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Lottie Moon Didn’t Waste Her Singleness

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On a monument in China set up by the Tengchow Church in 1915 is inscribed the following description of Lottie Moon: “After she graduated from school she never married. She dedicated her whole spirit, body and life to the service of God” (foreword).

There is no indication that Charlotte “Lottie” Moon purposed to be single all her life, but certainly, it’s clear that she not only had a brilliant mind and longed for satisfying work but also that she believed her call to the mission field took precedence over any personal or romantic desires. Lottie was once asked if she had ever been in love, and she answered, “Yes, but God had first claim on my life, and since the two conflicted, there could be no question about the result” (139).

“Through her singleness, Lottie became a living picture of Christ’s power in and for every Christian. This is a picture the church still needs today.”

That claim on her life was God’s call to the foreign mission field, specifically, China. Her call to the mission field coincided with the Southern Baptist Convention’s new willingness to send single female missionaries to serve in a foreign field. As a result, Lottie arrived in China in October 1873, when she was 32 years old. For the next 40 years, she worked tirelessly to bring the gospel and various social reforms to China, including her work to educate girls and to end the practice of foot binding.

Single Missionary

Although Lottie hadn’t set out to be single, she found there were many advantages to it, particularly on the mission field. Some of these advantages were practical. For example, she was free for itinerant evangelism (the practice of spending days walking through the countryside, going from village to village in order to share the gospel) in a way that the married female missionaries simply were not. Lottie wrote, “It might well be frankly said that only single women can be depended on to do evangelistic work… Ladies with families cannot, and indeed ought not to, do country work. Their work lies immediately around their homes” (143–44).

This unique ability of single women to devote themselves to the rugged work of itinerant evangelism was also not lost on H.A. Tupper, executive secretary of the Southern Baptist Convention’s Foreign Mission Board, who said, “I estimate a single woman in China is worth two married men” (136).

But perhaps more importantly, Lottie’s singleness gave her the opportunity to experience important and profound theological truths. One example of this was that her singleness, according to Lottie, invited her to rely more intentionally and fully on the Holy Spirit. Certainly, Lottie depended on her fellow missionaries for support, encouragement and help, but at the same time her singleness, as she saw it, created opportunities in which she did not have immediate access to human help and encouragement, such as when she moved by herself to P’ingtu in order to open a new mission station in 1885.

Although in many ways it was intimidating for a single woman to move into the interior of China by herself, Lottie looked forward to the greater freedom that would be available to her in P’ingtu. There she could explore her growing dependence on God and his power.

In a letter written during her first winter in P’ingtu, she said, “I feel my weakness and inability to accomplish anything without the aid of the Holy Spirit. Make special prayer for the outpouring of the Holy Spirit in P’ingtu, that I may be clothed with power from on high by the indwelling of the Spirit in my heart” (160).

“It was in China, by herself, separated even from her fellow missionaries, that [Lottie Moon] he discovered in a new and powerful way that Jesus himself was her truest home, friend and fatherland.”

In her private spiritual life, Lottie approached an almost constant experience of the presence of Christ in her life and a profound dependence on the Holy Spirit in all she did. In a letter to H.A. Tupper she wrote:

As you wend your way from village to village, you feel it is no idle fancy that the master walks beside you and you hear his voice saying gently, “Lo! I am with you always even unto the end.” And the soul makes answer in the words of St. Bernard, the holy man of God, “Lord Jesus, thou art home and friends and fatherland to me.” Is it any wonder that as you draw near to the villages a feeling of exultation comes over you? That your heart goes up to God in glad thanksgiving that he has so trusted you as to commit to your hands this glorious gospel that you may convey its blessings to those who still sit in darkness? When the heart is full of such joy, it is no effort to speak to the people: You could not keep silent if you would… What does one care for comfortless inns, hard beds, hard fare, when all around is a world of joy and glory and beauty? (89)

It was in her singleness that Lottie came to know the truth of Jesus’ promise to the disciples, “Everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life” (Matt. 19:29 NIV). She had willingly given up her fatherland, her home and many friends, including one who could’ve become her husband. She left all of these things behind when she committed herself to doing God’s work in China.

Yet it was in China, by herself, separated even from her fellow missionaries, that she discovered in a new and powerful way that Jesus himself was her truest home, friend and fatherland.

The Gift of Singleness

Through her singleness, Lottie became a living picture of Christ’s power in and for every Christian. This is a picture the church still needs today. Lottie’s life of ministry in singleness is a resounding “yes” to the idea that singleness can be received and stewarded just as marriage, and that singleness doesn’t simply have practical value but also theological value.

Single people in the church continually act as a reminder to all of us that it’s the calling and equipping of the Holy Spirit that fits any one of us for God’s work. It’s not our human relationships and institutions (as dear to us and as good as those things are) that move the church forward. Rather, it is the power of the Holy Spirit which enables the church to declare the gospel of Jesus Christ and to grow into God’s future.

Lottie Moon’s willingness to give up marriage for the call of Christ, her willingness to go into the heart of China even if it meant going by herself, her joy in these decisions, and the immense harvest sowed and reaped through her obedience testify to this very thing.

Lottie’s life as a single missionary reminds us that God’s support and power will never be too little and that it is the source of all we do.

This article originally appeared here.

No Matter The Tech Channel, We Need To Communicate Clearly

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Technology is always changing, but in addition to cutting-edge tools that can help us communicate, following are three strategic characteristics that will help your marketing be successful no matter what tools you use. No matter the tech channel, we need to communicate clearly.

Communicate Clearly: Clarity

For audiences both inside and outside the church, you must clearly explain what you are wanting to market. Event titles like “The Growing Edge” “Riptide” “HUGS” are a few examples that mean little to people outside a certain group. Why would someone come to something when they don’t even understand its name? So use a clear name, for example, “Single’s Group” (instead of HUGS) or “Adult Bible Class” (instead of The Growing Edge). If you absolutely can’t bear to get rid of an unclear name, always add a subtitle: “Riptide, our weekly group for middle-school students.”

“Riptide” is the name of an actual church group and when I asked the pastor why any parent would want to send their child to [something] that will catch you unaware and drown you, he didn’t have much of an answer — which is a reminder to think through carefully before you commit to a name for a church group. You don’t want to be always explaining the meaning of something different than what the title means to most people.

Communicate Clearly: Consistency

Come up with one message per ministry, season, or campaign; and one set of colors, font, images, and use them consistently every time you market that event or ministry.

“But won’t my audience get bored?” is a frequent question. Professional marketers remember: audiences seldom get bored, but they frequently get confused. People won’t know if you are talking about the same program or something new if the theme or colors or presentation change simply because you got bored sending out the same thing again and again. That means that rather than try to find out, people may just click on to the next thing.

Communicate Clearly: Repetition

This relates to Consistency. In order to cut through the daily noise and get people to respond to your marketing, you must repeat your message frequently. In marketing circles, the number used to be seven repetitions, but today that number has increased to, “however many times and ways we can get our message out there. Just think of how often the same ad is repeated during the same prime time program, or how many times you hear about a movie before it comes out.

Some churches get upset if something is in the bulletin more than twice — and then they wonder why no one shows up for anything! We need to remember that no one in our church audience actually sees the marketing for a ministry as many times as we do, and it is true servant’s work to put out multi-channel marketing in print, social media, the bulletin, the church website, announcements, postcards, invitations, and using every tool of technology and creativity we can think of to involve people in ministries that will help them grow to mature disciples in Jesus.

 

5 Ways to Survive the Mental Game of Church Leadership

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One of the problems I struggled with for years in church leadership was taking every leadership triumph or setback so personally.

I let the dynamics of leadership go to my head and heart too often. My spirits soared when things were good in ministry. They sunk when they weren’t. I took too much of the weight home. Well, not just home. It followed me everywhere I went.

Over time, I’ve learned that there’s a world of difference between taking leadership seriously and taking it personally.

Leaders should always take church leadership seriously. It demands our best, and we should give it. Every day.

But to take it too personally creates a roller coaster that ripples out all over the place.

When you take church leadership seriously, everyone wins.

When you take it personally, almost everyone loses.

Here are five reasons you should stop taking church leadership so personally.

1. YOU’RE MESSING UP YOUR HEAD AND YOUR HEART

If you take things too personally, you create an emotional roller coaster no one wants to ride.

As Tim Keller has pointed out, if you let success go to your head, failure will go to your heart. And that’s exactly what happens when you over-personalize your leadership.

Your head is never quite right when things are going well because you take credit for things that perhaps rightly belong to God or to the contribution of others. Or you begin to believe it’s all you.

Conversely, when you fail, you become completely deflated, convinced God can do nothing with you or through you. You fall into despair.

The reality is that you’re not nearly as good as your best day or nearly as bad as your worst.

Healthy leaders know how to separate what they do from who they are, which leads us to the second reason you should stop taking your leadership so personally.

2. YOU’RE CONFUSING WHO YOU ARE WITH WHAT YOU DO

Far too many leaders confuse who they are with what they do.

Big mistake.

We all know we’re not supposed to confuse our identity with our work, but almost all of us do it.

