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Free eBook: "The Pilgrim’s Song Book," by Oswald Chambers

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Free eBook Written by Oswald Chambers

Download this free eBook in PDF format from Oswald Chambers, author of My Utmost for His Highest.

Share this exploration of of the Songs of Ascent (Psalms 120-128) with your worship team to help deepen their walk with God.

From The Pilgrim’s Song Book, “There is always a suitable place to pray, to lift up your eyes to God; there is no need to get to a place of prayer, pray wherever you are. Confess before God that you have been distracted away from faith in Him; don’t vindicate yourself.”

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Why Our Church Has Embraced the Elementary ‘Not-Lock In’

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Over 15 years ago, when I was just beginning in the kidmin world, I had such a burden for children to be given the opportunity to participate in an event that was intentional about Bible study and discipleship. I knew their youth world would be scattered with “disciple now” type events, but why not provide a one-night event for children where they are brought together to:

– study God’s Word in a interactive way
– worship God in a kid-friendly setting
– be poured into by passionate adults and youth
– build relationships with their peers in a safe environment
and more.

So, from this vision came 24 Hours 4 Him—a spring discipleship event that begins at 6 p.m. on a Friday night and ends at 6 p.m. on Saturday night. Yes, the kids sleep. We even put them to bed in order of their age. No, we don’t sleep in family homes. We nestle down right in church classrooms so we don’t lose anytime driving back and forth to the church.

Our themes come from great sources like Northpoint’s Superheroes Curriculum, Children Desiring God backyard Bible club lessons, Orange’s past vbs curriculums and more. The entire 24 hours revolves around the theme in hopes of not only helping children understand these truths with their head, but to grasp them with their hearts and then apply them to their lives.

The schedule usually looks something like this:

Friday
  •  children arrive, report to Bible study rooms, and play a get-to-know-you game
  • dinner
  • Bible study (by grade)
  • worship
  • 1st & 2nd graders go to bed while 3rd-5th graders participate in special areas (i.e., cooking, crafts, drama, puppets, secret service, etc.)
  • 3rd & 4th graders go to bed while *5th graders have a special late night event.
  • bedtime

Saturday

  • wake up
  • breakfast
  • morning celebration
  • quiet time
  • Bible study
  • lunch
  • Bible study
  • recreation
  • Bible study
  • clean-up, pack-up (kids help put the church back together for Sunday morning.)
  • closing worship (parents are invited to attend with their children.)
  • go home

Additional Information

  • Bible study leaders are parents, college students or older youth.
  • Parents come and help serve meals and also make goody buckets for each of the Bible study leaders.
  • We have a designated first-aid/meds person that handles any medicine brought by parents for their children during the weekend.
  • We bring in a special speaker and worship leader for the worship sessions. (Children also get the chance to lead in worship.)
  • Children receive a t-shirt from the weekend and we encourage them to wear it to school the next week.
  • Parents receive an immediate email after dropping their children off that shares with them what the children are studying that weekend and ways to continue the learning at home.
  • The late night 5th grade activity is fun activity where children make bridges out of various random supplies (i.e., straws, legos, rubber bands, paperclips, etc.). Then, we talk through how Jesus alone is the bridge between our sinful selves and our Holy God. Children then fill out a questionnaire about where they are spiritually, so that we can more effectively minister to them in their remaining months in kids ministry.

I have been blessed at both of the churches I have served at with pastors that understand the importance of children’s ministry and take time to promote and share the vision with others. Below is an excerpt of what my current pastor, Dr. Gary Fenton, is sharing in next week’s church newsletter about Dawson kids’ first ever 24 Hours 4 Him.

“Speaking of children…as we do frequently at Dawson, because ministry to children, preschool, middle and high school students are a priority…this Friday, March 01 6:00 p.m. to Saturday 6 p.m. will be one of the more important 24 hour periods in the church this year. We will host “24 hours 4 Him.” This is an intentional step toward healthy Christian discipleship that involves interactive Bible Study, age appropriate worship and teaching for grades 1-5. In the last several years several books including You Lost Me and Almost Christian have documented that a large number young adults 18 to 30 indicate that their faith is not relevant to the issues they face in life. Many of them have not totally abandoned their faith in God; but they are unsure if and how it relates to their daily life. The Christian faith is unfortunately too often seen as a ticket to heaven, rather than a way of life. Some who drop out may have had experiences with God but have never learned about a daily walk with God. Others may have just heard enough to be confused. During 24 Hours 4 Him children will learn about heroes of the Old and New Testament as the Bible stories will be taught in an age appropriate ways. This is not a child evangelism program but an opportunity for spiritual preparation. 

Still speaking of children…If you sense excitement on my part, you are right. The first time I heard of 24 Hours 4 Him I thought it was probably a children’s version of a lock-in during which exhausted kids would be manipulated into some type of emotional decision. Then my first grade grandson participated in one in another state and I saw how helpful and healthy it was for him to hear Bible stories. I learned sleep and rest were built into the program. It was like spending the night at Christian friend’s house that involved healthy Christian teaching. I invite you to be praying this wonderful foundational discipleship event.”

This article originally appeared here 

Stressed Out Small Groups: 3 Ways to Help Your Members De-Stress

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What is going on in the heads of your group members when they show up at your meeting? Do they suffer from stress?

There are many things that could be happening in their lives, right at that moment, that could distract them from what God wants them to receive in the Bible study discussions.

Impact of Stress

The latest Stress in America survey from the American Psychological Association demonstrates that stress is a significant issue. Just a few of their findings include:

  • 72 percent of adults felt stressed about money at least some of the time.
  • The average stress levels of Americans were higher than what were considered healthy.
  • Common sources of stress included money, work, the economy, family responsibilities and personal health concerns.
  • Common symptoms of stress in the past month included feeling irritable or angry, feeling nervous or anxious, having a lack of interest or motivation, fatigue, feeling overwhelmed, and being depressed or sad.

Small groups can be a place of healing for your members. As they mature as disciples, they will be more capable to manage stress. Small groups can also be a significant source of emotional support.

“Survey findings show that Americans who say they have emotional support—specifically, that they have someone they can ask for emotional support if they need it, such as family and friends—report lower stress levels and better related outcomes than those without emotional support.”

Stress In America: Paying With Our Health

Start De-Stressed

Before you get your Bible-study conversation started, try one of these short activities to bring your members’ stress levels down:

Get Thoughts on Paper

As things come up throughout the day, many people depend on their brain to remember them. These can be items to add to the grocery list, meetings to attend, tasks that need to be done, things being worried about, etc. The amount of “stuff” we continually think about and can’t forget can be overwhelming.

