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How to Encourage Your Church to Make a Pastor’s Job More Joyful

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As a pastor for over 35 years, I’ve experienced the ups and downs ministry brings. Sometimes it seems like I’m on an emotional high after a baptism service, a breakthrough elders’ meeting or a powerful worship service. Other times I’ve had to battle thoughts of giving up when I receive several critical emails in one week, a staff member is consistently underperforming and I need to confront him, or when it seems like the ministry has hit a lid. However, I believe one thing makes a pastor’s job most joyful. See if you agree.

In the most intimate of the Apostle Paul’s New Testament letters, Philippians, he gives us a clue to what can make a pastor’s job most joyful. He writes this phrase in Philippians 2.16: in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing.

William Barclay explains the meaning of this verse when he says that Paul uses a term for an athlete who trains. No athlete wants his training to fail. He wants to win the race for which he’s training. So, Paul prays that he may not be like an athlete whose training and effort have gone for nothing. For him the greatest prize in life was to know that through him others had come to know and to love and to serve Jesus Christ. [Barclay, W. (Ed.). (1975). The letters to the Philippians, Colossians, and Thessalonians(electronic ed., pp. 45–46). Philadelphia: The Westminster John Knox Press.]

In other words, when Paul came to the end of his life, he would not want his sacrifice and service to have been a waste. He is telling the church at Philippi that they bring him the greatest joy when they love God and love others well.

When Christians truly love God and others, it minimizes crabbiness, critical spirits and nitpicky preferences. It prompts believers to willing give of their time, talent and treasures. More people extend grace when things don’t go their way in the church. And, by the way, the opposite should hold true as well. When we pastors love God and love others well, we extend those same graces to people in our churches.

So how can we encourage our church to make our job joyful and in doing so fulfill Hebrews 13. 17, which says, Contribute to the joy of their leadership, not its drudgery? (Message) Consider these suggestions.

1. Model the behavior and attitude you hope those in your church will live out. We can’t live by another standard. Neither can we expect others to do what we are unwilling to do ourselves.

2. At appropriate times (not when you’re mad at somebody), include this concept in your teaching and preaching. When I taught Philippians 2 it made it natural to broach the topic.

3. Tell stories of church people who live out godly character and conduct. People emulate what you publicly honor.

4. Thank people when they live out the values that bring you joy. Express it privately and publicly.

What has brought you the greatest joy in ministry? How can you encourage church people to do it more, without becoming self-serving?

This article originally appeared here.

17 Years of Decline in SBC Have Members Feeling ‘Blue’

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You can find plenty of blues down on Bourbon Street in the French Quarter of New Orleans. Now you can also find the blues across town at the New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary.

NOBTS president Dr. Chuck Kelly told students and faculty during a chapel address on August 21 that “Southern Baptists have the blues” and “the future is unclear” for the largest Protestant denomination in the United States.

In addition to several well publicized stumbles, Kelly said the overall mood is pretty blue.

“The tone after Dallas in 2018 was very, very different. As different as different could be. There was not triumph and excitement. There was not anger or frustration. There was a bewildering confusion over Southern Baptists behaving differently,” he said, reading from his personal journal.

The “Baptist blues,” he said, stem from “unprecedented circumstances” including moral indiscretion and the termination of Dr. Paige Patterson, the former president of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, after he failed to investigate and report two separate rape allegations by female students.

But he also senses uneasiness between older, traditionalist Southern Baptists and the rising young and theologically Reformed.

“One final ingredient I should mention has been mixed into the jumble of all these unprecedented actions. Completely different, completely unrelated. And that is the increasing tensions over the advance of Calvinism in the SBC, bubbled over a bit in the SBC presidential election at that Dallas Convention,” Kelley said.

“Although neither nominee promoted the election as such, the election became in the eyes of many a choice between younger, Reformed leadership or older, traditional Baptist leadership. The younger, reformed candidate won, adding to the concern of many on the future of the traditional convention emphasis on evangelism and missions and the traditional theological focus on the Bible as the centerpiece of theological conversation and discussion,” he added.

17 Years of Decline for Southern Baptists

And perhaps most depressing of all is the steady decline in membership and baptisms.

“This is now year 17 of the longest decline in baptisms in the history of the SBC. Unprecedented. And that decline in baptism shows absolutely no sign it is slowing down,” he said.

Kelley explained that since 2009 the SBC planted 871 new churches. But since 2009, 772 Southern Baptist-affiliated churches either closed their doors or disassociated from the convention. “Where is the fruitfulness in evangelism that Southern Baptists became so accustomed to?” he asked.

He added, “It would have been one thing if our only decline was in that single area of baptisms. But it’s worse than that. For most of the last decade, the SBC has been declining year after year in membership, worship attendance, and Sunday school, Bible study, small group…the typical common churches of the SBC are struggling on an unprecedented scale.”

There are some silver linings among the dark clouds.

Many SBC church plants in urban areas are doing well. The North American Mission Board reported to the 2018 Dallas convention that SBC church plants baptize at a 67 percent better attendee-to-baptism ratio when compared to traditionally established churches.

And Baptist Press also reported that nearly twice as many representatives, called messengers, attended the 2018 convention than the previous year. Of the demographics gathered, 35 percent reported being first-time attendees and an encouraging increased number of messengers, 25.2 percent, were between 18 and 39 years of age.

Australia’s New Prime Minister Is an Evangelical

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The Telegraph recently ranked the least religious countries in the world. Australia came in 12th with just 34 percent saying they feel religious.

So it is notable that the mostly secular nation’s new prime minister is an evangelical.

Scott Morrison, who had previously been the country’s treasurer, was sworn in Friday as Australia’s sixth prime minister in 11 years after a political rift among conservative lawmakers led to the ouster of Prime Minister Malcolm Turnbull.

The New York Times reports that Morrison, 50, is the first evangelical Christian to become prime minister and that church has always been a part of his life. He even sees Christianity as one of his motivations for public service.

“For me, faith is personal, but the implications are social—as personal and social responsibility are at the heart of the Christian message,” Morrison said in his first speech to the Australian parliament in 2008, according to the Times. He also cited a verse from the Book of Jeremiah as the encapsulation of the core of his beliefs: “I am the Lord who exercises loving kindness, justice and righteousness on Earth; for I delight in these things, declares the Lord.”

“Australia is not a secular country,” he added. “It is a free country. This is a nation where you have the freedom to follow any belief system you choose.”

For the last 10 years, Morrison, his wife, Jenny, and their daughters have been active members of the Horizon Church, one of Sydney’s largest Pentecostal congregations.

“I think that people of faith around the nation are very much filled with hope that someone of Christian faith and principle is holding such a role in public life,” Kristy Mills, the executive pastor of the Horizon Church, told the Times. “I think there is a great hope that decision making will be influenced by godly principles.”

Morrison has called for stronger legal protections for religious freedom in the country whose population stands at more than 24 million. He told Fairfax Media that discrimination against Christians is subtle, “It always starts innocently and it’s always said it is just a joke—just like most discrimination does. And I’m just going to call that out.”

A case in point is an article today in news.com.au with the headline, From talking in tongues to ‘divine faith,’ could Scott Morrison’s religion be a liability?

Reporter Shannon Molloy visited Morrison’s church “where worshippers can be so overcome they start to speak in tongues,” warning it “could become unpalatable for the mainstream public.” She also discloses a senior Liberal source told her, “Mr. Morrison would be encouraged to downplay his deeply religious beliefs.”

Morrison dismisses the advice saying his “personal faith in Jesus Christ is not a political agenda…for me, faith is personal, but the implications are social.”