You are not what you do.

Hear this:

You’re loved.

You’re forgiven.

You’re cherished.

None of this has anything to do with what you’ve done and everything to do with what Christ has done for you. That’s the Gospel.

The error in confusing who you are with what you do arises from the fact that you think you’re loved, forgiven and celebrated because you did your best.

Those who understand Christianity know that the opposite is actually true:

You do your best BECAUSE you’re lovedforgiven and cherished.

Do you see the flip?

You don’t do your best to earn God’s favor. You do your best because you have God’s favor.

Spend a day thinking and praying about that. Seriously, do a personal retreat on that one thought.

It will profoundly change how you lead.

3. YOU’RE OVEREMPHASIZING HOW IMPORTANT YOU ARE

At the heart of over-personalizing church leadership is this problem: You’ve unwittingly made it all about you.

Of all the scripture verses that stop me in my tracks, this verse from Galatians 6 is one of the best:

If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important. Galatians 6:3 NLT

You’re just not that important.

As C.S. Lewis said, humility is not thinking less of yourself. It’s simply thinking of yourself less often.

When you and I are gone, the world will keep spinning. The Kingdom of God will keep advancing.

Somehow it’s not about me. It never was. It never will be.

I just get to play a part.

4. YOU’RE LETTING YOUR PERSONAL FEELINGS DICTATE THE FUTURE OF YOUR ORGANIZATION

As goes the leader, so goes the team.

If your personal fortune goes up and down with your church or organization, eventually it doesn’t only impact you; it impacts your organization.

How?

Because when you go down, so, eventually, does your church.

When you suffer, your organization then experiences the impact of your dysfunctions.

A bad moment can become a bad season, because your reaction to what happens triggers the next happening.

Let’s say last month was a bad month in your organization for a variety of reasons. If you personalize those failures, last month’s results will make this month a bad month for you. And if you have a bad month this month, it’s somewhat likely that next month will be a bad month for your organization because you simply haven’t effectively led your team out of the slump (because you’re still in it).

What could have been a blip on the radar (one bad month) can easily become a slide down into a bad quarter or even a bad year.

And who needs that?

5. YOU’RE RUINING THE REST OF YOUR LIFE

I know that leadership brings a weight that only leaders understand. And to be candid, I still have a hard time not thinking about what I do. I love what I get to do. And I think about it a lot.

But it was far worse when I took my ups and downs in leadership personally.

Why? Because bad days would come home with me. Always.

When your success goes to your head and your failure goes to your heart, you always carry your struggles home.

The people who love you will pay a price for this.

You will be arrogant or sullen…confused as to why you’re not the hero at home you are at work, or, on your bad days, resentful that your family and friends don’t want to join your miserable pity party.

The people in your life who truly love you don’t love you because of what you did at work. They just love you.

So stop ruining their lives. And yours.

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GOT ANOTHER REASON?

What have you learned about taking things too personally in leadership?

This article originally appeared here.

Christians, Can We Please Stop Joining the Culture of Destruction?

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The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him. –Proverbs 18:17

I’m going to sound like a heretic here for a moment, but please hang with me.

Here is my heresy—I’d absolutely love to read the anti-Bible. It’d be the Bible written by Paul’s opponents, the Gospels from the perspective of the Pharisees, the Psalms through the eyes of David’s enemies, Exodus told by Ramses, etc. It would be interesting because I bet they would be the hero in their stories. The Israelites would be the bad guys, Jesus would be a rabble-rouser, Paul would be exactly who his enemies in 2 Corinthians accused him to be, and David’s enemies would be those in power trying to squelch this rebel uprising.

Of course I don’t believe any of those things to be true. Those would be fake newsJesus is the Son of God. While he certainly roused the rabble, he wasn’t the enemy, he’s the hero of our story. But we read the Bible best when we realize that at the time of their original composition there was another case being stated.

Our Hero-Wannabe Tendencies

I say that it’s important and helpful for our own Bible reading because we have a tendency to always project ourselves as the hero in these stories. When we read the Psalms, we read them as if we are in step with King David and the victims needing God’s rescue. And that’s very much how we should read them, this is their intention. But there is another very real sense in which often a Psalm isn’t actually our Psalm because we aren’t King David running from the enemies—we’re the enemy pursuing the King. We don’t need solace as victims we need rebuke as perpetrators. We just think it’s our Psalm.

I was thinking about all of this the other day in preparing a sermon on Psalm 56. David described his enemies as those who were trampling him, oppressing him, gathering for an attack, lurking in the background, watching his steps waiting for him to fall so they could take him down. But how would they have described their activity? Would they consider themselves faithful workers diligently pursuing a rebel in an attempt to preserve the rightful king of Israel, Saul?

Joining in the Take-Down

It is important for us to consider this perspective. And especially as Christians in our take-down culture. On a weekly basis there are a handful of people trampled by our outrage parade. And we followers of Jesus can be deeply involved in all of this. We’ll scroll through the sermons and clips of false teachers, lying in wait for that bit of false doctrine, and we’ll pounce. We’ll lurk on the politician’s Twitter feed and wait for her to expose her hypocrisy. Pounce! Exposed! And all the while we are doing the Lord’s work. We are protecting the sheep. We’re protecting our nation from the infiltration of evil.

And maybe so.

There really are wolves. There really are enemies. There really is evil that needs to be pushed back.

But there is something interesting about shepherding and calling out evil and pushing back darkness which we find in the Scriptures. Shepherds stay on their land. They don’t leave the flock for the woods to hunt down the wolves. Yes we expose the works of darkness but we do it in the light. We aren’t lurkers. Real protection of sheep isn’t interchangeable with the activity of David’s oppressors.

There is a way in which the man of God is to proclaim the truth and to gently oppose those who are enemies to the gospel. Yes, satire is a thing. Yes, Paul basically told his enemies to castrate themselves. But there is a way to even speak in such a way and still be gentle and loving and truth-seeking and not a trampler of men.

So, can we please not join in on this culture of destruction? We will not be guiltless if we take up the strategy of the wicked, even if we are doing it for a righteous cause. There is one who aims to destroy. And there is one who actually has the right to destroy both soul and body in hell. We shouldn’t be the former and we aren’t the latter. Let us be those who lovingly proclaim the gospel even over our fallen “enemies.”

This article originally appeared here.

Pastor, You Need Sunday School or Small Group Too (7 Reasons)

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Hey pastor, do you ever go to Sunday school? Do you only attend church gatherings you lead? Do you inwardly feel above being taught by others?

Here are seven good reasons to make a habit of regularly attending Sunday school or small group.

1. It breeds humility in us

Attending a Sunday school class or small group you don’t lead shows your people you too need the regular teaching of the Word of God in the local church. If people only see you in settings where you are the leader they will think nothing can be led without you. Also, stowing away in your office, searching for last minute helps for your sermon on a Sunday morning, is a study in futility. You’re kidding yourself if you think you’re better served to do that than being with God’s people in a meaningful way. Besides, if you’re not prepared by Sunday morning, no amount of last-minute preparation will keep you from preaching a bad sermon. Your best bet is to go to your S.S. or small group, develop relationships with others and enjoy the teaching of the Word of God.

2. It makes us approachable

Many in your congregation will only see you from a distance, but some need to experience you up close. Regularly attending S.S. or small group gives you the chance to study, pray, rejoice and cry with people in your congregation. As we learn to open up in those smaller settings, people see that we also struggle to weave Christ into the fabric of our lives. This in-class vulnerability prepares us to serve as their shepherd and leads to opportunities for discipleship outside the class.

3. It causes us to depend on God for the sermon

Most of us are looking over our sermons well before S.S. ever begins. At that point, put the sermon down and trust that the Lord has been working through your prayers and study and will give you the grace and strength to preach in the power of the Holy Spirit. Attending S.S. or small group will not distract you from preaching the Word of God. If you can’t leave off going over your notes, maybe you need to study more during the week or trust that God, more than your notes, will accomplish His purposes.

4. It prevents us from isolation

Oddly enough, most pastors I know are introverts serving in extroverted positions. I get it. It can be draining to be with so many people on a Sunday. There will always be people who suck the life out of you with their questions. There will always be non-emergency emergencies that people want you to handle, but God’s grace is sufficient to help you. Pastoring is not done at an arm’s distance, it’s done with an arm around someone. So, go to class, be with your people and your leadership will grow in their eyes.

5. It helps us understand how people think

Even the most seasoned pastor tends to prepare sermons geared toward those who think like they do. When we regularly attend S.S. or small group we gain insight into how our people are thinking and interacting with Scripture. You would be surprised at what biblical knowledge you presume upon your people if you sat in these classes. You should be preaching big picture theology, but if you want to know where people are applying Scripture to the finer points of their lives, go to class.

6. It helps us think through our process of discipleship

For most churches, S.S. or small groups serve as the largest discipleship program within the church. When you regularly attend S.S. or small group you will see whether the process of discipleship is working or if it needs help. Do the teachers need training? Are the groups meeting regularly outside of class for fellowship? Are they serving within the church family and in the community? These issues and others will manifest themselves as you participate regularly as a member.

