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How to Influence First-Time Parents

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We know the biggest influence in a child’s life is his or her parents. So, if you want to influence children, then you must influence their parents.
The good news is this. When a couple has a new baby, especially when it’s their first baby, they are open to input and advice. Many young mothers turn to the Internet for knowledge about things like teething, feeding, which car seat is the best, what brand of diapers to use, etc.
Yes, they ask their parents some questions. But that is usually not their first go-to source. They have spent much of their life growing up searching the web for information. So it’s natural that they would head to the web for parenting need-to-knows.
But when they want spiritual advice as parents, they turn to the church. That’s you!
It’s important to have a clear strategy and plan to equip young parents.
And I have found that the best way to speak into new parents’ lives is when they are dedicating their child.
This can be done by having a class that all parents must go through before they dedicate their child. You can use the class not only to explain what the dedication means, but also to share with parents how they can be the spiritual leader for their child.
What a great opportunity to talk with parents about church attendance, having devotions with their child, spiritual traditions they can start, how to pray with and for their child, etc.
I have created a proven resource you can use for this. It’s called the Parent & Child Dedication Class. If you don’t presently have a class that you take new parents through or if you’d like to update what you’re currently teaching, then this is the class for you.
It’s crucial that you speak into the lives of young parents. By doing this, you can help them prioritize their lives and have a Christ-centered approach to parenting.
This article originally appeared here.

9 Things to Do When You Have Stopped Loving Your Congregation

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I’m afraid it happens. The congregation we once loved has brought pain, and it’s hard—if not impossible—to love them now. If that’s where you are, here are some suggestions I pray will help:

  1. Enlist some prayer warriors to pray for you and your church. Don’t try to change your heart alone. You can’t do it, and you’ll only grow more frustrated. Intentionally seek God’s help to love His people again.
  2. Admit your feelings to God. He already knows them, and He’s big enough to handle them and work in your heart at the same time.
  3. Do something loving for your church. Godly love is not dependent on having the right emotions; it’s about doing the right thing to express love even when our feelings aren’t there. Doing something loving might be as simple as (a) praying for members and letting them know you’re doing so; (b) letting go of anger toward others who’ve hurt you; or (c) ministering practically (e.g., cutting grass, etc.) to someone who drives you crazy.
  4. As needed, confess your own wrongNever are we perfect, and seldom are we not at least a part of the problem. Be willing to consider whether you’ve contributed to the problem at all.
  5. Remember some good times with the congregation. I’m assuming you’ve had at least a few good times with the congregation. If so, hold on to those memories. Talk about them with someone. Thank God for them, and ask Him to give you some more.
  6. Ask God to show you a glimpse of where He’s working today. He loves your congregation even if you don’t anymore, and He’s working someplace. Trust Him to open your eyes to His work.
  7. Seek reconciliation with someone. Sometimes it’s easy to think we no longer love the church, when only one or two persons are the real problems. Humbly and prayerfully address those persons as needed. Even it change is not immediate, God will honor your steps of obedience.
  8. Remember that some people become unlovable because of private issues in their lives. Particularly if folks were formerly more lovable, it’s possible they’re dealing with stuff you don’t know about. For example, health concerns, family issues, financial struggles and personal sin can make many of us less lovable.
  9. Go back to the Word. At the risk of appearing arrogant and self-serving, I invite you to listen to this sermon I preached at the Southeastern Seminary chapel last fall: “You Want Me to Do What?” It’s the easiest way for me to encourage you to love God’s people.

May God help all of us to love His church!

This article originally appeared here.

The Most Difficult Leadership Misstep to Catch, (That Will Stall Out Your Ministry)

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There are many ways to stall out your ministry. You could make a quick list like this one:

  • Busy instead of productive
  • Lack of vision
  • Low morale
  • Scattered more than focused
  • Trying to please everyone
  • You can add one to the list _______________________

But there is one leadership misstep that will stall out your ministry every time.

If you need people more than you feed people, you will soon be leading from empty.  

  1. If you need people to fill volunteer roles.
  2. If you need people to help you grow your church.
  3. If you need people to give money.
  4. If you need people to believe in the vision.
  5. If you need people to trust your leadership.

You may be thinking, “Wait a minute, every leader needs people to do that stuff!”

Yes, but it’s all about the order (of need & feed) and what’s underneath driving you. It’s not semantics.

Here are several warning signs that your need is greater than how you feed.

  • People have become a bother.
  • Numbers matter more than stories of life change.
  • Your joy factor is low.
  • Your frustration level is high.
  • You start trying to implement quick fixes, rather than value-driven, principle-based ministry.

Jesus said: “Feed my sheep.”

Let me go back to the misstep.

If you need people more than you feed people, you will soon be leading from empty. And if you lead from empty, your ministry will stall out.

That may sound counterintuitive because “feeding” people can empty you. But here’s the major difference.

Yes, you can get tired from the work of ministry. You can get tired because you consistently feed people, but you get to go to bed each night and take care of that.

That is very different than an unfulfilling and stalled out ministry. That can empty you at a soul level.

The most fundamental principle to a fulfilling ministry is that it’s other-person centered. When you genuinely pour into people, you get tired, but your heart is filled.

A full heart will always energize a tired body and help sustain a weary soul. This gives you the spiritual stamina to help you lead through and out of a stall.

The difference between needing people and feeding people can seem like a fine line. But when you cross over the line and flip the order of priority and focus, your leadership becomes desperate. And people can smell desperate.

This practice keeps you filled so you can feed others.

The best way to break through a stall is to lead dependent, not desperate.

Five practices of leaders who feed their people more than need their people:

(Another way to express this is that you want more for the people than from the people.)

1) They love their people.

Church leaders don’t last long when they don’t love the people. If you run on empty, it’s easy to become distant from the people, and you can’t love people from a distance.

It’s that same genuine love for people that fires you up when you see someone’s life change. That’s our motivation, the mission and the reward.

When you love someone, you want the best for them.

2) They want the best for their people.

People pursued Jesus because He healed them, not because He drew big crowds.

They wanted to be part of what Jesus was doing because He taught them the truth that helped them live a better life, not because He was clever or popular.

Jesus always wants the best for people; he wants us to have “life to the full!” (John 10:10)

Delivering your best ministry requires both a shepherd’s heart and a strategic mind.

3) They protect the people spiritually.

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.

John 10:10-11

As Christian leaders, we help protect the people spiritually in three primary ways.

  1. Teaching biblical truth
  2. Praying for God’s blessing
  3. Challenging toward maturity

The best spiritual cover is for each person to be able to stand their ground, to stand firm (Ephesians 6), under temptation and attack. As leaders, it’s our responsibility to lead people to this level of faith and spiritual maturity.

4) They are willing to be with the people.

You can’t be with all the people all the time, but your desire to be with people matters. Your personality, gifts and actual responsibilities aren’t the issue. Great leaders spend time with people.

This can be more of a challenge in large and very large churches. In fact, there’s a subtle danger of becoming an event planner with a theological degree.

There’s nothing wrong with systems, processes and events. They help you reach more people. But at some point, we need to connect with people at a heart level.

5) They possess a passion for people’s growth.

You can see the theme. Love the people, want the best for them, participate in their spiritual protection, and be with them. This is the process of feeding the people, which results in their growth.

From a new Christian to a solid leader, I love helping people grow. I’ll bet you do too. That’s a core trait of a leader who desires to feed the people more than need them.

This article originally appeared here.

How to Lay Aside the Weight of Lust

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Lust is an ancient and universal human sinful appetite. The more we feed it, the more ravenous and perversely diverse it becomes. And the more socially acceptable perverse diversity becomes, the more sexual immorality steals, kills and destroys human lives.