Meanwhile, the Australian Christian Lobby calls Morrison’s deep faith “reassuring.”

“He doesn’t think he’s the biggest and most powerful person,” the group’s boss, Martyn Iles, told the New York Times. “He knows he’s under God.”

Thom Rainer Leaving LifeWay. Says It’s Time for New Leadership

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Thom Rainer, the president of LifeWay Christian Resources, says he is resisting the urge to stay on the job and plans to retire in the coming year.

Rainer, 63, announced his intentions to LifeWay’s executive leadership team on Monday. He said the announcement came with tears.

“You see, I really love LifeWay and the people who serve here,” Rainer wrote on his webpage. “They are absolutely incredible men and women who serve the Lord with joy and hard work. My 13 years at LifeWay have been blessed for many reasons, not the least of which are the 5,000+ employees who work here.”

Rainer said he will serve until a new president is named or through the end of August 2019, whichever comes first.

Rainer wrote that he was tempted to stay on but did not think that would be best for LifeWay.

“Frankly, I found myself rationalizing how I could stay for many more years. In fact, others have told me I am leading better than ever, that I should consider staying. I, however, can feel the temptations of hanging on for my own sake, for my own pleasure. LifeWay cannot and must not be my identity. I have always advocated for leaders to know when it’s time to depart, and to act upon it. I must practice what I preach. It is time to pass the baton of leadership to a new generation.”

Rainer’s retirement plans include spending more time with his wife, children and grandchildren.

And he plans to work on revitalizing churches worldwide.

“I love the local church, with all of its imperfections and idiosyncratic ways. I want to give every minute God allows me to make a difference to see churches revitalized. I will begin a nonprofit organization called Revitalize Network for this purpose. I have a vision to see tens of thousands of churches working together joyfully to grow in greater health and numbers. It is my passion. It is my dream. Above all, it is my prayer.”

He also has plans to continue operating his website, ThomRainer.com, that reaches more than 10 million viewers annually. His two podcasts “Rainer on Leadership” and “Revitalize & Replant with Thom Rainer” have a combined total of 1.5 million downloads.

Speaking on behalf of LifeWay’s board of trustees, board chair Jimmy Scroggins said: “We are deeply grateful for the work Dr. Rainer and his staff have accomplished the past 13 years to support churches in their mission of making disciples and providing biblical solutions for life.

“Dr. Rainer has strategically led through times of economic uncertainty, the digital revolution, changing church practices, and tumultuous shifts in culture,” Scroggins said. “His foresight and ability to lead change has well prepared LifeWay for the future as the organization continues to impact and influence the world with the Gospel of Jesus Christ.”

LifeWay is one of the world’s largest providers of Christian products and services, including Bibles, books, Bible studies, music, church supplies, events. Established in Nashville, Tennessee, in 1891, the company owns and operates more than 170 LifeWay Christian Stores throughout the United States as well as Ridgecrest Christian Conference Center in North Carolina.

Trump Touts ‘Keeping His Promises’ at Dinner for 100 Evangelicals

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President Donald Trump hosted 100 evangelical leaders at the White House Monday and touted his record in supporting initiatives evangelicals have long sought.

The list included several steps the administration has taken to protect religious liberty for those who object to abortion or gay marriage, reinstatement of the Mexico City policy and changes to Title X that prevent taxpayer dollars from supporting abortion, prison reform that partners with faith based organizations, and how the administration has spoken out about worldwide religious persecution.

“Every day, we’re standing for religious believers, because we know that faith and family, not government and bureaucracy, are the center of American life,” Trump told the gathering. “And we know that freedom is a gift from our Creator… Together, we will uplift our nation in prayer, defend the sanctity of life, and forever proudly remain one nation under God.”

Like other meetings between Trump and pastors, some left-leaning Christian critics of the president criticized the gathering. John Fea, a professor of American history at Messiah College, called the dinner “a court evangelical extravaganza” and referred to several of the attendees as “court evangelicals.”

“We have prayed for an opportunity to speak to the president of the United States and we would have a voice and an open door to express our views. We have a president now who wants to hear from us,” Franklin Graham, who has been very active in his informal involvement with the administration, told the Christian Post. “The answer to anyone who says it is just pandering is: He is keeping his promises.”

“If it was just photo-ops and pandering, then nothing would happen,” he added. “But all these things are happening and we are amazed that we are seeing these things accomplished in the two years or so.”

Southern Baptist Convention president J.D. Greear attended and was criticized by some for that decision.

White House Evangelical Dinner Included a Q & A Time

Jack Graham, the senior pastor at Prestonwood Baptist Church in Plano, Texas, who has served as president of the Southern Baptist Convention, told The Christian Post that Trump took questions during dinner to allow evangelical leaders in the room to speak their minds.

What ensued, Graham said, was about 35 to 40 minutes of pastors expressing their appreciation for what the Trump administration has been able to do to progress a socially conservative agenda in the last 18 months. While Christians are often called to speak “truth to power,” Graham said the leaders in the room felt called to speak “love to power.”

Other notable evangelicals who attended the meeting include James Dobson, California pastor Greg Laurie, Family Research Council President Tony Perkins, radio host Eric Metaxas, televangelist Kenneth Copeland, Pastor Jentezen Franklin, Faith & Freedom Coalition’s Ralph Reed, Maryland Bishop Harry Jackson, San Diego Pastor Jim Garlow, former Southern Baptist Convention President Ronnie Floyd and Hispanic evangelical leader the Rev. Samuel Rodriguez.

The dinner was also attended by Vice President Mike Pence, Secretary of Homeland Security Ben Carson, Secretary of the Department of Health and Human Services Alex Azar, and Ambassador at-Large for International Religious Freedom Sam Brownback. The event was officially hosted by first lady Melania Trump.

DIY Finger Puppet Bible Theater for Kids

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Learning stinks, right? Most kids think they do not enjoy learning; they do not want to go to school much less Bible class. Like most of us, though, they love learning when they love how they are learning. They learn best when they are having so much fun they do not realize they are learning. That’s the trick! As teachers and parents of God’s word, we have our work cut out for us. We must get creative in our teaching.

Reach all three major learning styles with one simple activity—a Bible puppet theater. First, you share the lesson using your finger puppets to tell the story. Your finger puppet may be the student, and you, the teacher, talk to the puppet. You tell the puppet the Bible story while asking questions all along the way. Your finger puppet answers with amazement. And when the puppet does not know the answer, it simply asks the class! Get them involved. You reach the visual learner as they watch the puppets in action. The auditory learner hears the story and gets to answer some questions along the way. The kinesthetic learner is about to learn the way they do best now. You’ve been an example to this theater, it’s time to create theirs. It’s so easy!

Supplies:

 

1. Cut along all the dotted lines. This will separate the puppets from the stage and it gives your theater its windows.

 

 

 

2. Glue or tape your toilet paper rolls (or other items) to create the stand for your theater. These should tape to the back (unless the kids decorate them to be a part of the stage—Roman pillars?)

 

 

 

3. Now, decorate the finger puppets.

4. Cut them out.

5. Measure around kids’ fingers and tape to fit.

 

 

 

6. And there you have it! A finger puppet theater.

7. Let kids partner up to present the lesson. They decide who is the finger teacher and finger student.

 

God’s word is exciting and so very important; so let’s make learning about Him something our kids look forward to. And let’s try to create something with them they won’t leave on the seats at church or toss the minute they get home. Our goal is to keep God in their thoughts. After all, they play “superhero” make believe with each other; so why not reenacting Bible stories?

This article originally appeared here.

A Challenge to the Frustrated Worship Leader

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On a scale of 1 to 10, how frustrated are you?

