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Are Chinese Officials Behind Closure of This Beijing Church?

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The crackdown on Christian churches in China continues and now it appears to have claimed one of Beijing’s largest unofficial Protestant “house” churches.

The Zion church has operated with relative freedom for years, hosting hundreds of worshippers every weekend in an expansive, specially renovated hall in north Beijing.

Last April, that “freedom” began to shrink when government authorities asked the church to install 24 closed-circuit television (CCTV) cameras in the building for “security,” Zion’s head pastor, Jin Mingri, told Reuters.

Mingri refused, saying cameras in a sanctuary are not appropriate. Pastor Mingri and his congregants may have also feared what government officials, who are showing growing hostility towards Christians, would do with video evidence of who attends services.

The Chinese government says greater oversight of religious activities is needed in order to regulate believers and facilitate worship, as well as to prevent foreign forces from influencing China’s internal affairs using the guise of religion.

So it’s not surprising that when Zion refused the request to place cameras in the sanctuary, police and state security agents started harassing churchgoers, calling them, visiting them, contacting their workplace and asking them to promise not to go to church, according to statements from the church and interviews with attendees, as reported by Reuters.

Some suggest the government is now making sure the church shuts down.

The Zion church, which occupies an office building floor that was previously a nightclub, is now being evicted despite previous verbal assurances from its landlord that it could rent the location until 2023, Jin said. Reuters said the landlord could not be reached for comment.

Jin does not expect to be able to find a landlord that would rent the church another suitable location.

Other churches have experienced similar harassment. In addition to being asked to install security cameras, some unofficial churches have been asked by police to take detailed lists of attendee IDs and phone numbers, churchgoers and activists say.

Some who push back have been visited by police and asked to switch places of worship to officially sanctioned churches, they added.

China’s constitution guarantees religious freedom, but since President Xi Jinping took office in 2012, Beijing has tightened restrictions on religions seen as a challenge to the authority of the ruling Communist Party.

The new regulations have increased government pressure on the churches to “sinicize”—to be culturally Chinese and submit to oversight from the Communist Party—but many have resisted, saying this would be a fundamental betrayal of their faith.

“House churches believe that our spiritual needs and the content of our faith is ruled over by God,” Pastor Jin said.

“What we need is the freedom to believe. Without this, it is not real faith.”

Archaeologists Believe They’ve Found Site of Jesus’ First Miracle

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For hundreds of years, Christians have visited the “Wedding Church” in Kafr Kanna, a town in northern Israel near the Sea of Galilee, to commemorate the miracle of Jesus turning water into wine.

The site of the actual event has been a topic of mystery and debate for centuries—perhaps until now.

The Gospel of John reports Jesus, his mother, Mary, and his disciples are invited to a wedding. When the wine runs out, Jesus delivers a sign of his glory by turning water into wine. John tells us the wedding was in the town of Cana.

Based on a new discovery, archaeologists believe the Cana of biblical times may be a dusty hillside five miles further north.

The location is the former site of Khirbet Qana, a Jewish village between the years of 323 BC and AD 324, where archaeologists have discovered a number of compelling clues.

Excavations there have revealed a network of tunnels used for Christian worship, marked with crosses and references to Kyrie Iesou, a Greek phrase meaning Lord Jesus.

There is also an altar and a shelf with the remains of a stone vessel, plus room for five more. Experts believe stone jars held wine in biblical times.

Dr. Tom McCollough, who is directing excavations at the site, said there were three other sites with a credible claim to being the Cana of scripture.

“But none has the ensemble of evidence that makes such a persuasive case for Khirbet Qana,” he said.

“We have uncovered a large Christian veneration cave complex that was used by Christian pilgrims who came to venerate the water-to-wine miracle.

“This complex was used at the beginning of the late fifth or early sixth century and continued to be used by pilgrims into the 12th Century Crusader period.

“The pilgrim texts we have from this period that describe what pilgrims did and saw when they came to Cana of Galilee match very closely what we have exposed as the veneration complex.”

Dr. McCollough believes the discoveries at Khirbet Qana could also bolster the case for the historicity of the Gospel of John.

“Our excavations have shown that this was in fact a thriving Jewish village located in the heart of much of Jesus’ life and ministry. For the Gospel of John, Cana is in some ways Jesus’ safe place or operational centre. It is a place he and his disciples return to when they encounter resistance in Judea. I would argue our excavations warrant at least a reconsideration of the historical value of John’s references to Cana and Jesus.”

How to Use Your IPAD to Improve Your Prayer Life

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Do you want to improve your prayer life? Most Christians do, but they do not know how.

While I have used various prayer plans since my collegiate days, the one I use in today’s technological world has helped improve my prayer life. Let me share with you how I do it.

Why I Use My iPad to Improve My Prayer Life

The iPad comes with an app called Notes, and I use it in my prayer life. If you have an iPhone, it will sync your lists, providing accessibility on either device no matter where you are. Android devices have a similar note-taking app.

Simplicity: The Notes app is very simple to use. Simplicity usually increases usability.

Change: It is simple to change a prayer list or the process you go through in prayer when you do it electronically. Flexibility will help you stay current.

Relevance: Being current in what is happening in your life or those you are praying for helps you to be relevant. With the Notes app, I can easily keep my prayer list current and relevant.

How I Use My iPad to Improve My Prayer Life

I will share with you a few practices I follow to improve my prayer life, but due to my own flexibility, what I share with you today may not be the same a week from now.

Please know that for me, nothing keeps me more focused, on task and effective in prayer than a current, relevant prayer list. Not just a list relating to a process I may use, but a specific, current list of prayer needs. While this is not comprehensive, at least it lets you into some of my prayer life.

1. Preparing to Pray: In my early morning time with God, I begin with moments of praise for who God is and in moments of thanksgiving for what He has done in my life.

2. Evaluating My Life Spiritually: This time of personal evaluation always begins with confession of sin and acknowledging Jesus’ finished work on the cross for forgiveness of my sins. Knowing my complete insufficiency and dire weakness, I call upon the Holy Spirit to fill me and anoint me with His power needed for the day before me. I ask God to anoint me for living, preaching, teaching, leadership, decision making, vision, writing, relationships and with His gladness.

3. Trusting God for His Protecting Armor to Cover Me and Each Member of My Family: I approach God daily, asking for His spiritual covering and armor upon my family, calling out the names of my family members, asking God to put His armor of protection upon each of us. I pray for protection as they travel in their own regions and beyond, as well as over the schools where each of them works or attends.

