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Do People Tell You Not to Read ‘Those Books’?

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“Take up and read; take up and read.” (from Confessions of Saint Augustine, chapter XII)

Read widely, pastor.

Read novels, how-to books, histories, biographies and theological commentaries.

You don’t necessarily have to read the entire book to benefit. You have only so much time and energy, and you want to put the emphasis on the more important readings.

What are the teens in your church reading? Ask around, then give it a try.

By all means, read the Word of God. Read some every day, and have a plan for your reading. If you’ve never read through the Bible in a year, do it. Do it several times in a row. Thereafter, choose books of the Bible you’re unfamiliar with and fill in that gap of your education.

It used to bother me that my oldest son and my wife loved to read Stephen King novels. Since King loves to get bizarre and even scary—think “Christine” and “Carrie”—in his plots, I felt that this was unhealthy reading for my wife and son.

I still think that. Mostly.

In time, however, I discovered some Stephen King books I enjoyed immensely. The best, for me at least, was the book detailing his writing process. On Writing has a ton of ideas helpful to those of us who try to string individual words into coherent thoughts, the thoughts into paragraphs, the paragraphs into chapters, and chapters into books.

Stephen King does not use adverbs. And when narrating conversations, he never says things like “he replied angrily” or “she responded with a grin,” but only “he said” and “she said.”  Interesting.

Did that change anything for me? Probably not, although it’s helpful seeing how the big guys do their thing.

I am a strong believer in reading widely.

An hour ago I sat in McDonald’s for 30 minutes reading a business book I’d bought on sale at Office Depot. I underlined insights and will probably be using some of what I learned before passing the book on to one of my sons.

The mind needs stimuli from many different directions in order to stay alive and sharp. I subscribe to The New Yorker and sometimes read every word of their really lengthy stories. (OK, but mostly I love their cartoons.) I subscribe to Biblical Archaeology and Progressive Farmer. (How’s that for diversity?) My wife gets Reader’s Digest and Southern Living and In Touch from Charles Stanley.  

I urge pastors to take an hour occasionally to sit in the periodicals section of their public library and browse all those magazines no one has never heard of. Scan the table of contents, read the occasional article, pursue the subjects that intrigue you, jot down phrases and ideas and stories you want to remember. It won’t hurt and it might pay huge dividends.

OK. A story…

Frederick B. Speakman (1919-1991) pastored Pittsburgh’s Third Presbyterian Church and wrote several books every preacher should have. My favorite is Love is Something You Do. The title comes from the first chapter, a sermon on that subject. Speakman is thought-provoking, Christ-honoring and writes amazingly well. But I wanted to tell you something that happened when he was a kid…

How it would upset (my mother) to catch me in my earliest teens curled up by the hour with a paper-bound volume of science fiction slipped cunningly inside some approved volume of the Rover Boys series or the latest Tom Swift! Perhaps it would have been better for me to have been out on the playground—but the teens are the teens, and as a recipe for getting out of this world I’ll still prefer H.G. Wells to rock ‘n’ roll! (Speakman was writing in 1959, when rock ‘n’ roll was in its infancy.)

But mother was determined to take steps to save me from the sorceries of such unsound fantasy, and her trump card was to hail me at last before our minister, our beloved Dr. Todd. 

A massive, acrobatic bear of a man, as well-equipped mentally as he was full-cushioned physically, he held our community in the strong grip of his heart and hands with room to spare. I can remember writhing in an agony of knuckle-cracking embarrassment as she reported her distress at my reading aberrations, but I was quick to notice his reaction seemed to be a scarcely-controllable amusement.

He announced he would let us both in on a secret. He led us into his inner study and showed his collection of—yes, science fiction. Shelf upon shelf of it, titles I had never heard of, he had them all. 

My mother could not have been more shocked if he had showed us a secret wine cellar. I’m not certain she ever completely regained her total trust in clergymen. But I was allowed to bring my science fiction out of hiding from under the bed and to display it unashamed right there in the company of Kipling and London and Mark Twain.

During the Civil War, it was a crime in the South to be caught with publications from the North. As a result, the South missed many an opportunity to know what the “enemy” was doing, where Union troops were gathering, what the politicians were thinking. So short-sighted.

I know conservative Christian people—I’m a card-carrying member of that club!—who urge people not to listen to NPR, MSNBC or CNN but only to FOX News. The same mentality, it seems to me, is what warns people off from reading far afield, from taking in ideas that might be new or different. How boring.

Let’s not have any more boring preachers. Please.

This article originally appeared here.

Awkward Silence: Why Small Group Leaders Need to Get Used to It

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What is one of the most difficult skills for new small group leaders to learn and do? It’s allowing awkward silence to remain in the middle of a discussion.

Why is this?

Awkward Silence: Why Small Group Leaders Need to Get Used to It

Silence Is Awkward

Silence during a conversation becomes awkward in a matter of seconds. The number of seconds varies by culture, but the awkwardness kicks in at about four seconds or less in the United States.

We are social, and being in a group when the interaction suddenly stops can bring up uncomfortable emotions like anxiety and lack of confidence.

But for the small group leader, the use of silence is a powerful skill. While some people find it uncomfortable, it can provide benefits like encouraging participation from ones who don’t readily jump into the conversation.

What are some ways a new (or not-so-new) small group leader can use to get comfortable exercising silence as a tool during discussions?

5 Body Safety Rules Every 5-Year-Old Should Know

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This article originally appeared on Protect Young Minds

It seems like the number of things you need to talk to your children about in order to keep them safe just keeps growing! One issue that should be at the top of your list is protecting kids from sexual abuse.

Why? The CDC reports that 1 in every 5 children will experience sexual abuse. That’s 1 out of 4 girls and 1 out of 6 boys.

By talking to your kids about personal safety, they will be more prepared to stay safe and get help when needed.

The link between pornography and child sexual abuse

Unfortunately, pornography fuels sexual abuse.

Protecting kids from child sexual abuse includes teaching them what pornography is and what to do if they see it. This not only helps prevent them from becoming a victim of non-physical sexual abuse (such as being shown pornography), but also potentially from becoming an abuser themselves. An estimated 23 percent of reported cases of child sexual abuse are perpetrated by children.

Here’s an example of what can happen: A child sees pornography without any idea of what is normal and not normal sexual activity. Not understanding that what they see is harmful, they act these scenes out on other children.

Sometimes adults are motivated by pornography to abuse others, including children. Adult abusers will often show pornography to children to groom them for further abuse. According to Defend Innocence, perpetrators will test boundaries and “see how a child reacts when privacy is violated.” Pornography is a tool they use to see how a child responds. The child’s reaction could mean the difference between safety (the abuser backs off) and extreme danger (the abuser feels like the child can be manipulated).

What’s the problem with the idea of “stranger danger”?