7. It models for others how to be faithful

If you want your people to faithfully attend an S.S. class, then show them how it’s done. When they see that you got up a little earlier, dressed the kids and got out the door to make it to class on time, they will follow your example. If you never go to class, why should they?

I’m not saying a pastor can never miss class. There are times where you are filling in for another teacher, counseling or in a meeting and that is perfectly understandable. I’m talking about regular weeks in the life of the church. Make a habit of joining a class for your own discipleship.

Let me strongly advise Christians to converse together concerning the ways of the Lord. Christian and Hopeful, as they journeyed toward the Celestial City, said to themselves:

To prevent drowsiness in this place, let us fall into good discourse. – C.H. Spurgeon

This article originally appeared here.

SBC Pastor: Denomination Has ‘moral obligation’ to Fund Database

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When the Houston Chronicle published its expose piece on the Southern Baptist Convention’s mishandling of sexual abuse by clergy (and a database of offenders), you might not have known that this isn’t the first time the largest Protestant denomination in America has been pressured to build a database of sexual offenders. Wade Burleson, the pastor of Emmanuel Church in Enid, Oklahoma, has been pressuring the SBC to do this since 2007.

Even though the Houston Chronicle has done what the SBC would not, Burleson believes even more needs to be done—by the SBC this time.  

“I suggest the SBC has a moral obligation to fund an independent, non-profit agency who keeps the database, for not just Southern Baptists, but for evangelicals as a whole,” Burleson told ChurchLeaders.

The Houston Chronicle Article Did the SBC a Service

While Burleson says the Houston Chronicle has done a “needed service” to the SBC through its reporting, he feels there is room for improvement on their database. Due to legal pressure and lack of information, Burleson says “many, many stories” were left out of the reporting. A more thorough database is needed, he says, one constructed by an independent company. Burleson has two such companies in mind, but he is adamant that the SBC not try to build it on its own—just provide the funds to make it happen.

As far as who should be included in the database, Burleson wants to see Southern Baptist ministers “who have been credibly accused of, personally confessed to, or legally been convicted of sexual harassment or abuse.”

When Burleson originally approached the senior leadership of the SBC at the denomination’s annual meeting in 2007, he was disappointed by their lack of action. He had asked for the Executive Committee (EC) to conduct a study on the feasibility of such a database. A year later, the EC “declined” to build the database, saying it was not feasible. Burleson was not given any more information on the supposed study they conducted. Even in 2008, journalists could appreciate the news-worthy nature of their decision. Time Magazine called the SBC’s refusal to take Burleson’s suggestion “one of the most underreported stories in America.”

Still, Wade Burleson Persists

Despite the cold shoulder Burleson has received from his denomination, he is committed to staying in the SBC. In fact, the SBC’s treatment of Burleson has at times been more outwardly antagonistic than passive aggressive. In 2005, Burleson was almost removed from the board of the SBC’s mission arm, the International Missions Board (IMB), due to disagreements with policies he believed exceeded the Baptist Faith and Message, which is the SBC’s lengthy statement of faith. Ten years later, the IMB reversed the policies they had adopted in 2005.

And in 2018, when Burleson submitted another proposal for a database of offenders, it seemed the SBC paid more attention. This time they did launch an investigative committee, the Sexual Abuse Presidential Study Group, which newly minted President J.D. Greear announced in conjunction with an apology he and other SBC leaders made to sexual abuse victim Anne Miller. Miller initially reported her abuse to the IMB in 2007. Over 10 years later, she received a formal apology for the SBC’s lack of action in her case.

Despite their snail’s pace, Burleson has hope for the SBC. In a recent blog post, he admonishes those, like himself, who are frustrated by all the foot-dragging and red tape not to give up on the denomination. “Keep staying involved,” he says. “I know from experience that transformative change is slow. It requires patience. And, you can’t be concerned with your personal reputation.”

It is apparent that if Burleson had been concerned with his personal reputation, he would have left the SBC long ago. One of the reasons Burleson is hopeful now is because of Greear, who he believes “has exhibited more sympathy and wisdom than previous Presidents.”

Lord willing, this time around it won’t take the SBC another 10 years to do what many have been asking them to do for a long time. At the SBC’s annual meeting coming up in June, the Sexual Abuse Presidential Study Group will likely give a report and recommendations for change. And this time, Burleson believes “something will be done.”

What Is Baptism in the Holy Spirit?

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In Psalm 51, David is in spiritual anguish. He is buckling under the weight of his sin, both the guilt of it and the stain of it. And he says something incredibly insightful, something that cuts to the heart. The worst thing David can think of happening to him is not “getting caught.” It’s not having his reputation ruined. It’s not even feeling guilty or being punished. The worst thing David can conceive of happening to him is that he would not have the Holy Spirit.

Cast me not away from your presence,
and take not your Holy Spirit from me.
(Ps. 51:11)

We may suppose that, theologically speaking, David knew this was not a possibility. In fact, we know from another of David’s ditties (Psalm 139), that he is a firm believer in both the omnipresence of God’s Spirit and the immanence of God’s Spirit. But in his anguished state, desperate for grace and restoration, he is stripped down to the most fundamental human desire: to know and be known by God intimately, personally. We long for God to come near and fellowship with us. We all want, deep down, to be friends with God. And David’s worst nightmare is to live one second apart from the powerful presence of the Holy Spirit.

It ought to be ours as well.

But if you are a Christian—if you’ve repented of your sin and placed your faith in Jesus Christ to receive his sinless life, sacrificial death and glorious resurrection for your own—you are forgiven and free and fellowshipping with God. Like, right now. Right this very second, you are enjoying the presence of God, closer than the hair on your head and the skin on your bones.

And this is what the Holy Spirit is committed to doing in your life: making you more and more aware of your closeness with God through union with Christ and making you more and more holy as the outworking of that union. In his Dynamics of Spiritual Life, Richard Lovelace writes, “The apprehension of God’s presence is the ultimate core of genuine Christian experience.”

So: Do you apprehend his presence?

The promise of his presence has been sounded loud and clear. Jesus said he would send you his Spirit. And to anyone who believes in him, he has granted this promise.

He has even promised that we would be baptized by the Holy Spirit. What on earth can that mean?

Well, it’s not really something on earth, but rather something in heaven. I believe the baptism of the Holy Spirit is the believer’s immersion into the life of the Spirit. It is a subsuming of our spirit by the Spirit of heaven, making us in fact citizens of heaven as we live and breathe today! It is because of the baptism of the Holy Spirit that you are not just sitting in that chair right now reading this blog post, but also “seated with him in the heavenly places” (Eph. 2:6). It is because of the baptism of the Holy Spirit that you are not just tucked into your bed right now reading this blog post, but also “tucked into” God with his Son Christ Jesus (Col. 3:3).

Does the baptism of the Holy Spirit happen at conversion or is it something secondary? Yes.

You don’t have to speak in tongues to be baptized in the Holy Spirit, and you don’t have to have some religious spokesperson lay his hands on you to get it, and you don’t have to go into a trance or pray yourself into convulsions or “let go and let God” or any other of that kind of weirdness. You simply have to surrender your will to God’s. You fire the board members at that conference table in your soul, knock down all the cubicle walls, and open yourself up to the fullness of Christ’s love for every square inch of your life.

You take up your cross and follow Jesus.

Baptism in the Holy Spirit is the indwelling, outworking, all-impacting presence of God’s Spirit in your life. Craig Keener writes:

“Aside from debates about how much of God’s empowerment occurs at what point in a believer’s life, the baptism in the Holy Spirit includes God’s empowerment for the mission he has given us, his church… God has made us new by his Spirit and now  enables us to live holy lives and build up our fellow believers by the Spirit’s fruit and gifts (Paul). God has washed us, causing us to be born from him with a new character (John). Through the empowerment of God’s Spirit, we are called to take Jesus’ message both to those around us and to the ends of the earth (Acts). Through the empowerment of God’s Spirit, Jesus prepares us to face the conflicts involved in our mission, confronting and defeating the devil at the point of human need (Mark). The Spirit transforms us when we come to Christ; from that point forward we must continue to depend on his power to carry out the mission Jesus gave us.”

Keener is making the case that, given all the ways the baptism of the Holy Spirit is described in the New Testament, it is shortsighted to relegate the experience to one particular instance. More likely, the baptism of the Holy Spirit is given to the believer at the new birth, where the Spirit remakes our heart, one that desires and trusts in Jesus. But we know that the Spirit does not stop his ministry to us there. He continues to convict us, counsel us, comfort us and consecrate us, that we might become more and more surrendered to his leading and more and more reflective of our Savior. This process can be seen as a deeper and deeper immersion in the depths of grace.

We don’t get any more “saved”—at least, not in the sense that when we are first converted our salvation is in some kind of jeopardy of not “sticking.” There is no justification 2.0. But those whom the Lord justifies he sanctifies and will glorify. So you are every day as a believer experiencing more of the Spirit’s baptizing. In fact, every day you get out of bed and yawn, you’re receiving those gifts from the Spirit (Job 33:4).