4. Asking God to Meet Specific Needs Relating to Each Member of Our Immediate Family: Yes, I talk to God daily about my wife, my two sons, our two daughters-in-law and each of our seven grandchildren.

5. Believing God in Prayer Relating to My Staff Team and My Cross Church Family: Every day is a day of decision for me. Praying about my staff team and all things before our Cross Church Family is one my greatest blessings. This is one of my highest callings as a pastor.

6. Talking to God About America and My Present Responsibilities With the National Day of Prayer: Anyone who has followed me at all knows my love for and commitment to pray for America, especially for spiritual awakening. Our nation needs Jesus.

7. Interceding for Specific Persons and Their Needs: I have a running, ongoing and ever-changing list of people who are walking through unique challenges in their life. I pray for these people specifically and daily.

8. Calling Out to God for the Gospel to be Advanced Across the World: I believe in the Great Commission and have committed the rest of my life to do everything I can so that each person in the world is told about Jesus Christ.

9. Specifically Praying About My Own Life Needs, Personal Ministry and Future Opportunities: I want my life and my ministry to count. I want God to use me in any way He desires. As He extends me opportunities to lead, support, assist or speak in the future, I pray through these.

Find Your Way to Pray Effectively

The most effective prayer plan is the one you will use…

Here is what I know: If you do not have a plan to pray, usually you will not pray consistently and effectively.

So, what is your prayer plan? If you do not have a plan that helps you stay current, on task and specific, I suggest you consider creating one like this.

This article originally appeared here. 

Children Born to Unwed Parents…the Latest Findings

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The family structures that children are born into have drastically changed in the last few decades.

One of the biggest shifts has been children born to unwed parents. The latest research shows that about 40 percent of children born in the U.S. are born outside of marriage. This is up from 28 percent in 1990.

Findings also show that 52 percent of Hispanic children are born outside of marriage. This is up from 34 percent in 1990. Sixty-nine percent of African American babies are born to unmarried parents. This is up from 63 percent. Babies born to Caucasian mothers with a high school degree rose from 18 percent in 1990 to 52 percent today.

There are many factors at play that are contributing to the increase of births to unwed mothers. A big one is parents are delaying marriage. Men and women are marrying at older ages. The average age for a lady to marry is 27.4 years old. This means many of them are becoming parents before marriage. Men and women are not getting married when they are the most likely to have children.

Why is this? Here are a few factors to consider.

1. Couples are waiting for economic security and stability before getting married. They are living together, but are not tying the knot for economic reasons. I have encountered this many times when talking with unmarried parents. They say they can make it better financially if they are not married.

The church has the opportunity to teach young couples how to manage their money with biblical principles and trust God to provide for them as they align with His Word and promises. God always blesses families when they walk in obedience to His Word.

2. Cohabitation has increased. Recent studies show that 62 percent of births to never-married women are in the context of cohabitation.

Again, the church must hold up God’s golden standard for a relationship between a man and woman—which is marriage. We must be a place that embraces the messiness of ministry and walk with couples who are cohabiting and teach them that God has a better plan.

3. Children born to unwed parents are more likely to struggle. Research shows that children living with parents who are not married are at a disadvantage. They are more likely to be poor, experience multiple changes in family living arrangements, and will face challenges like aggression and depression.

The church must be ready to come alongside children who are facing these challenges and welcome them, encourage them and show we care.

4. Churches must teach the reasons why marriage is God’s plan and help walk with them toward that decision.

We must be ready and willing to embrace the messiness of reaching and walking with unwed parents and their children. If our churches are reflecting the heart of Jesus, we should have cohabiting couples in our church. We should actively reach out them with love and truth.

Just as Jesus went out of His way to talk to the woman at the well (who was cohabiting), we should be actively reaching out to unmarried parents.

Like never before, the church has a great opportunity to help families find Jesus and discover the joy and blessings that come when we follow His plan for the home.

The Bible tells us in Hebrews 13:4 that marriage is honorable.

Let’s be focused on connecting with kids and their families who are far from God. As we bring them to Jesus, they will find that God’s plan is always the best plan.

This article originally appeared here.

12 Warning Signs You May Be Attending a Legalistic Church

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This is a fun little post about a pretty serious subject. Rule-obsessed churches stifle the joy of Jesus in our souls by promoting legalism disguised as holiness. But instead of getting the full surrender to Christ they want, they get external compliance and inner misery instead.

The grace of God).

Without further adieu, here are the 12 signs you may be attending a legalistic church:

1.  The greeting team looks like they’ve been baptized in lemon juice.

2.  There’s a sign above the church that reads, “Abandon hope all ye who enter.”

3.  If the pastor ever met The Apostle Paul he would start by rebuking him for not using The King James Version of the Bible.

4.  Every Gospel invitation ends with “…and now for the bad news…”

5.  Skinny jeans are considered to be part of a Satanic plot to slow us down when we try to run from his temptations.

6.  You would never be caught dead joining with other Christians in a city-wide, multi-church outreach (like Dare 2 Share Live) because some of the participating churches could be those “liberals” who allow guitars in church and let their worship leaders have tattoos.

7.  Before you can be a member at their church, there is a day long inquisition…followed by a potluck.

8.  To get hired as a custodian you have to have a seminary degree, two years of ministry experience and be willing to mop in a three-piece suit.

9.  The contemporary service uses a pipe organ (OK, maybe that’s not legalistic, just grossly and culturally “out of tune“).

10.  Taking the youth group swimming includes separate swimming pools and wet suits for everyone, loose ones, covered by T-Shirts, dark ones.

11.  Like Lego Batman’s ninth ab, the Sr. Pastor has added another dispensation of his own.

12.  When you go to church there it feels like someone took the “fun” out of fundamentalist.

What are some other signs you could be at a legalistic church?

This article originally appeared here.

Ravi Zacharias Answers: Does Suicide Send You to Hell?

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Editor’s Note: After the publishing of this article, an independent investigation found allegations implicating Ravi Zacharias of sexual abuse to be credible. Prior to this report, ChurchLeaders had published multiple articles about Ravi Zacharias and his ministry. Although our editorial team believes his work still has value since it involved articulating the truths of God’s Word, we would be remiss not to disclose the painful truth of Mr. Zacharias’ personal actions that have come to light following his death. For further reading, please see:
Sexting, Spiritual Abuse, Rape: Devastating Full Report on Ravi Zacharias Released
The Story Behind the Ravi Zacharias Allegations (Part 1): Lawsuits, NDAs, and Email Threads
The Story Behind the Ravi Zacharias Allegations (Part 2): ‘Cursory’ Investigations and More Accusations


Apologist Ravi Zacharias is accustomed to answering college students’ questions about faith, religion, morality, life, etc. In the face of deep questions, Zacharias is almost unflappable. The case is no different in this video.