No wonder lust is one of Satan’s choice temptation weapons. Few sins wield as much power to blind unbelievers and seduce Christians, and then immobilize them with shame. So, at all costs, we fight and flee it lest it make us a prisoner of war (1 Corinthians 6:18).

A few centuries ago, the English word lust described a fairly wide range of human desires, both good and evil. Today, lust is typically shorthand for “sexually immoral desires.” But still, lust covers a lot of ground, because there is a wide range of “sexually immoral desires.” These desires, and the behaviors they produce, if not vigilantly resisted, have been a devastating part of the human experience since the forbidden fruit was eaten in Eden.

But the driving force behind lust is frequently misunderstood. The human sexual drive, while strong, is not the dominant power in lust. Sin is the dominant power. Various kinds of sin seize or infect the sexual drive in order to gratify selfishness through sexuality.

This is why lust can be so difficult to fight. Our sexual drive can be infected by many different kinds of sinful desire viruses, resulting in multiple variants of lust disease. What helps us fight lust one day might not help the next, because a different virus is infecting the sexual drive.

Viruses leading to lust

One common virus is coveting. Our rebellious sinful nature finds forbidden things attractive and covets them (Romans 7:7–8).

Another virus is self-indulgence. Self-indulgence can manifest in any corrupted human appetite. In fact, self-indulgence can be contagious. I have found if I sinfully indulge in one area, like overeating or entertainment or laziness, I am more vulnerable to sexual temptation. Certain emotional states also may trigger a desire to indulge lust (among other things), like the euphoria of success, boredom, self-pity, discouragement, anger and more.

A host of other sin-viruses can infect us and become manifest through the sexual drive. Lust can be fueled by a desire to wield self-exalting dominance or manipulative power over another. It can be fueled by discontent. It can be fueled by the fear of death, manifested in a sexualized desire to recapture youth or be sexually desired by youth.

And more than one virus frequently powers our lust. For example, when David lusted after Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11), his sexual drive was infected with selfish indulgence, coveting someone forbidden and possibly numerous other sin-viruses.

Lust also can be hard to fight because the fog of arousal often obscures the sins that are fueling it. But the more we recognize the sin-triggers, the better we can cut lust’s fuel supply and blow away its fog.

The most powerful way to fight lust

Crucial to fighting lust is identifying triggers and choking the fuel supply. Accountability partners and software safeguards can be great helps. But these are defensive measures and only half the battle—and not the most powerful half.

The most powerful and successful way to fight the desire fire of lust is with the desire fire of faith in what God promises to us. Faith in God’s promises prepares us for offensive action. Faith shields us from enemy blows while God’s promises hack down spiritual enemies like broadsword (Ephesians 6:16–17).

When faith in God’s word swells in our hearts, lust is no match for it. You know what I mean. When you have been most filled with hope and trust and delight in God, what kind of grip did lust have on you? Hardly any. You didn’t want to defile your mind and heart with anything impure.

We are not naïve. We know we will not always surge with lust-dousing faith. So we need to put strong defenses in place. We must understand the nature of lust so we are not ignorant of Satan’s designs (2 Corinthians 2:11).

Lay aside the weight of lust

The cross of Christ guarantees that every moment of confession and repentance is a cleansing moment (1 John 1:9). Last year’s or yesterday’s or this morning’s lust need not linger or flagellate us with shame.

But our birthright as children of God is far more than the removal of condemnation. It is freedom (John 8:32). That’s why Satan tries to enslave us with lust: to steal our spiritual freedom and joy. For when indulged, lust weighs down our souls, quenches our faith and shuts our mouths. It robs our desire to worship God, witness for Jesus, intercede for kingdom needs, encourage others, give generously, reach unreached peoples or engage in spiritual warfare. It makes prisoners out of freemen.

So let’s lay down this sin-weight, this demonic ball and chain (Hebrews 12:1).

Some Advice on Same-Sex Marriage for U.S. Church Leaders From a Canadian

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In June 2015, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that same-sex couples can marry in all 50 states, setting off a flurry of reaction by Christians and virtually everyone else on social media and beyond.

Ed Stetzer wrote a helpful background post to the shift in opinion that led to the decision and included links to a number of other leading articles in his post.

The social media reaction ranged from surprising to predictable to disappointing to occasionally refreshing.

I write from the perspective of a pastor of an evangelical church in a country where same sex-marriage has been the law of the land for a decade.

That does not mean I hold any uniquely deep wisdom, but it does mean we’ve had a decade to process and pray over the issue.

I hope what I offer can help. It’s my perspective. My fingers tremble at the keyboard because my goal is to help in the midst of a dialogue that seems far more divisive than it is uniting or constructive.

There will be many who disagree with me, I’m sure, but I hope it pulls debate away from the “sky is falling/this is the best thing ever” dichotomy that seems to characterize much of the dialogue so far.

The purpose of this post is not to take a position or define matters theologically (for there is so much debate around that). Rather, the purpose of this post is to think through how to respond as a church when the law of the land changes as fundamentally as it’s changing on same-sex marriage and many other issues.

Here are five perspectives I hope are helpful as church leaders of various positions on the subject think and pray through a way forward.

1. The Church Has Always Been Counter-Cultural

Most of us reading this post have been born into a unique season in history in which our culture is moving from a Christian culture to a post-Christian culture before our eyes.

Whatever you think about history, theology or exactly when this shift happened, it’s clear for all of us that the world into which we were born no longer exists.

Viewpoints that were widely embraced by culture just decades ago are no longer embraced. For some, this seems like progress. For others, it seems like we’re losing something. Regardless, things have changed fundamentally.

But is that really such a big deal? For most of the last 2,000 years, the authentic church has been counter-cultural. The church was certainly counter-cultural in the first century.

Even at the height of ‘Christendom’ (whenever that was), the most conservative historians would agree that Christianity as embraced by the state was different than the authentic Christianity we read about in scripture or that was practiced by many devout followers of Jesus.

Being counter-cultural usually helps the church more than hurts it.

If you think about it, regardless of your theological position, all your views as a Christian are counter-cultural and always will be. If your views are cultural, you’re probably not reading the scriptures closely enough.

We’re at our best when we offer an alternative, not just a reflection of a diluted or hijacked spirituality.

2. It’s Actually Strange to Ask Non-Christians to Hold Christian Values

As the Barna Group has pointed out, a growing number of people in America are best described as post-Christian. The majority of Canadians would certainly qualify as having a post-Christian worldview.

The question Christians in a post-Christian culture have to ask themselves is this:

Why would we expect non-Christians to behave like Christians?

If you believe sex is a gift given by God to be experienced between a man and a woman within marriage, why would you expect people who don’t follow Christ to embrace that?

Why would we expect people who don’t profess to be Christians to:

Wait until marriage to have sex?

Clean up their language?

Stop smoking weed?

Be faithful to one person for life?

Pass laws like the entire nation was Christian?

Seriously? Why?

Most people today are not pretending to be Christians. So why would they adopt Christian values or morals?

Please don’t get me wrong.

I’m a pastor. I completely believe that the Jesus is not only the Way, but that God’s way is the best way.

When you follow biblical teachings about how to live life, your life simply goes better. It just does. I 100 percent agree.

I do everything I personally can to align my life with the teachings of scripture, and I’m passionate about helping every follower of Christ do the same.

But what’s the logic behind judging people who don’t follow Jesus for behaving like people who don’t follow Jesus?

Why would you hold the world to the same standard you hold the church?

First, non-Christians usually act more consistently with their value system than you do.

It’s difficult for a non-Christian to be a hypocrite because they tend to live out what they believe.

Chances are they are better at living out their values than you or I are. Jesus never blamed pagans for acting like pagans.

But he did speak out against religious people for acting hypocritically. Think about that.