I suppose that’s a sad way to open an article. I’m sorry.

But if I’m honest, not a week goes by where I don’t hear from a frustrated worship leader. That frustration centers around these issues.

Musicians who:

• Show up late.

• Have bad attitudes.

• Don’t know the music.

I understand the struggle. You have a burning desire to see God move. You want to build a great team. You want to be unified and foster a unique, healthy kingdom culture. But Daisey the Drama Queen is on your team and it doesn’t seem to be getting any easier.

I’ve been there. I remember leading a worship team when I was in high school where the percussionist (yea, remember congas?) would lay down on the ground, mumbling and complaining about everything he disagreed with (which was everything). Sometimes he would even leave rehearsal early he was so frustrated. But we let him play because we didn’t have anyone else.

I remember a musician who used to make people on the team cry because of his attitude. He was rude, negative and unhappy.

I remember rehearsal times where no one knew what was going on. Rehearsal felt like a nursery—spoon-feeding everyone the chords and lyrics.

I remember coming home so discouraged because nothing was going well. You’re not alone.

And there’s hope. Today, I enjoy a wonderful team with some of my best friends and very minimal drama. Sure, we’re not perfect. I’m not perfect. But there’s a culture of excellence that makes doing ministry enjoyable.

Here’s my encouragement to you: Enjoy your present as you work to build the future.

We all need to improve. We all need to go to the “next level.” But there’s something you can’t forget: Your goal isn’t to build a team that outsiders are impressed with. Your goal is to build people. Your people. The people you have right in front of you.

Like this:

• Pastor and love your current team…as you seek to recruit more drummers.

Lead with compassion your current congregation…as you seek to break the 500 barrier.

• Engage and encourage the older members of your team…as you seek to raise up the next generation.

Don’t wish you had someone else’s team. Start to build the culture you want to see happen.

When We’re Shocked to Find Sinners at Church

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I have made no secret of how impactful—yes I know that’s not a word—Dietrich Bonhoeffer’s Life Together has been in my life. I have read it a few times over the last several years, but the first time I read it was in the context of a men’s small group in my church where I was still hiding my sin, my pain, my shame, my brokenness and trying my best to maintain the illusion that I had it all together. I fooled everybody in that group. Which means I was a bigger failure than I had even feared.

Sinners at Church

Life Together painfully but helpfully served to dislodge my self-sufficiency and challenge my fear of being really, truly known. Below is one part that especially did me in:

He who is alone with his sin is utterly alone. It may be that Christians, notwithstanding corporate worship, common prayer and all their fellowship in service, may still be left to their loneliness. The final break-through to fellowship does not occur, because, though they have fellowship with one another as believers and as devout people, they do not have fellowship as the undevout, as sinners. The pious fellowship permits no one to be a sinner. So everybody must conceal his sin from himself and from the fellowship. We dare not be sinners. Many Christians are unthinkably horrified when a real sinner is suddenly discovered among the righteous. So we remain alone with our sin, living in lies and hypocrisy. The fact is that we are sinners!

But it is the grace of the Gospel, which is so hard for the pious to understand, that it confronts us with the truth and says: You are a sinner, a great, desperate sinner; now come, as the sinner that you are, to God who loves you. He wants you as you are; He does not want anything from you, a sacrifice, a work; He wants you alone. “My son, give me thine heart” (Prov. 23.26). God has come to you to save the sinner. Be glad! This message is liberation through truth. You can hide nothing from God. The mask you wear before men will do you no good before Him. He wants to see you as you are, He wants to be gracious to you. You do not have to go on lying to yourself and your brothers, as if you were without sin; you can dare to be a sinner. Thank God for that; He loves the sinner but He hates sin . . .

I know the reasons we don’t live transparently with each other. We’re afraid. We’re embarrassed. We don’t want to be a burden. We don’t want to be judged!

And I know the reasons others don’t live transparently with us. They’re afraid. They’re embarrassed. We treat them like burdens. We judge them.

And what all of this amounts to is a distrust in God himself. I know people are mean, I know people are judgmental, I know people act weird and get messy and cause problems and are really inefficient for the ways we normally like to do church—but if we believe in the gospel, we don’t have a choice any longer to live in the dark.

How about we stop being shocked to find sinners among the “pious” and start shocking the fearful with grace?

This article originally appeared here. 

Why Do People Go to Church? This Study Found It’s Not the Sermon

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A recent Pew Research Center poll titled “Why Americans Go (and Don’t Go) to Religious Services” caught my attention this week.

There’s a lot of information, but here’s what I gleaned from it:

Among adults who attend church services at least once or twice a month, when asked to rank reasons they attend as very important, somewhat important or not important, 81 percent indicated that a very important reason they go to church is “to become closer to God.”

Sixty-nine percent said they attend so that “children will have moral foundation” and 68 percent also go “to make me a better person.”

The fifth important reason on the list (59 percent) said they go because they “find the sermons valuable.”

Don’t miss this. The top three answers people give are so that they will be closer to God, their children will follow God, and they will become more like God.

But that’s not all. Digging a little deeper, when asked to list the most important reason, 61 percent said “to become closer to God.”

No other answer was close.

Only 8 percent answered “to make me a better person,” 4 percent responded “so my children will grow up with a moral foundation.” And only 4 percent said they go because they “find the sermons valuable.”

So, while sermons are essential, and many people decide what church to go to based on how much they like the preaching, people are starving to get closer to God.

I think it’s because most people don’t feel near to God throughout the week. They live in the real world, surrounded by the worries of everyday life, the temptations of sin, and friends, family and coworkers who don’t believe in God.

By the time Sunday rolls around, if it’s one of the weeks they actually go to church, they are spiritually starving.

HOW MIGHT THIS CHANGE YOUR PREACHING?

We cannot forget what people need.

They need help getting closer to God.

Many sermons focus on moral living and becoming a better person, but that’s not the number one need people coming to your church feel. Those things are important. But their primary need is not better behavior, but a better God.

Other sermons focus on the vision of the church, challenging people to give their money and time to help further the mission. That’s also important. But their primary need is not a bigger church, but a bigger God.

Another trend of preaching focuses on greater knowledge of the Bible. This too is very good. But their primary need is not more Bible knowledge, but to know the God of the Bible.

So, here is a question we all must consider: From beginning to end, where is our church service taking people?

Are we just leading people to better behavior, more participation or greater knowledge? Or, are we leading people toward knowing God, an encounter that will ultimately transform their lives, resulting in all of the above?

People aren’t stupid. They know they need God. Many just don’t know how to find him.

I think this is one reason why some churches are dying and others are thriving.

Thriving churches have an energy about them where people come expecting to draw closer to God. They expect to feel his presence, hear his voice and experience his love.

It’s not about you, the pastor. You are just the messenger. You are merely the person saying, “Look at God! Look at his Word! This is God speaking. This is what God wants to say to you today.”

According to this survey, being part of a community and hearing a good sermon is still vital. However, what most people hunger and thirst for is to experience the presence of God. So, in your service this week, how will you lead your people into God’s presence?

Don’t just give advice. Don’t just teach morality. Don’t just lecture. Don’t just play church.

Lead people into the presence of God, and let God take it from there.

Oh, and here’s a bonus tip: If you’ve been living like hell all week, it’s hard to lead people to heaven.

You won’t lead people to God if you haven’t been in his presence yourself. So, if your relationship with God is lacking, start there.

This article originally appeared here. 

Shouldn’t We Share Our Concerns About a Book Directly With the Author Instead of in the Public Forum?

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Recently someone asked me, “When you have concerns about a book, and disagree with it, shouldn’t you talk directly to the author rather than posting about it on your blog?”

