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Lysa Terkeurst Celebrates ‘Miracle Answer’ to Troubled Marriage

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The last few years have been a rollercoaster ride for Lysa Terkeurst. Her new book, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way, is aptly titled as it describes the heart-wrenching journey she experienced as she separated from her husband of 26 years, battled cancer and underwent emergency surgery for a digestive problem, and continued to lead Proverbs 31 Ministries. Now, Terkeurst is sharing some long-anticipated and wholly welcomed news: She just renewed her vows with Art, her husband.

“On an unusually sunny Tuesday in December, we dressed up a bit and whispered healing words, heart felt prayers, and holy vows. A million prayers. A miracle answer. A marriage restored,” Terkeurst wrote on her Twitter account.

Lysa Terkeurst’s Rocky Road

In a blog post dated June 2017, Terkeurst shared she and Art were experiencing marital troubles. Having learned 18 months prior that Art had been unfaithful to her and was struggling with substance abuse, Terkeurst explained the couple had been engaging in “intensive therapy.” She describes attempting repeatedly to forgive her husband and work toward reconciliation. As of June 2017, though, Terkeurst believed Art had “abandoned” their marriage.

At the time, Terkeurst indicated she was “pursu[ing] a divorce” even after repeated attempts to avoid such action. Things seemed to go silent for a while after the publishing of the June 2017 blog post. Terkeurst mentioned she would take a step back from leading Proverbs 31 in order to rest and receive “biblical and professional counseling.”

The irony of the fact that she had led and encouraged countless women to fight for their marriages and now she was facing the implosion of her own was not lost on Terkeurst. In an interview with ChurchLeaders, Terkeurst said facing the reality of her broken marriage in public was “excruciating.”

“I’ve always wanted God to be as predictable as a math equation. I felt like I had done what God asked me to do. I’d tended to my marriage; we’d gone on the date nights and the retreats; we’d gotten good counseling. I’d felt like I’d done everything and checked all the boxes and then this upending of our relationship, this unraveling of what I held precious, it was more painful than what I knew how to deal with privately, so you can imagine how excruciating it was to deal with it publicly.”

Turning Trial Into Triumph

And then in June 2018, Terkeurst’s followers were met with a surprise on her Facebook page. A single picture featuring Terkeurst and her family—including Art—indicated things might be turning around in the marriage. The caption read, “A gift. A hard prayed for and fought for, glorious, messy, miraculous, honest, treasured gift of together. Happy Father’s Day Art! The way you have pursued the Lord, healing, and us…is evidence of God’s supernatural grace and goodness.”

Somewhere along the course of this crazy ride, Terkeurst managed to write It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way, in which she gives some details about the intense trials she was currently going through. The epilogue of the book contains a candid letter that is full of hope concerning her marriage (which had begun to be reconciled), yet at the same time remained cognizant of the journey the couple still had to complete.

Terkeurst wrote she is still a little fearful of the future, given the pain the past has contained, yet she has found courage and strength in God.

Her story and her willingness to share it, as painful and potentially shameful as it may be, gives us a beautiful reminder: None of us can anticipate the struggles the future will hold. All we can do is trust the God who leads us and loves us.

Congratulations, Lysa and Art. May God bless you and may you have many more years together.

Christmas Ideas That Will Grow Your Ministry

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Christmas is just around the corner.  As I’m typing this, we are only 22 days away.

Christmas is one of the best times of the year to reach kids and families and grow your ministry.

Over the years, I’ve used several ideas to do this. Here are some of them.

Gift Giveaway. In one ministry I served in, we had lots of kids coming to church without their parents.

We decided to try and reach some of these kids’ parents. People in the church donated lots of great presents. We shared with the kids that came without their parents that if they brought their parents with them to the service on Christmas Sunday, after the service, they could go with their parents and pick out one of the presents.

Eighty-two first-time guest parents came to church that Sunday. We saw many of them come to Christ and become involved in the church.

Christmas Family Experience. Families are looking for something to do together around Christmas time. We created a family experience that kids and parents could enjoy together. It featured a family show called “Who’s This All About?” It was about the Grinch finding the true meaning of Christmas.

After the show, we had craft tables, hot chocolate, cookies, etc. that kids and families could enjoy together. The script for the family show is available at this link and can be adapted to any size church. We had over 4,000 kids and parents show up for it.

Picture Spots. Parents will stand in long lines for their children to take a picture with Santa or other Christmas characters. You can set up picture spots with Christmas background for family pictures. You can also have costumed characters kids and families can take pictures with.

Christmas Lesson. I created a special Christmas lesson for the Sunday before Christmas. It tells the story about a boy who learns what it means to give at Christmas. It comes with videos, lesson plan, graphics, etc. It can be used on Sunday morning for a Christmas large group session, small group session, Wed. night class, etc. You can get more info. at this link. It’s available as an instant download.

Birthday Party for Jesus. This is a great way to teach kids about Jesus’ birth. Have a party for Jesus and have kids bring him a gift (offering) for Christmas.

Your turn. What are some other Christmas events, activities or programs you have experienced during the Christmas season? Share your thoughts, ideas an insights in the comment section below.

This article originally appeared here.

How Envy Forgets God’s Goodness

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The Reformer Martin Luther said that God concluded the Ten Commandments with “Thou shalt not covet” (envy) because if we kept that command, we would keep all the others. The reason people lie, steal, commit adultery and even kill is usually because of envy.

In Numbers 11, the children of Israel were about a year out from being delivered from slavery. They were passing through a wilderness, where God led them with a pillar of cloud by day and a pillar of fire by night and every morning provided manna for them to eat. Yet despite his miraculous provision, the Israelites still complained about their circumstances, and their complaining is a direct result of envy.

Recognizing the three root causes of envy in Numbers 11 will allow us to pull up envy by its roots in our own lives.

1. Envy forgets God’s goodness poured out in the past.

Most of us tend to miss the important timing of Numbers 11. At this point, the Israelites were less than 13 months removed from being oppressed slaves. And yet they were complaining openly before the Lord about hardship, imagining that life was better back in Egypt (Numbers 11:5). They seemed totally oblivious to where they would be had God not, in an act of sheer compassion, intervened.

Furthermore, they seemed oblivious to the fact that a God who saved them like that in the past would surely provide for them in their present!

Envy stays unaware of what it actually deserves and acts like God owes us much more than we have received.

When you’re having a bad day, remind yourself of where you were—and where you should be—under judgment, in hell. Then look at where you actually are—a child of God with his Spirit inside of you and a promised inheritance that cannot be taken away. Reflect on the incredible kindness of God in saving you and giving you the assurance that the God who delivered us didn’t do so only to let us perish. Clearly, he has our good in mind.

2. Envy overlooks God’s goodness provided in the present.

The Israelites said, “If all we have is this manna, we are going to shrivel up and die!” We know the end of the story, and shriveling wasn’t it. In fact, according to Deuteronomy 8, Moses says that during the whole 40 years in the wilderness, their feet didn’t swell, which was a sign of malnutrition. The manna didn’t just fill their bellies; it provided them the sustenance they needed. It really was enough.

Envy always assumes, “If all I have is what God gives me, if I rely solely on him, it won’t be enough. My soul is going to dry up!” That is an old lie, but it is still a lie. And, tragically, it will keep you from enjoying what God has given to you for your enjoyment.

Envy was a key element at work in the Garden of Eden. God said that Adam and Eve could eat of every tree in the Garden except one, which made them think, “Well, then, I bet that is the best one!”

Think about that. Even in paradise, envy made Adam and Eve think that something was wrong. If envy can do that in paradise, how much more can it wreak havoc in our lives today. This is why some people are critical about everything, even when things are going well. That critical spirit comes from a deep dissatisfaction that arises from envy. And envy doesn’t care how much good God has given us; it only cares what God hasn’t given us.

To envy, the happy life always seems like it is right over there, in that “one tree” God has not let you have yet. But it’s a lie! Go read the book of Ecclesiastes, and then come back and tell me if getting everything your heart desires actually leads to happiness (spoiler: It doesn’t).