“If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” (Luke 11:13)

This article originally appeared here.

Al Mohler Regrets Not Speaking to Victims of Mahaney Scandal

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Following the Houston Chronicle’s in-depth investigation into sexual abuse within the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC), seminary president Al Mohler has apologized for previously embracing C.J. Mahaney, a ministry leader embroiled in a lengthy scandal.

Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky, had called Mahaney, founder of the non-Southern Baptist group Sovereign Grace Churches (formerly Sovereign Grace Ministries), a “friend” with “personal integrity.” Mahaney, who resigned as president of Sovereign Grace Churches (SGC) in 2013 to pastor a Louisville congregation, was sued earlier that year by 11 plaintiffs. They claimed SGC leaders kept quiet about their allegations of child physical and sexual abuse, at least one case of which was committed by a person in leadership in the church.

Mahaney repeatedly denied the accusations, and the case was dismissed in 2014 because the statute of limitations expired.

A Mea Culpa From Mohler 

On Thursday, Mohler told the Houston Chronicle (HC): “I believe in retrospect I erred in being part of a statement supportive of (Mahaney) and rather dismissive of the charges. And I regret that action, which I think was taken without due regard to the claims made by the victims and survivors at the time, and frankly without an adequate knowledge on my part, for which I’m responsible.”

In recent years, Mohler and other SBC leaders had welcomed Mahaney as a conference speaker, though controversy forced Mahaney to withdraw from the T4G conference last spring. This week Mohler said he regretted a joke he made as he introduced Mahaney at a 2016 event, which was besieged by protests. “What I did was wrong,” Mohler told the HC, “and caused hurt to the victims and survivors who felt that their experience had been trivialized and dismissed. And I grieve that, I apologize for that, it was wrong. I would never make such a comment again.”

When asked if he should have denounced Mahaney, who’d made financial contributions to Mohler’s seminary, Mohler replied, “Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. I should have been very clear about insisting on an independent, credible third-party investigation. I should have said nothing until I had heard from those who were victims and who were making the allegations. I should have sought at that time the advice and counsel of agencies and authorities who were even then on the front lines of dealing with these kinds of allegations.”

Also on Thursday, Danny Akin, president of Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary in Wake Forest, North Carolina, admitted he shouldn’t have supported Mahaney without knowing more about the allegations. Mahaney and SGC “could have been far more transparent…(and) far more forthcoming” about the allegations, Akin added, and “could have saved a lot of people a lot of grief.”

Responses to Mohler’s Apology

After Mohler apologized, victim advocate Rachael Denhollander tweeted: “I am deeply grateful for this step. Recognizing error and grieving over it is something we all must do. I hope other SBC leaders follow this example. Integrity and the safety of the members depends on it.”

Denhollander, a former gymnast who made the initial allegations against convicted sex offender Dr. Larry Nassar, has advocated for an independent investigation of SGC for years. In early 2018, she urged SGC to let the Christian organization GRACE check into claims of misconduct against its ministry leaders. SGC refused, saying the inquiry wouldn’t be neutral.

Denhollander, now a lawyer, spoke about her faith during Nassar’s sentencing and mentioned that her advocacy “cost me my church.” Although her Louisville congregation wasn’t part of SGC, church leaders wanted to restore Mahaney’s leadership. When Denhollander protested, she says elders told her and her husband (a Southern Baptist seminary graduate) that this particular church “wasn’t the place for us.”

Hillsong Church: We Are Not ‘Anti-Anyone’

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Hillsong Church has issued a statement in the wake of the controversy following Chris Pratt’s appearance on The Late Show with Stephen Colbert. On February 14, Hillsong posted on its website, saying,

Hillsong Church does not preach against anyone or any group; we are not ‘anti-anyone.’ We are an inclusive Christian church that loves, values and welcomes all people, regardless of their background, ethnicity, beliefs, values, or personal identity.

How It Began

Hillsong is responding to recent charges in the media that it is anti-LGBTQ. The accusations started with Chris Pratt’s interview with Stephen Colbert, where the actor mentioned that he’d recently done the Daniel Fast and also mentioned his church several times. After the interview, actress Ellen Page, an LGBTQ advocate, posted several tweets in which she said that Pratt’s church is “infamously anti lgbtq” and questioned why Pratt would support an organization that discriminates against a certain group of people.

Pratt responded in an Instagram story, defending his church and his beliefs. He said that his church welcomes all people and was very supportive of him during his recent divorce. The actor also said that his values, not his church, define him and that his primary value (modeled after Jesus) is love.  

Despite the fact that Pratt attends Zoe Church in Los Angeles, media outlets were quick to tie his church to Hillsong, seemingly because of an interview with the New York Times. In the interview, Zoe Church’s pastor, Chad Veach, said his church was modeled after Hillsong.

What Does Hillsong Believe?

Hillsong’s founder, Brian Houston, stated in a 2015 post that he and Hillsong believe that marriage should only be between one man and one woman. However, they recognized that people have the right to make their own choices and welcome all, no matter what their decisions are. Houston and Hillsong reaffirmed this position in 2017 when the people of Australia (where Hillsong Church started) voted to tell the government their opinions on whether or not same-sex marriage should be legal.

It is comments like these and Zoe Church’s supposed ties to Hillsong that have generated so much media buzz. The connection between the two churches is tenuous at best, but the attention has compelled Hillsong to release its newest statement clarifying its position.

In addition to asserting that Hillsong is not “anti” any group, yesterday’s post states that Brian Houston has never at any point promoted gay conversion therapy. The writers say they want the church to be known for what it is “for,” namely to see people find their hope in Jesus and find help, love and acceptance. While the statement does not say explicitly that homosexuality is a sin, it does say,

We are also a church that adheres to mainstream biblical values shared by the overwhelming majority of evangelical Christian churches around the world, and millions of Christians across the USA. Believing the teachings of the Bible and loving all people—including those who have different perspectives—are not mutually exclusive. In fact this is the very definition of tolerance and inclusiveness.

What to Do When a Volunteer Quits

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When you a key volunteer quits, it has ramifications. Worst case scenario, you have other volunteers who decide it’s time for them to quit as well.

It takes wisdom to navigate this situation. Your team dynamic can be affected if you don’t lead well through it.

Team members are likely to feel an emotional loss associated with the resignation. Often teams see a domino effect with others resigning in response to the first resignation.

Watch for overloading workloads as team members may have to step up and temporarily cover the responsibilities of the person who left.

So, how do you keep the rest of the team emotionally healthy and passionate about the mission? Let’s look at a few key steps to take.

Acknowledge the person is quitting. Be open and honest with the team. Share the news with them quickly (the people who know the person probably already know anyway). Let your team know that you are sorry the person is leaving. This will help you connect with the rest of the team emotionally and let them know you are feeling the same thing they are feeling.

Be honest about why the volunteer quits.

Other team members will have questions about why the person quit. Be honest and share as much information as is appropriate and OK with the volunteer who quit.

Find a replacement. If the volunteer had filled a role that requires certain leadership skills or talents, make it a priority to find the replacement. It might be someone who is already on the team that you could move into the vacant role. Or it may mean finding a new volunteer for that role.

Here’s an example. Let’s say your tech person steps down. Hopefully you have some volunteers that worked with the person. Meet with them and decide who will step into the lead role that is now vacant. Or find a new volunteer to fill the role.

Invest in the team. Sit down with the people he or she served with and ask how they are doing, how the team dynamic is going, any concerns or changes they want to talk about, etc. Spend extra time with them and invest in them.

Keep the team focused on the WHY instead of the what. Remind team members why you are doing what you are doing. Point them to the big mission God has called them to.

Realize it happens. You are going to have some volunteer turn over. People move. People change jobs. People have sicknesses. But when a key volunteer leader steps away for none of these reasons, it can cause a huge ripple effect if you don’t lead well.

It’s important to know what to say and how you should verbalize it. The goal is to keep the team excited, pumped and ready to continue serving.

This article about when a volunteer quits originally appeared here.

True Love Waits: Suggestions for a More Holistic Purity Culture

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With True Love Waits, we were wrong about purity culture. It was damaging and repressive. That is the claim of a Lutheran pastor who is asking men and women to send her the purity rings from their teen years to be melted down to create a sculpture. And in some ways, I would agree with her. She is right that evangelicals have struggled with a healthy view of sex. But before we all send in our rings, I would offer some suggestions.

I learned a great deal that was right and healthy and true in church regarding purity. First, I learned that sex was precious. Sometimes that preciousness was described in ways that were unhealthy, but the core of the message that sex was a good gift designed by God was there. I also learned that my desire for sex was healthy. While I know that there are stories of men and women who were told that sex was something you had to endure, I was not told that in my church. My parents had very frank conversations with my siblings and me about a desire for sex. Finally, I was given clear boundaries that were meant to structure that desire. Those boundaries—of marriage between a man and a woman—seemed restrictive and unrealistic as a teenager, but they were for my good.

So if True Love Waits got so much right, what did it get wrong?

