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Your Faith Could Keep Your Child Safe From Suicide

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Kids are less likely to think about suicide or attempt to kill themselves if religion or spirituality is important to their parents, a new study suggests.

And that is true even if the kids themselves didn’t think religion was important, according to the results published in JAMA Psychiatry.

It’s an important finding at a time when the suicide rate for children and teens between 10 and 17 was up 77 percent between 2006 and 2016, according to the latest data analysis available from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

The lower suicide risk among those raised in a religious home is independent of other common risk factors, including whether parents suffered from depression, showed suicidal behavior or divorced.

The new findings came out of a 30-year, three-generation family study conducted by the New York State Psychiatric Institute and Columbia University. At the beginning of that study, researchers rounded up two groups of volunteers: one composed of people who had suffered major depression and the other included people who had not experienced depression. The new study focused on the adult children (generation two) and grandchildren (generation three) aged 6 to 18 years of those initial volunteers.

The feeling that religion or spirituality is important suggests “an inner strength,” said senior study author Myrna Weissman, a professor of epidemiology and psychiatry at the Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons. “It isn’t about how much time you spend at church, or which particular religion you are, it’s having an inner belief that gives you some kind of strength that manifests in your behavior. And it is independent of your children’s opinion of religion.”

When the researchers analyzed their data, they found that for girls, but not boys, feeling that religion or spirituality is important was tied to 52 percent lower odds of suicidal behavior. Religious attendance was also linked for girls but not boys with 36 percent lower odds of suicidal behavior compared to those who did not attend.

For both girls and boys, however, higher importance of religion/spirituality in parents was associated with a 39 percent lower risk of suicidal thoughts and attempts. The same was not true when it came to parents’ attendance at spiritual services.

An Answer to Soaring Teen Suicide Rates?

Approximately 12 percent of adolescents in the United States report having thoughts about attempting suicide,” said study authors Connie Svob and Priya Wickramaratne of Columbia University and the New York State Psychiatric Institute.

“Moreover, suicide is a primary cause of death among females 15 to 19 years of age. In an attempt to gain more insight into this problem and its potential solutions, we wanted to investigate whether a parent’s religiosity might be associated with a lower risk for suicidal ideation/attempts in their children.

“Furthermore, that parents’ belief in religious importance was a stronger predictor than parents’ religious service attendance makes one wonder whether religious importance might be more strongly associated with teaching and beliefs about suicide within the home than is service attendance, or whether some other mechanism might be responsible,” the researchers said.

“Taken together, the findings suggest that, among potential protective factors for suicidal behavior in children, parental religious beliefs should not be overlooked.

“As religiosity is often overlooked in clinical practice, we suggest in our paper that clinicians consider conducting a brief spiritual history with parents of children being brought in for psychiatric consultations, as well as assessing the children’s own religious beliefs and practices,” the authors concluded.

The study is titled “Association of Parent and Offspring Religiosity With Offspring Suicide Ideation and Attempts.”

As Saddleback Celebrates 50K Baptisms, SBC Numbers Dwindle

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Saddleback Church reached a milestone this past Sunday that demonstrates its dedication to the gospel and evangelism.

The church, started by pastor Rick Warren 38 years ago, recorded its 50,000th baptism.

On his Facebook page, Warren thanked church members for their role in reaching the milestone.

“I’m often asked: Why has this church, by God’s grace, been able to bring so many unbelievers to Jesus?

“Because of your LOVE!

“YOU genuinely love people and you want them to go to heaven with you! Every day, you bring your friends, co-workers and family to Jesus. Honestly, I’ve never seen a group like you anywhere else in the world. I’m humbled to be your pastor, and I could not be more proud of you.”

50,000 baptisms in 38 years is quite a feat. Warren did the math and found that since Easter 1980, the first service at Saddleback, “we’ve baptized almost four changed lives every single day. (Precisely 3.7 people every day.) YOU’RE PART OF A MIRACLE!”

Saddleback’s Milestone Comes as SBC Baptisms Fall

The milestone comes as the Southern Baptist Convention, of which Saddleback is a member, reports a decade of declines in baptisms.  

At its annual meeting in June, SBC congregations reported baptizing 254,122 people—26.5 percent fewer than in 2007. The ratio was one baptism for every 59 church members.

“It’s heartbreaking to be baptizing fewer people for Christ, even though Southern Baptists have nearly 2,900 more churches than we had a decade ago,” said LifeWay President and CEO Thom S. Rainer.

“Yet a quarter million baptisms is not an insignificant number. We praise God for every individual who has come to Christ and followed Him in baptism. It is my prayer that God would embolden Southern Baptists to share the gospel with their friends and neighbors.

“We know conversion is only by the Holy Spirit, but we also know God begins most of these conversions with gospel conversations.”

Warren wrote that according to Acts 2:47, the first Christian church (in Jerusalem) baptized someone every day. “Think about that. Daily!” Warren wrote on Facebook, “That means, at the very least, the first church baptized at least 365 new members annually! Not many churches have ever matched that kind of growth. But YOUR CHURCH has!”

This weekend’s services also included an acknowledgment of all of those in attendance who had themselves been baptized at Saddleback. A photo montage was displayed with images gathered from throughout the decades at Saddleback.

“Why is baptism such a big deal?” Rick Warren asked while standing in the baptism pool. “There are two reasons. First, Jesus commanded it. Second, he modeled it…this is the way I say to the world ‘I’m in! I’m a part of the family of God…there is no reason to wait!’”

One Measure You Can’t Afford to Overlook in Your Ministry

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You may have heard this saying before: “What gets measured, gets accomplished.” You might have heard it put another way: “What doesn’t get measured, gets overlooked.” But what if I told you that you might be measuring the wrong things?

Let’s remember the goal of the local church. Jesus’ last words to His disciples before departing were, “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations.” Sadly, through the years we have reduced disciplemaking to decisions, baptisms or converts. Even church leaders get confused with the mission.

Joey Bonifacio speaks of this confusion in his book The Lego Principle. In teaching a room full of pastors, he walked them through an exercise to prove his point: “I’m going to say a brand name or a popular trademark. I want you to answer, with only one word, the business the company represents. Are you ready?” He started with an easy one: “Starbucks.” The audience responded, “Coffee.”