The happy life is finding satisfaction in what God has provided for you today—because it is always enough.

3. Envy ignores God’s goodness promised for the future.

In the wilderness, the Israelites seemed to forget that their situation was temporary, that God was sending them to a literal Promised Land that flowed with milk and honey (or as we would say today, “abundant in bloomin’ onions and cheesecake”).

In your life, there may be some good things you want that you miss out on for a few years. I know those years feel like an eternity, but before God, those deprivations are only temporary. Perhaps that is material wealth. Or a meaningful job. A spouse. A child. God does not delight in your suffering; he hurts when you hurt. But he also sees a bigger picture, and he knows just how short your years are. As the Apostle Paul put it, the worst deprivations on earth can only be called “light and momentary” when compared to the weight of glory that God has in store for his saints (2 Corinthians 4:17).

On that final day, it won’t matter if we were married, single, rich, poor or anything else. In Christ, none of us will feel like we are missing anything: “As for me, I shall behold your face in righteousness; when I awake, I shall be satisfied with your likeness” (Psalm 17:15).

Because of the knowledge of what is coming, we can be content with the impartial blessings we have now, because these small blessings point to something far greater we will soon receive in a Promised Land flowing with milk and honey.

This article originally appeared here.

Singing From Mary’s Sheet

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“My soul magnifies the Lord, and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has looked on the humble estate of his servant. For behold, from now on all generations will call me blessed; for he who is mighty has done great things for me, and holy is his name. And his mercy is for those who fear him from generation to generation. He has shown strength with his arm; he has scattered the proud in the thoughts of their hearts; he has brought down the mighty from their thrones and exalted those of humble estate; he has filled the hungry with good things, and the rich he has sent away empty. He has helped his servant Israel, in remembrance of his mercy, as he spoke to our fathers, to Abraham and to his offspring forever.” (Luke 1: 46-55)

This familiar Christmas passage is often called Mary’s Song or the Magnificat, which is Latin for magnify. Mary sings this song in response to Elizabeth’s exclamation of blessing to her when she arrived for a visit and when John the Baptist leapt in Elizabeth’s womb, “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb.” Mary sang this song to magnify or to extol God. When we magnify something, we make it bigger, so we can better see it. Like a magnifying glass. Or when someone is put up on the jumbotron at a ball game, so everyone can see their silly dance. In the case of this song, Mary is narrowing in on the greatness of God. She is filled with wonder at what God is doing and can’t help but bubble over into praise.

What makes this song all the more remarkable is the challenges and trials she likely went through before her visit to Elizabeth. She had probably been ostracized by many in her community. We don’t know how her family responded, but they had every legal right to reject her, or worse. We know from the book of Matthew that Joseph wanted to divorce her after he heard the news of her conception. We should also remember where Israel is in her history. Since the exile, they have not had a king on the throne. The prophets have been silent since Malachi. Romans rule the world and their land. So in many ways, it’s a dark time, for Mary and for her people. Yet as we see, she sings a song filled with wonder and thanksgiving.

Magnifying the Lord in Thanksgiving

In her song, Mary shows us how to give thanks to the Lord. And we can learn a few things from her for our own songs of praise.

We praise God by rehearsing Scripture: Throughout her song, Mary references directly or indirectly many psalms and other Old Testament passages. One obvious one is Hannah’s prayer from 1 Samuel. The first verse of her song mirrors Psalm 103:1 where the psalmist wrote, “Bless the LORD, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name!” As an Israelite, Mary was steeped in Scripture; she knew God’s word. And having sung the psalms in worship, she knew how to sing praises to the Lord. Singing praises to God for who he is and what he has done was natural to her and this song is spontaneous praise. She is overwhelmed by the goodness of God to her and ultimately to her people. Mary faced a significant turning point in her life. A huge event just happened. An event that was a mixture of both trial and hope. She learned that she would bear the Messiah, but that blessing also brought about difficulty and challenges for her and her family. She processed and prayed and praised by rehearsing what she knew from God’s Word. Mary shows us how to respond to all the events in our life: whether momentous or hard, whether joyous or painful, by focusing on who God is and what he has done.

Free Children’s Christmas Play

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Free Children’s Christmas Play

Need a Christmas play for your ministry? Celebrate Christmas this year with this free children’s play.

This play features Bible readings from a narrator, with children acting out the parts of the characters.

This resource includes:

  • Setup ideas, including costumes and props
  • Script, including narrator’s readings and stage directions
  • Song ideas, such as Oh Little Town of Bethlehem 

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Resource provided by Ministry to Children 

Why Regrets Are a Waste of Time

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Why Regrets Are a Waste of Time

It’s that time of year when we look back at the year that has passed and wonder. Did we accomplish what we wanted? Did we read the books on our to-read list? Exercised as much as we had planned? Lost the weight we had gained the Christmas before? Spent as much time with God as we wanted to?

It’s that time of year where we may feel regret because we didn’t do what we had planned to do, because we tried but didn’t even come close, because well, we failed. Big time.

When we are confronted with our failings, our mistakes, our shortcomings, experiencing regret is natural. It’s those coulda/woulda/shoulda thoughts that keep you awake at night.

Yet spending too much time on regrets is useless, because regrets are a big waste of time. It won’t help you to regret the things that you didn’t do or the stupid things that you did, because you can’t change the past. I know that sounds like the biggest cliché ever, but that doesn’t change the fact that it’s also true. You can’t change the past, so regretting the past won’t help you. Here’s what will help you as you look back and are confronted with where you fell short:

1. Remorse

Regret won’t help you, but remorse will. Confess your sins and shortcomings to God and where necessary to others. Make amends wherever possible with people you may have hurt. If you had planned to spend more time with your family for instance but failed to actually do so, admit your failure in this area to your spouse and kids. It will go a long way in mending things.

Don’t ever forget that God is a God of second, third and even hundred-and-thirty-fourth chances… No matter how many times you have failed, He will always welcome you with open arms!

2. Analyze

Regret won’t help you, but analyzing what went wrong will. If you had planned to prepare your sermons way more in advance but found yourself writing them the day before, what was the cause? Did you forget to put it on your to do list? Did you set the wrong priorities? Did you let yourself get distracted by other seemingly important activities?

Analyzing what went wrong in the execution of your plans will help you improve your methods to increase chances of succeeding the next time.

3. Learn

Regret won’t help you, but you can learn from your mistakes. Remember the old rodeo slogan: It’s not how many times you fall off, it’s how many times you get back on.

After you’ve spent some time analyzing what went wrong, now make a plan to help you succeed next time. Often, this will have to do with changing your habits, something we will go into more detail on in tomorrow’s post.

There’s a famous French singer called Edith Piaf whose biggest hit was called ‘Non, je ne regrette rien’ (no, I don’t regret anything). The song is about having peace with your past and not spending time having regrets. If you’re making New Year’s Resolutions anyway, why not decide to make this your motto for the new year? Non, je ne regrette rien…

SBC’s Flagship Seminary Releases Report Detailing Racist Past

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In 1995, on the 150th anniversary of the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC), the group released an affirmation acknowledging the role it had historically played in oppressing African Americans and perpetuating racism. More than 20 years later, the SBC’s “mother seminary” has released a new report outlining the ways that institution has contributed to the problem of racism in America.

“We have been guilty of a sinful absence of historical curiosity,” Southern Baptist Theological Seminary (SBTS) president Al Mohler said in a statement.

Mohler says it was time for a “more direct and far more candid acknowledgment of the legacy of this school [SBTS] in the horrifying realities of American slavery, Jim Crow segregation, racism and even the avowal of white racial supremacy.”

President Al Mohler Says It’s Time to Take a Closer Look

Mohler, who was involved in the 1995 affirmation released by the SBC, asked a team composed of faculty members from SBTS and Boyce College to spend 12 months researching the role Southern Seminary played in perpetuating things such as slavery, opposing the civil rights movement, and systemic racism. Mohler told the team of researchers nothing would be withheld from the public from their discoveries.