3. You’ve Been Dealing With Sex Outside of Traditional Marriage for a LONG Time

If you believe gay sex is sinful, it’s really no morally different than straight sex outside of marriage.

Be honest, pretty much every unmarried person in your church is having sex (yes, even the Christians).

I know you want to believe that’s not true (trust me, I want to believe that’s not true), but why don’t you ask around? You’ll discover that only a few really surrender their sexuality.

Not to mention the married folks that struggle with porn, lust and a long list of other dysfunctions.

If you believe gay marriage is not God’s design, you’re really dealing with the same issue you’ve been dealing with all along—sex outside of its God-given context.

You don’t need to treat it any differently.

By the way, if you don’t deal with straight sex outside of marriage, don’t start being inconsistent and speak out against gay sex.

And you may want to start dealing with gluttony and gossip and greed while you’re at it. (I wrote more here about how to get the hypocrisy out of our sex talk in church.)

At least be consistent…humbly address all forms of sex outside of marriage.

The dialogue is possible. (Andy Stanley offers a great rationale for sex staying inside marriage here.)

We have that dialogue all the time at our church.

And people are grateful for it.

We also talk about our greed, our gluttony, our jealousy and our hypocrisy as Christians. It’s amazing. Jesus brings healing to all these areas of life, including our sex lives.

6 Things Mom Taught Me About Church

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I’m a preacher’s kid, so growing up, I sat on a church pew every time the doors were open (and they were hard wooden things back then).

Mom was pretty strict about attending church, and I’ve sat through about a million worship services, weddings, funerals, vacation Bible schools, Sunday school classes, revivals, youth rallies and more. Along the way, my mom had some pretty tough rules that have mostly fallen out of fashion since those days.

But after a few decades, I’m wondering if they weren’t so bad after all. Let me know if you think my mom was nuts or maybe on to something:

1. Dress up.

My mom felt that church was about honoring God, and looking right was a big part of that honor.

I had a whole collection of clip-on ties, and she made sure I was dressed up before I left the house. Today, even pastors preach in jeans and t-shirts, and the truth is, I love being casual.

But attorneys and other professions have learned that how you dress impacts your attitude and perception.

As my mom said, it shouldn’t be about pride, it should be about honor. Looking around the congregation these days, I just wonder if we could use an occasional dose of my mom’s advice.

2. Pay attention.

I got slapped a lot in church for not paying attention. Even as kids, my mom wouldn’t let us lay down on the church pew, draw in coloring books or scribble on paper.

We had to pay attention—which, if you know how easily distracted I am, was like a personal nightmare. But looking back, it taught me discipline and a remarkable amount of Bible teaching.

Is Your Technology Destroying Your Volunteer Ministry?

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It always seems like a great idea when someone discovers a software system that will replace having [to] interact with people, for example, one that will allow volunteers to sign up online for tasks that need to be done at the church or an event that needs lots of volunteers. But you need to be very careful that the technology that you get to help the church doesn’t actually discourage involvement with it.  Let me explain . . . . .

Nothing is totally good or bad, but how it’s used

I’m not saying that all software volunteer management programs are bad — there are lots of them available and many of them are loved by the groups that use them. However, as with any technology, we have to be careful that our love of technology or the seeming benefits that it has for the church staff doesn’t blind our eyes to some of the problems that technology can cause for volunteers. Before I go into specifics dos and don’ts, here is a brief review of why we have volunteer ministries and what it can accomplish.

The reasons for volunteer ministry

In addition to the reality that leaders cannot handle all the demands of ministry by themselves, a healthy volunteer ministry is the Biblical model for how we to do ministry.

Jesus was not a lone preacher and if anyone could have handled a ministry all by himself, the sinless Son of God would qualify, but he didn’t go at it alone. He chose 12 disciples and others traveled with him. After Jesus returned to his Father he put us in a Body, his church. He left us his Spirit who gives gifts to the members of his Body for the benefit of the entire church body (“Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good” 1 Cor.12:7). The early church may have had problems in how they worked out working together (1 Corinthians is a case study of this situation), but Paul’s advice to them was always founded on ways for them to work together in the local church body with mutual care and peace.

In addition to this overall theological basis for volunteer ministry and that you need warm bodies to get things done, two other practical advantages are worth noting:

One, volunteering is a great way for new members to become permanently connected to the church. If someone starts volunteering in the children’s ministry or prayer team or greeting or making coffee, that person will get to know other members of the church and feel they are a part of it. In addition, by trying out different jobs there is a greater chance they will interact with others, learn more, discover their spiritual gifts and overall mature in their faith far more than if they sit in a few Sunday after Sunday.

Two, another often ignored benefit of active volunteer ministries is that they are great ways for people outside the church to become involved in the church. An unchurched person may have no interest in coming to a church service but he or she might be very interested in a day of service to the homeless, giving out gifts to kids whose families can’t afford them, a fundraiser for clean water, or to end human trafficking. It’s also easier for your members to invite their friends to participate in activities like this.

With all these great benefits of volunteering how do we get people involved?

This is where reality hits idealism. Getting people to volunteer is VERY hard and getting them to follow through on what they promised to do is even harder. A computer program to do the work for you is very appealing. A computer program can be PART of the solution, but here are some cautions in using one:

How to make sure your technology doesn’t destroy your volunteer program

Realize that your technology system won’t work for everyone. We must never forget that we live in a transitional time when some people in your church are very tech savvy and some people still do not have computers. In the same way that many churches have both an online newsletter and a print newsletter and realize that they will need to continue both channels of communications for some time, so also you can have a computer sign up program for volunteers, but you must have ways for people to be involved who for some reason can’t or won’t use the computer to sign up. If you don’t, you are effectively shutting out a large pool of volunteers. Not only is that not a wise use of people resources, but it is unkind.

Be realistic about how “easy” your program is for people to use. It might seem easy to you because you got training in how to use it and you were motivated by the dream of how easy this would make your life, but I’ve yet to see a volunteer program from the user side that was even remotely easy or intuitive to use. To see how it works for your people, ask several members of your congregation, who are different age groups to come into the church office and without any coaching from you, ask them to sign-up and navigate through your volunteer sign up system. Take notes and then…..

Create training on how to use the system and how it can benefit your church. This won’t be easy to do, and you still won’t get everyone involved, but it will help. If at all possible, if you have a program like Camtasia where you can demonstrate the program in your voice with your system and your volunteer jobs and you can create training videos for your church — this is a very helpful solution. You could also train team leaders and have them train their teams. Adequate, upbeat training can turn a disliked program into a tool people can’t imagine doing without.

Listen to feedback, record it and consider your response. If many people don’t like the system and complain about it, ask them for more detailed reasons: what was confusing, what didn’t work, what didn’t they like about it? Record their answers and in a calm time, pray about how to respond. If people aren’t using the program and really dislike it, it can be difficult, but we always must remember we are servants and our technology should also serve our people, not intimidate or frustrate them.

In addition to your technology, try this simple method for volunteer sign-ups

One of the best ways to get people to volunteer for various ministries is to have a form people can fill out, check a box on and sign up that’s in the church bulletin.  When the announcement is made about a volunteer need, if all they have to do is take out a form, fill it out and put it into the offering plate, you’ll get many more sign-ups. Some churches rotate volunteer position requests on their connection card. Something like this isn’t a duplicate of your technology tools or a replacement, you still want to use that because the many in your church will love it — this paper option is part of, to paraphrase a verse, “being all things to all people that we might get some to volunteer.”

Direct Boxes – What They Do, Why They’re Needed, and Why Price Matters

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Time to talk DI boxes and answer all the related questions I get.  For example, what’s the difference between an active direct box and a passive one?  For that matter, is there a difference in audio quality between a $40 passive DI and a $200 passive DI?

And then there’s the big one, “do I even NEED a DI box?”

