. In this, playwright David Mamet was right when he wrote in the 1980s that the real draw of Superman is not flight or X-ray vision, but Kryptonite. “Kryptonite is all that remains of his childhood home,” Mamet wrote. “It is the remnants of that destroyed childhood home, and the fear of those remnants, which rule Superman’s life.”

“Far from being invulnerable, Superman is the most vulnerable of beings, because his childhood home was destroyed,” Mamet argued. “He can never reintegrate himself by returning to that home—it is gone. It is gone and he is living among aliens to whom he cannot even reveal his rightful name.” The Superman mythos is then, he concludes, a fable not of strength but of a “cry for help.”

A BROKEN HERO

Mamet is partly right. An inexpressibly powerful alien force would not be as beloved, because such wouldn’t seem to ring true to our own lives. Kryptonite is the symbol of brokenness. More than the literal Kryptonite, though, is the metaphorical Kryptonite in the background. Superman wears the uniform of a lineage far away and lost forever. So in our world, he has learned to love those who welcomed him into the human family—the Kents. But even this further reveals brokenness. Superman may be the Man of Tomorrow, but he can be hurt; he can even be killed. And yet, his greatest weakness is that he can lose those he loves. We can identify with this. We don’t all come from Krypton, but we all have Kryptonite.

This brokenness, though, leads to purpose and mission. In the Geoff Johns era of the series (one of the best, in my opinion), Jonathan Kent tells his son, “Your greatest power isn’t being able to fly or see through walls. It’s knowing what the right thing to do is.” That’s consistently true of the character over the past 80 years. That’s one of the reasons the current incarnation of Superman is especially inspiring; he is a husband and a father, trying to do his best to balance family and work.

This sense of mission, and the ethical framework undergirding it, isn’t activated by a yellow sun, but by patient parenting. It didn’t come from Krypton, but from Kansas. Superman may carry out his adventures with the powers of Kal-El, but all the while he’s really Clark Kent. Those principles point him back to the joy and hurt of love that can die, but is as strong as death, stronger even.

Much has been made of the religious imagery in the Superman mythos—especially the Old Testament echoes of Moses in the basket. Some have suggested that Superman is a Christ figure, a concept implicit throughout the Superman Returns film and elsewhere. As a Christian, though, I think we identify with Superman not so much because he is godlike but because he is, underneath it all, so very human. We might be thrilled to see a superhero flying upward in the skies above us, but, really, we’re looking past him, for Someone else.

We’d all like to be saved from danger by a real or imagined Superman every once in a while. But super-men have come and gone. This character has persisted for almost a century. That’s not because we think he can save us, but because we know, deep in our hearts, that a Superman needs a savior too.

This article originally appeared here.

How to Handle Your Students’ Doubt and Questions

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One of the main tasks of youth workers, in my opinion, is to help play a role in leading teenagers to take more ownership of their faith. And as I speak to teenagers and youth workers about this transition to greater faith ownership, the question of doubt inevitably comes up. Often.

One of the major aspects of our teenagers owning their faith is dealing with doubts, or dealing with questions they have about God or some aspect of their faith.

Questions about the essentials of their faith, and to a lesser extent, doubts, are a healthy part of faith development. As leaders, we should encourage students to wrestle with the questions they have. Even as this might make us uneasy, it’s important to help students walk down this road.

I love this quote from Henry Drummond:

“Christ distinguished between doubt and unbelief. Doubt says, ‘I can’t believe.’ Unbelief says, ‘I won’t believe.’ Doubt is honest. Unbelief is defiant.”

Honest doubt, and honest questioning, is how teenagers begin to own a faith that is theirs, not their parents’ or grandparents’ or even yours. In the past, I have told students that if they are not asking questions of their faith, they’re not trying hard enough. They’re not thinking about it enough. They’re not digging deeply enough. That’s why questioning is part of owning our faith.

But what do we do with our questions? What is the right attitude or approach toward having these questions or doubts?

Here are a few take-aways:

1. Look to Scripture for Examples.

There are dozens of examples of people questioning or doubting God in Scripture. One-hundred-year-old Abram questioned God’s ability to give him a son (Genesis 17:15-17). Moses questioned God when God said He was going to destroy Sodom (Genesis 18:22-25). David questioned God dozens of times (Psalm 13:1-2; Psalm 22:1). The OT prophet Habakkuk questioned God’s goodness. John the Baptist doubted his mission and God’s call on his life (Luke 7:18-20). And you know what? God didn’t smite them. God didn’t call down fire on them. God walked with them through their doubts and questions. And in the end, their faith was strengthened.