Before your Bible study, give your group members a pen and paper. Instruct them to write everything down they can think of that is currently filling their mind. Give them a couple of minutes to do this, then have them put the paper away so they can forget about those items until they review the paper sometime after the meeting is over. It is surprising how much relief can come from this exercise when they don’t have to use any more cognitive energy to keep track of all of those items.

Listen to Music

Some small groups use music during their meeting as a form of worship. What they may not know is that listening to music can also have a positive impact on our minds and bodies. It is a great stress management tool.

Consider listening to music before your Bible study to help reduce stress.

Stretch

Exercise can relieve stress. You don’t have to run a 5K race to feel the benefit. A few simple exercises can provide immediate stress relief.

Lead your small group in some of these simple exercises before you start the Bible study. You can start with the stress-busting exercises shown at Reader’s Digest (click here). These can be done right from the spot your small group members are sitting.

Life can be difficult. Don’t assume your group members are ready for the Bible study. Lead off with a stress reducing activity to help get your group members in state that help them get the most out of the small group meeting.

Question: What are some other activities that can be used in a small group meeting to help relieve stress?  

This article originally appeared here.

The Surprising Skill Worship Leaders NEED to Have

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TALKING

When a church is in need of a worship leader, they’re probably not looking for someone who knows how to talk in front of a crowd. The first thing they more than likely want to know is, “Can this kid sing?”

As a worship leader, I would venture to say that talking in a worship set can be just as vital as singing. Singing can actually be one of the easier things you do while leading worship. Think about it—the words are already provided for you. If you don’t memorize them, you probably have a monitor or something that makes it even easier. That’s one of the things I respect about pastors and speakers. They have to bring a talk every week and there’s no chorus to repeat.

Being able to sing is a huge plus in leading worship, but if you know how to talk and communicate with your church during a worship set, the experience takes on a whole new depth. You will also become an even more effective leader.

Here are some tips I’ve learned about talking while leading worship:

1. BE HEARD—This may seem like a given and really elementary, but it’s important that people can hear and understand what you’re saying. There are two things that are required: 1) Make sure you speak clearly and speak loudly. It would be better that you don’t talk at all than if you mumble and talk quietly. 2) Make sure the sound person makes the proper adjustments in the mix. Don’t assume that whoever is running sound knows that they need to adjust your channel when you talk. Your talking voice will have a much different level than your singing voice, so make sure it’s adjusted appropriately. That will take instruction and training on your part.

2. PREPARE A THOUGHT—One of the most valuable things I learned from another worship leader was to prepare a thought during your allotted time. I’ve found it very beneficial for our church and myself, as a leader, to have a scripture, quote or just a thought to share at a specific point in the morning. I usually wait until after our weekly rehearsal, unless something hits me earlier. Rehearsal often gives me clarity about the big picture of the experience. Going through it all at rehearsal gives me that context as I sit down, pray and prepare a thought to share. The more you prepare your thoughts ahead of time, the better you can prepare hearts in the moment.

3. MINIMIZE—This is something that takes time to really master, and I’m still working on it. Some worship leaders talk too much and some are afraid to say anything. It’s important that you talk to your people and not just sing songs. This allows you to share your heart and it allows them to see your heart. Ultimately, it allows you to lead effectively. If they know your heart, as a leader, then they will be more prone to follow you. On the flip side, if you talk too much, it can turn into a sermon. It’s important to remember that they’re going to hear a sermon in that service already, so you don’t need to bring one. I’ve found that when I minimize a prepared thought or scripture to ONE moment in a worship set, it’s very effective. This means that you should NOT talk between every song. If people think you’re going to talk before and after every song, your voice will start sounding like the Charlie Brown teacher—”WAH, WAH, WAH!” I’m not saying that you should never talk more than once during a worship set. There will be times when you need to say something spontaneously, if the Spirit leads. That can be as or more effective at times. Just make sure you’re prepared to give a thought, not a sermon.

4. ENCOURAGE YOUR PEOPLE—Who doesn’t like to be encouraged? Everyone loves to be cheered on and recognized in a positive way. Encouragement can be that rare gem that boosts your day and keeps you going. When my church comes to worship on a Sunday, I recognize that publicly. I will thank them after a Spirit-filled moment, when it is evident that they are truly focused and tuned into the presence of God. A little dose of encouragement can go a long way, and I’ve seen my church get more excited about what God is doing around us when I recognize their recognition of God’s presence. As Andy Stanley has said, “What’s rewarded is repeated.”

5. CHALLENGE WITHOUT RIDICULE—You will never find a perfect church. There will be times when your crowd falls short of what corporate worship is intended to be. As a leader, I look at these moments as opportunities to challenge God’s people to be in awe of Him. The key to this is challenging them without ridiculing them. Remember, they don’t have to be there. They chose to come and worship in your church that week. You want to challenge and encourage them to do good. Just as encouragement can spur on a crowd, ridicule can push them away. You also do not want to shy away from challenging them. That’s what a leader does. As worship leaders, we can help hold our church accountable to worship God, especially if the lead pastor has the same heart. The serious truth about it is that when we do not worship the Creator, we are worshiping the creation (Romans 1:25). When your crowd falls short, don’t let it bring you down. Capture that opportunity to encourage and challenge them to give their worship to the only One who is worthy of it. I live in Denver, or better known as “Bronco Country.” Here’s an example of an opportunity I took at my church.

Look at leading worship as a relationship and connection from the stage. Communication is key to any relationship. When you talk to your crowd effectively, you can draw closer to them, build their trust in you and, best of all, successfully lead them into the beauty of true corporate worship.

What are some other tips you’ve learned about talking?

The 10 Last Gasps of a Dying Church

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If you don’t like changeyou’re going to like irrelevance even less.” Those are the words of General Eric Shinseki, Chief of Staff, U.S. Army, who is currently in the news because of the VA scandal.

There are few things as sad as watching a once great church grow old, become irrelevant and slowly die. What is worse is that they either don’t know they’re dying, or they simply don’t care as long as those remaining are happy. Sadly, I have witnessed this more times than I wish to count. In addition, I have attended this type of church before.

Here is what I have noticed about many of these churches—at a pivotal point, a decision was made to continue doing ministry the way they always have rather than alter their approach to reach a changing community or the next generation. After months of committee meetings and off-line conversations, the church finally utters the The 10 Last Words of Dying Churches—“We’ve never done it that way before. We’re not changing.”