Next, he said, “Toyota.” They all chimed in, “Cars.”

“Rolex,” he stated. Again, without hesitation, the pastors replied, “Watches.”

Up to this point, everyone responded immediately. But the final trademark stumped the audience of pastors: “What about the word Church?”

The room was silent. Minds were whirling, “What is the ‘business’ of the church? What is the church’s ‘one word’?”

What would you say?

While there are many potential answers, I would say making disciples should be the response.

ABCs of Church Growth

In churches, we have measured success with the ABCs of church growth: Attendance, Buildings and Cash. All of these may be indicators of growth, but none of them can be changed after the fact. Once attendance is counted, once buildings have been built, once offerings have been gathered, you have what you have. These metrics are what is commonly referred to as lag measures.

lag measure is the metric that results from something put into place days, months or years ago. The ABCs of church growth are prime examples. When a church falls below budget, it’s the result of something that happened in the past. When attendance is dropping today, it’s the result of something that took place weeks or months ago.

lead measure, on the other hand, is something we can engage in today that will affect change in the future.

Dave Worlund, who was the president of the National Christian Charity Foundation, oversaw the assets of millions of dollars from Christian philanthropists. He had a meeting with the one of the leaders of Campus Crusade for Christ while they were having trouble with dropping attendance and seeing a decrease in salvations during their weekly meetings. Expecting a quick fix, the leader asked Dave what he should do about it.

Surprisingly, Dave answered with a question: “How many lunches are your leaders having with students every week?” The Campus Crusade leader responded that he had no idea, and asked why that was important.

“When your leaders start having weekly meetings with students, they can build rapport with them, which leads to open doors for Gospel conversations. A Gospel conversation will open the door for an invitation to a weekly gathering, and attendance at a weekly gathering will provide an opportunity to hear the Gospel. Your problem is that you’re gauging lag measures, which you can’t control. What you can control are the lead measures you’re beginning now that will affect change in the future.”

If you are trying to shape your ministry based on gauging lag measures, you will find yourself frustrated. We cannot directly influence budget problems or drops in attendance in any sustainable way overnight.

Instead, focus on what you can change today that will affect your ministry positively in the future. Here are four lead measure drivers you can begin immediately that will reap positive benefits in the weeks, months and years to come:

  • Intentional inviting: Every staff person (or volunteer leader) will invite three people to a small group every Sunday before, in between and after worship services.
  • Dropout connecting: Every staff person (or volunteer leader) will have one lunch per week with someone who used to attend small group but no longer does.
  • Leadership modeling: Every staff person (or volunteer leader) will share a testimony of the impact of a small group in their life with three people every week.
  • Responsive follow-up: Our team will respond to 100 percent of “connect card” small group requests within 24 hours.

While these lead measures can seem lofty, you set the goal and gauge as you proceed. Examine your own ministry. Have you been spending most of your time examining lag measures, which are the result of actions from weeks that have past, or lead measures, which can affect change tomorrow? If the church’s primary mission is to make disciples, now is the time to start implementing the changes that will help you carry that mission out for years to come. Cultivating a healthy disciplemaking focus in your church is the lead measure that will help your church—and the Kingdom of God—grow in a way that pleases Him.

This article originally appeared here.

Is Your Church Part of Convenience Store Christianity?

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I’ve recently been with believers from another part of the world, and I was again reminded that our brothers and sisters around the world often pay a heavier price than we pay to follow Christ. I don’t want to overstate the case here—as I really do believe that many, many believers I know truly love the Lord and have dedicated their lives to Him—but much of North American Christianity seems to be what I call “Convenience Store Christianity.” I’ll let you determine the comparisons:

  1. What the customer wants is first. A primary aim of a convenience store is to increase its traffic by offering almost everything a customer might want or need. In some cases with drive-thrus, the customer doesn’t even need to get out of his car to get what he wants.
  1. Customers seek what they want quickly and efficiently. Hence, the stores are called “convenience,” and they show up on about every corner. The goal is to make shopping easier for the consumer.
  1. Customers stop in according to their schedule and wants. Twenty-four-hour convenience stores say, “Come whenever you want.” Conversely, if you don’t have a need, there’s no reason to stop in.
  1. Relationships might exist, but they’re not deep. Some convenience stores have become “third places” for those who just want to hang out there—and those folks are on a first-name basis with the workers—but the relationships are hardly strong and self-denying.
  1. Store loyalty is about location, habit and reward rather than ideological agreement. Nobody I know thinks, “I really need to do my convenience-store shopping at __________ because they believe ___________.” People shop where they shop because it’s quick and easy—and rewarding for those shoppers whose store offers rewards for frequent purchases.
  1. Breadth more than depth is the norm. Convenience stores often offer some of a lot of different things (I’ve seen stores that now offer gasoline, hot food, clothing and even automobile oil) rather than a lot of any one thing.
  1. Even in a convenience store, customers still watch for sales. It’s not enough to have the convenience of shopping quickly; folks also like saving time and money. “Sacrifice” seldom enters the vocabulary of this world.
  1. Immediacy matters. For many shoppers, convenience stores offer immediate options to meet a need; in fact, that’s one of the reasons for being a convenience store. The terms “waiting” and “convenience” are contradictory terms.

Any other characteristics that come to mind?

This article originally appeared here.

Fortnite…What You Can Learn From the Video Game That’s a Cultural Phenomenon

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There’s a culture phenomenon that you need to be aware of. It’s wildly popular among kids.

It’s a video game titled Fortnite Battle Royale. The game has become an obsession for millions of kids.

How popular is it? So popular that parents are hiring coaches for their kids to help them get better at the game. Parents are paying up to $50/hr. for game mentoring.

And you can be sure of one thing—the reason parents are paying for coaches is because their kids are in their ear about it. Kids are facing peer pressure at school to be a great Fortnite gamer.

If you’re not familiar with the game, gamers compete in 100-player groups to be last character standing. The game is available for PC, Xbox One, Playstation 4, iPhone and Nintendo Switch.

Players can purchase accessories like gliders and pickaxes to help them win. The items are purchased with a game currency called V-Bucks.

Stats show that over 125 million people are playing the game and it’s on track to bring in 2 billion dollars this year.

Anytime something is this big of a hit, it is important to ask “Why?” What elements does the game incorporate that are such a big draw for kids? What can we learn from this as we seek to connect with today’s kids?