Let’s start with understanding WHY you need a DI box.

Why A DI Box Is Needed!

First, the Needs of a Mixing Console

A mono mixer channel is designed to take in a monoline (not stereo) that’s balanced, as the input.  A balanced line means the incoming cable will have three wires:

  1. Pin 1: Ground
  2. Pin 2: Hot (+)
  3. Pin 3: Cold (-)

Regarding the hot and cold wires, the Cold wire carries the same information as the hot except it has the polarity reversed.  If you viewed the signal on the hot compared to the cold, it would look like the cold is an inverted copy of the hot.  This method of sending two complementary signals is called differential signaling. The benefit of these two signals is they aid in the elimination of interference.

Hot and Cold of a Balanced Signal

Phase versus Polarity

Don’t confuse polarity with phase.  Phase is dependent on time where polarity doesn’t have a time component.  If a sound wave has its polarity reversed, it’s like seeing a mirror image, as in the above image.  A wave with a peak at +5 which had the polarity reversed would now have a trough at -5.  The wave is inverted

Something that was out of phase would be copy of the sound wave that appears at a delayed time.  This is what happens when two microphones pick up the same sound source, like a drum, but at different distances from the drum and therefore the microphones pick them up at different times.  Something that’s 180-degrees out of phase would appear as an inverted wave but it’s a result of a time delay — it’s not inverted at the same time, the time delay just makes it appear so.

The words phase and polarity are often confused.  Remember phase has to do with time and polarity has to do with electrical signals.

How Interference is Eliminated

The balanced line comes into the mixer and what happens?

Here comes a little math.  What happens when we sum the two signals from the above image?  If the max/min was +5 and -5, conventional math says +5 + (-5) = 0.  However, it doesn’t work like that with balanced lines.

The Standard Method for Calculation

The output voltage is calculated by subtracting the voltage on the two wires (pins 2 and 3).

  • Pin 2 – Pin 3 = voltage

Let’s substitute values such as we used a moment ago:

  • (+5 V ) – (-5 V ) = voltage

If you recall basic mathematical processes, two negatives equal a positive:

  • (+5 V ) + 5 V = voltage
  • 10 V = voltage

Noise Cancellation

Now comes the fun part.

There are methods to shield the hot and cold wiring to prevent as much interference as possible from getting into the hot/cold wires.  However, if it does enter in, let’s look at what happens.

The interference would occur somewhere during the cable run which means it’s going to appear the same on both wires. See the red lines on the chart below.  Imagine those are an instance of interference picked up along the way.

Interference in red.

 

Now we apply the same calculation of Pin 2 – Pin 3. And let’s say that interference is at +3.

  • (+3) – (+3) = voltage
  • 3 – 3 = voltage
  • 0 = voltage

Thus, the interference is eliminated.

 

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5 Keys to Developing Young Leaders in Your Church

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It seems like everywhere you turn lately some national church leader is writing about the bleak future of the U.S. church due to younger generations leaving. Well, recently I spent some time at a place that made me really hopeful about the future of the church in America.

This past weekend I had the opportunity to do some coaching at Ethos Church, a young multisite church located in Nashville, Tenn. In just seven years Ethos has grown to three locations and more than 2,500 people in attendance, and the rate at which they are baptizing people is in the top 10 percent of churches in the U.S.! Plainly stated, God is using the ministry of Ethos Church to change people’s lives. But what excited me the most about my time with them was everywhere I looked there were young leaders, and not just serving as interns or in some inconsequential role. But there were young men and women in their 20s and 30s (the ones in their 30s were the old ones…I guess that makes me ancient now) who are serving as the senior leaders of this fast growing church.

In working with churches around the country, unfortunately churches like Ethos have become the exception rather than the rule. It doesn’t have to be that way. This list below of “5 Things Young Leaders Need” is a great place for your church start.

1. Opportunity

Even leaders who have been gifted greatly don’t start out as great leaders. Someone somewhere gave them their first opportunity. The tough thing about leadership is that it isn’t learned in a classroom, it’s learned by leading. In order to grow and develop, young leaders need the opportunity to get real hands on experience.

Question: Does your church give young leaders real opportunities to lead stuff that matters?

2. Access

Young leaders need access to real leadership conversations. They need to be a “fly on the wall” in board meetings, management team meetings and executive team meetings. They need to watch the senior leaders in the organization lead through the tough stuff and make the big decisions. They need access to ask experienced leaders questions about how they lead and why they do it the way they do.

Question: Do the senior leaders in your church give young leaders unfiltered access to watch real leadership take place and discuss it?

3. Authority

Young leaders don’t just need busy work to keep them occupied. Once they’ve proven they can deliver through following through on tasks being delegated to them they need to be empowered to make real decisions and exercise real authority to accomplish objectives through leading their own teams and delegating to others.

Question: Does your church give young leaders real consequential responsibility?

4. Grace

Part of the nature of being a young leader is making mistakes. Even experienced leaders don’t get it right all the time; and young inexperienced leaders certainly are going to make mistakes, it’s the nature of young leaders. How you respond when young leaders fail matters.

Question: Does your church give young leaders the room to fail?

5. Coaching

Great coaching can make all the difference in the performance of a team or a particular player. Great coaches do four simple things with their players. They train their players before the game, they put their players in game-like situations in practice and get “reps” in before the real game happens, they make in-game adjustments, and they watch the game film after the game to review and learn from the player’s performance.

Question: Does your church expect young leaders to learn on their own through their own experience or do you actually coach them?  

How to Love a Heretic

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A true heretic is a dangerous person—one of the most deadly is the type who is opposed to the gospel of Jesus and passionately seeks to persuade others to embrace a false gospel. Do you know a heretic? How should you show genuine love to that person without endangering yourself and your family? The Bible speaks to such situations, and we would be wise to follow the biblical pattern of love.

Stop Affirming and Start Evangelizing

According to the world, the politically correct method of showing love is to be affirming to all people no matter what they say or do—it’s their life and their choices and we should love them anyway. Friendship evangelism never works. If you think that being a friend to a heretic will lead that person to Christ—you will never see results. The heretic is often pleased with remaining friends in hopes that he or she could chip away at the foundation of your faith. It’s time to stop affirming them in their beliefs and start evangelizing them with the gospel.

To share the gospel involves confronting people with error. According to the world, this is judgmental). Hanging out with the heretics will never change their hearts. The Bible says, “Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of Christ” (Rom. 10:17). In other words, if you continue in a close intimate friendship without evangelizing the unbeliever with the gospel and confronting them with their error—you’re not showing true love to your friend. True love will lead someone away from an eternity that’s under the blazing wrath of our sovereign God. Do you really love your friend if you refuse to confront them and to point them to Jesus?

