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Don’t Miss the Entrepreneurial Lessons That Only a Small Church Can Teach

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Small companies are fueled by passion, innovation and risk-taking. A Small church should be, too.

As companies get bigger, passion is often replaced by profits, innovation by budgets, and creativity by quality control. Big companies tend to take fewer risks because they have too much to lose.

Unfortunately, small churches don’t have the same reputation that small businesses have. Instead of being a nexus of passion, innovation and risk-taking, we try to behave more like we’re big companies—or big churches. But without the resources.

When we should be at our most innovative, creative and risk-taking, we tend to play it safe.

Safe is boring. Safe is static. Safe…isn’t.

The Opportunities of Smallness

If you are pastoring a small church, I want to encourage and challenge you with one simple plea: Don’t spend so much time trying to become big that you miss what you can only learn when you’re small.

Instead of seeing our size as a problem, small churches need to see their size as the opportunity it is.

Whether a start-up church, a niche church or a shrinking congregation, we need to take advantage of our small size, not fight against it.

Emphasize relationships over systems, passion over process and creativity over consistency.

How Big and Small Are Different

For instance, when you’re on staff at a big church, it’s easy to fool yourself into thinking that paying for a new program means writing out a check request form. Or that recruiting volunteers is as easy as putting out a signup sheet.

When you minister in a small church, you get to learn other lessons.

If you want to launch a new program you learn how to raise the funds yourself. And because you have to do that, you become better at doing it—a skill that will serve you well in any church of any size.

What You Need to Know About Interpreting Prophetic Scripture

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What you should know about prophetic scripture.

“Do not move an ancient boundary stone set up by your ancestors” (Prov. 22:28).

On February 13, 1975, Carl Baker and I were on a trip to a youth rally. A guardrail saved our lives. It wasn’t a steel guardrail on that treacherous road where our car hit ice. Instead, God provided a nice soft snow guardrail, and we are here to tell the story because of it.

Guardrails are placed on the road to keep us from unsafe areas. They are positioned as a boundary. They offer protection, but cannot always stop a speeding car, and then, the inevitable disaster happens.

There are also ancient guardrails! The borders of biblical truth must not be violated. The all-knowing God uses prophetic Scriptures as warnings and as opportunities to be a guardrail.

Every Christian should be equipped with the knowledge of prophetic Scriptures, and we need the guardians of the faith to pass along this knowledge.

Guardrail Protection #1: Prophecy reveals the all-knowing God.

If we make prophecy anything other than the revealing of God’s omniscient power, we are guilty of misrepresenting God. No church, person or religious organization invented prophecy.

Guardrail Protection #2: Prophetic Scripture can have multiple time periods and may have a split fulfillment.

Isaiah 9:6 says, “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on His shoulders. And He will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” In this verse, we see two prophecies and timelines. The first period is detailing Jesus’ birth. The second applies to his reign from David’s throne.

Guardrail Protection #3: Scriptures directed to an unsaved Israel prophetically don’t apply to a saved church.

Specific Scriptures are warnings or insights for Israel’s future. The Christian church is not God’s plan B for the world. God has never given up on Israel and will redeem it. He also has a unique plan for the church, too. This becomes more evident as we understand the prophetic role of Israel.

Guardrail Protection #4: Look for patterns or typology within Scripture.

Throughout the Bible, there are prototypes or patterns of things to come. They give the structure of an unfolding event. For example, according to the writer of Hebrews, Jesus is considered a priest in the order of Melchizedek because, like Melchizedek, Jesus was not a descendant of Aaron and, thus, would not qualify for the Jewish priesthood under the Law of Moses.

Pastor of Church Who Lost Children in Fiery Crash Speaks

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According to CBS 4 News, a church in Gainesville, Florida, is paying for the burial plots of five children who were killed in a crash last Thursday afternoon. 

“I cried so much this morning that my tears felt like lava running out a volcano,” said Eric Descant, pastor of the church the victims attended. 

The church made the announcement about the burial plots during a memorial service it held for the victims. “Our church has decided that we want to buy the burial plot of all five of the children. So we are going to be doing that. If you want to get on board with that you are welcome to,” said Jimmy Toney, pastor of the Pentecostals of Gainesville.

The Pentecostals of Gainesville held the memorial on the evening of Sunday, January 6. Called a “Night of Hope and Healing,” about 300 people attendedOne member told a Jacksonville news station, “(We’re here) to support the church and what they’re doing for all the people who were injured and killed… It’s just so horrific.”

Another told CBS 4 News, “There’s no way that we can put into words the measure of sorrow that anybody could feel at a time like this, so the strength that we gain from one another just can’t be measured and I think it is a very important thing that we join together.”

Tragic Afternoon

The accident occurred when a semi truck collided with another vehicle while traveling northbound on I-75. They then crashed through the guardrail into the southbound lanes and hit another semi truck as well as a church van, which contained the children who died.

The semi trucks spilled around 50 gallons of diesel fuel, which caught on fire and exploded. A fifth vehicle was unable to avoid the crash and drove through the debris, possibly hitting some of the victims who had been ejected.

Four other children and three adult women were also in the church van. The group was from the Avoyelles House of Mercy (AHM) in Marksville, Louisiana, and was headed to Disney World in Orlando, Florida.

The drivers of the two semi trucks were among the fatalities, and at least eight people who survived were injured, including Karen Descant, Pastor Descant’s wife. One of the children who died in the accident was the pastor’s granddaughter.

In addition to holding the service and purchasing burial plots for the deceased children, the members of the Pentecostals of Gainesville are providing for other needs. The church has provided food and hotel rooms for the victims’ families and even purchased a plane ticket so that a boy injured in the crash could travel back to Louisiana. During the memorial service, Pastor Descant thanked the church members for all they had done, including praying for the victims, saying, “You made sure we were taken care of.”

Despite the tragedy that he and his church family have suffered, the pastor declared his belief in the goodness of God, noting that he is only able to persist in this belief because of God: “I couldn’t stand here tonight if it were not for the Holy Ghost. I couldn’t. But God is faithful, and He’s worthy to be praised.”

Not Even Bombs Could Thwart the Opening of the Middle East’s Largest Church

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The largest church in the Middle East was inaugurated amid tight security Sunday, on what was Christmas Eve for Coptic Christians. In a symbolic gesture, one of the region’s largest mosques was inaugurated the same day, with Egypt’s president calling for unity.

The Cathedral of the Nativity, located in what will be Egypt’s new administrative capital, can hold about 8,000 worshipers. The church celebrated its first Mass one day after a police officer died while defusing a bomb on a nearby rooftop. Three other people, including two officers, were injured, though the church sustained no major damage.

Coptic Christians Face Ongoing Persecution

The Coptic Orthodox Church, which traces its history to the Apostle Mark’s visit to Egypt about AD 50, is the country’s main group of Christians, comprising 10 percent of the population. Coptic Christians have been targeted by Islamic extremists and were nominated for the 2018 Nobel Peace Prize for refusing to fight back.

Egyptian President Abdul Fattah el-Sisi has defended Christians and their right to worship safely. Addressing worshipers at the cathedral’s opening, he said, “We are one, and we will remain one,” referencing the country’s Christians and Muslims. “This is a historic and important moment,” el-Sisi said, “but we still have to protect the tree of love we planted here together today, because seditions never end.”

El-Sisi’s campaign to end sectarianism and violence isn’t having the desired results, especially in rural Egypt. Christians there face frequent attacks and discrimination by local officials, according to activists. During the past two years, ISIS has claimed responsibility for attacks that have killed at least 100 Christians in Egypt.