In some cases, yes. I’ve gone directly to authors when I have a relationship with them, in the spirit of Matthew 18:15-17. For example, for years I didn’t share my review of The Shack publicly, and just emailed it directly to those who asked me about the book. Because the author and I live in the same area, I was able to invite him to discuss his book. We sat down in a coffee shop for nearly three hours in constructive dialogue. After we talked about a lot of things, I read to him most of the parts of the book that concerned me. When we met together face-to-face, he graciously agreed to respond to my questions, as I had underlined many places in the book where he has God make statements that I believe are not biblically accurate. I actually met with him a second time to discuss the issues.

When it became apparent that he wasn’t going to revise the book in light of the doctrinal concerns that I and many others have expressed, and because the book’s influence was growing and I was still getting questions about it, it seemed appropriate to finally post on my blog a link to what I wrote years before.

However, Matthew 18 addresses the need to go to people privately when they’ve sinned against us, or perhaps when we’ve sinned against them. But I’ve never read a book where I think the author has sinned against me, or I’ve sinned against the author. The author publicly takes a stand, so any ideas in the book are subject to public disagreement. This comes with the territory of being an author. After writing 55 books, this is something I’ve long accepted. People routinely criticize my works and ideas, and they absolutely have the right to do so. I don’t lose sleep over that. True, sometimes I feel they have no regard for what I’ve said in context, and that they’re misrepresenting me. But I too have the right to say that just as they have the right to criticize me.

Also, often it’s simply not practical to connect directly with an author, since we don’t have a relationship. In such cases I can certainly hope and pray there are others in their lives who are willing to speak the truth in love to them. I have personally contacted several people with concerns about what they’ve said, and never heard back from them. I get that. Honestly, there are so many people who’ve taken issue with me on various things I’ve written, that often one of our staff members ends up addressing their concerns.

I could spend the rest of my life trying to respond to people’s objections and never be able to do anything else again. So I fully understand the limits of time to respond.

I think what’s central to this issue is that a book is by nature something placed in the public sphere, and is no longer a private matter. When it impacts and influences Christian readers, sometimes after careful consideration, I might feel the need to point out doctrinal and theological issues that readers should be aware of. I believe that just as others are free to do so, I am also.

Those who regularly read my blog know how rare it is for me to express opposition to a book or author. I only do so when I feel God is compelling me to. In each review of a book where I share concerns, I am not attacking the author, but rather simply expressing honest disagreement. Usually my disagreements are with some—not all—of the things he or she says.

Yes, we should all examine our hearts and motives before sharing a review. Yet every published book is fair game for honest evaluation. My books have received their share of criticism, but still I appreciate it when people are even-handed and kind, as I seek to be in my posts. My heart isn’t to tear down others or cause unnecessary division in the church. (Ironically, some people have judged my motives while calling me judgmental.)

Scripture is clear: We’re to know the truth (1 Timothy 4:3 still applies: “Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth.”

This article originally appeared here.

What Real Rest Looks Like for a Pastor

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Resting isn’t nearly as easy as it sounds.

Our traditional definition of rest is simple enough: Do less.

A more fleshed-out, biblical understanding of rest, however, is a bit deeper than merely doing less.

It’s really doing less to allow time and space to become more.

And it’s that last part that we probably struggle with the most.

I’ve been a pastor, non-stop, since I was 19 years old. I love it. I don’t plan to do anything else in my adult life—at least nothing that replaces pastoring as my primary calling.

I’m 40 years old as I write this, so I’ve now spent more than half of my life preaching and leading the church. And for the first time ever, I’m currently on sabbatical.

My wife and I, along with our Worship Pastor, are all “off” for the month of August. At the beginning of the month, I had several goals in mind:

Then I came across some material written about pastoral sabbaticals that said something like…

  • A sabbatical isn’t for writing a book.
  • It’s not for planning sermons.
  • It’s not for reading a bunch of books on leadership.
  • It’s not a time to visit other churches to take notes.
  • It’s not a time to cultivate a vision for your ministry.

Obviously, I kept reading.

My clicking around led me to John Ortberg’s article about his very first sabbatical, during which he met with Dallas Willard, who changed John’s priorities with a simple statement…

You must arrange to live with deep contentment, joy and confidence in your everyday experience of life with God.

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I realized about nine days into my 30 that this month “off” isn’t about doing more things or doing different things than what I normally do. It’s far more about:

  • Doing nothing, and
  • Becoming something.

Nothing is hard, but as far as the church is concerned, we have leaders and volunteers who are absolutely amazing. I’ve done practically nothing and yet pretty much everything is being done, and done well.

I decided not to write any book proposals. Yet. And other than preaching at a friend’s church in another state one Sunday, I’ve really been able to unplug fairly well.

It’s the becoming something that has been challenging.

I realize that, as a pastor, I spend most of my time performing. I don’t mean that I’m pretending to be something that I’m not. I simply mean that, when I wake up on Sunday, I’m preparing to go and interact with people, love people, answer questions, preach the sermon before a gathered crowd on the stage, greet a few more people, answer a few more questions, and then finally head home.

And during the week, I’m preparing for Sunday, answering emails, having lots of coffee with people, directing people to other staff members or volunteers for answers, thinking through upcoming events and sermon series, etc.

In other words, pastors are pretty much always “ON.” And my wife is even more ON than I am in terms of the number of people who connect with her for friendship and for help.

And when you’re always on and you’re always doing, it’s very easy to forget who you really are—deep down, in the dark, when no one is looking or expecting anything of you. And it’s certainly hard to live in a state of becoming what God intends for you to become.

In short, you lose sight of “deep contentment, joy and confidence in your everyday experience of life with God,” as Willard put it.

After realizing my missteps, I decided to start this sabbatical over and do it a little differently.

I’ve been waking up in the mornings and doing nothing. Or at least, as little as possible. But I’ve been spending that time very intentionally listening for the Holy Spirit to remind me about who he is, who I am and what I should be becoming.

I’m writing down whatever he tells me and whatever insights I gain from reading the scriptures, and I’m talking to my wife about what I’m hearing, and what she’s hearing, too.

Has it been easy? Fun? Relaxing? Not exactly.

It’s been painful.

I’m seeing, in the mirror of God’s word, subtle flaws in my character that need to be scrubbed and chiseled away. I’m facing the little pieces of myself that don’t resemble Jesus and I’m asking him to break me of those things, to melt and re-mold me into the likeness of his Son, Jesus.

I started this part of my sabbatical by meditating on a verse from Hosea.

Plant the good seeds of righteousness, and you will harvest a crop of love. Plow up the hard ground of your hearts, for now is the time to seek the Lord, that he may come and shower righteousness upon you.

Hosea 10:12 NLT

While I know that the context is ancient Israel, there’s definitely an outline for my own moment of rest…

  1. Plant seeds of righteousness deep within as I hear God through his word.
  2. As Bob Goff says, “become love.”
  3. Plow through the hardness of my heart and throw light on all of my blind spots.
  4. Seek the Lord—get to know him all over again as the real me.
  5. Live under his blessing.

In doing so, I’m asking myself a very important question… Why don’t I do this every single day? Why do I focus so much on doing more that I lose touch with the man I’m supposed to be becoming in my relationship with Christ?

I’m coming to think of this sabbatical as not a mere moment of rest, but a re-learning of the very art of rest. I’m learning to “arrange to live with deep contentment, joy and confidence in (my) everyday experience of life with God.”

Thanks to the late Dr. Willard for pointing that out, and for Dr. Ortberg for writing about it, and to my sweet wife, Angie, for gently questioning my original sabbatical plan and urging me toward actual rest and renovation in my heart.