Let’s take an inside look at what elements of the game are drawing so many kids in and see how we can translate some of those elements into our ministries.

Creating a personal story. Each person’s avatar is immersed in a world of travail and adventure. Kids often share with their parents what happened in the game. The fact that kids can create their own story and see it unfold in the game is a big draw.

Children’s Ministry – God has a special story for each child’s life. We can prepare them for the adventure God has planned for them now and as they grow up. Encourage kids to pursue and step into the story God has for them.

Part of a community. The game is designed to be played collectively. Kids can play with other gamers.

Children’s Ministry – Kids long to belong. You have the opportunity to help kids experience community through your classes and small groups. While high-energy, exciting large group times are important, it is not enough by itself. Kids also need to be in a small group where they are known, loved and invested in.

7 Warning Signs You Are Drifting From God

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Most Christians experience drifting from God instead of suddenly falling into terrible sin. A guy doesn’t simply wake up one day and say to himself, “Boy, today is a great day to start a raging heroin habit,” or, “You know what, I’m in the mood to commit adultery today.” That’s not how it happens.

Big sin is always the sum of a thousand tiny choices.

That’s why the author of Hebrews says:

Therefore, we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, lest we drift away from it. (Hebrews 2:1)

One of our greatest temptations as Christians is simply to drift away from Christ. We’re not actively running away, just slowly drifting along with the lazy, warm, comfortable current of the world. And the scary thing is we don’t usually notice when we’re drifting. We raise our heads and suddenly realize that we’re a mile away from land.

7 Warning Signs You Are Drifting From God

  1. You spend little, if any, time reading God’s Word and praying: “I’m just too busy right now to read and pray.”
  2. The gospel doesn’t affect you like it used to: “I’ve heard it a thousand times before…it just seems a little old.”
  3. You don’t spend much time fellowshipping with other Christians: “I’ve worked hard, I’m tired, the last thing I want to do is go and be with other people.”
  4. The sins that used to bother you don’t really bother you anymore: “This show isn’t that bad. It doesn’t really tempt me too much.”
  5. You find yourself quieting your conscience more frequently: “I know it was wrong, and I’ll pray about it tonight.”
  6. You keep promising yourself that you will stop: “OK, this is the last time I look at porn.”
  7. You find yourself making excuses for things: “I’m only chatting on Facebook with the guy; it’s not like we’re sleeping together.”

The good news is if you find yourself drifting, you can put a stop to it! God loves to help us stop drifting. He loves to give us the power to change. If you find yourself drifting, there are three things to do.

What To Do If You Feel Disconnected to God

  1. Repent of your sins and receive the wonderful, complete, free forgiveness from Christ. Christ delights to forgive drifters.
  2. Tell a close friend of what has been going on.
  3. Return to the things you used to do, and don’t let condemnation stop you. Go to God’s Word, prayer, fellowship, fighting temptation and listening to the promptings of your conscience.

Don’t let yourself drift. Drifting is dangerous. Sometimes, it’s lethal.

Dallas Willard: The Secret to Ministry Satisfaction

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In my early days of ministry, I spent huge amounts of time absorbed in Scripture and great spiritual writers. The Lord made it possible for me to spend whole days—without any issue of preparing for something or taking an examination—soaking up the Scripture. I literally wore out the books of great spiritual writers. This focus was foundational to my spiritual journey, to finding satisfaction in Christ.

Experiencing God in that way leads me to satisfaction in Christ and to speaking to others out of that satisfaction. There is no substitute for simple satisfaction in the Word of God, in the presence of God. That affects all your actions.

Characteristics of Dissatisfaction

Men and women in ministry who are not finding satisfaction in Christ are likely to demonstrate that with overexertion and overpreparation for speaking and with no peace about what they do after they do it. If we have not come to the place of resting in God, we will go back and think, Oh, if I’d done this, or Oh, I didn’t do that. When you come to the place where you are drinking deeply from God and trusting him to act with you, there is peace about what you have communicated.

One of my great joys came when I got up from a chair to walk to the podium and the Lord said to me, “Now remember, it’s what I do with the Word between your lips and their hearts that matters.” That is a tremendous lesson. If you do not trust God to do that, then he will let you do what you’re going to do, and it’s not going to come to much. But once you turn it loose and recognize we are always inadequate but our inadequacy is not the issue, you are able to lay that burden down. Then the satisfaction you have in Christ spills over into everything you do.

The preacher who does not minister in that satisfaction is on dangerous ground. Those who experience moral failure are those who have failed to live a deeply satisfied life in Christ, almost without exception. I know my temptations come out of situations where I am dissatisfied, not content. I am worried about something or not feeling the sufficiency I know is there. If I have a strong temptation, it will be out of my dissatisfaction.

The moral failures of ministers usually are over one of three things: sex, money or power. That always comes out of dissatisfaction. Ministers are reaching for something, and they begin to feel, I deserve something better. I sacrifice so much and get so little. And so I’ll do this. The surest guarantee against failure is to be so at peace and satisfied with God that when wrongdoing presents itself, it isn’t even interesting. That is how we stay out of temptation.

Reflections of a Female Seminary Professor

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Sipping on coffee, I was sitting in the café of a church in a Dallas suburb where I’d just spoken, when I noticed a man’s military boots in front of me. As I lifted my eyes, I saw the desert fatigues. And then my pupils met his. I knew this man! “Justin!”

The soldier standing in front of me was someone I had loved and mentored in my job as a seminary professor. He was one of my artistic geniuses, eating up every word I’d had to say about how to tell a story. I jumped up to greet him. What a wonderful surprise!

But what I had assumed was a random intersection of our lives was actually a planned meeting. He was headed out on his first tour of duty to Afghanistan, and he’d tracked me down to say goodbye. But first he had something additional to say. It went something like this:

“You believed in me from the start, nurturing my dreams, and modeling for me what a godly woman looks like. Like a spiritual mom. Thank you, ma’am.”

I had no words. It was too much.

“I didn’t want to deploy without first . . .” he stammered, “making sure I said those words to you.”

Gulp.

Isn’t that just like the body of Christ at its best—providing mothers and fathers for “kids” and children for the childless. Because who doesn’t need more love and support and nurturing to thrive?