Among those on the research team are Dr. Gregory A. Wills, professor of church history and former dean of the School of Theology; Dr. Jarvis J. Williams, associate professor of New Testament interpretation; Dr. Curtis A. Woods, assistant professor of applied theology and biblical spirituality and associate executive director of the Kentucky Baptist Convention; Dr. Matthew J. Hall, dean of Boyce College; Dr. John D. Wilsey, associate professor of church history; and Dr. Kevin Jones, associate dean of Boyce College at the time of commissioning and now interim chair of the School of Education and Human Development at Kentucky State University.

While it is not news that many of the founders of the SBC were slaveholders, Mohler says a more thorough understanding of the seminary’s role in racism was in order. The report is being released with “both lament and conviction,” according to Mohler.

“The founding faculty of this school—all four of them—were deeply involved in slavery and deeply complicit in the defense of slavery. Many of their successors on this faculty, throughout the period of Reconstruction and well into the 20th century, advocated segregation, the inferiority of African-Americans, and openly embraced the ideology of the Lost Cause of southern slavery.”

According to the 72-page report, the SBC “spoke distinctly in support of the morality of slaveholding and the justness of the Confederate effort to preserve it. The seminary’s donors and trustees advanced the interests of slavery from positions of leadership in society and in the church.”

Southern Seminary’s Troublesome Past

The report goes on to detail 13 ways in which the seminary historically perpetuated slavery and white supremacy, and how it eventually changed. A brief description of the points are included below. To read the full report, which includes more specific details and historical records, click here.

1. SBTS’ founding faculty owned slaves. “James P. Boyce, John A. Broadus, Basil Manly Jr. and William Williams together owned more than 50 persons.”

2. SBTS’ early faculty and trustees defended the “righteousness” of owning other people. “They argued first that slaveholding was righteous because the inferiority of blacks indicated God’s providential will for their enslavement, corroborated by Noah’s prophetic cursing of Ham. They argued second that slaveholding was righteous because southern slaves accrued such remarkable material and spiritual benefits from it.”

3. When Abraham Lincoln was elected, SBTS faculty fought to continue slaveholding. SBTS “trustees such as Benjamin Pressley had made arguments for secession as early as 1851, claiming that defending slavery was of such vital priority that southern states should be prepared to leave the Union.”

How Do You Avoid Being Cranky in Worship?

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If there’s one thing I have a hard time with, it’s church music. This has been, more or less, an ongoing struggle for me for 13+ years. Across the board. In years past, I haven’t always handled it well. Probably led with a bit too much, ummmm…persnicketiness, in all honesty.

From a certain point of view, I still am. I have a strong distaste for most of what passes as worship in our age, especially in that I find too little of it to truly be oriented toward worship of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I have songs I would prefer to never hear again, and music I personally feel uneasy about from a theological perspective and/or point of origin.

Basically, I could create a giant list of complaints, write a hot take about a specific song or two, and a whole bunch of you reading would agree and offer a hearty “yes and amen.” But I don’t want to do that because we have enough hot takes out there, and, well, I just don’t feel like it.

Instead, I want to consider how we lean into the tension and avoid being cynical. Or maybe a better way to put it is, I want to think about how we can participate in corporate worship when there may or may not be songs we have concerns about. So after 13+ years of grousing, here are a few principles I try to live by as I participate in corporate worship and conversations around it:

Ground your objections in Scripture. If you’re listening to a song and you don’t think it’s quite right, then dig into the Word. You may find that your concern has a Scriptural foundation, but you may also find that your concern has support. But let the Word be your arbiter, not your preferences.

Put preferences on the shelf. I have certain kinds of songs I prefer. I generally prefer hymns, whether classic or modern arrangements, and would prefer singing them over modern praise music any Sunday (and every day). But I have friends who feel the opposite and would prefer to never sing a hymn ever. Preferences are exactly that: preferences. Sometimes that means that my preferences are going to need to be set aside for the sake of others. And that’s OK.

Recognize the difference between sloppy and error. Not all error is created equal, and some might not be actual error at all. A song might simply be sloppy, not saying something untrue but could be stated better. When a song actually does say something wrong, it’s often because of ignorance, rather than a songwriter actually believing heresy.1 This is a necessary skill to develop as it will help you think charitably, while developing discernment (which are not opposed to one another).

Speak up and then drop it. If you’ve got a concern about a song, say something respectfully. Address your concerns privately, and maybe not in an email on Monday morning. But once you’ve done this and your feedback has been acknowledged (which may mean only hearing something like “thanks for your feedback, I appreciate it,” though you could actually receive a positive response), drop it. You’ve said your piece, so let it be.

Obey your conscience (and respect the consciences of others). If you can’t sing a song, don’t. There are songs I don’t feel right singing,2 and so I don’t. But if others can sing a song in good conscience, don’t sweat it. Just pray through the song, and read a Psalm until it’s done.

  1.  And, of course, it’s important to admit that some songs are just stupid, like “Mary, Did You Know?” Because yes, she did. An angel literally told her. 
  2.  “Reckless Love,” for example. 

This article originally appeared here.

Why Didn’t Paul Share His ‘Trip to Heaven’ Story?

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I suppose you could quibble with my title a bit, because Paul did technically share his story about being caught up into the third heaven. But it took him 14 years and he only told it when he was “acting the fool” in order to rattle the Corinthians back into a Christ focus. So why?

Consider the situation that Paul faced. At Corinth a group of false teachers were winning the affections of the Corinthians, and they were doing it through bragging about ecstatic experiences and visions and such. It was important for their faith that they adhere to Paul’s gospel (the biblical gospel) instead of this false gospel being pimped by the prosperity goons. And Paul had a story which could trump everyone of their stories. So what does he do? He tells his story (2 Corinthians 12:1-10) but prefaces his story by saying “there is nothing to be gained by it.” And then he shares it as if the thing didn’t even happen to him.

To Paul “visions and revelations” were not beneficial for either establishing or edifying the local church. He had this amazing story about going to heaven and being in the very presence of God, and he did not share it. I suppose he could have shared it in a few local church contexts. But this is the only place where Paul speaks of his visions and revelations and this trip to heaven. This is certainly the first time that the Corinthians had heard the story. I’ll be as generous as I can here. Though it’s possible that this heavenly trip had zero impact on his ministry, we have to at least say that it had a minimal impact on his ministry.

That is telling. And it’s important to note the reason why Paul didn’t share this story. It is because Christianity is the most falsifiable religion in the world, and God intends to keep it that way. Or to put it another way, Christianity is not founded upon ecstatic personal experiences and God intends to keep it that way.

In this regard Christianity is quite unique. Mormonism depends upon the testimony of Joseph Smith (and maybe the 11 other elders). Those golden plates were given back to the angel. You can’t dig them up. Islam is founded upon the testimony of Mohammed. He alone had the words given to him in that cave. You cannot necessarily prove that it is true. We could go on and on with about every major world religion. Christianity is unique. Find bones in Jerusalem that belong to Jesus Christ and the whole thing is a sham. It’s not dependent upon some person’s personal ecstatic experience.

This is why Paul didn’t share his trip to heaven story. And, frankly, it’s why we should be far more cautious with saying things like “God told me” or having a local church structured around a “vision” that God has given a pastor or a group of people. Again, personal ecstatic and unverifiable encounters are not the stuff of the New Testament. Christianity is a put-it-under-the-microscope type of faith.

Notice what Paul says in 2 Corinthians 12:6, “But I refrain from [boasting about my trip to heaven], so that no one may think more of me than he sees in me or hears from me.” Do you see what Paul is doing? He is saying, “I’m only going to boast in what you see Christ doing in my life (verifiable) or the gospel I preach (verifiable).”

The Spirit loves the light. He loves truth. The gospel isn’t afraid of the microscope. If the foundation of your faith isn’t something verifiable then it’s something different than what Paul preached. I’m not necessarily saying that dreams, visions, etc. don’t happen. (That’s a different topic for a different day). But what I am saying is that if we are to follow Paul (as he followed Christ) then we’re not going to give such things much weight. They aren’t needed for establishing or edifying the church.

This article originally appeared here.