On Sunday, U.S. President Donald Trump tweeted, “Excited to see our friends in Egypt opening the biggest Cathedral in the Middle East. President El-Sisi is moving his country to a more inclusive future!”

The Cathedral’s Opening Emphasized Inclusivity and Peace

In addition to el-Sisi, guests at Sunday’s ceremony included Palestinian leader Mahmoud Abbas and other Arab dignitaries. A recorded video message was played from Pope Francis, who prayed that Jesus, the Prince of Peace, would give “Egypt, the Middle East and the whole world the gift of peace and prosperity.” Pope Francis added that the Coptic Pope, Tawadros II, and the entire Coptic Church are giving “a true testimony of faith and love even in the most difficult moments.”

The opening Mass at the Cathedral of the Nativity included a moment of silence for Mustafa Abid, the police officer who was killed in Saturday’s explosion. It also featured entertainers, singers and a fireworks display. One presenter called the simultaneous opening of the cathedral and the mosque “a message to the whole world that Egypt is a nation for all.”

Later that day, President el-Sisi inaugurated the Al-Fattah Al-Aleem mosque, which can hold 16,000 worshipers.

Armed guards, security checks and metal detectors are common at Egypt’s churches. Critics say the government offers inadequate protection for the vulnerable Christian population.

Unlikely Champions of the Bible

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When people write their autobiographies, you can always be sure they will leave out most of their shortcomings. Then you might see an unauthorized biography being published about the same person, and you think, “This will be juicy.” You want to know the untold story. The Bible is honest. It gives us its heroes, warts and all. That is not to discourage us but to give us hope that God can use people just like you and me.

As we’ve seen in the Bible, God takes someone who is flawed and dusty and beat up and says, “I’m going to do something wonderful through his life so I can be glorified as a result.”

Consider the 12 men whom Jesus chose to be his disciples. The Bible tells us their greatness came as a result of God’s hand on their lives. This was an eclectic group of guys, to say the least. They ranged from tax collectors to zealots to fishermen. Matthew collected taxes for Rome. He was considered a traitor, a turncoat to the cause of Judaism. Then there was Simon, who was called “the Zealot,” which meant that he was committed and dedicated to the violent overthrow of Rome.

Jesus took one guy who hated Rome and another guy who worked for Rome, threw in a few fishermen for good measure, and basically said, “I want all you guys to get along.”

Simon Peter was the kind of guy who often spoke before he thought. He had a terminal case of foot-in-mouth disease. I especially appreciate the stories of Peter, because he was so utterly human. So many times when I read of the things he said or did, I think, “That is exactly what I would have said. That is exactly what I would have done.”

Peter was someone who would tell you what he thought about you. He was the kind of guy who would act on a whim. He was impulsive. Let’s go fishing… Let’s do this… I don’t like that… He would speak his mind quickly. He wasn’t afraid to ask a question if he didn’t understand.

Then there was Peter’s brother, Andrew. One of the first things we know about Andrew is that he went and found Peter and brought him to Jesus. Andrew seemed to be a humble man. Throughout his ministry, he was known as Peter’s brother. Though he was part of the inner circle, he always was in the shadow of Peter, James and John.

Andrew is a model for all Christians who labor quietly where God has called them. We may not even know their names, but they are known by and greatly loved by the Lord.

When I think of people whom God used to accomplish great things, I’m reminded of how God often used unknown people to initially reach them.

D.L. Moody, one of the greatest preachers in the history of the church, was brought to Christ by a man named Edward Kimball. Kimball was just an ordinary guy who loved the Lord. He was a Sunday school teacher in his church. He worked at a shoe store along with a young man named Dwight. God had put a burden on his heart to share the gospel with Dwight, but he put it off and fought it for a while. Finally Kimball mustered up the courage, went to Dwight, and told him about Jesus. Dwight became a Christian, and not long after that, he committed himself to preaching.

There is no church or institute named after Edward Kimball. But he reached D.L. Moody. You might not be a D.L. Moody, but you might be an Edward Kimball. We need people who are willing to labor in obscurity like Edward Kimball and Andrew, bringing others to Jesus. God can use you to do that.

Then there were James and John, disciples whom the Bible usually mentions with Peter. Perhaps the reason the Lord singled them out from the others was not because they were a little holier than everyone else, but because they needed a little more attention than the rest. James and John were, after all, nicknamed “the sons of thunder.”

On one occasion when the Samaritans were not hospitable toward Jesus, James and John thought it might be a good idea to call down fire down from heaven and toast them all. But Jesus turned to them and said, “You do not know what manner of spirit you are of. For the Son of Man did not come to destroy men’s lives but to save them” (Luke 9:55–56 NKJV). Jesus didn’t leave James and John the way they were. John became known as a disciple of love, talking about love again and again in his epistles.

Another of the Twelve was Thomas. In contrast to Peter’s impetuous and impulsive ways, Thomas was a steady-as-she-goes man. Peter would have sailed his boat across the Sea of Galilee while Thomas was still deciding if the weather was suitable or not. They were polar opposites.

Thomas has been mischaracterized as a doubter, but I have always thought of him as more of a skeptic. A doubter really doesn’t want to know the truth. Doubters hide behind excuses they call reasons. A skeptic, on the other hand, will be open to the truth. When presented with the evidence, skeptics will change. Thomas was such a man.

I think we need more skeptics in the church today. I think we have too many people who are willing to believe anyone or anything. The Bible warns that there are false teachers out there to mislead us. Apply a little skepticism and be careful.

Maybe you’re a skeptic like Thomas, or harsh like James and John. Maybe you’re outspoken like Simon Peter. You’re saying, “I could never be used by God.”

God uses us all. We all have a place. We all have a work to do.

This article originally appeared here.

Prostitutes, Mistresses and the Messiah: Seven Great Women of Ill Repute

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A strange thread runs through the most prominent women associated with Jesus: They are all women of, shall we say, ill repute. Most of their notorious reputations spring from sexual scandals. What does this say about Christ? An awful lot.

If your habit is to skip over the genealogies in the first chapter of Matthew’s Gospel, you may have missed a treasure buried in this list of 40 fathers who comprise Jesus’ ancestry (if we count Joseph), stretching as far back as Abraham. The hidden treasure is the five women: Tamar, Rahab, Ruth, Bathsheba and Jesus’s mother, Mary. Why are they listed? And what makes them as valuable as any man mentioned? That’s precisely what Matthew wants us to ask.

Five Women of Ill Repute

First, Tamar (Matthew 1:3). Tamar is the sort of ancestor most of us wouldn’t mention when recounting our family history. Do you remember her story (Genesis 38)? She entered the messianic bloodline by disguising herself as a prostitute and seducing her father-in-law, Judah. The scene and story are complicated. Given the cultural mores of the time, she acted more righteously than he did, since he had treated her unjustly and she had little recourse. Still, there’s no denying how horrible a mess it was.