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I had not set out to be a seminary professor. In fact, I didn’t think seminary was a place for a woman….

I had always dreamed of having a large family—I’m the fourth of five kids. But seven early pregnancy losses and an ectopic pregnancy told my husband and me that we would never have biological children. So we pursued adoption.

Meanwhile, career doors kept opening for me, but all I wanted was motherhood. I had devoured the classic complementarian-on-the-traditionalist-end-of-the-spectrum manhood/womanhood book and quoted it frequently. The woman’s role was in the home caring for children, right? I had the gift of teaching—and wasn’t that what 1 Timothy 2 taught? That a woman’s teaching gifts should be directed not to helping mature the body of Christ but to strengthening her nuclear family?

So we pursued adoption. I took birthing classes with the birth mom we linked up with. But she changed her mind. And then another birth mom changed her mind. And another.

“Why, God?” I begged. “Why would you take a woman committed to what you value and keep her from becoming who you made her to be?”

Meanwhile, my husband—a seminary grad—and I took ministry trips abroad, and we saw for the first time how much our views of man and woman and what the Bible teaches about them had been shaped by American, white, middle-class culture. While people in churches back home were arguing over whether (mostly white) women had God’s permission to work outside of domestic space, women in less developed countries did not have the luxury of even raising such a question. They just wanted their children to go to bed with bellies at least half-full. And maybe own a pair of shoes. How could I reconcile these two worlds? Surprisingly, through Proverbs 31. A fresh look revealed a woman who contributed to the economics of her household in every way possible, enabling her husband to do work that did not appear to be income-producing but that was community-building. That chapter even had a bunch of war imagery applied to that strong woman (e.g., valor, prey, strength), as if women are supposed to engage in warfare or something.

Is the Church Bulletin a Sacred Cow?

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I’ve seen it all when it comes to church bulletins. I have been in churches that have a 25-page book as their weekly bulletin. I’ve seen others that are a half sheet. Still, others print theirs less regularly to look like a slick, well-designed magazine. The church we’re a part of now doesn’t even have a bulletin (and that drives my wife crazy).

I’ll often start talking to a church about all the different ways they communicate. We talk through the different methods they use, and what works well for each area of communication. Then we get to the bulletin. Most churches utilize a bulletin — but mostly because it’s what they’ve always done. I often get asked what should be in the bulletin, how they can design it better so people will actually read it, or how they can get rid of the bulletin altogether without upsetting the congregation.

I think it’s important for us to take a step back. Before we start talking about how to design the bulletin better, what should be in it, how often to print it, or how to get people to read it more, let’s ask a couple questions about the very foundation of the bulletin.

WHAT IS THE ROLE OF THE CHURCH BULLETIN?

How is your church bulletin playing a role in your overall communication strategy? Think through what this looks like, or what you would like it to look like. Talk through its purpose and role with your team and figure out the specific role the church bulletin takes in your church’s ministry.

IS THE BULLETIN HELPING YOU COMMUNICATE MORE EFFECTIVELY?

Creating, editing, and printing the bulletin each week can be time-consuming. How does your church bulletin help you communicate more effectively? It may be time to think through what you’re communicating and how the bulletin supports that strategy. If it’s just adding more noise, then maybe it’s time to rethink the role of the bulletin.

It’s time we stop doing things in the church simply because that’s what we’ve always done. Let’s start trying to use our resources as effectively as possible. You have a lot going on, and you don’t need to be wasting more time. So take some time and figure out if the bulletin plays a quality role in your church’s communication plan and if the bulletin helps you communicate effectively. If you think your church bulletin is valuable, then you can decide how to design it better and lay it out so that people will read more of it.

The original article appeared here.

Love Hurts God the Most

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I’m hurting. You’re hurting. Everyone, it seems, is hurting.

While we remain so sensitive to our own pain, let’s pause for just a moment to consider the pain God accepts when he adopts us as sons and daughters.

God knows that answering our cries for mercy and saving our souls will cause him more suffering than ten thousand women in labor.

We will betray him. We will resist him. We will fall away on many levels. He will pursue us, he will discipline us, accept us back and forgive us.

He will ache as we bring untold misery into our lives through our disobedience because now he is watching a daughter or a son ruin their worlds. Every act of rebellion, every unkind word we utter to others, every self-sabotage is like one more dagger thrust in his side. We’re his children. He can’t stop caring.

Still, he will be patient even as we blame him for the pain we brought into our own lives by going our own way. He warned us. We pretended we didn’t hear. And then we blame him for the fallout.

Still, he loves. Still, he pursues.

Knowing how much pain one sinner saved costs him again and again (not just to save us—that was paid 2,000 years ago—but to keep us), it’s amazing our Heavenly Father doesn’t say the quota is met and he can’t take it anymore, won’t pay it anymore. Adopting sinners has become too painful, too costly, it’s overwhelming. He’s reached his end. No more adoptions. No more salvations.

But that’s not what he says; not even close. He says, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved” (Romans 10:13).

Though the pain and cost to him for every saved soul is beyond measure God still calls and still saves and thus…still agrees to hurt.

God hurts for you, and keeps hurting for you, like you have never hurt for anyone else.

When your spouse breaks your heart, when your kids take you for granted, when your parents disappoint you and your friends betray you, you know love hurts.

Just remember, however, that love hurts our Heavenly Father most of all.

This article originally appeared here.

Church Members Must Watch Their Elders’ Life & Doctrine

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Church members are called to honor, love and respect their elders (cf. 1 Thessalonians 5:12–13).

In this post, I want to consider a church member’s responsibility to hold elders accountable. The first area concerns what they teach, and the second area involves how they live (and lead). Paul’s exhortation to Timothy comes to mind: “Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching. Persist in this, for by so doing you will save both yourself and your hearers” (1 Timothy 4:16). Finally, I’ll conclude by remembering the precious commodity of trust in a healthy congregation.

WATCH THEIR LIFE

When considering elders’ qualifications), they’re largely made up of what’s expected of all mature Christians.

Simply put, an elder’s life should be characterized by maturity. Being “above reproach” (v.2) communicates not the need for perfection, but rather a mature progress in godliness that’s free from ongoing sins that would undermine his ministry.