Evangelicals’ Immigration Policies Protest as Diverse as Denominations of the Church

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During a demonstration on Monday at the U.S.-Mexico border near San Diego, 400 people—many of them church leaders—protested America’s immigration policies. Federal agents arrested 32 of the protesters, most on suspicion of trespassing.

The demonstration, organized by the Quaker group American Friends Service Committee, was part of a national week of action called “Love knows no borders: A moral call for migrant justice.” It stretches from Monday, which was International Human Rights Day, to December 18, which is International Migrants’ Day.

Protesters called for the U.S. government to respect immigrants’ rights, welcome the so-called migrant caravan, and defund Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) and Customs and Border Protection.

Protesters Pray for an End to Injustice

As demonstrators approached the border wall near Tijuana, Mexico, federal agents ordered them to move back. Last month, U.S. agents fired tear gas into Mexico when migrants reportedly began throwing rocks. Some of Monday’s protesters say that incident is what brought them to the border.

The Rev. Minerva Carcaño, a United Methodist bishop from San Francisco, led some clergy into the ocean for prayer. “I was praying for the actual toppling of this wall,” says Carcaño, the denomination’s first Hispanic woman bishop. Calling the protest “the right and humane thing to do,” Carcaño notes, “How we act in these moments determines who we will become as a nation.”

During the demonstration, Rev. Liz Theoharis, a Presbyterian pastor and founder of the Poverty Initiative, told a reporter, “Our sacred texts tell us to tear down walls, to welcome the immigrant, and to treat everyone as if they are God’s children.”

The Rev. Jill Zundell, a Methodist pastor from Detroit, was heartbroken to see “the faces across the border that we could not reach.” More than 6,000 Central American migrants, currently living in tent cities in Tijuana, hope to seek asylum in the United States.

Pastor Gavin Rogers, who’s been traveling with the migrant caravan and documenting his experiences on social media, also was at Monday’s protests. Afterward he tweeted, “I have full respect for many of the border patrol agents. We were not against them as people. We were there to pray for and lift up our friends across the border.” 

Families Should Stay Together, Evangelical Group Says

Also on Monday, the Evangelical Immigration Table (EIT) released a statement urging the Trump administration to reconsider a proposed regulation they say would “keep many families apart.” It gives federal employees broad discretion to deny applications for immigrant visas and family reunification based on suspicions that someone might eventually apply for government assistance. An estimated 200,000 married couples and their children could be affected.

“While Christians may disagree at points on the exact role of government in caring for the poor through public benefit programs,” the statement says, “we are unified in our commitment to maintaining the unity of the family whenever possible.” The EIT also notes that “attempts to restrict legal immigration, whether by administrative or legislative changes, are likely to incentivize illegal immigration.”

Chance the (Christian) Rapper Is Taking a Sabbatical to Study the Bible

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Chance the Rapper is taking a sabbatical in order to study the Bible.

In an Instagram post, the Chicago, Illinois, native said:

I’m going away to learn the Word of God which I am admittedly very unfamiliar with. I’ve been brought up by my family to know Christ but I haven’t taken it upon myself to really just take a couple days and read my bible. we all quote scripture and tell each other what God likes and doesn’t like but how much time do we spend as followers of Jesus to really just read and KNOW his Word. [Note: This post and Chance’s music contains language some may find offensive.]

Chance the Rapper’s Faith

Chance, whose real name is Chancelor Bennett, has been nominated for multiple Grammy Awards and has won three. Born in 1993, Chance’s rap career really took off in 2013 with the release of his album Acid Rap.

Something that has set the artist apart is how much he sings about God and Christianity in his music. His popular song “Blessings” says, “I’m gon’ praise Him, praise Him ’til I’m gone.” Another of his songs says, “Now watch how I move, different chapters / Decisions, missions, visit pastors / Everybody finally can say it out loud, ‘My favorite rapper a Christian rapper.’”

He also isn’t shy about speaking about his Christian beliefs in interviews and on social media. In a tweet from a couple years ago about how he was going to quit smoking, he said, “All things are possible thru Christ who strengthens me.” A more recent tweet of his says, “Every time I feel the grace it feel like God just said, ‘Hello, there.’”

Chance gave a memorable performance of “How Great Is Our God” at the 2017 Grammy Awards. When he accepted his Grammy for Best New Artist he gave God the glory for his wins, as well for providing him support from his parents and others in his life.

Some Christians will find Chance the Rapper’s professions of faith to be controversial, mainly given how many of his songs contain language some consider offensive. However, others point out that rap has the ability to wrestle in a raw way with the struggles that all of us, even Christians, face, and therefore the language is justified.

In his Instagram post, Chance said that one of the factors driving him to want to study the Bible is his desire to help educate his nephew. The Instagram post that followed his sabbatical announcement was an image of a page that, according to Christianity Today, is from A Diary of Private Prayer by a Scottish theologian named John Baillie.

 

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It’s not certain how long his sabbatical will last, although he did say he would be back “soon enough.” Chance is scheduled to perform on Dec. 20 in Chicago.

In the meantime, Chance seems to be making good use of his time off. His latest post on Dec. 12 was of a few verses from Galatians. He invited his followers: “Anybody wanna read thru Galatians with me? It’s really short.”

Dean Sweetman and Frank Barry: What Pastors Need to Know About Year-End Giving

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Dean Sweetman is the co-founder and CEO of Tithe.ly. Before launching Tithe.ly, Dean was involved in ministry for more than 30 years. During his ministry, he planted more than 50 churches and raised millions of dollars to spread the gospel, equip leaders, and see lives transformed by Jesus. When Dean is not helping churches increase giving and grow their church, he enjoys spending time with his wife and family.

Frank Barry is a founding executive team member and COO at Tithe.ly. Prior to Tithe.ly, Frank spent nearly 15 years helping churches, charities, and nonprofit organizations leverage technology to advance their mission, and he’s also served as a youth minister for five years. When Frank’s not helping churches use technology to advance the Kingdom, he’s spending time with his triplet boys and their super-hero mommy in San Diego, CA.

Key Questions for Dean and Frank:

– What year-end giving tactics have you seen that are most effective?

– Is there anything that pastors should avoid with year-end giving?

– When should pastors talk about year-end giving?

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Key Quotes from Dean and Frank:

Dean Sweetman:

“December is generally the most generous time of the year.”

“People get really focused on giving apart from everything else that’s going on in December.”

“Always use Scripture as your foundation for any conversation about money and generosity.”

“There are two types of pastors in my experience: Pastors who know how to talk about money and pastors who don’t.”

“Usually what I find is the pastors that are uncomfortable talking about money, there’s a vision issue. Because if you’ve got a vision to reach your city for Christ…you know that that’s going to require income.”

“After the 25th, people get through the Christmas services, they’ve done the family thing with their family, then after that, there is an incredible amount of finance that comes in.”

“Make giving easy.”

Frank Barry:

“A lot of pastors don’t totally dial in to the fact that December is a big month for giving.”

“In the U.S., there’s $120-130 billion given to faith-based charities and churches, and almost 19 percent of that happens in December—with a massive portion of that happening the last three days.”

“Don’t make giving hard.”

Links Mentioned in the Show:

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25 Questions for a Prospective New Pastor to Ask a Church

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I have been asked frequently for questions a prospective new pastor can ask a church. There are lots of resources for churches who are interviewing their next pastor, but I personally believe the pastor needs to equally interview the church.

In the few times I have interviewed with a church, and in the dozens of times I have coached people interviewing with churches, I asked or encouraged lots of questions. Additionally, I ask to see the church budget (including payroll for staff), bylaws, personnel policies, most recent business meeting minutes and current financial statements.

There will still be surprises—and, none of the things you learn should singly determine whether or not you accept the position. This should be a matter between you and God—even more than you and the church. But, the more you know the more prepared you can be to lead and the less surprises will get in the way.

In my experience, the process of hiring (or calling) a pastor is long enough there are plenty of opportunities to ask questions. I decided to list some of my favorites, and I’ve changed and tweaked these over the years—adding questions I wish I had known to ask.