Second comes Rahab (Matthew 1:5). She didn’t need a disguise. She was a prostitute (or at least had been prior to her marriage). She was also a Gentile. And not just a Gentile, a Canaanite and a resident of Jericho, the first city Joshua set his sights on in the Promised Land. So, how did Rahab manage to become Jesus’ great, great, great, great—add another 24 greats—grandmother? She hid Jewish military spies and helped them escape, so Joshua spared her and her family (see Joshua 2 and 6). Once she was folded into Israel, Rahab married Salmon, which resulted in the genealogical appearance of…

Ruth, the third woman in our list (Matthew 1:5). She wasn’t personally embroiled in sexual scandal, but she came from a people that was. Ruth was a Moabite, a nation which had sprung from the incest between Lot and his oldest daughter (Genesis 19:30–38). Ruth’s people were polytheistic pagans, occasionally offering human sacrifices to idol-gods like Chemosh. Through personal tragedy and great loyalty, she wound up at Bethlehem and in the (lawful) arms of Boaz and also joined Jesus’ family tree. How did that happen, given that Jews were forbidden to marry Moabites (Ezra 9:10–12)? You have to read Ruth—an entire book of sacred Jewish Scripture named after this Moabitess! But catch this: Matthew records Boaz as the son of Rahab and Salmon. If that’s true (ancient genealogies sometimes skip generations), imagine how Rahab might have prepared young Boaz to see in a foreign woman a wild branch God wished to graft into the Jewish olive tree.

The fourth woman is “the wife of Uriah” (Matthew 1:6). We know her as Bathsheba, the woman Israel’s greatest king couldn’t—or better, wouldn’t—keep his hands off of. The account in 2 Samuel 11 doesn’t tell us Bathsheba’s side of this adulterous story. But given the fact that David wielded nearly absolute power as king, this was multilevel abuse, plain and simple. But its result was anything but simple. This single immoral “meal” (Hebrews 12:16) produced a cascading sequence of tragic events. Bathsheba became pregnant. Her husband was murdered in a major cover-up. David brought upon himself, and his entire household, a curse that resulted in horrifying suffering for many, particularly Bathsheba (see 2 Samuel 12). And yet there she is, foregrounded in Jesus’ background.

Last on the list, but certainly not least, is Mary, the mother of Jesus (Matthew 1:16). She became pregnant with Jesus before her wedding. The child’s father was not her betrothed, Joseph. The shadow of this “illegitimate” pregnancy would have lingered over her reputation (and her son’s) for their entire earthly lives.

Jesus’ First Women

Two more women figure prominently in Jesus’s life and are worth mentioning here. Both their reputations made them, in human wisdom, unlikely people to experience two astonishing firsts of Jesus.

In John 4, Jesus encounters a Samaritan woman from Sychar at midday at Jacob’s well (John 4:6). Like Rahab and Ruth (and perhaps Tamar), this woman was not Jewish. And like Tamar, Rahab and Bathsheba, this woman had known numerous men—five husbands and at least one uncovenanted “significant other” (John 4:17–18). And yet in John’s Gospel, this woman is the first person to whom Jesus explicitly discloses himself as the Messiah (John 4:25–26). The first person: this woman.

And then there’s Mary Magdalene. The Bible tells us little about Mary other than that she had seven demons cast out of her (Luke 8:1–3), was present at Jesus’ crucifixion (John 19:25), saw where Jesus was buried (Mark 15:47), and saw the resurrected Jesus (Matthew 28:1–10). History, however, has tended to remember Mary as a woman with a sordid sexual past. We’re not sure why. Perhaps it’s because she (likely) came from the disreputable town of Magdala. Or maybe those strange early Christian apocryphal writings are to blame. Or maybe Mary really did have a past (which is where I lean). It seems reasonable that a vague, lingering remnant of what was once her public shame clings to her reputation to highlight her Savior’s grace.

What is so astonishing about Mary Magdalene is that she was the first person Jesus appeared to after being raised from the dead (John 20:11–18). The first person! Jesus did not appear first to his mother, nor to Peter, but to a formerly immoral, formerly demonized woman.

How God Gives You His Vision for Your Church

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You hear ministry leaders talk all the time about what a church needs to grow. Some say it’s preaching. Some say you need a great location. Others suggest you need a vibrant ministry to children or youth.

All of those aspects are important for a healthy, growing church. But I don’t think they are what’s most important.

You start with leadership. Everything rises and falls on leadership. I see churches in great locations that struggle because of bad leadership. I see churches with great preaching struggle because of poor leadership. Leadership matters.

And leadership rests on vision.

Charisma doesn’t make a great leader. Vision does. In fact, communicating vision is your number one job as a leader. As a pastor, you need to continually clarify the vision of your church. It gets harder and harder (but more and more important) as you grow.

But where do you get vision that will propel your church forward in the new year?

You have to get vision from the Holy Spirit. God’s vision never wears out. His vision will never fail. His vision is better and grander than anything we can think up. And his vision is exactly what our churches need.

How does God communicate his vision to us? I’ve discovered through the years that God tends to share his vision with me in three stages.

1. God tells me what he’s going to do.

God starts by telling me what he wants to do through our ministry. The “what” always comes before the “how” and the “when.”

To figure out what God wants you to do, start with what God says in the Bible about what the church is supposed to do. Your church isn’t your church. It’s Jesus’ church. He founded the church, died for the church, sent his Spirit to guide the church, and someday will return for his church. He has already declared what the church is supposed to do. The purposes of the church are non-negotiable.

So start with the purposes of the church that God defines in the Bible. And then ask God to tell you how he wants to apply those purposes to your church.

2. God tells me how he’s going to do it.

Too often leaders skip this step. When God gives them a vision, they move on quickly to how they’re going to do it. They come up with their own strategy and their own plans. Then they fall on their face and come crawling back to him.

3. God tells me when he’ll complete it.

The longer I’m a Christian, the more I’m convinced that God’s timing is absolutely perfect. The week before Easter of 1980, during our final preview service at Saddleback before launching the next week, I shared what God had showed me about the church’s future.

In that message, I shared a dream of “at least 50 acres of land, on which will be built a regional church for Southern Orange County—with beautiful, yet simple, facilities…including a worship center seating thousands, a counseling and prayer center, classrooms for Bible studies and training lay ministers, and a recreation area. All of this will be designed to minister to the total person—spiritually, emotionally, physically and socially—and set in a peaceful, inspiring garden landscape.”

But when I shared that vision, I had no idea how or when it would happen. I certainly had no idea it would take nearly 13 years before Saddleback had land of its own. In fact, we were the first church in America to grow to more than 10,000 in weekly attendance without a building of its own. That wasn’t my timing, but it was God’s.

Nearly all of the pastors I’ve known who lead healthy churches have gone through seasons of burnout when they’ve had to learn that their vision for the church was from the Holy Spirit, not their own ego. I came to that point at the end of my first year at Saddleback. My vision for the second year of this church was simple: Hang on. I was out of big dreams. I just wanted to keep going.

I had two particularly haunting doubts during that time. Saddleback was growing fast, and I didn’t believe I deserved it—and I didn’t think I could handle it.

The truth is, God had a few important lessons for me to learn. Out of that period, God told me, “You’re right. You don’t deserve it. But I use you by grace.” Grace is the fact that God knows everything I’m going to do in the ministry, every mistake I’m going to make, but he still uses me anyway. That’s good news.

Out of that experience came confidence rooted in the realization that everything God does at Saddleback is an act of grace. It’s not my responsibility to build the church. It’s my responsibility to be faithful. While I was out there in the desert, God said, “You build the people, and I’ll build the church.”

So whatever vision God gives you for your ministry, hold it loosely. For nearly 40 years, I’ve prayed over and over again, “God, if I’m getting in the way of this church, I’m willing to move.” The vision for Saddleback has never been mine. In the same way, the vision for your church belongs to God.

This article originally appeared here.