2. Pursue Answers

The second way to deal with our questions comes from a guy near and dear to my heart, the great Dr. Tim Keller. Keller writes a great bit about faith and doubt. I love this quote: “A person’s faith can collapse overnight if he or she has failed over the years to listen patiently to his or her own doubts. As Christians, we should acknowledge and wrestle with our doubt. It is no longer sufficient to hold beliefs just because you inherited them.”

We have to encourage students to own their questions. To acknowledge them. To look at them from every different angle. To make it their mission to discover as much as they can about their questions until they are satisfied that they have taken it as far as they can take it. Many of our questions don’t have answers that make us feel good. But, all of our questions, all of our doubts, can be answered in God. Which leads to my next point …

3. Be Comfortable Knowing God, But Not Knowing All of God

In the end, while we can know so much about God and His ways, we will never know all of Him and His ways. That God made Himself knowable to us is amazing. But He will always remain completely unknowable. In Isaiah 55:9, God says: “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Exodus 15:11 says: “Who among the gods is like you, O LORD? Who is like you—majestic in holiness, awesome in glory, working wonders?”

There will always be aspects of God that we can’t fully know. But in seeking to understand God and His ways, we will grow to know Him more than we can ever imagine. There is tension here, for sure. But there is assurance as well.

4. Our Biggest Doubts and Questions About God Don’t Change Who He Is.

We may question God and we might find that the answers we find don’t solve any pain we feel or our need for nice, neat resolution. But this doesn’t change who God is. We may question why God allows suffering. But we can’t deny that He is a loving God who goes to great lengths to save us. We may question God’s plan, but He is still sovereign. We may question God allowing bad things to happen to good people, but He is still compassionate. We may question why we don’t feel close to God, but it doesn’t change the fact that He is always near to us, eternally unchanging, and deeply and madly in love with each of His children. Our doubts, our questions, don’t change who God is.

The doubts and questions of our teenagers can sometimes feel big and scary. But only to us. They don’t scare God.

God welcomes the faith-insecurities of our teenagers. And once we help them see this, we help them grow toward a faith that is more authentic.

How the Church Can Make Mental Illness a Topic of Conversation

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When it comes to mental illness and the church, an important step for any church seeking to minister to those affected by mental illness is to establish a culture that explicitly grants permission for mental health to be a topic of conversation.

Mental Illness and the Church

LifeWay Research’s “Study of Acute Mental Illness and Christian Faith” observed that when family members were asked what local churches should do to assist them in supporting loved ones with mental illness, their number one response was, “Talk about it openly so that the topic is not so taboo.” In the very same survey, nearly half of all pastors reported they “rarely” or “never” speak of mental illness during worship services. Nearly two-thirds of pastors speak of mental illness once a year or less. Another important finding was that 55 percent of U.S. adults surveyed who don’t regularly attend church disagreed with the statement, “If I had a mental health issue, I believe most churches would welcome me.”

The words and teaching that emanate from the pulpit and are propagated through a church’s online platforms can either perpetuate or eradicate stigma. One component of an effective inclusion strategy regarding mental illness and the church is developing a church-wide communication plan for mental health related topics. Here are five action items for pastors and other members of the leadership team to consider in crafting such a strategy:

1. Preach it from the pulpit

The results of the Lifeway study suggest the most powerful way your church can communicate acceptance of kids and adults with mental health conditions is to address the topic in the context of your pastor’s teaching at weekend worship services. Some pastors, including Rick Warren, are able to use their personal experiences or family experiences in talking about mental illness. Others will draw from their pastoral experience. When the senior pastor is comfortable addressing mental illness from the pulpit, the congregation has permission to talk about it.

2. Remind your members, regular attenders and visitors of the support your church offers

Does your church provide counseling services, support groups, respite care or other types of assistance to individuals and families affected by mental illness? Would someone who attends worship services weekly know about the help available through the church? What about a first-time visitor? What about someone searching for a church who lands on the home page of your website?