The question Zacharias addresses is something that is on the hearts and minds of many people. Church tradition teaches that “those who commit suicide go directly to hell.” One student asked Zacharias, “What can you tell me about that?”

Zacharias starts his answer by acknowledging the breadth of the issue. Thanks to the advance of modern medicine, decisions concerning physician-assisted suicide or taking someone off life support is only becoming more and more complex.

“I wish I had an absolute answer to give to you,” Zacharias says. “I’ll just say this: I wouldn’t want to meet the Lord after I’ve taken my life.”

In Genesis 9:6, murder is called the ultimate attack upon the image of God. We can violate the image of God in someone else or in ourselves. Furthermore, murder is the ultimate act of lack of faith, and “without faith, it is impossible to please God,” Zacharias reminds us.

God is the Judge of the One Who Commits Suicide

At the same time, though, Zacharias says he wouldn’t be able to stand as a judge before a parent whose child committed suicide and declare their child is “hell-bound.” Zacharias says he’s much more comfortable leaving God as the judge and leaving him to work for the peace of the family who has lost a member to suicide.

Zacharias then gets personal and admits he attempted suicide once as a teenager. He says it took him years to talk about the incident. “The fact that I tried to take my life is a devastating thought to me. The only consolation I have is that I did not know Christ at that time. Now that I know him I would never ever try to violate the image of God that he’s given to me.”

In Romans 14, Zacharias explains, we are instructed not to do anything (whether it be eating or drinking, or observing certain days as sacred) without faith. The final verse in this chapter tells us “everything that does not come from faith is sin.” Zacharias says what this really means is “if you violate a conviction God has placed in your heart, clearly, it’s a sinful thing to do.”

Zacharias says if he were counseling someone considering taking their life, he would admonish them to think about the “most sacred gift” God has given (freedom). “Don’t use your freedom to violate your freedom,” he would say.

Eternal Destinies Are Up to God; The Moment Is For Us to Choose

“The eternal destinies are in the hands of God, but the moment is for us to choose and select. Let us not violate what God has given to us as a sacred gift.”

George VI of the United Kingdom was dying of cancer when he had a message for the world, Zacharias says and then quotes:

“I said to the man who stood at the gate of the year, ‘Give me a light that I may walk safely into the unknown.’ He said to me, ‘Go out into the darkness and put your hand into the hand of God, which shall be to you better than the light and safer than the known.’”

Zacharias implies there is a lesson here for those struggling with the will to live: Sometimes we cannot walk by sight (with a light) but rather must go out into the dark unknown and feel the hand of God guiding us. So it is with crippling depression: There is no hope that we can see. No reason to live, but we must keep going even when we can’t see it.

“Life is too precious. Don’t squander it…The greatest triumphs are those who have suffered the greatest darkness,” Zacharias concludes.

5 Reasons to Practice Team Leadership in Your Small Groups

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In my previous post, I proposed that God, as Father-Son-Spirit, leads in community, and therefore we are to lead our groups through community. This calls for team leadership as opposed to individualistic leadership. Let me introduce few ideas about the value of team leadership.

First, team leadership relieves the stress on one person to be good at all the things small group leaders do. When you work with a team, you can partner with people who have strengths and gifts that complement your own. You don’t have to be good at everything. You get to explore how to lead through your strengths and work with others who have different strengths. For instance, if you are very hospitable and pastoral, you might focus on the responsibilities of leadership that best suit those gifts while someone else facilitates meeting discussion and guides the group in prayer.

Second, team leadership keep you humble. As a part of a team, you are never the leader who makes it work. All successes are shared, as are all failures. But even more, when you work as a team you are required to talk things through and share your perspective with others before simply acting. Team leadership requires mutual submission to one another, and this always generates humility.

Third, team ministry protects leaders from burnout. When I was leading a group solo, I would feel guilty for taking a vacation. I rarely thought about what I needed to be healthy and well balanced because I felt responsibility for the welfare of the group. With a team, you get to be yourself. You don’t have to carry the pressure of constantly being “on” or being strong for the rest of the group. It’s much easier to lead in weakness when others are with you carrying the load.

Fourth, team leadership is a natural way to disciple others through trial and error. It shifts discipleship training from an information focus to one that is based in participation.

Finally, team leadership empowers the group to be creative about how it will engage people outside the group in mission. Solo-leader groups often struggle to survive. The leader spends a lot of energy just getting the group to show up and connect. But with a team, there is more ownership of the vision and therefore more space for the group to get involved with what God is doing outside the group.

—Adapted from Leading Small Groups in the Way of Jesus

This article originally appeared here.

Are We Really Who We’ve Always Said We Are?

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A simple song can make us think about true perspective. Most of us that are able to watch this video today will probably never get kicked out of our homes and flee far from what we know for safety because we fear death. We won’t have to carry our children miles upon miles across broken earth and through rivers worrying about where our next meal will come from. And we won’t have to get into an overcrowded raft grasping onto our family so none of them will fall out and wash up lifeless on an abandoned shore.

It is easy to write this video off as a political statement because those are easy to crumble up and throw in the trash. To the Christ-follower this isn’t a political statement—this a kingdom statement. It is easy to say “Let me pray about it and see if God wants me to do something about what I just watched.” But hasn’t He already told you to do something?

Jesus was asked by his disciples “When will this happen, and what will be the sign of your coming and the end of the age?” (Matthew 24:3).

Our prayers shouldn’t be “IF” God wants me to do something about what I just watched, but “HOW” God wants me to go about doing something.

All the world watches as the people run
From the fiercest storm to the fierce unknown
Will we watch and wait
Turn and close our door
Or will we be who we’ve always said we are? –  Gungor

Ask yourself this question today: Who am I?

“‘When a foreigner resides among you in your land, do not mistreat them. The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.'” – Leviticus 19:33-34

How You Can Live Like a Rock Star on a Youth Pastor’s Salary

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The magazine Group in 2007 did a national salary survey for youth pastors. (I am looking for some current data on the average youth pastor salary for 2010. Any leads? Thanks, Josh Griffin, for providing this youth pastor salary survey on your blog.) The average salary package (benefits included) for 2007 was $42,500.

Bottom line: There are numerous tricks for how to enjoy life and still look good while working in youth ministry.

Since I lived many frustrating seasons of being broke as a youth pastor and not being able to go out to eat, take my wife out on a date, go on vacation, get “cool” clothes and have cable TV, I was on mission to figure out how to do/buy all this stuff without breaking the bank.