No, Your Synthesizer Is Not the Holy Spirit

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In recent decades, ambient sounds have become omnipresent in church gatherings. Meetings start with a synth swell and every song after that is connected to the next with musical glue. Synth pads play softly behind prayer, Scripture readings, song intros, communion and, in some cases, the preaching. If you don’t have someone who can produce the necessary sounds, no worries. “Worship pads” in every key are available for purchase to smooth out the transitions.

Which raises the question: What’s going on?

Music and God’s Presence

We often see a connection between music and the Holy Spirit’s activity in Scripture. Long before he was king, a young David comforted Saul as he played his lyre (1 Sam. 16:23). The prophets of the Old Testament were regularly accompanied by musical instruments (1 Sam. 10:5; 1 Chron. 25:1). The walls of Jericho fell flat at the sound of trumpets and shouting (Josh. 6:20). In the New Testament, we’re told that being filled with or by the Holy Spirit results in singing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs (Eph. 5:18-21).

That partly helps explain why people often sense God’s presence in a greater way in the midst of congregational singing. The sound of Spirit-enabled believers, lifting up their voices to proclaim the greatness of God and the glory of Jesus Christ, makes us more aware of God’s goodness, majesty and nearness.

But while music and the Holy Spirit’s presence can be related, they’re not the same thing. That’s why David’s lyre comforted Saul at one point and on another occasion led him to try to pin David to the wall with his spear (1 Sam. 18:10-11).

Useful vs. Necessary

Music is a means. God is the source. God often uses physical means to do his work. But when we start to view a means of grace as a “need” for worship, it can subtly take on the characteristics of a mediator (1 Tim. 2:5). We think certain musical sounds enable us to experience God’s presence. Like the time a leader told me the synth melody I was playing “had healing in it.” Not sure how he reached that conclusion.

Wayne Grudem says one of the Holy Spirit’s “primary purposes in the new covenant age is to manifest the presence of God, to give indications that make the presence of God known” (Systematic Theology, pg. 641). God might use music as a setting to manifest his presence, but music isn’t required. There is a difference between music being something God uses and something he needs. More often, the Spirit reveals God’s presence through preaching and various spiritual gifts, not simply playing music (1 Cor. 2:3-5; 1 Cor. 12:4-7).

7 Ways to Respond to Difficult People

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If you are not active in the local church (which is a small part of my blog readership), please allow me to apologize in advance for this post about responding to difficult people. It’s really written to those inside the church—especially pastors. Please know it’s not at all representative of everyone in the church. In fact, it’s usually a very small minority of people. Thankfully.

That disclaimer out of the way, one of the more frustrating things about being a pastor is people who are difficult to deal with, usually because they are negative about everything. Thankfully, I deal with this less often the longer I am with the church.

When I was in church planting our complaints usually came from outside our church. Other churches didn’t like our methods or what they assumed we were doing. (They were usually not correct in many of their assumptions.) In the established church, difficulty in dealing with people comes from inside the church. Again, thankfully, often from a few people.

Either way, dealing with difficult people has been a huge part of my work. I talk with pastors every week who tell me they have large groups of people who are always negative about something they are doing. One guy told me recently his job has been threatened every week for the eight months he’s been pastor.

I have learned when change comes the complainers will rise—often among the most seemingly “religious” of people. And when these type people talk their negative energy spreads fast.

Of course, there are also people who are difficult even when nothing is changing.

How do we, as pastors, respond to difficult people in the church?

As Jesus taught His disciples how to build the church, a chief command was to love people no one else loved. Since they were to love even their enemies, this included loving people when they were not very lovely. Even people who are always difficult. (That’s a hard command sometimes, isn’t it?)

I have tried to lead a church with this philosophy. Along the way I have discovered what Jesus experienced in working with religious leaders in His day.

With this in mind, what do you do with constantly difficult people—some who even remain negative toward the mission God has called you to?

Here are seven ways to respond to difficult people:

Filter negative talk. Ask yourself if what they are saying lines up with truth. Is it true? If not, dismiss it quickly, so it won’t begin to control you. When you own falsehood about yourself or the church, you validate the person offering it. And, you fuel them for further negativity about you or the church. Ultimately, you are looking for truth, not one person’s opinion on truth.

Learn when necessary. We should not refuse to listen to criticism. There is an element of truth in most criticism, even among things you need to ultimately dismiss. Let’s not be arrogant. We should always be humble and teachable.

Surround yourself with some encouraging people. It’s true there are people who are difficult about everything. They would never encourage anyone. That’s the reality of working with people. But, there are also people who are positive about most things. They have great attitudes. They are supportive encouragers. I have found these people to be true Jesus-lovers. Every Christian leader needs to find a core of people who can encourage them in their walk with Christ, believes in their leadership ability, and who genuinely cares about their (and their family’s) best interest.

Remember difficult people are difficult to others too. It often helps me reconcile what a difficult person says about me when I realize they are always spreading their negativity somewhere. I’m not trying to be cruel, but it’s often more about who they are than who I am. If it were not me being criticized, it would be their next victim. Do not give as much weight to the voice of the consistently negative person. Sometimes we tend to give them the most attention.

The only way you will ever shut down the person who is always difficult is to refuse to give them an audience for their negativity. The more they are given a continued voice the more they bring other people into their negativity. If the same attention is placed on people who are a positive influence then they will bring people along into positivity.

Student Bible Reading: How to Get Students to Actually Read Their Bibles!

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Student Bible Reading: How to Get Students to Actually Read Their Bibles!

Like most youth workers, I’m always looking for ways to encourage my students to get into reading Scripture. (If you’ve read my work for a while, you already know that I don’t tell them to read their Bibles every day.) So when I fell into a crazy, simple and powerful idea about student Bible reading, I knew I had to give it a shot.

The craziest part? It kind of worked. I also knew I had to share it with you, so let’s get started with this:

Is it possible that different parts of the Bible were meant to be read in different ways? (I think yes.)

Here’s what I mean. Obviously, the individual Psalms sort of stand alone. If you wanted, you could read one Psalm—one chapter—at a time and take home the meaning each intended.

But what about the rest of the Bible? Is reading the Bible in daily chapter-sized chunks really the best way to fully engage with its stories?

The epic story of the Exodus reads like the script to a blockbuster film. You don’t watch movies like that in 10-minute chunks.

The book of Jonah reads like a short story or novella. You don’t read those in multiple sittings spread out across the course of days.

And my favorite example? What about the letters of Paul? They’re letters, and they’re written like letters.

Who are the people who receive a letter from a loved one and then read it a paragraph at a time for a week? Yet, that’s how students are trained—purposefully or not—to read the book of Philippians.

Is it possible that students would comprehend Philippians better if they read it like a letter instead of a bunch of randomly chunked sentences?

We tried it and the verdict was a pretty unanimous yes.

So, if you gave me the choice of asking a student to read a chapter of Philippians every day for four days or reading Philippians in its entirety in one sitting and then not opening their Bible for three more days?

I’d choose the second one.

(It would be better still if they’d read the letter in its entirety every day for four days.)

WHY “CHUNKING” THE BIBLE CAN MAKE IT MORE DIFFICULT TO COMPREHEND

The biggest reason students don’t read their Bibles as much as we’d like isn’t because they are too busy or because they don’t take their faith seriously.

It’s because after three or four days of reading something that they do not understand, they get frustrated and give up.

Go ahead. Turn to a random chapter in Leviticus or Revelation or Acts and read it. By itself, without context and without the gift of your prior knowledge, it probably wouldn’t make any sense.