Those 10 powerful words subsequently have a ripple effect that lasts generations. As a result, the following are additional comments those attending these churches are bound to say and/or hear shortly thereafter:

  1. “Isn’t it great that our music is never too loud?”
  2. “Isn’t it nice seeing people in coats and ties and not disrespecting God by wearing jeans and shorts?”
  3. “We’re more spiritual and doctrinally pure than that fast-growing, watered-down gospel, baptizing-hundreds–maybe-thousands-every-year church down the street.”
  4. “Can you believe that church is stealing all our young people?”
  5. “I hear we’re having to cut the budget because giving is not what it used to be.”
  6. “Isn’t it great having all this room on the pew to spread out.”
  7. “I love singing all four verses.”
  8. “Don’t worry about our attendance. Let me tell you how large our membership is.”
  9. “Are you coming to Monday night visitation? How about the Wednesday night prayer service?”
  10. “Remember the good ‘ole days.”
  11. Visitors, please stand.”
  12. “I hear it’s just a show over there.”
  13. “We just formed a Committee on Committees.”
  14. “We don’t talk about money. We preach the Bible.”
  15. “You don’t want that fast growth. Slooooow growth is what you need.”
  16. “Isn’t it great getting out of the parking lot quickly?”
  17. “The poor will always be with us.”
  18. “I’m really tired of having to hear about lost people all the time.”
  19. “Pastor, I think we need to start praying for revival.”

Do these phrases hit close to home for you? Are there any more comments you want to add that you’ve heard?

The 3 Things I Miss Most About Pastoral Ministry

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In a couple of months, I’ll celebrate four years of pastoral ministry at LifeWay. Looking back on the development of The Gospel Project, I am overwhelmed to see how the Lord has blessed this effort in ways that far surpass our initial expectations. We are serving nearly 750,000 participants this fall. Almost every day, we hear new stories of kids, students and adults who are using The Gospel Project and encountering Christ through His Word.

A pastor recently contacted me. He is considering a leadership position in a Christian organization, and he’d read something I wrote six months after starting at LifeWay, a post in which I offered some reflections on stepping out of pastoral ministry. In seeking to discern God’s will for his next phase of ministry, he wanted to know if my feelings had changed since then.

In short, I affirm everything in the original post, including my comments on vocational calling being expressed through various avenues and ministry tasks. But even though I am thrilled to be doing the work God has called me to during this season, I still miss local church ministry. And I don’t think that’s a bad thing. Jimmy Draper used to tell people who work at LifeWay, “The day you don’t miss local church ministry is the day you should probably resign.” What he meant was this: You’re better at serving churches when your heart beats for Christ’s Bride.

So, in response to the pastor who asked, here are:

Three aspects of Pastoral Ministry I miss:

1. Preaching Connected to Pastoring

I love to preach. There’s nothing like digging into the Word, discerning its truth, applying it personally, shaping its presentation and then delivering its message to God’s people.

But the one thing I’ve learned since stepping out of pastoral ministry is that my love for preaching is connected to my love for people. I enjoy preaching at different churches and conferences. It’s encouraging to see many kinds of churches and to meet believers across the country. Still, preaching is special when your message is directed toward the same people every week, people you know and love and are committed to.

I’ve learned that, for me, it’s not just about preaching, but about people, and preaching is one of the ways you love your people. So, though I get plenty of opportunities to preach, I miss that special sense of preaching that is connected to pastoring.

2. Leading From the Front

I look at my role at LifeWay as leading churches from the side, offering resources that ground believers in God’s Word, that serve churches in their mission of making disciples. Along the way, I get lots of opportunities to help churches by offering counsel and encouragement to pastors.

In our own church, I enjoy serving as a teacher; I always want to support the pastoral staff and contribute to the church’s ministries. Since I stepped away from pastoral ministry, I’ve noticed that my leading hasn’t stopped; it’s merely shifted its direction.

That said, I do miss leading from the front, not just from the side. There are aspects of leadership that I’ve learned at LifeWay that I look forward to applying in a church setting: communicating a path forward, making tough calls, dealing with results, apologizing when I get it wrong, all the things I do in my current role at LifeWay but not as often in local church ministry.

5 Christian Women Who Have Shaped Culture

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Culture is a word we hear a lot in Christian circles these days. We hear of a “cultural malaise,” ponder “culture wars,” talk about how America has ceased to be a “Christian culture” and are encouraged to be “culture makers.” All of these uses of the term are helpful for thinking about how Christians can cultivate and contribute to the world we are called to serve.

Because we as men and women are created in the image of a creative God, we will be forming culture in our own world, however big or small its impact may seem at the time. And sometimes that’s the problem. We feel discouraged because our world does seem so small. What contributions could we possibly make? Do we really think the small culture we create could make a difference now, influence the larger culture, or (even more of a long shot) affect culture in the future?

Thankfully, we don’t need to look far for inspiration. Key women throughout history, some who held positions of influence during their own lifetime and many who did not, have impacted culture in ways they did not think likely or even possible at the time. What could a barbarian woman, runaway nun, a slave, a handicapped woman and the women in your life have in common? They have shaped culture, in big and small ways, to the glory of God.

1. Clothilda, Queen of Burgundy

Women played an important role in the Christianization of barbarian tribes after the fall of the Roman Empire. Several queens are “on record” as influencing the spread of Christianity in their realm, and none more so than this queen.

When Clothilda married Clovis, king of Burgundy, she sought an expansion of Christ’s kingdom as much as a political alliance between their powerful families. In a pattern typical of barbarian kings, Clovis first rejected his wife’s Christian religion, though he allowed their children to be baptized into it. As time passed, through discussions with her as well as a battle victory he attributed to the Christian God under her influence, Clovis was baptized and 3,000 of his subjects followed suit.

Clothilda also influenced her children to follow the Christian God, and we know one of them went on to help take the gospel to the Anglo-Saxons in what would become England. While no historian would argue that all early medieval baptisms truly represented the personal salvation of those who submitted to it, neither would they under estimate the impact Christianity had on the Franks in the coming centuries. A woman named Clothilda had much to do with that.

2. Katherine von Bora

Fast forward several centuries to the 1500s. Martin Luther, the famous reformer, was shaking things up in the established church, and his writings influenced a small but apparently very determined group of women in a cloister to bolt. Katherine was 18 when Luther published his 95 Theses. After a few years, she and a group of 10 other nuns decided the monastic life was not God’s only path for women of faith and hatched a plan to escape. Unable to turn to their families for help, they secretly wrote to Luther asking for his help. On Easter of 1523, 11 nuns were hidden in a cooperative merchant’s wagon and driven out of the convent forever.