But what do we mean by “watch”? It would be unhealthy if church members functioned as investigators, deputized to walk behind their elders and look for potential reasons to remove them. This is not the type of watching the Bible commands. Instead, the context for watching is built into the church so that members learn and are instructed by their elders’ manner of life.

Consider the author of Hebrews: “Remember your leaders, those who spoke to you the word of God. Consider the outcome of their way of life, and imitate their faith” (Hebrews 13:7).

There are many other examples where the leader’s life is to serve as an example for the rest of the church (1 Peter 5:3,2 Thessalonians 3.9″ data-version=”esv” data-purpose=”bible-reference”>9). This is why church members ought to spend time with their shepherds so they can watch, learn and emulate.

I’ve written before about what to do if an elder isn’t meeting biblical qualifications. But for now, it’s important to have this category in place and its corresponding biblical emphasis. Keep an eye on your elders’ lives. It’s a tool for your own growth.

WATCH THEIR DOCTRINE

Members must also watch the elders’ doctrine, their teaching. At first, this might seem overwhelming, How can I be in a position to evaluate an elder’s teaching?

This doesn’t mean we have to know as much about the Bible and theology as our elders. Rather, we must evaluate their faithfulness to teach the truth that binds you together as a church. Historically, this category of accountability means members ought to ensure pastors teach according to a church’s mutually agreed upon statement of faith. In most churches, whenever someone joins, they’re asked to read, consider and ultimately agree with this document. It’s a confessional document that articulates key truths we put forward as binding us together as a church.

Church members should regularly evaluate their church’s teaching ministry to ensure it’s maintaining the biblical standards.

For example, the noble Bereans examined the Scriptures to ensure the things spoken by Paul were accurate: “Now these Jews were more noble than those in Thessalonica; they received the word with all eagerness, examining the Scriptures daily to see if these things were so” (Acts 17:11).

The Philippian church was commended along with their elders and deacons to strive together to guard and defend the gospel: “Only let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel” (Philippians 1:27).

Conversely, Paul admonished the Galatian congregation for failing to defend the gospel. He reminds them of their need to examine and evaluate the content of the teaching, especially as it pertains to the gospel. Notice the strong language Paul used:

I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting him who called you in the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel—not that there is another one, but there are some who trouble you and want to distort the gospel of Christ. But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach to you a gospel contrary to the one we preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again: If anyone is preaching to you a gospel contrary to the one you received, let him be accursed. (Galatians 1:6–9)

These are just a few examples that show how the apostles reminded congregations to ensure they were doing their part to ensure the purity of doctrine and the preservation of the gospel in the church.

Much like evaluating elders’ lives, watching doctrine isn’t so much the work of a private investigator but of an invested and engaged member who loves the truth of Scripture and labors for it to be faithfully heralded.

AGENDA OF CHRIST

In a healthy church).

A healthy church will also realize there’s another leader above local church elders: the Lord Jesus Christ (Col. 1:18). Therefore, members along with elders labor under his gaze, longing for his approval. We all do our part to pay attention to what’s being taught and how we’re all living. This loving intimacy can only be achieved when we set aside ourselves, and put forward the agenda of Christ and his church.

This article originally appeared here.

4 Suggestions for Balancing the Highs and Lows of Ministry

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In my new role with Leadership Network, encouraging pastors is one of the best parts of my job. In 16 years of pastoring I learned the job can be an emotional roller coaster at times.

You have a great Sunday and then the critics seem to come out on Monday morning. Or Sunday walking out of church. Or, and you have to be a pastor to understand this one, but it could happen just before you walk behind the podium to preach.

You have your week planned and numerous crises happen in the same week—and your “day off” is now going to be spent preparing for Sunday. (And, don’t Sundays seem to come around often.)

It seems you can never get ahead and you’re always playing catch-up with your “to do” list.

It’s life. It’s ministry. It’s normal. And, I understand it’s not just for pastors, but I’ve been in business, government and now nonprofit and pastoring is unique in its demands.

Some days are always better than others, but learning how to deal with the highs and lows is a major key in sustaining yourself for ministry long-term.

How do you do that, pastor?

Here are four suggestions, that helped me:

Find your rhythm

And, the “your” is important. You’ll be healthier and happier when you find the balance to your life. When you know the right amount of sleep. When you get an exercise and healthy eating plan. When you learn how to say no to things you simply can’t do or someone else can do better than you. I also found checklists kept me on task. I tried to make my week as routine as possible. Mondays and Tuesdays were meeting days. Wednesdays and Thursdays were study days. Friday was a catch up day to use as needed. Saturday I tried to do nothing—except what Cheryl and I wanted to do.

You have to figure out what works for you, but if you do you’ll be in a better rhythm when the harder seasons of life and ministry come. Jesus was continually slipping away to pray and He seemed very intentional with His time. Yet, He was always prepared for the sudden interruption. By the way, interruptions aren’t as big an interruption when you plan as if they are normal.

Lean into others

You are not alone. Let me say that again. You are not alone. You may feel that way sometimes, but you really aren’t.

Think of the story of Elijah (1 Kings 19) and remember others are praying for you, God has a plan and He cares for you! I was intentional here also. I always had a personal prayer team. They were a rock for me. But, I also had a number of good, personal pastor friends. And, I had one guy from the community I met with once a month. Gold!

Be willing to humble yourself, be vulnerable and ask for help when needed. Even see a counselor periodically if it will help. There’s no shame in that. But, you must surround yourself with people who have access into the deepest parts of your life and the freedom to say the hard words you need to hear.

Become a better delegator

Drop the right to control everything. If I could I would say that to every pastor. AND, I WOULD SAY IT IN ALL CAPS!

The body is well-defined in Scripture. There’s a hand, a foot, a tongue—many parts. Don’t try to do them all. In fact, you can’t be and weren’t designed to be. It’s not biblical. And, you want to be biblical, right?

Be intentional about allowing others to share the burden. That’s good advice not just for Moses from his father-in-law—it’s good for you. And, it builds leadership in others, which could be the discipleship encouragement they need.

Keep the vision ever before you

Our mission at my most recent church was “Leading people to Jesus and equipping disciples in their faith.” We tweaked the words just a bit, but I inherited it when I arrived. It meshed well with my passion for ministry. It’s what got me out of bed in the morning.