If someone decided to start reading Harry Potter in the third chapter of the fourth book, that would be a curious decision, yet that’s how many of our students experience Scripture.

There are stories and arcs in the Bible that necessarily build off of one another. You and I are armed with the experience and knowledge to understand where a particular chapter is coming from and where it’s going. In that context, it makes sense.

Most of our students don’t have that context yet.

WHY “CHUNKING” SCRIPTURE CAN MAKE IT LOSE ITS MEANING

Our students have been indoctrinated by sermons and devotional books that largely unpack the meaning of a verse or a handful of verses. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course. I do it too.

But when students get used to exclusively unpacking the meaning of individual verses, they miss something else that’s just as important. They miss the meaning of the larger story.

A DIFFERENT WAY FOR STUDENTS TO READ SCRIPTURE

Feel free to challenge students to read a Psalm a day. Even if they miss a few days a month, they should be able to do that twice a year. But when it comes time to read the actual stories of the Bible or the letters of the New Testament, I’d encourage you to try something new and different. Ask them to read larger chunks of the Bible in one sitting.

Many of my students would tell you that it’s easier to find one 20-minute block to read through the book of James than it is to find five six-minute windows when they can give their full attention.

It’s also probably a more effective way to increase a teenager’s understanding and comprehension.

At the very least, it’s worth a shot.

Is this something you’re going to try? Leave a comment and let me know.  How to Get Students to Actually Read Their Bibles!

Church Predator Abuse: We Need To Keep Kids Safe!

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You don’t have to search hard to realize how dangerous our world can be at times. Go to your favorite news site, and you’ll see headline after headline where a predator has gone undetected or slipped through the cracks, and as a result, another victim was added to the statistics. A quick Google search for Church Predator Abuse returns 8,600,000 results in 0.57 seconds! It’s sick, and it’s sad, but it’s a reality. We need to keep kids safe in 2019.

Consequences of abuse:

Victims of child abuse often struggle with the emotional and spiritual effects of this sin for the rest of their lives. Sadly, child abuse victims are themselves at higher risk of inflicting the abuse on other children. Allegations of abuse can also tarnish, sometimes irretrievably, a church’s ministry. Instead of being able to discuss the gospel, leadership must spend their time explaining to the media, to the courts, and to visitors why they weren’t able to prevent the abuse. Also, of course, the financial impact can be devastating as well. Some churches have faced verdicts of up to $100 million for child abuse committed by those whom they were charged with supervising. Any church or ministry that sends an individual to serve in ministry (even those that serve without pay) may be held responsible for the actions of that individual.

The pain and damage from this are far-reaching. The shame and guilt can be crushing. A world like this demands that you ensure your ministry is not seen as a soft-target to would be predators. One of the strongest predictors of future criminal behavior is a person’s criminal history. Background checks are your window into the past and a vital element in a healthy church risk-management program.

What is a background check?

A background check is a “records” screening of an individual which can be as little as a one-county check or as in-depth as a Security clearance investigation. Public and private records can be searched once applicant consent is given. The industry standard for turn-around time on a background check is 72 hours; however, some providers have same-day to 48-hour turn-around times.

Why do background checks?

A ministry that serves children and youth must exercise “due diligence” with regards to protecting its members, especially the children. By performing background checks on your volunteers, your ministry is putting up a safeguard at the “doorway” of the organization that will, in most cases, scare off sexual predators. You’ll also offer better peace of mind to discerning parents when choosing a church, by knowing your ministry is being proactive in trying to protect the children and that you do not tolerate, or turn a blind eye to abuse.

What criteria should your ministry require for a background check?

Multiple databases are searched to provide background information, however, they are not equally maintained and accessed by each state. This makes universal criteria hard to enforce. For that reason, it’s critical that you partner with a credible background screening company. At the very minimum, the background check should cover Social Security Number Verification, National Criminal Search, Sex Offender Registries Search and offer “re-verification” of records from the national criminal database and also do a “true” 50 state search on sexual offenders.

Choosing a trusted background check provider

Your background check provider should become an extension of your ministry and help to evaluate needs and implement and maintain a thorough background-screening program for employees and volunteers. Look for background check providers that offer different packages. Also, choose a provider that helps you with selecting the proper searches with recommendations based on the quality of data available in each state and industry best practices. Some simplify this process through an intuitive online consultation.

Before sending national background results to their clients, background check providers should verify the accuracy of the information by thoroughly reviewing every positive record “hit” returned from the national criminal & sex offender database. Then ensure those records are “frozen” for further investigation at the county courthouse before being returned and included in a final report. Doing this will prevent you from getting “false positives,” which can happen when doing national database searches. From there further due diligence is required, filtering out unreportable records (e.g., parking tickets). Clearing out unreportable records before sending results is the best way to protect the applicant’s rights and is required by the Fair Credit Report Act (FCRA). A complete final report should include the following:

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10 Reasons Why I Am Thankful to Be a Pastor

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Sometimes I complain about being a pastor.

There are times when I have Elijah moments (1 Kings 19:1-18). I feel depressed and whine to God about how I don’t have the strength to keep going.

I think, if we are honest, we would admit that most of us have felt this way about ministry.

Ministry is difficult! It can be extremely discouraging and defeating.

It is times like these, when you feel down or discouraged in ministry, that you have to remember why you got started in the first place. You have to remember why you made the decision to follow God’s calling to ministry.

I have to constantly remind myself why I should be thankful. So, I made a quick list over Thanksgiving of 10 reasons I am thankful to be a pastor.

No matter how difficult ministry may get, I can look at these things and know I am truly more blessed than I think.

10 REASONS I AM THANKFUL TO BE A PASTOR

  1. I get to tell everyone about the hope and salvation I have found in Jesus, and have a front row seat to see God change people’s lives.
  2. I get the privilege of preaching God’s word to his people.
  3. I get to spend every day seeking Jesus and doing my best to do what he says.
  4. I get to meet and enjoy relationships with all kinds of people from all different ages, races, places and walks of life.
  5. I have a church community that genuinely loves my family and me.
  6. I have the peace of mind knowing that if any hardship or tragedy may strike me or my family, my church family would be there for us.
  7. There is no better accountability system for sin than knowing that everyone in the church and the community is watching how I live.
  8. I actually get paid to do ministry so that I can focus on it full-time.
  9. God uses my imperfect efforts to accomplish his perfect mission.
  10. I am investing my life in the only thing that will last forever.

What about you?

Why are you thankful to be a pastor?

And for those of you who are not pastors, what should pastors be more thankful for?

This article originally appeared here.

How to Listen Like a Counselor

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This post makes two assumptions: (a) that counselors are good listeners, and (b) the manner in which a counselor is listening to a counselee is—at least in some ways—different from how one friend listens to another. There are plenty of exceptions to these assumptions, at least by stating them you know where I’m coming from.

Metaphor One: Relationship to the Story

Let’s start with the question, “How does (should) a counselor listen differently than a friend?” I believe the answer can be found in the metaphor: A friend listens as a participant in your story while a counselor listens as an observer of your story. This creates the tendency on the part of a friend to be self-referential in their listening; asking (whether out loud or not) questions like, “What did I do to contribute to this? What should I have done to prevent this? What do you want me to do in the future about this?”

These are not bad questions. At the right time they are very proactive and loving questions. But in the early stage of hearing someone’s struggle, they put self too much at the center of your friend’s story.