Where the purity culture went wrong, however, was when virginity was conflated with chastity or purity. Ironically, there was a greater interest placed on physical virginity (though this is a good thing) than spiritual chastity. To be chaste is not to be free from sex. A married couple is called to chastity as well. Karen Swallow Prior, in her book On Reading Well, quotes Lauren Winner, who describes chastity in this way: Chastity, then, is “not the mere absence of sex but an active conforming of one’s body to the arc of the gospel.” To be chaste spiritually is to pledge yourself to one person, the Lord Jesus.

In True Love Waits, to be chaste typically meant pledging to abstain from sex until your wedding night. However, that is only one part of it. As Winner points out, it is not merely an abstaining from but a conforming to that marks chastity—specifically, to the “arc of the gospel.” What is the arc of the gospel? It is the arc from enslaved to sin to bondservant of Christ; from outsider to brother or sister of Christ; from fallen nature to redeemed creation. That arc includes so much more than physical body parts. It includes the other crucial part of humanity: our souls. We are soul-body creatures. Therefore, we cannot only think of our chastity in relationship to our bodies, but to the very way that we are forming and being conformed in our inmost being to the image of Christ as pure, faithful and chaste beings (Rom. 8: 29; 12:1-2).

The other major thing that True Love Waits often emphasized, to its detriment, is that if you were to lose your virginity, you were beyond redemption. This is one of the most dangerous and problematic things that could come out of a teaching about sex or purity. The man who has multiple sexual partners is not beyond the redemption of Christ; neither is the unwed mother.

Sexual sin is not any worse than the sin of pride that would lead us to think that we are about sinning in this way. Jesus does not bring us into the family with the condition that we are cleaned up first. We are brought in and invited to the table where we join a motley crew who look different than us but share one thing in common—none of us should be sitting where we are. Purity culture can sometimes emphasize maintaining purity so much that it leaves no room for restoring it. It ought not be so because our Lord is in the business of restoration (1 Corinthians 6:9-11).

Suggestions for True Love Waits for a more holistic purity culture

I would like to offer some suggestions for how the church can correct the two problems I mentioned above. The first is to continue presenting sex as a beautiful and amazing gift from God. Sex is a good gift from God. It is meant to be enjoyed in the marital union. The love poem between Solomon and his wife in the Song of Solomon should encourage us to see the beauty in what God has designed.

Second, be willing to have awkward conversations continually with your children in age-appropriate ways. If you won’t talk to them, someone else will. And the story that we have of sex is much better than that of the world. In particular, we should teach them that chastity is not the same as abstinence. Abstinence can be done alone; chastity requires community. As Lauren Winner explains, “The community is not so much cop as it is storyteller, telling and retelling the foundational stories that make sense of the community’s norms.” If we truly want a culture of purity, then we need to tell a story that urges us to pursue purity, not use fear and shame to keep members in line.

Finally, remember that while virginity may be lost, purity and chastity can always be regained. The story of Christianity is the story of redemption. It is the movement from the filthy rags of our works to the white robes of the redeemed. So don’t let the pursuit of purity keep out those who no longer fit your definition of morality. Jesus wants his bride. She is kept pure not by her doing, but by the work of the truly faithful one, Christ.

This article originally appeared here.

This Is Not a Real Church

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This article is one of several connected chapters in The Tony Payne Collection, and was first published in Briefing #367.

Some years ago, an elderly relative visited our church. She was a churchgoer herself—of a rather traditional kind. Afterwards, I asked her whether she had enjoyed church that morning—at which point, she looked straight at me and said with characteristic bluntness, “This is not a real church.”

Perhaps it was the lack of a prayer book service, the fact that we didn’t celebrate Holy Communion on that particular morning, the absence of organ music, or the general want of a quiet, ‘churchy’ atmosphere about the place. Not wishing to upset or offend my relative any further (and all the comments that sprang to mind at the time would certainly have done so), I didn’t pursue the subject. But it did give me pause afterwards. In one sense, it was quite true: Many of the elements that a previous generation would have closely associated with ‘real church’ had been stripped away or changed beyond recognition in our congregational gatherings. Had we stripped away too much? Or, to think about it the other way, how much can you strip away and still have a real church? If we were to apply Ockham’s Razor to church, what would be left standing?

Let’s try this thought experiment: Can we assume that the churches of the New Testament were real Christian churches, lacking nothing essential? If so, what could we ‘lop off’ our current practice of church life and still have a genuine Christian assembly (or ‘church’)?

Let’s mention the obvious ones first: no special religious buildings, no denominations, no territorial bishops, overseers or presbyteries responsible for a group of congregations, no committees, no constitutions, no weekly bulletin sheet, no announcements and no hymnbooks. So far, so easy. I’m not saying that these things are necessarily wrong or bad; they are just clearly not of the essence of what the church really is or what it needs to function well, since the New Testament had a perfectly complete experience of church without (as far as we know) any of them. And thus it would be very possible today to have a full and complete experience of Christian church, in which nothing is lacking, without any of these things.

Let’s press a little further. What else is absent in the New Testament church that we might start to regard as a little more essential? We don’t find evidence of set prayers and orders of liturgy, for a start. There is also no evidence of the word or concept of ‘worship’ being applied to what New Testament Christians did in their gatherings. It is shocking, I know, but there are no worship services in the New Testament. In fact, there weren’t any ‘churches’ either—by which I mean that there wasn’t a special religious or Christian word used to describe Christian gatherings. They were not a new species of religious thing called a ‘church’; they were just ‘gatherings’ or ‘assemblies,’ but Christian ones.

We also find no example or imperative for Sunday being the ‘right’ day on which we should meet, or any other day, for that matter. We know they met regularly, but in what configuration and frequency we aren’t sure. In fact, we struggle to find any distinction between a regular large gathering of the congregation (what we would call the Sunday Service) and any smaller gatherings that may or may not have taken place (what we would call ‘home Bible study groups’). We find no formal system of church membership, nor any set procedure or system for the structuring of leadership and governance within the congregation. (Certainly, New Testament Christians belonged to or were ‘members of’ particular congregations, and these congregations were led and governed; I am simply saying that we know next to nothing about the structures, procedures and practices of membership and leadership. So a particular model of membership or leadership—whether it be the Anglican, Presbyterian or Baptist models—is not of the essence of church.)

Let me make sure I am not misunderstood: I am not for a minute suggesting that we attempt to recreate a complete, working model of a New Testament church—as if we have to meet in houses because they did, or that we can’t use microphones or drum kits because they didn’t, or that it’s impossible to have formal systems of government and membership simply because we don’t know exactly how they organized these things. This is not an exercise in primitivism; it’s a thought experiment. How much could we whittle back and still have a completely normal, properly functioning New Testament church? Or, putting it the other way, how many extra-biblical details, structures and practices have established themselves in our minds as being of the essence of ‘church’?

Well, here’s what Ockham’s Razor has reduced us to: We could have a group of Christian people (of any size), with a qualified elder or overseer (or more than one, appointed or elected, we care not how), meeting in the name and presence of Christ in any location, at any time of day, on any day of the week, with any frequency (so long as it was regular and often), at which time they spoke and heard God’s word together (through Bible reading, preaching/teaching, prophetic encouragement, etc.), and responded in prayer and thanksgiving, with the result that God is glorified in Christ and the people edified.

You might want to describe this ‘cut down’ New Testament church a little differently, or add extra things. But here’s the point: What things do you currently regard as of the absolute essence of church—things without which you could not imagine church being ‘real church’—things that, in fact, are accidental, traditional or cultural details that could be otherwise? And could any of these things be changed if the times, seasons, purposes and circumstances of your fellowship suggested that they should be?

This article originally appeared here.

9 Ways to Increase Motivation for Life

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It’s that time of year when we need motivation for our goals and habits to try to live more intentionally and focused on what matters most to us.

But how do we stay motivated on these goals and habits that we know are important throughout the rest of the year? It doesn’t happen by default. Here are nine ways to increase your motivation in life:

9 Ways to Increase Motivation in Life

1. Plug into God

The greatest motivation source in all of life comes when we put our faith in Jesus Christ, and begin to walk with him. Paul spoke about the “energy of Christ which works so powerfully within me.” You gain a new excitement for life and your purpose when you are plugged in, in your faith.

We “plug into God” not just by claiming to be a Christian, but by actually walking closely with Christ each day.

We “plug into God” and walk closely with Christ by reading the Bible, turning from sin and obeying the Scriptures, spending time in prayer, worship and God’s Presence, and through community in our local church.

Walk with God every day, and you will plug into the power source that never runs dry.

2. Quit some things

Hebrews 12:1 says, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.”

Did you catch that? Throw off “every weight that slows us down,” and “the sin.” There are some weights in your life that may not be sin, but they keep you from everything God has for you. Of course, this is referring to “weights” in your life that slow you down spiritually, but nevertheless, the principle applies to all of life as well.

You can’t do everything. You only have a limited about of time and energy in life. Are you spending time on projects that are sapping your energy unnecessarily? Maybe it’s time to quit some things, so you can reserve your energy for what really matters to you, including the people and relationships in your life that matter most to you.