Stop the Intimate Friendship

For the sake of your soul, you need to bring an end to the friendship between you and your heretic friend. Paul wrote to the church at Corinth, and taught the church to keep their distance from those who claimed the name of Jesus but denied him in their manner of living (1 Cor. 5:11). You can do this in several ways, but perhaps the best way to do it is to be honest. You can sit down across the table from your friend and explain how their heresy has divided your friendship and that you will no longer be able to remain close friends. Doctrine matters and false doctrine divides. In this meeting, you can take time to share the true gospel and plead with your friend to embrace Christ alone for the forgiveness of their sins. However, the breaking of the relationship is necessary for the sake of your spiritual well-being. Don’t have an elevated opinion of yourself—yes, you can be fooled too. Remember, Paul scolded the church at Galatia for being fooled by the heretics. Robert Thomas, former professor at The Master’s Seminary once wrote the following:

People don’t often go heretical all at once. It is gradual. And they do not do so intentionally most of the time. They slip into it through shoddiness and laziness in handling the word of truth… All it takes to start the road to heresy is a craving for something new and different, a flashy new idea, along with a little laziness or carelessness or lack of precision in handling the truth of God. All around us today are startling reminders of doctrinal slippage and outright failure. In case after case someone who should have known the truth of God better failed in upholding that truth. [1]

11 Characteristics of Church Pessimists

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Even churches have pessimists, I’m afraid. I invite you to join me in using this test to determine if you might be one of them:

  1. You assume the worst about most people and situations. Even if everything sounds good, you assume there’s some ulterior unspoken motive.
  2. You see only the negativeYou may think you’re the only one in the room who sees reality (at least as you see it), but you never see any positive.
  3. Everything is negative unless it’s your idea. If it’s your idea, though, it’s all positive.
  4. Every sentence has a “but”… Even a sentence that begins with “I really like that idea” still continues with a “but here’s the problem I see.”
  5. You see yourself as a realist, not a pessimist. I don’t know anyone who considers himself or herself a pessimist.
  6. Optimists bug you. In your opinion, they live in the clouds.
  7. You see everyone else around you as pessimists. In many cases, they’re actually modeling you—but you don’t recognize it.
  8. You continually point out the difference between “faith” and “foolishness.” You’re more concerned about crossing the line into foolishness than you are about walking by faith.
  9. Prayer is not easy. That’s because genuine prayer requires looking forward with hope and trust and confidence.
  10. Your friendships don’t typically last long. Even brothers and sisters in Christ aren’t interested in hanging around you for long—but your tendency is to blame them.
  11. This post bugs you. To be honest, portions of this post bug me, and I wrote it! I, too, can be a pessimist at times. Please pray for me.

What other characteristics come to mind?

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5 Training Experiences to Help Your Team Feel Like First-time Guests

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Have you ever felt like the training for your guest service team is lacking something?

Are you ready to take your team to the next level, but you’re not sure where to begin?

Are you tired of seeing another list of “tips” to help your team improve their service?

Do you want to add a training element that actually gets to the heart of what it’s like to be a first-time guest?

Oftentimes when we train our leaders it all focuses on tactics (or tips, or tools) and doesn’t get to the heart level. I wonder if your team might be missing something to connect with emotionally in their serving.

A first-time guest at your church, on the other hand, usually has an experience filled with thoughts and feelings. Your guests feel such a wide variety of emotions when they arrive at your church, so you need to help your team identify and empathize with those feelings.

Rather than offering another list of ways to hand out programs or tips on what to do when someone on your team has bad breath, I’m offering you five practical and different training experiences that can help your team understand first-time guests on an emotive level.

Take Your Team to Play Bingo

I know this sounds strange but stay with me. A number of years ago, I volunteered to help out at a fundraiser for my kid’s school, and it happened to be a bingo night. It was an amazing experience.

Bingo has its own subculture, and this bingo night had all the trappings of a religious experience. People brought special lucky charms that they arranged in a particular order on the table in front of them. They all had their own reserved seats in the room. They wore certain jackets. They used a vernacular unique to the bingo hall. The way people picked their cards was a ritualized experience. Money was involved.

The experience of going to that bingo hall all those years ago is still fresh in my mind every time I think about it. So much of it reminded me of what it must be like to come to church for the first time. There’s so much about what we do in churches that is foreign and abstract to those who have yet to come through our doors.

Secret Shop” Another Church

Whether it’s the church down the street or a sanctuary across the country, there’s something about visiting another church that can help you see your own church more clearly.

When you arrive, pay attention to how you’re feeling as you enter the building. Examine the lighting and ask yourself what the room tells you about the church. How does the signage communicate what it must be like to visit for the first time?

There are two polar opposite ideas that we need to resist when we go to a different church:

  • What is happening at this church is exactly what’s happening at your church. While you may feel this way, the reality is that it’s not true. Every church has its own unique flair. Look for those distinctions. Understand what that may look like from church to church.
  • What is happening at this church could never happen at your church. If you visit a church that’s much larger or more effective than your church, it can be tempting to think that there’s no way that could be replicated at your church. However, you need to remember that God wants to use your church in a special way too.

Scout out the church ahead of time and develop a small list of items that you want your team to notice. Grab lunch after the service and talk about your reflections on the visit. You’d be amazed how much clarity an experience like that can bring to your team!

Share Their First Time Experiences

Learning each other’s origin stories is not only a great way to build community, but it’s also a valuable technique to gain insight about what it’s like to arrive at church for the first time. Simply gather your team in a circle and start a conversation about what it was like when each one of them first came to church. I find it fascinating to understand what it must have been like in those early days; gaining that kind of clarity helps me understand what it must be like for people who are arriving now. Here are a few conversation starters you can try:

  • Tell us about the morning before you first came to church. What did you experience/feel before you arrived?
  • Who invited you to come to church for the first time, and what was that interaction like?
  • Do you remember when you first entered the property at our church? Tell us about that experience.
  • Can you recall the very first Sunday service you attended at our church? What are the prevailing memories or feelings that have stuck with you since then?
  • What was your first negative experience at the church? How did that make you feel?

Make a Difference in Your Church by Serving Passionately

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Pastor, you were created by God to make a difference in your congregation. What he told the prophet Jeremiah is also true for you: “Before I made you in your mother’s womb, I chose you. Before you were born, I set you apart for a special work” (Jeremiah 1:5, NCV).

God redeemed you so you could do his holy work. In God’s kingdom, you have a place, a purpose, a role and a function to fulfill, and this gives your life great significance and special value, no matter how discouraged you may feel right now. You are not God’s child by this service, but as God’s child you were created for this service.

Make a Difference as You Serve and Lead

The Bible says, “You were chosen to tell about the excellent qualities of God, who called you” (1 Peter 2:9, GW). Anytime you use your God-given abilities to help others, you are fulfilling your calling. In some churches in China, they welcome new believers by saying, “Jesus now has a new pair of eyes with which to see, a new set of ears for listening, two new hands for which to help and a new heart for loving others.”

You’re not only the eyes, ears, hands and heart of Jesus among your congregation—you also have the crucial role of helping the people in your care to become the eyes, ears, hands and heart of Jesus.

Your leadership is desperately needed in the Body of Christ, and no matter where you serve, it is a critical outpost for advancing God’s kingdom. Each of us has a role to play, and every role is important. There is no small or insignificant service to God; it all matters.

Likewise, there are no insignificant ministries in the Body of Christ. Some are visible and some are behind the scenes, but all are valuable. Small or hidden ministries often make a difference in the biggest ways.

Let me illustrate it this way: In my home, the most important light is not the large chandelier in our dining room but the little night light that keeps me from stubbing my toe when I get up at night. There is no correlation between size and significance. Your ministry matters because it matters to God, and you are crucial to the Body of Christ because we’re all dependent on each other.

Jesus taught that we should maintain an attitude of service no different from his own, for the Messiah “did not come to be served, but to serve and to give [his] life.” Jesus came “to serve” and “to give”—and those two verbs should define your life on earth, too.

Jesus taught that spiritual maturity is never an end in itself, rather maturity is for ministry! In the same way, your position as pastor should never become an end in itself—as if you have arrived—rather it is a heavenly calling to wash the feet of those around you, serving those in your congregation and your community at large.

We grow up in Christ in order to give out. It is not enough to keep learning more and more about the Bible or the latest church growth technique—certainly these are good things—but we must act on what we know and practice what we claim to believe. Some of us know the streets of ancient Jerusalem better than we know the streets of our own hometown, and that’s an indicator that we’re out of balance when it comes to serving those around us.

Study without service leads to spiritual stagnation. The old comparison between the Sea of Galilee and the Dead Sea is still true: Galilee is a lake full of life because it takes in water but also gives it out; in contrast, nothing lives in the Dead Sea because, with no outflow, the lake has stagnated. Can you see the logic of God’s intent? If you want greater spiritual maturity and wisdom, you need to be pouring what you already know into the lives of others! Why would God pour more maturity and wisdom into a stagnant reservoir?