3. The more persons with mental illnesses can see, hear and experience your ministry environments online, the better

Anxiety disorders are the most common mental health condition among adults in the U.S. and represent either the most or second most common category of mental health conditions experienced by children and teens. A fundamental difference in brain function observed among persons with anxiety disorders is a propensity to overestimate the degree of danger or risk in unfamiliar environments or situations. The more information and preparation they have in advance of a new situation, the greater the likelihood they can overcome fear and take part in the experience. This principle applies to potential first-time visitors to a worship service, as well as to children and adults established in the church considering a new experience—an overnight retreat, small groups, service activities or mission trips.

4. Use your church’s social media platforms to pass along mental health-related links and posts for attendees to share with friends and neighbors

Many excellent ministries and organizations provide mental health resources and support from a Christian worldview. Utilizing your social media platforms to share articles and posts from reputable Christian organizations addressing mental health concerns provides an easy way for your people to let their friends and neighbors affected by mental illness know that they are welcome at your church. It is also a tool for engaging your members in the church’s mental health inclusion efforts.

5. Consider how your church can use online resources to promote offline connections with the people of your church 

Many churches live stream their worship services so that members unable to attend due to illness or distance can share in the experience. Social isolation is a common barrier to church involvement for individuals and families affected by mental illness. Have you considered how your church might be introduced to persons in your region with mental health related challenges? You can train hosts to connect through a chat component with those who engage online or respond to the comments section on social media platforms.

In summary, your church’s worship services, website and social media platforms are powerful tools in any mental health inclusion strategy. Be strategic in making the most of them in any plan to address address mental illness and the church.

This article originally appeared here.

7 Do-Overs Pastors Wish They Had

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We are certainly to move forward from past failures and regrets. Paul told us to “forget what is behind and reach forward to what is ahead” (Philippians 3:13).

But we can learn from the wisdom of others, even if it includes their past struggles and failures.

So I asked several pastors if they had any specific instances in their pastoral ministry where they wish they had a do-over, an opportunity to reverse something they said or did.

To the person, each pastor laughed at my question, not because the question was pointless, but because the answer was so obvious. Every pastor has one or more desired do-overs.

Here are the seven most common I heard, with a representative comment from a pastor.

1. Said or wrote something out of anger.

“I wish I could have waited a few hours before I responded. I think everyone needs to put a heated email in the draft folder and wait 24 hours before choosing to respond or not to respond.”

2. Obsessed with one or a few critics.

“I spent way too much time worrying about and responding to just a few negative people in my church. I now realize that my ministry lost its focus, and I neglected the healthier members of the church.”

3. Failed to admit a mistake.

“All I needed to do was to say I made a mistake and apologize. Instead, I dug in and let my pride take control. My ministry at that church never recovered. It was the primary reason I left less than a year later.”

Should Facebook Be Allowed to Use Facial Recognition Software on You Without Permission?

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Facebook’s privacy problems suffered a major setback in a US Federal Court this week. Judge James Donato of the Northern District federal court in San Francisco allowed a class action brought by Facebook users in Illinois to go ahead.

The case was brought by several Facebook users alleging that the “Tag Suggestions” feature violates their privacy rights. Facebook’s tagging feature allows users to tag themselves or friends in photos, and Facebook also uses facial recognition technology to suggest friends be tagged.

Facebook has the ability to use facial recognition software to tag you in photos. Unfortunately, not just your photos, but any photo anyone places on Facebook at any time. This means even street shots, security camera or pictures posted by strangers.

Facebook’s tag suggestions program scans photographs uploaded by users, identifies people who appear in photographs and enables them to be tagged.

To identify faces, the tool first separates faces from other objects in the photograph. It then standardizes faces based on certain attributes, such as size.

Facebook argued that users had to be “aggrieved” in order for their claim to be valid. In other words, victims had to suffer a “serious injury or harm”.

Here’s a hypothetical example of being aggrieved: a Facebook friend uploaded a photo of you at a tennis match you attended during working hours and Facebook then identified you in the image, which was later seen by your employer. Since you had taken sick leave that day, your employer sacked you based on the Facebook evidence showing you lied. In this circumstance, you would have suffered actual harm because of the tagging feature.

The judge rejected this argument, saying that the intention of the statute was to codify “a right of privacy in personal biometric information”. Crucially, the court said that a person is “aggrieved” when “a legal right is invaded by the act complained of”.