3. Recognize your limitations & your seasons

It’s ironic that I’m writing this article right now, because I feel I’ve been struggling with motivation the past few months. Partly because I’ve been in a busy season for too long, and partly because we have young kids and this stage of life reduces anyone’s capacity significantly.

But that’s OK. There are seasons when we won’t be able to get as much done, and that’s OK. It’s good for us to recognize the season we are in, and to embrace our limitations in life, and be OK with them.

4. Guard your margin & stay focused on the right things

Because you have limitations, and because you can’t do everything, it’s vital to guard your margin. Constantly re-assess your daily schedule to see if you are focusing on what is most important.

Raise Up Faithful Preachers

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How important is preaching to the health, life and mission of God’s church in the world today? Is it really all that important? I mean, aren’t there other, more effective ways in which to reach the lost and edify the saints? How essential is preaching to genuine Gospel vitality and potency, both individually and corporately, as believers in this culture?

Raise Up Faithful Preachers

I would argue that the faithful preaching of God’s Word is perhaps more important to the church than ever before. As Walter Kaiser writes, “It is no secret that Christ’s church is not at all in good health in many places of the world. She has been languishing because she has been fed, as the current line has it, ‘junk food’; all kinds of artificial preservatives and all sorts of unnatural substitutes have been served up to her.” As a result, Kaiser notes that theological and biblical malnutrition has “afflicted the very generation that has taken such giant steps to make sure its physical health is not damaged by using foods or products that are carcinogenic or otherwise harmful to their bodies.”

While tough to hear, I think Kaiser’s diagnosis is correct. What the church needs today is not junk food, but the kind of food and drink that can truly satisfy hungry and thirsty souls. What the church needs today is food and drink that comes through the clear, undiluted preaching of the Word of God.

Of course, this begs the question, “Who will preach God’s Word? Where do we find faithful preachers who rightly handle this Word of truth?” While our seminaries play a vital role in the equipping and training of preachers to serve God’s people, I am convinced the best place to raise up and develop preachers is in our local churches. In churches just like yours! So, what might this look like? How can your congregation begin to intentionally raise up preachers? Let me offer a simple pathway you and your church may want to consider.

Developing a Preaching Cohort 

One of the most effective ways your congregation can begin to develop preachers is by launching a preaching cohort. A preaching cohort is simply a small group of individuals committed to meeting regularly for the purpose of helping one another grow as preachers of God’s Word. In this group, individuals will learn with one another, encourage one another and give helpful feedback to one another as they journey toward becoming more effective preachers of the Word. Ideally this group will be made up of anywhere from two to five committed individuals, alongside the leader of the group, which in most cases is a pastor. It is recommended that this cohort meet at least once a month together for six to 12 months. Each cohort gathering should last between two to three hours in length.

Most preaching cohorts are made up of individuals with various levels of preaching experience. Whether someone has never preached a sermon before, or they have preached on a weekly basis, a preaching cohort is a great environment to sharpen skills and help those in the group mature in their preaching. Let me briefly paint a picture of what a preaching cohort might look like in your church. This is a model that has worked well for many churches launching a cohort for the first time. There are three primary components to the cohort: Personal Study, Group Preaching and Mentor Coaching.

Component #1: Personal Study

Personal study is one of the keys to helping those in the cohort get the most out of this experience. The commitment to learning outside of the monthly cohort preaching gathering will help to stretch and equip individuals both in their intellectual understanding, as well as practice of biblical preaching. While there are many excellent preaching resources available that you might choose to use with your group, let me recommend a combination of reading and listening. In other words, pick a book for your group to read and study together, along with a preaching podcast or two that will help provide additional instruction to your group.

First of all, I would encourage you to have your group read through an introductory book on preaching that can help them develop and deliver biblical sermons. There are many excellent introductory preaching books out there. I would recommend one of the following:

  • Christ-Centered Preaching by Bryan Chappell
  • The Christ-Centered Expositor by Tony Merida
  • Biblical Preaching by Haddon Robinson
  • Power in the Pulpit by Jerry Vines and Jim Shaddix

Along with reading one of the above texts, have your group listen to one or two preaching podcasts on a weekly or bi-weekly basis. This is a great way for those in your group to be learning from experienced preachers as they share some of the nuts and bolts learned over the years of preaching. Three podcasts I have found to be incredibly helpful to this end are:

  • “On Preaching” with H.B. Charles Jr.
  • “Expositor” with Dr. Steven Lawson
  • “Preaching and Preachers” with Dr. Jason Allen

Component #2: Group Preaching

Once a month the preaching cohort group will meet together for two to three hours (depending on your group size) for the purpose of instruction and preaching. Typically, a portion of this meeting will be given to discussing some of the reading and listening the group is doing together. It can also provide an opportunity for the group leader to do some intentional teaching on some aspect of preaching with the group. However, the majority of this meeting time will be spent having group members actually preach. This is where things get really fun! This meeting will allow individuals to preach in a context where they will be given honest and helpful feedback from others. Along with the group itself, I would recommend inviting other church leaders, as well as members of the congregation to come listen to the group preach each month.

Again, depending on the size of the group, each preacher in the cohort will preach a 20- to 25-minute sermon, followed by 10-15 minutes of evaluation and discussion. During this time, those present have the opportunity to offer words of encouragement and also share thoughts and observations that will help those in the cohort identify areas for growth in their preaching. I recommend having each observer fill out a simple preaching evaluation sheet that can help guide them in giving helpful critique in different areas.

Let me just reiterate what is probably very obvious. The evaluation and feedback given to the preachers in this context should be marked by much grace and kindness! Having your sermon critiqued? Are you kidding me? This can be an incredibly intimidating (even scary) experience for even the most seasoned preacher! This is why you want to go over the top in creating an environment marked by extravagant love and encouragement! This experience should be a joy not drudgery. Do all that you can to make sure it is just that.

Don’t Underestimate the Power of Thank You Notes

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Don’t Underestimate the Power of Thank You Notes

How long has it been since you wrote a thank you note to someone?

Handwriting a thank you note used to be a common practice. That was before the age of emails and text messages. It doesn’t appear that thank you notes are appreciated and effective anymore.

If you believe this, you will be interested in a recent study.

How Effective Are Thank You Notes?

The New York Times reported on a study conducted by Professors Amit Kumar and Nicholas Epley.

They had thank you letters written and delivered as a part of three experiments. These were not long letters. Most of them took less than five minutes to write.

What did they discover? The positive effect the letters had on the ones receiving them was far greater than what the senders thought the letters would have. Many of the recipients were ecstatic to receive the expression of gratitude.

Thank You Notes Put to the Test

I used to write a lot of thank you notes, but I got out of the habit of writing them regularly. The results of the study motivated me to start doing them frequently again.

But does it really work like the study showed? I did my own test.

I started watching for reasons to write a thank you note to people I work with. When I saw something, I wrote a simple note of encouragement and delivered it to them within 24 hours.

One of the notes I delivered was to someone I didn’t believe would care much that he received it. A few days after I handed him the note, I asked him if it made a difference.

He didn’t answer me at first. He pointed to a spot above his desk. It was the note I had written in full view for all to see. He then told me how much he appreciated receiving it and that he posted it to motivate him every day.

I was shocked!

What Is Holding You Back?

If thank you notes have this level of positive impact on others, then why aren’t we writing them more often?

We need to build a habit of watching for things we can thank people for. This is so much better than finding reasons to criticize, don’t you think?

We need to use those times of being grateful as a reminder to express our gratitude through spoken and written words of encouragement.

Get your pen and paper ready to write a thank you note today.

If you want to know how to write an encouraging thank you note, go to https://blog.smallgroupnetwork.com/how-to-write-an-encouraging-thank-you-note-to-your-volunteers/.

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18 Questions About Faith and Mental Illness

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When engaging a difficult and highly personal subject like faith and mental illness, it is better to start with good questions than a list of answers. The better our questions are, the more responsibly we will utilize the answers of which we are confidant, the more humbly we will approach areas of uncertainty, and the more we will honor one another in the process of learning.

As I’ve read, counseled and thought about the subject of faith and mental illness, here are some of the questions that have emerged.

The purpose of these questions is to expand our thinking about mental illness. We all bring a “theory of mental illness” to this discussion. This theory, whether we can articulate it or not, shapes the questions we ask. Exposing ourselves to important questions from other perspectives is the first step in becoming more holistic in our approach.

Questions About Faith and Mental Illness

Don’t allow these questions to overwhelm you. All of these questions existed before you read them. Speaking them didn’t create them. Actually, an appropriate response to this list would be the generation of more questions. Take a moment to write down the additional questions you have.