If ever I was having a bad day, I could go back to what I love doing. I intentionally lead. I nurture, love, equip and help build disciples. It always fired me up to see someone get more excited about Jesus!

It’s true for all of us, but maybe especially in ministry. We seldom know all the good we are doing. It keeps us dependent on God. My guess is you’re doing better than you think you are and I’m sure of this—your faithfulness will one day be rewarded.

(One bonus tip: I also keep an encouragement file. It includes encouraging letters, notes and emails I have received from people over the years. On bad days, go back and read through them.)

Ministry is hard. It’s even harder when you aren’t prepared. Take some time now and consider how you are responding to the demands of ministry, how you can improve, and develope a plan to address any concerns you uncover.

This article originally appeared here.

Top 50 Quotes From the #GLS18

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The 2018 Global Leadership Summit carried on the spirit and tradition of past Summits. Experts in the church and business world shared their best thoughts on leadership and we are all better for their wisdom. Although the Summit is over, their words and ideas will continue to ruminate in our minds in the days and months ahead. The following are just 50 of our favorite quotes from #GLS18. It was hard to narrow the list down to 50!

Craig Groeschel 

“We can make excuses or we can make a difference, but we cannot do both.”

“Some leaders make you feel they are important. The best leaders make you feel important.”

“If you don’t trust your team, you’re either too controlling or you have the wrong people. Either way, the problem is yours to solve.”

“People would rather follow a leader who is real than one who is always right.”

“Most leaders could learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them.”

Read more about Craig Groeschel’s speech

Angela Ahrendts 

“It’s our job as leaders to keep pace with everything changing around us.”

“Trust: With it, you can do anything; without it, you can do nothing.”

“If anything, I would love to rebrand religion.”

Juliet Funt

“The future of work will be simpler. It has to be.”

Legacy is a story about you that is yet to be written, but for which you hold the pen.”

Read more about Juliet Funt’s speech.

Simon Sinek: Leaders, You Are Playing an Infinite Game

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Are you playing a game you can’t win? Author Simon Sinek told #GLS18 that’s what many of them are doing with their leadership styles.

Drawing from James Carse’s book Finite and Infinite Games, Sinek said, in business, “there’s no such thing as winning. There’s only ahead and behind.”

Carse wrote that finite games have known players, agreed upon rules and they end. Infinite games have some known and some unknown players, rules govern the game but the game continues forever. Finite games focus on the final score. Infinite games are dictated by deep philosophical questions.

“Finite players can never win an infinite game,” Sinek warned. “When organizations operate to beat a competitor, they are playing a game they cannot win.”

That’s because the goal of any organization, whether it’s a business or a ministry, should be in providing a service or meeting a need. Those are philosophical, not bottom-line concerns.

He told GLS18 attendees there are five things they need to win an infinite game.

1) A just cause

Those who work for organizations with a just cause are willing to sacrifice to further the cause. They’ll work late, shun better offers and forego family time to further the mission.

The just cause of a church or ministry is easy to define, but for other types of organizations Sinek offered some characteristics of a just cause.  

  • Resilient (can overcome changes in technology, society)
  • Inclusive (everyone contributes to the vision)
  • Service oriented (the primary benefit has to go to someone other than the contributor)

2) Trusting teams

The team members believe they can work at their natural best. They can ask for help or admit a mistake without fear of reprisal. In fact, such admissions in an organization with trusting teams will bring “leaders running to their aid,” Sinek said.

Sinek pointed out the opposite is true of organizations that lack trust. The team member won’t admit mistakes and will hoard information out of fear and self preservation.  

They are preoccupied with self, not the company.

3) Worthy rival

Erwin McManus: You Need to Tell Death and Fear to Get Behind You

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While other talks at the 2018 Global Leadership Summit will go on the record for the most practical, the most poignant or the most leadership-y, Erwin McManus’ speech during Session Six has got to be the best sermon of the gathering. Like so many good sermons, McManus mixed personal story, passion, Scripture (and volume!) to deliver his main point: Too many of us live in constant fear of death, thus robbing ourselves of the ability to really live up to our potential.

“We’re all afraid that there is greatness inside us that will never be accessed,” McManus said as he began his stirring speech. In other words, we are all struggling to pull out of the “momentum of mediocrity” that drives us to fit in and avoid things we fear like pain or death.

McManus referred to a somewhat obscure story in 2 Kings about King Jehoash. We don’t get much detail about this king, but we read a story where he went to the prophet Elisha during a time of distress and war in Israel. Seeing victory over the enemy, Elisha instructed Jehoash to strike the ground with an arrow. After striking the ground three times, Jehoash is reprimanded by Elisha: “You should have struck the ground five or six times!” he exclaimed. “Then you would have beaten Aram until it was entirely destroyed. Now you will be victorious only three times.”

What is probably keeping this story out of the sermon topics of many a pastor is its ambiguous meaning. Why didn’t Elisha tell Jehoash from the beginning to strike the ground more? What does this story even mean? McManus relates it to the problem of mediocrity we face in our lives. We all know, especially Christians, that we need to strive to achieve great things and live up to the potential that God has built into us. But we allow some things to just be good enough. We, like Jehoash, strike until it is “enough.” Nothing more. We don’t want to rock the boat.

The Fear of Death

All of us, McManus argues, will live with a fear of death until we confront it. Several years ago McManus was diagnosed with cancer. As he was wrapping his mind around the diagnosis and what it would mean for the future, he realized that many people live as if they are saving their best for the next life. Why do we do this, McManus wonders, if all we have is this life?

He decided that living as if you are dying is not a bad way to live. It causes you to take risks you normally wouldn’t because you don’t know if you’ll have the chance to take those risks again.

Recalling another life lesson from early in his ministry, McManus said he had decided he wanted to minister in the roughest neighborhoods of Los Angeles and drove into one of them one day. He remembers sitting in his car, paralyzed by fear and unable to get out of the car. Recalling the verse “to live is Christ and to die is gain,” he compelled himself to get out of the car.

“I know too many people who say they have faith but are absolutely paralyzed by fear,” McManus laments.

The Fear of Pain

After having surgery to remove cancer in his body, McManus recalls waking up in the hospital after the six-hour procedure around midnight. He had holes in his stomach and was hooked up to a catheter. Still, he wanted to get up and walk around. He woke his wife up and told her his intentions. She urged him not to, and called the nurse who also urged him not to get up.