The ruling is another blow to Facebook, which has been facing growing privacy concerns in recent weeks. In March, news surfaced that Cambridge Analytica — a political data firm with ties to President Donald Trump’s campaign — had accessed and improperly stored a huge trove of its user data. Facebook says 87 million users may have been affected.

Build the Fence!

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I am far from alone in being stunned about the recent news regarding another batch of respected Christian leaders resigning over, or being accused of, sexual misconduct. I’ve been nothing less than heartsick.

For Christ’s sake, can’t we just build the fences we need?

We’re all weak, we’re all prone to wander, we’re all vulnerable to our libidos. Which means we must—I repeat must—build sexual fences around our lives. If you build a fence, you will inevitably bump against it and know you’ve gone too far. But at least the fence will keep you from going over the cliff. If you don’t have the fence, you will never know it is time to turn back.

So here are five fences to start constructing immediately:

First, monitor and control your thought life. That’s where sexual sin begins. Adultery, in all its forms, doesn’t just happen—it begins. You’re in bed with someone mentally and emotionally long before you are in bed with them physically. And for many of us, what sexualizes our thinking about others is our exposure and use of pornography. So build the fence! When it comes to porn, get accountability software on all your devices and some accountability partners to report to (I do this with my two sons).

Second, don’t have “the” conversation. And I mean the conversation that is the most dangerous, most destructive, most “first foot on the slippery slope” you can have with someone of the opposite sex. Ready for it? It’s the conversation about what’s wrong or disappointing with your marriage. Never, ever, ever talk negatively or disappointingly about your spouse to another person of the opposite sex outside of an actual counseling or pastoral setting. And if you are the counselor or pastor? My goodness, that would be the most inappropriate and sin-baiting conversation imaginable. So build the fence! Swear off any such conversation—period.

Third, avoid vulnerable or compromising situations. Watch how and when you are alone with someone of the opposite sex. Watch how you interact with people. Don’t visit someone alone, at home, of the opposite sex. Watch out for that long lunch alone together, or staying late and working together on a project, finding that the conversation turns to anything but work. So build the fence! Decide such situations are off-limits for you. Make this fence particularly high when you know you are already attracted to someone because the temptation will be to take them down with you and to rationalize doing so because you desire to be with them.

Fourth, practice thinking long-term. Left to themselves, our sexual urges will press us to seek immediate gratification as if there are no long-term repercussions. If you don’t engage your brain, you will endanger your marriage, undermine your values, risk your health and trade away long-term happiness for short-term satisfaction. Remember that with sexual sin, you will lose the life you now have. Your family, your ministry, your reputation…everything. So build the fence! Practice thinking about what the consequences of your decision will be in 10 minutes, in 10 months and in 10 years. That’s the kind of thinking our sexual impulses need because, left to themselves, they will only engage the first 10 minutes. But it’s the 10 months and 10 years that matter most.

Fifth, choose humility. The most frightening thing imaginable is to say to yourself, “It could never happen to me.” When you have that kind of pride, you don’t build any fences because you don’t think you need to. “Fences are for other people. The weaker people.” And then comes the fall. So build the fence! Here’s the truth about me that I must never forget: I can fall. I can be tempted to have an affair. I can be lured into adultery. I can find myself vulnerable to…anything. And then let that reality scare you enough, and breed enough humility, to build whatever fences you should.

I hope I am never in the news for sexual misconduct. But if I am, it will be because I didn’t build a fence where I needed to or because I decided to take it down or ignore after it had been built.

Either way, it will have been my fault.

So to all of us, myself first and foremost, let’s take out the hammer and nails and build the fence!

This article originally appeared here.

3 Ways to Keep Your Sheep From Being Stolen

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Recently, pastor and theologian David Fitch engaged Ed Stetzer on his data about megachurches and sheep stealing, it seemed that the only thing they could agree on is that there were too many church transfers.

This is part of who we are as a country. The average American moves 14 times over his or her lifetime. And 58 percent of people who have changed churches, changed for reasons that had nothing to do with location.

There may be reasons to leave a church. In a way, church-hopping is very American. It makes sense in a place full of personalized playlists and individualized movie recommendations.

It would be easy to write off church hopping as a cultural phenomenon. You could even cite the individual for a lack of spiritual maturity. But churches have a responsibility as well.