  1. Is mental illness a flaw in character or chemistry? Is this the best way to frame the question? What do we lose when we fall into the trap of either-or thinking?
  2. Why do we think of genetic influences as if they negate the role of the will or personal choice? Substance abuse can have a clear genetic predisposition, but every addiction program—even those most committed to a disease model—appeal to the will as a key component to sobriety.
  3. In the modern psychological proverb, “The genes load the gun, and the environment pulls the trigger,” where is the person? How do we best understand the interplay of predisposition (genetics), influences (environment) and the individual making choices (person)?
  4. What percent of those who struggle with “normal sorrow” are labeled as clinically depressed? What percentage of those who think their sorrow is normal are actually clinically depressed? How do we communicate effectively when the same word—depression—has both a clinical and popular usage?
  5. Would we want to eradicate all anxiety and depression if we were medically capable of doing so? What would we lose, that was good about life and relationships, if these unpleasant emotions were eradicated from human experience? Would that be heaven-on-earth or have unintended consequences that are greater than our current dilemma?
  6. Can we have a “weak” brain—one given to problematic emotions or difficulty discerning reality—and a “strong” soul—one with a deep and genuine love for God? If we say “yes” to this question in areas like intelligence (e.g., low IQ and strong faith), would there be any reason to say “no” about those things described as mental illness? C.S. Lewis in Mere Christianity says, “Most of the man’s psychological makeup is probably due to his body: when his body dies all that will fall off him, and the real central man, the thing that chose, that made the best or the worst of this raw material, will stand naked. All sorts of nice things we thought our own, but which were really due to a good digestion, will fall off some of us; all sorts of nasty things which were due to complexes or bad health will fall off others. We shall then, for the first time, see every one as he really was. There will be surprises (p. 91-92).”
  7. When do labels serve well (i.e., offering a sense of hope by breaking the sense of isolation and shame that comes with believing “my struggle is completely unique”) and when do labels serve poorly (i.e., diminishing hope by creating a sense of determinism and stigma)? How free should a counselor be to choose whether to use or not to use labels based upon these potential benefits and detriments for a given individual?
  8. What is happening when we “think” and “feel”? Are these experiences merely random neurological fireworks, the soul talking to itself using the physical organ of the brain like an internal telephone, or something else? Ed Welch in Blame It on the Brain? says, “It is as if the heart always leaves its footprints in the brain… The Bible predicts that what goes on in the heart is represented physically. But the Bible would clarify that such differences do not prove that the brain caused the thoughts and actions. It may very well be the opposite. Brain changes may be caused by these behaviors (p. 48).”
  9. Is mental illness a physical event with spiritual side effects or a spiritual event with physical side effects; do choices-emotions trigger biology or biology trigger choices-emotions?
  10. How do we best assess when the relief of medication would decrease the motivation to change versus when that same relief would increase the possibility of change? Pain can both motivate and overwhelm; is this simply about personal thresholds or should mental anguish be evaluated by a different set of criteria?
  11. Are our emotions more than the alarm system of the soul (moral) and the chemicals of our brain (biological)? Do these two categories tell us everything we need to know about emotions? Are these categories complementary or competitive with one another?
  12. Can we have a collective disease? Is mental illness always personal or can it be cultural? Cultural changes necessarily add to or detract from the kind of stresses that influence mental illness. How should we understand this influence and when might an “epidemic” require a collective solution as much as personal choices?
  13. Why are we, culturally, more open about almost everything in our lives than we were a generation ago except mental illness? Why does this stigma/prejudice maintain its socially accepted status when most others have been rejected? Kathryn Greene-McCreight in Darkness Is My Only Companion says, “The mentally ill are one group of handicapped people against whom it still seems to be socially acceptable to hold prejudice (p. 36).”
  14. Are we trying to medically create an idyllic sanguine personality? Is “normal” becoming too emotionally narrow? If not in the medical establishment, then are societal norms pushing people in this direction and the service-oriented medical profession trying to accommodate its well-intended, but misguided clientele? Joel Shuman and Brian Volck, M.D. in Reclaiming the Body: Christians and the Faithful Use of Modern Medicine say, “The consumer model to which medicine seems to be uncritically adopting pursuance is providing what the patient wants—that is, customer satisfaction in matters of health—is the measure of success (p. 26).”
  15. Does the alleviation of symptoms with medication always mean we are curing a disease? We medically treat the symptoms of many diseases and non-diseases to provide relief. This is good. Why have we allowed the debate over the disease model for mental illness to polarize the conversation about the roles medication can play in mental health?
  16. How should we understand the effects of the Fall on the mind and brain? We know our bodies age and die. We know all of our organs are susceptible to disease and deterioration. We have “norms” for the frequency, duration, onset and prognosis of these effects of the Fall; what are the equivalent expectations for the mind and brain?
  17. How do we understand the tension between “already” and “not yet” with regards to the health, development and preservation of the mind? How much should we expect to be able to remedy the effects of the Fall upon the mind prior to the ultimate redemption that will occur when Christ returns (Revelation 21:4)?
  18. How much should we expect conversion and normal sanctification (spiritual maturity) to impact mental illness? Outside of medical interventions, most secular treatments for mental illness focus on healthy-thinking, healthy-choices and healthy-relationships; so how much should Christians expect sound-doctrine, righteous-living and biblical-community to impact their struggle with mental illness?

What do we gain from asking good questions? Humility. Humility may be more vital for this conversation than most other conversations we have. Why? Because the neurological, genetic and medical research that have prompted many of these questions is still in its infancy. What we “know” in these areas will likely seem as outdated as a VHS tape 10 years from now.

“It is very likely that in the future, with increased research into depression and also increased understanding of the Bible’s teaching, much of the current confident certainty, which presently masquerades as biblical or medical expertise, will also look ridiculous, cruel and even horrifying (p. 12).” David Murray in Christians Get Depressed Too,

But if the Bible is timeless, do research developments in these areas matter? Yes. Not because new scientific discoveries will change what the Bible means, but those discoveries will likely change our application of the Bible. Did the discovery of epileptic seizures change the truthfulness of the Bible? No. But it did help Christians understand that these were not demonic events. It is likely, if God should tarry, that many similar discoveries will emerge in the area of mental illness.

This article about faith and mental illness originally appeared here.

Pharisaism in a Nutshell

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Seven salutary woes, in Matthew 23:1-36, reduced Jesus to warning and weeping (23:37-39) as he approached the Holy City for His final moments of earthly ministry.

We could spend several days expounding these statements which shook the Jewish religious establishment. Perhaps Gentiles too can pick up a few crumbs of warning to make us weep over the state of our own sinful flesh as we cry for purer hearts.

Seven Shocking Statements

To sum up these shocks, let’s ask a question: ‘What, in a nutshell, are the sins unmasked by the Savior that lurk in the nature of every adamic sinner (reduced to six points)?’

  1. Pride – love of self-ease, self-adulation and self-exaltation when praised as the straight-talking, gun-slinging, hard-hitting teacher of others when we refuse the same lessons and go easy on our own flesh (23:1-12).
  2. Zeal – false addiction to tradition blinds us to our own plight, leads others into a ditch, and spreads its cancer far and wide (23:13-15).
  3. Lies – covenants are our catchphrase but our oaths obfuscate on obedience: If our word is not our bond, and our vow is not made good, we show our ignorance of the God of truth in whose name we swear (23:16-22).
  4. Bribes – wads of petty cash or cool, huge, i-phone bank transfers are turned into a ruse for not doing some significant good (23:23-24).
  5. Filth – style and suits are employed to conceal inward dirt, while sanctimonious skins of psalm-singing are used to plaster over cracks of hidden, hedonistic, hellish, hankerings in our hearts (23:25-28).
  6. Hate – fists, rants, spite and spit are launched against the truth or against shepherd-hearted friends who are brave and kind enough to correct us or call us back in line (23:29-36).

Right Repentant Reaction

I’m sure you can all think of better headings for these warnings, but don’t let my clumsiness result in your heedlessness—every man alive tends to (and should weep over) such Pharisaic traits.

This is our old man! This is our fallen, false, Pharisaic, flesh! This is the ‘Old Adam,’ who by grace, through faith in the Last Adam (our Lord Jesus Christ—crucified and raised for us), we are called to put to death.

Glorious Golgotha Grace

There is glory, though, before we go from woe…these were woes (or curses of the Covenant) that were mercifully and freely laid on the Redeemer as our guilt bearer.

As Jesus wept for Jerusalem He also took up His Cross of Tearful Terror—for within a few days He bore all these Pharisaic woes of ours to exhaust [the] curse on the Cross.

Seven Sorrowful Supplications

It will probably be wisest to turn our Pharisaic woes into seven symmetrical pleas—maybe, on bent knees, we can utter the following cries (reduced to six):

  1. Give me Christ’s own servant heart that mortifies self.
  2. Make me pant for the Kingdom and to point others to the Lamb.
  3. Grant me grace to speak truth from the heart particularly when difficult.
  4. Open my eyes to see the path of goodness, righteousness and mercy that you have called me to walk in each day in grace-inspired deeds.
  5. Purify my heart and drive all hypocrisy out—rid me of dirt and death.
  6. Fill me with love for all your saints and help me submissively heed rebuke.

The Nutcracker Sweet

What amazing kindness to know that your keenest woes, believer, have now been turned to bliss, in God’s Covenant of Grace. Its oath has been eternally sealed to our curse-free conscience, in the precious blood of Christ—that is cause, from a purified heart, to sing Hallel-Psalms of praise!