A counselor can (or, at least, should be able to) be more objective. The questions a counselor is filtering as they listen are more like, “Who are the key people and events in this story? How is this person making sense of what is happening; to whom or what are they assigning responsibility? What is most significant to this person about the story they are telling me? What would make the biggest difference, for better or worse, in the story I’m being told?”

These questions are not always good. From a friend they might come across as too impersonal or aloof. But at the right time, they allow someone to feel understood and like their concerns are at the forefront.

Metaphor Two: Incarnation

Let’s introduce a second, more theological, metaphor. Listening is incarnational—it is how we enter and get to know another person’s world. Just like Jesus’ earthly ministry began with the incarnation, so our ministry with a friend or counselee begins with entering their world and getting to know it as they experience it. This is a significant part of what it means for Christ to be our Great High Priest in the passage Hebrews 4:15-16.

“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”

Whether we are a friend or a counselor, we want to be incarnational in how we listen.

The Practice of Listening

No instruction can create or replace desire. The main skill in being a good listener is wanting to be a good listener. The core of listening is placing enough value on the other person and what he/she is saying that you quit playing your thoughts (mentally or verbally) over theirs. When you begin to do this you will find that your responses and body language almost always draw out the other person. The skills below are merely examples of things that value other people.

The Danger of Premature Success

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When I was 22 years old, I felt ready to jump headlong into God’s call on my life. Shortly after getting saved while attending Purdue University, I heard God’s call on my life to preach the gospel to the nations—something God confirmed in many ways. As a young Christian, I thought I was ready for what God had for me, and I was eager to start running in my calling.

God, it would seem, had other plans.

Rather than launching me into a preaching ministry, I spent the better part of a decade after college working all sorts of jobs that seemed disconnected from my calling.

During this time, God’s presence often felt distant, and I wrestled often with questions about what He was, or perhaps more accurately, wasn’t doing in my life. It felt a bit like God had forgotten me, but that wasn’t even remotely the case. Although I didn’t see it at the time, He was using this time to prepare me for my future. The truth is that I was in a season of wilderness—the necessary training ground that precedes the promised land. It’s just how God works, and it’s all throughout Scripture. His desire is to prepare our hearts so that success won’t destroy us.

We see one of the greatest examples of this when we look at the life of King Saul and compare it with King David. If you remember, when Israel wanted a king, God gave them what they wanted, and drafted Saul from within Israel’s ranks to be the ruler over His people.

King Saul never went through a wilderness experience. He seemed humble in the beginning—hiding in the baggage from the prophet when he was named king. But after a few rounds of success, his impurities began to surface. He won a huge battle, but he’d done it his way and disobeyed God’s orders. If that wasn’t enough, he then built a monument to himself. This was only the beginning of the plethora of ungodly behavior that would surface. He eventually was destroyed by the impurities that were never addressed. In fact, Saul loved his “ministry” to the point of killing in order to keep it. His success, in the end, ultimately just played into his demise, because it was not preceded by a season where he embraced God’s preparation.

Contrast that with David. David was not a man after the throne; he was a man after the heart of God. While in the wilderness, David found his true source of joy; it was none other than God Himself. Twice, David had the chance to kill Saul to get the throne. He was encouraged to do so by the men with him. If David’s motives had been the same as Saul’s, he would have killed to get what was promised to him. But he refused to take matters into his own hands. He wanted to honor God more than he wanted to inherit God’s promises—and he trusted God to promote him in His timing.

Because David went through a season of preparation in the wilderness, he had the character to lead God’s people once he finally became king. Where Saul was prideful and self-absorbed, David was described as a man after God’s own heart. The wilderness proved to be a vital training ground for what God had called him to do, and it prepared him to do it well.

The same proved true for me.

Shortly before God finally launched me into preaching, I remember praying passionately one morning, “Lord, it doesn’t matter if I am in the middle of the desert where there is no one or if I am preaching to millions, I’ll do the same thing in both places. I will pursue your heart.” And then it hit me. I finally saw what God was doing! In the wilderness, God had brought me to a place where I saw Him as my inheritance and first love, not the ministry or anything else. I was pursuing Him over the dream He had given me. He wanted to move me into my calling, but He didn’t want me to make an idol out of it. He wanted to stay first in my heart.

If you are waiting on God’s promises, don’t look for shortcuts. Stay the course. Press into God as your first love, and pursue Him more than the dream He’s given you. Rather than rush the process and try to prematurely step into God’s promises in your own strength, focus on becoming a man or woman after God’s own heart—especially in the midst of difficult seasons. That way, when God does release you into a season of breakthrough, you’ll have the character to handle it well so the success doesn’t end up destroying you.

This article originally appeared here.

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How Selena Gomez Is Fighting Modern-Day Slavery

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Pop star Selena Gomez has been volunteering as an intern with A21, an organization dedicated to ending human trafficking throughout the world. Last fall, Elle magazine reported that Gomez has been volunteering with A21 since March 2018, and the singer has posted several images on Instagram related to her work with the group.

In an interview with E! News, the singer explained that she wanted to do more than simply donate money to a good cause or use volunteer work as a way to promote her image:

I think that it’s easy for someone in my position to maybe be associated with an organization because they feel it would be great, they can contribute dollar-wise or… None of that is wrong. I think for me, I’ve been wanting something that I felt like I could contribute most of my time to.

She noted that even though she loves her career, sometimes she feels selfish. When the E! interviewer mentioned an Instagram image of Gomez texting “you’re beautiful” in Russian, Gomez responded that even thinking about that made her want to cry. Many people don’t want to talk about human trafficking, she said, but she wants trafficked women to be seen, to know they are beautiful, and to have their stories heard. Gomez did not specify exactly what she is doing with A21, just that it was a volunteer position.

Ann and Selena in Greece

The superstar’s volunteer work was recently brought to the limelight again with a new blog post from Christian author Ann Voskamp, who described hearing from A21 founder Christine Caine along with Gomez last August in Greece. At that time, Caine elaborated on the atrocities that human trafficking victims suffer. These include being smuggled in shipping containers and violated in “breaking rooms.” According to Voskamp, breaking rooms are rooms where girls are prepared for the sex trade by having their “sense of will and value and dignity…systematically broken.”  

The group also walked through the red light district in the city of Thessaloniki, where they witnessed a woman being purchased for $6. When told that the city’s mayor is proud of the red light streets, Gomez apparently responded, “And does he have daughters?”

Thessaloniki, Greece, is one of 14 locations A21 has in 12 countries across the globe. Describing themselves as the “new abolitionists,” the organization’s members seek to eradicate modern-day slavery through a strategy they summarize as “reach, rescue, restore.” That is, they reach and educate people in order to prevent slavery from happening, they rescue those who are already enslaved, and they work to restore those who have been set free.

Based on her Instagram response when the Elle interview came out, Gomez was apparently not happy with how the magazine presented her words, although she did not specify what she was upset about or if it had anything to do with her internship. But she is clearly passionate about her work with A21 and said in a post that that work was one of the reasons she spoke to Elle in the first place.

“Human trafficking is very, very serious to me,” Gomez said in her interview with E!. She continued:

It’s not something happening a million miles away. It’s actually happening here, and I would love to do everything I can, along with one of my heroes, Christine, to just be a part of it and learn, so I am honored to be a part of it. She’s incredible, and the organization is great.

Colts Coach Shows That ‘All Callings Matter’

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Although his official ministry career was brief, Frank Reich continues to live out his faith and make an impact through football, his other “sphere of influence.” Reich, the first-year head coach of the Indianapolis Colts, played in the NFL for 14 years and then became a seminary president and pastor. But soon he felt called back to football, where he continues to live out his faith.