Following the same thought, the last thing many believers need is to go to another Bible study; they already know far more than they are putting into practice. What they need are opportunities to serve—where they can exercise their spiritual muscles. Your example will teach the members of your congregation to shift from an attitude of “serve us” to “service.” You’ll teach them to no longer say, “I want a church that meets my needs and blesses me.” Instead, they’ll learn to say, “I want a place to serve and be a blessing.”

You make a difference! You are a blessing as you serve your congregation, and even though they may not see all the things you do as their pastor, God does—and he is pleased to have you as his eyes, ears, hands and heart.  

10 Questions Church Leaders Should Be Asking (but Probably Aren’t)

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Questions have a curious function in the life of a leader. A good question can often propel us forward more than a great answer. Our roles in leading our churches requires us to not only work in our ministry but to also take a step back and work on our ministry. That means that from time to time we need to step back and ask questions that we don’t normally ask about our ministry.

I know this can be hard to do during the weekly crunch of getting our services organized, caring for our community, and completing all the various tasks that we are called to do in our churches. To help you start conversations with your leadership team around the development of your church, I’ve put together this list of 10 questions that I hope will help guide you to a deeper conversation, even if they’re just a jump-off point to new questions that might stir in you.

What’s happening this weekend at your church that’s compelling enough for people to drive to it?

We’re living in an increasingly isolated age. More than ever, people are experiencing the world from a virtual point of view. There was a time when you needed to actually get in a car and come over to a church if you wanted to hear great teaching or experience incredible worship music. These days, anyone who wants to learn and worship can simply download podcasts or connect via Facebook Live.

What is it that we’re doing that would invite people to walk away from their screens and actually interact face-to-face?

I’m still a firm believer in the gathered body of Christ. I do think that there is something powerful about people getting together and worshiping and learning together. Not only are we living in an age where people are increasingly connected digitally, but for the first time since the advent of the car we are seeing an annual decline of people’s willingness to drive in their vehicles. [ref]

This presents a challenge since most of our ministries are based on the notion that people will drive across town to come to our churches this weekend. Your church needs to do things that transcend the screen and are powerful enough to encourage people to get in their cars and come visit you.

Would you attend your church if you weren’t a paid staff member?

This is a convicting question for me. I can say there are weekends here and there that, if I’m honest, I’m not sure I’d attend church if I wasn’t being paid. Those days are usually in the middle of the summer when it’s super nice out, and I look out and think, “Wow, it would be great to go to the beach today.” However, over the long arc of my ministry I’ve been proud to serve in the churches that I have. I feel bad for people who serve in churches that they’re not excited to be a part of.

This question is as probing as it is a bit disturbing as it could reveal a betrayal in our hearts. If you’re in a place where you wouldn’t attend your church if you weren’t being paid to be there, I’d encourage you to reach out to friends for help and see if there’s a way to restore your passion for the mission to which God has called your church.

What is your succession plan?

Recently I was talking to an elderly church leader about the future of their church. While I found his energy and desire to keep reaching out and impacting the community inspiring, I was concerned because this leader didn’t seem to understand that his days in ministry were numbered. Many church leaders continue to work far beyond a date they maybe should in order to push the ministry forward. But the success of your church relies on you not only having a successor but the people who report to you having successors. Are the people on your team the kind of people who could end up replacing you (even with a short or long-term development plan)? What about the people that report to them? Succession plans need to not only cover an immediate, tragic situation but they need to work for the long term in order to move your leadership on to the next generation.

How is your church systematically increasing people’s generosity?

Finding ways to encourage your people to give generously to the mission is an important function of senior leadership in every church. In fact, in some circles it would be considered a normal part of your role to spend between 20-30 percent of your week thinking through how you’re encouraging people to be good stewards of what God has given them. The reality is that your ministry will function more effectively when your people’s generosity is increasing. Build the future of your church by finding ways to increase generosity such as:

A good long-term goal would be to grow your generosity at a faster rate than the growth of your church. This will create a flywheel effect that will ultimately help your church reach more people.

The Key to Making Your Lessons Stick

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Last night while I was teaching my life group, I asked my boys a question and got absolutely no response. It was a pretty basic question. No response.

The section of the lesson was about reaching out to people around us when they’re having a bad day. I asked them, “What’s a good approach to reach out to them? Is it better to ask them about themselves or to tell them a story about yourself?” We had been talking about how Jesus reached out to the demon-possessed man in Mark 5. Jesus started by asking him what his name was.

There wasn’t a word of response to my no-brainer question.

I took a different approach that changed everything. I asked, “Has anybody ever asked you how you’re doing? As you’re telling them, they interrupt you to talk about themselves?” That changed everything! They could have talked for hours. The lifeless group of 20 freshman boys had come alive. They were angry because they were all thinking about a time that happened. They suddenly understood the point I was trying to teach. Jesus was able to reach people because he asked hurting people about themselves, and then listened to their responses. He was being the model of how he wants us to care for others.

This radical difference in the life of my students last night reminded me of an important teaching principle: Help students internalize the lesson by relating it to their personal experiences. In other words, make it about them. When they feel an emotion connected to what I’m teaching, the lesson will stick with them long after the night is over.

Don’t you love it when you see the lights go on inside their heads? Let there be light—lots and lots of light.

Small Group Starting Point—Don’t Lose Sight of This

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Start with people. Sounds obvious, right? After all, you and I, as small group point people, are in the business of connecting people.

But this question has come to the forefront of my mind recently, as I read Priya Parker’s excellent new book The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters. We spend most of our time in gatherings, and truth be told, most of them are lackluster, and we leave feeling like we just wasted a couple of hours that we will never get back. We rely too much on tradition and convention, instead of thinking outside the box. Or worse yet, we rely on what Parker calls “the Martha Stewart approach, elevating the readying of things over the readying of people” (page 158).

After reading this quote, I looked over an email I will often send new leaders as they prepare for their first meeting, and was convicted. My email to leaders covers all the logistical issues for them, but not readying people. Have name tags, have enough seats, have food, hand out materials, introduce everyone, end on time, etc. Logistics are good, and it can be helpful to new leaders in order to relieve some of the anxiety in leading their first meeting.

But if I simply give them logistics, and nothing more, I will be tempted to allow myself and my leaders to settle for ordinary and tradition, over and against opening up the possibilities for the Spirit to invade and do something new and exciting.

I also thought about how I often pitch small groups to both the big room and individually. And too often it is rote—my stump speech if you will. And stump speeches rarely work. People need to know that this is more than just another event to add to their already over-crowded calendar. They need to feel that small groups are different. That for the two hours they are there, they will experience something different, namely the work of the Spirit in community.

The question I need to be asking, especially as I prepare for our next big small group push, is: What do I want people to experience? Once I have answered that question, everything should flow from that answer, from how I train leaders to how I frame the ask in the big room to how my leaders frame their invite.

My small group leaders, first, and then the whole congregation, needs to know that small groups aren’t just another event to add. They need to know that when they show up that there is no need to hide and pretend, but that they can, despite what culture might teach us, put down their guard and their defenses, and find the true and everlasting hope that we all crave: the love of God and the love of others.

But this can only happen if I make a commitment to readying people and not just readying things.

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Passing It On: Generational Discipleship in Church

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What do we mean when we talk about “generational discipleship”? It’s a term that I am hearing more and more frequently and it’s one that I myself use often in this blog.

Simply put, generational discipleship is the passing on of our faith from one generation to another.  

In Scripture, it is the model we are given for how we instill within our children and grandchildren the faith that our parents and grandparents shared with us and we do so within the context of relationship, mentorship and community.