**I have tried all of these techniques, and they do in fact work while serving your student ministry.

Utilize restaurant (among other things) coupons (Entertainment Book, Groupon, resturant.com). I highly recommend the Entertainment Book because it gives you not only buy one get one free coupons for restaurants and discounts on movies, but also gives you a lot of free promos to try many services out, without having to give a credit card number. Additionally, had there not been a “line of sight” issue, we could have saved over $20 per month on cable. We’ve been able to save 10 percent on airfare, 15 percent off furnishings, and so much more. I’d recommend checking in with yelp.com before purchasing a Groupon or restaurant.com certificate to make sure the restaurant deserves your business (and always call ahead to make sure the restaurants will honor any and all coupons—we’ve had a few say they just won’t for whatever reason).

Visit travelzoo, bookit.com, priceline.com, travelbyjen.com and resortvacationstogo.com (thanks to my wife who finds crazy good deals on vacations). *Don’t forget to always check in with tripadvisor.com to make sure you don’t book a sketchy hotel/resort.

Search Craigslist, Amazon and eBay for anything because it will be cheaper. However, make sure you are buying from a legit buyer. Do your homework. I have bought name brand jeans, sunglasses, computers, iPods, iPhones and books at GREATLY reduced prices. Buying straight from Amazon is a little safer than a seller on Amazon, and those prices are often great, too.

– Capitalize on credit card reward points when buying stuff for the church or youth ministry. Make sure to double check with your church accountant if it is cool for you to use your credit so you can get reward points. Keep your church accountable, ensuring you get those reimbursement checks on time. Late fees are not fun.

Cancel cable and get Netflix. The Netflix feature “watch instantly” is clutch. Watch your favorite shows the day after they air on network Web sites.

Sign up for free birthday stuff: http://www.freebirthdaystuff.com/ http://www.frugalliving.tv/free-stuff/birthday-freebies.html http://20somethingfinance.com/10-free-birthday-meals/. For my birthday, I signed up and participated in every offer that was appropriate. Needless to say, I receive 11 coupons for free birthday stuff that I had to use within two weeks. Even my wife, who is a rock star money saver, was impressed. My favorite free birthday coupon was the Jack in the Box ice cream shake and two free Mexican fajitas at a local Mexican restaurant.

Visit your students where they work. Sometimes, your students are able to give a discount or something for free. It is a win-win. You visit them and get to do ministry while “possibly” getting something for free. I always had a lot of students who worked at Starbucks and yogurt shops. They loved having visitors at work, and great connections are always made as you get to see them in “real life” and not only at church.

 Save X amount of dollars a month that goes to something fun.

Find a dollar theater and attend it frequently. You need to be willing to drive an extra mile or two in order to basically watch a movie for free. Worth it.

Take advantage of AAA discounts. You will be surprised with how many businesses (restaurants, hotels, etc.) accept the AAA discount.

Substitute teach (if your state allows it without a license)/proctor SAT/ACT tests. Thankfully, my wife was a teacher so she had some district connections that enabled me to proctor SAT/ACT tests on Saturday mornings. Another plus is being able to proctor some of your students as they are taking their college entrance exams.

– Shop at second hand stores that sell legit name brand clothing. For example, Plato’s Closet, Goodwill, Salvation Army and Buffalo Exchange. (A quick search of “Used, Vintage & Consignment” on yelp.com should help you to find hidden places. Was able to find a bunch of great stores in California this way). It was always helpful. I lived in Orange County where a lot of people got rid of name brand clothes just because…

Buy yourself a Starbucks gift card. Register the gift card at starbucks.com. Never pay cash or use a credit card again. You will get free syrup, soymilk, free drink on your birthday, free drink after you buy 15, free holiday pastries, free refills, coupons for Starbucks products, etc. If you regularly have coffee meetings, this is a must. Saving close to a dollar each visit adds up.

Finding Home in Christ After Incarceration

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Rebecca Brooks left Michigan’s Allegan County Corrections Center in 2016 with a mental to-do list that was three items long:

  1. Find a place to stay.
  2. Get a job.
  3. Reconnect with the chaplain of the jail from which she just had been released.

Six weeks later, she’d checked them all off. Now she and her eight-year-old daughter are regulars at the church that the chaplain from the jail launched in October 2016. “It’s family,” Brooks says. “It’s where I want to be.”

Sarah Lindstrom, a minister in the Reformed Church in America (RCA), spearheaded the planting of this church focused on people who’ve been released from incarceration. As a chaplain at the Allegan County Corrections Center, she is tuned in to how hard it is for folks who’ve been drawn to faith while in jail to find a church home on the outside.

“There’s something that comes with the label of ‘felon’ that’s scary. You hold your purse a little bit tighter. To break through that in an existing congregation would be very, very difficult,” she says. “How different the world would be if grace were to abound in those situations. Instead of letting their past define them, what if we looked at one another and saw sons and daughters of the risen King rather than a label the world has put on individuals?”

In the meantime, there’s Rectify Church (RCA) in Allegan, the small southwest Michigan county seat that shares its rural county’s name. Some in the Rectify congregation have done time. Others feel called to support them, sometimes because their own families have been affected by incarceration. Lindstrom chose the name because rectify means “to restore, to make something right again.”

Each Tuesday, dozens of people gather for an evening patterned on the Book of Acts: They break bread together, and then they worship. They hold one another’s kids. They joke around. Some boogie a bit with the praise band. They voice their own reflections after the message is preached. They pray.

And the rest of the week, they help each other track down apartments and used cars, and “call one another out” if old habits are getting the better of someone’s best intentions.

As Lindstrom puts it, they’ll “clean you up, pick you up, and say, ‘OK, let’s give this another try.’”

“If you feel like you’re outcast, this place can fill in what you can’t do for yourself. I’ve bounced around plenty of churches. This is the only one I felt loved me no matter what,” says Brooke McDaniel, who did time at the Allegan jail and participated in a program Lindstrom leads there. McDaniel sang for a while in Rectify’s praise band, which also plays at other churches as an outreach, but she stepped down when she began a year-long beauty college program this spring. “I’ve had a lot of fails. I’m looking for accomplishments now,” she says.

Like many church planters, Sarah Lindstrom is bivocational—but her vocations are so closely linked they may appear seamless.

Since 2015 she’s been the full-time chaplain of the county jail. Her employer is Forgotten Man Ministries, which provides chaplains and volunteers in 34 county jails in Michigan. (There and in some other states, the state budget covers chaplains only at state prisons.)