While this story seems like an exciting undercover escape, it’s hard for us to realize the social shame these women risked in taking such a bold step. Since they could not return to their families, Luther realized they needed other places to go and sought husbands for them. He even married one himself. Saying his marriage would “please his father, rile the pope, cause the angels to laugh and the devils to weep,” Luther wed Katherine von Bora in 1525 when she was age 26 and he 42.

The pattern of family life Katherine established as Mrs. Luther set a standard for decades to come. Women no longer had to seek a life of celibacy in order to show their devotion to God. She illustrated that the life of a wife and mother devoted to running a household, which she did efficiently under hard circumstances, are just as much a discipline of grace and means of sanctification as the cloistered life. Her living example as a pastor’s wife influenced the culture and opened up a whole new area of what we often call women’s ministry.

3. Harriet Tubman

Harriet Tubman’s story may be familiar to you. Born a slave named Araminta Ross in Maryland, Tubman stood just 5 feet tall. But her courage and tireless devotion to the cause of justice for black slaves cause her tower over many of her peers. She herself escaped from slavery around age 30, but her determination to assist hundreds of other enslaved people escape southern plantations and travel northward, often all the way to Canada, has earned her a prominent place in American history. By her own estimation, she freed a thousand slaves, and she came to be known as the “Moses” of her people.

At a time when people of color, and women in particular, were forced to endure hardships most of us cannot imagine, Harriet Tubman stood against the tide of law and tradition, saying she had it all “reasoned out” in her mind. She had a right to either liberty or death, and if she could not have one she would have the other. Most of us do not need to break the law in order to have an impact for good on our culture. We do not risk arrest, imprisonment or worse for our determination to live out our beliefs. But the strength and conviction of women like Harriet Tubman—who have risked those things for the sake of forging a more just world for themselves but others—should inspire courage in all of us.

4. Joni Eareckson Tada

Fifty years ago this summer, a 17-year-old girl suffered a life-altering diving accident, and the world gained a life-affirming advocate, although neither realized it at the time. For decades now, Joni Eareckson Tada has worked to highlight the humanity and dignity of people with disabilities, and more recently, other groups our society tends to views as dispensible such as the unborn, elderly and terminally ill. Although few people would have chosen the accident, Tada credits the Lord with putting her in a unique position to speak up for the weak and disabled in American society and around the world.

When her accident occurred in 1967, the U.S. Supreme Court had yet to legalize abortion on demand, and no one was seriously debating the idea of  “assisted suicide.” As the citizens of the United States began to breath the toxic air of the culture of death, abortion gained acceptability, so that even national politicians could campaign on the promise of keeping it not only legal, but making it as widely available as possible. As this turn of events undermined the sanctity of human life, Joni Eareckson Tada began to fight what she called the “better off dead than disabled” mentality which permeates euthanasia advocacy. Today, her organization “Joni and Friends” is a global force advocating for the dignity of all human beings and encouraging Christians to take a stand against the culture of death.

5. Every woman (including you)

I couldn’t conclude a piece on women who are culture shapers without making this point: Most women (like most men) shape culture in ways that will never be singled out, rewarded or even noticed by the culture at large or historians like me. The women discussed in this post all made their way into history books due to the unique circumstances God brought about in their lives. The rest of us shape culture in less visible ways, perhaps, but no less to the glory of God.

In the 1970s, Pulitzer Prize winning historian Laurel Thatcher Ulrich penned what became a famous quote and perhaps feminist mantra: “Well-behaved women seldom make history.” Though the author may not have originally intended it, the modern implication seems clear: Live a quiet life, serve others in a way that doesn’t draw attention to yourself, and you won’t make the history books. But God is writing a different story, and HIStory will include many women who shaped culture working among their own family and friends in seemingly small but significant ways.

This article originally appeared here.

Here Are the Reasons People Stay Home on Sunday Morning

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The people who don’t go to church often cite personal, not spiritual, reasons for staying away. That’s a conclusion from a new Pew Research study.

The most often given reason why people don’t attend church is because they practice their faith in other ways.  

By their own description, those who cite reasons other than a lack of belief for avoiding church are a fairly religious group. About 7 in 10 identify with a religion (including 6 in 10 who are Christian), and most say religion is either “very” or “somewhat” important in their lives.

Another 23 percent cite personal preferences for keeping them away. For example, they haven’t found a house of worship they like, or they don’t like the sermons.  

Still others (22 percent) name logistical reasons, like being in poor health or not having the time to go, as very important reasons for not regularly attending religious services.

Three in 10 say they do not go to religious services because they are not believers.

Study Identifies People Who Don’t Go to Church

Fully a quarter of those who infrequently attend religious services say no particular reason can be characterized “very important” for their non-attendance.

Demographically, more than half of those who do not attend church for reasons other than non-belief are women, and they tend to be older and less highly educated compared with those who do not go because of a lack of faith. Meanwhile, those who refrain from attending religious services because they are non-believers are more highly educated and largely male, young and Democrats.

The survey also asked respondents the reason they attend religious services at least once or twice per month.

By far, the largest group (80 percent) say becoming “closer to God” is a very important reason they go to religious services.

Roughly two-thirds say they attend religious services to give their children a moral foundation, to become better people, and for comfort in times of trouble or sorrow. Smaller majorities say that valuable sermons and being part of “a community of faith” are very important reasons for their regular religious attendance.

Other findings from the survey include:

Eight in 10 regular attenders say they “always” or “often” experience a sense of God’s presence when they attend worship services. Nearly three-quarters say they “always” or “often” feel a sense of community with people who share their religion when they attend religious services, and 6 in 10 say they feel a sense of connection to a longstanding tradition.

Among those who attend church regularly, Protestants are roughly twice as likely as Catholics (71 percent vs. 36 percent) to say valuable sermons are a very important reason.

Those who avoid religious services because they “practice their faith in other ways” are less involved in a variety of community, charitable and social groups than are those who attend religious services regularly.

And the people who say they practice their faith in other ways are far less religious, by a variety of traditional measures beyond worship attendance (including frequency of prayer, assessment of religion’s importance in one’s life, etc.), than those who attend religious services regularly.

In recent years, the percentage of U.S. adults who say they regularly attend religious services has been declining, while the share of Americans who attend only a few times a year, seldom or never has been growing.

3 Practical Ways to Build a Legacy to Last

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All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only imagine. – Jim Rohn

What is your personal legacy? Or to phrase it another way, if today was your last day, how would your kids and those closest to you remember you? If you want a legacy worth remembering, it requires being intentional. If you want to be thought of as more than a sports fan, then take time today to build a legacy worthy of the calling God has placed on your life.