There’s a “false dichotomy between sacred and secular work,” Reich realized. He points to “the priesthood of all believers—that every Christian is called to live out their faith in their sphere of influence.”

Frank Reich’s History of Comebacks—and of Being a Second Choice

Despite playing mostly backup roles, Reich holds a special place in football history. At the University of Maryland in the early 1980s, he was quarterback Boomer Esiason’s backup for three years and then got hurt his senior year. After that injury, Reich thought, “God, why are you doing this to me?”—and then knew that “football had become my god…[and] I had to reprioritize my life.”

Later that season, with Maryland down 31-0 at halftime, Reich came off the bench to lead the team to a 42-40 victory. For 22 years, that stood as the greatest comeback in college football.

In the pros, Reich was instrumental in the largest comeback in NFL history. During his first playoff game—with the Buffalo Bills in 1993—he took the field after starter Jim Kelly was injured. Reich engineered a 41-38 overtime win against the Houston Oilers, despite being down 35-3 early in the third quarter. Kelly resumed his starting role for the Super Bowl, a game the Bills lost four years in a row. After one of those devastating losses, Reich says he found comfort in Michael English’s song “In Christ Alone.”

During a 14-year pro career, Reich started only 22 games. But being a backup didn’t mean he was “any less fiery or competitive,” he says. “I understood what my role was.” Bill Polan, former general manager of the Bills, says Reich “subjugated his own desires to be a starting quarterback because he understood the value of his position.”

The “second choice” theme continued for Reich as he entered coaching. While on staff with the San Diego Chargers, Reich was a candidate for the head coach opening at Maryland, but the job went to someone else. While he was offensive coordinator for the Philadelphia Eagles, Reich won a Super Bowl ring in 2018 by leading backup quarterback Nick Foles to victory. Days later, he was named head coach of the Indianapolis Colts—only after the team’s first-choice candidate backed out.

Reich, who returned to the Colts seven years after being fired as their wide receivers coach, led the team to a 10-6 record this year. On January 5, the Colts play a wild card playoff game against Houston.

Following Jesus on an Improbable Journey

Reich, 57, was raised Catholic and got involved with Christian ministries during college. As his faith developed, he wanted “more formalized training” to share his faith story and to teach the Bible.

During offseasons while playing for the Carolina Panthers, Reich began taking classes at Reformed Theological Seminary (RTS). He continued studying as he moved to several different NFL teams and was asked to be the school’s next president before even graduating. Ric Cannada, who was leaving the post in Charlotte to become chancellor of the entire seminary system, realized Reich was a mature, knowledgeable student and a “natural leader.”

“I’d been with him enough that I knew his character was right, and he could set an example,” Cannada says. “There was vision there, and that’s what you need in a leader.”

During his three-year tenure as RTS president, Reich was lauded for his collaboration and humility. “His focus was always on Christ and how to bring glory to him,” says Michael Kruger, current RTS president. “He would not ask someone to walk a path he was unwilling to walk himself. He sought to embody the values of the seminary, not just talk about those values.”

Small Church Loses 5 Children in Fiery Crash in Florida

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Flames engulf vehicles after a fiery crash along Interstate 75, Thursday, Jan. 3, 2019, about a mile south of Alachua, near Gainesville, Fla. Highway officials say at least six people have died after a crash and diesel fuel spill sparked a massive fire along the Florida interstate. (YouTube @FirstCoastNews)

Update:

The superintendent of the United Pentecostal Church (of which Avoyelles House of Mercy was a member) released a statement about the tragedy. It is reprinted below:

A MESSAGE FROM OUR SUPERINTENDENT:

Yesterday, January 3, 2019, a van load of people from our United Pentecostal Church in Marksville, Louisiana (pastor Eric Descant), were on their way to Orlando, Florida.

For some unknown reason, a large tractor-trailer truck crossed the median of I-75 near Gainesville, Florida, and crashed into the church van. Sister Karen Descant, the pastor’s wife, and two other adult ladies were on board the van. In addition, nine children were also on the van. Sadly, five of those children did not survive the accident. Pastor Descant was not with them, but is at the hospital there in Gainesville with those who survived.

Sister Karen Descant has seven broken ribs, a broken collarbone, multiple bruises, cuts, etc. Pastor Descant’s words were, “She is pretty banged up. One of the ladies was pregnant. They delivered her baby last night, and the baby is going to be okay. She too is pretty “banged up.” The other lady is not as severely injured, but is still in the hospital. The four children all have injuries, but the medical staff feel that all of them will heal and recover.

One of the five children who died in the accident was the granddaughter of Pastor Descant.

It is possible that many of you have already been made aware of the accident because it made national news. But, you may not have heard that it was our own people who were involved. Pastor Jimmy Toney (pastor in Gainsville) and his wife have been with our people almost the entire time since they were transported to the hospital. They and their church have been exceedingly kind in this horrific tragedy.

Please pray for the healing of those physical injuries. And, perhaps even more so, pray for that church family that has been so massively affected by this tragedy. Some of the children involved were Sunday School member[s] of the Marksville church, but their parents were not involved in the church. Please pray that these parents will realize that in times like this, only God can be our Comforter.

~ Kevin Cox
Superintendent, Louisiana District UPCI


Church Van Involved in Multi-Vehicle Crash on Interstate 75 in Florida

A fiery multi-vehicle crash on Interstate 75 in Florida has claimed the lives of seven people, including five children traveling in a church van. The church group was traveling from Marksville, Louisiana, headed to Disneyworld in Orlando, Florida, when the van was struck.

“This is the worst thing that has ever happened to us. We have lost half of our children,” a spokesperson for Avoyelles House of Mercy told the town’s paper, Avoyelles Today.

On Thursday, January 3, 2018, a semi truck and a passenger vehicle collided on I-75 north and broke through the guardrail separating the northbound and southbound traffic. After crossing the guardrail, the vehicles struck another semi truck and the church van. “Once those semis struck, they both caught fire,” Lt. Patrick Riordan of the Florida Highway Patrol said during a news conference. About 50 gallons of diesel fuel spilled, which exacerbated the fire. A fifth vehicle was also caught up in the chaos when it struck debris and people who had been thrown from vehicles.

Another eight people were rushed to the hospital with injuries, some of them critical. In addition to the five children who died, the two drivers of the semi trucks also perished. 

Vinnie Divita was driving south and narrowly missed being involved in the crash. He watched it transpire in his rearview mirror. “If I had stepped on the brake when I heard the noise, undoubtedly, I would have been in that accident,” DeVita said. “And then within probably 15 to 20 seconds of it all, it exploded. I mean, just a ball of flames.”

Another witness described the intense heat coming from the accident. “We kept seeing these little explosions and fire,” Nicole Towarek said. “The heat, it was insane.”

Names of those killed have not been released yet, but the families of the children involved have been notified. Family members are making their way to northern Florida, where the crash occurred.

A neighboring church in the area, New Life Assembly of God, published a video to its Facebook page this morning asking the congregation to pray and be patient as more information is released. Pastor Richard Newman emphasized the need to come alongside the families involved as they travel to Florida and grieve the loss they have suffered.

 

Family Movie Night as Discipleship: Four Easy Wins for Parents

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Our church is getting ready to host a Family Movie Night, and as part of the evening, we are providing our parents with some ideas on how to turn the movie into a chance to disciple their kids in the faith. This blog post was written two years ago, but has a lot of really great and relevant ways to invite Jesus into the everyday and use a fun time as a family to grow together spiritually. I’ve updated it and want to share it again for both parents and ministers to utilize to encourage easy wins for faith formation at home!