Here are 25 questions for a prospective new pastor to ask a church:

  • What is you average weekly attendance currently on Sunday mornings? (Adults and children total) What were you averaging five years ago? Ten years ago?
  • When was the highest average attendance in the life of the church?
  • Are you currently making budget? If not, when was the last time you did?
  • What other measurements does the church track regularly?
  • How much debt does the church have? How old is that debt?
  • What currently is the biggest obstacle and the biggest opportunity to grow the church?
  • What are the greatest needs of the community and how is the church addressing them?
  • Who are the current paid staff and how long have they been at the church?
  • How did you select your pastor search committee? Who are they and what role do they play in the church?
  • What is your governing structure? How are major decisions made?
  • What is the church known for in the community? What would people say is the church’s reputation?
  • What are the stated (or unstated) core values of the church? If you were to describe the church in a few words, what would you say?
  • How many continuous committees/teams do you have? Which does the pastor typically attend? Is the pastor a voting member?
  • What percentage of Sunday morning attendance are in some sort of Bible study program?
  • How open is the church to trying new ways of reaching people, such as technology, changing service times, adding or subtracting services, or altering worship styles?
  • What do you think a new pastor needs to do most to be successful?
  • What are the non-negotiables when it comes to changing something? What is off limits?
  • What was the last major change the church experienced?
  • What are the demographics of the community closest to the church? Do the demographics of the church mirror the demographics of the immediate surrounding community?
  • Who are the largest givers in the church? Does everyone know who they are and what power do they have/attempt to use?
  • Are key lay-leaders (deacons, elders, committee chairs, etc.) involved in Bible study? Tell me about their walk with Christ?
  • What was the last major church argument? Has there ever been a church split or large exodus of people?
  • Why have the last few pastors left the church? Are they still in the community/connected to the church?
  • How are staff hired or fired?
  • How is God moving in the church right now? What was the last thing which occurred only God could have done?

Those are some of my suggestions. Obviously some answers will trigger follow-up questions. Be thorough in the process. Of course, if God is calling you here the answers won’t matter, but they will help you prepare to lead. And, I believe God often gives tremendous latitude in where we serve. He has lots of places where we can live out our calling.

This article about questions for a prospective new pastor originally appeared here.

5 Ways to Address Church Growth at Christmas

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A few weeks back we talked about some of the reasons churches plateau. I know it’s a popular topic because so many pastors tell me their churches are stuck at a certain number of members or attenders.

Here’s the good news: Christmas is a great time to get unstuck.

People who wouldn’t come some other time of the year show up at Christmas. And we have a great opportunity to tell them about Jesus and to encourage them to come back to church. You can use Christmas services to help your members sense that they are a part of something big and exciting. It can be tough to keep people motivated consistently over the long haul, but we can get them fired up for a specific day.

A “Big Day” can help people feel like they’re on a winning team.

And a “Big Day” like Christmas can help break through growth barriers (whether it’s 200, 300, 400 or 1,000).

At Saddleback, we refer to it as pyramiding growth. You push past a barrier on a “Big Day,” then the numbers might drop a little bit the next week, but you don’t drop as far back as you were. Then you plan for your next “Big Day” (like Easter). Again, just like with Christmas, your numbers may drop after Easter, but you don’t drop all the way back to where you had started.

Here are some ways to intentionally plan for a “Big Day” at Christmas:

5 Ways to Break Through a Growth Barrier This Christmas

1. Give people tools to invite their friends and neighbors.

A lot of the guests at Christmas services will be there because someone invited them, so it’s a great time to encourage our people to make the extra effort to invite friends and family.

The tools we can provide include both digital and printed invitations with information about the Christmas services: name of the sermon/series, date(s), time(s), address of the church and the names of any special guests. Even in our digital age, people still like to have details in a printed form. It helps them keep everything in one place and have something to stick on the refrigerator as a reminder.

2. Get the word out using advertising.

If you’re going to use advertising, Christmas and Easter are the days to do it. Even if people don’t come because of a specific ad, it will still help reinforce the personal invitations from your members. For instance, potential guests may see your ad and then get invited by one of your members, and that will let them know great things are happening at your church. Plus, you’ll always get a few people who want to go to church that day but don’t have any idea where to go. Your ad may be just what they need.

3. Be ready for people.

You want to make a good impression on guests every week, but it’s particularly important at Christmas. You can’t control how many guests you’ll get for special days, but you can control how well you prepare for them.

Get greeters ready to say hello and provide a warm welcome as people arrive. Set up information tables with campus maps and basic information about the church. Make it easy to find parking, restrooms and childcare.

Part of being a good host means thinking through the questions and concerns guests may have. Ask someone who doesn’t currently attend your church to take a walkthrough of your campus and offer questions or feedback.

4. Offer something for children.

Think through what kind of experience you can offer children. It doesn’t matter what parents think about the service if the kids have a lousy time.

Be prepared for additional children during Christmas. You don’t want to overtax your current children’s ministry volunteers, so add extra workers and think about any changes that may make it easier to handle more kids at one time.

5. Follow up with your guests.

Have emails ready to send out Monday morning welcoming guests who gave you their contact info. Invite people to your next sermon series and tell them how to find a small group. The email is also a great place to include any follow-up information from your Christmas service (maybe specific contact information for ministries you mentioned).

If you have a large crowd on Christmas, that’s great. But it’s not the end of the story. It’s really the beginning. How we follow up with guests makes a big difference in whether they’ll come back and eventually get more involved in our congregations.

This article originally appeared here.

5 Ways Your Church Can Use Text Messaging to Reach More People

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Fifty-nine percent of millennials who grew up in church have dropped out.

Why? That’s a huge can of worms. There are plenty of theories—some based on data and others based on mere opinion.

I believe at least one reason why we’ve failed to reach this younger generation of people has to do with the way we communicate about who we are and what we believe.

We generally tend to promote the church either through mass-marketing methods, like direct mail or print advertising, or we don’t promote the church at all and just assume people should know we exist and feel some moral obligation to find us on the weekend.

In the last decade, our culture has experienced a massive shift, thanks in part to technological advances. It’s not all bad. In fact, if we understand it, it’s actually quite good.

When the Internet first went online, businesses and news organizations—and eventually a lot of churches—adopted it as a mass communication tool. But things changed with the creation of various social networks like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Social media forced businesses and news organizations to focus more on personalization.

The church is starting to catch on and adopt social media platforms as a means of connecting with people and spreading a message of hope. We’re a bit behind, of course, but we’re starting to catch up.

As the church begins to utilize social technologies, the youngest generation may already be moving on from social networks to much more personal means of communicating, especially texting.

Text-messaging, as an outreach and communication tool, is HUGE!

I believe rather strongly that we should stop asking people to turn their cell phones OFF during worship services, and instead, ask them to turn them ON and use them…

  • For accessing Bible apps
  • To interact with the service
  • To snap and share photos and videos
  • To check-in and share about their church

According to Text In Church,

  • 23 billion texts are sent each day
  • 90 percent of texts are read within three minutes
  • 45 percent of texts receive a reply

The question is, how can the church tap into text messaging as a means of reaching more people and making more disciples?

While we’re still learning in this arena, here are some thoughts and practices that may be worth implementing and experimenting with. Some of these, my church is already doing, and some of them, we’re just talking about.

1. Helping people plan their first visit.

Our church website utilizes a service from Church Hero called Plan Your Visit.

Plan Your Visit App

It allows people, from any page of our website, to click a button and let us know they’re coming. We then, in turn, send them a text with information about the service time they chose, and then we send them a reminder text.

Our First Impressions Director prepares one of our first-time guest gift bags especially for them with their name on it.

2. Allowing people to text-to-give.

We manage all of our online giving with Planning Center Online. There are tons of competitors on the market and each has their advantages, but Planning Center’s Online Giving app integrates seamlessly with our people tracking, volunteer scheduling, kids’ check-in apps, etc.

One of the features we use is the text-to-give feature. Donors can send a dollar amount to a five-digit phone number via text and they’ll be guided through the process of making sure it gets to us. Once they’ve given by text once, it’s set up forever and is simple and easy to do.