She is also the part-time pastor of Rectify Church. Congregational giving and RCA grants contribute to her compensation there.

Her journey to these ministries started years ago with visits to a friend at a bleak federal prison. They inspired her to volunteer at a state prison while she was earning her M.Div. at Western Theological Seminary.

During her first pastoral job, she wrestled with how a congregation should minister to people recently released from jail. She became convinced that conventional churches aren’t prepared to meet those people’s needs. God gave her a vision in a dream, she says. She prayed for clarity.

Then came some critical connections: She met a Forgotten Man Ministries volunteer, and later, Tim Vink, senior church multiplication strategist for the RCA—a point person for church planting. “He said, ‘I think you’re supposed to start a church.’ I went out to my car and I cried, because it was such affirmation,” Lindstrom says.

By then she was chaplain at the Allegan County Corrections Center, where everyone arrested in the county is booked. Some are jailed there awaiting trial or sentencing. If sentenced to a year or less, they serve their time at the county jail. Drugs or alcohol are associated with most people’s cases, Lindstrom says.

As chaplain, she was establishing discipling relationships with new Christians, wishing them well as they were released, and then sometimes seeing them back behind bars a few months later.

“Support in the community is important to help them break old habits,” she says. “The main thing with the folks that we deal with, especially if they have an addiction, is they have to leave their old friends behind—not only friends, but sometimes family. That’s a big one that’s sometimes hard for people to do.”

In late 2016 she and some volunteers started a weekly gathering in a local church’s multi-activity center. “At first, everyone who came knew Sarah. That’s changed. Now the word is on the street,” says Sally Burgess, who volunteers with an anger management group at the jail. She and her husband, Vern, have been involved in Rectify from the beginning

Rectify became an official RCA church plant in January. An RCA church planting residency supports its ministry. Early this year, it also moved to its current location roughly midway between the jail and downtown Allegan. It shares space with The Bridge, another fairly recent RCA church plant.

The RCA has a number of prison ministries—in Ionia, Michigan, and Yankton, South Dakota, for example. But Rectify Church is the only one of its kind in the RCA. That may change. Vink anticipates that within a few years, Lindstrom will help others launch new churches on the model she continues to fine-tune in Allegan. When the RCA supports a church plant with grants and training, the new church commits to replicate within seven years. “We’re so grateful she had the resilience to press through,” Vink says.

In many respects, Rectify is like other churches: chili at the potluck, praise music and prayer requests during worship, and a message followed by strong, purposeful prayer.

In other ways, its unique identity is clear. Preaching one evening this spring on 1 John 3, Lindstrom lingered over Cain and Abel’s story in verse 12. She spoke about bitterness, old wounds and defensive barriers—things people struggle with after release from incarceration. The world may not change, she told the congregation, but we can change the way we process things. “God is the author of clarity and peace,” she said.

When her sermon ended, she strolled around the sanctuary handing the microphone to others. “What does it mean to love somebody through a lens of dignity, honor and respect?” she asked. “I want to hear what you have to say.”

People at Rectify Church have a lot to say. They’re straightforward about their struggles. Over dinner, someone may tell you matter-of-factly that they used to run a meth lab in their van, or hustled for a while for gas money so they could visit their kids.

“The beautiful thing about people who’ve been incarcerated is they get real honest real fast. They don’t wear a mask. What you see is what you get,” Lindstrom says.

“I may only get to see somebody once,” she continues. “There’s a sense of urgency. This might be the only time I get to speak life into this person. There’s a boldness about speaking truth in love. I love that. I think that’s what we’re supposed to do every day.”

PRAY

Ask God to give people recently released from incarceration the support and love they need to reenter the community and live out God’s call for their lives. Pray for Rectify Church to be the start of a movement of church plants that can offer people who have been incarcerated a new home in Christ.

This article originally appeared here.

This Pastor Died by Suicide. But First He Preached These Sermons on Depression

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Andrew Stoecklein shocked his congregation and his family when he died by suicide. In the two sermons he preached in the weeks preceding his suicide, Stoecklein spoke to his congregation candidly about depression and anxiety and how to fight it—a subject he was intimately familiar with.

Before Stoecklein Succumbed to Depression and Anxiety, He Preached on It

The 30-year-old pastor was a husband, a father of three, the son of ministry leaders, and by all accounts a strong believer. He was open with his congregation about his struggles with depression and anxiety. You certainly can’t fault Stoecklein for preaching from an inauthentic place or on a topic he was unfamiliar with.

As he walked his congregation through part of the prophet Elijah’s story (one that involved Elijah succumbing to a deep depression), it is obvious that Stoecklein was a gifted teacher. I’ve outlined the highlights of both sermons, which I hope you find as helpful as I did, whether or not you struggle with clinical depression or just the occasional bout of discouragement that we are all familiar with.

Lesson 1: We Are All Messy and Flawed—Like Our Heroes From Scripture

A “hot mess,” Stoecklein explains, is “someone who cleans up well” but who is really messy on the inside. We are all hot messes, he implies and smiles broadly. Regardless of what is going on at home, we still show up to work or church and smile and pretend as if everything is ok, Stoecklein says.

“You are surrounded by rows and rows and rows of some of the finest hot messes in town.” Jokingly, he says some come to church just to hand their “messes” [children] over to the Sunday school teacher in order to enjoy an hour of uninterrupted time each week.

Here’s the good news about our shared state of human messiness, Stoecklein says: “Mess is the thing that brings us together.”

Referencing Romans 3:22-24, Stoecklein explains this verse in light of his point, inserting his own commentary:

This righteousness is given through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference between Jew and Gentile, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,
[Sin makes all of us messy. Sin is when we fall short of God’s standards. Even if you don’t believe in God—you still fall short of your own standards.]
and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
[What brings us together (mess) is what brought God near.]

Here’s the best news, he says: God draws near to us because of our mess. In fact, sometimes, it takes a mess to set up the meeting with God.

Next Stoecklein asks us to consider Elijah’s story. He describes Elijah as the “Kanye of prophets,” referring to the rapper who has a reputation for being a tad on the arrogant side. Stoecklein explains that Elijah is “kind of a big deal and he knows it.”

After Elijah experiences a huge victory over the prophets of Baal in 1 Kings 19, Queen Jezebel threatens him and Elijah has a full-on panic attack. You’d assume that fire coming from heaven and consuming the prophets would have stayed Elijah against Jezebel’s threat to kill him, Stoecklein reasons. Instead, he “hits the wall.”

Success can become a wall for us, Stoecklein explains.