It was drilled into every ’80s kid’s mind: “Don’t take candy from a stranger.” For decades the message was so focused on strangers, that we failed to warn children that sometimes people we know and trust turn out to be dangerous too.

Are strangers the main danger? Statistics tell us NO. The National Sex Offender Public Website (NSOPW) reveals that in 90 percent of sexual abuse cases, victims know their abuser.

Sixty percent of perpetrators are not family members, but someone the child knows: a babysitter, a babysitter’s boyfriend (whom you didn’t know was at your home), an older sibling at a friend’s sleepover, or a long-time family friend. Sexual abuse happens during playdates behind closed doors and in bathrooms at school. Yes, elementary school.

Surely we can trust our children with members of our family? The NSOPW reports that 30 percent of perpetrators of sexual abuse crimes are family members. It’s hard to swallow, isn’t it? A mistake we make as parents and adults is trusting people just because they’re family.

Here’s what you can do to protect kids from sexual abuse

You might be thinking to yourself, I’m never leaving my children alone again. Don’t worry, there’s hope. You can become an educated and proactive parent who does everything in their power to protect children from sexual abuse.

Essentials of a Great Ministry Resume

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It’s a common question I get from people I am coaching and mentoring. What should I include in my ministry resume? There are definitely a few dos and don’ts. I’ve listed below some essentials of a great ministry resume.

Keep your resume to two pages. A one-page resume is too short and connotes a lack of experience. Anything longer than two pages is unwieldy and not likely to be read in full. In some cases, three pages may be necessary for those with much ministry experience, but three pages should be the maximum.

Put your ministry goals and objectives in a cover letter, not on the resume. Those receiving your resume assume you are pursuing a ministry goal that matches the available position. I do recommend a short cover letter describing why you are pursuing the position. Also, I’ve seen too many resumes that forgot to update the ministry goal and objective for each position. For example, you don’t want readers in Florida to see that you are pursuing a different position in Texas as well.

A doctrinal statement needs to be in a separate document. Many resume readers will want a written doctrinal statement. Send it separately if requested. Some may have a questionnaire for you to fill out. Others may want to ask doctrinal questions over the phone or in a face-to-face interview.

Include your picture on the front page of the resume. If you can, it’s better to include a picture of you with your family on the front page. In most professions, a resume picture is considered a faux pas. However, most churches like to see a picture and are drawn to the resumes that include them. One caveat: Make sure the picture is of professional quality. Do not use a Facebook picture taken with your cell phone. Hire a professional photographer to take the picture. The extra cost and time are well worth it.

Place your education and ministry experience first. Some suggest to put your personal information first, and their reasoning is it demonstrates how family is a priority. However, including a picture of you and your family accomplishes this goal. I recommend placing your personal information last, just before your references. It’s more professional and creates a better flow for readers of your resume. If you choose to put your personal information on the front page, make sure the entirety of your education and ministry experience also appear on the front page.

Tell a story about your ministry. The readers of your resume should feel your love for the local church and also gain an understanding of your accomplishments. Don’t simply list your churches as places of employment. Rather, include a brief description of what God did (not you!) at your churches. Stay positive. You can explain any negatives in an interview if necessary.

Never use the phrase “references available upon request.” Always put your references in the last section of your resume. You do not want to add an extra step for resume readers. Some may want to call your references first without contacting you. Also, make sure you have permission from all your references. It is quite unprofessional for one of them to get a surprise phone call.

If you need one, here is a template. It’s taken from my resume, but I’ve changed the information to be fictitious. I also included several tips in the template resume.

This article originally appeared here.

YouTube Video Shows the Umbrella Term ‘Christian’ Has Come to Be

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A popular YouTube channel called Jubilee asked six people about their views on topics ranging from Christian music to how confident they were they would go to heaven. While there was a noticeable lack of age diversity, “Do All Christians Think the Same?” did a good job of portraying the diversity of beliefs represented in young adults who call themselves “Christians.”

“The video throws a broad umbrella over the term ‘Christian,’” observed Relevant magazine, “but nonetheless, it’s an engaging display of people who identify with the same faith dialoguing over complex issues.”

What’s the Setup?

The six participants walked into a room with lines drawn on the floor that marked a spectrum of responses from “strongly disagree” to “strongly agree.”

The video’s creators had a set of questions prepared. Before each one was read, the participants lined up single file in the center of the spectrum. Then after hearing a question, each moved to the spot on the spectrum that most closely represented his or her beliefs. christian thoughtsThere was not one point during the whole video when all six people even generally agreed on the answer to a question. Most agreed with the first statement, “I like Christian music.” One girl pointed out that while some Christian music is good and some is “lame,” the same could be said about any kind of music. The one man who chose “somewhat disagree” said he agreed with her, but probably reacted more negatively because of being forced to listen to Christian music as a child.

Regarding whether or not they agreed with the statement, “I have doubted my beliefs,” the majority did agree, with only two choosing, “somewhat disagree.” The participants included a gay man and a queer woman, both of whom said they had struggled with where they fit in the church because of their LGBT identities. The woman, however, said that while she had experienced judgment from the church, she never doubted that God loved her.

When asked if they agreed with the statement, “I support the LGBT community,” the group spread out along the spectrum. Those who disagreed with the statement said that LGBT lifestyles contradict what the Bible says, while those who most strongly agreed argued that the others were inconsistently applying the Bible and didn’t appreciate the weight of what they were asking LGBT people to do in surrendering their desires.

The woman who strongly disagreed said she chose that response because “support” meant agreeing with an LGBT lifestyle, something that as a Christian she could not do. The woman who chose “somewhat agree” said that she defined “support” differently. While she believes that “homosexual activity” is sinful, she also believes in supporting someone’s right to love and be loved. “All of us should be working,” she said, “not to change who we are, but to become more like Christ.”

Perhaps one of the most interesting responses to a statement was the reaction to, “God loves everybody equally.” Everyone agreed, except for one man who argued that while God does love everyone, He loves His own children more than the rest of the world.

The group was evenly split as to whether they would date someone who was not a Christian. One man who would, argued that such a relationship would work because people of different religions basically believed the same thing. The three who would not date a non-Christian all disagreed with him about that point.

Five of the members of the group were pretty confident that if they died, they would go to heaven. One man said he was confident because he had put his faith in Jesus, who forgave him of his sin. The man who was not sure said, “It’s hard to know exactly what specifically is considered the biggest sins that will keep someone from going to heaven.” He also admitted that he hadn’t put as much thought into the question as he should. One woman who believed she would go to heaven said that she thinks all people are responsible to “do their best” every day, and that is all that God requires of us.

Jubilee’s About page says the purpose of their videos is to “bridge people together, challenge conventional thinking, and inspire love.” While some might see the video as muddying the waters as to what Christianity actually is, it definitely created dialogue about important issues. In doing so, it highlighted the fact that we all approach our beliefs from our own experiences and that it’s important to meet people where they are.