If you want to build a legacy, share your testimony. Do your kids know what your life was like before Christ? Do they know the difference Jesus has made for you personally? I recently asked the preteens and there was only one student in the room who knew their parents’ testimony. Mark your calendar right now and make it a priority to share your story with your kids.

If you want to build a legacy, celebrate milestones. Days turn into weeks and weeks become years. Before you blink, your kids will be graduated and moving out. Celebrate  milestones by stepping back as a family and creating memorable moments centered around Christ. Important milestones that build a lasting legacy include things like family dedication, salvation and baptisms, preparing for adolescence, commitments to purity, rite of passages like getting a drivers license and being allowed to stay home alone, high school graduation, and experiencing life in Christ. For more information on celebrating milestones, click here.

If you want to build a legacy, create faith talks. A faith talk is when you pause the TV, lean into your kids, and share your faith using the moment just shared on the screen. A faith talk is when you ask your kids how their day was and then remind them how the Word of God can speak to their problems. A faith talk is when you connect God into everyday life. These faith talks may revolve around silly things like finding a parking space or big things where life seems to be falling apart like the death of a loved one. Faith talks can last mere seconds, but will build a lasting legacy in the hearts of your kids.

Following these three examples will create a lasting spiritual legacy in the lives of your children. Don’t allow the urgent tasks to crowd out the most important things. Pause today to take a step in the right direction.

All Show and No Go

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But you, dear friends, must build each other up in your most holy faith, pray in the power of the Holy Spirit, and await the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ, who will bring you eternal life. In this way, you will keep yourselves safe in God’s love. —Jude 1:20-21

To me, it seems that for a lot of people, faith is like a four-wheel-drive vehicle. People will buy an amazing four-wheel-drive and then add lots of after-market equipment or repaint it with automotive paint supplies from Paint For Cars. They’ll raise it. They’ll get giant wheels and a big winch on the front, and then they’ll add huge lights. And when they drive up behind you, all you can see is the chassis of their vehicle in your rearview mirror.

Maybe they pull up next to you at a gas station, and you strike up a conversation while you’re fueling up.

“That thing is cool,” you say. “Do you do a lot of four wheeling?”

“What? Are you kidding me? Do you know how much I spent on this thing? There’s no way I’m going to take this out in the dirt. I’m on my way to the car wash.”

In a way, it is all show and no go. That is what faith is like for some people. They like to talk about faith, but they don’t use their faith.

Jude tells us, “But you, dear friends, must build each other up in your most holy faith, pray[ing] in the power of the Holy Spirit” (verse 20 NLT). This is telling us that faith does things. Faith is active. Jude is saying, “Be praying. Be staying. Be keeping.” In other words, do things with your faith. Don’t neglect it.

Faith is a lot like a muscle. The more you use a muscle, the stronger that muscle becomes. But if you neglect your muscles, they won’t develop. And if you neglect them for too long, they can even atrophy.

Faith doesn’t live in the realm of theory; faith lives in the world of activity. So let’s use our faith. Let’s put it into action. Then watch what God can do.

This article originally appeared here.

How to Build a Solid Small Group Ministry Foundation

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I have this displayed on my office whiteboard: “Vision without implementation equals hallucination.” I believe in vision. If you don’t have a plan for implementing your vision, you are wasting your time. Success involves the management of ideas. Ideas can provide wonderful breakthroughs for your ministry. However, trying to implement too many ideas at once can crush or fragment your ministry. Here are five important keys to begin building a solid foundation for your small group ministry

  1. Think Church-Wide

Each local church is meant to be a unified body, working together in a coordinated way toward a common purpose. This means that as you plan your small group ministry, you should start by thinking church-wide. The weekend services, the small groups and the other church ministries all work together to achieve the outcome of a mature disciple—what Saddleback calls the Purpose Driven Life.

  1. Plan Intentionally 

Whole-church coordination doesn’t happen by accident. It takes intentional planning. As Christians, it is possible to get caught in the passive “If God wants it to happen, it will happen” trap, and this can often lead to…absolutely nothing. While it’s true that the Lord can and does make things happen, he has also equipped us to be his hands and feet. Therefore, the best Kingdom outcomes require that we become intentional in our planning while depending continually on the Lord for wisdom.

  1. Clarify Success

The coordinated functioning of your local body requires understanding clearly what success means for your church. What is God’s end for your church, for a disciple, that you must keep in view? This is defined in your church’s and your small group ministry’s vision and mission statements. Then it’s carried out in your small group ministry.

  1. Align Your Systems

Based on this definition of success, it is imperative to have a church-wide system that moves people along a comprehensive pathway toward the end destination of mature disciples. Without such a unified system, a new or existing ministry, like small groups, will follow its own independent path, which may not take people along the pathway to success for your church. You may end up with chaos resembling that of the Tower of Babel. Your church’s leadership must prayerfully communicate, align and work together to create a roadmap for your church that will help both leaders and congregants fulfill the church’s vision and mission, guiding every ministry toward success.

  1. Define Your Plan

Within the whole-church system, each ministry—including your small group ministry—must define and develop a comprehensive plan that fits within the system and helps achieve your church’s vision and mission. This is your ministry’s pathway to help achieve God’s end purpose for your church. Average small group pastors provide training. Good small group pastors have a plan encompassing only their ministry. Great small group pastors have a plan that is coordinated with the church’s vision and mission.

This article originally appeared here.

Why We Worship on Repeat

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Repeat? Again?

Many a modern church-goer has been miffed by repetition in corporate worship.

The Information Age is conditioning us for new content, fresh ideas, new data. Why re-read what we’ve already read, why rehearse what we’ve already heard, when new information is available like never before?

But do we know what our unprecedented access to novelty is doing to us? All indications are that it’s threatening to make us shallower, not wiser and more mature. Running our eyes across the page and mouthing words to a song are not the same thing as experiencing the reality in our hearts. Our hearts simply don’t move as quickly as our eyes and our mouths.

Which makes corporate worship such an important elixir for what is increasingly ailing us today.

Learn to Feel the Truth

Take Psalm 136 as a flashing red light from the divine that our newfound intolerance for repetition is out of step with what it means to be human. The psalm is 26 verses, and each verse ends with “for his steadfast love endures forever.” It rehearses God’s goodness and supremacy, his wonder-working and world-creating, his delivery of his people from slavery and provision for them in a rich land.

Twenty-six times the psalm repeats this refrain—and not one of them is wasted. With each new verse, another attribute or rescue of God is celebrated, and then our souls are ushered deeper into his steadfast, ever-enduring love with each glorious repetition.