So, what does real rest look like for a pastor?

First of all, follow Rick Warren’s genius plan:

  • Divert daily (have a quiet time).
  • Withdraw weekly (take a day off).
  • Abandon annually (get away every year).

And second, intentionally take a break from projecting to everyone (including God) the you that you want them to see so that you can really become the you that God intends for you to become in him.

5 Ideas to Help Kids Be Smarter About Smartphones

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A while ago, my wife and I saw a friend at a Christmas party who I hadn’t seen in months…at least face-to-face. But immediately I complimented her on her Thanksgiving decorations and asked how her daughter’s b-day party was last weekend…as if we had just talked days before.

Why?

Instagram. I follow her on Instagram.

Americans have plenty of complaints about cell phones and the Internet. I regularly encounter parents who just want to smash their kids’ phones. But let’s not be too quick to throw the baby out with the bathwater.

A few years ago, Pew released a report revealing American’s feelings about the Internet. In total, 87 percent of online adults say the Internet and cell phones have improved their ability to learn new things.

That’s a no brainer. What did you do the last time you were lost and needed quick directions? Did you stop by a gas station and ask? Or did you ask Siri?

One time, I was at Home Depot shopping for a new water filter for my refrigerator. About 30 seconds into the conversation with the Home Depot employee I realized that he didn’t know what he was talking about. After politely thanking him for his help, I walked away and did a search on my Amazon app for the filter. I found the right filter for $20 less…and ordered it before I got to my car.

God Bless the iPhone!

I know, I know. Some people are having fits with kids and their phones. But we’d probably be having fits with our kids and their automobiles if we just handed them keys one day and said, “Don’t break it.” But we’ve learned better with cars. We’ve learned that kids need to take tests, obey rules, take more tests, sit in the seat with an adult next to them for six months, and then drive without their friends in the car for a year.

But what do American parents do when they give their 12-year-old a new iPhone?

Merry Christmas! Good luck!

Let’s be smarter than that. Let’s talk with our kids about some of these issues:

These are issues we need to dialogue about with our kids. How can we do this?

Here are five ideas to be proactive and help your kids be smarter than their smartphones!

  1. Stay connected to parenting resources that provide free articles and help with current issues.
  2. Keep your eyes open for studies about phonesSocial Media and Technology. Ask your kids what they think? Discuss what responsible use of these devices looks like.
  3. Try media fasts as a family. Be proactive, even playing games where you cut back on tech time.
  4. Use books like Should I Just Smash My Kid’s Phone? or A Parents Guide to Understanding Social Media, helping you set realistic boundaries, and dialogue with your kids about these issues (that Smash book includes a sample phone contract and a social media guide).
  5. Be an example of how to use tech responsibly, not be controlled by tech. We can teach what we know, but we can only reproduce who we are.

Have you begun these conversations with your kids?

Jonathan McKee is the president of The Source for Youth Ministry, is the author of over twenty books including the brand new If I Had a Parenting Do Over52 Ways to Connect with Your Smartphone Obsessed KidSex Matters; The Amazon Best Seller – The Guy’s Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket; and youth ministry books like Ministry By TeenagersConnect; and the 10-Minute Talks series. He has over 20 years youth ministry experience and speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for youth workers and parents on his websites, TheSource4YM.com and TheSource4Parents.com. You can follow Jonathan on his blog, getting a regular dose of youth culture and parenting help. Jonathan, his wife, Lori, and their three kids live in California.

This article originally appeared here.

Archbishop Calls for Pope Francis to Resign

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Pope Francis has been covering sexual abuse in the Catholic Church for years and must resign.

That’s according to a prominent priest whose bombshell missive is threatening to split the Church.

Archbishop Carlo Maria Vigano, who served as the papal nuncio (that is, Vatican ambassador) to the United States from 2011-2016, claims Pope Francis has known for years about Cardinal Theodore McCarrick’s sexual abuse, but brought him into the pontifical inner circle anyway, and sent him around the world on papal missions.

One month before a Pennsylvania grand jury found that hundreds of priests in the state had sexually abused as many as a thousand children, Cardinal McCarrick, the former archbishop of Washington, resigned amid accusations that he had sexually abused children and adults for decades.

In a lengthy statement, Vigano charges that the “corruption has reached the very top of the Church’s hierarchy” and demands the resignation of Pope Francis, writing:

“At the Angelus on Sunday, August 12, 2018, Pope Francis said these words: ‘Everyone is guilty for the good he could have done and did not do… If we do not oppose evil, we tacitly feed it. We need to intervene where evil is spreading; for evil spreads where daring Christians who oppose evil with good are lacking.’

“If this is rightly to be considered a serious moral responsibility for every believer, how much graver is it for the Church’s supreme pastor, who in the case of McCarrick not only did not oppose evil but associated himself in doing evil with someone he knew to be deeply corrupt. He followed the advice of someone he knew well to be a pervert, thus multiplying exponentially with his supreme authority the evil done by McCarrick. And how many other evil pastors is Francis still continuing to prop up in their active destruction of the Church!

“Francis is abdicating the mandate which Christ gave to Peter to confirm the brethren. Indeed, by his action he has divided them, led them into error, and encouraged the wolves to continue to tear apart the sheep of Christ’s flock.

“In this extremely dramatic moment for the universal Church, he must acknowledge his mistakes and, in keeping with the proclaimed principle of zero tolerance, Pope Francis must be the first to set a good example for cardinals and bishops who covered up McCarrick’s abuses and resign along with all of them.”

Archbishop Vigano Told Pope Francis of Sexual Abuse

Vigano says he told Francis on June 23, 2013, that McCarrick was a serial predator.

There were multiple reports that McCarrick, who was an Archbishop at the time, “shared his bed with seminarians,” inviting five at a time to spend the weekend with him at his beach house. And he added that he knew a certain number of seminarians, some of whom were later ordained priests for the Archdiocese of Newark, who had been invited to this beach house and had shared a bed with the Archbishop.

Vigano wrote that “homosexual networks present in the Church” buried the reports until “the heartfelt appeals of dozens of his seminarians” who found the courage to write to church leaders “after one of them tried to commit suicide over homosexual abuse in the seminary.”

Vigano also claims that Pope Francis ignored the warnings, sent McCarrick on speaking engagements around the world and suggests he saw a place for practicing homosexual priests within the church. He makes that inference from a meeting he had with the Pope in 2013, immediately after hearing that McCarrick would be travelling to China to represent the Vatican.

“I began the conversation, asking the Pope what he intended to say to me with the words he had addressed to me when I greeted him the previous Friday. And the Pope, in a very different, friendly, almost affectionate tone, said to me: “Yes, the Bishops in the United States must not be ideologized, they must not be right-wing like the Archbishop of Philadelphia (the Pope did not give me the name of the Archbishop), they must be shepherds; and they must not be left-wing—and he added, raising both arms—and when I say left-wing I mean homosexual.” Of course, the logic of the correlation between being left-wing and being homosexual escaped me, but I added nothing else.”

Meanwhile, reaction to Vigano’s letter is being hotly debated inside the Church in what some describe as a “civil war.” And Austin Ruse of the Center for Family and Human Rights wants President Trump to recall the American ambassador to the Vatican until the Vatican turns over all of its files pertaining to McCarrick adding, “It is clear that the Vatican covered for a sexual predator who assaulted young Americans.”

Depression and Anxiety Claim Life of Lead Pastor Andrew Stoecklein

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Pastor Andrew Stoecklein of Inland Hills Church in Chino, California, attempted to take his own life on Friday, August 25, 2018. Despite being rushed to the hospital and placed on life support, Stoecklein passed away on Saturday.