 

Daniel Im: There Are No Silver Bullets in Discipleship

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Daniel Im is the Director of Church Multiplication for NewChurches.com at LifeWay Christian Resources. Daniel also serves as a Teaching Pastor at The Fellowship, a multisite church in Nashville. Daniel holds a M.A. in Global Leadership and has served and pastored in church plants and multisite churches ranging from 100 people to 50,000 people in Vancouver, Ottawa, Montreal, Korea, Edmonton, and Nashville. Daniel and his wife, Christina, have three children and live in Nashville.

Key Questions for Daniel Im

– What is the biggest mistake you see pastors and ministry leaders make as they step into a revitalization effort?

– What kind of self-awareness practices are helpful for ministry leaders and their churches?

– How does discipleship fit into church revitalization?

Key Quotes from Daniel Im

“A lot of times in ministry we spend so much time learning about ‘the other’ that we don’t actually know about ourselves. We don’t know why we lead the way we lead, we don’t know how we lead…”

“If we were just to take a quarter of the time we spend reading other people’s stuff and learning about other people’s contexts, to learn about how God created us and what’s happened in the unique context of our church and ministry, we’re going to be much better and much further down the road than trying to import any idea.”

“The [leaders] you follow are the ones you model.”

“If you are going into a new role in a church, I would start with a season of listening. And I would ask: ‘What do you hope never changes?’”

“I am pro-multisite and I am pro-church planting…I think a lot of churches can do both. I think a lot of multisite churches shouldn’t do multisite but they got into it because it was the thing to do.”

“Consider Seattle, for example. There’s nothing wrong with multisite as a strategy to reach the lost, but a multisite video-venue model in Seattle is probably not something I would encourage a new church to do…specifically because of what happened with Mars Hill there.”

“Typically in a rural context, it takes about seven years for the church and for the city to see you as their pastor and to see you as someone who’s going to stay.”

“We often teach the way we’ve been taught…We are by-products of our Western educational system.”

“A lot of churches will see discipleship as a program whereas in reality when you look at the Scriptures, discipleship is actually more about the direction you’re moving in rather than the destination that you’ve arrived.”

“A lot of church leaders are great at starting things, but we’re horrible at stopping them.”

“The more programmatic a church is, they just want higher numbers than last year.”

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Asia Bibi Is Truly Free Now and in Canada

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Asia Bibi has finally arrived in Canada after years of imprisonment and months of hiding in fear. The Christian mother is finally able to rejoin her children and husband.

U.S. Secretary of State Mike Pompeo said he wishes Asia Bibi “all the best” now that she has been “safely reunited with her family.”

Asia Bibi Update: No News Is Good News

Bibi’s lawyer, Saif Ul Malook, was the one who broke the news that Bibi was in Canada. Malook spoke to the BBC about the new development concerning his client. Due to the highly sensitive nature of Bibi’s case and the continued death threats against her, the Pakistani government did not disclose when she left Pakistan or where she currently is in Canada.

Canada’s Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau, had offered Bibi asylum in November after the Supreme Court in Pakistan ruled she was acquitted of blasphemy charges. At this time, though, Trudeau told the BBC he had no comment about her case or her whereabouts. As far as Bibi’s case is concerned, it appears no news is good news.

Asia Bibi Was Arrested in 2009

Bibi is a Christian woman who was arrested in 2009 on charges of blasphemy. While working on a farm with Muslim women, she took a drink from their water supply. A mob then beat her for making their water “unclean.” While the police initially rescued her from the mob, after a local imam accused Bibi of insulting Mohammed, they later arrested her and sentenced her to death.

It’s been a strenuous journey for Bibi since then. After spending eight years on death row, she was acquitted of blasphemy charges in October 2018. However, her freedom was delayed at that time because of rioting from Muslim extremists. To stop their rioting, the government agreed to put a travel ban on Bibi and review the decision to set her free.

On January 29, 2019, the Supreme Court re-evaluated Bibi’s case to see if her acquittal would stand or if she would return to death row. To the great relief of many, the court upheld its original decision to set her free.

After the court upheld its decision, though, it was clear getting Bibi out of Pakistan would be the only option for her safety. The leaders of hardline Muslim groups in Pakistan called for her murder and judging by the protests that ensued after her acquittal, it was abundantly clear their followers would be happy to carry out such orders.

On the long road which led to her freedom, two government officials were killed after they took up Bibi’s cause. Salmaan Taseer, the governor of Punjab, was assassinated after saying he would fight for her acquittal and release. Additionally, Minority Affairs Minister Shahbaz Bhatti, a Christian himself, was murdered after he indicated he would work to reform the blasphemy laws.

Hope for Pakistani Christians?

Even if this was a hard-fought road to free Bibi, the fact remains that the Pakistani Supreme Court refused to give in to threats of violence and terrorism. They chose instead to listen to the truth of what happened and due process won the day.

The entire Christian world and advocates for religious freedom celebrate with Bibi and her family.

Scripture Memory Wasn’t for Me

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One of the most beneficial spiritual disciplines for me has been memorizing long portions of Scripture.

Now, before you click away because you assume this article isn’t relevant to you, or because you want to avoid another guilt trip that you’re not measuring up to some spiritual Christian standard, would you give me a couple of minutes? I’d like to make a case that memorizing long portions of Scripture is indeed relevant to you and is not about your measuring up, but about your joy.

Confessions of a Bad Memorizer

I know that for many, joy is not the word they associate with Bible memoryBoring or can’t do it or undisciplined might be what comes to mind. I know. That was me.

I remember once, as a young adult, deciding I should take Bible memory seriously. In the flush of idealized resolve, I bought a Navigator’s Bible memory system. As is typical of idealized resolve, it dissipated after a couple of feeble tries, and the system then went unused until I eventually threw it away.

Years later, when my church leaders encouraged members to memorize certain verses each week, I was hit-and-miss. It wasn’t a faulty program; it was a faulty me. I had a fairly bad memory to begin with. I would memorize initially, but it seemed I just lost it so fast. I figured I would never do well at memorizing.

Plus, I harbored some skepticism about whether Bible memory really made much of a difference. I figured it was good—like a comprehensive workout at the gym is good—but I wondered if the actual value wasn’t somewhat inflated, considering all that extra work and time. I had some theological education, attended a theologically rigorous church, read theological books, was involved in Christian ministry, and generally read through the Bible every year in my devotions. How much more would memorizing do for me?

A Memorable Discovery

It was actually an experience in my devotions that pushed me toward a memorable discovery. In my late 30s, I had just completed the book of Hebrews (again) in my reading plan, and it left me a bit frustrated. Hebrews is so rich, so full of glorious truth. But every time I read through it, it was like I just skipped across its surface. I wanted to dive in.