The goal of the song is not to make his steadfast love old hat, but to help us feel it afresh and at new depth. The dance of each new verse, with each return to the refrain, is designed to bore the central truth about God’s resilient love deeper and deeper into our inner person. The psalm is not a treatise on the unwavering, persistent love of God, but what we call a meditation—less linear and more circular—crafted to help auger the reality of his love from information on our mental surface down to an experience in our hearts.

If you come away bored (unaffected), you’ve missed the point. But if you come away with God bored deeply into your soul (tasting afresh the strength and sweetness of his love), you’ve been carried by the Holy Spirit.

7 Signs Your Church Is Honestly…Mediocre

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One of the problems many churches face these days is that they’re neither great at things or terrible at things.

They’re honestly just…mediocre.

Facebook Live has made watching other churches’ services easier than ever, and as I’ve scrolled through my Sunday morning feed or visited different churches over the years, I’ve been a little amazed at what I’ve seen.

Unfortunately, there’s a lot of mediocrity out there.

That probably sounds judgmental, and I’m sorry if that’s how it feels. But there’s a lot at stake here. When your church is mediocre, it should be no surprise unchurched people aren’t lining up to join you and that you’re not attracting and keeping the amazing leaders who might attend your church but don’t want to get involved because things are so sub-par.

And don’t be discouraged. Every leader and every church can be great at something, regardless of size, budget or location.

So it’s not a question of being a large church or having a million dollars. It’s a question of discovering what you can do well, how you can best express the mission of the church at the local level.

It’s a question of doing the best you can with what you have.

So, how do you know your church is mediocre? Here are seven signs to look for.

1. You Have Non-Singers Singing and Bad Players Playing

One sure sign you’ve settled into mediocrity is that on your music team, you have non-singers singing and bad players playing.

We’ve all seen that happen. Singers are regularly off key or flat. Musicians are struggling to keep up with chord changes or can’t quite get the rhythm right, all the while being glued to their music stands.

And the only people who seem to be enjoying it are the people on the music team. Everyone else is wincing or zoned out, or has become so used to it they’re now part of the problem.

So why does this happen?

First, too many church leaders value inclusion over gifting.

You ask a few questions and you hear things like:

Well, he really wanted to sing.

She really loves the keyboard.

He’s so passionate about music.

Yep, except they don’t have the talent to match their enthusiasm.

Drill a little deeper, and you soon discover the people who realize this is a problem are far too scared to do anything about it.

They feel paralyzed.

How do I tell them?

I’ll hurt their feelings.

Hey, they LOVE doing it. How can I tell them they don’t have the gifting?

And so we let the concrete of mediocrity harden and set because we’re too scared to do anything about it.

Instinctively you know you’ve caved into cowardice, but you just can’t muster up the nerve to have the hard conversation.

If you recognize yourself in this scenario, just know you have to make a choice.

You either choose the feelings of three people who can’t play or you choose the future and the dozens or hundreds of people you might reach if you actually improved your music.

Your call.

If you want more, here’s some further help on this very tender subject.

Today’s Teens Are Always in the Hallway

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In early 20th century America, a revolution in formal public education swept the country. It wasn’t the introduction of the blackboard or the creation of standardized tests.

It was the invention of “secondary education,” known today as “high school.”

Since its introduction into the American educational system about a hundred years ago, the American high school experience has been as defined by its social phenomena as its educational effectiveness.

The high school experience is as defined by what happens in the hallways that connect classrooms as it is by what happens inside the classrooms themselves.

To the average high school student, the high school hallway is as high pressure a performance environment as the catwalk is to a fashion model or the weight room is to the football player.

We live in an age in which the high school hallway is no longer limited to the corridors between classrooms on campus.

Today’s high school hallways are the always-on social media platforms that occupy the pocketed phones of America’s teenagers.

Phones in Hand, Always on Stage

Recently, I’ve been reading Hit Makers: The Science of Popularity in an Age of Distraction by Derek Thompson. The purpose of the book is to look at what makes things popular.

Why do some songs explode and some songs fizzle?

Why has Fifty Shades of Grey sold over 150 million copies? (It’s not just because of the content.)

In the book’s “interlude,” Thompson gives a brief history of teens. Studying Millennials is fascinating to me, but studying teens of any generation is just as fascinating. Teens are on the forefront of popular culture. As go teens so go their parents (see every social media platform).

(FYI: Current teenagers are not Millennials, but are part of iGen, or Gen Z, those born after 2000.)

Perhaps the most interesting part of this interlude on the history of teens was on the effect phones are having on teens and their relationships with each other. After explaining that the logos on teens’ clothing once defined them, Thompson writes:

In a new age of cool, the smartphone screen has displaced the embroidered logo as the focal point of teen identity. It was once sufficient to look good in a high school hallway, but today Snapchat, Facebook and Instagram are all high school hallways, where young people perform and see performances, judge and are judged. Many decades after another mobile device, the car, helped invent the teenager, the iPhone and its ilk offered new nimble instruments of self-expression, symbols of independence, and better ways to hook up.

This paragraph just breaks my heart for today’s teenagers. I was a teenager only eight years ago, which seems both like it was yesterday and it was long ago, but even we didn’t have it this bad. The iPhone was released when I was a junior in high school and even then few students had such phones. We often “performed” in online spaces like Myspace and AOL Instant Messenger, but we weren’t carrying those platforms around in our pockets, thankfully.

In an article published earlier this summer in The Atlantic titled “Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?” Dr. Jean Twenge makes her readers aware of what’s at stake for a generation of young people glued to their phones:

What’s at stake isn’t just how kids experience adolescence. The constant presence of smartphones is likely to affect them well into adulthood. Among people who suffer an episode of depression, at least half become depressed again later in life. Adolescence is a key time for developing social skills; as teens spend less time with their friends face-to-face, they have fewer opportunities to practice them. In the next decade, we may see more adults who know just the right emoji for a situation, but not the right facial expression.

(Dr. Twenge just released a book called iGen: Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy—and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood—and What That Means for the Rest of Uswhich is now on backorder at Amazon.)

Today’s teens are always in the hallway because the 21st century adolescent catwalk is the smartphone and the terrifying worlds it holds.

It’s depressing teens and keeping them from spending real time with their friends.

Whether you’re a parent of a teen, a boss of a teen or a pastor of a teen, please be aware of the sad fact that teens today feel as though they are always performing—perhaps they’re even performing for you. Be a person in the lives of the teens you know who doesn’t require them to perform. Be a person teens can approach with their real selves.

The original article appeared here.

What Is the Core Reason Kids Leave the Faith?

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There has been a lot of discussion recently about why kids leave the faith. People have rightly drawn attention to the role of poor theology, the importance of kids owning their faith, the significance of intellectual issues such as the apparent tension between science and religion, and more.