This is especially helpful for one-time short campaigns and special causes. If we’re supporting a local nonprofit one weekend, we can ask people to designate $5 or $10 or more for that particular ministry by simply sending a text.

3. Being interactive during the message.

Our church doesn’t have a physical office. Therefore we don’t need a landline phone system. We just use a free Google Voice number instead. During the service, we can ask people to take an immediate action by sending us a text message via our Google number.

During a message, this might include texting us with follow-up questions. When making announcements, it might mean that people can register for an event or sign up to volunteer via text message.

4. Communicating with subgroups and ministry teams.

We use Facebook groups excessively within our church. Every volunteer team and almost every small group has a Facebook group. The problem is, not everyone is on Facebook and not everyone who is on Facebook pays attention to it. This is especially true of a bunch of men in our church.

So we use group texts to communicate about special Bible studies, volunteer opportunities and events as well as weather cancellations and other important notices.

For this purpose, we use Text In Church, created by my friend, Tyler Smith.

Text In Church lets us create groups and use keywords to manage those groups. People can opt in, and opt out, and manage their messages.

5. Creating text message sequences (automatically-sending messages).

When someone uses our Plan Your Visit button, we can add their number into Text In Church and send them a series of text messages designed to introduce them to our church. The same is true when someone visits for the first time—they can send a text to a number with a keyword and we can follow up automatically.

We can also create discipleship-oriented message sequences. If we do a 40-day spiritual growth campaign or a six-week message series on a particular topic and want to include daily reminders to pray or daily devotional messages, we can create all of that within Text In Church.

Obviously, we need to respect the privacy of everyone and avoid spamming people with unwanted or uninvited messages. But when we have permission, text messaging can become one of the most personal and individual ways to follow up with people and reach more of our community.

This article originally appeared here.

7 Encouragements for Leaders Who Worry

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7 encouragements for leaders who worry: The title is confusing, isn’t it? It seems to assume some leaders worry and some don’t. The truth is, however, most leaders will have occasions of worry. Worry is an emotion—and, often far more powerful than principles of leadership are the emotions of leadership.

I’ve talked to some who say at least one day a week they are consumed with anxiety and fear. It’s the kind of frustration that, left unchecked, makes them almost want to quit. I talked to a pastor recently who is struggling with stomach problems (I won’t get more graphic than that), because of the worry he is dealing with as a leader.

The fact you worry shows you are normal, human and conscientious as a leader. You want to be successful and the natural reaction is to worry when you feel you may not be.

But, emotions play tricks on us. They’re fickle. They’re unreliable. Our desire to do well causes our emotions to produce worry. And, constant worry can destroy a good leader, because it will control how the leader responds to others.

Obviously, Jesus said, “Do not worry!” We know this truth. We believe it. We want to live it. So, what’s the practical side of Jesus’ command in leadership and how do we actually live out the command?

And, here’s something you need to know—or may need reminding. Having a strong faith is no guarantee your emotions—worry—won’t play tricks on you at times.

All of us worry, but how you respond when your worry seems to control you as a leader?

Here are seven words of encouragement for leaders who worry:

For leaders who worry, tip #1: Pray and study.

You knew I’d say this, didn’t you? Worry is, by definition, a misplaced trust. Ultimately your answer is in God’s ability and His control, not your own. If worry is consistently plaguing your leadership, improving your relationship with Christ through Bible study and prayer is step one.

For leaders who worry, tip #2: Remember your purpose.

You have to remind yourself why you are doing what you are doing. When worry hits you, you need grounding to something more permanent than your worries. You have a purpose. You believe in a vision. You have goals. You need to remember what fuels your fire and why you are willing to take the risk of leadership. If worry has gotten to the place where you’re not sure of your purpose anymore, stop everything and find it again. You can’t afford not to.

For leaders who worry, tip #3: Contact an encouraging friend.

I always find other leaders can speak truth into my life just when I need it most. God uses relationships to strengthen us and make us better. I have to be bold enough to text a friend and say, “I could use some encouragement,” but I’ve never been disappointed when I’ve been that bold. If you don’t have someone like this in your life, that’s your assignment. The goal is to find the person and build the relationship before you need them.

For leaders who worry, tip #4: Review your track record.

Most likely you’ve had success, which led to the position you have now. You can do it again. One reason I keep an encouragement file is so I can read through the positive things I’ve done on days when nothing seems positive.

For leaders who worry, tip #5: Count your blessings.

And, name them one by one. There are always others who would love to have what you have. Someone is always worse off than you are. Most likely, even outside the position you have as a leader, God has blessed your life. Spend some time remembering the good God has allowed you to experience. The list is probably longer than you think and will help you avoid worry as you recall what God has already given you.

 

For leaders who worry, tip #6: Get some rest—and hydrate.

Worry is more present when you are tired. And, I’ve learned we are often dehydrated and it makes an impact on us physically and emotionally. You may have to quit for the day so you can prepare for better days. The depth of the worry should determine the length of the period of rest. I’ve also learned part of being fully “rested” also includes making sure you are as healthy as you can be by eating the right foods and exercising, especially during the busiest seasons of life.

For leaders who worry, tip #7: Rationalize.

People who most need to rationalize hate this one, but most of the things we worry about never come true. Is your worry based on reality or based on your emotional assumptions? Dismiss the things you can’t control, aren’t certain will go wrong, or the unknown. The more you limit irrational thoughts, the less for which you’ll have to worry.

Let me also say that if you are suffering from serious anxiety—to the point of being depressed, that’s not what I’m addressing in this post. Don’t ever be afraid to get professional help.

How do you battle the moments of worry as a leader?

This article about leaders who worry originally appeared here.

“Three Strikes and You’re Out” Doesn’t Work With the Child of Divorce

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One popular discipline policy churches use is what is called the “Three Strikes and You’re Out” policy. In theory it sounds reasonable but for many hurting children it is not reasonable or even fair.

It goes something like this; the child doesn’t obey the rules, is unruly or is disrespectful in some manner and the countdown starts.

Strike 1: The first time you disobey your name goes on the board.

Strike 2: The second time your parents are called.

Strike 3: The third time you are asked to leave the class. (Some churches stipulate the child can’t return to class for two weeks.)

Here is why this type of discipline isn’t going to work for the hurting child of divorce:

Strike 1

  • Some of these kids are so desperate for attention they will act out just for the attention it brings to them. Having their name up on the board gives them even more attention. Some will even smile when their name goes up on the board. To them it’s like having their name in “lights.”
  • For other children of divorce who are intimidated and not feeling safe, to have their name go up on the board will send them to the lower level of their brain—the fight, flight or flee part of the brain where they can’t think through the process.

Strike 2

  • If the child has just switched from time with one parent to the other right before class, he or she may be upset. They may need to see the parent they’ve been away from, tell their parent something—or just simply connect with their parent. Having you call the parent to come to class is what they might need for their emotionally well-being. Hence, they might act out so you will call their parent.
  • Other children will be excited at the prospect of you calling their parents because if you call their parents (plural) to them it means both parents have to come together and talk. In their minds they are using this as a bargaining chip to get their parents back together.
  • Other children know their single parent is distraught and overwhelmed. They know their parent is incapable of doing anything about their behavior.

Strike 3 and you’re out!

  • Many kids want to go home. They don’t feel like they fit in a church class so they act out so you will send them home.
  • Children who visit their other parent on the weekend are aware they will only have to miss one week so it’s really no big deal to them.

The Kids and Divorce blog has many articles on discipline policies if you need tips on disciplining hurting children.

This article originally appeared here.

We Are on the Same Team

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We’re on the same team, and I’m glad. So, let’s not compare ourselves to one another or compete with one another.

It’s a real discipline to learn how to be around other churches constantly without beginning to compare. Many pastors are preoccupied privately with what others are doing—whether it’s someone or some church they look up to, or a fellow church in their community. Some view those churches as competitors—though they would rarely admit so.

At some point, most church leaders will have at least a moment when they get tired of hearing about the throngs baptized at the church down the street—or the brilliant idea someone else had that garnered the community’s attention. We’ll get tired of it because it usually happens when things are flat-lined for us.