Then I had this unusual thought: I need to memorize this book. Wouldn’t that get me deeper into it and have it get deeper into me? Then I did math: 13 chapters and 303 verses. Seriously? Could I, a bad memorizer, memorize 303 verses? And retain them?

I knew that John Piper used a memory technique taught by pastor Andrew Davis to memorize larger blocks of Scripture. So I decided to try it.

I found this technique worked! It took me quite a while, but I committed all of Hebrews to memory. And as I did, it was like swimming in the book. Deeper dimensions of the text and its application opened up for me. I followed the author’s flow of thought in ways I hadn’t seen before. I learned the warp and woof of each chapter. But more than all that, there were moments I worshiped Jesus as I saw him through the lens of this book—moments that I had not experienced in my read-throughs.

That experience of more profound worship of Jesus made me hungrier to know even more of him. So after Hebrews, I made the crazy decision to memorize the book of John. It took a long time, but again, it was wonderful. It was a long, deliberate, nourishing walk with Jesus. From there I went to Romans, then to Philippians, then to 1 John, then to 1 Corinthians (which I nearly completed—I need to get back to it), and then to a number of psalms.

The memorable discovery was not that I, with my bad memory, surprisingly could memorize big chunks of Scripture, but that doing so yielded joy. The exercise, the discipline, of reciting and repeating forced me to meditate on Scripture in ways I hadn’t done before. As a result, I saw more, understood more, enjoyed more complex tastes of God’s goodness (Psalm 34:8). Bible memory, specifically longer sections, turned out to be not merely exercising a few more muscle groups in the Bible gym, but rather a means to more profound worship and more fuel for prayer.

The Bad Memory Myth

Now, knowing I’ve memorized a few books of the Bible might make you skeptical of my claim that I have a bad memory. If so, that’s only because you don’t know me. My wife and kids will confirm. I regularly blank out on names of people I should remember (I dreaded the reception line at our wedding). I regularly can’t recall specifics of a past conversation or event or book I’ve read that I should remember. Which means I live with a measure of social anxiety that one or both will happen in a public setting (because they do).

I think my brain’s file-retrieval system is below average—less like an orderly file cabinet and more like a messy desk with piles of stuff on it (“Ugh! Where’s that name?” Rummage, rummage. “I know I put it here!”) I do best with a lot of repetition and review. I guess it keeps things near the top of the pile, which is another benefit of memorizing long portions of Scripture.

My experience has taught me not to believe the bad memory myth—that having a bad memory disqualifies us from memorizing much (unless we’re a rare medical/neurological exception). Rather, a bad memory makes memorizing all the more needful and helpful.

Harder doesn’t mean impossible. It just means people like me have to work harder to memorize and retain than people blessed with a good memory. Which is not much different than saying that people like me have to work harder to lose weight and keep weight off than people blessed with naturally faster metabolisms.

God is not egalitarian in his distribution of talents (Matthew 25:15), spiritual gifts (1 Corinthians 12:4–6), roles (1 Corinthians 12:18–20), bodies (John 9:2–3) and faith (Romans 12:3). We all have weaknesses that require us to labor more than others must. And this is really good for our souls. It teaches us perseverance and endurance as well as humble dependence on God and appreciation for others’ strengths.

Start Small and Realize a Benefit

I share with you my experience as a bad memorizer for two reasons: (1) if you’ve never attempted memorizing long portions of Scripture, it’s likely well within your reach; and (2) it really is all about joy. If you hear any should implied in what I’ve written, don’t hear it as a legal should that you must do to please God or achieve some elite spiritual rank. Rather, hear it as an invitation to joy—like a friend who says, “You should visit the Grand Canyon”; or a prescription for joy, like a doctor who says, “For the sake of your health, you should really consider getting some exercise.”

If you’d like some specific coaching on how to get started with a particular memorizing technique, I’ve provided that elsewhere. But if you’re new to this, here’s my simple counsel: Start small and realize a benefit. Choose a meaningful psalm (like Psalm 27) or a meaningful chapter that’s not too long (like 1 Corinthians 13). Or if you really want to try your hand at a book, I recommend Philippians. Give it a try, stay with it, and taste the joy.

Once you discover you can really do it, and you discover that it yields joy, you will very likely want to keep going. And that’s the beginning of the adventure. Keep venturing! Because there’s a lot of glory to see and savor.

This article originally appeared here.

Abortion Is a Man’s Issue, Too

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A few years ago I wrote an article titled “81%.” The article highlighted the following statistic: 81 percent of women who had an abortion said they would not have aborted if the man involved had been supportive.

Here is another statistic I want to share: 100 percent of abortions involve a male. While this statement may seem like common sense, every pregnancy involves both a woman and a man. Every woman facing a pregnancy had the help of a man.

By the way, did you know that 51.2 percent of babies are male? So, abortion is not just a woman’s issue. It’s a man’s issue. To be fair, it is a human issue.

Men, we cannot remain silent to this injustice. We must stand up and lead. So, reject passivity, accept responsibility and take some initiative. Consider doing the following:

  • Pray for the widows, orphans (James 1:27) and single mothers you know by name. Then, see if you can help them in some tangible way.
  • Get involved at a local pregnancy center. Go for a tour of the facility. If you have a wife and kids, take them with you. Have age-appropriate conversations with your kids about this issue.
  • Be a volunteer. Have you ever considered that the woman who is at the pregnancy center was likely brought by the child’s father? What’s he doing while she is in the doctor’s office? Probably sitting in the lobby. You could simply be a friend. Provide a listening ear. “I hope you don’t mind me asking, how are you doing? Are you OK with all this?” When my wife was pregnant with our first child, I had a million things running through my mind and I needed someone to talk to. You could be a voice of reason for a guy who is likely freaking out.
  • Give financially. Planned Parenthood is funded in part by the government. Your local pregnancy center is not. They need your support in both time and money.
  • Go see the movie UnPlanned. The movie is very well done and powerful. It’s a difficult movie to watch, but you should go see it.

Are you pro-choice? First, thank you for reading this article. Second, please consider seeing UnPlanned as well. Attend with an open-mind, and be willing to see this issue from another perspective!

Are you a man who is facing a pregnancy (i.e., your girlfriend or wife is pregnant)? Fight for the life of your child. Do not encourage an abortion, and do not force the child’s mother to make this decision alone. Be kind and loving, and promise to support her and your child. Then, be a man, and keep your promise.

Men, we must stop being silent while our sisters are having this conversation. Abortion is a human rights issue, and it’s a man’s issue. As I tell my sons, “Men help those who can’t help themselves. We stand up for those who cannot stand-up for themselves.” Use your voice and your actions to stand up for the unborn.

This article originally appeared here.