But there seems to be a core issue that is often overlooked—to develop a lasting faith, kids need to grasp their need for God. Let me explain.

C.S. Lewis and the Four Loves

In his book The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis makes a distinction between “Gift-love” and “Need-love.” As for Gift-love, he gives the example of a father who works and plans for the future well-being of his family, even though he will die without seeing them benefit. As for Need-love, Lewis gives the example of a lonely and frightened child who comes to its mother’s arms for comfort and protection. Such love is neither selfish nor improper, because children are intended to have nurturing mothers, and mothers are intended to care for their kids.

According to Lewis, God’s love for mankind is entirely Gift-love: “The Father gives all He is and has to the Son. The Son gives Himself back to the Father, and gives Himself to the world, and for the world to the Father, and thus gives the world (in Himself) back to the Father too.”[1] God does not need our love or worship. Rather, He freely loves us as an extension of His grace.

But our love for God is different.

While we may be able to offer God Gift-love, our love is primarily need based. Lewis explains: “But man’s love for God, from the very nature of the case, must always be very largely, and must often be entirely, a Need-love.” We desperately need God in both this world and the next.

And then Lewis makes an additional (and helpful) distinction—while our objective need for God will never change, our awareness of that need can. And if our awareness of the need for God fades, then so may our faith. Thus, Lewis says:

There seems no reason for describing as hypocritical the short-lived piety of those whose religion fades away once they have emerged from “danger, necessity or tribulation.” Why should they not have been sincere? They were desperate and howled for help. Who wouldn’t?

In other words, if someone believes in God because of an immediate need for safety or comfort, then as soon as the danger or pain ends, so may the faith. How does this relate to students? Think about it. If a young person believes in God for social or relational needs in the family, church or school, then when those needs fade, so will his or her faith. If belief in God fulfills some external need, then as soon as that need fades, or another venue provides satisfaction of that need, the student will likely abandon his or her faith (or minimally, have a marginalizedbfaith).

Young People and the Need for God

As a child, I remember asking my mom why I really needed a Heavenly Father. After all, my earthly dad spent time with me, and cared for me, as a father should. I simply didn’t feel any further need for a Heavenly Father that I couldn’t see, touch or talk to.

It wasn’t until I matured, and came to a personal realization of the depth of my own sin, that I grasped how deeply I personally needed a savior. My faith in God became real when I understood the gravity of my own sin, and experienced the grace that comes from embracing Jesus as my Lord and Savior.

Young people today ought to go on mission trips. They need mentoring. They need space to ask tough questions. And they need good theological training. But if these experiences are to make a lasting impact on their faith, young people (and really all people) will need to realize that their brokenness requires a savior, and experience God’s forgiveness and grace.

When students understand their personal need for God, and experience God’s grace firsthand, they can develop a faith that lasts.

The original article appeared here.

Meet the Doctor Who Found Jesus After Asia’s Most Infamous Sex Scandal

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Hayden Kho’s simple social media post containing a Bible verse triggered quite an avalanche of criticism, and with it, a reminder of God’s gracious gift of forgiveness for those who call on him.

The verse was 1 Corinthians 6:19-20. “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

The person who posted the verse was Dr. Hayden Kho—and that explains some of the critical responses.

Meggie Sy’s response on Instagram represented most of the criticism: “This coming from you is a joke.”

To understand the critique you have to know something about Dr. Hayden Kho, a celebrity in the Philippines but not very well known in the West.

Kho went to Christian schools but was a self-avowed atheist. He is a plastic surgeon to the stars who worked in the Philippines’ largest cosmetic surgery business. He became famous as a television actor, earning the moniker “Doctor Hunk” for his stunning good looks.

But in 2008, his idyllic life disintegrated. He was embroiled in a series of sex videos of himself with other local and foreign celebrities. The videos showed up on the Internet without his knowledge and consent.

He was tried publicly on national television as part of a senate hearing. He was also taken to court in both criminal and civil cases.

His case was dubbed the most controversial sex scandal in Asia.

The Professional Regulation Commission deemed Kho “immoral” and unfit to practice medicine and stripped him of his license to practice in 2012.

The fall was great and Kho turned to drugs and alcohol to ease the pain…and finally to attempt suicide, twice.

“When the (sex) scandal happened, it was like being caught in a flood,” said Kho. “Every problem that came my way before was like a downpour. Since I’ve been underwater for so long, what was another downpour? But when they took away my license…it was a totally different experience.”

In the scandal’s aftermath, Kho said, “I lost my name and my so-called friends.” No one came to his defense.

Hayden Kho Meets Ravi Zacharias

Instead, he went in search of answers. The journey took him to a private talk by Ravi Zacharias in Manila.

This Is Why Bethel Church Is Turning Away Evacuees of Carr Fire

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The Carr Fire near Redding, California, has burned more than 112,000 acres, an area roughly the size of Denver, since igniting on July 23. Flames have destroyed more than 960 homes in and around Redding, a town 200 miles north of San Francisco and home to 90,000 residents. Carr is now the seventh most destructive fire in state history.

The fire has killed at least eight people, and more than a dozen are reported missing. Carr is so large and so hot, it has created its own weather system. Residents reported seeing fire tornadoes, and the rising smoke and ash created towering, dark pyrocumulus clouds. As of Wednesday morning, the fire is only 30 percent contained, and firefighting costs have already reached $24 million.

The disaster has people worried, desperate and, sadly, quick to falsely attack others.

That’s what’s happened to Bethel Church in Redding, California.

Church leaders took heat on social media from people angry that the church didn’t open its doors to victims evacuated by the fire.

Bethel Church Poorly Situated to Be an Evacuation Center for Redding Fire

Lauren Vallotton, operations director for the church, said they didn’t open their doors because the building was considered unsafe for large crowds when a fire is raging nearby. The church sits on a hill at the end of a long, narrow road. With only one road in and out, it would be a disaster if the flames moved in on the church.

The Red Cross told ABC10 Sacramento that the church offered its facilities as an evacuation center but the church was too close to the fire line to have people stay in it overnight so they have partnered with the Salvation Army to be a distribution hub instead.

Jordan Pacilio, Bethel’s director of global response, said the church will be feeding people as they come through the building. Bethel has also set aside its sanctuary as a “cooling center” for those who need a break from the intense heat caused by the fire.

Meanwhile, church volunteers are separating food and other donations given to the Salvation Army to pass out to those in need.

Bethel recently took ABC10 Sacramento on a tour of their response efforts to show viewers they really care about their community.

Many of the church staff are in the same situation as those they’re helping, they’ve been evacuated or have lost homes to the wildfire.