Imagine if your sheep were so deeply committed to your church that it would be hard to accept a job offer in a new city.

Imagine if there was such a level of commitment that they would be willing to put up with poor preaching and bad music.

Church-hopping and sheep-stealing don’t have to be inevitable.

But it will require doing at least three things differently.

1. Build a Community They Don’t Want to Leave.

Think of the closest community that you have ever experienced.

Maybe it was your traveling basketball team in high school, your best friends from college or the connections you made on a mission trip. Do you remember that heartwrenching feeling you had when it was time to leave that community?

Does your church feel that way?

Churches are often indicted for being nothing more than purveyors of religious goods and services. They may even “sell” community through some sort of small group system or another official program. But these are often attended only by a small percentage of the church. They can easily become a perfunctory event rather than a time of deep communal sharing.

The second chapter of Acts paints a picture of the young church gathering daily in the temple courts, eating in each others homes, sharing possessions and growing numerically.

How Does John Piper Do Sermon Preparation? (Surprise! He Starts on Fridays)

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Of sermon preparation, John Stott said, “The golden rule for sermon outlines is that each text must be allowed to supply its own structure. The skillful expositor allows the text to open itself up before our eyes, like a rose unfolding to the morning sun and displaying its previously hidden beauty.”

Stott’s quote is a fairly succinct description of how John Piper prepares to enter the pulpit.

Piper shares his sermon preparation ritual in this video but immediately warns the viewer, “don’t be like me.”

Surprisingly, the preacher known for his extensive exposition of Scripture doesn’t begin his sermon preparation until Friday. But it’s a long day.  He said there have been times when he doesn’t finish until 2 am the next morning.

Piper says he begins Friday morning reading the original language of the text he plans to preach.  Then he writes out the the passage on a half sheet of paper adding comments as he proceeds. He prays that God will show him what he should tell his people, asking the Holy Spirit to “show me new things.”  And he often does. He says new ideas, thoughts and questions come to mind that he adds to his paper. By the time he’s done, Piper said, “the sheet is an absolute jumble.”

Then he stops for the day.

On Saturday, he goes back to his sheet of paper, circling points that stand out and works on finding a pattern.

By lunchtime, he starts putting the actual sermon together based on his study.  He thinks out loud, sometimes preaches out loud as he moves through the thoughts and ideas that he’s developed over the past 24 hours.  This part of the process is meant to get the ideas that he sees on paper into his heart and mind.

By the time he’s finished, typically 4-8 hours later, he’s ready to enter the pulpit on Sunday morning.

What Piper takes into the pulpit is the byproduct of his study– somewhere around 10 double spaced pages “that are so marked up, they look like chicken scratch.”

He admits many are shocked to hear he doesn’t start preparing until Friday, but he says it’s no problem and repeats his earlier admonition “it works for me, it doesn’t have to for you…wear your armor not my armor.”

Bob Buford: Mega-Force Behind Megachurch Movement Dies at 78

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Ministry leader, philanthropist, author and businessman Bob Buford has died at 78.

Buford Television, Inc., began with a single ABC affiliate in Tyler, Texas, and grew into a network of cable systems across the country. In 1999 Buford helped sell the family business interest in order to create philanthropic initiatives designed to serve churches. He often joked that he hoped the last check he wrote just before he died would bounce—because he had given away the last of his millions.

Those initiatives included the Leadership Network, a ministry started in 1984 to help the newly emerging wave of pastors who were breaking worship attendance barriers of 1,000 and sometimes 2,000 or more. The Halftime Institute that included teaching, coaching and connecting marketplace leaders to discover God’s calling on their lives. And the Peter F. Drucker Foundation for Nonprofit Management (now The Hesselbein Leadership Forum at the University of Pittsburgh) and the Drucker Institute at Claremont Graduate University.

His influence was wide ranging. Many leaders well-known in evangelical circles point to Buford’s impact on their ministries. Popular author and management expert Ken Blanchard said, “Bob made my faith come alive. Without his influence, I might never have become a loving follower of Jesus, and the organization Lead Like Jesus would not be having the impact it is having around the world.”