Whether male or female, bond or free, young or old, rich or poor, Jew or Greek…this is the Pharisaic Nut that, by the power of Gospel grace, through faith alone in Jesus, true believers will finally crack!

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Advice for the Type A Leader With a Million Good Ideas

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Sound wisdom for the Type A leader who is frustrated…

I received an email from a great young business leader recently asking for some advice. He’s a first time leader in charge of a major department. This will be a great career position for him if he does well. He’s so excited. His small team is getting to know him and learning to trust him.

His question:

I’m having a hard time right now processing all of the various aspects of the job. I’m overwhelmed from a process, task and leadership perspective.

The reality is I’m an idea guy. I can see so much we could or should be doing and I want to do them all now. I fear though that I can add too many ideas and not create enough clarity for people on the team or not make enough decisions personally. Any wisdom?

My answer:

Yea, I’ve got some wisdom for you. Ask someone else. 

No, I didn’t say that, but it was certainly my first thought. I’ve received that question so many times I cannot count them all. I never feel I have a great answer, because this one hits close to home for me.

Here’s what I actually said to this Type A leader:

I wish I had that answer for you. Unfortunately, I’ve been that way all my career. Now I’m certainly frustrating people here in my new role. They will get to know me and me them, but it’s difficult in the beginning days. Our COO has said something like, “I’m not sure you’ve ever met an idea you didn’t like”.

Ha! That’s actually pretty close to the truth.

Here’s what I would suggest from experience for Type A leaders:

Record every idea you have. There’s nothing wrong with having ideas. In fact, every organization needs some new good ideas. And, you can’t reach one good idea without working through a few bad ones—sometimes many bad ones.

Keep a list of the ideas. I use Evernote or Google Docs and I have several such lists. I frequently go to them, add things, take things off and prioritize them. Most of these lists I share with our team. It’s good “therapy” for me just to get them recorded.

Limit yourself to chase a few ideas at a time. This is the hard part, but you can’t do everything and be effective. You know this, which is why you contacted me in the first place. This will require discipline, but it’s a necessary part of leadership.

If possible, delegate some of the ideas. It could be you are trying to do things, which are great ideas, but someone else needs to be doing them.

Give your team plenty of latitude to push back. Let people tell you when you have a bad idea. Or when you are pushing them too hard. Be humble and approachable. Strive not to be controlling.

I always try to hold others to limit attempting more than a few things at a time also, but I want them to be achieving something new. Part of good leadership is helping people achieve more than they thought they could. That could involve training, encouraging, celebrating wins or challenging when necessary.

Make sure you don’t hold people to an unreasonable pace. Leaders set the pace of the organization. Remember everyone isn’t wired like you. Don’t be unrealistic. Make sure you are disciplining yourself as discussed above, but some people will simply remove themselves from the organization if they can’t keep up or feel over-worked or under-appreciated. Everyone is not a good fit for a new leader, but you can’t lead without people, so don’t wear them out unnecessarily.

And, here’s another big point there. As a Type A leader, and leaders wired like us can get this one out of order if we aren’t careful, you have to learn to:

Value people over progress.

That one principle will actually make you a better leader.

Lead forward with the few ideas you believe in most. You can’t stall the organization, because of other people’s resistance. Change will always bring resistance from someone. Again, part of leadership is taking people somewhere they couldn’t see or realize on their own. That’s always difficult for someone at first.

Good leaders don’t intentionally frustrate people, but the process of guiding change can (and will) be frustrating at times. Guard your heart, make sure you’re not being unrealistic, don’t attempt too much at one time, help people when they need it, but don’t be afraid to stretch people within reason. It’s the only way people and organizations grow.

Hope this helps. By the way, I’m writing this to me also.

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Night to Shine’s 2019 Highlight Reel Will Give You All the Feels

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On February 8, 655 churches across the globe hosted a “Night to Shine,” a prom night for people with special needs who are age 14 or older. The prom is sponsored by the Tim Tebow Foundation. On the foundation’s About page, Tebow writes,

The Christian faith is about loving Jesus and loving people, and that is what we are trying to do with this foundation and all of our outreaches…our goal is to let people know that God loves them and that they are worthy.

This is Night to Shine’s fifth year, and the event has seen significant growth since 2018, with over 100,000 attendees and over 200,000 volunteers in all 50 states and 24 countries.


The Night to Shine prom in Erie, Pennsylvania, was pretty representative of what the events are like. When guests arrived, they got to walk down a red carpet with people on either side greeting and cheering for them. Each guest spent the three-hour evening with a “buddy” volunteer and received a corsage or boutonniere, as well as a gift bag and a framed photo. The guests ate dinner together, and there was a live DJ and dancing. At the end of the evening, attendees watched a video from Tim Tebow and before they left, each was crowned king or queen of the prom. The lead organizer of the event said,

I think that the crowning is so meaningful because everybody wants to have that feeling of being crowned something… One of the things I say to the buddies is that we’re trying to change the lives of people with disabilities and special needs, and when we leave here tonight, our lives are actually the ones here that are changed.

The Night to Shine event in Jeffersonville, Indiana, was similar. In addition to dinner and dancing, guests got to have their hair and makeup done and their shoes shined. They also had the opportunity to take a limo ride and sing karaoke.

One volunteer at that event said that one of the benefits of Night to Shine is that “It brings the special needs community together and helps everybody understand that if we work together, we can function together.”

The mom of one guest at a another event in Indiana expressed how grateful she was for the support. Referring to her daughter, the mom said, “Just to have something like this and know that she can do whatever she wants and not worry if someone is going to make fun of her is exciting.”


The proms were clearly meaningful to the guests who got to attend. One guest at an event in West Plains, Missouri, said, “It was awesome. You feel like you’re rich.”

Special needs students in Plano, Texas, were gathered for a meeting the morning of Night to Shine when they got an extra special surprise: Tim Tebow himself. He and his fiancee showed up at Prestonwood Baptist Church, spoke to the students, and took pictures with them. Tebow told them, “Number one is you guys, that you get a night where you can shine; that it’s a night where the church can shine; it’s a night where all the volunteers can shine; but maybe most importantly, it’s a night where God gets to shine. Is that pretty cool?”


That is exactly what seems to be happening at the Night to Shine events across the world. At the one in Fort Morgan, Colorado, one parent commented,

I don’t think I have ever been to a place that just exudes so much love and happiness. Everyone cared so much about whether everyone else was having a good time. Even the police were speaking with everyone asking their name and if they were having a good time, making them feel special. It was quite the experience.

$150,000 Donated After Church’s Fast From ‘frivolous spending’

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A Virginia church celebrated Black History Month this year by making a big difference in the lives of 34 local college students. Alfred Street Baptist Church, a historic black congregation in Alexandria, recently contributed $100,000 to erase debts that would have prevented Howard University seniors from graduating.

Alfred Street asked its members to fast from “frivolous spending” during January, according to assistant minister Marc Lavarin. This included abstaining from alcohol, sweets, social media and unnecessary purchases. At month’s end, the congregation was asked to donate the resulting savings to help the community—without knowing specifics about the recipients.

“We had an overwhelming response from our congregation,” Lavarin says. Of the $150,000 raised, $100,000 went to Howard seniors with good academic records and financial need who owed money before they could receive a diploma. Another $50,000 went to Bennett College in North Carolina, a historically black women’s school that was in danger of losing its accreditation.

Alfred Street Baptist Church Supports HBCUs

Historically black colleges and universities (HBCUs) are important to Alfred Street Baptist Church, which hosts a large HBCU College Festival every year. About 60 percent of the church’s 8,000 active members graduated from an HBCU, many of which were founded by religious groups.

“We believe that it’s the role of the church, especially those historically black congregations, to continue to support our historically black colleges and universities,” says Lavarin, “especially considering we have played such a role in their conception and founding.”

The idea of easing students’ debts came to Lavarin in prayer. “I thought, ‘What better way to celebrate Black History Month than investing in the young, black heroes of HBCUs?’” As a 2018 divinity school graduate who still has student loans, Lavarin says that debt, not academic ability, is what often holds back black collegians.

Grateful Students Can Pay It Forward 

The Howard seniors who benefited from Alfred Street’s generosity were summoned to the school’s financial aid office, where pastors surprised them with the good news and filmed their reactions for the congregation.

Students say they’re overwhelmed to have their financial burdens eased. “I was excited. I wanted to cry,” says Mya Thompson, a 25-year-old Howard senior and mother of one who works night shifts at a local 911 call center. “The fact that I don’t have to worry about [the outstanding balance] is definitely a weight lifted off my shoulders,” she says.

Although Thompson still will have about $50,000 in student loans, she’s now ensured of earning a diploma, which increases her job prospects. “I’m prayerful,” she says, “praying that God has my back on this too, and that we’ll get through it together.”

Alfred Street’s investment in students reminds them “never to give up hope,” Lavarin says. And he believes they’ll pay it forward—through their achievements and also by supporting others down the road. 

Howard President Wayne Frederick says of Alfred Street, “Their generosity is a reminder of how one person’s selfless act of kindness can be multiplied and have a profound impact on the lives of others.”

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