When he refused both of their suggestions, the nurse told him to at least take some pain medication before he tried it. Again, McManus refused. He was insistent that if he could work through this present pain, which would likely be the worst pain he would experience on his road to recovery, then he would be able to work through all of it.

The point? We can’t allow pain (more importantly—the fear of pain) to keep us from walking. “If Jesus communicates anything to us, it’s that pain is not the end of the story,” McManus reasons. Jesus endured the cross for us, not so that we could escape pain, but to show us how to get through the pain. He modeled what we are to do.

“Your freedom is on the other side of your fears,” McManus says, and “your greatness is on the other side of your pain.” For this reason, McManus argues we must confront our fears and lean into our pain to push through to freedom and greatness.

On the other side of these barriers, we will be living the lives God intended for us. The lives not defined by mediocrity, but defined by the things God built into us when he created us.


More on GLS:

Danielle Strickland Delivers the Message of the Moment at the GLS

Craig Groeschel: How to Become a Leader People Want to Follow

Juliet Funt: How to Stop Wasting Time on Unnecessary Tasks

What You Need to Know to Work in Diverse Groups

Simon Sinek: Leaders, You Are Playing an Infinite Game

Top 50 Quotes From the #GLS18

Trump Hits Turkey’s Economy in Fight for Pastor Brunson

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It appears the Trump administration is punishing Turkey for its failure to release American pastor Andrew Brunson.

On Friday, Trump said he is doubling steel and aluminum tariffs “with respect to Turkey.” The announcement caused further damage to Turkish currency, which already had hit a record low Friday. Trump said tariffs on Turkish aluminum imports will increase to 20 percent, and steel tariffs will rise to 50 percent.

The tariff increase comes on the heels of meetings between the White House and Turkey over Brunson who has been held by Turkey for more than two years on espionage and terrorism related charges.  

Negotiations Fail to Gain Release of Andrew Brunson

High level meetings in Washington between senior U.S. and Turkish officials on Wednesday ended without an apparent resolution to the case.

Turkey raised concerns about a state-run lender, Halkbank, that’s under investigation for its role in a scheme to evade U.S. sanctions on Iran and faces the prospect of a large fine by the U.S. Treasury, according to the official, who spoke Wednesday with Bloomberg on condition of anonymity.

Turkey was seeking to stanch an economic meltdown amid fallout from U.S. sanctions. U.S. officials said they wouldn’t discuss relief for Halkbank, or one of its bankers currently in jail, until Brunson was freed, the official said.

After the failed summit, State Department spokeswoman Heather Nauert said, “the conversations continue.” She did not elaborate.

Brunson is currently under house arrest after being held in a Turkish prison since his arrest.

The increased sanctions by the White House should have been anticipated by Turkey. Last week Secretary of State Mike Pompeo declared that “the clock had run out,” as he urged Turkey to free Brunson.

“The Turks were well on notice that the clock had run out and that it was time for Pastor Brunson to be returned. I hope they’ll see this for what it is: a demonstration that we’re very serious,” Mr. Pompeo told reporters before the meeting, during the short flight from Kuala Lumpur to Singapore.

What You Need to Know to Work in Diverse Groups

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Finding ways to lead diverse groups of people is no longer the exception, it’s the rule. And it isn’t easy.

Whether your audience comes from different parts of the world or were born in different decades, finding effective ways to work together and communicate is a challenge.

David Livermore, executive director of the Global Learning Center at Grand Rapids Theological Seminary, told GLS18 that a leader’s success in this area often comes down to his or her cultural intelligence (CQ).

He identified four characteristics that define a culturally intelligent person:

1) High CQ drive.

Also known as curiosity. Livermore said when confronted with something different, a person with a high CQ drive wonders why.

She will try to see the difference through someone else’s eyes and determine how to explain the situation from another point of view.

2) High CQ knowledge.

Livermore describes this as a “decent understanding of the leadership styles, communication and values of diverse groups.”

He referred to a study done by Mark Powell to understand how different cultures interpret Scripture.

Powell used the story of the prodigal son.

He asked pastors from different parts of the world “why did the prodigal son end up in a pig pen?”

A Russian said it was because of famine. A Tanzanian said it was because no one gave him anything to eat. A pastor from the United States said the prodigal son squandered the wealth he was given.

To get the true answer, Powell looked at what Jesus said about the story from Luke 15.

In verse 13 Jesus said the prodigal son squandered his wealth. In verse 14 Jesus blamed a famine in the land and in verse 16 Christ noted that no gave the prodigal son anything to eat.

All three views were correct, but all three were also incomplete.

“Having a diverse group of leaders,” Livermore told GLS18, “will give you a fuller understanding from different perspectives.”

David Livermore Tells GLS18 Where Leaders Most Often Fail

3) CQ strategy.

This is the ability to take what you understand about cultural differences and channeling that knowledge in a direction.

Livermore called this “the area where we most often fail.”

He warned that by focusing only on the differences between groups, you make the situation worse. “You put people in boxes.”

Livermore suggests sketching a brief plan when determining tasks with an unfamiliar culture or age group.

4) High CQ action.

The final characteristic of a culturally intelligent person is the action taken when working in diverse groups.

Livermore recommends three questions to keep from trying too hard to adapt.

  • Is it a tight or loose culture?
  • Will adapting compromise the organization or me?
  • Will retaining the difference make us stronger?

Fully adapting can be patronizing. Not adapting at all can be insulting. A leader with a high cultural intelligence knows how to navigate the middle ground.

Diversity is a reality in today’s business and ministry world. Many will claim that’s good because diversity leads to innovation.

“No it doesn’t,” Livermore surprisingly contends.

He said studies show that homogeneous teams were more innovative, with one exception, when diverse teams have high CQ values.

Otherwise, Livermore warned, your project is destined to be stalled in gridlock.

Livermore delivered this message at the 2018 Global Leadership Summit.