John MacArthur’s Seminary on Probation for ‘climate of bullying,’ Board Problems

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The Master’s University and Seminary (TMUS) in Santa Clarita, California, has been placed on probation by the Western Association of Schools and Colleges’ Senior College and University Commission (WSCUC)—one of the six regional accrediting agencies in the United States.

Among the issues cited in the report include a lack of board independence, allegations of conflicts of interest regarding student financial aid, institutional leaders being hired who lack qualifications for the higher education positions they hold, and what the WSCUC described as “a disturbing climate of fear, intimidation and bullying” at the university.

In a statement issued by the TMUS board of directors, the school stated that they are proactively working to “resolve every area of concern.”

The university is associated with Grace Community Church, which is pastored by the university’s president, John MacArthur. One of the concerns voiced by the commission was that MacArthur, among other board and cabinet members at TMUS, are “also on staff at GCC.”

The concerns were raised following a visit by members of the commission to the 110-acre campus in the Placerita Canyon in March. Under the terms of the probation, the school will continue to maintain its accreditation but will have less than two years to remedy the concerns.

“We are very committed to addressing and fixing every issue that WASC has highlighted,” said Dean of Faculty Kevin Hill. “There’s a lot of complicated issues, so we’re working diligently because it’s not something we can fix in a day.”

The Master’s University and Seminary Vows to Make Changes

“I think there are going to be adjustments made so that WASC is comfortable with where we are,” Hill told the Christian Post. “They are working through all those changes. The report was released before we had a chance to fully address all these issues. This stuff takes time because they are asking for a pretty substantive change and a lot of this stuff we have to research.”

Hill said the board was taking very seriously a complaint by members of the commission who reported seeing a “climate of fear, intimidation, bullying and uncertainty among significant numbers of faculty and staff.”

“This is something that I have personally never experienced,” Hill said. “So that was really surprising to me, personally. As dean of the faculty, I have never seen that. But I don’t want to discount the claims that other people made. That is something that the board and the president are taking extremely seriously. They took action as soon as we were given the preliminary report. They jumped on this because that is not who we perceive ourselves to be and obviously, something we need to address aggressively.”

Hill said the university’s board of trustees will issue its own report in the next few months, outlining what changes will be made to address the commission’s recommendations. The report will come before members of the commission revisit the school in November to address areas of non-compliance.

“The whole process is very healthy for institutions like us because it has been 10 years since an accrediting body came to the campus and they tell you where they see issues. They really do have your students’ interest at heart,” Hill said. “When you see things come back like WASC did with us, it is disappointing. But at the same time, it is an opportunity for improvement and we want to be the best possible institution for our students.”

Hill added, “We are taking everything they said very seriously.”

Peter Greer: Stop Comparing Your Ministry to Others

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Peter Greer is a Christian advocate for those living in poverty, an author, and the president and CEO of HOPE International, a global faith-based microfinance organization based in Lancaster, Pennsylvania.

Key Questions for Peter Greer:

– Why do pastors feel a need to compete with other ministries?
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How do churches with differing views collaborate?

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Key Quotes from Peter Greer:

“This idea of comparison is toxic to the broader impact that we’re supposed to have when we no longer see others as rivals and competitors but as friends and allies that we’re going to be spending all eternity with.”

“If a group of churches said, ‘instead of just a vision for our church, what if we looked at a vision for the whole city’, what an impact they would make.”

“I really do believe we could do so much more if we’d stop trying to create something new and looking instead at who’s already doing that work and taking part.”

“Every pastor is not just compared to pastors in other areas but to those on podcasts and social media….a huge challenge today is comparison that the Bible tells us ‘rots the bones.’”

“Part of getting freedom from envy is to celebrate others and find contentment with what God has given us.”

“When we admit that we need each other, that we don’t have it all together…that’s where the good stuff of relationship comes from.”

“Pastors need a kingdom over clan approach where we celebrate the success of others rather than be disappointed at our setbacks.”

“We need a theology that says everything we have is a gift, how could we not share it with others.”

“Don’t lose sight of the impact you have, not just on the people in your church, but with the people closest to you.”

Links Mentioned by Peter Greer in the Show:

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3 Common Emotional Mistakes Leaders Make

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Sometimes being a leader feels like living in two different worlds as leaders must think about the future while also executing today. And then there are the emotional challenges of leadership, as being a leader often requires leading with two emotions at once. Leaders often must grieve the loss of something while also holding to hope for the future. They carry a deep burden while also being filled with joy for the opportunity. They address problems with sober-mindedness while also rejoicing that good things are happening.

As I have grieved the loss of ending one season of ministry and rejoiced in the beginning of another, I have thought a lot about the tension of leading with two emotions at once. And of the mistakes we are prone to make. Here are three common mistakes leaders make emotionally.

Mistake One: Ignoring emotion

It is not healthy to ignore an emotion because it will likely surface later without the benefit of processing and learning from it in the season. For example, if a leader buries and ignores grief—the grief can manifest in unhealthy ways. Or if a leader ignores the joy of leading because the leader worries that celebrating will take too much time away from work, the leader can easily create an unhealthy culture.

Mistake Two: Minimizing emotion

My current tension has been this: I have been tempted to minimize my excitement about my new assignment for fear of being disrespectful and dishonoring to my current team. In the same way I have been tempted to minimize the feeling of loss for fear that people will think I am not ready to go. It is hard to hold two emotions at once but minimizing them robs the leader of important moments and conversations with the team.

Mistake Three: Being ruled by emotion

Leadership is emotional. In fact, there has been a lot written on emotional intelligence—the ability to connect with others, show empathy and effectively communicate non-verbally. While leaders are emotional people, wise leaders are not to be ruled by their emotions. Emotions can take us down dangerous paths and into unwise decision-making. The great news for the Christian is that we are able to continually submit our emotions to our Savior. We don’t have to let our emotions rule us, but we can preach the truth to our emotions. Pastor Martyn Lloyd-Jones wrote:

Have you realized that most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself instead of talking to yourself? The main art in the matter of spiritual living is to know how to handle yourself. You have to take yourself in hand, you have to address yourself, preach to yourself, question yourself. You must say to your soul: ‘Why art thou cast down’—what business have you to be disquieted? You must turn on yourself, upbraid yourself, condemn yourself, exhort yourself, and say to yourself: ‘Hope thou in God.’

This article originally appeared here. 