‘Father, Quiet Me’: Amy Carmichael’s Prayer for the Mundane and Spectacular Moments of Life

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My Father, quiet me,
Til in thy holy presence, hushed,
I think thy thoughts with Thee.
— Amy Carmichael (circa mid-1930s)[1]

Amy Carmichael was an energetic, passionate missionary who gave every inch of her life to rescue the forgotten children of India. Victims of the caste system, these boys and girls had been exposed to unimaginable circumstances—child-headed households, trafficking and slavery, just to name a few. Her world seems to have been one of dichotomies:

  • The mundane, daily tasks of caring for the ever-increasing numbers of children rescued and brought to her home in Dohnavur.
  • The defining, life-altering moments of crisis, fear, exhilaration and grief.

But, really, isn’t that the rhythm of our stories, too?

We each have mundane, daily tasks. For example, we ask ourselves: Did I remember to change the toilet paper roll, take the dog to the vet, put gas in the car, pay the utility bill, take the kids to their activity, mow the grass, or stir the macaroni and cheese? (You get the picture.)

But we also have the heart-stopping moments—both the deeply terrifying and incredibly joyful—where our worlds are instantly changed, when:

You receive the diagnosis.
The marriage proposal comes.
The layoff notice arrives.
The pregnancy test is positive.
You experience a miscarriage.
The police call.
You receive that college acceptance letter.
You learn your children are doing drugs.
You land that dream job.
The fire/tornado/flood/hurricane strikes.
You sense God’s unmistakable presence.
Evil crosses the firewalls that we think insulate us and our loved ones.

These moments interrupt the daily mundane tasks, and our world stops for a moment, a day or even a year.

Amy Carmichael lived these same dichotomies. Her world was noisy. Our worlds are noisy.

I often find myself gravitating to Amy’s prayer. See, the noise of life unsettles my soul. These occasions cause me to become ramped up with either restlessness (in the mundane) or weariness (in the big moments). Even joy can cause anxiety because I know the joyful moments will all-too-soon slip away.

Seldom am I still. Even more seldom do I fix my thoughts upon the thoughts of my God. You, too, may experience the same in your mind and soul.

But here is the beauty of Amy’s prayer: Our father knows this about us, and he wants us to depend on him more. We need him in all the moments of our lives. Only he can quiet our souls.

That’s not to say that we don’t play a role in our spiritual rest. We must practice and devote time to spiritual disciplines: Prayer, scripture, worship, care for our bodies and minds, rest, quiet.

In other words, we must consistently preach to our souls the words of the old familiar hymn, “Be Still, My Soul”:

‘Homosexuality Sends People to Hell’ Says Highest-Paid Rugby Player

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Israel “Izzy” Folau is Australia’s highest-paid rugby player and number one hope for Australia winning the upcoming World Cup in September. However, a comment about homosexuality Folau posted to his social media accounts could cost the talented rugby star and devout Christian his career. Brian Houston, leader of Australia’s largest church, has weighed in on Folau’s comments, saying the comments indicate the rugby star is judgmental and lacking in grace.

“In 40 years of telling people about the good news of Jesus, I have seen that the ‘turn or burn’ approach to proclaiming the message of Christianity alienates people,” Houston wrote in an op-ed in the Sydney Morning Herald.

The article, called “A Message to Folau: The world doesn’t need more judgemental Christians,” Houston says he admires Folau for being an excellent athlete and also “a man who won’t compromise his beliefs and is not afraid to stand up for Christ.”

What Did Israel Folau Say That Was So Bad?

The comment in question was posted to Folau’s Instagram and Twitter accounts on April 10, 2019. The post on his Instagram account includes an image reading “Warning” at the top. A list follows: Drunks, homosexuals, adulterers, liars, fornicators, thieves, atheists and idolators. At the bottom, it says “Hell awaits you. Repent!”  The comment essentially paraphrases passages of Scripture such as 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and Galatians 5:19-21. In the caption for the image, Folau wrote: “Those that are living in Sin will end up in Hell unless you repent. Jesus Christ loves you and is giving you time to turn away from your sin and come to him.” He then quotes Galatians 5:19-21.

 

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Those that are living in Sin will end up in Hell unless you repent. Jesus Christ loves you and is giving you time to turn away from your sin and come to him. _______________ Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these , adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revelings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19‭-‬21 KJV _______________ Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. Acts 2:38 KJV _______________ And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent: Acts 17:30 KJV _______________

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Folau attends The Truth of Jesus Christ Church in Sydney, where his father, Eni Folau, is the pastor. The rugby star has preached in the Pentecostal church before and his messages have been live-streamed via Facebook. The majority of comments on videos of Folau preaching are positive support from other Christians, encouraging Folau to keep preaching and not to be intimidated by those who wish to silence him.

“Israel does not do any wrong at all,” Folau’s father told reporters. “All the words he posted up has not come from him, it’s come from the Bible,” Folau’s father concluded.

This is exactly the tack Folau’s legal team took when the athlete faced a code of conduct hearing where his posts were under review by Rugby Australia. On May 7, 2019, an independent panel concluded Folau had committed a “high-level breach” of his $4 million contract. While a low or mid-level breach would not be cause enough for Rugby Australia to terminate Folau’s contract, the high-level breach ruling has moved the organization in the direction of termination. The panel is currently deciding on the repercussions Folau should face.

A History of Speaking Out

This is not the first time Folau has faced such a close call with his contract. The 30-year-old player came close to losing it last year, also, for almost the exact same reason. In 2018, Folau posted a link to a video of the late David Wilkerson preaching on the things that lead people away from God. In the 11-minute message, Wilkerson warns about tolerance of homosexuality. Folau said he was sharing the video out of “great love.” He wrote, “Jesus is coming back soon and he wants us to turn to him through repentance and baptism in the name of Jesus Christ (Acts 2:38) please don’t harden your heart.” This video link was accompanied by another Instagram post similar to the one Folau posted this year.

In April 2018, Rugby Australia decided not to sanction Folau for his social media posts about homosexuality, despite the concerns voiced by sponsors like the airline Qantas.

Even before this, when Australia voted to legalize same-sex marriage in 2017, Rugby Australia took an official position and said they supported the decision. The organization, which essentially oversees rugby in Australia, defines itself as an inclusive organization. At that time, Folau spoke out saying he did not agree with same-sex marriage.

Houston leads Australia’s largest Pentecostal church and agrees with Folau’s beliefs about homosexuality, but he feels the approach the rugby star is taking is doing more harm than good. He writes:

Yet, as Christians, it is equally important to look at ourselves and our own failings and imperfections. If you look at the list of sins that Izzy listed there’s not too many people he’s left out, including Christians. There isn’t a person on earth who hasn’t told a lie or put something before God (idolatry).