Please hear me:

Comparing yourself to others is a zero sum endeavor.

Even if in your comparison you come out “on top,” you’ll rarely feel good about your ministry, your staff team, your ideas or your vision. Why? Because you’ll either become prideful then discover a church in which the grass seems greener. Comparing your church to another isn’t fair to you, them or the Kingdom. It’s a great way to ensure God’s blessing is removed from your ministry.

Do not compare. And, whatever you do:

DO.
NOT.
COMPETE.
WITH.
OTHER.
CHURCHES.

They aren’t our competition. They are on our team and we are, together, competing against the Destroyer. It’s so easy to get our minds around this rationally. Yet, I know it can be hard to embrace emotionally at times.

Orienting your church around others is poor leadership that leads to inferior results. I read a terrific article about how Apple’s obsession with Google is beginning to hurt its products in substantial ways. Click here to read it yourself. Apple will do just fine, I’m sure. But, the lessons to be learned are important for churches. The second we begin to compete with one another, we lose. The second we begin to compete together with one another, Jesus wins.

Be the best you you can be. If God has brought your church into existence and there is still a lampstand there, be faithful with little and God will likely entrust you with more. However, the more you either look down on those “under” you or grab at the heel of those above you, the less God will bless your ministry.

By the way, what’s true for churches is also true for their leaders. Don’t compare yourself to other pastors. It’ll bleed the joy right out of your ministry.

Here are some things you can do to avoid the trap of comparing/competing with other churches.

  • Confess the sin of envy and comparison before the Lord. Repent and accept His grace. Ask for His help to combat what’s going on inside you.

Churches Catch on Fire—and Not in a Good Way

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Multiple fires have destroyed or severely damaged several church buildings throughout the country this week. While these incidents have been understandably distressing to church members, they’ve also been opportunities for people in the respective communities to support each other.

“So many people really from across the nation have really been praying for us,” said Brad Jurkovic, pastor of First Baptist Church of Bossier City in Louisiana. “People from all across the community have been offering to help. So that’s been very encouraging. I’m very, very thankful for that.”

A “Challenging” Day

The fire apparently started early this past Monday morning on what Jurkovich described as a “challenging” day for the church.

Thankfully, no lives were lost and no one was injured. While the church lost several of its older buildings, it retains its main worship center. WAFB Channel 9 News posted this picture of a cross that survived the damage. The cause of the fire is currently unknown and is under investigation.

First United Methodist of Bossier City has offered the use of its facilities to the members of First Baptist. First United will also donate all of its Christmas Eve offerings to First Baptist in order to help the church recuperate from its losses.

Another fire occurred that same evening in the neighboring state of Texas. There, firefighters struggled to put out flames consuming Iglesia Bautista El Mesias Baptist Church in Dallas.

Again, no one reported any injuries, and the cause of the fire remains unknown.

More Fires in Minnesota and South Carolina

The Monday night fires were merely two out of several that occurred within a day or so of each other across the country. The night before, in Norwood Young America, Minnesota, a fire devastated Maples United Methodist Church hours after the members had decorated it for Christmas.

“It’s shocking. It’s very shocking to see,” Pastor Eli Somers told KSTP news.

The church was over 100 years old and had no fire alarms or sprinkler system.

No one knows how the fire started, and no one was injured or killed.

The members are not yet sure what they are going to do with the remains of the building.

“It’s the only church I’ve ever known in my life, some 60 years,” said Bill Grundahl.

A Lutheran Church in town held a prayer service for the members of Maples United Methodist.

Behind on Your Church’s Budget: 7 Steps to Get Back on Track

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Your church budget can be a tremendous source of stress.

Some churches will meet and exceed their budgets this year. But there are far more churches (maybe yours?) who will “just get by” or who won’t reach their church budget this year.

If your church is behind budget, don’t lose hope.

There are many practical things you can do to get your church’s budget back on track.

Behind on Your Church’s Budget: 7 Steps to Get Back on Track

Below, I’m going to walk you through seven steps:

  1. Take a deep breath
  2. Get grounded
  3. Identify your problem
  4. Get your budget in alignment
  5. Cast a vision
  6. Get outside help
  7. Keep ministry alive

These tips will not resolve your church’s financial situation overnight. But they will help you to move in the right direction.

So let’s get started!

#1 – Take a deep breath

Here’s the first step you need to take:

Don’t panic!

When your church is behind on budget, it can cause a strong response of fear, anxiety and stress, which is natural to expect. But before you make any quick decisions, sit down, relax and take a deep breath. The best thing you can do at first is to get control of yourself.

Let’s be honest:

Getting control in a state of fear isn’t easy.

You see the numbers.

You know your church’s bills don’t go away.

And you notice there is a lack of donations to cover your expenses.

All of this is a recipe for a stressful situation.

But here’s what you need to know:

Making big financial decisions while carrying significant stress can lead to bad decisions.

According to research on decision making, when you’re under stress, your ability to make clear and informed decisions is strained. In stressful situations, it’s natural to focus on yourself and your problems, which only makes things worse.

When you’re behind in your budget, there’s a good chance you’ll have to cut expenses, rearrange budget items, and, depending on the severity of your church’s finances, you may have to cut some of your staff.

These types of decisions are difficult to make, and they’re even more challenging when you try to make them alone or by your “gut instinct.”

Instead of reacting, it’s best to respond to your church’s financial situation.

Pause for a moment, and read that last sentence again.

It’s the foundation for the rest of what follows.

Ready to respond to your situation and fix your church’s budget?

Then you’re ready to take the next step.

#2 – Get grounded

Stress can lead you to obsess over your church’s finances.

Like the images of a movie with a lousy ending replaying in your head, stress can cause you to replay the worst-case scenarios over and over again.

Unfortunately, when this happens, you’re only reinforcing your negative emotions, which only intensifies how they feel. In other words, you’re making your stress worse. It’s like pouring gasoline on an out of control fire.

Here’s the deal:

You need to get grounded.

You need to confront the stress you’re feeling head on—instead of hiding from it. If you avoid dealing with your anxiety, then you won’t be in an ideal spot to lead your church well.

I’m not saying you have to be completely free from fear, anxiety and stress. But I am encouraging you to walk in the light (1 John 1:5-7) by being transparent with your church’s leadership, your family and friends.

To help you along the way, here are some ways you can battle stress in your life:

Confession

The first step to solving any problem is to acknowledge there’s a problem.

If you’ve succumbed to stress in your life, don’t feel alone or ashamed.

Based on a poll by Gallup, eight in 10 Americans feel stress sometimes or frequently throughout the day. In your church and community, there’s a large percentage of people who are battling stress to some degree.

Remember, in Christ, you are the righteousness of God (2 Cor 5:21).

In him, you are forgiven by faith—not based on how well you handled your church’s finances. But based upon what Jesus has done for you.

Identify your problem.

Share what you’re feeling.

And receive God’s grace to empower you to move on.

Seek Jesus

Any stressful situation is a reminder of how much we need to trust in Jesus.

As a church leader, you cannot fulfill your calling without Jesus’ help. When you’re feeling stress over your church’s finances, his call to trust in him becomes louder and more prevalent (John 14:1).

He is your rock.

He is your source of strength.

And he is your deliverer.

Regardless of your church’s finances, trust in Jesus.

Meditate on God’s promises

Are you having a hard time trusting Jesus?

Not sure if the Lord will help you?

To combat unbelief, you have to fight for belief.

To do this, you have to read the Bible.

I’m not saying you must spend hours on end reading the Bible every day. But I am saying it’s a good idea to meditate on God’s promises daily.

In short, reading the Bible leads to believing the Bible.

Here are some verses I’ve meditated on during stressful seasons:

Isaiah 41:10:

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Philippians 4:6-7:

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Proverbs 3:5-6:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”

Matthew 6:34:

“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”

Ask for help

Your church’s finances are also your church’s problem.

You don’t have to handle them alone.

If you feel overwhelmed, you’re probably trying to carry this burden by yourself—not with the help of your church.