10 Questions to Ask in Your Sermon Preparation This Week

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Pastors, I know from experience that sermon preparation is seldom easy—and I don’t want to add any stress to the process. Nevertheless, here are some questions I encourage you to ask as you prepare your sermons for this week:

10 Questions to Ask in Your Sermon Preparation This Week

  1. How’s my quiet time this week? If it’s not good, your sermon preparation could be happening in your own power. Your power won’t do much.
  2. Have I started the preparation? If not, what’s your plan? I don’t argue for a set day to begin a sermon. I do argue, though, that late in the week provides little time for reflection and review.
  3. How well have I prepared in reading the text? I’m not suggesting that you need to memorize it, but it should not be that the first time you read it aloud is in the pulpit. Practice to read it well.
  4. How well do I know the text? How much background study we do always varies, but you need to know your text, its context and its teaching well. You don’t want to be caught off guard by a simple question after the sermon because you haven’t studied well before it.
  5. Will I stand before my church with a cleansed heart? That is, do I have any unforsaken sin in my life? Perhaps to ask the question more bluntly, am I a hypocrite?
  6. Will my family hold their head high while I preach? Or, do they know that I’m such a different person at home that I lack integrity in their eyes?
  7. Have I chosen illustrations that speak to my people, or do they only speak to me? For example, have I chosen only sports illustrations since that’s what I love—even though much of my congregation won’t understand them?
  8. How much time have I spent pouring the sermon into my heart? Some read the sermon multiple times. Others recite it in front of a mirror. Some work through an outline, but practice putting meat on it prior to preaching it. Few preachers who preach well review the sermon only once.
  9. Do I have anyone else who will review the outline or manuscript? Many of us don’t have that person—or we prepare so late in the week that we have no time to get a review—but it seldom hurts to have an honest review ahead of time.
  10. How much time have I prayed over the sermon and its preparation? If we wait until the sermon’s finished to ask God to bless it, we’re turning to Him quite late in the process. Have an ongoing, running conversation with God as you prepare your sermon.

This article originally appeared here.

Backstage Inspiration

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After 20 years of leading worship in the contemporary church, I have acquired various musical instruments that have helped me develop musicians, challenge bored Creatives and inspire possibilities on the worship stage. Most church backstage areas have an excess of unused gear just collecting dust. I hate this! These unused instruments could be a pathway to new inspiration and opportunity.
Look through the backstage of most churches and you’ll find a pile of unused gear. It’s not junk! It’s [an] inspirational opportunity collecting dust!
There is a good chance most of your teams have under challenged musicians that could use another instrument or two to wake them from their three-chord slumber. Adding new instruments will excite the band and elevate its sound. It will also inspire the congregation as they see and hear new instruments. Adding new instruments will require your musicians to be flexible, vulnerable and courageous, but I found most musicians appreciate the challenge. If the church is the hope of the world and we are tasked with sharing that gospel of hope through music, why should our instrumentation be so limited? Here are some creative gear ideas that might already be hiding backstage:
IN YOUR BACKSTAGE AREA
• A Midi Keyboard Controller and Old Laptop – I lent out a $99 midi keyboard and an old church laptop (with Reason and Garageband loaded) to a 10th-grade homeschooler. She came back to church with pads, Rhodes and all kinds of sounds loaded up ready to play. This stuff is no longer rocket science. CPU>USB Cable>Old Laptop>1/8″ cable>DI Box>Sound System.
• A Real Fender Rhodes Electric Piano – This is a popular sound that you hear on recordings, and many keyboards already have a “Rhodes” sound built in. I have found it to be inspiring to actually have the real thing on stage. They require some maintenance but really add to the overall expression of sound. You can usually find them on craigslist for $600-1000.
• Tambourines and Shakers – Extra percussion is a great tool to have for modern worship. Oftentimes I will employ a horn/string player to use percussion on a song if it doesn’t call for their “normal” instrument. Background singers can also help out by adding percussion to a song. If you can clap in time, then you can play hand percussion.
• Hot Rods, Brushes + Mallets – Many times newbie drummers or folks that play with only one style of music will not have alternate sticks. I have found that most sets could benefit from one or more stick changes depending on the song. Encourage all your drummers to have a variety of sticks, but the church should have some on hand.
• Accordion – This is not a joke. I have lent out the church accordion to MANY keyboard players over the years. I encourage them to search YouTube for lessons and play along to a slow song using the keyboard (not the button) side. It’s a fun and life-giving musical tool to use for a song or two. Can sound like a pad or cello, not always polka.
• Ukulele and/or Mandolin – If you have more than one guitar player, often times I will ask one of those players to learn mandolin or ukulele and use it in a song or two.
• Cajon or Any Hand Drum – I have trained up many drummers starting on hand percussion. They play along with the main drummer. As they get better I eventually have them trade seats with the drummer for the slow song. All of a sudden, I have more drummers! Check out Monk Drums, a very cool drum company that makes affordable custom cajons.
• Melodica – In Germany, they use this instrument to teach kids music. It’s a fun little piano that just about anyone can play. Don’t use it for every song or every week, but you can pull it out for a little inspiration. Keep the alcohol wipes handy.
• Glockenspiel or Bell Kit – These instruments add a loud and significant punch to melody or riffs on vamps. They get a workout at Christmas time!
• Baritone and High-Strung Guitars– Baritone guitars are tuned super low and sound in between a guitar and bass. They are fun and can work on some songs. High-strung or Nashville tuning is a way to string your guitar to make it sound “chimey.” If you have extra guitars hanging around the church, consider making one of them high-strung.
• Extra Snare Drums and Cymbals – Since the snare drum and cymbals are so critical to the overall sound it’s nice to have some extra high-quality options for drummers to choose from. If you have better drums and options at church you will suddenly have more drummers! (See Page Two for more inspiration.)

How to Lay the Groundwork for Missional Communities

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It is one thing to grasp and get excited about a vision for missional communities and a completely different thing to go about forming missional communities. The vision for gospel-centered communities on mission is compelling, exciting and stirs us within toward embodying scriptural truth. I find it hard not to be attracted to pursuing this vision.

But it’s not easy. Forming missional communities can be immensely challenging and even transitioning from an existing small group model to missional communities can be a massive challenge.

As people grasp this vision in our church, we try our best to assist them in thinking through the key components that will allow them to move from vision to reality.

Why?

This question has multiple levels to it.

Are the leaders starting this for a reason other than faithfulness to God? Are they looking to cultivate a gospel presence on mission to their neighborhood or is this a religious act? This isn’t a test for the leader, but a gospel confrontation to seek their own spiritual health and alignment with God. Leaders must know that starting, sustaining and leading a missional community is about faithfulness to God and not to a bunch of community tasks.