Ken Shigemetsu: Pastor, Here’s How to Protect Your Soul

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Ken Shigemetsu is the Senior Pastor of Tenth Church in Vancouver, BC, one of the largest and most diverse city-center churches in Canada. He is a recipient of the Queen Elizabeth Diamond Jubilee Medal awarded to Canadians in recognition for their outstanding contribution to the country. Before entering pastoral ministry, he worked for the Sony Corporation in Tokyo and draws on both eastern and western perspectives in his writing and speaking. Ken is the author of God in My Everything.

Key Questions for Ken Shigemetsu:

– Why are pastors challenged by the notion that they should always be doing more?
– What are some of the warning signs that pastors are too focused on achievement?

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Key Quotes from Ken Shigemetsu:

“We can say that God loves us irrespective of what we produce yet for many of us our self esteem is still dependent on our success.”

“Greatness of a ministry shouldn’t be measured by its size but by the love it offers for God.”

“Within each of us we have a striving Adam or Eve, we have a soulful Adam or Eve. Our society puts a spotlight on the ambitious Adam or the ambitious Eve.”

“If you notice that a pastor down the street seems to be flourishing the way yours isn’t and you start to feel envy instead of joyous, that could be a sign that you’re pursuing something that God doesn’t have for you.”

“Sometimes we say that we’re doing it for the Lord but sometimes we’re also doing it for ourselves.”

“We’re not the primary builders of the kingdom.  It’s Jesus and the Holy Spirit and when we realize that we can relax.”

“At any given time I can feel like there are 1008 chimpanzees jumping on my head so I find it really helpful to just sit and breathe deeply.”

“Sometimes when I’m sitting in silence in the presence of God I feel like I’m surrounded by this mysterious beauty that upholds me in love.”

“Most of the time my meditation doesn’t feel dramatic but when I’ve done 20 minutes I feel a bit more relaxed and aware of Jesus.”

“If a person will meditate for 20 minutes over six weeks on a compassionate God, they will be 100 times more likely to respond to someone who walks into the room with a disability.”

“My hope and prayer for pastors is that they would know God is alive and well in every part of their life.”

Links Mentioned by Ken Shigemetsu in the Show:

Survival Guide for the Soul

 

10 Things Church Visitors Never Want to Hear

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There are 10 things church visitors never want to hear, so why not help our church folks learn NOT to say them?

You’ve been a church visitor at some point, right?

Ever heard something you wish you didn’t hear, right off the bat?

I’ve got a few nobody really wants to hear. Some I’ve heard personally. Others I’ve heard as they were told to someone else.

Church visitors never want to hear:

1. Our pastor isn’t normally this ________.

Insert whatever you want in this blank: loud, obnoxious, offensive, long-winded.

If you have to explain part of your pastor’s style because you know outsiders won’t like it, you’ve got a problem. Talk with your pastor about that.

2. We’re full. Sorry.

Always have a backup plan. Always.

If someone sees your service is full once, they’ll deal with it. But they probably won’t come back if they don’t see a plan you have in place.

3. What are you doing here?

Never say this. Never. Your shocked, open mouth reveals your judgmental spirit…at least in the eyes of visitors.

When you say this, all they can think is, “God couldn’t really love someone like you.”

4. You can’t serve now…you’ve got to be a member first.

Why would someone want to become a member if they’ve never had the chance to serve?

5. We don’t believe in serving coffee on Sunday mornings.

If you say this, I can only assume you are leading a church in the pit of Hell.

Creating a Service for Kids to Process Their Faith Out Loud

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Two of the biggest reasons kids walk away from their faith as adults are: 1) they were never given a space to express and process their doubts in church and 2) they were never pushed to personally own their faith (they went to church because they felt pressured to by others, not because they actually wanted to).

At our church, as we thought about how we could provide opportunities and spaces for kids to express doubts and take personal ownership of their faith, we began to experiment with what we call experiential services.

In these services, we begin with a five- to 10-minute lesson on topics like “Why It’s Okay to Have Questions About Your Faith,” “How to Hear From God,” “Why Personal Repentance and Forgiveness Are So Important,” etc.

After the lesson, each kid gets a sheet of paper with sections for four to five stations, which we make available for kids to then personally explore their faith.

Once our students have completed all the stations, we collect the papers to give to parents at checkout, so parents can continue to help their kids process the information outside of church.

And at the end, we bring everyone back together corporeally to worship God as the united body of Christ.

Here are stations we’ve done in the past:

Question Station

Kids come to ask questions about God or their faith.

Depending on the kids’ age, they or a leader will write down the question(s).

Then a leader walks through each question with the kids.

The leader begins by asking what the kid thinks (they may already have a good idea of the answer, and just need an adult to confirm that it’s right).

If the kid has no thoughts about what the answer may be, the leader then answers the question using examples from the Bible (if they know the answer).

If the leader isn’t sure of the answer, we encourage him or her to be comfortable saying, “I don’t know, but I’ll try to find an answer for you.”

At this point, the question will be passed off for someone on staff to follow-up with the kid and his or her parents.

Prayer Station

Kids come to this station to receive prayer from a volunteer leader for anything they want.

We encourage kids to not just think about personal prayer requests but also others they know who need prayer.

Depending on the age, the kid or leader writes down the request.

Then a leader prays with the child.

Afterward, the leader may encourage the child to read a certain passage of scripture or talk to a wise adult as they seek the answer to their prayer requests.

Forgiveness Station

Here kids can either ask God for forgiveness or ask God to help them forgive someone else.

Depending on age, the kid or leader will write down responses.

After the response has been written down, we’ve done several different things: We’ve had the kids pin their responses to a cross, tie them to a helium balloon and release them into the sky, give them to a leader to burn, or put them on a long string with everyone else’s to show that everyone needs forgiveness.

Journal Station

We’ve done this one a couple of ways as well.

The first is to simply tell kids to take a few minutes to listen to God, and then write down or draw what God impresses on them.

The second way is to do a guided journal by having them finish sentences like “My favorite thing I did with my family this summer was…” or “I want my parents to help me become a better follower of Jesus by…”

Worship Station

At this station, a leader talks with kids about different ways they can worship God.

He or she tells kids they can worship by singing out loud, listening, journaling, drawing, standing, sitting, kneeling, going on walks in nature and many other ways.

Then we give them an opportunity to worship how they feel comfortable.

Afterward, we have them write down how they feel most connected to God, so parents know the ways in which their kids feel most comfortable and most connected worshipping.

Have you done anything similar at your church? What are some stations that have been really powerful for kids?

This article originally appeared here.

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