Inviting Jesus into the everyday is something I say to parents a lot. It’s something I feel very passionate about, but also something I recognize isn’t easy to do. It requires intentionality, creativity and patience. Our family has experienced some really special moments in these times of everyday life where we make room for Jesus in the midst of it, and one of those places is our Family Movie Night.

Our kids get SO excited when we say, “Take dinner to the living room; it’s Family Movie Night!” As the girls have gotten older (13 and almost 11) it’s become increasingly more difficult to find movies that are both appropriate for their age and fun for the whole family. As we’ve broadened their movie selections, we have been intentional in doing so and have tried to use these family times as springboards for deeper faith conversations.

Here are four faith-forming movie moments to utilize for a Family Movie Night

Easy Win #1 – The BIG Storyfamily_movie

Every movie has an overall plot, and many times the plot has something to do with good vs. evil. Of course, we always want good to win, and just when it looks like evil has taken the lead, good comes from behind for the BIG win. Does this sound anything like another story you’ve heard in your life or read in the pages of the Bible? The original good vs. evil story took place in the narrative of Scripture and is repeated in all of the small stories we read over and over again, not the least of which was the resurrection of Christ that we celebrate on Easter. Some examples of questions you could ask your kids:

  • Where does the idea of good and evil come from?
  • Who was the good guy in the movie? Who is the ultimate good guy?
  • Can you give an example of the Bible where good beat evil, like in the movie?

Easy Win #2 – The BIG Lesson

Most movies have a “lesson” or moral they are trying to get across to their audience. It may not be a deep lesson (Dumb and Dumber anyone?) and it may not be a healthy one (50 Shades of Let’s Not Go There) but there is some lesson behind the story. Before you have a family movie night with your kids, be aware of what the messages are and ask your kids if they can find it or figure it out. I’ve been amazed by some of the insights my girls have come up with about the messages in movies. Here are a few questions to help you get started.

  • What is the main message this movie is telling you about life? love? relationships? friendship?
  • Do you think the message is true or false?
  • Do you think that is a the same message Jesus would give you?

Easy Win #3 – The BIG Picture

Movies try to paint a certain reality. Whether it is set in a high school or outer space, the movie tries to pull you into their alternate universe and have you believe it’s real. Unfortunately or fortunately, depending on the movie, the fact is that reality is not real. Sometimes kids especially have a hard time discerning that as their minds are still developing the skills necessary to tell the difference between fantasy and realityHere are a few thoughts you might want to share with your kids before and after the movie during family movie night.

  • Before the movie: Look for things in the movie that are different from your reality.
  • After the movie: What did you think was unrealistic? Why? How has that been different from your experience? As a Christian, what would you have done in that situation?

Easy Win #4 – The BIG Hero

Oh, we love our heroes! My girls recently discovered Indiana Jones and MacGyver (Thank you Daddy and Netflix) and they think these two men are simply amazing. Every good movie has a great hero who always rescues the needy ones, loves the unloved ones, and saves the lost ones. It’s as though they had a prototype to work off of (hmmmmm), an ultimate Hero that could change the whole world (AHA). We of course know His name, but let’s make sure our kids know Him too. Here are some ways to start that conversation.

  • Who in the movie needed rescued and who was the hero?
  • How did we know that he/she was the hero? What makes a hero heroic?
  • Who is the ultimate Hero of the world? Who has He rescued?

These questions and conversations flow easily in our house now since we started them a long time ago during a family movie night, but at first it can be a little awkward. Don’t let that awkwardness stop you.

These types of conversations carry more meaning than in just that moment; they begin to help your children build a framework through which they watch television and movies in the future. They will approach these things with a mind that is looking for more, critically reviewing the messages they receive, and developing a worldview based on the reality of God’s word.

And to think it all started with some pizza, popcorn and pop (soda, coke, whatever) in your living room on Family Movie Night.

This article originally appeared here.

Where Have All the Youth Pastors Gone?

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Where Have All the Youth Pastors Gone?

I recently took part in a discussion about the decline in full-time youth ministry positions. The question before us was: Why are there so few qualified applicants to so many vacant youth ministry positions? Much of the conversation was measured and insightful, if not a tad predictable. Low pay, poor management, unrealistic expectations, and a general lack of understanding of what youth ministry is all featured highly in our chat. All of these I think are true reasons why people don’t want to be youth pastors.

There is, however, another side to this coin.

Some important history, and some unfulfilled hopes

Youth ministry has never been a multi-million-dollar exercise. However, it did enjoy a strong resurgence at two points in our recent history:

In the late 1940s parachurch organizations like Young Life and Youth for Christ began pooling resources to develop missionary work among teenagers not being met by the post-war church. This was a valiant effort with many positive outcomes, however the negative side-effect was a centralization of youth ministry away from the local church.

In the ’80s and ’90s, the techniques of these organizations were emulated in some wealthy churches, which then trickled down to the rest of us, creating the modern church-based ‘youth pastor.’ These youth pastors developed much of the standard project templates that we use today.

Without making light of the genuine passion these groups and people had for young lives and Jesus, both of these movements were an attempt to ‘fix’ issues in the church. With the decline of Christendom, there was a wide-reaching fall in attendance across denominations. With that came diluted maturity, lower commitment, creeping secularization, and a huge drop-off rate between the ages of 11-14. The hope was that modern youth ministry was going to save the church from these realities.

Youth ministry has not fixed any of these issues. If anything, certain popular youth ministry models have made them worse by driving deeper a wedge between young people and the rest of the church.

Youth ministry is still a baby

Whereas the church has been training pastors for centuries, youth ministry is still very much in its infancy academically and practically.

We don’t have things like the Reformation to look back on as a melting pot for healthy practices to emerge and be challenged. We don’t have hundreds of years of trial and error to perfect the ultimate ‘lock in.’ We don’t have ancient ecclesiastical giants to look up to as archetypal youth pastors (with perhaps the exception of Mike Yaconelli!). We’re still babies.

Although ministry among young people was happening in some form before the 1940s it was largely part of a broader whole; specialization and compartmentalism are traits of the 20th century.

In terms of training, youth ministry courses still feel randomized, like they’re missing an essential magnetic identity, and—in the last decade—we have seen fewer specialized youth ministry courses being created or surviving. There’s also been far less student uptake in the ones that do exist.

The ‘product’ isn’t there and neither are the ‘customers.’ If the product isn’t ready, then after the ‘first to try and first to buy’ alpha consumer has been through it, no one follows.

What am I getting at?

One of the unspoken problems is that youth ministry is still very young, and it’s not clear at the moment whether—as a profession—it will survive the next few decades.

If we want youth ministry to thrive, and for there to be serious competition in the positions we create, then the whole church collective needs to work together toward biblically solid foundations for its future.

I recently wrote a book called Rebooted, which was written to gently prod the conversation in a deeper direction. My passion is to give youth ministry the biblical chance it deserves by creating stronger foundations found in the Bible itself. My hope is that it will spur better books and speakers to go deeper into those very foundations that we truly need to find our identity, then grow and thrive.

We’re still kids! Let’s not give up, let’s take stock and go deeper. The foundations are not set yet, so there’s only so high we can build before it keeps collapsing. Let’s dig deep and give youth ministry the fighting chance it deserves!

Thanks!

This article originally appeared here.

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