There are examples of generational discipleship all through Scripture.

The most oft-quoted verse about generational discipleship is probably Deuteronomy 6:4-9 where we are told to impress the commands of the Lord upon our children and to talk about them when sit and when we walk and when we lie down and when we get up…so basically, all of the time. And this command is given within the full assembly of Israel to all the people, so not just to parents but to the larger faith community.

We see this idea of generational discipleship play out in Scripture through so many intergenerational and familial relationships. Some examples include but are certainly not limited to…

  • Eli and Samuel (I Samuel 3)
  • Timothy and his mother and grandmother AND Timothy and Paul (2 Tim. 1:5)
  • Elijah and Elisha (2 Kings 2)
  • Naomi and Ruth (The book of Ruth)
  • Moses and Joshua (Deut. 31)
  • Mordecai and Esther (The book of Esther)

So how does generational discipleship play out in a faith community?

In 2017, The Journal of Intergenerational Relationships published an article whose findings explained that intergenerational relationships create essential learning environments for all generations. In other words, if generations are going to interact with each other in meaningful ways, there are some key essentials that need to be in place.

Specifically they find that three things are necessary for intergenerational learning:

  1. There must be space to learn about one’s own generation with other generations.
  2. All generations must act as learners and teachers at the same time.
  3. The learning must motivate participants towards in a particular way.

Often when our churches gather, these dynamics are either not in place at all or are difficult to find. Putting multiple generations into a place where they can interact in meaningful ways can be challenging because of differences in likes, dislikes, development and experience.

As a result, many churches opt for an environment that segregates the generations from one another and promotes learning within one age range rather than between the generations. It’s much more difficult to create an intentional space for both to give and receive.

While these things are challenging, they are not impossible to overcome. It might be easier in the short term to maintain age-specific environments, but it is clear that in the long run, generational discipleship will be hampered by the lack of meaningful intergenerational relationships and interactions.

So what can we do?

There’s no silver bullet that will magically erase these challenges or suddenly make it easier to engage generations in learning and living together, but there are some avenues to explore that will create the space for growth.

  1. Stated Purpose – If you desire to put generations together for anything from corporate worship to shared meals, be sure and let everyone know the purpose behind your action. Give a stated reason for creating a multi-generational space and repeat it often so everyone is on the same page.
  2. Be Creative in ConnectionConnecting different generations doesn’t have to look the same as connecting same generations. It’s unlikely that a second-grader is going to go out for coffee with a senior citizen. But what if the oldest Sunday School class showed up to cheer on the kids in tee ball and soccer? What if the teenagers worked alongside their parents in serving their community together? What if intergenerational prayer partners were connected to each other? There are a lot of ways to interact with each other in meaningful ways!
  3. Give Generations a Voice – There’s nothing worse than feeling like you have nothing to give or that you are not heard. If we step back and notice that our church lay leadership, committees, service groups, etc., all reflect only one or two generations and those groups are the ones casting vision, leading and guiding the church, then there are multiple other generations that may not be feeling heard. Creating intentional space for all generations within your leadership structure can help flip that “top-down” mentality on its head and ensure that all generations have the space to give and to receive, to teach and to learn, so that all can grow together.

Since the separation of ages and the perception of differences mirrors that of our society, it’s easy for us to think “that’s just the way it is.” But it’s important to note that it wasn’t that way for centuries. And equally as important to note that the impact on the church is a substantial one. Why? Because our faith is primarily passed from one generation to another.

That is generational discipleship.

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When Revival Came to the Alaskan Tundra

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Paul Patkotak (1891-1980) was born during a harsh winter on the North Slope of Alaska. His Eskimo parents left him on the tundra to die rather than face almost certain death from starvation due to lack of food. Paul survived, however, and later became one of the earliest Eskimos to identify with the Pentecostal movement.

Paul’s parents were traditional Eskimos and lived near Wainwright, a village on the Arctic Ocean. He was born in the family’s snow house. At the time, his parents and their five other children were on the verge of starvation. Other families also faced the agonizing choice of whether to allow their children to die from exposure or starvation. Paul’s father insisted that the newborn must be placed in the snowbank, but his mother initially resisted. After several days, though, it seemed obvious that she was postponing the inevitable. They bundled up little Paul, placed him on the cold tundra, and left to go hunting for food.

Shortly after Paul’s parents left, his grandmother ventured outside and rescued the hapless newborn. She tucked her bundled grandson into her own clothing, but she fell in the snow and was unable to get up and return to the house. It seemed that both would die from exposure. However, a hunter discovered their plight and brought them to his hunting camp. That night little Paul had nothing to eat, but he survived in his grandmother’s care.

The following morning, a caribou herd wandered into the camp. The hunters killed enough animals to provide food for the winter months. Paul’s grandmother fed Paul with milk from one of the caribou cows, which she had managed to milk. Later that day, Paul was reunited with his mother, who had never expected to see him again.

Paul was reared according to traditional Eskimo customs, learning to fish, trap and hunt. He had contact with government workers and missionaries, who gave him a rudimentary education based on Bible stories. Although he did not become a Christian until years later, the stories of Jesus intrigued Paul.

Unlike many of his Eskimo friends, Paul wanted to further his education. He worked hard, trapping and pelting countless white foxes, which he planned to sell to make his dream possible. In 1911, he boarded a steam freighter with his pelts and headed for Seattle.

Paul arrived in Seattle and felt overwhelmed by the large city. He discovered a Free Methodist school called Seattle Seminary (now Seattle Pacific University), which he wanted to attend. He was not qualified to enroll, but professors allowed him to sit at the back of the classroom and audit classes.

Paul’s limited reading skills hampered his ability to understand, and other students severely ridiculed him. He grew desperate. He wanted to learn, but education seemed out of reach.

One day in 1913, while Paul was wandering down a street in Seattle, a man asked him, “Are you hungry for the Lord?” He responded affirmatively, and the man led Paul to a small Pentecostal congregation affiliated with the Apostolic Faith Mission (Portland, Oregon), which had roots in the Azusa Street Revival (1906-1909).

The young Eskimo sensed the power of the Holy Spirit in the Pentecostal meetings. An African-American woman caught his attention when she testified that God looks at a person’s heart, not at the color of their skin. He realized that he had built up hatred toward white students at the seminary who mocked him. He also realized that he needed to abandon his belief in the power of traditional Eskimo shamans. Paul responded to the altar call, repented of his sins, and peace and joy flooded his heart.

Paul spent the next two years at a government boarding school for Native Americans, where he improved his reading skills. He also remained active in the Apostolic Faith Mission.

Paul sensed a burden for the Eskimo people. In 1913, in a letter published in The Apostolic Faith newspaper, Paul testified of his newfound faith in Christ and stated that he felt called to bring the gospel to his people. He began praying for a mighty revival to come to the Eskimos.

In 1919, Paul, his wife and children moved to Alaska. They adopted the nomadic lifestyle of a hunter and trapper. This lifestyle made it somewhat difficult to effectively witness to other Eskimos, as they often lived in isolation. Paul was a faithful Christian and shared the gospel when he was able to do so. He was not a credentialed minister, but he went on several extended evangelistic tours across Alaska. The family later moved to Wainwright, so that their children could receive an education.

In the 1950s, the development of the oil industry brought significant changes to the North Slope of Alaska. Outsiders brought money and new opportunities for sin, disrupting traditional society.

In 1954, Paul joined forces with Sherman Duncklee, an Assemblies of God evangelist who was planting a church in nearby Barrow. A significant revival swept Barrow, and then Wainwright. Assemblies of God churches were formed in these towns, and the revival spilled over into the Presbyterian church and divisions between the churches came down. Paul’s son, Steven, was among the hundreds of converts in the revival. Another convert, Ned Nusunginya, would become the first Eskimo to be ordained by the Assemblies of God.