While sin is a real issue, the God I know and seek to follow is a God of love. He says that He did not come to condemn the world, He came to save it. And as Christians we would do well to follow the example of the founder of our faith. I believe there is a heaven and a hell but if you study scripture you won’t read about Jesus screaming to people that they are all going to hell. In fact Jesus, John the Baptist and the Apostle Paul all kept their harshest criticism for those who were religious and judgmental.

Muslim Leader: Use Ramadan to Pray for Freedom of Christian Girl

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A Nigerian professor, Ishaq Akintola, has called for his fellow Muslims to offer a particular request to God during the month of Ramadan. Specifically, Akintola wants Muslims to pray for the freedom of the girls, including Christian Leah Sharibu, who remain captives of the terrorist group Boko Haram.

“We call on fasting Muslims to make freedom for Leah Sharibu and the Chibok girls their prayer points during this Ramadan,” said Akintola, who directs the Muslim Rights Concern (MURIC). “Pray that Nigeria is emancipated from ruthless killers and kidnappers. Pray for the exposure of rebellious subjects and enemies of peace. Pray for total security. Pray also for economic buoyancy and political stability.”

Who Are Sharibu and the Chibok Girls?

In February 2018, Boko Haram kidnapped 110 girls, releasing most of them a few weeks later. Five had reportedly died, and Sharibu, the only Christian in the group, remained a prisoner. According to Open Doors, one of the girls who was released told Sharibu’s mother that Sharibu refused to renounce her Christian faith and that was why the terrorists did not set her free.

The extremists claimed that they would execute Sharibu in October of that year, but instead released a video of an aid worker being executed while announcing Sharibu was now their slave. She is still alive in captivity as far as anyone knows.

When Akintola mentioned the Chibok girls, he was referring to an incident that occurred in 2014 when Boko Haram abducted 200 girls from a boarding school in Chibok, Nigeria. Some of those girls were released, but others are either still captives or have since died.

What Is Significant About Ramadan?

Ramadan, which recently began for the year 2019, is a holy month for Muslims that commemorates when Allah gave the Qu’ran to the prophet Mohammed. The month is characterized by fasting (from food and other activities) during daylight hours and feasting during the nighttime. Generally speaking, Ramadan is a way for Muslims to practice self-discipline, draw near to God, and to remember those in need.

This year, Akintola wants Nigerian Muslims to remember the need of the Nigerian girls, Christian and otherwise, who are suffering at the hands of terrorists. “We must use that special spiritual power of Ramadan to crush all powers of darkness and all agents of evil who are behind the incessant killings and kidnappings in Nigeria,” urged Akintola.

Akintola also called for Nigeria’s religious leaders, whatever their beliefs, to be unified in confronting the evil of Boko Haram, emphasizing that “terrorists have no religion.” He even went so far as to state that the terrorists have been trying to incite conflict between Christians and Muslims in Nigeria.

“The overall objective of Boko Haram is to ignite a religious war,” he said. “That was why they started attacking places of worship. It was when that ploy failed that they resorted to abducting Christian girls with the hope of provoking Christiandom [sic].”

What will this situation require of religious leaders? Akintola believes they “must exercise extra patience. They must not play into the hands of the insurgents. They must refrain from emotional outbursts. Instead, they must sink their differences and come together in the name of humanity to fight the evil in their midst.”

You’re Not Alone: 7 Struggles That Jesus Can Identify With

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We’ve all said it, or at least thought it: “Jesus couldn’t possibly understand what I’m going through right now. After all, He never had to experience what I am dealing with!” Often, this thought is brought on by physical suffering, feelings of being alone, or thinking you are the only one who has had to wrestle with a particular temptation, trial or conflict. In a way, this thought process has been made worse by a common reading of Scripture that skips right from the birth of Jesus to His death and resurrection, ignoring the fact that most of the Gospels deal with Jesus’ life—His very human life.

When the Son of God came to earth 2,000 years ago, He was fully God, but He was also fully human. With this reality came all the experiences of what it means to be human—the good, the bad and the ugly.

The truth is, if there’s anybody who can understand what you’re going through, it’s Jesus. Let’s take a look at some examples:

Jesus Knew What It Was Like to Experience Poverty 

Living from paycheck to paycheck can be a very real struggle for anyone. Surely God can’t understand what it is like to go to sleep hungry and cold, can He? Well, Jesus, the Son of God, knew exactly what it was like to be poor. After all, He was homeless, so He can identify with those who have to do without. “Foxes have holes, and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay his head” (Luke 9:58).

Jesus Knew What It Was Like to Experience Exhaustion 

It’s OK to admit it: Some days, maybe even most days, we’re T-I-R-E-D tired. Jesus knew all too well what it was like to experience weariness. Jesus walked everywhere He went. On top of that, He had to deal with His disciples arguing about who was the greatest while often completely missing whatever lesson He was trying to teach them in that moment. Not to mention having religious leaders plotting His death while He did nothing but good, such as healing people, raising folks from the dead, and feeding the hungry. He knows what it is like to be physically and emotionally exhausted.

Jesus Knew What It Was Like to Be Betrayed 

Unfortunately, Jesus was well acquainted with the pain of betrayal. Not only was He betrayed by religious leaders who were jealous of the crowds that were following Him, but He was also betrayed by those very close to Him. For example, His own family! “When his family heard it, they went out to seize him, for they were saying, ‘He is out of his mind’” (Mark 3:21). One of His closest friends, Peter, also betrayed Jesus by denying that he even knew Him. And ultimately one of the Twelve sold Him out for 30 pieces of silver.

Jesus Knew What It Was Like to Suffer From Grief 

Jesus knew what it was like to experience heartache, sadness and sorrow. A couple of instances in the Gospels show Jesus weeping, first over the condition of Jerusalem: “And when he drew near and saw the city, he wept over it” (Luke 19:41), and second due to His grief at the death of a beloved friend: “Jesus wept” ( John 11:35). He was also sorrowed by humanity’s rejection of God: “He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief…” (Isaiah 53:3).

Jesus Knew What It Was Like to Be Tempted 

Maybe you can accept that Jesus knew grief and exhaustion, but when it comes to fighting temptation, surely Jesus cannot relate. But the writer of Hebrews reminds us that nothing could be further from the truth. Although Jesus never committed a sin, He was still tempted. Therefore, “because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted” (2:18).

Jesus Knew What It Was Like to Experience Suffering 

When we search for meaning in our suffering, it can be hard to find on this side of eternity because we cannot know all the purposes of a sovereign God. But we have a savior who knew exactly what it was like to suffer. He confided His emotional pain to His disciples, saying, “My soul is very sorrowful, even to death” (Matthew 26:38). And He obviously endured the physical pain of His extremely gruesome death on the cross.

Jesus Knew What It Was Like to Feel Forsaken by God

Even when we feel as though God has forsaken us, Jesus can identify. God the Father had to turn His face away from His Son while He became sin on the cross in our place. “‘My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?’” (Matthew 27:46). However, we need to remember that although it was a reality for Jesus at that time, being forsaken by God is only a feeling for His children. The truth is, He has told us, “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5).