As a pastor, the “buck” does stop with you. But having responsibility for something doesn’t mean you’re the only one who has to handle the problem or the only source of a solution.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Share what’s going on with your church’s leadership.

Let your church know about the situation.

Not sure what to share with your church’s leadership or family?

Take the time to work through the next step to clarify your problem.

#3 – Identify the problem

One essential rule for firearm safety is to identify your target.

Before firing your weapon, you need to know exactly what you’re shooting. The same holds true for tackling your church’s financial situation. You need to clarify the problem you have to solve.

When you fall behind on your church’s budget, you need to know what’s causing the problem.

Here are some questions you can ask:

  • Are you experiencing a decrease in giving?
  • Have you recently lost church members?
  • Have you encountered unexpected expenses?
  • Are you overspending in certain areas of your budget?
  • Did you underestimate expenses? Did you overestimate giving?

These questions will help you to start thinking through your church’s financial situation.

During this process, prioritize three to five problems to solve. There’s a chance you’ll uncover more problems. Instead of tackling everything at once, just address a few things at first.

Now that you have a better idea about your situation, you’re ready to start solving problems.

#4 – Get your budget in alignment

Alright, so your church’s budget is behind, and you’ve identified some problems.

But how can you confirm these are real problems?

The best way to know if your church’s finances are out of alignment is to compare them to a church’s budget that’s in alignment. Let me explain.

When creating a budget for your church, you don’t have to create it from scratch.

There have been millions of church budgets created throughout history, and there is a ton of helpful advice you can glean from what others have done. By observing how churches have managed their money, you can compare your numbers to healthy benchmarks—the best practices for managing your money.

In putting together these numbers, AG Financial Solutions identified three crucial elements of your church’s budget:

  1. Personnel costs: 33-45 percent
  2. Facility costs: 25-30 percent
  3. Office expenses: <10 percent

As you review your church’s budget, compare your expenses to these benchmarks to see how well they align with these standards.

In your budget, do your expenses for personnel, facilities and office costs fall within these ranges? Or do your costs exceed these benchmarks?

If your expenses exceed these benchmarks, then your church’s finances are slowly bleeding out, which will lead your church to experience financial difficulties. If your church’s budget falls within these parameters, then you’re doing a good job managing your church’s money.

As you address your short-term problems, also keep an eye on your church’s budget to see whether or not you need to make adjustments to get back into alignment.

Now that you have an idea of what’s going on, and how you can resolve your problem, it’s time to get your church behind you.

#5 – Cast a vision

There’s one thing people don’t donate money toward:

Your budget.

Before you talk about the church’s financial situation with your congregation, be prepared to talk about more than just your budget.

A small percentage of people in your church will empathize with the problem and will give toward offsetting the costs. But not everyone in your church will be motivated to pay for office expenses or just meeting your church’s budget.

Here’s what you need to know:

People give toward your mission—not your budget.

Let me explain…

As you talk about your church’s finances, frame what you say around the mission of your church. Help people to see the kingdom work their financial contributions support.

Sure, you need help to pay the bills or fill gaps in your budget. But your church—and people in general—will not get excited about contributing to your electric bill, office supplies or a hole in your roof.

Think about it this way:

The money in your budget for personnel, facilities and office expenses is for supporting the mission of the church. This is why casting a vision is so powerful in helping your church connect the dots between their donations and your church’s mission.

To connect your vision to the minds and hearts of your church, here are five practical tips you can use:

  1. Make it specific
  2. Tell stories
  3. Paint pictures
  4. Be consistent
  5. Be everywhere

Leveraging these tips will help you to share a compelling vision with your congregation.

#6 – Get outside help

Are you and your church leadership at your wits’ end?

Not sure what to do next or how to align your church’s budget?

If this is you, you’re not alone.

Here’s the funny thing about problems:

Often, you need the help from someone on the outside—someone who can assess your situation and help you to chart a new course moving forward.

In the words of Albert Einstein:

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”

Here’s how an outside eye can help with “different” kind of thinking.

New perspective

If your church has fallen behind in its budget, then it didn’t happen overnight.

To get to where you’re at today, there are a series of issues that could have happened, such as:

  • Lack of budgeting
  • Poor financial planning
  • How to buy stocks correctly and incorrectly
  • Decline in attendance
  • Decrease in giving
  • Several financial setbacks

When you’re in the middle of a situation that has been a gradual decline, it’s difficult to see the problem for yourself. You’re simply too close to the case to objectively see what’s going on—and that’s OK. It’s a part of life.

When you invite someone from the outside to help, you are giving them an opportunity to lift the hood to your car, examine your situation and provide a new perspective—one that’s not tainted by any biases.

Expert opinion

There will be times when you exhaust all of your ideas.

Don’t lose hope in these moments.

Remember, you’re not alone.

You can get a different insight into your situation by seeking the counsel of multiple advisors.

But don’t take my word for it.

Here are several passages from the Bible confirming the importance of counsel:

Proverbs 1:5:

“Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance.”

Proverbs 15:22:

“Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”

Proverbs 18:1-2,24:

“Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment. A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion… A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

Invest in your future

Getting outside help sounds nice and all, but you’re probably thinking:

Doesn’t it cost money to hire a consultant?

I thought we should save money and cut expenses, right?

You might have a friend who’s an expert in church finances and is willing to help you get things back on track. But if that’s not your situation, then, yes, plan on forking over some dough for help.

I know this sounds counterintuitive.

But hear me out.

Getting help from an expert should be treated as an investment in your church.

Finding the right support can provide you with a ton of benefits, including:

  • Expedited solutions
  • Reduced headaches
  • Financial savings

Think about the last point for a moment.

What if paying an expert saved you months of struggling to get your church’s finances in order?

By paying someone to help you resolve your situation, you’re actually saving your church a ton of money by getting things in order sooner—not later.

Convinced you need outside support, but don’t have the cash to pay an expert?

If you’re having a difficult time coming up with the funds, here are four ideas to consider:

  1. Transfer money from a different budget category
  2. Ask a church member for a short-term loan or gift
  3. Raise a special offering
  4. Brainstorm creative solutions with your church’s leadership

If the first three option aren’t viable, I bet your church can identify a tangible solution by praying together and thinking through your situation.

#7 – Keep ministry alive

In the life of your church, you’ll start and stop new ministries.

This is just life.

What works well today in making disciples, leading people to Christ, or serving your community will not always be as effective.

During a financial downturn, it’s tempting to start pumping the brakes on everything or slaying sacred cows. But now’s not the time to let everything fizzle out.

There are three options you need to consider:

  1. Adapt a ministry
  2. Stop a ministry
  3. Start a new ministry

Before you pull a church ministry off of life-support, see if you can adapt the ministry. In other words, can you adapt the ministry’s budget, reallocate funds or cut back on some activity—not all—to keep the ministry alive?

If you’ve assessed the ministry and decided there’s no way to maintain it—even at reduced capacity—then it might be time to stop the ministry.

You may have a good financial reason to stop a ministry in your church, but you still need to move forward with care. Most people don’t like change, and many people may be fond of the ministry you’re about to stop.

If you decide to stop a ministry, here’s a three-step process you can use to handle the situation with care: How to Stop Doing a Ministry.

This might sound crazy, but a financial downturn may be an ideal time to start a new ministry.

You see, when your church is strapped for cash, you’ll be forced to think of creative ways to meet the needs of people, reach out to your community and make disciples. In the business world, this is what’s called guerrilla marketing—promotion with little to no money.

To help you start a new ministry from scratch, here’s a step-by-step plan you can follow to building a new ministry.

Getting your church’s budget in order

So there you have it.

The seven steps to getting your church’s budget back on track when you’re behind:

  1. Take a deep breath
  2. Get grounded
  3. Identify your problem
  4. Get your budget in alignment
  5. Cast a vision
  6. Get outside help
  7. Keep ministry alive

Remember, to get your church’s budget in order, first start with yourself. I know this might sound trite and what you don’t want to hear, but treat this situation as an opportunity to draw closer to Jesus and further the mission of your church.

The original article appeared here.

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