“I am grateful for the quiet, ferocious commitment to Christ and his kingdom that was embodied in Bob Buford,” Matt Chandler senior pastor of The Village Church in Flower Mound, Texas, said in a story carried by Christianity Today. “Bob created space for conversations about faithful disciple-making in a large church context, and The Village has benefited extensively from that space and those conversations. His uncanny ability to gather high-capacity leaders to dream about kingdom impact was unique and will be missed.”

“Some invest in fame and fortune. Bob Buford invested in the lives of leaders,” said Leith Anderson, one of the many pastors Buford helped through connections and resources. Anderson pastored a Minneapolis church that grew from the hundreds to thousands, and he has also served as president of the National Association of Evangelicals. “New ideas, new relationships, new opportunities—Bob Buford opened the way for me and many.”

Bob Buford died April 18, 2018, after a lengthy illness near his home in Dallas, Texas.

When Lice Comes to Church

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Are you looking for a head lice letter to parents?

Imagine this. It’s Monday morning. You come into the office still excited about how yesterday went—all the volunteers showed up on time, kids were well-behaved and fully engaged, programming had no glitches whatsoever and you had several new families visit your church. As you drink your morning coffee and connect with the co-workers, your phone rings. It’s one of the parents letting you know that their child, who was in church yesterday, has lice. You get off the phone and wish you could hit the reset button…

Unfortunately children’s ministry and lice are almost inseparable. In the last five years I had to deal with this issue twice.

It’s not a question of IF, but WHEN lice will attack a child in your church.

That’s why I have put together a game plan that will give you all the information and tools to tackle the problem calmly, quickly and professionally WHEN it happens to you.

UNDERSTANDING THE PROBLEM:

First of all, the term lice is simply the plural of louse. A louse is an arachnid, a very tiny creature related to spiders and ticks. Like ticks, they feed on blood and reproduce rapidly. Unlike ticks, they do not burrow into the skin of their host, but live in the hair, descending the hair shaft for a blood meal

Lice are usually passed on from person to person in close proximity. They will crawl from the hair of their host to another person’s hair, or from an infested comb or brush. In rare cases, they can also be picked up from infected clothing, blankets, toys and carpet. It is extremely easy to pick up lice from others, who may not even realize they are infected.

The most noticeable symptom to the host is the itch, caused by the little insects feeding on the scalp. The adults, which are white, can be seen moving around in the hair, usually near the scalp. This is why they can go unnoticed by parents or volunteers looking after infected children. Unless the hair moves enough to expose the lice, or one comes to the surface, they are hidden by the hair. Furthermore, the nits (eggs) are almost clear, very, very sticky, and attached to the hair shaft, usually very near the scalp. They are very hard to spot unless they are being closely looked for by someone who knows what to look for.

A very common misconception about lice is that a child who has lice is dirty. Nothing could be further from the truth. Lice just aren’t picky when it comes to hair and will infect any hair, equally, regardless of whether it is clean or dirty, long or short. However, head lice are more common in long hair, which is why infestations are two to four times more common in girls than in boys.

The good news about lice is, if there is any good news about them, that they have not been shown to spread disease.

Lice spread best through head to head contact, so it should be no surprise that they are more common in young children who often play together closely on the floor. Unlike some of the myths claim, they do not jump, nor do they fly.

As mentioned above, head lice can be spread from infected textiles such as clothing and toys, but they can’t survive for very long off the head. This means the first line of treatment needs to focus on the infested hair.

Head lice don’t always cause itching. Many children don’t even realize they have lice until someone else gets them and a call goes out to “Check your children.”

Children do not get lice from pets. People cannot share lice with pets, nor vice versa.

No matter what you might read on a friend’s blog, lice are not simple to get rid of. Also, they do not develop resistance to head lice products. If someone tells you a certain product is no longer effective, it is likely that they did not follow the age approved methods for getting rid of lice. It takes specific steps which we will examine further, below.

Unfortunately, many people still associate lice with someone else’s dirty children. Parents are often mortified when they discover lice in their child’s hair, and immediately want to come up with a million excuses about how it could possibly happen to their child. I’ve heard of a situation where a child was shunned because she had lice. Other parents told their children to avoid the girl, because she was dirty and had bugs in her hair. Those children told other children and, of course, embellished a bit as children are prone to do. The poor girl couldn’t understand why her friends had suddenly turned against her. That is why it is absolutely necessary to protect the identity of the infected child. By protecting and not giving away their name you really protect their self-worth.

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