Stoecklein was the lead pastor at Inland Hills Church and leaves behind a grieving congregation and family. The church candidly alerted the community to the pastor’s distress and fight for life on their Facebook page on Saturday morning.

A prayer vigil was held Saturday evening for Stoecklein. He passed away that night.

Stoecklein’s wife, Kayla, announced her husband’s passing with a heart-wrenching update on Instagram. “It wasn’t the miracle I was hoping for but he is now in heaven with his dad, free of pain, free of depression and anxiety,” Kayla writes.

Last night, the love of my life, the father of my children and the pastor of our incredible church took his last breath and went to be with Jesus. It wasn’t the miracle I was hoping for but he is now in heaven with his dad, free of pain, free of depression and anxiety. . He was an amazing husband, he truly made me better, made me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world, and he loved me so deeply. We fit so well together, we were one. He was an amazing daddy, his three boys are going to miss him so much. He had such a unique and special relationship with each of them. He was an incredibly gifted teacher, communicator, and pastor. He was special, one of a kind and will be missed by thousands of people all around the world. . Please pray for me and the boys. I don’t know how I am going to face this, I am completely heartbroken, lost, and empty. Never in a million years would I have imagined this would be the end of his story. . If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts or actions, please tell someone. Please make sure you’re not alone, and please call a friend or family member before you make that irreversible decision. You are loved and valued more than you know! #godsgotthis

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The church posted this update:

Inland Hills Church grieves with heavy hearts as our Lead Pastor Andrew Stoecklein was welcomed into Heaven on Saturday night after battling depression and anxiety. It’s not the outcome we hoped and prayed for, and today we grieve as a church family. In his time leading Inland Hills, Andrew reached so many with his warm wit, passionate heart for God, and teaching that always, always pointed others to Jesus. The loving husband, father, son, and friend that he was will continue to inspire us in leading others into a growing relationship with Jesus Christ.

And in this tragedy, we encourage anyone who is hurting emotionally to ask for help. If you or anyone else is struggling, the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 800-273-TALK (8255) is a potentially life-saving resource.

May we be a beacon of hope for the community, to rescue the hurting and honor the God that Andrew served so well.

Andrew, we love you. And we always will. #godsgotthis #inlandhills

Stoecklein lost his father to a battle with leukemia in 2015. Before his passing, the family launched a website (godsgotthis.org) to post updates on Dave Stoecklein and to encourage others. Dave and his wife, Carol, founded Inland Hills Church in 1991. Eventually, Andrew Stoecklein took over his father’s role of lead pastor.

A battle with anxiety and depression was cited by Kayla and Inland Hills Church as the cause of Stoecklein’s suicide attempt. Stoecklein had recently returned from taking a four-month sabbatical. On August 13, Kayla explained to the congregation that Stoecklein had been struggling with depression and that the couple deliberated whether or not to continue in ministry during this sabbatical. “He didn’t want to stop. He would have kept on going and going and going and it probably would have cost him his life,” Kayla said.

Several comments on the social media posts indicate his congregation (and the broader church community) sympathize deeply with Stoecklein’s condition. The church urged followers to ask for help if they or anyone they know is struggling with suicidal thoughts or depression.

Days after his passing, Kayla wrote a letter to her husband. She writes:

“You were right all along, I truly didn’t understand the depths of your depression and anxiety. I didn’t understand how real and how relentless the spiritual attacks were. The pain, the fear, and the turmoil you must have been dealing with every single day is unimaginable.”

Stoecklein’s death reminds us that crippling depression is something that can affect anyone—even pastors.

Thousands Flocked to This Confederate Monument for a Very Good Reason

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Christians from all races and denominations climbed to the top of Stone Mountain, outside Atlanta, Georgia, to pray for racial reconciliation on Saturday.

Just 100 years ago the KKK used the same spot to burn crosses atop a mountain that now features heroes of the confederacy etched in stone.

“A lot of voices in society and politics are speaking about divisions in the nation, but we don’t hear much from the church,” said Billy Humphrey, co-founder of the OneRace movement and director of Atlanta’s International House of Prayer. “At times, the church has been on the sidelines. At times, the church has been silent. We can’t be silent anymore.”

Humphrey said it was time for the “church,” in a figurative sense, to “take a stand for love and unity around the cross of Jesus.”

The OneRace movement began about two years ago with about six pastors—black and white. That grew, eventually reaching 250.

“The issue of racial healing is very, very important,” said Bishop Garland Hunt, senior pastor of The Father’s House in Norcross, Ga., and co-executive director of OneRace. “Our country is divided and the church is, unfortunately, divided out of frustration and pain.”

Organizers of OneRace Stone Mountain said more than 12,000 people had registered to attend, although it’s unknown how many actually showed up for the one-day event.

Those who were on hand were also asked to sign the Atlanta Covenant that states in part:

“We covenant to stand against racism in every form, never again allowing it to gain a foothold within our spheres of influence.

“We covenant to publicly and privately declare that all people are made in the image and likeness of God, through preaching and practice, affirming the dignity and value of every person regardless of culture or gender.

“We covenant to faithfully proclaim the gospel of Jesus Christ, which espouses the values of righteousness and justice, the reconciliation of God and man, and the reconciliation of man, one to another.”

Organizers Hope to “De-politicize” Racial Reconciliation

The event took place just days after the destruction of the “Silent Sam” Confederate monument at the University of North Carolina but organizers said they wanted to “de-politicize and bring restoration and healing at the largest Confederate Monument in the world.”

For that reason both Humphrey and Hunt were reluctant to delve into politics.

“We don’t want to make this political because that’s a measure to divide,” said Hunt, who has known Humphrey for about two decades. “Jesus didn’t die for us based upon our political positions.”

Humphrey told CBS46 Saturday’s event was about prayer and healing among Christians of different backgrounds and denominations.

“There’s a lot of people that want to bring division, but there’s another answer. It’s Jesus Christ,” said Humphrey, “and he’s the one who brings us together in love around the cross and in unity.”

Both the top of the mountain and the grassy area at the base were packed with people, some wearing T-shirts that said “Reconcile” or “Repent” and others carrying signs and banners that read “Let Justice Flow” and “God We Repent.”

“This is a powerful moment to see 200-plus churches come together,” Tara Teuta of Snellville told the Atlanta Journal Constitution, who said she has friends who refuse to come to Stone Mountain because of its history. “Martin Luther King’s dream was to see this. I love it.”

Update: Army Exonorates Southern Baptist Chaplain

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Update: August 27, 2018

The Army has cleared a decorated Fort Bragg chaplain and his assistant after they were accused of discrimination against a same-sex couple.

The chaplain—Army Maj. Scott Squires—and Sgt. Kacie Griffin, his assistant, had been facing dereliction of duty charges for declining to lead a marriage retreat that included a same-sex couple.

“We are grateful that the Army has rejected and abandoned these baseless charges,” First Liberty Institute attorney Mike Berry told the “Todd Starnes Radio Show.”

“The United States military is no place for anti-religious hostility against its own military chaplains,” said Berry, who is representing both the chaplain and the assistant. “Chaplains like Scott Squires and Kacie Griffin do not have to give up their First Amendment rights in order to serve their fellow soldiers.”


Questions are being raised about a U.S. Army investigation that resulted in dereliction of duty charges against a Southern Baptist chaplain.

The investigating officer, identified only as Major Ford, concluded that Army Chaplain Jerry Scott Squires was derelict in his duties for rescheduling a marriage retreat to accommodate a lesbian couple, Mike Berry, the chaplain’s attorney, said.