More on the GLS18:

Danielle Strickland Delivers the Message of the Moment at the GLS

Craig Groeschel: How to Become a Leader People Want to Follow

Juliet Funt: How to Stop Wasting Time on Unnecessary Tasks

Erwin McManus: You Need to Tell Death and Fear to Get Behind You

Simon Sinek: Leaders, You Are Playing an Infinite Game

Top 50 Quotes From the #GLS18

Spiritual Inspiration From Great Pastors and Theologians

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In my new book, Transforming Presence: How the Holy Spirit Changes Everything From the Inside Out, I have included more than 250 footnotes. I wanted this book to be clear, well-researched, and in line with some of the historic and contemporary voices of the Christian faith. Below are just a few of the many insights I discovered from some of the great pastors and theologians of today and yesteryear. I trust these will be an inspiration to you today.

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“The Holy Spirit is God’s agent on earth, yet He is the least understood member of the Trinity.”[1]  Jim Cymbala

“If we review the history of the church, we notice how many important truths, clearly revealed in Scripture, have been allowed to lie dormant for centuries, unknown and unappreciated except by a few isolated Christians until it pleases God to enlighten the Church by chosen witnesses, and to bestow on His children the knowledge of hidden and forgotten treasures. For how long a period, even after the Reformation, were the doctrines of the Holy Ghost, His work in conversion, and His indwelling in the believer, almost unknown!”[2] Adolph Saphir – A Jewish Presbyterian Missionary (1831 –1891)

“There have always been people in the Christian church who were very sure about the Holy Spirit. It was simple. He was the divine backer of their particular emphasis in theology and practice.”[3] Michael Green

“When it comes to the Holy Spirit, churches are either cemeteries or insane asylums.” Jim Cymbala

“If some churches marginalize the Spirit in favor of the institution and its forms, others react simply by making the opposite choice. However, there are myriad ways of domesticating the Spirit besides assimilating His sovereign work to formalism. If some render the Spirit an ecclesiastical employee, others presume to make the Spirit a mascot for a movement or a prisoner of their own private experience.“[4] Michael Horton

“Without the Spirit of God we can do nothing; we are as ships without wind, or chariots without steeds; like branches without sap, we are withered; like coals without fire, we are useless; as an offering without the sacrificial flame, we are unaccepted.”[5]  Charles Spurgeon

“The biblical doctrine of the Holy Spirit suffers today from three extremes: abuse, neglect and distortion.”[6]  Robert Lightner

“Are you willing to pursue truth in your journey to know and be known by the Holy Spirit? Do you have enough humility to be open to the possibility that you have been wrong in your understanding of the Spirit? It’s easy to get into ‘defensive mode’ where you quickly disagree and turn to proof texts and learn arguments to defend what you’ve always believed. Rather than guarding your perspective, consider taking a fresh look at familiar passages to make sure you haven’t missed something. You may end up with the same theology you’ve always had, but maybe you won’t. Don’t let your view be determined by a particular denomination or by what you’ve always been told. Within the context of relationship with other believers, seek out what God has said about His Spirit. Open your mind and your life to the leading of the Spirit, regardless of what others may think or assume about you.”[7] Francis Chan

5 Stages of Recovery When Toxic People Leave the Church

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I have been working with church leaders for three decades on the issue of toxicity in the church. Toxic church members grieve the Holy Spirit with “bitterness, anger and wrath, shouting and slander” (Ephesians 4:30-31). They are gossipers, naysayers, bullies and generally negative people. You can count on them to gossip, spread rumors and disrupt the unity of the church.

They are the opposite of what God commanded of church members: “And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ” (Ephesians 4:32).

Pastors and other church leaders are often hesitant to deal with toxicity in the church. I get it. It’s just more conflict, confrontation and possible loss of members.

But here is the hard reality: The congregation will not move forward with toxic church members.

I will save the discussion for later on how to deal with toxicity in the church. For now, let’s look at what happens in a church when toxic members leave. Essentially, for the church, it becomes short and mid-term pain for longer-term gain.

  1. Stage One: Exodus. The church will definitely lose members. After all, it has already lost the toxic members. And it is more common than not for the toxic members to have a following of other members. They will likely leave too. Some of the followers are toxic themselves; others simply have not heard the full story.
  2. Stage Two: Questioning. The majority of church members typically are unaware of the conflict and strife caused by toxic members. So, when there is a point of confrontation and exodus of members, the quiet majority doesn’t fully comprehend what is taking place. Some are dealing with shock and grief; others simply have questions.
  3. Stage Three: Lull. During this stage, the congregation continues to deal with the shock of the conflict and departure. The members begin to feel a new reality in the church, and it will take them a while to adjust to it. I sometimes call this stage “adjustment apathy.” The good news is this stage is most often short-term.
  4. Stage Four: Healing. The toxicity is gone. Relationships begin to heal. Trust grows. Church leaders and members now have greater emotional resources to focus on others and to focus on their community.
  5. Stage Five: Recovery. The good news about this stage is that the period of recovery is usually a time of great opportunity for the church. I worked with a pastor in a church where the attendance dropped from (in round numbers) 400 to 300 as the church moved into stage one. But, by the time the congregation reached stage five, attendance was over 500. While numbers are not the ultimate measure for church health, they were indicative of a greater focus on the Great Commission and the community the church served.

Toxic church members were present in first-century churches. They are still present in 21st century churches. They are painful realities for pastors and other church leaders. Such is the bad news.

But the good news is what takes place when toxicity leaves the church. After a painful initial reaction, congregations often rebound and are healthier than they have been for a long time.

This article originally appeared here.

Tim Keller Answers: Why Is Sex Outside of Marriage So Destructive?

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Why is sex outside of marriage so destructive? Tim Keller offers compelling insights.

Few people would doubt that our sexual desires can be extremely powerful. Added to that desire is a surrounding culture that caters to our sexual desires on practically every front. The Christian ethic of abstaining from sex until marriage is one of its most unique and yet difficult ways to live. How can something so natural and powerful be so wrong outside of marriage? Pastor Tim Keller of Redeemer Presbyterian offers this short insight in the following video.

Sex outside of marriage, according to Keller, is a way of receiving fulfillment and pleasure but not actually a giving of oneself. Sex is addictive and like all addictions, the more that you do it the less payoff there will be. Sex then becomes less powerful and therefore less pleasurable. However, sex within marriage becomes sweeter and more powerful because it is more about giving than receiving in this context. Even as married couples get older (and may not look as good as they did when they were younger), sex is still powerful because it hasn’t been devalued within the marriage. Sex within the marriage is a powerful statement of exclusive commitment and faithfulness to the other person.

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