Plain and simple, Jesus knows what it’s like to live as a human. He got hungry. He got thirsty. He slept. He had to learn things. He grew. He loved. He was glad. He was angry. He was troubled at times. He prayed. He exercised faith. He read the Scriptures. He hurt when He saw another person’s illness. He cried when He saw death. As the old hymn “What a Friend We Have in Jesus” says, “Jesus knows our every weakness.”

What a massive comfort to know that “we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin” (Hebrews 4:15). Yes, Jesus knows.

Excerpted from 9 COMMON LIES CHRISTIANS BELIEVE AND WHY GOD’S TRUTH IS INFINITELY BETTER. Copyright © 2019 by Shane Pruitt. Published by Multnomah, an imprint of Penguin Random House LLC. Available everywhere books are sold.

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4 Principles to Get and Give Better Feedback

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If we want to become better leaders we need to have good feedback. And to get that feedback, we need to find and listen to better critics.

But getting helpful feedback has one significant challenge. There is an inverse correlation between the frequency of a person’s opinion and the value of that opinion.

The more a person wants to tell you what they think, the less valuable their feedback is likely to be.

If we want to become better leaders we need to have good feedback. And to get that feedback, we need to find and listen to better critics.

But getting helpful feedback has one significant challenge. There is an inverse correlation between the frequency of a person’s opinion and the value of that opinion.

The more a person wants to tell you what they think, the less valuable their feedback is likely to be.

It’s essential to know something about the critic in order for the criticism to be of value.

This is one of the downsides of the new online frontier, and especially of social media. People comment and criticize because they can, even if they have nothing of value to offer.

How to Be a Better Critic

Whenever I’m considering offering my opinion to someone else, I use those four principles, but I consider them in reverse order.

First I ask myself “am I qualified to speak to this person on this subject?” If not, I let it go.

Next, I ask “has this person asked for my advice, either explicitly or implicitly?” If I think they’ve implied their desire for my advice, I confirm it and get explicit permission (“Yes, I really would like to hear what you think about this”) before speaking up.

Then, I only speak constructively. I want to help elevate their situation. I don’t need to have a solution before pointing out a possible problem, but I need to be willing to work with them on possible paths to a solution.

Finally, I’m willing to work with them on the specifics if they’re open to it. Offering advice, only to walk away saying “good luck with that” is not helpful.

If I don’t have the time to help, I don’t have the time to criticize.

When all four of these principles come together, criticism can transform from something we dread to something we learn from, grow from and want more of.

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How to Deal with a Small Group Discussion Dominator

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Most groups have one or two people who tend to dominate small group discussion times and seem to have all the answers to the questions! They tend to speak first, with much authority, and sometimes can be so intimidating that others do not participate and instead take a back seat. So how do we train small group leaders to deal with this dilemma?

Here are some different approaches that might help, in fact, if you are gathering your leaders for a training session why not role-play one or more of these approaches so your leaders get some practice!

  1. Body Language

Recognize the power of body language: When you ask a question, turn your body toward others and make eye contact with them rather than the discussion dominator. You can also try sitting beside the person, the lack of eye contact can sometimes be a help.

  1. Redirect discussion

Thank the discussion dominator for his/her comments and then redirect the conversation to others:

Anyone have something to add?

How does that sound to everyone else?

Does anyone have a different angle or idea we could explore?

I would love to hear from someone who has not shared tonight.

I am interested in knowing if there are other opinions.

Can anyone add to those comments?

  1. Coach your group

Set aside time in your group to talk about the importance of allowing everyone an opportunity to share during group discussion. Encourage short answers to allow others to contribute, discuss the importance of making space for those who need more time to think before they talk or do not easily jump into discussions. If you talk about this often in your group meetings, then this will infiltrate your group culture.

  1. Talk about the 15-second rule

Did you know that people in general are able to focus on what someone is saying in a group conversation for only 15 seconds! (Sam Huizenga https://network.crcna.org/small-groups/four-conversation-tips-small-group-leaders ) Find a creative way to share this information with your group members, take time to discuss the implications for your small group and together formulate a plan for how your group will handle group discussion time into the future.

  1. Sub group

Plan to break into smaller groups for a few of the questions, this enables other people a chance to talk. If you do this, make sure the person who dominates the discussion is in a sub-group with others who can deal with him/her.

  1. Meet outside of group time

Take them for a coffee, be pastoral, there may be other things happening in their life which makes them dominate conversation. If you feel it is appropriate you could ask the person to help you think of some ways to involve others in the discussion time. They may even come up with the idea that if they talk less others will talk more!

  1. Revisit your group agreement

Revisit the list of important things your group agreed to when you started your group journey together. Some people call this a group agreement, ground rules or a covenant. Get feedback from all group members about how the different aspects of the agreement are working, is there anything that needs to be changed or ‘tweaked.’ (Hopefully your group started with an agreement around the need for everyone to have a chance to share in discussion time!)

If your group does not have an agreement (or covenant) then I encourage to think about creating one. It can be a very helpful tool.

8. Self check

Oh and one last thing… Make sure you are not the ‘discussion dominator’ yourself!

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Insecure Worship Leaders: Why It’s Time for Deep Work

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Insecure Worship Leaders: Why It’s Time for Deep Work

What insecurities are holding you back? I find this to be a helpful question in every season of life and ministry.

Sometimes we are engaged in work outside of our gifting, but more often than not, our insecurities are keeping us from what is possible. Our challenge is a miracle zone where the power of God can shine.

So what story is holding you back?

Worship Leaders, it’s time to rise up. It’s time to fully step into what God is doing.

You have a calling not just to pick songs and maintain services, but to be a prophetic sound in your city, in your region. I know that may sound mystical and strange. But it’s true.

You need to do the deep work.

There is a deep work and there is a surface level maintenance.

  • Deep work is praying for a move of God.
  • Deep work is having that difficult conversation.
  • Deep work is creating culture.
  • Deep work is developing another leader.
  • Deep work is worshiping with your team.
  • Deep work is leading with energy and compassion.
  • Deep work is stepping out of what’s comfortable and doing what is scary.
  • Deep work is listening to and loving your multi generational congregation.
  • Deep work is leading that original song that you wrote with tears while praying for your church.

The enemy is out to steal, to kill, to destroy. Many in the church are sleepwalking through life. They may attend church. They may have a strong moral compass. But there’s no true outbreak of the Kingdom of God in their lives.

It’s time for the worship leaders, the catalysts, the prophetic voices, to rise up and awaken hearts, to stir up affection for the Savior.

But how does this happen? I believe it starts with doing the deep work, not simply dialing in the routine. It takes intentionality and conviction to keep your heart trusting, dependent.