Squires is endorsed by the Southern Baptist North American Mission Board (NAMB), which does not affirm same-sex marriage. Following Army protocol that requires him to adhere to the tenets of his endorsing agency, Squires rescheduled the retreat to allow a non-Southern Baptist chaplain to facilitate the event.

But Berry said the investigator ignored key evidence in his extended investigation, calling it “anti-religious.”

The lesbian couple registered to attend the retreat on its rescheduled date, but cancelled for unspecified reasons, according to Berry.

In a report following an extended investigation, Ford said Squires denied the lesbian couple “opportunity to attend a Strong Bonds retreat run by and paid for by” the Army and violated Army Regulation (AR) 165-1 “when he failed to notify his command and his chaplain technical chain that he could not perform services for (lesbians) due to his endorser restrictions.”

Jerry Scott Squires Being Punished for ‘Following the Rules’

The Army “is threatening to punish one of its chaplains because he followed the rules,” Berry said in an Aug. 6 press release in response to the investigator’s report. “The Army, or Congress, must hold Major General (Kurt) Sonntag accountable for allowing this aggressive anti-religious hostility against its military chaplains to occur under his command.” Sonntag is commanding general of the U.S. Army Special Operations Center of Excellence, which initiated the retreat.

The “dereliction of duty” recommendation follows Ford’s second investigation of the complaint filed Feb. 6. After an initial finding that Squires unlawfully discriminated against the couple, Ford was ordered April 28 to reopen his investigation, according to an Army memorandum.

“I simply did what I’m required to do under Army regulations and my endorser’s rules,” Squires said of the report’s findings. “I am shocked that I would even be investigated, let alone threatened with punishment, for following the rules.”

Berry contends that the investigation stands on a “false premise” that the lesbian couple was denied opportunity to attend the retreat, when in actuality they “elected not to attend.”

Ford overlooked facts, contradicted himself and included factual and legal errors, discrepancies and deficiencies, Berry said of Ford’s report.

“Ford’s report of investigation constitutes a clear and present danger to the constitutional rights of all chaplains,” Berry told the Army in his official response to Ford’s findings. “If Army chaplains are to maintain any trust and confidence in their ability to perform their duties without fear of this kind of threat, you must disapprove MAJ Ford’s findings and recommendations.”

NAMB executive director of chaplaincy Doug Carver, a former Army chief of chaplains, is also defending Squires.

“The relationship between endorsed military chaplains and their ecclesiastical authority is sacrosanct and protected by the First Amendment of the U.S. Constitution,” Carver told Baptist Press after Ford’s initial findings. “In a technical sense, military chaplains are ‘on loan’ to the Armed Forces from their respective faith groups who, in turn, expect the military to be faithful stewards of our pastors in uniform.”

Squires has “our full support and prayers,” Carver said, “as he remains faithful to his Lord, his tenets of faith, and his commitment to serve all soldiers under his care.”

A decorated major with more than 25 years of service, Squires faces court martial and confinement in a military prison if the investigator’s recommendation is accepted.

How Pastors Can Beat Burnout

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There’s an epidemic that runs rampant in our success-driven culture.

It respects no person and strikes even in ministry settings.

It’s called “burnout.”

There are a number of reasons for pastoral burnout and taking a look at a few of those reasons can help prevent it.

The Church Fuel team recently had the opportunity to hear some wisdom from Beth Bennett. Beth is the Director of Coaching at Ministry Ventures. With over 30 years of ministry experience, she has seen burnout happen firsthand and is passionate about helping leaders create systems to steward their lives, mission, teams and resources in a healthy way.

The downward spiral toward the point of burnout isn’t simple at all, but we’d like to point out a few simple ways to avoid it. Beth Bennett pointed out a few unhealthy mindsets that will lead us all to burnout if we’re not careful.

How Pastors Can Beat Burnout

1. Unhealthy Mindset #1: Ultimate responsibility rests with me.

In this mindset, church leaders strive, move in the flesh, become control freaks, and get closer and closer to burnout with each passing day. Free yourself by remembering that God isn’t asking us to carry the whole load. As Beth Bennett put it, “Ultimate responsibility doesn’t rest with us, but rests with God. Only He can change a heart.”

We beat burnout by humbly recognizing that we’re not the only act in town. There are other churches and ministries that God is using to do this Kingdom work with us. This frees us to delegate and let other people shine, which empowers them and prevents us from burning out.

2. Unhealthy Mindset #2: Constantly doing what doesn’t energize you.

There will always be some aspects of our jobs that we don’t like—even in ministry. That’s normal and a part of life. But continuing to always do what doesn’t energize you will lead to burnout.

Beth’s advice is to pay attention to what energizes you. What about your role brings you a lot of energy? What doesn’t energize you? Are you driven by pressure or a fear of delegation? Step away and evaluate. One of the top reasons for burnout is doing things that God never asked us to do. For example, think of a few tasks that constantly drain you. Is there a young leader you can equip to take over at least one of those tasks?

3. Unhealthy Mindset #3: Overworking is not sin.

Often, overworking is a cover-up for fear. Overworking robs us of the time and attention it takes to properly care for ourselves and others. Some have called it “robbing Peter to pay Paul.”

Whatever you call it, overworking is an open invitation for burnout. If you work to keep everyone else in the church healthy, but you and your family are not, there’s a problem. You’re not loved for what you do, for how many people attend your church, or for what you have. Instead, work to keep burnout at bay by remembering that you are loved by God—period.

4. Unhealthy Mindset #4: Resistance to the inner journey.

Why would a pastor ever resist the “inner journey” of personal spiritual health? Beth says it’s the result of being “intoxicated with the wine of service.” Serving others is a wonderful thing that all Christians are called to, but too much service without taking time to develop your own spiritual health is a recipe for burnout.

The solution is to stop viewing life and ministry as a performance and take time to ponder what’s really going on inside. As Beth said, “Working for God is very different than working from God.” Don’t resist the day off. Don’t resist the quiet.

Beth recommended reading Secrets of the Secret Place by Bob Sorge for more help in this area.

For help evaluating whether these unhealthy mindsets are at play in your life, ask yourself these questions:

  • What am I carrying that God hasn’t asked me to carry?
  • How am I robbing myself of self-care?
  • What energizes me the most?
  • Where am I resisting the “inner journey”?

Pastors often give a lot spiritually, emotionally and physically. Step back and be honest about whether the amount of time you take to receive guidance from God and others matches the amount of energy you’re giving out.

You can beat burnout as you learn to walk in these principles. Commit to overcoming unhealthy mindsets, seek help and create space in your life where healthy balance can exist.

This article originally appeared here.

The Gospel: Breaking Sinful Patterns and Addictions

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I’m a big believer in recovery from addiction. I’ve seen the power of recovery among friends and family. Yet, I’m also a Christian, and an evangelical one, passionate about the gospel. So, as we talk about recovery and higher powers, I’m convinced that the power of the gospel is what matters most when it comes to breaking sinful patterns and addictions.

Yet, many people in our culture claim to be Christians but have never heard a comprehensive gospel message. Therefore, discipleship—in general—and recovery ministry in our churches—more specifically—must begin by laying the foundation of what Jesus has accomplished on the cross for those who believe (gospel truths) and then bid people to live out the call to follow Christ (gospel imperatives).

The Gospel: Breaking Sinful Patterns and Addictions

As disciples, part of the sanctification process is examining our hearts before the Lord. This process of personal assessment involves confession and prayer about the fruit of our lives and its roots. We bring all this before the Lord so that He can uproot our sinful patterns and heal our hearts, freeing us to act faithfully for His kingdom.