Paul had prayed since 1913 for revival among the Eskimo people. After 40 years of prayer, a spiritual awakening had finally come to the Eskimos!

The story of Paul Patkotak illustrates several themes in Pentecostal history. The interracial nature of the Azusa Street Revival reverberated through early Pentecostalism, and people from varied ethnic and cultural backgrounds found new life in Christ through Pentecostal churches. Significantly, much of the ministry among early Pentecostals was performed by lay persons, such as Paul. The testimonies of these early converts helped bridge cultural divides and laid the groundwork for the development of revivals and churches.

The July 21, 1963, issue of the Pentecostal Evangel included an account of Paul Patkotak and the Wainwright revival. Read the article, “Arctic Village Turns to God,” by Ida Cecelia Piper, published on pages 24 and 25.

This story originally appeared on AG News as part of the “This Week in AG History” series. Photo courtesy of The Apostolic Faith Church (Portland, OR).

7 Keys for Pastors to Lead Well

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Leadership is a topic we hear discussed often, but it easily gets complicated. People earn PhDs on the very topic. It has gotten a bit muddy, though. So much talk about it has resulted in the word meaning less and less. Let’s get back to it causing some meaning.

What are some basic keys for pastors, in particular, to lead well?

  1. Engage the congregation in theological reflection.

We often speak of concrete action steps for sermon application, but rarely discuss reflection of theology. Let’s remember that theology is deep, and reflection is needed. Engage the congregation in this time of reflection. Encourage it.

  1. Continue in personal development.

Go to a conference or two. Read some strategic books to help you. If you want to lead well, you will experience development on a consistent basis.

  1. Think bigly.

I wanted to use the word “bigly” almost as much as the word “huuuuuuuge.” In all seriousness, be a big thinker. If you want to lead to a higher level, you must think at a higher level.

  1. Lead from the front.

Here’s a little example of this: I want our church to show that guests are to be treated like VIPs. If that’s the case, we need to reserve parking spaces just for them. Furthermore, leave other spaces that are closer to the front for people who actually need them.

So, in order to lead from the front, I park in the back of the lot. It’s a little thing, but a church member even made mention of it to me yesterday how they appreciated it. This is leading from the front.

  1. Invest in others.

Pour into people. Are your lunches strategically scheduled to invest in others? Build relationships. People matter!

  1. Value accountability

People who devalue accountability usually reflect a lack of desire to experience a life above reproach. We all need accountability. Value it.

  1. Care for core values and mission.

Protect your core values. Point people toward them. Live your mission. If you don’t, nobody will.

I hope these seven keys will help you lead at another level!

Have any additional keys of leadership? Let me know about them in the comment section below.

This article originally appeared here.

4 Ways Men Can Combat Abuse in the Church

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Responding to accusations of sexual misconduct against actors James Franco and Aziz Ansari, Huffington Post cultural commentator Amaris Acosta wrote, “We’re still asking too much of women and too little of men.” When the famous men were accused of misbehavior, they and others, including a prominent New York Times writer, claimed they were only guilty of misreading women’s ambiguous sexual signals. Acosta goes on, “Both men and women have been complicit in gently defending men’s inability to read minds, saving their harshest criticism for the women at the receiving end of insensitive or abusive encounters.”

Acosta’s observation may be even truer of the church than society at large. #ChurchToo and #SilenceIsNotSpiritual have proven that, too often, our instinct is to blame the victim and assume the best of the abuser. Men receive standing ovations in some churches just for responding to allegations; whether they confess or deny misconduct appears almost irrelevant. It might be because Christians love a story of repentance and forgiveness more than the hard work of justice. Or, it might be because we want to believe the best of our leaders. Whatever the reason, we give accused men the benefit of the doubt and pat them on the back for even acknowledging that women have spoken. And, we easily question the integrity of women who speak out—though they have nothing to gain and everything to lose.

It’s no wonder that many women keep silent about abuse; they see that the church’s first instinct is to dismiss and explain away their trauma. Dramatic ovations also further victimize women who do dare to come forward, especially women of color. When you’re both a woman and a person of color, you often get the most blame and the least sympathetic ear. As a Latina pastor, I know the pain and rejection of being invisible and unheard. Of being viewed with suspicion while the actions of white male colleagues are judged as boyish mistakes.

Acosta concludes: “It is long past time to hold men accountable for failing to do the simple task of regarding a woman’s personhood and seeking not just enthusiastic, but affirmative consent. We cannot continue to baby the accused men by believing them to be incapable of thoughtfulness and emotional intelligence by nature.”

Men, I am calling you to step into your full humanity. To carry your weight in this movement toward the kingdom Jesus pronounced. Here are four ways you can start.

Change the way you talk about abuse

It’s time to stop diminishing the severity of abuse by calling it a “mistake” and treating it like an accident. Buying the wrong brand of bottled water is an accident. No youth pastor accidentally drives a teenage girl to a remote place and coerces her to have sex. When a spiritual leader or any adult takes advantage of a young girl who is vulnerable and naïve, that’s always assault. It’s criminal. It’s immoral. When we simply call abuse a “mistake” of the past, abusers are let off the hook and the truth is minimized. And, the steps we the church take when a victim comes forward will determine if other victims will feel safe to do likewise.

We also need to check how we talk about forgiveness. After her testimony in the trial of serial abuser Larry Nassar went viral in Christian circles, Rachael Denhollander spoke to Christianity Today:

I have found it very interesting, to be honest, that every single Christian publication or speaker that has mentioned my statement has only ever focused on the aspect of forgiveness. Very few, if any of them, have recognized what else came with that statement, which was a swift and intentional pursuit of God’s justice. Both of those are biblical concepts. Both of those represent Christ. We do not do well when we focus on only one of them.

Forgiveness—even when freely given—should never negate the legal ramifications of abuse. It’s counterproductive and harmful to force victims to make amends with abusers or forgive before they’ve had time to process the trauma. And, the pace and process of healing should not be determined by anyone but the traumatized person. Abuse must be reported to the proper authorities: law enforcement and hospitals.

It’s heartbreaking enough that Christian women and girls endure abuse by those they should be able to trust. We add to that heartbreak when we push them to forgive—either for the sake of our own comfort or so we can celebrate an abuser’s redemption. We demand forgiveness for the sake of everyone but actual victims. Instead, we must demand justice. We must prove—by what we say and how we respond to what others say—that we can be trusted with victims’ trauma.

Practice mutuality instead of patriarchy

Some Christians teach that patriarchy is God’s design. That God made men to lead and women to submit. But in the Garden of Eden, God created men and women to steward the earth together. There was no hierarchy between them until sin entered the story. We must arise with divine resolve against unbiblical narratives that fuel injustice.

Don’t buy into patriarchal views, but instead challenge them with mutuality. Ask questions about your theology and seek out spiritual mentors who see mutuality as God’s design in Scripture. Then, live out what you believe about Scripture.

Don’t insist on having the last word as the husband or being the sole decision-maker in your marriage. Think carefully about why you respond the way you do to women who challenge or differ from you. Is it because their position makes you uncomfortable? Would you respond the same way if a man said or did the same thing? If you’re a leader, give up the stage to make space for women. If you’re a pastor, teach mutual leadership and submission instead of gender roles.

In mixed gender groups, intentionally ask women for their opinions when they aren’t speaking. But also, consider why they may not feel comfortable sharing. Affirm women’s ideas and credit them. Don’t restate their ideas as your own or the group’s. It’s crucial to verbally recognize women’s creativity and ingenuity.

These are some of the everyday symptoms of patriarchy. Learn them and change your behavior. Challenge others to change theirs.

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