So here’s my question for you: What deep work are you going to do this week? In what way are you going to shift your culture for the better?

Let’s talk about it in the comments.

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Just One Thing Your Kids Need to Know About Weed

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Only 26 percent of high schoolers think marijuana offers risk of harm. In other words, about three quarters of high schoolers think marijuana is, to use their words, “No big deal.”

You’ve probably heard the arguments.

“It’s very helpful for treating medical conditions.”

“Name just one person who overdosed.”

“Alcohol is worse.”

All common arguments that we could try to dispute…but don’t need to…because none of them are even relevant. In fact, only one thing matters: the developing brain.

Bottom line: Most experts agree that marijuana use disrupts brain development.

How long is the brain developing, you ask?

For guys? Until your mid-20s. So for a teenager, now is not the time to be marinating your noggin in psychoactive ingredients!

So forget for a moment any argument about legalization, medicinal uses or the fact that Post Malone uses it…and consider just one risk factor. When young people use marijuana it messes with your brain, affecting memory, problem-solving skills, learning and attention (which means we should probably end the list here or they’ll tune out). This results in impaired driving, poor academic performance, higher dropout rates, increased welfare dependence, greater unemployment and yes…even “lower life satisfaction” (and that’s not even bringing up the recent studies connecting marijuana use to the risk of mental illness or the increased probability to move on to other harmful drugs like opiates).

That’s quite a list!

No other arguments are even relevant.

Here’s how I address it in my chapter titled, “Safe” in my new book, The Guy’s Guide to FOUR BATTLES Every Young Man Must Face:

I’m not even going to argue whether it’s safe for everybody (I could raise that question…but I won’t). Instead I’m going to ask a different question:

Secular Writer Highlights the Error of the Prosperity Gospel

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A secular writer has taken on a question many in the church world have been trying to answer for a while now. Writing for the Financial Times, Edward Luce tackles the continued appeal of the prosperity gospel, what its teachers (like Joel Osteen) believe, and how it’s so far off from orthodox Christianity. Dr. Albert Mohler feels Luce’s article, “A preacher for Trump’s America: Joel Osteen and the prosperity gospel,” hits the nail on the head.

“The secular reporter for the Financial Times seems to have a stronger grasp on the teachings of orthodox Christianity than Osteen,” said Dr. Mohler, who is the president of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.

What Does Joel Osteen Believe?

Osteen’s critics often accuse him of preaching the prosperity gospel, which could be described as “a pragmatic spirituality that correlates circumstantial blessings or curses with human strength, achievement or even faith.” Put another way, “God wants believers to be physically healthy, materially wealthy and personally happy.” By focusing on comfort and happiness, prosperity gospel preachers minimize the Christian concepts of sin, eternal judgment and suffering.

Luce says that about 20 percent of Americans attend a church that teaches the prosperity gospel, and this way of thinking was something he definitely encountered while attending a night class called “Quest for Authentic Manhood” at Lakewood, Osteen’s church in Houston, Texas. The leader of the men’s group told Luce, “If you want to feel bad, Lakewood is not the place for you. Most people want to leave church feeling better than when they went in.” More than one of the group’s attendees had a story about how once they started tithing money to Lakewood, God blessed them financially. One of the men said, “God works fast when you work for him.”

Luce also interviewed Osteen at one of his “Nights of Hope,” a “two-and-a-half-hour, all-singing-and-dancing show that he takes on the road every few weeks.” When Luce asked him why he didn’t talk about sin and redemption, Osteen responded, “Look, I am a preacher’s son so I’m an optimist. Life already makes us feel guilty every day. If you keep laying shame on people, they get turned off.” Luce’s assessment? Osteen is closer to Oprah than to Billy Graham.

Why Do People Buy Into the Prosperity Gospel?

One reason why Osteen’s message is appealing is that he and his church are extremely wealthy. As one of the men in the men’s group said, “We don’t want to follow a loser.” Another is that people are looking for hope in their lives, and the prosperity gospel offers the promise that life can be better. Lakewood has actually helped some people better their lives, such as one of the men in the group who turned his life around, stopping his self-destructive habits and saving his relationship.

According to This Version of the Bible, Slavery Is Justifiable

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An exhibit at the Museum of the Bible in Washington, D.C., shows how Scripture—or rather, certain portions of it—once were used to justify slavery and prevent uprisings among captives.

One of three known copies of the so-called Slave Bible, a heavily abridged collection of Scripture, is on display in collaboration with the Smithsonian’s National Museum of African American History and Culture and Fisk University, a historically black school in Nashville.

The Slave Bible deletes about 90 percent of the Old Testament and half of the New, reducing Scripture to just 282 chapters. Key omissions include the entire books of Jeremiah, Psalms and Revelation, as well as the account of the exodus from Egypt and verses such as Galatians 3:28 (“There is neither…slave nor free”). The Ten Commandments remain, as does Ephesians 6:5, which instructs slaves to obey their earthly masters.

The Slave Bible Was Used in Mission Work

This historical artifact dates back to 1807, when a London-based organization called the Society for the Conversion of Negro Slaves published it for use in Britain’s Caribbean colonies. Ironically, missionaries at that time tended to be abolitionists, says Anthony Schmidt, a curator at the Museum of the Bible. But this exhibit “kind of shatters our ideas of these abolitionists being so progressive,” he says.

Missionaries believed the abridged Scriptures “would improve the lives of enslaved Africans both materially and spiritually,” says Schmidt. Although missionaries used the Slave Bible to justify the system of captivity, he adds, they also used it to teach slaves how to read.

Fisk likely obtained its copy in 1873, when its famous choir traveled to Great Britain to sing spirituals for Queen Victoria. The other two known copies are housed at British universities.

Museum curatorial director Seth Pollinger says this artifact has generated the most interest by visitors so far. “It’s an opportunity to contribute to important discussion today about the Bible’s role in relationship to human enslavement,” he says. “We know that that connects to contemporary issues like racism as well as human bondage.”

Exhibit Will ‘disturb people’ 

Holly Hamby, an associate professor at Fisk, uses a digitized version of the Slave Bible for a class on the Bible as literature. Her students, many of whom descend from slaves, have a “pretty emotional” reaction to the book, she says. “It’s very disruptive to their belief system.”

The museum exhibit features a video of Fisk students discussing questions about the Slave Bible, such as, “Do you think that this Bible is still the good book?” Hamby’s answer to that is, “I still believe in the Bible on the whole but not this version of it.”

Conferences and panel discussions are in the works for the exhibit, which coincides with the upcoming 400th anniversary of the arrival of the first African slaves to Jamestown, Virginia.

The exhibit features this quote from Brad Braxton of the National Museum of African American History and Culture: “This religious relic compels us to grapple with a timeless question: In our interpretations of the Bible, is the end result domination or liberation?”

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