Breaking sinful patterns

People both inside and outside of our churches need help breaking sinful patterns in their lives. Our culture offers various ways to cope with addictions and issues, but only the gospel offers real freedom and transformation.

As I see it, a gospel-centered recovery ministry must first engage with the traditional 12 Steps, which have saved millions of lives and pulled people out of all sorts of sinful patterns and addictions. However, evangelical Christians can take the 12 Steps and use them as a foundation upon which they may build a more gospel-centered means of recovery.

“For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery” (Gal 5:1)

The message of the gospel is both comfort and call. It presents the comforting truth that in Christ we have been forgiven and made righteous. We are now sons and daughters of God and accepted into His kingdom for eternity, not because of any worth or work of our own but because of the loving choice of the Father and the sacrifice of the Son.

Parenting Our Kids Toward Eternity

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Have you received the annual Christmas letter from The Perfect Family? You know, the one with the kids who captain the lacrosse team, jump horses, make the dean’s list, play violin, serve at the homeless shelter, and learn Greek and Latin, all while mentoring other children? By the time you finish reading the letter and set it down with trembling hands, your Christmas spirit has evaporated. You have a panicky fear that maybe you haven’t provided enough opportunities for your kids.

In moments like this—and in a thousand other moments of parenting panic—it’s good to remind ourselves of where we’re headed and what counts the most:

… straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 3:13–14)

Paul doesn’t solve every parenting decision in these verses, but he does point to the ultimate goal of life, and, by implication, the ultimate goal of parenting. These verses can turn panicky parents into pilgrim parents with a purpose.

The goal of Paul’s life—everything he does—is future resurrection in the new creation. This final goal doesn’t render obsolete all his daily activities, such as eating, sleeping, working, evangelizing, talking and traveling. Rather, it orients and aligns them. It gives them a purpose. And it does that for our parenting, too.

We’re called to parent our children toward eternity. This is a major challenge. It turns out to be remarkably difficult to keep our hearts fixed on God’s future new creation rather than attempting to seize that future in our present. Parents attempt to establish heaven on earth in at least two common ways. Some of us expect our children to be heaven for us. Others expect to build heaven for them.

Making Our Kids Our Heaven

I know parents who require perfection from their children. Failure is not an option. Demanding heaven on earth from them, they make it hell instead, squeezing, scolding and cajoling them into the very sense of failure they’re desperate to help them avoid.

Perhaps you don’t fall into that trap in such an extreme way. But isn’t it easy for the successes or failures of our children to assume too great an importance? Hold a penny close enough to your eye and it will obscure an entire building. Hold a child too close and she’ll obscure your view of heaven.

Our goal as parents is to reach the new creation together with our children. We’re to be a pilgrim people, journeying toward future perfection, but never there yet this side of heaven. We’re to say with Paul, “Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect …” (Philippians 3:12).

When we live as pilgrim parents, we won’t be crushed by our children’s imperfections, or our own. We won’t require perfection because we know we’re all progressing toward perfection. We’ll confess our parenting failures to our children and seek forgiveness from Jesus together with them. We’ll release our children from the impossible burden of being heaven for us. Instead, we’ll invite them into the joy of traveling there with us.

Building Heaven for Our Kids

Even if we don’t make the mistake of expecting too much from our kids, we may well find ourselves expecting too much for them. With all the best of intentions, we may try to give our children heaven now. Several years ago, The Atlantic published an article titled “How to Land Your Kids in Therapy.” The author observed,

The American Dream and the pursuit of happiness have morphed from a quest for general contentment to the idea that you must be happy at all times and in every way.

In other words, we want heaven for our kids. The Atlantic article notes that by giving kids a huge array of choices and protecting them from failure at all costs, their well-meaning parents teach them that they deserve perfection. The problem is that children who don’t persevere through difficulty become young adults who can’t deal with failure. When their parent-built heaven crumbles, the kids land in therapy.

Parent-built heavens can’t compare to the one God is preparing for his people. The bigger and more glorious the future new creation is in the hearts of Christian parents, the less we’ll feel the need to keep our kids from failing at all costs. Instead, we’ll teach them to experience failures as reminders that we haven’t yet arrived at the new creation.

We’ll help our children see their time in this world as preparation for the world to come. We’ll teach them to so treasure the eternal weight of glory that a bad grade, a bad complexion or a bad mistake on the sports field won’t destroy them. We’ll show them that no accomplishment in this life brings perfect and lasting satisfaction, and we’ll help them savor their best experiences as mere foretastes of a much greater future.

Parenting Toward Eternity

When my parents planned a family trip across the United States in my childhood years, we talked about it for two full years in advance. Surely, heaven deserves a lot more family discussion and anticipation than California!

Let’s pray about heaven together as families, stoking our excitement. Let’s sing of heaven (the last verse of many great hymns speak of it). Let’s discuss and savor Bible passages like Isaiah 65–66, Romans 8 and Revelation 21–22. We’re pilgrims, so let’s keep walking toward the Celestial City, bringing our kids along with us.  

What Exactly Does Scripture Say about ‘the Day of the Lord’ and the End of the World?

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All Bible readers stumble upon names, places, and phrases that can be intriguing at best and outright confusing at worst. One of the phrases nestled in Scripture that has caused much discussion is the phrase, “the day of the Lord.” Why is this particular phrase important for Christians to understand?  Many Christians have interpreted this phrase to describe such concepts as “end times”; “Armageddon”;  or simply “Jesus coming again on a white horse”—but what do these phrases mean? The folks at the Bible Project tackle this very issue in a recently published video.

Many of those vivid images come from the book of Revelation, but to understand them we must actually go all the way back to Genesis. It’s there where we read of the familiar historical account of Adam and Eve and how God gave them dominion and stewardship over His creation. Unfortunately, they bought into the lie of the serpent that they could define good and evil in their own terms and put themselves in God’s place. Consequently, this foolish and sinful choice brings unimaginable strife into humanity. This eventually leads God’s people to build a city named Babel and within that city, they attempt to build a huge tower to elevate themselves to the place of God.

God knows that this attempt will only bring more pain to humanity as they redefine good and evil according to their fleshly desires instead of God’s good wisdom. God graciously destroys the tower and confuses their language as a restraint against their evil actions. From this point on in the biblical story, the term “Babylon” becomes a type of shorthand to describe humanity’s corporate rebellion against God. An example of this happening is when Pharaoh himself defines good and evil and enslaves God’s people, the Israelites. God turns Pharaoh’s evil back on himself and gloriously frees the Israelites out from under Pharaoh’s rule. The Hebrew people to this day celebrate that rescue by God by calling it “the day” or the Passover.

The “day” was not always seen as judgment against Israelite’s enemies. In the book of Amos the prophet, God pronounces a day of judgment against the Israelites for they too had redefined good and evil resulting in cultural violence and corruption. The rest of the Old Testament shows how time and time again God’s judgment allows for the Israelites’ enemies to conquer and subdue them. This was the context Jesus was born into as the Israelites were then under the Roman Empire. Though many had an expectation of the coming Messiah as a political warrior that would go toe to toe against Rome, Jesus came to go after the ultimate enemy, the devil, and to break the power of his accomplice, the corrupted human heart.

While on the cross Jesus allowed evil to exhaust all of its power by using its most powerful weapon.. death. By His own death in our place and His resurrection, Jesus opened up the way for anyone to escape from Babylon and to discover what it means to be human as God intended. Yes, there is still evil in this world and humanity continues to build its own Babylon but there is good news. Jesus is coming again to completely eradicate evil once and for all. We see foreshadows of the “day of the Lord” when Christians resist the evil of this world and proclaim the promise that Jesus is coming again to gather all of His children not for just a day… but for eternity!

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