The other level concerns the vision for the community. Why is this community forming? Why in this neighborhood and why these people? Vision is essential for any community or it will not go anywhere, let alone form into a community that loves one another well and loves their neighbors well. This type of community doesn’t just happen because people who love Jesus are in the same room. There must be a vision, but there must also be so plan for what the community will do.

What?

Our church has three core values, Gospel EnjoymentIntentional Community and Prayerful Mission. These are the principles our community groups are centered around, but each community group will see these accomplished differently based on the people in their community and their local neighborhood.

We encourage the leaders to think through what they would like to see the community do to cultivate these core values. As they gather as a community we encourage them to ask questions and discuss how everyone in the community sees these core values becoming a reality for the community. This usually requires the community to confront changes to their lifestyles that will need to take place for the community to flourish in these three areas.

This question also deals with what is the community group going to actually do to extend the gospel of Jesus Christ to their neighbors. Many of them seek to establish presence through consistent meals and others start by seeking to serve their neighborhood in tangible ways. For every community, it eventually evolves to truly meet the needs of their neighborhood, but every community must start with a plan of what they are going to do.

Who?

This also has multiple layers.

Who is going with you? Jonathan Dodson had some great advice on this for our community. He recommended having no fewer than six people start a missional community and it has been a helpful encouragement. Fewer than six decreases the spheres in reaching out to friends, neighbors and co-workers and doesn’t provide a sustainable base. The flipside is being careful to avoid being full before ever starting. You want to have a solid core, but also empty seats as a reminder of mission. I’m thankful to his guidance in this area and in many other ways.

Who are you going to? This is the next layer. This isn’t a vague neighborhood description; this is the names of people you care about. These are people you desire to experience quality relationships centered on the gospel, to discuss your faith with whether their faith differs or not, and those people you genuinely desire to serve.

Five Ways to Pray for Back-to-School

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It’s time to pray for back-to-school. In many parts of the country, kids have started heading back to classrooms. After summers filled with camps and VBS and fun, they are headed back to their version of the “real world.” Some parents are crying and some are rejoicing. Children and youth ministries are preparing for a new church year of ministry.

5 Ways to Pray for Back-to-School

  1.  Pray for kids to know their worth and identity in Christ. My friend shared with me about his middle school son on the phone with a friend on the way to the first day of school. These really cool guys were comparing notes on what they were wearing to school. I laughed, but also it served as a reminder that new beginnings bring great insecurities. What if other kids don’t like me? What if my friends change? What if I’m not wearing what others think is cool? What if I’m not good enough? And more. Pray for the kids in your world to know that they are precious and valuable because God created them exactly like they are. Their worth is not found in what they can do, how they look or even who they are. Their worth is found in Jesus. Pray that their confidence will be in Christ and what He has done for them (Romans 5:8, Psalm 139:13-14).
  2. Pray for quick repentance when kids mess up. As much optimism as there is that goes into the first day of school, new beginnings and all that, the reality is inevitably perfection will end. A name will be written on a board, something will move down on a discipline chart, an assignment will be left at home, a detention will be earned…and those are just the things the teachers catch! Let’s pray for our kids to own their mistakes, repent and seek forgiveness, and then press forward to what God has called them to do (Luke 5:32).
  3. Pray for kids to love those who are hard to love. There will be kids who are mean. There will be kids who look, act or smell different. There will be kids who are far from God and act like it. There will be kids who should know God and don’t act like it. There will be kids no one wants to sit by on the bus or play with on the playground. Pray for your kids to love the “least of these” even when it is hard (Matthew 25:40).
  4. Pray for kids to grow in dependence on Christ. Five years ago I was wrestling to carry a little baby across the parking lot while I dropped her sisters off for school. Today that same baby walked herself into her big girl kindergarten class. Her dependence on me has lessened, which is exactly what is supposed to happen. Let’s pray that as kids become more independent socially, academically and physically that they will not try to be independent spiritually. Pray that we as adults will model a dependence on Christ for every step of our lives (Proverbs 3:5-6).
  5. Pray for boldness for kids to truly let God rule in their lives. Living a gospel-centered life as a kid doesn’t always fit the “norm.” Sometimes kids will feel left out or different. Let’s pray for kids to be bold to trust God anyway. Let’s pray for kids who are bold enough to make right choices, to love others well and to shine God’s love brightly to everyone they meet. Let’s pray for them to be confident in being different. Let’s pray for God to pour His blessings on them as they truly follow His lead and His ways and they live out the gospel each and every day (2 Corinthians 3:12).

This article about how to pray for back-to-school originally appeared here.

5 Surprising Reasons People Leave Your Church

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In a perfect world, you wish everyone who comes to your church would stay forever.

I get that. I share that desire too.

But the reality is that on this side of heaven people come and go, not just in church, but everywhere.

Think about it: You’ve switched gyms and supermarkets. You’ve bought and sold cars and homes. You’ve even switched jobs. And no, the church is not a commodity, but the law of averages tells you a certain percentage of people inevitably come and go.

Usually, when people leave a church, it’s because there’s a problem, a disagreement or a conflict of some kind.

But I’ve also come to realize people leave churches when things are going well.

As surprising as this sounds, every time you make progress as a church, you’ll lose people.

This comes as a shock to most leaders. And it can be very disheartening, especially if you don’t realize some loss even in great seasons is ‘normal.’

While I don’t have hard data to back these five reasons people leave your church, I do have more than a few conversations with leaders from great churches who still experience exits when things are going well. And all five reasons listed below are trends I have seen personally where I serve.

So why do people leave even when you’re making progress at your church?

Simple. The people who are at your church today are there because they like it the way it is.

Change that (even for the better), and some will leave.

It will shock you. It will disappoint you. It will leave you scratching your head. And it’s unavoidable. But you need to keep moving or else you’ll be paralyzed by focusing on who you want to keep, not who you want to reach.

So when do people leave when things are going well?

Here are five surprising moments that trigger exits when no one is expecting it:

1. A move into a new building

So many people think a move into a new building is a positive step that will only cause growth.

For a church that has momentum, that’s almost universally true. (Although a move into a building will not cause a declining church to grow…I explain why here.)

But even when things are going well, you will lose people.

Some people will love the portable days even better. Some won’t like the new location. Others may not like the design. Others may feel displaced.

For some people, there’s also a sentimental association with past places of worship as well. Maybe the sentiment is because they became Christians there, were baptized there or even got married there.

For sure, that’s understandable. Most people get past the sentiment, but some don’t. And they’ll leave.

The church has to keep moving though…advancing the mission. After all, you cannot build a future by living in the past.

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